The Truth About Dom/sub Relationships (from a 24/7 slave!)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ต.ค. 2024
- The Truth About Dom/sub Relationships
As a submissive slave living the D/s lifestyle 24/7 with my Master, I've learned a lot about what it's like to truly be submissive. Let me tell you, it's SO much different than what the books and movies portray.
So, in this video, I dish on the 3 BIG truths about dominance and submission, and what it's like being in a healthy, empowering, and supportive D/s relationship!
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What are some aspects that are important for you for a successful D/s relationship?
Desires Laid Bare Definitely agree with you, trust is absolutely vital. I figured this out since realizing that I want an FLR where I am a sissy (since I love and adore femininity), but I always struggled submitting to random women or men. I realized after all my fantasies revolved around previous women that I trusted with my secret that it was because of my trust that I felt comfortable trusting them to lead the relationship.
hey，Yanks，i 'm one of your Chinese fans, would you please
let me translate this video to Chinese and upload it on bilibili?
this video is awesome
Good job. I was in a long master slave relationship. Yes trust is the best foundation to build off of. Another part was building up qualities. Nice to see a rational talk on the subject. The other thing I think a lot miss is a owner/Master wants the slave to do good on multiple levels. Glad you found a good fit. That's so important. 👍 So many people want to put the dynamic down because they cherry pick and have biases and such. Basically they have no clue what it is really like to have a long term relationship in a Master slave dynamic that is healthy.
What you are explaining, minus the collars and other modern day things, is all about traditional husband and wife relationships.
As a Dom I want my sub to feel me always, like I'm her ride or die, you mess with her no, she's mine. I love her so much. ^_^
As a dom, this is exactly what I expect from my sub. We lay out common sense (to both of us) rules. My sub finds very easy. But she does indeed let me be ceo. That was an excellent analogy btw. You have a lucky master.
He made it by hand?! AAAAWWWWW That's so fucking cute! I ship you two! XD
Yeah, he did! Thank you
WOW. This is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever heard about.
BDSM valuing open communication, respecting boundaries and clear expectations are very healthy - vanilla relationships can learn a lot from healthy D/s dynamics!
My wife has let me know that she has some fantasies about being a sub and I've been searching the web learning and getting a proper idea of how to be a good Dom for her. Knowing how your Dom treats and accepts you has really helped me reflect on where I can focus my attention so we have a very healthy relationship.
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Very good informative video! With my first Dominant, I used to feel like I was never enough. My job was not good enough, the way I looked did not please him, the way I dressed, etc. It was kind of depressing and stressing, when I think about it. Thankfully, I now have a very good and amazing Dominant who is also my boyfriend and things are completely different. He may have less experience with bdsm but the way he dominates me is sooo much better, in my opinion. I don't feel like I have to climb Mount Everest everyday in order to satisfy him.
This is the first video of you that I watch and you seem like a very genuine and passionate person. I can't wait to have the time to watch your other videos. :)
Yay! So happy to hear how things are going well for you now! Any particular questions or topics you'd like me to cover?
This actually helped me a lot. My Master has always told me to just do me as long as I follow the rules. For the longest I thought that it meant that he doesn’t want me, but you explaining that your Master wants you to do you and pursue your dreams makes me understand what he means.
I'm so glad to hear you telling us this because even though I wasn't able to explore this kink with a partner yet you're describing everything I dreamed a D/s relationship could be.. Gives me hope I might get there one day ~
Fancy Hatching it took me about 10 years to manifest my Master! Don’t settle and keep the vision that you’ll find the right fit for you in and out of kink!
My ex husband was my master 5yrs and I didn't want to be his slave. I have been out for nearly 2 yes and I'm still living with the damage he caused
I'm so sorry for all that you are carrying. I hope that whatever comes your way next will be so much closer to all that you deserve. Did you learn things about the last relationship that will help you form a better one moving forward?
Not OP but that isn't BDSM it is abuse. Abusers will find a way to justify it. In my experience Christian men do it by latching onto "the man is the head of the house" thing.
A sub can deny at any time remember ur the one I'm control he who is the one is leading u to the right path if abuse is all above let go they will be a better Dom to guide u to the right path remember ur the one who can say no just as a safe word
Glad you're out of that but that's not master and slave. That's abuser and victim. The comparison shouldn't even be made or it will confuse people about what is acceptable vs. unacceptable.
Please please don't let him hold u back . Its not your fault. I had a master tie me up cut me a leave me for hours to cry and bleed . Then he would walk in smack my cock then make me clean it up . He would shove soap in the cuts and watch me cry and beg . Then just leave me on the floor till he needed me to please him. I was given a blanket to sleep on . U are strong. Not stupid . Sorry if it brings stuff up for u. U are not on your own.
Your own thoughts got you hot. That was actually pretty funny. Love the video!
I’m in my first DS with a person who I’ve trusted for over a year. We became friends and then we started seeing each other. I left for 4 months, but came back to him and have accepted being his slave. As always he’s wonderful and pushes me to achieve my goals and to better myself as well too. This video just helped me to see and how a DS relationship should be and it’s goin’ that way for me. Thank you.
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As a disabled male sub, I feel out of place. I'm just looking for a strong and gentle Domme.
Please feel free to reach out to me. As an ethical and responsible domme with a nurturing / gentle side, I can help if you're still seeking
I hope you found one, Samuel! Blessings!
Still nothing.
@@wublubdubdub ok. how would I do that?
@samuelfreeman do you have an email or some way I can contact you dear?
This was such a beautiful video to watch!!
I love seeing this raw deeper side of bdsm expressed, and i love that you found someone who accepts you as you are and pushes you to just be you! Loved this video 💛
Awww thank you SO much!
Yes! Working on this with my Daddy. He is new to this, so is struggling with the concept that I want and need to serve him. His rules and high standards will help me to be better for both of us.
As a new Dom, I’m still learning to know what my sub wants and needs. He’s very soft and gentle and I want to make sure that I provide the absolute best for him. Sometimes, I feel that I’m not doing enough for him, but he reassures me that I’m doing a good job. So thank you for this video, it’s something that I needed to hear.
This describes what a D/s relationship should be! Thanks for making this video so ppl can understand what its REALLY about
Aw thank you so much!!
This whole video is so, so lovely and it shows the beauty of the D/s dynamic so clearly. Ahhhh, I’m all emotional now, haha.
Awww thank you
Yup, couldn't agree with you more
YEEEEEEEES!!! You hit the nail on the head for what I've been discovering on my journey..I honestly was beginning to think I didn't belong but I'm happy to see these opinions and ideals coming from someone else🖤💜🖤💜🖤💜🖤💜🖤
Thank you so so much for your videos !!! Me and my man of 10 years just started a 24/7 d/s relationship. We actually just started bdsm in general. It has been life changing for us so far. I truly believe this lifestyle is for us. We can already see sooo many positive effects this dynamic exchange has brought to literally every aspect of our life ! Thank you so much for the information videos, and everyone stay happy, healthy, and horny 😊
Yes! A thousand times yes. This is something I’ve wanted in my life for a long time. I’ve recently become involved with a new man and we have discussed my desire for a master. He is very receptive to the idea and would like to be my Dom. We are now on the journey of learning more and discussing how we want this dynamic to manifest itself in our lives.
Thank you so much for making this video!
I am someone who’s just coming into this world of BDSM and the info you provided here makes me feel more confident and knowledgeable!
Thank you
Im in the same boat, however I assume that I have a different seat in this boat
Same here as well
My SO and I just discussed exploring a D/S relationship of our own. The way her dynamic is being described here is ideally how I want our D/S relationship to be. Great vid!
Never heard it described this way. Really glad you found your unicorn.
Yes…Omg I just got into my D/S and this video made me relax about this. He is patient with me and showing me I am a lucky sub. So far I feel I’m treated like a Goddess
I don't normally post comments on anything but i felt like i needed to say this.. You hit the nail on the head on this so much! I am a sub in a long distance relationship, we met on fetlife. He lives in the uk and I live in the us. One of the biggest things for us is communication. I am so proud n happy to call him my dom. We havent met in person yet and are trying to make plans for March 2019. Just to see if it truly does click. He has told me so many times that I am going there as a friend first and a sub last. I've never had a relationship d/s or otherwise like this before. He let's me 100% me. I absolutely love your videos and they really help me understand how I can be better as a sub. Please keep up the amazing work!!!!!!!
Awwww that was such a sweet and heart-felt comment, thank you! It’s so wonderful to hear that this video resonated with you.
Keep doing you, all 100% of you, and I look forward to hearing your stories of growth and fun!
@@DesiresLaidBare Thank you so much! It feels so freeing to say that I am a sub and i belong to a wonderful dom. I was wondering if u could possibly do a video on dom and sub drop. It's something I'm not sure I've experienced nor my dom experienced but I'd like to know what it looks or feels like.
Madison Buske yeah, I can absolutely. I can’t speak for Dom drop myself, because #duh so I’ll be asking my Dominant-leaning friends and my Master for their input!
Did you meet him.by now??
Any updates?
Your three truths are so on point, and your content aides me as Alpha in helping my submissive understand what is truly her deepest self. So I thank you for that
This is beautiful and I would recommend it to anyone struggling with setting boundaries, regardless of whether or not they are into BDSM. Thank you so much for make this video. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain this. It inspires me and gives me hope, not only for a relationship with another person, but also for establishing a healthy relationship with myself. Again, thank you!
My Mistress and I have been in a D/s relationship for over a year. I finally passed my slave training a month ago and I'm so so happy!! I am getting my day collar for my birthday and I can't wait. We love each other so much and just are perfect for each other. We complete one another in the most beautiful, wonderful ways. We wanna marry when the time is right and I can't wait to spend the entire rest of my life serving and loving my Mistress.❤
I've began a sub/dom relationship 8 months back and it is about trust. You're video was absolutely wonderful and I did note things as well. My dom is extremely supportive and he is very loving, caring, and he always know how I feel because I'm an open book. 😂 sorry, I just really love him and it's hard not to talk about him because him and I click. I am never scared to be myself around him and I've never lied to him because I'm loyal because he accepts me. Knowing this, it makes me happy to know your in a relationship that makes you happy. People deserve good relationships.
P.s. it's so sweet your master made that collar! It means something when he took the time to make it and thought of you ♡♡
What lipstick are you wearing on this video? It looks so good on u
I'm wearing Stila! I can't remember the name, but it's the true red color. It's also sitting on top of the Two Faced Lip Insurance.
tv and movies are also a big misconception of a M/s and D/s relationship. My last M/s relationship lasted 11 years before he passed on
YESSS!!!! I LOVE MY BABYGIRL SO MUCH, SHE IS JUST LIKE THAT, AND I AM 100% COMMITTED TO SHOWING HER I AM THE PERSON SHE'S MEANT TO BE WITH. -The Madhouse Within, to the best living being in our life.
The Madhouse Within i love you master daddy
@@Rozavampire good little girl.
Wow, I felt how much this meant to you, it made me smile :)
Yes. I'm claiming it, I will be happy and I will find the right D/s partner for me.
I wouldn’t mind being in a dom/ sub relationship, it’s like the feeling you get when you see your favorite celebrity, it’s like you love them so much you wanna do every nasty freaky thing to them forever lol it’s a love sexual high, and depends how much attraction you have for them and how good they make you feel and treat you. Oh u loyal lmao
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This video has really helped me. Thank you! Learnt a lot.
Thank you! Always here to answer any questions you have
Yes!
Your video made me take a deep breath and smile. ☺️
My Domme makes me feel I am enough. Mind. Blown. Thank you, Goddess.
This is the type of Dom and Sub relationship. I want to still be me but know I’m always submitting to my Dom. One day he’ll arrive.
Yes, yes, yes! I am not in a DS relationship but I’ve known in my heart it could be what is right for me. I can only pray I might find one that will fulfill me in such a way
Having this ideas lately that this lifestyle is something that I want to at least explore. So I went on TH-cam and found you, and holy cow. First video, You made me feel confident in myself that I could try this and open myself up to someone in this way. Thank you I'm gonna keep watching :)
Having deep profound trust ushers the freedom encourages you freely to step into your individuality that alone speaks volumes, you have true freedom to live and express who you truly are inside to your partner, the world, all you do and touch from a place of protection.
D/s does this healthy dance with the right partner.
I sit here heart fulfilled you’ve found yours, you radiate love for yourself, for him and your dynamic. Blessed Be ♥️🖤
Awww thank you so much for the kind words, Judi! I truly felt them. Are you also in a D/s-type dynamic yourself?
And that freedom, that unapologetic freedom from a place of protection? That hits home so hard.
Yes Ma’am I am in a D/s Dynamic best choice I’ve ever made!
I approached my Husband expressing my desire for this Dynamic.
Its very refreshing to witness this soundness beyond my own dynamic in yours!
I'm working on a comic currently where the couple is in a sort of BDSM mindset and this really helps with my writing. Thank you for this
I'm Soooooooo intrigued!!! ❤️
Great video! The kind of video that makes me want to meet you and make a friend out of you. You hear people telling each other to be themselves, but, you put it in such a powerful way that it's my 1st time feel I understand what being self truly means and how powerful it could be. This is beyond inspirational. This video could be applied in every aspect of life. And, your master wants you to achieve your biz goal as a way of submitting to him, wow, powerful happiness
I’m looking into wanting to be a sub and you’re video helped me so much… stay happy 😊
Stuff like this always really put me off but this helped explain it a lot better, because I truly thought for a long time it was just about giving up control
Same here
Omg >~< my bf is the exact same.
This video made me really happy to know that my current thingy is healthy and that i really should value my master even more 💖
I have my Master...
But I'm too shy to do what he say....
But I luv him :
Then it’s really important that you two both sit down and have (perhaps a hard ) talks about what will make you both happy! Win-win.
If you both need help, I do provide MsDs sessions where I can help facilitate these types of conversations
Been there!!
Got Facebook, help you out. Even I'm new on the group page over a year, join *Little pet play space 2* got near 1,000 people to join.
Loved your video. U managed to put together the beauty of it in a very healthy manner, I was honestly expecting some feminist bs in the comments against the topic. But looks like the community is also healthy here after all. We need more positive open minded subs like you. And ofc I do acknowledge the toxic abuse in the name of dominating as well. So I suppose appropriateness is needed in both sides.
I just have to add another comment as I am watching the video for the 2nd time. The video is just beautiful. We hear ppl give each other encouraement and inspiration all the time to help each other achieve, but watching your video, I feel master to sub inspiration is while lot more powerful almost in a different world. I don't understand why.
I appreciate the initiative with this video and I like the emotions that come out, how personal it is. :)
It could be clearer, though!... Like on what the difference really IS between power and trust... HOW are you still in power? etc
cliff longlands ,this is something new to me for sure a real eye opener ,thanks for you honesty xxcliff
So glad I came across this video I’m a very submissive girl I describe myself as a little haven’t found the proper dom yet hopefully God send him my way😌!!
This was such an amazing Video to watch, I am so releived to hear this because it gives me hope that I might get there one day.
This is all very new to me but it sounds sooo romantic! Is that crazy?
I know this video is 5 years old, but it truly has shifted my brain in terms of how I see that lifestyle.
I found it very informative, and it’s comforting how at ease you are w/your lifestyle and point of view! I’m in an uncommon situation you might say, I try not to see it as bad or good, I just am. My lack of experience w/both trust & intimacy (and sex) are definitely factors, I am 29 yrs old and it’s harder as time passes to understand why I have so much fear. But the d/s dynamic and a lot bdsm aspects appeal to me. There’s a lot of information out there and plenty of novels to fulfill basically any kinks, I’ve even found it therapeutic and very telling to write out my own fantasies and stories. But I’m not sure what the first steps should be to actually enter into this world ? 🤷🏻♀️
This is a great video ❤ thanks for educating the newbies.. and the oldies. Great job!
Oh by the way, I definitely love the video! It was so wonderful. I think you've got a wonderful sounding master. I think that is so phenomenal to have something so special with somebody like that.
@Chris Smith It's wonderful and beautiful
good to have someone talking from long years of experience, nothing better than that. Thanks for all your good advices
This video was extremely informative. Thank you 😍 I understand it alot better now.
I found your explanation beautiful and honest and it really helped to highlight the benefits and rewards that result from a successful trust bond.
@Stephen Schwenn
You want a bond with someone beautiful?
Thanks for this. I have been on the fence for some time, and now I'm quite sure what I do and don't want.
My parents trusted each other implicitly, and my mom’s normal, STANDARD vows were to Love, Honor, And OBEY for better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness, health, until death. How’s that different from D/S?
Omg best explaintion so far. I do not ever say master , daddy ,papi Dom. But I try to explain and I realized I do not have to explain to a real Dom. I do not want to be abused it's on trust not control. Love a dominant alpha . Thank u for your explaining .
I'm so excited my husband allows me to help him with his vision 😊
He's the best Daddy! I feel so safe in this marriage. ❤
I'm trying to learn about bdsm world and I found this video really good. you gave me a perfect example of a good relationship between master and slaves thanks and once again really good viseo!
@Barba Rainbow glad you enjoyed. I liked it. It helps us both then. Hope you are doing well. I search for myself someone to connect with on this. I’m tired of being alone or not having a friend to understand
I meet this guy that I really like and he brought this up to me... and I was like... ummmm no... but the more he talked about it and the misconceptions I became really interested. Your video also gave me a better understanding and I'm really looking into this. It excites me and is so much deeper than I thought. I also thought it was all about sex, but the fact it's so much deeper than that makes it so much better. thank you for this video.
I found this amazing! Thank you for this perspective
first day in my life that I look for info to understand this subjet and this is a good and cool video, but it reminds me, the server part, the old couples back in the 40s-50s when the goal for women was to serve their partners. Gladly you and other can do it of choice, like you said, the mindset.
Theres a huge difference between an abuser and a dom, guys aftercare is important discuss the limits a safe word and whether this relationship is for the bed time or all of it
As 24/7 pet I agree with all of this, i was collared with a new replacement collar today on the anniversary of our ds relationship. The replacement was an Eternity collar.
I'll be buried with this on lol ❤❤❤
Absolutely love this video... You have it explained to a T... You explained it in the most beautiful way possible...
Your collar is beautiful thank you for this video I'm just trying to gain more knowledge of the bdsm community and it helps a lot hearing it from someone who is coming from a more submissive view such as i am
love you girlie ! beautiful information.
Good girl
Shared with my slave 🖤
You're a master
Wow yes I can relate soo much as I need this in my life so much and yes please do more vedios like this with TPE and slave dynamics
Thank you for your video. My dynamic with my submissive is similar to your dynamic with your master.
Omg... I might only be a teen, but i know that this is what I want my future relationship to be 💛
I’ve wanted this since I was a teen, too, so I know the feeling ❤️ stand strong, educate yourself about this lifestyle, don’t take shit, and know that you are enough exactly as you are.
I'm 16 and I'm looking forward to this kind of relationship🍷
@@melancholicjuls253 same im 17 and I've always been very interested in this type of relationship
This is the confidence I want my future slave to have
It sounds like a good boyfriend, like someone that supports you and also someone in who you proyect your highest self. cool.
it's so right that submissiveness goes from inside you and can be so bright without any bondage
I'm super new to this, but I'm submissive by nature. I feel as if this is what I ultimately want. A man who makes and keeps me safe, asks, and cares about my opinion but ultimately can make the final decision bc I trust him with my life.
Thankyou for clearing some things up for me.
Yes! Thank you. This was informative and helpful.
Your I AM ENOUGH statement really hit home with me! Thats something I have never gotten in any of my vanilla relationships that I do get now in my 24/7 D/s relationship. My Master not only makes me feel that I am enough but He makes me strive to be even better even setting financial goal and getting out of debt and this is just one part of the D/s relationship that vanilla people don't see or know even happens for that matter that I wish I could explain to my family and friends that simply refuse to understand why I choose to be in this type of a relationship. I hate that all they think is its about the kinks or about the sex.
I'm new to the community. But that is exactly how I feel, enough.
HI there! :D My name's Leah and I really enjoyed this video a whole lot. I honestly learned *so much* from watching it! I'm sort of new to the BDSM community (I'm a submissive lol) and I was just wondering if it's okay to enjoy the aspects of being a Slave and having a Master but not wanting to refer to myself as a Slave or call my Dom "Master"? (for me I prefer the term "Sir" tbh). Sorry if this is a dumb question and I hope you have a happy holidays and a wonderful New Years!
*Love this Explanation!!!!* ❤️💋
I really appreciate your videos💚
For sure I would support the woman and let her be herself while also taking charge and trust
What you can take from this is this:
1. Subs want to please everyone, so everything they say always has a tinge of lies. As they’re trying to please everyone.
2. That being taken into account, she’s trying to serve society, serve her parents and serve her dom. That is the confusion she feels. When she says: “giving up control” she already has to society and her parents. The reason she says ‘trust’ is because she’s waiting to trust totally so she can then totally ‘give herself fully’. This is why she’s focussing on such frivolous things, like choosing where to eat. She’s testing the giving up control. All the rest of the garbage coming out of her mouth is what society tells her (this is the anxiety, going against her current dom, society).
3. What he has then done, is ‘re-framed’ everything she is already doing as submission to him, when it’s not at all. so kind of like ‘fake complicane’. But! big warning to girls, he probably has 50 of her, as she’s not really submissive to him (yet you could say) right now it’s just sex only.
This is really hard to sift through as because she’s submissive, she spits out all society (her current master) says so like: “I’m a boss babe bitch”. Which, some girls are, she’s definitely not. This is the downside of a sub, you will have to get used to, they’re really annoying, sarcastic and nothing is ever said directly (colloqually called nagging).
Genuine question: Could you explain why someone has to be dominant for them to help you be your best self? Or does that help you to push past whatever would otherwise get in your way (like self doubt) because there's another motive? I have experiened the "I am enough" with my faith in God but even though i like getting spanked by my partner the idea of allowing someone to make decisions for me gives me a panic attack. Probably because i was in a situation where I didnt have the option to opt out and decisions were made for me that profoundly damaged me.
What if instead of a wedding ring, someone got a wedding collar that was permanent?
They do it all the time
This video puts into words what I want to be.
I want to find a dom who can teach me or find a sub who can teach me. This has nothing to do with media influence. I have always been a submissive naturally. I don’t want to be a slave but a submissive. I just don’t even know were to start. I only had one dom and we had known each other online for about 3yrs but when we met he looked like nothing he described and he wanted me to do all of these crazy things I was not comfortable doing at all.
@Sonyapeach great. Glad you are wanting to search. Hope you are doing well. I battle and search myself for someone to connect with and understand more. Even friendship too
This is something that I have and it’s great your absolutely right
Yes! Thank you, thank you so much!
Aw you're welcome!
Ahhhhhdhskajskdks that collar looks awesome
Thank youuuu