It will get you played, in debt, lonely, etc. I was a pleaser for alone time. Putting myself last until I had to learn how to listen to Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Jesus was more than a pleaser he taught how to truely love and he was a healer out of pure love, you cannot get no better than that. The difference was Jesus did not tolerate curtain behaviors. I had to learn how to do that but still be nice. It works because if you authority not ego over a situation plus Faith plus belief it will be hard to get walked on and over. People with stupid amount of EGO is a different category. Most people with ego are not actually smart or wise. They are narrow so most times you just give them a shovel and let them talk their way into the hole they dig for themselves.
True because some men will listen the first time around u tell them u dont like something they care enough about you to stop doing it her husband sounds like he dont really care about her and he is selfish men women i dont give a damn a man still knows when his wife is upset he knows why at this point he doesnt care
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 This lady is giving very bad horrible spiritual advice. To tell a woman to deny her husband the honor of being nurturing and a homemaker as a wife is blasphemous to the word of God. God instructed a man to love a woman according to having knowledge of how she was created by God to be beautiful buy frail in stature to a man and women will rule and abide to the word of God with their emotions whereas a man abides in the word of God according to righteousness and principle.. Case in point, here is clear proof that a woman is the weaker vessel by the scripture 1. Remember when satin wanted to corrupt Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden who did he goto to do so.. EVE. He bypassed Adam and went straight to eve because he knew that Adam was given authority by God to rule in d Garden and therfore Adam would have invoked the spirit of god and rebuked and banished satin wen he a tempted to defile them..Thas what a real man would have done.. but what did the woman do.. She gossiped with satin and carousel with him until she had d confidence to ask Adam.. Dont you wana kno yourself? 2. After Eve had good juicy conversation with Satin it was obvious that she had already eatin of the fruit of the tree of knowledge and disobeyed God's orders to her not to.. so what happened next.. NOTHING.. The garden of Eden was still intact ed beautiful and the still lived to be 900 yrs old.. it wasn't until Adam to ate of the fruit and disobeyed God that sin and death entered into Eden. Here's is a quote from god to Adam . IT IS BECAUSE YOU LISTENED TO YOUR WIFE EVE THAT THIS WORLD WILL BE FOREVER CURSED ON YOUR BEHALF ADAM.. not you an her or him an her but Because of YOU... So if you want to give Godly advice to help a woman struggling in her relationship w her husband then it's prolly best to use GOD'S instruction manual to impart the truth and not what you feel.. whether she accepts it or not is her choice just like Eve but wen man disobeys God it then becomes God's consequences. So u to will be held to those consequences for giving out ungodly advice in a godly situation.. MARRIAGE AND THE COVENANT BETWEEN .. GOD .. MAN... AND HIS WIFE..
Rebecca went in!! And she is 100% right. That's why women usually look worn-out and over it by the time they hit their forties and the man has so much pep in their step and looks awesome! We as women have to stop sacrifing ourselves for everyone around us. Great advice! I love your channel Sis, please keep it coming
Lionel Delbé hey bro, I just so happen to be on my phone and caught your comment. I'm glad I did. We have to stop this comparison and Tit for Tat. Nothing in my comment indicated or implied that men don't do a lot for their home. My father did a lot for us growing up. I was raised by my father who worked hard every night pulling 12-hour shifts. All I was saying was there are a lot of cases where a woman is doing damn near everything. I personally know a few women who are. But that doesn't take away from the men who are doing what they're supposed to do & being real men. Again I was raised by one so I know what it looks like
@@gloriab.3720 married or single...women grow older faster than men not because of any sacrifice....by the time she is 40....women are 10 years after the 30 years wall...and no women cant escape that...dont blame men but biology..
Women ageing poorly has nothing to do with the many men they have been with from their teen years onwards. Suuuurre. Ridden more men than she can count, often. And even if technically a virgin, her heart has been shredded by the men she chose to pursue. That has nothing to do with it, I'm sure. Sigh.
Your life changes when you change. The people around you change towards you when you change. 1. Women talk too much. They talk to the point where they get tuned out. Even their children will tune them out, when this is true, because it becomes predictable. You're right. There must be action. 2. Men don't believe women for the same reason I stopped listening to my friends complain. THAT' S ALL THEY'RE GOING TO DO: COMPLAIN. They're not going anywhere or do anything differently. They're either too scared or too complacent. Men know this. That's why they don't listen to you. And this is coming from a woman.
I was love this woman I cook I cleaned up the house and pay the bill all I ask to help me. She did do wath I ask her to do. Wee got into it I toll her she got to go. I was so hurt in said me I fill good right now. I not talk to her and 9 month now. I will fine me a good woman.
Nailed it! Women talk endlessly, and never do anything about it. Let your actions represent your internal feelings... But don't go overboard. If a man is a good man, don't withdraw his core needs. Let your actions be properly scaled to the perceived offense. And look to godly older women to calibrate your actions... Because women are prone to overestimate the level of offense, seeing issues where none exist.
Im a man. If a woman acts and doesnt speak. I would just assume that she is being disrespectful, and rude and I would toss her to the curb. Here is a REAL piece of advice from a MAN. Talk. If nothing is fixed, then act. Never be silent. Say ur piece, if it doesnt change with ur husband. Then act.
DaemonMane, I didn't take it as to not talk to your husband first. But then again I have common sense and know people aren't mind readers. I can see how others could/will take it that way. This comment should be top comment.
He's right. Speak first, then if he's not changing anything, then act. That worked for me. I nagged and nagged for a good while. One day I figured I didn't deserve it. I was so good to him. He didn't change. One day I disappeared. I stopped calling. I was at my mom's more often, almost bairley home. He realized I wasn't crazy about him anymore. I bairley text back or returned his calls. I focused on myself. Then one day he just started calling and wanting his family back. He new at that point he was loosing me.
That's so true..Its crazy how we let men get away with so much shit... but then they get with someone else and treat them the right way and respect them.
Yep I’m a nice guy works both ways it’s rough and truthfully I’m to a point of a girl is nice yes I usually think it’s 80% fake now try to not think like that but seen it so much hard not to apply it I know the same goes for you girls out there it’s just a rough dating world right now
I admit I was too nice in my marriage and when I put my foot down because I was unhappy he still didn't care and no changes were made now we're divorced
I'm going 5hrough what you are describing, right now. First I tried to change him, next I tried to change myself to meet him halfway then ai was true to myself ,stopped being emotional and tried to work on myself and how I react these last two years.... then I realized wow even after stopping the anger stopping the complaining but working on myself and setting boundaries and hoping things I did would help him wake up and finally do me right...wrong! He still does not care !! So I'm going to start the process of a divorce.
I'm trying to learn how to be assertive but fun at the same time , I dont want to come off as too controlling or uptight , but I dont want to come off as easy to manipulate.
Why can’t you women just grow a pair and be transparent about what you want in a man. Break the social stigma. MAKE THE CHANGE. Women want to be LED. That is their natural place and they have not changed. They want to feel small feminine and safe. They want to be dominated. Just be real.
I have never heard this advice this straightforward before. But it makes absolute complete sense. Wow. I feel like this has happened to me with my last relationship. But I’ve accepted that I’ll just have to take what I’ve learned and being it into the next relationship so that it can actually work the next time.
Yeah try withholding sex, then by your thoughtless action in which he understands most, he'll think you're cheating or rejecting him...which says in his mind "Oh we're now having an OPEN RELATIONSHIP"...this nonsense only adds feul to the fire and further the distance between you too
@@keithwallace5718 orrrr lay there like an iron board exhausted or you can get yourself back by stopping EVERYTHING else. This way you left with sooo much more energy in you because you stop everything else now you can walk around bright eyes bushy tail. Made up and all dolled up. Walking around looking so good because you did not exert yourself waiting on him and his needs. He's going to want to do what he needs to do to getTHAT; point blank period. He's not going to have time to think you must be cheating. You're looking more desirable. If he desired to get you he's going to have to do what he need to do.
It’s simple. Don’t do it if you don’t feel like it. If someone is not recognizing my feelings it certainly doesn’t make me want to keep doing and doing for them. I am a recovering people pleaser! LOL!!
I don’t mean to compare a grown man to a child but it’s like when your child is disobedient. You don’t keep rewarding them for their negligent behavior, you take away their privileges until they’re ready to earn them back by doing the right things.
This is so true. Relationships often end because a woman will expect a man to change course based on the words and attitudes she is exhibiting, but by the time she takes * action *, to which he will actually begin to respond, her heart has already moved on and it's too late.
Thank you! Ive been telling women this for years and they REFUSE to get it! Men and women communicate differently. But, a lot of women expect a man to communicate just like their girlfriends! Really? And also, that's how a lot of women get played constantly. By just listening to what a man says only and not focusing on his actions.
Wow. This is so insightful. Thank you! I wish the church would say this! This makes a LOT of sense actually. Men are logical and need you to take action to back up your words. Man, we are taught that is selfish. I’m so glad I found your videos today.
They will never say that in church. Church is rooted in patriarchy, and patriarchy thrives on women serving men at all cost. Rebecca is teaching how to accomplish fairness and equality in relationships, and church does not promote that.
Just don't marry a guy who doesn't try to understand how a woman works as much as she tries to understand how he works. Don't settle for this double standard. Pshhh.
I do agree with that. But I'll note... I know a whole community of guys that intensely study female psychology, working hard to understand women... But I know virtually zero women that make any effort whatsoever to understand men.
@@breakingthemasks I know men, who intensaly study women. 1 The Redpillers 2 The incells They see and listen and read certain books written by men. Terrible books by the way. I just was curious about the thoughts, comments... I understand more about men then ever!!! I just quit. I do not want to be in a man's life, who are like that. I know that a lot of women read about men/women relationships, baby/child books to emprove their skills and understanding. To heal, to grow. I never saw men doing that. I am 49 and never saw or mention men buying books... Or go to counseling or whatever to safe even a marriage. Women do all kind of things to work on something. So, now i am more confused. Bless you.
Listennnnnn! This woman is so on point with this information. 🙏🏾 Sometimes you really have to be “nice for what” and respect yourself! Point. Blank. Period. All that extra energy could be going into personal development. Besides! when you do this; if he leaves then that “man” was suppose to go. If he stays then he truly deserves you. He just needed to be reminded that he has a Queen. ❤️🙏🏾
This is true and this can go for pretty much any form of relationship. If someone over steps your boundaries you should take immediate action. I’ve been through this with my relationship and friendships. I tried being a peacekeeper and avoiding confrontation which makes things worse because you will forever be stressed out and people will run over you. You cannot avoid a battle all of the time but you choose how you decide to deal with that situation!
Maam You are talking some real stuff!!! You gotta get their attention. You ever notice your kids dont start acting right till you get the belt? Same principle. No more doormats!!
Wow!!!!! What a Word, Sis!!!!! Why don't they teach this in churches?!!!!! This could make such a huge difference in the lives of a lot of couples (married, engaged, dating), as well as singles of marriageable age. This would help dispel some miscommunications, expectations & manipulative attitudes. This is a wake-up call!!!! Thank U So Very Much for sharing!!!!! I Truly Appreciate it!!!!!
Absolute right! Married 11 years happily. A lady knows how to have healthy boundaries. You don't have to be nasty about it just pull back. Put that energy into yourself. Go for a run, go have breakfast with your girls, sleep.
Your real world accurate and reasonable advice is stunningly rare. The vast majority of men and women NEED to hear what you are saying. I have become a fan and will refer you tom my wife and daughters. Your advice has helped me to be mindful and have an accurate perception of what makes people tick.
I LIKE EXCITEMENT BUT NO NO NO TO DRAMA. I LIKE BEING EXCITED ABOUT MY BLACK MAN COMING HOME. TO BE EXCITED ABOUT BEING TREATED PROPERLY AND TREATING HIM PROPERLY. WE ARE ALL NOT THE SAME
It fell apart because if I don't do my part he would have hit me. I still picked him to marry because of abusive parents. Now I have thrown him out. I don't want any man , I got two boys and one girl, let me do good by them relationship wise to give tough love and bring them up straight so they don't repeat my mistakes. 3 years I'm still single, I finally found a purpose and started going to college to get my degree, I need to focus on our future so I can afford what I want. I just came her to see what is right and wrong when it comes to give and take 😁 thanks for your videos Rebecca 🤩
Having abusive parents doesnt excuse you making a shitty dating decision lmao. Too many of yall just get turned on by the bad boy and bam, you've got 2 kids with a baby daddy.
Tropic Mix you are so ignorant and confident in your extreme ignorance and lack of knowledge. Go do your findings before coming to drop ignorant comments all over the place
I just send you love and strength to do whatever is needed to bring you in a better place together with you beautifull children. Kind regards from belgium. 🌿🌺🌿
@@tropicmix8765 Your answer is so simplistic, that i know, you are not educated on the subject. Do not say foolish things to women/girls, men/boys, when they are allready confused, uneducated, scared, abused. You do not know nothing what you are talking about. So just do not give critics and shallow stupid comments. A lot of people are being broken...in many desastrous ways... Be glad, you are not in the same shoes. How old are you? If you are young, i understand your answer. But when your are 30+ i will not be friendly anymore. Kind regards from belgium. P.S. i do not want to offend you. The thing is... Stupid answers pisses me really off, into even a danger point.
I’m so glad I came across your videos. It gave me strength to finally get rid of of the situation I was in. Thank you so much. Words cannot express how much I appreciate you and your message. May God always guide and protect you and your family.
This is my last post. I promise Also I looked up in the concordance peacemaker and you are correct. Here is the definition: peacemaker: Greek- eirenopoieo- means to harmonize- this means to go away or to slowly go away, to depart, to withdraw oneself with the idea of going without noise or notice. It is frequently rendered ‘go your way’.
Auntie Pope just got me together yet again. I needed this. Thank you! I need to stop being so nice. And wowwwww my mom is the entitled wife. She doesn’t cook or clean or anything. She asks me and my dad to do everything! He does it grudgingly because he’s been doing it for 30+ years now. Wow. Such a toxic environment
Rohan Simpson me too brother, I wish I find a good woman been through 2 divorces because of them think they better off being single and miserable now they mad and struggle it their false and I forgive them so I doing fine.
So incredibly right! Nailed it. Action n words are not the same roadmaps. Work backwards and back up your effort and gain ground. Rebecca is so right to act accordingly to receive different results. Be ready to not do!
WOWWW..I'M GRATEFUL THANKFUL...I Never had the Courage to Follow Through and Take Action...I was always a Peace Keeper...Now, I know the difference COURAGE!! And getting my Life in Order so that I will have the CONFIDENCE to Stand uP...As a Peace Maker...Ase! Amen!! A'Ho!!! Blessings to All...
I been going through the same thing as the lady. I was that person doing and talking. Saying ok👌 I'll do this and that. I stopped completely. Talking does nothing for you. You are so right! Action speaks louder than words.
I don't believe in love or relationships.Ive alwsys been cheated on,used or lead on.I've always had the nice guy thing... ur so sweet.ur really cute... but. It gets u nowhere.However I can't be anything I'm not & I refuse 2 show a flasehood in that.I am who I am.If I have 2b mr nice guy or finish last or never find ne1 then honestly I would much rather b who I am then put on a show.I won't change 2 mind game chicks - love me 4 who i am or leave me the hell alone. #singleforever. like ur video.
I believe you will find the right person for you some day. Use the experiences to learn and grow. Perhaps you are only going for 1 type of woman? Perhaps you rushed into things before knowing someone. Perhaps you went into something based on the person's looks. Perhaps they weren't mature enough. Immature and weak people tend to cheat more, in my experience. There are lots of people in this world who will treat you right. The problem most people have is rushing into things with the wrong person for them. Humans can be pretty fucked up, in general. But we can also be amazing. We all have the compassity to be good or evil and it can vary at times.
Might I add, the men that I cared less about were the ones that respected me, and didn't cross my boundaries. But the ones i did care about where the ones that trampled on my heart... I once heard . THE ONE THAT CARE THE LEAST HAVE THE MOST POWER.
If she's so unhappy, divorce him, be single once more and then she'll eventually come to the realization that she's basically having the same problem with other men all over again. Women have this false sense of reality, they literally think fairy tales do come true. If a man has to make you happy, you're already out of pocket, your happiness is your own sole responsibility. Nobody in life is going to march to the beat of the same drum. This age old false notion that someone is blessed and highly favored has plagued our society and is causing irreparable damage, remove it from your brain this false narrative that somehow your special, your not, none of us are. We all have different skill sets and abilities, none of which are better, these things all have equal footing. It's like some of you believe that a person can build a 100 foot building all by his or herself, no you cannot, it takes a collection of people with various abilities & skill sets to accomplish such a feet, no man or woman is an island.
Thanks so very much for this TH-cam video. I wish I hard this many years ago. But God timing is the best. God bless you Ma'am. This is want I needed to hear my entire life from a woman of God like you. I grow up in a Christian home and I did not learned the differences between, stupidity been nice and setting boundaries. Now I understand. Being a Christian doesn't means, we should allow people to walk over us, or use stupidity in the place of being nice. Thanks so much. This is going to be really big help to me moving forward when dealing with humans and my own children.
Amen! Rebecca knows what she is talking about. You deserve to be loved more not less. You deserve reciprocity. You are a good woman. Take your energy back and give the love to yourself. Pull back sweet girl. Think about what you would say to your daughter if she was being treated this way. I dated a guy like your husband after his wife finally left him. He was crushed for years and he kept trying to get her back but she had found happiness with another man who treated her really good. I couldn’t fix him or help him so I left too. He has turned into a depressed alcoholic. She is living her best life.
Appreciate the realness sista wish more people had balance like u, action is the key word. And if he is a genuine man or woman and observing small details they will make genuine effort to work on themselves. Thank u Mrs.Pope.
I loved a previous video about no longer match making for women. But this advise is careless and reckless and will possibly end a marriage. My wife ended our marriage after 22 years listening to this type of advise from her divorced friends. I can go on all day about what I could have done better and what she could have done better. She was an amazing mother and an amazing wife. I was a good husband, provider and am a great father. She didn’t have to work. She ran off to another state with some guy she met on a trip. She lost her best friends she lost me & Left me raising the last 3 of our 5 children. That was 5 years ago. It was crushing but I got through it. Kids are great, I’m doing good, money is good. I will remain single till my last one is out of school. I most likely will remain single permanently. This line of thinking is why I will never marry an American girl again. Im nowhere near perfect but I’m a good man. But never say never 😬.... cheers 🥂
You are right. I've seen a couple of her past messages & thought they were pretty good...This one is diametrically opposed that's what's written in the "Blueprint", Bible. ( Absolutely diametrically opposed ) I do realize that their are some screwed up Men ___ and as I said again, 90% of this message is diametrically opposed to the Word of __. ( Just one example is the ENTIRE Book of Proverbs ) and yep, I know; living a dedicated Christian life is hard for most....Her Husband is a Pastor & may they both continuously received Blessed mornings , evenings & nights.
This is the first video where I though she gave some unwise counsel. In my opinion, if you are going to deny sex to your husband because he does not respond to a persistent problem in the marriage then you have violated your marriage vows. Just because he does not meet your needs in some way does not give you the right to withhold sex. 2 wrongs does not make a right. If he goes out to fill the void you caused, then what? No marriage is perfect, that's why you marry for better or worse. In my opinion, to persistently withhold sex is a cause to divorce. The Bible says that it is better to marry than to burn. What if you are constantly burning while married?
Thank you soo much for this video. I have been in this situation and I did take the actions. At that point I became a bad wife, not doing “wifely duties”! I’m at a point of deciding if I should just leave since he is always going to change but never does. The environment became toxic due to neither of us are getting what we want and need at this point.
You have to listen to both sides of the story before you can come to a conclusion.The lady who wrote in is only give her side of the story This is a marriage counseling issue and both parties need to be present in order to draw a solution or conclusion.
This is a dangerous game that can lead to both parties playing tit for tat. I know from experience. You can fall down a rabbit hole quickly. It may work for her, for now, but it does not work in all marriages with all men. Eventually, my ex-husband and I ended up going back in forth with who was not doing what because we each felt like we had cause to withhold. I agree that healthy boundaries are necessary. Expectations need to be communicated clearly, openly and honestly. However, saying "I don't think this marriage is going to work" is not communicating a need or an expectation. It is a tatic to force change and it won't work. The same way refusing sex and acts of kindness is an an act to attempt to force change and it is borderline manipulation. Yes, praying, exhibiting the fruits of the spirit will not get immediate results, will not guarantee change in your partner, and is a laborious act of faith and love, but it is what God calls us to do, and you will reap a reward. Do not be weary in well doing. God sees you. Make your petition known to him🥰 In the mean time lead with love, not coldness, revenge, or rejection. God will show forgiveness and mercy to you as you forgive and show mercy. God bless you and your marriages. Pray to God on what to do. Lead in love and light, and communicate clearly what you need from your spouse.
Yes I can see this being a grey area topic as this technique may not work with all personalities. But staying with someone and continuing to give them your best when they are disregarding you is extremely painful. I honestly don't know the best solution
You on 🔥. I should have found two years ago. We're are better than ever now. Good friends and solid parents to our 2 boys but most of all RESPECTFULL. She'll still try to shit test me every once in a while, i shut that down real quick , maintain composure & make it known that she's not gonna trip me up like before. I think we have the best divorced marriage. Your video is greatness!
Love You Already ... It was a reason why i came across your page. Everything ur saying is so true.Im really Fighting with a man that is prone to yelling, and Fighting .. Ive been in a abusive relationship physically.. His is Verbal.. Im done with the disrespect and no fairness.. Its been 4yrs.. Im not going another year..
Why people give her dislike. She actually give us the insider. She is on point. How ever in my case. I just end up put out cuz he start act up. And throwing trantrum. And stop doing things if I don't put out.
I agree with you 100%. People pleasing will get you nowhere.
It will get you played, in debt, lonely, etc. I was a pleaser for alone time. Putting myself last until I had to learn how to listen to Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Jesus was more than a pleaser he taught how to truely love and he was a healer out of pure love, you cannot get no better than that. The difference was Jesus did not tolerate curtain behaviors. I had to learn how to do that but still be nice. It works because if you authority not ego over a situation plus Faith plus belief it will be hard to get walked on and over. People with stupid amount of EGO is a different category. Most people with ego are not actually smart or wise. They are narrow so most times you just give them a shovel and let them talk their way into the hole they dig for themselves.
Mark 12:30-31. Response.
I thought ya black women wanted pleasure that comes with financial stability and material things
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@@americusdeville865 Must going to pay all the bills eh?
Having a husband and having a husband that respects you are two different things.
Was he respecting before marriage?
Serenas Temper don’t you know women?!: bc he probably: rich, good in bed, strong/protector... player fun to be around with.... etc
True because some men will listen the first time around u tell them u dont like something they care enough about you to stop doing it her husband sounds like he dont really care about her and he is selfish men women i dont give a damn a man still knows when his wife is upset he knows why at this point he doesnt care
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
This lady is giving very bad horrible spiritual advice. To tell a woman to deny her husband the honor of being nurturing and a homemaker as a wife is blasphemous to the word of God.
God instructed a man to love a woman according to having knowledge of how she was created by God to be beautiful buy frail in stature to a man and women will rule and abide to the word of God with their emotions whereas a man abides in the word of God according to righteousness and principle..
Case in point, here is clear proof that a woman is the weaker vessel by the scripture
1. Remember when satin wanted to corrupt Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden who did he goto to do so.. EVE. He bypassed Adam and went straight to eve because he knew that Adam was given authority by God to rule in d Garden and therfore Adam would have invoked the spirit of god and rebuked and banished satin wen he a tempted to defile them..Thas what a real man would have done.. but what did the woman do.. She gossiped with satin and carousel with him until she had d confidence to ask Adam.. Dont you wana kno yourself?
2. After Eve had good juicy conversation with Satin it was obvious that she had already eatin of the fruit of the tree of knowledge and disobeyed God's orders to her not to.. so what happened next.. NOTHING.. The garden of Eden was still intact ed beautiful and the still lived to be 900 yrs old.. it wasn't until Adam to ate of the fruit and disobeyed God that sin and death entered into Eden. Here's is a quote from god to Adam
. IT IS BECAUSE YOU LISTENED TO YOUR WIFE EVE THAT THIS WORLD WILL BE FOREVER CURSED ON YOUR BEHALF ADAM.. not you an her or him an her but Because of YOU... So if you want to give Godly advice to help a woman struggling in her relationship w her husband then it's prolly best to use GOD'S instruction manual to impart the truth and not what you feel.. whether she accepts it or not is her choice just like Eve but wen man disobeys God it then becomes God's consequences. So u to will be held to those consequences for giving out ungodly advice in a godly situation.. MARRIAGE AND THE COVENANT BETWEEN .. GOD .. MAN... AND HIS WIFE..
Ramona Mi : Most women these days are unworthy of respect.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽You don't have to be angry to set boundaries! This applies to so much! Thank you
Agreed.
Rebecca went in!! And she is 100% right. That's why women usually look worn-out and over it by the time they hit their forties and the man has so much pep in their step and looks awesome! We as women have to stop sacrifing ourselves for everyone around us.
Great advice! I love your channel Sis, please keep it coming
Many Men do all lot for their home.
Lionel Delbé hey bro, I just so happen to be on my phone and caught your comment. I'm glad I did. We have to stop this comparison and Tit for Tat. Nothing in my comment indicated or implied that men don't do a lot for their home. My father did a lot for us growing up. I was raised by my father who worked hard every night pulling 12-hour shifts. All I was saying was there are a lot of cases where a woman is doing damn near everything. I personally know a few women who are. But that doesn't take away from the men who are doing what they're supposed to do & being real men. Again I was raised by one so I know what it looks like
@@gloriab.3720 "We have to stop this comparison and Tit for Tat", said the pot to the kettle.
@@gloriab.3720 married or single...women grow older faster than men not because of any sacrifice....by the time she is 40....women are 10 years after the 30 years wall...and no women cant escape that...dont blame men but biology..
Women ageing poorly has nothing to do with the many men they have been with from their teen years onwards. Suuuurre.
Ridden more men than she can count, often. And even if technically a virgin, her heart has been shredded by the men she chose to pursue.
That has nothing to do with it, I'm sure.
Sigh.
Your life changes when you change. The people around you change towards you when you change. 1. Women talk too much. They talk to the point where they get tuned out. Even their children will tune them out, when this is true, because it becomes predictable. You're right. There must be action. 2. Men don't believe women for the same reason I stopped listening to my friends complain. THAT' S ALL THEY'RE GOING TO DO: COMPLAIN. They're not going anywhere or do anything differently. They're either too scared or too complacent. Men know this. That's why they don't listen to you. And this is coming from a woman.
But isn't that the point of her video? Take action instead?
I was love this woman I cook I cleaned up the house and pay the bill all I ask to help me. She did do wath I ask her to do. Wee got into it I toll her she got to go. I was so hurt in said me I fill good right now. I not talk to her and 9 month now. I will fine me a good woman.
this should be a bible verse...
That was very accurate lmao, it’s cool to see a woman who actually understands how guys think lmao, and very weird.
Nailed it!
Women talk endlessly, and never do anything about it.
Let your actions represent your internal feelings... But don't go overboard. If a man is a good man, don't withdraw his core needs.
Let your actions be properly scaled to the perceived offense.
And look to godly older women to calibrate your actions... Because women are prone to overestimate the level of offense, seeing issues where none exist.
Just be yourself and stay TRUE to yourself because you CAN'T please everyone.
Do not rely on a man for your happiness. Strive to make yourself happy. A man can only add to your happiness.
Amen!
Well said ❤
Be silent and act. I needed this. Thank You.
Im a man. If a woman acts and doesnt speak. I would just assume that she is being disrespectful, and rude and I would toss her to the curb. Here is a REAL piece of advice from a MAN. Talk. If nothing is fixed, then act. Never be silent. Say ur piece, if it doesnt change with ur husband. Then act.
DaemonMane, I didn't take it as to not talk to your husband first. But then again I have common sense and know people aren't mind readers. I can see how others could/will take it that way. This comment should be top comment.
He's right. Speak first, then if he's not changing anything, then act. That worked for me. I nagged and nagged for a good while. One day I figured I didn't deserve it. I was so good to him. He didn't change. One day I disappeared. I stopped calling. I was at my mom's more often, almost bairley home. He realized I wasn't crazy about him anymore. I bairley text back or returned his calls. I focused on myself. Then one day he just started calling and wanting his family back. He new at that point he was loosing me.
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That's so true..Its crazy how we let men get away with so much shit... but then they get with someone else and treat them the right way and respect them.
Being a nice girl gets you walked over as well. I’m tired
If they perceive you as nice girl they think you have issues and may be you are crazy
@@saif9amar417 Yep, just like a "nice guy".
@@toomuchinformation .. Same Same
Yep I’m a nice guy works both ways it’s rough and truthfully I’m to a point of a girl is nice yes I usually think it’s 80% fake now try to not think like that but seen it so much hard not to apply it I know the same goes for you girls out there it’s just a rough dating world right now
Yup nice girls don’t win
As a man I agree with you, I listen to action, words mean little without them
See!! I learned long ago to be a woman of action. Women be so scared he gon leave if they put their foot down!!
I admit I was too nice in my marriage and when I put my foot down because I was unhappy he still didn't care and no changes were made now we're divorced
I'm going 5hrough what you are describing, right now. First I tried to change him, next I tried to change myself to meet him halfway then ai was true to myself ,stopped being emotional and tried to work on myself and how I react these last two years.... then I realized wow even after stopping the anger stopping the complaining but working on myself and setting boundaries and hoping things I did would help him wake up and finally do me right...wrong! He still does not care !! So I'm going to start the process of a divorce.
Then he never loved you.
I'm trying to learn how to be assertive but fun at the same time , I dont want to come off as too controlling or uptight , but I dont want to come off as easy to manipulate.
You had side dude I bet
Pronounced Van-Knee-uh I agree. Trying to do the same. Its not easy, at least for me.
"Make people accountable to your peace" Wow that was a WORD!
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I, too am a man, and I must say great advice for the man, AND the woman..... peace and blessings.
Why can’t you women just grow a pair and be transparent about what you want in a man. Break the social stigma. MAKE THE CHANGE. Women want to be LED. That is their natural place and they have not changed. They want to feel small feminine and safe. They want to be dominated. Just be real.
She totally laid this out. She is dope, realistic, truthful, transparent and unbiased. She is needed. So is her message.
“Blessed are the peacemakers..” vs being a peacekeeper spoke volumes to me. Great insight. Thanks sis!
I have never heard this advice this straightforward before. But it makes absolute complete sense. Wow. I feel like this has happened to me with my last relationship. But I’ve accepted that I’ll just have to take what I’ve learned and being it into the next relationship so that it can actually work the next time.
Yeah try withholding sex, then by your thoughtless action in which he understands most, he'll think you're cheating or rejecting him...which says in his mind "Oh we're now having an OPEN RELATIONSHIP"...this nonsense only adds feul to the fire and further the distance between you too
@@keithwallace5718 orrrr lay there like an iron board exhausted or you can get yourself back by stopping EVERYTHING else. This way you left with sooo much more energy in you because you stop everything else now you can walk around bright eyes bushy tail. Made up and all dolled up. Walking around looking so good because you did not exert yourself waiting on him and his needs. He's going to want to do what he needs to do to getTHAT; point blank period. He's not going to have time to think you must be cheating. You're looking more desirable. If he desired to get you he's going to have to do what he need to do.
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Being "nice" never works in this world.
This woman knows her stuff my goodness. I realized how much of a lack of knowledge I have on this topic. So glad I found this channel
She is preaching truth. That comes from people who are spoiled and entitled.
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That includes everyone in the USA and other Western colonizers including you and myself to some extent
It’s simple. Don’t do it if you don’t feel like it. If someone is not recognizing my feelings it certainly doesn’t make me want to keep doing and doing for them. I am a recovering people pleaser! LOL!!
Being a nice guy gets you walked all over
Not true. A real woman does not "walk over" nice guys. We appreciate them and honor them.
Allot of "nice guys" are also dishonest which is not nice at all.
@@tiananelson6662 black women dont
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It has for me....
Tony Tony
On the other hand, those women are spoiled...
So either pick less problem women OR lead her to be a better person. Be strong NOT WEAK.
I don’t mean to compare a grown man to a child but it’s like when your child is disobedient. You don’t keep rewarding them for their negligent behavior, you take away their privileges until they’re ready to earn them back by doing the right things.
I love how passionate you are when you talk.
My 5 year old just walked to me watching you and he asked me “is that you” ? I couldn’t be more proud of this kid.
"You have to be a peace MAKER not a peace KEEPER"!!!!! #thatrightthere
This is so true. Relationships often end because a woman will expect a man to change course based on the words and attitudes she is exhibiting, but by the time she takes * action *, to which he will actually begin to respond, her heart has already moved on and it's too late.
Thank you! Ive been telling women this for years and they REFUSE to get it! Men and women communicate differently. But, a lot of women expect a man to communicate just like their girlfriends! Really?
And also, that's how a lot of women get played constantly. By just listening to what a man says only and not focusing on his actions.
You are wise.
Wow. This is so insightful. Thank you! I wish the church would say this! This makes a LOT of sense actually. Men are logical and need you to take action to back up your words. Man, we are taught that is selfish. I’m so glad I found your videos today.
They will never say that in church. Church is rooted in patriarchy, and patriarchy thrives on women serving men at all cost. Rebecca is teaching how to accomplish fairness and equality in relationships, and church does not promote that.
Just don't marry a guy who doesn't try to understand how a woman works as much as she tries to understand how he works. Don't settle for this double standard. Pshhh.
No thanks, women understand women and they hate each other.
I do agree with that. But I'll note... I know a whole community of guys that intensely study female psychology, working hard to understand women... But I know virtually zero women that make any effort whatsoever to understand men.
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I know men, who intensaly study women.
1 The Redpillers
2 The incells
They see and listen and read certain books written by men.
Terrible books by the way.
I just was curious about the thoughts, comments...
I understand more about men then ever!!!
I just quit. I do not want to be in a man's life, who are like that.
I know that a lot of women read about men/women relationships, baby/child books to emprove their skills and understanding. To heal, to grow.
I never saw men doing that.
I am 49 and never saw or mention men buying books...
Or go to counseling or whatever to safe even a marriage.
Women do all kind of things to work on something.
So, now i am more confused.
Bless you.
Listennnnnn! This woman is so on point with this information. 🙏🏾
Sometimes you really have to be “nice for what” and respect yourself! Point. Blank. Period. All that extra energy could be going into personal development. Besides! when you do this; if he leaves then that “man” was suppose to go. If he stays then he truly deserves you. He just needed to be reminded that he has a Queen. ❤️🙏🏾
This is true and this can go for pretty much any form of relationship. If someone over steps your boundaries you should take immediate action. I’ve been through this with my relationship and friendships. I tried being a peacekeeper and avoiding confrontation which makes things worse because you will forever be stressed out and people will run over you. You cannot avoid a battle all of the time but you choose how you decide to deal with that situation!
Maam You are talking some real stuff!!! You gotta get their attention. You ever notice your kids dont start acting right till you get the belt? Same principle. No more doormats!!
True!! Just seeing the belt works lol
Girl! I love you! You’re awesome! I just discovered you channel. Thanks for keeping it real😂
Thissss was EVERYTHING! I’m not married, but this has definitely applied to relationships I’ve been in. Action! Gotta take it.
Preach!! You are outstanding on this advice 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Truth. As a guy, this is on point.
Wow!!!!! What a Word, Sis!!!!! Why don't they teach this in churches?!!!!! This could make such a huge difference in the lives of a lot of couples (married, engaged, dating), as well as singles of marriageable age. This would help dispel some miscommunications, expectations & manipulative attitudes. This is a wake-up call!!!! Thank U So Very Much for sharing!!!!! I Truly Appreciate it!!!!!
Setting boundaries is key! I have been too nice, but have begun to set more boundaries with people especially in dating.
Absolute right! Married 11 years happily. A lady knows how to have healthy boundaries. You don't have to be nasty about it just pull back. Put that energy into yourself. Go for a run, go have breakfast with your girls, sleep.
This is one of the BEST videos I’ve seen on TH-cam. You’ve got a new subbie.
You are the realist I've met on TH-cam....I appreciate your words time and message
I never understood why sister wives say "what you're complaining about, you got a husband". I hate that.
Because for most women getting a husband at any cost is the end goal, regardless of the quality of their spouse.
Belletaina that’s wild. Is that a show you’re talking about?
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Thanks Rebecca!
Appreciate You!❤
Your real world accurate and reasonable advice is stunningly rare. The vast majority of men and women NEED to hear what you are saying. I have become a fan and will refer you tom my wife and daughters. Your advice has helped me to be mindful and have an accurate perception of what makes people tick.
Don't depend on someone else for your happiness. Make your own happiness.
“I want you to hear me girls, come in close”
I literally put my phone to my nose
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Women know and see what a good guy looks like but women like excitement
Yeah! They like drama.
True
I LIKE EXCITEMENT BUT NO NO NO TO DRAMA. I LIKE BEING EXCITED ABOUT MY BLACK MAN COMING HOME. TO BE EXCITED ABOUT BEING TREATED PROPERLY AND TREATING HIM PROPERLY. WE ARE ALL NOT THE SAME
WOMEN LIKE B.S, DRAMA, GOSSIP AND ARGUMENTS!!! MGTOW!!!!
@@tiananelson6662 yes you are because all of you even say this. You're the exception and you're not all like that yet thats all that's out there
Preachhhh🔥🔥🔥. Self respect is so important. This needs to be taught.
It fell apart because if I don't do my part he would have hit me. I still picked him to marry because of abusive parents. Now I have thrown him out. I don't want any man , I got two boys and one girl, let me do good by them relationship wise to give tough love and bring them up straight so they don't repeat my mistakes. 3 years I'm still single, I finally found a purpose and started going to college to get my degree, I need to focus on our future so I can afford what I want. I just came her to see what is right and wrong when it comes to give and take 😁 thanks for your videos Rebecca 🤩
Having abusive parents doesnt excuse you making a shitty dating decision lmao. Too many of yall just get turned on by the bad boy and bam, you've got 2 kids with a baby daddy.
Tropic Mix you are so ignorant and confident in your extreme ignorance and lack of knowledge. Go do your findings before coming to drop ignorant comments all over the place
I just send you love and strength to do whatever is needed to bring you in a better place together with you beautifull children.
Kind regards from belgium.
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Your answer is so simplistic, that i know, you are not educated on the subject.
Do not say foolish things to women/girls, men/boys, when they are allready confused, uneducated, scared, abused.
You do not know nothing what you are talking about.
So just do not give critics and shallow stupid comments.
A lot of people are being broken...in many desastrous ways...
Be glad, you are not in the same shoes.
How old are you?
If you are young, i understand your answer.
But when your are 30+ i will not be friendly anymore.
Kind regards from belgium.
P.S. i do not want to offend you.
The thing is...
Stupid answers pisses me really off, into even a danger point.
I’m so glad I came across your videos. It gave me strength to finally get rid of of the situation I was in. Thank you so much. Words cannot express how much I appreciate you and your message. May God always guide and protect you and your family.
You have to make you happy.
Amen🤗
This is my last post. I promise Also I looked up in the concordance peacemaker and you are correct. Here is the definition: peacemaker: Greek- eirenopoieo- means to harmonize- this means to go away or to slowly go away, to depart, to withdraw oneself with the idea of going without noise or notice. It is frequently rendered ‘go your way’.
Amen. This is is me with friendships and yes romantic relationships. I’m thoughtful and giving but get none back.
Auntie Pope just got me together yet again. I needed this. Thank you! I need to stop being so nice. And wowwwww my mom is the entitled wife. She doesn’t cook or clean or anything. She asks me and my dad to do everything! He does it grudgingly because he’s been doing it for 30+ years now. Wow. Such a toxic environment
I live alone and i can do most things for my self I'm happy but i think i can be more happier if i find a nice lady
Rohan Simpson me too brother, I wish I find a good woman been through 2 divorces because of them think they better off being single and miserable now they mad and struggle it their false and I forgive them so I doing fine.
I need one celebrity to repost on their social media ONCE. Love this! I know some females like this
So incredibly right! Nailed it. Action n words are not the same roadmaps. Work backwards and back up your effort and gain ground. Rebecca is so right to act accordingly to receive different results. Be ready to not do!
WOWWW..I'M GRATEFUL THANKFUL...I Never had the Courage to Follow Through and Take Action...I was always a Peace Keeper...Now, I know the difference
COURAGE!! And getting my Life in Order so that I will have the CONFIDENCE to Stand uP...As a Peace Maker...Ase! Amen!! A'Ho!!! Blessings to All...
I been going through the same thing as the lady. I was that person doing and talking. Saying ok👌 I'll do this and that. I stopped completely. Talking does nothing for you. You are so right! Action speaks louder than words.
Great advice and thank you 🌻
You betta teach!!!This has ALWAYS worked for me❤
Thank you so much Mrs. Pope for sharing this
Thank you so much. I'm on it. Dont know how I even got to this message but it was meant for me to hear this at this very moment.. Amen
I don't believe in love or relationships.Ive alwsys been cheated on,used or lead on.I've always had the nice guy thing... ur so sweet.ur really cute... but.
It gets u nowhere.However I can't be anything I'm not & I refuse 2 show a flasehood in that.I am who I am.If I have 2b mr nice guy or finish last or never find ne1 then honestly I would much rather b who I am then put on a show.I won't change 2 mind game chicks -
love me 4 who i am or leave me the hell alone. #singleforever.
like ur video.
MrVee24 Matabudul well said 💪🏻
Yadda yadda
@@NoName-sp5dp fuck outta here.
I believe you will find the right person for you some day. Use the experiences to learn and grow. Perhaps you are only going for 1 type of woman? Perhaps you rushed into things before knowing someone. Perhaps you went into something based on the person's looks. Perhaps they weren't mature enough. Immature and weak people tend to cheat more, in my experience. There are lots of people in this world who will treat you right. The problem most people have is rushing into things with the wrong person for them. Humans can be pretty fucked up, in general. But we can also be amazing. We all have the compassity to be good or evil and it can vary at times.
Might I add, the men that I cared less about were the ones that respected me, and didn't cross my boundaries. But the ones i did care about where the ones that trampled on my heart... I once heard . THE ONE THAT CARE THE LEAST HAVE THE MOST POWER.
If she's so unhappy, divorce him, be single once more and then she'll eventually come to the realization that she's basically having the same problem with other men all over again. Women have this false sense of reality, they literally think fairy tales do come true. If a man has to make you happy, you're already out of pocket, your happiness is your own sole responsibility. Nobody in life is going to march to the beat of the same drum. This age old false notion that someone is blessed and highly favored has plagued our society and is causing irreparable damage, remove it from your brain this false narrative that somehow your special, your not, none of us are. We all have different skill sets and abilities, none of which are better, these things all have equal footing. It's like some of you believe that a person can build a 100 foot building all by his or herself, no you cannot, it takes a collection of people with various abilities & skill sets to accomplish such a feet, no man or woman is an island.
I was scrolling TH-cam and had to watch this thank you Ive falling out with family members as well as a guy I was dating thank you 💔🖤
Thanks so very much for this TH-cam video. I wish I hard this many years ago. But God timing is the best. God bless you Ma'am. This is want I needed to hear my entire life from a woman of God like you. I grow up in a Christian home and I did not learned the differences between, stupidity been nice and setting boundaries. Now I understand. Being a Christian doesn't means, we should allow people to walk over us, or use stupidity in the place of being nice.
Thanks so much. This is going to be really big help to me moving forward when dealing with humans and my own children.
Sis you just blessed my soul with this one. A real eye opener. Nothing but facts 🙌🏽
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful information. I really needed this today.
This is excellent advice. Thank you! I'm a people pleaser and I have made all of these mistakes.
Amen! Rebecca knows what she is talking about. You deserve to be loved more not less. You deserve reciprocity. You are a good woman. Take your energy back and give the love to yourself. Pull back sweet girl. Think about what you would say to your daughter if she was being treated this way. I dated a guy like your husband after his wife finally left him. He was crushed for years and he kept trying to get her back but she had found happiness with another man who treated her really good. I couldn’t fix him or help him so I left too. He has turned into a depressed alcoholic. She is living her best life.
Great message.... great information. Really relates and makes a lot of sense
Appreciate the realness sista wish more people had balance like u, action is the key word. And if he is a genuine man or woman and observing small details they will make genuine effort to work on themselves. Thank u Mrs.Pope.
Wow, my wife hasn’t made me breakfast in 17 years.
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Do you buy flowers? Breakfast is for a romantic husband.
@@NoName-sp5dp so flowers are a bribe...thanks to confirm that
Wow. That's kind of sad. Not even 1 time in 17yrs?
Is there something physically wrong with you if not you can make your own breakfast
This is a GREAT video and message. Mrs. Pope is 100% correct here and it applies to both men and women.
The saying is!!! ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.
If I was married and my wife clearly said she was not happy with our marriage, having her cook for me is THE LAST THING I would ask her to do!
Whould you ask her, why she is not feeling good? I hope a fruitfull time of deep true communication and patience will solve your wishes. On both.
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@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Yep!!! Definitely gotta talk about that.
Pretty spot on with the men. Good content!
This is the absolute truth, I just went through this exact situation. Fortunately we survived.
My dad told me this years ago! Thanks for sharing!
I loved a previous video about no longer match making for women. But this advise is careless and reckless and will possibly end a marriage. My wife ended our marriage after 22 years listening to this type of advise from her divorced friends. I can go on all day about what I could have done better and what she could have done better. She was an amazing mother and an amazing wife. I was a good husband, provider and am a great father. She didn’t have to work. She ran off to another state with some guy she met on a trip. She lost her best friends she lost me & Left me raising the last 3 of our 5 children.
That was 5 years ago. It was crushing but I got through it. Kids are great, I’m doing good, money is good. I will remain single till my last one is out of school. I most likely will remain single permanently. This line of thinking is why I will never marry an American girl again. Im nowhere near perfect but I’m a good man. But never say never 😬.... cheers 🥂
You are right.
I've seen a couple of her past messages & thought they were pretty good...This one is diametrically opposed that's what's written in the "Blueprint", Bible. ( Absolutely diametrically opposed )
I do realize that their are some screwed up Men ___ and as I said again, 90% of this message is diametrically opposed to the Word of __. ( Just one example is the ENTIRE Book of Proverbs ) and yep, I know; living a dedicated Christian life is hard for most....Her Husband is a Pastor & may they both continuously received Blessed mornings , evenings & nights.
You explain it in a simple and tangible way, thank you 👏
This is the first video where I though she gave some unwise counsel. In my opinion, if you are going to deny sex to your husband because he does not respond to a persistent problem in the marriage then you have violated your marriage vows. Just because he does not meet your needs in some way does not give you the right to withhold sex. 2 wrongs does not make a right. If he goes out to fill the void you caused, then what? No marriage is perfect, that's why you marry for better or worse. In my opinion, to persistently withhold sex is a cause to divorce. The Bible says that it is better to marry than to burn. What if you are constantly burning while married?
Amen!! Preach it this is all 100% true for both men and women. Action always speak louder than words
2:45 we love you Mrs.Pope. Mr. Pope your wife is awesome .you both are a good team.
Thanks my dear, i am so nice honestly i Happy to hear this. Its excaltry what i wanted to hear ..... YES I WILL TAKE ACTION ....
I love you. Your advice is amazing. I can tell you truly care. Thanks a lot ☺️
Thank you soo much for this video. I have been in this situation and I did take the actions. At that point I became a bad wife, not doing “wifely duties”! I’m at a point of deciding if I should just leave since he is always going to change but never does. The environment became toxic due to neither of us are getting what we want and need at this point.
You have to listen to both sides of the story before you can come to a conclusion.The lady who wrote in is only give her side of the story
This is a marriage counseling issue and both parties need to be present in order to draw a solution or conclusion.
Wow! Glad to hear someone give honest advise
This is a dangerous game that can lead to both parties playing tit for tat. I know from experience. You can fall down a rabbit hole quickly. It may work for her, for now, but it does not work in all marriages with all men. Eventually, my ex-husband and I ended up going back in forth with who was not doing what because we each felt like we had cause to withhold. I agree that healthy boundaries are necessary. Expectations need to be communicated clearly, openly and honestly. However, saying "I don't think this marriage is going to work" is not communicating a need or an expectation. It is a tatic to force change and it won't work. The same way refusing sex and acts of kindness is an an act to attempt to force change and it is borderline manipulation. Yes, praying, exhibiting the fruits of the spirit will not get immediate results, will not guarantee change in your partner, and is a laborious act of faith and love, but it is what God calls us to do, and you will reap a reward. Do not be weary in well doing. God sees you. Make your petition known to him🥰 In the mean time lead with love, not coldness, revenge, or rejection. God will show forgiveness and mercy to you as you forgive and show mercy. God bless you and your marriages. Pray to God on what to do. Lead in love and light, and communicate clearly what you need from your spouse.
Yes I can see this being a grey area topic as this technique may not work with all personalities. But staying with someone and continuing to give them your best when they are disregarding you is extremely painful. I honestly don't know the best solution
This was great! Thank you 🙏🏽
You on 🔥. I should have found two years ago. We're are better than ever now. Good friends and solid parents to our 2 boys but most of all RESPECTFULL. She'll still try to shit test me every once in a while, i shut that down real quick , maintain composure & make it known that she's not gonna trip me up like before. I think we have the best divorced marriage. Your video is greatness!
Love You Already ... It was a reason why i came across your page. Everything ur saying is so true.Im really Fighting with a man that is prone to yelling, and Fighting .. Ive been in a abusive relationship physically.. His is Verbal.. Im done with the disrespect and no fairness.. Its been 4yrs.. Im not going another year..
Why people give her dislike. She actually give us the insider. She is on point. How ever in my case. I just end up put out cuz he start act up. And throwing trantrum. And stop doing things if I don't put out.
Thank you! This was VERY well spoken. True wisdom coming from you...🔥💯🔥
Im glad I came across your channel. I just subscribed. Blessings!