Wow! This is spot on! I can't wait to tell my story to help women out there get out of feeling" stuck" , pray!, pray!, pray! GOD WILL SAVE YOU!! It Just takes little steps A faith like Kathy said in this episode, you have to take the baby steps one day at a time, fill the holes that have inundated your cup (reference, Gary Smalley), God will help you find a way, keep asking for his direction and discernment and clarity! If he can help me with raising six kids and now finally getting away, he can help you! You have to trust in God, don't trust in your own knowledge, don't ignore that small still voice within you telling you what to do or which way to go, talk to God constantly! Turn off the music turn off the TV and listen!👍🙏🙏
One of the hardest things for me has been telling others what I've been going through in order to reach out for support. Verbal abuse can be so hard to explain, and I'm always afraid of others minimizing it and causing me to feel crazy. I always told myself that I just wish that someone could be a fly on the wall to see what I experience. But this video has explained so much. Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤
Dr. Hawkins, I am so grateful I found your book and videos. I finally realize what I have been going through for over 26 years and now have an understanding of what emotional abuse and neglect is instead of believing the lies. I have realize I am not "crazy". I am gaining the strength and courage to walk away so I can heal. I have a 6 month plan to save up so I can get away from all of the abuse.
Wow. This was really good. It explains so much about how victims of abuse can respond in ways that are so often misunderstood by well intentioned people in their inner circle. I'm planning to participate in a 12-week trauma healing group locally and I will be carrying this forward with me in my interactions with others who may be suffering God-knows-what. I especially like the idea of just making one small decision each day. My own healing journey is far from over and I'm way too serious and down-in-the-mouth about life right now. I'm really learning to appreciate the little things and looking forward to the day when I, too, can finish a full day spent but not exhausted! 🌟
I know I need help.. to talk to someone but in an rural area and after Covid can’t seem to find anyone.. plus no therapist I have been to has known about narcissist abuse.
@@kellibrooks1you can contact Dr Hawkins team online at The Marriage Recovery and Emotional Abuse Institute. I’ve even been in contact with them from Australia. 🤗
@@kellibrooks1 We offer virtual counseling via video or phone. Please reach out to learn how we can help. (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
In the meantime, here are some videos from our clinicians that can get you started on your healing journey: Healing From Emotional Abuse playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLzb_gedZa6y5VGEhh3V4Qt_Ksb0CNFdIz.html
Prayer is so powerful, I often pray that almighty God with intervene for all those going through narcissist abuse. Many have no one that prays for them, we must storm Heaven with our prayers that almighty God bestowed on them miracles, blessings and graces. I offer up often my Sunday Masses in church and many, many prayers.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I have definitely experienced the secondary abuse talked about here. I've had a number of people shame me for not being able to get out of my abusive situation. (I really can't get out, due to lack of financial resources, due to chronic health issues that are invisible to most people.) One friend accused me of having learned helplessness, someone else accused me of having a victim mentality, etc. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find the kinds of supportive people that I need.
I am just learning that I am going through this. I had no idea what this was. I have been through this as a child and then my husband. There has been some physical abuse abuse. I have been too embarrassed to say anything. Always feeling it was my fault. I was always feeling like I could not make any decisions on my own. After 51 years of marriage and this is the first year of no children in the house. My oldest child has brought this out to me that there are no kids left in the house to buffer it. I am depressed feeling I have nothing left. I'm 70 years old. Does it matter any more?
Wow - same EXACT story …… just realized, July 21 was our 51 st anniversary, and I forgot all about it. Feeling much the same way. These videos are sent by GOD to both of us. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 for all of us.
It took years of internal angst and fighting reality by asking the unanswerable question why me, is something wrong with me, why do they treat me this way…only to realize with proper support and help in recent years that if it had been anyone else on the stage that wasn’t me, the same thing would happen to them. Why? Because it’s not personal. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and also the person acts. They would continually blame, discharge their shame etc etc onto someone else because they haven’t reached the breaking point of accepting responsibility and that doing so isn’t to shame them. It’s to call them up higher. But this therapist is right - it’s a choice, and sometimes the patterns are so deeply ingrained and they’re so familiar and comfortable with this “language/culture” that they don’t want anything different. It’s too much work or too costly
Wow! Really good information!! So good to know, even if it’s just for a friend that may be experiencing this type of trauma. Thank you for sharing such a wealth of wisdom. ❤🙏🏻
I feel a Hugh proportion of women stay in a poor relationship (with no physical abuse of coarse) because of the children-we do not want to disrupt our children's lives and are willing to put up with poor companionship for them.
Thank you for all you4 videos. I watch ALL of them. Thank you also to you your amazing guest and God bless both of you. Hugs from Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI
Every part of my life was taken from me. Everyone sympathized and supported him. My kids blamed and punished me. Church members walked away when they saw me. Family members on his side called or wrote to me, saying I was sick and to get help. I was told it was all my fault and blamed my parents for the way I was. I was called a narsasist ,crazy, bipolar. I felt I was bad and evil.
A lot of times. Men come into the marriage treating wife very loving and sweet. If life doesn’t go as he thinks it should. That when the big problem starts. He blames the wife.
I agree with Dr Hawkins take that they are totally immature and haven’t grown up.But yes, they are lying to themselves as well as others. And childhood family dynamics are a massive contributor to these behaviors. I believe much of this is learned behavior modeled by parents.Quite often women in these relationships are abused and scapegoated as children in their families. It is generational most definitely.
What if I have Tricare military insurance, am being emotionally abused, and cannot even PRETEND to be able to pay $160-265 dollars for a 50 minute session? Especially considering that I am being financially abused as well? I went to your website. I have no resources to do all that. Being married to him he had me stop teaching and now every last credential has expired and he has the money locked down.
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Wow! This is spot on! I can't wait to tell my story to help women out there get out of feeling" stuck" , pray!, pray!, pray! GOD WILL SAVE YOU!!
It Just takes little steps A faith like Kathy said in this episode, you have to take the baby steps one day at a time, fill the holes that have inundated your cup (reference, Gary Smalley), God will help you find a way, keep asking for his direction and discernment and clarity! If he can help me with raising six kids and now finally getting away, he can help you! You have to trust in God, don't trust in your own knowledge, don't ignore that small still voice within you telling you what to do or which way to go, talk to God constantly! Turn off the music turn off the TV and listen!👍🙏🙏
One of the hardest things for me has been telling others what I've been going through in order to reach out for support. Verbal abuse can be so hard to explain, and I'm always afraid of others minimizing it and causing me to feel crazy. I always told myself that I just wish that someone could be a fly on the wall to see what I experience. But this video has explained so much. Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤
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I know… I been There.. oh yahhhh
Dr. Hawkins, I am so grateful I found your book and videos. I finally realize what I have been going through for over 26 years and now have an understanding of what emotional abuse and neglect is instead of believing the lies. I have realize I am not "crazy". I am gaining the strength and courage to walk away so I can heal. I have a 6 month plan to save up so I can get away from all of the abuse.
Worn out!! With the situation!
Yes !secondary abuse is absolutely reeling on top everything else!!!!
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Cathy has a very calming soothing way about her.
I’m so happy for her that she is doing amazingly 🙏💜
Wow. This was really good. It explains so much about how victims of abuse can respond in ways that are so often misunderstood by well intentioned people in their inner circle. I'm planning to participate in a 12-week trauma healing group locally and I will be carrying this forward with me in my interactions with others who may be suffering God-knows-what. I especially like the idea of just making one small decision each day. My own healing journey is far from over and I'm way too serious and down-in-the-mouth about life right now. I'm really learning to appreciate the little things and looking forward to the day when I, too, can finish a full day spent but not exhausted! 🌟
31 years. Filing for divorce this week. My children have been turned against me. It’s been hard. He took everything from me except Jesus. So I win.
I know I need help.. to talk to someone but in an rural area and after Covid can’t seem to find anyone.. plus no therapist I have been to has known about narcissist abuse.
@@kellibrooks1you can contact Dr Hawkins team online at The Marriage Recovery and Emotional Abuse Institute. I’ve even been in contact with them from Australia. 🤗
@@kellibrooks1 We offer virtual counseling via video or phone. Please reach out to learn how we can help. (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
In the meantime, here are some videos from our clinicians that can get you started on your healing journey: Healing From Emotional Abuse playlist:
th-cam.com/play/PLzb_gedZa6y5VGEhh3V4Qt_Ksb0CNFdIz.html
Prayer is so powerful, I often pray that almighty God with intervene for all those going through narcissist abuse. Many have no one that prays for them, we must storm Heaven with our prayers that almighty God bestowed on them miracles, blessings and graces. I offer up often my Sunday Masses in church and many, many prayers.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I have definitely experienced the secondary abuse talked about here. I've had a number of people shame me for not being able to get out of my abusive situation. (I really can't get out, due to lack of financial resources, due to chronic health issues that are invisible to most people.) One friend accused me of having learned helplessness, someone else accused me of having a victim mentality, etc. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find the kinds of supportive people that I need.
You nailed it Dr Hawkins on those 5 points. Agree with her additions too.
I am just learning that I am going through this. I had no idea what this was. I have been through this as a child and then my husband. There has been some physical abuse abuse. I have been too embarrassed to say anything. Always feeling it was my fault. I was always feeling like I could not make any decisions on my own. After 51 years of marriage and this is the first year of no children in the house. My oldest child has brought this out to me that there are no kids left in the house to buffer it. I am depressed feeling I have nothing left. I'm 70 years old. Does it matter any more?
Wow - same EXACT story …… just realized, July 21 was our 51 st anniversary, and I forgot all about it. Feeling much the same way. These videos are sent by GOD to both of us. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 for all of us.
Yes you can reclaim your joy! Healing is possible at any stage.
It took years of internal angst and fighting reality by asking the unanswerable question why me, is something wrong with me, why do they treat me this way…only to realize with proper support and help in recent years that if it had been anyone else on the stage that wasn’t me, the same thing would happen to them. Why? Because it’s not personal. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and also the person acts. They would continually blame, discharge their shame etc etc onto someone else because they haven’t reached the breaking point of accepting responsibility and that doing so isn’t to shame them. It’s to call them up higher. But this therapist is right - it’s a choice, and sometimes the patterns are so deeply ingrained and they’re so familiar and comfortable with this “language/culture” that they don’t want anything different. It’s too much work or too costly
Thank you both!
Amen to this video...This really spoke to me on so many levels...Thank You.
Wow! Really good information!! So good to know, even if it’s just for a friend that may be experiencing this type of trauma. Thank you for sharing such a wealth of wisdom. ❤🙏🏻
I feel a Hugh proportion of women stay in a poor relationship (with no physical abuse of coarse) because of the children-we do not want to disrupt our children's lives and are willing to put up with poor companionship for them.
Thank you so much for this.
God bless you all
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Thank you for all you4 videos.
I watch ALL of them.
Thank you also to you your amazing guest and God bless both of you.
Hugs from Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI
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@@drdavidbhawkins Your videos are my very, very very favorite of anyone on TH-cam
Every part of my life was taken from me. Everyone sympathized and supported him. My kids blamed and punished me. Church members walked away when they saw me. Family members on his side called or wrote to me, saying I was sick and to get help. I was told it was all my fault and blamed my parents for the way I was. I was called a narsasist ,crazy, bipolar. I felt I was bad and evil.
A lot of times. Men come into the marriage treating wife very loving and sweet. If life doesn’t go as he thinks it should. That when the big problem starts. He blames the wife.
❤
Thank you both greatly, I believe it’s nature nurture, the need and to want control if it comes across in abuse is in they’re dna.
Dr David, how do we get a hold of this wonderful lady?
info@kathymcateeyoung.com
Can you put Kathy's contact info in the notes please
info@kathymcateeyoung.com
I agree with Dr Hawkins take that they are totally immature and haven’t grown up.But yes, they are lying to themselves as well as others. And childhood family dynamics are a massive contributor to these behaviors. I believe much of this is learned behavior modeled by parents.Quite often women in these relationships are abused and scapegoated as children in their families. It is generational most definitely.
Why is it that when the narcissist is treated in a loving and respectful way they do not learn to do the same?
What if I have Tricare military insurance, am being emotionally abused, and cannot even PRETEND to be able to pay $160-265 dollars for a 50 minute session? Especially considering that I am being financially abused as well? I went to your website. I have no resources to do all that. Being married to him he had me stop teaching and now every last credential has expired and he has the money locked down.