a message for boys: i'm scared, I don't feel safe

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  • @onlyjaypatil
    @onlyjaypatil 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Mansi, Thank you for putting all the feelings into words. This definitely needs to be watched by each one of us... No matter from which part of the world you belong.
    Who is responsible for what happened to that girl? I think we all need to ask ourselves this question. Once again, there's widespread outrage, just like in past incidents that shook us deeply. But what have we truly learned since then? There was immense anger before, and countless protests and marches were held, yet nothing seemed to have really changed. The number of sexual violence cases hasn’t decreased, comprehensive laws haven't been enacted, and we still don’t fully understand the mindset of those who commit these heinous acts. People quickly organize protests, but do we ever stop and ask the hard questions?Sex was once a taboo subject, but today, even young children, whose minds aren’t fully developed, are corrupting themselves with a few seconds of pleasure from their phones. Why is this happening?
    In many parts of the world, access to pornography has become rampant, but are we losing the wisdom to discern what’s right and wrong? We're gradually forgetting our values and cultural heritage through the consumption of explicit content. Vulgar jokes are becoming commonplace, and the youth are often encouraged to engage in excessive sexual behaviors, while the value of self-control and respect is seldom discussed.
    Sex is increasingly being normalized in society, but not through proper education-rather through pornography, vulgar movies, and crude jokes, which are all too common nowadays.
    Have you ever sat down and explained to a child the concept of good touch and bad touch? Have you ever taught them what’s right and wrong? Perhaps their body, mind, and soul are being eroded, but they still laugh at vulgar jokes and use offensive language among their friends.

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for sharing these powerful thoughts. The questions you raise are indeed crucial and reflective of the ongoing challenges we face as a society. It's disheartening that despite the outcry and protests, real change remains elusive. Addressing the deeper issues, such as the widespread exposure to harmful content and the erosion of values, requires a collective effort in education, awareness, and action. We must all take responsibility, not just in words, but in meaningful actions that foster understanding and respect.

  • @tanjilwazed8758
    @tanjilwazed8758 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Its better to be alert always n not trust anybody. Some cute smiles often turn dangerous. In Indonesia most people idk maybe conservative but maybe when they see a foreigner , they get curious. I hve many indo friends too.. They too say catcalls n starring is so common. Beware!

  • @arpitbakal2006
    @arpitbakal2006 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I want to tell some things from boys side, because of some psychopaths , people start to judge every boy in society, parents sets rules for boys to not having girlin their friend circle and this makes the things even more worse , now i am at the stage where only for others i have to make a girl sister to become her friend but for me its once a sister always a sister and I also have my own sister too and you know once that tag of sister is attached to the girl then i can't share my personal things that i usually share to my friends, but i still having fun with everyone but why the girl and boy can't be just friends, why there is a boundary which have only two side (sister or something is cooking btw you stereotypes) why people don't understand that a boy and girl can be just friends of each others , in this society people around me thinks that girl having a boy friend is characterless and a boy having a girls friend will rap* his girl friend someday, guys do have respect for girls but this society see us only from one frame that is evil , literally from the day i introduced to this rules the innocence in friendship with any girl from both sides is destroyed now when i try to talk any of my girl friends I can't even look into there eyes , i always keep distance of 2 steps while talking, things changed overnight for me not because of this incident, just because of that stereotypes and rules for the boys which is applied to me since i was 10 years old , it totally destroyed my social life . Eventually talks turned into small talks and small talks turned into silence now the girls which were my best friends pass by me like strangers we both look each other we both wanted to discuss a lot of things but we can't, its very hurtful to your friends turning into strangers , . For all the i just wanted to learn to respect a girl to save our next generation's social life

  • @jojon4272
    @jojon4272 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your message is for women all over who don't have a voice. I had no idea about the doctor you mentioned

  • @hyundaisonata8128
    @hyundaisonata8128 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dear Mansi, stay safe. Sending hope from Haryana. Stay away from these monsters and enjoy life.

  • @7arnav.bhaisare353
    @7arnav.bhaisare353 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stay Safe girl. Thank God you raised a voice against certain type of boys and tried to educate all of us. You made your point and educated us, Thanks.

  • @qeematraisoojani17
    @qeematraisoojani17 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Don't worry stay strong.stay blessed

  • @who_is_vash
    @who_is_vash 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I really hope things get better and you stay safe

  • @thughunter4205
    @thughunter4205 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a guy,I had this first hand experience. So i never had female interaction in school and 2 yrs of lockdown i was v shy guy and introverted so while clg addmision i decided i will try to get out of my zone and communicate with everyone. So this girl i talked with we had some same query in clg so i was sitting in clg campus and she came beside me so i talked abt what is ur query and all then i went to office and she was also their total stranger i got my job done first then i waited because i dont know what to do my first female convo she was like u dont have to wait atm i was like why would she do that but after analysing later on i found my mistake she was right about me to leave so this was first instance later i did find all fault but was never able to apologize for it but yea i get after lot of instances what to do and what to not later on and i would like to apologize for all this i ever did its just i never had no instance with girl totally newbie so i didnt know what is right what is wrong and made them uncomfortable in process... Sorry for that to you

    • @seaci
      @seaci  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thughunter4205 it's oke you realised your mistake. I am sure in future if u find a female friend you gonna be a good friend. Also somewhere it's the fault of our society as well, they don't normalise the opposite gender interacting, it's still considered a taboo.

  • @moscrown
    @moscrown 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stay strong bestie❤

  • @SA_official1054
    @SA_official1054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Be strong mansi .
    Thanks for letting us the situation there . Its a lesson for new female students who are going to study abroad .
    Dont trust anyone soo easily .
    You are strong girl.
    I am also a boy .
    In my opinion if a girl says no its mean no for anything.
    Even if she is not comfortable to talk to you even for study stuff then dont disturb her .
    Todays men need to understand the psychy of females because they are far different than male psychy.
    In short, All we need to learn respect and priorities others comfort on ur feeling.
    Stay strong Mansi and keep making vedios and aware the society.
    Have a safe and splendid life ahead 😊.

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your support and understanding.

  • @Everett_.
    @Everett_. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Stay safe 🙁

  • @JeonghanShipper
    @JeonghanShipper 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can really understand because the incident happened in my city and every girl is really scared here. And i just got 18 in this year and now I'm really feeling uneasy and unsafe. Everyone feeling the same thing. I don't know what to say every girl not only this country are really unsafe

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I know how you feel. Girls our age should be able to enjoy our youth freely, but instead, we're forced to constantly watch our backs. Stay strong. Let’s be brave and hold on to hope that one day we’ll be able to breathe freely and live without fear.

  • @ScholarsTube-dm6xn
    @ScholarsTube-dm6xn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    plz always take red chili powder in a little trust me this is a little act that can even save you I saw this reddit. In these situations when you feel like something is wrong take it out and be prepared. I have felt this being followed by a person that's creepy trust me how my heart race rases that moment I was afraid to dying.

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ScholarsTube-dm6xn yep I get u. I always carry a pepper spray with me.

    • @ScholarsTube-dm6xn
      @ScholarsTube-dm6xn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@seaci good

  • @everydayescapades369
    @everydayescapades369 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think you should talk to someone other than your friend like someone elder your teacher or some kinda in charge I am worried for you your friend is also a teenager she cannot think of the bad circumstances that could happen please take care of yourself and update us I love you

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@everydayescapades369 thank you I will surely talk to some elders if needed. Things are fine now i just got a bit triggered by the incident that happened in India. Thank you for your kind words ❣️🙏🏻

    • @everydayescapades369
      @everydayescapades369 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@seaci yes its very hurtful...hurtful for all the women 😔

  • @sfyn93
    @sfyn93 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Saya ingin menjelaskan kenapa ini bisa terjadi, tapi saya mungkin akan memakai bahasa indonesia aja yaa karna saya tidak terlalu jago berbahasa inggris dengan baik, nanti yg ada malah jadi miskomunikasi.
    Saya sebagai cowok pun jujur pernah melakukan hal tersebut, tapi tidak sampai membuntuti atau mencari tau lebih hanya sebatas menggoda dan saya rasa itu hal yg sangat alamiah terjadi di semua negara, budaya dan tingkatan kelas ekonomi, saya banyak belajar ternyata utk mendapatkan wanita idaman yg saya inginkan bukan lah melakukan hal tersebut, ada cara lain agar wanita yg saya ingin itu melihat saya dan mau dengan saya. Ini juga sering terjadi ke laki2 tanpa wanita juga sadari, jadi hal tersebut tidak sebatas antara wanita dan pria, kaya dan miskin, muda dan tua, saya pernah menjadi pelaku dan pernah juga menjadi korban, bahkan saya pernah di lecehkan oleh seorang laki2, di belahan dunia barat juga kalau kita cari tau mereka pun melakukan hal yg serupa ada banyak video experiment di yt.
    Solusinya yah edukasi, beri contoh bagaimana jika anak wanita, istri atau pacar kalian di berlakukan seperti itu, beri mereka pemahaman karna pengetahuan seperti ini masih sangat sedikit yg orang tau. Dahulu hal2 seperti ini mungkin hal biasa tapi tidak dengan sekarang, karna dunia berputar. Makin kesini orang makin sibuk dengan dirinya sendiri dan gap ekonomi pun bisa menjadi salah satu penyebab, karna rendahnya pendidikan dan ilmu pengetahuan, mereka terjebak dalam bubblenya masing2. Sama halnya seperti permasalahan lgbtq yg mungkin juga sama meresahkannya bagi masyarakat normal.
    Saya selalu ingat quote dari marie curie, "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less." Jadi kamu harus bisa lebih paham kenapa orang2 bisa seperti itu dan banyak belajar dari pengalaman bagaimana cara menghandle hal tersebut, sedikit saran dari saya kamu jangan merasa takut, karna apabila kamu takut orang itu akan tau dan mereka akan lebih berani utk melakukan hal tsb, coba lah utk berbasa basi, apalagi kalau kamu bisa berbahasa indonesia, bilang saja "maaf mas saya gak bisa ngasih nomor saya, saya sudah punya cowok" kadang berbohong itu tidak selalu buruk dan apabila sudah terlalu aggressive mungkin kamu bisa lapor penjaga kos atau pemilik kos, atau gak langsung saja lapor rt/rw biar langsung bisa di selesaikan, karna hal tsb tidak hanya terjadi sama pendatang, siapa pun bisa jadi korban. Semoga video dan komentar saya ini bisa jadi pembelajaran bersama dan kedepan semoga juga orang2 kita semua semakin rispek dan menghormati satu sama lain. Terima kasih, tetap berhati hati, kejahatan tidak hanya ada niat tapi juga karna ada kesempatan, waspadalah waspadalah.

    • @sfyn93
      @sfyn93 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Dari semenjak saya menonton film HER yg di perankan Joaquin Phoenix saya langsung berpikir, mungkin masa depan akan seperti itu cepat atau lambat karna technology, ai dan robot di ciptakan karna ketidak percayaannya kita terhadap sesama manusia, karna otak manusia itu rumit kita masing2 mempunyai visi dan misi yg liar, tidak ada kepentingan bersama yg ada hanyalah kepentingan pribadi, kita makhluk egois bahkan alam dan Tuhan pun kita berani lawan. Perubahan sudah terjadi dimana mana, data dari seluruh dunia sudah menunjukan angka kelahiran dan keluarga yg memilih child free pun terus berkembang. Hal2 seperti ini menjadikan kita sangat frustasi, apa yg salah dengan dunia ini?

  • @fforfantacy5641
    @fforfantacy5641 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    HEY MAAM I NEED YOUR HELP I AM APPLYING FOR UMY SCHOLARSHIP CAN YOU HELP ME OUT WITH THAT

  • @TheRealTopG01
    @TheRealTopG01 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This problem is everywhere not in just India, sadly no one really cares bout this issue least they can do is talk bout it for sometime but then it happens again that too in Kolkata, the so called safest city for women in India
    You say that making and implementing tough laws isn't going to affect this is issue but it's not actually true, this would truly work but only if we don't have an evil and corrupt political parties like tmc which protects criminal more than citizens

  • @lihas398
    @lihas398 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    im really sorry for what happened... but the way you said ,felt like youre targeting the whole male community. kinda bad :(

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lihas398 well sorry if u felt that way but if u watch the video carefully I've mentioned about having male friends and that they are the ones whom I rely on when such incidents happen. I don't mean to say this kind of behaviour is done by all the males but just wanted to educate those who are unaware of how their little jokes and behaviours that they feel are 'cool' might be traumatising for a girl.

    • @lihas398
      @lihas398 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@seaci totaly understandable

  • @kalyanroy8712
    @kalyanroy8712 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just want to know how we can help to ensure safety of you. Because we are genuinely concerned about women's safety, specifically in this country where corrupt political system pushes everything under the rug.

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kalyanroy8712 on a personal level all we can do is educated and be self aware. The problem here is about the mindset and it's gonna take hella long to change it. So the best we can do is reflect on ourselves or the past actions and just correct the ones around us if there's something wrong with their behaviour.

    • @kalyanroy8712
      @kalyanroy8712 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@seaci I agree to what you said but atleast we need to ensure that women's safety is ensured and stringent laws are implemented to punish the perpetrators.

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kalyanroy8712 yep that's a point to add as well

  • @everydayescapades369
    @everydayescapades369 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Honey are you ok now?

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@everydayescapades369 yes I'm a bit more relaxed rn. Thank you for asking 😊🙏🏻

    • @shameemahmorta6061
      @shameemahmorta6061 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​​@@seaci I'm glad that's the case. Please take care and always be cautious. Not that you always be anxious but stay as safe as possible.❤❤

    • @seaci
      @seaci  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@shameemahmorta6061 thank you I'll make sure of that ❣️