Exactly, both rich and poor men have the capacity to abuse and unfortunately both groups do so at an alarming rate. There are reasons to not date transactionally but this argument isn't one of them.
@@alishak4061 I like em brown, yellow, Puerto Rican, or Haitian. My name is Phife Dawg from the Zulu nation. I told you in the jam that we could get down. Now let's knock the boots like that group H Town.
Dating a Korean man now and I appreciate that I can be my full self with him. For some reason I’ve never felt comfortable to be my complete weird self with Black men although I’m most attracted to Black men. Having dated men of different races, if I ever found myself single again not sure I would return to Black men unfortunately
I'm a BM and my personality type is unorthodox compared to the norm that BP are portrayed to be, I'm into Anime, Video Games, traveling, and sports and I am more attracted to BW. I find in order to find someone you can truly connect with you have to change the circle of people you associate with. Last year, I went to an comic-con event and I saw a few BW there who had the same interest I have. I would never find that type of BW by going to a night club or a bar.
All relationships are transactional, the goal should be to find one that is not JUST transactional. In order to do that, you have to really know YOU and what you need/want/what is important/ and in what order. When most people do that work, race is not that high up, it's just a preferred packaging.
My mother once told me "The man that you need is a totally different person from the man that you want", Very few women today realize this and thus why they make poor choices when it comes to men.
What a lovely duo I didn’t expect at all just when I was watching old content yesterday(black women doing harm)!!! Thinking I miss Jouelzy but I know the challenge of balancing mommin it so I ain’t mad. ❤
I appreciate the message you are delivering to BW and I am starting to hear this message of BW dating interacially alot. but I don't think you can expect most BW to accept this because most still want BM.. But there are some of us who are willing to open up our options so this message will resonate with them
If a person happens to find a mate outside their race as a serendipitous matter of common circles and interests, that's one thing. But when a person seeks to marry outside their race because "the men of my race are all bad" or "the women of my race are all bad," that's emotional damage that they're just foisting on someone who isn't also damaged.
Anwar & Jouelzy? What God allowed this to happen? I need to worship now. Like, my two favorites actually crossed paths…in my lifetime! Haha! I love it!!
The marriage discussion is really cultural. Can you expect to get married in a place where marriage isn’t valued? Especially in black Americans… I’m seeing more interracial relationships more than ever. It’s not surprising. 🤷🏾♀️ It has nothing to do with the value of black women.
where do ppl get this idea that black americans don’t value marriage ? marriage is seen as extremely valuable in the west. whether or not it’s attainable is different.
@@kyrathedestroyer_ It’s lip service…. If men valued marriage they would be marrying. Believe it or not hook culture and playing the field is a direct example of not valuing marriage. Black women around the world enjoy the benefits of having a husband. Only about 30% of us get to be married. That’s clearly a cultural phenomenon. You see what people value daily…careers, earning money, and friendships. There definitely needs to be some cultural shift’s happening.
@kyrathedestroyer_ Blk males do NOT value marriage....the data and stats backs this it up. And because Blk women prefer/worship Blk males...the marriage rates in BC is extremely low compared to other races.
What is the difference between finding a person to parent with vs. Finding a person to marry? If you're gonna have a child with them then you're gonna most likely be around that person for the rest of your life.
If you truly want marriage and a family, forget about race. Forget it. Women only have a certain amount of years to bear children and you don't want to waste those years waiting for the perfect man of __ race to come and choose you. Date the best man of every race who wants to date you.
@brandond1947 Statistically, black men date out of their race four times as much as black women. For the most part, Black men don't seem to have too many reservations about dating out of their race. Black women on the other hand are race loyal to the point of dying single and childless because they didn't find a black man. But yes, at the end of the date who wants to date you. Race doesn't matter.
My preference is black men, but after decades of horrible experiences with them I am strategically choosing to date out. I have had healthier experiences with non-black men.
That’s why some cultures pick their daughters husband I’m not saying that’s all good but if the husband is a good person and not abusive and well-established, it’s not so bad either
BW have "evolved" passed BM? This is not even logical. Most people from stable communities are going to assume there's dysfunction in the home if the boys are consistently failing and this just make BW look bad as mothers. It's a narrative that's totally unnecessary so why go there? Don't be so dismissive of culture because most people prefer someone that they identify with culturally, this is not a black issue.
There are stats that support this. Education rates, graduation rates, rate of black women entrepreneurs...take your pick. So funny how bw and bm can have the same “evil” black mom (no smoke for the most likely nonexistent dad unsurprisingly) and yet bw are still pursuing higher education and completing degrees at record rates compared to their counterparts even despite life circumstances they could be using as excuses. The typical excuses to rid bm of accountability like the blame on the black moms who stay and raise y’all is laughable at this point. No other race is experiencing such a disparity of women outperforming the men in this way and we as a whole seem to be unbothered by this or pretend it’s not happening. You may not like the word “evolve” but that doesn’t negate the truth.
@@Lala-eo4eq Data does not support what you are saying. You clearly haven't looked at data so I won't waste my time with that, but I'll clear up something you seem to not understand. Education, money, etc., are means, not ends. if BW are doing as well as you say we should see black children outperforming other races of children in school, among other things. My original point was that a BW should highlight her positive attributes instead of comparing herself to men and talking negative about men if she's trying to maximize success while dating. I'm not sure why any BW would disagree with this.
@@Lala-eo4eq Your statement is conjecturous. The education desparity between men and women is happening across all racial groups, not just BM. Also, since you want to go there BW do indeed hold the most degrees but also are the most indebted women across all racial groups. On average, BW also earn less than AW and WW, they are the largest group of women who fall into poverty in their golden years, have the lowest marriage rate and the highest divorce, the highest mental illness rate, and the highest crime rate amongst their female counterparts. You want to parade BW as being far superior than BM but despite all your advancements you still fall behind other racial groups of women in this country. That's not something to celebrate.
Lol...."evolved passed BM". Bro is projecting. Alot of LGBT Men do not like straight black men. Because lets be honest 95% of straight BM are not feeling the LGBT community unless it involves a threesome with women 2 girls one guy.. These are the men that bullied them in high school and beyond. So obviously they are going to feel a way about straight BM.
@@outdoorgq Blk males have failed as fathers. That's why the Blk boys are doing horribly and the Blk girls are excelling... Your beloved Kangz are failing their sons. Hope you are having the day YOU deserve.
Total BS. Tons of black women date out with no backlash. The reality is non-black men don't approach black women nearly as much as black men. Black women act like they don't have dates with Brad because Tyrone either scared Brad off or shamed Keisha when he saw her with Brad. The reality is Keisha didn't go out with Brad because Brad likes Becky and Mai Ling.
Black women have spent a long time telling Brad she don't want him. The "nothing but a black man for me" trope. So she's going to have to work hard to drop her guard and let him know she's interested. Just like Asian women have, they don't keep it a secret.😊
This is true black men aren't riding around in pick up trucks, with shotguns looking for any black women that's outside with a white guy. For some reason they just can't admit that those men from other cultures, especially white would have to reject all of their other choices in order to be with them.
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This was good! I don’t disagree with a lot of well-off men being toxic & narcissistic, but I’ve experienced a lot of poor men being this as well 😭
FELT. It's a matter of choose your hard, ig.
True! Patriarchy is to blame
The well off ones are just subtle.
Exactly, both rich and poor men have the capacity to abuse and unfortunately both groups do so at an alarming rate. There are reasons to not date transactionally but this argument isn't one of them.
You are right, men are the only people in the world who are narcissistic and abusive. Women are angels and capable of no wrong.
I can’t have a kid with someone I wouldn’t marry.
Agreed. Luckily "single mother by choice" is available. Luckily egg or embryo freezing is available today. Luckily we live in a different era.
Same only with my husband ❤ or else I’ll adopt
@@mindset_olympics2 how about waiting till you get married to have sex and you wouldn’t have a problem you’re the problem not the man
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@@T.H-v4h you were raised properly that’s why
I LOVE the smile while truth telling. Keep dropping these gold pieces sir, because women ALSO need partners that encourage them to become better ppl.
Lil' Kim got that line from Phife Dawg "I like 'em brown yellow, PR and Haitian".
Proves his point even more. Black men have been swirling 🤷🏾♀️
Everybody stole that line 😂
Glad someone knows!!! Tell you in the jam from the Zulu nation.
@@alishak4061 I like em brown, yellow, Puerto Rican, or Haitian. My name is Phife Dawg from the Zulu nation. I told you in the jam that we could get down. Now let's knock the boots like that group H Town.
Dating a Korean man now and I appreciate that I can be my full self with him. For some reason I’ve never felt comfortable to be my complete weird self with Black men although I’m most attracted to Black men. Having dated men of different races, if I ever found myself single again not sure I would return to Black men unfortunately
I'm a BM and my personality type is unorthodox compared to the norm that BP are portrayed to be, I'm into Anime, Video Games, traveling, and sports and I am more attracted to BW. I find in order to find someone you can truly connect with you have to change the circle of people you associate with. Last year, I went to an comic-con event and I saw a few BW there who had the same interest I have. I would never find that type of BW by going to a night club or a bar.
Sis...I let Bm go in high school and I ain't never looked back❤ I'm currently married to non-Bm❤
@@catmouse2882who you will be divorced from in a few years
@@martystreets my guy has been with me for almost 20 yrs. He ain't going nowhere 🤣
@@catmouse2882He tried it lol!
But congratulations on finding your person and spending all of these years in love!❤❤
All relationships are transactional, the goal should be to find one that is not JUST transactional. In order to do that, you have to really know YOU and what you need/want/what is important/ and in what order. When most people do that work, race is not that high up, it's just a preferred packaging.
My mother once told me "The man that you need is a totally different person from the man that you want", Very few women today realize this and thus why they make poor choices when it comes to men.
What a lovely duo I didn’t expect at all just when I was watching old content yesterday(black women doing harm)!!! Thinking I miss Jouelzy but I know the challenge of balancing mommin it so I ain’t mad. ❤
Is that The Fairy God Brother!? ❤😂🎉 OK. Let me lock in.
I appreciate the message you are delivering to BW and I am starting to hear this message of BW dating interacially alot. but I don't think you can expect most BW to accept this because most still want BM.. But there are some of us who are willing to open up our options so this message will resonate with them
If a person happens to find a mate outside their race as a serendipitous matter of common circles and interests, that's one thing. But when a person seeks to marry outside their race because "the men of my race are all bad" or "the women of my race are all bad," that's emotional damage that they're just foisting on someone who isn't also damaged.
And the conversation has been had …hence more White/Asian women becoming single mothers
@@MsCouve WW and AW are irresponsible with their wombs. Got it.
People who do that are setting themselves and the people they wind up with for disappointment.
No, that's using your common sense. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
Bw outnumbered Bm 2:1....END OF DISCUSSION.
Bw NEED to explore their options outside Bm because the math ain't mathin.
This content is gold, more please.
Anwar & Jouelzy? What God allowed this to happen? I need to worship now. Like, my two favorites actually crossed paths…in my lifetime! Haha! I love it!!
The marriage discussion is really cultural. Can you expect to get married in a place where marriage isn’t valued? Especially in black Americans… I’m seeing more interracial relationships more than ever. It’s not surprising. 🤷🏾♀️ It has nothing to do with the value of black women.
where do ppl get this idea that black americans don’t value marriage ? marriage is seen as extremely valuable in the west. whether or not it’s attainable is different.
@@kyrathedestroyer_ It’s lip service…. If men valued marriage they would be marrying. Believe it or not hook culture and playing the field is a direct example of not valuing marriage. Black women around the world enjoy the benefits of having a husband. Only about 30% of us get to be married. That’s clearly a cultural phenomenon. You see what people value daily…careers, earning money, and friendships. There definitely needs to be some cultural shift’s happening.
@@kyrathedestroyer_ A statistic of >70% of unwed births say that black Americans don't value marriage.
@kyrathedestroyer_ Blk males do NOT value marriage....the data and stats backs this it up. And because Blk women prefer/worship Blk males...the marriage rates in BC is extremely low compared to other races.
I've never clicked on some thing so fast! Two of my faves!
Jouelzy what’s on your lips? That gloss/lipstick is everything. Do tell👀
What is the difference between finding a person to parent with vs. Finding a person to marry? If you're gonna have a child with them then you're gonna most likely be around that person for the rest of your life.
If you truly want marriage and a family, forget about race. Forget it. Women only have a certain amount of years to bear children and you don't want to waste those years waiting for the perfect man of __ race to come and choose you. Date the best man of every race who wants to date you.
That part 💯 Bw are causing harm to themselves when the ONLY date Bm.
Date for character. Not color.
@catmouse2882 same goes for blk men. I do know alot of us who have tough relationships with blk women and how blk women can be rude as well
@brandond1947 Bm are the number 1 predators to Bw...you want kindness go get a pet. Bw don't owe bottom tier males s***.
@brandond1947 Statistically, black men date out of their race four times as much as black women. For the most part, Black men don't seem to have too many reservations about dating out of their race. Black women on the other hand are race loyal to the point of dying single and childless because they didn't find a black man. But yes, at the end of the date who wants to date you. Race doesn't matter.
I made an IG story about this!!!! Right on time Jouelzy
You’re absolutely right and that’s because, like you said in one of your other videos that some men think that they’re the prize
This was great!
Loved this video... so so so good!! Thank you for sharing. I 100% agree with everything Anwar said... he was so spot on. Great interview :)
I just love love Jouelzy. Your face, your voice, your mind, your interests are everything girl! Totally my girl crush! (yes I’m a Black woman lol)
My preference is black men, but after decades of horrible experiences with them I am strategically choosing to date out. I have had healthier experiences with non-black men.
Have you ever asked yourself why they are your preference
🥰🤗 YOU’RE BACK 🥳🍾🥂
That’s why some cultures pick their daughters husband I’m not saying that’s all good but if the husband is a good person and not abusive and well-established, it’s not so bad either
Amazing really hit home❤
Ive always dated EVERYBODY. Thats never been a problem for me. I just need to focus on myself rn
OMFG YOU GOT ANWARRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that’s right sis!!!!!!!!!!
So good
Disempowered state! Exactly!
I tried dating men of other races. Just not attracted to them at all. Culturally or physically. I held out for the right man. A black man.
Of course u did Pookie 😏
I love him 😍
This is so funny you cant even make this up
3:44 bro we dont even know who u r 🤣 . He dont seem like a bad guy but i can tell his convos with blk men r very limited
I really find taking dating advice from a feminine man
BW have "evolved" passed BM? This is not even logical. Most people from stable communities are going to assume there's dysfunction in the home if the boys are consistently failing and this just make BW look bad as mothers. It's a narrative that's totally unnecessary so why go there? Don't be so dismissive of culture because most people prefer someone that they identify with culturally, this is not a black issue.
There are stats that support this. Education rates, graduation rates, rate of black women entrepreneurs...take your pick. So funny how bw and bm can have the same “evil” black mom (no smoke for the most likely nonexistent dad unsurprisingly) and yet bw are still pursuing higher education and completing degrees at record rates compared to their counterparts even despite life circumstances they could be using as excuses.
The typical excuses to rid bm of accountability like the blame on the black moms who stay and raise y’all is laughable at this point. No other race is experiencing such a disparity of women outperforming the men in this way and we as a whole seem to be unbothered by this or pretend it’s not happening. You may not like the word “evolve” but that doesn’t negate the truth.
@@Lala-eo4eq Data does not support what you are saying. You clearly haven't looked at data so I won't waste my time with that, but I'll clear up something you seem to not understand. Education, money, etc., are means, not ends. if BW are doing as well as you say we should see black children outperforming other races of children in school, among other things.
My original point was that a BW should highlight her positive attributes instead of comparing herself to men and talking negative about men if she's trying to maximize success while dating. I'm not sure why any BW would disagree with this.
@@Lala-eo4eq Your statement is conjecturous. The education desparity between men and women is happening across all racial groups, not just BM. Also, since you want to go there BW do indeed hold the most degrees but also are the most indebted women across all racial groups. On average, BW also earn less than AW and WW, they are the largest group of women who fall into poverty in their golden years, have the lowest marriage rate and the highest divorce, the highest mental illness rate, and the highest crime rate amongst their female counterparts. You want to parade BW as being far superior than BM but despite all your advancements you still fall behind other racial groups of women in this country. That's not something to celebrate.
Lol...."evolved passed BM". Bro is projecting. Alot of LGBT Men do not like straight black men. Because lets be honest 95% of straight BM are not feeling the LGBT community unless it involves a threesome with women 2 girls one guy.. These are the men that bullied them in high school and beyond. So obviously they are going to feel a way about straight BM.
@@outdoorgq Blk males have failed as fathers. That's why the Blk boys are doing horribly and the Blk girls are excelling...
Your beloved Kangz are failing their sons.
Hope you are having the day YOU deserve.
STOP THE CAP...YOU LED With the ALPHABETS?
Total BS. Tons of black women date out with no backlash. The reality is non-black men don't approach black women nearly as much as black men. Black women act like they don't have dates with Brad because Tyrone either scared Brad off or shamed Keisha when he saw her with Brad. The reality is Keisha didn't go out with Brad because Brad likes Becky and Mai Ling.
if you want people to take your analysis seriously drop the incel jargon.. designating all black women as “keisha” is nuts
Black women have spent a long time telling Brad she don't want him. The "nothing but a black man for me" trope. So she's going to have to work hard to drop her guard and let him know she's interested. Just like Asian women have, they don't keep it a secret.😊
@@suzyque1279 exactly 💯
This is true black men aren't riding around in pick up trucks, with shotguns looking for any black women that's outside with a white guy. For some reason they just can't admit that those men from other cultures, especially white would have to reject all of their other choices in order to be with them.
@@doshpits , "insell" as a slur is not valid when BW have the disease, oow births, mate-selection history that they do
1:42 low standards! Marry before you carry