She broke up with me just a few days ago, and I kept thinking of reasons for why. None of the reasons she said made any sense to me. Only now do I realize just how obsessed I was, and that she genuinely meant that this would be the best for both of us. I'm still in the process of grieving, but I will forever be thankful to her for teaching me such a valuable lesson.
Love how self aware you are, especially given how you must be feeling right now. It’s gonna be a painful few weeks / months ahead - but you’ll get through it and be a better partner for it after. Good luck 💪
when I was younger, I felt like I went through these stages of obsessive love. When I got older and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I realize that all the feelings of obsession and toxic feelings of abandonment were actually a projection of my own trust issues and abandonment from my traumatic childhood. the first stage of getting better is always going to be awareness and acceptance. Now I’m married to my high school sweetheart went through all stages that I put him through, but I left him alone and started loving myself, that’s when my feelings were reciprocated. Now we’re going on 20 years and I couldn’t ask for a better partner to help me deal with, my issues and disorder.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him. Romans 6:23 23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
I think I've gone through most of these stages, but in my 33 years I have never been in a relationship, so I don't know if that could be a factor for my huge anxiety towards being with someone (among other factors).
I was once like this. It was just horrible. I didn’t reach stage 4 luckily, but I did reach stage 5 and eventually found a lover who is better and loves me back.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him. Romans 6:23 23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
"World War 5, Lois!" "Peter, we've been over this. There hasn't even been a 3 yet." "Oh no that's what's so special about world War 5, Lois.. it's so bad, it skips over the other 2."
Look, obsessive love is very common for individuals with unstable/unsupportive family background or kids growing up without proper care. So, if your partner loves you obsessively, please dont leave him/her.try to make them understand where they went wrong and stand by their side unless they regain themselves and flourish❤
This was not a good advice for the other person on the other side of the obsession. They are getting involved in this toxic cycle too and it can be harmful to try encouraging them to stay. Sometimes it can even involved the safety of the other person, sympathy or guilt tripping is exactly a tactics that most of them use already, don’t add more to it.
not exactly a good advice, especially if the obsessed person turns to emotional or even physical abuse to their partner. better take that person to therapy than just suffer with them
Not exactly safest plan, maybe try taking them to therapy and getting mental help first, if they recover maybe yes stay with them but if it gets continuously worse, you need to leave them and get a professional or the persons relatives to help. Safety first.
i am a hopeless romantic, an obsessive type of a lover, after realizing my toxic habit i stayed single until now. im so afraid to commit relationships because at the end of the day i'd still long for them like a mad man. they say it's just limerence 😢
happens the same to me but you dont worry eventually you'll find who likes that or at least can understand it. Just be real to you while setting the right boundaries everything will be ok
The root is always lack of self love. I was reading the definition of insecure and the one definition said it's being unprotected and susceptible to danger. So I think when you meet someone and you are not secure in who you are, you just leave so much room for sense of self to be drained even more. I'm learning now to not only build up you self esteem but to guard your heart as well and know that for someone to be able to experience your love it is a privilege.
@@TuPapa... Not that easy when your mind gets sexualized at a young age and destroys your self control and compulsiveness. Sounds like a personal issue, well, it is. But I do agree with you though.👍
@@jonathannicholas07 I mean... My mind is a little sexualized, but I don't let it take control of me. Also I put myself in place of the other ¿Would she be okay if I suddenly started fucking yelling at her just because she doesn't put all her attention all the time? Also I thought this was a reply to a geometry dash argument I had a couple hours ago lmao
My ex boyfriend is in the throws of stage 4 with me. Scared for my safety. So it beyond just being angry, he tried to run me off the interstate recently. But a Protective Order has been delivered today. I pray 🙏 that my codependency will not make me faulted by letting me back in my life. With God all things are possible!! 🙏 🤲
To see your life shown almost verbatim in a youtube video is a terrible feeling because I have been anxiously attached and fit most of what the video describes other than losing my identity. But it's also cathartic to know I've known it wasn't rational or logical and that my obsession was hurting the one I purported to love. I have never loved someone so much, and so even though we just broke up, for my mental health and well-being I'm going to give him space and cut off all communication because trying to be friends with him is torture. I'll always be there for him, but right now I need to heal before I can be a good friend so I have to say goodbye to him. I know it's hard but love yourself guys, know that you are deserving of just as much love as you are investing in someone.
I was in the stage 2 of obsession, i was obsessed with a girl in my school, she was pretty, kind, smart, and everything i wanted. i was well known to my friends that i make music, make art work, and i was really talented.. but when she came into my life, all i cared about was her. my grades were going low, i wouldn't hang out with my friends. and i would tend to isolate myself from my parents. often eating in my own room. i was able to date her and she still is currently my girlfriend but when i watched this video, it really helped. i was often feeling depressed. insecure. and sometimes even mad when she interacts with others.. this video helped me alot into improving my love and improving mentally. i now focus on other things such as music, art work, crafting, programming. i filled my life with so many things other than love. I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!
Glad I’m not in obsessive love with my gf. We don’t get to talk very much rn, cuz she’s in the process of recovering from cancer treatment. What I understand from my cousin (he had cancer) is that therapy and recovery take a ton of energy and her days are probably filled with therapy and sleep. I don’t hold anything against her. But that doesn’t fully help the pain of not being able to speak to her. I do miss her, but all I want rn is for her to get better, and us actually enjoy our relationship. Keep my gf in your prayers plz. Her name is Kiana
This video was eye opening, this was something I always knew about myself but I didn't wanted to recognize. I reached stage 4 and I hated myself for this. Few days ago I started to practice self love, so this video came in the best moment. Thank you.
I’m glad the video came at a time when you needed it. Don’t beat yourself up for being in stage 4-recognizing it and starting to practice self-love is a huge step forward. What’s one self-love practice that’s been especially helpful for you lately?
notification appeared right when i started missing and reminiscing about my ex 😋 i definitely went through all four stages, and i can say that this is (hopefully) the last time ill ever get obsessed and overly attached
I'm kinda going through this in my current relationship. Things have been worse, but luckily they've gotten better. I'm on a journey with self love and trying to find ways how to feel good when my bf is busy or we can't be together at that moment and it's going okay so far :) I want to really get my shit together because no one has ever been so compassionate and understanding as he is and we have been together for 2 years and he never gave up on me. Even when I had severe anxiety and depression, he helped me through it ❤ I can't thank him enough
I want to say this is somewhat exactly how it is for me, but we haven't been together for 2 years lol. I'd known her for about a year before we started dating, and I helped her through some rough stuff, and she had grown attached to me and asked me out, and I said no, realizing that after what just happened with her, she doesn't need to form another attachment like that and needs time instead, but staying very close friends after that. I then started slowly realizing I did like her, and asked her out. It's been great with her but I feel like I might be too like this. I want to know how you have been trying to better yourself and stay away from this, because I don't want to lose her, even if it hasn't gotten as severe as shown
My grip of obsessive love had me in an in and out relationship where I'd get with my ex then break up and get back with him then break up and get back with him. I was the one who was obsessed and thought things would change and that we could really date this time but he started spoiling me and doing things that had me obsessed again....so eventually the cycle broke and we started arguing to the point of screaming at each other.....
I had an experience of obsessive love from a former stalker which traumatized me for years, it still bothers me whenever I came across that person even when it happened ages ago. Hence why I found it difficult to deal from traumatic experiences perhaps because I haven't yet healed from it.
I was once in that position. The difference is I was constantly asked to act that way, and would be cried on whenever I would try to "let go". Meanwhile they keep hurting and blaming me in the process for not "trusting" them enough, like bro you asked that I act like this then blame me for acting the way you asked?
There is a fork in the road after infatuation, either the obsessive love path or the healthy love path. It's possible that you went down the healthy path rather than stopped at infatuation.
@@kobi2024 that's what I thought immediately, sounds like my bpd ex... You just confirmed it for me, thanks for being so honest and sharing this..... 😊
This video opened my eyes a bit. Naturally I'm easy to make anxious, naturally my partner is quick to anger. Just generalized problems the two of us have. I may not be controlling to them, though I ask for (admittedly) a bit much reassurance sometimes out of fear that I've done wrong or upset them- as I know (And they do too) that they are quick to anger. This video made me realize that I should look further into myself, assess the few issues I have, and continue with the happy relationship I have. I shouldn't let anxiety dictate what I feel or ask to my partner. I do have a bit of a habit of asking my partner what they're up to, but only in the intent to spark conversation and talk about the activities they're doing. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
My friend is currently in a relationship where her boyfriend treats her more as a pet. he doesn't love her, he loves the way she makes him feel. she strokes his ego, and makes him feel dominant. He's managed to condition her to believe that she needs him, and that only his validation matters, to the point that even our own opinions don't matter to her anymore. She swears she loves him, but you can tell that even she doesn't fully believe what she's saying. but she's too afraid to break up with him, for fear of how he'll react..
One of the loves of my life, and now I'm working on a new start with him so that we can actually have a mutually trusting, comfortable, secure, healthy, and unconditionally loving relationship. The first thing is trust. However, I've never tried to isolate him from friends or family. I would never do that. Since you can't replace a person, he's one of whom whose presence has always been uplifting.
I’m married and now I realize that I am obsessed with her and realize how much I rely on her for comfort and attention as well as gratification I will sometimes make her feel bad because I want all her attention and that sometimes comes off as needy or manipulative I don’t mean to be this way and I know that I am hard to deal with but she puts up with all of my crazy antics and looks past all that which I appreciate
I’m on 5 rn having this happen as my first relationship really sucks it really does but I can only learn from my mistakes I guess thank you please keep making these videos they help so many people and me learn so much
You are on point in everything you said! It kind of feels like you're in a horror and or suspense film! Being in a constant state of panic, fear, worry and other agonizing conditions is no way to live! This perpetual enigmatic loop can take a heavy toll on your complete well being! Follow these guidelines as I will, and the dark cloud should disappear! What a 🛼🎢 rolller coaster ride this life is! Good fortune and have a good one!
Watching this shows me how obsessed I was with him and why he probably broke up with me, I only just started to get over him, after about 5 months of still liking him..I really need to get over him
I went through something like this after I fell in love with a guy, and he ghosted me. I didn't want to hurt him, so I avoided the urge to do anything toxic no matter how strong my emotions got. After about half a year, I got in touch with him again. He actually responded and seemed happy to talk to me again, but then he didn't respond to my message for 24 hours, and I got really sensitive about it because he had ghosted me before. I lashed out at him over text, and that was where I drew the line for myself. So I apologized and blocked him. I haven't talked to him since and I only think about him every once in a while. Cutting him off was the best decision for me. I let him go before I went too far, and I feel good about that. If you truly love someone, respect their decisions and their agency
I’ve had a friend like this before. We would text everyday without fail and it was so fun for the first bit of the friendship. But after a while he started questioning why I wasn’t responding as much, why I would hang out with friends more than him, and why he wasn’t prioritized if I considered him my best friend. I ended up ending the friendship because I was tired of trying to explain things to him over and over again when it didn’t seem like he would listen. I hope he’s doing ok now, he was a good guy and I wish the best for him.
As a high functioning neurotypical person who has been on the obsessive end (high school, didn’t know any better) AND on the receiving end of this behavior, including right now years later, all I can say is run and run as far away as fast as you can lolol Self love, healing, recognition, and growth is the very best thing you can do to control this. And learning to love others right, helps you love yourself right.
This is happening to me in my relationship. I’m conscious that I’m obsessed over my partner and I tell her sorry for being so high maintenance. Thankfully she says she doesn’t mind and feels assured of my love for her. But both of us know this is a problem that needs some attention. So I’m holding myself back from calls and trying to learn new stuff like coding to keep me busy.
Honestly, this video helped me understand exactly why, me liking someone, isn't an unhealthy obsession because while I might have lunged at someone for rejecting me as a child (because it would stirr up feelings of not being wanted and jealousy of whoever they might actually like), I do try to move on when they reject me now because I know I can't control someone. I think it's just that I'm 19 in a few days and I still haven't ever had a relationship, I know there are people in their 20's out there who are the same but honestly the problem is just that I don't like to feel different from others who surround me and most people I care about are already in a relationship and the feeling of jealousy is terrible. I have felt like committing suicide on multiple occasions but that's not just about romantic feelings but about my life in general and therapy isn't an option once I've had that on multiple occasions too and it hasn't helped.
I'm just now recovering from an obsessive love of 6 years. I appreciate you making a video Educating people! ❤ it does get better! And you'll find someone who loves you just the same, it may not be that "one person" but it is out there!
When I clicked the video, I was worried this would describe me. I'm very comforted knowing that in the more extreme stages, I'm not showing any signs. Thank you Psych2go!
каждый "уважающий себя" подросток хотя бы раз в жизни: это случалось и со мной. не сказать, что только я вела себя плохо с человеком. этот человек поступал со мной ни чуть не лучше и, более того, нанёс мне серьёзный вред своими действиями гораздо раньше, чем началась моя больная привязанность к ним. ребята, которые проходят через подобное сейчас - если вы смотрите это и понимаете, что это про вас. и если вы хотите измениться - это первый шаг. главное двигаться дальше и постараться выбраться из этого. так вы поможете не только себе, но и объекту вашей одержимости🙏
@@micahhershey311 a friend of mine fell.in love with a guy online by only texting and hsving a picture of each other and thats it,they are in a Distance relationship and my friend literally believes that this is true love,they fell in love within one month knowing eachother and are in a Distant relationship No phone calls,no facetime,only texting and Playing online together and that is called love? I mean they talk like they know each other for many years bit they only Know eachother for less than 5 months They have never met in person and thst will probably Happen rarely or never
6:10 months, huh?! It can take up to many years. The consequences of this hell can destroy the whole life. My obsessive love made me not able to love anyone ever again. So, 5th stage can be not as bright as it was shown in the video
I've went through all 5 stages and it was truly horrible. After years of trying to win her heart (despite her telling me that it can never be) i was delusional and kept going after her. After the separation, my life was completely broken. Without her, i slowly built up myself and learn how to love myself again. I want those who are going through this pain to hang in there. Life is amazing! It might not seem like it right now but hang in there. You're bit alone on this journey of recovery. You are loved.
@@Trust_worthy_24definitely. In my case, one of my classmates said she’s obsessed over me. But later when I became overly attached to her. She started appearing cold. Now “We don’t talk anymore.”
My friend tends to obsess with literally any boy, she knows she's not okay, but thinks that can't do anything about it, no matter how much i and another friend tried to tell her to search help, she won't listen. Thank you Psych2Go, it was a nice video 🙏
i am confident enough to say that i've been through obsessive love before, and i only stayed on stage 1 with most of them, maybe slightly moving up to stage 2 with some early obsessions. but recently, i went absolutely crazy about someone over discord. i didn't even know what she looked or sounded like, i was just attracted by her personality. i feel very bad about everything now. i don't really wanna give any major details, but i will say that my relationsip started off pretty healthy in the beginning, but it was only until the end of april where things got pretty bad (i kept asking her for voice calls, which made her uncomfortable), but even after that, we were still friends... until the start of june, when things got MUCH worse... that was it, i was at the end of stage 4, and i went into stage 5, as she ended all contact with me, and blocked me. i was pretty popular in a community aswell so i got cancelled and kicked out for my obsession to this person. i tried to apologise sincerely, but not many people forgave me, let alone the victim herself. so to anyone else who's currently going through, or already went through something like this: i know exactly what it feels like, and stage 5 is literally so horrible to go through, i'm sorry for those who have to go through something like this, and i'm also sorry for all the victims
@@jonathannicholas07 it sure is tiring as all hell. Just once I'd like a day of peace where my mind is quiet and it's not obsessing, not depressed, not anxious, just.... calm.
Remember you can still date multiple women. you don't need to always relying on one. And once any girl gets Jelous cuz your dating or meeting other girls these are signs that she cares about you. As a man don't chase, just attract without even thinking about her. Also, having good communication and purpose is more important than love and romance. Don't let a pretty girl face fools you! She is not what you think.
Ive been on the receiving end in the past, and to no surprise, im also on the obsessing end as well. Thankfully its never gotten destructive.. i talked about it with my very wonderful and understanding partner of 7+ years. Im still looking for what makes me happy in life, and just taking one day at a time. It truly is about open communication and feeling each other. If you cant do that, obsessive or not, it wont last. Me and my partner have our moments, mostly from my insecurities.. but im a work in progress, and i refuse to give up. Looking back now on me and her journeys, I'm so blessed to have my partner in life. Thats why I will do better, not just for her, but for me. Dont give up.
hey dont worry, I know like 10 guys who would do anything for someone like you. you'll find the right guy to lock up in your basement ❤ this is a joke I honestly worry for my friends. I'm glad you recognized your mistake, good luck with your next relationship
I have gone through this stages. After we stop see each other I realised my mistakes and the toxic habit that I make. Now I'm stoping my self from obsessing and wanting others. The realisation hit me hard and sometimes the guilt is killing me. But after all now I'm knowing my mistake.
I broke up with my bf but he still wouldnt leave me alone believing me and him are still together, and he would constantly accuse me of cheating and losing feelings, at one point i got tired and blocked him because i did not like his behavior towards me and he kept begging for me to come back and when it was clear i didn’t want to, he started blackmailing me saying if i dont comeback he’ll ruin my life 💀, and even until now i am receiving message threats from him weekly saying he’d ruin my life because i ruined his life by leaving him
Hey that was me 😢 I just want to be friends with her after brekup because that feels me complete 💯 I don't want to act like in a bad manner 😢😢😢 I beg her plz don't block me 😢she blocked me from every social media accounts. she ruined my life I cry every day since 9 months. Now I'm fighting with anxiety, tremors, depression,bad sleep,cut off from every single person of family, recurring thoughts of being suicidal 😢, consulting from a psychologist for last 3 months my life became hell because of a relationship plz God save me😢😢😢
I need to admit, i had once the Obsessive love, but it all fell apart when they moved out to another country. So it didn't had the time to consume me. I am glad that this channel and video exists! 😮❤
So, you only have the sexual attraction to people? No like... social attraction? Its interesting. I think i'm asexual, cuz all i want is to talk with people and hear them talking, no sexual attaction to anyone, huh.
Well, i dont know if its love at all, but i have like a little bit of obsessive things you've mentioned. 1. Often checking a messanger for new messages. 2. Overthinking and overanalysing conversations. 3. Sometimes thinking of what we can do together in the future, like, places we can go, or like: "We should talk more often", idk. But maybe thats just because i dont really have much relations and conversations in life for... a half a decade rn at least, and thus I'm trying to catch any social fuel from a single friend i have. I like to talk with her, but I dont think thats love at all. I dont know what the love is, huh. I dont have sexual attraction to anyone and never had, and I heard that its the one of the main aspects of love. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
thank you so much for this video ....😇 i recenly went through all this stages ...and i am happy that i overcome all this ...and focusing on myself now ......and our relationship is better than before 😇🥰
Sometimes I think that a message of comfort or compliment from a stranger can mean everything to me. These are the times when I remember how lonely am I and without knowing someone that would help. It's hard to accept.
I completely recognize myself in this video. Once i was in love...and quickly became obsessed by one of my friends.But the problem is.. he was gr00mer and he really took advantage of it by manipulating me or touching..if you know what i mean.I was so obsessed that i thought i was normal and maybe the feelings were reciprocated..but no sometimes we were fighting cause i was jealous or cause he's avoiding,I was stalking him..but with help of my friends,I finally stopped with this obsession and finally let go..I still have feelings and i don't know what to do..if someone can give me some advices,it would be great.
Not really in obssesion can still be love someone who is obssesed with someone and doesn't wanna let the person go can still care about person's opinions thoughts needs and so on. I know it by my lover
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The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too." - Ernest Hemingway
That happened to me way too much in the past😔
@@Ray_347I'm sorry😔
@@WatcherSans its ok..
@Dogday86429 Hope you the best!
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She broke up with me just a few days ago, and I kept thinking of reasons for why. None of the reasons she said made any sense to me. Only now do I realize just how obsessed I was, and that she genuinely meant that this would be the best for both of us. I'm still in the process of grieving, but I will forever be thankful to her for teaching me such a valuable lesson.
That's a really healthy way to see it. Good for you man, I'm proud.
Same, i am going thro the same thing. I can feel ur pain and sadness, but just as u said, it's the best for both parties.
Love how self aware you are, especially given how you must be feeling right now.
It’s gonna be a painful few weeks / months ahead - but you’ll get through it and be a better partner for it after. Good luck 💪
i understand man
she left because you are a losser
Psychopath X Obsessive Love=Horror Movie
It happened to me, only with a sociopath. Same disorder, really (antisocial personality disorder).
Agree
basically the show “you” on netflix. love quinn x joe goldberg lol
They can't actually 'love'
They maybe people who are borderlines and bipolars
Psychopaths can't feel love, they simulate It.
when I was younger, I felt like I went through these stages of obsessive love. When I got older and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I realize that all the feelings of obsession and toxic feelings of abandonment were actually a projection of my own trust issues and abandonment from my traumatic childhood. the first stage of getting better is always going to be awareness and acceptance. Now I’m married to my high school sweetheart went through all stages that I put him through, but I left him alone and started loving myself, that’s when my feelings were reciprocated.
Now we’re going on 20 years and I couldn’t ask for a better partner to help me deal with, my issues and disorder.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him.
Romans 6:23
23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
It is so great!!!! ✨✨✨
I think I've gone through most of these stages, but in my 33 years I have never been in a relationship, so I don't know if that could be a factor for my huge anxiety towards being with someone (among other factors).
Hey can I ask can you differentiate between being obsessive and being clingy. I don't know if i have both or one.
@@lionofjudah5221leave religion out of this
I was once like this. It was just horrible. I didn’t reach stage 4 luckily, but I did reach stage 5 and eventually found a lover who is better and loves me back.
Jesus Christ loves you, repent of your sins and turn to him.
Romans 6:23
23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
I can relate, man. It's scary what we can turn into before we heal 😬
@lionofjudah5221 you suck at converting. You can't save souls if you give people the ick first. Don't be weird.
@@taramcflaraI agree it is scary what we can turn to before we heal
"World War 5, Lois!"
"Peter, we've been over this. There hasn't even been a 3 yet."
"Oh no that's what's so special about world War 5, Lois.. it's so bad, it skips over the other 2."
Look, obsessive love is very common for individuals with unstable/unsupportive family background or kids growing up without proper care. So, if your partner loves you obsessively, please dont leave him/her.try to make them understand where they went wrong and stand by their side unless they regain themselves and flourish❤
Should be a top comment
Also this is literally me, no jokes intended
This was not a good advice for the other person on the other side of the obsession. They are getting involved in this toxic cycle too and it can be harmful to try encouraging them to stay.
Sometimes it can even involved the safety of the other person, sympathy or guilt tripping is exactly a tactics that most of them use already, don’t add more to it.
this got me now depressive knowing how accurate it is to what i went and am currently
going through
not exactly a good advice, especially if the obsessed person turns to emotional or even physical abuse to their partner. better take that person to therapy than just suffer with them
Not exactly safest plan, maybe try taking them to therapy and getting mental help first, if they recover maybe yes stay with them but if it gets continuously worse, you need to leave them and get a professional or the persons relatives to help. Safety first.
i am a hopeless romantic, an obsessive type of a lover, after realizing my toxic habit i stayed single until now. im so afraid to commit relationships because at the end of the day i'd still long for them like a mad man. they say it's just limerence 😢
happens the same to me but you dont worry eventually you'll find who likes that or at least can understand it. Just be real to you while setting the right boundaries everything will be ok
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Low-key like the obsessive and jealous type
@@Imnot_moodyDon't give him hope. This feels like one of those signs that say, ''don't feed the zoo animals''
True love is selfless
1. 0:51 Infatuation
2. 1:27 Intensification
3. 2:26 Obsession
4. 3:51 Destruction
5. 6:03 Resolution
Thank uuuu
Don't know why they removed time stamps
@@Songwriter2009 my pleasure
@@moreliatapoc971 I have 4 out of 5 of those
@@legendshadow547 ikr they had it before
The root is always lack of self love. I was reading the definition of insecure and the one definition said it's being unprotected and susceptible to danger. So I think when you meet someone and you are not secure in who you are, you just leave so much room for sense of self to be drained even more. I'm learning now to not only build up you self esteem but to guard your heart as well and know that for someone to be able to experience your love it is a privilege.
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Oh boy.... Now I need to be WAY more careful.
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what? It's mostly about not being a creep lol
@@TuPapa... Not that easy when your mind gets sexualized at a young age and destroys your self control and compulsiveness. Sounds like a personal issue, well, it is. But I do agree with you though.👍
@@jonathannicholas07 I mean... My mind is a little sexualized, but I don't let it take control of me. Also I put myself in place of the other
¿Would she be okay if I suddenly started fucking yelling at her just because she doesn't put all her attention all the time?
Also I thought this was a reply to a geometry dash argument I had a couple hours ago lmao
My ex boyfriend is in the throws of stage 4 with me. Scared for my safety. So it beyond just being angry, he tried to run me off the interstate recently. But a Protective Order has been delivered today. I pray 🙏 that my codependency will not make me faulted by letting me back in my life. With God all things are possible!! 🙏 🤲
I’m praying for you as well❤
i'll pray for you, are you doing okay? 🙏 🙏
@Jay-bo2jc Yes, prayers are always welcome. Thank you so much!! 🙏 🤲
Your ex didn't love you, he's just probably a psycho, like this video describing someone "in love in a bad way" lol
Keeping you in my thoughts. You are stronger than you know. Remind yourself of that every day until you truly believe it. ❤
To see your life shown almost verbatim in a youtube video is a terrible feeling because I have been anxiously attached and fit most of what the video describes other than losing my identity. But it's also cathartic to know I've known it wasn't rational or logical and that my obsession was hurting the one I purported to love. I have never loved someone so much, and so even though we just broke up, for my mental health and well-being I'm going to give him space and cut off all communication because trying to be friends with him is torture. I'll always be there for him, but right now I need to heal before I can be a good friend so I have to say goodbye to him. I know it's hard but love yourself guys, know that you are deserving of just as much love as you are investing in someone.
I was in the stage 2 of obsession, i was obsessed with a girl in my school, she was pretty, kind, smart, and everything i wanted. i was well known to my friends that i make music, make art work, and i was really talented.. but when she came into my life, all i cared about was her. my grades were going low, i wouldn't hang out with my friends. and i would tend to isolate myself from my parents. often eating in my own room. i was able to date her and she still is currently my girlfriend but when i watched this video, it really helped. i was often feeling depressed. insecure. and sometimes even mad when she interacts with others.. this video helped me alot into improving my love and improving mentally. i now focus on other things such as music, art work, crafting, programming. i filled my life with so many things other than love. I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!
Glad I’m not in obsessive love with my gf. We don’t get to talk very much rn, cuz she’s in the process of recovering from cancer treatment. What I understand from my cousin (he had cancer) is that therapy and recovery take a ton of energy and her days are probably filled with therapy and sleep. I don’t hold anything against her. But that doesn’t fully help the pain of not being able to speak to her. I do miss her, but all I want rn is for her to get better, and us actually enjoy our relationship. Keep my gf in your prayers plz. Her name is Kiana
Hope she gets well soon ❤
hope she gets well soon
hope she gets well
This video was eye opening, this was something I always knew about myself but I didn't wanted to recognize. I reached stage 4 and I hated myself for this. Few days ago I started to practice self love, so this video came in the best moment. Thank you.
I’m glad the video came at a time when you needed it. Don’t beat yourself up for being in stage 4-recognizing it and starting to practice self-love is a huge step forward. What’s one self-love practice that’s been especially helpful for you lately?
notification appeared right when i started missing and reminiscing about my ex 😋
i definitely went through all four stages, and i can say that this is (hopefully) the last time ill ever get obsessed and overly attached
As long as you can recognize it next time, I hope you can do okay. ❤
This animation style is very cute; the eyes are highly expressive! Kudos to the artist!
I'm kinda going through this in my current relationship. Things have been worse, but luckily they've gotten better. I'm on a journey with self love and trying to find ways how to feel good when my bf is busy or we can't be together at that moment and it's going okay so far :) I want to really get my shit together because no one has ever been so compassionate and understanding as he is and we have been together for 2 years and he never gave up on me. Even when I had severe anxiety and depression, he helped me through it ❤ I can't thank him enough
Wish you all the best
@@bharghavigummala3150 thank you :)
I want to say this is somewhat exactly how it is for me, but we haven't been together for 2 years lol. I'd known her for about a year before we started dating, and I helped her through some rough stuff, and she had grown attached to me and asked me out, and I said no, realizing that after what just happened with her, she doesn't need to form another attachment like that and needs time instead, but staying very close friends after that. I then started slowly realizing I did like her, and asked her out. It's been great with her but I feel like I might be too like this.
I want to know how you have been trying to better yourself and stay away from this, because I don't want to lose her, even if it hasn't gotten as severe as shown
Too much love is not that good, i am still suffering from it from that, and i mean like a boy is making me suffer, not myself.
Well, there’s healthy love and not healthy love. So yeah too much healthy love is never too much or bad
@@SamanthaBaker8 well idk about that
Well no love hurts the most trust me
@@yellowworldytand dont ask me how ik
@@Eaglisthebest o how😅
Timestamps
1). Infatuation 0:49
2). Intensification 1:26
3). Obsession 2:24
4). Destruction 3:49
5). Resolution 6:02
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
You have no idea how much I love when Amanda does the voice overs ❤️ her voice is so nice to listen to.
Thanks so much! She definitely has one of the more pleasing and soothing voice!
I can just feel the fedora hat and the cheeto breath aura
@@Eltaryy girl what? So now it’s wrong to compliment someone’s voice be fr
@@val.-.8911 dawg I'm a guy 💀
@@Eltaryy okay? I don’t care if your a zebra, I said what I said
0:08 CLOUD 9 MENTIONED!!! AHHHHH!!! WHAT ARE SMOKES???
Yes
RAAAAAAAAHHH
WE ARE NEVER GONNA WIN WORLDS WITH THIS ONE 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥
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My grip of obsessive love had me in an in and out relationship where I'd get with my ex then break up and get back with him then break up and get back with him. I was the one who was obsessed and thought things would change and that we could really date this time but he started spoiling me and doing things that had me obsessed again....so eventually the cycle broke and we started arguing to the point of screaming at each other.....
I had an experience of obsessive love from a former stalker which traumatized me for years, it still bothers me whenever I came across that person even when it happened ages ago. Hence why I found it difficult to deal from traumatic experiences perhaps because I haven't yet healed from it.
Sleepy voice lady is a W! looks like I'm getting nap in at 426pm
I was once in that position. The difference is I was constantly asked to act that way, and would be cried on whenever I would try to "let go". Meanwhile they keep hurting and blaming me in the process for not "trusting" them enough, like bro you asked that I act like this then blame me for acting the way you asked?
My question is why you have to listen others ?
Others are not responsible for your happiness !
Why you waste your time on that ?
ngl my relationship is healthily obsessive because we love each other so much we both respect boundaries
Me too❤
How is it that every video has the perfect timing for whatver goes on in life ? Bht thanks yall, i was noticing this myself , finally someone said it
This makes me think I've only ever been in the infatuation stage 😂😭
And it makes me think I have never been in love😂😅😲😓😭
That's probably a good thing as it means you have healthy love. if you get to stage 2 it means you have obsessive love.
There is a fork in the road after infatuation, either the obsessive love path or the healthy love path. It's possible that you went down the healthy path rather than stopped at infatuation.
Yeah same 😂😂 I easily get bored with the same person lol
All your videos on this subject describe me and my BPD perfectly 🙃
Okay. Maybe my ex is just like that 😅.
Now that I have pets, I try to fall in love with my hobbies instead of new people.
Real
@@kobi2024 that's what I thought immediately, sounds like my bpd ex... You just confirmed it for me, thanks for being so honest and sharing this..... 😊
I also went through all four stages and I don't want to go through that again😅
It's hard to stop obsessiveness. but it's important to recognize it before it's too late and completely takes over
You are always SO ACCURATE BRO, STOP STALKING ME
Lmao this channel is way too accurate and relatable at the exact very moment we need it to be.
Nah my life is already too worst to fall in love.
This video opened my eyes a bit. Naturally I'm easy to make anxious, naturally my partner is quick to anger. Just generalized problems the two of us have.
I may not be controlling to them, though I ask for (admittedly) a bit much reassurance sometimes out of fear that I've done wrong or upset them- as I know (And they do too) that they are quick to anger.
This video made me realize that I should look further into myself, assess the few issues I have, and continue with the happy relationship I have. I shouldn't let anxiety dictate what I feel or ask to my partner. I do have a bit of a habit of asking my partner what they're up to, but only in the intent to spark conversation and talk about the activities they're doing.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
My friend is currently in a relationship where her boyfriend treats her more as a pet. he doesn't love her, he loves the way she makes him feel. she strokes his ego, and makes him feel dominant. He's managed to condition her to believe that she needs him, and that only his validation matters, to the point that even our own opinions don't matter to her anymore. She swears she loves him, but you can tell that even she doesn't fully believe what she's saying. but she's too afraid to break up with him, for fear of how he'll react..
One of the loves of my life, and now I'm working on a new start with him so that we can actually have a mutually trusting, comfortable, secure, healthy, and unconditionally loving relationship. The first thing is trust. However, I've never tried to isolate him from friends or family. I would never do that. Since you can't replace a person, he's one of whom whose presence has always been uplifting.
I’m married and now I realize that I am obsessed with her and realize how much I rely on her for comfort and attention as well as gratification I will sometimes make her feel bad because I want all her attention and that sometimes comes off as needy or manipulative I don’t mean to be this way and I know that I am hard to deal with but she puts up with all of my crazy antics and looks past all that which I appreciate
I’m on 5 rn having this happen as my first relationship really sucks it really does but I can only learn from my mistakes I guess thank you please keep making these videos they help so many people and me learn so much
Same here
Did anyone notice that the thumbnail is from "Sensei can't teach me love"
It is a wholesome manga and I seriously love it I TOTALLY recommend it
You are on point in everything you said! It kind of feels like you're in a horror and or suspense film! Being in a constant state of panic, fear, worry and other agonizing conditions is no way to live! This perpetual enigmatic loop can take a heavy toll on your complete well being! Follow these guidelines as I will, and the dark cloud should disappear! What a 🛼🎢 rolller coaster ride this life is! Good fortune and have a good one!
Watching this shows me how obsessed I was with him and why he probably broke up with me, I only just started to get over him, after about 5 months of still liking him..I really need to get over him
I went through something like this after I fell in love with a guy, and he ghosted me. I didn't want to hurt him, so I avoided the urge to do anything toxic no matter how strong my emotions got. After about half a year, I got in touch with him again. He actually responded and seemed happy to talk to me again, but then he didn't respond to my message for 24 hours, and I got really sensitive about it because he had ghosted me before. I lashed out at him over text, and that was where I drew the line for myself. So I apologized and blocked him. I haven't talked to him since and I only think about him every once in a while. Cutting him off was the best decision for me. I let him go before I went too far, and I feel good about that. If you truly love someone, respect their decisions and their agency
0:17 You Become An Obsessed Yandere Girl! (or Boy) ^w^
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WAIT WAIT NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
yes
Had been there and through all the stages . It feels so good for somebody to talk about that ❤ thankyou ❤
I’ve had a friend like this before. We would text everyday without fail and it was so fun for the first bit of the friendship. But after a while he started questioning why I wasn’t responding as much, why I would hang out with friends more than him, and why he wasn’t prioritized if I considered him my best friend. I ended up ending the friendship because I was tired of trying to explain things to him over and over again when it didn’t seem like he would listen. I hope he’s doing ok now, he was a good guy and I wish the best for him.
As a high functioning neurotypical person who has been on the obsessive end (high school, didn’t know any better) AND on the receiving end of this behavior, including right now years later, all I can say is run and run as far away as fast as you can lolol
Self love, healing, recognition, and growth is the very best thing you can do to control this. And learning to love others right, helps you love yourself right.
I feel so calm when i listen to this
This is happening to me in my relationship. I’m conscious that I’m obsessed over my partner and I tell her sorry for being so high maintenance. Thankfully she says she doesn’t mind and feels assured of my love for her. But both of us know this is a problem that needs some attention. So I’m holding myself back from calls and trying to learn new stuff like coding to keep me busy.
Honestly, this video helped me understand exactly why, me liking someone, isn't an unhealthy obsession because while I might have lunged at someone for rejecting me as a child (because it would stirr up feelings of not being wanted and jealousy of whoever they might actually like), I do try to move on when they reject me now because I know I can't control someone.
I think it's just that I'm 19 in a few days and I still haven't ever had a relationship, I know there are people in their 20's out there who are the same but honestly the problem is just that I don't like to feel different from others who surround me and most people I care about are already in a relationship and the feeling of jealousy is terrible.
I have felt like committing suicide on multiple occasions but that's not just about romantic feelings but about my life in general and therapy isn't an option once I've had that on multiple occasions too and it hasn't helped.
I'm just now recovering from an obsessive love of 6 years. I appreciate you making a video Educating people! ❤ it does get better! And you'll find someone who loves you just the same, it may not be that "one person" but it is out there!
When I clicked the video, I was worried this would describe me. I'm very comforted knowing that in the more extreme stages, I'm not showing any signs. Thank you Psych2go!
каждый "уважающий себя" подросток хотя бы раз в жизни:
это случалось и со мной. не сказать, что только я вела себя плохо с человеком. этот человек поступал со мной ни чуть не лучше и, более того, нанёс мне серьёзный вред своими действиями гораздо раньше, чем началась моя больная привязанность к ним.
ребята, которые проходят через подобное сейчас - если вы смотрите это и понимаете, что это про вас. и если вы хотите измениться - это первый шаг. главное двигаться дальше и постараться выбраться из этого. так вы поможете не только себе, но и объекту вашей одержимости🙏
Love yourself first.
Good timing,I have a suspicion that my friend is Obsessed
With who? Don’t need to answer if u dont wanna
@@micahhershey311 a friend of mine fell.in love with a guy online by only texting and hsving a picture of each other and thats it,they are in a Distance relationship and my friend literally believes that this is true love,they fell in love within one month knowing eachother and are in a Distant relationship
No phone calls,no facetime,only texting and Playing online together and that is called love?
I mean they talk like they know each other for many years bit they only Know eachother for less than 5 months
They have never met in person and thst will probably Happen rarely or never
I hope this video finds the right person to watch😊😊😊
Yep it only took me years to get over this not months, but now I know the signs. 😊
Unfortunately, I think I might be obsessing, thank you for helping me see it and stop it.
6:10 months, huh?! It can take up to many years. The consequences of this hell can destroy the whole life. My obsessive love made me not able to love anyone ever again. So, 5th stage can be not as bright as it was shown in the video
I've went through all 5 stages and it was truly horrible. After years of trying to win her heart (despite her telling me that it can never be) i was delusional and kept going after her.
After the separation, my life was completely broken. Without her, i slowly built up myself and learn how to love myself again.
I want those who are going through this pain to hang in there. Life is amazing! It might not seem like it right now but hang in there. You're bit alone on this journey of recovery. You are loved.
Oh my gosh, I’ve definitely gotten to stage 3. Glad it ended before 4 thougj
From stage 1-5, it's literally my whole story throughout 2 years of my obsessive love towards him.
I am pretty obsessed with someone but I think they obsess over me as well so this help a lot
Ask yourself who is more obsessed? The one who is more obsessed the one that will get hurt and left out.
@@Trust_worthy_24definitely.
In my case, one of my classmates said she’s obsessed over me. But later when I became overly attached to her. She started appearing cold.
Now “We don’t talk anymore.”
@@thesussycatFemale hypergamy/human nature. I recommend Casey Zander's TH-cam channel to learn more about this. Thank me later. 🙃
Literally me in every relationship I've ever been in. But I've never been able to reach stage five. I've never been able to get over anyone.
Your voice is so relaxing😙❤ thank you ❤
My friend tends to obsess with literally any boy, she knows she's not okay, but thinks that can't do anything about it, no matter how much i and another friend tried to tell her to search help, she won't listen.
Thank you Psych2Go, it was a nice video 🙏
i am confident enough to say that i've been through obsessive love before, and i only stayed on stage 1 with most of them, maybe slightly moving up to stage 2 with some early obsessions. but recently, i went absolutely crazy about someone over discord. i didn't even know what she looked or sounded like, i was just attracted by her personality. i feel very bad about everything now. i don't really wanna give any major details, but i will say that my relationsip started off pretty healthy in the beginning, but it was only until the end of april where things got pretty bad (i kept asking her for voice calls, which made her uncomfortable), but even after that, we were still friends... until the start of june, when things got MUCH worse... that was it, i was at the end of stage 4, and i went into stage 5, as she ended all contact with me, and blocked me. i was pretty popular in a community aswell so i got cancelled and kicked out for my obsession to this person. i tried to apologise sincerely, but not many people forgave me, let alone the victim herself.
so to anyone else who's currently going through, or already went through something like this: i know exactly what it feels like, and stage 5 is literally so horrible to go through, i'm sorry for those who have to go through something like this, and i'm also sorry for all the victims
This is how i feel right now. Doesn't help that they love bombed me at first, and their affection has become obsessive and toxic...
Yep, something is definitely wrong with my mind.
Mine too 😮💨
@@Dance_poetry_nature It's alright, we're not the only ones with fucked up minds.
@@jonathannicholas07 it sure is tiring as all hell. Just once I'd like a day of peace where my mind is quiet and it's not obsessing, not depressed, not anxious, just.... calm.
Remember you can still date multiple women. you don't need to always relying on one.
And once any girl gets Jelous cuz your dating or meeting other girls these are signs that she cares about you.
As a man don't chase, just attract without even thinking about her. Also, having good communication and purpose is more important than love and romance.
Don't let a pretty girl face fools you!
She is not what you think.
@@hyberkonawa272 ik but my mind automatically sexualizes girls😭
Ive been on the receiving end in the past, and to no surprise, im also on the obsessing end as well. Thankfully its never gotten destructive.. i talked about it with my very wonderful and understanding partner of 7+ years. Im still looking for what makes me happy in life, and just taking one day at a time.
It truly is about open communication and feeling each other. If you cant do that, obsessive or not, it wont last. Me and my partner have our moments, mostly from my insecurities.. but im a work in progress, and i refuse to give up.
Looking back now on me and her journeys, I'm so blessed to have my partner in life. Thats why I will do better, not just for her, but for me. Dont give up.
Wow this is what im going through, man i really hope im in the resolution. It's been a long journey
The animations are on point!!
I'm still recovering... God I wish I've never obssessed over him. If I didn't become obssessed we might've been friends right now... 😢
same 🙁❤️ i hope you’re okay
hey dont worry, I know like 10 guys who would do anything for someone like you. you'll find the right guy to lock up in your basement ❤
this is a joke I honestly worry for my friends. I'm glad you recognized your mistake, good luck with your next relationship
I have gone through this stages. After we stop see each other I realised my mistakes and the toxic habit that I make. Now I'm stoping my self from obsessing and wanting others. The realisation hit me hard and sometimes the guilt is killing me. But after all now I'm knowing my mistake.
do you want to be be friend with me?..
ion wanna be obsessed over someone once they show any kind of affection towards me ☹️
The animation is so adorable and beautiful
I broke up with my bf but he still wouldnt leave me alone believing me and him are still together, and he would constantly accuse me of cheating and losing feelings, at one point i got tired and blocked him because i did not like his behavior towards me and he kept begging for me to come back and when it was clear i didn’t want to, he started blackmailing me saying if i dont comeback he’ll ruin my life 💀, and even until now i am receiving message threats from him weekly saying he’d ruin my life because i ruined his life by leaving him
Hey that was me 😢
I just want to be friends with her after brekup because that feels me complete 💯 I don't want to act like in a bad manner 😢😢😢 I beg her plz don't block me 😢she blocked me from every social media accounts. she ruined my life I cry every day since 9 months.
Now I'm fighting with anxiety, tremors, depression,bad sleep,cut off from every single person of family, recurring thoughts of being suicidal 😢, consulting from a psychologist for last 3 months my life became hell because of a relationship plz God save me😢😢😢
Thank God I stopped at stage 2 and now I´m spending my time with myself :)
thank you for this psych2go
I need to admit, i had once the Obsessive love, but it all fell apart when they moved out to another country.
So it didn't had the time to consume me. I am glad that this channel and video exists! 😮❤
i for once feel like im lucky for being aromantic
So, you only have the sexual attraction to people? No like... social attraction? Its interesting.
I think i'm asexual, cuz all i want is to talk with people and hear them talking, no sexual attaction to anyone, huh.
@@AratGamerProductions Same ! Aromantic and asexual ! You feel natural single and love being single 🤩🤩
Thank you for posting this, it offered me a chance to reflect on my feelings toward someone I want to get with and check myself
Well, i dont know if its love at all, but i have like a little bit of obsessive things you've mentioned.
1. Often checking a messanger for new messages.
2. Overthinking and overanalysing conversations.
3. Sometimes thinking of what we can do together in the future, like, places we can go, or like: "We should talk more often", idk.
But maybe thats just because i dont really have much relations and conversations in life for... a half a decade rn at least, and thus I'm trying to catch any social fuel from a single friend i have.
I like to talk with her, but I dont think thats love at all. I dont know what the love is, huh. I dont have sexual attraction to anyone and never had, and I heard that its the one of the main aspects of love. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
thank you so much for this video ....😇
i recenly went through all this stages ...and i am happy that i overcome all this ...and focusing on myself now ......and our relationship is better than before 😇🥰
EARLYYY GANG YIPPIEEEE
Sometimes I think that a message of comfort or compliment from a stranger can mean everything to me. These are the times when I remember how lonely am I and without knowing someone that would help. It's hard to accept.
This is interesting
This was really interesting. I’ve never felt head over heels for someone before and I’ve never really had a real crush
So I'm basically obsessing over my obsessions💀
Are we the same person? Because, same.
The most relatable. Video so far
I am worried because my friend is like this 5:37
Same, Lived through an entire year like that.
It has started turning to stage 5 now (Thank God)
Same here
5 stages have taken me 5 years to finally complete only now do i realize how obsessed i was and how i can be
Wow that's fast
I can't lie going through this right now😢 after all you do for them😭 but I'm coping
Hello there
why is this so relatable
2:07 553 blue hour
I truly loved her and I believe she went through all this left me pretty much blindsided
I completely recognize myself in this video.
Once i was in love...and quickly became obsessed by one of my friends.But the problem is.. he was gr00mer and he really took advantage of it by manipulating me or touching..if you know what i mean.I was so obsessed that i thought i was normal and maybe the feelings were reciprocated..but no sometimes we were fighting cause i was jealous or cause he's avoiding,I was stalking him..but with help of my friends,I finally stopped with this obsession and finally let go..I still have feelings and i don't know what to do..if someone can give me some advices,it would be great.
@@jimmlmaoWHAT☠️☠️
@@jimmlmao i was not prepared💀🙏🏿🙏🏿
Sounds more like toxic bond to someone "lover" wants to have to themselfs no matter what, like a very liked toy.
In obsession love there is no love
Not really in obssesion can still be love someone who is obssesed with someone and doesn't wanna let the person go can still care about person's opinions thoughts needs and so on. I know it by my lover