When I recall my childhood in India and look back - I remember that all relationships among entire extended clan were focused on money and self interest and it was so nicely covered up that I did not realize its true colors at the time. So Indian society was always focused on money and self interest but now it is just coming out in open. If I had stayed back in India - I am sure that all these relatives will be piling on. In Joint family - some people worked and every one else was sitting around taking advantage of the income which belonged to every one in the joint system.
Thanks Hemant. I have been in France for 4 years. Been battling with myself whether to come back now or later. One of the factors that was not covered in the video, is the greed I see in India. the mad chase for more money. I just don't get it. I am in fact earning lower than what I would in India. But strangely there is more of headspace here. This greed is destroying relationship apart from the planet. Folks have become materialistic completely and self centered beyond repair.
good points- sir your view points and reasoning are true. but there are issues with relatives- who are diminishing importance with their narrow centric approach towards life and values and how they want to up bring and grow their families with bonding or not. as soft/sensitive natured human who believes all are our people were taken with advantage/abuse. that's an other reason why nuclear families are kept on growing.. they are growing with mental disabilities to tackle life's meaning and purpose will become distant far to imagine.
Another great topic Hemant Ji , sahi kaha apne overanalysis problem hi create karti hai ! If we need to make and keep relationships we need to stop judging others and have positive intentions . Sadly this is disappearing and it is double the magnitude when you are out of India , people certainly get offended easily and don’t even try to work things out and slowly that relationship fades away .
Mind blowing Dubey ji... what a true analysis. We should give values to family relationships and extend family and relationships. Otherwise we will be alone at the end. Fact, nothing goes with anyone. Really happiness is end story of life. Great effort for these videos.
These mental distances in relationships is also because of a highly stressful and competitive workplace. This creates a mental state where everyone thinks they are or have to be better than others. This mindset enters your personal life knowingly or unknowingly. You lose patience with your close relationships even because you start expecting perfection everywhere. A small mistake and you are unable to tolerate it. The education system and media, they don’t help either. All this stress and pressure to perform takes it’s toll. The other reason for this change in indian society is the lack of respect for housewives. This will lead to the very reason our “culture” ending. The pillar of the past was the mother, the wife which enabled the sustenance of relationships with love and with grace. Without us giving respect to that woman, we have lost that pillar. Young women don’t want to tolerate or that their mothers did and men can’t sustain relationships themselves without 100% investment from their wives. Development is COSTLY, you pay for it with mental peace and warmth of relationships.
You nailed it…pillar are the nurturing mothers. She is now insecure, disrespected. For the same reason you will see many females are outspoken now..they have had enough. In ancient days, she was addressed as Devi..now as kalashani. Society must ponder, but change has to begin at individual level. And it will be a slow process as society conditioning is as such.
Hi Hemant Ji, I am a permanent resident of Canada. It has been close to 2 years here. My plan has always been to earn a decent chunk of money for me to retire early and have a basic comfortable life in India. Love your content. Every subject you choose is so impactful. This is what youtube should be used for. Just wanted to appreciate your efforts and thoughts! Thank you :)
Nuclear families existed everywhere before but within the family there were plenty of misery and infighting. Conveniently, people look back and reminisce how everything was so great. It is all a myth. Relationship problems exited as far back as human history; it is who we are. Ask your grandparents honestly; I am sure they will tell you how one person bossed around and made life miserable for all.
In the quest of being successful, which for most is about getting rich, people are losing connection with family. There's a famous saying, "Daulat ko duniya salaam karti hai" so everyone is tirelessly running after it trying to go one up on another. If we Just let our relationship with our brothers, sisters, friends & family not be judged or affected by their/our financial status things would be easy. Heads-up video 👍
This is a hard fact about countries where females are independent or atleast have a strong sense of not to take crap from anyone. Hurt no one and take no crap is the motto of this generation. Serials like sas bhi kabhi bahu thi would have no relevance otherwise. Joints families are good if elders in the family know how to respect young generation rather than controlling them. Distance maintains mutual respect, but it comes with a cost. Cost is that females marry late, sometimes decide not to have a kid as typical Indian men don’t help their wife. Change has to begin from home…educating respect for everyone and men must learn to do chores.
USA is such a backward country for whamen. They didnt elect a female President, still dont have ab0rtion rights and the yt whamen had to fight with yt men for the right to work, drive, college, etc. So backward.
Most important is.... Always find time for your loved ones no matter what..wherever you stay. Every thing can wait, your job, your business, your meeting....etc Just sitting beside and listen to your mom or dad, cooking for them, going for a simple outing can't make a big difference.
Really helpful. Thankyou
Very nice video sir
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When I recall my childhood in India and look back - I remember that all relationships among entire extended clan were focused on money and self interest and it was so nicely covered up that I did not realize its true colors at the time. So Indian society was always focused on money and self interest but now it is just coming out in open. If I had stayed back in India - I am sure that all these relatives will be piling on. In Joint family - some people worked and every one else was sitting around taking advantage of the income which belonged to every one in the joint system.
Hemant, this is a stark reality
Thank you for talking about it.
It touched the very core of the heart❤
Thanks
Am a Tamilian marriage to Bihari. Bhai saab you are a great mentor. Love your thoughts
Thanks a lot
Thanks Hemant. I have been in France for 4 years. Been battling with myself whether to come back now or later. One of the factors that was not covered in the video, is the greed I see in India. the mad chase for more money. I just don't get it. I am in fact earning lower than what I would in India. But strangely there is more of headspace here. This greed is destroying relationship apart from the planet. Folks have become materialistic completely and self centered beyond repair.
Mostly true
Great insight sir
Thanks buddy
good points- sir your view points and reasoning are true. but there are issues with relatives- who are diminishing importance with their narrow centric approach towards life and values and how they want to up bring and grow their families with bonding or not.
as soft/sensitive natured human who believes all are our people were taken with advantage/abuse. that's an other reason why nuclear families are kept on growing.. they are growing with mental disabilities to tackle life's meaning and purpose will become distant far to imagine.
Another great topic Hemant Ji , sahi kaha apne overanalysis problem hi create karti hai ! If we need to make and keep relationships we need to stop judging others and have positive intentions . Sadly this is disappearing and it is double the magnitude when you are out of India , people certainly get offended easily and don’t even try to work things out and slowly that relationship fades away .
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Mind blowing Dubey ji... what a true analysis. We should give values to family relationships and extend family and relationships. Otherwise we will be alone at the end. Fact, nothing goes with anyone. Really happiness is end story of life. Great effort for these videos.
Thanks Naseem bhai
These mental distances in relationships is also because of a highly stressful and competitive workplace. This creates a mental state where everyone thinks they are or have to be better than others. This mindset enters your personal life knowingly or unknowingly. You lose patience with your close relationships even because you start expecting perfection everywhere. A small mistake and you are unable to tolerate it. The education system and media, they don’t help either. All this stress and pressure to perform takes it’s toll.
The other reason for this change in indian society is the lack of respect for housewives. This will lead to the very reason our “culture” ending. The pillar of the past was the mother, the wife which enabled the sustenance of relationships with love and with grace. Without us giving respect to that woman, we have lost that pillar. Young women don’t want to tolerate or that their mothers did and men can’t sustain relationships themselves without 100% investment from their wives.
Development is COSTLY, you pay for it with mental peace and warmth of relationships.
Nice perspective
You nailed it…pillar are the nurturing mothers. She is now insecure, disrespected. For the same reason you will see many females are outspoken now..they have had enough. In ancient days, she was addressed as Devi..now as kalashani. Society must ponder, but change has to begin at individual level. And it will be a slow process as society conditioning is as such.
Hi Hemant Ji, I am a permanent resident of Canada. It has been close to 2 years here. My plan has always been to earn a decent chunk of money for me to retire early and have a basic comfortable life in India. Love your content. Every subject you choose is so impactful. This is what youtube should be used for. Just wanted to appreciate your efforts and thoughts! Thank you :)
@chandni thanks buddy for appreciation
Nuclear families existed everywhere before but within the family there were plenty of misery and infighting. Conveniently, people look back and reminisce how everything was so great. It is all a myth. Relationship problems exited as far back as human history; it is who we are. Ask your grandparents honestly; I am sure they will tell you how one person bossed around and made life miserable for all.
Completely true
Thanks
In the quest of being successful, which for most is about getting rich, people are losing connection with family.
There's a famous saying, "Daulat ko duniya salaam karti hai" so everyone is tirelessly running after it trying to go one up on another.
If we Just let our relationship with our brothers, sisters, friends & family not be judged or affected by their/our financial status things would be easy.
Heads-up video 👍
Thanks
This is a hard fact about countries where females are independent or atleast have a strong sense of not to take crap from anyone. Hurt no one and take no crap is the motto of this generation. Serials like sas bhi kabhi bahu thi would have no relevance otherwise. Joints families are good if elders in the family know how to respect young generation rather than controlling them. Distance maintains mutual respect, but it comes with a cost. Cost is that females marry late, sometimes decide not to have a kid as typical Indian men don’t help their wife. Change has to begin from home…educating respect for everyone and men must learn to do chores.
USA is such a backward country for whamen. They didnt elect a female President, still dont have ab0rtion rights and the yt whamen had to fight with yt men for the right to work, drive, college, etc. So backward.
nice video :) bro
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Most important is....
Always find time for your loved ones no matter what..wherever you stay.
Every thing can wait, your job, your business, your meeting....etc
Just sitting beside and listen to your mom or dad, cooking for them, going for a simple outing can't make a big difference.
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