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Joint Family ke jhanjhat aur pareshaniyan!
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- Shridhar Maheshwari is a counselling psychologist (M.A). He counsels people on their life issues, trains psychology professionals and makes videos for public education.
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Sir aapse personal bat krni ho to
In joint family my life really became like he'll..I'm suffering from depression 😪
Mee to sister
Same here
Same
I am but I love my family
Same
kitne mature ho aap...😘😘😘apke jesa hubby ho to life kitni best😍😍
I used to suggest this solution from past 30 years but people want slave to dominate so they donot want to live separately.
Some people enjoy day to day small fight as they have lots of energy and that is spice of their life.
Enjoy day to day fight ... hahaha 😂
I couldn't agree more
Much needed video...Indian families refuse to understand the advantages of neighbouring families concept...
Kuch kuch log buss tanne marte rehte kisi ko jo sun leta rehta hai 🥺
Loved this video .... all the small small but really mind taking points covered. I could relate your childhood story with mine after my marriage. How to deal with the mother in law who is too much dominant and never let daughters in laws have peace is a biggest problem. We are nuclear families but fight is tend to happen between the couple wherever she goes. My husband and his brother both respect her so much. Even me and my jethani also understand and respect that. Then also it happens that I console her when mil stays with her and she is an sympathetic ear to me when mil is with me. Specially in this covid time when we don't want them to stay separate but it is at the cost of our mental peace. Thanks for taking this issue.... I really admire
Kabi kabi joint family ki wja se ldkiyo ki life b kharab ho jati h
Shridhar , today onwards I m fan of yours....I was following most of these changes but sometimes people make us feel guilty for such behavior....but now you gave a big thumps up...thank u so much for addressing such crucial yet most discussed topic....
Bht zbrdst suggestions ap ny dye.. Allah apko muslaman kary.. ameen
What an amazing content again! Very very required for lots of families.
Beautifully explained
Especially nayi bahu concept, totally agree
@Preeti Srijith shadi kare ge aisa sun ke
I would say that joint family is a complete hell for women.They are treated like slaves.
I was born and brought up in a joint family but I had seen clashes more than happiness. The atmosphere was highly toxic and everyday saas bahus used to fight like cats and dogs and there was no privacy.
The peaceful atmosphere I found later was in a nuclear family. Even after marriage I live separately with my husband bcoz I already decided not to marry in a joint family. My husband had already buy a house before marriage.
Ohh wow but you are lucky but joint family have also have advantages help support
3:38 biggest scam.... 🤣🤣
9:14 people don't spend time with each other that's the sole reason families were sustained for so many decades
Par sabse badi samasya to yah hai ki....ghar ke purusho ko koi fark nahi padta join family me.. esliye agar unki wife alag hone ki baat karti hai to unko lgta hai ki vo unko unke ma baap se alag karana chahti hai
Mera v same
Sahi kaha 😢
Pass rahkr dur raho usse acha h dur rahkr pass rahna
Bilkul Sahi Kaha admiyo ko relays karaye
Asa sab log nhi sochte itna toh ladko ko b pta hai saas Bahu nanand bhabhi ka jmta nhi
Superb I wish we can put ur video in family so that they accept
Been living separately from the joint family. But due to some problems I had to shift to my dad's JF. And since then all my problems started to reflect. So ultimately me & dad moved to a different address altogether in the same city. My two uncle's (dad's brother) family also took the same decision but moved not so far from their ancestral house.
Very useful video.
its fantastic video sir ...
Wow bhai awesome speech.
You’re great at your work.. keep up the good work of spreading awareness on this topic which is really needed for millions of people around the world👍
there’s still so much of illiteracy within people because of which the system of joint families is collapsing..
if possible please touch base the topic of how to deal with your husband who is brainwashed to such a manner that he thinks going against his parents and living in a separate house will bring all sorts of calamities and unluck in his life!!
I have seen your this video first time ..aisa lag raha tha ki ye to meri hi baare me baat ho rahi h ..bahut achhe se samajh aayi aapki baat me joint family me rehte hue peace nahi h koi private space nahi h ....mai bhi sochti hu akele kaise rahenge Kya karenge but this option too good...thank you so much meri life ki itni badi problem solve Karne k liye really thank u bottom of my ❤️
Fantastic video! Thanks
But see in this case it father has to sacrifice he has to live in old house n ur kaki family got new house . U are really right
Thanks a Lot Brother Shridhar..This Video was very Informative
Bahut sahi kaha aapne I m fan of yours
Joint family me rahna chutiyapa hain bhai kabhi bhii na rahna , agar cousins hote hain toh unhme fights ho jaati hai , agar bahuen hoti hain unme fight ho jaati hai , ek dusre se jalan jalapa rahta hai , isse accha hai ki agal ghar ya flat me sukoon ki zindagi jiyo.
What should I do plz tell
Wah kya video haii ♥️♥️♥️
Yah Jo sari baten aapane batai yah hamari family se bilkul मिलती-जुलती hai
This is the first video i have watched and i am the new subscriber & watching great valueable content
Thank you Shridhar
Thank you so much
This is the solution where parents in the family are financially independent …but what will someone do if the in laws are totally financially dependent on the couple …no income whatsoever…and still does not corporate at all. Basically they are dependents so you cannot be separate because of the expenses and your mental health just gets broken because of living with them. Living separately is not poss and living together is hell.
yes. in childhood when we were dependent on them, as kids our opinions and preferences had no value, we had to "get first rank in class" to get small wishes met. but now when we become independent and they become dependent, but their opinion they want to have as much weight as it had earlier. they won't compromise on anything, moreover indirectly coerce and manipulate by gossiping in relatives and friends about how DIL is such a useless person coz she won't listen and comply to their wishes.
i grew up in joint family and it pissed me off so much, i won't have kids. i don't want them to be judged by their score and asked every year "what you want to become" when their freedom to explore is suffocated out of them.
I really liked this video sir. There is only one point on which I have a different view. You said towards the end that "ek baar shaadi kar leta hai toh uska status ek adult ka hota hai". I don't agree that marriage is necessary for a person to be considered an adult. Because there may be a person who chooses not to marry. So in my opinion, once a person is around 22 years of age and has a job, he is an adult.
Joint family is good until the whole financial burden is upon one member....
True
True
But what's the solution... I'm facing the same problem.. whole financial burden is on me
very nice video
I like this video too much... zindage jeenay ke rasta bata de aap nay...
Very effective and simple words thx
I have been going through a very bad situation for the last 2 years, my in-laws are very bad people, my husband's mind is very good but he doesn't listen to me. With my husband for my in-laws My relationship is getting worse,😭😭😭😔
Chill yr ... It's hepenning to every hose 👍
Divorce him
I am Proud of myself ki Maine Apni Family mei Kisi ka Encounter Nhi Kiya
Very nice video i feel this is the solution
Apne bilkul sahi kaha lekin Mera kehna h k agar joint family me sab graduate hain tab adjust karna sahi h lekin agar apke alawa koi graduate na ho to aap jald se jald us joint family se door ho jayen.
Thank you
I love your videos
Very helpful video 🤠
Very helpful video
sir aapne mera bht had tak prblm solve kiya... thnku sir....
Apki baaten 💯 parsent sach hea
Very nice video,
Thanks😊😊
Very nice thinking
Very nice
Thank you for the suggestion
Amazing ❤😊
Superb Videos bro👍👍
Example - after partition still have joint huge home..... independent nuclear joint family(separate kitchen): all nuclear family rooms are set together make them joint family (clarity - financial (division), amount of autonomy in subject), privacy, dicision making
Very very good adwaiz bro
Aaj apki video dekhi pahli bar same situation mai apne in laws me face kr rhi hu meri shadi love marriage huyi hai mere sasural me har 4 din bad koi n koi bahah jhagde hote rahte h kabhi khana banane ko leke kyunki mai ghar me sabse choti hu to sara kam mujhpe chhod diya jata h chhote hone ki wajah se kisiko kuch bolna bhi sahi nhi hai .।।। Mere sasural me kuch dino se problem chal rahi h mere husband 3 bhai h mere saas sasur nhi hai meri do badi jethaniya h mai ghar me sabse chhoti hu meri shadi ko ek saal ho gye hai mere husband police me h wo jiski wajah se wo ghar se dur rahte h bas chhuttiyo me hi ghar aate h unka man h mujhe apne sath leke jane ka lekin meri dono jhethainiyo ko ye bilkul pasand nhi hai wo log soch rahe hai ki hum log unka ghar tod rahe h bar bar shadi ke tane marti h kyunki hamari shadi mere jheth jethaniyo ne ki h wo log chahati h ki sab sath rahe bahut bahas huyi es bat pe chup rahne ke bad bhi sunana padata h mujhe aur mere husband ko samjh nhi aata kya kru sasural me rahu join family banke jo ki bas naam ki join family h ya phir husband ke sath bahut pareshan hu pls koi suggetion dijiye 🙏🙏
Bhn meri bhi love marriage h bhn ye log na dil se except nhi krte h sach btau to sabse bdi baat husband wife ki bat nhi mante to log fayda hi uthate h mere saas sasur jethani hai saas jethani ki bnti h mujhe har baat p taane marte rehte h pehnne odhne o dikkat husband ko bhdkana jbse m shadi kr k gai hu inke ghr m kuch na kuch hota hi h mujhe pehle nhi pta tha ab ye sara blame mujh p dete h tu pnoti h Inka kam nhi chl rha shadi k bad 3 bar kam chhod k Beth gae paise bhi nhi mile nokri kha gai mayke aai hu lene nhi aa rhe 3 month ka baby h pragnent hu aisa lg rha h meri zindagi khtm ho gai h mummy papa bhi nhi h bhaiya bhabhi h unse bhi meri mere bhai se suru se nhi bni wo shadi se khush bhi nhi tha bus bhai ne kr di kl ko m na bolu ab krne k baad bhi sab khrab hi chl rha h
Such a great advice sir thank you so much 😊
Sir can u give the ideas! How to separate from joint family to nuclear family?
Bro my joint family was totally chilling and happiness as i was born in it but when my all cousins got married specially because of sister in laws use to fight all day and seperated the family for themselves. Now my cousins are suffering so much 😭
Thnku🙏
Sir can u please make video what is the role of husband in a joint family for her wife. Because many times wife feel that he just listen to his family not wife
Sir can you make a video on how to regain/ rebuild trust once broken in married life..
Right sir very very helpful video for me 🙂☺️
ye umr aur ye maturity. wah
Very nice sir
The problem is that they treat u as a child in joint family. Not like an adult.
Thank you ❤
NUCLEAR VS JOINT FAMILY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I like your video what u said is true
Thank you.
Hi sir good morning 🙏 thanks u so much
U r too good
Bhut ache
Really good vedio
Mera serf eki hein sapne abhi khudka ghad or flat Lena parents ko leke alag ho jana hein bohot toxic ho gaya hein mera to😢
Koi kisi ka ni sochta sab khud ke bare m phle sochte h seprate raho khush rho
Meri family pehle nuclear thi. Joint family m Sadi ho gai. Sara Kam mere upar thop Diya.
Divorce le khud kama apni life jee fir tujhe kuchh saal baad pata chalega ki wo life jo tu chhor ke ayi thi wahi jannat thi
Thank u
Thanks
Hi your videos are very practical...
But my question is that is it correct that a girl marries into a family and does not stay with them. She does not even try to mix into the family....
They immediately move into Newhouse. Dont parents get offended and feel bad. Is it correct
Allah khush rakhey Aamin
Sam broni did same thing I am happy
I have a suggestion Content topic- how to make husband bond with wife family
Mom dad jan buzke unke bête ko space nahi dena chahte…
I wish every boy was mature like you
India mai log bohat board minded hai but gulf ke log bohat conservative hote hai bcoz they live in rent house
Problems faced by Newly married couples in joint family, plz make।a video
Sir mujhe Mera past me failure bhut dukh deta h.... Vo memory mere mind se ni niklti h &. Present bhi hope less ho jata h.. aage exam AA rhi h but Mera dimag to us baat ko lekar regret krta h ki ...." KASH us time mene exam clear KR liya hota to aaj life kuch or hoti"...
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne
The concept of a neighborhood family will work only when the necessary ground work is done. Those wishing to stay in separate houses in the vicinity of each other should have proper love and affection for each other from the beginning. Otherwise not many people will like to stay in houses very close to each other.
5:49 about respect ❤
Sir please go some detaile thanks for this talks talk about joint business in joint familey
Ladies aur baccho ki padhai nhi ho pati joint family. Khuch log khuch nhi katre aur khuch logo ko extra mehnat karni padti. Khuch log apna kharcha nhi dete aur khuch logo per jada kharcha karna padta h
Shi baat h esa hi hmare ghr ho rha h. .
Joined family me saas devrani our meri Kam ki bhut jyada ladai hoti hai.... Jents ke bizness me bhut ekta hai..
Kammal karti veerg
Please make more content on joint family
ThankYou very much sir
Hi, what to do if husband didn't listen to you. He can't take his decisions independently. For every thing he want to talk to his mother. As of now also our relationship is towards divorce. But he still don't want to take any step without his parents decision.
This is in almost every Indian house so don't worry , adjust thinking instead of giving Cancer or any dangerous disease God gave this problem and try to be calm.
Aur ladkiyo se expect kara jata hai ki won 100% adjust kare
Agar hum apne mummy ko baat baat m lane lagge tho inlaws k muhun ban jata hai
Jab ladke k ma baap interfare karte hai tho ladkiyo k kyu nahi
2 room 2 bhai ek ko sab facility ek jhopdi, dono bhai ka contro same, acchi life style chote bhai ko automatic mil rahi hai ,aur hum zopli chawal room me
Bilkul shii beat mere bhai
hi sir..mere brkup ko 11 months ho chuke h but still me abhi bhi aage nhi bd paayi hu....mere ex ko anger issues and trust issues the..shaam ko bht sunaana or subh phr se normal hokr pyaar se baat krna...ye continue rha 5-6 months tk..mene bht baar koshish kri usko smjhane ki pr kv kuch chng nhi hua..is sb ki vjh se meri pdai khrab hone lgi ..me khud preshaan rhne lgri thi..last m mene hi brkup kr liya..hmari rltnship 4yrs 8 mnths ki rhi..mujhe bura isi baat se lgta tha ki sb kuch btane pr bhi use kbhi trust nhi hua ...me use vaps nhi chahti hu apni lyf m..kyuki brkup krne k baad usne bht kuch kiya jiske baad me vaps nhi jana chahti hu..me nfrt nhi krti usse...
7-8 mnth se ptani me hr tym 1-2 ghnte m apne hand wash krti rhti hu mujhe lgta rhta h ki mere haath or me gndi hu...me khana khate tym bhi sochti rhti hu ki mere haatho se germs mere muh m jaa rhe h..phle esa jyada nhi tha...pr ab hr tym khana khate hue even paani peete hue..mujhe lgta rhta ki hr chij gndi h ..bottle gndi h plate gndi h..meri bedsheet gndi h ..mera study table gnda h...i don't knw wht to do ...plz help
vo hr chij m acha tha responsible tha..caring tha pr ptani kyu kbhi trust hi nhi kiya mujhe..mene kbhi chupaya nhi usse kuch bhi..meri first rltnship thi or uski 2nd...vo mere sath stadium bhi jata tha..pr ab sb chng ho gya h mera weight gain ho gya h ..mene sports bnd kr diye stadium nhi jaati ab....pr ab hr tym mujhe yhi lgta rhta h ki aas paas bht dust h gandgi h ..plz help sir
i finally got my ans sir.... apki previous videos m bht kuch sunne or jaanne k liye....thank you sir
@@meaj7969 you are suffering from “OCD”
hamara aj k daur m b yhi haal h ...i feel so frustrated