It's freaking 2021, not sure why this lady still want to be a niam yau and live like hundreds of years ago. All the fighting that women have done for hundreds of years so women can get equality, seem like it just went to waste listening to this lady.
My thought exactly! Hell no, I know my worth and nothing will do unless I'm the center of the universe in my husband's eyes. I don't understand how women like this lady is ok with being 2nd and getting 2nd.
@@maipha8560 saying and doing it is different, when u are on the spot, it's different....I don't know how to explain it its like for example...oh if my wife cheat on me...I will dump her...etc...but when it happens....shot so many goes through your mind, your happiness or your kids happiness....it's rough, it really is, and the timing and your surroundings affects everything
@@mountainvang6148 sorry but cheating is one of my non-negotiable. Once that line is crossed, there's no point of return. I'm sure my husband feels the same. When that trust/contract is broken, we can be happier living apart vs hurting each other and our kids living together.
@@maipha8560 u might be right and I respect your opinion but everyone think differently...but everything is negotiable except price at the store 😆 have a good one and be safe Mai pha
Tu siab kawg uas peb cov Txiv Tsev dag cov pojniam los ua lub neej nrog kua muag li no. Nrog koj tu siab kawg mog uas koj los yuav luag yam Tsis paub qhov tseeb os me viv ncaus.
Yog kawg. She can't blame the niam hlob and her relatives for treating her like sh*t. She's already told them she's sh*t when she know she was going to be a niam yau. She's also weak sauce so the husband and first wife treat her like rag, she brought it among herself.
@@unkunk82 if all us women come together and not allow us to be a second wife then no man can have a second wife. Like man, none of them wants to be a second husband that is why there is no second husband.
Did you think he was just going to leave his wife and children for you?? You can’t blame niam loj for treating you badly. You purposely try to ruin niam loj’s marriage by knowingly marrying her husband. Men like this husband does not deserve good women, not worth you fighting for. Love and respect yourself, you don’t need a loser like that to complete your life. Ntshaw tus txiv lub xub ntiag ces ua li niam loj hais os kawg mus yuav yus ib tug xwb cas tseem mus txeeb luag tug.
This should happen to all those ladies who goes after another woman's man! Loved it when everyone hated her. Sweet revenge for the lady of the house.....
Yep at least the first wife know her worth. 2nd wife is weak sauce and ok to be used as a rag. She knew her life will be miserable because the husband is a coward and if he can cheat on his first wife, what make you think he's not going to treat you like crap.
Girl, yes!!! Great ending, glad to hear that u left, never be someone’s 2nd choice. U deserve better, even if it means being single. Love ur self and u will find happiness.
Should've left when you found out he was still married. You chose your own path to be a Niam Yau. Don't expect to much when are married to a guy who still have a wife.
Plus his 1st wife is the woman in her own castle, she wear the pants in the house. This dude is a coward, he can't live up to his words. Plus he's using her like property, she was too ignorant and in denial. See, when she stop living in denial, she had the courage to put her foot down and said enough is enough and walk out. She could've done that the minute she found out he was still married.
@@maipha8560 agree. I mean no man or marriage is perfect. Her first marriage was abusive, her second though her husband loves her she was a Niam yau and hated by others, I think her third marriage is best for her. She said her third marriage is not good as well, but her only reason was the husband doesn't make much money. Well... girl, work!!!
@@maiherojj This lady isn't using her brain but her downstairs sister. Also, I only hear her desperation in trying to find Mr. Right. My recommendation for her is to find herself, know what she wants, and quit being so desperate to jump in the wagon. If she know her worth, a worthy man will come find her....that's my belief.
Being a second wife does not mean you get everything the first wife and the husb worked so hard for. Sucks that the husb lied to you but you always have a choice to leave when you find out he’s still married.
I agreed completely. I think she was making excuse. She has no plan for her own future. I would've thought that the abuse and horrid treatment from her first husband would've taught her to stay away from toxic relationship. Nope, she ran from the squeeze of the snake into the mouth of the lion. If this was me, the minute I found out he's married, I would've dump his a$$ so fast plus teach him a lesson never to use or see women as objects.
Having a child won’t change anything! It’s just a burden on you if things don’t work out! You should have known better to leave at the beginning when he lied to you! I do not feel sorry for you second wife.
I say the same. Thanks goodness no child was brought into this world to witness this horrible example. When someone loves you, they will cross the widest ocean and climb the tallest mountain for you. Too bad she was in denial and wasted 6 years - that's way too long.
She didn’t know that she was worthy of respect and love. Everyone please support each other. These men will lie and make you do whatever they want for their benefit. This woman never experienced true love before. Especially Hmong women. We go through the most shit.
If I were u, I would have left when I found out about his marriage. This is y hmong men treat us hmong women badly bc some are willing to be second wife like this. Let's start a group for hmong women to understand our worth n done be anyone's second, 3rd, or 4th wives from now on. I think we're smart enough to do that ladies.
For real and quit using the "blind to love" excuses. This is the land of opportunities and that cycle of polygamy needs to end. It ends with us, we can be the change we want to see.
Kuv xav tias yeej tsis muaj ib tug niam loj es yuav zoo2 siab tus txiv yuav niam yau es yuav los ua zoo2 rau tus niam yau li os. Tus niam loj ham tsis yuav ua kom zoo nws lub siab thiab. Vim nws mob siab txaus lawm. Nws chim siab txhua2 hnub es nws yuav ua cas ua zoo taus rau niam yau os. Yog thaum paub tias luag tseem muaj pojniam ces tso plhuav tseg khiav kom deb li deb tau xwb.
Hais tau tu siab kawg li os peb civ niam yau ces yeej zoo li koj hais es thiaj tu siab npaum li no mas viv ncaus kaj tsij ntxov tso tseg thaum tsis tau muaj me nyuam thiaj tsis nyuaj siab os nawb
I don't understand why woman think that people should feel sorry for them when they clearly see that the guy already have a wife but she is still willing to be in the relationship. You shouldn't feel bad about how others treat you. SMH stupid..
Mi viv ncaus Aw !!! Cas yuav ntxim hlub ua luaj li os koj tso tau lawm ces tso mog . Txhob tu siab tus txiv ko nws tsi hlub koj tiag nws dag koj rau luag tsim rau nws ntsia xwb saib saib luag tsim neeg es quajj li cas chim li cas nyuaj li cas rau nws ntsia ua ib txoj kev rau nws kàwm xwb mog ... txhob khuv xim ib tus neeg phem Lim hiam li ntawv mog ..cov neeg ntxub ntxub neeg li cov poj niam no Yog cov es ua niam yau los yuav lom niam loj ho ua niam loj los tua niam yau os mog cov neeg no lam khav dawb qhov tseeb tiag lawv siab twb tsi ntse twb tsi muaj ib yam dab tsi
How can you married someone you didn't even know his family???? I am sure you are willing to be niam yau anyway. There are many ways many relatives out there that you can asked and searched for his background. You're so careless. You deserve to be treated like that, don't feel sorry.
She's in denial and turn a blind eye. After what her first husband did to her, if I were her, I make sure my next husband pass an FBI background check. She sounds too desperate and perhaps there's no more men left in this world so she's willing to be 2nd.
This is the niam yau story but no one seems to blame the husband. The guy is to blame in the situation just as much. -__- Txiv neej lub siab hlob dhau lawm.
I disagreed, he didn't hold a gun to her head and force her to be his 2nd wife. She has choices, she choose to devalue herself and live like a rag. Wasted 6 years with this douchebag and the 1st wife who wear the pants in the house. That's too much time wasted. If she invested $$ for that 6 years, she'd be a millionaire by now.
he's not the one to blame txiv neej yeej liam li no. the niam yau is. men will do or say whatever they want to get you but if you're a good person you will not walk into someone's life and think you can take everything. this woman don't even deserve the beating ex
Wow! You cannot blame his family and friends for not respecting you when you purposely took their nyab and friend’s husband. There is no perfect life. You need to re-evaluate yourself and change to better your life. Don’t expect a man to change your life and make it better for you. YOU need to make it better for you.
Love yourself first. Never settled for being someone's seconds when you can be someone's firsts. He is married. Leave him. He don't deserve you. If he lied to get you and refused to even married you properly then you should alreay know how your future is going to be with him. Don't expect the first wife to give you everything that they worked for. Don't expect the first wife to freely give her husband over to you. No woman would do that. Especially when she spent all her life with him already. The first wife know her power and she used it well.. All women should know that no matter how bad the first wife is. The husband will always abide by her. If he didn't/wouldn't he would have divorced her before getting with you. Love yourself and set goals for yourself. You don't need a half ass man. Good luck to you and your future. 1st lesson in life never get with a married man/woman. Nothing good ever comes out of taking what belongs to someone else's.
Women, no men is ever worth it. Don't put yourself through that type of life. And for the people, don't ever put someone through mental, emotional and verbal abuse because your son/brother couldn't keep his zipper zipped. If anything, the son/brother is to blame. He is the man who caused all those pain the two ladies are going through.
Txiv dev ces Tsis txau lawv tus me kwv...txawj2 dag tabsis ua Tsis tau txiv... kuv Tsis tuaj leeg twg tos... kuv Hlub tus niam tsev no txom nyem Siab kawg
I believe everything that start with impurity eventually will end with tragic and sadness. Hmoob Hais tias, "ua zoo tau zoo, pjb qhov phem tau qhov phem."
Sister I was divorced at age of 40 years old, I stay single for 8 years finally I thing is enough to stay single so I date only American people I meet my husband we’re very happy he take me to go all over the world 🌎 we went to most state of United state and I don’t have any Hmong man to control my life anymore
I can't believe this woman have the guts to tell her story thinking someone's going to synthesize her. To me from the very beginning she already has an agenda hoping to take the 1st wife's spot. She deserved every thing she got. She thought she was going to get a great welcome with open arms from the family. You accepted to be the 2nd wife stupid. What did you expect!! Women do not support women is clearly this case. You walked in knowing the situation and you stayed. You're lucky you weren't tortured worse.
Lady..you can't blamed the 1st wife. You pretty much steal her husband. You're lucky to be there with her and her husband. This is United States, we don't live in laos anymore.
🤦🤦🤦I have so much to say for this story but there's not enough room. Lady when you start your life with lie and dishonest, expect that's how your future will be. This lady didn't think with her brain but her downstairs sister. I really don't pity her and I 👏👏👏 the first wife for standing her ground. The only way to stop the practice of niam hlob and niam yau is when the first wife stand her ground and make life living hell for both the niam yau and the husband. It worked in this story. Remember that actions have consequences.
I'm glad the first wife didn't let the husband and 2nd wife walk all over her like a typical first hmong wife. Trust me. If the 1st wife was soft hearted, the husband and 2nd wife would mistreated the 1st wife so bad.
@@maryly09 for sure. If my husband ever take a niam yau, hell will break lose. Don't mess with me because I don't care for a cheater and trying to live a life like the imperial China era. NO THANK YOU!!!
Omg...people with multiple wives stories give me a big headache and I have little respect and patience for these people. Please respect and love yourself women! There are plenty of fish in the sea that you do not need to be a 2nd, 3rd, 4th or whatever number wife. Women, you have more power and strengths than that. Know you are worthy. Your mom didn't give birth to you to settle for less and live that kind of life.
I don’t feel bad for you. Yes I understand you didn’t know but when you found out, you should have left. Not having someone to sweet talk to you is better than what you’re going through being a Niam yau. It’s nasty and you are selfish, you only think about how much you needed his sweet talk, you don’t consider his wife’s feelings.
This BS! As niam yau, you shouldn't expect much, but no matter what is never enough for you. There are many men with multiple wives in my family and niam yau is always the one that controls the man and his favorite. Niam loj gets nothing!
Don't understand why any woman nowadays would allow a second wife and why any woman would be willing to be a second wife. You second wife had a choice to not be a second wife. Too bad for you, don't feel sorry for you. First wife hurts more than you!
Peb hmoob nyob sab ntuj twg los niam yeej tsi nkag siab tias tus txiv yog tus txaus vim peb poj niam txhua tus ntshaw txoj kev hlub ib yam xwb yuav sib tsim ces txhob yuav xum xa luag rov qab xwb zoo dua mog
Sorry but not sorry. You knew what you’re getting into. You have no rights to his wife’s things. You need to love and respect yourself and stop being cheap and easy. You don’t need a man to complete your life.
Wow, this stuff still happens? We’re in 2021! This lady has no self esteem and self respect. You never steal another woman’s husband. I don’t care if he lied to you. You should have the self respect to walk away when you found out he was married. You’re too stupid to fall into his trap. I do not feel sorry for you. You get what you deserve. There’s so many men out there but u choose to be a second wife. I had to stop listening to his stupid lady’s story. What a waste of my time.
Lady, not sure why you’re complaining about the 1st wife. If you were in her shoe you will do/feel the same way. You knew what you were getting yourself into the moment you found out he lied to you. The husband knows he will be homeless if he leaves his wife/kids that why all he can tell you is ua siab tev, and you fell for it.
Tsis yog tshua nqi tab sis yog txiv neej tag lawm es thiaj ua niam yau xwb os. Ntuj muab ob lub qhov muag rau yus los xaiv yus lub neej tab sis cov ua niam yau yeej niam luag tug xwb. Yus muaj kev txiav txim siab yuav yuav los yuav tso. Tso los yeej tsis tuag ib zaug li yog xav tau lub neej zoo yeej ua siab tso tau kawg li os.
Tus niam loj hais thiab ua txhua yam yog lawm .ntshaw luag txiv ces yuav tsum txhob xyeej luag tiag vim nws tsis uv nws tus txeeb luag tug ces yeej kawg li ntawd thaum yus tham luag tus txiv yus ho tsis hnov vuab tsuab thaum txeem los koom lub neej koom ua ke ho qias thiab ho xav2 kom luag nrauj luag tus niam loj ces yeej yog nws ntshaw3 luag lub neej tiag nej sim mloog nws cov lus thaum xaus saib mas yog ntshaw3 luag lub neej tshaj tiag.
Nej cov ntshaw2 luag tej txiv nas twb tss tau txaus nej sim saib seb cov txiv neej lawv puas hais tias tsuav koj hlub kuv ces kuv yuav cia koj yuav ib tug txiv yau no nas los tsuas yog nej cov ntshaw2 luag tej txiv nas
Tus viv ncaws aw tim koj xwb os txhob tu siab os.thaum i kuv twb raug dag li koj thiab kuv mu txog nws muaj niam loj khov kho kuv tsis yuav nws hais zoo kom kuv nyob kuv tsis kam kuv los kuv tsis khes.kuv xav tias kuv tsis xav txeeb lwm tus lub neej thiaj kuv tsis xav kom lawv cem kuv .kuv rov qab los tsis khe txog nws li os.
Kuv ce tus siab ntsaj koj lawm thiab os niam laus aw kuv lub neej ua niam yaus tib yam mob tiag tiag tsuas yog tsis tog es ntsav tsis los xwb mob tau qhuav siab qhawv xwb os
Even if you have a child with him, what makes you think it’ll change the situation? It’s still gonna be the same. Only you that still want to linger around. Leave, you’ll be happier than living in that kind of lifestyle.
Tu viv ncaus awsss.....lub neej muaj niam loj niam yau ces yeej tsis muaj hnub kaj siab li nawb....yog luag tu niam loj phem phem ces lawv yeej nrauj tas mam yuav niam yau os...xav tau lub neej kaj siab ces mus yuav tu kav tug xwb mog...tu txiv txawm hlub koj npaum li cas lo nws yeej ua tsis dhau tu niam loj vim luag lub neej loj thiab khov luag yeem xaiv luag lub neej nawb
The practice of Polygamy should be obsolete in the Hmong culture. To the niam yau in this story, what do you expect? Do you expect to be love, cherish, and accepted by his wife and family? How? This practice is illegal as well as immoral.
Kj tus txiv g hlub kj tiag os nw yeej tuav tswv yim nrog niam loj ua ntej ta li e txhua zaum neb yuav tawm rooj niam loj thiaj paub txhua zaus g yuav lo zoo nb
Sister, stop saying it’s your destiny to be a 2nd wife!!! Everyone has a choice and you made a bad choice. Knowing that he’s married....you know exactly what you’re getting yourself into!!! No first wives want to have a 2nd wife!!!!! Sorry
Twb nyob usa lawm, Poj hmoob cas ntsaw txiv ua lauj li, paub me xwb cas CIA li yuav. Tej zaum kj yog neeg seem. Dab tuag tsi muaj neeg nyiam kj. Txiv nraug seem muaj coob kawg os.
Poj hmoob aw leej twg hais rau koj tias yuav luag txiv es koj muaj cai na. Maum dev xwb ces nyob qab txag xwb ma koj g muaj cai mus tseeb luag txiv vim koj g dig muag lag ntseg
Cas koj ntshaw ib tug txiv uas hlub koj xwb es ho mud txeeb luag tus txiv ya dabtsi? Cov poj niam uas yeem mud ua luag niam Tau tseem muaj phlus tuaj hais thiab ....txiv neej ntiaj teb no twb Tuag tsis Tau tag ne tus tseem mus yuav luag tus txiv thiab .thaum tsis paub mas xam tias tsis paub tabsis twb paub lawm Los tseem xum yuav nyob txeeb koj tau luag tus txiv ntxim ntxub tshaj
Nobody say being a second wife is good. U should know better marry to other people's husband. No exceptions.
It's freaking 2021, not sure why this lady still want to be a niam yau and live like hundreds of years ago. All the fighting that women have done for hundreds of years so women can get equality, seem like it just went to waste listening to this lady.
@@phongmoua3229 😂😂😂 that can still be found elsewhere, not a good enough reason to be a niam yau.
@@maipha8560 koj hais yog lawm Idk what made she be second wife crazy tiag li os
Txhob tu siab os tus Niam loj tseem mob siab thiab tu siab tshaj koj os kuv hlub niam loj dua os
When you didn't know, you didn't know. But when you found out the truth, why the hell did you still stay? You got what you deserve.
My thought exactly! Hell no, I know my worth and nothing will do unless I'm the center of the universe in my husband's eyes. I don't understand how women like this lady is ok with being 2nd and getting 2nd.
Yup! I would’ve left his ass the very moment he told me. Must be some desperate woman!
@@maipha8560 saying and doing it is different, when u are on the spot, it's different....I don't know how to explain it its like for example...oh if my wife cheat on me...I will dump her...etc...but when it happens....shot so many goes through your mind, your happiness or your kids happiness....it's rough, it really is, and the timing and your surroundings affects everything
@@mountainvang6148 sorry but cheating is one of my non-negotiable. Once that line is crossed, there's no point of return. I'm sure my husband feels the same. When that trust/contract is broken, we can be happier living apart vs hurting each other and our kids living together.
@@maipha8560 u might be right and I respect your opinion but everyone think differently...but everything is negotiable except price at the store 😆 have a good one and be safe Mai pha
Tu siab kawg uas peb cov Txiv Tsev dag cov pojniam los ua lub neej nrog kua muag li no. Nrog koj tu siab kawg mog uas koj los yuav luag yam Tsis paub qhov tseeb os me viv ncaus.
Kj hai yog lawm os cov txiv neej yeej siab phem tiag li os lawv aw
To all the Floor mats... dont think you can come take someone's life. We've worked hard for it. Thanks for your time. 👍
Yog kawg. She can't blame the niam hlob and her relatives for treating her like sh*t. She's already told them she's sh*t when she know she was going to be a niam yau. She's also weak sauce so the husband and first wife treat her like rag, she brought it among herself.
The audacity to try to take what's not theirs.....
Dang don’t be so old fashion, it’s the hubby’s fault...open ur eyes!
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@@unkunk82 if all us women come together and not allow us to be a second wife then no man can have a second wife. Like man, none of them wants to be a second husband that is why there is no second husband.
Did you think he was just going to leave his wife and children for you?? You can’t blame niam loj for treating you badly. You purposely try to ruin niam loj’s marriage by knowingly marrying her husband. Men like this husband does not deserve good women, not worth you fighting for.
Love and respect yourself, you don’t need a loser like that to complete your life.
Ntshaw tus txiv lub xub ntiag ces ua li niam loj hais os kawg mus yuav yus ib tug xwb cas tseem mus txeeb luag tug.
You do know, you can leave, right!? I don’t get why you stay and put up with the B.S. At the end of the day it’s your own fault.
This should happen to all those ladies who goes after another woman's man! Loved it when everyone hated her. Sweet revenge for the lady of the house.....
Yep at least the first wife know her worth. 2nd wife is weak sauce and ok to be used as a rag. She knew her life will be miserable because the husband is a coward and if he can cheat on his first wife, what make you think he's not going to treat you like crap.
Girl, yes!!! Great ending, glad to hear that u left, never be someone’s 2nd choice. U deserve better, even if it means being single. Love ur self and u will find happiness.
Don’t feel sorry for you, you should have known being a second wife is miserable but you chose that path anyways ...
Should've left when you found out he was still married. You chose your own path to be a Niam Yau. Don't expect to much when are married to a guy who still have a wife.
Plus his 1st wife is the woman in her own castle, she wear the pants in the house. This dude is a coward, he can't live up to his words. Plus he's using her like property, she was too ignorant and in denial. See, when she stop living in denial, she had the courage to put her foot down and said enough is enough and walk out. She could've done that the minute she found out he was still married.
@@maipha8560 agree. I mean no man or marriage is perfect. Her first marriage was abusive, her second though her husband loves her she was a Niam yau and hated by others, I think her third marriage is best for her. She said her third marriage is not good as well, but her only reason was the husband doesn't make much money. Well... girl, work!!!
@@maiherojj This lady isn't using her brain but her downstairs sister. Also, I only hear her desperation in trying to find Mr. Right. My recommendation for her is to find herself, know what she wants, and quit being so desperate to jump in the wagon. If she know her worth, a worthy man will come find her....that's my belief.
You choose that life! No one make you!
Being a second wife does not mean you get everything the first wife and the husb worked so hard for. Sucks that the husb lied to you but you always have a choice to leave when you find out he’s still married.
I agreed completely. I think she was making excuse. She has no plan for her own future. I would've thought that the abuse and horrid treatment from her first husband would've taught her to stay away from toxic relationship. Nope, she ran from the squeeze of the snake into the mouth of the lion. If this was me, the minute I found out he's married, I would've dump his a$$ so fast plus teach him a lesson never to use or see women as objects.
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Having a child won’t change anything! It’s just a burden on you if things don’t work out! You should have known better to leave at the beginning when he lied to you! I do not feel sorry for you second wife.
I say the same. Thanks goodness no child was brought into this world to witness this horrible example. When someone loves you, they will cross the widest ocean and climb the tallest mountain for you. Too bad she was in denial and wasted 6 years - that's way too long.
She didn’t know that she was worthy of respect and love. Everyone please support each other. These men will lie and make you do whatever they want for their benefit. This woman never experienced true love before. Especially Hmong women. We go through the most shit.
I agree.
If I were u, I would have left when I found out about his marriage. This is y hmong men treat us hmong women badly bc some are willing to be second wife like this. Let's start a group for hmong women to understand our worth n done be anyone's second, 3rd, or 4th wives from now on. I think we're smart enough to do that ladies.
For real and quit using the "blind to love" excuses. This is the land of opportunities and that cycle of polygamy needs to end. It ends with us, we can be the change we want to see.
I agree we need to encourage each other and prevent us Hmong women from getting falling down a wrong path.
Like a First Wives Club or something?
Kuv xav tias yeej tsis muaj ib tug niam loj es yuav zoo2 siab tus txiv yuav niam yau es yuav los ua zoo2 rau tus niam yau li os. Tus niam loj ham tsis yuav ua kom zoo nws lub siab thiab. Vim nws mob siab txaus lawm. Nws chim siab txhua2 hnub es nws yuav ua cas ua zoo taus rau niam yau os. Yog thaum paub tias luag tseem muaj pojniam ces tso plhuav tseg khiav kom deb li deb tau xwb.
Hais tau tu siab kawg li os peb civ niam yau ces yeej zoo li koj hais es thiaj tu siab npaum li no mas viv ncaus kaj tsij ntxov tso tseg thaum tsis tau muaj me nyuam thiaj tsis nyuaj siab os nawb
I don't understand why woman think that people should feel sorry for them when they clearly see that the guy already have a wife but she is still willing to be in the relationship. You shouldn't feel bad about how others treat you. SMH stupid..
Listen! You don’t belong! Why? Because there should only be 1 man and 1 woman in a spousal relationship! Bye ✋ Felicia!!!! Lol
Best wishes to you sister. Love yourself, you don't need to man to complete your life.
Yog nws hlub yus tiag nws yeej nrauj nws Tus niam loj lawm txhob nyob lub neej niam yau nawb tsis ntsim nyog nyob lub neej lwj siab
Yog lawm os
Mi viv ncaus Aw !!! Cas yuav ntxim hlub ua luaj li os koj tso tau lawm ces tso mog . Txhob tu siab tus txiv ko nws tsi hlub koj tiag nws dag koj rau luag tsim rau nws ntsia xwb saib saib luag tsim neeg es quajj li cas chim li cas nyuaj li cas rau nws ntsia ua ib txoj kev rau nws kàwm xwb mog ... txhob khuv xim ib tus neeg phem Lim hiam li ntawv mog ..cov neeg ntxub ntxub neeg li cov poj niam no Yog cov es ua niam yau los yuav lom niam loj ho ua niam loj los tua niam yau os mog cov neeg no lam khav dawb qhov tseeb tiag lawv siab twb tsi ntse twb tsi muaj ib yam dab tsi
How can you married someone you didn't even know his family???? I am sure you are willing to be niam yau anyway. There are many ways many relatives out there that you can asked and searched for his background. You're so careless. You deserve to be treated like that, don't feel sorry.
She's in denial and turn a blind eye. After what her first husband did to her, if I were her, I make sure my next husband pass an FBI background check. She sounds too desperate and perhaps there's no more men left in this world so she's willing to be 2nd.
Agreed 100%
@Miss Water Physics Yang that's right but everything backfired on her. She came with nothing and left with nothing.
I'm glad you learned you lesson. Thanks for sharing and hope that you will find a single person who loves you.
This is the niam yau story but no one seems to blame the husband. The guy is to blame in the situation just as much. -__- Txiv neej lub siab hlob dhau lawm.
He didn't zij her, no matter what I would never be a second wife.
Right. He mislead her bc his heart want many wives. Smh tsom tom dev!! Hope karma hit him hard.
I disagreed, he didn't hold a gun to her head and force her to be his 2nd wife. She has choices, she choose to devalue herself and live like a rag. Wasted 6 years with this douchebag and the 1st wife who wear the pants in the house. That's too much time wasted. If she invested $$ for that 6 years, she'd be a millionaire by now.
he's not the one to blame txiv neej yeej liam li no. the niam yau is. men will do or say whatever they want to get you but if you're a good person you will not walk into someone's life and think you can take everything. this woman don't even deserve the beating ex
Wow! You cannot blame his family and friends for not respecting you when you purposely took their nyab and friend’s husband.
There is no perfect life. You need to re-evaluate yourself and change to better your life. Don’t expect a man to change your life and make it better for you. YOU need to make it better for you.
Tus txiv zoo txim txiaj muaj nyiaj ces yeej tseem muaj poj niam, txhob pheej xav tias yus yog tus hluas ces yuav yeej txhuas yam.
Love yourself first. Never settled for being someone's seconds when you can be someone's firsts. He is married. Leave him. He don't deserve you. If he lied to get you and refused to even married you properly then you should alreay know how your future is going to be with him. Don't expect the first wife to give you everything that they worked for. Don't expect the first wife to freely give her husband over to you. No woman would do that. Especially when she spent all her life with him already. The first wife know her power and she used it well.. All women should know that no matter how bad the first wife is. The husband will always abide by her. If he didn't/wouldn't he would have divorced her before getting with you. Love yourself and set goals for yourself. You don't need a half ass man. Good luck to you and your future. 1st lesson in life never get with a married man/woman. Nothing good ever comes out of taking what belongs to someone else's.
Niam Ntsuab Teev u r the best hmong story teller in here.
Women, no men is ever worth it. Don't put yourself through that type of life.
And for the people, don't ever put someone through mental, emotional and verbal abuse because your son/brother couldn't keep his zipper zipped. If anything, the son/brother is to blame. He is the man who caused all those pain the two ladies are going through.
Cov neeg txeeb luag tus txiv ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb os.
Txiv dev ces Tsis txau lawv tus me kwv...txawj2 dag tabsis ua Tsis tau txiv... kuv Tsis tuaj leeg twg tos... kuv Hlub tus niam tsev no txom nyem Siab kawg
So true👍
Sister aw txhob muab koj lub neej tuaj rau neeg thuam thiab cem koj os...cov neeg no luag tsis tsuj yus tus hneev taw luag yeej tsis pab yus li os!
Yep nco ntsoov tsis muaj leej twg yuav txhawb niam yau ib zaug li os.
I believe everything that start with impurity eventually will end with tragic and sadness. Hmoob Hais tias, "ua zoo tau zoo, pjb qhov phem tau qhov phem."
Sister I was divorced at age of 40 years old, I stay single for 8 years finally I thing is enough to stay single so I date only American people I meet my husband we’re very happy he take me to go all over the world 🌎 we went to most state of United state and I don’t have any Hmong man to control my life anymore
Good for you. You’re living life right
I can't believe this woman have the guts to tell her story thinking someone's going to synthesize her. To me from the very beginning she already has an agenda hoping to take the 1st wife's spot. She deserved every thing she got. She thought she was going to get a great welcome with open arms from the family. You accepted to be the 2nd wife stupid. What did you expect!! Women do not support women is clearly this case. You walked in knowing the situation and you stayed. You're lucky you weren't tortured worse.
Lady..you can't blamed the 1st wife. You pretty much steal her husband. You're lucky to be there with her and her husband. This is United States, we don't live in laos anymore.
Yog yus zoo lawm phem tsuas muaj ib tug xwb pob yog yuav tus twg los lawv tsis hlub tej zaum yog yus zoo tsis tas thiab
Why do some Hmong women like being a second wife?
Watching too much imperial Chinese dramas? 😂😂
Hai tau zoo heev li
🤦🤦🤦I have so much to say for this story but there's not enough room. Lady when you start your life with lie and dishonest, expect that's how your future will be. This lady didn't think with her brain but her downstairs sister. I really don't pity her and I 👏👏👏 the first wife for standing her ground. The only way to stop the practice of niam hlob and niam yau is when the first wife stand her ground and make life living hell for both the niam yau and the husband. It worked in this story. Remember that actions have consequences.
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I'm glad the first wife didn't let the husband and 2nd wife walk all over her like a typical first hmong wife. Trust me. If the 1st wife was soft hearted, the husband and 2nd wife would mistreated the 1st wife so bad.
@@maryly09 for sure. If my husband ever take a niam yau, hell will break lose. Don't mess with me because I don't care for a cheater and trying to live a life like the imperial China era. NO THANK YOU!!!
leeg twb kom koj mus yuav lawm tub txiv,yog leeg twb yuav kuv tub kuv los ua ib yam thiaj
Cas nws lub neej zoo li kv thiab o lwj siab tshaj li os nws tu fev li cas o kj pua tau os
Koj yeej yog dev OS viv ncaus....koj yeej ntshawd lawv tus txiv thiab koj yog siab tsiaj
Omg...people with multiple wives stories give me a big headache and I have little respect and patience for these people. Please respect and love yourself women! There are plenty of fish in the sea that you do not need to be a 2nd, 3rd, 4th or whatever number wife. Women, you have more power and strengths than that. Know you are worthy. Your mom didn't give birth to you to settle for less and live that kind of life.
Eb cas tu siab ua luaj ntshe tiag uv thaum tsi tau thiaj ua kom tau xb tau lm tsi hlub tiag thiab yus es tsi muaj caj li ua ib yam dab tsi li
Niam lob mob thaj koj
Tus viv ncaus ntawm zaj neej neeg nas tiam 21 no ua xwb tsi txhob yuav es thiaj li sib hlub hos viv ncaus
Cia koj tus txiv mus yuav niam yau es seb koj lub siab ho yuav zoo npau lis cas ma tus viv ncau.
I don’t feel bad for you. Yes I understand you didn’t know but when you found out, you should have left. Not having someone to sweet talk to you is better than what you’re going through being a Niam yau. It’s nasty and you are selfish, you only think about how much you needed his sweet talk, you don’t consider his wife’s feelings.
Zoo heev li o
This BS! As niam yau, you shouldn't expect much, but no matter what is never enough for you. There are many men with multiple wives in my family and niam yau is always the one that controls the man and his favorite. Niam loj gets nothing!
Don't understand why any woman nowadays would allow a second wife and why any woman would be willing to be a second wife. You second wife had a choice to not be a second wife. Too bad for you, don't feel sorry for you. First wife hurts more than you!
Peb hmoob nyob sab ntuj twg los niam yeej tsi nkag siab tias tus txiv yog tus txaus vim peb poj niam txhua tus ntshaw txoj kev hlub ib yam xwb yuav sib tsim ces txhob yuav xum xa luag rov qab xwb zoo dua mog
Sorry but not sorry. You knew what you’re getting into. You have no rights to his wife’s things.
You need to love and respect yourself and stop being cheap and easy. You don’t need a man to complete your life.
Your advice, we all already know without having to live thru it.
Thaum koj tsis paub, koj tus txiv yog tus txhaum. Thaum koj paub lawm koj tseem nyob thiab ces koj yog tus txhaum. Kuv yog tus pojniam ntawd los kuv yeej coj ib yam. Txhob ntshaw ntshaw ua niam yau thiab os.
Wow, this stuff still happens? We’re in 2021! This lady has no self esteem and self respect. You never steal another woman’s husband. I don’t care if he lied to you. You should have the self respect to walk away when you found out he was married. You’re too stupid to fall into his trap. I do not feel sorry for you. You get what you deserve. There’s so many men out there but u choose to be a second wife. I had to stop listening to his stupid lady’s story. What a waste of my time.
Lady, not sure why you’re complaining about the 1st wife. If you were in her shoe you will do/feel the same way. You knew what you were getting yourself into the moment you found out he lied to you. The husband knows he will be homeless if he leaves his wife/kids that why all he can tell you is ua siab tev, and you fell for it.
I totally agreed !!!! Never date or even be a niam yau!!!! worst drama ever lol headaches every day
That's right, he only need her to wipe his @$$. He doesn't care for her, it's her own stupidity for staying and knowing she's being used as a rag.
Tsis yog tshua nqi tab sis yog txiv neej tag lawm es thiaj ua niam yau xwb os. Ntuj muab ob lub qhov muag rau yus los xaiv yus lub neej tab sis cov ua niam yau yeej niam luag tug xwb.
Yus muaj kev txiav txim siab yuav yuav los yuav tso. Tso los yeej tsis tuag ib zaug li yog xav tau lub neej zoo yeej ua siab tso tau kawg li os.
Tus niam loj hais thiab ua txhua yam yog lawm .ntshaw luag txiv ces yuav tsum txhob xyeej luag tiag vim nws tsis uv nws tus txeeb luag tug ces yeej kawg li ntawd thaum yus tham luag tus txiv yus ho tsis hnov vuab tsuab thaum txeem los koom lub neej koom ua ke ho qias thiab ho xav2 kom luag nrauj luag tus niam loj ces yeej yog nws ntshaw3 luag lub neej tiag nej sim mloog nws cov lus thaum xaus saib mas yog ntshaw3 luag lub neej tshaj tiag.
Lub neej niam yaus tu siab nrho mus ib sim tu siab tiag 2 li tsis yog nej ces nej tsis paub raug leej twg ces leej twg thiaj paub o
Nej cov ntshaw2 luag tej txiv nas twb tss tau txaus nej sim saib seb cov txiv neej lawv puas hais tias tsuav koj hlub kuv ces kuv yuav cia koj yuav ib tug txiv yau no nas los tsuas yog nej cov ntshaw2 luag tej txiv nas
Tus viv ncaws aw tim koj xwb os txhob tu siab os.thaum i kuv twb raug dag li koj thiab kuv mu txog nws muaj niam loj khov kho kuv tsis yuav nws hais zoo kom kuv nyob kuv tsis kam kuv los kuv tsis khes.kuv xav tias kuv tsis xav txeeb lwm tus lub neej thiaj kuv tsis xav kom lawv cem kuv .kuv rov qab los tsis khe txog nws li os.
Kuv ce tus siab ntsaj koj lawm thiab os niam laus aw kuv lub neej ua niam yaus tib yam mob tiag tiag tsuas yog tsis tog es ntsav tsis los xwb mob tau qhuav siab qhawv xwb os
Hnub koj Yuav mus ces twg los cheem tsis tau koj, thaum koj tseem yuav Nyob ces ntiab los koj Yuav tsis kam mus
Los yuav luag tus txiv ces luag yeej mob2 siab os..kawg ua siab ntev lawm xwb mog…
nyuam qhuav ntxim
Koj txhob hais tias koj tus txiv no maj hais tias yog niam loj tus txiv no pob twb yog niam loj siab zoo koj thiaj tau nyob ntsog nkawm nawj
Txhob ua niam yau ..
Yog kawg... period!!
Niam loj mas thiab ua yog thiab zoo heev.
Even if you have a child with him, what makes you think it’ll change the situation? It’s still gonna be the same. Only you that still want to linger around. Leave, you’ll be happier than living in that kind of lifestyle.
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Lub neej niam loj niam yau ces npaj thoov cug kua muag.nrauh pov tseg
Koj tsis ua zoo saib koj thiaj yuam kev ne.. peb Yuav tham hluas nraug yuav tau ua zoo nug kom paub mas tham mam Yuav thiaj tsis yuam kev..
Tu viv ncaus awsss.....lub neej muaj niam loj niam yau ces yeej tsis muaj hnub kaj siab li nawb....yog luag tu niam loj phem phem ces lawv yeej nrauj tas mam yuav niam yau os...xav tau lub neej kaj siab ces mus yuav tu kav tug xwb mog...tu txiv txawm hlub koj npaum li cas lo nws yeej ua tsis dhau tu niam loj vim luag lub neej loj thiab khov luag yeem xaiv luag lub neej nawb
The practice of Polygamy should be obsolete in the Hmong culture. To the niam yau in this story, what do you expect? Do you expect to be love, cherish, and accepted by his wife and family? How? This practice is illegal as well as immoral.
Tu siab tshaj li o niam laus aw 😭😭
For so many reasons, I'm not feeling sorry for this lady.
Me neither. She made her own bed and pulled the victim card.
Niam Yau yog ib tuv neeg raum2 thiab desperate xwb.
I guess in her eyes that's all she's worth. Plus there's no more men in the world left so she'll settle for 2nd. 😂
We Hmong women, need to know that it's ok to be a lone and single. EVERYTHING they has happened to you...is from your own choices.
Kj tus txiv g hlub kj tiag os nw yeej tuav tswv yim nrog niam loj ua ntej ta li e txhua zaum neb yuav tawm rooj niam loj thiaj paub txhua zaus g yuav lo zoo nb
Sister, stop saying it’s your destiny to be a 2nd wife!!! Everyone has a choice and you made a bad choice. Knowing that he’s married....you know exactly what you’re getting yourself into!!! No first wives want to have a 2nd wife!!!!! Sorry
Haha the beginning xwb yeej paub tias koj g teeskoosloos thiaj pheej ntsib problem
Koj yeej paub txhob txwm los txeeb kiag lawv tus txiv ntag cav muaj plus dag li kod thiab yod ntsej muag dev li koj naj
Twb nyob usa lawm, Poj hmoob cas ntsaw txiv ua lauj li, paub me xwb cas CIA li yuav. Tej zaum kj yog neeg seem. Dab tuag tsi muaj neeg nyiam kj. Txiv nraug seem muaj coob kawg os.
Nco ntsoov tias niam yau ces yog qhev & yuav tso taw muaj menyuam xwb, yeej tsis hlub coob tus. Yog hlub ces yuav tsum hluas dua, zoo nkauj heev tshaj kom tus txiv nyob hauv qab tiab xwb. Lub neej muaj coob tus niam yeej lwjsiab tshaj, lam nyob xwb.
Thaum koj paub tias nws muaj niam hlob lawm cas koj tsis khiav naw, koj yeej xav ua niam yau ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb mas
I love the two bowl one from each wife....so true...just to start drama
For men who wants more than 1 wife, expect to get fat and died prematurely due to health problems..😂😂
If you feel like that's all you deserve then that's all you're going to receive.
Niam loj quav dev! Niam yau ruam thiaj ntshai niam loj!kuv ua kom sab kiag
Yog lawm os
Kuv xav mas koj yog tus yuam kev vim koj txeeb lawv txiv koj xav tias koj hluas hluas ces ntshe lawv yuav muab lawv
niam loj thiab lawv zag me nyuam nrauj Es yuav khaws koj no txawm koj hluas los luag tsuas yuav tus coj zoo xwb
Love yourself !! Once you know your self worth, you won't let others step all over you to lower your dignity!!
What they had was love.. you and him had was LUST... People need to learn the difference before jumping into any commitments.
Poj hmoob aw leej twg hais rau koj tias yuav luag txiv es koj muaj cai na. Maum dev xwb ces nyob qab txag xwb ma koj g muaj cai mus tseeb luag txiv vim koj g dig muag lag ntseg
Txoj kev t eeb luag txiv paub los sad txhav tah lawm cais ua tiag yoo nawb
Cas koj ntshaw ib tug txiv uas hlub koj xwb es ho mud txeeb luag tus txiv ya dabtsi? Cov poj niam uas yeem mud ua luag niam Tau tseem muaj phlus tuaj hais thiab ....txiv neej ntiaj teb no twb Tuag tsis Tau tag ne tus tseem mus yuav luag tus txiv thiab .thaum tsis paub mas xam tias tsis paub tabsis twb paub lawm Los tseem xum yuav nyob txeeb koj tau luag tus txiv ntxim ntxub tshaj
Hlub yus tu kheej tso yus mas hlub luag.