A lot of Hmong people so this, it’s really sad. If you love your brother then push him to do better, to be independent and responsible. Don’t enable him to become incompetent by giving him shelter. Help but only for some time.
You know how Hmong ppl always say to the divorce daughter that she bring bad luck to the family...Well..in this case the younger divorced brother bring you bad luck
Oh heck no. Call me a bad sister-in-law, bad nyab, bad whatever. I'd rather be call those names then let my marriage fail. I would've gave my husband the ultimatum from the beginning when he allowed a low life brother like his to move in. Just cause the brother failed his marriage, doesn't mean I should allow him to pull my marriage down with his.
Tus niam tsev aw koj mas thiaj li yog ib tug neeg siab ntev tiag tiag li os. Neb niag kwv no yeej tsis yog neeg zoo tiag tiag ua tsis tau neeg zoo lawm.
This seems to be a thing for Hmong people. They don’t seem to understand that families need their privacy and it’s not your responsibility to provide them a place to live. I’m sure some circumstances are reasonable but you can’t assume or put this on your family members. There’s got to be a time limit and a level of respect to the home owners who are helping you.
Tus niam tsev koj siab zoo heev os cov neeg zoo li koj tus kwv ces tsim nyog muab ncaws tawm cia tus lub neej zoo xwb mog. Kuv muaj ib tug kwv thiab niam ntxawm los nyob tsi kam tawm li mas nyuaj kawg
This brother did what wrong. He need to understand he need permission from the home owner before he can bring anybody live with them. The house is not his house. They have liability that come to stay with them. Also like Hmong OG said he bring bad luck to his house.
I really hate how Hmong people live their lives like this. They think, just because you are family you automatically have to take them under your wing and carry them on and on and support them all the way - NO! Some people need to have respect, work hard, and support themselves and stop being leeching low lives.
Peb hmoob muaj ib txoj hmoob hais tias sim neej no koj cia ib tug poj nrauj los sis ib tug yawg nrauj los nrog koj nyob nws muaj tus dab txhob txhiaj tiag tiag li koj khwv Tau khaws tsis Tau tu tshuaj los tsis vam li kuv ntseeg tias muaj tiag tiag li peb hmoob hu tias vij sub vij npog
You can help family members 1, 2x but after 3x it’s enabling them to be losers and drug addicts. Sometimes you need to kick them out and grow up the F- up as adults. I would not put up with losers.
Koj twb siab ntev hwv lawm os.txawm kwv tij kiag los yog los nyob ua ib tse mas tsuas kav ob peb hnoob xwb.dua li ces tsuas ua miv thiaj dev lawm xwb.hmoob phej ntsai kev tu siab es thiaj muaj tej kev nyuaj siab no los mas.tseg kiag.txawm muaj thiab pluag los nyias nyob nyias zoo dua
@@hmoobxyooj3281 Kim thiab vwm ho kuv li yog koj hais lus tsi tseem ces kuv tias vwm 100% yog koj ntseeg tias muaj dab or los sis muaj vij swb vij si ces koj yog neeg vwm rau kuv
If helping, give them a deadline of 3 months to get their life together, a job, save money, and move out. You are not responsible for this grown persons life.
If you have not have a freeloader, you will not know how miserable life can be. Freeloader out there, get a life, don’t be a freeloader forever and never know how to move on.
The more you help those that don't want to help themselves the more they expecting you too and does not see to appreciate you. The earlier you let them know the better for them.
Cia xyob txhiaj nrog yus nyob ces yus yuav liam ib yam li ntawd thiab ntag. Tej niag neeg liam khib xuab li ntawd cez tseem cia nrog yus nyob kom yus neej puas tas li nws thiab. Ncaw tawm ob niag dev thawj thiab ntawd ua ntej neb lub neej yuav puas li nkawv.
Txoj dab neeg no yog dag xwb .thaum pib twb tsis muaj ntxhais ua cas tom qab ho muaj 2 tug ntxhais pw 2 hoob thiab .nej mloog seb pua s yog li kuv hais .
Tus niam tsev, you are so patience! But it is not anyone's responsibility to take care of your brother in law. He is not 5 years old. I understand, family so you help but you can only help so long until you no longer can. He is a grown man and he is very disrespectful. Do not let him come back to live with you and your husband. Don't let him drag your marriage down like his.
Txawm yuav Yog kwv Yog Tij los yus tsuav hlub tau me me xwb yuav kom yus pab tsuag li Yog yus lub neej ces yus yeej kawg ua neej lwj siab thiab sib ceg tas li xwb ces tsis xum yuav lawv niag neeg ntawd lawm os. I went through this and my life are very stressful too. Poob nyiaj los poob hos lwj siab los lwj siab twb tsis xav ua lub neej tas li lawm os.
Cas tus kwv ntawd es yuav g paub tab li na cuag li ntawd ces yus kuj mus xauj tsev yus nyob yus thiab mos xauj tsev nyob xwb twb xauj g tau thiab ces g txhob ua neeg los tau mas
Neeg laus tas, luag tsuas pab hli puav xwb. Yus pab nws ces txawm mus coj 1 pab tom kev los ntxiv, ces lawb tawm. Neb tsis tshuav nws nqi, Txhob cia nyob tsim teebmeem hauv neb lub neej. Nws Tusiab tsis tu los don't care, he's an adult.
Tus tsev no tsis yog txiv tsev yog ib niag tseem2 txiv dev tiag2 li lau, tus niam tsev no los tsis muaj txa caj qaum li thiab, koj tus niam tsev mas koj los koj tsis yog ib tug niam tsev khov li thiaj cia muaj tej teeb meem loj tis ua loj npaum no. Yog kuv ces kuv muab kiag tus txiv dev lawb dab kiag lawm txov lawm os poj hmoob aw.
Tsis yog tias cov yawg nrauj poj nrauj ntawd los nrog koj nyob es koj lub neej ntxhov muaj vij muaj swv xwb naj koj tus txiv tham hluas nkauj koj tus poj niam tham hluas nraug sab nrauv los yeej muaj vij muaj swv thiab ov. Vim neb twb tsis kaj siab lawm neb sib ceg tag li xwb ne tsuas xav txog cov lus phem xwb ces cov lus phem ntawd los nyob nrog koj tas li xwb. America hais tias think positive do not Negative.
There's a thing called boundaries 🙄. These are grown adults. It's one thing to support but another thing to enable. This younger brother clearly doesn't want to do a thing. He's just a loser.
Kuv lub neej ces zoo li koj lub thiab tseem phem tshaj li koj lub thiab nawb yog yus tus txiv tham hluas nkauj los kuj puas xyob txhiaj thiab puas dab ib yam thiab tsis zoo kiag li thiab os aw
Whenever we try to prevent problems from happening we’re always considered the bad nyab or bad wife. Cov niag yawg nrauj loser no ces hamtsi tib pab liam xwb los tseem mus dag poj nrauj poj ntsuam. You husband still haven’t learn anything that his brother brought bad luck to your house.
Tus me niam tsev yog koj tus txiv ruam tsis nkag siab lub ntsiab ces koj hais qhia kiag rau nws haistias, yog koj tsis hais koj tus kwv nkawd tsam ib ntsis los nyob ntev mus ntev tuaj yog koj nyiam ces koj yuav tham no ma !
This is what I call a stupid husband. If my husband was ever like this he can marry his family. Don’t get me wrong as a nyab myself you can only tolerate so much about helping family before bad karma hits or your broke. I don’t believe in helping if it’s only going to cause issues to my own family who are free loaders
tus niam tsev ntshe koj tsis xav yuav nws tus kwv xwb pob yog koj kom tus kwv muab ob tus sab nrauv laij tawm mas yog mas tab sis koj cia li tias yawg nrauj nqa xyob txhiaj no mas dag koj ua li cov laus tias ntxhais nrauj txiv los tsis xav yuav es nim tias nqa xyob txhiaj cov poj niam coj li koj peb paub kawg
Sister, your husband is a little wussy. He should've put his foot down from the beginning. Stop making excuses for the brother. You are enabling him to depend on you guys to support and rescue him. Enough already.
Wow! It must be frustrating to have family meme era like that and your husband isn’t man enough to put his foot down and still defend them. You’re a very patient woman. Coj cov neeg xyob Txhiaj los nrog yus nyob ces kawg yus lub neej xyob txhiaj xwb os vivncaus aw.
Never allow lazy people to live with you....it does not matter if it is family or not...if you are lazy go live under the bridge..
A lot of Hmong people so this, it’s really sad. If you love your brother then push him to do better, to be independent and responsible. Don’t enable him to become incompetent by giving him shelter. Help but only for some time.
You know how Hmong ppl always say to the divorce daughter that she bring bad luck to the family...Well..in this case the younger divorced brother bring you bad luck
Yog kawg os mog me viv ncaus aw.
Koj siab zoo dhau thiab hos dua heev thiab os
Oh heck no. Call me a bad sister-in-law, bad nyab, bad whatever. I'd rather be call those names then let my marriage fail. I would've gave my husband the ultimatum from the beginning when he allowed a low life brother like his to move in. Just cause the brother failed his marriage, doesn't mean I should allow him to pull my marriage down with his.
100%
Yog!!!! This story gave me anxiety
Can’t believe why you have to rent the house for him he is an adult he has to responsible for himself
Tus niam tsev aw koj mas thiaj li yog ib tug neeg siab ntev tiag tiag li os. Neb niag kwv no yeej tsis yog neeg zoo tiag tiag ua tsis tau neeg zoo lawm.
Txhob cia xyob txhiaj los nkag los rau yus lub vaj lub tsev mog hmoob
Niam laus cas to ntev ua Luaj li os koj g los hai li lawm os 👍
This seems to be a thing for Hmong people. They don’t seem to understand that families need their privacy and it’s not your responsibility to provide them a place to live. I’m sure some circumstances are reasonable but you can’t assume or put this on your family members. There’s got to be a time limit and a level of respect to the home owners who are helping you.
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I hated people staying with me and acting like my house is theirs!
SMH! I would never put up with BS like that. If my husband dare, then he can marry his brother.
Agree!!!
Tus niam tsev koj siab zoo heev os cov neeg zoo li koj tus kwv ces tsim nyog muab ncaws tawm cia tus lub neej zoo xwb mog. Kuv muaj ib tug kwv thiab niam ntxawm los nyob tsi kam tawm li mas nyuaj kawg
This lady has patience. Lol. If it was me, I would have kicked the brother out a long time ago. 😆
Right! And if the husband still insist that I be patient then he can go too!
@@msgnay6193 yep! Agreed!
Kick the husband out too! LoL
For real! I would not let the brother set a foot in the house. I can't finish this story. But like guess, her husband cheated on her. 😂
@@LM-755 lol.. I was so annoyed, I almost gave up. Hahaha.
Kuv tuaj caum koj lawm❤️❤️
Hmong people always have free loader live with them. Of course, it's always kaj siab tshaj to live with just your spouse and kids.
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Kuv nyiam koj hai hv o niam lau
Free loaders yeej xyob txhiaj.
Ntshe kuv yuav mus nyob kuv seb kuv kuv puas kaj siab li koj hais lo cas kuv yuav nyuaj siab npaum li koj hais ko thiab os
This brother did what wrong. He need to understand he need permission from the home owner before he can bring anybody live with them. The house is not his house. They have liability that come to stay with them. Also like Hmong OG said he bring bad luck to his house.
What a stressful story
I really hate how Hmong people live their lives like this. They think, just because you are family you automatically have to take them under your wing and carry them on and on and support them all the way - NO! Some people need to have respect, work hard, and support themselves and stop being leeching low lives.
That I want to see if your brother come to stay with you and your husband? What’s your way? Kick him out?
Nej tus kwv nws tsis ua neeg zoo vim nej hlub nws dhau yog nej cia nws mus nyob qab choj zaum puav ces nws yeej ua tau neej lawm
Peb hmoob muaj ib txoj hmoob hais tias sim neej no koj cia ib tug poj nrauj los sis ib tug yawg nrauj los nrog koj nyob nws muaj tus dab txhob txhiaj tiag tiag li koj khwv Tau khaws tsis Tau tu tshuaj los tsis vam li kuv ntseeg tias muaj tiag tiag li peb hmoob hu tias vij sub vij npog
You can help family members 1, 2x but after 3x it’s enabling them to be losers and drug addicts. Sometimes you need to kick them out and grow up the F- up as adults. I would not put up with losers.
Koj mas siab ntev tshaj yog kuv ces first week tsis tawm ces kawg ntsib kuv lub nyhav lol
Muaj neeg nrog yus nyob es yus tsis nyiam ces yeej zoo cuag li hauv tsev muaj xyob txhiaj xwb
Niamlaus aw, koj los siab ntev heev li. My blood boils within 10 min into your story.
No, not siab ntev. She just being stupid!
Niam ntsuab teev thov kj pab teb kv thiab os
Ohh lord, I will not allow this to happen in my household. I will kick my husband out along with his brother. 👋
AMEN
As a husband and brother, I would not take my brother in. Sorry but I have a family and a life. Who told you to eff up your life.
Zoo mloog kawg os
Kick them out they need to take responsibility so they learn they lesson
Wow lady, only you. I’m too short temper for that shit.
Same here
Sometimes it’s best to turn a blind eye. I’ve been there and done all that I could . Family or not finding peace and self love is important.
Niam laus Kj hai cov muas siab g ntshaj rau cov nyab peb noogthiab o
Yog kawg li os kuv twb raug tej ko dhau los lawm thiab os
Kuv yog ib tug Pojrauj Kuv tus kheej Kuv twb tsis pub tsis kam pojrauj yawgraug phoojywg zobtxhiaj lo nrog Kuv nyob. Kuv lub me tsev es yog Kuv thiab Kuv 3 tug me nyuaj. Koj siab ntev kawg no sister
Koj twb siab ntev hwv lawm os.txawm kwv tij kiag los yog los nyob ua ib tse mas tsuas kav ob peb hnoob xwb.dua li ces tsuas ua miv thiaj dev lawm xwb.hmoob phej ntsai kev tu siab es thiaj muaj tej kev nyuaj siab no los mas.tseg kiag.txawm muaj thiab pluag los nyias nyob nyias zoo dua
Xyob txhiaj los tsev lawm
Koj yog ib tus poj niam siab me heev thiab vwm kawg li
Koj vwm lo
@@hmoobxyooj3281 Kim thiab vwm ho kuv li yog koj hais lus tsi tseem ces kuv tias vwm 100% yog koj ntseeg tias muaj dab or los sis muaj vij swb vij si ces koj yog neeg vwm rau kuv
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Ua txuj hais lus kom zoo li muaj ntsis thab nkawv ces tsis tas koj hais li koj tus txiv yeej txawj2 ntiab nkawv tawm li mas los
Your husband has no balls. You are not the parent of the adult brother, make him go with live his parents.
Totally agree! Why isn’t their divorced brother living with the parents?!
If helping, give them a deadline of 3 months to get their life together, a job, save money, and move out. You are not responsible for this grown persons life.
If you have not have a freeloader, you will not know how miserable life can be. Freeloader out there, get a life, don’t be a freeloader forever and never know how to move on.
ชีวิตเราเหมือนพี่เลยเพราะน้องชายหย่ากับเมียผัวเราให้อยู่กับเราชีวิตเราก็ตกต่ำเหมือนกันเลยอต่เราบอกอะไรไม่ได้เลยบอกยังไงผัวเราก็บอกว่าเราไม่ดีมีอะไรก็ให้ซื้อให้กินทุกอย่างแต่น้องชายไม่เคยหาเงินมาช่วยเราในครอบครัวเลยลอกเมื่อไหร่ก็บอกว่าเราไม่ดี
Mloog zaj dab neeg no tas ces vim koj yeej siab me tiag nawb tus me niam tsev
Smh
The more you help those that don't want to help themselves the more they expecting you too and does not see to appreciate you. The earlier you let them know the better for them.
3 words: Should've could've would've 😤
Some people are just bad luck. Everything they touch and around turns bad and broke. I’ve seen people like that and I stay away from them.
If I were this lady I already kick out the brother..
Cia xyob txhiaj nrog yus nyob ces yus yuav liam ib yam li ntawd thiab ntag. Tej niag neeg liam khib xuab li ntawd cez tseem cia nrog yus nyob kom yus neej puas tas li nws thiab. Ncaw tawm ob niag dev thawj thiab ntawd ua ntej neb lub neej yuav puas li nkawv.
Wow another noj quav nyuj loj!
Yuav tsi yog tim tej kev sib nrauj os. Hmoob Txoj kev ntseeg ces nyiam ntseeg dab dhau lawm
Ca kj siab dubbua luaj li nws g tau yg kj hnub xb o yg txoj kj hnub ceb kj mm puab o
Txoj dab neeg no yog dag xwb .thaum pib twb tsis muaj ntxhais ua cas tom qab ho muaj 2 tug ntxhais pw 2 hoob thiab .nej mloog seb pua s yog li kuv hais .
Tus niam tsev, you are so patience! But it is not anyone's responsibility to take care of your brother in law. He is not 5 years old. I understand, family so you help but you can only help so long until you no longer can. He is a grown man and he is very disrespectful. Do not let him come back to live with you and your husband. Don't let him drag your marriage down like his.
Txawm yuav Yog kwv Yog Tij los yus tsuav hlub tau me me xwb yuav kom yus pab tsuag li Yog yus lub neej ces yus yeej kawg ua neej lwj siab thiab sib ceg tas li xwb ces tsis xum yuav lawv niag neeg ntawd lawm os. I went through this and my life are very stressful too. Poob nyiaj los poob hos lwj siab los lwj siab twb tsis xav ua lub neej tas li lawm os.
I get it that he brings back luck but u make it sound like all divorcees are bad luck.
I would of kick the brother and the husband out.
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Omg I was so mad for this wife/mother. How freaking annoying!
Everyone needs their privacy..be greatful the wife was super patient to allow a .low life lazy a$$ to live with them.
Raun dhau lawn os 😅 😂
Caag Koj yuav has lug mog ua luaj
couldn’t be me
Thats the thing wrong with Hmong people, always enabling adult moochers. So tiring. I dont know how this wife put up with it for so long. Omgoodness.
Es yog koj tus dab luag ne? What if your wife brother that come live with you?
Cas tus kwv ntawd es yuav g paub tab li na cuag li ntawd ces yus kuj mus xauj tsev yus nyob yus thiab mos xauj tsev nyob xwb twb xauj g tau thiab ces g txhob ua neeg los tau mas
Neeg laus tas, luag tsuas pab hli puav xwb. Yus pab nws ces txawm mus coj 1 pab tom kev los ntxiv, ces lawb tawm. Neb tsis tshuav nws nqi, Txhob cia nyob tsim teebmeem hauv neb lub neej. Nws Tusiab tsis tu los don't care, he's an adult.
Sorry, I'll leave him. Sister you waited too long.
Omg. You must be so darn patience. One freeloader after another. 🤣 It's either he out or I'm out!
He's taking advantage of you and your husband. I would kick him out after three months.
Kuv twb raug lub neej zoo li ko los lawm mob hlwb tiag22 li
Tso poj nrauj thiab tso yawg nrauj los nrog yus nyob ces neej kawg liam.......
Tus mi niam tsev aw koj niag kwv nqa xyob txhiaj los rau neb lawm os
Still a good listen 👂
I couldn’t stand listening. Can’t believe this lady was this patient.
Tus tsev no tsis yog txiv tsev yog ib niag tseem2 txiv dev tiag2 li lau, tus niam tsev no los tsis muaj txa caj qaum li thiab, koj tus niam tsev mas koj los koj tsis yog ib tug niam tsev khov li thiaj cia muaj tej teeb meem loj tis ua loj npaum no. Yog kuv ces kuv muab kiag tus txiv dev lawb dab kiag lawm txov lawm os poj hmoob aw.
Tsis yog tias cov yawg nrauj poj nrauj ntawd los nrog koj nyob es koj lub neej ntxhov muaj vij muaj swv xwb naj koj tus txiv tham hluas nkauj koj tus poj niam tham hluas nraug sab nrauv los yeej muaj vij muaj swv thiab ov. Vim neb twb tsis kaj siab lawm neb sib ceg tag li xwb ne tsuas xav txog cov lus phem xwb ces cov lus phem ntawd los nyob nrog koj tas li xwb. America hais tias think positive do not Negative.
There's a thing called boundaries 🙄. These are grown adults. It's one thing to support but another thing to enable. This younger brother clearly doesn't want to do a thing. He's just a loser.
Kuv lub neej ces zoo li koj lub thiab tseem phem tshaj li koj lub thiab nawb yog yus tus txiv tham hluas nkauj los kuj puas xyob txhiaj thiab puas dab ib yam thiab tsis zoo kiag li thiab os aw
Whenever we try to prevent problems from happening we’re always considered the bad nyab or bad wife. Cov niag yawg nrauj loser no ces hamtsi tib pab liam xwb los tseem mus dag poj nrauj poj ntsuam. You husband still haven’t learn anything that his brother brought bad luck to your house.
Tus me niam tsev yog koj tus txiv ruam tsis nkag siab lub ntsiab ces koj hais qhia kiag rau nws haistias, yog koj tsis hais koj tus kwv nkawd tsam ib ntsis los nyob ntev mus ntev tuaj yog koj nyiam ces koj yuav tham no ma !
Not today, not ever.
Hmong guys need to be better than this!! Stop raising your grown brother(s).
This is what I call a stupid husband. If my husband was ever like this he can marry his family. Don’t get me wrong as a nyab myself you can only tolerate so much about helping family before bad karma hits or your broke. I don’t believe in helping if it’s only going to cause issues to my own family who are free loaders
.cas nus niam laus koj tsi teb kuv li o thov txais kuv tus fev thiab o
Hmoov tsis phem los yog yus phem hom txhob txwm mus txob phem cais yeej tau yawg nrauj ntag lauv txhob kiamhmoov kiam kiag tus gub xwb ntag
Coj xob txhiaj los nrog yus Nyob ces yus yuav xob txhiaj. I would have kick them out long ago!
I would kick the brother...if your husband dissagree..i kick him out too.
The family is part of the loser brother's problem, cuz they keep enabling him. This one should be titled, "Xum ua siab me thiaj kaj siab!" LOL
tus niam tsev ntshe koj tsis xav yuav nws tus kwv xwb pob yog koj kom tus kwv muab ob tus sab nrauv laij tawm mas yog mas tab sis koj cia li tias yawg nrauj nqa xyob txhiaj no mas dag koj ua li cov laus tias ntxhais nrauj txiv los tsis xav yuav es nim tias nqa xyob txhiaj cov poj niam coj li koj peb paub kawg
Yus ruam yus thiaj ntxhov siab.
If were me, I keep he out on the first day he come. Don't care what your husband said life is too short. Love yourself first
Sister, your husband is a little wussy. He should've put his foot down from the beginning. Stop making excuses for the brother. You are enabling him to depend on you guys to support and rescue him. Enough already.
Aub tus kwv toob nkaug dhau thiaj tsis tau noj yog tsis xav khwv ces cia nws mus nyob qab choj ces thiaj paub.
Wow! It must be frustrating to have family meme era like that and your husband isn’t man enough to put his foot down and still defend them. You’re a very patient woman.
Coj cov neeg xyob Txhiaj los nrog yus nyob ces kawg yus lub neej xyob txhiaj xwb os vivncaus aw.
Niam ntsuab teev ca suabkv sau ntawv rau kj lo kj tsi teb kv li os
Zaj no mas mob hlwb heev