A kid in my school commited suicide last year and after we had a moment in silence the entire school was called to the office and we watched the documentary
I was bullied for 12 years of public school. Everything from due to my choice of music, interests, and the clothes I had. I was diagnosed with depression in 6th grade. when I moved to another school. I met two teachers who knew what I went through. I thank my two teachers who helped me pick up my grades successfully. middle and high school was hell but once i left, I felt a strength inside me, knowing that I had courage to pull through.
+David Valencia don't give up. there is always good people in the world. it's so sad that it happens but everyone is special in their own way and so are you.
At least you had that! I only wish I'd had some strong allies. At High School, at work, wherever. When I walked out of my HS that day in summer 1980 I felt like I'd been released from prison after serving a sentence for a crime I hadn't committed. It got better. Slowly, but it got better. I became quite my own person and couldn't care less what those cowards are doing with their lives.
So sad. Ellen was clearly struggling to conduct this interview, it's heartbreaking . Please don't bully. We are all beautiful, amazing, incredible living miracles. We are equal. Live, love and be kind. Please x
I was quite heavily bullied all throughout school, every day, and after over 21 years on this planet I still cannot fathom how somebody can look at somebody else and feel like they should bully them. I literally don't understand how somebody can feel the need to attack people for no reason. It's ridiculous.
Yep, what's worse is that people make excuses for bullies. "Oh, she must have a terrible home life." "He's been through a lot." Yeah, I didn't grow up rich and I've been through a lot of shit and never turned violent and took it out on other people. Bullying needs to be stamped out not caressed.
I agree. I was so happy to get out of school because it was bad for new. I still remember a text sent me. She said, "you will never get a boyfriend because they are afraid you will eat them. Oink oink." If I ever saw someone get bullied I said something, I made that person realize what they were doing is wrong. I wish more people would just stick up for each other and stop bullying.
The problem is that children in that young age don't understand the consequences of what they're doing. That's why children are often very honest too. If they think you're fat they say it, if they think you're ugly they say it too. Usually bullies make fun of children that are different than the others. So the others will also bully the different one and feel strong together bullying him but becaue they don't understand what that can really lead too and makes them feel superior they keep doing it. In that case it should be the bullies' parents who should intervene.
+Lina DragonKiller I know what you mean. My brother was bullied too and now has similar problems but he is slowly getting better. I think such things just need time and if you're positive about it I think it will eventually get better. I also think it helps to find a hobby/sport or something you enjoy doing so you can escape from this stress and pressure. Anyway good luck and get better.
I was a bully magnet growing up, as was my step son, so pay close attention to what I'm saying. All the documentaries, kind thoughts, well wishes, and encouraging kindness are all well and good. But in the end, they do not help any more than the school anti bullying programs instituted with half effort and even less heart. There is only one way, one, way, to stop a bully. I learned it as a kid, and when I came into my stepson's life, I taught it to him. Some people will have idealistic, but naive, arguments against what I'm about to say. Some will say, "well, some kids just don't have that in them." and they will be shown to be wrong because my wife said the same thing about her son. The only way to stop a bully is to fight back. To keep fighting back. To punch and kick until you have beaten into them that you will not be an easy target, that you will not be a victim. When I was a kid I got tired of it and fought back, and after just a little bit of time I was no longer bullied. I also gained confidence in myself. You see, trying to protect a kid being bullied by keeping them home doesn't help them the day the go back to school, and it doesn't counter the emotional effects bullying has. It not only tortures you physically, but emotionally as well. it kills your confidence in yourself, you start to believe the bullies teasing and taunting words. you live in fear, of everything. If you teach your kids to fight back, teach them that it IS OK to defend themselves, and encourage them to do so, they will not only end their own torment, it will give them the self image boost they sorely need. My step son was and still is a kind person. always willing to help others, always kind to others. He grew up always being nice, wanting to have friends. He was a little chubby kid, soft and soft hearted. He was a bullies dream victim, never fighting back, always just taking it, then coming home depressed and abusive of himself. After a while his straight A grades slipped, he turned inward, rarely leaving his room when he was home, seeking an escape in video games. When we found out about the bullying, I immediately told his mom what I just told you. She, like you may be, disagreed. I told her that I would refrain from telling him to fight back until she tried anything she wanted to end the bullying. She went through the same wilful blindness of the school staff that these parents did, and her son only got worse. It was when he started scratching himself to the point of drawing blood that she told me to help him my way. I took that little kid, that 6th grade kind hearted kid outside to our back yard, and I told him that every day, every day, he was to meet me back there after school and on weekends. I did two things. I talked to him about the bullying, and told him that it's OK to fight back, no matter where the bullying occurs. I told him that even if it is in the middle of class, that he is allowed to defend himself, and that his mother and I would not allow the school to punish him for it. The second thing I did was teach him how to fight. I taught him how to hit, where to hit, the most painful places. I taught him WHY to hit, making sure he understood that he was to only hit when he was defending himself, and to not allow himself to become the bully. So, everyday we were out there, in the back yard. Every day he grew more skillful. He grew more confident, but still lacked the one thing needed to set himself free from the bullying, an actual altercation with one. So about 3 weeks into it, I told him that the very next time a kid bullied him, he was to defend himself, that he was to beat the crap out of that kid. The next day we get a call from the school, "your son was in a fight." So, we went in and the staff told us what happened. A kid was bullying him in the lunch line. He asked the kid to stop and when he didn't, my step son beat the crap out of that kid. The staff said they were going to suspend him from school for fighting. I told them that they would not because he wasn't fighting, he was defending himself because they failed to protect him from the bullies. That they allowed the bullies to abuse him through their indifference and wilful blindness. I told them that if they punish him that I would sue the school, the parents of the other kids, and the school board. I said I knew such a suit would fail, but that I would also notify the local news media, and tell our son's story and how the school constantly ignored my wife's pleas for help from them. How they always said his problems stem from something at home, and that "boys will be boys." They knew I was serious. They knew I was not making an idle threat. Our son went to school the next day, no punishment enacted. The other bullies left him alone that day. It still took a few more fights, a few more times of teaching those kids that he wasn't going to take their crap anymore. in the end, he won his freedom from the abuse. Now, he is grown, a productive member of society, still kind hearted. He does disaster relief full time, helping others. Fighting back is not wrong. it works. what is wrong is punishing a kid for defending himself and than wondering why bullies won't stop. Acting as if you were never a kid and don't know what it's like.
Zachary T It is. Not all parents agree. Not all will go to bat for their kid to keep them from being suspended, but regardless of all that, it works. You don't even have to win the fights, you just have to fight. Life is like that, metaphorically speaking. You will have to fight for everything you want. Might as well get in the habit of it with such a relatively simple task of literally fighting back against a bully. Fear is the biggest hurdle, but the cool part is, you don't have to be unafraid. You can be terrified and still fight back. Courage is not the absence of fear, it's taking action in spite of the presence of fear.
I agree. If the comments are verbal, stay strong and you will emerge stronger. I know that much. But if it becomes physical and they take the first hit, you can kick their ass and claim self defense. That's how it goes.
Ellen’s eyes are so beautiful. Especially when they are full of tears. She is really a special person who has given so many of the forgotten a platform. Bless you Ellen and your incredible staff who work so hard to help so many.
I remember watching this and just crying because it was so sad. At our school we have an anti-bully project to stop bullying others. Please be an upstander instead of a bystander
I remember being bullied in the 3rd grade. It was awful, it really was. I had just come to a new school and 3 girls used to put their stuff in my bag and used to say that I stole them. I remember I was crying. Fortunately, it didn't last for long because I had the courage to tell it to my teacher. Then everything finished. I want to say to everybody who is being bullied, guys don't let anybody offend you and hurt you. This is what they want to do. Kill the silence. Speak to somebody, to your parents or your teachers. You don't deserve it. Do something.
same!! it must be an elementary thing (idk) because this guy that hated me took this girls "special pink pencil" that she really loved, and she had a mental illness, and put it in my desk. i swore i didnt have it and of course i did because he put it in there, and the teacher found it and i got in HUGE trouble. People thought i was a terrible person for the whole year. literally the only thing i remember from elementary, sadly.me & the girl were actually friends too and she never talked to me again
I work now as a teacher and I will make it my mission to ensure that I will intervene if I ever see bullying in a school. It sometimes made me feel miserable in high school and I hated myself at one point, but then I made it my dream to be a teacher so that I can be there for the students who need us to help and stop bullying.
To all those that are being bullied.You are beautiful and kind.You are worthy of this life.Don't let those mfs torture you,fight back,even if it seems impossible.Don't let them get away with it.Don't do anything to yourself.Think about you mom,dad,sister,brother,friends. School will pass,and you'll get the see a beautiful life,you'll have friends,you'll find a loved one.IT WILL GET BETTER!!IT WILL!Don't give up,cause you were born to life,to thrive,to be a winner!There are people who love you,never forget that,and you DO MATTER!Don't let those unloved sorry excuse for a human tell you otherwise!Attack is the best defence,so,if they targeted you,it's because there is something wrong with them,and not you! AND TO BULLIES:don't forget that what goes around comes around.I hope your kids gets bullied,so you get the see the fear and saddness in their eyes!You pittyfull human beings!
Luna Lucifuge YES..YES and MILLION TIMES YES YOU ARE SO RIGHT AND I HOPE PEOPLE CAN REALLY LOOK ON TO WHAT YOU JUST SAID... AND TO ALL THE BULLIES OUT THEIR.... I'm praying for you.
If I were those parents, I'd absolutely not send my children back to that school. I mean, I'd bring hell down on everyone for their part in my child's death, but I certainly wouldn't let my remaining children go back there.
I was bullied through junior high and high school because I was smart. I downplayed my desire to learn a lot, and it is one of the biggest regrets of my life. I woke up my senior year of high school, and I SMOKED those idiots to graduation. I graduated with honors and top of my class. Now, I'm not even 21, and I have a successful career as a mortician and I nice income. I can't wait to go back to my high school reunion. I'll never forget their cutting words, but now, I've learned to forgive them.
I have the same problem! I'm in 10th grade at the moment, I've been bullied all through school because I was "bigger" and smarter than most people I went to school with. I've always had honors, and I still do. People like you inspire me to not let anyone get me down and make something out of myself. I just wanted to say thanks, and good for you for showing them what you're made of and not letting them bring you down! I hope you walk into your high school reunion with your head held high :)
My son also has Aspergers... and he gets bullied. We need to make that connection. I also am a high functioning autistic. I just tell my son that it is lonely, but I was able to succeed. And I told him all that he is great at, that his life matters.
I fail to understand WHY....WHY people can be so hateful and heartless and have the audacity to tell other people to "go kill themselves" or tell them they're worthless. How can a human being be so filled with such hatred and absolutely no love or kindness in their heart? I have seen to much hate and it is slowly killing me inside. Like, sometimes I feel so depressed and hopeless seeing all this hatred going around. We need more people like Ellen DeGeneres. She is genuinely a good and kind human being. She uses her fame to help other people. You can see through videos like these that she actually cares and feels their pain. I love that woman to death. Humanity needs to be a little more like Ellen. ♥
I agree. I can only image how alone that kid felt. The feeling of love is the best, whether it's from friends or family. I wish people would stop being so messed up; so cowardice. Do the bullies seriously don't understand the pain that it causes the victim? I hope that people learn the love.
They feel empowered that they can influence another's feelings and self-worth. They don't understand the weight of their words. They don't understand that every word, every taunt, every action doesn't just dissipate by the next day; they all build up. You go home, you get the weekends, holidays and summer vacation, but now with social media you don't get a reprieve anymore. Some parents are apathetic until it happens to them because they don't get that with Facebook there is no such thing as peace from bullies. A lot of people say "they need to stand up for themselves". In a way they are right. It's important to make a stand, however it's all the more difficult when you feel like literally everyone in school is against you. It's just you against a massive army.
The fact that some people disliked this video is horrible. How can you watch this and even remotely think that it is bad? This video is so beautiful and I feel so sad for that family and the things they had to go through.
"remember to be kind to one another"…..because it's not hard to be nice. In fact I think that it takes much more energy to hate, spew, cause mayhem….etc than it does to be gentle, understanding, loving. Acceptance of our differences is such a huge part of this. Maybe if we can embrace our differences rather than use them as a thing to divide us, there might be hope. RIP Tyler and all my hope to the families of all those who have acted out because of other people telling them that they are less than.
After this child committed suicide and the other children went into school wearing nooses around their necks like it was some sort of joke, they should have all been given a month's worth of Saturday Detentions, given and additional "In School suspension" for 6 weeks and left back for a year. If they were scheduled to graduate, their Prom Privileges should have been revoked and they should not have been allowed to graduate. Make them repeat Senior Year taking nothing but Tolerance Courses and Humanities Courses before they can graduate. As for the schools administration and faculty who allowed this type of behavior to take place, they should be terminated and never allowed to teach again. Anyone who allows this type of behavior should be ashamed of themselves. We live in a society in which we should be kind to one another and help those in need.
I'm a victim of bullying and throughout all of it I realized that it lead me to depression and social anxiety. It's really hard and it's so hard to accept the fact that I'm only 13 and it's happening so fast... I love ellen and she made me so happy and made me realize that I don't need to listen to anything negative anyone says to me!
Celina Velez At 13, kids can be awful to each other. It will take a little time but most of the mean ones will grow out of it. You're ahead of the game if you've realized that other people's negativity is not a true reflection of you. You sound smart and focused, and you have a bright future ahead of you.
Yes totally, befriend the ones being bullied, I did that too during my school years and I believe it really really helped and from that also evolved a long wonderful friendship that lasts to this day (It's been 9 years) that I wouldn't wanna miss.
I love Ellen so much. I feel like stumbling onto this old video was an answered prayer or something. I've been having the hardest time dealing with my friends death for the past 6 months. What his father said about moving on really lifted so much from my shoulders. Thank you so much to Ellen and this family. Even if they never read this. I'm sure they won't but I'm grateful.
when the father started crying at 12:10, I just lost it.. Couldn't stop crying ._. I've been bully before in my middle and high school years, so i know the feeling :/
I cried watching this clip, I also cried while watching the documentary. The thought of my daughter ever going through anything like this tears my heart. RIP to all the victims of bullying
I cried my friend has been bullied before but I stood up for her and made her feel better everyone in the school knows her but says bad things about her I keep her feelings happy and that makes me happy we are both there for each other and we really need to change the world. 💙 you Ellen
I lost my close friend and classmate when we were in eighth grade. She was 13 and I was 14, and one day I'd stayed home sick. I had taken a nap and my mom woke me up and I knew right then that something was wrong. She had, at 13 years old, taken her own life on account of bullying and depression. Kids need to know that what they say matters. I'm never going to see her again, and in the last two and a half years, I've had to accept that. I'm so grateful for Ellen and her message to "be kind to one another," because I have seen first hand the consequences of unkindness and bullying. It needs to stop now, and ever since her passing, I've done everything I could possibly do to stand up and say that it's not okay. Bullying someone isn't funny or cute. It is deadly. It does take lives. It took Isabella's life.
People say bullying only hurts if you let it hurt you. But that's not true!! Bullying hurts horribly. Once people start to call you names, you kind of start to believe it. You feel this hopeless, unworthy of anything feeling. I've been bullied since the 1st grade, people calling me gay, and fat, etc. I have deaf parents, so even though they knew that it was effecting me, they've never really known how to deal with it other than go to the principle. School officials will do nothing to stop bullying and I can tell you myself that that is a fact. I would go to school officials countless times yet nothing would be done. I've had 10 years of counseling (I'm 16 now, in the 11th grade) and I still get bullied. I came out in the 10th grade that I am attracted to boys but no matter who I love, I'm human and I deserve to be treated like anyone else. The only time anyone has ever punished a bully, that was bullying me was last year when I decided I had enough.
I overdosed on 30 Prozac pills (a total of 600 mg of my prescription) and ended up in the hospital having to drink liquid charcoal, being transferred to a main hospital closest to me in my state, being in the ICU under suicide watch with a heart rate of 29 beats per minute, also staying an additional 4 days in the top floor of the hospital. The boy who I told on right before I did this was finally punished after I did this but only by being put in, in school suspension for 2 days. Now all these students make fun of me because I told on him. Don't be afraid to tell someone, even if nothing is done. Be who you are, I bleed red, you bleed red, they bleed red. You're no different. Love yourself You're not alone! I'm trying to start an organization in my school for bullied kids, bullies, bystanders, anyone really to bring awareness to bullying and it's affects on our society. Not only does it hurt people, but it hurts their families.
People have been calling me gay since 1st grade and scrawny and in 7th grade i was in a library and a kid walked up to me with a book called gay pigeon (yeah i know stupid book title) and he said "hey david its ur biography" and that scarred me and i went home crying all day, bullies are stupid pricks, i know people say "well they must have problems" well they're still being fucking terrible humans so why dont they get punished just because they might have problems, that gives them no right to hurt others.
kevin germanotta *They lost a child, what do you expect?* My parents lost their first born who as a chopper medic was killed in Vietnam. He was my only sibling, my best friend and hero. The house was 'empty' for a long time. His death was not the same circumstance as Tyler or any other kid being bullied into suicide but the loss is no different.
I was bullied for 6 years until I moved to different country. Everyday I went to my school, people were calling me names, pushing around, stealing my bag and kicking it sometimes getting everything out off my bag, that one person was turning everyone against me, even my friends. When my mom was asking how was in school today and I have always replied 'Everything was fine and cool'. I used to keep it inside me but my mom knew something is not alright and she talked to me about it and then I told her everything, she went to my school to talk with my teachers and asking if they can help me, but they didn't, my family was supporting me as much as they can, but I had to keep my head up, being strong and hoping bullying ends soon. So, bullying people is horrible, they didn't deserved it, they just want to be happy and enjoy their life but bullies are ruining it. If someone is bullying you stay strong, try to ignore them and then they'll know that you are stronger than them not physically but mentally :)
no matter what they call you don't let it get to you. keep standing up for yourself and never stop they call you names for it cause they don't like that you're standing up to them. Giving up is exactly what they want so do the exact opposite, better yet, dont even respond theyll hate that
Golden Freddy their teasing u so u can stand up for ur self and that's the reaction they do don't give it to them when they tease you pretend they're a brick wall
I hope he's at peace. I was bullied at school. With reflection they are very scared and lonely under achieving people who find control in this way. They never bully alone and are afraid by themselves. This is no excuse for them. Schools need to step-up to change this situation as well. There is no room in this world for hate and abuse or any kind of violence - mental or physical. Respect to this family.
I hate bullies, I was bullied at school and even though it's been almost 11 years, it still effects you for the rest of your life. If your a bully and you watched this and your reading this, please stop, get help if you need to, but please just stop
I think some people may be disliking how the parents handled the bullying and feel that they could have done better than to leave 100% of the responsibility on the school, even when they know that method isn't working since the bullying is continuing, year-after-year. When I had problems in school, my dad came to the school and talked to the kids themselves, since the school wasn't doing anything, and my dad toughened me up as well, which ended the problem once and for all. There's so many other options available for parents to protect their kids from bullying, but many parents take the easy route and just expect that the school will solve or "fix" the problem, even when it's apparent that they aren't. Parents have so much more power in this area to end bullying than they realize.
It's not just about parents telling their kids to love one another; it's about parents showing their kids that they LOVE them; treating them kindly, spending time with them, being there for them, not yelling at them, forgiving them...
I have read a few comments on here that words can't hurt u and killing urself is wrong and u should stand up for urself, words can hurt they can be just as harmful as someone being physical. There are kids or even adults that attempt or do actually take their lives from verbal bullying. U see all the time with online bullying and it is sicken that nothing s being done about. I was bullied through secondary school until one day I wasn't going to stand for it anymore and I stood up for myself and fought back and from then on I wasn't bullied again because they no longer seen me as weak.I will stand up for anyone who is being bullied if it be physical or verbal. Words hurt and can cut deeper than than someone pushing u over or even a punch or kick those will heal but words can stick with u. I hope this family finds some peace.
When I see someone getting mage fun of or being bullied I ALWAYS PUT AN END TO IT! Even when I see people walking with their heads down I dish out compliments to simply try to brighten their day. BE KIND! We never know what the next person is going through!! One kind act can save a life, and when you choose to be mean to someone you may be the last straw for that person and they may give up and hurt themselves. It costs nothing to simply smile at someone and be kind
This was a very difficult video to watch. I think perhaps for Ellen, this is the hardest interview she has conducted, and you tell that by the constant tremble in her voice. Well done Ellen for bringing the issue to the forefront to such a wide audience, and hopefully action taken. Regrettably it is not just an issue in the USA, but in the UK in partcular as well as many European Countries. In the UK, we have child suicides as well, regrettably not just as a result of bullying in the playground with minors, but adults as well. We have a Charity over here called the National Society for the Prention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) who have put a lot of work in supporting school to recognise "symptons" in a child being bullied and how to intervene. As a result of that awareness project, the number of expulsions (removal) of bullies from school has increased and more importantly the parents of the bullies being questioned as well. Regrettably teachers and parents can only see so much, since much of the bullying goes on outside the school gates, as the child is going home. Bullying takes three forms: 1. verbal abuse 2.physical abuse 3.psycological abuse. The first two are easier to detect, the third is not, particularly a child who is subject to the the threats are in fear that if they "tell" the bullies will follow them, and therefore will not tell their parents/teachers. Regretablly, as I have read in reports in medical journals in the UK, it is a recognised statistic that those who were bullied either by their parents or at school, assuming they survive in to their late teenage years and become adults; become bullies too. That brings me to an even more serious issue in so far that these now adult bullies try to do the same thing in the commercial world. Bullying in the work place is as serious an issue now in the UK as it is in schools, not just management -v- staff, but also between members of staff themselves, particularly young supervisor-v-new commer. I was subject to commercial bullying by an incomming Financial Director who criticised and undermined all my work, even threatening me with my job. Reporting it to the Board of Directors was futile. I was offered a new memeber of staff to assist me, which was taken on board. The Friday before I was threatened with my job should things not improve. Bear in mind the new appointee was due to start on the Monday. As a result of the unnecessary pressure and the fact that the Director had deliberately chosen a month end date where there was a high vloume of reporting to tight time schedules I was told I was not doing my job. That afternoon I had a near fatal epileptic fit. It also cost me my job, and has caused problems finding work since as a result of the onset of the epilepsy as a condition. The point of relating the series of events, is that adults need to realise that bullying does not just start at school, but is now a major issue in commerce and industry, particularly in the target driven approach to business. Many of those targets known to Management as unattainable and used to generate constructive dismissal, or nervouse breakdown. In 1988, I had the misfortune to witness a senior Sugar Trader on the International Commodities Exchange suffer a full nervous break-down: he decided he was a tree and felt he didn't need to do this (his job) anymore. He was totally convinced and struck dumb, stiffened up and paramedics had to be called. The only way they could get him out of the building was to sedate him to the point of collapse. He never traded again. This indicates the amount of (unnecessary) pressure on staff around the world and accounts for the reason why the number of suicides and nervous breakdowns have increased in the last 25 years. It also shows that commercial bullying is as serious an issue as playground abuse. May your God be with you Tyler, and your family. And Ellen, thank-you for delivering a commentray and conducting an interview with very distressed people, on such as sensitive subject, and so well. Christopher Richards London, England.
i was a bully myself and its only now when im older and i see how people in my family are bullied what kind of effect it has. i never told anyone to hang themselves but i sure wasnt the nicest person to be arround. we were considered the cooler kids but now i know there was absoluty nothing cool about making other people feel miserable. i sorted out my problems and am now learning as a psychiatrist to help children who need it. i'm sorry for all the people who get bullied. but i'm also sorry for the bullies !
If you say that your sorry over the internet because you bullied someone in your life before. Well I gotta say that you've got guts. And I respect that. But I tell you what I respect more. Is people who own up to their mistakes. I'm pretty sure you'll get the chance to apologize to the people you bullied face to face. It's all good. Water under the bridge i guess.
***** i have apologized to them en they accepted it i am actually friends now with some of them but that doesnt mean my guilt has gone away.. i'm just saying. in some way everyone made fun of someone at one point in his/her life.. if someone different walks by people will look and make jokes about it that is bullying as well.. just saying
i didn't post this comment to make myself feel better. i made this comment because many people were like me a bully but when they grew up they realised they were wrong and now stand up to bullies.
KNIGHTCleric i'm not escaping my previous life because i'm still living the same life with the difference that i noticed i was doing things the wrong way by hurting people. but then again how can i take your comment serious when your profile pic is a pic of Hitler one of worlds biggest haters .. and don't tell people to kill themselve because that's a bully speaking.
I've been bullied. But anyone who is. Your stronger than what it may seem. Don't give your life away. Your so much more important. Don't be afraid to speak up. Talk to someone until they hear you and don't let it go unheard. Don't just let yourself down because of some rude kids. If it's at school. Tell a councilor or a teacher or principle. They will help. It will stop some day but don't give up. Your so much better than what they say. If you ever need to talk I want to. I want to help because I know what it's like. Don't go without saying anything.
It just truly breaks my heart how broken the dad is. I don't know if I have ever felt that incredibly sorry for someone, I want to hug him forever and tell him it's gonna be fine one day but I know it never will be fine and he will always be hurting. My goodness I feel nothing but pure love and respect for those unbelievable brave, strong and kind parents. And thank you for existing, Ellen. You're the most beautiful person in the world, your heart shines so bright! Greetings from Germany 💕
This is infinitely heartbreaking. Bullying is absolutely, positively, unequivocally, wholly UNACCEPTABLE, regardless of anything and everything. It is a vicious attack on the human spirit. It doesn't matter if the bullies are doing it to be popular, to deflect turmoil at home, or because someone is an "easy target." It doesn't matter if someone is a difference race, a different religion, overweight, underweight, handicapped, acts different, or or looks different. People should NEVER EVER participate in bullying. It should be grounds for immediate suspension. And the adults should have expelled the kids who wore nooses around their necks. When will people wake up? Look at what families are going through because schools just sweep it under the rug!
There is a very fine line between telling people not to bully, and telling people to not voice any opinions that someone else may find hurtful. Of course bullying hurts. When I was a young kid we had no money, and I wore very odd clothing, and was shy. It sucked. It got better. But this country is founded on the freedom of expression. How do you do both?
It is NOT a "fine line' between bullying and expressing opinions. A bully has the INTENT to cause pain. Two people can have similar opinions; the bully gives his message in ways to hurt the other person to whom he is speaking. I suspect many of the 'honest' opinions you express are thinly veiled ways to hurt others. Hurting others is apparently what you're about. Tennessee Williams said, "Nothing human disgusts me unless it is unkind or violent". It is my impression you are not a kind person.
Lollipopfop This family has suffered through the loss of their son. He killed himself for reasons unknown but he was bullied for years which most likely grew to be too much. We all know that this is the reason behind his death, his family loved him dearly but like his mother said, he saw things as if they were black and white. "They are bullying me, why don't they just stop". Well it got to a point where he said, "They're bullying me, I'm gonna make it stop". Don't say there is a fine line between telling people not to bully and telling people not to voice their opinions. That's a load of horse shit. Kids putting other kids down and being physically abusive is NOT a kid voicing his opinion, it is a kid being a bully. And that bully is gonna be the reason some kid takes his life. Based on your terms, I can say your a fucking dumbass. But that would be bullying right? Or would it be me voicing my opinion. If that were my statement, I would be wrong for bullying you. But if someone tells me I shouldn't say that to you because it's a mean opinion, my argument wouldn't be, "Well I'm voicing my opinion". There would be no fucking argument because it's not an opinion, it's a cruel term to bully someone. This may just be a long rant by now but it's people like you that make kids like Tyler want to take their lives, make kids like me want to take my life. He was under so much stress because kids were "voicing their opinions". Get off the high horse you rode in on because you need to reevaluate your thoughts.
Lollipopfop there is always a way to express your opinion without being hurtfull, without judging. Example: Bullying - "You listen to /band/?! Wow, you are such a loser. No one likes you." ... Opinion expression - "Oh you listen to /band/? Wow, I really don't like them. I don't know anybody else who does. But yeah, as long you don't make me listen to it, I guess it's ok!" ...got it?
I got bullied for years and was near committing suicide... Until I started fighting back one day. I just started punching that guy and let all my frustration out that build up for years. Even if you don't want to hurt other people or fight, you have to do it or it will never stop... That's how life works sometimes
In the very beginning when I met my best friend (he is British) he told me that he was bullied a lot at secondary and high school, however, I didn't have a clue how severe it was because back to my own country, China, we barely have that kind of situation seeing the schools have very harsh penalty and tough regulations on campus bully or any kinds of campus violence. He was really shy, timid but extremely kind and cultivated. Once upon a time, we Skyped and were having some random talking and he told me all the bully stuff he suffered and suddenly he burst into tears, desperately, I was absolutely shocked. He described one time he got bullied at winter campus by his classmates in France and he tried to commit suicide, fortunately, that didn't really happen. Since then, I know how much sufferings he got through and I tried my best to help him of being strong mentally and being confident because he is such an amazing friend. Now, he is about graduating from University and looking forward to moving on his bright future, I'm so proud of him. And our friendship continues after three years of acquaintance we made of each other. For all the kids who are suffering from the bully, please be strong and fight back, we are all with you.
There were a few things mentioned in the video that makes me sick, one is that after Tyler's death there were students wearing nooses around their neck, how could they be so heartless and how could the school tolerate these people. Another thing was when they said bullying still goes on in the school and it hasn't changed a bit, makes you wonder if those students even have a conscience. They must be mindless zombies to act the way they have. I was never bullied but I can only imagine how difficult it would be to live life with the fear of a bully constantly there to put you down and hurt you physically as well as mentally.
the people that are in this school are literally so disgusting, like why would you do such a thing to a boy who has been living through a hard time because of bullying? people need to listen up and stop bullying. bullying is not a joke.
Michael Pham Very true, the school should have issued instant expulsions to the students who wore the nooses around their necks, they should also suspend students for bullying and if it still happens a couple of times after that then they should also be expelled. It's a sad state of affairs when people can behave like these horrible people and have no repercussions. If there is any justice they will have a horrible life.
Ya I was bullied by a teacher in the 4h grade and my parents were told by the teacher and school that bullying is good for kids and it makes them work harder. So its a school problem.
Jill Jildo Bullied by a teacher? That's messed up, you should have reported that teacher to the principal or something. That teacher should be fired if they bully kids. Bullying will not make people work harder it only puts them down and makes them feel bad about themselves. I'm sure most schools wouldn't allow that though, it's just a few that give all the rest a bad name.
I know my parents did and he said that bullying makes kids worker harder and the principal agreed. But it was a long time ago but my nieces and nephews will not have that teacher.
Some people don't understand. I have been scrolling through the comments and I just want to say words do hurt. They can hurt more than anything. I might be in middle school but what the other girls say to me is so horrible. Everyone is focused on having a boyfriend/girlfriend but nobody is focused on that we need to be kind to each other. 2 years a boy at my school got hit and killed by a car. He didn't commit suicide but I heard so many mean things said about his passing. I was suicidal but got through it, and I believe that anyone who is reading this has a purpose, even if I don't know you and you die. I will mourn your death.
LiveLoveAct You're right. If words can be good to you they can also hurt. Don't you guys like it when your mother says "I'm proud of you" when your sibling says "I love you" when your neighbor says "Thank you"? That's why words like "I hate you" or "I'm disappointed in you" and so on can hurt. Because they are not "just words" they also mean something.
LiveLoveAct well written. .I think schools and homes need to teach kids what bullying is, it should be a subject to learn in school. .words are like swords..if I have the money and power to do so, I will take the school boards to have a class on that. .to teach our kids not to hurt each other
I have aspergers. Kids in school kept getting me into trouble. They played the school system. My parents confronted the teachers. The teachers said "No, she's okay, we're handling it." No, they flipping weren't. My Mom realised this, and pulled me out of school, and homeschooled me. Thank God she did. I was in a never-ending hell hole, and went to CAMHS meetings, psychologists e.t.c. My Mom has given so much to make my life better and easier. #autismawareness
Since I have been homeschooling, I am happy in myself, and I've improved so much and done a lot more than I ever could in school. I've realised that schools can be alright for some kids, but teacher and parents NEED to work and try to clamp down on bullying.
Jessi Range That is sweet of your mom to let you be homeschooled. That's actually a best solution because if you move schools,then what if the exact thing happens again?
This video needs to get millions of views, not just videos of celebrities. People need to hear the story behind the film. People need to go out there and see the film. They need to become more aware and then take action. Make change happen.
This is so heart breaking. I've been watching ellen show and ellen is such an amazing person. She is a good listener. The world needs more people like her. Please, respect and love each other. It doesn't cost a diamond if we respect and love each other.
Been bullied during school for nearly the whole period in life i was in school... Had just 1 "friend" my pc (from 1989 on) DOS, Windows and games were my "friends" and stressrelief... Never got over it, still my pc and consoles are a big part of my life, luckily never came to suicide although I've thought about it I found something to live for. I think there should be an international Bully awareness day or week, where all VIP supporters show they think it's unacceptable
My school has anti-bullying day and we all wear pink shirts (it's has a long story behind it and it's all across Canada) the think I find annoying is when you see one of your bullies wearing a pink shirt....
i am sorry for what they did to you and your family....my soul was crushed when i saw this documentary...rest in peace little brother...rest in peace...
you know being bullied is horrible i have been bullied for eight till about ten years and people told me to kill myself and it still hurts so it is better not to be both
+Hafsa Suleiman I understand what you mean, but that's not true at all... If you had been bullied in your life before, you'd wish that you wasn't.. you'd wish that you were on the other side. But thank you anyway for the support!
I can totally relate. I was born with Crouzon’s Syndrome, an autosomal dominate genetic disorder. It presents as craniofacial deformity. I was bullied throughout grade school and high school. Multiple surgeries, with complications, left me with permanent facial scarring and left eye ptosis ( drooping). I graduated from college, became a registered nurse and served in the military. I am now in my early 60s’ - and am still subjected to stares, ridicule, rejection and comments. The pain never stops and the bitterness goes deep.
I grew up in the middle east, i was constantly bullied because of my ethnicity in grade 7 and it was friends that made me stronger, if only tyler had friends as such.
hellyeah7368 i was in china and the bullying was so bad and people would do inhumane things, but something a change of scenery is all it takes for a person to get back on track
When I was 6, I had a bully that broke my arm, gave me 4 black eyes, strangled me multiple times and beat me up in school time or in the weekends. My school didn't do anything about the situation and just said boys will be boys. And not all boys are like this. It got so bad I had severe headaches and the doctors rushed me to middle more hospital, they did all sorts of tests. They wanted to do a cat scan or something like this, because they thought I had a brain tumour. But I was in stress and depressed. I ended up not have a cat scan because it would effect me when I would have a babies. In 2016 my 2 "friends" were making multiple fat jokes about me all the time. They called me "slut" "hoe" "whore" "bitch" "selfish bitch". And I wasn't the only one being bullied but these two boys. They bullied most kids in my class and my friends but I was the main target. They cyber bullied me aswell. It got so bad I had to change classes for a few days to give me a break. One day I had, had enough and ran out of the school grounds to my mums work. One on the boys, James. Suffered from seizures or something like that, I supported him through when he passed out and he turned on me. He started blaming his medical reasons on me, to the point I had kids coming up to me and asking me why I would do this to him. It got bad enough I started cutting my wrists. My parents don't know about this and my friends do. I haven't cut in a 6 months and I hope not to have to do again. They both love your show and they watch you all the time and if they see this message....watch out James and Nikhil. I'm not the only one watching you. Oh by the way James I still have your address :)
I have been bullied since I was 7 and I'm 18 now and have attempted suicide a few times. It's been 11 years and the bullying has yet to stop although it's more verbal than it was physical now. Bullying has really taken a toll on me, I suffered from depression, anxiety and an eating disorder. I am currently down the road to recovery again after hurting myself a month and a half ago and I'm hoping to be successfully this time. All of this has only made me stronger and I'm not giving up any time soon I have been inspired by a friend to reach out and help others who are going through something similar as to what I'm going through. Anyone out there who wants someone to just listen to them, I am here. I will listen. Know that you're not alone and that there is someone out that who cares and loves ya. That someone is me ☺
l was a victim of bullies all the way up to my 11th grade ,one kid in particular made it a point to seek me out at least three times a day .it has been almost thirty years since he last bullied me .the memories are still there ,l guess they will be for the rest of my life .it bothers me when l hear of a child taken their life because of a bully .how do you punish the bullies ? do you punish the kids parents do you punish the school systems what is the answer
that's one thing I don't think many people realize is that just because you aren't around bullies anymore or anything like that it doesn't mean the memories go away. So many people have the attitude that after high school everything goes away you can't stop bullying so why try. I've heard so many people with that attitude an it's just not right. I was bullied from 1st grade til I graduated high school and even though it's only been 6 years since I was in high school I still think about it. When I get a new job or am around new people the memories of what I went through and what other people thought and said to me goes through my head and affects how I act sometimes.
I was bullied by another 7th grader (I'm 70 now). He was good at it and had a lot of kids intimidated. He often threatened he would meet them after school and beat the crap out of them. One day he cornered me and gave that threat. Shaking in my boots, I said, "Okay, I'll meet you at the front gate and we can go fight". He said, "I'm warning you, I'll beat you up". I told him I didn't care - I'd be there to fight him. He didn't show. I felt a combination of anger and relief - I was very scared of fighting him. The next day, I confronted him about not being there. He denied we had agreed to meet. I looked at him for a long time while he glared at me. I saw him for the fake he was, and walked away. He never bothered me again. Scratch a bully, and you have a coward every time.
You don't punish anyone because someone decides to commit suicide. The only person that makes the choice is the one killing themselves. Its that kids fault that he chose to take a human life, his own. Thats why suicide is a sin, and a crime. It makes the same amount of sense to punish a guy because his neighbor robbed a bank.
Lollipopfop when you are talking about a teen your talking about someone who's emotions are all over the place .when one of their piers decides it is fun to pick on them relentlessly then there is a serious problem .in a few instances bullies have used the internet to draw their victims in and then exploit them ..example Amanda Todd made a mistake like many other teen age girls she was with a friend and they were on some cam site she lifted her shirt and her nightmare began till she could no longer take it anymore .she killed herself .you have other cases where bullies befriend someone talking sweet and caring then it turns to your worthless and nobody wants you the taunts continue to the point the teen believes it and takes their life .. in a very close situation l was recently involved in a 14 year old male killed himself ,this young man had talents that might have landed him in major league baseball ,but because he was bullied by kids at his new school and a break up with his girlfriend he decided it was better to end his life .the kids that had bullied him commented they wanted to push his buttons they never meant for it to go that far
Mr. & Mrs. Long came to speak at my camp about bullying and all of us counselors were so inspired by their persistence and love for each other and their family to prevent this tragedy from happening again. God bless!!
The part where the mother said that kids were wearing nooses around their necks to mock Tyler really pissed me off. Like who in the right mind would even think of doing such a thing. I know it has been about 4 since Tyler's death, but my he rest in piece.
That made me so mad. If I saw someone doing that I would get so upset, I tried to kill my self by cutting and I got hospitalized for it and the school had a moment of silence and they said I tried to kills my self and blah blah blah. When I went back to school all of my bullies were wearing shirts saying (in French because it's my native language) "good luck next time" and "try a gun next time". So I switched school but I told no one but my friends. A few weeks after moving my friend called me and said that my past bullies were saying that I finally killed my self and that they were happy that I finally went back to were I belonged (hell). And last year one of my bullies switched into my school (they didn't know i went there) and he was getting bullied because he has a fake lower leg (he was in a car accident) and I stood up to him, a week after that I got a letter from him. Apologizing and that he didn't realize what the shirts said
I feel her pain... If she was bullyied herself I hope all those people now look at her and just are ashamed of themselves (they should be anyway, about everytime a bully has done what he or she does))! Ellen is amazing!
My mothers work was partnered with the creators of "Bully". It was such a touching and inspiring movie. It changed my views on everything. No one every deserves to be bullied, no one. Kids are mean and they need to stop.
I was bullied from day one of school, to my last day at my graduation. That was 13 years of my life, age 5-18. I'm 21 now, I've only lived three years in peace. Even though most of my life was spent in what felt like an eternal hell. I'm so glad I made it through those 13 years, even though the memories of pain and torture are ingrained in my brain and my skin. Mental, Physical and Cyber bulling has to stop. I struggled through those 13 years, attempting to commit suicide many times, what was the point of living, praying to a god who didn't help me. I prayed and I preached, yet I was the most hurt as I watched other kids only pray. I'm no longer religious, but I hold religious values because they are morals. I thought that I would never leave the thick fog of hate and torture. But I've been out of it for three years, and I'm so glad I stuck it out, otherwise I really would have missed out on life. It was worth the wait to get through school, I hoped that once school was over that things would get better, and that if not, then after a year I would kill myself. Life is better out of school, bullying can happen in other spheres I know, but out of school, you are more likely able to escape them and the pain as we have more of an ability to walk away. To anyone considering suicide, DONT. It may feel like the worlds against you, but there are people out there rooting for you, including me. 13 years may seem like a long time, especially to a 21 year old like me. But when I'm 40, it will be a blip of my life, to which I will only remember the good times that I shared with the few people who were actually there for me.
Here is the thing I learned about bullies. One punch to the face of the biggest one, and the rest will leave you alone. Take the biggest one down, and the others will follow. No one thinks bullied kids will fight back. When you do, you show them that you are not afraid of them. My bully got hers. Teach your kids that it is ok to fight back. Talk to your kids about bullying. If you are the parent of a bully, then you need to start whipping some ass. Parents are to blame for their kid's bullying. You teach your kids by your own actions.
Maybe. Hitting kids will retaliate, fighting flames with flames make a bigger flame. What I would have done was (Im a parent,) storm into that school, and talk to the principal. If they arent running their school right, which they should be, I'll report them. School boards. I'll talk to my kid, but he cant do anything.. Punching someone gets you a punch back. If I knew I wouldnt get my kid banned, I would walk into every class and talk to the kids. I dont care for bullying, and if staff will go to certain extents to STOP me, then thats some bullshit that I will make sure bites them in the ass.
Josh Staines my son was bullied. One day someone pushed his head while he was drinking from the fountain. Chipped his tooth. I stormed into the principal's office and asked what he could do to change things. He promised to talk to the kids. Not long after, I got a call from the school. They had pushed my son through the trophy case and he had a three inch gash on his arm that required stitches. I stormed into the school. Got IN the principal's face. Had he ever "had that talk" with the other kids? No. So yeah...I did that whole storming thing, and it didn't accomplish anything. And I think if he'd fought back it would have gotten worse. Education is the key. And sanctions for bullying. A kid smokes in the bathroom, and gets suspended for three days. Make bullying a similar thing. If you bully, you will be sent home.
Superbrewsters rank coffe Well being as all your posturing in the principals face did nothing it would seem as if your kid suffered needlessly. Had you told your kid it was ok to defend himself that gash might never have happened. And no ma'am if he had knocked the hell out of the bully it would have stopped right then. Evidence and common sense prove that.
This put me into tears.... knowing my sister is constantly being physically and verbally abused every day by other students... just because she's different... please love and support each other... love you all❤️
I cannot believe the school did nothing! My schools growing up were so strict about rules and being a bully free zone that it is hard to hear that other schools do nothing. It's appalling that the school did nothing about kids wearing the nooses.
I was Bullied and I got suspended for reacting to the person that was abusing me and when I think about things like that continuing... I feel so hurt and angry...
I was bullied in school. I was the smallest boy in my grade and painfully shy and quiet. Then one day Ben invited me to sit next to him on the bus, that is where most of the bullying took place. Ben was the biggest kid in our grade. Ben was the biggest kid in the school. At 12 he was over six feet tall. Ben was also shy and quiet but people were afraid of Ben. It was because of his size. Neither of us had any friends so we ended up as friends. When I was around Ben nobody bullied me. If you see someone being bullied, and you are able to, be a Ben.
Oh man i didn't have a dry eye through this whole video... so heartbreaking... that family is extremely inspiring and incredibly strong... wise words from ellen too...
Not long before this came out, I lost a friend to suicide. Except, he was bullied to death by our teachers. Our principle. The people who were supposed to help him grow and learn, killed him. I left public school because of bullying. It's gotta stop.
+Brianna Gordy I really am sorry for your loss but id just like to point out that bullting doesnt just take place in public schools. i sttend a public school and am proud to say that hardly any cases of severe bullying take place.
I go to a public school but theirs like no bullying that goes on in our school none that I notice at least but I honestly don't know why I've never even known what bullying was till social media and stuff came out cause no one at our school ever bullied people, I live in Minnesota and the city I live in is a rather wealthy city so idk if that's why but I think it has a big impact on the way people treat others
David and Tina Long came to my middle school to speak today. It was amazing. My friend and I were crying so hard. They are two amazing people. My heart hurts for them.
Kinda glad im not from america. But if i was, i would fightback, train myself, and when we finally fend the bullies of myself, help other people who were bullied.
Abdullah Almohannadi Of course it is everywhere. Some countries have bigger issues than others though. I am from Switzerland and I was bullied in middle school. The bullying problem in Switzerland still isn't as bad as in the US because at least the teachers did their best to stop it. They listened to my parents, they talked to the bullies parents, they kept a closer eye on the bullies and ensured me. That didn't completely stop the bullying, but it helped and I didn't feel like I was the misfit, I was right and they were wrong. When a teacher pretends that everything is fine, you will start to think that your bullies are right and you are wrong. It gets even worse when your parents don't listen, or when you don't tell.
This made me cry. I'm with Ellen in that I do not understand how any human being, no matter what age, can have such a lack of compassion for other living creatures. We are all in this together! It is not survival of the fittest, I truly believe we can all live in harmony. However, I know that is how the bullies view it. I have talked to people before that have that mentality that basically, it is survival of the fittest. They think if someone commits suicide because they were bullied, it just means they weren't strong enough. The bullies don't feel bad, they don't feel like it's their fault, and we're not going to reach them through guilt trips. I think maybe we should come up with laws that actually punish the bullies when this happens. Accessory to murder or something.
I used to get bullied from junior high to high school. It was so bad ... I was an Ace student all the way until the bullying got too bad I just skipped school altogether and my grades suffered. I would fear Going to school everyday and would feel little about myself all the time... My Mom complained the situation to my Teacher and she simply didn't do anything . she was even sarcastic during confrontation time in class ... I can never forget that teacher. Now that I'm a teacher myself, I am very very critical about bullying in class. Teach your kids, parents. Teach them to accept everyone in this world irregardless of race, looks, size whatever. Save the other kids. You don't want your kid to be the one ending up dead.
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they should show this film in schools to all classes
they already do
didnt in my school
+Tessa from retail Yeah...
A kid in my school commited suicide last year and after we had a moment in silence the entire school was called to the office and we watched the documentary
We watched it at my school
I was bullied for 12 years of public school. Everything from due to my choice of music, interests, and the clothes I had. I was diagnosed with depression in 6th grade. when I moved to another school. I met two teachers who knew what I went through. I thank my two teachers who helped me pick up my grades successfully. middle and high school was hell but once i left, I felt a strength inside me, knowing that I had courage to pull through.
+David Valencia don't give up. there is always good people in the world. it's so sad that it happens but everyone is special in their own way and so are you.
At least you had that! I only wish I'd had some strong allies. At High School, at work, wherever. When I walked out of my HS that day in summer 1980 I felt like I'd been released from prison after serving a sentence for a crime I hadn't committed. It got better. Slowly, but it got better. I became quite my own person and couldn't care less what those cowards are doing with their lives.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 bless you and your family
It is amazing that every body that commented has been bullied
Natalya Flake We are grateful and proud that we made it through!
when the father cried oh my god i cried like a baby so heart breaking
+jem em me too it's so sad
Ikr
So did I I lost it, I have 2 daughters the while time I was thinking about them, and when it comes time for them to go to school.
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So sad. Ellen was clearly struggling to conduct this interview, it's heartbreaking . Please don't bully. We are all beautiful, amazing, incredible living miracles. We are equal. Live, love and be kind. Please x
+psicofukapus no
It's hard to hear that there hasn't been a change at that High school since then... Just unbelievable... and sad... and annoying!!
Its bad in middle school to
I was quite heavily bullied all throughout school, every day, and after over 21 years on this planet I still cannot fathom how somebody can look at somebody else and feel like they should bully them. I literally don't understand how somebody can feel the need to attack people for no reason. It's ridiculous.
True I was bullied in the work place more than in schools. And that's something we need to clean up too.
Yep, what's worse is that people make excuses for bullies.
"Oh, she must have a terrible home life."
"He's been through a lot."
Yeah, I didn't grow up rich and I've been through a lot of shit and never turned violent and took it out on other people. Bullying needs to be stamped out not caressed.
I agree. I was so happy to get out of school because it was bad for new. I still remember a text sent me. She said, "you will never get a boyfriend because they are afraid you will eat them. Oink oink." If I ever saw someone get bullied I said something, I made that person realize what they were doing is wrong. I wish more people would just stick up for each other and stop bullying.
The problem is that children in that young age don't understand the consequences of what they're doing. That's why children are often very honest too. If they think you're fat they say it, if they think you're ugly they say it too.
Usually bullies make fun of children that are different than the others. So the others will also bully the different one and feel strong together bullying him but becaue they don't understand what that can really lead too and makes them feel superior they keep doing it.
In that case it should be the bullies' parents who should intervene.
+Lina DragonKiller
I know what you mean. My brother was bullied too and now has similar problems but he is slowly getting better. I think such things just need time and if you're positive about it I think it will eventually get better. I also think it helps to find a hobby/sport or something you enjoy doing so you can escape from this stress and pressure. Anyway good luck and get better.
I was a bully magnet growing up, as was my step son, so pay close attention to what I'm saying. All the documentaries, kind thoughts, well wishes, and encouraging kindness are all well and good. But in the end, they do not help any more than the school anti bullying programs instituted with half effort and even less heart. There is only one way, one, way, to stop a bully. I learned it as a kid, and when I came into my stepson's life, I taught it to him. Some people will have idealistic, but naive, arguments against what I'm about to say. Some will say, "well, some kids just don't have that in them." and they will be shown to be wrong because my wife said the same thing about her son.
The only way to stop a bully is to fight back. To keep fighting back. To punch and kick until you have beaten into them that you will not be an easy target, that you will not be a victim. When I was a kid I got tired of it and fought back, and after just a little bit of time I was no longer bullied. I also gained confidence in myself. You see, trying to protect a kid being bullied by keeping them home doesn't help them the day the go back to school, and it doesn't counter the emotional effects bullying has. It not only tortures you physically, but emotionally as well. it kills your confidence in yourself, you start to believe the bullies teasing and taunting words. you live in fear, of everything.
If you teach your kids to fight back, teach them that it IS OK to defend themselves, and encourage them to do so, they will not only end their own torment, it will give them the self image boost they sorely need.
My step son was and still is a kind person. always willing to help others, always kind to others. He grew up always being nice, wanting to have friends. He was a little chubby kid, soft and soft hearted. He was a bullies dream victim, never fighting back, always just taking it, then coming home depressed and abusive of himself. After a while his straight A grades slipped, he turned inward, rarely leaving his room when he was home, seeking an escape in video games. When we found out about the bullying, I immediately told his mom what I just told you. She, like you may be, disagreed. I told her that I would refrain from telling him to fight back until she tried anything she wanted to end the bullying. She went through the same wilful blindness of the school staff that these parents did, and her son only got worse. It was when he started scratching himself to the point of drawing blood that she told me to help him my way.
I took that little kid, that 6th grade kind hearted kid outside to our back yard, and I told him that every day, every day, he was to meet me back there after school and on weekends. I did two things. I talked to him about the bullying, and told him that it's OK to fight back, no matter where the bullying occurs. I told him that even if it is in the middle of class, that he is allowed to defend himself, and that his mother and I would not allow the school to punish him for it. The second thing I did was teach him how to fight. I taught him how to hit, where to hit, the most painful places. I taught him WHY to hit, making sure he understood that he was to only hit when he was defending himself, and to not allow himself to become the bully.
So, everyday we were out there, in the back yard. Every day he grew more skillful. He grew more confident, but still lacked the one thing needed to set himself free from the bullying, an actual altercation with one. So about 3 weeks into it, I told him that the very next time a kid bullied him, he was to defend himself, that he was to beat the crap out of that kid.
The next day we get a call from the school, "your son was in a fight." So, we went in and the staff told us what happened. A kid was bullying him in the lunch line. He asked the kid to stop and when he didn't, my step son beat the crap out of that kid. The staff said they were going to suspend him from school for fighting. I told them that they would not because he wasn't fighting, he was defending himself because they failed to protect him from the bullies. That they allowed the bullies to abuse him through their indifference and wilful blindness. I told them that if they punish him that I would sue the school, the parents of the other kids, and the school board. I said I knew such a suit would fail, but that I would also notify the local news media, and tell our son's story and how the school constantly ignored my wife's pleas for help from them. How they always said his problems stem from something at home, and that "boys will be boys."
They knew I was serious. They knew I was not making an idle threat. Our son went to school the next day, no punishment enacted. The other bullies left him alone that day. It still took a few more fights, a few more times of teaching those kids that he wasn't going to take their crap anymore. in the end, he won his freedom from the abuse.
Now, he is grown, a productive member of society, still kind hearted. He does disaster relief full time, helping others. Fighting back is not wrong. it works. what is wrong is punishing a kid for defending himself and than wondering why bullies won't stop. Acting as if you were never a kid and don't know what it's like.
That's a great life lesson to teach your child. I'm being bullied but I always have a friend who's there with me
Zachary T It is. Not all parents agree. Not all will go to bat for their kid to keep them from being suspended, but regardless of all that, it works. You don't even have to win the fights, you just have to fight. Life is like that, metaphorically speaking. You will have to fight for everything you want. Might as well get in the habit of it with such a relatively simple task of literally fighting back against a bully. Fear is the biggest hurdle, but the cool part is, you don't have to be unafraid. You can be terrified and still fight back. Courage is not the absence of fear, it's taking action in spite of the presence of fear.
well said
we need more people like you
I agree. If the comments are verbal, stay strong and you will emerge stronger. I know that much. But if it becomes physical and they take the first hit, you can kick their ass and claim self defense. That's how it goes.
Ellen’s eyes are so beautiful. Especially when they are full of tears. She is really a special person who has given so many of the forgotten a platform. Bless you Ellen and your incredible staff who work so hard to help so many.
I remember watching this and just crying because it was so sad. At our school we have an anti-bully project to stop bullying others. Please be an upstander instead of a bystander
+Isabella Vasquez Go and get made in the a.m
I remember being bullied in the 3rd grade. It was awful, it really was. I had just come to a new school and 3 girls used to put their stuff in my bag and used to say that I stole them. I remember I was crying. Fortunately, it didn't last for long because I had the courage to tell it to my teacher. Then everything finished. I want to say to everybody who is being bullied, guys don't let anybody offend you and hurt you. This is what they want to do. Kill the silence. Speak to somebody, to your parents or your teachers. You don't deserve it. Do something.
same!! it must be an elementary thing (idk) because this guy that hated me took this girls "special pink pencil" that she really loved, and she had a mental illness, and put it in my desk. i swore i didnt have it and of course i did because he put it in there, and the teacher found it and i got in HUGE trouble. People thought i was a terrible person for the whole year. literally the only thing i remember from elementary, sadly.me & the girl were actually friends too and she never talked to me again
Kayla Rodenburg Yeah, that is really awful. Life is so unfair sometimes.
***** Good for you! I'm glad you had the courage to defend.
***** agree
C.f.
I work now as a teacher and I will make it my mission to ensure that I will intervene if I ever see bullying in a school. It sometimes made me feel miserable in high school and I hated myself at one point, but then I made it my dream to be a teacher so that I can be there for the students who need us to help and stop bullying.
good on you mate :')
God bless you! We need to do everything we can to STOP it!
Daniel Caceres yeah i know what you mean. it's really sad :'( and Bless you too!
To all those that are being bullied.You are beautiful and kind.You are worthy of this life.Don't let those mfs torture you,fight back,even if it seems impossible.Don't let them get away with it.Don't do anything to yourself.Think about you mom,dad,sister,brother,friends.
School will pass,and you'll get the see a beautiful life,you'll have friends,you'll find a loved one.IT WILL GET BETTER!!IT WILL!Don't give up,cause you were born to life,to thrive,to be a winner!There are people who love you,never forget that,and you DO MATTER!Don't let those unloved sorry excuse for a human tell you otherwise!Attack is the best defence,so,if they targeted you,it's because there is something wrong with them,and not you!
AND TO BULLIES:don't forget that what goes around comes around.I hope your kids gets bullied,so you get the see the fear and saddness in their eyes!You pittyfull human beings!
Luna Lucifuge thank you
Luna Lucifuge YES..YES and MILLION TIMES YES YOU ARE SO RIGHT AND I HOPE PEOPLE CAN REALLY LOOK ON TO WHAT YOU JUST SAID... AND TO ALL THE BULLIES OUT THEIR.... I'm praying for you.
Leesha's Destiny!! I just hope I helped somebody or saved somebodys life.That's all that matters
Luna Lucifuge you don't know how much this made my day god bless you
Alex Nava Fuck. Off.
This is the most inspiring and amazing episode of any show ever. Thank you, Ellen, for changing all of our lives. You inspire us.
If I were those parents, I'd absolutely not send my children back to that school. I mean, I'd bring hell down on everyone for their part in my child's death, but I certainly wouldn't let my remaining children go back there.
They did because a lot of the things they said were no true.
I was bullied through junior high and high school because I was smart. I downplayed my desire to learn a lot, and it is one of the biggest regrets of my life. I woke up my senior year of high school, and I SMOKED those idiots to graduation. I graduated with honors and top of my class. Now, I'm not even 21, and I have a successful career as a mortician and I nice income. I can't wait to go back to my high school reunion. I'll never forget their cutting words, but now, I've learned to forgive them.
Good on you girl!
Success is the best revenage
I have the same problem! I'm in 10th grade at the moment, I've been bullied all through school because I was "bigger" and smarter than most people I went to school with. I've always had honors, and I still do. People like you inspire me to not let anyone get me down and make something out of myself. I just wanted to say thanks, and good for you for showing them what you're made of and not letting them bring you down! I hope you walk into your high school reunion with your head held high :)
***** its because of people like you who make the world a bad place
ghazalcalgary
Luckily TH-cam has made it easy to report trolling fools like this. please clean up the bullies by reporting!! Thxs :)
My son also has Aspergers... and he gets bullied. We need to make that connection. I also am a high functioning autistic. I just tell my son that it is lonely, but I was able to succeed. And I told him all that he is great at, that his life matters.
I fail to understand WHY....WHY people can be so hateful and heartless and have the audacity to tell other people to "go kill themselves" or tell them they're worthless. How can a human being be so filled with such hatred and absolutely no love or kindness in their heart? I have seen to much hate and it is slowly killing me inside. Like, sometimes I feel so depressed and hopeless seeing all this hatred going around. We need more people like Ellen DeGeneres. She is genuinely a good and kind human being. She uses her fame to help other people. You can see through videos like these that she actually cares and feels their pain. I love that woman to death. Humanity needs to be a little more like Ellen. ♥
I agree. I can only image how alone that kid felt. The feeling of love is the best, whether it's from friends or family. I wish people would stop being so messed up; so cowardice. Do the bullies seriously don't understand the pain that it causes the victim? I hope that people learn the love.
+Desi Harrison bad parenting
Bad parenting and bad schooling
Bullies are a breed of their environment! Their up-bringing...aka their parents!
“My voice will not fall silent. I will go to my grave until a difference is made.”
Truer words have never been spoken. I’m right there with you, sir.
I don't know what kind of satisfaction bullies get when they bully people.
They feel empowered that they can influence another's feelings and self-worth. They don't understand the weight of their words. They don't understand that every word, every taunt, every action doesn't just dissipate by the next day; they all build up.
You go home, you get the weekends, holidays and summer vacation, but now with social media you don't get a reprieve anymore. Some parents are apathetic until it happens to them because they don't get that with Facebook there is no such thing as peace from bullies.
A lot of people say "they need to stand up for themselves". In a way they are right. It's important to make a stand, however it's all the more difficult when you feel like literally everyone in school is against you. It's just you against a massive army.
The fact that some people disliked this video is horrible. How can you watch this and even remotely think that it is bad? This video is so beautiful and I feel so sad for that family and the things they had to go through.
"remember to be kind to one another"…..because it's not hard to be nice. In fact I think that it takes much more energy to hate, spew, cause mayhem….etc than it does to be gentle, understanding, loving. Acceptance of our differences is such a huge part of this. Maybe if we can embrace our differences rather than use them as a thing to divide us, there might be hope. RIP Tyler and all my hope to the families of all those who have acted out because of other people telling them that they are less than.
After this child committed suicide and the other children went into school wearing nooses around their necks like it was some sort of joke, they should have all been given a month's worth of Saturday Detentions, given and additional "In School suspension" for 6 weeks and left back for a year. If they were scheduled to graduate, their Prom Privileges should have been revoked and they should not have been allowed to graduate. Make them repeat Senior Year taking nothing but Tolerance Courses and Humanities Courses before they can graduate. As for the schools administration and faculty who allowed this type of behavior to take place, they should be terminated and never allowed to teach again. Anyone who allows this type of behavior should be ashamed of themselves. We live in a society in which we should be kind to one another and help those in need.
this is so sad did anybody else cry while watching this 😇😇
me 😩
I did ❤️
Me
***** I'm so sorry
I am crying so much
It took so much out of me to watch all of this, this is absolutely heart shattering. I hope they get justice for everybody honestly.
I'm a victim of bullying and throughout all of it I realized that it lead me to depression and social anxiety. It's really hard and it's so hard to accept the fact that I'm only 13 and it's happening so fast... I love ellen and she made me so happy and made me realize that I don't need to listen to anything negative anyone says to me!
Celina Velez At 13, kids can be awful to each other. It will take a little time but most of the mean ones will grow out of it. You're ahead of the game if you've realized that other people's negativity is not a true reflection of you. You sound smart and focused, and you have a bright future ahead of you.
Never have I cried harder than when I watched bully. That hits so close to home. People need to grow up.
Some people bully thinking its just a joke, but its fucking not.there is a difference between joking with friends and terrorizing innocent kids.
Yes totally, befriend the ones being bullied, I did that too during my school years and I believe it really really helped and from that also evolved a long wonderful friendship that lasts to this day (It's been 9 years) that I wouldn't wanna miss.
I love Ellen so much. I feel like stumbling onto this old video was an answered prayer or something. I've been having the hardest time dealing with my friends death for the past 6 months. What his father said about moving on really lifted so much from my shoulders. Thank you so much to Ellen and this family. Even if they never read this. I'm sure they won't but I'm grateful.
when the father started crying at 12:10, I just lost it.. Couldn't stop crying ._. I've been bully before in my middle and high school years, so i know the feeling :/
I was bullied to the point of suicide and I got locked up in the asylum for 9 days.
I cried watching this clip, I also cried while watching the documentary. The thought of my daughter ever going through anything like this tears my heart. RIP to all the victims of bullying
im so sorry for these two amazing parents, its such a heart breaking thing to go through
I cried my friend has been bullied before but I stood up for her and made her feel better everyone in the school knows her but says bad things about her I keep her feelings happy and that makes me happy we are both there for each other and we really need to change the world. 💙 you Ellen
I lost my close friend and classmate when we were in eighth grade. She was 13 and I was 14, and one day I'd stayed home sick. I had taken a nap and my mom woke me up and I knew right then that something was wrong. She had, at 13 years old, taken her own life on account of bullying and depression. Kids need to know that what they say matters. I'm never going to see her again, and in the last two and a half years, I've had to accept that. I'm so grateful for Ellen and her message to "be kind to one another," because I have seen first hand the consequences of unkindness and bullying. It needs to stop now, and ever since her passing, I've done everything I could possibly do to stand up and say that it's not okay. Bullying someone isn't funny or cute. It is deadly. It does take lives. It took Isabella's life.
People say bullying only hurts if you let it hurt you. But that's not true!! Bullying hurts horribly. Once people start to call you names, you kind of start to believe it. You feel this hopeless, unworthy of anything feeling. I've been bullied since the 1st grade, people calling me gay, and fat, etc. I have deaf parents, so even though they knew that it was effecting me, they've never really known how to deal with it other than go to the principle. School officials will do nothing to stop bullying and I can tell you myself that that is a fact. I would go to school officials countless times yet nothing would be done. I've had 10 years of counseling (I'm 16 now, in the 11th grade) and I still get bullied. I came out in the 10th grade that I am attracted to boys but no matter who I love, I'm human and I deserve to be treated like anyone else. The only time anyone has ever punished a bully, that was bullying me was last year when I decided I had enough.
I overdosed on 30 Prozac pills (a total of 600 mg of my prescription) and ended up in the hospital having to drink liquid charcoal, being transferred to a main hospital closest to me in my state, being in the ICU under suicide watch with a heart rate of 29 beats per minute, also staying an additional 4 days in the top floor of the hospital. The boy who I told on right before I did this was finally punished after I did this but only by being put in, in school suspension for 2 days. Now all these students make fun of me because I told on him.
Don't be afraid to tell someone, even if nothing is done.
Be who you are, I bleed red, you bleed red, they bleed red. You're no different.
Love yourself
You're not alone!
I'm trying to start an organization in my school for bullied kids, bullies, bystanders, anyone really to bring awareness to bullying and it's affects on our society. Not only does it hurt people, but it hurts their families.
People have been calling me gay since 1st grade and scrawny and in 7th grade i was in a library and a kid walked up to me with a book called gay pigeon (yeah i know stupid book title) and he said "hey david its ur biography" and that scarred me and i went home crying all day, bullies are stupid pricks, i know people say "well they must have problems" well they're still being fucking terrible humans so why dont they get punished just because they might have problems, that gives them no right to hurt others.
emotional fam. rip Tyler. god bless you & your family
Physical wounds can heal in time, but emotional wounds can last a lifetime.
The dad eyes looks sadness, emotion, cannot move on. The mom eyes looks hopeless, finding another way to move on.
kevin germanotta *They lost a child, what do you expect?* My parents lost their first born who as a chopper medic was killed in Vietnam. He was my only sibling, my best friend and hero. The house was 'empty' for a long time. His death was not the same circumstance as Tyler or any other kid being bullied into suicide but the loss is no different.
I was bullied for 6 years until I moved to different country. Everyday I went to my school, people were calling me names, pushing around, stealing my bag and kicking it sometimes getting everything out off my bag, that one person was turning everyone against me, even my friends. When my mom was asking how was in school today and I have always replied 'Everything was fine and cool'. I used to keep it inside me but my mom knew something is not alright and she talked to me about it and then I told her everything, she went to my school to talk with my teachers and asking if they can help me, but they didn't, my family was supporting me as much as they can, but I had to keep my head up, being strong and hoping bullying ends soon. So, bullying people is horrible, they didn't deserved it, they just want to be happy and enjoy their life but bullies are ruining it. If someone is bullying you stay strong, try to ignore them and then they'll know that you are stronger than them not physically but mentally :)
I get bullied and I stand up for myself and then I get called the jerk
Just beat those BITCHES up!
They won't be saying a word to you later
they just hating on u prob bc ur more smarter than them sake them off
no matter what they call you don't let it get to you. keep standing up for yourself and never stop they call you names for it cause they don't like that you're standing up to them. Giving up is exactly what they want so do the exact opposite, better yet, dont even respond theyll hate that
True
Golden Freddy their teasing u so u can stand up for ur self and that's the reaction they do don't give it to them when they tease you pretend they're a brick wall
I was just diagnosed with PTSD from bullying. Thank you for your focus on this.
+Kostly Therapy I also have Asperger. It was violent at times, but the humiliation was allot worse. This is as bad as sexual assault.
If Ellen run for president, I definitely vote for her. Ellen for president 2020
YEEEEESSSS
yesss
omg yes
Md,d
The world would be a loving place if she was, we all could learn more about compassion i think.
I hope he's at peace.
I was bullied at school. With reflection they are very scared and lonely under achieving people who find control in this way. They never bully alone and are afraid by themselves. This is no excuse for them. Schools need to step-up to change this situation as well. There is no room in this world for hate and abuse or any kind of violence - mental or physical.
Respect to this family.
I hate bullies, I was bullied at school and even though it's been almost 11 years, it still effects you for the rest of your life. If your a bully and you watched this and your reading this, please stop, get help if you need to, but please just stop
410 dislikes are bullies themselves. ..
I think some people may be disliking how the parents handled the bullying and feel that they could have done better than to leave 100% of the responsibility on the school, even when they know that method isn't working since the bullying is continuing, year-after-year. When I had problems in school, my dad came to the school and talked to the kids themselves, since the school wasn't doing anything, and my dad toughened me up as well, which ended the problem once and for all. There's so many other options available for parents to protect their kids from bullying, but many parents take the easy route and just expect that the school will solve or "fix" the problem, even when it's apparent that they aren't. Parents have so much more power in this area to end bullying than they realize.
Matthew Harvey
I agree😪
I Agree!
I also agree
you are absolutely right
It's not just about parents telling their kids to love one another; it's about parents showing their kids that they LOVE them; treating them kindly, spending time with them, being there for them, not yelling at them, forgiving them...
I have read a few comments on here that words can't hurt u and killing urself is wrong and u should stand up for urself, words can hurt they can be just as harmful as someone being physical. There are kids or even adults that attempt or do actually take their lives from verbal bullying. U see all the time with online bullying and it is sicken that nothing s being done about. I was bullied through secondary school until one day I wasn't going to stand for it anymore and I stood up for myself and fought back and from then on I wasn't bullied again because they no longer seen me as weak.I will stand up for anyone who is being bullied if it be physical or verbal. Words hurt and can cut deeper than than someone pushing u over or even a punch or kick those will heal but words can stick with u. I hope this family finds some peace.
Rest in peace Tyler.
Everyone is differant.
When I see someone getting mage fun of or being bullied I ALWAYS PUT AN END TO IT! Even when I see people walking with their heads down I dish out compliments to simply try to brighten their day. BE KIND! We never know what the next person is going through!! One kind act can save a life, and when you choose to be mean to someone you may be the last straw for that person and they may give up and hurt themselves. It costs nothing to simply smile at someone and be kind
This was a very difficult video to watch.
I think perhaps for Ellen, this is the hardest interview she has conducted, and you tell that by the constant tremble in her voice. Well done Ellen for bringing the issue to the forefront to such a wide audience, and hopefully action taken.
Regrettably it is not just an issue in the USA, but in the UK in partcular as well as many European Countries. In the UK, we have child suicides as well, regrettably not just as a result of bullying in the playground with minors, but adults as well. We have a Charity over here called the National Society for the Prention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) who have put a lot of work in supporting school to recognise "symptons" in a child being bullied and how to intervene.
As a result of that awareness project, the number of expulsions (removal) of bullies from school has increased and more importantly the parents of the bullies being questioned as well. Regrettably teachers and parents can only see so much, since much of the bullying goes on outside the school gates, as the child is going home.
Bullying takes three forms:
1. verbal abuse
2.physical abuse
3.psycological abuse.
The first two are easier to detect, the third is not, particularly a child who is subject to the the threats are in fear that if they "tell" the bullies will follow them, and therefore will not tell their parents/teachers.
Regretablly, as I have read in reports in medical journals in the UK, it is a recognised statistic that those who were bullied either by their parents or at school, assuming they survive in to their late teenage years and become adults; become bullies too.
That brings me to an even more serious issue in so far that these now adult bullies try to do the same thing in the commercial world.
Bullying in the work place is as serious an issue now in the UK as it is in schools, not just management -v- staff, but also between members of staff themselves, particularly young supervisor-v-new commer.
I was subject to commercial bullying by an incomming Financial Director who criticised and undermined all my work, even threatening me with my job. Reporting it to the Board of Directors was futile. I was offered a new memeber of staff to assist me, which was taken on board. The Friday before I was threatened with my job should things not improve. Bear in mind the new appointee was due to start on the Monday.
As a result of the unnecessary pressure and the fact that the Director had deliberately chosen a month end date where there was a high vloume of reporting to tight time schedules I was told I was not doing my job. That afternoon I had a near fatal epileptic fit. It also cost me my job, and has caused problems finding work since as a result of the onset of the epilepsy as a condition.
The point of relating the series of events, is that adults need to realise that bullying does not just start at school, but is now a major issue in commerce and industry, particularly in the target driven approach to business. Many of those targets known to Management as unattainable and used to generate constructive dismissal, or nervouse breakdown.
In 1988, I had the misfortune to witness a senior Sugar Trader on the International Commodities Exchange suffer a full nervous break-down: he decided he was a tree and felt he didn't need to do this (his job) anymore. He was totally convinced and struck dumb, stiffened up and paramedics had to be called. The only way they could get him out of the building was to sedate him to the point of collapse. He never traded again.
This indicates the amount of (unnecessary) pressure on staff around the world and accounts for the reason why the number of suicides and nervous breakdowns have increased in the last 25 years. It also shows that commercial bullying is as serious an issue as playground abuse.
May your God be with you Tyler, and your family.
And Ellen, thank-you for delivering a commentray and conducting an interview with very distressed people, on such as sensitive subject, and so well.
Christopher Richards
London, England.
i was a bully myself and its only now when im older and i see how people in my family are bullied what kind of effect it has. i never told anyone to hang themselves but i sure wasnt the nicest person to be arround. we were considered the cooler kids but now i know there was absoluty nothing cool about making other people feel miserable. i sorted out my problems and am now learning as a psychiatrist to help children who need it. i'm sorry for all the people who get bullied. but i'm also sorry for the bullies !
If you say that your sorry over the internet because you bullied someone in your life before. Well I gotta say that you've got guts. And I respect that. But I tell you what I respect more. Is people who own up to their mistakes. I'm pretty sure you'll get the chance to apologize to the people you bullied face to face. It's all good. Water under the bridge i guess.
***** i have apologized to them en they accepted it i am actually friends now with some of them but that doesnt mean my guilt has gone away.. i'm just saying. in some way everyone made fun of someone at one point in his/her life.. if someone different walks by people will look and make jokes about it that is bullying as well.. just saying
KNIGHTCleric Look at you telling someone to kill themselves on a video about antibullying. You are a bully right now.
i didn't post this comment to make myself feel better. i made this comment because many people were like me a bully but when they grew up they realised they were wrong and now stand up to bullies.
KNIGHTCleric i'm not escaping my previous life because i'm still living the same life with the difference that i noticed i was doing things the wrong way by hurting people. but then again how can i take your comment serious when your profile pic is a pic of Hitler one of worlds biggest haters .. and don't tell people to kill themselve because that's a bully speaking.
I've been bullied. But anyone who is. Your stronger than what it may seem. Don't give your life away. Your so much more important. Don't be afraid to speak up. Talk to someone until they hear you and don't let it go unheard. Don't just let yourself down because of some rude kids. If it's at school. Tell a councilor or a teacher or principle. They will help. It will stop some day but don't give up. Your so much better than what they say. If you ever need to talk I want to. I want to help because I know what it's like. Don't go without saying anything.
It just truly breaks my heart how broken the dad is. I don't know if I have ever felt that incredibly sorry for someone, I want to hug him forever and tell him it's gonna be fine one day but I know it never will be fine and he will always be hurting. My goodness I feel nothing but pure love and respect for those unbelievable brave, strong and kind parents.
And thank you for existing, Ellen. You're the most beautiful person in the world, your heart shines so bright!
Greetings from Germany 💕
This is infinitely heartbreaking. Bullying is absolutely, positively, unequivocally, wholly UNACCEPTABLE, regardless of anything and everything. It is a vicious attack on the human spirit. It doesn't matter if the bullies are doing it to be popular, to deflect turmoil at home, or because someone is an "easy target." It doesn't matter if someone is a difference race, a different religion, overweight, underweight, handicapped, acts different, or or looks different. People should NEVER EVER participate in bullying. It should be grounds for immediate suspension. And the adults should have expelled the kids who wore nooses around their necks. When will people wake up? Look at what families are going through because schools just sweep it under the rug!
There is a very fine line between telling people not to bully, and telling people to not voice any opinions that someone else may find hurtful. Of course bullying hurts. When I was a young kid we had no money, and I wore very odd clothing, and was shy. It sucked. It got better. But this country is founded on the freedom of expression. How do you do both?
It is NOT a "fine line' between bullying and expressing opinions. A bully has the INTENT to cause pain. Two people can have similar opinions; the bully gives his message in ways to hurt the other person to whom he is speaking. I suspect many of the 'honest' opinions you express are thinly veiled ways to hurt others. Hurting others is apparently what you're about. Tennessee Williams said, "Nothing human disgusts me unless it is unkind or violent". It is my impression you are not a kind person.
Lollipopfop This family has suffered through the loss of their son. He killed himself for reasons unknown but he was bullied for years which most likely grew to be too much. We all know that this is the reason behind his death, his family loved him dearly but like his mother said, he saw things as if they were black and white. "They are bullying me, why don't they just stop". Well it got to a point where he said, "They're bullying me, I'm gonna make it stop". Don't say there is a fine line between telling people not to bully and telling people not to voice their opinions. That's a load of horse shit. Kids putting other kids down and being physically abusive is NOT a kid voicing his opinion, it is a kid being a bully. And that bully is gonna be the reason some kid takes his life. Based on your terms, I can say your a fucking dumbass. But that would be bullying right? Or would it be me voicing my opinion. If that were my statement, I would be wrong for bullying you. But if someone tells me I shouldn't say that to you because it's a mean opinion, my argument wouldn't be, "Well I'm voicing my opinion". There would be no fucking argument because it's not an opinion, it's a cruel term to bully someone. This may just be a long rant by now but it's people like you that make kids like Tyler want to take their lives, make kids like me want to take my life. He was under so much stress because kids were "voicing their opinions". Get off the high horse you rode in on because you need to reevaluate your thoughts.
Lollipopfop there is always a way to express your opinion without being hurtfull, without judging. Example: Bullying - "You listen to /band/?! Wow, you are such a loser. No one likes you." ... Opinion expression - "Oh you listen to /band/? Wow, I really don't like them. I don't know anybody else who does. But yeah, as long you don't make me listen to it, I guess it's ok!" ...got it?
An emotional ending where they didn't need to play the music, Ellen you are truly amazing., hearts to the family.
I got bullied my whole life and I just try to be strong and get through the tough times
Stay strong you can do it.🙏🏻
+Hmh Graceffa thanks
I got bullied for years and was near committing suicide... Until I started fighting back one day. I just started punching that guy and let all my frustration out that build up for years. Even if you don't want to hurt other people or fight, you have to do it or it will never stop... That's how life works sometimes
Dj'sworld 08 stay strong.. I'm with you
Bullies are just pathetic human beings who feel inferior and try to feel superior by humiliating someone, a "weak" person, they're so sick
In the very beginning when I met my best friend (he is British) he told me that he was bullied a lot at secondary and high school, however, I didn't have a clue how severe it was because back to my own country, China, we barely have that kind of situation seeing the schools have very harsh penalty and tough regulations on campus bully or any kinds of campus violence. He was really shy, timid but extremely kind and cultivated. Once upon a time, we Skyped and were having some random talking and he told me all the bully stuff he suffered and suddenly he burst into tears, desperately, I was absolutely shocked. He described one time he got bullied at winter campus by his classmates in France and he tried to commit suicide, fortunately, that didn't really happen. Since then, I know how much sufferings he got through and I tried my best to help him of being strong mentally and being confident because he is such an amazing friend. Now, he is about graduating from University and looking forward to moving on his bright future, I'm so proud of him. And our friendship continues after three years of acquaintance we made of each other.
For all the kids who are suffering from the bully, please be strong and fight back, we are all with you.
There were a few things mentioned in the video that makes me sick, one is that after Tyler's death there were students wearing nooses around their neck, how could they be so heartless and how could the school tolerate these people. Another thing was when they said bullying still goes on in the school and it hasn't changed a bit, makes you wonder if those students even have a conscience. They must be mindless zombies to act the way they have. I was never bullied but I can only imagine how difficult it would be to live life with the fear of a bully constantly there to put you down and hurt you physically as well as mentally.
the people that are in this school are literally so disgusting, like why would you do such a thing to a boy who has been living through a hard time because of bullying? people need to listen up and stop bullying. bullying is not a joke.
Michael Pham Very true, the school should have issued instant expulsions to the students who wore the nooses around their necks, they should also suspend students for bullying and if it still happens a couple of times after that then they should also be expelled. It's a sad state of affairs when people can behave like these horrible people and have no repercussions. If there is any justice they will have a horrible life.
Ya I was bullied by a teacher in the 4h grade and my parents were told by the teacher and school that bullying is good for kids and it makes them work harder. So its a school problem.
Jill Jildo Bullied by a teacher? That's messed up, you should have reported that teacher to the principal or something. That teacher should be fired if they bully kids. Bullying will not make people work harder it only puts them down and makes them feel bad about themselves. I'm sure most schools wouldn't allow that though, it's just a few that give all the rest a bad name.
I know my parents did and he said that bullying makes kids worker harder and the principal agreed. But it was a long time ago but my nieces and nephews will not have that teacher.
Some people don't understand. I have been scrolling through the comments and I just want to say words do hurt. They can hurt more than anything. I might be in middle school but what the other girls say to me is so horrible. Everyone is focused on having a boyfriend/girlfriend but nobody is focused on that we need to be kind to each other. 2 years a boy at my school got hit and killed by a car. He didn't commit suicide but I heard so many mean things said about his passing. I was suicidal but got through it, and I believe that anyone who is reading this has a purpose, even if I don't know you and you die. I will mourn your death.
LiveLoveAct You're right. If words can be good to you they can also hurt. Don't you guys like it when your mother says "I'm proud of you" when your sibling says "I love you" when your neighbor says "Thank you"? That's why words like "I hate you" or "I'm disappointed in you" and so on can hurt. Because they are not "just words" they also mean something.
LiveLoveAct you are so right
LiveLoveAct well written. .I think schools and homes need to teach kids what bullying is, it should be a subject to learn in school. .words are like swords..if I have the money and power to do so, I will take the school boards to have a class on that. .to teach our kids not to hurt each other
God Bless you all. ❤️
God loves you all, sweet people. God Bless you all. ❤️
Absolutely heartbreaking but such a needed conversation that people need to hear. I’m so sorry for their loss.
I have aspergers. Kids in school kept getting me into trouble. They played the school system. My parents confronted the teachers. The teachers said "No, she's okay, we're handling it." No, they flipping weren't. My Mom realised this, and pulled me out of school, and homeschooled me. Thank God she did. I was in a never-ending hell hole, and went to CAMHS meetings, psychologists e.t.c. My Mom has given so much to make my life better and easier. #autismawareness
Since I have been homeschooling, I am happy in myself, and I've improved so much and done a lot more than I ever could in school. I've realised that schools can be alright for some kids, but teacher and parents NEED to work and try to clamp down on bullying.
Jessi Range That is sweet of your mom to let you be homeschooled. That's actually a best solution because if you move schools,then what if the exact thing happens again?
@@MisschefiousUK This is very true. I hope you are doing good wherever you are now.
This video needs to get millions of views, not just videos of celebrities. People need to hear the story behind the film. People need to go out there and see the film. They need to become more aware and then take action. Make change happen.
I'm sick and angry at how teachers, counselors, principals and the school system hasn't stopped this evil act.
This is so heart breaking. I've been watching ellen show and ellen is such an amazing person. She is a good listener. The world needs more people like her. Please, respect and love each other. It doesn't cost a diamond if we respect and love each other.
This world needs to change badly.
So badly
i know right :(
This world needs more people like Ellen she can turn a shitty day into a positive day
So sad😢 if I was one of those bully's I wud never forgive myself
Been bullied during school for nearly the whole period in life i was in school... Had just 1 "friend" my pc (from 1989 on) DOS, Windows and games were my "friends" and stressrelief... Never got over it, still my pc and consoles are a big part of my life, luckily never came to suicide although I've thought about it I found something to live for.
I think there should be an international Bully awareness day or week, where all VIP supporters show they think it's unacceptable
My school has anti-bullying day and we all wear pink shirts (it's has a long story behind it and it's all across Canada) the think I find annoying is when you see one of your bullies wearing a pink shirt....
i am sorry for what they did to you and your family....my soul was crushed when i saw this documentary...rest in peace little brother...rest in peace...
💖💖we love you Tyler 💖💖😘😖
So how was Tyler's death ? Does he kill himself or a kid kill him ?
+Fashionista DIYs he committed suicide, which means he killed himself
They said he did it.
Who's Tyler?
+Elite_ 360GamingHD the boy who got bullied😔
Wow that's hard... Hope these kids who bullied him will never forget about it.
i would rather be bullied than be a bully.
It's not good to be either the bully or to be the bullied. Would you rather be someone who would want to stop it when you witness it first hand ?
+Hafsa Suleiman an amazing thing 2 say . no joke amazing
you know being bullied is horrible i have been bullied for eight till about ten years and people told me to kill myself and it still hurts so it is better not to be both
+Hafsa Suleiman I understand what you mean, but that's not true at all... If you had been bullied in your life before, you'd wish that you wasn't.. you'd wish that you were on the other side. But thank you anyway for the support!
+Lotte Scharenborg I'm so sorry stay strong
I can totally relate. I was born with Crouzon’s Syndrome, an autosomal dominate genetic disorder. It presents as craniofacial deformity. I was bullied throughout grade school and high school. Multiple surgeries, with complications, left me with permanent facial scarring and left eye ptosis ( drooping). I graduated from college, became a registered nurse and served in the military. I am now in my early 60s’ - and am still subjected to stares, ridicule, rejection and comments. The pain never stops and the bitterness goes deep.
Your first one minuted rolled down tears from my eyes. I m in 2016.
someone asks: 'who are those 330 people who disliked this video??'
answer: 'the bullies themselves'
I grew up in the middle east, i was constantly bullied because of my ethnicity in grade 7 and it was friends that made me stronger, if only tyler had friends as such.
i got bullied too but live is mostly good, gotta look forward cuz everything will be better
kevin mao Yeah man same here, all G now
hellyeah7368 i was in china and the bullying was so bad and people would do inhumane things, but something a change of scenery is all it takes for a person to get back on track
This video should come hopefully till AT LEAST ONE BILLION VIEWS
When I was 6, I had a bully that broke my arm, gave me 4 black eyes, strangled me multiple times and beat me up in school time or in the weekends.
My school didn't do anything about the situation and just said boys will be boys. And not all boys are like this.
It got so bad I had severe headaches and the doctors rushed me to middle more hospital, they did all sorts of tests. They wanted to do a cat scan or something like this, because they thought I had a brain tumour. But I was in stress and depressed. I ended up not have a cat scan because it would effect me when I would have a babies.
In 2016 my 2 "friends" were making multiple fat jokes about me all the time. They called me "slut" "hoe" "whore" "bitch" "selfish bitch". And I wasn't the only one being bullied but these two boys. They bullied most kids in my class and my friends but I was the main target. They cyber bullied me aswell. It got so bad I had to change classes for a few days to give me a break.
One day I had, had enough and ran out of the school grounds to my mums work. One on the boys, James. Suffered from seizures or something like that, I supported him through when he passed out and he turned on me. He started blaming his medical reasons on me, to the point I had kids coming up to me and asking me why I would do this to him. It got bad enough I started cutting my wrists. My parents don't know about this and my friends do. I haven't cut in a 6 months and I hope not to have to do again.
They both love your show and they watch you all the time and if they see this message....watch out James and Nikhil. I'm not the only one watching you. Oh by the way James I still have your address :)
But you're beautiful and so you're soul & spirit... 💕
I have been bullied since I was 7 and I'm 18 now and have attempted suicide a few times. It's been 11 years and the bullying has yet to stop although it's more verbal than it was physical now. Bullying has really taken a toll on me, I suffered from depression, anxiety and an eating disorder. I am currently down the road to recovery again after hurting myself a month and a half ago and I'm hoping to be successfully this time. All of this has only made me stronger and I'm not giving up any time soon
I have been inspired by a friend to reach out and help others who are going through something similar as to what I'm going through. Anyone out there who wants someone to just listen to them, I am here. I will listen. Know that you're not alone and that there is someone out that who cares and loves ya. That someone is me ☺
l was a victim of bullies all the way up to my 11th grade ,one kid in particular made it a point to seek me out at least three times a day .it has been almost thirty years since he last bullied me .the memories are still there ,l guess they will be for the rest of my life .it bothers me when l hear of a child taken their life because of a bully .how do you punish the bullies ? do you punish the kids parents do you punish the school systems what is the answer
I say punish the parents, then maybe they would take more notice
that's one thing I don't think many people realize is that just because you aren't around bullies anymore or anything like that it doesn't mean the memories go away. So many people have the attitude that after high school everything goes away you can't stop bullying so why try. I've heard so many people with that attitude an it's just not right. I was bullied from 1st grade til I graduated high school and even though it's only been 6 years since I was in high school I still think about it. When I get a new job or am around new people the memories of what I went through and what other people thought and said to me goes through my head and affects how I act sometimes.
I was bullied by another 7th grader (I'm 70 now). He was good at it and had a lot of kids intimidated. He often threatened he would meet them after school and beat the crap out of them. One day he cornered me and gave that threat. Shaking in my boots, I said, "Okay, I'll meet you at the front gate and we can go fight". He said, "I'm warning you, I'll beat you up". I told him I didn't care - I'd be there to fight him. He didn't show. I felt a combination of anger and relief - I was very scared of fighting him. The next day, I confronted him about not being there. He denied we had agreed to meet. I looked at him for a long time while he glared at me. I saw him for the fake he was, and walked away. He never bothered me again. Scratch a bully, and you have a coward every time.
You don't punish anyone because someone decides to commit suicide. The only person that makes the choice is the one killing themselves. Its that kids fault that he chose to take a human life, his own. Thats why suicide is a sin, and a crime. It makes the same amount of sense to punish a guy because his neighbor robbed a bank.
Lollipopfop
when you are talking about a teen your talking about someone who's emotions are all over the place .when one of their piers decides it is fun to pick on them relentlessly then there is a serious problem .in a few instances bullies have used the internet to draw their victims in and then exploit them ..example Amanda Todd made a mistake like many other teen age girls she was with a friend and they were on some cam site she lifted her shirt and her nightmare began till she could no longer take it anymore .she killed herself .you have other cases where bullies befriend someone talking sweet and caring then it turns to your worthless and nobody wants you the taunts continue to the point the teen believes it and takes their life .. in a very close situation l was recently involved in a 14 year old male killed himself ,this young man had talents that might have landed him in major league baseball ,but because he was bullied by kids at his new school and a break up with his girlfriend he decided it was better to end his life .the kids that had bullied him commented they wanted to push his buttons they never meant for it to go that far
Mr. & Mrs. Long came to speak at my camp about bullying and all of us counselors were so inspired by their persistence and love for each other and their family to prevent this tragedy from happening again. God bless!!
R.I.P to Tyler❤️ it's very saddening that he is gone but now he doesn't have to be bullied at school and he is safe in heaven.
The part where the mother said that kids were wearing nooses around their necks to mock Tyler really pissed me off. Like who in the right mind would even think of doing such a thing. I know it has been about 4 since Tyler's death, but my he rest in piece.
That made me so mad. If I saw someone doing that I would get so upset, I tried to kill my self by cutting and I got hospitalized for it and the school had a moment of silence and they said I tried to kills my self and blah blah blah. When I went back to school all of my bullies were wearing shirts saying (in French because it's my native language) "good luck next time" and "try a gun next time". So I switched school but I told no one but my friends. A few weeks after moving my friend called me and said that my past bullies were saying that I finally killed my self and that they were happy that I finally went back to were I belonged (hell). And last year one of my bullies switched into my school (they didn't know i went there) and he was getting bullied because he has a fake lower leg (he was in a car accident) and I stood up to him, a week after that I got a letter from him. Apologizing and that he didn't realize what the shirts said
This is the first time I've seen Ellen nearly cry.. :'(
I feel her pain... If she was bullyied herself I hope all those people now look at her and just are ashamed of themselves (they should be anyway, about everytime a bully has done what he or she does))! Ellen is amazing!
This family is so strong! Especially the father, to get out into the public eye and express his heart and to cry on tv. People need to see this
My mothers work was partnered with the creators of "Bully". It was such a touching and inspiring movie. It changed my views on everything. No one every deserves to be bullied, no one. Kids are mean and they need to stop.
I was bullied from day one of school, to my last day at my graduation. That was 13 years of my life, age 5-18. I'm 21 now, I've only lived three years in peace. Even though most of my life was spent in what felt like an eternal hell. I'm so glad I made it through those 13 years, even though the memories of pain and torture are ingrained in my brain and my skin. Mental, Physical and Cyber bulling has to stop. I struggled through those 13 years, attempting to commit suicide many times, what was the point of living, praying to a god who didn't help me. I prayed and I preached, yet I was the most hurt as I watched other kids only pray. I'm no longer religious, but I hold religious values because they are morals. I thought that I would never leave the thick fog of hate and torture. But I've been out of it for three years, and I'm so glad I stuck it out, otherwise I really would have missed out on life. It was worth the wait to get through school, I hoped that once school was over that things would get better, and that if not, then after a year I would kill myself. Life is better out of school, bullying can happen in other spheres I know, but out of school, you are more likely able to escape them and the pain as we have more of an ability to walk away.
To anyone considering suicide, DONT.
It may feel like the worlds against you, but there are people out there rooting for you, including me.
13 years may seem like a long time, especially to a 21 year old like me. But when I'm 40, it will be a blip of my life, to which I will only remember the good times that I shared with the few people who were actually there for me.
Here is the thing I learned about bullies. One punch to the face of the biggest one, and the rest will leave you alone. Take the biggest one down, and the others will follow. No one thinks bullied kids will fight back. When you do, you show them that you are not afraid of them. My bully got hers. Teach your kids that it is ok to fight back. Talk to your kids about bullying.
If you are the parent of a bully, then you need to start whipping some ass. Parents are to blame for their kid's bullying. You teach your kids by your own actions.
Maybe. Hitting kids will retaliate, fighting flames with flames make a bigger flame. What I would have done was (Im a parent,) storm into that school, and talk to the principal. If they arent running their school right, which they should be, I'll report them. School boards. I'll talk to my kid, but he cant do anything.. Punching someone gets you a punch back. If I knew I wouldnt get my kid banned, I would walk into every class and talk to the kids. I dont care for bullying, and if staff will go to certain extents to STOP me, then thats some bullshit that I will make sure bites them in the ass.
That is the single most worst piece of advice you could ever give a child
Josh Staines my son was bullied. One day someone pushed his head while he was drinking from the fountain. Chipped his tooth. I stormed into the principal's office and asked what he could do to change things. He promised to talk to the kids.
Not long after, I got a call from the school. They had pushed my son through the trophy case and he had a three inch gash on his arm that required stitches.
I stormed into the school. Got IN the principal's face.
Had he ever "had that talk" with the other kids?
No.
So yeah...I did that whole storming thing, and it didn't accomplish anything. And I think if he'd fought back it would have gotten worse. Education is the key. And sanctions for bullying. A kid smokes in the bathroom, and gets suspended for three days. Make bullying a similar thing. If you bully, you will be sent home.
HeidiSue60 that's a good piece of advice
Superbrewsters rank coffe Well being as all your posturing in the principals face did nothing it would seem as if your kid suffered needlessly. Had you told your kid it was ok to defend himself that gash might never have happened. And no ma'am if he had knocked the hell out of the bully it would have stopped right then. Evidence and common sense prove that.
This put me into tears.... knowing my sister is constantly being physically and verbally abused every day by other students... just because she's different... please love and support each other... love you all❤️
I cannot believe the school did nothing! My schools growing up were so strict about rules and being a bully free zone that it is hard to hear that other schools do nothing. It's appalling that the school did nothing about kids wearing the nooses.
I was Bullied and I got suspended for reacting to the person that was abusing me and when I think about things like that continuing... I feel so hurt and angry...
I was bullied in school. I was the smallest boy in my grade and painfully shy and quiet. Then one day Ben invited me to sit next to him on the bus, that is where most of the bullying took place. Ben was the biggest kid in our grade. Ben was the biggest kid in the school. At 12 he was over six feet tall. Ben was also shy and quiet but people were afraid of Ben. It was because of his size. Neither of us had any friends so we ended up as friends. When I was around Ben nobody bullied me. If you see someone being bullied, and you are able to, be a Ben.
Oh man i didn't have a dry eye through this whole video... so heartbreaking... that family is extremely inspiring and incredibly strong... wise words from ellen too...
Not long before this came out, I lost a friend to suicide. Except, he was bullied to death by our teachers. Our principle. The people who were supposed to help him grow and learn, killed him. I left public school because of bullying. It's gotta stop.
I'm so sorry
+Brianna Gordy
I really am sorry for your loss but id just like to point out that bullting doesnt just take place in public schools. i sttend a public school and am proud to say that hardly any cases of severe bullying take place.
+Zakiyyah Dudhwala That's not the case for most schools at all
I go to a public school but theirs like no bullying that goes on in our school none that I notice at least but I honestly don't know why I've never even known what bullying was till social media and stuff came out cause no one at our school ever bullied people, I live in Minnesota and the city I live in is a rather wealthy city so idk if that's why but I think it has a big impact on the way people treat others
i totally agree with you
Bullying should be a crime...and those bullies should be jailed
Wow this was important to show but extremely painful to watch!
David and Tina Long came to my middle school to speak today. It was amazing. My friend and I were crying so hard. They are two amazing people. My heart hurts for them.
Kinda glad im not from america. But if i was, i would fightback, train myself, and when we finally fend the bullies of myself, help other people who were bullied.
what has being in America got to with it bullying happens all the time everywhere.
snow board bullying is actually everywhere
Abdullah Almohannadi Of course it is everywhere. Some countries have bigger issues than others though. I am from Switzerland and I was bullied in middle school. The bullying problem in Switzerland still isn't as bad as in the US because at least the teachers did their best to stop it. They listened to my parents, they talked to the bullies parents, they kept a closer eye on the bullies and ensured me. That didn't completely stop the bullying, but it helped and I didn't feel like I was the misfit, I was right and they were wrong. When a teacher pretends that everything is fine, you will start to think that your bullies are right and you are wrong. It gets even worse when your parents don't listen, or when you don't tell.
Herr Hurbig sorry to hear you went through that as well! and I completely agree on what you said
This made me cry. I'm with Ellen in that I do not understand how any human being, no matter what age, can have such a lack of compassion for other living creatures. We are all in this together! It is not survival of the fittest, I truly believe we can all live in harmony.
However, I know that is how the bullies view it. I have talked to people before that have that mentality that basically, it is survival of the fittest. They think if someone commits suicide because they were bullied, it just means they weren't strong enough. The bullies don't feel bad, they don't feel like it's their fault, and we're not going to reach them through guilt trips. I think maybe we should come up with laws that actually punish the bullies when this happens. Accessory to murder or something.
Unfortunately I don't think so because I don't think they'd be able to prove anything.
I used to get bullied from junior high to high school. It was so bad ... I was an Ace student all the way until the bullying got too bad I just skipped school altogether and my grades suffered. I would fear Going to school everyday and would feel little about myself all the time... My Mom complained the situation to my Teacher and she simply didn't do anything . she was even sarcastic during confrontation time in class ... I can never forget that teacher. Now that I'm a teacher myself, I am very very critical about bullying in class. Teach your kids, parents. Teach them to accept everyone in this world irregardless of race, looks, size whatever. Save the other kids. You don't want your kid to be the one ending up dead.
I've seen the bully documentary once in school, it was powerful and emotional. So happy u guys told your story