Sober people are driving me crazy (1000 days of soberiety)

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    Sober people are driving me crazy (1000 days of soberiety) by Shaffer Nickel
    #sobriety #shaffernickel #1000days #rant #alcohol

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  • @chillydoog
    @chillydoog 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I love the analogy of a fire in the house. Having a fire in a fireplace can be amazing but if that gets even a little out of control, I can create a huge problem.

  • @Vilhelmnilsson
    @Vilhelmnilsson 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Great video. Thanks for sharing. To me alcohol is in the same boat as any other form of escapism we use to keep from having to live with ourselves. People who are truly and deeply happy with their lives don’t need to drink like those who are stuck in loneliness, anger, depression, fear, confusion in order to forget about their suffering. Self love can never be served to us from any other place than through deep appreciation, compassion and insight into who we really are. I used to turn to many things in order to escape and endure my own suffering but have found that living deeply, openly and fearlessly is such a better rush than anything you can find trapped inside a bottle. But in a strange way the bottle gave me the keys to my own freedom as it showed me how a great waste of life can manifest itself. There is no escape suffering in life. We can only become better at learning to live with it. Remembering that whatever we resist, persists.
    Truly love yours videos man. Very inspirational and knowing you are completely sober doing them just adds to my love of your craziness. 👍

    • @ShauninParadise
      @ShauninParadise 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      super awesome message. nice to read. great video

  • @marcus_bowling
    @marcus_bowling 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Good on you for using your story to help others brother! The fire analogy is perfect for this, it shows maturity in you when you're aware that not everyone's fire is out of control! Stick to it brother.

  • @codybontecou
    @codybontecou 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your mental strength is top-tier man! Very inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

  • @johnnyrosso596
    @johnnyrosso596 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I appreciate your story and that you share this, man! Definitely some helpful perspective for me navigating my own journey, having grown up in "houses that were burning down", and always seeking to better come alongside friends and family to both enjoy the fire but also be there to help contain it if needed!

  • @spencernickel3957
    @spencernickel3957 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wow! Metaphore story telling man! Outstanding framing, and you know I've lived this! Such a thoughtful analogy! And meaningful perspective. A well lived, creative life needs no mending!

  • @chrisclark5135
    @chrisclark5135 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent story and analogy and also so very very true. Thanks for sharing!

  • @wanderintosomething
    @wanderintosomething 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One of the best analogies I’ve ever heard. I’m eight months sober and continuously working on repairing the damage. Also the best decision I’ve made I’m my life. Congrats man!

  • @andrewbwee
    @andrewbwee 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Bro this is awesome but also sad man. I wish I would've known this that night when we were in Crested Butte before skiing the peak /\. I felt like I saw the signs of a "fire", but I didn't do anything about it.
    I'm here for you man.

  • @SkiRidesMTB
    @SkiRidesMTB 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is an absolutely fantastic analogy, I felt the same about my drinking. I got sober at 28 (now 33), and I've had a few people ask me for help and advice about how I got sober but I'd never judge anyone else if they want to continue drinking. Most of my friends drink and drink responsibly. More power to them in my eyes, it just doesn't provide anything for me anymore vs when I was in my 20's and needed it for various reasons. I don't think being sober defines me at all, it's just something I choose to do.

  • @jacobroseman4205
    @jacobroseman4205 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your videos man they always make me feel just a bit better about things.

  • @HeartflashProductions
    @HeartflashProductions 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m a little over 2 years sober and everything you said resonated with me on every level. Great work!

  • @prodbyholistic
    @prodbyholistic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for sharing man! I feel like anyone can relate to this, sober or not. We all have people around us that certainly face this issue and this analogy is super insightful. Definitely not an easy topic but we appreciate your courage to express your opinion.
    All the best, Shaffer

  • @erikmain4957
    @erikmain4957 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That's a great analogy. I'm coming up on 2000 days in a few weeks and I've had this moral dilemma of how I approach helping people. It's not my place to point at them and tell them they have a problem. But I should help where I can. My solution is to be completely open about my struggles with alcohol. I feel like its my duty to be a light house shining a beacon and letting others know they have a safe harbor to meet me in the middle. Congratulations on getting to this point. It is so much better on this side.

  • @patagonialuke
    @patagonialuke 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    an excellent analogy

  • @mack2508
    @mack2508 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great analogy! Gonna steal that

  • @Kevuno
    @Kevuno 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What an incredible video. Very vulnerable and super wise. The whole fire analogy is on point with Alcohol.

  • @natecrum
    @natecrum 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this analogy. And I never really thought about the burn damage side of things. But it's true. Just because we make a healthier decision or cut toxic people out of our lives or whatever, doesn't mean that we still don't have damage we need to attend to. I'm the same age and have not drank pretty much at all for about the same amount of time, and ultimately I feel similarly to how you feel. I don't want to tell other people with fireplaces they shouldn't have a fire, but when you make a positive change for yourself it is hard to not want to help other people make that change.

  • @prtsp7843
    @prtsp7843 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a good story, it's a great analogy

  • @TuckerPearce
    @TuckerPearce 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kudos to you Shaffer for sharing your story and thoughts on this. Whenever I see a video like this I often think should I cut alcohol out of my life. I don't think it's bad in moderation but often we don't moderate...

  • @CaptainGnarkill
    @CaptainGnarkill 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Way to go dude! Very happy for you. The relation to fire is spot on.

  • @spencethegreat38
    @spencethegreat38 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video man. I’ve been sober 2 years and I detached from the ‘hardcore sober’ community relatively quickly after getting out of rehab. It was the most judgmental hypocritical scene I had ever seen. I simply just wanted to get sober and move on with my life just like you would getting over a breakup with girl. But some of these people made sobriety their entire identity. Many of them were years into being sober and still living in the past. It’s like their everyday was their first day sober. I’m cool with the ones that are low key and just go on about their life, but I can’t stand the preachy judgmental ones.

  • @ThatOneGuy77ism
    @ThatOneGuy77ism 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. This is such great way to approach alcohol and view its use in your own life and others. Hope we can work together some day

  • @stephendandrea5164
    @stephendandrea5164 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this man, thanks for sharing. Always a hard topic to address, and your perspective is important to hear. Also, that fire extinguisher was put there on purpose right?!

  • @thewzrdharry
    @thewzrdharry 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Epic analogy 👏

  • @kss8866
    @kss8866 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Glad you realize life is a high on its own, no need of altered mind to enjoy, actually can hinder all the physical things. Welcome. Lot more non drinkers around than one realizes. Salute 3

  • @alexhernandez67
    @alexhernandez67 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Feeling guilty sucks and you acted wrong.. BUT recognizing it and trying to better yourself is the only thing you can do with that regret. The message you sent out is good, respectful and humble and I'm very sure you are helping someone out there. I also abuse alcohols and tabaco for too many years and as you say.. it's your deal. Pointing out won't help unless others want your help. If someone out there is having trouble talk to a friend that has their fire under control or talk to a doctor. I'm sure they will listen :) thanks for your video. One of the best yet

  • @lydiahuey6901
    @lydiahuey6901 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’re a great storyteller!

  • @mikewazowskee7415
    @mikewazowskee7415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    love your videos, they're so well made and awesome. I want to move to ColoRADo now after watching all of them. You should make a video on what you think about God, just thoughts or something anything will be good from you.

  • @xgymratx83
    @xgymratx83 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video.

  • @jammaschan
    @jammaschan 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I've been sober my whole life. No alcohol, no weed, no drugs. But have I actually been sober my whole life? I still dont know what Im doing with my life, Im not hardworking at all, and Ive basically disappointed everyone I know. Maybe I need some alcohol (not that I would) :(

    • @gypsylee73
      @gypsylee73 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "I'm not hardworking at all". That right there is you telling the truth about yourself. That's courage 😊

  • @wesley_loughran2715
    @wesley_loughran2715 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good shit

  • @BenPatrik
    @BenPatrik 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great centrist perspective

  • @soijx9112
    @soijx9112 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    where do you get your ponchos

  • @johnmausteller
    @johnmausteller 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do you track your sleep cycle with an Apple Watch ? That’d be interesting. I’m doing something similar

  • @walkingnote1090
    @walkingnote1090 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've never felt so empty in my entire life. Sobriety truly doesn't feel worth it at times.

    • @4Azr
      @4Azr 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel the same

  • @m1kel
    @m1kel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    simple video, not cleverly put together ideas yet on point.

  • @sarahmarie_e
    @sarahmarie_e 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

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