Excellent as always ! its so refreshing to listen to someone who shares their own experiences instead of just telling things theyve learnt.Makes it so much easier to relate and understand. You soon feel as though Yazz is a friend - her delivery is so open friendly and approachable .
Hi Alison, thank you so much for your feedback and I am so glad you enjoyed my video. I absolutely agree with you, it's always best when coming from experience rather than a textbook :)
You have a knack of explaining complex subjects in a simple way. Bravo . I have been doing jung shadow work for a while and TA definitely feels like a missing piece of my puzzle. Thanks for the video
I agree they should teach this in schools this is great info thank u. This would of prevented a lot of prolonged arguments sulking and stress trying to figure out what's the problem and why some things a person could say and how they say it has such a negative effect on me which normally leads to a negative reaction.
Yazz you're the voice in my head because I sound like you. Same accent, cadence and rhythm cos my boyfriend walked in the room while I was playing this and he thought it was me lol! Also great to hear another woman interested in transactional analysis. Ty😁
Hang on… ummm… gimme a sec I am good at writing and I cannot find the proper words to express my deepest appreciation for this incredible Woman and the Wisdom Flowing through her. I guess the Yaz lesson is, this works. So absolutely and Hermetically dead on Truth
I can even tell you how much this applies to my situation in life I know my friends and family are so up set with me and they say things or have a perception or the situation way differently
Love the content, but the speed is very fast for my Child part who keeps wanting to ask questions. Would love if you had someone there to ask my questions for me. I understand that some research shows that grown-ups learn by discussion and interaction. Perhaps you could consider that as part of your series, which I hope you intend to continue. Best of luck to you - it's great to see TA free of charge - the world needs Berne's insights, and thanks for making them available.
Hi Elizabeth, thank you so much for your feedback and you are spot on, interactions and further exploration is necessary for our learning process. I am working on some courses, webinars and podcasts which I hope to make available in the future, stay tuned for more 🙂🥰
In your bio, "I was excellent at quadratic equations, studied my butt off and for what, never had to use them in everyday life, actually EVER in life. Yet what I have learned throughout my journey from the age of 32 I have found to be the most invaluable, useful and life changing knowledge I could ever have been made privy to." That pretty much sums up my personal hypothesis. Your insights are on another level of value. Is there a way to ask a few questions via email or something? I also want to start doing videos of everything I'm learning (Psych_MA) but in terms of experience, I'm coming from the "child's" ego state but I am adaptable. Great work, seriously!
Hey Ergun, I'm so glad you found this useful and of value! I'm more then happy for you to drop me a message at Yasmin@yazz.life and would love to help answer any questions you may have ;)
Hi Yazz. Firstly, I want to say how informative and inspiring your video (part1) is. I am currently receiving counselling for work related stress, depression and, for good measure, anxiety. My counsellor discussed Transactional Analysis and I was so intrigued I wanted to know more as it kind of made sense of certain situations and how I felt. I came across your video which was easy to understand and I am able to work with. It's as if things are falling into place and I have a deeper understanding on how my thoughts can affect my behaviour, but also as to why and what has been the cause. I feel "awakened". I will carry on with the rest of the videos and continue to work with them. Words cannot express my gratitude but just to say thank you.
Hi Alison, my apologies for the delayed response to your comment. I just wanted to say thank you for your feedback, it means more to me then you could ever know, and well done. Well done for not only facing your fears and working with them but also for getting out of bed everyday and giving it another shot, no matter how tired, empty and scared you may feel. Keep up the good work and I'm proud of you xx
im sorry to hear you are suffering... there is a great video on here th-cam.com/video/l4kxkKkJmXU/w-d-xo.html it only breaks down into a simplified part of this clip above... which so far is the best one I have seen... there is actually very little on the subject that goes deep, so it's nice to see... have a nice week if you can...
Thanks for your videos. I would like to know more about the AC ego state and how zoning out may be a learned coping mechanism, and how to challenge this.
Yeh, I find confrontation hard. I either behave like a doormat for years or I attempt try to raise one small issue and it seems to escalate, I think partly because they pick up on the fact that I'm really upset and stressed. I try to communicate it as something I'm calmly directly communicating but it plays out like I'm super upset and it becomes a big deal when I just wanted to 'tweak' some minor thing.
The reason i came here is my wife as she studied this course and graduated, she tends to use this skills on me which sometimes got mind blocks, It indeed had negative impact on my state of mind until i felt threatened by something bigger than i understand or could handle, so I divorced her and I'm happy I've done it , so now she is happy married to her diploma and Im free, she has a dog which may practice her skills on with no response, and I wish her all the best, i will use this skills to defend myself in the future, and I'll sit and watch.
This is something I really need help with cause I'm pushing away friends and family I want in my life and it's making them feel like I'm not appropriate them or like I just don't care but I do and I feel really horrible and like I'm fucking up life big time
Hi Gaurav, I'm glad you enjoyed the video, I am just working on part 2 now as we speak, hopefully it will be published in a few days. Please subscribe to my channel and that will ensure you receive a notification as soon as I have uploaded it. Also don't forget to check out my other videos while you wait :)
Thank you so much Gabriela, I'm glad you enjoyed it and make sure you have subscribed and receive notifications so you get to see more of what you like :)
Hi Yazz, thank you for the wonderful videos. I may be wrong about this, but I wanted to ask about some observation I have - at 12:50mins of the video, where you illustrated which egostate works well with and not, I am surprise to see that RC works well with AC. How can AC work well with RC, instead of a Parent or Adult egostate? I thought a AC would be bullied by the RC. Would be good to have a better understanding on this :-)
The key is to give the CP less and less attention and work with our child states to manage the effects of the CP language and criticisms from a more empathic, nurturing and motivating place. In time and with practice the CP dialogue gets quieter and quieter and the adult/empathy/encouraging dialogue becomes the norm.
So if my mother is in parent mode all the time, and she perceives any assertion of my separate self as being disrespectful, how do I need to be..... free? I'll google this question and watch all your videos hoping it will all become clear
Yes to a certain extent but one would need to be certain that this is not a Multiple Identity Disorder or other form of psychosis and so I would recommend speaking with a GP in order to discuss further and if necessary a referral for appropriate diagnose/investigation be made. Email me on Yasmin@yazz.life if you need/want more detail on this.
Loved the video, the explanation, the insight, your voice, all of it, except the first few seconds as it makes my teeth hurt - - the sound of screeching from the writing thing. Please fix that. 🙏 Many thanks!
The length of this video could be cut in half, easily, if she didn't feel the need to say the same thing ten different ways with every example. I am tempted to mimic it here, to show how frustrating it is, but I don't want to be petty or sarcastic. Point is: cut the needless, excessive repetition and examples, please. It's bogging down the pace and I'm looking elsewhere for more concise info. I liked the personal anecdote about being a "parent" manager, on a more positive note. :)
Excellent as always ! its so refreshing to listen to someone who shares their own experiences instead of just telling things theyve learnt.Makes it so much easier to relate and understand. You soon feel as though Yazz is a friend - her delivery is so open friendly and approachable .
Hi Alison, thank you so much for your feedback and I am so glad you enjoyed my video. I absolutely agree with you, it's always best when coming from experience rather than a textbook :)
You have a knack of explaining complex subjects in a simple way. Bravo . I have been doing jung shadow work for a while and TA definitely feels like a missing piece of my puzzle. Thanks for the video
Mike: I am Murali from Chennai, India. Can you please contact me. I am doing CTA in Education. My email id is "trainermurali@gmail.com"
Thanks
Excellent video explaining how I can deal with all those people who annoy me - but more importantly why they annoy me.
Hi Lesley I'm so glad you enjoyed the video and found it useful, stay tuned for part 3 on Nurturing Parent, coming very soon!
Out of all videos I have seen about TA this is by far the best. Let's see number 2! ;)
I was completelty lost when i first started reading the book, However your explanation was quite simple. Thanks a bunch mate!
I agree they should teach this in schools this is great info thank u. This would of prevented a lot of prolonged arguments sulking and stress trying to figure out what's the problem and why some things a person could say and how they say it has such a negative effect on me which normally leads to a negative reaction.
This is super helpful and inspirational. Thank you
Yazz you're the voice in my head because I sound like you. Same accent, cadence and rhythm cos my boyfriend walked in the room while I was playing this and he thought it was me lol! Also great to hear another woman interested in transactional analysis. Ty😁
❤excellent video
"Transactional Analysis" made simple & easy!!!. You''re an Expert. Informative & Useful video................ Thank you.
This made me realize just how defining. critical adults can be.
Hang on… ummm… gimme a sec
I am good at writing and I cannot find the proper words to express my deepest appreciation for this incredible Woman and the Wisdom Flowing through her.
I guess the Yaz lesson is, this works. So absolutely and Hermetically dead on Truth
I found your voice very easy to listen to.
Got something for shifting ego states between Adult mom and daughter.
Dysfunctional history.
EXCELLENT, studying emotional intelligence, but I procrastinate, so rather did the dishes whilst listening to your video. Top Class.
I can even tell you how much this applies to my situation in life I know my friends and family are so up set with me and they say things or have a perception or the situation way differently
Thank you so much for all this free and extremely helpful information! Really appreciate it! ❤️🙏
Great stuff! Insightful and helpful to life in general :)
It is such a great topic and very eye opening. Thank you.💓 for sharing in public.
I am highly interested in this topic and your way of teaching is excellent in presentation. Thank you for sharing. (Vow with Respect)
Thank you so much. It was very interesting.
Great video. Clear, concise and delivered with passion and enthusiasm. Keep sharing!
Love the content, but the speed is very fast for my Child part who keeps wanting to ask questions. Would love if you had someone there to ask my questions for me. I understand that some research shows that grown-ups learn by discussion and interaction. Perhaps you could consider that as part of your series, which I hope you intend to continue. Best of luck to you - it's great to see TA free of charge - the world needs Berne's insights, and thanks for making them available.
Hi Elizabeth, thank you so much for your feedback and you are spot on, interactions and further exploration is necessary for our learning process. I am working on some courses, webinars and podcasts which I hope to make available in the future, stay tuned for more 🙂🥰
In your bio, "I was excellent at quadratic equations, studied my butt off and for what, never had to use them in everyday life, actually EVER in life. Yet what I have learned throughout my journey from the age of 32 I have found to be the most invaluable, useful and life changing knowledge I could ever have been made privy to." That pretty much sums up my personal hypothesis. Your insights are on another level of value. Is there a way to ask a few questions via email or something? I also want to start doing videos of everything I'm learning (Psych_MA) but in terms of experience, I'm coming from the "child's" ego state but I am adaptable. Great work, seriously!
Hey Ergun, I'm so glad you found this useful and of value! I'm more then happy for you to drop me a message at Yasmin@yazz.life and would love to help answer any questions you may have ;)
Hi Yazz. Firstly, I want to say how informative and inspiring your video (part1) is. I am currently receiving counselling for work related stress, depression and, for good measure, anxiety. My counsellor discussed Transactional Analysis and I was so intrigued I wanted to know more as it kind of made sense of certain situations and how I felt. I came across your video which was easy to understand and I am able to work with. It's as if things are falling into place and I have a deeper understanding on how my thoughts can affect my behaviour, but also as to why and what has been the cause. I feel "awakened".
I will carry on with the rest of the videos and continue to work with them.
Words cannot express my gratitude but just to say thank you.
Hi Alison, my apologies for the delayed response to your comment. I just wanted to say thank you for your feedback, it means more to me then you could ever know, and well done. Well done for not only facing your fears and working with them but also for getting out of bed everyday and giving it another shot, no matter how tired, empty and scared you may feel. Keep up the good work and I'm proud of you xx
im sorry to hear you are suffering... there is a great video on here th-cam.com/video/l4kxkKkJmXU/w-d-xo.html it only breaks down into a simplified part of this clip above... which so far is the best one I have seen... there is actually very little on the subject that goes deep, so it's nice to see... have a nice week if you can...
Incredible.
This is the best video, thank you very much😊
Great video. Thanks
I am currently completing a counselling degree and i found that a very informative way of describing a given scenario - thank you.
+paul stevens thank you for your feedback glad you found it useful 😁
This video is amazing
Thanks for your videos. I would like to know more about the AC ego state and how zoning out may be a learned coping mechanism, and how to challenge this.
Thanks ❤
Yeh, I find confrontation hard. I either behave like a doormat for years or I attempt try to raise one small issue and it seems to escalate, I think partly because they pick up on the fact that I'm really upset and stressed. I try to communicate it as something I'm calmly directly communicating but it plays out like I'm super upset and it becomes a big deal when I just wanted to 'tweak' some minor thing.
What if I don't remember my past,my childhood and barely teenage years?
THANK YOU, THANK YOU and THANK YOU
fantastic video .very insightful. got me thinking xxx
This was excellent. I just subscribed 💕
The reason i came here is my wife as she studied this course and graduated, she tends to use this skills on me which sometimes got mind blocks, It indeed had negative impact on my state of mind until i felt threatened by something bigger than i understand or could handle, so I divorced her and I'm happy I've done it , so now she is happy married to her diploma and Im free, she has a dog which may practice her skills on with no response, and I wish her all the best, i will use this skills to defend myself in the future, and I'll sit and watch.
Again i have to say great video have you done angthing on the gestalt circle
thanks for your videos. Could you explain the games "kick me" and "Rapo"? And how to get out from playing them. Thank you
Thanks sir .... you are doing a wonderful work....
This is something I really need help with cause I'm pushing away friends and family I want in my life and it's making them feel like I'm not appropriate them or like I just don't care but I do and I feel really horrible and like I'm fucking up life big time
Confusing, abstract and rather overwhelming!!
Hi sir its a good video you have mentioned part 2 in this video ... please share...
Hi Gaurav, I'm glad you enjoyed the video, I am just working on part 2 now as we speak, hopefully it will be published in a few days. Please subscribe to my channel and that will ensure you receive a notification as soon as I have uploaded it. Also don't forget to check out my other videos while you wait :)
'LOL' So i'm not crazy - Thank you Yazz
How does breaking it down (through body language, tone of voice, message (what is said) show the persons default ego state?
We need the translation in Spanish! !!!!! This video is amazing! It has to be share !!!!
Thank you so much Gabriela, I'm glad you enjoyed it and make sure you have subscribed and receive notifications so you get to see more of what you like :)
Hi ,I would like to ask what is the meaning of the graph in 12:50.
Could anyone analyse it for help?
Thanks !
Hi Yazz greetings this is Gaurav again....we all are waiting for your next video in this series.....
:) Hi Gaurav, yes my apologies it's running a little late but should be with you within the next few days, I promise it will be worth the wait!!
Hi Yazz, thank you for the wonderful videos. I may be wrong about this, but I wanted to ask about some observation I have - at 12:50mins of the video, where you illustrated which egostate works well with and not, I am surprise to see that RC works well with AC. How can AC work well with RC, instead of a Parent or Adult egostate? I thought a AC would be bullied by the RC. Would be good to have a better understanding on this :-)
It possible to retrain parenting style? And override critical / judgements parent ?
The key is to give the CP less and less attention and work with our child states to manage the effects of the CP language and criticisms from a more empathic, nurturing and motivating place. In time and with practice the CP dialogue gets quieter and quieter and the adult/empathy/encouraging dialogue becomes the norm.
So if my mother is in parent mode all the time, and she perceives any assertion of my separate self as being disrespectful, how do I need to be..... free? I'll google this question and watch all your videos hoping it will all become clear
Mam give five examples and five statements more
Could ego states have different personalities, ages, interests, genders, appearances, preferences, or feel like they belong to different names?
Yes to a certain extent but one would need to be certain that this is not a Multiple Identity Disorder or other form of psychosis and so I would recommend speaking with a GP in order to discuss further and if necessary a referral for appropriate diagnose/investigation be made. Email me on Yasmin@yazz.life if you need/want more detail on this.
The music in the background makes it very difficult to follow.
I hardly have any memories to my childhood
Loved the video, the explanation, the insight, your voice, all of it, except the first few seconds as it makes my teeth hurt - - the sound of screeching from the writing thing. Please fix that. 🙏 Many thanks!
since i do not have these issues I dont mind saying you need to the audio.
👏👏👏
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common sense..
'Going to look slightly schizophrenic' please don't say this
Found this helpful? Let me know what you think and if you have any questions!
Thank you for your video. Very helpful clear to understand.
How would your video deepen self awareness of change
I've subscribed. Brilliant
Hi ,I would like to ask what is the meaning of the graph in 12:50.
Could anyone analyse it for help?
Thanks !
The length of this video could be cut in half, easily, if she didn't feel the need to say the same thing ten different ways with every example. I am tempted to mimic it here, to show how frustrating it is, but I don't want to be petty or sarcastic. Point is: cut the needless, excessive repetition and examples, please. It's bogging down the pace and I'm looking elsewhere for more concise info. I liked the personal anecdote about being a "parent" manager, on a more positive note. :)
How funny! You sound like you are in critical parent. :-)
Part 2?