You’ll never look at a bra the same way again | Laura Tempesta | TEDxKCWomen
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- Is your bra uncomfortable? Do you think you know what the underwire is for? The basic design of the bra hasn’t changed in over a century - and yet every day, women, without questioning, strap themselves into a frequently uncomfortable, even painful piece of clothing. But how can you find a bra that works for you? Laura Tempesta is the only person in North America with a master’s degree in lingerie design - and she has something to say about why the bra industry continues to sell us the status quo, and what we can do about it.
Bra Nerdist & Lingerie Expert This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Everybody's talking about ditching bras but no ones talking about redesigning them to make them better
Exactly. I agree.
I just went to corsetry instead, not the modern steel or plastic bones uncomfortable-ness, but historical recreations that are SUPER comfortable as they are a personal fit item. My 'pretty housemaid' corset is a victorian recreation of an undergarment so flexible a 'working woman' could wear it, and it works just fine for me both at my office chair and chasing down my little one.
I'm all for redesigns of brassieres, but also for the de-stigmatisation of corsets as breath stealing torture device instead of an well made well fit undergarment.
Ok, I'll step off my soap box now.
I ditched mine except certain family gatherings or need to talk to way upper management
@@soumikakrishna2813 I wonder why this lady (Laura Tempesta) hasn't redesigned them and come up with her own line of bras already. If she came up with a superior product she could become the next overnight billionaire. What else does one do with a masters in bras, I wonder?
@@texassweetgrl do you have a link, please?
You know our bra sizing system is too complicated when we need a TED talk to understand it.
best comment!
Yeah and I still don't understand it lol
@@masked5317 me, neither. haha
And a Master's degree!
This is very importive and helpful video. Everything is very clear in this video. Thanks for sharing.
We have such a weird culture around bras. In 5th grade, I was taken out of class and sent to the nurse's office so she could tell me I needed to start wearing a bra. I was not happy. I never wanted to wear a bra, and I still hate wearing them, but to this day I feel so embarrassed without one. It's something I'm trying to get past.
You will eventually feel so free without one! I haven't worn one for decades, including in a professional environment (I just dressed to cover), don't let other
people tell you how to live your life. Especially some sexist-BS from 5th Grade. Your body is beautiful the way it is. It is such a shame the way girls who developed early or large were treated by other kids & even adults in your case :-(
i think it’s so cool when someone’s not wearing a bra. it definitely shows confidence and sometimes it just adds something to the outfit, it makes it powerful, so i say: just do it
Same thing happened to me, except it was 7th grade gym. My dad had to come and get me. I was so embarrassed I thought I would die. My mom had to go buy me a "training bra", because I had nothing to put in a regular one! A training bra. What is that? We need to be trained to accept the discomfort of one before we even arguably "need" it? As I've gotten older I wish I'd had the confidence to be mad instead of embarrassed. Adults can be jerks...
Oh dear, where do/ did you live?
Could such public shaming of young girls still happen there today?
@@miriamb3226 I grew up in New Jersey. This took place in the early 2000s
"replace your bras every year"
Who TF has the money for that?!
Exactly!!!
Wait how much does it cost i dont wear bras
@@cheesec4kecat for me personally, $65 per bra, BEFORE tax. Just for the bra. And the bras in my size are almost NEVER all that pretty.
@@cheesec4kecat give or take a few dollars depending on style.
@@cheesec4kecat for me it’s €60 for a good sports one, but €120 ish for an everyday underwire one. I do get more expensive ones because I want them to last at least the year and do their job.
I see a lot of women saying "I wish not wearing a bra was accepted in society..., ladies: we are society. If you don"t want to wear a bra: don't wear a bra. Demand makes the supply: if more and more women stop wearing bra, it becomes normal again. So just do it! Don't wear that bra if you don't want, I am sure many others will follow soon.
I can't go without a bra because mine are big and believe me without being corralled the girls get wild! The tiny breasted women are lucky to be able to run around without a bra. I would if I could believe me!
Sis, where i live i could be harassed if i don't wear a bra
No bov I feel you 😭 if I had an A I wouldn't wear,, but I am C and it hurts to not wear . .
I have D-E cups and don't wear a bra anymore. At first it hurt and I kid you not, I had sore muscles in my chest. Now it's the best decision I ever made
I am a big c cup and I never wear a bra even if people guess my nipples behind my clothes I don’t care
Tempesta: "Replace your bra every year"
Me: *Looks at the price tag*
So glad others have mentioned this.
wait your supposed to do that?
Isn't that the truth?
Especially properly fitted bras.. sooo expensive
I saw prices of 25c.....and 75c. somewhere.
I have fibromyalgia, and bras hit almost all of my pain points. Over the last couple of years I've redesigned my whole wardrobe around the fact that I despise wearing a bra. I've never been happier. Free the girls!
that's awesome!
I have fibromyalgia too and taking vit d, magnesium, NAC, and omega 3 really helped me together with as healthy as possible but not always diet 🙈😂.
Try knix bras
Yes i also have fm and very painful shoulders torn rotator cuff arthritis and extremely painful to fasten even to put on
YYAAASSSS!!!!! My arthritis got me to the point you are at as well. Just FORGET it. I don't wear them anymore and I have just started replacing my wardrobe with better more comfortable shirts that I can wear without one. I live in Florida and it is challenging because we wear tank tops most of the year and I am a D cup. But I feel better about having more quality tops that aren't paper thin, because I don't have the heat of wearing a bra.
I completely stopped wearing bras several years ago due to skin problems on my back. It's changed my life and my skin. And my wallet is a lot happier! Never looked back.
Is it just me or was anyone else expecting to be introduced to a brand new bra design by this speaker and her masters degree in lingerie? 🤔
Right?! Maybe she needs a PhD to actually design a good fitting, comfortable bra.
@@vwd3781 she probably does research at a university and uses grants to cover living expenses, or is employed by a university. plenty of people are in academia without "anything to show for it". you don't need a product to be producing value
I think it needs a lot of resources and more than just a single Masters degree to come up with a design.
A good product is one that goes through robust trial and tests after all.
Maybe if a company is sponsoring her, she could come up with something.
YES! Loved her points but also would love a pretty bra that is comfy!!!
Yes. Also, human bodies are still the same, so what's the need for changing a bra's basic design.
I came upon this video while researching bra size tips because I wanted to buy a nice set of lingerie for my wife..... I think I'm going to get her some jewelry instead.
good idea
or a gift card to Victoria's Secret or a indulgent lingerie boutique 🥰
this is the best comment lol
Lol smart
Awww
I remember being sized for a strapless bra for my wedding gown. My mind was blown. I thought I was a 34C... I was a 32DD. Being a bra that fits feels so good. No poking or binding, and boobs stabilized. The lingerie shop fitter taught me all about the sizing of bras and it was mind-blowing. I am so happy to see that information being shared outside of the changing room!
I believe 32DD is your sister size. For example I’m a 34B or a 32 C
I am the only woman who finds it more comfortable to wear a bra?
I hate going braless SO much!
I might have gone braless... when I was 18. Now it's too uncomfortably to me, I simply need them.
Mine ache all the time and are miserably sensitive. Seems to be linked to a nerve disorder I have.
I prefer to wear one and I have small boobs. I would feel kind of sloppy and uncomfortable if I went out without a bra. That's just me though and I totally get why some women want to ditch them. I just hope this doesn't result in the pressure for NO women to wear bras. I hate how the clothing industry expects us all to conform like a heard of lemmings.
🙋♀️ bigger boobs are not comfortable swinging around. It's just the truth for us chesty ladies...especially in our 50's.
Me too lol
Speaking as a man here: I had no idea you all had THIS much issue with bras. I mean, I've heard the odd complaint from partners, but I never realized how bad it was. Someone in the comments said "ladies: we are society", and she's right. I can also assure you that most men would have no issues with anything you decide. No bra. Make a whole new bra company. Etc. If anyone gives you any grief, just tell them to mind their own damned business!
You, sir, are a true ally
My words exactly.
(I am a woman)
Thanks for your supprt!
I wish it was that easy. Yes i could not give a f but I grew up internalizing all those social concepts, so even though I would love to be more confortable, I feel almost vulgar if I dont wear a bra.
@@tylerjoseph7411 I spent a couple weeks getting used to going braless. I was doing pretty well until a woman on the street asked me about it. She was very nice, just curious, but it made me feel too self conscious to continue.
I'm a man. There are some clothes I've seen women wear that show more than I'd like to see. I'm sure women appreciate me not walking around in clothing that clearly shows my private parts swinging around; I'd have the same courtesy extended to me. As for comfort issues: can't blame anyone for wanting and expecting to be able to wear clothing that's comfortable but even as a man the dress clothes I wear to work are not completely comfortable and I'm happy to trade them I'm back home for sweats and a tee.
“Boobs”
*Whole audience laughs*
Omg we are all grown children 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Frrrr 😂💀
Yes. Grown children. We were children and we grew lmbo but it's still funny 🤣
I caught that as well lol
I was sort of falling asleep and when she said that I thought it was “boo!” And jumped awake! Lol
Keyword: Children
😂
Ima be honest, I like bras a lot and I feel uncomfortable without one. My bras are my second skin and the only problem I have with them is when the wire pokes out and wants to stab me in my sides.
You can sew that hole shut. Just dont let it get like a knot against your skin or that will rub you wrong too. Eventually the wires will probably poke out again though: its just the nature of metal against cloth.
Good luck!🕊
Check out corset flossing techniques - it's how to sew the spot where the wire ends to stop it from poking out. There are some really decorative ones too!
Make sure you're fitted appropriately. Wires tend to poke out when you're wearing the wrong size.
I haven't worn a bra in over a year and I have never felt so comfortable. It's not easy to undo the years of conditioning (thinking we NEED a bra to be professional or desired, feeling ashamed of our bodies without one, etc.), but once you breakthrough and start living for yourself, it's SO worth it.
With D's that's easier said than done. The attention attracted by loosed D's is not something I'm interested in. 😔
I agreed with you...
@@patriciajohn8196 exactly. I’d rather wear a bra that tightly holds my girls against me so I don’t attract extra attention.
I don't know about that. Maybe if your boobs are small, but no women I know wants their big ole D's and DD's and C's flopping around everywhere pulling on your chest and back while everyone stares! I'm greatful for my bra every single day.
@@patriciajohn8196 I completely agree with you. Although this winter found I can go out in my coat without attention!
You know, we should be teaching this to girls in school, I mean a lifetime of discomfort can happen with the wrong bra...
and teach us know, I am 36 and didn't know a lot of this.
I'm in Europe and here I learnt it in sixth and seventh grade biology....
Even back problems
I learned on baby #3 after wearing bras that didn't fit while nursing for 4 years. Researching nursing bras is what finally made me realize why I couldn't ever fit into a bra at the store! Lol
A lifetime of discomfort happens with ANY bra.
me (at 3am) : turning up the volume all the way up at the beginning bc i thought there was sound
speaker: BOOBS
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I cannot I lmao like crazy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
KSNDKASNKDNASD LMFAOOOOOO ITS 3AM HERE RN AND IM ROFLING OVER THIS COMENT XDDDDDDDDD
lol. same here.
Same thing happened to me, lol.
Bras are the worst, after lockdown I can never go back, I’m so confused how I strapped myself into tight, itchy, cheap feeling (yet expensive) contraptions for so many years 🤦🏼♀️ Yes please let’s re-design !!
I detest them totally! Had a bra fitting from a not so nice lady at Sears once and the bra felt horrible. I've given up finding anything comfortable. It's unfair!
I was a bra fitter for years, and ,yes, most women wear the wrong size. My typical customer would change from a 36B to a 32CC, or a 40D to a 36G. You really have to go to specialty stores, spend the money, get two really good bras, and just take care of them. You don’t need 15 cheap bras that don’t fit. Get a professional to fit you. It will change your life....😄👍🏻
Couldn't agree more! It's a great gift too -- an appointment for a proper bra fitting & two new bras. I have friends who tell me I've changed their life! Added bonus: wearing the right size make you look pounds lighter too.
I agree, but replacing them once a year is not always affordable. I have a unique size that isn't typically sold in stores. In fact, a lot of manufactures don't even make a size that comes close, so I just have to accept whatever is available, pay whatever it costs, and deal with it not fitting right (and it never does). Bras should be a more standard size, and they should be more accessible to anyone regardless of economic status. You shouldn't need a professional and large sums of money to get the right bra size. I think that's one of the main points of the entire Ted Talk. This is far too complicated and has been for far too long.
@@fairywingsonroses but that’s my point. If you are properly fitted, get a really good solid foundation bra of superior quality, and take good care of it, they can last more than a year. It takes effort. You have to hand wash, use the right soaps, lay to dry, etc. I have never Not been able to fit a woman, no matter what size she wears. Never. There was always a manufacturer that had a bra in her size. Perhaps not the frill or bells or whistles that she was hoping for. But most women just wanted to be comfortable, out of pain, look good, feel good, improve posture, improve clothing size, and just for the first time see what is was like to have a bra that made them have confidence in themselves. Mainline retail companies will not make these. There is no profit. They will just do the standard sizes and that’s it. When I worked in big retail, I had to fit woman that I had no bras for. So I tried to send them to specialty store for their own good. Needless to say that didn’t go over wth management well. But I cared about the women I saw, and I hated selling them things I knew were wrong for them. What kept me there, was when I could make a difference. Seeing someone properly fitted, and it making a difference in their self esteem was always a joy to me. I’m long retired, but I miss it everyday. Good luck to you😌
I’m sold! I’ll try it out :)
Thank you for doing the Lord's work. LOL.
4:14 The irony is that the 1930s bra was probably more comfortable and even lasted longer...
I thought she was saying or pointing out that 1930's bra is basically the same as a 2018 bra. So why would the 1930's bra be more comfortable?? Both bra should be about the same discomfort.
@@katiekat4457 I also assumed she was comparing them more on a surface, design-based level rather than specifically implying that the bra of the 1930s would be more comfortable or longer lasting. However, the fabrics used at the time and the construction of the garment would likely have led to them being more supportive overall and possibly more comfortable as a result. They would have generally been made of woven, natural fibres, and so -- for the reasons she did mention here about such bras -- they would have likely been at least more supportive. I'm not sure they would have been necessarily considerably longer lasting, however, as the original poster indicated, since the fabric would still stretch over time, but woven fabrics -- especially when cut and stitched together appropriately -- certainly do stretch less than the already stretchier, often non-woven fabrics used in modern bras. So they likely would have lasted somewhat longer at least.
Plus, since corset making techniques were still in living memory (i.e., with it having been a more mass-produced rather than more niche garment only a decade or so before), they likely would have used more of those clever techniques in the actual construction of the garment, which would have resulted in being able to shape and structure the garment via the way the fabric pieces were cut and how they were then stitched together. Not having studied this extensively, however, I can't be sure of that supposition, but it's fun to consider! Anyway, apologies for the long comment, but it was an interesting topic to discuss. So I hope you don't mind too much!
True. They weren’t made in China.
Not to mention how much less costly
Well the original bra was a corset, it helped with back problems and wasn't so uncomfortable. The bra was something men liked better because they could r*pe women easier.
She’s quite witty. The audience is brutally unresponsive to her humour
Could they be embarrassed to laugh in front of the camera.
I thought so too
She's so funny. When my mom gave me the bra talk it was so cringy. She should be giving moms notes lol
Maybe most were taking her seriously about it ALL
Such is the way when onstage '-) I think it's just the stage mic isn't picking up their reactions clearly. Harsh tho, I felt for her, but then realised she's likely getting good visual feedback that we can't see :-)
I've started to see girls in their early 20's just getting around without a bra and it makes me so happy to see it
Ditching bras has changed my life. I don't even wear a bra for running. Not even for running up and down stairs. My boobs never hurt anymore. It's a nice idea to want to revolutionise the bra... But if not wearing one at all works for you, just do that.
I remember when I was 16 I went into one of the "expensive" bra shops, told the woman I had a size 80C (Sweden), she looked at me and said "uhm.. no.. you're not". I was completely shocked and almost offended, like of course I am an 80C, she said "you're at least an E, and I think 70 or 75.." she measured and landed on 70F . So she took out some bras for me, which I tried on, NEVER had a bra fitted me better (I bought 3 that day). She explained the whole system for me, how it works with cups and that the 70, 80, 85 ect is the length around the chest (and back) and cups change depending on it.
Was one of the great lessons in life, ever since I always knew how to shop for a bra!
Which store did you go to? I also live in Sweden
With inches, I thought I was 34b, turns out I’m 32DD! Same story as yours with the fitting.
I had the same experience! I was actually very lucky, as I was too shy to ask for help and was just taking some bra's to try on when the lady noticed me. So glad she saw me, stopped me and educated me!
@@straw1berry11 Sorry for the late reply, just saw this now. I don't live in Sweden anymore and I'm not sure the store even is there anymore, was in a town in Blekinge.
@@josefinholgersson596 That's fine
since the pandemic, I got so used to not wearing a bra at home that I found myself going out without a bra and realising it half way
I did the same thing earlier and just slipped on the pasties I always carry; good enough and so comfy!
Army😁💜
Saaaaaame here Army 😭💜 no bras at home & soooo comfy
ARMY spotted!!
Wish i was unconscious about it as well😵😵😑😑
but without a bra i feel them while i walk and its not the most comfortable thing...
This was a wonderful talk! As Ms. Tempesta mentioned, wearing uncomfortable bras that fit poorly appears to be a universal experience for women and girls of all ages. Being a man I am only obliquely knowledgeable about bras since my wife wears them and her comfort is my concern too. Although I had heard that most women wear incorrectly sized bras, the arcane knowledge regarding how to discover the correct size has been very hard to locate.
I appreciate the time and effort Ms. Tempesta devoted to this talk. I sincerely hope that women everywhere can benefit from the points she raised regarding the sources of so many bras fitting improperly. Brava!
I recently bought a new bra, I thought the sales lady was completely bonkers when she downsize my bra band and up sized the cup, turns out I’ve been wearing the wrong size forever, and for once the straps actually stay on my shoulders! Also feel like I have a better shape, the old bras always seemed to make me look wider than I am!
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
Yep! Same story here! I found that out by accident!
The right size bra automatically makes you look 10 pounds lighter.
EVERYONE have nipples. Why is that such problem in our society to women's nipples to show up? Why we have to wear something we are not comfortable in?
Ask this question and then keep asking a lot more questions
We men don't mind you not wearing bras :)
@@kodokuitami5084 not in Uzbekistan(
Imagine my surprise when I discovered mannequins in Europe have nipples.
I'm not comfortable not wearing a bra while working out. It causes pain. But I also don't judge someone else for doing what works for you. You do you, boo.
"Bras don't keep the girls from sagging" ok the proof is in my bra. And high heels don't make me taller when I take them off. Loving this truth talk!
Thanks for watching!
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
I have been searching for this information and finally came across your video. I’m currently working on redesigning a bra. It’s design and function is completely outdated. Thank you for the history lesson! ❤️
For men saying "Just don't wear one and tell people to mind their business..." - I dare you to go out in public wearing yoga pants commando style. Just do it. We'll talk later...
🤭🤭🤭
Everyday, and no bra. Amen. 38D I have actually thought of trying the Japanese wrap bra because I just couldn't take it anymore and I am allergic to half the materials they use under the armpit area which causes me rashed. I just said F it one day.
@@KimberlyBarkdoll I have a lot of things that cause me rashes, and it's hard to find good stuff. I have some unpadded bras that are basically just tee shirt material, and those I find the most comfortable when I want a little support, but not too much. I have some of the stretchy sport ones for when I go on hikes, or even just on the bus because some of those bumps aren't fun. Usually I prefer wearing a camisole under my shirt that's a bit tighter rather than an actual bra. I think people don't look at the option that you can still wear things underneath, it just doesn't have to be bra in the traditional sense.
"If we don't question something as small and persistent as the first thing we put on every day how can we question the bigger things? The time is now to challenge the status quo." Brilliantly said! I wish more people would adopt this attitude!
Thank you!
@@bravolution1684 I just joined, btw :D
Me, looking suspishily at my socks in the morning from now on. If I can't trust THEM who can I trust.
Or it is as simple as NOT sweating the small stuff. BIGGER things can be questioned at any time. THEY are what is matter or would not be considered "bigger".
ADOPT THIS:
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
Lol! “The very thing that is supposed to lift us up, has let us down!”
Thanks !
Hello Carole
And, "Why are we still fastening ourselves in the same contraption every day and calling it *support*"?
This woman is amazing, first time I've seen a TED talk where the speaker manages to make jokes that are relevant and actually funny
Just sitting here in my corset, waiting for her to talk about how they're actually so much better, more comfortable, more supportive, and longer lasting than bras. My bra size used to be 32HH, and the bra I wore gave me bruises. Now they're gone and so is my back pain 👍
Tell us more about corsets please!
What kind and brand do you use?
Where do you buy them??? We need answers 🙏🏽
Okay! So to start, I thoroughly recommend doing more research than just this post.
I bought mine on Corset Story. They are cheaply made and I don't really recommend them because it's hard to get the fit right from a mass-manufactured corset. If you have the money, try to buy one custom-fit from an independent seller on Etsy or a personal website. Corset Story will try to get you in with a 4 for 1 deal, but that's not really helpful if only one (sort of) fits you. One is enough when it comes to corsets.
Other Info:
1. ALWAYS wear something underneath it to prevent chafing. A camisole works fine. Natural fibers like cotton or linen are best because they breathe. This also protects the corset from you because you should NEVER wash the corset. If you send it through the machine it will be ruined. Spray it with vodka if you must.
2. This was more of a wardrobe change than I expected. Your typical skinny jeans are not going to fit over them comfortably. I switched to more high-waisted pants and skirts with more room in the hips to accommodate the bulk of the corset.
3. Corsets (or "stays" for anything pre-1850s or so) come in a lot of different shapes. To get a good idea of what options you have, look into 18th century stays, Regency stays, 1860s corsets, and Edwardian S-Bend corsets. In general, the more you learn about the historical side of corsets, the more they'll make sense.
4. Do research on how to "season" a corset. Like leather shoes, they will form to your body over time, but it has to be done gradually. Don't lace up your corset all the way the first time you wear it or you might damage the boning.
Redthreaded is a small, female-owned company that makes both ready-to-wear and custom corsets. They are not cheap--individually made items aren't--but they should last years.
My bras are fitted by a magically talented Orthodox Jewish woman in a teeny tiny shop on the Lower East Side in NYC. It’s like Ollivander’s in Harry Potter. I drive 3.5 hours to see her every couple years.
Orchard Corset. After pandemic, obviously.
Oh, I have an underbust corset from Orchard Corset that I bought a few years ago. I like wearing it for a few reasons, one of which is because it helps support my back. After I wear it for a day, I'm honestly more eager to take off my bra than my corset, lol. I want to get an overbust corset for this reason.
... Brilliant!
where do you live ? are you sure you need to travel so far?
What’s the name of her shop?
Must be nice to be able to afford it
I really thought she was gonna give us a better design for bras! I'm incredibly disappointed we didn't get modernized stays or something, a discussion on those weird tape things, s o m e t h i n g. I think I took her introduction way too literally
I thought so as well 😒
Maybe now's the opportunity to come up with creative design ideas gals!👙(.)(.)
Well if I'm going to buy any newfangled bra, its going to be by someone who has a Masters in Lingerie! Love it!
So i still have no clue what cup size i am and there is no bra now days not made with stretchy fabric. I am coming away no more educated on how to find the correct bra than when i started.
Agree, I thought she was going to show a better design since she basically said that bras as we know it are poorly designed but instead just talked briefly on how to know if you're wearing the wrong size in the current model. I don't know what to do with the information she presented, doesn't really have a solution to the problem.
You all speak for yourselves. As a D cup myself, I could never think of living without a bra. Don't forget some of us need them to L.I.V.E.
Using a not so supportive bra let me to torn a Cooper ligament..the pain..and the scared! it caused me...just for wearing a not well built bra.
Now I barely can stand not wearing a bra.
for serious, it's not a party living life on the edge.
My sister in law is several sizes larger than you and she's the one who pioneered this for me sooooo your not necessarily out on the fun😉
I am a DD cup and do not wear a bra. Every bra I have had (fitted, non fitted, whatever) has hurt. I DID need a good one for riding horses, though.
As a 36DD, I feel this very much. I mainly wear sports bras now as they are more comfortable and have more pretty Colors/patterns
On behalf of all the men who made bad comments here, I am sorry.
Marek Dluzniak All kidding aside, Jara van Berkel commented that “this is what happens when men design a women’s product”. And I agree. However, By starting online companies with Bras designed by women for women, Bras are now being designed that are changing everything. Companies like Adore me etc. However, many of the great women owned bra companies are being put out of business by Chinese imitators who are paying people to make bad comments about the US women’s made products, and phony good comments about the poor quality imitations for sale on Amazon. The same is happening to every innovative product sold on Amazon, Chinese or Korean imitators with unbelievably high 5 Star ratings on Amazon: Tip. Be sure to read and give more credence to few bad (1 out of 5 stars) comments on the products that have real high ratings. And research the owners and designers behind the bras, are they indeed women, is the company in an non Asian area? I recently watched a video on Amazon Prime how Chinese imitators are killing the original companies started by hard working women, using computer generated, as well as paid good reviews for their products, and paid bad reviews for competitors products.
Thank you very much!!
@@michaelslater6839 Really great point, I have also noticed that most of those phony reviews will be made around the same time frame and have no recent comments. I have decided to stick to brands that I know because every time I get duped into ordering from those brands I am highly dissatisfied.
@@kyleegarcia5569 Thank You for your input and experience!
@@michaelslater6839 Although there is one company that sells there woman made bras on QVC. I bought one and while it was more comfortable in the back and shoulders the front was designed to appeal to men. it had lace in the inner half of the front on both sides. the damned seem goes vertically across the nipples. what were they thinking - not about my comfort, but about the man's gaze.
Now I keep wondering, what bra is she wearing and where does she shop?
She has a C-cup orso. It's easy to give comments with just a C. Try carrying my G-cup braless ;)
@@JustBeingAwesome So true ; my "girlfriend" (sounds silly to say that of a 48 yo woman) is a 38 bandsize with a bust measurement of 54 ; (you figure out the cup size); go find a bra for that without going "custom"
@@JustBeingAwesome orso = torso? Asking for a friend who tried to find an Orso bra, lol!
Me too 😂😂
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That was great! As a former lingerie model I understand I properly fitting bra. And honestly, ever since I left the industry, I never got one right because my old ones were custom make them to fit me. This is great advice for all women. And I realize my bras all have had many many birthdays it's time to start a new thank you so much.
Whoever thought back closures are a good idea? They are ridiculous.
I plan my outfits around avoiding wearing a bra.
Literally me!!!
nobody asked
@@roserose109 gosh, been so long since I heard that one on the internet I kind of just want to pinch your cheeks and give you a hug.
@@ashleeknowlton5805 lol!
Yep, me all my life!
The only time women need bras are for sports/ physical activity. You'd be lying to yourself if you think you can run comfortably w/out one
I dance ballet and like to do big jumps. I've never worn a bra to class or performance and I never will.
@@jackson5802 Bro, that's cool. If you you don't need a bra you don't need one. Call it fortune? Some girls can't even participate, in eg PE classes, without gravity reminding them that it's there.
@@Orangebipedal sometimes my leotards have a shelf bra built in and maybe some padding but even the older girls I dance with don't wear bras
I try not to even walk fast.
I cant even walk briskly without one 🤣
This is why I custom make bras in Australia!
should add your link here!
I only recently experienced a proper bra fitting. After thinking I was a 34B, I was astonished to find out that I am really a 30D! Same cup volume, but the band feels more supportive. The sister sizing concept is real and it works!
I gave up wearing a bra back in the late sixtys and I'm now 74, and as far as I'm concerned where they fall they lay!!
Men's cotton tank top undershirts are popular
Me too. I stopped wearing one at age 17, and I've never looked back. Only occasionally have I not purchased a garment so as not to embarrass myself, but that's a small price to pay for being comfortable. Torture devices.
Good for you!
Your comment made my day ... lol ..
@@ofrapeters3952 Thank you nice to know I made someone's day, have a good one.
Swap to a wireless, comfy sports type bra. I’ll never go back to the old wired style. So uncomfortable!
Or try no bra at all. I ve bee. Doing it for two years now ( I wear bralettes sometimes too) and omg it feels wwaaaaay better
There is no such thing as a comfortable one for some of us.
Sports bra cause me excruciating pain. The “miracle” wireless one never carry my size - 85j.
Yes bras have changed over the years.
Sports bras do not go up to my size. Bra manufacturers need to get on this like now.
So much of this is new to me here. Would never think that 80 % of us, those wearing bras, of course, know their body so badly that they pick and wear lingerie that is actually a contraption. Girls, we need to fix that.
As a 32A, I will continue to wear a padded bra everyday regardless of any discomfort in order to fill out a blouse properly.
Her : buy a new bra after a year
Me, currently wearing a bra that used to be my mom's : well
I recently threw out a bra that I've had since I was 15. I'm now 19. I also have bras my sister used to wear..
🤣🤣🤣
@@audreydoyle5268 dreary, I’ve got bras older than you!! 🤣
I'm wearing a bra I bought in 2015. All my bras are 5 years old.
he he me too
I'm still wearing the old Hanes Thank Goodness It Fits line that had the half cup sizes. I cried when they discontinued them. So, yeah, they are 20 years old. I've treated them like ming vases.
I think we should start calling bras vases. With the "ah" pronunciation.
Can you get a tailor to make you new replicas using the originals as a template?
I haven't worn a bra in years. It was one of the best choices I ever made clothing-wise.
Are people weird about it?? I know I shouldn't care but I feel like other people wanna know too lol
After this insightful opening, i expected her to present better alternatives to the conventional bra.
The freedom that I feel by not wearing a bra is FENOMINAL and I don't care a hoot ( mostly) about how I look. I only wear one on special occasions when going out. Of course I do understand and can sympathize with the ladies with larger boobs who may well feel more comfortable wearing one. What I'm trying to say here is do what is comfortable for you,rather than follow what is expected of you. Don't follow fashion in anyway whatsoever,but rather scrutinize your body, hide your defects and highlight your good points. But at home just be you and make sure that you feel darn comfortable ☺️. Have a nice day folks 🙂
I totally agree with you. Even as a larger chested woman, as soon as I get home, off comes the bra, and I instantly feel better.
I am bra-less for the last 3 decades. I remember the freedom from the first time. Because literally every bra I tried was like being imprisoned.
At 71 I have NO defects and I have NO good points. I am PERFECT the way I am. Since I don't care about what others think of me, I just go on being as perfect as GOD made me.
@@Sasha-yw3uh phenomenal answer! And really. May I add this? ------ Phenomenal? I look at the definition of that and think, eh...well, I LOVE not wearing a bra, but "phenomenal" - well, not as phenomenal is defined, hehehe
@@Sasha-yw3uh it’s just a play on word feminine and phenomenal no misspellings.
I haven 't worn a bra since 1970. It was a political position I took that rapidly became a choice for comfort. I don't get sores on my shoulders, I can take a deep full breath for swimming or flute playing, and I have trained myself not to notice if someone else notices I don't wear one. That's 50 years of only wearing bras to job interviews...
Damn. You were definitely wearing the wrong bra. No shoulder sores or shallow breathing due to my bra for me...
You went swimming in your bra?
My bra definitely doesn't give me sores on my shoulders. Also I play flute and don't think bras affect my breathing. But it might be different for you.
The first time I did not wear a bra,it shocked everyone into silence.
I actually got two different jobs bc I was very liberal at the time and went bra-less. (and wearing a see-thru blouse that matched my suit probably helped, lol)
Absolutely wonderful and informative talk. I truly had NO IDEA that is how bras are sized. I have chronic pain and can only wear one brand and style of bra (Spanx wireless Bra-llelujah) and the kicker, they don't make the size I need. I only wear padded bras - sadly the reason...a male co-worker once said something about my headlights being on. We women would endure much less pain if our male counterparts would learn to keep their eyes up and comments to themselves.
Bras are painful! I can't even buy one in a regular store, I have to go to a specialty store and pay over $100 for something that's STILL uncomfortable.
Best thing to happen to bras is covid. On a Zoom call, If you have on the right clothing and the webcam/laptop is at eye level, no one knows if you're wearing on or not! Lol
Yes
Very true
hahaha so true!!!!
true. I have not been wearing since Covid..
I'm in IT and we have online meetings everyday but we have only once ever had our cameras turned on
As a woman with overly large Tatas , 36GG, I can attest to the ridiculousness of trying to find the perfect fit. I have a drawer full of over 25 bras that I've worn once because after wearing them for 3 hours of so I finally know how they REALLY feel, because my body tells me. Headache, backache, can't breathe, shoulder pain you name it. There should be a library of bras, where we can "borrow" them for a few days to try, before buy. I was also the smallest bust size in my family until my mum and sis got reductions. My 25 year old daughter just got hers done. She went from a 28HH to an A - and loves it. Next year I'm getting mine done. At 57, I've had enough of constant back ache.
28HH? Is that even possible??
me the same. I now sew my bra, but medieval style. I had the most pain because I have kidney issue. wen I wear the bra I do not get air.... if you have big Brest as we have, just not wearing a bra is not an option. everyone stare at you even if you wear tshirt 5 times bigger then your size, they swing and everyone is starring ... wishing you a great day from germany
"You should be replacing your bras every year." Oh oh. I am pretty sure my wife wears bras older than our children. And they have children, too. I am going to share this video with her.
That makes me laugh so hard. Regards to your wife!
Maybe buy her a new one 😂 she probably is putting the money into the kids and family rather than spending it on something that can’t be seen. I know when I don’t have money the last thing i buy is a new bra. I did however go through a period after my marriage broke up into making sure I treated myself occasionally and had matching sets . Not than anyone was going to see then it was just for me. It was definitely something I had neglected because the money was better spent on food clothes and education for the kids. BTW my ex contributes to noting and never paid child support after so money was always tight. But could even get her a voucher so she can pick herself.
@@gillianstapleton8566 Oh we have the money. Our kids are fully grown and raising families. And we have the time. We are semi-retired. We work to pay the bills, but only when we feel like it. I suggest going bra shopping every month. I just can't get her to do it. I don't know why, and she's not saying, but there has to be something going on, right?
@@badbiker666 not necessarily. I know a lot of women who are uncomfortable buying bras, though we'd never admit it.
@@badbiker666 Just to give her a hint at what a different kind of bra feels like, get the sizes of 2-3 of her bras and go to a place that sells sports bras and ask for help to buy her a couple...one in white and one in her favorite color (to wear around the house for comfort). Don't present them, put them in her bra drawer to discover. Remove the tags, tie loosely in a colored string or bow. Tell her you threw away the tags and receipt so you couldn't return them. (Keep the tags, receipt and if she doesn't wear them after 3 months, you may return them but if it was me, I would just let it ride as a job well-tried, smile.) Let us know if you do it!
I appreciate your explanation of the “mechanics” of this device. Having dealt with underwires most of my life, I find it refreshing to know I can transition to something more comfortable without sacrificing support. Thank you.
I was kind of waiting for her to propose a new type of bra design since she goes into how old the current bra structure is. But something being old doesn't necessarily make it a bad thing, women wore corsets (not tight-lacing) regularly for hundreds of years because they were so supportive and conformed to your body after long-term use. The guides on how a bra should fit were helpful but not really anything new, you can really get the same advice from any store that has a bra-fitting service. I get that this was for a general audience, but I wish she went a lot more into depth about how we can make bras better.
agreed- pants and shirts have looked the same for well over 100 years................the slide of the lace low plunge underwire compared a full coverage soft cup so not a fair comparison-- bra fitting at a local store will get you tons more than this talk- sorry!!
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
Many of those corsets were good for securing those ladies in for waltzes and minuettes.....but Many young girls, teens etc., don't want to BRA FITTINGS you know ? I was one of them, and those WIRES were atrocious!
Too bad most women would rather be viewed with lace than be comfortable ?
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
Many of those corsets were good for securing those ladies in for waltzes and minuettes.....but Many young girls, teens etc., don't want to BRA FITTINGS you know ? I was one of them, and those WIRES were atrocious!
Too bad most women would rather be viewed with lace than be comfortable ?
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
My grandmother, widowed at 30 with 5 children under 10, had to earn her living. She started a corset shop. She had fitting rooms, and doctors would send her customers that needed quality, personalized fittings. I started wearing a bra ( fit to me by her) when I was 11. Playing jump rope, running, hurt. There wasn't much there but it needed support. I don't like the feeling of skin on skin, so I wouldn't not be comfortable without a bra. BUT, new ones every year, at $40 or more!! Well I guess you could have a bra savings account. :)
I have not worn a bra since childhood! And yes I was treated like s*** by my mother family and the community for it but I was already used them all treating me very badly and abusively so my health won out and I left as soon as I could. I haven't worn a bra since and been continually judged by men and women for it but f****** them my health is more important.
you go girl
I've been yelled at by strangers in public for not wearing one and had the most common question in my workplaces be about me being braless. Those who don't respect themselves can't recognize people who do, friend.
My sister used to get angry at me for not wearing one in the house (I was wearing a shirt of course). Due to COVID she has now stopped wearing them too. Bras have always made my back hurt and it had gotten to the point the pain was beginning to become unbearable. I'm glad I can relax in peace now.
I was 28 before I found a place that sold bras that would actually fit! Completely changed my wardrobe and confidence.
She looks drop dead gorgeous in that dress.
I wish it would be exceptable in society to NOT wear a bra.
Ummm it is😂
I agree. Not in the US and although I wish I didn't have to wear one, I also don't feel comfortable not wearing one.
@Luisa Carmen yeah until my husband had a complete psycho melt down because men can see my nipples. Ha ha.
A lot fewer women I know wear bras now, after being free of them for so long in lockdown! Lol! (semi lockdown and working from home is still ongoing in UK).
Join me in the movement. Change starts with you! It can even be one day a week on a weekend. I usually go without one unless it’s some egregious event. It’s really their problem, not mine. Get some friends who are more evolved about this too, that’s key
This is my new mentor (she doesn't know it yet lol), women working for the betterment of women, thank you Laura.
Thank you so much for your support!
@@bravolution1684 your talk is so cool and so are you!
👏👏👏a little louder for the folks in back "Women working for the betterment of all women" the right kinda vibe right there. Absolutely brilliant ladies
If Laura worked harder, she might come up with new bra technology. Complaining that no-one has improved the design in 100 years is not exactly "working for the betterment of women"
My everyday stuggle with bras end here. No more pinching the center of my shirt to adjust my bra. BRALESS IS THE FUTURE
😂😂 love it!
i never wear a bra (unless i go to a wedding or a job interview) i am so happy i hate wearing bras... no one notices and no one really cares. Girls, do what’s confortable for YOU.
Why are my fellow men so insecure that they have to make jokes at the expense of women here.
good question John
because like dogs we are easily distracted 😅 😂 🤣
One of my favourite quotes that might sort of answer this question (although I know it doesn't fit 100% perfectly) is "Maybe you dumbasses wouldn't feel emasculated by feminism if your manhood was rooted in something other than the oppression of women."
Johanna Lauterbach- Great quote, I read it to my 14 yr old son then asked him what he thought about it. It resulted in one of the most important and valuable moments I can remember sharing with him. We had the coolest conversation, it gave me hope for him and his generation. Thank you. 🙏🏽
John Gayton Marek Dluzniak All kidding aside, Jara van Berkel commented that “this is what happens when men design a women’s product”. And I agree. However, By starting online companies with Bras designed by women for women, Bras are now being designed that are changing everything. Companies like Adore me etc. However, many of the great women owned bra companies are being put out of business by Chinese imitators who are paying people to make bad comments about the US women’s made products, and phony good comments about the poor quality imitations for sale on Amazon. The same is happening to every innovative product sold on Amazon, Chinese or Korean imitators with unbelievably high 5 Star ratings on Amazon: Tip. Be sure to read and give more credence to few bad (1 out of 5 stars) comments on the products that have real high ratings. And research the owners and designers behind the bras, are they indeed women, is the company in an non Asian area? I recently watched a video on Amazon Prime how Chinese imitators are killing the original companies started by hard working women, using computer generated, as well as paid good reviews for their products, and paid bad reviews for competitors products.
I never found a bra that felt comfortable. When I retired...........out went the bras! I love Old Navy camisoles! I agree with a lot of the women on here............Ditch the bras!
Same here. I hate bras but will wear the camisoles.
@@jo-vf8jx yeah, a vest is warm
I just go with a loose spots bra it give just enough support for comfort
I couldn’t wait that long ;)
I'm with the German ladies; they call their "bras" the "HoldsemFromFloppin"..ha..what more wold anyone need ?
Too bad most women would rather be viewed with lace than be comfortable ?
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
As a man it's easy to not think about all the pressure that gets put on women to be a certain way, but coming across something like this talk that gives a bit of perspective in a way that doesn't attack men is very refreshing, thank you Laura.
I quit wearing a bra three years ago and it was the best decision I ever made!
Sizing of bras and shoes is like getting one fits all teeth braces.
Yes! Love your analogy!
bras come in over 250 sizes and like shoes (length and width) bras come in band and cup- so not one size at all :)
@@lindasagman7849 victoria’s secret says size a to d take it or leave it 🧍♀️
the only bra I want to wear is the one that feels like two hands cupping gently upwards with no pressure around my torso. No current design bras for me
Warm hands please!
That is actually an ideal design, somebody make it already👍🏽
Have you seen the ta-ta towel? It's a cool design I'd love to see used with other fabrics. No torso strap 😉
@@yep4704 interesting! I'd want it hooked in the middle maybe? Many things it could be worn with
@@miniaturecreature pretty sure no guy will want some fake hands on "his" lady
After sewing for many years, I started sewing my own bras. I went from feeling pinched/achey/itchy in my store bought bras to feeling more comfortable in my custom made bras than going braless. Highly recommend it if you have some sewing experience. There’s an amazing lingerie sewing community on Instagram that’s supportive and kind.
I really wish they would teach us to size ourselves. I mean, it's not difficult to do. Plus, if everyone wore the correct size, store selection would be better.
HERE, ...SIZE YOURSELF like the Tahitians have been doing for centuries:
Too bad most women would rather be viewed with lace than be comfortable ?
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
For girls and women who want to stop wearing bras but can not in all circumstances or don't want to go too quickly, you can start by wearing bralettes. It could be a nice step towards stopping altogether.
I didn’t hear you address the issue of two cup sizes on one woman. This is quite common and the reason for us getting the size half right. She mentions gravity as one of the reasons for drooping, yet says there is no evidence that bras help. But if the bra prevents gravity from pulling then it stands to reason that it does help.
She literally talked about sister sizing for about 1/4th of the talk....
Gravity will get you whether you wear a bra or not because gravity doesn't disappear when you put on a bra. Your bra supports from the bottom up, but does nothing for the mass of flesh sitting on top pressing down onto the bottom. If you have a big bowl of refrigerator dough, the bowl supports the dough from the bottom. But the weight of the dough pressing down on itself will collapse the dough from the top down.
If I had a dollar for every time a man felt like he needed to have his say on a woman's issue, I would be the richest person ()not woman) in the world.
Katya Bradova
Truth! Why are those little snowflakes posting because “huh huh huh boobs!!”
Dear Beevis and Butthead, You don’t have to type something.
@Anonymoose and folks there we have it...
It can be annoying and maybe that's because SOME of us girls are constantly trying to tell men everything they do is wrong?
A guy once posted on a chat, "If I'm in the woods I say something, and there is no woman around am I still wrong?"
I'd be twice as rich as you if I had a dollar for every time a woman felt she needed to have her say on a man's issue.
@@MrAranton yeah.. no "equality" there, huh.. just double standards
who here did already know that you first get the band size and then try the cups?
It really is about time women talked about womens issues without men.
Can someone talk about how perfectly she spoke!!
Doesn´t matter if your thesis is pointless.
@@raggmopp857 it was not at all pointless, rather a very important topic
Took me over 50 years to figure out the bra size foolishness.
Thank you so much! With your guidance I spent just as long as I normally do finding a bra but actually found one that fits! It’s the most comfortable bra I’ve ever worn!
And I wasn’t getting disheartened by the process like I normally do. I just learned to keep trying until I find one that fits my unique body.
What I found most fascinating is I thought I was a 14-16D but turns out I’m anywhere between a 12C and 14A depending on the make! Having a tighter under bust strap, a wire free bra and non stretchy fabric have made all the difference, as well as trying something I’ve never done before: a front opening bra!
I just realized that this talk out of all ted tallks I've watched transformed my life the most
“A metaphor for what the world expects of us”! So damn true. Do we get any say in these expectations? Not really. Between politicians, religious leaders, close minded fathers and husbands, we are lucky to be allowed the few freedoms we do actually have, which are not many!
Why exactly is it that YOU as a GROWN FREE female LETTING someone tell you ANYTHING? A free country means that...I go around without a bra all day, unless I have to be "professional". No one tells me I can't and let them try. MOST people just leave me alone. I've never heard any complaints...I wouldn't care if I did. I'm RETIRED. Why should YOU care either? It's YOUR body. We SHOULD be modest, for respect to ourselves, but be free with what YOU wish to wear or not. If THE males in your life have a problem with that ask THEM if it were a "social norm" for THEM to be ASKED to TUCK their package all day...WOULD they?
@@noneyabusiness9570 I agree with everything you said - except for “modest”. That is a loaded word for me - laced with religious , moral and patriarchal undertones that I think we as women have been conditioned to believe - but it’s just a belief and nothing more.
From the comments I see it's not just men. There are women who aren't just compliant but believe it's the way it should be. I've never understood that. They don't seem to be brainwashed so there must be something they get out of fighting to preserve a dying anachronous social order that plenty of men want rid of as much as women do.
In Western nations, women have as much, if not more, freedom than men. In a professional setting, men are usually expected to wear suits and ties. Women can wear suits and ties if they want, but they generally can wear dresses, blouses, high heels, earrings, makeup, and the like. In addition, women usually have more options when it comes to hairstyles; women can have short, medium, or long hair. In a professional environment, men generally have to keep their hair short.
Please name freedoms that men have in the West that women do not have.
@@iqi616 Does a fish know it's swimming in water? Does it think about the water or does it simply live it's life in it's environment? There are cultural and societal norms that people don't even think to question, because it's part of the way the world is, and in a patriarchal society women are often just as misogynistic as men. In this system a lot of women enforce the norms on each other.
My solution is: Let’s ditch the bra! 😂
Easier said than done, when you're in the larger size range. And that gets even more difficult with aging. While I'm comfortable around the house without one, I'd be very uncomfortable in public, especially if being active in any way, without one.
Yeah, no. When you’re a G cup, going without is not only painful, but sweaty.
Nope. Not if you’re over a certain size.
We should definitely normalize not wearing a bra: the nip, the jiggle, the natural shape!
Totally with you, Sisil. Got big boobs? Maybe yoga or other exercises... Anyway, I ditched mine almost a decade ago. Feel so much better. A little saggy? Yep. But healthy and comfortable. I will never go back. (My husband loves me this way, which is a plus.)
Haven't worn any bras (other than sports bras while exercising) for five years. It's the freaking best.
I feel like this talk was missing a lot of information or she led me to think she would speak on innovating the fit of bras or something. Instead, she just told us we are uncomfortable. I want my money back.
Design and comfort should always be the goal.
Too bad most women would rather be viewed with lace than be comfortable ?
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!
I kept hoping she'd tell us where we could find good supportive bras... no such luck.
Awhile back I got fitted at a swapmeet from a lady that was selling mexi shapewear. That was the best no wire bra I have ever had, nothing of that bra had elastic.
She started her own company for sport bras. At 10:00 (approx) she states what material and bandwidth to look for.
BOODY an Australian brand is amazing
Only online if you are in the US at least. Herroom, brastop, barenecessities, Hotmilk, and cake lingerie are good places to google
I have found cake lingeries cotton candy bra to be super comfy, just add thin padded cups. I also am really comfortable in hotmilks Obsession and Temptation bras...so happy I found them.
Good lesson, I've struggled with uncomfortable and unsupportive bras since I was 12 and have paid a ton towards this quest! But if you know this and have a degree in lingerie, isn't there a way you can help change the status quo, by helping to change, update, and finally standardize the system in improving the measurement, fit, and design process?
A year ago i never would’ve thought i could go a day without wearing a bra .. Now i dread having to wear a sports bra for a couple hours a week.. Girls honestly no matter ur size, u can go bra free. Just power thru your body’s unlearning process, it might take a couple days of discomfort , but it’s worth it i promise !
Support is a godsend for those those of us with nerve issues or hormonal sensitivity. Bras didn't cause those kinds of pain but they sure do help minimize it.
marvelous! it's about bloody time we had this conversation! i really thought we were onto something when we were burning ours in the 70's but now I see women wearing them as fashion!
They make a fun fashion piece! If you don’t want to wear one, great! You do want to wear one? Also great! The power is in having CHOICE. Not being forced to.
Am I seriously the only one who finds bras comfortable and never take them off??
I never take my bras off. I have work bras, sleep bras, lazy day bras....I am uncomfortable and in pain without my bras. And it's a load of shite to say bras don't help with sagging.
Nope, mine are pretty comfortable too. I mean, I get what she's saying, they annoy me too at times. But I don't like ditching them. I'm a on the larger side, so taking it off just hurts. What we need is better tech for them. Women will be happiest then.
Saaame finally i found the bra lovers i belong to ❤️
It's simply because you've found your actual bra size. I wear a bra to go to look presentable but as soon as I get home, off it goes. I'll be going get my measurements
Nope! I know plenty of women like this.
After seeing this I can also see why the Enell design is so wise.
The speaker nailed it.
She had the whole audience.
We could use more talks like these.
HERE'S THE DAILY ADJUSTABLE COTTON WAY TO GO NO MATTER YOUR WIDTH NO MATTER THE CUP!:
TRY THIS and put the manufacturers out of business. They make comfortable jock belts, and can't design a decent bra!
Like to see this lady do a NEW VIDEO with the most comfortable bra in the world!
Tahiti has been wearing them for decades.
A lady without support, can cause broken veins and skin scars; That should remind you of a man with the wrong size jock belt, yes ?
She's so right! The most comfortable bra in the WORLD has been the "self adjustable with one giant rubber band" yep thank god for THAT INVENTION at least; A COTTON TANK TOP THAT 'S A BIT LARGE, coiled at the bottom like those dancers in Hati use,,, pulled up through the top and arranged and pinned to the COTTON TANK TOP. No need to worry about SIZES , one tank top and one rubber band fits ALL, and REALLY DOES fit ALL! SO ALL YOU GIRLS around that time of the month ? Just don't pull that cotton tightly this time; Thank God for COTTON and stop shopping for "manufactured " bras my dear!