So, you just explained in 10 minutes what I've been forced to do alone for the last decade or so. It only became easy recently, when I stopped receiving solely contradictory emotional support and information about what I was experiencing. I had to spend the better part of a decade essentially meditating on my own physiological sensations in order to break them down and painstakingly catalog them and understand them. This video explained in 10 minutes the process I've been using for the last 10 years.. kind of weird seeing it laid out in a way that is so easy to explain.
@@АнастасиЯ-ж9б7ш I will sound like an annoying stuck record if you don't like yoga, but for much of my life, I was disconnected from my senses at times. Mr. Reade makes an excellent point about this being the most important. I find yoga very helpful.
@@stephenowesney5173 For me, my meditation is the yoga itself; in doing it over and over until I am without thought. I have also done land use mediation, which is settling conflicts.
I totally agree! Took me years to figure out what was going on with me and my child and after finding this channel, I was relieved. He explains what iv tried to for so long. And after finally going to see therapists for myself and my kid, my kids therapist actually recommended this very channel to explain this stuff. He nails the defense mode and how it keeps us stuck from accomplishing the executive function stuff
I’m having problems with a new guy at work. I wasn’t aware he had aspergers until I was ready to fire him. He’s an excellent worker but has very poor social skills. This has given me a lot of insight on how to approach him better. Thank you.
@Montgomery15 Snooker Videos He was an excellent worker when he worked by himself. However in a work environment with others his OCD and poor social skills always created conflict which is why he almost got fired
You remind me of my buddy from highschool. He was this oddball who wore a 50 pound backpack full of books and literally ran from class to class. He was obsessed with guiness world records and did crazy shit like walk on his hands and build house of cards. People picked on him but he was outspoken and never backed down. In the end he was accepted and highly respected. You just gotta be true to yourself....
You are such an important voice. In many parts of the country, all people hear and see is behavior-focused "therapy" and it's just a big misunderstanding of the condition. I'm like many others in that it took me years to really understand. It's incredible. This also explains how it's an issue for all ages on the spectrum, not just kids (though I'm glad early intervention is happening--hopefully more kids grow up less stressed out).
I like this video, I like seeing someone understand that at the root of it all I'm just an normal person whose basically devoted their whole live to concentrating on managing their physical discomfort, my obliviousness is not a choice but an outcome, though at this point I'm becoming pretty jaded with others.
I feel like my awareness is switched on way too much most of the time. I seem to notice everything, so much that it overwhelms me and it get's too much.
Me 3 lol. I have to look at the ground with head phones on just so I can pay attention to the important things. Instead of everything. I sleep with a loud fan so I can drown out all the noises. Being sight impaired my hearing and smelling are so strong.
Me 4. I hear everything and see everything, to the point I cannot hear the person talking into my face, because the leaves blowing behind us, is making too much noise......
This is one of the best videos ever! So rational and reasonable and compassionate😊there are other ignorant videos that still see this extreme brain challenge as their fault. Shaming. Punitive. Ignorant. Thank you so much for being really helpful and kind❤️
Wow, I came here because of my husband and daughter, but I have bipolar and generalised anxiety and over the past few months I’ve really started to focus in on where my anxiety comes from, because I’ve had since forever, and this really confirms where my thinking has been. So thank you so much. I will continue to explore that bottom section of the funnel, and then worry about the cherry, which is a mess. Thankfully I’m all good socially, for the most part :)
You are right on the money! You can't find this info anywhere else. You are mapping out our challenging & painful reality & helping us dance in the rain :)
51 years. Been diagnosed as ADHD, borderline personality disorder, bipolar, PTSD, anxiety. And I am just now hearing and learning about aspergers. I feel a strong familiarity with so many of theses symptoms that I believe I may have this. Why oh why has no doctor or professional ever brought this up to me before. At 51, I am a wreck and feel as those I am broken beyond repair.
I think it's important to mention that it can fluctuate. Once someone is out of defense mode, that doesn't mean they won't go back to it if they take on too much. Just a "heads up" to friends and family of people on the spectrum.
Well done! It is so true. there is no problem for us to communicate and etc. we can learn that, people do that in a very simple way. But there is a block, a stop point that tries not to allow to socialize. And that comes from... And from where it comes - actually the only thing people who want to help people with asperger's should discover and study.
My therapist recommended this video to me. I have high functioning autism (or asperger's). I am glad that she had recommended this to me. I was diagnosed at 8 years old.
This is a fantastic insight. I think it would really help my ADHD friends as well. I’d love to see more topics presented toward neurodivergents in general.
I haven't been formally diagnosed with Asperger's, but I do wonder if I have it.. I'm pretty high functioning in the medical field but often get overwhelmed by external stimuli and get extremely uneasy with maintaining eye-contact. My relationship skills aren't great. I do manage my anxiety well these days though and have got quite good at de-escalating myself.
Very well done video. I'm sure my husband has aspergers and more than likely a border line personality. These videos help me a lot, but I don't know if my husband would be open to hearing this, and with some men, they just can't deal with having some type of disorder. I feel he is a classic, especially when I see the symptoms of the melt down. Thank you so much for your videos!
Thank you so much for this. I have been trying to figure out what's wrong with me for almost 40 years. I have at different times tried to get psychiatric help, but am always misdiagnosed. Now the trick will be finding someone who can diagnose and help me properly. I am almost at a loss, and fear that I may not be able to cope much longer. Hopefully this will help. Do you have any suggestions on how to go about getting a proper diagnosis? I have found that most psychiatrists are so sure of themselves that they talk to you for an hour, diagnose you, and medicate you,when they really don't listen to what your trying to tell them. Of course having this disorder makes it extremely difficult to convey the issues you are having, and I've found that straight out telling them; "I think I have such and such" doesn't work either, since no one could possibly know more about themselves then the all mighty psychologist. I know your time is valuable, but if you could find the time please respond.
We also had to convince my kids it was a big chicken. If you can get them to enjoy turkey, it contains Tryptophan which is a precursor to HTP5 which is needed for many helpful neurotransmitters.
I have someone now in my life with this issue, my wife and I are old school suck it up drive on type, but we want to be a help and blessing to this person and help them know they are unconditionaly love by us. What’s the best videos to help us understand and be a help?
I agree. How can you cope with executive functioning tasks if you lack the skills to regulate emotions or self sooth? Or even social skills. Seems like a no brainer.
Me gusta mucho este canal,pero me gustaria q todos los videos tuvieran traduccion al español...se leer ingles pero no el 100℅..asi q a veces c me dificulta entender ciertas cosas😢
For someone in their 40's who strongly suspects they may have aspergers but is unlikely to get any medical support for it, what can be done to help with overwhelm? I've been through every ssri and snri, meditation, mindfulness, cbt, schema therapy, client centred counselling, social skills training ... some of them worked for a bit but as they were possibly targeting the wrong problem (anxiety disorder) they never really worked. As I've got older I relate more and more to the aspergers diagnosis and to people who have it. I recently started a new job after avoiding the world for years, and the overwhelm is just unbelievable. I am worried it might ruin this new opportunity. What can be done to manage it that I haven't already tried please?
I suggest 2 smaller price points in the middle. Keep your most expensive membership still, but have some more affordable ones that are available. An Autism therapist had to take me aside and tell me that this is too expensive. As a warning before I get on the website. YOu guys are great, but have some variety on lower price points so its not a country club situation.
There is a need for the aspies that suffer from evil and envy of the same family members who do not let them prosper and it is possible here in Puerto Rico Latin America Federal supervision of US and Canadian aid is needed for Asperger people are mistreated by the same relatives that they spend taking them with them and suddenly we need a security measure to have a good quality of life lifestyle with security of well-being and mental health including even DNA samples in all family members to determine who better to be this way of lodging for In order for me to prosper with freedom, a lost case splinter has started over 30 years of age because, unfortunately, the aid there is for Puerto Rico is not enough, the security measures are obsolete, I need to update them so that the stagnant parts and lost cases like me we can get out of the hole and prosper and we certainly need better pedaling because It is family if they are conflicting families like mine we need pedals to be alone and receive all the benefits in free apart help from Canada and the United States! Unfortunately, the aid that is not enough for a person like me to prosper here in Puerto Rico Latin America
How do u help someone with aspergers thats clinically depressed and cannot stop getting constantly consciously depressed about negative world events that dont directly relate to them? bombings, world hunger, bad attitude in service level jobs, etc.
We are not alone in spirit, then Niki Grant. I am only now learning to recognize myself (in these respects) in other people that I spot in many places. I think of it as just another way of being.
I deeply long to start silent tea/coffee shop, quiet cohousing (which I've experienced & would like to experience again). And more stuff like that. I became a massage therapist to be in a quiet, controlled, minimal environment. Where I work with one mostly silent person at a time. It's pretty great as long as I don't overwork myself.
Can someone tell me... and OT says she thinks my son has aspergers but he is very social and, has plenty friends, understands social dynamics etc... is this usual?
Did she conduct any assessment to prove that ? Poeple can’t just assume & diagnose , so until a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist diagnoses your son with proper assessment to back it up only then believe it
@@Pimpytachang you’re right, we have since taken him to a different OT and recently another since we moved cities… neither have has any concerns or asked for an autism assessment. He has auditory sensory processing issues and a few of the primal reflexes are being worked on. He still has a great social group and is doing well in school. The whole situation was very unnecessarily stressful for us but I have since come to realise that my son simply didn’t like the first OT so he was not engaging with her like he usually does.
my sister an i have meltdowns alot but she wont learn any thing about this condition i have she thinks meds an a shrink an she can wash her hands of it.. gerr
As an autistic working with autistic people, i would advise understanding. It sounds like the 3 year old is in fight or flight. You have to figure out what is causing this. As this video suggests - sensory is a common issue - reduced noise/lighting/background noise/too much physical movement. As a sensory adult an open plan office is the worst environment for me - strip lighting/background noise and too many people milling around. I think it is important to understand a lot of autistics experience physical pain with this sensory stuff going on. If the child is in meltdown/fight or flight/reduce sensory input - don't be continually talking to them - this will make things worse - th-cam.com/video/K2P4Ed6G3gw/w-d-xo.html this link shows what may be happening. This experience would take me 2-3 days to recover from
@@foxyp7057 thank you so much for sharing. My kid isn’t having meltdowns, but likes to spin his hands and watch them go round. Is this in response to an overload condition? I really wish we knew more. Seems like the spectrum is becoming broader and more vague instead of the opposite.
@@luthiervandros Yes the spectrum is wide and vast and each of us has different traits, but sharing a lot of similarities. what your child is displaying here, sounds like self stimulation and sensory seeking. There really is nothing wrong with it. Does he enjoy it? He's not hurting himself or anybody else is he? Then when would you stop it? Self stimulation is a coping/processing mechanism that a lot of us have. Trying to stop him from doing it could be detrimental to his mental health and well being. Being autistic isn't something you can 'fix' or cure - nor should anybody want to. Its just a different operating system.... like the difference between iOS and Android.
I think, we mustn't try to discover that in some scientific way, but actually listen to our Creator, Who Knows all things. So there is a solving of problems. And what you were describing - about sensory system 'a feeling that we're Alice's - it's actually our soul, isn't it? And if we're terryfied then, maybe there is a reason for that. And what we need is safety. Don't you think? SAFETY.
A wide body of research has proven that social and executive functioning issues do not "take care of themselves". The employment statistics for people with Asperger's prove this to be wrong. I think it's irresponsible to provide inaccurate information that has no basis in research such as the "sensory funnel" that is discussed here.
As an Aspie I think you're wrong... His intuitive advise helped me a lot and that's kind of what happened... And also maybe you're the one taking it too literally... Of course Social and Executive Functions should be worked on, but they come way more fluidly if the other topics are better taken care of and payd the right amount of atention...
Perhaps he should not have said they would take care of themselves but i do think his example of asking a guy in war zone to learn how to knit is good. You are not going to learn much if you are overwhelmed. Need to develop coping skills for the sensory problems first.
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So, you just explained in 10 minutes what I've been forced to do alone for the last decade or so. It only became easy recently, when I stopped receiving solely contradictory emotional support and information about what I was experiencing. I had to spend the better part of a decade essentially meditating on my own physiological sensations in order to break them down and painstakingly catalog them and understand them. This video explained in 10 minutes the process I've been using for the last 10 years.. kind of weird seeing it laid out in a way that is so easy to explain.
Oh, I'm sorry. I am with asperger's too.
@@АнастасиЯ-ж9б7ш I will sound like an annoying stuck record if you don't like yoga, but for much of my life, I was disconnected from my senses at times. Mr. Reade makes an excellent point about this being the most important. I find yoga very helpful.
Can you explain the types of mediation you have studied and worked well for you and specifically this
@@stephenowesney5173 For me, my meditation is the yoga itself; in doing it over and over until I am without thought. I have also done land use mediation, which is settling conflicts.
I totally agree! Took me years to figure out what was going on with me and my child and after finding this channel, I was relieved. He explains what iv tried to for so long. And after finally going to see therapists for myself and my kid, my kids therapist actually recommended this very channel to explain this stuff. He nails the defense mode and how it keeps us stuck from accomplishing the executive function stuff
Why aren’t there 10 million views?? This is the absolute best tool, the best lens with which to interact with humans.
I’m having problems with a new guy at work. I wasn’t aware he had aspergers until I was ready to fire him. He’s an excellent worker but has very poor social skills. This has given me a lot of insight on how to approach him better. Thank you.
@Montgomery15 Snooker Videos He was an excellent worker when he worked by himself. However in a work environment with others his OCD and poor social skills always created conflict which is why he almost got fired
I believe my boyfriend of three years has Aspergers. I’m in shock. Thank you for this video.
You remind me of my buddy from highschool. He was this oddball who wore a 50 pound backpack full of books and literally ran from class to class. He was obsessed with guiness world records and did crazy shit like walk on his hands and build house of cards. People picked on him but he was outspoken and never backed down. In the end he was accepted and highly respected. You just gotta be true to yourself....
Bike Rider hey I used I keep all my books in my bag in high school and run from class to class lol
did he become hokage?
Bike Rider i feel like this all the time like i am an odd person and not accepted
He sounds amazing, Bike Rider.
I was always jealous of people that could be themselves without becoming pseudo rebels.
I have never seen such a concise explanation of ASD and how to help people.
You say the word "Turkey" just like Kermit, the frog. That made me smile.
You are such an important voice. In many parts of the country, all people hear and see is behavior-focused "therapy" and it's just a big misunderstanding of the condition. I'm like many others in that it took me years to really understand. It's incredible. This also explains how it's an issue for all ages on the spectrum, not just kids (though I'm glad early intervention is happening--hopefully more kids grow up less stressed out).
Wow! Thank you! I have not heard this insight from anyone else. Makes so much sense and will be so helpful!
Thank you. I can't listen to this message too many times. Helpful is an understatement of ridiculous proportion.
I'm sharing this video with my daughter and hubby. Thank you so much!!
So important what you say, eyes opening, something I intuitively felt but couldn't grasp. Thank you so much for this film! 👍
I like this video, I like seeing someone understand that at the root of it all I'm just an normal person whose basically devoted their whole live to concentrating on managing their physical discomfort, my obliviousness is not a choice but an outcome, though at this point I'm becoming pretty jaded with others.
I feel like my awareness is switched on way too much most of the time. I seem to notice everything, so much that it overwhelms me and it get's too much.
Elise Nieuwe same here
yeah i also have the tendency to over think things and go into a anxiety attack over small things
Me 3 lol. I have to look at the ground with head phones on just so I can pay attention to the important things. Instead of everything. I sleep with a loud fan so I can drown out all the noises. Being sight impaired my hearing and smelling are so strong.
Me 4. I hear everything and see everything, to the point I cannot hear the person talking into my face, because the leaves blowing behind us, is making too much noise......
Sometimes early trauma is part of hyper arousal of the nervous system. Check out irene Lyon you tube
Thank you.
You talking with your hands, Helps me so much
This is one of the best videos ever! So rational and reasonable and compassionate😊there are other ignorant videos that still see this extreme brain challenge as their fault. Shaming. Punitive. Ignorant. Thank you so much for being really helpful and kind❤️
This is amazing. I thank you. Will watch a video every day. Sensory help needed.
Wow, I came here because of my husband and daughter, but I have bipolar and generalised anxiety and over the past few months I’ve really started to focus in on where my anxiety comes from, because I’ve had since forever, and this really confirms where my thinking has been. So thank you so much. I will continue to explore that bottom section of the funnel, and then worry about the cherry, which is a mess. Thankfully I’m all good socially, for the most part :)
I love this! Teaching a soldier how to knit....
You are right on the money! You can't find this info anywhere else. You are mapping out our challenging & painful reality & helping us dance in the rain :)
Thank you so much for making another sensory funnel video! This is the most important thing for parents to understand!
Hahah, "Hey, do you want to learn how to knit?" So funny but also a great example.
Thank you for describing everything that I go through everyday, I'm an aspie, only some people understand it though.
So we'll spoken!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This truly helps me understand how to help my Son
Brilliant analysis and explanation!
51 years. Been diagnosed as ADHD, borderline personality disorder, bipolar, PTSD, anxiety. And I am just now hearing and learning about aspergers. I feel a strong familiarity with so many of theses symptoms that I believe I may have this. Why oh why has no doctor or professional ever brought this up to me before. At 51, I am a wreck and feel as those I am broken beyond repair.
There’s a lot of misdiagnosis out there. I hope you get what you need now.
You are NOT beyond repair. As long as you're breathing, there is hope!
I think it's important to mention that it can fluctuate. Once someone is out of defense mode, that doesn't mean they won't go back to it if they take on too much. Just a "heads up" to friends and family of people on the spectrum.
Well done! It is so true. there is no problem for us to communicate and etc. we can learn that, people do that in a very simple way. But there is a block, a stop point that tries not to allow to socialize. And that comes from... And from where it comes - actually the only thing people who want to help people with asperger's should discover and study.
My therapist recommended this video to me. I have high functioning autism (or asperger's). I am glad that she had recommended this to me. I was diagnosed at 8 years old.
This is smegging brilliant! Thank you so much for sharing this information with such clarity.
This is a fantastic insight. I think it would really help my ADHD friends as well. I’d love to see more topics presented toward neurodivergents in general.
I haven't been formally diagnosed with Asperger's, but I do wonder if I have it.. I'm pretty high functioning in the medical field but often get overwhelmed by external stimuli and get extremely uneasy with maintaining eye-contact. My relationship skills aren't great. I do manage my anxiety well these days though and have got quite good at de-escalating myself.
I soooo love you right now for sharing this! This is so true for me as well!
GET IT DANNY YOU ARE SO ON THE MONEY
Thanks so much! You just gave me the first steps to start with my proyect ❤️
This guys is a goddamn genius.
SuperNovaJinckUFO thats the power of the assburgers
Some people don't see the benefits of hyper-focus. I wouldn't trade that aspect, Dirk Diggler. It can be a superpower.
Very well done video. I'm sure my husband has aspergers and more than likely a border line personality. These videos help me a lot, but I don't know if my husband would be open to hearing this, and with some men, they just can't deal with having some type of disorder. I feel he is a classic, especially when I see the symptoms of the melt down. Thank you so much for your videos!
thanks for this AE. It will help me with my students. Watched several times. Thank you!
You legend. You literally mimic my experiences at 2:03. Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for this. I have been trying to figure out what's wrong with me for almost 40 years. I have at different times tried to get psychiatric help, but am always misdiagnosed. Now the trick will be finding someone who can diagnose and help me properly. I am almost at a loss, and fear that I may not be able to cope much longer. Hopefully this will help. Do you have any suggestions on how to go about getting a proper diagnosis? I have found that most psychiatrists are so sure of themselves that they talk to you for an hour, diagnose you, and medicate you,when they really don't listen to what your trying to tell them. Of course having this disorder makes it extremely difficult to convey the issues you are having, and I've found that straight out telling them; "I think I have such and such" doesn't work either, since no one could possibly know more about themselves then the all mighty psychologist. I know your time is valuable, but if you could find the time please respond.
Fantastic information. Thanks.
We also had to convince my kids it was a big chicken. If you can get them to enjoy turkey, it contains Tryptophan which is a precursor to HTP5 which is needed for many helpful neurotransmitters.
Lots of great information on your channel. I just subscribed. Thanks!
I have someone now in my life with this issue, my wife and I are old school suck it up drive on type, but we want to be a help and blessing to this person and help them know they are unconditionaly love by us. What’s the best videos to help us understand and be a help?
I agree. How can you cope with executive functioning tasks if you lack the skills to regulate emotions or self sooth? Or even social skills. Seems like a no brainer.
Thanks for your video!
Me gusta mucho este canal,pero me gustaria q todos los videos tuvieran traduccion al español...se leer ingles pero no el 100℅..asi q a veces c me dificulta entender ciertas cosas😢
For someone in their 40's who strongly suspects they may have aspergers but is unlikely to get any medical support for it, what can be done to help with overwhelm? I've been through every ssri and snri, meditation, mindfulness, cbt, schema therapy, client centred counselling, social skills training ... some of them worked for a bit but as they were possibly targeting the wrong problem (anxiety disorder) they never really worked. As I've got older I relate more and more to the aspergers diagnosis and to people who have it. I recently started a new job after avoiding the world for years, and the overwhelm is just unbelievable. I am worried it might ruin this new opportunity. What can be done to manage it that I haven't already tried please?
Watch this video again.
Yep. Just trying to survive day after day !
I'll be darned. I sometimes say, "If someone were on fire they would not be able to concentrate on much else".
TH-cam is saying this video is unlisted, I had major difficulty trying to find it.
It says your comment was posted 6 months ago...weird
Bike Rider internet explorer...
I really like this channel, the videos are so interesting and helpful 👍
Nailed it, great info.
I suggest 2 smaller price points in the middle. Keep your most expensive membership still, but have some more affordable ones that are available. An Autism therapist had to take me aside and tell me that this is too expensive. As a warning before I get on the website. YOu guys are great, but have some variety on lower price points so its not a country club situation.
Citalopram has helped me alot with feeling on edge. It's a form of celexa
Thank you so much for this perspective =)
Great video
This video is great. Thanks
Hi, i was just wondering how much does solving/minimizing the sensory issues associated with aspergers help with the other issues?
Thank you for this video. I'm Autistic and I think this will help me
His aura, wen the white background u can see it
is it bright blue for you?
Lol, yes- we had ‘big chicken’ for years before we could have turkey.
There is a need for the aspies that suffer from evil and envy of the same family members who do not let them prosper and it is possible here in Puerto Rico Latin America Federal supervision of US and Canadian aid is needed for Asperger people are mistreated by the same relatives that they spend taking them with them and suddenly we need a security measure to have a good quality of life lifestyle with security of well-being and mental health including even DNA samples in all family members to determine who better to be this way of lodging for In order for me to prosper with freedom, a lost case splinter has started over 30 years of age because, unfortunately, the aid there is for Puerto Rico is not enough, the security measures are obsolete, I need to update them so that the stagnant parts and lost cases like me we can get out of the hole and prosper and we certainly need better pedaling because It is family if they are conflicting families like mine we need pedals to be alone and receive all the benefits in free apart help from Canada and the United States! Unfortunately, the aid that is not enough for a person like me to prosper here in Puerto Rico Latin America
How do u help someone with aspergers thats clinically depressed and cannot stop getting constantly consciously depressed about negative world events that dont directly relate to them? bombings, world hunger, bad attitude in service level jobs, etc.
Thank you
I am so sensitive to noise i feel so alone sometimes🤐
Sometimes for me the only solution is to bolt, Niki Grant.
@@coreycox2345 I feel the same
We are not alone in spirit, then Niki Grant. I am only now learning to recognize myself (in these respects) in other people that I spot in many places. I think of it as just another way of being.
I deeply long to start silent tea/coffee shop, quiet cohousing (which I've experienced & would like to experience again). And more stuff like that.
I became a massage therapist to be in a quiet, controlled, minimal environment. Where I work with one mostly silent person at a time. It's pretty great as long as I don't overwork myself.
I want to learn how to knit sweaters.
I'm just trying to stay alive
I have pdd nos which is under the autism spectrum umbrella
Shout out to mirror neurons
Can someone tell me... and OT says she thinks my son has aspergers but he is very social and, has plenty friends, understands social dynamics etc... is this usual?
Did she conduct any assessment to prove that ? Poeple can’t just assume & diagnose , so until a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist diagnoses your son with proper assessment to back it up only then believe it
@@Pimpytachang you’re right, we have since taken him to a different OT and recently another since we moved cities… neither have has any concerns or asked for an autism assessment. He has auditory sensory processing issues and a few of the primal reflexes are being worked on. He still has a great social group and is doing well in school. The whole situation was very unnecessarily stressful for us but I have since come to realise that my son simply didn’t like the first OT so he was not engaging with her like he usually does.
Can this work with adults too?
my sister an i have meltdowns alot but she wont learn any thing about this condition i have she thinks meds an a shrink an she can wash her hands of it.. gerr
How do you get a 3 year old aspie out of defense mode?
As an autistic working with autistic people, i would advise understanding. It sounds like the 3 year old is in fight or flight. You have to figure out what is causing this. As this video suggests - sensory is a common issue - reduced noise/lighting/background noise/too much physical movement. As a sensory adult an open plan office is the worst environment for me - strip lighting/background noise and too many people milling around. I think it is important to understand a lot of autistics experience physical pain with this sensory stuff going on. If the child is in meltdown/fight or flight/reduce sensory input - don't be continually talking to them - this will make things worse - th-cam.com/video/K2P4Ed6G3gw/w-d-xo.html this link shows what may be happening. This experience would take me 2-3 days to recover from
@@foxyp7057 thank you so much for sharing. My kid isn’t having meltdowns, but likes to spin his hands and watch them go round. Is this in response to an overload condition? I really wish we knew more. Seems like the spectrum is becoming broader and more vague instead of the opposite.
@@luthiervandros Yes the spectrum is wide and vast and each of us has different traits, but sharing a lot of similarities. what your child is displaying here, sounds like self stimulation and sensory seeking. There really is nothing wrong with it. Does he enjoy it? He's not hurting himself or anybody else is he? Then when would you stop it? Self stimulation is a coping/processing mechanism that a lot of us have. Trying to stop him from doing it could be detrimental to his mental health and well being. Being autistic isn't something you can 'fix' or cure - nor should anybody want to. Its just a different operating system.... like the difference between iOS and Android.
YES!!!!!!!!!!
Yes!
emotionaly aware right now; angry, almost 40 yrs old and spend so much time selfhating about the ex. functioning
So true
I think, we mustn't try to discover that in some scientific way, but actually listen to our Creator, Who Knows all things. So there is a solving of problems. And what you were describing - about sensory system 'a feeling that we're Alice's - it's actually our soul, isn't it? And if we're terryfied then, maybe there is a reason for that. And what we need is safety. Don't you think? SAFETY.
sorry, not "Alice" but alive. (predictive text)
You're SAFE! There's a ghost who's watching your EVERY MOVE, JUDGING you, and who won't EVER help! Yeah, kind of hard to buy.
Make sense
Anyone else bothered by the grating sound of the different categories?
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A wide body of research has proven that social and executive functioning issues do not "take care of themselves". The employment statistics for people with Asperger's prove this to be wrong. I think it's irresponsible to provide inaccurate information that has no basis in research such as the "sensory funnel" that is discussed here.
As an Aspie I think you're wrong... His intuitive advise helped me a lot and that's kind of what happened... And also maybe you're the one taking it too literally... Of course Social and Executive Functions should be worked on, but they come way more fluidly if the other topics are better taken care of and payd the right amount of atention...
Perhaps he should not have said they would take care of themselves but i do think his example of asking a guy in war zone to learn how to knit is good. You are not going to learn much if you are overwhelmed. Need to develop coping skills for the sensory problems first.
This was an excellent video, very helpful.