It only works if you have a cellphone signal. If your battery dies, you're in a bad area or the driver has a cellphone signal jammer like another commenter mentioned in her bad Uber experience story.
LADIES 1) Uber has an emergency button. 2) start recording the conversation in a voice note 3) just start video calling anyone Do it all as soon as you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable
*No female or male should be put in this position, I'm so glad you made it out safe, pain and getting hurt can be physical or mental, it's still painful.*
That’s 100% so true (Not trying to distract from this her problems) but I get sexually harassed all the time at school and I go to the guidance therapist in our school and she says it’s normal and NO ONE should go through that
Litz Exactly it annoys me it’s basically a joke to most people now and how they misunderstand it and think it’s hating on men. Even some people I know have said to me “I’m not feminist but” and then go on to agree with equality between men and women, it’s like they’re scared to say they’re feminist because they’d be laughed at.
@Litz lots of females forgot that they were fighting for equal right, so they wanted to do what man did to them as they started to contradict themself and it saddens me
Even if you weren’t physically violated, you were still emotionally violated. Emotional violence is JUST as real and deserves the same amount of care and attention. You’re doing so well and this WILL get easier. Keep talking about it, don’t ignore your emotions, and remember you’re loved. You did nothing wrong.
Emily Daugherty I just want to say, that while the conversation alone would have been disturbing and considered sexual harassment, remember that she was basically trapped, in a vehicle, in heavy traffic, no way to escape, and he was driving erratically--she had no idea whether he was just trying to scare her or if he was actually crazy, and could have crashed the car on purpose. I hope and pray that she can recover from this, and NO one deserves this to happen to them.
It's a manipulation tactic. When men talk to me that way, I immediately challenge them and shut them down and you see them immediately switch and panic inside because youre not feeding into their manipulation. So then they just begin insulting you in any way they can to deflect how stupid they look.
Loey, I am just now watching this. I was drugged and raped at the age of 16. I still suffer from PTSD and severe anxiety and depression. Even after that I've been in similar, uncomfortable situations like you were in.Unfortunately, I completely shut down. I am so grateful you stood your ground and reported this. No man nor woman should ever be put in a situation like this. My heart goes out to you love....
I am really sorry that happened to u.i hope u are living happy.u are brave and beautiful. So please be safe and happy . Forgave me for my mistakes in this.
I am SO SO sorry that that happened to you. most people are honestly jerks and don't see how things can affect another human being's life. I hope you are doing better now compared to before
“Trying to think about what I could have done differently.” I’m so sorry. Please don’t blame yourself. I saw this on Twitter and I’m so sorry-I’ll keep you in my prayers
when i heard “what happened to me in the back seat of an uber” and my heart dropped to my stomach and my whole body stilled and was covered in goose bumps. i wish i had been surprised. i wish it wasn’t so common.
Same here, my heart stopped and I felt so sick and so angry and protective, who do people think this is okay? People aren't objects to be used how you like.
People really don’t understand how HARD it is being out alone as a girl... taking Ubers by yourself, taking walks by yourself, etc., its all so terrifying. It shouldn’t be that way... I’m sorry this happened, Loey :/
Being an Uber driver myself and youtuber... I would definitely say make sure you use the “share my ride” feature and record if you need be. Uber riders also have the emergency 911 feature in the app that you can use if need be. Drivers like this make the rest of us look bad so don’t be afraid to report them. I always back drivers but when they’re in the wrong then they get what they deserve. If they play stupid games then they win stupid prizes. I’m sry you had to deal with this and hope it gets handled and you never experience this again.
What is the “shatter my ride” feature and what does the emergency 911 feature do? If it calls the police and shares your location that could cause the driver to go crazy if they’re alerted
Emily L that’s good to know. I’ve only taken an uber once, but luckily it was a short drive and the driver (despite being male) was very friendly and didn’t make me feel uncomfortable
no anr is a kink in which basically the male drinks milk straight out of lactating women's breasts.It's disgusting the way he was asking how nurturing she was.It's scary.I hope she's okay :(.
the fact that you’re now blaming yourself, i think he is a good manipulator and groomer. don’t ever blame yourself. you’re not overreacting on his actions, you have all the rights to be upset and cry and obviously repost to everyone. be safe. all the love to you lovely. i’m so sorry you were in this situation ✨💗
As a trans man I can confirm that I went from fearing every person at night to walking at night with my hood up and earbuds in. Also it is NOT a normal thing for guys to act this way (boys will not be boys) because I have the same hormones in my body the only difference is I wasn’t raised as a boy and wasn’t treated as a boy by society until I was older. There’s no excuse, a real man doesn’t act like that. Just a side note I’ve vowed to myself that anytime I see a girl being put in uncomfortable situations by a guy I will step in and if I see a girl alone and way too drunk I’d stay with her and have my girlfriend come and take her home, because I understand how scary guys can be but I’d never put a girl in an uncomfortable situation because damn, ladies you already deal with enough.
Thank you for being a great man. The world needs more men like you for sure. Knowing that society isn’t entirely lost, puts a smile on my face. Keep being a gem.. I wish you lots of happiness 💕
Fear like that is visceral and life-changing, regardless of whether it got physical or not. I tell this repeatedly to every woman I know: Always, always go with your gut. You did everything right. He was WRONG. Much love!
It’s like that saying “if you put a frog in boiling water it’ll hop out. But if you put it in the pot and gradually increase the temp they won’t realize until it’s too late”
a. n. Just want to get this straight...if you are wearing something that shows more skin than a standard pair of pants and long sleeve top that means your half-naked? Okay, for the sake of argument I’ll play along with that for now. So if being seen by others (in person or through an image) “half naked” means that you deserve verbal rape and harassment in a confined space...I guess that means most of the world has to line up for their turn also. Every model, every actor, every person who has been swimming at a beach or pool. Each and every human that has posted a picture on Facebook of their favorite swimsuit, nightshirt, summer outfit. And not just women, men also! They strip down and show more skin than women...we have to wear tops. It would take a hell of a lot of drivers to get through the backlog of the number of people who “deserve” it by your reasoning. Last I checked the human male is a sentient creature who has free will and control of his own actions. To write off anything like this as “she deserved it” or “she was asking for it” only insults men but saying they are unable to control themselves. That they are no more able to control themselves than a mad rutting bull. Which couldn’t be farther from the truth.
I hate that she feels like she has to explain herself, that she tried not to do anything wrong... Of course you didn't do anything wrong. Even if you had made a mistake with the Uber, or drank more, you would still not be responsible for the actions of this disgusting man.
I also live in LA and Uber a lot as my car is also in another city. Your video has made me realize that I’m way too tolerant of the things that have happened to me. Thank you and I’m sorry for what you went through and I’m sorry to myself for just brushing it off when unsettling things have happened to me in the past. Your reaction is the right one.
I seriously think Uber should have panic button in their app. If any women or person is in any kind of doubt or fear they should be able to get the help they need in some kind of way.
It is meant to be for abusive relationships but could work for anything and it just looks like a news app and you set up a list of people to send an emergency message to if you're in any danger and if you are you double tap the bar at the top
It doesn’t matter if you have anxiety!! It’s your life we’re talking about. Call the police when your inside the car if there’s no chance to run. And the car should stop at least a couple times, when it does just take a run for it!!
It's not really that easy. If they think you're being disrespectful or mean, you're usually in even more trouble. It's really easy to say that people should just say fuck off and get out of there, but that can and has ended in assault or murder
This is why I'm scared of going out on my own anywhere. "What if" situations like this that can be very real very fast are just bad for my social anxiety...
i cant even walk out of my own house because my neighbors are really judgy and alot of them are high on meth and im pretty sure there is a pedo in are neighbor hood as well
It's called "fawning" when you become agreeable and passive in a dangerous situation-- people know of fight or flight, but there's also fawn, freeze, and faint. It's normal and you didn't do anything wrong. Please stay as safe as possible. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
My mom freezes....it sucks...cus i know if there were an intruder in the house shed freeze and id stay with her while everybody else runs. But thats mainly cus im not gonna leave her there to fight on her own once she does come back to reality (ive seen her freeze before and all i did was stay there with her to make sure nothing bad was going to happen to her as i watched kh sister run away ) but im a fighter. Im not going down without a fight hell no and definitely wont let anything happen to my mothwr if i can help it
Thank You for letting me know about this, I needed to have this information. Because I was assured and I didn't know how to describe what happened to me until now.
This is the problem. You said “I shouldn’t be so upset, nothing happened to me.” Something did happen to you Loey! You have every right to be upset and just be a hot mess about this. Girls (and boys) should never feel wrong for being upset about being sexually harassed. Just because something worse could’ve happened, does not mean what happened wasn’t bad, or wasn’t worth being upset about. I love you Loey 💕 Edit: Btw, Loey posted pictures of herself in lingerie, which is okay! Idk why people think this but that does not give anyone consent to sexually harass her. People constantly like to blame the person that’s being sexually harassed because of what they’re wearing and that stigma needs to end.
There’s an app called Noonlight where you hold down a button until you’re safe. When you’re safe you type in a code and if you don’t noonlight will notify the police. When the police are notified they get your location and they can track you. If you’re ever feeling unsafe, just use the app.
Kenzie thank you so much for posting this. I go to a lot of concerts and I feel uncomfortable walking back to my car after a concert when I’m downtown late at night.
Being a woman is so hard. Like we should be able to say “I don’t care and I don’t to talk about this anymore. Pull over” without the fear of getting assaulted or killed. You didn’t do anything wrong. We’re supposed to be assertive but the second you’re not nice your life is on the line
it's true. whenever I go clubbing I try to not tell men to gtfo bc tbh I'm afraid of how they might respond. this really needs to stop. numerous times men have just flipped the f off and it's just scary how much they allow themselves to react that way
This is why more women need to conceal carry (guns/knives/mace/whatever you can use to protect yourself). Men have no choice to listen to your assertiveness when you pull a weapon on them
I feel so heartbroken that victims of sexual assault/harassment feel like they were at fault somehow or they could have done something different. The really sad truth is that guys like this wouldn't stop for much
Oh my god this is so disgusting. I feel like he’s creating a “friend” whose really just a personification of his fantasy and wanted to push it onto you. I’m so sorry you had to go through such an objectifying and degrading car ride, honey! You’re so strong and you couldn’t do a lot in that situation I understand. This is despicable of him.
That feeling of "how did we get here" in the conversation is a manipulation tactic used by abusers to keep their victims feeling unsure of themselves. I'm sorry you went through this, please don't feel like you instigated this in any way. No matter what you said or how you acted he would have progressed it to that point.
Lisa i was thinking the exact same thing!! it’s like a chess game, like he knew what to say to get the conversation there no matter what she said. it’s so scary to think people can be so aware of others’ mental space like that. gives me chills.
My driver went 20 mins out of the way from my apartment last year when I was living alone in a decently sized city. I texted everyone I knew and told them what was going on. Driver acted weird and kept looking at me in the rearview mirror but didnt say anything to me. Eerily quiet ride but when you get the instinct you should just go with your gut. It's hard in the situation because you convince yourself you're overreacting, but you're not the one in the wrong. You're playing for a service that's being taken advantage of. If I hadnt have called him out on how hes taking me nowhere near my house and threatened to call the police who knows where I wouldve ended up. Always be safe and dont be afraid to hold your ground.
Sarah Green in these situations all girls should be empowered to stand their ground and hold boundaries. Like for real if you get that instinctual feeling that something bad is going on, do whatever you can to get out of the situation. I always get in the front seat of an uber in case something happens and I need to bail. If you sit in the backseat you might not be able to get out because they can engage the child safety locks.
"F🦆 being polite" and "Stay Sexy Don't Get Murdered" have gotten me through so many creeps. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. So glad you're alright. ♥️
You probably hear enough of the “I’m sorry this happened to you,” so I won’t say it. But I do wanna day how strong and smart you were the entire situation. I mean you clearly tried multiple methods and used clear language to express your discomfort, so try not to rewind the situation in your head and criticize everything you did. You handled the situation in the best way you could-who knows what would have happened if you tried to be more firm ending the conversation. You worked through the panic and that’s a LOT on it’s own. Be proud of that, if you can ❤️
When her voice started breaking..my heart legit broke, aswell. Like, I just wanna give you a hug and cry together :(( the fact that you didn't say "hello,my loves" first thing is honestly...kind of scary. To know that you're genually upset about something and not your original peppy self it's depressing to see you like this. I hope you get some sleep and feel better soon.
I'm telling you girls you're never overacting. When you think something is wrong or weird it's because it is. Trust your guts and take care of yourself.🖤🖤
Loey, please don't blame yourself or psychoanalyse your actions looking for faults. You were 1000% *not* the one at fault here. Trust me, people like that nasty uber driver won't stop persisting no matter what you say. You could have flat out said "I am uncomfortable, please stop" and he still would have continued. I'm so glad you're seeking legal action as if he's done this with you, he could do it to others who aren't as strong as you. Look after yourself sweetheart, you're in my thoughts and prayers ❤️
Yes please don't blame yourself Loey. On top of that, there was a fear for safety. He was driving erratically while pushing a conversation nobody would want to have with a stranger, let alone their UBER DRIVER. He was clearly unstable, I would be scared out of my wits.
I've been in similar situations like this and I totally understand humoring the guy to get out of the situation- because in that moment he had your safety in his hands, so the immediate response was to avoid escalating the situation to something more dangerous. We need to trust our instincts, I learned that the hard way with these "nice guys". I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm sure a lot of other women appreciate your courage for sharing your experience. I'm proud of you for contacting uber and speaking about this publicly because we need to start a conversation about sexual misconduct and all of it's grey areas. But above all, I'm glad you're safe.
i haven't watched the whole thing yet but i just want to say i love you loey :( seeing you upset breaks my heart. please be strong. (update: ive watched it and i also read about it on twitter. no one deserves to go through what loey had to go through. i hope loey gets the love and support she needs to be able to process and move on from such a horrific thing.)
Tip: If you're in a situation where you don't want to talk to someone, but also don't want to seem rude. Pretend you have a phone call, stick in your earplugs, load up a text conversation from a friend, and read out just your end of that conversation as if you're talking to them. It'll make it sound more real to the person you're faking to, and help take your mind of the situation a little.
Asole ❶⓿⓿ did you not watch the whole video? he pushed boundaries, commented on her body in the context of his KINK, made her extremely uncomfortable. she has the right to cry about it, that’s a terrifying situation.
@cherry Big deal people feel uncomfortable everyday. No.reason to cry about it. I've been stalked allot, and by different people either on the internet or in person, and had my dick groped by some random chick. All uncomfortable unwanted situations. I just took it as a compliment, and moved on with my life. Some words by some weirdo is hardly anything. Nothing happened to her other than she felt uncomfortable.😂 Like what? People getting killed, and raped out here, and she crying about some words?
As someone with severe ptsd from sexual assault I applaud your bravery for sharing this. However I want to urge you to begin facing an Uber or taxi or public transport again as soon as you possibly can even if it’s with friends or family. This may sound stupid but the brain roots fear very quickly. I didn’t do this and I now cannot physically get into a taxi or Uber, without panic attacks, asthma attacks and vomiting. Even with exposure therapy, I just couldn’t get through it, and I wish someone had pushed me sooner. Because it now controls my life. You are so brave, and I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It is NOT your fault. All my love.
This. An abusive ex of mine absolutely ruined my sexual life and for the past 7 years I haven't been able to move past that trauma. Same responses as you. Literally only this week I took a huge step in overcoming that trauma, with my best friend of all people ❤️ 2 things I never saw coming, 1 that I'd be able to make progress overcoming this trauma with someone I trust wholeheartedly, and 2 that my best friend was even into me. I had no idea for 5 years 😅
Yes. I wish I could say more, I have it all in my mind ready to type but I just can’t yet. What I can say though is that this is some real useful advice that I wish I could’ve got too, and you’re 100% right. It’s not your fault, Loey. Love to you all ❤️
Girl you have EVERY reason and EVERY right to be upset and frustrated about this situation. Don’t feel ashamed.. this is NOT OKAY and you should NOT feel like you’re overreacting. If you didn’t report this man, he could have done this to someone else. I love you LOEY and we’ll always be here for you ❤️💜
Hold on.. Does anyone remeber Gabbie Hanna's story about an Uber Driver, who also was like "oh you look like my friend who is also from Pennysilvania, you guys are like twins, etc." ?? Is that the same person??? I'm getting chills..
this was 7 months ago but i’ve just started watching you and this made me cry. i’ve experienced things like this before but never in an enclosed space alone. i can’t even imagine the fear and feeling of isolation. i really hope that you know this isn’t your fault even if it feels like it is. even though it feels like “nothing happened” because he didn’t touch you or hurt you, something did happen. he violated you and you did nothing to cause his behavior. i hope now you’re better and you know this. we love you, loey
Oh Loey honey I’m so sorry. I was in a car with someone once who was talking about how much he thought about killing people, I understand the complete fear of being trapped like that and not being in control of the situation at all. I blamed myself for so long for “putting myself” in that situation, but I couldn’t have known, and neither could you. I thought something was really going to happen to me as well, I understand how intense that fear is. I hope you heal and take care of yourself, this was a traumatic situation no matter how other people try to downplay it. Sending you so much love and support.
i know exactly what you're feeling right now. I was harassed by my ex co-worker and remember feeling so so so confused, hurt, and shocked. I remember trying to find any reason for it to be MY fault. i also posted a story time about it and feel like the conversation of sexual HARASSMENT (not assault) isn't talked about or understood enough. so many people commented saying how they've also been harassed in the past but didn't even realize there was a term for it because they weren't physically touched. thank you for opening up, and I hope you can heal and move forward. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
As a uber driver I protect the women. I have had people just look at me the whole time without saying anything. The situation you went through is terrible! He will be fired and hopefully arrested.
This is so horrifying. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you're safe. There really needs to be something in-app where you can hit a button to signify you need help. Like this is so awful. :( Glad you're ok.
Being a person who has been through similar things for almost all my life, I feel you. My heart goes out to you. When your voice started to break, something inside me cracked too. I’m sorry people like that exist, I’m sorry you had to go through this.
I can totally relate to the “nothing happened to me but i still feel the trauma” issue. I feel guilty for feeling the way i do, but i know my feelings are valid and so are yours ❤️ love you and hope things get better
Putting your story out there is gonna help so many others feel confident about coming forth with theirs. You're doing the right thing and you're incredibly brave.
Sharing your experience is so brave and encouraging to others who may go through something similar, who may question if their feelings are “ok”. What you felt is what it was - not okay. You did what you could, and I only hope you continue to receive love and support 💚
Loey, even though you’re safe now you were violated! That’s why you feel so off. You have every right to feel this way. What happened to you was wrong, uncalled for, and traumatizing. I’m sending you the biggest virtual hug. 💕💕
*I’m so sorry Loey!* 😔❤️ You don’t need to feel that you shouldn’t be so upset. *Remember* that *you are entitled to your emotions* and *you did nothing wrong!!* 💖
Loey, you have every right to feel the way that you feel. You did everything that you could to diffuse the situation and to change the direction of conversation and your Uber driver kept on with his actions. So there is nothing that you did wrong in dealing with this situation. You did everything right. As far as wanting to try to do something to prevent this from happening to somebody else, you're doing it. Putting the word out there about your experience, as painful as it is, is the best way to help people be more alert about what is going on and will hopefully prevent this from happening again. Being a security consultant, I've tried to tell people to always be aware of their surroundings and be on alert always. And having law enforcement experience, it sounds like you were dealing with someone who was not only unstable but also at the beginning stages of being a predator. I'm so glad that you got out of that situation safely and made all the appropriate calls and notifications. I can also tell you that I am very proud of your quick thinking in the fact that you were trying to get someone on the phone so that they can be with you audibly during the situation and trying to come up with ways to diffuse and get out of the situation. Your quick thinking did save you from potentially physical confrontation.
I’ve been in a situation with this but with an ex. It doesn’t matter if it sounds stupid, you should never be pressured into talking about something that makes you uncomfortable. I was pressured to take part in ANR with an ex I had and he would not stop pressuring me and trying to push me to do things I didn’t want to no matter how many times I refused. He even tried making me feel bad about never partaking and always saying no saying I didn’t really love him if I didn’t do it. I shut it down and broke up with him because like I said, it made me so uncomfortable and he had no regard for my feelings and just wanted what he wanted and I felt a knot in my stomach. He was very predatory and I’m glad I got out when I did. I’m proud of you for speaking up. I didn’t for the longest time and it caused a lot of mental issues for a while. I realized if you keep quiet, it will happen again. I’m praying you have peace of mind with this soon love 🖤
You say nothing happened to you, but really that’s only the physical “nothing” happening. Something definitely happened to you. You were emotionally violated and it was traumatizing. Your reactions and emotions are totally normal. I’m so sorry this happened to you, Loey!
Loey 😔 you said you were trying to think of things you could do to change what happened. Never EVER blame yourself or find guilt in yourself. This is NOT YOUR FAULT whatsoever. My heart breaks for you. This whole situation is scary and horrible, I’m sure. You’re so strong to not only post this but to report what happened as well. You’re an inspiration. And beyond that you are so strong and you have so many people to support you. With that being said, you’re allowed to be upset and to not want to talk too. Give yourself time to grieve over the situation. And when you’re ready to be back, we’re all here for you. 💙
You and your videos (even the eerie ones) are such a source of comfort to me, so anyone causing you distress makes me so sad and angry. Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience with us and I hope your sense of well-being is returned to normalcy soon ❤️
Loey, this doesn’t sound stupid, you were caught in a situation like that where you least expected it, most people wouldn’t know what to do in that situation so don’t feel bad, it’s so sick that he could and would do that, we love you so much loey and we’ll always be here for you!💖
this honestly breaks my heart! 🙁 you are such a precious & pure person, he should be ashamed of himself. sending love & prayers your way 💞🌺 btw i love your videos 🤍🤍
Loey, dear, I'm glad you posted this. These incredibly inappropriate conversations are not uncommon. There are predators out there and Uber is a prime tool for them. None of this was your fault so please don't feel responsible for his behaviour. You clearly didn't encourage him and he clearly did try to bully you into doing something you refused point blank to do or even be remotely interested in. The responsibilty is on him, not you. I'm so sorry you went through this, it shouldn't happen to anyone and you definately did not deserve it in any way. I hope you had that long bath, game, had a good night's sleep and feel better this morning.
Thousands of women “do everything right” every day and still get harassed or assaulted. You aren’t at fault here. I know it’s hard to see that, but you’re not at fault. He is a creep. I’m so happy nothing further happened to you, but the incident is still extremely upsetting. Don’t feel like your emotions are invalid. 🖤🖤
"Do everything right"? Posting pictures on lingerie online is right? And expect men not to come after you? That's ridiculous. If you're posting half naked pictures of yourself online, don't be surprised when creepy men come after you, cause you NEVER know who's looking at your stuff, who's stalking you, and who will do anything to see you in person.
a. n. Dude if men are coming after her for posting stuff that a bikini or swimming suit would cover there’s something wrong with them not her. She isn’t at fault, they’re at fault for having no self control.
a. n., I must've missed the part where she also had the words "Up for anything sexual, any time of day, with anyone" for the guy to see. 🤔 First, she wasn't actually wearing the lingerie in the car. Second, even if she had been, lingerie is not an excuse for people to act like that to her. Women get attacked while wearing very modest clothing. Stop blaming victims.
@@APoliticalConfusionAndMess it's not her fault. Shes comfortable in her body and she loves it. If ur gonna insult a girl for being sexually harassed then there is something wrong with u.
@@APoliticalConfusionAndMess so she's not allowed to post a picture of her in which she felt confident and proud of her body because some people are creeps? Does that not sound unfair to you?
This was in my algorithm and I'm so glad it was... My heart is breaking for you. Don't blame yourself in any way for this person's behavior, it's not your fault! It's unacceptable that you or anyone goes through this, I hope everyone is suggested this video and it causes major changes with Uber and other services like that. I hope you find peace and it doesn't dim your sparkle... New subscriber and supporter 💜
I'm a lyft driver and just had to do a seminar for this exact situation. Mostly from a driver standpoint. Drivers get harassed as well. But I do know for a fact that with lyft driver are heavily screened. I passed both lyfts and ubers requirements. I do not drive for uber I hate uber. Where I live, the community hates uber purely because of the amount of "creepy" rides people have had. I have had so many riders tell me that lyft drivers are better. That being said I know that a lot of people are getting scared to use us and I completely understand. But I am a female driver and when I get female passengers and they tell me how happy they are to have a female driver it makes the job worth it. To know that even if just for 5 minutes I made their experience a little better because I was a female. I have heard crazy stories from my riders none like this but my heart goes out to riders that have dealt with this type of thing because I could not imagine the fear of not knowing if you are going to get to your destination. I'm so sorry this happened.
This is not an uncommon situation for women to be in. It’s such a shame that after the fact, women feel they could have, or should have, done something different. I’m sure every women who has been through an experience like this has felt that way at some point. The scary reality is, there’s nothing YOU did wrong honey. You did everything in your power to keep the situation from progressing to a dangerous point. Incredible respect to you for uploading this video for other women to see. Unbelievably strong
That's illegal but making girls unsafe and uncomfortable and sexually harassing them isn't. I say share his info. He's in the wrong and women deserve better
@@Lavisparks actually, if you wanna go into legality, this whole video is illegal, but it is helping people understand that they aren't always safe in uber and stuff. His account being leaked is also going to do everyone a favor. Loey never wants us to attack people so yeah...
Hey, Loey. You did everything right. You turned him down while trying to keep him calm. You didn't have him take you to your apartment. You let people know where you were. You reported it. You did everything right, and none of this is your fault. I'm very proud of you for being so strong. I'm proud of you for speaking out. And I'm just proud of you as a woman in this world where we need to be on guard as much as possible . All of this was very scary. What got to me the most, is when you saw that he was already following you. That made me feel so so icky. And i can't imagine what you must have felt in the moment. Love you 🌻
This entire situation is bs and hearing about it made me so angry. I'm so sorry you had to go through something like that, and your feelings are so valid, don't feel like you shouldn't be upset or shook up about this. It sounds super traumatic and violating, you have every reason to be worked up. I am so glad that you are safe!
I feel like uber should have something like a panic button
Darcy James they do have one! When you press it it sends your location and trip information to the authorities
They do now. Its fairly new but she should have one in LA for sure we have it in cincinnati now for like 6 months.
I guess she didnt know about it or feel comfortable hitting it? They need to make it more apparent.
It only works if you have a cellphone signal. If your battery dies, you're in a bad area or the driver has a cellphone signal jammer like another commenter mentioned in her bad Uber experience story.
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You are not alone. You are NOT dumb. You’re very strong and you got out of this alive
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1) Uber has an emergency button.
2) start recording the conversation in a voice note
3) just start video calling anyone
Do it all as soon as you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable
Sagarika Patra you can say guys aswell. There might be a guy in the back of an Uber who gets harassed
@@leatodd8194 Obviously the emergency button is there for EVERYONE.
But, as of now, I've only come across extreme experiences like this from women.
@@m3rg4tr0n she never said men can't be harassed just that it's less likely. This is quite literally the truth, go google some stats.
@@m3rg4tr0n she never said men dont get harrassed shes saying it because loeys main demographic is female???
@@leatodd8194 he can difend himself.
PSA!!! Uber doesn’t enforce background checks on their drivers, Lyft does!!! Use Lyft, be safe out there!!
Natalie Jones wow really!? you’d think more people would know this
I never knew that! I rode with Uber just the other day. Damn
@@Taramaee
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Really! That’s not good☹️.
It's not the company that says the people that drive the cars that work for my company that are bad cuz I've heard horror stories from Lyft to
*No female or male should be put in this position, I'm so glad you made it out safe, pain and getting hurt can be physical or mental, it's still painful.*
That’s 100% so true (Not trying to distract from this her problems) but I get sexually harassed all the time at school and I go to the guidance therapist in our school and she says it’s normal and NO ONE should go through that
Litz Exactly it annoys me it’s basically a joke to most people now and how they misunderstand it and think it’s hating on men. Even some people I know have said to me “I’m not feminist but” and then go on to agree with equality between men and women, it’s like they’re scared to say they’re feminist because they’d be laughed at.
@Litz lots of females forgot that they were fighting for equal right, so they wanted to do what man did to them as they started to contradict themself and it saddens me
You are so right
glad you added men. i have a friend, he is gay, he is sexually harassed all the time.
Even if you weren’t physically violated, you were still emotionally violated. Emotional violence is JUST as real and deserves the same amount of care and attention. You’re doing so well and this WILL get easier. Keep talking about it, don’t ignore your emotions, and remember you’re loved. You did nothing wrong.
This 👏👏👏
Emily Daugherty I just want to say, that while the conversation alone would have been disturbing and considered sexual harassment, remember that she was basically trapped, in a vehicle, in heavy traffic, no way to escape, and he was driving erratically--she had no idea whether he was just trying to scare her or if he was actually crazy, and could have crashed the car on purpose. I hope and pray that she can recover from this, and NO one deserves this to happen to them.
Thank you for this. I need to hear it from someone other than myself
It grosses me out that people think they have the right to say stuff like that.
Princess Anderson I was asked the other day at a hotel by a man “damn look at you. are you here alone?” 🤢
@@freakoutart6396 WTF??? That's so dangerous.. weirdos.
It's a manipulation tactic. When men talk to me that way, I immediately challenge them and shut them down and you see them immediately switch and panic inside because youre not feeding into their manipulation. So then they just begin insulting you in any way they can to deflect how stupid they look.
Yep
@@freakoutart6396 yep.... get the same thing with Truck drivers while alone at work.... -_-;
Loey, I am just now watching this. I was drugged and raped at the age of 16. I still suffer from PTSD and severe anxiety and depression. Even after that I've been in similar, uncomfortable situations like you were in.Unfortunately, I completely shut down. I am so grateful you stood your ground and reported this. No man nor woman should ever be put in a situation like this. My heart goes out to you love....
I am really sorry that happened to u.i hope u are living happy.u are brave and beautiful. So please be safe and happy . Forgave me for my mistakes in this.
oh my, your so strong💘
i’m so incredibly sorry that happened to you, no one deserves that. stay strong my darling ❤️❤️
Sending love to you ❤
I am SO SO sorry that that happened to you. most people are honestly jerks and don't see how things can affect another human being's life. I hope you are doing better now compared to before
“Trying to think about what I could have done differently.” I’m so sorry. Please don’t blame yourself. I saw this on Twitter and I’m so sorry-I’ll keep you in my prayers
I couldn't agree with you more.
💯% agree
Prayers will definitely be from me too ❤️
when i heard “what happened to me in the back seat of an uber” and my heart dropped to my stomach and my whole body stilled and was covered in goose bumps. i wish i had been surprised. i wish it wasn’t so common.
Mary Madolyn :( ik
Same here, my heart stopped and I felt so sick and so angry and protective, who do people think this is okay? People aren't objects to be used how you like.
Mary Madolyn same 😖
Same thing happened here my heart stopped for a minute and I started crying 😭
Sad isn’t it. My heart has been pounding the whole vid.
People really don’t understand how HARD it is being out alone as a girl... taking Ubers by yourself, taking walks by yourself, etc., its all so terrifying. It shouldn’t be that way...
I’m sorry this happened, Loey :/
Ok but being hit on by some weirdo isn't something to cry about. 😂
Asole ❶⓿⓿ ong
guys go through stuff like this too?
Asole ❶⓿⓿ you don’t understand at all how uncomfortable it can be.
So true. it's hard to live as a woman in this world
Being an Uber driver myself and youtuber... I would definitely say make sure you use the “share my ride” feature and record if you need be. Uber riders also have the emergency 911 feature in the app that you can use if need be. Drivers like this make the rest of us look bad so don’t be afraid to report them. I always back drivers but when they’re in the wrong then they get what they deserve. If they play stupid games then they win stupid prizes. I’m sry you had to deal with this and hope it gets handled and you never experience this again.
What is the “shatter my ride” feature and what does the emergency 911 feature do? If it calls the police and shares your location that could cause the driver to go crazy if they’re alerted
I only ever take Lyft! Lyft drivers are background checked, while Uber drivers are not. Just another thing you can do to keep yourself safe!
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Uber confirmed that this isn't true :)
katrina rector Uber does do a brief preliminary check for any major problems, but Lyft does a more thorough investigation for each of their drivers!
@@simplyboppingK Uber will say anything
Emily L that’s good to know. I’ve only taken an uber once, but luckily it was a short drive and the driver (despite being male) was very friendly and didn’t make me feel uncomfortable
This sounds like some creep with mommy issues. It’s absolutely awful that this happened to you and I hope he gets consequences for this.
Gabriela Marie that a bit insulting to people with mom issues and down plays their pain. this person is just messed up and sexual seeking.
You Cant Lotor Me I’m sorry I didn’t mean for it to come off that way and be offensive.
no anr is a kink in which basically the male drinks milk straight out of lactating women's breasts.It's disgusting the way he was asking how nurturing she was.It's scary.I hope she's okay :(.
Ya 😦
the fact that you’re now blaming yourself, i think he is a good manipulator and groomer. don’t ever blame yourself. you’re not overreacting on his actions, you have all the rights to be upset and cry and obviously repost to everyone.
be safe. all the love to you lovely. i’m so sorry you were in this situation ✨💗
Ikr b it s just stp
As a trans man I can confirm that I went from fearing every person at night to walking at night with my hood up and earbuds in. Also it is NOT a normal thing for guys to act this way (boys will not be boys) because I have the same hormones in my body the only difference is I wasn’t raised as a boy and wasn’t treated as a boy by society until I was older. There’s no excuse, a real man doesn’t act like that.
Just a side note I’ve vowed to myself that anytime I see a girl being put in uncomfortable situations by a guy I will step in and if I see a girl alone and way too drunk I’d stay with her and have my girlfriend come and take her home, because I understand how scary guys can be but I’d never put a girl in an uncomfortable situation because damn, ladies you already deal with enough.
Thanks for being a good guy, honestly more people should be like you. Thank you.
Dee there’s really no need to thank me, I think it’s just being a decent human 😂
Thank you for being a great man. The world needs more men like you for sure. Knowing that society isn’t entirely lost, puts a smile on my face. Keep being a gem.. I wish you lots of happiness 💕
We definitely appreciate u❤️
Well men are killed far more often than women so it's strange that men are not normally experiencing this fear.
I’m so proud of you for telling us and taking legal action, Loey. You’re an extremely brave woman and you inspire a lot of us
Fear like that is visceral and life-changing, regardless of whether it got physical or not. I tell this repeatedly to every woman I know: Always, always go with your gut. You did everything right. He was WRONG. Much love!
The fact that you feel like you have to justify everything you’re saying about this situation says enough. I’m so sorry..
It’s like that saying “if you put a frog in boiling water it’ll hop out. But if you put it in the pot and gradually increase the temp they won’t realize until it’s too late”
wow that’s really scary
Loey: You did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. Please please please understand that.
She's posting half naked pictures of herself online and men are coming after her for it and you say she does nothing wrong?
a. n. It is her body. She is allowed to post whatever she would like to.
a. n. Regardless if she is posting pictures of herself online in Lingerie or not no one has the right to do anything to you.
a. n. Just want to get this straight...if you are wearing something that shows more skin than a standard pair of pants and long sleeve top that means your half-naked? Okay, for the sake of argument I’ll play along with that for now.
So if being seen by others (in person or through an image) “half naked” means that you deserve verbal rape and harassment in a confined space...I guess that means most of the world has to line up for their turn also.
Every model, every actor, every person who has been swimming at a beach or pool. Each and every human that has posted a picture on Facebook of their favorite swimsuit, nightshirt, summer outfit. And not just women, men also! They strip down and show more skin than women...we have to wear tops.
It would take a hell of a lot of drivers to get through the backlog of the number of people who “deserve” it by your reasoning.
Last I checked the human male is a sentient creature who has free will and control of his own actions. To write off anything like this as “she deserved it” or “she was asking for it” only insults men but saying they are unable to control themselves. That they are no more able to control themselves than a mad rutting bull. Which couldn’t be farther from the truth.
@@a.n.1396 that doesn't excuse predators for coming after her. SHE DID NOTHING WRONG.
I hate that she feels like she has to explain herself, that she tried not to do anything wrong... Of course you didn't do anything wrong.
Even if you had made a mistake with the Uber, or drank more, you would still not be responsible for the actions of this disgusting man.
I also live in LA and Uber a lot as my car is also in another city. Your video has made me realize that I’m way too tolerant of the things that have happened to me. Thank you and I’m sorry for what you went through and I’m sorry to myself for just brushing it off when unsettling things have happened to me in the past. Your reaction is the right one.
In the words of Dean Winchester "Demons I get. People are crazy."
Wanna Be Chef yes
Lmao I love supernatural
Yep and he was right
Ayyy SPN fans unite
You ain't wrong. Also, can we be friends?
I seriously think Uber should have panic button in their app. If any women or person is in any kind of doubt or fear they should be able to get the help they need in some kind of way.
There's and app called aspire that is similar
Oh thats smart!
This is such a good idea
Emeli Aguirre Yeah considering 1,000 cases of sexual assault have been reported to Uber.
It is meant to be for abusive relationships but could work for anything and it just looks like a news app and you set up a list of people to send an emergency message to if you're in any danger and if you are you double tap the bar at the top
Never be polite, as soon as you see red flags, just run. That’s it. Don’t even contemplate.
Yeah, if you feel something isn’t right you have to do something about it fast before it’s too late.
Yes, very true but if you have social anxiety like me its a bit difficult
it's very difficult to run when you're locked inside a moving card.
It doesn’t matter if you have anxiety!! It’s your life we’re talking about. Call the police when your inside the car if there’s no chance to run. And the car should stop at least a couple times, when it does just take a run for it!!
It's not really that easy. If they think you're being disrespectful or mean, you're usually in even more trouble. It's really easy to say that people should just say fuck off and get out of there, but that can and has ended in assault or murder
This is why I'm scared of going out on my own anywhere. "What if" situations like this that can be very real very fast are just bad for my social anxiety...
Schreck Craft I feel ya
I have social anxiety as well
i cant even walk out of my own house because my neighbors are really judgy and alot of them are high on meth and im pretty sure there is a pedo in are neighbor hood as well
It's called "fawning" when you become agreeable and passive in a dangerous situation-- people know of fight or flight, but there's also fawn, freeze, and faint. It's normal and you didn't do anything wrong. Please stay as safe as possible. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
I do the same thing she does. It makes it to be very frustrating and then blaming yourself after. Sucks.
My mom freezes....it sucks...cus i know if there were an intruder in the house shed freeze and id stay with her while everybody else runs. But thats mainly cus im not gonna leave her there to fight on her own once she does come back to reality (ive seen her freeze before and all i did was stay there with her to make sure nothing bad was going to happen to her as i watched kh sister run away ) but im a fighter. Im not going down without a fight hell no and definitely wont let anything happen to my mothwr if i can help it
Thank You for letting me know about this, I needed to have this information. Because I was assured and I didn't know how to describe what happened to me until now.
Fight, flight, freeze or appease... When threat is gone, rest and digest
I think teens should listen to this because they need to be aware of people like this. Things like this need to be known for awareness.
This is the problem. You said “I shouldn’t be so upset, nothing happened to me.” Something did happen to you Loey! You have every right to be upset and just be a hot mess about this. Girls (and boys) should never feel wrong for being upset about being sexually harassed. Just because something worse could’ve happened, does not mean what happened wasn’t bad, or wasn’t worth being upset about. I love you Loey 💕
Edit: Btw, Loey posted pictures of herself in lingerie, which is okay! Idk why people think this but that does not give anyone consent to sexually harass her. People constantly like to blame the person that’s being sexually harassed because of what they’re wearing and that stigma needs to end.
Jeremy Ciras 💯 percent agree!!
Absolutely
Jeremy Ciras I feel boys especially feel they cannot share their story because of embarrassment
Jeremy Ciras PREACH
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There’s an app called Noonlight where you hold down a button until you’re safe. When you’re safe you type in a code and if you don’t noonlight will notify the police. When the police are notified they get your location and they can track you. If you’re ever feeling unsafe, just use the app.
What would happen if cell connection was lost due to bad service areas? Or a signal blocker?
Thanks☺️
winterprism I’m not sure about that yet I just use it while I’m walking alone in town and I feel scared
Thanks that info is awesome for people to know
Kenzie thank you so much for posting this. I go to a lot of concerts and I feel uncomfortable walking back to my car after a concert when I’m downtown late at night.
You were scared, sweety. And it almost can feel like you were actually kidnaped. Sorry to hear this.
Being a woman is so hard. Like we should be able to say “I don’t care and I don’t to talk about this anymore. Pull over” without the fear of getting assaulted or killed. You didn’t do anything wrong. We’re supposed to be assertive but the second you’re not nice your life is on the line
it's true. whenever I go clubbing I try to not tell men to gtfo bc tbh I'm afraid of how they might respond. this really needs to stop. numerous times men have just flipped the f off and it's just scary how much they allow themselves to react that way
Laura Laura seriously! It’s so stressful. Like I want to stay safe and get the fuck away form you
“Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.”
Men think they can do whatever the f they want and yet they terrify women.
This is why more women need to conceal carry (guns/knives/mace/whatever you can use to protect yourself). Men have no choice to listen to your assertiveness when you pull a weapon on them
Uber really needs to screen their drivers better, I’ve had way too many sketchy drivers.
There is no screening. They just do a background check.
@@alanabear2736 there isnt screening but there needs to be to get rid of the bad drivers.
@@kirstenmiller4488 I know. I wasn't disagreeing. On the contrary. I've driven for both and they do a soft background check and that's it.
You can screen a person a thousand times, but if they have never been caught before...there is no red flag or warning sign when they hire them.
Mara J they should do like, undercover passengers, like secret shoppers to see how they behave with people
Oh my gosh that’s so awful! You said “I’m uncomfortable” but he didn’t care! What a creep
I feel so heartbroken that victims of sexual assault/harassment feel like they were at fault somehow or they could have done something different. The really sad truth is that guys like this wouldn't stop for much
Oh my god this is so disgusting. I feel like he’s creating a “friend” whose really just a personification of his fantasy and wanted to push it onto you. I’m so sorry you had to go through such an objectifying and degrading car ride, honey! You’re so strong and you couldn’t do a lot in that situation I understand. This is despicable of him.
I feel uneasy about the fact he may be watching this video
I got goosebumps
omg no don’t
God I’m scared
Ahhh that's so uncomfy
That feeling of "how did we get here" in the conversation is a manipulation tactic used by abusers to keep their victims feeling unsure of themselves.
I'm sorry you went through this, please don't feel like you instigated this in any way. No matter what you said or how you acted he would have progressed it to that point.
Lisa i was thinking the exact same thing!! it’s like a chess game, like he knew what to say to get the conversation there no matter what she said. it’s so scary to think people can be so aware of others’ mental space like that. gives me chills.
My driver went 20 mins out of the way from my apartment last year when I was living alone in a decently sized city. I texted everyone I knew and told them what was going on. Driver acted weird and kept looking at me in the rearview mirror but didnt say anything to me. Eerily quiet ride but when you get the instinct you should just go with your gut. It's hard in the situation because you convince yourself you're overreacting, but you're not the one in the wrong. You're playing for a service that's being taken advantage of. If I hadnt have called him out on how hes taking me nowhere near my house and threatened to call the police who knows where I wouldve ended up. Always be safe and dont be afraid to hold your ground.
What did he say in response to you threatening to call the police? How did you say it ?
Sarah Green in these situations all girls should be empowered to stand their ground and hold boundaries. Like for real if you get that instinctual feeling that something bad is going on, do whatever you can to get out of the situation. I always get in the front seat of an uber in case something happens and I need to bail. If you sit in the backseat you might not be able to get out because they can engage the child safety locks.
"F🦆 being polite"
and "Stay Sexy Don't Get Murdered" have gotten me through so many creeps. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. So glad you're alright. ♥️
Jenna Zamora what is stay sexy don’t get murdered?
Give the podcast "My Favorite Murder" a shot. Karen and Georgia say it after every episode.
You probably hear enough of the “I’m sorry this happened to you,” so I won’t say it. But I do wanna day how strong and smart you were the entire situation. I mean you clearly tried multiple methods and used clear language to express your discomfort, so try not to rewind the situation in your head and criticize everything you did. You handled the situation in the best way you could-who knows what would have happened if you tried to be more firm ending the conversation. You worked through the panic and that’s a LOT on it’s own. Be proud of that, if you can ❤️
When her voice started breaking..my heart legit broke, aswell. Like, I just wanna give you a hug and cry together :(( the fact that you didn't say "hello,my loves" first thing is honestly...kind of scary. To know that you're genually upset about something and not your original peppy self it's depressing to see you like this. I hope you get some sleep and feel better soon.
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you’re not overreacting, it’s makes perfect sense why you’re scared. but whatever hurts you hurts you.
natalie de Leon 💗💗
I'm telling you girls you're never overacting. When you think something is wrong or weird it's because it is. Trust your guts and take care of yourself.🖤🖤
Loey, please don't blame yourself or psychoanalyse your actions looking for faults. You were 1000% *not* the one at fault here. Trust me, people like that nasty uber driver won't stop persisting no matter what you say. You could have flat out said "I am uncomfortable, please stop" and he still would have continued. I'm so glad you're seeking legal action as if he's done this with you, he could do it to others who aren't as strong as you. Look after yourself sweetheart, you're in my thoughts and prayers ❤️
Yes please don't blame yourself Loey. On top of that, there was a fear for safety. He was driving erratically while pushing a conversation nobody would want to have with a stranger, let alone their UBER DRIVER. He was clearly unstable, I would be scared out of my wits.
He was obviously manipulating her with the way he brought up his "friend" and bringing up topics repeatedly... I feel so bad for loey :(
@@onceuponatimeshedied ikr! That must have been so scary for her :(
@@taylorswiftsucks ikr, it's so bad ;(
Like what I thought, humans are indeed scarier than ghosts..
Some ghosts are sweet tho 😂😂
True
I woukd rather meet a demon then a messed up man like that :(
@@ellierods1077 same
I think we create demons and monsters to cope with how evil humans can actually be.
It's ok to cry, Loey. That was really scary and I would've cried too.
I've been in similar situations like this and I totally understand humoring the guy to get out of the situation- because in that moment he had your safety in his hands, so the immediate response was to avoid escalating the situation to something more dangerous. We need to trust our instincts, I learned that the hard way with these "nice guys". I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm sure a lot of other women appreciate your courage for sharing your experience. I'm proud of you for contacting uber and speaking about this publicly because we need to start a conversation about sexual misconduct and all of it's grey areas. But above all, I'm glad you're safe.
i haven't watched the whole thing yet but i just want to say i love you loey :( seeing you upset breaks my heart. please be strong. (update: ive watched it and i also read about it on twitter. no one deserves to go through what loey had to go through. i hope loey gets the love and support she needs to be able to process and move on from such a horrific thing.)
Tip: If you're in a situation where you don't want to talk to someone, but also don't want to seem rude. Pretend you have a phone call, stick in your earplugs, load up a text conversation from a friend, and read out just your end of that conversation as if you're talking to them. It'll make it sound more real to the person you're faking to, and help take your mind of the situation a little.
and you arent overacting whats happened is so terrifying
Thank you I love you :(
PERIODT
@@Loey you have us and we are not going anywhere anytime soon we stand with you x
@@Loey i love u loey stay safe💖🤞🏼
sending so much love to you
Awww loey, you’re so brave for sharing this. You’ll get through this! We’re all here!
You’re not crazy for crying you don’t have to physically be touched to feel violated. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
She was hit on by some weirdo that thought she was hot. Sounds pretty dumb to cry about it.
Asole ❶⓿⓿ did you not watch the whole video? he pushed boundaries, commented on her body in the context of his KINK, made her extremely uncomfortable. she has the right to cry about it, that’s a terrifying situation.
@cherry Big deal people feel uncomfortable everyday. No.reason to cry about it. I've been stalked allot, and by different people either on the internet or in person, and had my dick groped by some random chick. All uncomfortable unwanted situations. I just took it as a compliment, and moved on with my life. Some words by some weirdo is hardly anything. Nothing happened to her other than she felt uncomfortable.😂 Like what? People getting killed, and raped out here, and she crying about some words?
As someone with severe ptsd from sexual assault I applaud your bravery for sharing this. However I want to urge you to begin facing an Uber or taxi or public transport again as soon as you possibly can even if it’s with friends or family. This may sound stupid but the brain roots fear very quickly. I didn’t do this and I now cannot physically get into a taxi or Uber, without panic attacks, asthma attacks and vomiting. Even with exposure therapy, I just couldn’t get through it, and I wish someone had pushed me sooner. Because it now controls my life. You are so brave, and I’m so sorry you had to go through this.
It is NOT your fault.
All my love.
This. An abusive ex of mine absolutely ruined my sexual life and for the past 7 years I haven't been able to move past that trauma. Same responses as you. Literally only this week I took a huge step in overcoming that trauma, with my best friend of all people ❤️
2 things I never saw coming, 1 that I'd be able to make progress overcoming this trauma with someone I trust wholeheartedly, and 2 that my best friend was even into me. I had no idea for 5 years 😅
Dude, you guys are so awesome- Using your life experience like this to prevent someone else’s suffering.
Yes. I wish I could say more, I have it all in my mind ready to type but I just can’t yet. What I can say though is that this is some real useful advice that I wish I could’ve got too, and you’re 100% right. It’s not your fault, Loey.
Love to you all ❤️
Girl you have EVERY reason and EVERY right to be upset and frustrated about this situation. Don’t feel ashamed.. this is NOT OKAY and you should NOT feel like you’re overreacting. If you didn’t report this man, he could have done this to someone else. I love you LOEY and we’ll always be here for you ❤️💜
No one should go through this, I don’t even wish this upon my worse enemy, I’m so happy that you are alright, stay strong, we love you! ❤️
Hold on.. Does anyone remeber Gabbie Hanna's story about an Uber Driver, who also was like "oh you look like my friend who is also from Pennysilvania, you guys are like twins, etc." ?? Is that the same person??? I'm getting chills..
Hazal Sarıkaya i remember that and i instantly got chills
Oh god you are right.... I wonder if it was the same person?
It sounds very similar to Gabbies!!!!😳 even the beginning!!
Krystal Clearr ikrrr it does 😦
Omg!!!!!!!! It totally is the same guy!! I have goose bumps too!
Don’t ever blame yourself for how you reacted when you thought your life was in danger! You did what you needed to do!!!
this was 7 months ago but i’ve just started watching you and this made me cry. i’ve experienced things like this before but never in an enclosed space alone. i can’t even imagine the fear and feeling of isolation. i really hope that you know this isn’t your fault even if it feels like it is. even though it feels like “nothing happened” because he didn’t touch you or hurt you, something did happen. he violated you and you did nothing to cause his behavior. i hope now you’re better and you know this. we love you, loey
Oh Loey honey I’m so sorry.
I was in a car with someone once who was talking about how much he thought about killing people, I understand the complete fear of being trapped like that and not being in control of the situation at all. I blamed myself for so long for “putting myself” in that situation, but I couldn’t have known, and neither could you. I thought something was really going to happen to me as well, I understand how intense that fear is. I hope you heal and take care of yourself, this was a traumatic situation no matter how other people try to downplay it. Sending you so much love and support.
i know exactly what you're feeling right now. I was harassed by my ex co-worker and remember feeling so so so confused, hurt, and shocked. I remember trying to find any reason for it to be MY fault. i also posted a story time about it and feel like the conversation of sexual HARASSMENT (not assault) isn't talked about or understood enough. so many people commented saying how they've also been harassed in the past but didn't even realize there was a term for it because they weren't physically touched. thank you for opening up, and I hope you can heal and move forward. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
As a uber driver I protect the women. I have had people just look at me the whole time without saying anything. The situation you went through is terrible! He will be fired and hopefully arrested.
Good job!!
This is so horrifying. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you're safe. There really needs to be something in-app where you can hit a button to signify you need help. Like this is so awful. :( Glad you're ok.
Being a person who has been through similar things for almost all my life, I feel you. My heart goes out to you. When your voice started to break, something inside me cracked too. I’m sorry people like that exist, I’m sorry you had to go through this.
I can totally relate to the “nothing happened to me but i still feel the trauma” issue. I feel guilty for feeling the way i do, but i know my feelings are valid and so are yours ❤️ love you and hope things get better
Putting your story out there is gonna help so many others feel confident about coming forth with theirs. You're doing the right thing and you're incredibly brave.
Sharing your experience is so brave and encouraging to others who may go through something similar, who may question if their feelings are “ok”. What you felt is what it was - not okay. You did what you could, and I only hope you continue to receive love and support 💚
Loey, even though you’re safe now you were violated! That’s why you feel so off. You have every right to feel this way. What happened to you was wrong, uncalled for, and traumatizing. I’m sending you the biggest virtual hug. 💕💕
I agree 100%. No one should have to go through that 😢
The fact that people actually disliked this video is sad. Like actually wtf.
Maybe it was triggering for some people, idk
People hit the dislike button on accident all the time
K Bux 216 people Accidentally hit the dislike button-_-
It could be that they are disliking the situation, not the video itself.
@@ChronicallyUnique It's probably the perverted uber drivers that are disliking videos like these.
Stay strong honey, we’re all with you ❤️❤️ your strength is so inspiring, just know that
*I’m so sorry Loey!* 😔❤️
You don’t need to feel that you shouldn’t be so upset. *Remember* that *you are entitled to your emotions* and *you did nothing wrong!!* 💖
I’m so glad that you’re safe now. I can’t even imagine how scary that must’ve been. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️❤️❤️
Loey, you have every right to feel the way that you feel. You did everything that you could to diffuse the situation and to change the direction of conversation and your Uber driver kept on with his actions. So there is nothing that you did wrong in dealing with this situation. You did everything right. As far as wanting to try to do something to prevent this from happening to somebody else, you're doing it. Putting the word out there about your experience, as painful as it is, is the best way to help people be more alert about what is going on and will hopefully prevent this from happening again. Being a security consultant, I've tried to tell people to always be aware of their surroundings and be on alert always. And having law enforcement experience, it sounds like you were dealing with someone who was not only unstable but also at the beginning stages of being a predator. I'm so glad that you got out of that situation safely and made all the appropriate calls and notifications. I can also tell you that I am very proud of your quick thinking in the fact that you were trying to get someone on the phone so that they can be with you audibly during the situation and trying to come up with ways to diffuse and get out of the situation. Your quick thinking did save you from potentially physical confrontation.
I saw you talk abt this on Twitter :( I’m so sorry that happened to you. Ilysm, stay safe 🖤
I’ve been in a situation with this but with an ex. It doesn’t matter if it sounds stupid, you should never be pressured into talking about something that makes you uncomfortable. I was pressured to take part in ANR with an ex I had and he would not stop pressuring me and trying to push me to do things I didn’t want to no matter how many times I refused. He even tried making me feel bad about never partaking and always saying no saying I didn’t really love him if I didn’t do it. I shut it down and broke up with him because like I said, it made me so uncomfortable and he had no regard for my feelings and just wanted what he wanted and I felt a knot in my stomach. He was very predatory and I’m glad I got out when I did. I’m proud of you for speaking up. I didn’t for the longest time and it caused a lot of mental issues for a while. I realized if you keep quiet, it will happen again. I’m praying you have peace of mind with this soon love 🖤
😭😭😭 when society is still so trash that victims still blame themselves.
You say nothing happened to you, but really that’s only the physical “nothing” happening. Something definitely happened to you. You were emotionally violated and it was traumatizing. Your reactions and emotions are totally normal. I’m so sorry this happened to you, Loey!
Loey 😔 you said you were trying to think of things you could do to change what happened. Never EVER blame yourself or find guilt in yourself. This is NOT YOUR FAULT whatsoever. My heart breaks for you. This whole situation is scary and horrible, I’m sure. You’re so strong to not only post this but to report what happened as well. You’re an inspiration. And beyond that you are so strong and you have so many people to support you. With that being said, you’re allowed to be upset and to not want to talk too. Give yourself time to grieve over the situation. And when you’re ready to be back, we’re all here for you. 💙
You and your videos (even the eerie ones) are such a source of comfort to me, so anyone causing you distress makes me so sad and angry. Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience with us and I hope your sense of well-being is returned to normalcy soon ❤️
thank you for being brave enough speaking about this...im so sorry this happened to you & im proud ur taking legal action 🖤
Loey, this doesn’t sound stupid, you were caught in a situation like that where you least expected it, most people wouldn’t know what to do in that situation so don’t feel bad, it’s so sick that he could and would do that, we love you so much loey and we’ll always be here for you!💖
I hate that women still feel guilty and blame themselves for what a MAN did. Report him hunny you have his license plate
this honestly breaks my heart! 🙁 you are such a precious & pure person, he should be ashamed of himself. sending love & prayers your way 💞🌺 btw i love your videos 🤍🤍
I’m so sorry that you went through this, honey. No one deserves to feel scared like that. I love you and I hope you feel better soon. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sounds like he has mommy issues
Caitlin Handshoe yea I 100% agree with you
Maybe she should unblock him, find his mommy and send her an email about her son's behavior! J/k I wouldn't actually want her to unblock him.
Sounds like he has more than just mommy issues
@@ItzCouurtz very true lol
I was literally thinking this
Loey, dear, I'm glad you posted this. These incredibly inappropriate conversations are not uncommon. There are predators out there and Uber is a prime tool for them. None of this was your fault so please don't feel responsible for his behaviour. You clearly didn't encourage him and he clearly did try to bully you into doing something you refused point blank to do or even be remotely interested in. The responsibilty is on him, not you. I'm so sorry you went through this, it shouldn't happen to anyone and you definately did not deserve it in any way.
I hope you had that long bath, game, had a good night's sleep and feel better this morning.
I didn't see this until now...this story is so sad, I really hope everything gets better, and my heart goes out to you ❤️
Omg loey he should be fired and no man should talk to a female like that
Merced Patlan no one should talk to anyone like that
Thousands of women “do everything right” every day and still get harassed or assaulted. You aren’t at fault here. I know it’s hard to see that, but you’re not at fault. He is a creep. I’m so happy nothing further happened to you, but the incident is still extremely upsetting. Don’t feel like your emotions are invalid. 🖤🖤
"Do everything right"? Posting pictures on lingerie online is right? And expect men not to come after you? That's ridiculous. If you're posting half naked pictures of yourself online, don't be surprised when creepy men come after you, cause you NEVER know who's looking at your stuff, who's stalking you, and who will do anything to see you in person.
a. n. Dude if men are coming after her for posting stuff that a bikini or swimming suit would cover there’s something wrong with them not her. She isn’t at fault, they’re at fault for having no self control.
@@a.n.1396 You are the worst kind of person.
a. n., I must've missed the part where she also had the words "Up for anything sexual, any time of day, with anyone" for the guy to see. 🤔
First, she wasn't actually wearing the lingerie in the car. Second, even if she had been, lingerie is not an excuse for people to act like that to her.
Women get attacked while wearing very modest clothing. Stop blaming victims.
@@a.n.1396 shut up
It genuinely breaks my heart to see you go through this.
Your feelings are 100% valid. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. That goes for anyone that is put in this type of situation ❤️
shes acting like she did something she did nothing she was prayed on thats not acceptablle.
@@APoliticalConfusionAndMess it's not her fault. Shes comfortable in her body and she loves it. If ur gonna insult a girl for being sexually harassed then there is something wrong with u.
@@APoliticalConfusionAndMess so she's not allowed to post a picture of her in which she felt confident and proud of her body because some people are creeps? Does that not sound unfair to you?
Sarah Randall
And? Posting lingerie photos does not give anyone the right to sexually harass you.
@@APoliticalConfusionAndMess posting photos doesn't equal consent to harassment. Get that through your thick fucking skull
Period 💯
This was in my algorithm and I'm so glad it was... My heart is breaking for you. Don't blame yourself in any way for this person's behavior, it's not your fault! It's unacceptable that you or anyone goes through this, I hope everyone is suggested this video and it causes major changes with Uber and other services like that. I hope you find peace and it doesn't dim your sparkle... New subscriber and supporter 💜
I'm a lyft driver and just had to do a seminar for this exact situation. Mostly from a driver standpoint. Drivers get harassed as well. But I do know for a fact that with lyft driver are heavily screened. I passed both lyfts and ubers requirements. I do not drive for uber I hate uber. Where I live, the community hates uber purely because of the amount of "creepy" rides people have had. I have had so many riders tell me that lyft drivers are better. That being said I know that a lot of people are getting scared to use us and I completely understand. But I am a female driver and when I get female passengers and they tell me how happy they are to have a female driver it makes the job worth it. To know that even if just for 5 minutes I made their experience a little better because I was a female. I have heard crazy stories from my riders none like this but my heart goes out to riders that have dealt with this type of thing because I could not imagine the fear of not knowing if you are going to get to your destination. I'm so sorry this happened.
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This is not an uncommon situation for women to be in. It’s such a shame that after the fact, women feel they could have, or should have, done something different. I’m sure every women who has been through an experience like this has felt that way at some point. The scary reality is, there’s nothing YOU did wrong honey. You did everything in your power to keep the situation from progressing to a dangerous point. Incredible respect to you for uploading this video for other women to see. Unbelievably strong
I’m happy you got home safe, I’m so sorry all this happened to you, you’re completely valid in feeling so shook up and scared. I love you Loey💖
If theres any way of releasing his Uber profile, do so for the protection of others!!
She reached out to Uber, they'll probably fire him.
That's illegal but making girls unsafe and uncomfortable and sexually harassing them isn't. I say share his info. He's in the wrong and women deserve better
Will Hawkins [Ozmy] I don’t think he will have a job after this he is disgusting
@@bryaneewinter2187 sure he will if this is the first reported incident. They will likely give him a warning. Uber is equally disgusting.
@@Lavisparks actually, if you wanna go into legality, this whole video is illegal, but it is helping people understand that they aren't always safe in uber and stuff. His account being leaked is also going to do everyone a favor. Loey never wants us to attack people so yeah...
Hey, Loey. You did everything right. You turned him down while trying to keep him calm. You didn't have him take you to your apartment. You let people know where you were. You reported it. You did everything right, and none of this is your fault. I'm very proud of you for being so strong. I'm proud of you for speaking out. And I'm just proud of you as a woman in this world where we need to be on guard as much as possible .
All of this was very scary. What got to me the most, is when you saw that he was already following you. That made me feel so so icky. And i can't imagine what you must have felt in the moment.
Love you 🌻
This entire situation is bs and hearing about it made me so angry. I'm so sorry you had to go through something like that, and your feelings are so valid, don't feel like you shouldn't be upset or shook up about this. It sounds super traumatic and violating, you have every reason to be worked up. I am so glad that you are safe!