What is the Reality of Being an American Living in England?🇺🇸🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿😲

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  • @TheHicksonDiaries
    @TheHicksonDiaries  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

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  • @RoyCousins
    @RoyCousins 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Uprooting your life is tough. Stick with it kid. 😉
    Britain has always been a country of immigrants. It's just that some have been here longer than others.
    IMHO we're lucky to have you.

    • @grahamgresty8383
      @grahamgresty8383 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      agreed: I don't known anyone who is 'pure blood' beaker person or speaks the language of these original inhabitants!

  • @rbnhd1144
    @rbnhd1144 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I'm a Brit that's been living in the U.S.A. 48 years, all the things you have discussed here happened me too, Everything in both location's is so different, nothing is as simple as it once was, you can take nothing for granted, Once you leave your friends they have a life and carry on with their lives as they are not living in your shoes, Some are envious and some are just too busy with their own lives, your not forgotten but you are not front and centre/center as it was, I'm sure they think your'e busy with your new life and so they tend not to bother you.
    I've had contact with my closest school friend maybe 5 times since we left, a friend Id had for three years is still in contact with me weekly if not daily, its just nice and amazing, some people are golden.
    Even if you came back to the USA you cant pick up where you left off as others have moved on, I do think they would view you in a different light.
    People that meet me even now think I just got off the boat yesterday, and everyone treats me like a Brit, I caught a lot of shite when the UK left The EU, like it was my decision, I get this "You People" stuff all the time, yet my British family in the UK treat me like I'm an American and they think we have it easy, they have five weeks off per year and here we get two weeks off on average.
    Id advise you to make love and hate lists that you can review over time, it might make sense of your deep feelings, I have to say most Americans have made us feel welcome, and yes there have been a few nasty comments, I put that down to their ignorance and its fair enough, I don't walk in their shoes and they don't walk in mine. I wish you well, I do think the UK has some very special features so in that light Id stay there if I were you.
    This big dream for some is very difficult, I've seen families emigrate only to have the family break up, Take each day as it comes and enjoy, a mentally bummer day beats any day that we are sick.

    • @onecupof_tea
      @onecupof_tea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The two weeks holiday on average is shocking, that means some people get no paid holidays in US.
      People criticise unions and strikes in uk, but it took hundreds of years to have a mandatory paid holiday for everyone, with a minimum wage for everyone, not just for those with good employers.
      Glad you persevered, it must be like having 50 different countries on your doorstep.
      I haven't even been to North London. 🇬🇧

    • @rbnhd1144
      @rbnhd1144 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@onecupof_tea Thanks for your reply, you are correct about some not getting paid holidays, 30 years ago I used to work for America's largest supermarket, they would even make us feel guilty taking off the time due to us, I should add that a few places I worked for only gave one week off after 52 weeks of service, two weeks after two years and three weeks after ten years, all companies and jobs differ, Medical coverage came after working there 90 days.
      My first job came with no medical benefits just a pair of coveralls and no overtime pay, I left that job after two years.
      Brits have no clue how the USA works, many assume its just like the U.K. and better, but many people struggle here.
      You hit the nail on the head when you said 50 countries because its exactly that, each state has different rules and regulations and ways you are taxed for Income, the home car and groceries, its Very complicated to say the least. I came here as a teen with my parents.

    • @DarrenGregg-j3e
      @DarrenGregg-j3e 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@rbnhd1144better ? Seriously? Only the stupid ones who think America is "like the movies".

  • @mktf5582
    @mktf5582 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    There are good/bad people in every country no where is perfect, but rest assured that overwhelming majority of Brits glad to have you live here among us.

  • @mannym7849
    @mannym7849 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Hi Mandy, you'd always be welcome around mine for a coffee, I love your videos on life in the U.K. and how you've found it to be. Don't let the horrid trolls on here get you down. I hope you continue to enjoy our lovely country, stay safe and well xx

  • @adriandurrant6025
    @adriandurrant6025 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I'm just going to say one word: Welcome 🤗🇬🇧

  • @tonywall8393
    @tonywall8393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for sharing this fascinating and heartfelt video. I have never done anything a big as moving to another country (and almost certainly never will) so hearing about your very challenging journey is fascinating. I hope that despite the negativity of the idiots, you are happy here, that you will soon enjoy much better stability and will stay.

  • @MrsLynB
    @MrsLynB 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hello lovely . I know how difficult is moving to another country. It is hard. Took us 2 yrs to get all our ducks in a row paperwork etc etc etc to get to Australia. By the time we left. I’d met my husband. I was pregnant with our 1st child. Omg it was hard. We left for Oz in the November. My husband who was my fiancée. At the time couldn’t get to Oz till the following March. I missed him soo much. Really affected me. My whole family emigrated. After a year we decided because I was so unhappy moving back home to England. So my husband myself & our son left my family & came back home. Looking back I’m glad we did come home. It was a decision I’ve never regretted. It was right for us. We had to live with in-laws & family once we got back as we had nothing . It took us about 7 months to save for a deposit on our 1st house. There’s so much what goes into emigrating. So much paperwork. Money. Just a lot so I get it hun. As time goes on you will settle more & more. You’ve been unlucky with your job 😢 the sooner you get something new the better for you. And I know I’ve said this a lot on previous vlogs & lives travel around. Visit up north. You will see & feel the difference. You may like us northerners so much you decide to move up here 😊

    • @martinconnelly1473
      @martinconnelly1473 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't know what it is like now but my grandmother was the second generation daughter of immigrants from the Aegean islands who came to the UK to work for a Greek Shipping line in the early to mid 1800s. She married a Scotsman from Dundee in a Greek Orthodox Church in the UK then a few weeks later in a UK registry office to make the marriage legal in the UK.

  • @williamnethercott4364
    @williamnethercott4364 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Welcome to the UK, I hope you and your family will enjoy living here.

  • @fionagregory9147
    @fionagregory9147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You drive on the correct side of the road now. Congratulations.

  • @michellemaine2719
    @michellemaine2719 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's interesting to hear how you have struggled being perceived as an immigrant. I went through the process in the US when my family immigrated there when I was 12 years old, it wasn't fun. I have been in England for 6 years now and have had an easier time adapting to life here than 30 years living in the US, despite the anti-immigrant rhetoric. Perhaps because England reminds me in some ways of my birth country. I found the US extremely difficult to adapt to due to its hyper-patriotic manner. I appreciate England's self-deprecation and dark, sarcastic sense of humour.

  • @fionagregory9147
    @fionagregory9147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I have never needed a credit card. Always use a debit card. Never been in debt and am now 63.

    • @kernow9324
      @kernow9324 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Credit cards are great for the extra protection they offer, but must always be paid off in full a.s.a.p. to avoid any charges.

  • @michael7286
    @michael7286 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I feel for you, it's a big and brave decision to uproot and move to another country, something that I could never do. Commend yourself for making that big and brave decision to move over here - England UK and start a new way of life. The rollercoaster will stop and things will get better, I'm sure they will. Living in London must feel like living life in the fast lane all the time as it has a much faster pace than many other places in the UK. I very much hope that things get better soon and the way ahead becomes clear and stress free .. Best Wishes.

  • @andycale8831
    @andycale8831 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm English and moved to Bulgaria I had to do everything you did in a foreign language...

    • @andycale8831
      @andycale8831 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @alexnelson9512 cost of living, safety, pace of life

  • @suro_33Mi
    @suro_33Mi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Long time since I watched your content. This was a very honest and real video, I got it. I can say to you now, welcome, hope things get easier, hope life gets better. 😊

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate that! Thank you! ☺️

  • @ratinatrap7815
    @ratinatrap7815 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I feel for you. I remember the anxiety we went through applying for visas through the years for my Chinese wife before she became a British citizen,

    • @fionagregory9147
      @fionagregory9147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My best friend was Chinese. Always liked them.

  • @andrewtongue7084
    @andrewtongue7084 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Fear not, you are wanted & welcome. Consider a British citizen emigrating to the US - they'd have to jump thru' those self-same hoops, navigate socio-economic hurdles - & fundamentally everything you have described in this presentation. Naturally, it's a huge decision to restart one's life over again, but I would consider that you've made the correct decision in leaving the US - there are far more beneficial aspects to residing in the UK; I lived & worked in the US for a year, & registering for so many citizen-related documents, working under a Green card, so (at least in part) I can relate to your situation. Ater five years residency in the UK - as I am sure you're aware, you can apply for Naturalisation status - that, at least, obviates repeatedly attending interviews & filling out innumerable Govt forms - assuming, of course, that you wish to do so - stick with it & damn the torpedoes !!

  • @freddiemac1438
    @freddiemac1438 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    On reaching out to old contacts - I left a job after/ 21 years - only 1 person has ever bothered to ask how I’m getting on starting a new business - and that was 5 years ago… I learned a lot about my so called best buddy co-workers …

  • @Gambit771
    @Gambit771 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Finally, someone uses the correct flag for England.
    If only we could get the English to do that.

  • @davidsouth9979
    @davidsouth9979 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Validation or a seal of authenticity is not a requirement in UK whether officially or unofficially. Just live your life your own way and don’t become pseudo British, or yes if you want to. British people are very individualistic,some would say eccentric. There’s an old Victorian saying “do anything you like as long as it doesn’t scare the horses”. So don’t try to fit in because you won’t but by not trying you find you will.

  • @raymondporter2094
    @raymondporter2094 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Good Luck for the future. I think you will be capable of fitting in well, and enjoying your life here in the UK. You'll be fine...

  • @philright8197
    @philright8197 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Don’t think you’re not wanted, you are wanted, and I hope things work out for you here in England. Best of luck.

  • @Phiyedough
    @Phiyedough 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It would be interesting if you could do a collaboration video with someone who has done the opposite i.e. moved from UK to USA. The amount of culture shock would be similar but there might be differences in the visa process, acquiring a credit rating etc. I'm British but living in Croatia. One thing I discovered on my last trip to Britain was that I can no longer borrow a car because I have a Croatian driving licence. The fact that I passed a driving test in England makes no difference! Hiring a car is also difficult as I don't have a credit card and these days they take a huge deposit which they refund after you return the car.

  • @BrunoBrkovic
    @BrunoBrkovic 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beauty of culture shocks, beauty of having two homes and always missing one place no matter how long it have been, beauty of cultural exchange and beauty of being on completely different side of poles. Beauty of realising these differences brings a better version of you. That is beauty of your journey, realising that there is always so much more to learn, adjust, explore, accept and uknowledge. One day when new becomes old and you look how much you have discovered you will be amazed by your own journey and bravery.....and that's the beauty of doing your move 💞❤️😘

  • @samk9729
    @samk9729 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Don't let Internet trolls get you down. Do what another TH-camrs have done and make it a video content lol

  • @alexshapley8331
    @alexshapley8331 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    👍 happy to have you in Blighty!
    Shame to hear about the parochial peasants you have encountered over here - makes me think of a Mark Twain quote:
    "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness"

  • @PedroConejo1939
    @PedroConejo1939 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A large part of my family came here more than 1500 years ago. We still don't feel entirely welcome. Look at the earth from space and you'll see that the whole countries and borders thing is a big lie.
    Joking aside, I've lived in six countries on four continents, and admire the effort you put into expanding your horizons; it's far from easy. That is something you'll always have.

  • @mrscenescof4747
    @mrscenescof4747 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Welcome to the UK, I wish only good things for you and your family. I hope everything works out well for you and things get easier as time goes on.

  • @bigbird2100
    @bigbird2100 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great video 👍 This video is a great contribution to people who need to understand the sacrifice and understanding in moving to another country and culture 😊

  • @trampertravels
    @trampertravels 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Welcome. Also remember that you can apply for permanent residence after 5 years.
    Negative attitudes are a fact of life and they affect all of us, I find that I look at life from a sense of humour.

  • @NettyP-v9e
    @NettyP-v9e 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The 1st thing you should understand brits don't take anything seriously. I have moved 15 times over the years spending 18 yrs in America. I've had to adapt to the cultures of the different countries and don't expect the country to change to you. The one thing I found difficult inAmerica as I said we have a percuiar sense of humour,I found americans were too dramatic!!! But enjoyed our stay there,especially as our daughter met her future husband so she now lives permanently in America.

  • @legend9335
    @legend9335 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A brave woman, good luck.

  • @ABPhotography1
    @ABPhotography1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are a lovely, sweet lady, and we are very lucky to have you. xx 😊

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😊 thank you

    • @notreallydavid
      @notreallydavid หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ABPhotography1 Very gracious, A. We need more of this.

  • @janegammon3608
    @janegammon3608 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Presumably there
    Are restrictions for moving to th US from the UK? Aren't you being a bit over sensitive?

    • @davidmorgan6896
      @davidmorgan6896 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@janegammon3608 The restrictions are far greater moving to the US.

  • @graceygrumble
    @graceygrumble 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Like with a couple of my family members who moved down south, to Yorkshire, it might be a bit of a struggle at first.
    My sister-in-law's (and brother's) nephew has moved from up north to here. "Scottish Barry" - or, 'Barry,' as he is known as, in Scotland - fitted right in, comfy as... within minutes!
    They will always be Geordies or Scots and you will always be American. No need to hide the pride. Good people will always be accepted.
    So, Welcome to England! One of the worst places on earth... apart from the rest of them. 😉

  • @lordflashget8780
    @lordflashget8780 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just be proud that you got out, It really is the greatest thing you could do for your kids, ignore the hate, there are more that recognise your courage here than you think.

  • @lawrenceglaister4364
    @lawrenceglaister4364 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Don't forget you had to all the things to get your life in order when you got here just the same as the USA but the time to do it was greatly shorter .

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And people asked why I was so stressed

    • @willswomble7274
      @willswomble7274 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Please learn English or another language so you can be understood!

  • @alwynemcintyre2184
    @alwynemcintyre2184 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Everything you've had to go through stay in the UK probably very similar to the US, Australia and others

  • @BillySampson681
    @BillySampson681 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Most rich people stay rich by spending like the poor and investing without stopping then most poor people stay poor by spending like the rich yet not investing like the rich but impressing them

    • @CarlosGarcia56590
      @CarlosGarcia56590 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      People prefer to spend money on liabilities, Rather than investing in assets and be very profitable

    • @KaylaRussell77
      @KaylaRussell77 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are so correct! Save, invest and spend for necessities and a few small luxuries relatives to one's total assets ratio.

    • @MarieRandy438
      @MarieRandy438 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      very true, a huge part of my portfolio growth has come during this bear market. I've been able to scale from $180K to $572K in a short period of time.

  • @johnjones9673
    @johnjones9673 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    if anyone complains about immigrants while you are present,they are not thinking of you as a immigrant,racism
    is mostly based on language and colour.

    • @indi_prime
      @indi_prime 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@johnjones9673 based

  • @johnlanham4050
    @johnlanham4050 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are a clever American the more controversial you are about the UK the more viewers you get for your youtube channel who want criticise what you say!

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน

      I not criticising just telling my story

  • @alwynemcintyre2184
    @alwynemcintyre2184 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Not much you can do about rascists, you do what's best for you and your family. Remember there are rascists in every country, sadly it's not easy to avoid them now with social media.

    • @indi_prime
      @indi_prime 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can allow them to live in their own homelands in peace, that'd be a fucking start

    • @davedixon2068
      @davedixon2068 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@indi_prime allow who to live in peace?

  • @richardhood8589
    @richardhood8589 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Why don't you apply for UK Citizenship? That could give you a foot in both countries. Your videos are very informative, I honestly hope that you are still staying in the UK.

  • @richardsmith5408
    @richardsmith5408 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What a cool person

  • @douglaslee-murray952
    @douglaslee-murray952 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    England, England, England…..the UK is more than little England😢.

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน

      But I’ve only ever lived in England and the US so it would be ignorant of me to make presumptions about the entirety of the UK.

    • @Diovanlestat
      @Diovanlestat หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​​​@@TheHicksonDiariesIt's a sensitive issue over here. It's like me assuming that the USA only consists of Texas and New York. Best to replace England with the UK or British. It is far less offensive. Otherwise we will start calling you Yankie Doodle. 😊

    • @douglaslee-murray952
      @douglaslee-murray952 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheHicksonDiaries But England is part of the UK. So you lived in the UK.

  • @helenwood8482
    @helenwood8482 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'd strongly advise you not to get a credit card. Debit cards are much safer.

    • @graceygrumble
      @graceygrumble 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Credit cards, if paid off monthly, can cover you for purchases and increase your credit rating. I say this as someone who has never had a credit card.
      I always worked from the premise of "I will buy it when I have the money".
      I never had student debt; I never borrowed money - I always paid 'cash up front' for cars, furniture, holidays...
      After 40 years of working life, the only credit I ever had was my mortgage. Then, when I retired, I thought I would take out a loan to refurbish the house - £10-15k. I didn't want to use my lump sum because I thought, "I'll never put the money back in, I'd rather make monthly payments and buy the narrowboat I have dreamed about,".
      I had no history of credit. I couldn't get a loan. After renovating the house, I didn't have enough money any more for my narrowboat.
      I'm getting there, but it could have happened already, if I had had a good credit history. Just saying.

    • @glastonbury4304
      @glastonbury4304 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Credit cards are way more protected than debit cards...

    • @Nick-m7t
      @Nick-m7t หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @glastonbury4304 I know, right? What a misinformed comment. unless they're referring to accumulating too much debt but that has nothing to do with either type of card and everything to do with person who owns the card.

    • @Nick-m7t
      @Nick-m7t หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's not true at all. Credit cards have much more protections than debit cards.

    • @glastonbury4304
      @glastonbury4304 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Nick-m7t ...100% 👍

  • @babyamy3884
    @babyamy3884 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The news ect are talking about illegal migrations and have no documentation like who they are, how old they are and what their criminal background is. So please don’t worry they are not talking about you

    • @CB-dl1vg
      @CB-dl1vg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@babyamy3884 If she doesn’t understand that then that’s not our problem…

    • @babyamy3884
      @babyamy3884 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@CB-dl1vg some people can view it wrong due to misleading information. Some people love twisting the truth which makes other people confused and paranoid

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My comment is that I’m an immigrant so whenever anyone uses that term as a generality it actually does include myself

  • @jackbarnes8037
    @jackbarnes8037 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You should have gone to France and bought a dinghy and an outboard like everyone else does!😃😃😃

  • @alisonw5150
    @alisonw5150 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Maybe you should have arrived in a dinghy, no paperwork needed. (You're welcome - I jest)

  • @Stand663
    @Stand663 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You’ll be better off living in Australia. It has a outdoor American lifestyle and a British temperament. You have the best of both worlds .

    • @TheHicksonDiaries
      @TheHicksonDiaries  หลายเดือนก่อน

      And it’s positively lovely there. We’ll see what the future holds

    • @Susan-jt6ms
      @Susan-jt6ms หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Stand663 Australia has it's problems too. It's like all Countries it has it's good and bad points. You only have to watch 7 news there is crime, shootings , knife crime and strikes. Haven't the teachers walked out plus a train strike. So, as I say all countries have good sides and bad sides.

  • @fionagregory9147
    @fionagregory9147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I hope your children have an English accent.

  • @trevormillar1576
    @trevormillar1576 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would like to ask whats it like to live among prople who would be condidered "communists" in America.

  • @freddiemac1438
    @freddiemac1438 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Must people here are ‘foreigners’ - everyone comes from somewhere else don’t they!!

    • @fionagregory9147
      @fionagregory9147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No.

    • @kernow9324
      @kernow9324 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My family tree goes back to 1450, in Devon, but my DNA also shows my ancestors are from Syria. Must have been merchants I guess. It's fascinating. Now, should I vote Labour or ISIS? Hm 😉

    • @user-jt3zv2jc7u
      @user-jt3zv2jc7u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No. My ancestors have been here for thousands of years

    • @freddiemac1438
      @freddiemac1438 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-jt3zv2jc7u I don’t think records go back that far actually