I really like to add one more reason for neglecting our needs, as I have experienced in me is "Childhood emotional neglect"or CEN in which our care takers or parents failed to respond to our emotions as a child, and their lack of response to our emotions which describes our realselves can gives us the idea that those things are not matters so as a child we learns to neglect our happiness as well as sadness and start putting everybody before us. I think as a child we INFJ'S are very sensitive we really could judge if someone is appreciating our reals elves or not and can adapt according to that. Dr. Jonice Webb videos on you tube describes it much better if someone want to look it up. Great thing is that your videos are already encouraging us for bringing those "needs" in notice and going after them , which we have learnt to neglect over time. And your videos really talks about root cause and reasons for INFJ'S problem which is rare to find.
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem I experienced the same emotional neglect as a child. It is particularly damaging to our personality type. It definitely makes all of this self development harder because we didn't get a sense of love and being valued for just being us as a young child. I think it just means we have to figure out how to love ourselves and parent out "inner child". If you aren't aware of inner child work it's a great tool for healing from that childhood trauma. It feels good to know I'm not alone in this struggle. 🙂☮️💜
Thank you. I find this to be really accurate. I am an INFJ and currently had to end a friendship with an ENFJ, because she was constantly dumping her problems on me. I didn't realize that I was enabling her by listening all the time. I have my own issues and need to take care of myself.
This is truly the best infj channel, I wish you the best, it seems like you have great control over your emotional intelligence. Which probably is the most important thing for INFJ, I wonder how this emotional mastery came about though?
Thank you :) I also got your other comments on the videos..mastery came through a lot of trial and error and a lot of pain I endured..in the first videos I talk much more about that.
You're so beautiful inside and out. Thanks for your videos, I thoroughly enjoy hearing these things I've been trying to tell myself from a different persons perspective.
I keep being a martyr for the people I love. I put myself in negative situations and sacrifice parts of myself for other people. It's gotten so bad that I gave up my education to start a farm with my fiancé because I couldn't see any other option. it turns out I hate farming and now I'm completely lost and unfulfilled and terrified to go back out into the real world.
I had a seizure on my second ever superbowl commercial/union gig. I've been taking time to heal internally back home but its about time to reenter the fight. But i gotta be smarter then i was.
how interesting, ever since I came out I have had an alarming lack of zeal for other points of view, I feel tremendously more powerful in myself, which is good, but I feel much less motivated to fill people's needs, it's like the world has become increasingly irrelevant because I feel secure in myself? does this make sense? what are your thoughts?
Wenzes!! Your brilliant..your absolutely right...at some point we gotta project our emotions out there instead of taking everyone’s in at some point in order to grow...ahhhh jeez how did I meet u lol 🕺🏾❤️
Thank you. So now, I have to seriously answer to this question : "what will I want to be proud in my life?" (Except helping other people like a robot) That will be really tough... Oh I almost forgot, I made metaphors for eight functions, and I would want your opinion... But, this will but to long. Good bye. :)
I really like to add one more reason for neglecting our needs, as I have experienced in me is "Childhood emotional neglect"or CEN in which our care takers or parents failed to respond to our emotions as a child, and their lack of response to our emotions which describes our realselves can gives us the idea that those things are not matters so as a child we learns to neglect our happiness as well as sadness and start putting everybody before us. I think as a child we INFJ'S are very sensitive we really could judge if someone is appreciating our reals elves or not and can adapt according to that. Dr. Jonice Webb videos on you tube describes it much better if someone want to look it up.
Great thing is that your videos are already encouraging us for bringing those "needs" in notice and going after them , which we have learnt to neglect over time. And your videos really talks about root cause and reasons for INFJ'S problem which is rare to find.
Thanks for the feedback Deepika!
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem I experienced the same emotional neglect as a child. It is particularly damaging to our personality type. It definitely makes all of this self development harder because we didn't get a sense of love and being valued for just being us as a young child. I think it just means we have to figure out how to love ourselves and parent out "inner child". If you aren't aware of inner child work it's a great tool for healing from that childhood trauma. It feels good to know I'm not alone in this struggle. 🙂☮️💜
Deepika saxena
So interesting you bring this up. I was just thinking about this very thing. It's was definitely my experience as a INFJ child.
Thank you. I find this to be really accurate. I am an INFJ and currently had to end a friendship with an ENFJ, because she was constantly dumping her problems on me. I didn't realize that I was enabling her by listening all the time. I have my own issues and need to take care of myself.
thanks for your feedback...I'm glad my videos are being helpful :)
This is truly the best infj channel, I wish you the best, it seems like you have great control over your emotional intelligence. Which probably is the most important thing for INFJ, I wonder how this emotional mastery came about though?
Thank you :) I also got your other comments on the videos..mastery came through a lot of trial and error and a lot of pain I endured..in the first videos I talk much more about that.
What a blessing you are.
Ahh, this is so insightful I could cry!
Love all your videos. Helping me through this challenging time. Starting from your earlier one and going right the way through
You're so beautiful inside and out. Thanks for your videos, I thoroughly enjoy hearing these things I've been trying to tell myself from a different persons perspective.
Thanks Morgan
Another great video Wenzes, Thanks
Thanks Martin 😊much appreciated 👍
I keep being a martyr for the people I love. I put myself in negative situations and sacrifice parts of myself for other people. It's gotten so bad that I gave up my education to start a farm with my fiancé because I couldn't see any other option. it turns out I hate farming and now I'm completely lost and unfulfilled and terrified to go back out into the real world.
Yes, forgiveness is imperative! Forgiveness of both self and others.
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I had a seizure on my second ever superbowl commercial/union gig. I've been taking time to heal internally back home but its about time to reenter the fight. But i gotta be smarter then i was.
Mindblowing insights, thank you
how interesting, ever since I came out I have had an alarming lack of zeal for other points of view, I feel tremendously more powerful in myself, which is good, but I feel much less motivated to fill people's needs, it's like the world has become increasingly irrelevant because I feel secure in myself? does this make sense? what are your thoughts?
Wenzes!! Your brilliant..your absolutely right...at some point we gotta project our emotions out there instead of taking everyone’s in at some point in order to grow...ahhhh jeez how did I meet u lol 🕺🏾❤️
Thank you 💚
and thanks for your feedback Matt
thank you very much. In your video. When you say "value", I understand instead by "pride" or "self-esteem". Am I right or did i misunderstand ?
+djibril012 that's exactly what I meant :)
Thank you. So now, I have to seriously answer to this question : "what will I want to be proud in my life?" (Except helping other people like a robot) That will be really tough... Oh I almost forgot, I made metaphors for eight functions, and I would want your opinion... But, this will but to long. Good bye. :)