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What would you do when you think no one is watching? What Would You Do? (WWYD?) explores the varying answers with the help of hidden cameras capturing individuals who have been placed within seemingly everyday situation that quickly go awry. The individuals on this hidden camera show are forced to make tough calls when directly faced with situations of racism, violence, hate crimes, and other hot button cultural issues. Catch John Quinones reporting on these individuals as they make split-second decisions to intervene or mind their own business. WWYD? airs Friday nights at 9|8c on ABC.
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"It's your fault."
That's like telling a dead man it's their fault they were murdered.
For real tho, he has a point. If someone is getting bullied they would need to stand for themselves. However victim blaming is a pretty lame thing to do.
@@timioged9294 you know that standing up for yourself isn’t that easy right? When my dad shouts at me, do you know how bad I wanna stand up for myself? And when I decide myself to stand up for myself, every time I try to talk i go mute and I can’t talk anymore and start crying.
@@4ng3l86 Thats OK, but it doesn’t matter sometimes how hard it is. You need to stand up for yourself, your situation sounds like a pretty big problem so maybe you should seek help or talk to someone close to you
I want to give a like to your comment but I also don't want to destroy 69.😂😂
@@timioged9294 Standing up for yourself isn't excactly easy mate. Sometimes you do it, but the bullies bother you even more. Sometimes you get insecure and wonder: "What if they're right?" Sometimes you just don't want to talk to anybody and take what they throw at you. Like me for example, my dad never lets me defend myself whenever we have verbal conflicts, so whenever I remember that I do find it difficult to defend myself against others people.
Everyone gangsta *until Grandma starts cursing*
And You know ya dun fucked up
@@matthew_natividad yeah you know that if your grandma starts cursing you know you bout to get wooped
Michael Buffer steps out,
“ Let’s get ready ruuuuummmmbbbllee!!”
LMAO YES
Angry Mama curses: everyone gets quiet and stops.
Angry Grandma curses: Everyone runs including Mama
When she tried to “stand up for herself “by saying “leave me alone “, the bullies just bullied her more. If you’re being bullied, it’s NEVER your fault. NEVER.
That's Why sometimes you have to use physical altercation.
@@zfouleur2904 this is also true
Ugh why does everybody act like karambits don’t exist 🙄🤦♂️
@@hampter6078 I am afraid I do not understand what you mean by this comment
@@MountYourHorsesDrawYourSwords. look it up
“It’s your fault” it’s not easy to stand up for yourself, sometimes it can make it even worse and get picked on more
That is true! I was bullied all throughout school, and when I finally snapped and stood up to them..I got in trouble, I got suspended from school for 3 days.. Same goes for other people I knew who were also bullied. also why there has been so many teen suicides! I will stick up for anyone who goes through that.. Its no joke!!
@@jsynstclair5882 Well, by stand up, we dont mean physically fight. Because my bullies were never hitting me, so I am not going to hit them. I stood up for myself, verbally and basically told them to fuck off, and with some strenght and will, everyday telling them to fuck off, worked. No, detention, no physical fighting, just verbal.
Man..I wish that's how my school was. Because people getting bullied including myself, would always be the one in trouble for yelling or swearing.
I want to eat them 🍖🍖🍖🍖🍗🍗🍗🍗🥩🥩🥩🥩🥓🥓🥓🥓🍔🍔🍔🍔🍕🍕🍕🍕🍕
@@dillon17 yeah right
Most of these people think
That the worst could happen if they did stand up for themselves.
Sometimes you just need to say a word with confidence.
The worst thing to tell someone who’s being bullied is “It’s your fault”.
That actually angered me hearing him say that
Edifier Music Cause I can relate to her. To have some hardship and then have someone tell you that “you” are the issue is just a big no-no. It develops self loathing.
Edifier Music Sounds to me like your just too insensitive to notice that people go through these things.
Are you serious? Look, I know this is just an act but the victim CANNOT just let herself be disrespected like that!!! There are cruel people in the world and people should know to NEVER let themselves be humiliated by idiots. If you don't stand up for yourself, 10% of it is your fault and it is your duty as a human to give yourself some Pride and show the bully who's boss.
@Edifier Music
Omg no way! 😱
That older woman is such a badass. Standing up to bullies while holding dog poop in a bag. Wow.
miss America the older lady should have thrown it on them
@@-___-__ you read my mind🥺👏🏾
@@-___-__ yesss
@@-___-__ I would have thrown the dog stuff on those girls. I had a friend when I was a little girl; she was a red head and had the coolest personality.
@@-___-__ I get where you're coming from, but the bullies are actors, so the actors would go home with poop on them.
I was bullied as a kid. When I tried to stand up for myself, I got in trouble for "stooping to the bully's level." So, I had no choice but to take the bullying.
Not the victim's fault. Society protects the bully too often.
If you are still in contact with him, get some passive aggressive revenge if you know what I mean.
@@carsoncreel2924 I got my revenge when my mother finally realized how bad the abuse was and kicked her out.
It was my sister. My biggest bully slept in the bunk above me.
@@CadeD679 glad she got Karma
@@subzero5009 Lovely victim blaming!
@@subzero5009 I was twelve. She was seventeen. How in the hell do think I could have stopped it?????
No one talks about the last couple.That women is so confident and fearless.Respect ❤️
“It’s your fault.” Relating to the fact she didn’t stand up for herself.. Sometimes it’s not that easy, I tried standing up for myself and it got worse.
Exactly, just makes the bullies retaliate even more.
Yeah that kinda disgusted me that he said that. It shows that if there was actually a situation where someone was getting bullied he would say that
@Flightstuff So you are implying that it is okay to pick on people?
@Flightstuff This is a pretty sad way to look at it tbh. She isn't "acting pathetic" she wouldn't have to worry about this situation if she wasn't getting bullied. It's not her fault but she definitely would need to learn to stand up for herself but on her own time because everyone is different. Also it's not true that she would get bullied for the rest of her life because once adulthood hits it pretty much goes away. Also you don't tell the victim it's their fault right in front of the bully. That's Literally common sense. You can't expect every teenager to know how to stand up for themselves as they are just kids.
Because you are weak
Nowadays things like “freak” and “weirdo” are the *nicest* things they’ll call you
Me and my friends be like:
@@matthew_natividad same 😂
What has the world come to?😒
@@lalalalia3057 it ain’t a kids tv show
@@matthew_natividad yes i know that
The first guy had me but then lost me when he said it’s your fault like no it’s never a victims fault under any circumstances
exactly
You don’t get it
@@peak0p765 it isn't her fault. should she stand up for herself? yes, definitely, but it isn't her fault.
@@peak0p765 no you don't get it💀
@@cheyscorner1056 exactlys 💀
Omg I was so loving the first guy until the stupidity came out his mouth. You can NEVER tell a person being bullied that it’s their fault. You have no idea why they aren’t able to defend themselves and what goes through their minds. Believe me, many blame themselves as it is, they don’t need for an adult to come and blame them as well. That’s so not helpful
Maybe it's Because they couldn't fight their own battles and problem in their life u will never know on what they went through their. childhood. I actually got bullied by my own backstabber friend when she was,new and she spreads gossip all around me and even told my classmates about my old crush in 3rd grade and her mom and my crush 's mom were friends since that day. She said that She's his cousin she Because her mom was already a friend of his mom and i end my friend ship with her cause she was rude and was so spoiled girl ever since her dad died due to war when she was born and that's why that never bring other people down cause they might have depression
Yeah, he shouldn’t of said that to her, but there is truth in his statement. She has to be strong and fight back against bullies.
@@hardassteel Not all people can be strong though
@@zierragacha5089 All people can be strong though
@@hardassteel But in different ways
"Its her fault for not standing up for herself"
Girl : stop it you're mean
Bully :understandable have a nice day
You made my day
that is not standing up for herself....ever tried leaving? LOL she was sitting there and taking it
@@tyroneloki5131 ah yes because the other girls don't have legs
@@JayJay-vm5sc why would they leave? they are doing what they want?
jeez what logic are you operating on LOL
@@tyroneloki5131 I'm saying if the other girl left what would that do? The other girls have legs and can just follow her? And if this was a real scenario and they knew her from school what then? She can't avoid them there
He almost passed the vibe check until that last “it’s your fault”
He was right though
@Undead Officer but it is
@Undead Officer he isn’t wrong, it’s her fault that she’s not sticking up for herself, she’s letting the bullying progress into something it shouldn’t be…
@@CRYSTALMOUNTAINN It's not her fault. I know how it feels. She probably doesn't know how to fight properly or is scared of getting mocked for fighting back.
all y’all saying “he’s right” clearly don’t have social anxiety or some shit. and sometimes standing up makes it worse who knows if the girls would just beat her up or something if she fought back. 4 against 1 yk
"It's your fault"
You can tell by that response alone he's never been bullied, good luck standing up for yourself verbally in a situation where it's three versus one
"It's your fault". Even though she didn't stand up for herself, being bullied doesn't make it easy to stand up for yourself. Being scared and feeling threatened can make it hard to stand up for yourself.
“It’s your fault” Yeah thanks that helped a lot.
Welcome to your tape
@@lilyisqueen182 but not everyone is strong enough to do that sometimes it makes it worse like my friend once stood up to his bullies and it just made things worse
@@lilyisqueen182 stand up most of the time only make it worse. If you fail, you gonna get bullied a lot more, if you succeed at making them scared of you, no one gonna want to be your friend, and you gonna be a bully. The best thing you could do is ask for help or wait for someone to help you. That's our job as someone who sees others get bullied, to help them, don't just say "you have to stand up for yourself" we should be the one to help them to stand up
@@lilyisqueen182 yeah, that's what I would recommend, it's better than if you get bullied, you speak up to others, that's what everyone including teachers and the government has suggested, but also if we are around or we see that bullying is happening, we should help them, and not just run away
@@lilyisqueen182 I don't think you should fight a 1 vs 1, that's in my opinion a very bad idea to do, we're trying to make peace and not making war. I have in the past try to fight 1 vs 1 against a bully, and as the result, I almost die because he chokes me, I only manage to be alive today because someone calls the teacher. I wouldn't recommend anyone to fight, because as I say, if you failed, you gonna suffer a lot and they gonna bully you more, if you succeed, you will just become a bully and everyone would be scared to be your friend
Students: *get bullied*
Teachers: Meh
Students: *have a hood up in class*
Teachers: DETENTION FOR YOU!
I can confirm this is far too accurate
Frr
Relatable
Weirdofangirlofmanythings we have to have uniform, not even free uniform.
@Daemon Sumpter I don't cry I just feel disgusted 😔
“It’s ur fault” 💀 he’s trying to
stand up for her, yet he’s also putting her down 💀
Hate the first guy blaming the victim, but bless that woman and her husband for not being afraid to call out children for being terrible to someone else. Good for them. 👏
When I was in high school, a guy bullied me for being fat. As an adult, he asked my named and said I'm pretty. When I told him my name his expression was priceless.
Hello! How is everyone? If anyone needs someone to listen, talk to, or be a friend. I am here to talk listen and be a friend. Know that you are amazing and have rights as a human. Please have action for anything that you know is wrong. Anything that seems bad or wrong in your life right now will get better. If you feel like no one cares about you, know that I care about you. Together, we can be a better community. Stay safe, healthy, happy, kind, understanding, positive and strong everyone!
You go girl!
Please tell me you shut him down
*✨He got cancelled irl✨*
That's how you deal with it. Don't be a victim, improve and defend yourself. That's how you deal with bullies. Teens are too soft today.
"it's your fault" that's worse than the bully itself
Yes wtf was his problem!! I get his point but to say it’s her fault...yikes
I mean lowkey it is partly her fault for not standing up for herself,but still not right to say it in her face. Bullying won't stop unless you make it stop.
Ah yes, classic victim blaming. If that were real the blood would have been on that man's hands after the girl killed herself and probably would never even know it
@@farimahmz8369 Depends on the people bullying you. If you stand up they'd either leave you alone, or bully you more, and in different ways than before. Take it from someone who stood up various times, only to see the bullying continue and grow.
@@SplashJ there's the bullying of verbal harassment throwing your books and shit and in some insane places there's bullies willing to beat you to near death or kill you just for existing, that's why it's scary to say shit like stand up for yourself.
I'm a ginger, I'm 31 years old and still get picked on. the best thing to do is be the better person and ignore them or walk away and it isn't "her fault" that man was out of line!
This is why you should never bully people cause you never know what someone might be going through
I can agree with "you should stick up for yourself" but he totally lost me at "it's your fault."
Seriously I understand yes you have to have the confidence and I understand that but you can't say it's her fault for something that some people don't have within themselves that negates the message.
Also she did stick up for herself
We get told all the time to ‘just ignore them’ as well.
EXACTLY
I’ve been bullied with my niece from my neighbor when we were like seven and the bully was about 14 and she was cussing and recording us and literally every thing a bully would do but it was REALLY hard for seven year old us to stand up to her because she was much older and she was with her friend and who knows what she would do if my step mom didn’t hear what was going on.
“If you dont stand up for yourself, people are gonna pick on you, ITS YOUR FAULT”
Me, who was a victim of bullying: Wow! why didnt i think of that?
Omg. It’s so annoying when people were like “just stand up for yourself” it’s like easier said than done. But what about when it’s a whole class nearly. It’s easier in some ways to just detach yourself from the situation, and pretend like it isn’t happening. Maybe it’s just me but like when you’re considered “different” and also am sensitive and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, it can be even harder. And after you try it and it fails you probs won’t try it again you know. It’s so much harder than people say it is.
how can you not think of that? that's the first thing you're told if you're being bullied stand up for yourself don't just sit there and let it happen
@@zwebackshyper9307 Yeah, but if you stand up for yourself they tend to start bullying you harder if that makes sense. Also some ppl who have anxiety like disorders have an extremely hard time to stand up for themselves without assistance. If you were trying to lift up a super heavy box, it's completely okay to ask for help! :)
Well....I wasn't a victim of bullying in primary school because I punched the boys really hard on their first attempt. It really left an impression. Secondary school started at year 5 for me and all the same again. Now the boys are definitly stronger than me, but still have that impression from me and back away when I move towards them with a threatening glare.
So it really helps, but I get the problem with standing up and that it's not easy for most of the people. Some just need a bit help so I can also stand up for them.
I was bullied alot growing up. Even if I did stand up for myself, they continued. It's not that easy honestly. Especially if they're deadset on you specifically.
I can’t believe he said it’s your fault. It is NOT her fault.
When that man said to the girl being bullied, "It's your fault," it made me so mad.
"It's you fault" Oh yes that's helpful
Thank youu
I was picked on & that’s what they always said to me just for reacting to someone being irritating
I think he meant it more so in a “tough love” type of way. For guys it’s a little different than girls. To a degree (if this was a real scenario), I understand what he’s trying to say, just the wrong approach. But a lot of times people won’t stick up for you- sometimes you need to be taught to stand up for yourself
@@TheWallowingMadman27 To a degree its kind of your fault because I have had a while group try and gang up one me (they were my friends) and I stood up for myself all by myself
@@e.1544 some people don't really have the courage to stand up for themselves. It just becomes a really difficult situation for the victim
The first guy was doing great...until he started victim blaming
What do you expect from society? The weak blames the victims so they can hide the fact they are weak themselves
Angel 101 There is only so much other people can do to help you. Only you can solve your problems. It’s ok to have confidence
@@angel-nv7jk There would be no need for any blame if people just leave others the hell alone. It's not that hard
@@angel-nv7jk I don't agree .'Fault ' doesn't mean your the the problem. He meant it in a good way if she stood up for herself or gathered evidence of the bullying e.g recording them bullying her for a few days until you have enough full-proof evidence, it may have stopped .You don't have to speak out or fight in this case .But since she didnt do anything nothing would change, so yes it PARTLY her fault that it CONTINUED not started .
But if you know that they are dangerous try as much as possible to avoid them and talk to a trusted person, if you ont trust anyone go through the internet(there are many videos, articles etc that can help you ).You can also go to the police 🚔 they can give you ideas on how to get proof or spy on her to check if its true
2doves but it’s also not okay to tell someone that it’s there fault for someone else’s abusive behaviour
I’ve been bullied by adults and know it’s effects, kids need to have people to stand up for them at school
- damn, can I ask what that looked like? its just weird to imagine being bullied as an adult, outside of say being pressured by family for one reason or another.
As a person who gets bullied, this is heartbreaking but relieving at the same time…
Time heals all wounds.
@@blackflag5148 no. It's for life.
“It’s your fault.” Victim blaming isn’t the answer, dude.
Bully:hey Cassidy what are you doing? On your phone alone.Me:What are you doing bullying people for a living like stop!
I agree with this guy he just said it to bluntly if you are getting bullies you really do go to stand up obviously get help worse but standing up to yourself is one of the best things you can do but like I said he just said that to bluntly
@@RaNgErs_Rep same I agree with what he said 100%
So u telling she should just sit there and get bullied it’s clearly her fault fam if u don’t stand up for urself I a int stepping in if u at least try to stand up for urself I will step in and help u but if u gon just let them bully u I would not care cause u don’t care why should I
@@vendjeslab6445 standing up to yourself doesn't always work
"You're not standing up for yourself, it's your fault"
That's not how social anxiety workts
J Will how?
J Will tf?
I bet if Red socked one of them in the nose they wouldn’t mess with her 🤷🏻♀️
@J Will and if they gang up on her? it's three against one, you're not being logical.
@@babyvanderwoodsen If she stood up for herself or gathered evidence of the bullying e.g recording them bullying her for a few days until you have enough full-proof evidence, it may have stopped .You don't have to speak out or fight in this case .But since she didnt do anything nothing would change, so yes it PARTLY her faulty that it CONTINUED not started .
But if you know that they are dangerous try as much as possible to avoid them and talk to a trusted person, if you don't trust anyone go through the internet(there are many videos, articles etc that can help you ).You can also go to the police 🚔 they can give you ideas on how to get proof or spy on her to check if its true
"Don't fight at school. Punch em at the park."
My father's words lol
My mom always taught me never to start a fight but always stand up and defend myself. She said she would never be angry if I got in trouble for standing up for myself or others against bullying.
Thankfully I never had any physical altercations but it definitely helped build my confidence to stand up for myself and others.
Kid: gets bullied
Teacher: must've been the wind
Kid: fights back
Teacher: THEN PAY WITH YOUR BLOOD
They always be telling us to stand up for yourself but when they do they straight up suspend you
lol skyrim
That 😔 is unprofessional behavior. If I was a teacher, I would give the bully 😤 a long 💖 lecture 😤 about why bullying 😤 is wrong and that they should be a friend. I would be proud that the kid stood 👏 up for themselves and report the bullying if it gets too severe. I'm smarter than most people who are older than me.
😭
Oblivion and Alec Benjamin reference in one comment. My guy
Girl: On her phone by herself
Bullies: sHes a fReaK
Yeah everybody is on a phone with more than one person perfectly normal
No wonder they made the movie "Mean Girls." They were not that far off. I think we all remember the names of our bullies from school... Joyce, Sandy and Rachel! 😳So glad to see the people who stepped up. 💞🙏🏼
Being bullied leads to depression and extreme anger which could lead to a deadly situation for the bully,
"it's your fault" he fails to realise that when we retaliate, things often get worse. Whenever I physically fought back against my bullies, I got detention and seperated from my peers which lead to me being an even bigger outcast.
In my opinion this is why when the adults witness and the child tells them that there being picked on they need to do something about it and the they wait over here and act brand new when the child beats someone up .
Bullying is always completely wrong and unacceptable and should not be justified under any circumstances. When someone is being bullied, it is never their fault. Bullying someone is always wrong. A person being bullied not explicitly asking for the bullying to stop is not giving permission for the bullying to continue.
There are some disabilities that can potentially make “standing up for oneself” or advocating for oneself or explicitly asking for bullying to stop more challenging. It can be challenging to advocate for oneself and for one to explicitly ask for bullying to stop even if one does not have a disability. Fear at the moment, power dynamics and/or other factors can contribute to advocating for oneself being challenging at the moment. If one is unable to explicitly ask for bullying to stop at the moment the that the bullying is happening I would advise them to physically leave the bullies if they can do so safely, for their own safety and to show they don’t condone the bullying.
Advocating for oneself is a good skill to learn however bullying is NEVER the fault of the person the bullying is directed at. Bullying is never okay.
Damn you had a bad principal.
Honestly one of the biggest ups in the pandemic is not having to deal with advisors who misunderstand and don't let you explain why you did X thing to X person
Yes I totally agree…you get a golden star ⭐️sticker. That guy was not helpful …. He was a real douchebag!! If I was there I would record everything on my phone. Report to the cops and take that girl away from danger and tell that poor girls mom and pop that they got a lovely daughter and they needs to call the school to perms ban those brat witches.
Then you obviously couldn't be a able to defend control yourself. There are other ways to retaliate then physically attacking. It really sounds more like a "you" problem.
"It's your fault" is again blaming the victim. Someone that young may not have the strength to stand up against the bullies or may not even know how to do so. Although his intentions were good, better words should've been used and addressed to the bullies rather than the victim. Someone being bullied needs love, support, compassion, motivation, and ultimately guidance how to protect themselves.
ZAK it is life.He was 100% right.We live in a world where you should stand up for yourself .Bullies bully those who don't .She should have called that man crossing by,directly call someone for help,don't be passive,tell her teacher ,be strong .Life crushes those who are weak.it is the truth of life.You should accept it.
Minor tutorials I was picked on all through elementary and middle school and I had a very hard time telling people “No,” to things I didn’t want to do. Unfortunately in life, people take advantage of people they think are “weak.” (Still not okay to bully) but you’ll NEVER be respected until you speak up for yourself
Minor tutorials stop saying “iTs lIfE” that doesn’t justify it being okay . just bc maybe u have vocal skills doesn’t means others do. also sometimes speaking up makes things worse
@@martyyymarttt whatever,dude. What if there were nobody to help ,would she just sit there being bullied forever .I don't mean she should speak up,or get physical with the bullies .But she should have done something ,she should have taken any course of action whatsoever .She should have left the place ,or ask the people to call the police .What we are witnessing here is the best case scenario :people are discouraging bullying .As you saw in the video, some people just ignore and mind their own business.We can't stop bullying unless people become a little stonger
@@sugardaddy8790 Not really... That's like saying, "it's your fault" to a rape victim because the rape victim couldn't protect herself. When you're young, your mind doesn't work the same way. A teenager would literally commit suicide if the peers are bullying. It's not that simple... Many times teachers won't do anything nor the admin. That's the truth. It's the responsibility of the adults to protect the minor.
It’s not the victim’s fault. It is never your fault if you’re being bullied. I was bullied for a long time and at first I thought maybe there was something wrong with me but overtime when the bullying stopped, I realized that I should stop blaming myself for what they said
I wish people realised that standing up for yourself isn’t as easy as it seems. Sometimes it can encourage the bullies to either play the victim or pick on you even more and sometimes more people might get involved.
Whether or not something is "easy" has no relevance as to whether it should be expected of a person. Life isn't supposed to be easy.
“It’s NOT your fault”. It never is. Please don’t victim blame. His message was good till that point. Victims should never be made to feel it’s their fault.
My thought exactly
But as a victim you need to stand for yourself. If you don't do anything they're gonna keep bullying you , but you can also ignore the bullies or just assert some force
Exactly! Especially since it was 3 against 1. Although, even with just 1. No one shouldn’t have to deal with being bullied period!
This isn’t the reality of life, you must accept it is your responsibility to learn to look after yourself and not look at yourself as a victim - bullying occurs in one way or another throughout adult life too, the only difference is as you grow up you learn how to deal with it. The man that told her it’s her fault too would have only said that because he’s been through it and learned the hard way
The victim did not asked for it. Standing up will make it worse sometimes.
“It’s your fault.”
No the hell it’s not, I’ve been bullied before and it’s hard and I’m shy and it’s hard to stand up for yourself, sometimes it gets worse and sometimes you even get blamed from bystanders and people who doesn’t know what the situation is.
1 word.
Punch.
Yes one time I was being bullied and tried to stand up for myself and then everyone didn’t know what happened but immediately pinned the blame on me
The equivalent of a guy getting shot and the doctor saying "it's ur fault"
Oh my word. I’ve never been able to stand up for myself, for other people I can just not myself.
it is your fault if you just sit there and let it happen because why would the bully stop if they know you're an easy target
How in the world did the man say it is her fault for being bullied? I actually wanted to jump through the screen to tell him to leave. It is never the fault of the person being bullied.
When a person gets bullied and the victim…
tells an adult on the bully, | fights back, | does nothing,
…at least one of the following tends to happen:
The adult tries unsuccessfully | The victim gets blamed by an adult | Witnesses conclude it’s the
to deal with the bully. | along with or instead of the bully. |victim’s fault for not fighting back.
If you want to see an EXPANDED version of this chart, watch "Comics, illustrations, and text that explain reality and/or have deep meanings"
“It’s your fault”
That’s like saying “Do a flip!” to someone about to jump off a building, WTF?!🤬
Ikr 💀
Don't blame him it works on some people it doesn't on others
@@hopefuldreamer1074 true, but with strangers, not a good option. because you just dk how they’ll handle that.
True very very true
IKR
Kid: gets bullied
Teachers: meh
Kid: stands up to the bullies
Teachers: *DETENTION*
True!! I once stood up against my bully in grade school. He just wouldn't stop poking my head with a pencil and calling me names. When I told him off, I was the one who got scolded by the teacher. 🤦 Did not even ask what the problem was since I had always been behave and quiet.
Because physical trumps it which is sooo stupid. My kid sacked a boy because he kept pushing her. He never did it again.
Its sad because its so true teachers really don't care about bullying even when the kid takes there own life
That happen to me
IKR! THAT WHAT HAPPEND TO ME
It’s not always easy to stand up for yourself. I got bullied in high school so I know what it’s like. It hurts and it destroys your self confidence. Never put the blame on the victim. It’s the bullies’ faults.
This really needs to be addressed much more!!! BULLYING IS NOT OK!!! Shoutout to the strangers who did their part and done something about it, you never know how much of an impact you might be to someone!!!
The girl who was being bullied is so pretty 💓
Right?!
I love her hair
Omg IKR
Idk why was she being bullied she's beautiful
@@heystobit6220 its not always about looks. Sometimes sure, but alot of the time (nowadays at least) its about you're personality, if you don't like what they like, or if they see something as weakness.
Him: It's your fault
Me: Scrolling down to the comments
Lol me too
How dare that man say “it’s your fault”. Horrible.
I was viscously picked on in Middle school. It was relentless. But when I did try to stand up for myself, it made it worse. I can't believe he told her it's her fault... 35 years after H.S. and I still have confidence issues stemming from that. When I hear about kids committing suicide over this, my heart just breaks. Social media wasn't a thing yet.. at least when I left school, I was safe from it at night. I can't even imagine now.
The first guy was AMAZING Until he said “it’s your fault”
Thank for the Likes But I had a lot of people Disagree with me And I Completely Understand Looking Back You should always defend Yourself! It doesn’t matter how many people are there You should Defend yourself Thank you to everybody who replied ❤️💕
So true
it got me on confusion at first💀lol
@@joaco2865 exactly
Aw C'mon people don't be mad at him,he gave her an advice.Maybe that was the only thing he had on his mind,some people see these types of situations every day and they tend to stay out of it.
Ik but come on, trust me I’ve been there I know it’s hard but you gotta stand up for yourself just not doing anything are gonna cause people to pick on you more and think your weak, there were times I didn’t stand up for myself and it affected me but the one time I retaliated back it worked and I wasn’t picked on cause I showed I was a bigger person and this stuff can’t hold me down
“It’s your fault” dude that’s a horrible way to put that
Holy crap thanks for the likes uwu
Its different for each person but if you can do something about the situation, and you're the bullied, and you choose not to do anything - it does become your fault to some extent. I was also bullied before and I've been in so many situations where I did what I can to take hold of the situations my bullies were putting me in and even at times that I wasn't able to win against the situation, at the end of the day I was still able to tell myself that I did something and fought back. In situations where you may need help, you'll know, and you ask for it.
@@spinthatmetalfreak I know. Also it was her fault because she was just listening to them. Not always is someone going to be there for us and we have to learn to stand up for ourselves
I agree. He had good intentions, but he should have put it nicer
@Bullets in Bacon Grease They definitely have made the black guy the bad one. There’s one where a black dude steals a laptop, two where a black woman criticizes an interracial couple, and others. Just saying.
@@micahramsay4804 what do you mean? He was being brutally honest
This girl at my school got pulled out of her stall while still urinating, and the other girls bullying her didn’t even get suspended cuz “it’ll make it worse”
So they suspended the bullied kid for protection for a few days.
While I go to truancy court for severe depression making it hard to do anything at all and had to stay at school until 6pm, get home at 7pm and getting yelled at in court for having a seizure.
I don’t like it here.
Edit: I see how that doesn’t correlate, I’m just explaining why I don’t like it here
I’m reading this nearly a year later, I hope things have improved for you & your situation.
I get bullied all the time
I cant stand up for myself I have a fear of speaking to people and hearing that "its your fault" hurts me so much
it isn't your fault. you should stand up for yourself, but i can understand how hard it may be. but try and find someone to help you, maybe a friend who can stand up for you instead, or someone who can help you learn how to do it yourself.
@@artemis754 I physically can't talk to other face to face 😭
@@Obsessive._.cosplay i know its hard. i was the same way. i do hope things get easier for you
It is NOT your fault 💗
They don't like that your the same small town un-original copy paste as all of them
Trying to DULL UR SPARKLE
Is no one gonna talk about how THE ROCK is her COUSIN?!?!
RIGHT
Which one
@poopygoldftw ,wwe superstar nia jax is the rock cousin lol
Well, that’s the only reason why she hasn’t been fired. Superstars are very safe in the ring, and Nia can’t seem to follow the safety regulations. She keeps on injuring other women, but she’s kept in because she’s cousins with the rock. Not anything to do with her size btw, she was killing it at one point
@J Will you dont watch wwe but i get what he said
I didn’t like how the first guy said that it was the victims fault it’s totally not how you address this situation first of all victim blaming is definitely not the way to go it’s not your fault if you’re being bullied or harassed it’s the bullies fault
i agree, standing up is good if you can do it but its sooooo hard to make a stand for yourself, it isnt her fault
But he is right. Thats how the world works.
@@angel2901 yeah, but he also said that it was the victims fault, it's the victims fault she's getting bullied. It's the victims fault that this situation is even happening. It's the victims fault she can't speak up. It's apparently always the victims fault, never the attackers
@@DementedDoritoOfdoom he didnt say anyhting it wasnt the attackers fault, but hes right, if the girl never stood up for herself then obviously the bullying will continue.
@@ProfessorWeird yeah that's true, but it's not the girls fault
I was bullied throughout kinder to highschool. That man telling her it’s her fault really angered me. He’s not actually helping. Sometimes bullied people want to stand up for themselves, but it’s not that easy. I’ve been there, I wanted to stand up for myself but I was so SCARED because my bully used to threaten me that her dad’s going to hurt my family. As the young me, I thought not standing up and fightig is the only way I could protect my family. It’s never easy to just STAND UP for yourself. It takes a lot of courage. It’s not our fault that we get bullied. We didn’t even done the bullies wrong from the first place
2:51 you can tell that even the "bullies" are shocked by this statement.
Nia got the best revenge on her bullies. She lived her best life, look at how successful she's now 👏
Ikr!!! She awesome
@@gabbiehannahsmentalbreakdo3887 lmao ur name 😂😂, but yeah she is awesome
@@josnaj7958 lmao facts
Obviously youre not a big wrestling fan. Nia Jax could be considered a bully herself, shes reckless and sloppy in the ring and has caused a TON of injuries for her fellow female wrestlers. Shes a better poster child for nepotism than anti-bullying
She's a fave of mine
Okay NEVER say to the victim that it’s their fault that was horrible. That makes the bully’s think that they’re not doing anything wrong.
Agreed. And it is not like it will do anything.
I was on his side until he said it was her fault, like what? It's never the victim's fault.
good point
That first guy should know that trying to stand up to bullies by beating them up is more than likely the worst thing to do, since that's probably something that they'd want their victim to do for laughs. It's not the girl's fault for not being able to stand up for herself, since it can be a really hard thing for everyone to do if they are in such a situation. If anything, it's that guy's fault for being such a lousy giver of advice.
Great message 🌹
The person being bullied is literally gorgeous!!! People can be so mean for dumb reasons. Usually people who bully are just jealous of the people that they bully.
Siobhan Bartz lol
You look so much alike when I saw your pfp
@@timothywait9457 what? It's not funny. Redheads are literally awesome
@@siobhanbartz6460 I agree with you.Redheads are rare,precious and beautiful.Ignore the bs. people are just jealous. ❤️
@@puckered6036 nothing's funny about that. It's true and redheads are so rare and awesome 😁
I love everyone who helped her
Same also I love your profile pic
@@petra-pose1337 thanx
I beg to differ, I love everyone who didn't help.
Americans are weird in my country if u violate the ting ur finished
I don't :)
Hats off to the last couple who finally stood up for this poor girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m the type of person, idc if it doesn’t involve me, if I see you bullying someone like you’re big & bad? I’ll show you never to MESS anyone again. I will happily defend anyone being bullied. Period
Man: Be her friend don’t put her down
Me: aww, what a kind considerate man.
Man: you didn’t stand up for yourself.
Me: now she is teaching her how to look after herself, what a decent human being
Man: it’s your fault
Me: I take back everything I said about you
I mean, it is kinda her fault tho, she needs to stand up to herself
@@user-iq8on2uu8z I know I just didn’t like how the man said it.
@@user-km4st7un7r Yea I can understand that
@@user-km4st7un7r exactly he just said it too bluntly then again to teach someone something sometimes you have to be blunt
@@RaNgErs_Rep as if that’s gonna do anything??? You’re just making the victim feel worse.
And yes I know what I’m talking about because I experience this shit myself.
My stepmom fucking said the same thing and it just made me more depressed.
And YES I tried standing up for myself and all it did was make things worse. It’s not my fault I didn’t know how to deal with this kind of shit as a fucking childZ
“It’s your fault” I think the guy who said this must have been bullied and perhaps regretted not standing up for himself
Well he was right
maybe but either way hes right it is your fault if you sit there and let it all happen to you without ever standing up for yourself
@@zwebackshyper9307 maybe partly, but blaming the victim isn’t the best thing to do, because it’s easier said then done
finally someone with big brain
@@zwebackshyper9307 yes but that is also victim blaming and thats just messed up thats like telling someone who has cancer that its their fault they are sick
I have been bullied sense 7th grade so the way the people reacted makes me happy but also this whole video fills me with rage at times
"It's your fault"
That hit hard....
@@LulaElenaChapaDeSilva-wj3ok where?
Honestly don't know what's ugly about the victim, she's pretty and i think redheads are pretty.
True true
Sameee if I had that hair man no one could bring me down otherwise so pretty
nah im not going to lie, gingers are very ugly and the actors unatractive. ive never seen a ginger i thought was good looking. but yeah obviously no grounds to bully
@@jaebandz24s85 I think rather than saying it as "very ugly", you know you could say it a much nicer way right? In my opinion, some (and all of the gingers that I have met) are beautiful, well mostly because I think people with freckles are beautiful
@@fos1451 well everyone i know hates gingers so
The first man be like: it's your fault
Me: well damn. I feel like that could actually hurt her feelings even more
Hello! How is everyone? If anyone needs someone to listen, talk to, or be a friend. I am here to talk listen and be a friend. Know that you are amazing and have rights as a human. Please have action for anything that you know is wrong. Anything that seems bad or wrong in your life right now will get better. If you feel like no one cares about you, know that I care about you. Together, we can be a better community. Stay safe, healthy, happy, kind, understanding, positive and strong everyone!
It’s never the one getting bullied’s fault. Period.
It's not a simple ''Period'' You can't draw simple conclusions from a super complex topic/issue. As someone who've gotten bullied and studied psychology for a year before dropping out. I know that psychology isn't black and white, and people treating it as such in this instance with bullying as an example doesn't help a damn thing. There are plenty of instances where it is the ''victims'' fault.
I was bullied on and off through school because I suffered from depression due to abuse at home. I sat alone and was quiet so bullies targeted me. I understand the pain they go through and I'm proud for the people standing up for the girl. Most bullying happens in school and teachers ignore it unfortunately.
she was already being bullied why in the hell would he think to say "its your fault" its not her fault that SHE is getting picked on. that hurt like a knife.
That's clearly not the way he meant it. He probably could have used better words, though.
Hello! How is everyone? If anyone needs someone to listen, talk to, or be a friend. I am here to talk listen and be a friend. Know that you are amazing and have rights as a human. Please have action for anything that you know is wrong. Anything that seems bad or wrong in your life right now will get better. If you feel like no one cares about you, know that I care about you. Together, we can be a better community. Stay safe, healthy, happy, kind, understanding, positive and strong everyone!
Bullying is always completely wrong and unacceptable and should not be justified under any circumstances. When someone is being bullied, it is never their fault. Bullying someone is always wrong. A person being bullied not explicitly asking for the bullying to stop is not giving permission for the bullying to continue.
There are some disabilities that can potentially make “standing up for oneself” or advocating for oneself or explicitly asking for bullying to stop more challenging. It can be challenging to advocate for oneself and for one to explicitly ask for bullying to stop even if one does not have a disability (fear at the moment, power dynamic and/or other factors that contribute to advocating for oneself being challenging at the moment). If one is unable to explicitly ask for bullying to stop at the moment the that the bullying is happening I would advise them to walk or run away from the bullies if at all feasible, for their own safety and to show they don’t condone the bullying.
Advocating for oneself is a good skill to learn however bullying is NEVER the fault of the person the bullying is directed at. Bullying is never okay.
Bully: (0:18) Because she’s a freak, and nobody wants to be seen with her!
Me: But...
...you’re standing right beside her.
And you make it "live" :))
THATS WHAT I SAID
@Peters Eniola wowww!!!!!!!!!!! Who knew? Thought they said that they were actors in the beginning smh.
@Peters Eniola Dude they know that it was a joke.
I know right?!
As a middle schooler, the acting of what bullying is, isn’t true. Bullying is much more secretive and hidden than going up to someone and kicking their books. Bullies will say something condescending or something to someone else, but not up front to you.
Another sad result of bullying is creating a mass shooter themselves. There will never be a mass shooter if there is no bully around. They may never know that the one that they bullied might become their murderer.
when he said ‘it’s YOUR fault’ I SCREAMED
Everyone except the couple should’ve helped, especially the first guy. Saying it’s your fault doesn’t help anything!
@Daniel Okeke Of course she should stand up for herself but telling her that it's her fault is literally awful.
@@evelynolson5731 he didn't mean it in a bad way😕 but maybe it was because of the tone of his voice🤔 but I'm sure his tone of voice was like that because he was angry with the girls and when he talked to the victim he didn't change the tone of his voice fast enough 🤔
@Daniel Okeke She should stand up for herself, but it is not as simple as ABC. Standing up for yourself won't always stop the bullying. And it is NEVER your fault if someone mistreats you.
@@flourish7729 I completely understood his tone - I have seen my mother react similarly because I have never had the balls to stand up for myself, which can concern any parent quite greatly.
My mom simply wants me to be strong, and grow up not being dependent on other people to stand up for me whenever I'm in such trouble.
As an adult, you come to understand that even if people are not necessarily nice toward you it's actually your fault, as in your responsibility, if you let it bring you down. You have the power to stop it, to stop caring that much. No one else can do that for you.
I have been bullied myself. I relied on other people for so long but whenever I was alone and people picked on me, I wasn't able to stand up for myself and ran home to cry. Until I stopped caring.
@@ravenseye9179 it becomes your fault when u dont stand up for yourself
Wow how did they never think of standing up for themselves and immediately ending the bullying that’s just brilliant
I’m sorry I know this is not what the video is about, but I’d just like to say you guys always pick the perfect actors. All of your actors and actresses are so talented!!❤
It's never the victim's fault that they're bullied 😔. It's the bullies' 😔 fault 😔 because they chose to behave 💯 that way 🙄.
@PooStinky im not Christian but yeah. She has to stand up for herself. The man who said that was absolutely right
@PooStinky The Bible actually says the opposite. It tells us to turn to our other cheek. It encourages us to resist evil not do more harm. But ofc if you encounter a life or death situation with another person who clearly wants to harm you to a grave point then, it’s a different scenario.yk? :)) I just wanted to correct what the verse means ( I don’t mean to sound rude. I just don’t want someone else misunderstanding it and actually thinking that’s what it says. Sorry if I came off as rude or pushy). ;))
@PooStinky No, the Bible says that the people in the world believe we ought to do eye for eye and tooth for tooth but that Christians ought to turn the other cheek, love our neighbors and enemies as much as we love ourselves and love God above all else, and call upon the Holy Spirit to fight our battles for us because vengeance is the Lord's and we ought to be still. Matthew 5:38-39 "You have heard that it was said, an 'eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.' But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also." 1 Thessalonians 5:15 See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.
it is her fault too for just sitting there and letting it all happen without standing up for herself that's how life is he was just telling her the truth which everyone needs to hear
@PooStinky it says the exact opposite actually. It says turn the other cheek.....so.....
Guy: “Your fault stand up for yourself”
Schools: “NO YOU DID NOT JUST STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, DETENTION”
Schools to the bullies: “don’t worry we’ll punish them real good”
Everyone seems to think by ''stand up for yourself'' legit means stand on the bullied and fight them, no.. I was bullied.. For a long time.. I decided to basically hold my ground, tell them to fuck off and much as I could for everday, until they stopped. And it worked. Physical contact will only make things worse, not for the bully, for YOU.
“That’ll be a 3 days suspension”
@@TrickZ_Retz exactly bullying is so despicable and psychologically evil. Sometimes detention and expulsion doesn’t do anything for bully
This video reminds me of a friend of mine who endured a lot of bullying in his school days. Elementary school, junior high school, high school. After what he told me, I felt deeply sorry for him. And I told him,
“Gabriel,
It sounds like you had a lot of trouble in your past life. But you know what? You don’t need them. You got me as a friend and I’ll never bully you at all.”
“I hope someone bullies you like that” YOOOOO💀
Nia Jax might play the bully on screen, but she's known for being a kind hearted, down to earth woman, who helps young people fight through their insecurities. Wrestling and characters behind, she's a great person.
Love your response
Apart from whens shes botching
@Bondo McJefferson seriously doubt she is doing it on purpose
@@timslee0618 even Is she isn't, she doesn't know how to work in the ring and definitely needs to improve her skills
@@DementedDoritoOfdoom everyone improves at different rates. There were rumors they were going to send her back to the performance center and keep her off screen for a while, but they decided to put her with former ufc fighter Shayna Baszler now
them: "nobody wants to be seen with her"
also them: with her
This is why Im glad I never went to school during the era of social media. There was no social media when I went to school and Im forever grateful!
Ive always watching your videos.. And it makes me cry a lot😢, but at the end im happy coz theres to much people who have a good heart
We need to change language around “bullying”. Kids don’t care about being called a bully, maybe “abuse”, what it really is, should be used.
Right, and _harassment_ and _assault_ instead of _”getting picked on”_ or _”beating up”._
Ngl, I just laugh anytime someone bullies me. People pull out n words and I just walk away. I really feel bad for people who let the words get to them. I’ve never been “assaulted” tho, just verbally bullied. I can see how it can affect someone
i’m sorry but if they want this bullying to be realistic they should know that bullys don’t act like this in real life, just movies
Yeah nowadays its all about getting knocked out for no reason .
Agreed! That's the problem with these social experiments... A more realistic scenario would involve those girls being "sweet" to her face then whisper, giggle, and talking shit behind her back.
I’ve never been bullied and I want to be bullied man it looks fun. Bro I can stick up for my self it’s really easy since I’m the strongest in my family I would use that I won’t for bullying but for sticking up for myself and others.
Bro I’ve only seen bullies in movies.
They do act like this, until one builds enough confidence in themselves to get physical and the rest follow their new normalised level of bullying.
Thank you for you videos it really inspires.
Every Disney reality tv show with bullies: