For those who fear marriage or are hesitant due to finance, remember that allah, the most compassionate mentions himself that rizq will come to those who choose to get married. (Surah Nur, verse: 32)
It was kind of a dream for me to get married young and grow together with my spouse but I’m now 27 and not at all close to being married, I want to get married at least before I’m 30 but I don’t see that happening but Allah knows best
Pray tahajud then? Ik a person with same story like you and years of waiting and tahajud and then one day it took him one day to find a girl and get engaged happened overnight this is how Allah favours
@@Ayla40902 tahajjud, lol. i did that before. engaged abt to marry now im single again. tahajjud all you want but if the riq is not meant for you, you wont get it. especially overnight. yes do tahajjud but dont be like this guy who sounds so condencensing and thinks that ppl have no idea abt tahajjud in the first place chill bruh
@@DandelionSpring96 Thats dumm advise, since no one here knows your personally. Maybe you just weren’t that smart still. Allah doesn’t tell you to pray Tahajjud and be dumb. No offense, but every case is different.
@@DandelionSpring96 you don’t know if the rizq is there that’s why you put your trust in Allah and know that he is guiding you..think about like this ur single again now, but it might be because the person wasn’t good for you so Allah may bring someone BETTER to you tomorrow…Allah knows best
For anyone who wants to get married, enjoy your single days it’s not green on the other side, you guys watched way to many movies 🤣 Pray a lot , leave the rest to Allah because Allah is protecting you and guiding you. Have that trust and focus on yourself. Once you focus on yourself the right person will come around and you’ll be surprised. Pray Tahajjud off course too
I love your takes on marriage and what you talk about and I can attest this trying to convince a girl to change her ways is not working, I have been in a few relationships and trying to keep it halal and try to tell them or help them understand what they do is wrong ( No matter my approach is kind or strict) it just ends up with heated arguments or breakups. Today many of us give up and personally finding a girl who is willing to go through the hardships and build something together in a halal way seem to be a hard mission for me. May Allah ease up these situations for us and everyone who have been through similar things or worse❤
@@Manciteh999-n6i I wouldn’t generalise since Allah knows best, if we don’t encounter anyone, there will be in Jannah Inshallah. Side note retention, focus on Allah and our career is all we can do until someone crosses our path. May Allah give you beautiful spouse, provide for you and warm your heart brother❤️
I’m here to tell you as a Muslim women myself, there are lots of women out there who are great don’t let one screw the rest of us over🤣 Alhamdulillah I found the one, and I’m here to tell you that if you just focus on your prayers and Duas? You will get the one too
@@aj__love5919 Exactly, thank you sister and I hope your spouse give peace and comfort, may your life result in coming closer to Allah and be pleased with you and your future. I will never lose hope in finding my spouse. Much love❤️
I'm 15 years old, punctual with the deen and upholding my value as a growing and learning man, I know that my main priority now is too finish school but I'm socially awkward around women even though I've been raised with ladies without a father figure for my whole life 😂. (Not gay!)
I was also socially awkward at that age. I'm also not married so my opinion might not mean much, but life experiences will help you with being able to speak to people
Stop masturbating! Do something that ur proud of it will give u the confidence to talk to anyone. The reason for ur social awkwardness is that deep inside u know that u haven't done anything significant with ur life yet. Good time to start. Good Luck.
I can’t lie, this video was necessary but hard to hear. I used to think I knew what I wanted and that I’d be a great spouse. Now I’m going through some hard times and realize that although I’m caring and tender, maybe I don’t yet have all the leadership qualities or even have a general outline of my future figured out anymore. I’m nearly 25, haven’t really been in a relationship, and currently feel this way. I’m sure Allah SWT is saving me from something harmful right now and will give me something better. Any advice brother?
@@fardeenmahmud8866 that’s kind of a harsh approach don’t you think? You don’t know my circumstances but I’ll have you know I’m an engineer with a degree. Please learn to not talk down on others because a time will come where each of us has to question where we are going in life, whether it’s self-reflective or forced upon us. Hence the “anymore” part.
@@moebro101Brother, you know what, I apologize. You’re right, I don’t know your circumstances at all, nor do you know mine. Actually, I’m just as frustrated as you are. And I’m only 22.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 It’s alright. May Allah make it easy for us both brother. May He guide us to what is best for us and replace any sadness that is in our hearts with happiness and true success with Him.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 it’s alright brother. May Allah make it easy for us both. May He guide us to what is best for us and replace any sadness with happiness and true success with Him.
If i wasnt a male with same sex attraction, getting married would actually be an option. But its a test from Allah just gotta pwoer through it everyone has ups and downs in life, i get ups and downs particularly with this struggle. If people could stop talking about marriage and homophobic jokes it would be a lot easier to fit in with guys and make life a whole lot easier
It is a test from Allah , remember the more you stay away from it the more you are getting rewarded. May Allah make it easy for you and give you strength to overcome your struggles.
May allah make it easy for you❤ Stay strong, brother. I have a question: I know sexuality can be controversial topic, but do you personally believe and hope that you could someday be attracted to a woman ? Or don't you ever see that happen ?
@@MuslimMessenger267 I know that Allah can change anything at anytime but at the same time I'm also aware that someone who is atrracted to thr oppositr gender can't suddenly be attracted to the same gender I think it works both ways as in someone with same sex atrraction can't suddenly be attracted to the opposite gender
Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah I'm from India, I memorized the Quran at the age of 12 and now. I'm studying masters in UK, However, I'm extremely stressed related to my career. What will happen in future. so many thoughts. I just keep praying and making duas 😭😭.
Please enlighten me, Muslims of the internet. I’m 19 y/o and I have been friends with a girl the same age as me for a few months. I have feelings for her. After a week when I realised my feelings for her, my best friend told me that she has had feelings for me ever since we met. Then, literally last week, I confessed to her and I told her that I want to marry her. She’s 100% okay with it. The thing is, we have never seen each other’s faces because we met online. BUT what am I worried about is am I going with the right approach considering we have never met in real life and my age? I really want us to be in a halal relationship soon, but at the same time, am I going too fast with all of this? Tell me if anyone who’s reading doesn’t understand something because I just wrote all of this because of my worries
Make istikhara .And the right way to do it is to call her father and talk to him ,then you guys can see each other Nd see if there is mutual acceptance.Keep making duaa Nd ask Allah to make it easy for you
@@alilichesoumia2821 The thing is, our place is really far away, so I can’t really reach her Father. She also mentioned that she doesn’t want to tell her family just yet because she’s currently studying at university. She planned to share everything when she’s on her semester break, which is in December. I’ve already told my parents about her, and they’re pretty supportive and gave me some advice. I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. Insha Allah, I’ll do my best to make duas and do Istikhara. Edit: sorry if i spammed your notifications because i sent this a couple of times but for some reason youtube deleted it
The thing is, our place is really far away, so I can’t really reach her Father. She also mentioned that she doesn’t want to tell her family just yet because she’s currently studying at university. She planned to share everything when she’s on her semester break, which is in December. I’ve already told my parents about her, and they’re pretty supportive and gave me some advice. I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. Insha Allah, I’ll do my best to make duas and do Istikhara.
@@KaruiKagetsu Tell her to focus on her studies & don't talk to her all these times. Trust me, it can be the trap of saytan leading to zeenah (YES! Normal chitchatting with opposite gender can ruin your life like it ruined mine!!!). Tell her you won't talk to her until she lets her dad speak to you (If she says after her exam, she'll let her dad talk then good but you two cannot chitchat during this period). If she refuses & wants to continue to chitchat then BLOCK her & RUN! She just wants to play around, bro. Don't trust me? Just simply tell her you won't be talking to her till she brings her dad. See what see says.
Very informative video, jazakallah khair. But I have a concern to raise not regarding the marriage btw, but brother yusuf your hands have reddish spots 21:10 , is it fine? if there is some kind of skin problem (I might be very wrong) then may Allah cure you, ameen.
@@nunyabussiness1055 I don’t see that, I didn’t say I’ve had weird fantasies about him, I said I ‘Prayed’ to get married to someone like him which means someone who’s on deen has his priorities set right. Pls elaborate what do you exactly find weird about it weirdo
@@hafsamahboobansari3394let’s be clear, you said to get married to someone like him OR HIM. But I hope this example clears it up: if you were outside with your husband, and a random girl comes up and says she used to pray to marry him, would that be a conversation you’d like to have? 🙃
For those who fear marriage or are hesitant due to finance, remember that allah, the most compassionate mentions himself that rizq will come to those who choose to get married. (Surah Nur, verse: 32)
Prophet Muhammad ordered those who aren’t ready for marriage to fast.
But without finances the marriage complicates a lot, and you have a way more rough start. The comment above is the advice ^
Even if finances are improved, parents make the marriage harder
@@adame1871 For those who are not able. Not those who aren't ready
It was kind of a dream for me to get married young and grow together with my spouse but I’m now 27 and not at all close to being married, I want to get married at least before I’m 30 but I don’t see that happening but Allah knows best
Pray tahajud then? Ik a person with same story like you and years of waiting and tahajud and then one day it took him one day to find a girl and get engaged happened overnight this is how Allah favours
@@Ayla40902 tahajjud, lol. i did that before. engaged abt to marry now im single again. tahajjud all you want but if the riq is not meant for you, you wont get it. especially overnight. yes do tahajjud but dont be like this guy who sounds so condencensing and thinks that ppl have no idea abt tahajjud in the first place
chill bruh
@@DandelionSpring96 Thats dumm advise, since no one here knows your personally. Maybe you just weren’t that smart still. Allah doesn’t tell you to pray Tahajjud and be dumb. No offense, but every case is different.
@@DandelionSpring96you’re prolly just a lil salty/sad.
@@DandelionSpring96 you don’t know if the rizq is there that’s why you put your trust in Allah and know that he is guiding you..think about like this ur single again now, but it might be because the person wasn’t good for you so Allah may bring someone BETTER to you tomorrow…Allah knows best
May Allah put Barakaah in your marriage ameen
Ameen
Yusuf is exactly like a big brother
بارك الله فيك
I am Christian but have been following you for a while, such a measured and detailed video. God bless you Yusuf
For anyone who wants to get married, enjoy your single days it’s not green on the other side, you guys watched way to many movies 🤣 Pray a lot , leave the rest to Allah because Allah is protecting you and guiding you. Have that trust and focus on yourself. Once you focus on yourself the right person will come around and you’ll be surprised. Pray Tahajjud off course too
Your thoughts on a persons past and what they are now & the time that has passed is so valid. It’s what I think too
Good to hear you.
I love your takes on marriage and what you talk about and I can attest this trying to convince a girl to change her ways is not working, I have been in a few relationships and trying to keep it halal and try to tell them or help them understand what they do is wrong ( No matter my approach is kind or strict) it just ends up with heated arguments or breakups.
Today many of us give up and personally finding a girl who is willing to go through the hardships and build something together in a halal way seem to be a hard mission for me.
May Allah ease up these situations for us and everyone who have been through similar things or worse❤
@@Manciteh999-n6i I wouldn’t generalise since Allah knows best, if we don’t encounter anyone, there will be in Jannah Inshallah. Side note retention, focus on Allah and our career is all we can do until someone crosses our path. May Allah give you beautiful spouse, provide for you and warm your heart brother❤️
I’m here to tell you as a Muslim women myself, there are lots of women out there who are great don’t let one screw the rest of us over🤣 Alhamdulillah I found the one, and I’m here to tell you that if you just focus on your prayers and Duas? You will get the one too
@@aj__love5919 Exactly, thank you sister and I hope your spouse give peace and comfort, may your life result in coming closer to Allah and be pleased with you and your future. I will never lose hope in finding my spouse. Much love❤️
I'm 15 years old, punctual with the deen and upholding my value as a growing and learning man, I know that my main priority now is too finish school but I'm socially awkward around women even though I've been raised with ladies without a father figure for my whole life 😂. (Not gay!)
I was also socially awkward at that age. I'm also not married so my opinion might not mean much, but life experiences will help you with being able to speak to people
Stop masturbating! Do something that ur proud of it will give u the confidence to talk to anyone. The reason for ur social awkwardness is that deep inside u know that u haven't done anything significant with ur life yet. Good time to start. Good Luck.
And I'm socially awkward around guys 😅
The consistency right now, back to back bangers.
Needed this for a long time. JazakAllah Akhi♥️
Was waiting to watch this after seeing your story❤
New follower 😊. Jazakumllahu khayran, May Allah continue to bless you and strengthen you.
Thank you Yusuf ❤
MashAllah ur a good role model for young men. May Allah bless you
Fire Vid bro, appreciate all of this advice!!
Thank you so much, may allah bless you.
i heard some violin sounds in the background, please try to avoid that if you can, jazakAllahu khayr, amazing video btw!
Chill
Lmaoo chill dude
one thousanth like. Alhamdulilah blessed to be here.
Kepp going, from 🇲🇦
i am from pakistan i am 11years old you are greatest man in a world take care of yourself allah will give you
jannat thankyou
I can’t lie, this video was necessary but hard to hear. I used to think I knew what I wanted and that I’d be a great spouse. Now I’m going through some hard times and realize that although I’m caring and tender, maybe I don’t yet have all the leadership qualities or even have a general outline of my future figured out anymore. I’m nearly 25, haven’t really been in a relationship, and currently feel this way. I’m sure Allah SWT is saving me from something harmful right now and will give me something better. Any advice brother?
@@fardeenmahmud8866 that’s kind of a harsh approach don’t you think? You don’t know my circumstances but I’ll have you know I’m an engineer with a degree. Please learn to not talk down on others because a time will come where each of us has to question where we are going in life, whether it’s self-reflective or forced upon us. Hence the “anymore” part.
@@moebro101Brother, you know what, I apologize.
You’re right, I don’t know your circumstances at all, nor do you know mine.
Actually, I’m just as frustrated as you are. And I’m only 22.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 It’s alright. May Allah make it easy for us both brother. May He guide us to what is best for us and replace any sadness that is in our hearts with happiness and true success with Him.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 it’s alright brother. May Allah make it easy for us both. May He guide us to what is best for us and replace any sadness with happiness and true success with Him.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 it’s alright. May Allah SWT guide us to what’s best and make things easy for us both brother.
If i wasnt a male with same sex attraction, getting married would actually be an option. But its a test from Allah just gotta pwoer through it everyone has ups and downs in life, i get ups and downs particularly with this struggle. If people could stop talking about marriage and homophobic jokes it would be a lot easier to fit in with guys and make life a whole lot easier
It is a test from Allah , remember the more you stay away from it the more you are getting rewarded. May Allah make it easy for you and give you strength to overcome your struggles.
@@Knowledge23199 Ameen JazakAllah Khair for the duas. May Allah bless you immensely
May allah make it easy for you❤ Stay strong, brother.
I have a question: I know sexuality can be controversial topic, but do you personally believe and hope that you could someday be attracted to a woman ? Or don't you ever see that happen ?
@@MuslimMessenger267 I know that Allah can change anything at anytime but at the same time I'm also aware that someone who is atrracted to thr oppositr gender can't suddenly be attracted to the same gender I think it works both ways as in someone with same sex atrraction can't suddenly be attracted to the opposite gender
@@alexanderwilson3096 hmm, but do want to ? Be eventually attracted to the opposite sex ?
Self management is indeed really important
luv ur vids bro
Assalamu Alaikum Yusuf.
Could you make a video on how to journal and plan your days/week in a flexible way.
JazakAllah.
Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah
I'm from India, I memorized the Quran at the age of 12 and now. I'm studying masters in UK,
However, I'm extremely stressed related to my career. What will happen in future. so many thoughts. I just keep praying and making duas 😭😭.
droped in the right time
Bro luv u I am a huge fan of ur
Great advice alhamdulillah.
Otherwise, it might be better if you remove the violin playing in the background
brother please put time stamps. nice video
Where is Sarah’s channel gone ?
Please enlighten me, Muslims of the internet.
I’m 19 y/o and I have been friends with a girl the same age as me for a few months. I have feelings for her. After a week when I realised my feelings for her, my best friend told me that she has had feelings for me ever since we met. Then, literally last week, I confessed to her and I told her that I want to marry her. She’s 100% okay with it. The thing is, we have never seen each other’s faces because we met online. BUT what am I worried about is am I going with the right approach considering we have never met in real life and my age?
I really want us to be in a halal relationship soon, but at the same time, am I going too fast with all of this?
Tell me if anyone who’s reading doesn’t understand something because I just wrote all of this because of my worries
Make istikhara .And the right way to do it is to call her father and talk to him ,then you guys can see each other Nd see if there is mutual acceptance.Keep making duaa Nd ask Allah to make it easy for you
@@alilichesoumia2821 The thing is, our place is really far away, so I can’t really reach her Father. She also mentioned that she doesn’t want to tell her family just yet because she’s currently studying at university. She planned to share everything when she’s on her semester break, which is in December. I’ve already told my parents about her, and they’re pretty supportive and gave me some advice.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. Insha Allah, I’ll do my best to make duas and do Istikhara.
Edit: sorry if i spammed your notifications because i sent this a couple of times but for some reason youtube deleted it
The thing is, our place is really far away, so I can’t really reach her Father. She also mentioned that she doesn’t want to tell her family just yet because she’s currently studying at university. She planned to share everything when she’s on her semester break, which is in December. I’ve already told my parents about her, and they’re pretty supportive and gave me some advice.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. Insha Allah, I’ll do my best to make duas and do Istikhara.
@@KaruiKagetsu Tell her to focus on her studies & don't talk to her all these times. Trust me, it can be the trap of saytan leading to zeenah (YES! Normal chitchatting with opposite gender can ruin your life like it ruined mine!!!). Tell her you won't talk to her until she lets her dad speak to you (If she says after her exam, she'll let her dad talk then good but you two cannot chitchat during this period). If she refuses & wants to continue to chitchat then BLOCK her & RUN! She just wants to play around, bro. Don't trust me? Just simply tell her you won't be talking to her till she brings her dad. See what see says.
7:21 assalamu aleyküm Akhi Yusuf just quick question when was your first day ?
I mean how old were you?
He was 22 when he got married he got married in 7th October 2023
Very informative video, jazakallah khair. But I have a concern to raise not regarding the marriage btw, but brother yusuf your hands have reddish spots 21:10 , is it fine? if there is some kind of skin problem (I might be very wrong) then may Allah cure you, ameen.
آمين
he has eczema and ameen
Me watching this at 16 😭💀
someone marry me
im a guy
@@72-bit Let's do it vro 🫡
I don’t think TH-cam comments is a place to look 😅
thanks for letting me borrow that Porsche that was in front of your mansion bro 🗿
but nah fr... time for💍if any God-fearing woman is down les' go 🗿
What do you think about using apps if you are living in a state with not a lot of Muslims?
Find niche ones that are more private. Stay away from the big ones where the masses go. Hard finding a spouse there
Wallahi❤
Hi Yusuf. R u malaysian ?
I dk i was hearing this from hall without hearphone and i am 18
4:39 Bro tf is that sound 🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️
There was a cleaning lady in the lobby, didn’t catch the that haha!
😂😂
So sad that the video ended 🤌🔥
guys is it only me that first noticed the scars on his arms? lol
I think its his eczema
Eczema
👍
hey man whats up w ur arms
Thank you for asking ❤ i had an eczema flare up the night before filming this. Hence my low tone and mood
kinda funny but I used to pray to get married to either you or a guy like you😭
This is such a weird comment to make.
@@nunyabussiness1055 I don’t see that, I didn’t say I’ve had weird fantasies about him, I said I ‘Prayed’ to get married to someone like him which means someone who’s on deen has his priorities set right.
Pls elaborate what do you exactly find weird about it weirdo
@@hafsamahboobansari3394let’s be clear, you said to get married to someone like him OR HIM. But I hope this example clears it up: if you were outside with your husband, and a random girl comes up and says she used to pray to marry him, would that be a conversation you’d like to have? 🙃
@@hafsamahboobansari3394 Btw that's my other account I accidentally responded with, point still stands.
@@Manciteh999-n6i bro wtf💀😭
🔴 Bro never talked about Gaza
This is strange!
He even got married on Oct 7th 😑
@@pearleunjoo5439 crazy
He did once torwards the start..
Don't recommend for someone who just got married a few years ago to give advice hahahahaha lol
Bro i really needed this, thanks Bhai. Love from Germany❤🙏🫶