Rule 1: Always ask your ISTP what they think about concrete things. Best for problem-solving, then they feel useful which feeds their pride. Rule 2: When the ISTP is showing you something: Pay extra attention. (It's important to them and you are important enough that they use their time on you to teach you.) Rule 3: Innocent with what they want. Do not take it away. Protect their freedom of choice. Rule 4: Accept your ISTP 100%. Rule 5: Out-research your ISTP because they will naturally notice if you did not think it through. Rule 6: Be confrontational when you need to be. Provide healthy challenge to the ISTP. Rule 7: Always provide sufficient warning to your ISTP. No clue about long-term consequences. Rule 8: Make sure that you share your values, principles and morals with them. So that they can take them in with their Fe Inferior. Rule 9: You want an emotional bond with an ISTP? Physical touch like hugs, holding hands feeds into rule 4 with the help of sensation. Rule 10: Being open to feedback helps them warming up to you quicker as they won't feel like they have to hold back (accept their Ti). Rule 11: Don't deny their physical touch in a bad way. It denies what they want (innocent Ni), kills their connection (Fe), makes them feel like they don't have an impact (Se) and brings them into their unconscious Si critic, Ne Trickster and Fi Demon. Not a great place to be. Rule 12: Shared activities like a board game night feeds into Se and Fe (rule 2 + 4) and gives them time to think about the game (Ti) while wanting to win (Ni). Rule 13: Don't ask them how they are or feel. They will either ignore the question or get slightly annoyed. Rule XX: When in doubt: Go back to Rule 4, all the other rules will not matter.
Rule 14: if you have a question, ask. I've nicknamed it, "fishing". When you ask questions to get a idea of how we are going to react to the real question you want to ask, or already have a idea and are trying to ask without asking. We can tell, and get annoyed by this because we could have already answered the question and moved on.
As a female ISTP I don't agree with the cheating, home wrecker or no values/poor morals. Always had a lot of honesty, integrity, a conscience, cared too much (and actually have learned to be less authentic to get along better with others
In my early 20’s I cheated on my partner. He was deployed and I was lonely and depressed and gradually fell in love with my married ESFJ boss, which led to the cheating. I didn’t think of long term consequences, I just wanted some joy and comfort. And I felt so bad about how hurtful that was to my partner and I decided that’s not the kind of person I want to be, so I never cheated again, and I won’t. I also try to be respectful of others’ relationships. The most I’m guilty of now is getting lost in-the-moment flirting, and I catch myself doing it and I scold myself for it. That happens when I’m in my subconscious.
This is why I don't listen to this dude. I've never cheated, would rather end a relationship if i found out he was married, I have exceptional morals, my conscience is higher than most people I know, am completely honest and try to protect others feelings unless they're being an absolute shit.
@@jkittz6372 I pity you. We just bulldoze people, and even if we're mature enough not to fight a lot, resentment builds up against people who we think are wrong and disagree with us because "smarmy know-it-all" attitudes tend to develop within us. "My way or the highway" is the ISTP motto.
I'm an ISTP, and I can confirm I do find ENTPs intriguing, you, and my friend... Like I don't understand how y'all can think of so many things at all the same time and say it out loud... In real time
@@fish6926 sorry, never saw this. Don't know if you still need this but- your outgoingness is already attractive to them, also being capable is pretty attractive. Don't be a wimp, not in the sense refusing to do something stupid (like a dumb dare), but more of being determined to take on a challenge that you must face. And don't be sensitive about minor things making them a big deal. And having good communication is attractive. (Hope this is helpful, it's hard because I'm a male ISTP so I find feminine things attractive, so I'm not exactly sure how it goes the other way around. But these should just be fundamental things that are attractive. I highly suggest you watch all of C S Josephs videos on ISTPs to get more insight about that.)
As an ISTP I wager the most important thing for most, if not all ISTPs, would probably be the Se parent demanding attention from another person. The ISTP is usually quite low maintenance, however when they need an attention fix, it's dire. (sorry in advance, this is gonna be a long post) In 99% of the cases ISTPs can be left to their own devices, to deal and tinker with all manner of things for however long is necessary; However, should they encounter an obstacle they cannot get over through their own efforts, they will require your aid. The reason for this is because they lead with Ti, and although their internal logic does often match up with the reality of the world, as they constantly reference it through Se, there may be a time where they hit a bump and cannot figure out why that is, leading to frustration -- This is the part where ISTPs "fierce independence", which is us going outside the tribe to tinker about and be free, comes back to bite us in the ass as we've reasoned ourselves to a completely unrealistic conclusion that nobody back in the tribe thinks is sane or feasible (Despite the internal logic making absolute sense, there are some outside factors we failed to take into account precisely because our only concern was our inner world and logic.)... And when that does happen, we'll feel entitled to your help because thus far we've been so good at handling everything on our own, and you owe us, for not leeching off of you up until this point. Reminds you a bit of an overgrown child pretending to be a grownup in a way, yeah? Kinda - ISTPs often tend to be just overgrown children with a front of maturity. And the reason for this is pretty simple, and was already covered in the video. It's our ego. - It's a blow to ISTP's ego to not be able to do something they've set their sights on, and in a rare occasion that they do require the help from the outside, any rejection will be seen as betrayal, and they'll be less likely to open up to you at a later point. Yes, it's overly dramatic, and yes, an ISTP in a bout of absolute hypocrisy will mercilessly mock any person for same or even lesser perceived over-dramatic behavior; But keep in mind, in case you're dealing with a particularly immature ISTP, they might not realize what they're doing, or how this comes off as hypocritical, and will only further lash out at you, should you press on the sore spot. They will misconstrue your attempt to help them understand their own shortcomings as an attack on their ego, and will not hesitate to drudge up all the times *you* were wrong, all the times *you*'ve come up short, where *you* were in a bad spot, and how they didn't for a second hesitate to help *you*. Mind the ego, especially in relation to our achievements - We're fragile that way. This also ties back into the video, the part where you "have to be observant" and pick your fights. You can always argue with an ISTP to get them to see your point, or even agree to it; I even think you should -- But you have to always appeal to their line of reasoning until they're mature - and as a result - empathetic enough to understand you (without you having to adjust to them). This is the aforementioned ISTP shortsightedness, and how it plays even into their own blind spots concerning themselves. ISTPs are very, very narrow thinkers. Very stubborn. Sorry once again for the long post, but I figure this might help people deal with my fellow ISTPs better.
First of all, I must say this post made my day and I was laughing with tears in my eyes because of the accuracy you described ISTPs. So thank you for that. Secondly, thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter and for caring enough to explain in detail all that you have said here. That is a rare sight from ISTPs and one I truly enjoy, to be able to see what goes inside a Ti brain, is really cool. 👏👏👏
"This is the part where ISTPs "fierce independence", which is us going outside the tribe to tinker about and be free, comes back to bite us in the ass as we've reasoned ourselves to a completely unrealistic conclusion that nobody back in the tribe thinks is sane or feasible" I could not understand this part < could you paraphrase it in a different way?
@@norsk7781 sure! It's a bit of a loaded sentence, so a longer explanation will do. ISTPs usually have a rather in-debth but narrow way of perceiving the world. When an ISTP gets fixated on something, they can act almost possessed at times -- Living, breathing, completely becoming the thing they do. This over-dedication usually results in mastery of certain subjects, however it also necessitates leaving their lagging peers behind (the "tribe" = friends, family) to pursue said mastery - Leading to *(a potentially lonely kind of)* independence. This also reflects their way of thinking - They think inside of "systems" - Compartmentalized sections of the real world, where they can interact with independent parts of the whole in order to achieve mastery within said fields. Basically, they will go down one line of logic, and completely think through all the ins and outs before even considering to dip out and interact with real world. This isn't necessarily an ISTP exclusive trait, but a leading Ti trait. For ISTPs that have become possessed by a certain line of logic, it can be quite difficult to re-adjust to the real world. This is the stubbornness mentioned in the video. They've reasoned themselves to a (potentially faulty) position that they know inside and out, and they are reluctant to change their mind. They will drift apart from other people (Which they need in order to establish touch with reality (via their Se/Fe)), whom they might need in order to discover the potential faults in their logic, and the longer they stay out of touch, the harder it will be to bring them back to earth. Think of ISTPs as creatures of habit. They've figured out a system/pattern that suits them best, and will stay inside it for better or for worse. If you wish to break them out of it, you will have to do a lot of heavy lifting, as ISTPs will show fierce resistance to such attempts (Though more mature ones are more flexible when switching systems, they'll still fall onto their old habits). The world will change before an ISTP does, and that's how they like it. Bonus: So why are ISTPs so awful at dealing with people? Part of it is because the Fe is last in the ISTPs stack, meaning it usually gets to shine or be utilized the least. Part of it is that each person is a whole system in and of itself, and to "master" the system you have to poke and prod around until you know what you're dealing with. A lot of people don't like this, especially since ISTPs often aren't going to voluntarily reciprocate the information they're seeking from others through this prodding.
Tough love will get someone on my shit list quick. Constructive criticism, fine. asserting dominance as you now know everything just removed me from the conversation, and it was for the best. Authoritarian behavior is not well tolerated.
My husband and I have been married for over twenty years. He is istp and I am intj. We get along very well. We run a business together and work together everyday. Our communication is straight forward and blunt but respectful. We both trust each other to make decisions and get things done. No mind games no emotional frills no drama. Very refreshing. We have a great marriage and family. He is my best friend, my protector my partner. We have deep intellectual conversations and also live in the real world daily.
As an ENFP partner of an ISTP, I have some encouragement for those of you in this pairing/considering being in this pairing. CS Joseph's tips on how to use my Ne in a helpful way with him are life-changing! I only wish I had watched this sooner (been listening to you voraciously for about a week now so hopefully my reflections are accurate)! Thankfully the other stuff comes naturally, such as eagerly hearing/asking his thoughts on everything (Te child so eager to learn!) and running all my thinking past him (as I think/process thoughts out loud) and affiliatively running any decisions that might affect him/important decisions past him. I will actually respond on how I gel with these rules for loving an ISTP (49) from the prespective of a female ENFP (35). Rule 1: Always ask your ISTP what they think about concrete things. Best for problem-solving, then they feel useful which feeds their pride. - I have demon SE and will probably come to him even to change a lightbulb! Thankfully I can do domestic duties, but I leave 100% of the handy stuff to him and we love it that way. Absolutely admire seeing him take a hammer to a nail, fix computers, drive a manual etc. - seems like magic! Rule 2: When the ISTP is showing you something: Pay extra attention. (It's important to them and you are important enough that they use their time on you to teach you.) - He's a private man and has been letting me see more and more of his physical and psychological self, which he says no one else knows, making me feel special *^^* I make it a point to bring up things he said to me here and there and 5 years ago too (thank you Si) - to show him I value and treasure his thoughts. ^_^ Rule 3: Innocent with what they want. Do not take it away. Protect their freedom of choice. - yes he definitely is child-like in his enthusiasm in expressing "I want this" and "want that" "now!" :) It's endearing, and sometimes annoying when I can see the bad consequences ahead, but thankfully his self-discipline is growing (as long as I don't pressure him, but just playfully remind him (with my Si) cause he forgets). Whatever he does (including duties) is because he WANTS to do them - "without second thought" and I love that about him! Sometimes he'll be stubborn with his "no" and I'll feel dissapointed (if I make it clear that it's REALLY important to me, thankfully he does accommodate!) but the hard "no" is worth it when that he's authentic and not doing things resentfully but because he cares and enjoys them. That lifts the guilt off me, and puts the responsibility to be considerate (charitable in reciprocally letting him have things his way too) and not overburden him (controls my ENFP depravity). Rule 4: Accept your ISTP 100%. - @19:30 Wow so true!! I started off judging my ISTP saying "why aren't you doing what others are in your church?" but later realised I was hurting him, tried hard to understand and when another church member asked "why hasn't he done this after all these years?" I came to his defense and explained a bit about his background and basically just said "you don't know him like I do". I told him this story and he straight away hugged me and I felt him melt as he said "I love you, Anna".😊 Rule 5: Out-research your ISTP because they will naturally notice if you did not think it through. - He has questioned my conclusions and turned down my suggestions despite me saying "I had previously done lots of research and 'experts all say'" but he kind of just starts thinking more like me by osmosis... some ideas he has accepted without being presented evidence such as diet affecting energy/mood (and things like personality types when I fast-talked him about it several times). Perhaps also because he keeps calling me intelligent, so I must have somehow earned a place in his "Not Stupid Zone" *^o^*. Will keep in mind to present research for other important changes he has yet to make (for all our futures' sakes!) Rule 6: Be confrontational when you need to be. Provide healthy challenge to the ISTP. - I find that being confrontational in a light-hearted way goes over well, but when all fails, like you said guilt works wonders - "I don't want you to go dying on us like my mother! What will we do without you?" Could explain why he can hear repeated messages in church to do something but then not do it - stubborness. "This is not me, I'm not ready, etc". On the other hand, he needs positive experiences (in something new) as well to change his mind so where possible I just like to encourage him to come along and naturally fall into giving things a try! Rule 7: Always provide sufficient warning to your ISTP. No clue about long-term consequences. - I actually used to ask him a lot "what would you do if...?" and to my surprise, it did annoy him. I just thought it's the responsible thing to do! When he has no past experience, he has no clue and that is mega-uncomfortable for me - not knowing what to expect! But I just piece together a pattern of his behaviours that are related to my future concern and extrapolate from there. Rule 8: Make sure that you share your values, principles and morals with them. So that they can take them in with their Fe Inferior. - I feel like a prude around a naughty child sometimes and have to inwardly roll my eyes and ask "whyyyy?" but at the same time, I myself haven't really well followed half the Bible (the ethical half, where we show consideration, tolerance, compassion, trust, overlooking flaws, humility and so forth) which he is so good at mildly suggesting for me to consider and makes me a more ethical human being. :) Rule 9: You want an emotional bond with an ISTP? Physical touch like hugs, holding hands feeds into rule 4 with the help of sensation. - A win-win since in the 8 rules for loving ENFP you mentioned how healing and grounding physical touch is to a speedy, flighty, in-their-head ENFPs. :)
Hearing this from a fellow ENTP was pure gold. I’m in a new relationship with an ISTP and as someone that has previously only dated intuitive types, it has been .. a unique experience. Thank you so much for your thorough, exemplary insight. This was exactly what I needed to bridge the gap between functions and reality.
ISTP female I like to help people,I will be glad to help them solve their problems. But there are sometimes that people ask stupid questions ( something deep down says "uh,If I could do it, why they act like they don't understand" but then I remind myself "people are different, I'm not perfect so maybe they're having hard time understanding this issue" so ) I try to help them. The problem is when they want me to help them but they don't want take their part understanding what the issue is. It's when I start to stupid zone them :) And avoid having interaction with them. It applies to all aspects of my life whether it's their personal issues or math problems or any other things.
@@D14MBK I believe that the ultimate fear of an ISTP is that the whole universe is one big lie and the only anchor are other fellow human beings. So if you lie to them you are removing that root of belief.
You are literally the best! Thank you GOD for you! I listen to all your material and this one I’m listening for my son. I appreciate you helping me to become a better parent than I can to my son and giving him the best chance that he can have because now I am aware. This lecture is so thorough and so great every little sentence you speak I am going to burn into my memory. I am FOREVER grateful. If I could give you everything I own it would be worth it for the exchange of this information. Thank you from the bottom of my soul. 🌙
My partner is the first ISTP and I only recently discovered his profile and now it all makes sense. This is literally the "highest maintenance" personality I have ever dated and I am totally burned out trying to bend over backwards to be even a mildly acceptable partner to them. It's exhausting. I'm out. It's just an incompatibility, nothing personal, I've told him for months he needs to find a more compatible person. I am an ENFJ and my emotional parts of my personality is crushed by this ISTP personality.
it's because ISTP and ENFJ are not compatible, not to say clashing because of the reverse order of their cognitive functions. Relationships between these two types need a heck lot of work because you speak 2 totally conflicting languages. As an ISTP, I have found that INTP fulfills and understands me the most because our languages are mostly the same due to having Ti hero and Fe inferior. And no, we ISTP are not high-maintenance AT ALL, if not to say we give too much and rarely ask for anything besides understanding, acceptance and affirmation. You think that ISTP are high-maintenance because you as an ENFJ are basically incompatible with us, or maybe your ISTP partner is immature.
WHEN C.S. is locked on-"HOT'- on a Roll or BOGGIE, time is not conducive to mission acquisition. These 2.3% ISTPs 'foxes' are job one priority 'radio active & glow in the dark!
Well, I do love my ISTP husband to be. We balance each other well. We use our functions completely different to work out "life" but we always end up with the exact same result. Except he uses his Ti and I use my Fi. He needs his space, I need my space. So we understand each other. And then we end up missing one another because we had too much space in between 🤣🤣🤣. So, it always works out. Never had a greatest attraction to another type (I'm INFP). I am also grateful my daughter is an ESTP, a similar type. Probably the reason why I do not mind ISTPs, because she is blunt and direct, as well. So, I dont take things too personally. PLUS, I love when I can go into ISTP mode. It just feels delicious. Doesnt happen to often though, but it has happened. Lol when I have been pushed to my limits.
CSJ: "Superego relationships dont work." Also CSJ: "Hopefully you're a Fi user... Hopefully you're an Ne user... You will need to use your Si to... Always Te for your ISTP..." I realize our brains are wired differently, but the amount of covering for each other's blind spots is extremely beneficial. I would love to hear your thoughts on why you don't recommend superego romantic relationships.
If you're an INFP, which it sounds like you are, please note that my favourite relationship of all is the superego relationship, as an ISTP. Chase also said in a recent video that the problem with the refinement relationship is both participants are seldom willing to do the personal growth required for it to work. I couldn't have dated an INFP when I was younger, they felt like too much trouble. It would have felt like a minefield. Now, I know how to bring them out of their shell and am versed in their inner workings.
@@RaffertyMBTI That makes sense. I can see that. My ISTP and I got married at 19. We were both humble enough to put in the work of not stepping on each others inferior functions though. 14 years later, I think we are both better for it though. I have a thicker skin (from dealing with Ti hero) and he is more empathetic and aware of his own feelings. He makes sure I don't die to Se trickster things, and I make sure he doesn't get scammed at the grocery store.
ISTP female, 20 Your ISTP videos are my favorite videos. I agree with what you said, especially with the "ISTPs' need to mirror a system that's better than their own". We really want to do that, since it's going to improve our lifestyle. I found my self sticking to some people in life literally because I wanted to adapt their style to my own. I did it as a child, as a teenager and I am still doing it at the age of 20. I have a crush on another ISTP and is mutual. I watched this video to be more conscious about my self but also when it comes to his needs, since he's also an ISTP and I am the female though. I can become quite an alfa if I don't trust and respect the other person as someone with quite a better system or with more practical knowledge than me. Yhea, I am guilty of than a lot of times.
the best mbti contents q q!! Could you please (please) do ENTJ and ISTP comparison in the future? especially when both of the types are 8w7, its so difficult to tell
Watching this, is like a slap why I grow closer and closer to this one INTJ friend. Because he basically possess most of the things that will keep me from throwing barriers at him. Shit.
I'm laughing so hard how true this is for me. I am also in a relationship with an estj man and i also listened to the golden pair, i was just laughing how you are narrating my life 🤣🤣🤣
The istp inserting their own standards on people is so true like my sibling says like why can't I just go out and try learning to drive and my mom when it wouldn't be good for her especially to try with how scared she is of it but in their mind they think they can so we should too
I don't relate to the action x intention stuff at all. For me it is very clear that action and intentions are 2 completely different things. I just think that people - myself in first place - should be to a certain extent responsible for they decisions and for the consequences of their actions. Well, I don't relate to a lot of the more extreme things that were said here, but I grew up with a very good value system, so I may be one of the lucky ones.
Chase! How’s intimacy between two Se users? It’s bad because both want to provide sensation to the other one, but can it somehow work for a while? How long can two people have that type of intimacy before wanting to stop seeing eachother for ever? Until they can’t stand anymore not seeing any answer or affirmation from the other, right? Two Si users intimacy seems to be way worse, maybe? Both expect to receive sensation but none of them receives it, or if they do, it’s minimal, and forced to be given
I'm INFP. Had an ISTP ex. It was very exhausting and it's like we were both talking to a wall most of the time. 😂 Bad breakup. I blocked him for years. But, later on we reconnected. Now we're good friends. I find that without the emotional demands of a romantic relationship, we are good help for each other and we bond better. We're both into arts and INFP and ISTP bonding over art is a cool experience.
It's the best out of the types with no perceiving compatibility , in this case the istp has to be the si user and let you perform for them in bed or outside , and the entj has to be the ne user and give the istp choices.with si critic the istp would start by giving loyalty to you anyway unless they are bad people but if you keep overburdening them with obligations their ni will feel trapped and they will leave . Also don't be too afraid of telling them that their choice is wrong just provide reasons why cause this will help grow their se parent , if they refuse then they are underdeveloped and it's your choice to stay or leave but also allow them to be silly with it sometimes cause it's an innocent child as long as they are not causing bad consequences.
I am neurodivergent and OCD im 17 and theyre saying that personality typing doesnt work is that true because part of my OCD is wanting to know what my type is and im obessed with it and I cant move on. I cant make plans for my future I cant hangout with my friends its becoming debilitating. Im in therapy but I just want to know what my personality type is.
Hey man if you’re serious about getting that OCD or whatever it is under control, you could try Mindfulness/Meditation. Nothing crazy just learning how to quiet your mind. I’m just saying because it worked for me.
If going to www.udja.app doesn't work, download the free type grid companion at csjoseph.life and work through that, you'll get your answer. Or if you're impatient you can always get a 15 min typing session.
Okay a tangent here but, I think that the bronze pair works so well because of the demonstrative critic in one is the aspiration in the other. So for ENFJ/ISTJ for example (taking from observation of my dad and his friendship, ISTJ Tyler the creator and ENFJ ASAP Rocky etc, which helped me understand this pairing) the critic function is demonstrative. I never understood what this looked like in an ENxJ but then I realized that Ne critic allows them to share their zany "what if" ideas which is fun for the ISTJ. Compare that to the 4th pairing (INFJ/ISTJ), the INFJ suppresses the Ne in preference to Se which is not as "fun" to the ISTJ...For INFJ it is ESTJ because of their demonstrative Se going to the gym and working out, looking good etc which is how the INFJ tries to be. The INFJ likes this as too sedentary when visiting trips Si demon and so happens at times when with suppressed Se types etc...So...you can apply this to all types - the ISTP is a Si demonstrative "hermit" which the ENFP enjoys or admires with Si aspirational (yeah, let's stay in and order pizza! is a possible example of this) and vice a versa. ENFP jokes around alot Fe demonstrative and ISTP likes that...Plus both enjoy nature. ISTP is like a John Denver type and ENFPs can be hippies themselves. ENFPs as NFs are readily observable as nature loving (NF temperament) but I forget sometimes that ISTPs are too (my ISTP childhood friend was a boy scout and still enjoys the mountains, they would both enjoy camping etc which might be a surprise from a distance but I now can see the possible compatibility of common interests)...
ehh, I'd say its Estps, enfjs, enfps and sometimes infps and intjs really, not istps. They just seem like they dont want to interfere n not want others to interfere in their life unless you have a strong bond.
Sigh ikr! ISTPs are subjectively (to me) high maintenance. That's why they are incompatible to me at least. What's high maintenance or low maintenance to one person isn't to another because everyone values different functions. What's easy for an INFP to handle is very different for what an ESTJ might find easy to handle.
We're not kings of the world. We're the best 2nds in command though. Leave king of the world to the ENTJ's. Our thinking rational brain likes to get things done without people bothering us. As 2nd in command we get to tinker all we want, but the king has to deal with all the people. If you want a functional and good military, get an ISTP as your Executive officer. The ENTJ makes the plans, but the ISTP figures out how they will work and working out the little bugs in the plan.
Rule 1: Always ask your ISTP what they think about concrete things. Best for problem-solving, then they feel useful which feeds their pride.
Rule 2: When the ISTP is showing you something: Pay extra attention. (It's important to them and you are important enough that they use their time on you to teach you.)
Rule 3: Innocent with what they want. Do not take it away. Protect their freedom of choice.
Rule 4: Accept your ISTP 100%.
Rule 5: Out-research your ISTP because they will naturally notice if you did not think it through.
Rule 6: Be confrontational when you need to be. Provide healthy challenge to the ISTP.
Rule 7: Always provide sufficient warning to your ISTP. No clue about long-term consequences.
Rule 8: Make sure that you share your values, principles and morals with them. So that they can take them in with their Fe Inferior.
Rule 9: You want an emotional bond with an ISTP? Physical touch like hugs, holding hands feeds into rule 4 with the help of sensation.
Rule 10: Being open to feedback helps them warming up to you quicker as they won't feel like they have to hold back (accept their Ti).
Rule 11: Don't deny their physical touch in a bad way. It denies what they want (innocent Ni), kills their connection (Fe), makes them feel like they don't have an impact (Se) and brings them into their unconscious Si critic, Ne Trickster and Fi Demon. Not a great place to be.
Rule 12: Shared activities like a board game night feeds into Se and Fe (rule 2 + 4) and gives them time to think about the game (Ti) while wanting to win (Ni).
Rule 13: Don't ask them how they are or feel. They will either ignore the question or get slightly annoyed.
Rule XX: When in doubt: Go back to Rule 4, all the other rules will not matter.
Amma screen shot this 😂.
Sent this to my sister in law to understand my brother.
Rule 14: if you have a question, ask. I've nicknamed it, "fishing". When you ask questions to get a idea of how we are going to react to the real question you want to ask, or already have a idea and are trying to ask without asking. We can tell, and get annoyed by this because we could have already answered the question and moved on.
Is rule 9 onwards in another video?
@@kene.2827 That's only rules I put as an addition. There's no video on it.
As a female ISTP I don't agree with the cheating, home wrecker or no values/poor morals. Always had a lot of honesty, integrity, a conscience, cared too much (and actually have learned to be less authentic to get along better with others
ISTP female, 20
That applies to me too. But in MBTI, females are anyway different from males, even if they are the same type.
In my early 20’s I cheated on my partner. He was deployed and I was lonely and depressed and gradually fell in love with my married ESFJ boss, which led to the cheating. I didn’t think of long term consequences, I just wanted some joy and comfort. And I felt so bad about how hurtful that was to my partner and I decided that’s not the kind of person I want to be, so I never cheated again, and I won’t. I also try to be respectful of others’ relationships. The most I’m guilty of now is getting lost in-the-moment flirting, and I catch myself doing it and I scold myself for it. That happens when I’m in my subconscious.
This is why I don't listen to this dude. I've never cheated, would rather end a relationship if i found out he was married, I have exceptional morals, my conscience is higher than most people I know, am completely honest and try to protect others feelings unless they're being an absolute shit.
I don't believe cheating is a problem with us. Commitment is far too important for us to risk what we have on a whim.
@@RM-ti8nf that is so true for me too , but I still know where he is coming from and I think it makes sense .
We're more trouble than we're worth a lot of the time. It takes a real masochist to hang in there with an ISTP.
This is EXACTLY what I just told my partner. He is an ISTP, and I literally just told him that I am just "not masochistic enough" for him.
@@jkittz6372 I pity you. We just bulldoze people, and even if we're mature enough not to fight a lot, resentment builds up against people who we think are wrong and disagree with us because "smarmy know-it-all" attitudes tend to develop within us. "My way or the highway" is the ISTP motto.
Thank God, I am a real masochist xD
I'm an ISTP, and I can confirm I do find ENTPs intriguing, you, and my friend... Like I don't understand how y'all can think of so many things at all the same time and say it out loud... In real time
I’ve crushed on 9/10 ENTPs. Not Kanye though. -ISTP
@MBTI Koi Fish that's cool
🤣 awesome
hi im an efnp having a crush on an istp, any tips on how to get her to like me?
@@fish6926 sorry, never saw this. Don't know if you still need this but- your outgoingness is already attractive to them, also being capable is pretty attractive. Don't be a wimp, not in the sense refusing to do something stupid (like a dumb dare), but more of being determined to take on a challenge that you must face. And don't be sensitive about minor things making them a big deal. And having good communication is attractive.
(Hope this is helpful, it's hard because I'm a male ISTP so I find feminine things attractive, so I'm not exactly sure how it goes the other way around. But these should just be fundamental things that are attractive. I highly suggest you watch all of C S Josephs videos on ISTPs to get more insight about that.)
As an ISTP I wager the most important thing for most, if not all ISTPs, would probably be the Se parent demanding attention from another person. The ISTP is usually quite low maintenance, however when they need an attention fix, it's dire. (sorry in advance, this is gonna be a long post)
In 99% of the cases ISTPs can be left to their own devices, to deal and tinker with all manner of things for however long is necessary; However, should they encounter an obstacle they cannot get over through their own efforts, they will require your aid. The reason for this is because they lead with Ti, and although their internal logic does often match up with the reality of the world, as they constantly reference it through Se, there may be a time where they hit a bump and cannot figure out why that is, leading to frustration -- This is the part where ISTPs "fierce independence", which is us going outside the tribe to tinker about and be free, comes back to bite us in the ass as we've reasoned ourselves to a completely unrealistic conclusion that nobody back in the tribe thinks is sane or feasible (Despite the internal logic making absolute sense, there are some outside factors we failed to take into account precisely because our only concern was our inner world and logic.)...
And when that does happen, we'll feel entitled to your help because thus far we've been so good at handling everything on our own, and you owe us, for not leeching off of you up until this point. Reminds you a bit of an overgrown child pretending to be a grownup in a way, yeah? Kinda - ISTPs often tend to be just overgrown children with a front of maturity. And the reason for this is pretty simple, and was already covered in the video. It's our ego. - It's a blow to ISTP's ego to not be able to do something they've set their sights on, and in a rare occasion that they do require the help from the outside, any rejection will be seen as betrayal, and they'll be less likely to open up to you at a later point. Yes, it's overly dramatic, and yes, an ISTP in a bout of absolute hypocrisy will mercilessly mock any person for same or even lesser perceived over-dramatic behavior; But keep in mind, in case you're dealing with a particularly immature ISTP, they might not realize what they're doing, or how this comes off as hypocritical, and will only further lash out at you, should you press on the sore spot. They will misconstrue your attempt to help them understand their own shortcomings as an attack on their ego, and will not hesitate to drudge up all the times *you* were wrong, all the times *you*'ve come up short, where *you* were in a bad spot, and how they didn't for a second hesitate to help *you*. Mind the ego, especially in relation to our achievements - We're fragile that way.
This also ties back into the video, the part where you "have to be observant" and pick your fights. You can always argue with an ISTP to get them to see your point, or even agree to it; I even think you should -- But you have to always appeal to their line of reasoning until they're mature - and as a result - empathetic enough to understand you (without you having to adjust to them). This is the aforementioned ISTP shortsightedness, and how it plays even into their own blind spots concerning themselves. ISTPs are very, very narrow thinkers. Very stubborn.
Sorry once again for the long post, but I figure this might help people deal with my fellow ISTPs better.
ISTP female, 20
I am here for the long comments about ISTPs.
I couldn't agree more with what you said above. ✌️
First of all, I must say this post made my day and I was laughing with tears in my eyes because of the accuracy you described ISTPs. So thank you for that. Secondly, thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter and for caring enough to explain in detail all that you have said here. That is a rare sight from ISTPs and one I truly enjoy, to be able to see what goes inside a Ti brain, is really cool. 👏👏👏
"This is the part where ISTPs "fierce independence", which is us going outside the tribe to tinker about and be free, comes back to bite us in the ass as we've reasoned ourselves to a completely unrealistic conclusion that nobody back in the tribe thinks is sane or feasible"
I could not understand this part < could you paraphrase it in a different way?
@@norsk7781 sure! It's a bit of a loaded sentence, so a longer explanation will do.
ISTPs usually have a rather in-debth but narrow way of perceiving the world. When an ISTP gets fixated on something, they can act almost possessed at times -- Living, breathing, completely becoming the thing they do. This over-dedication usually results in mastery of certain subjects, however it also necessitates leaving their lagging peers behind (the "tribe" = friends, family) to pursue said mastery - Leading to *(a potentially lonely kind of)* independence. This also reflects their way of thinking - They think inside of "systems" - Compartmentalized sections of the real world, where they can interact with independent parts of the whole in order to achieve mastery within said fields. Basically, they will go down one line of logic, and completely think through all the ins and outs before even considering to dip out and interact with real world. This isn't necessarily an ISTP exclusive trait, but a leading Ti trait.
For ISTPs that have become possessed by a certain line of logic, it can be quite difficult to re-adjust to the real world. This is the stubbornness mentioned in the video. They've reasoned themselves to a (potentially faulty) position that they know inside and out, and they are reluctant to change their mind. They will drift apart from other people (Which they need in order to establish touch with reality (via their Se/Fe)), whom they might need in order to discover the potential faults in their logic, and the longer they stay out of touch, the harder it will be to bring them back to earth.
Think of ISTPs as creatures of habit. They've figured out a system/pattern that suits them best, and will stay inside it for better or for worse. If you wish to break them out of it, you will have to do a lot of heavy lifting, as ISTPs will show fierce resistance to such attempts (Though more mature ones are more flexible when switching systems, they'll still fall onto their old habits). The world will change before an ISTP does, and that's how they like it.
Bonus: So why are ISTPs so awful at dealing with people? Part of it is because the Fe is last in the ISTPs stack, meaning it usually gets to shine or be utilized the least. Part of it is that each person is a whole system in and of itself, and to "master" the system you have to poke and prod around until you know what you're dealing with. A lot of people don't like this, especially since ISTPs often aren't going to voluntarily reciprocate the information they're seeking from others through this prodding.
@@TheNSJaws a great explanation!! thanks alot!!
So basically ISTPs are technical fun maximizers who need stern reminders that drug abuse turns into a net negative fun value in no time.
Yap
Tough love will get someone on my shit list quick. Constructive criticism, fine. asserting dominance as you now know everything just removed me from the conversation, and it was for the best. Authoritarian behavior is not well tolerated.
I need to stop skimming. Sorry misunderstanding.
most criminals are istps
My husband and I have been married for over twenty years. He is istp and I am intj. We get along very well. We run a business together and work together everyday. Our communication is straight forward and blunt but respectful. We both trust each other to make decisions and get things done. No mind games no emotional frills no drama. Very refreshing. We have a great marriage and family. He is my best friend, my protector my partner. We have deep intellectual conversations and also live in the real world daily.
One of you is mistyped
@@CSJoseph 😂
As an ENFP partner of an ISTP, I have some encouragement for those of you in this pairing/considering being in this pairing.
CS Joseph's tips on how to use my Ne in a helpful way with him are life-changing! I only wish I had watched this sooner (been listening to you voraciously for about a week now so hopefully my reflections are accurate)! Thankfully the other stuff comes naturally, such as eagerly hearing/asking his thoughts on everything (Te child so eager to learn!) and running all my thinking past him (as I think/process thoughts out loud) and affiliatively running any decisions that might affect him/important decisions past him. I will actually respond on how I gel with these rules for loving an ISTP (49) from the prespective of a female ENFP (35).
Rule 1: Always ask your ISTP what they think about concrete things. Best for problem-solving, then they feel useful which feeds their pride. - I have demon SE and will probably come to him even to change a lightbulb! Thankfully I can do domestic duties, but I leave 100% of the handy stuff to him and we love it that way. Absolutely admire seeing him take a hammer to a nail, fix computers, drive a manual etc. - seems like magic!
Rule 2: When the ISTP is showing you something: Pay extra attention. (It's important to them and you are important enough that they use their time on you to teach you.) - He's a private man and has been letting me see more and more of his physical and psychological self, which he says no one else knows, making me feel special *^^* I make it a point to bring up things he said to me here and there and 5 years ago too (thank you Si) - to show him I value and treasure his thoughts. ^_^
Rule 3: Innocent with what they want. Do not take it away. Protect their freedom of choice. - yes he definitely is child-like in his enthusiasm in expressing "I want this" and "want that" "now!" :) It's endearing, and sometimes annoying when I can see the bad consequences ahead, but thankfully his self-discipline is growing (as long as I don't pressure him, but just playfully remind him (with my Si) cause he forgets). Whatever he does (including duties) is because he WANTS to do them - "without second thought" and I love that about him! Sometimes he'll be stubborn with his "no" and I'll feel dissapointed (if I make it clear that it's REALLY important to me, thankfully he does accommodate!) but the hard "no" is worth it when that he's authentic and not doing things resentfully but because he cares and enjoys them. That lifts the guilt off me, and puts the responsibility to be considerate (charitable in reciprocally letting him have things his way too) and not overburden him (controls my ENFP depravity).
Rule 4: Accept your ISTP 100%. - @19:30 Wow so true!! I started off judging my ISTP saying "why aren't you doing what others are in your church?" but later realised I was hurting him, tried hard to understand and when another church member asked "why hasn't he done this after all these years?" I came to his defense and explained a bit about his background and basically just said "you don't know him like I do". I told him this story and he straight away hugged me and I felt him melt as he said "I love you, Anna".😊
Rule 5: Out-research your ISTP because they will naturally notice if you did not think it through. - He has questioned my conclusions and turned down my suggestions despite me saying "I had previously done lots of research and 'experts all say'" but he kind of just starts thinking more like me by osmosis... some ideas he has accepted without being presented evidence such as diet affecting energy/mood (and things like personality types when I fast-talked him about it several times). Perhaps also because he keeps calling me intelligent, so I must have somehow earned a place in his "Not Stupid Zone" *^o^*. Will keep in mind to present research for other important changes he has yet to make (for all our futures' sakes!)
Rule 6: Be confrontational when you need to be. Provide healthy challenge to the ISTP. - I find that being confrontational in a light-hearted way goes over well, but when all fails, like you said guilt works wonders - "I don't want you to go dying on us like my mother! What will we do without you?" Could explain why he can hear repeated messages in church to do something but then not do it - stubborness. "This is not me, I'm not ready, etc". On the other hand, he needs positive experiences (in something new) as well to change his mind so where possible I just like to encourage him to come along and naturally fall into giving things a try!
Rule 7: Always provide sufficient warning to your ISTP. No clue about long-term consequences. - I actually used to ask him a lot "what would you do if...?" and to my surprise, it did annoy him. I just thought it's the responsible thing to do! When he has no past experience, he has no clue and that is mega-uncomfortable for me - not knowing what to expect! But I just piece together a pattern of his behaviours that are related to my future concern and extrapolate from there.
Rule 8: Make sure that you share your values, principles and morals with them. So that they can take them in with their Fe Inferior. - I feel like a prude around a naughty child sometimes and have to inwardly roll my eyes and ask "whyyyy?" but at the same time, I myself haven't really well followed half the Bible (the ethical half, where we show consideration, tolerance, compassion, trust, overlooking flaws, humility and so forth) which he is so good at mildly suggesting for me to consider and makes me a more ethical human being. :)
Rule 9: You want an emotional bond with an ISTP? Physical touch like hugs, holding hands feeds into rule 4 with the help of sensation. - A win-win since in the 8 rules for loving ENFP you mentioned how healing and grounding physical touch is to a speedy, flighty, in-their-head ENFPs. :)
I wouldn't rub it in our face because we are extremely vindictive.. lol so if you do that, do it at your own risk
Hearing this from a fellow ENTP was pure gold. I’m in a new relationship with an ISTP and as someone that has previously only dated intuitive types, it has been .. a unique experience. Thank you so much for your thorough, exemplary insight. This was exactly what I needed to bridge the gap between functions and reality.
lmao nvm he broke up with me last night
it's because you prolly seem manipulative. to him. this is why istps (me) have a hard time in relationships with intuitives. especially infjs
@@EyeHeartSUSHIwhat?? 😂 I didn’t even say why we broke up or anything lol leave me alone
@@kgsdesign lol I said probably. I was just guessing hahahahahahahaha doesn't mean I think I'm right
ISTP female
I like to help people,I will be glad to help them solve their problems. But there are sometimes that people ask stupid questions ( something deep down says "uh,If I could do it, why they act like they don't understand" but then I remind myself "people are different, I'm not perfect so maybe they're having hard time understanding this issue" so ) I try to help them. The problem is when they want me to help them but they don't want take their part understanding what the issue is. It's when I start to stupid zone them :) And avoid having interaction with them.
It applies to all aspects of my life whether it's their personal issues or math problems or any other things.
And yet those stupid questions often prove later to not be stupid after all. Let’s not rush to judgment.
Istg I would not change being ISTP for the world. Our virtue and vice was so accurate.
If you lie to an ISTP you will loose a ton of respect points
Very true
true af
Pretty sure that goes to everyone.... Why would you trust a liar...... 🤦🏻♂️
@@D14MBK I believe that the ultimate fear of an ISTP is that the whole universe is one big lie and the only anchor are other fellow human beings. So if you lie to them you are removing that root of belief.
@@Kilakilic you can literally interpret so many ways of why lying would harm each of the types 🤦🏻♂️ you're trying to reach so hard bro
You are literally the best! Thank you GOD for you! I listen to all your material and this one I’m listening for my son. I appreciate you helping me to become a better parent than I can to my son and giving him the best chance that he can have because now I am aware. This lecture is so thorough and so great every little sentence you speak I am going to burn into my memory. I am FOREVER grateful. If I could give you everything I own it would be worth it for the exchange of this information. Thank you from the bottom of my soul. 🌙
Im an istp and i can't explain how i feel about the video, but thanks for making this video.
My partner is the first ISTP and I only recently discovered his profile and now it all makes sense. This is literally the "highest maintenance" personality I have ever dated and I am totally burned out trying to bend over backwards to be even a mildly acceptable partner to them. It's exhausting. I'm out. It's just an incompatibility, nothing personal, I've told him for months he needs to find a more compatible person. I am an ENFJ and my emotional parts of my personality is crushed by this ISTP personality.
it's because ISTP and ENFJ are not compatible, not to say clashing because of the reverse order of their cognitive functions. Relationships between these two types need a heck lot of work because you speak 2 totally conflicting languages. As an ISTP, I have found that INTP fulfills and understands me the most because our languages are mostly the same due to having Ti hero and Fe inferior. And no, we ISTP are not high-maintenance AT ALL, if not to say we give too much and rarely ask for anything besides understanding, acceptance and affirmation. You think that ISTP are high-maintenance because you as an ENFJ are basically incompatible with us, or maybe your ISTP partner is immature.
Didn't even see the video yet, liked , and excited. -ISTP
Same just siked that its here and I’m not even an ISTP
same lol
-infj
As did I, and ESTJ loving an ISTP
Same- ISTP
"Let's see if I can keep this lecture under 30 minutes"
Well... perhaps next time ;)
WHEN C.S. is locked on-"HOT'- on a Roll or BOGGIE, time is not conducive to mission acquisition. These 2.3% ISTPs 'foxes' are job one priority 'radio active & glow in the dark!
I'm so grateful to have a ISTP twin :')
I think there is no need to say it was 100% accurate as an ISTP.
I 100% agree- ISTP
I love my ISTP boss.
He’s my best boss ever by far.
oh what are you doing step boss
Well, I do love my ISTP husband to be. We balance each other well. We use our functions completely different to work out "life" but we always end up with the exact same result. Except he uses his Ti and I use my Fi. He needs his space, I need my space. So we understand each other. And then we end up missing one another because we had too much space in between 🤣🤣🤣. So, it always works out. Never had a greatest attraction to another type (I'm INFP). I am also grateful my daughter is an ESTP, a similar type. Probably the reason why I do not mind ISTPs, because she is blunt and direct, as well. So, I dont take things too personally. PLUS, I love when I can go into ISTP mode. It just feels delicious. Doesnt happen to often though, but it has happened. Lol when I have been pushed to my limits.
Damn, pretty spot on. I'm an ISTP male.
CSJ: "Superego relationships dont work."
Also CSJ: "Hopefully you're a Fi user... Hopefully you're an Ne user... You will need to use your Si to... Always Te for your ISTP..."
I realize our brains are wired differently, but the amount of covering for each other's blind spots is extremely beneficial. I would love to hear your thoughts on why you don't recommend superego romantic relationships.
If you're an INFP, which it sounds like you are, please note that my favourite relationship of all is the superego relationship, as an ISTP. Chase also said in a recent video that the problem with the refinement relationship is both participants are seldom willing to do the personal growth required for it to work. I couldn't have dated an INFP when I was younger, they felt like too much trouble. It would have felt like a minefield. Now, I know how to bring them out of their shell and am versed in their inner workings.
@@RaffertyMBTI That makes sense. I can see that. My ISTP and I got married at 19. We were both humble enough to put in the work of not stepping on each others inferior functions though. 14 years later, I think we are both better for it though. I have a thicker skin (from dealing with Ti hero) and he is more empathetic and aware of his own feelings. He makes sure I don't die to Se trickster things, and I make sure he doesn't get scammed at the grocery store.
“What a stupid program. Idiots!” 😆 I like that part. I really like your intro and outro.
ISTP female, 20
Your ISTP videos are my favorite videos. I agree with what you said, especially with the "ISTPs' need to mirror a system that's better than their own". We really want to do that, since it's going to improve our lifestyle. I found my self sticking to some people in life literally because I wanted to adapt their style to my own. I did it as a child, as a teenager and I am still doing it at the age of 20.
I have a crush on another ISTP and is mutual. I watched this video to be more conscious about my self but also when it comes to his needs, since he's also an ISTP and I am the female though.
I can become quite an alfa if I don't trust and respect the other person as someone with quite a better system or with more practical knowledge than me. Yhea, I am guilty of than a lot of times.
I honestly loved this comment and can relate.
Hey Ecaterina! Can you please help me understand my istp girlfriend better plz
Thank You
DITTO to the 33rd power. Spot on!
I’ve been waiting for this. Thank you!!! 🙏
the best mbti contents q q!!
Could you please (please) do ENTJ and ISTP comparison in the future? especially when both of the types are 8w7, its so difficult to tell
Watching this, is like a slap why I grow closer and closer to this one INTJ friend. Because he basically possess most of the things that will keep me from throwing barriers at him. Shit.
istj then
Nailed it!
I'm laughing so hard how true this is for me. I am also in a relationship with an estj man and i also listened to the golden pair, i was just laughing how you are narrating my life 🤣🤣🤣
Isn’t he awesome!
The istp inserting their own standards on people is so true like my sibling says like why can't I just go out and try learning to drive and my mom when it wouldn't be good for her especially to try with how scared she is of it but in their mind they think they can so we should too
"...nice stroll at night near the train tracks" kinda dark 🤔
34:10 that’s emotional damage right there
I don't relate to the action x intention stuff at all. For me it is very clear that action and intentions are 2 completely different things. I just think that people - myself in first place - should be to a certain extent responsible for they decisions and for the consequences of their actions.
Well, I don't relate to a lot of the more extreme things that were said here, but I grew up with a very good value system, so I may be one of the lucky ones.
Chase! How’s intimacy between two Se users? It’s bad because both want to provide sensation to the other one, but can it somehow work for a while? How long can two people have that type of intimacy before wanting to stop seeing eachother for ever? Until they can’t stand anymore not seeing any answer or affirmation from the other, right?
Two Si users intimacy seems to be way worse, maybe? Both expect to receive sensation but none of them receives it, or if they do, it’s minimal, and forced to be given
They just grow apart. Si users can hang in there longer but leads to long term abuse
I'm INFP. Had an ISTP ex. It was very exhausting and it's like we were both talking to a wall most of the time. 😂 Bad breakup. I blocked him for years. But, later on we reconnected. Now we're good friends. I find that without the emotional demands of a romantic relationship, we are good help for each other and we bond better. We're both into arts and INFP and ISTP bonding over art is a cool experience.
Very interesting. I might be an istp. My estj father/isfp mother drilled those values in for a long time. Maybe a bit too much...
How can I join the discord?
The links on other videos in his bio.
discord.gg/mPFY6B52KW
Cool about the failure proof relationship course ! 👍
08:14 if you want to see an example of this and want to see what will happen watch the video ( snoop dogg curses out interviewer )
This is young ISTP's.
I keep coming back for this ending, god , aah 😂
5:30 by pessimistic, you mean it requires less feedback, is less sensitive to criticism and tries harder?
Can a ENTJ (male) have a long term relationship with a ISTP (female)??
Anyone can have a relationship with any type with enough understanding and maturity.
It's the best out of the types with no perceiving compatibility , in this case the istp has to be the si user and let you perform for them in bed or outside , and the entj has to be the ne user and give the istp choices.with si critic the istp would start by giving loyalty to you anyway unless they are bad people but if you keep overburdening them with obligations their ni will feel trapped and they will leave . Also don't be too afraid of telling them that their choice is wrong just provide reasons why cause this will help grow their se parent , if they refuse then they are underdeveloped and it's your choice to stay or leave but also allow them to be silly with it sometimes cause it's an innocent child as long as they are not causing bad consequences.
Also he said before this video is already in the members area .
In case you already entered this relationship , can you tell me how it went , I am interested in a similar relationship.
I am neurodivergent and OCD im 17 and theyre saying that personality typing doesnt work is that true because part of my OCD is wanting to know what my type is and im obessed with it and I cant move on. I cant make plans for my future I cant hangout with my friends its becoming debilitating. Im in therapy but I just want to know what my personality type is.
Hey man if you’re serious about getting that OCD or whatever it is under control, you could try Mindfulness/Meditation. Nothing crazy just learning how to quiet your mind. I’m just saying because it worked for me.
If going to www.udja.app doesn't work, download the free type grid companion at csjoseph.life and work through that, you'll get your answer. Or if you're impatient you can always get a 15 min typing session.
I have wondered for years how my autism affects how I test in terms of typing, so you’re not alone.
If I am shadow focused can it make me more into what i should do or more aware of it , and not knowing what I want at times ?
a focus is a preference to use that side of the mind to solve problems, you still spend a vast majority of the time in your ego.
Si is sensitive to criticism? I thought it was built to take a beating?
Why is optimistic se cause some trouble for si inferior? Please explain I really want to understand and learn. Thank u
Overwhelming
Thank you so much 😊
You are handsome...
I feel like my crush seems to be an ISTP..
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Sh***. Now I understand why I don't feel my parents...
if an ENFP could dominate an ISTP so easily like that, why recommend the duo?
A depraved ENFP will do but a healthy one wont harm the ISTP or will maybe manipulate them for their own good
@@abrahiemdash7676 idk it just doesn't seem like a very equal relationship, even when the ISTP covers the ENFP's Ti blindspot.
Okay a tangent here but, I think that the bronze pair works so well because of the demonstrative critic in one is the aspiration in the other. So for ENFJ/ISTJ for example (taking from observation of my dad and his friendship, ISTJ Tyler the creator and ENFJ ASAP Rocky etc, which helped me understand this pairing) the critic function is demonstrative. I never understood what this looked like in an ENxJ but then I realized that Ne critic allows them to share their zany "what if" ideas which is fun for the ISTJ. Compare that to the 4th pairing (INFJ/ISTJ), the INFJ suppresses the Ne in preference to Se which is not as "fun" to the ISTJ...For INFJ it is ESTJ because of their demonstrative Se going to the gym and working out, looking good etc which is how the INFJ tries to be. The INFJ likes this as too sedentary when visiting trips Si demon and so happens at times when with suppressed Se types etc...So...you can apply this to all types - the ISTP is a Si demonstrative "hermit" which the ENFP enjoys or admires with Si aspirational (yeah, let's stay in and order pizza! is a possible example of this) and vice a versa. ENFP jokes around alot Fe demonstrative and ISTP likes that...Plus both enjoy nature. ISTP is like a John Denver type and ENFPs can be hippies themselves. ENFPs as NFs are readily observable as nature loving (NF temperament) but I forget sometimes that ISTPs are too (my ISTP childhood friend was a boy scout and still enjoys the mountains, they would both enjoy camping etc which might be a surprise from a distance but I now can see the possible compatibility of common interests)...
I feel the same about my bronze pair ESFPs but somehow the bronze pair relationships actually work
They can help them learn not to be manipulate by other enfp
If the pride sin is for istp what's for infj then ?
Lust
yea, that pride thing has hurt me quite a few times. I don't know why. For the most part it's earned.
It’s a sin for anyone, just easy for ISTP to fall into.
40ish minutes long...Not bad for a guesstimate...Guess your estimate for "under 30 min video" is getting better
lol the intention was there
Thank you!
GET IN THEIR FACE. Yes.
HOW TO SEDUCE ISTP'S PLEASE!!!!
So when I don't want to mirror the people around ne I go to my si demon?
For all templars, developing fi and si is gong to be the journey of a lifetime, finding better people to be around to mirror is a good step.
why most criminals are istps?
They are not 🤷♀️
Why are ENFJs the most Prideful?
both istps and enfjs have the pride deadly sin
ISTPs act like they are kings of the world lol
ehh, I'd say its Estps, enfjs, enfps and sometimes infps and intjs really, not istps. They just seem like they dont want to interfere n not want others to interfere in their life unless you have a strong bond.
Sigh ikr! ISTPs are subjectively (to me) high maintenance. That's why they are incompatible to me at least. What's high maintenance or low maintenance to one person isn't to another because everyone values different functions. What's easy for an INFP to handle is very different for what an ESTJ might find easy to handle.
No
@@malakashraf2801 that's what I'm sayin
We're not kings of the world. We're the best 2nds in command though. Leave king of the world to the ENTJ's. Our thinking rational brain likes to get things done without people bothering us. As 2nd in command we get to tinker all we want, but the king has to deal with all the people. If you want a functional and good military, get an ISTP as your Executive officer. The ENTJ makes the plans, but the ISTP figures out how they will work and working out the little bugs in the plan.
I don't think this is relevant to this type.
It is
it is, u might need to start listening to other people or verify ur type
oh lord are you that intj on qoara that talks shit about istps all the time? look you are just not compatible, move on.