Another thing to add on the marriage aspect is that lot of couples don't even get married, they just live together and make their lives together without getting married.
Same in The Netherlands. I personally really like this culture because it creates much less pressure and expectations of each other as the husband or the wife
The thing in Europe is, that once you're an adult you'd never really ask your parents if you're allowed to go on a trip, you'd just do it - and like the girl said, you'd tell them who you go with, just so they know. It's polite to inform them, but as long as you can afford it, parents can't "forbid" their child to go on a trip with their girl/boyfriend. Same with living together. When I moved in with my boyfriend in my mid-twenties, I just told my parents that I was going to do it. No need to ask for permission.
Shooot you try telling a Southern Louisiana mom that your just “informing” her you’re going to move in with a bf and watch how quick that switch will still come out 😂 I had to give my mom 6 months to get used to me leaving for my 1st trip overseas solo, I was 24 and she still kinda got mad. It’s a different kinda parenting, different culture.
Im from Poland and when i graduated highschool at 18 I just moved with my bf from France to Warsaw and I also just informed my parents they didnt seem to care too much haha 😁
Totally true. In Europe, when you're an adult, you don't feel on the need to ask permission to your parents to do something. You just inform them, they don't mold your decisions. :) Greetings from Spain
Asking a parent's permission once you become an adult is really silly... that being said, being a respectful child and telling them where you're going and when you'll be back - calling them if plans change - in order to help them not worry should still be a thing regardless of how old you are. No matter how old you get, you are still their kid, so respect them and they will respect your freedom.
I do not know how it is in Spain but in Argentina we have a lot of distrust and insecurity (some not all) teens do not want to meet the parents (depending on the matter) in fact they take their liberty too much they tend to be irresponsible and can end up in very strong situations . Yes, it is true that you must be respectful with your parents, but there are people who do not care.In Argentina, it happens that many boys between 13 14 15 and onwards secretly leave their parents and go to other people's houses without warning since they feel that the They are pressing the issue a lot is that that person does not know or does not care where he is because he feels that he is in a safe place. I'm not saying that you have to watch them constantly but we are also concerned about what may happen to them. it is assumed that as an adult you learned from the consequences and mistakes but there are people who do not care and do not change.
Parents are parents... We asians love parents more than anything and we would love to live with our parents till our last breath... Asians are best in this
In most Asian country, children live alone only when they go for a study purpose or becz of job... In countries like Nepal and India, Girls live without parents is only after getting married..
I love the spanish girl she talks so well and is so nice and open about everthing. The guy is more extroverted but also nice they match them well to have this conversation!
YEah, really the new generation!! I am a baby-boomer and when I was a kid Spaniards were very well known for being prude, it was the Franco's days. Now with tourism, and all the liberalization it's very different from the old days, it was as such in Latin America but things are changing with the new generations as well. I guess the Catholic culture still prevails concerning respect to parents, ideas about divorce, abortion and this respect feelings towards family. By the way divorce in Spain was approved in 1981, let me tell you that I was a college student back then , so it's only normal that your parent's generation still has some of these ideas. Not to mention your grandparent's attitudes concerning this.
I live in Italy and I choose to speak frankly and freely with my stepdaughter about sex and all the precautions to have since she was young, when she asked me about where babies come from and since we have great communication from the start, she felt comfortable enough to ask me to take her to the gyno when she decided she was ready to start having a sex life. It wasn't easy for me, but I felt it was for the best. Am a very reserved person but as a parent I want what's best for her even if is difficult for me to talk about it
@@jeremiahdanielsamuel2505 and? The age of consent in Italy is 14, her boyfriend was 16 too, and most importantly, she deserves to have full autonomy of her body and decides what's right for her. Either way that was years ago, she is a great woman that makes me proud of her.
I am a spanish living in Korea too but I dont know why now I find a little disrespectful people kissing in street or touching butt in front of everyone 🙈 I think I am kinda conservative hahha or I got used to Korea very fast 😅🤣 I enjoyed watching the video 💕 they both did very well 👏🏻👏🏻☺
A mi personalmente no me molesta demasiado si se trata de una pareja que no conozco, pero si la conozco me molesta un poco, especialmente porque estoy delante y me hace sentir un poco de sujetavelas cuando en realidad lo que quiero es hablar y practicar mis habilidades sociales, y no sentir que no estoy aportando nada
I think this could be good and bad at the same time. It's good in western countries that people can express their affection in public without hiding it, but also sometimes they exaggerate and could cause embarrassing situations for others around. On the other hand, Asians don't do it and it might feel a bit cold-hearted, but they are also very respectful and it's true that all that does not have to be done and showed on the streets, they can show affection at home
You don't have to be conservative or label yourself as one to think right. No one disrespects their parents and say they aren't conservative. You're either someone who thinks rationally or you don't.
I used to be quite against couples living together before marriage when I was younger because of being culturally conservative, but as I've grown older and lived on my own I've realized that it's quite logical to live with your significant other, get to know their habits, and judge for yourself if you can really spend your life with that person.
@@joanthemadxxxxxx1832 you do realize there’s no point of that right? Most guys just want to have seggs not cause they want to settle. And what are you talking about getting to know? If thats the case, then why 70% westernized people end up divorced? In asian countries, divorce is not even heard of… They don’t do unmarried couple living together and still make it work how?!
@@iwasher9218 If a man wants to invest with you in a house and put down half of his money, he definitely doesn't want just sex with you. Are you stupid?
Living together before marriage should be a must... it's the only way you'll find out each other's random bad habits and if you can tolerate each other. Going into marriage without this knowledge is a setup for failure.
Would be a fun idea and I’d agree. But God says “No” not too, cause would be hard not to have sex before marriage if living together. Abstain b4 marriage. So gotta go with the rules God has set my best interest at heart. Marriage is about working thru these things as well. 25yrs married both virgins on wedding day nor did we live together before. Not meant to be a bed of roses but when God is at the center of ur relationship you can tell. He makes a way when some days there doesn’t look like one. Marriage Is WORK. Prayer is key and it works.
Omg his reaction cracks me up. His eyes almost pop out when she talks about PDA and ppl actually doing it in public. I'd love to have a conversation with him just to see his reactions. 🤭
I think the problem with Spain is that despite being more outspoken about sex, it's become a normalized thing to do before dating and one night stand culture has settled a lot so it's difficult to find stable relationships
You are quite wrong. Are you Spanish? I don't think so. In Spain don't exist "one night stand culture", this is not exist like a culture. Of course in all countries there are people that like have sex even without be a couple but it isn't established culture. We aren't Americans, you forget that detail
@@Mariajbh2 oh spain is allready gone very corrupted in the last 20 years. I blame the tourists influence on the spanish population. Within 10 years spain youth will do one night stands left right and center. The corruption is a rave into the gutter. And almost no marriages lasts with such modern view of intimacy. It becomes hrd to consider intimacy as something very deep special bond with your spouse... if you habe slept around with over 30 other guys also. Spain have gone onto the same payh of selfdestruction as most western countries. They just have to do 10-20 years of catchup.
@@ruben7937 go take a plane to the Vatican and live there surrounded by purity. Having a healthy sexual life has nothing to do with corruption. You honestly sound like a taliban.
All the answers from the Spanish girl, are almost the same as here in the Netherlands. I do think we are even a bit more open about sexual things and touching etc. 🙃 I like it tho:)
@Bob el Silencioso Have you been to the Netherlands? Especially Amsterdam. I don’t wanna brag but I just think that we are even a bit more open. But if you think that’s not possible, that’s also okay. 😉
@Bob el Silencioso I’ve been a couple of times to Spain before and I follow a youtuber from Spain. So I think I have a bit an idea about it. Plus the information from this girl in the video. Just the fact that we are the first country that accepted gay marriage, says a lot tho☺️ But it’s not a competition. Those are just my thoughts. 🤗
@@fleurhubers7039 I love the Netherlands and Amsterdam. But being more open than Spaniards in Europe, it's quite difficult, if not impossible. Love both countries tho.
@Bob el Silencioso Btw, I see you added something to your last comment. Although the Netherlands is small, our percentage of immigrants is a lot higher than Spain. So we have a lot of different cultures here. So I don’t get the point about bringing up that Spain is bigger and more diverse. What is the connection between my main comment and those statements?
It depends on where you are from. My country says rock, scissors, paper, the US says rock paper scissors, and Australia I think says scissors paper rock.
I loved their conversation with each other. It reminds me of my childhood where my mom would talk to us in Spanish and we responded in English. Looks funny from the outsiders point a view. Thankfully I didn’t lose my ability to speak Spanish. I didn’t appreciate it when I was young but it’s been a blessing. I see the same thing with most immigrant families.
ok, I’m not sure to call it Korean or Spanish culture cause to me it seems like ASIAN and WESTERN culture. Cause I’m not Korean but I can relate. In asia, u HAVE to respect ur elders. We first need to know their age so we don’t call them by there names. I call any girl who is older than me “Apu” and any guy older than me “bhia”.
I remember when I got here(Im Latina), even I used to call my teachers 'teacher', however all of them told me, don't call me that, just call me by my name. In Spain, it isn't a lack of respect, but it is a symbol of closeness, it is more often uncomfortable if you treat them of formal way
Me ha gustado mucho lo único que veo mal que haya sido en ingles hasta los subtitulos cuando se habla de España y no tienes opción a ponerlos en español
Teenagers have hormones going nuts... that's why they want it so much. Adults usually have more stable hormones, so desire is a bit different... usually it will start out pretty hot and heavy, but as the relationship progresses that fire burns out and it becomes more about who you are as people rather than wanting to be intimate all the time.
And with adulthood come more life responsibilities like work, stress, etc. You have much more on your table to think about and esp recent pandemic years,when you can lose your job its even more stressful
I think I had less sex when I was teenager then as an adult. It also depends on how long and the intensity. Sometimes I have 2, 3 of 4 times sex a week for a about 1 to 1,5 hour per 'session'. Sometimes only 1 time but it could be 3 or 4 hours. Sometimes no sex for a while. You just need the time and stamina really.
I disagree. I feel like it just depends on the person. Once I'm in a serious relationship with someone, I could do it everyday. The more times the merrier lol I'm a woman, btw.
As a girl born in Spain she's absolutely right! I agree with everything she said and I feel like it's all true. I felt surprised about his reactions because for me most of the things are normal, even more now because the new teenagers (gen Z) we are like really open minded and even tho some of our parents still think about their parents mentality they are starting to become open minded and to understand their kids. I feel like a lot of korean people it's like closed in a cage only because the society it's still old and they have those "rules" that were stablished when their parents were young and I hope that changes and teenagers start to be their selves without being scared of what will people or their friends think. I hope Korea's society starts to change and they can be more free (sexuality/ gender/ clothes/ female rights/ couple things...) :)
A ver, no es nada malo si no evolucilonan en ese sentido. Si allí hay más intimidad y más cuidado hablando de parejas y de más, es como es y yasta. No es ni peor ni mejor.
@@elxxurii9470 Yo siento que deberían evolucionar. No sabes la de gente homosexual, trans o hasta las mismas mujeres, que se sienten oprimidos por la sociedad y no quiero imaginar lo mal que deben estar pasándolo, sin poder expresarsw como quieren o sin derechos básicos. Te doy unos ejemplos, el aborto no se aprobó en Corea del Sur hasta el 1 de enero de 2021, las parejas homosexuales no pueden casarse en el país, el Codigo Penal Militar consideraba las relaciones sexuales entre personas del mismo sexo como ACOSO SEXUAL y las prohibía castigándolas con un año de prisión. (Afortunadamente abolieron esta ley en 2011) Entiendo tu punto de vista, y tampoco pido que cambien su sociedad entera y la modernicen de golpe, pero hay cosas que son básicas.
How often you have sex is more determined by your partner more than age. If one person does all the work all the time, it can get tiresome, so you'd be reluctant to do it as often, especially if one has a job to get to the next morning. Also, while it's not publicly hidden as in the past, Koreans did have a lot of sex. There were cheap motels, dvd rooms, and no le bangs (karaokes are different than no le bangs as karaokes are pretty expensive) to name a few. There was a thing in Korea where most girls would say they were a virgin, but after they learned about the hymen breaking in sex ed, now many say that you are only the second person they had sex with.
Spain is so cool man .Being an Indian I can relate to Korea on such a high level .We are pretty much the same except for the sex part ..Many Indians have sex only after marriage ,its rare before marriage
I'd say India is a bit extreme, a lot of Koreans these days live together before marriage but its still rare for Indians to do so if they're not from big cities
@@SatoruGojo-k7b Its still rare, in the big cities it is getting a bit common, but in small cities and rural areas where majority of Indian population lives, its still extremely rare.
Sam batra dont know about where u from I'm from North here in small city it's common don't know about west and South there people don't do especially South except banglore
I love how the man loves Spain as much as I love Korea ( and Im Spanish 🤣) Me encanta como al chico le gusta tanto España como a mi me gusta Corea ( y eso que soy española) 🤣🤣
I am a French girl, and everything who the spanish girl is right in France too. My family is open mind, so we can talk about everything with my mom if we want. Also, my older brother bought an house with his gf and even had a baby girl who is born in 2021 but they are not married and they don't want get married. I asked to my Korean friend what he thought about living together before marriage, and he answered me the same. That it was easier to know each other more before getting married.
Que linda, pero siento que es una chica introvertida y tímida ❤ usualmente los españoles son extrovertidos (No generalizó), tengo varios amigos y suelen ser así 💕
No creas. Depende de la persona. Hay muchas personas extrovertidas pero también muchas introvertidas y tímidas. Lo que sí somos generalmente muy alegres
if your are an adult YOU NEED NO permission by your parents for living together with your b/gfriend etc. it is YOUR life. you need to be happy, you have to collect experience, doing mistakes are ok, learn from them. wake up korea!
You know it doesn't really work like that. Just because their conservative doesn't mean they aren't woke. It's their culture and whilst I agree they should loosen up a bit, its much more ideal for you to respect them and their culture
I think it's because it actually takes a while for the child to move out the house, some still live with their parents in their early twenties and late 20s so it's really up to the fact of whether or not the child is going to move out of the house get an apartment and then going to live with that person cuz you're previously living with your parents
So judgmental. Perhaps travel and befriend those from different cultures and see firsthand the many reasons why they choose to live the way they do. What works for you doesn't work for everyone and respect begets respect. You may begin to appreciate differences and recognize that those who choose a different opinion than you aren't necessarily less woke. In fact, part of being woke is understanding and respecting others.
In Korea, apartments/condos are HELLA expensive. Many adults will live with their parents even after college because it just isn't financially reasonable to try to rent your own apartment, especially in Seoul. In addition, there is the cultural/social pressure to respect your parents more and not just run away to do your own thing. The younger generations are becoming more similar to the global attitude, but there are still a lot of older folks around. You can't change an entire culture overnight. :)
I totally agree on living together first before getting married. My wife and I lived together for 10yrs, had 2 lovely kids, before we got married. Our daughter was the flower girl and our son was the ring bearer. 😍😍😍
I'm from Brazil and just yesterday when I was returning from work, I saw a couple in their forties kissing each other in front of the entrance to the condominium where I live, with a lot of people passing through. For me I got embarrassed for them but they don't really care at all and the people around seemed not to care too.
I literally choked on my food when Donghi said , " I mean what Koreans care is that they mostly need a room. " I was like daaaaaaaaaamn this honest? Donghi I was about to die.🤣
From what I have seen in Korean dramas, adults have to have their parents permission to do just about everything. I fact most marriages are arranged by the parents. Some are even forced to marry whom their parents select for them.
but muslim cannot living together before married.....sometimes la some of people kinda regret after married....example like...that guy is hot tempered...that woman dont know how to cook....some dont like kids...hate each other hobbies...is like two faces before married...sometimes la i hear around me...me ? enjoy myself...hohoho
Ok first of all no. It’s actually ASIAN culture. In asia, being intamite or dating is/was not allowed before marriage. You HAVE to respect ur elders for example calling them Bhi a or bhabi or maybe didi. So yeah. Btw, I’m not Indian I just know all these stuff cause I’m also a south Asian. In my country we also eat Korean/ East Asian food. We mostly eat a lot of sin, sushi, cabbage, kimchi, veggies. We also have a lots of boba stores. People think that my country is apart of India when it’s really not. But I do love Bollywood
Being a brown and an Asian person, our parents don’t have the “talk” with us 😂 so we r usually shocked. We also don’t see couples being so intamite on streets cause the elderly people will mind 😂
My daughter is 18 and I used to talk with her about sex for years now, first theoretically then about practice as well..It is normal between us. And I hope it will stay this way.She has to make her own expirences, but i will surely answer if she asks for advice!
Lame question, nobody has the time to have sex 4 times a day, neither in the most passionate country in Europe. Depends on the couple. And most of adult couples are busy.
It really depends, I have some friends that they do it as much as she say and other friends once per week, it’s a different case per each couple within my friends
I confirm when I was 18 and at the beginning of the relationship, I did it like 3 times per day during the first months. For some context, I am French.
I have a different opinion about cohabitation, especially since psychologist have proven that relationships don't usually last if this is the given situation. You can never truly know someone even if you live with them for a couple of months, or even years. That's the great part of marriage you always learn something new about your partner. It's interesting that she said if you don't live with someone to see how they are, because you need to know how they live then most likely people will get the divorced, however that's quite the opposite. Usually when people live together they find out certain small trates about a person that they find annoying and they are quick to break up, however married people don't divorce over such a small insignificant annoyances usually it's something much bigger that led to a divorce. Anyway maybe cohabitation works for her and perhaps she will have or already has a great marriage.
That's right, the whole point of cohabitation is the quick 'get out of it' clause ! When already married, you work hard to solve issues, not think about how fast you can pack your bags and leave the house.
Well a lot of couple they live together many years without marriage that didn't stop them from getting divorced ,that why i don't like living with my bf without marriage
Kind of interesting, but studies in the US actually showed that couples who did not live together before getting married had higher satisfaction in their marriages and longer marriages.
@@lauragoreni3020 doesn't seem worth what? Also, the question specifically was "living together before marriage?" -- implying marriage is the end goal of this specific question. I didn't give my opinion nor make suggestions. I simply shared that the belief "living together" before marriage positively affects marriage, does not seem to hold out in research.
Well, I imagine that this study will have been based on the society of USA. Although it may be the same in other societies, you also cannot give it as a fact because it is not the same culture. For example, there is a study that says that for a relationship to go well, you must introduce your partner to your parents after they have known you for 5 years. But it all depends on culture, society and Although it may be the same in other societies, you also cannot give it as a fact because it is not the same culture. For example, there is a study that says that for a relationship to go well, you must introduce your partner to your parents after you have known him/her for 5 years. It all depends on culture, society and research. I am not trying to take away its credibility with this. But it also does not have to be able to be applied in other cases
Dont you think it has more to do with couples that do that are more conservative and thus dont even contemplate divorce in the first place??? Seems pretty stupid the idea that if people dont live together thus dont know how it is to live with the other, and then marry and move together and find out the common living is hell it would lead to more divorce than couple that lived together enough to know each other and thus know they are suitated for marriage? Would love to see that study because it seems 100% unreliable and ilogic... I mean is common sense living together before marriage leads to a better marriage. Is not rock science...
I don't understand what's sooooo fascinating about living together before marriage or getting to know better after marriage? If you find your partner not compatible you break up with him/her anyway. And after marriage is the same issue just some paper work involved. Personally, I don't like Easterns trying to be more westernized mainly in this particular category...each eastern region has their own individual super awesome culture...in course of time I think we will all going to lose it and be a follower of one monoculture ....there will be no diversity.....it is not about the question of which culture is cool or more open or conservative...we must think a little differently...."how our youth is driven towards prioritising only the physicality of being an entire being of mind, body and soul?" most of the peole have no care in the world on working on the mind or spirituality nothing...but when due to all these stupid biology when someone falls victim to depression, anxiety and mental issues then we undertand and run for counselling, therapy and what not... Don't make biology the forefront of everything peeps. It's super shallow..it's an important part but it does not define neither openness nor rigidness....every culture has their own uniqueness...we must share one another's important adavancement for betterment.....we are no different than the animals who do everything out in the open...touching ass, doing things under the bridge are not at all cool for any culture per se...these are undignified shameless culture ...though we are also animals as well but we are different...we have intellect...."the worst that can happen to a human race is when there youth is deviated towards focusing on sexuality"
While living with a person you get to know their bad habits, their good habits, their way of living, without living with a person you'd truly never know them. This has absolutely nothing to do with the east or west and diversity isn't even relevant to this topic. Living together before marriage is just practical. Do you really think people just live together for sex? If you really think that then you obviously have a twisted mind and have no idea about reality. A lot of people live together because of a no. of practical reasons and also because its cheap. You're extremely narrow minded and have no sense of reality, but then again it seems like you're muslim and we can't expect much open mindedness from muslims.
I would like to see the divorce rate in Spain for those who live together before marriage. As old-fashioned as it sounds, couples who DON'T live together before marriage have a lower divorce rate.
All couples ( starting from my grandparents generation) in my family lived together before marriage and all have long lasting marriages and I come from Romania a country a little bit more old fashioned regarding relationship comparing whit Spain. 😄
That logic doesnt seem accurate. If they dont live together and then married, they would found things they hated about each other living together leading to higher divorce... while living together leads to know better your partner to know it works well and then step forward to the next step which is marriage. There is no basis to support your statemet of "couples who dont live together have a lower divorce rate"... there is literally 0 prove of that and its completely irrational and ilogical.. If you havent lived before together, you wont stand them and divorce quicker...
@@Alejojojo6 Stats say otherwise. I would think that they would be less inclined to divorce. He leaves the toilet seat up, she squeezes toothpaste from the top; the petty things.
The prophecy that prophet Muhammad Saw said 1400 years ago is become real. "Among the signs of the doomsday is the prevalence of alcohol and adultery".
@@sambatra6162 many people who insulted the prophet muhammad Saw ended up dying horribly hit by a truck, burning alive, suffering from deadly illness, so just be careful!!!
I actually do not think Korean and Spanish culture is that different these days at least in family life, at least where I come from. Kids are leaving their houses later these days because of economic pressure so even our dating lives are being affected by it lol I did not have the same freedom in dating as did my friends who had money and could afford to live alone and neither did my friends who also lived with their parents. In a way I feel I am living my 20s in my 30s lol Also I feel there is a sub-section of people who are tired of this one night stand culture that's been normalized and just chooses to stay single or simply wait it out until they meet the right person. I feel trying to have a stable relationship these days is so hard.
The reason to find out how a person is, so that you can be sure of what you getting before a commitment of marriage. 🤔 This theory doesn't make sense because the divorce rate is the highest in the west and Europe. And how many people do you need to live with before you find the perfect one 🤔. Marriage is not about happily ever afters. It is volitational love at its best. It is the best school of excepting someone with imperfections and above all it is made up of two Good forgivers. Cultures that have more conservative approaches to sex and marriages are the ones that are statistically stronger. 🤷♂️
But that says nothing about the quality of their marriages 😂 Divorce rates in the west used to be much lower, but during that time many people found themselves in loveless or just straight-up abusive marriages.
@madhur pandey not surprised to see an Indian saying this. You do realize that cultures that are conservative consider divorce as a taboo because of which a lot of people get stuck in loveless or even abusive marriages. Open your eyes and see the truth.
On a train in in Spain I saw a young couple french kissing and touching everywhere 🤭 In Northern Europe that wouldn’t be so common in public. Southern Europeans are very emotional and show their feelings openly.
That's like saying, I must go to school before I actually decide to be a student there. You become a student then you decide whether you want to stay or move to another school.
I felt like Korean culture is kind of similar to Indian..I guess it's an Asian thing..like how parents react to couples goin for trips together,about sex relationships n stuff.But u won't find ppl kissing on the streets.I dont think it's legal by law and cops or bystanders will most likely object n insult u. Even if ppl hold hands n walk closely ppl stare u down like u r committing a crime.I find it kind of sad.Unless couples indulge in somethin obscene-kissing ,holding hands walking or sitting cosily shud be allowed n not looked down upon.
India is a bit extreme though, like you can't even hold hands with your partner or hug them while holding hands of your partner is very common in S. Korea
I think in Korea is depending of the person too, case by case. I kissed and hug my Korean boyfriend on the street and nobody looked at me bad. Of course is not so usually as in Spain but still is ok. Korea is changing ^^ fortunately
would have been worth hearing about how gay and lesbian relationships are in each country, and how they see that fitting or not fitting the "typical" way they see relationships.
In Spain it's very common and normalized. Homosexual marriage is legal. In South Korea, not that much, but I think it's getting better. Other Asian countries like Taiwan, Japan or Thailand are more open minded with homosexuality.
The ideas like "I want freedom"," parents and children should be like friends"" ," freedom of speech and expression"", "I am an adult I would do whatever I like " etc People are using those ideas everywhere all the time without bearing the responsibility for the outcome,and if you point out the mistakes you are not open minded,not giving freedom,too controlling.the ideas of decency, respect, family values are just totally ignored.
I'm a 33 y.o. adult and if i only get to have Sex 1 time in a week i would die of depression lol Sex is very important for latinas like myself, more for stress relief and its also healthy if doing it right
Another thing to add on the marriage aspect is that lot of couples don't even get married, they just live together and make their lives together without getting married.
I’m from Portugal and it’s the same. I even have cousins that have children and a partner but they’re not married.
Same in The Netherlands. I personally really like this culture because it creates much less pressure and expectations of each other as the husband or the wife
Same in Norway. Less and less people are getting married.
@@prikkeroglapper but that’s a good thing right?
@@bUtLUtu Yes, because people can choose what is right for them.
I wish they both talked in their native languages so they could fully express themselves
@@NoaPerona jajaj they mean that since he was talking in korean it would've been cool if she talked in spanish ^^
@@albarracinfdesz true! I read it wrong hahaha
Mam she talked in English the whole time lol
@@arielsmitg6719 so?
I think her knowledge of English is more than enough to express herself fully
The thing in Europe is, that once you're an adult you'd never really ask your parents if you're allowed to go on a trip, you'd just do it - and like the girl said, you'd tell them who you go with, just so they know. It's polite to inform them, but as long as you can afford it, parents can't "forbid" their child to go on a trip with their girl/boyfriend.
Same with living together. When I moved in with my boyfriend in my mid-twenties, I just told my parents that I was going to do it. No need to ask for permission.
Except my parents are strict despite me being 20. I'd say it depends on the family views but it is more permissive here.
Shooot you try telling a Southern Louisiana mom that your just “informing” her you’re going to move in with a bf and watch how quick that switch will still come out 😂 I had to give my mom 6 months to get used to me leaving for my 1st trip overseas solo, I was 24 and she still kinda got mad. It’s a different kinda parenting, different culture.
@@livymandonguilles It depends on the family and on the culture as well.Different countries different cultures, different rules.
Im from Poland and when i graduated highschool at 18 I just moved with my bf from France to Warsaw and I also just informed my parents they didnt seem to care too much haha 😁
Totally true. In Europe, when you're an adult, you don't feel on the need to ask permission to your parents to do something. You just inform them, they don't mold your decisions. :) Greetings from Spain
Asking a parent's permission once you become an adult is really silly... that being said, being a respectful child and telling them where you're going and when you'll be back - calling them if plans change - in order to help them not worry should still be a thing regardless of how old you are. No matter how old you get, you are still their kid, so respect them and they will respect your freedom.
I do not know how it is in Spain but in Argentina we have a lot of distrust and insecurity (some not all) teens do not want to meet the parents (depending on the matter) in fact they take their liberty too much they tend to be irresponsible and can end up in very strong situations . Yes, it is true that you must be respectful with your parents, but there are people who do not care.In Argentina, it happens that many boys between 13 14 15 and onwards secretly leave their parents and go to other people's houses without warning since they feel that the They are pressing the issue a lot is that that person does not know or does not care where he is because he feels that he is in a safe place. I'm not saying that you have to watch them constantly but we are also concerned about what may happen to them. it is assumed that as an adult you learned from the consequences and mistakes but there are people who do not care and do not change.
Parents are parents... We asians love parents more than anything and we would love to live with our parents till our last breath... Asians are best in this
@@lionking1978 Legit
In most Asian country, children live alone only when they go for a study purpose or becz of job... In countries like Nepal and India, Girls live without parents is only after getting married..
What if they don’t respect you and still treating you like a child but expect you to be an adult…. Shit is annoying
I love the spanish girl she talks so well and is so nice and open about everthing. The guy is more extroverted but also nice they match them well to have this conversation!
Oh she's brilliant. Articulate AND pretty
Very well said, Claudia!!! Thanks for representing our country!! (specially the new generations)
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YEah, really the new generation!! I am a baby-boomer and when I was a kid Spaniards were very well known for being prude, it was the Franco's days. Now with tourism, and all the liberalization it's very different from the old days, it was as such in Latin America but things are changing with the new generations as well. I guess the Catholic culture still prevails concerning respect to parents, ideas about divorce, abortion and this respect feelings towards family. By the way divorce in Spain was approved in 1981, let me tell you that I was a college student back then , so it's only normal that your parent's generation still has some of these ideas. Not to mention your grandparent's attitudes concerning this.
which man doesn't want sex daily?
I live in Italy and I choose to speak frankly and freely with my stepdaughter about sex and all the precautions to have since she was young, when she asked me about where babies come from and since we have great communication from the start, she felt comfortable enough to ask me to take her to the gyno when she decided she was ready to start having a sex life. It wasn't easy for me, but I felt it was for the best. Am a very reserved person but as a parent I want what's best for her even if is difficult for me to talk about it
Good job!
And how old was your stepdaughter when she decided she was ready
@@daebak7370 she was 16, if I recall correctly
@@vereperez4147 She's still minor dude!
@@jeremiahdanielsamuel2505 and? The age of consent in Italy is 14, her boyfriend was 16 too, and most importantly, she deserves to have full autonomy of her body and decides what's right for her. Either way that was years ago, she is a great woman that makes me proud of her.
I’m from Spain too and I’m completely agree in everything she said 👍🏼
por fin sale alguien español lo estaba esperando 😂😅
I am a spanish living in Korea too but I dont know why now I find a little disrespectful people kissing in street or touching butt in front of everyone 🙈 I think I am kinda conservative hahha or I got used to Korea very fast 😅🤣
I enjoyed watching the video 💕 they both did very well 👏🏻👏🏻☺
A mi personalmente no me molesta demasiado si se trata de una pareja que no conozco, pero si la conozco me molesta un poco, especialmente porque estoy delante y me hace sentir un poco de sujetavelas cuando en realidad lo que quiero es hablar y practicar mis habilidades sociales, y no sentir que no estoy aportando nada
I think this could be good and bad at the same time. It's good in western countries that people can express their affection in public without hiding it, but also sometimes they exaggerate and could cause embarrassing situations for others around. On the other hand, Asians don't do it and it might feel a bit cold-hearted, but they are also very respectful and it's true that all that does not have to be done and showed on the streets, they can show affection at home
I also think it's kind of inappropiate.
In the U.S. too I think most think kissing is something you should do in private. They say “Get a room!” Why would you make out in public anyway?
You don't have to be conservative or label yourself as one to think right.
No one disrespects their parents and say they aren't conservative. You're either someone who thinks rationally or you don't.
I used to be quite against couples living together before marriage when I was younger because of being culturally conservative, but as I've grown older and lived on my own I've realized that it's quite logical to live with your significant other, get to know their habits, and judge for yourself if you can really spend your life with that person.
You’re westernized
@@iwasher9218Can you imagine not knowing what it is like to live with the person with whom you are going to share a home? you avoid divorce
@@joanthemadxxxxxx1832 you do realize there’s no point of that right? Most guys just want to have seggs not cause they want to settle.
And what are you talking about getting to know? If thats the case, then why 70% westernized people end up divorced?
In asian countries, divorce is not even heard of… They don’t do unmarried couple living together and still make it work how?!
@@iwasher9218 If a man wants to invest with you in a house and put down half of his money, he definitely doesn't want just sex with you.
Are you stupid?
@@iwasher9218 Exactly!
Living together before marriage should be a must... it's the only way you'll find out each other's random bad habits and if you can tolerate each other. Going into marriage without this knowledge is a setup for failure.
Or hell of an experience if it worked out.
Would be a fun idea and I’d agree. But God says “No” not too, cause would be hard not to have sex before marriage if living together. Abstain b4 marriage. So gotta go with the rules God has set my best interest at heart. Marriage is about working thru these things as well. 25yrs married both virgins on wedding day nor did we live together before. Not meant to be a bed of roses but when God is at the center of ur relationship you can tell. He makes a way when some days there doesn’t look like one. Marriage Is WORK. Prayer is key and it works.
So let's pretend as if we as human beings can't change our bad habits. Got it.
@@summerladner180 there is also ppl who are not religious, like me.
@@summerladner180 not everyone believes in a god
Omg his reaction cracks me up. His eyes almost pop out when she talks about PDA and ppl actually doing it in public. I'd love to have a conversation with him just to see his reactions. 🤭
It's good to educate oneself about other cultures traditions. The last thing I want to do is offend anyone
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Donghee speaks so good!! He doesn't seen to be shy, and that's nice to see. Greetings from New York!!
I think the problem with Spain is that despite being more outspoken about sex, it's become a normalized thing to do before dating and one night stand culture has settled a lot so it's difficult to find stable relationships
Tal cual
How old a you...?
You are quite wrong. Are you Spanish? I don't think so. In Spain don't exist "one night stand culture", this is not exist like a culture. Of course in all countries there are people that like have sex even without be a couple but it isn't established culture. We aren't Americans, you forget that detail
@@Mariajbh2 oh spain is allready gone very corrupted in the last 20 years. I blame the tourists influence on the spanish population.
Within 10 years spain youth will do one night stands left right and center.
The corruption is a rave into the gutter.
And almost no marriages lasts with such modern view of intimacy. It becomes hrd to consider intimacy as something very deep special bond with your spouse... if you habe slept around with over 30 other guys also.
Spain have gone onto the same payh of selfdestruction as most western countries. They just have to do 10-20 years of catchup.
@@ruben7937 go take a plane to the Vatican and live there surrounded by purity. Having a healthy sexual life has nothing to do with corruption. You honestly sound like a taliban.
02:16 she actually said 'depending on the fire inside'. She's talking about libido, not astrology.
All the answers from the Spanish girl, are almost the same as here in the Netherlands. I do think we are even a bit more open about sexual things and touching etc. 🙃 I like it tho:)
@Bob el Silencioso Have you been to the Netherlands? Especially Amsterdam. I don’t wanna brag but I just think that we are even a bit more open. But if you think that’s not possible, that’s also okay. 😉
@Bob el Silencioso I’ve been a couple of times to Spain before and I follow a youtuber from Spain. So I think I have a bit an idea about it. Plus the information from this girl in the video. Just the fact that we are the first country that accepted gay marriage, says a lot tho☺️ But it’s not a competition. Those are just my thoughts. 🤗
@@fleurhubers7039 I love the Netherlands and Amsterdam. But being more open than Spaniards in Europe, it's quite difficult, if not impossible. Love both countries tho.
@Bob el Silencioso Btw, I see you added something to your last comment. Although the Netherlands is small, our percentage of immigrants is a lot higher than Spain. So we have a lot of different cultures here. So I don’t get the point about bringing up that Spain is bigger and more diverse. What is the connection between my main comment and those statements?
I would love to go to the Netherlands some day
is it normal to say rock, scissor, paper; i've always said rock, paper scissors 😅😅😅
No you're saying it right. It's rock paper scissors 🤣
It depends on where you are from. My country says rock, scissors, paper, the US says rock paper scissors, and Australia I think says scissors paper rock.
You're correct 🪨📄✂️
In Indonesia it's scissor, rock, paper (but in our language) xD
Hah amateurs it's rock scissor paper (lol it is a joke didn't mean to offend anyone)
I loved their conversation with each other. It reminds me of my childhood where my mom would talk to us in Spanish and we responded in English. Looks funny from the outsiders point a view. Thankfully I didn’t lose my ability to speak Spanish. I didn’t appreciate it when I was young but it’s been a blessing. I see the same thing with most immigrant families.
ok, I’m not sure to call it Korean or Spanish culture cause to me it seems like ASIAN and WESTERN culture. Cause I’m not Korean but I can relate. In asia, u HAVE to respect ur elders. We first need to know their age so we don’t call them by there names. I call any girl who is older than me “Apu” and any guy older than me “bhia”.
As an Asian American, anyone older we usually call uncle or auntie. Unless, someone doesn’t want to be called anything but their name.
I remember when I got here(Im Latina), even I used to call my teachers 'teacher', however all of them told me, don't call me that, just call me by my name.
In Spain, it isn't a lack of respect, but it is a symbol of closeness, it is more often uncomfortable if you treat them of formal way
Not western maybe European and North American because Latin America is the same as Asia in most of the things
I agree! I think it's an Asian thing I guess
Ya u r right. I'm from India and it's the same.
Finallyyyyy a not tiktok reaction video!!! so happy to see interesting content about cultural differences in daily life topics! thanks PdNim 😁
Me ha gustado mucho lo único que veo mal que haya sido en ingles hasta los subtitulos cuando se habla de España y no tienes opción a ponerlos en español
Spain 🇪🇸!! Representing! Love my culture even tho I’m mixed
@Michelle I think her other half is Italian she’s looks veryyy southern Italian
@@majesticman1852 actually half Comanche -Native American but thank you 😊
Teenagers have hormones going nuts... that's why they want it so much. Adults usually have more stable hormones, so desire is a bit different... usually it will start out pretty hot and heavy, but as the relationship progresses that fire burns out and it becomes more about who you are as people rather than wanting to be intimate all the time.
And with adulthood come more life responsibilities like work, stress, etc. You have much more on your table to think about and esp recent pandemic years,when you can lose your job its even more stressful
That is why men prefer younger women older women are not excited about anything
I think I had less sex when I was teenager then as an adult. It also depends on how long and the intensity. Sometimes I have 2, 3 of 4 times sex a week for a about 1 to 1,5 hour per 'session'. Sometimes only 1 time but it could be 3 or 4 hours. Sometimes no sex for a while. You just need the time and stamina really.
I disagree. I feel like it just depends on the person. Once I'm in a serious relationship with someone, I could do it everyday. The more times the merrier lol I'm a woman, btw.
As a girl born in Spain she's absolutely right! I agree with everything she said and I feel like it's all true. I felt surprised about his reactions because for me most of the things are normal, even more now because the new teenagers (gen Z) we are like really open minded and even tho some of our parents still think about their parents mentality they are starting to become open minded and to understand their kids. I feel like a lot of korean people it's like closed in a cage only because the society it's still old and they have those "rules" that were stablished when their parents were young and I hope that changes and teenagers start to be their selves without being scared of what will people or their friends think. I hope Korea's society starts to change and they can be more free (sexuality/ gender/ clothes/ female rights/ couple things...) :)
A ver, no es nada malo si no evolucilonan en ese sentido. Si allí hay más intimidad y más cuidado hablando de parejas y de más, es como es y yasta. No es ni peor ni mejor.
@@elxxurii9470 Yo siento que deberían evolucionar. No sabes la de gente homosexual, trans o hasta las mismas mujeres, que se sienten oprimidos por la sociedad y no quiero imaginar lo mal que deben estar pasándolo, sin poder expresarsw como quieren o sin derechos básicos. Te doy unos ejemplos, el aborto no se aprobó en Corea del Sur hasta el 1 de enero de 2021, las parejas homosexuales no pueden casarse en el país, el Codigo Penal Militar consideraba las relaciones sexuales entre personas del mismo sexo como ACOSO SEXUAL y las prohibía castigándolas con un año de prisión. (Afortunadamente abolieron esta ley en 2011) Entiendo tu punto de vista, y tampoco pido que cambien su sociedad entera y la modernicen de golpe, pero hay cosas que son básicas.
How often you have sex is more determined by your partner more than age. If one person does all the work all the time, it can get tiresome, so you'd be reluctant to do it as often, especially if one has a job to get to the next morning. Also, while it's not publicly hidden as in the past, Koreans did have a lot of sex. There were cheap motels, dvd rooms, and no le bangs (karaokes are different than no le bangs as karaokes are pretty expensive) to name a few. There was a thing in Korea where most girls would say they were a virgin, but after they learned about the hymen breaking in sex ed, now many say that you are only the second person they had sex with.
Ha ha ha...I've heard that a lot when I was young...not only in Korea.
Spain is so cool man .Being an Indian I can relate to Korea on such a high level .We are pretty much the same except for the sex part ..Many Indians have sex only after marriage ,its rare before marriage
Not rare these days new generation kid but rare in old times
I'd say India is a bit extreme, a lot of Koreans these days live together before marriage but its still rare for Indians to do so if they're not from big cities
@@SatoruGojo-k7b Its still rare, in the big cities it is getting a bit common, but in small cities and rural areas where majority of Indian population lives, its still extremely rare.
Sam batra dont know about where u from I'm from North here in small city it's common don't know about west and South there people don't do especially South except banglore
I love how the man loves Spain as much as I love Korea ( and Im Spanish 🤣)
Me encanta como al chico le gusta tanto España como a mi me gusta Corea ( y eso que soy española) 🤣🤣
This video can also represent the comparison between Asia and the West part of the world.
Between the irresponsible, immoral and liberal** people (mostly teenagers who haven't grown up yet) of the west and Asia.
@@zaczeen1121 🤡🤡
I am a French girl, and everything who the spanish girl is right in France too. My family is open mind, so we can talk about everything with my mom if we want.
Also, my older brother bought an house with his gf and even had a baby girl who is born in 2021 but they are not married and they don't want get married.
I asked to my Korean friend what he thought about living together before marriage, and he answered me the same. That it was easier to know each other more before getting married.
I've booked my flight to Spain after watching this video... Just for research purposes you know....
Yeah ... I have a 'friend' who's very much interested...:)
@@Ploiesti2001 I've got multiple friends 😂😂
@@DONNYLAI95 - lol...can't stop laughing....
Donghee is so talkative
What she said was ‘fire inside,’ not ‘fire sign’ 😂
2:15
In Spain even in high school we have this thing called "sex classes" where experts told us about how having a healthy sex life.
I think they do this in most countries tho
Spanish beauty
Que linda, pero siento que es una chica introvertida y tímida ❤ usualmente los españoles son extrovertidos (No generalizó), tengo varios amigos y suelen ser así 💕
No creas. Depende de la persona. Hay muchas personas extrovertidas pero también muchas introvertidas y tímidas. Lo que sí somos generalmente muy alegres
Until all Asia countries be open minded I hope
if your are an adult YOU NEED NO permission by your parents for living together with your b/gfriend etc. it is YOUR life. you need to be happy, you have to collect experience, doing mistakes are ok, learn from them. wake up korea!
So easy to say, but not so easy to do..
You know it doesn't really work like that. Just because their conservative doesn't mean they aren't woke. It's their culture and whilst I agree they should loosen up a bit, its much more ideal for you to respect them and their culture
I think it's because it actually takes a while for the child to move out the house, some still live with their parents in their early twenties and late 20s so it's really up to the fact of whether or not the child is going to move out of the house get an apartment and then going to live with that person cuz you're previously living with your parents
So judgmental. Perhaps travel and befriend those from different cultures and see firsthand the many reasons why they choose to live the way they do. What works for you doesn't work for everyone and respect begets respect. You may begin to appreciate differences and recognize that those who choose a different opinion than you aren't necessarily less woke. In fact, part of being woke is understanding and respecting others.
In Korea, apartments/condos are HELLA expensive. Many adults will live with their parents even after college because it just isn't financially reasonable to try to rent your own apartment, especially in Seoul. In addition, there is the cultural/social pressure to respect your parents more and not just run away to do your own thing.
The younger generations are becoming more similar to the global attitude, but there are still a lot of older folks around. You can't change an entire culture overnight. :)
I miss you claudia you are not in the new videos and I am about it.
I totally agree on living together first before getting married. My wife and I lived together for 10yrs, had 2 lovely kids, before we got married. Our daughter was the flower girl and our son was the ring bearer. 😍😍😍
I'm from Brazil and just yesterday when I was returning from work, I saw a couple in their forties kissing each other in front of the entrance to the condominium where I live, with a lot of people passing through. For me I got embarrassed for them but they don't really care at all and the people around seemed not to care too.
I literally choked on my food when Donghi said , " I mean what Koreans care is that they mostly need a room. "
I was like daaaaaaaaaamn this honest?
Donghi I was about to die.🤣
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From what I have seen in Korean dramas, adults have to have their parents permission to do just about everything. I fact most marriages are arranged by the parents. Some are even forced to marry whom their parents select for them.
5:58 I was drinkin water I almost chocked.
Uncle Roger??? He is Korean? J/k great video!
In Italy is same Spanish
I live in Dominican Republic and I even make sex jokes with my mom lol
I really like Donghee, he is so talkative!
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4 o 5 veces al día, que me lo expliquen a mí
but muslim cannot living together before married.....sometimes la some of people kinda regret after married....example like...that guy is hot tempered...that woman dont know how to cook....some dont like kids...hate each other hobbies...is like two faces before married...sometimes la i hear around me...me ? enjoy myself...hohoho
but this are not Korean and Muslim cultures compared hahahahha Is Korean and SPANISH cultures compared...
Why is woman not knowing how to cook is such a big issue?
Korean culture is nearly same as indians
Ok first of all no. It’s actually ASIAN culture. In asia, being intamite or dating is/was not allowed before marriage. You HAVE to respect ur elders for example calling them Bhi a or bhabi or maybe didi. So yeah. Btw, I’m not Indian I just know all these stuff cause I’m also a south Asian. In my country we also eat Korean/ East Asian food. We mostly eat a lot of sin, sushi, cabbage, kimchi, veggies. We also have a lots of boba stores. People think that my country is apart of India when it’s really not. But I do love Bollywood
Being a brown and an Asian person, our parents don’t have the “talk” with us 😂 so we r usually shocked. We also don’t see couples being so intamite on streets cause the elderly people will mind 😂
@@dilrubanazbin8881 where r u from?
@@dilrubanazbin8881 ? Bangladesh, just a guess
My daughter is 18 and I used to talk with her about sex for years now, first theoretically then about practice as well..It is normal between us.
And I hope it will stay this way.She has to make her own expirences, but i will surely answer if she asks for advice!
I am from Spain too☺️☺️
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@@masonpacheco4304 okay~
Lame question, nobody has the time to have sex 4 times a day, neither in the most passionate country in Europe. Depends on the couple. And most of adult couples are busy.
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Hahaha you should meet gay men
2-4a day? Was she joking?
X2 I think that she exaggerated 🤣🤣🤣🤣 because I’m from Spain and we aren’t of this form ,about teenagers hahahahaha is same like Korea,3 or 4 per week
It really depends, I have some friends that they do it as much as she say and other friends once per week, it’s a different case per each couple within my friends
I confirm when I was 18 and at the beginning of the relationship, I did it like 3 times per day during the first months. For some context, I am French.
En España al principio de una relación, si la pareja de verdad se atrae es muy común hacerlo como mínimo 2 veces al día.
She is not. Im spanish too and as a teen i was always in those numbers.
Im from Germany. I could always talking with my mother about sexuality
Yeah. Asia countries are conservative. My feel
So he thinks that people have sex in the forest or toilet in Spain ? WTF 🤣🤣🤣
Just give him 20 years, and he'll grow up not making such generalisation.
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Como chica española que soy,me gustó mucho,que chico coreano y chica española comenten sobre algunas hábitos en su país ✌🏻
Como que teenager 3-4 times a day? Que he estado haciendo todos estos años? He desperdiciado el tiempo? 🤣🤣
Teenagers don't have sex 3-4 times a day. Maybe young adults in University could achieve that goal.
@@santakosoundsystem7542 I'm a young adult in University and 3-4 times is what I get each semester lmao
I have a different opinion about cohabitation, especially since psychologist have proven that relationships don't usually last if this is the given situation. You can never truly know someone even if you live with them for a couple of months, or even years. That's the great part of marriage you always learn something new about your partner. It's interesting that she said if you don't live with someone to see how they are, because you need to know how they live then most likely people will get the divorced, however that's quite the opposite. Usually when people live together they find out certain small trates about a person that they find annoying and they are quick to break up, however married people don't divorce over such a small insignificant annoyances usually it's something much bigger that led to a divorce. Anyway maybe cohabitation works for her and perhaps she will have or already has a great marriage.
Yaa you're right
That's right, the whole point of cohabitation is the quick 'get out of it' clause ! When already married, you work hard to solve issues, not think about how fast you can pack your bags and leave the house.
This was a good segment. They were both respectful and honest.
It is prevalent in all asian countries..
Well a lot of couple they live together many years without marriage that didn't stop them from getting divorced ,that why i don't like living with my bf without marriage
That guy is so good at speaking
Kind of interesting, but studies in the US actually showed that couples who did not live together before getting married had higher satisfaction in their marriages and longer marriages.
Still, doesn't seem worth it. Also, lots of couples just don't care about getting married (myself included) sooooo
@@lauragoreni3020 doesn't seem worth what? Also, the question specifically was "living together before marriage?" -- implying marriage is the end goal of this specific question.
I didn't give my opinion nor make suggestions. I simply shared that the belief "living together" before marriage positively affects marriage, does not seem to hold out in research.
Well, I imagine that this study will have been based on the society of USA. Although it may be the same in other societies, you also cannot give it as a fact because it is not the same culture. For example, there is a study that says that for a relationship to go well, you must introduce your partner to your parents after they have known you for 5 years. But it all depends on culture, society and Although it may be the same in other societies, you also cannot give it as a fact because it is not the same culture. For example, there is a study that says that for a relationship to go well, you must introduce your partner to your parents after you have known him/her for 5 years. It all depends on culture, society and research.
I am not trying to take away its credibility with this. But it also does not have to be able to be applied in other cases
Dont you think it has more to do with couples that do that are more conservative and thus dont even contemplate divorce in the first place??? Seems pretty stupid the idea that if people dont live together thus dont know how it is to live with the other, and then marry and move together and find out the common living is hell it would lead to more divorce than couple that lived together enough to know each other and thus know they are suitated for marriage? Would love to see that study because it seems 100% unreliable and ilogic... I mean is common sense living together before marriage leads to a better marriage. Is not rock science...
@@asunitakamigame4656 true
I don't understand what's sooooo fascinating about living together before marriage or getting to know better after marriage? If you find your partner not compatible you break up with him/her anyway. And after marriage is the same issue just some paper work involved. Personally, I don't like Easterns trying to be more westernized mainly in this particular category...each eastern region has their own individual super awesome culture...in course of time I think we will all going to lose it and be a follower of one monoculture ....there will be no diversity.....it is not about the question of which culture is cool or more open or conservative...we must think a little differently...."how our youth is driven towards prioritising only the physicality of being an entire being of mind, body and soul?" most of the peole have no care in the world on working on the mind or spirituality nothing...but when due to all these stupid biology when someone falls victim to depression, anxiety and mental issues then we undertand and run for counselling, therapy and what not...
Don't make biology the forefront of everything peeps. It's super shallow..it's an important part but it does not define neither openness nor rigidness....every culture has their own uniqueness...we must share one another's important adavancement for betterment.....we are no different than the animals who do everything out in the open...touching ass, doing things under the bridge are not at all cool for any culture per se...these are undignified shameless culture ...though we are also animals as well but we are different...we have intellect...."the worst that can happen to a human race is when there youth is deviated towards focusing on sexuality"
While living with a person you get to know their bad habits, their good habits, their way of living, without living with a person you'd truly never know them. This has absolutely nothing to do with the east or west and diversity isn't even relevant to this topic. Living together before marriage is just practical. Do you really think people just live together for sex? If you really think that then you obviously have a twisted mind and have no idea about reality. A lot of people live together because of a no. of practical reasons and also because its cheap. You're extremely narrow minded and have no sense of reality, but then again it seems like you're muslim and we can't expect much open mindedness from muslims.
I would like to see the divorce rate in Spain for those who live together before marriage. As old-fashioned as it sounds, couples who DON'T live together before marriage have a lower divorce rate.
55.5 per 100 marriages
There are a lot of couples in spain who don’t get married tho
All couples ( starting from my grandparents generation) in my family lived together before marriage and all have long lasting marriages and I come from Romania a country a little bit more old fashioned regarding relationship comparing whit Spain. 😄
That logic doesnt seem accurate. If they dont live together and then married, they would found things they hated about each other living together leading to higher divorce... while living together leads to know better your partner to know it works well and then step forward to the next step which is marriage. There is no basis to support your statemet of "couples who dont live together have a lower divorce rate"... there is literally 0 prove of that and its completely irrational and ilogical.. If you havent lived before together, you wont stand them and divorce quicker...
@@Alejojojo6 Stats say otherwise. I would think that they would be less inclined to divorce. He leaves the toilet seat up, she squeezes toothpaste from the top; the petty things.
me laughing as a young turkish muslim woman that lives in Germany xD
The prophecy that prophet Muhammad Saw said 1400 years ago is become real. "Among the signs of the doomsday is the prevalence of alcohol and adultery".
@@pastelkentang1975 you mean pdf file momo?
@@sambatra6162 many people who insulted the prophet muhammad Saw ended up dying horribly hit by a truck, burning alive, suffering from deadly illness, so just be careful!!!
@@pastelkentang1975 SAW . THat ALLAH save us THE JUDGE DAY
I’m asexual and thought that having sex once a week would be a normal amount….2-4 times a DAY????? de verdad no sé nada fjsjdk
I actually do not think Korean and Spanish culture is that different these days at least in family life, at least where I come from. Kids are leaving their houses later these days because of economic pressure so even our dating lives are being affected by it lol I did not have the same freedom in dating as did my friends who had money and could afford to live alone and neither did my friends who also lived with their parents. In a way I feel I am living my 20s in my 30s lol
Also I feel there is a sub-section of people who are tired of this one night stand culture that's been normalized and just chooses to stay single or simply wait it out until they meet the right person. I feel trying to have a stable relationship these days is so hard.
True
How many times a day again?
Hahahaha
The reason to find out how a person is, so that you can be sure of what you getting before a commitment of marriage. 🤔
This theory doesn't make sense because the divorce rate is the highest in the west and Europe.
And how many people do you need to live with before you find the perfect one 🤔. Marriage is not about happily ever afters. It is volitational love at its best.
It is the best school of excepting someone with imperfections and above all it is made up of two Good forgivers.
Cultures that have more conservative approaches to sex and marriages are the ones that are statistically stronger. 🤷♂️
But that says nothing about the quality of their marriages 😂 Divorce rates in the west used to be much lower, but during that time many people found themselves in loveless or just straight-up abusive marriages.
@@mcheesey123 exactly!!
@madhur pandey not surprised to see an Indian saying this. You do realize that cultures that are conservative consider divorce as a taboo because of which a lot of people get stuck in loveless or even abusive marriages. Open your eyes and see the truth.
Last years divorce rate in Spain in skyup...Western divorce rate are totally high
one time in a week?!? That's like barely anything.
Thats a lie .dont believe it
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@@masonpacheco4304 I’m from Spain, what about you???
I bet the girl didn't understand a word he said and was waiting for the translator to fill in.
On a train in in Spain I saw a young couple french kissing and touching everywhere 🤭 In Northern Europe that wouldn’t be so common in public. Southern Europeans are very emotional and show their feelings openly.
Satan would be very proud too.
Now he thinks we are all having sex on the street in Europe…
How did they make these questions so boring?
Living together should be a must before marriage, in case you decide to marry...
That's like saying, I must go to school before I actually decide to be a student there.
You become a student then you decide whether you want to stay or move to another school.
@@zaczeen1121Can't understand you, engilsh is not my first lenguage.
@@asier7675
What's the point in marrying if you're already living together like a married couple?
@@zaczeen1121 You don't have to be married to be living together.
@@zaczeen1121 you're saying you wouldn't marry someone if you are already living together? Sorry but it doesn't make sense to me 🤨
¿Por qué el puede hablar en koreano y ella tiene que hablar en inglés?
it seems irrational to not live with someone before marriage
So no one is scared ?? Rock paper scissors 😂🙏🏻
I felt like Korean culture is kind of similar to Indian..I guess it's an Asian thing..like how parents react to couples goin for trips together,about sex relationships n stuff.But u won't find ppl kissing on the streets.I dont think it's legal by law and cops or bystanders will most likely object n insult u. Even if ppl hold hands n walk closely ppl stare u down like u r committing a crime.I find it kind of sad.Unless couples indulge in somethin obscene-kissing ,holding hands walking or sitting cosily shud be allowed n not looked down upon.
India is a bit extreme though, like you can't even hold hands with your partner or hug them while holding hands of your partner is very common in S. Korea
I think in Korea is depending of the person too, case by case. I kissed and hug my Korean boyfriend on the street and nobody looked at me bad. Of course is not so usually as in Spain but still is ok. Korea is changing ^^ fortunately
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Yeah, I actually saw a lot of couples in S. Korea indulging in pda and no one cared.
would have been worth hearing about how gay and lesbian relationships are in each country, and how they see that fitting or not fitting the "typical" way they see relationships.
In Spain it's very common and normalized. Homosexual marriage is legal. In South Korea, not that much, but I think it's getting better. Other Asian countries like Taiwan, Japan or Thailand are more open minded with homosexuality.
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I am thinking that How she understands korean😱
Oh wow, Mexico used to be like Korea not so far ago, now it is like Spain.
Oh they were conservative once?
Does she know Korean?
Qué tierno diciendo adiós 😂
Rock, paper, scissors, shoot
Arriba España
It would be better if they spoke majority of English
The ideas like
"I want freedom","
parents and children should be like friends""
," freedom of speech and expression"",
"I am an adult I would do whatever I like " etc
People are using those ideas everywhere all the time without bearing the responsibility for the outcome,and if you point out the mistakes you are not open minded,not giving freedom,too controlling.the ideas of decency, respect, family values are just totally ignored.
I'm a 33 y.o. adult and if i only get to have Sex 1 time in a week i would die of depression lol Sex is very important for latinas like myself, more for stress relief and its also healthy if doing it right
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@@masonpacheco4304first of all, where are u from?
@@carolcaceres8774 Chicago Illinois,,
What about you?🥰
@@masonpacheco4304 currently living in Dresden, Germany. What would u like to talk about ?
@@carolcaceres8774 would like to be friends,
Hope you're not mad at me?