Stay In your Place: Shanelle Chapman v Richard Swiney S24 E50
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ต.ค. 2022
- Shanelle is tired of being belittled by Richard. She’s wants to end things if he doesn’t change. Richard thinks Shanelle is cheating because she receives calls from other men.
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Him proposing like that was another control tactic. She just doesn't see it yet. Judge star is our fairy godmother ❤
Fairy Godmother in a fabulous pink suit.
Exactly
It’s honestly scary…. She is so blinded by him…
Girl bye he just proposed to you after all of what you just said about his feeling toward you and then you just smiled and accepted the ring well if you think you're was lonely before now just wait until you get home
This is how this nonsense starts. Little things that get overlooked and then years later, you're stuck in something you can't get out of freely or sadly alive in so many cases. This woman needs to wake up and quickly as it's not going to get any better.
I can’t believe she accepted that proposal. She’s in for a world of hurt. He’s the type of person to give her holy hell when she finally files for divorce.
He is willing to change, we have to believe in him.
Congratulations !!! 🎈
@@jacquibailey7460 Comments like yours are exactly why so many women are out here miserable. You don't believe in what someone says; believe in what they do. Anyone can say they're willing to change. You shouldn't just blindly believe them. People can say anything. x-D We need women to stop teaching other women to "believe in" people instead of learning who they are from their actions.
@@jacquibailey7460 everyone needs a second chance ❤
@@ambzcloud Preach on!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Lady please 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♀️ now now!!!!!!!!!!
That ring was a control tactic. He knows she ain’t going anywhere with a few words and a ring. He didn’t listen to anything the judge was telling him. She’s gonna regret that immediately.
exactly !!! thats a shut up ring !!
@@peacefaith560 Facts! It was so obvious
Exactly he’s emotionally abusive to her. You can tell by her stance that’s she uncomfortable around him. That is a classic narc move. I feel bad for her smh. Hopefully she doesn’t marry him until he shows long term change.
Facts!
I KNEW HE WAS GONNA PROPOSE...TO TRAP HER IN.
Same thing I said. Pretty soon she won't have a friend or a life...just like he wants it.
Not only he proposed to her, it was tacky & so many red flags 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩that he proposed to her in a D.C room & she ignored it.🤦🏾♀️
Yep I said the same thing. I think she probably had a rough past he knows that. She met him knowing she needs him and now he wants to trap her.
Man he done messed his self up! She dense and slow. He gone have to deal with that the rest of his life. He should've let her gone go do her.... She can't even explain anything or convey points. She just came to get sympathy from the other silly unwed bitter chicks....
This is the definition of "having me out here looking stupid." Millions of people now get to witness this embarrassing proposal and now she'll have to live with the fact that she said yes on live TV. If he had any respect for you, he would have waited. If she had any respect for herself, she would have said no.
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I completely agree
Exactly 💯💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I didn't expect her to say yes to him just after reading what she wrote down. I am still in shock 😳 he will make a terrible husband that's for sure!
Hopefully she see herself on TV first
She Needs To Run & Don’t Look Back.. He’s Controlling & I Don’t See This Situation Being Any Better. She Don’t Need To Be With Him If She’s Feeling Like That. Smh
Exactly a relationship should not make you feel terrible about yourself
Exactly and I never could understand why women always feel a ring will change a narcissistic person . She feel like she doesn’t have a voice in the relationship but 10mins on national tv going change him strupes
I agree fully.
Yes
@@anneagena8236I want to be with her she could least told him that before she started moving on to somebody else
He told her to shut up infront of his family and then talked crazy to her infront of her friends. This is what happens and when a female "want to be married no matter what". Smh
Most control freaks do this because they want to alienate you from the people that know, love and support you. It was strategic on his part to make the environment so toxic her friends and family won't want to be around him, hence they won't be around her. Him belittling her in front of others is his way to tighten the screw of keeping her "in her place" and afraid to have a voice so he retains all the control. Lord, I hope she doesn't marry him...cause it's going to get worse.
Exactly
They need to do a follow up on this couple in one year. She shouldn't marry him. He's abusive and controlling.
A marriage title is more important than your happiness? My stomach hurts
Mine too girl 🤦🏾♀️
I hate it for her she seems like a good person
For most black women, it is unfortunately.
Hes abusive, period. Nothing warrants him telling her to shut up and not speak unless spoken to. He treats her like a dog. A possession. Not a person that deserves respect and decency. He couldn't even handle Judge Star saying he was acting on Insecurities after he tried to justify how he behaves with his little story of suspecting she's cheating. I doubt she is. She's scared of him. He's trying to crush her.
I agree. She described him as harsh not direct. Harsh means he don't give af how she feels when he expresses himself. He tries to make her feel bad bc he knows she's too good for him. It's ashamed she don't see it. Smh
Yeah I don’t see how Judge didn’t see this for the abusive situation it is and he is. He didn’t pull the wool over my eyes, Smh
Yeh he will slowly destroy her if she doesn’t run now. I was in a relationship with my baby mama now and she was full on narcissist who slowly day by day destroyed me to the point of nervous breakdown. I’m not saying this for sympathy but to let yall know I’ve been there i know how it feels. It’s taken 5 years and I’m just about healed from the narcissistic abuse from her. We now co parent and it’s near enough impossible. She makes everything so difficult communicating etc and still tries to use her narcissistic ways of getting me wound up but now I just laugh in my head and don’t react and that’s the secret cos when you don’t react you don’t give them any energy and they hate it. This girl needs run as fast as she can away from this narc.
@@JamesThomas-pv5en wishing you the best James.
Typical narcissistic toxic behavior
The way they walked out the courtroom and him tucking his lady blazer and laying his head around her had all the makings of a Tyler Perry movie with an abusive husband starring Blair Underwood LMAO
😂😂😂😂 I thought I was the only one that noticed his womanly figure, tits and all with the feminine clothes to go with it. The fact he can act the way he does while looking the way he does is really upsetting me.
@@MyMyTyTy Bwahahahahahahahahahahah girllllllllllll!!!!!Your last line has me flattttttt lolololol. It really is upsetting lolol
Not Blair the ultimate horrible husband 🤣🤣
😂😂😂
@@18QueenHearts9
He flashed that ring to shut her up and buy time. Lil dude is very insecure and he not will change his narcissistic ways for her, bcus she's too weak to hold him accountable.
Exactly!!!!!! He is monster
Can’t believe Judge didn’t see this why would she approve of this🤦🏾♀️ I’m worried for the little girl♥️🙏🏾
yup..thats a shut up ring lol
The fact that he couldn't answer the question DIRECTLY is alarming! Judge Star asked him what he can do to actionably accommodate her needs & he avoids the question completely by presenting a grand gesture. I hope she runs for the hills.
He didn't answer cause he has NO PLANS to change. That young lady should run like FloJo.
I totally agree 👍 with you sis...she definitely needs to leave him alone he's not going to change...I hope she realizes it
@@essencejackson8123 right? Hopefully before he knock her up too.
@@SassShea Especially BEFORE that! She'll really be trapped with a child...that's a lifelong relationship then.
That was stupid. She looks like an idiot.
When she told him he was “Harsh” his eyes got to flickering..he was twirling that ring around, trying to keep that rage contained..rocking back and forth..quickly adjusting his sweater and then pretending to fix her hair..he really wanted to hit her 🤦🏾♀️ He’s weak and can’t take criticism. She’s needy and in danger and don’t know it 😭
Yes! I also picked up on that body language. It was really uncomfortable
and what's with the long Auntie sweater anyway?.... there are a lot of problems here.... imho....
She's in extreme danger. I hope that she's ok.
Watching her accept his proposal was so hard to stomach😢
I cried....I've been through an abusive relationship that started out just like that and I felt her pain all over again. I wish she would get out now!!
@@velettadaviswilliams5517 I hope she’s reading these comments 😢
@@encyclopaedia641exactly
Proposing to someone on divorce court is the type of stunt you pull when you're desperate and out of options. It's controlling because to say no would be humiliating for him and mean the end of their relationship (possibly) and I don't think she would do him like that. This man is going to continue to make her feel voiceless because that's all he's done throughout the show.
This one right here....mirrors my last relationship and I know exactly how she feels. During that relationship, my ex broke me down to the point I was too afraid or intimidated to stand up for myself (but I still did although I was in fear and yes, it become abusive (mentally, emotionally and physically). I was absolutely miserable. That relationship has changed me in a sense...but now that's behind me, I've regained my strength once again. I hope this beautiful sista finds her worth before it's too late....
Same sis, same
Sis…I don’t get what these men get out of breaking women down 😢
Keep your head. Sis I was in the same position. I stop telling my ex my plans til the day of, bc he was negative and jealous about me hanging out with my family, friends etc. Oh another thing I started doing what he is do. Don't tell me til the day of. He my ex now so I don't I have to deal with that anymore
Saaaame. You described my marriage to a raggedy ass man, thank God I am divorced.
@@janayh2817 Control is a powerful drug.
She's so blinded by his manipulation...it's so sad 😞
Girl why? How can you be in a relationship, but not speak
Worst proposal ever
In a D.C room at that!! I bet you that ring he put on her left finger is so fake that he got it out of a cracker-jack box.
@@quielaivory9104or a bubble gum machine
Prime example of control & emotional manipulation.
He’s an abuser
She didn't need to take that bait, he is not going to change, controlling
Narcissist cannot change
Exactly. He wants a Stepford wife and he has broken her.
Women are conditioned to want to be wives smh. He’s horrible
At 3:30 when she told the story about him saying “Nobody is talking to you.” In front of his family I would gone all the way off. He would have to get his ish and get the hell out and take all of his family members with him. I would have packed his stuff and left it on the curb. That would have been our very last interaction ever in life!
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This! Because Ain't that much love in the world!
On everything!!! I agree. Not over here but see he KNEW he could day that and she wouldn't respond standing up for herself in that moment
PERIODT!!!!!
Judge Star is on point shining like a Star. She is on point with her clothes make up and advice. She is good
This man said, “She has to say yes” 🤦🏽♀️ and then she says “YES” twice. I pray that she finds herself and she starts to love herself more so she won’t need validation from anyone.
“Stop looking in the rear view, you’re not going that way”
Observe his behavior for 6-12 months and then, if he shows a positive change, then you accept the ring. Come on, girl!
That's what I'm saying
Im shocked she said yes after reading part of her journal and feeling like her voice dont matter....Ladies we have to want better for ourselves..a ring aint gonna change nothing...
Exactly! Anyone can promise you anything, like what’s the rush for marriage 🤦🏾♀️
She's nuts! With all those complaints and disrespect she still said yes????
Poor baby girl. I feel so bad for her. If your engagement begins in divorce court take that as a sign. I was screaming ABUSIVE NARCISSIST the whole episode so when Judge Star said it, boyyyyy was I happy. I hope she finds happiness sooner rather than later. I hope her heart heals. What a beautiful young woman she is, inside and out.
I used Be in this kind of relationship and I used to write a journal to because it was the only way I could write my feelings now I know it’s because I was voiceless and in a narcissist relationship I am now free and married with a wonderful husband and I’m so glad I was able to get out.
He is definitely a narcissist. I pray she gets out.
I went through the same thing!!! Narcs are a piece of work!! SO happy for you that you got out!!! I got out toooo and I’m so happy!!!!!
Same for me!!!
I’m really enjoying Judge Star. She’s fitting in just fine
Nah she was shit on this one. Judge Lynn(the one with some sense) woulda stopped that proposal bullshit instantly. Starr has no spine
He looks DISGUSTED that she has the nerve to keep a journal. I bet he will look for it and read it from now on. 😐 This isn’t healthy.
Yep. My ex husband found my journal and hid it from me.
She just signed up for slavery. I bet he's one of those manosphere dudes
The second he said she should speak when spoken to, I was done
He “secretly” hates her. He competes with her & he wants to bring her down, so he can feel secure. He will not be better after marriage. I hope she begins to value her self worth more than being validated & then immediately demeaned by him.
Exactly he does not like nor love her and it’s obvious. The second he would’ve told me to shut up that would have been the last time I saw that cardigan🙄. Ooh he made me so mad. I just pray she opens her eyes and leave.
He does not like her...he seems intimated by her and looking to bring her down mentally...he has shown you who he is ...believe him 😢
He most likly has secrets.
Wow, after all of that, not once did he apologize which speaks volumes. This didn't start good and it won't end well. So sad.
Him giving her that ring is just another way to control her into staying with him by distracting her away from his bad behavior/mental abuse. It's a big mistake to make a ring more important than being happy and having your mental peace in a relationship.
The man was even controlling during the proposal he said "she has to say yes". Run and run fast!
Because he is a controlling narcissist. Big mistake
*WHEW run!! I was in a relationship similar to this. I didn’t realize how bad I was affected until I got into the next relationship and he actually valued me and my voice.*
YES
Girl run, he is definitely a narcissist 🤔🤐
Like textbook!
Yup and judge star said it smh. I hope she runsss!!!!
The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot. In this one instance, it is true about M. Swiney.
im scared for her...he legit could unalive her
huh
Facts just like in these fatal attraction true crimes
I pray for her. That man is a controlling, toxic narcissist. She lost her voice, and I hope she don’t lose her life too. You see the red flags, yet you accept his proposal.
@@bee12355 right it doesn't make sense
Sis leave this clown alone You deserve MUCHHHHHH better! Run as fast as you can he’s too controlling and your allowing him to treat you this way!
I was being SO good today by not using the word clown, but that's all I could think of while watching him!
When he said "I can change BUT she has to change too" I knew he was full if sh*t. There's no "but" ! Focus on yourself, Sir
Jus made my stomach hurt. Cant believe she said yes. 😐😒 Pls lord protect her. 🙏🏽
Here is hoping she said yes to save face and she run fast and far after the show.
She should’ve said no to prove that he shows his true colors that he is abusive, manipulative, & a controlling person to her.
Judge should not have allowed them to marry, kicked him out and had a heart to heart with this woman.
This is something Judge Lynn would have done.
Thank you!
Maybe so, but just like now,the judge words is going through one ear and out the other, she will still stay. This is one of those Epiphany " situations that need to happen for her to wake up on her own.
@@minkki5656 but the judge told him to propose again!!
I thought after she said to give him back the ring she would've told him propose after she has seen change in him
she knew that girl wasn't going to listen..the girl said "yes" real quick too.
We'll be seeing them back on this show I guarantee it
Or on the news 😳
Very sad. She see all the red flags 🚩, yet she accept his proposal. Some women are so desperate for marriage, that they will marry a toxic, controlling narcissist. They don’t have children yet, why marry him. Run
If she's still alive.
Not is she is dead.
The way he said “she needs to speak when spoken to” pissed me all the way off !
A ring wont change his personality. She's signing up for a lifetime of harshness.
Shanelle, you deserve so much more than this. Please love & respect yourself enough to run from this and don't look back.
He’s a narcissist, he’s insecure!! She needs to run.. this will only get worst.. she will become more of shell of herself.. 7:28 I’m out, I cannot watch to the end..
She is so pretty and deserves more and can have it !
This is the only episode so far where I’m almost disappointed in judge star for not telling him to stand the fuck up and get out. He’s controlling and she needs to RUN
If she stays, she will be enabling him. She needs to go.
My God! The deception in his voice is screaming out.
He is a narcissist. Narcissist don’t change. They will be on divorce court after they get married
He looks like he's addicted to boys🤸♀🧚
I was searching for this comment! He’s definitely down low‼️
She did not look happy after she said yes.....😢
Exactly, precisely, notable!!!!!
@@delilahspivey1093 ❤️❤️
I am so sad to see all of these young women being controlled.
They stay with these arrogant, controlled men.
After moving in with these men,the man gets to being abusive, controlling and disrespectful.
Unfortunately so often, when they leave the court it may get worse when they get home.
So many of these men are Narcissistic.
They start out wanting a beautiful, smart independent women but then they feel intimidated by the success of the woman.
Unfortunately by that time they have verbally and physically worn the woman down to nothing.
I don't understand why these women want to stay with these men.
In this case, he may have been embarrassed if the kitchen was messy but he handled it wrong.
The cousin probably embarrassed the girlfriend on purpose.
Either he was trying to show his cousin, howmuch he controlled her to seem like a man or wanted. to hurt her instead of defending and protecting her from their comments. He probably talked bad about her,when she left the room and then berated her later. Men like him,get worse.
Then when they realize, they are going to lose bthe girlfriend they act like they will change. but rarely do they improve.
No female or male should tolerate verbal or physical or emotional abuse.
Women need to learn,they do not have to stay with abusive partners or relatives.
They also new to be educated on signs of abuse.
I don't think he just started this verbal abuse but this may have been the start of worse to come.
I pray she leaves him, while she can, because when he gets out of court he is going to turn on her.
When they bring so much private issues to court the man keeps it in his head. Normally the man is cheating. but when women play the scared role the man gets worse.
Do not tell these young women to give in to these abusive men.
Tell them to be strong, and know their rights.
They deserve better.
He is a joke, I pray she is ok.
Once these couples leave court there is no follow up.
She didn't tell him because she knew he was going to go crazy and probably keep her from going.
When he gets her home he will take her journal and make a big deal and I feel she is in danger.
She should not have accepted his proposal because he just did it for tv.
No girl NO!! IT'S JUST FOR SHOW.
HE IS STANDING THERE GETTING IN HIS THOUGHTS THAT HE CAN'T WAIT TO GET HER OUT OF THERE, SO HE CAN ABUSE HER.
I WISH JUDGE JONES HAD TOLD HER TO SEPARATE AND LIVE APART FOR 6 MONTHS.
EVEN HE SAID AS THEY WERE .LEAVING, HE HAD TO MAKE A GOOD SHOW
UNLESS THESE COUPLES ARE ACTORS SOME OF THESE CASES JUST SEEM FAKE.
THEY COULD HAVE GONE TO COUNSELING INSTEAD OF COURT .
HE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND SHE IS SELLING HERSELF SHORT.
How long did it take you to come up with all of that?
The moment her man told her to shut up in front of his family is the moment she should have shut the door behind her after LEAVING him. Period.
Girl ain't NO way... You are beautiful and deserve better.
Women stop living with these childish boys and give them an expiration date.
6 month to 1 year you date him and if he isn't talking proposal by the end of the first year YOU leave him. Period.
Judge Star looks so good😍😍💕 side note: “not him saying she has to say yes” 🚩 🚩🚩 RUN sis! Don’t let that mental abuse become physical.
I was in a relationship like this. It takes a long time to build your self esteem back up.
She needs to leave that mess alone.
You know that journal is going to disappear.
Dang Star your aging in reverse. Beautiful and classy gear!
She accepted his proposal cause she suffers from low self esteem from him belittling her throughout the relationship. She needs time alone to work on her insecurities as a woman to get her voice back.
Feel so sad for her when she said yes 😞 A ring will not change his behavior
💋.... Judge Lynn would not have let that happen the way it did....His ring, but her courtroom.
She had that "Armbar" at the end like she didn't want to hug him back lol
Speak when spoken to???? Girl, run run run!!!!!
He look like hel put his hands on her too
I was SHOOK when I heard that. My mouth dropped. ZERO respect.
Man I was hoping he wasn’t gonna propose. It’s controlling as fuck. I wouldn’t be surprised if he turned out to be physically abusive later. Didn’t say how he was gonna fix what he was doing to communicate with her better. Just got down on one knee. Are you serious????? She doesn’t have a voice and now she’s about to be legally tied to this “man??!” This is horrible!
him proposing was another form of control he’s an insecure , narcissistic, small , belittling, controlling , manipulative man
I agree with the exception of the fact that a REAL man is none of these things
People will endure so much and then come on here and contemplate staying with the person. Yall don't need anyone's permission to leave.
We as men need to realize when we have a great woman. I was raised by a single mother and I almost lost my wife because I didn't know how to treat her. We all lose coming from a single parent household. She didn't know how to treat a man and I didn't know how to treat a woman.
🙏🏽💙🙏🏽
This is one of the truest comments.
Respect!
That doesn't have to come from just being in a single home. I grew up in a two parent toxic home all I knew was fuss ! Didn't have a example of healthy love.
I'm a single parent but I show and discuss with my children the importance of not being toxic with their spouses. Respect is just the minimum without it you have nothing.
If she stays with him she will never experience a moment of happiness
Why the hell is the audience clapping for that very controlled move proposal?!?!?! Please run....run away as fast as you can. He will NEVER change, girl!!!!!!
Omg this is scary how she doesn’t see he’s abusive it’s only gonna get worst. 🤦🏾♀️
You need to be Treated like a Queen Sis. And he needs to come correct and treating you like a child isn't it. Hopefully he changes. Love you Judge Star
See he knew she was an independent woman and he liked the idea of being able to mold her into a submissive woman. That was an exciting challenge for him. He’s cruel and doesn’t deserve her. He’s a loser.
💯 I actually knew someone like that. He made a big deal of getting with independent, pretty women and breaking them down. It was scary to see and hear. He was a friend of an ex, but it made me question my ex, for knowing someone like that.
He likes her independence because he thought it was a beast he could tame. He saw her beauty and a challenge.
Run lady run. This guy is NOT for you
He's an narcissist, he's not going to change. She said yes to the ring without thinking about her future with him.
I don’t like at the end when they were walking off, she said “I can’t believe you did this” and he said “I had to.”
It was as if he had to because he knew he was about to loose her after being on this show. Because that proposal caught me by surprise too!
idc.....she still should've said NO!!!!!!!
Intimidated to speak? Girl run...he's a clown
Whew! After accepting his proposal, I don't feel bad for all the misery she is going to experience. She wants it. smh
This man is a narcissist and a freaking PSYCHOPATH. I am afraid for this woman. I was internally screaming wanting Judge Star to pull a Judge Lynn and tell him "put it away"
No don't marry him. He is not it😴😴
4 minutes in RUN GIRL..🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ This type of man can be dangerous.
I understand her completely!! I could not talk to my Ex. I felt like my dad was always talking to me. I had to write everything down because my feelings never felt valid. Never have I ever felt like that with anyone. I thank God I was able to walk away.
These losers that proposal national TV what you’re doing is a typical football move when you think the game is lost, you throw the Hail Mary pass
She is setting herself up for the continued disrespect. He's following the Red Pill code. Chop down a woman's confidence, belittle, make them feel like they need you.
That haphazard PROPOSAL was NOT IT.... sir .... get up! 😂😂😂
Her answer to being too controlled is to enter further into a binding covenant with him and likely pregnant with his child soon after. But you got a ring though smh
Girlll don't walk, runnnn 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ he's giving Ike Turner vibes
I was about to say "girl run he'll eventually start beating on you." Only to see her accept his proposal. "She has to yes." And I oop- let me mind my business honey.
Am empath and a narcissist. He is only going to get worse and possibly break her. I hope she runs and allow true love to find her. He is not it!!!
Thank you judge Star. Wish she would have said no, because he is about to own her 😢
He’s the type to cheat on her then blame her. He is a real narcissist. She’s foolish. She needs to learn her worth.
I couldn’t wait till the episode was uploaded cause he popped the question as a Hail Mary
His actions are giving abuser vibes all the way. Her actions are giving no self esteem. And it’s sad because she seems like a sweet woman. This episode really triggered me. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel belittled or like you can’t say or do anything right!
That proposal STINKS of desperation and she is to dumb to realize that he only proposed to keep her on his leash. Smh As Judge Judy says "beauty fades, dumb is forever."
I watched this episode once, it’s hard for me to watch again and I typically rewatch past episodes.
She has a bouquet 💐 of red flags! It's only going to get worse if she marries him.