This Girl Married An African Warrior From A Wild Tribe. Their Love Story Ended So Sadly!
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- This story happened 36 years ago. A young and successful businesswoman from Switzerland came to Kenya for a vacation and fell in love with a Samburu warrior. For the sake of love, she gave up everything and settled in a hut in the wild jungle. However, their love story ended sadly. Why couldn't they be together? And what does their 35-year-old daughter look like today?
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I am a white American woman who met a Pakistani man on the internet .I flew to Pakistan and married him and we have been married 20 yrs next month.We have four children.When we married we could barely understand each other but we learned and our marriage has blessed us both.
MashaAllah ❤
Love this! ❤
U married a terrorist
Marsha Allah
Well yours is different. I believe he's educated
Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you’re compatible with them.
Very true.
Exactly
Vice versa you might not love someone but you are met for one another. It needs years to know we are compatible or not. And respect will be a helpful aspect if we respect that someone inspite of skin color and cultures. Skin color might be tolerated but there is something that is inevitable, it's the color of money..
You're right that could be true, but it should have nothing to do with the color of skin especially American to American? America can't even get itself together in that area😂 I can't believe just only in the 50s, they change the law that you could then get married to someone of another color skin 🙄 I really believe that racism is a psychotic illness. Look at kids on a beach they have no qualms about playing with each other no matter what color they are. What's wrong with these racist adults teaching kids not to have anything to do with people of color it's not a bit of sense. That's why I say if you have racist relatives and you're a young person get away from them. I think that's abuse right there to teach a person's child to be against another color. They should get that child taken away that's what I think
Yeah so basically it's not matured love, it's like childish desire or lust or something like that. I wonder though.
There’s an old saying “We are attracted by our differences….but we stay together because of what we have in common.”
Love this!!
I always get attracted due to similarity, like vegitarian, same culture, kind hearted people, introvert,etc.
Well said
There could be love between people with different cultures but the truth remains, "love is never enough"
Aaa pleas the men was stupid
Exactly
yes that's true 💝
Exactly.
I disagree, I am English and my husband is Tunisian and there is 33 years differants and we been together for 15 years. Age is just a number and culture is something we laugh together about a lot. So love can conger anything, if you let it. So dont use it as an excuse. I think the lady in the video was young and wanted adventure and was very navie to say the least
I was in a relationship with an African man and from my point of view the problem is that people like difference BUT when they have to live with it every day they want what they are used to and that's when difference becomes a problem.
Love is beautiful but love alone is not enough
They want difference they can have a three musketeer. This is selfish and a main issue with the world today. Then they literally try to turn the “difference” into the exact women they claim to never have wanted. They want yt skin but tied to indigenous culture!
It’s a sickness
Africa is a continent!!!!! Egypt is in Africa! Morroco is in Africa! South Africa! Etc
@tse7677 oh really??!!!🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ guess what..I know ! I didn't say from which country he was I just mentioned that he was from Africa.. Your comment doesn't have point 🤦🏼♀️
Hello
I am a South African Christian who married an Egyptian Muslim. The exotic differences are attractive & exciting at first, but after a while the cultural & especially religious differences are grueling. We divorced but were at least blessed with a beautiful son.
Yep, that's what my mom told me. Its best to marry within your own culture/religion because there are vast differences that eventually dismantle a union that was never meant to be in the first place. As a Christian, you got with a Muslim. What were your thoughts on being unequally yoked at the time? Just asking, no poor intent here from me.
I'm very sorry that you married as special a Muslim, being you a Christian...
I'm a Christian and I married a so call " catholic "
I leave with the mane for 18 years, and it was hell.
Until I divorced him!
Well, you should know better, right?
Thame Bible is very clare about it. We shouldn't be with different yolks
In the end, we pay our price!...
I have two daughters! From this marriage! ❤❤
I’m a Muslim married to a Christian and we’re married 32 years with 4 children and grandchildren. Religious differences were never a problem because we did not allow it to be
@@Wendypretty1 I knew the verse about being unequally yoked but I kept misinterpreting it to something different because I wanted to marry the guy even against God's advice. Like the snake in the garden I asked: "Did God really say..."
@@canolli2944 you're part of the exception and I'm happy it worked out in your case. However statistically speaking interfaith marriages have higher divorce rates than unions where both partners share the same beliefs and values.
I'm a white woman I had a wonderful man from Guatemala we had two daughters together when he came to America. He had a lawn business and ran into bad people who tried to rob him . They shot him after he died I never got with another man my heart was his and will be forever
I’m so sorry for your loss 😔
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💔💔💔so sorry!
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Bet you were always more loyal to him than he was to you.
I was married to a Pakistani Muslim. The marriage ended after 13 years. I should listened to my mom, who said the different customs and traditions would be a problem. She was right. Always listen to your mother.
Sometimes yh I dated Pakistani Muslim I grew up Muslim, but now I'm just a free spirited hippy lol, so already we weren't on the same page and never would be, when people are religious they tend to be serious about it and care greatly about traditions, which caused us to go our separate ways, my mother did imply it wouldn't work, sometimes people are too different, I'd rather date someone like minded free spirited different race, than someone different race, who carries their culture and religion on their backs no thanks lol
Well, I wouldn't say you should ALWAYS listen to your mother....but in this case she was indeed right.
No, your mother is wrong. Every one deal differently cultural differences. My father is Muslim, my mother was born Christian, and my parents have been together for 45 years. It's not about cultural background, but how much each of us deals with it. I am now married to a man from another country, and we are living in a foreign country. This is how the world should be: mix and compromise.
@@karima_MK Noone says that a mixed-culture/ mixed-religion marriage will end up in divorce but the fact is that the more different the man and the woman are in terms of their values, culture, religion etc., the bigger the chance that the relationship will eventually fail. A successful relationship is the one where the man and the woman work as a team. And to create a long-term well-functioning team out of two people that have different religion, different culture and therefore more or less different way of looking at life is way more difficult than to create a team out of a man and a woman that share religion, culture and values. Your parents are therefore more an exemption than the rule.
Lol, my mother was married 3 times....none of them were happy marriages. I wouldn't take her advice.
This is why you get to know a person and their traditions upfront!
Exactly!
Absolutely agree, I know it’s politically incorrect, but I only date within my own culture.
Exactly the same thing with 90 day fiancé they never do any research and then at the end of the day they are unhappy with where they live and everything else
The reason why it was difficult was because both of them didn't decide to meet each other halfway.
It only seems like the woman tried to meet the man halfway but the man didn't try to meet her halfway.
I believe the only way to make a marriage work when it has cultural differences between the two couples is when both of them decide to meet each other halfway.
@Otaku Outpost I'm saying about the circumcision the culture did with the females, that's horrible.
The courage to go to another land and allow yourself to be so vulnerable is amazing. I did this as well but in India, unfortunately in my case the man proved to be a narcissistic psychopath that is destroying my life since 20 years. He is hiding behind a very carismatic personality, he is highly intelligent and successful. When you immerse yourself in another culture so deeply the danger of losing yourself is high.
No one should have to completely loose themselves to love another. That is so selfish and one-sided. The best love is a mutual one where both party are allowed to be themselves, but freely no forcefully making adjustments to facilitate their love for one another. No one can make it in the my way or the highway kind of love. That kind of love most times doesn't work out.
Similar story with my own daughter.
It's not amazing. It's irresponsible and stupid.
Marriage is a partnership. Why should only the woman immerse herself in the man's culture but not him?
Yes, and I would have been so afraid of this very outcome. A narcissistic mate indoor own culture is bad enough. I hope you are doing fine today. I hope your life wasn't fully and irredeemably destroyed.
Their daughter is STUNNINGLY BEAUTIFUL!!!!! Sad that this relationship could not withstand their differences. But honestly, what a remarkable adventure she got to experience! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
hello 👋 from Arab Emirates Dubai 🇦🇪 ,is a pleasure to have you here as friend . Where Are You from? 😘🥰
To be honest, I would be shocked if their relationship could in fact withstand such massive differences. Their split was inevitable.
Michellepeters...Welcome to Kenya 🇰🇪
@@24wallachianx
I wish more and more interracial
Couples and children be born. First is much better GENETICALLY TALKING.. better humans and stronger .. and also more good looking! It’s a fact check. Check how in Breds only turn out. It is genetics. … plus the more interracial kids the more a future where there is less racism will exist. Hopefully.
I m from a very little Country in south asia. I fell i love with a german girl. Married her , have together a 7 years old daughter. I have left my own family, cultur and country for these beloved one . Alhumdulillah living very happily with my these two people. Pray for us please
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God bless your marriage & protect your beautiful family Amen
@@magicfir67 amin summa amin my loving bro. I pray for and your family too. May Allah bless us all. Tx for your prayer
Am German american married to a Thai American man. Is hard enough. Now expecting our first daughter. Praying for u 🙏
@@angelicafrye-rangsiyananta ich wünsche euch alles bestens von meinem Herzen und selle. Wünsche dass euer Tochter gesund und gut in der Welt kommt und alle eure lebensschwerigkeiten weg nimmt. Möge Allah eure Seite sein und euch bewahren. Möge Allah eine sehr sehr liebevolle Beziehung zwischen dir und deinem Ehemann bringt.
So many people confuse love with lust. They are not the same
I'm glad she made the right decision for a daughter. The daughter deserved to grow up with an intact body, and enjoying first-world comforts.
I don't think so.
She as the mother made the decision to live in Africa and if her ex husband was okay with that what she did she would stay there...
Many many children grew up without any luxury or things we are used too but it don't make it worse.
If you don't know the other things you don't miss them...
@@danielangom in my opinion the mother's original decision to leave her life behind for a completely different one was a bad decision. Taking her daughter home was the right one.
@@danielangom Couldn't have put it better. WELL IN.. Greetings from Kenya.
@@danielangomjust because mutilating a child’s genital is part of someone’s culture and tradition doesn’t make it right! There are many cultures that oppress women. It is not okay!
@@gilda3372 agreed. tradition is literally the worst reason to carry on bad practices.
I believe in love between different cultures, but it takes more than love to sustain any relationship.
How gorgeous is their daughter? I'm glad she was able to meet her paternal family
I can see how she favors her relatives. Genes!
and was able to forgive them for wanting to circumcise her, and ruining her parents marriage.
Good for her she was allowed to leave Kenya with her daughter.
She kidnapped the child!She could have tried harder to make her marriage work: educate the tribe about modern ways like the dangers of field’s excisions etc…Now she presents herself as a hero!Nobody forced her to marry into a primitive tribe without doing her homework first about their cultures.Marrying a foreigner implies possible culture shock !If you can’t deal with it,then,don’t marry!
There is this woman from Germany named Stephanie who is married with a masaai man for over 10years. Her beautiful story is also on youtube.
i saw her docs. very nice i think the difference is the swiss lady's story was more than 35 years ago...Stephanie's happened only 10 years ago so i think the mentality of the massai men has also evolved during that time, stephanie's husband is supportive of her having business etc. which a lot of massai women have nowadays....maybe that's also why their mariage is lasting.....
Why are they always German? Like I'd say about 75% of these stories I have heard have been German women.
If I remember rightly the end result was disaster.
@@davidjacques2322 no
I’m an African American so I am used to certain luxuries, and there is no way I would live in anybody’s hut. No matter how much I love a person there is absolutely no way.
Typical African American
You’re also ignorant
Umm, ok.
Yay! for knowing your boundaries!
Good for you, stay in your luxuries, love that, you are yourself , you are not a pretender, some people go wrong, pretending to impress the world they end up suffering.
I am a Coloured woman from 🇿🇦 and married a 🇿🇦 Tamil Indian man. We different in race and religion too. We celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary 1 June and have a beautiful 19 year old daughter. He is my soul mate and love of my life😍
The key in the story is that she was "bored" with her life and she wanted something more adventurous. The fantasy is not enough to sustain a long-term relationship.
She wasn’t boredom it was cultural differences.
They wanted to mutilate her daughters private part.
I would’ve left with my child to.
She was not bored she didn't want her daughter to be genitally mutilated a
I hope the African man was not in love with her. She did a really shitty thing in my opionion.
Noooo…..she did not like being subservient and no independence outside of her husband….the real stupidity of her is she thought perhaps she could change her man…..doing no research on the lifestyle of tribal living……
@@polskigirl8547 I know right, women are just awful as spouses. I hope we come to the point in technology that we don't need women to continue the species. I would have 10 copies of myself. Eventually we could decriminalize prostitution.
This was not love. This was a fascination. Thats it.
Exactly!
Lust
Period!!
@cynthiamv4660 nah she just had a case of jungle fever
It sounds as though she knew nothing about him when she married him. She doesn't sound very bright for making this choice.
Hi! I am Mexican, and I meet my husband, who is black American, and we have been married for 40 years, we are happy ,we have a son, he is kind, loving, I don't see the skin color, I SEE THE PERSON!!🙂🙃🌻🎶
This is about culture not skin color. She gave up comfort to live with a wild tribe.
All though there were some small cultural differences between you 2, it sounds like the only main difference that you see is shade of color. Skin color is a very superficial thing, and the melanin in the skin is for protection from the sun in the first place. The other difference is the stigma of a dark complexion, for no good reason. So if you were intelligent enough to look past that; his skin color is superior protection from the sun and a less aging characteristic; kudos to you.
How do you not see the skin color when God does??? Furthermore, do you really think color is only skin deep???
@@TheBLACKboard65 Culturally and governmentally skin tone is a problem, because of a false stigma set by society and government. But over and over again, in the bible it says 'while Man looks at the outward appearance; God looks at the heart. God says this world is foolishness and this world is not of God. God is love. He says we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. He said don't put our hope in temporary things. GOD SAYS DONT CONFORM TO THIS WICKED WORLD. PUT GOD FIRST AND ALL GOOD THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. IF YOU'RE OBEDIENT TO GOD YOU WILL BE BLESSED.
@@louisestyles879 - I wonder how long it took you to put that dissertation together? The very people now claiming not to see color are the same people who came up with "race". Now that they have effed up the world for everyone they claim it's just a social construct. Well, YOU and everyone who thinks like you are the SOCIETY causing these problems.
I'm happy to hear that she still supports her husband her 1st husband and his tribe
But there are other educated tribes in Kenya even the Masai, so why deliberately go for an uneducated man who is world apart from you. I just see she had an agenda & wanted to write a book. That she eventually did.
@IKECHUKWU OBIAJULU Onweluzo lol, so she "deliberately" fell in love with an uneducated tribesman? She was wealthy when she met him and gave up all of it plus the comforts of modern life, all just to write a book later??? What drugs are you on? Your logic displays your ignorance to real life and your negativity is on full display.
@moore family. I should be asking you that. He who fetches an ant infested firewood invites Lizards to his place. Why would she embark on a relationship she knows its doomed to fail? You were not born into the culture, you have never lived in poverty before talk less of an extreme one. If you were seeking love there were other kenyan men who are highly educated. So what's was her agenda? Or she just wanted to be adventurous and fulfill some fairytale fantasy? I still wonder.
@@ikechukwuobiajuluonweluzo762 She had her little projects, used them to get funding, in the meantime getting her sexual fantasies in the process. She is not helping his family but the looks of it she made money out of African culture and art.
@@averyj5446
I'm inclined to agree with you completely 🤔
This was a "Project"!!!!
What a beautiful daughter!
It's one thing to fallin love, and totally different thing to make a relationship work when you come from extremely different cultures
Je ne suis pas d’accord avec vous leur mariage peux marcher même si les cultures sont différences le monde a évolue
It's love it has nothing to do with different culture
Exactly!
@@lydiafelsina2272
That's true it all depends if both of them decide to meet each other halfway.
@@artlover7934
I don't think that's what the person meant but I understand what you're saying.
The fact that she had no idea that they had circumcision traditions before she had a child with him is insane to me and tells me all I need to know about her...
Why would you make her wrong instead of mainly the women in that culture that cut off a baby’s clitoris so they cannot enjoy sex?
She didn't do her homework properly
The female circumcision seemed to be a major dealbreaker, as well as the expectations for women and the possibility of her husband taking multiple wives. And yet this all seemed to be a surprise to her.
She really went into this with eyes closed shut. But she was so infatuated with him that she wasn’t willing to just live in the village long enough to learn the language and culture before leaping into marriage and having a child.
The major problem might simply have been that she didn’t know enough of his language and he didn’t know enough of hers. So they couldn’t really talk about everything first.
People from different cultures can and do successfully bridge the gap and happily marry and have families together. But they do need to not blindly plunge into a relationship that requires one of them to live in an entirely new culture, drastically different from their own, without knowing anything about it, not even the language. Usually one partner is already familiar with the other partner’s culture and language where they plan to stay, such as by living and working there themselves for a while before they even met.
Exactly I mean her leaving her whole life behind her life of privilege & her boyfriend of 2 years for some random guy she just met already told me plenty about her 😂
She fetishized him.
I remember her being on talkshows long ago and I was shocked how naive she had been. At the same time I was married to a Tansanian and met lots of Massai, who are related to the Samburu. I think it is really difficult for an European to live this kind of life, but she could have found out about their ways and traditions before she married her husband. It would have definitely helped.
My exact thought. I was astonished by her naivety. How could she marry him, start a family with him without finding out first that he can have multiple wives and will require her daughter to be circumcised???
@@24wallachian exactly, Europeans generally don’t know much about Africa and even by going there on holidays, they are not interested to inform themselves about the country, people or culture. Because of my work, I met lots of diplomats from African countries, who invited me to their receptions and we became friends. I visited several countries in west- and east Africa and people were surprised that I had so much interest and knowledge about them. I enjoyed their phantastic hospitality, we could learn a lot from them.
You're all welcomed back to Kenya. Karibuni tena 🇰🇪
Very, very true! But then again, she would have never had that beautiful daughter, or written all those books about her unique experiences if she hadn't been so sheltered and naive. So I guess it turned out for the best in the end.
Isn't that why she traveled to learn about the different places, people and their traditional cultural ways? She knew but reality hit her hard once her daughter would be effected by their culture practices
The sad part of this video is how the foreign woman is portrayed as a victim and the local man as irrational, jealous, and unreasonable; when it's just cultural differences. There was no good or bad, right or wrong, just cultural differences.
I agrée with you
I would define right and wrong when certain lines are crossed, such as female circumcision. That to me is no longer "cultural differences". That's extreme of course, but I draw the lines much earlier than that. My daughter will not be subjected to any demand on her individual liberty. No man is going to prohibit her from doing anything she wants to do.
Let us call good things good and bad things bad. Learning the difference between good and bad is the greatest knowledge on Earth! Only few can differentiate!
I don't blame him as much as her. She, a so-called 'liberated' woman, should have known the relationship was doomed from the start.
@@appledoreman kind of true 🤔
She is fortunate she could get away with her daughter. quite the adventure.
That she got away with her uncircumcised daughter!
@@jeanettelebarron3306 😂😂😂
She was, some of us haven’t been so lucky
They're not a hostile culture.
🎉❤ I love that fact she gave love a go, dispite all the differences of culture etc. And was smart enough to walk away when she knew for sure it would not work. Her daughter was put first, making her a wonderful mother 🎉❤😇
I am a Canadian married to an Indonesian and we live extremely simple in his village. I went from living in a rich country with all the conveniences at my fingertips to a 3rd world country where I see the poverty and struggles every day. Village life can be challenging at times, but I have learned to adapt and embrace this way of life. I have learned so much and am so grateful for this life experience.
Awesome, beautiful story. I'm a black African woman, just got married to a German man. I get very scared when I watch such videos coz we also have cultural differences, it scares me when people say love is not enough. But reading your story just inspired me. Thank you
@@n.m6249 Just respect each other's differences. There will be challenges but true love is powerful. Congratulations! I wish you a lifetime of happiness together. 💝
Your channel is interesting too. Thanks for sharing! How did you meet your husband?
@@n.m6249 You have to have confidence in who you are, and what you want. I don't know if you can do that here. Be careful what you read and hear. The best to you and your future.☺👍
Who do you think helped to make these countries 3rd world? The same country your coming from.
Why am I not surprised that their cultural differences became an issue? Marriage is hard enough when you marry your own kind... let alone...
But that was a great chapter in her life!
Cultural and religious beliefs are the most primary reasons that cause many marriages not to succeed and not race .
Just what does your own kind mean sounds little racist to me
She was just stating a fact.. just natural
The reason why it was difficult was because both of them didn't decide to meet each other halfway.
It only seems like the woman tried to meet the man halfway but the man didn't try to meet her halfway.
I believe the only way to make a marriage work when it has cultural differences between the two couples is when both of them decide to meet each other halfway.
It's interesting and good though that they both have remained friends. It shows that he also grew from the relationship and didn't remain stubbornly in his own ideas all the time. And she supported him and his family financially all these years.... as a Masai, that wouldn't even be allowed but look how it helped them.
She is a nice lady to have supported her ex husband and his family
She had to or be accused of racism.
Wow!! How brave this woman must be! I’m so glad she was both brace enough to love someone so different as she needed to be to leave and take their daughter out of the situation ❤simply amazing!!!
The daughter has now a hair saloon in Zurich called "Hair by Napirai".
Greetings from Switzerland
...ale nie ma ojca...to przykre jak ta samolubna osoba skrzywdziła swojego męża i córkę...bogatego stać na to...
Her Daugher is super Beautiful 😍💖
Fascinating video. Very brave woman with such a strong character, and at least she got a gorgeous daughter out of the adventure. Even as an African woman I would never have the guts to do what she did. May I respectfully point out, however, that the word 'wild' (used several times) is not considered complimentary when discussing other people's cultures. It was obviously not done in a spiteful manner, but virtually everyone has the internet nowadays, even in Masai huts, so not it is not only your countrymen that will be watching this.
exacrly my thoughts
Years ago, I saw this movie "White Masai". Once I wondered what happened to her after she left. Nice to see here, her & her grown up daughter doing so well.
The daughter is gorgeous. Stunning. Perfect mix of mom and dad.
Marriage is a serious comment and a life long journey and sacrifice it was good she was able to find her way back home and take her child with her. She made a wise decision before her daughter had to suffer the consequences of her actions and was able to escape tribal customs of female being totally controlled by males.
It’s all about you !Besides excision,tell me what else couldn’t be discussed in that marriage !Nothing is sacred outside the western world !
Do not be unequally yoked! Good advice from the Bible. It means two people need to share the same beliefs and values if their marriage is to succeed. It doesn’t mean they need to be the same race.
My story was similar. I had a white , wealthy and professional fiancé when I met my husband from Pakistan years ago. He is professional also but had different cultures and beliefs. It wasn’t easy at the beginning but now I can say it was worthy to build a family with him. Our relationship is based in mutual respect.
I can’t live in Pakistan for sure. That’s isn’t my world.
Why did you leave you fiance for him?
unique - fairy tale
I'm happy for you!
@@shirlynnross1575 you probably left him if both of you live in Pakistan
Im glad I married my own kind of people. No stresses, no major problems. We Still have alot of love & happiness, and going on 38 years of marriage!
globalists wants everybody mix n live anywhere - if u fall in love fine other wise just to mix just to be usa n americans is evil - usa n americans got lots of trouble n u can't mix - obama's all black n harry's all white again already - people r moving to china - i think it's not good to make any more usa or americans - one is one too many - multiculturalism is deadly misery - the different organs in the body fight too - they got special health problems n risks
Good for you
and no mixing either, but mixing is so good
Yes but so many divorses even in your kind of marriages.
congs
She should have done her research before she entered in to marriage.
@Hiraina Whaanga:
Yes! You are 100% correct. If I wanted to marry an English-speaking man from a different ethnic group in my own country, I would do a lot of research. How much more research I would do if I went to another country!!!! She didn't think very hard & allowed her hormones to guide her...Marriage is too important to just jump into it on a whim without careful consideration.🌺🌺🌺
I guess in those days there was no internet to find out a bit of that person unlike now.
@Mimms W She was enough educated to know the cultural differences of Switzerland and African tribes !!!!!
Its not easy in mixed cultures. Love and respect allows them to be happy
The reason why it was difficult was because both of them didn't decide to meet each other halfway.
It only seems like the woman tried to meet the man halfway but the man didn't try to meet her halfway.
I believe the only way to make a marriage work when it has cultural differences between the two couples is when both of them decide to meet each other halfway.
I do believe two people can share a life together from very different cultures IF their values are the same.
Exactly
What about the elephant in the room?! He wanted to have his daughter curcumsied, which would have caused her horrific suffering all her life. Thank God her mother wouldn't have it and saved her from a terrible fate. "F" love and a different culture, if it means destroying your daughters life forever.
That would definitely be the leading reason.
The runner-up would be that women are expected to be beneath the Man. Simply because they're the woman. He got mad at her for starting a business in their home! And the daughter was supposed to be sent to the mother-in-law as a servant SMH. I can't agree with or respect bigots.
Women should have more sense than to get involved with such wild backward cultures.
I admire her courage and resilience to make a marriage work against all odds #love almost conquered all#beatuiful daughter
Sometimes love can't be enough
True, I think that's what Jesus, i.e., Heavenly Father is telling many of us everyday.
real Love is GOD HE IS THE CREATOR , THIS IS ENOUGH 😊❤😂
The reason why it was difficult was because both of them didn't decide to meet each other halfway.
It only seems like the woman tried to meet the man halfway but the man didn't try to meet her halfway.
I believe the only way to make a marriage work when it has cultural differences between the two couples is when both of them decide to meet each other halfway.
But sometimes it can be enough
@Otaku Outpost i absolutely agree...one of the biggest number of marriages end up coz of this "meeting halfway" thing
Their daughter is stunning!
Reminds me of my late parents story.
My father came from a family with arab background, my mom was a Javanese (Indonesian) and born as a pagan.
They've met in East Java Indonesia in 1974 when my father was trying to find his elder sister who's married an admiral of the navy.
He found them and soon he married her.
She reverted to Islam years earlier.
She told me that the most difficult thing was the family differences because they're from 2 different backgrounds.
There's no perfect family, they've tried for years to understand each other, but in the end they made it.
My mom fell sick and bed ridden for months, she passed away in Feb 2018 in my father's arms, the man she loved the most.
My father told me he'll retire from his job after mom's 3rd memorial day (Feb 2021).
He made his words. He fell sick in early March and passed away 3 weeks later.
He regularly cleaned up my siblings and mom's graves, but that Friday I had to bury him there too, with his beloved wife and children.
They left me alone, but I know they are all happy up there.
the biggest lesson I've learned from my fam story is how to accept differences and accept each other.
It's almost impossible to live with 2 different cultures, sometimes to make it work a partner must 'leave' her/his culture to embrace a new one and throw away the ego for the sake of marriage.
Nothing good comes for free.
The key is communication and understanding.
I hope whoever are having this kind of issue out there can talk to each other and remember their decision why they decided to be together. If they can't make it I hope they can separate amicably. ❤🙏🏻
Nice one
This is such a beautiful and heart-warming story - thank you for sharing it ❤
Thank you
Reverted to Islam??👎 No...
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I have married my "holiday love". We are still together after 36 years, though I was not allowed to visit him bevor the marriage! I left my family, good job and the country for him!
It was rather hard for me at the beginning! No family, no friends - I was lonely forigner...
Now we have two wonderful adult children and one cute grand-child! ❤
Lust got in the way. They were attracted to their differences but their differences is what drove them apart. It wasn't a wise move on both parties.
It was just an obsession and mistaken for love. Obsession eventually fades and fizzles out with time.
It was love and love asks for sacrifices. She loved him, she did so much for him, it was love.
You mean Fetish as it usually is when it comes to white women who date or marry out. She had jungle fever then moved on.
anything that produces lovely kids is wonderful and your comment is boring and judgemental
@@alisaalisa2060 and he loved her
What can you expect from someone from India, they have no tolerance for anything that is not Indian
I read all of her books and still have them, one even signed! Very interesting!
omg i remember many years ago a friend of mine gave me the book and i was hooked on it, i read it multiple times i also own all of her other books , we once emailed each other and i was so thrilled with corinne hofmann
The reason that it didn't work out between both of them is that he didn't understand the outside world . He only understand what his tribe teaches him and believe thats how the whole world run.
We Africans always take into consideration culture before taking relationships to another level.
So what happened here?
Two different cultures can make it together if they truly respect, love, and understand their cultural differences. My partner and I have been together for 23 years. It hasn't always been easy but love can conquer all obstacles.
Yes,IF they respect each other and communicate and WANT to be together. My husband only wanted to come to my country, he had no interest in me, I was only hos ticket to here. But I was young,blonde,and silly, believed he loved me. We could have had a fun life together with much travelling but I ended up doing all that travelling while he has had a boring quiet life from what I heard.
Exactly! My husband and I come from different cultures; geographically they're close enough to share some similarities but we are also from completely different classes. Our differences made everything exciting and interesting, but there were definitely A LOT of things we had to work through and explain over the years.
One of the big things was that although both our cultures are very patriarchal, due to my class I'm not expected or required to do a lot of things that are demanded of women. I had to put my foot down that if he fell for me due to being independent and outspoken then he'd have to accept that I wasn't going to be a traditional wife and that meant he'd have to step up and learn to make this a partnership rather than what he was used to and in return I would also work on making it a partnership/meeting him halfway.
We've been together 14 years so far and both of our families still have a lot of trouble comprehending our relationship. His family believes that he should be the unquestionable head of the household and I should be grateful that he allows me the liberty of working outside the home and they still find it extremely odd that I read for fun. Whereas my family believes that I should be the unquestionable head of the household because he's such a lower class than me and that I should treat him more like a boy toy/arm candy rather than an equal.
Either way the one thing they can agree on is that we've both always been odd and rebellious. But our relationship works because we both put in a lot of time communicating, approaching things with a want to understand rather than judgement, and both of us willing to hear each other out and compromise on things. Is it more important for me to have the only say in our relationship or is having him happy and treated with respect more important? Is him having multiple wives more important or is me being able to give him my full love and support more important?
I am a Scandinavian woman, went to travel to the Middle East alone, when I was 20. Fell in love with a Palestinian guy. Brought him to my country. BIG mistake. He did not even try to fit in here. I divorced him one year later. Thank God we had no kids!
What does it mean to fit in??
@@mourice1669 to follow the rules of the new country, to understand that in Scandinavia we say hello to our neighbours female or male, when we meet them near our building, that women can meet with her friends for coffee after work when she wants if her husband is working late anyway, that we talk with our male cousins and relatives and hug them, that we say hello and do small talk if we see our co-workers, male or female, in the city somewhere or in the shop or anywhere.
@@mourice1669 To fit in means to follow local customs and traditions and behaviors, and try to get along in the society you live in.
You were too young then but at least you have a reasoning brain!
@@cathynewyork7918 Lol if i as african man if i marry a white lady i should abandon all my identity and pretend to be European....etc lol thats a bit hard.
In kenya. We. Have saying that whoever abandons his culture completely is a slave.
I would embrace her culture and not abandon mine, i. Would haave both
Jungle? Wth ? Masai don’t live in a jungle. Some of these TH-camrs.
Let them feel good about their sense of superiority,when all that prevail in the western world now is gun violence and homosexuality !A peaceful tribe invites her and all she can do is blatantly lie and portray her husband as violent drug addict!Couldn’t she take her time to educate them about excision ?!
Heyy. These are my people, as I am a Samburu elite young man. So much has changed overtime, and I'm glad of the dynamics. I've heard of this love story around where I live, but we're nice people.
What a gorgeous girl. This isnt a sad ending. The fruit of their love is this lovely woman.
In my own view, the man was too self centered. He didn't in any sacrifice anything to make it work while on the other hand the woman sacrificed everything. I think for a union to work both parties must agree to meet each other at some mid point. God bless the soul of my love bird lady.
The daughter is so beautiful! Child of love.
I don't believe that love between people from too different cultures can exist for to long.
depend on the difference and how they manage it, it can work if their culture is not too far appart
Though it can be challenging but it can be resolved. What matters is true love.
Yeah she is beautiful
I'm hispanic from Costa Rica. My husband is white American, we got married 22 years ago. We never felt any difference between our cultures (there is) but we get along smoothly.
That's because both countries are very modern and similar Christianity religion. I'm an African and it's totally different here in Africa for a western person
It’s unbelievable what love can do, it’s sad that it didn’t work out, but i’m sure there’s a lot of successful stories out there.
That was not a love; just lust. Two different things.
As a Maasai I wonder what you consider wild
In this particular context I suppose it's not linked to the Massai people but probably more to the described way of living - I do understand it this way
I think that all tribal people are wild for white people😅
Sorry, but someone who has a second-hand clothing shop where she can barely earn enough to make ends meet is not exactly what we call a "successful businesswoman". A woman who marries into a culture where Female Genital Mutilation is a requirement, female children are forced to work as slaves for their paternal grandparents, and a business started by a woman can be freely looted by her husband's relatives and random officials is a downright idiot. A one-night stand may be OK with proper protection from HIV, but marriage in a malaria-ridden environment??? Come on.
I have to agree but it made her rich ..and she does have a lovely daughter but yes the whole thing is really beyond idiotic Why would you be attracted into a culture that has female mutilation? I am sure she thought she could change everyone ..I do think this whole story was heavily fantasized
Your racism is shouting
@@mpendakiswahili3053 Even if it was true, although it is not, even that would be better than your obvious idiotism.
Based and rational.
@@mpendakiswahili3053 This is only common sense. It is HORROR what they do with women in these societies!
And sometimes love is not enough in many relationships.
What a great story! ❤ Thank you!
She set seed and left, so did my mother. I wouldnt left if God didnt tell me to leave. Love is not of restrain but there is great consequence of actions.
@sue smith, I do not understand what you wrote. Are you a foreigner?
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What "Wild jungles of Kenya" ? I've been living in Kenya on and off for over a year and have not seen or heard of any "Wild jungles" in the country.
haha - the word is a bit used and abused here....
What 🎉a Beautiful 😍 Touching story 💕 Africa 🌍 there's a TREASURE ......🎉💗
Some people make their lives needlessly complicated.
It is not complicated. Maybe it's complicated to have mixed relationship in your community. But in some western communities, it is very common.
Love does not care what color, where you come from, or culture, It only cares about what the heart wants. After that, it's up to the two individuals to make it work.
Lust doesn't care either in fact it can be an incentive for it. This obviously is more a case of lust and infatuation and the malaria was more like karma. 90 day much?
But the brain cares
@@gomerzpyle6805 you made the reply I was thinking in my mind but didn't write!
@@gomerzpyle6805 Just cant accept a white woman falling in love with a black man huh? Typical of your people!
BS. Sorry, but a woman who marries into a culture where Female Genital Mutilation is a requirement, female children are forced to work as slaves for their paternal grandparents, and a business started by a woman can be freely looted by her husband's relatives and random officials is a downright idiot. A one-night stand may be OK with proper protection from HIV, but marriage in a malaria-ridden environment??? Come on.
Love is indeed blind.
No, she didn't have love, she had lust and a fantasy
@@kirkpatrick7475 what fantasy?
They tried to hurt her daughter so she left. Good for her!
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Love, emotions&feelings are something &marriage is totally something else!
Agreed. Marriage is like managing a business.
Reminds me of 90 Day Fiancé where people travel to a different country, fall in love, but didn't do a lick of research about their partner's culture and traditions. I believe love can exist among different cultures, but only if both do their research, and both must be willing to compromise and make sacrifices. My opinion on this any way.
Yes I do believe that love does not ask when and who to love, it happens so fast and strong,
Note how she had to finance her ex and his family even after the divorce. Some warrior.
I think she chose to do that. After parting ways because of cultural differences. She probably still gets on very well with him and his family
I agree. Disgusting that this so-called "warrior" feels it is right to be supported by a woman.
Sometimes Love is not everything you need.
She is a wonderful lady so unique God bless her .
In my opinion she saw a tall dark handsome man who she fell in lust with. With her words she charmed his family to allow her to marry him. She got her way. Instead of learning his culture first to know of girl circumcision she got pregnant first putting the cart before the horse. She got rich off of him, taking his daughter away from 🤔 him. Now she sends him & his family some crumbs from her table. What a shame she used him got his seed left him & now has remarried another a rich European.
@@NaomiJehudiyah-xv4uwexactly, we need to stop praising this behavior. It is vile.
What's sad abt it.
They're all on good terms.
Her daughter knows her father and the ex helps out her previous family.
It's all sounds AWESOME to me.
When she went back to Kenya to ask for a divorce, she brought her daughter with her but she was very young! There is a book documenting this.
It is not love this is not love it is simply lust this is a huge difference.
Lust because they are different, lust can't last to 4 yrs. If it was a Swiss and Italian and they broke up after 4 yrs would it be lust?? Why is it lust to an African, it's just cultural differences can happen to anyone
@@n.m6249because they literally couldn’t speak to each other, she never learned his language and he never learned hers. They didn’t know each other at all but claims it was “love”. Let’s be honest, she was fascinated by that dark meat.
Agreed
@@n.m6249 It did not last 4 yrs. Just she insisted her stupid idea and did not wanna go home because she must have felt embarrassed.
I am Croatian girl,not religious but spiritul,my husband is Moroccan and Muslim,sometimes it is hard because of cultural diffrences,religion etc... but it takes two to work it out,love is not enough!
How come you married a circumcised guy when you're used to 4skins.
Muslims will be happy as long as the man is Muslim in the marriage. If it was a Christian man with Muslim women, you get all curses. They seek to increase their population by simultaneously decreasing the Christian population, and marrying Christian women is a way to do it. Please, my fellow Christian sisters, be aware. They won't let their daughters and sisters marry Christian men, but the other way, they will be very happy. It's a strategy of conquering through the wombs.
People from different cultures can succeed in marriage if the cultures are not too divergent from each other. Too much expanse to navigate. 🤔 The Island girl; 🤗🌴
Love is love… unfortunately it never lasts forever.
Love can last forever if both people are unselfish and mature enough. My parents were married 68 years, until Father's death.
@@cathynewyork7918 I stand with my statement… it doesn’t last forever death will take us all there for ending the love. At some point or another, all of us go through this love doesn’t last forever.
@@cathynewyork7918 sounds like your parents at a wonderful 68 years together
@@lacyrussell6688 For many people, love doesn't last at all, due to selfishness and bickering. If love lasts until death, then love DOES last forever, as death is "the end of time" for that love.
@@lacyrussell6688 Yes, they were marriage partners but also best friends. They were exceptional people.
My husband and I have different religions, cultures, languages, we are conplete opposites on most things, but the foundation is built upon repect and communication.
We both had to have and continue to have conversations about what our expectations of me as the wife, him as the husband, and us together as the goals for our marriage together are.
We love each other and that is why we have to both put our pride aside to compromise for our mutual benefit, love and support.
It takes work. Lots of work. But, if two are committed TRULY committed to death do us part, then everything no matter how difficult can be worked on.
Exactly IF both people are committed to make it work, but in this case and in my case they were not committed. I realized I was most happy alone without having to make compromises about things that I didn't even understand, and he didn't want to make ANY compromises. Everything should be as he commanded. I never regretted divorcing him but I DO regret marrying him.
It didn't end badly for her husband or his family. She has been supporting them for years.
Love isn't everything
Learn the customs, traditions and learn to know the culture
God made everything ans everyone in Pairs! Even though ppl get curious and they cross over into other cultures they oftentimes learn they are not a essential pair. She later found her match who looks like her, speaks like her and understands her. He also I’m sure is with his match from his tribe who looks like him, speaks his language and lives the same culture. She was blessed to have a great experience that many women like her fantasize about. Life is about learning and growing. Blessings to them both!✨
My husband and I do not look, speak, or belong to the same culture. I am black and he is white and we have a beautiful mix race daughter. This year we will celebrate our 25 year anniversary. Love is never enough, what keep people together is commitment which is a choice so is personal growth. The rate of divorce in the US among people that are the “same” is over 50%…
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@@xiomarahunter2351owever, I assume that you are both Americans, or at least, "modern" people who both lead modern lives. So fundamentally, you both have similar lifestyles, unlike this couple. Actually, I'm not even sure that modern Black Americans would enjoy themselves in an African tribal village although they might look similar, mostly because of the different lifestyles - just like how a tribal warrior might not enjoy living in a filthy 50-storey skyscraper in New York, far away from nature and clean fresh air.
Wow... amazingly beautiful mom and daughter...protect your kids...
I really like that they used actual photos. Great job!
Samburu are really nice people...I admire there culture so much
Yess and also goodlooking people
They were slave catchers in the olden days....
What culture? You mean hunting, singing and dancing around the fire?
Thank God she took her daughter and they left for a better life in Sweden
Structured dependent Western behaviour which handicaps human development in favour of AI ...
You are so programmed or you just saying this stir conversation Mr Kassim. Does mean living in Sweden totally save to live. Time again and again people are leaving superficial lifestyle like west and Europe just because it's not sustainable. Its not necessarily a better life Sweden. I am assuming you are from some third world according your name since most of the world influenced or dominated by those people west or European. They promote standard of living according their's. That's why the indigenous people of the land before and after is completely different. Ask yourself what does it mean a better life? Good luck.
What do you mean when you say a better life?!!! Life is an amalygam or a variety of many complex issues
@@mugwanezaeric6755 Better life in the west Europe means being slave to you government, working for big corporation and in the end of the month giving back everything to the state. It means also being brainwashed by MSM,not using your own brain, means being programed like robots. I am south European and the west is treating us same as African. They think that we are still living in the caves with no electricity, living a primitive life. True, we don't have shiny buildings, but we are free of governments putting his nose in every segment of our life,great food, friendly people, great hospitality. More than enough to enjoy my life.
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Thank you for this story.
I think I would draw the line at FGM also.