Yes..very true. Let's just say I have left a long trail of people upset and befuddled because they didn't (even try to) understand or appreciate me. And that's not my problem. I really did try, and gave of myself wholeheartedly. But they ultimately brought it upon themselves in the end. The rear view mirror is an INFJ's best friend.
Great feedback. I couldn't agree more Thanks for sharing. Now i know. Who i am I can't stop 👀learning laughing & Letting go I wish you the best in the world my friend. I feel very blessed 2 be me 🎈I am This i am 🎈 Take care & keep smiling L💚vE Laughter & Kindness.
I think you hit the nail on the head. I can come off as cold hearted to other people who are giving off negative vibes by reflecting the same attitude towards the negativity! People who are naturally kindhearted it's the total opposite
I freaking nearly fell of my seat ha ha! there is a statement in there around 3:39 that the infj has a love hate relationship with humanity as a whole and i burst out in laughter! Could not be more accurate!
I wouldn't say cold hearted nor callous. Indifferent yes. This is not an easy way to live life. Sometimes it is brutal to feel so much. I'm seventy years old and I really don't know if this is a good thing to be or in so many ways a curse. The only thing I do know is that life is much easier when kindness is a priority. Generally speaking.
I would sit and ponder relationships between others compared to others and I. Why am I so easily a friend but at the same time can't find these connections I see. That's just an example of my most highlighted, prevalent self Inquiry. But it wasn't until recently that my self awareness took a turn because of a hard time in life. I was confident that i have, do and always can stand alone. They haven't made me , they cant break me. I shed my judgment. And wanted to take my defenses down. Make real connections. I trusted myself. Im no spring chicken. I failed myself. The moment i tried to change myself, i was prayed apon. i crumbed and fortified at the same time. I became ME times ten. And although I felt ( feel) broken, I love and respect me more than ever. I'm " super" me.
I agree different not cold...they so often say we don't set boundaries and I can't disagree with that more, we do set boundaries but since we don't do it in a don't do this, don't do that, manor they are often disregard. I am not your parent, and I'm not going to try to control you. I will, however, voice my concerns it is up to you to either change the behavior or not. If not, I will not remain in the situation, that simple.
I laughed like a maniac because right before a massive wall of things to do at work, there was one tiny task that was given as "be sure to do first and foremost". It immediately conjured an image of throwing a glass of water at a raging fire or plugging a hole in the dam with one's finger. The same humorous visual metaphor was not shared by all in the moment... I guess if comedy is tragedy plus time, maybe it needed some more time.
one thing i learned many years ago is my humor is definitely not for everyone. i always just say it was requisitioned to me in boot camp and i just refused to give it back when i etsed. i could relate to so many things in this video and couldnt help but laugh at its accuracy.
I've noticed this 2 😮🎊😅 I've given up trying 2 appease others Life 2 beautiful 2 care I live I laugh I act with Kindness I show compassion I'm happy 2 be happy. & I've noticed how funny i am Thanks for sharing. Take care Keep smiling L❤️ve Laughter & Life🌻
Our humor pokes fun at serious things that need saying......we love humanity, its just people we can't stand...!.....i like to say .. " please don't take advantage of my good nature"...door slams are necessary , final and liberating....brutal honesty instead of verbal anger is a better choice....I laugh out loud at myself often...finally.... I wouldn't change places with anyone...❤
I don't attend pity parties. I care deeply about people's genuine troubles. But when someone is always feeling sorry for themselves and see others that don't pander to their sympathy needs as cold-hearted, I can get down right ruthless. Giving them the pity they crave is only enabling the handicap.
this is so me , I treat people how they treat me be nice and I will be the same but piss me off and I will shut you up without even trying , which has got me in hot water at work but even then my boss could not answer my questions when I was challenged , and as a writer words come easy to me , great post, cheers
I dont mimic or mirror negative behavior i address it. I have been considered a " truth sayer" as long as i can remember. A door slammer. And the one you come to when you need a trusted ear for advice or favor you wouldnt ask others. Im a character checker. And will never entertain argument unless its geared towards resolution of some sort. Ive always been considered rough around the edges. But never had an " enemy" in my life. Im a 38 yr old women but i feel like i relate to a stubborn old man thats always got some wisdom behind his words. Not to say im wise. I just try to choose my words thoughtfully no matter the tone of conversation.
That's exactly the kind of uncomfortable truth that people will get from me. And I suppose that my "enemies" have also always been kind of fans...or stalkers, for that matter. They may not like it, but they sure seem to come back for more. 😂
I think I just have a way of cutting straight to the point. For one thing, I don't really like small talk, and for another, it seems to scare people to not talk around certain subjects. I may just see life more clearly than a lot of people, I suppose, and I'm not so willing to BS my way through it. 😂
When people ignore my advice, and then find themselves in deep water or drowning, I have no sympathy for them. I accept the consequences of choices I make for myself, and I will pull myself up out of the hole I've dug. But, I expect others to do the same even as I sit close by to provide support but no sympathy.
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Yes..very true. Let's just say I have left a long trail of people upset and befuddled because they didn't (even try to) understand or appreciate me. And that's not my problem. I really did try, and gave of myself wholeheartedly. But they ultimately brought it upon themselves in the end. The rear view mirror is an INFJ's best friend.
Great feedback.
I couldn't agree more
Thanks for sharing.
Now i know. Who i am
I can't stop 👀learning laughing & Letting go
I wish you the best in the world my friend.
I feel very blessed 2 be me
🎈I am This i am 🎈
Take care & keep smiling
L💚vE Laughter & Kindness.
yes I have been called cold hearted by my mother , my fiance, my friends but honestly I am just protecting myself from more hurt from them
I think you hit the nail on the head. I can come off as cold hearted to other people who are giving off negative vibes by reflecting the same attitude towards the negativity! People who are naturally kindhearted it's the total opposite
Yes, great way to put it simply!
Exactly👍🙏
I freaking nearly fell of my seat ha ha! there is a statement in there around 3:39 that the infj has a love hate relationship with humanity as a whole and i burst out in laughter! Could not be more accurate!
I wouldn't say cold hearted nor callous. Indifferent yes. This is not an easy way to live life. Sometimes it is brutal to feel so much. I'm seventy years old and I really don't know if this is a good thing to be or in so many ways a curse. The only thing I do know is that life is much easier when kindness is a priority. Generally speaking.
I would sit and ponder relationships between others compared to others and I. Why am I so easily a friend but at the same time can't find these connections I see. That's just an example of my most highlighted, prevalent self Inquiry. But it wasn't until recently that my self awareness took a turn because of a hard time in life. I was confident that i have, do and always can stand alone. They haven't made me , they cant break me. I shed my judgment. And wanted to take my defenses down. Make real connections. I trusted myself. Im no spring chicken. I failed myself. The moment i tried to change myself, i was prayed apon. i crumbed and fortified at the same time. I became ME times ten. And although I felt ( feel) broken, I love and respect me more than ever. I'm " super" me.
I think you're exactly right. And if it weren't for the kindness to counteract this indifference it could certainly come off as a more negative trait.
I agree different not cold...they so often say we don't set boundaries and I can't disagree with that more, we do set boundaries but since we don't do it in a don't do this, don't do that, manor they are often disregard. I am not your parent, and I'm not going to try to control you. I will, however, voice my concerns it is up to you to either change the behavior or not. If not, I will not remain in the situation, that simple.
I laughed like a maniac because right before a massive wall of things to do at work, there was one tiny task that was given as "be sure to do first and foremost". It immediately conjured an image of throwing a glass of water at a raging fire or plugging a hole in the dam with one's finger. The same humorous visual metaphor was not shared by all in the moment... I guess if comedy is tragedy plus time, maybe it needed some more time.
First and foremost better have been to make sure there's coffee. 😂
My humor is so freaking dark! I laugh at highly inappropriate things, because there is either laughter or tears... and I prefer laughter.
one thing i learned many years ago is my humor is definitely not for everyone. i always just say it was requisitioned to me in boot camp and i just refused to give it back when i etsed. i could relate to so many things in this video and couldnt help but laugh at its accuracy.
I've noticed this 2 😮🎊😅
I've given up trying 2 appease others
Life 2 beautiful 2 care
I live
I laugh
I act with Kindness
I show compassion
I'm happy 2 be happy.
& I've noticed how funny i am
Thanks for sharing.
Take care Keep smiling
L❤️ve Laughter & Life🌻
I like cracking jokes on myself when I mess up. It cuts the tension and gets others laughing too.
Our humor pokes fun at serious things that need saying......we love humanity, its just people we can't stand...!.....i like to say ..
" please don't take advantage of my good nature"...door slams are necessary , final and liberating....brutal honesty instead of verbal anger is a better choice....I laugh out loud at myself often...finally....
I wouldn't change places with anyone...❤
I don't attend pity parties. I care deeply about people's genuine troubles. But when someone is always feeling sorry for themselves and see others that don't pander to their sympathy needs as cold-hearted, I can get down right ruthless. Giving them the pity they crave is only enabling the handicap.
this is so me , I treat people how they treat me be nice and I will be the same but piss me off and I will shut you up without even trying , which has got me in hot water at work but even then my boss could not answer my questions when I was challenged , and as a writer words come easy to me , great post, cheers
Omg ! You nailed it!!!!!
🙌 Thank you!!
I dont mimic or mirror negative behavior i address it. I have been considered a " truth sayer" as long as i can remember. A door slammer. And the one you come to when you need a trusted ear for advice or favor you wouldnt ask others. Im a character checker. And will never entertain argument unless its geared towards resolution of some sort. Ive always been considered rough around the edges. But never had an " enemy" in my life. Im a 38 yr old women but i feel like i relate to a stubborn old man thats always got some wisdom behind his words. Not to say im wise. I just try to choose my words thoughtfully no matter the tone of conversation.
That's exactly the kind of uncomfortable truth that people will get from me. And I suppose that my "enemies" have also always been kind of fans...or stalkers, for that matter. They may not like it, but they sure seem to come back for more. 😂
110% accurate ✌️
Thank you for the feedback! 🙏
very true
inflated ego's , big hate for me
I think I just have a way of cutting straight to the point. For one thing, I don't really like small talk, and for another, it seems to scare people to not talk around certain subjects. I may just see life more clearly than a lot of people, I suppose, and I'm not so willing to BS my way through it. 😂
Love u guys! Thank you for everything you do
😭 Thank you for the appreciation and support my friend, it goes such a long way
When people ignore my advice, and then find themselves in deep water or drowning, I have no sympathy for them. I accept the consequences of choices I make for myself, and I will pull myself up out of the hole I've dug. But, I expect others to do the same even as I sit close by to provide support but no sympathy.