guy in vrchat talks about his mom's drinking problem

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  • @syrmor
    @syrmor  4 ปีที่แล้ว +578

    Was supposed to get this video out friday but my computer broke so it had to be finished on a laptop. rip computer :( NEW UPLOAD SCHEDULE: Monday, Wednesday, Friday. FOLLOW ON TWITTER: twitter.com/syrmors

    • @hauntedn8v
      @hauntedn8v 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Syrmor 👌

    • @frickundertal1057
      @frickundertal1057 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's alright syrmor, rip computer... :(
      but we're proud of you 💖

    • @akumulight
      @akumulight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Syrmor its alright 🥺

    • @addison9190
      @addison9190 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Syrmor it's fine! :)

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you Syrmor, this was a great video

  • @marka8817
    @marka8817 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3178

    When she said "excuse me, i want a family but not with you"
    Boy I'll immediately drag her out the house.

    • @peafowl7567
      @peafowl7567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      Ma Ko I can kind of understand tho my ex said the same to me and I was ok with that, at least she was honest

    • @theadhdagenda_668
      @theadhdagenda_668 4 ปีที่แล้ว +124

      That’s like... the worst emotional blow you can give someone ever. How can you stoop that low to not realize how much of a dick you sound like when saying that.

    • @Horologica
      @Horologica 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      I can't read it without a bitchy, entitled voice, he got rid of a tumour right there

    • @squidge4728
      @squidge4728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      I don’t get that. Obviously you plan to spend your life with the person you want a family with so why would she even stay with him the moment she realised she didn’t want a family with him

    • @MadTimmy
      @MadTimmy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      He pretty much admitted he was a piece of shit at the time. He’s grown since then, but he made it pretty clear looking back he understands why she felt that way. Would you want to marry and start a family with someone who drinks every day?

  • @Spookydigy
    @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2250

    Every person's trauma is theirs and should not feel less when you see another person hurting. I wish you all the best

    • @leoninenoble
      @leoninenoble 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @eyselsi4778
      @eyselsi4778 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      AJ theyre not sharing anything tho

    • @Jyxa
      @Jyxa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I couldn't have said it any better. Trauma is not relative, everyone experiences it in their own world. Someone, for example, might have lost both of their parents in a car accident and has severe trauma over that. Another person may have been bullied at school and experiences that on the same level as the other person. One shouldn't use their own trauma as a measuring stick and the same can be said for those using other's experiences to gauge your own.
      I am sorry for your loss, but grateful you shared this story with us. It's very touching, and I think it will help people who may be in similar situations. Hope all is well with you!

    • @alexowen3776
      @alexowen3776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I want to hug you so bad right now

    • @auron._.8868
      @auron._.8868 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If more people could have your way of thinking, this world would be a better place.

  • @Spookydigy
    @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3971

    Hi everyone, I'm Digy from the video, thank you very much for watching. Syrmor did a wonderful job and I watched it with my wife and Mom. That's right Cute Cat Boi found love and now has a Mom again who loves him. Not gonna lie, I cried watching this video...I cried watching myself talk

    • @smileyneni8200
      @smileyneni8200 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

      Thank you so much for sharing your story!! We all really appreciate your openness to talk about your life and addiction. Also super happy to hear that you’re living a better and happy life!! :)

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      @craftedbythemoon my thanks to both of you for your kind words

    • @Motowad
      @Motowad 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Glad to hear you are doing better! You deserve nothing but the best

    • @croissantgal168
      @croissantgal168 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I hope you have an amazing day! You deserve to be loved and cared for. I'm glad you found amazing people that care for you, you are loved and cared for.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @temporaryriley yo da best!

  • @JustADioWhosAHeroForFun
    @JustADioWhosAHeroForFun 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1588

    The rat's avatar looms over the cats

    • @laboon344
      @laboon344 4 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      It kinda scares and creeps me out

    • @buggyking2523
      @buggyking2523 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      He’s powerful

    • @just_ally5561
      @just_ally5561 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Lmaoo

    • @overlyhuman
      @overlyhuman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      i’m high af and it keeps like moving it’s eyes outside of his head idk it looks so scary

    • @jameshauck9148
      @jameshauck9148 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      The tables have turned

  • @evyonedies
    @evyonedies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +767

    When Cody asked the person being interviewed what it was like to lose their mom I started crying because of that video of Cody and Syrmor playing Minecraft and him talking abt his mom who has cancer and AAAAHHHH

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +149

      yeah, I tried not to show a lot of emotion because I wanted to respect him, he's a good kid

    • @oomay1925
      @oomay1925 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Aw I didnt know that. That's ashame :(

    • @bones4564
      @bones4564 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Nice profile pic

    • @pancarialice
      @pancarialice 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      love your pfp, lmao

    • @draken5379
      @draken5379 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Spookydigy You handled it great.

  • @notbluskra
    @notbluskra 4 ปีที่แล้ว +435

    Poor dude got rejected so badly. I feel so bad for him.

    • @dizzod123
      @dizzod123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Anon RBLX that’s gotta hurt a bunch :/

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      I'm ok, it has made me stronger and helped me be grateful for things I do have

    • @JPK314
      @JPK314 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Spookydigy hey man thanks for sharing

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@haloboz hello Ricepaddy. It happened by chance and neither of us were pursuing new partners. My father found someone new after 10 years and it was someone I knew since I was 13 years old and I was friends with her kids. They worked bingo and volunteer work and they have been friends. He actually asked me if he could date her which was very respectful. I dated the person I talk about 9 years after and was in a lot of bad relationships until 2016 (16 years). I was working at Spencer Gifts and she was the manager of a Claire's Boutique and told my boss, her friend, that I was cute. I asked her out because why not? If someone is attracted me I was "yeah, they are cute..I'll go on a date". We clicked on the first date and it was weird to meet someone who was so kind, respectful, and hard working like me. Being with her felt right and I have never left her side. We had a big Indian wedding because she is Indian and Irish. I wish you the best because it truly is a world where you meet someone you will match with but accident and do not rush. I hope this answered you question.

    • @m0on1emoth
      @m0on1emoth 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      ikr no one should ever have to go through that :((

  • @nehemiahzo_
    @nehemiahzo_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +405

    This hit me. My grandfather was a major alcoholic for years, he got an ulcer and almost died. He was coughing up blood. His stomach lining was burnt right through. He could’ve died, and I’m glad he stopped.
    Edit: Thank you for the likes. He’s doing much better now, and I am damn glad for it. Happy he’s still kicking around. The only thing that worries me about him is that he isn’t scared of Coronavirus, and continues to take the bus everyday.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I'm sorry to hear about your Grandfather. Thank you for sharing

    • @wantedtofeelwanted3717
      @wantedtofeelwanted3717 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope he's well

    • @nehemiahzo_
      @nehemiahzo_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Take_care_ok • 13 years ago Yeah, he’s doing okay now.

    • @nehemiahzo_
      @nehemiahzo_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Digy he’s doing okay

    • @eltonj888
      @eltonj888 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nehemiah Zo Digy is the guy from the video :)

  • @cmdrcharles6284
    @cmdrcharles6284 4 ปีที่แล้ว +654

    Huge ups to Cody, best Jr. interviewer ever!

    • @guy3630
      @guy3630 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      CMDR Charles ye

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I agree, he did a great job

    • @trrebi981
      @trrebi981 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      CMDR Charles He sounds like he grew up a bit. Voice is a bit lower.

    •  4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      CMDR Charles i think listening to people's problems like this is really good for him, makes him a good listener

    • @squidge4728
      @squidge4728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Tristan Bigornia Well he has been on the channel for a while

  • @janbaan4024
    @janbaan4024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1060

    I honestly appreciate how you give these people a platform were they can share their experience and give their advice to someone who is in a similar situation. Hope one day YT puts you on the trending page, or on "Creators on the rise"

    •  4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      syrmor posted some of the earliest Ugandan knuckles videos so if I had to guess he probably already got in trending I think

    • @badtriceratops1867
      @badtriceratops1867 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      O Rei do Iêiêiê Like, for this content, these serious videos where people let go, like just some people honestly talking.

    • @cacauldr
      @cacauldr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I like the sincerity of this whole thing. The fact that these guys are doing these things because they believe it's the right thing to do. They followed their own rules. Taking time to get to know the other, to patiently and respectfully listen and not worrying about what it might give in return.
      Regarding the popularity rat race... I don't care one bit for what a platform company or crowd of passerby's thinks or wants. It's up to the users to decide what they want to create with the tools they find. A hardware store that sells you hammers, shouldn't be the judge of your handcraft.

    • @igrojikku2212
      @igrojikku2212 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It gives people an opportunity to open up about their problems, or “confess” some of their wrong doings in hopes of helping a bunch of other people across the world who can relate in some form. 💞

  • @akumulight
    @akumulight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +842

    I Feel Bad for these people and their family’s, they have all these problems they don’t want 🥺🥺
    Edit in 2021: I forgot about this comment-

    • @posnasarma123
      @posnasarma123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      It's really good that they talk about it. It's really important to get it of your chest....

    • @akumulight
      @akumulight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Djordje Mladenovic yea I’m glad that symor gets to talk to these people

    • @posnasarma123
      @posnasarma123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@akumulight and more people he talks to ,more of them will come out. It's really great.

    • @ddgaxelnilsson7855
      @ddgaxelnilsson7855 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lil Syncz u h o h c a n c e r p r o f i l e p i c t u r e
      y o u ‘ r e l y i n g

    • @posnasarma123
      @posnasarma123 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ddgaxelnilsson7855 you have a pic of your dinner....

  • @overlyhuman
    @overlyhuman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    the rat moving it’s eyes is freaking me out

    • @imchase7796
      @imchase7796 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Fr man it’s looking into my soul 😂

  • @hayitsleigh
    @hayitsleigh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +401

    It's so so important that the kids in vr chat, maybe boys especially, are getting exposed to these people talking about their lives with such emotion. Enough of this boys don't cry shit.

    • @nuggiesclan4652
      @nuggiesclan4652 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Facts g

    • @xThunderxWolfx
      @xThunderxWolfx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Boys can cry about this heavy shit. You probably just cry about bitch shit.

    • @Jedislayer19
      @Jedislayer19 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@xThunderxWolfx that's uncalled for

    • @SeppukuAddict
      @SeppukuAddict 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      A lot of people, especially nowadays that men's mental health issues are coming to light, advocate for this 'Men wouldn't kill themselves if they talked about their issues' crap, completely unaware of the irony in blaming men for men's mental health and holding men responsible yet again for fixing the issue. There really aren't any amenities offered to us besides 'talk it out and get on with your life ASAP'. People are fucked in the head if they think these problems get solved by sharing, it helps obviously but the causes are deeply rooted in the society we live in today. I cry when I'm alone, but I don't share with others. Not because I'm a man and I was indoctrinated by the evil patriarchy into bottling it up, but simply because no one cares when it's a man suffering.

    • @Rov-Nihil
      @Rov-Nihil 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's a double edged sword dude, there's as many empathetic people as there are people hell bent on abusing your weaknesses. You gotta know who to cry to and when. That's just how it is

  • @puceachips1046
    @puceachips1046 4 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    "My dad doesn't cry"
    Honestly I was tearing when he said that

    • @peluflw5295
      @peluflw5295 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      For real!! That shit hit me hard!

    • @Vil_Granted
      @Vil_Granted 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Man I wish I could cry just to be able to let it out.

    • @oogalook
      @oogalook 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Totally me too.

  • @QueenCreeps
    @QueenCreeps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    I broke when Cody asked D1GY what it was like to lose his mum. Sending love to both of you

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thank you Queen

  • @timetraveler9518
    @timetraveler9518 4 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    When he started to talk about how his girlfriend rejected him that way that hit me because I knew my best friend for like 5years we used to see each other everyday and just hang out together enjoy moments we lived many things together and he was always there for me when I wasn't okay, he was the only person who shared that amount of things with me... Then he recently started to slowly get away from me and talking to another dude, he just stopped talking to me for no reason and ignore me when I try to approach him, when I finally had the opportunity to talk with him and ask him why he did that, he just said in front of me with no feelings or anything that he wanted to stop being my friend and that I had a bad influence on him that he also never enjoyed anything with me, never liked spending time with me that I was useless and that he needed to do a cleaning in his life... I felt like trash and started to cry I stayed silent and he left like he never cared... Now I can't stop thinking about what made him take that decision and we used to listen to nirvana a lot so now when I hear a song from nirvana I remember him and start to cry even tho I know that I can't go back in time to spend one last day with him.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I'm sorry you went through that, when you open up to people and feel like you can be yourself it feels great but it feel horrible when someone says that and you feel naked and afraid like someone exposed you and you feel vulnerable. I hope that someday you can find someone you feel comfortable enough to be yourself around without worrying about this.

    • @timetraveler9518
      @timetraveler9518 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Spookydigy thank you for that I appreciate it and I hope everything is going to be okay I'll try to forget about him and start a new chapter

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@timetraveler9518 it's a good start! Cheers to you and I wish you the best

    • @davidalvarez118
      @davidalvarez118 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sucks man but it’s part of life sometimes you have to lose people to grow or at least change the hard way I guess . Keep it up man/girl

    • @lean_in_my_cereal4489
      @lean_in_my_cereal4489 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      maybe cuz your gay

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR 4 ปีที่แล้ว +236

    I haven't drunk since October 2019
    best decision I've ever made

  • @Johnny-nt2ng
    @Johnny-nt2ng 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    "life is short so.."
    I think that's an excellent open ended comment. I wish him the best

  • @kippywan3215
    @kippywan3215 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I was singing a song when my dog died and every time I heard that song I cried.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Along with "Gone away" I also cant hear that "now that your gone" from That Bailamos guy

    • @harry8656
      @harry8656 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh boy, I'm so sorry man, I wish there was a mythology or religion saying that don't worry guys, pets go straight to heaven and they'll be there for you for ever and love you eternally.
      I really wish you feel ok. I wish you a great life.
      Hope you reach the best of things.

    • @hollywoodchronic5874
      @hollywoodchronic5874 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My dog died when Kanye’s real friend dropped till this day that instrumental does it to me

  • @supersupersomething
    @supersupersomething 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Drops heavy relationship experience, nonchalantly but includingly says 'Cody I know you're young but just wait and everything.'

  • @sillypiffle
    @sillypiffle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    the “don’t give them the silent treatment because you may miss something, and i know it’s pretty hard but like; i know that she still loved me” hit me like a train. my dad barely is in my life and whenever he does something wrong he ghosts my family and comes back like nothing happens, and it’s like a cycle of him doing that over and over. i cut him out of my life because it keeps on hurting my mental health and this part hit hard. thanks, syrmor.

    • @wantedtofeelwanted3717
      @wantedtofeelwanted3717 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Have you talked to him about it

    • @sillypiffle
      @sillypiffle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Take_care_ok • 13 years ago i have multiple times but he says my mom has brainwashed me to think that. he always wants to be right so he blames it on other people.

    • @wantedtofeelwanted3717
      @wantedtofeelwanted3717 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sillypiffle have you witnessed all of the messes he's made

    • @sillypiffle
      @sillypiffle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Take_care_ok • 13 years ago some of them. but i blocked him because i can’t handle him ignoring all of the shit he’s done.

    • @wantedtofeelwanted3717
      @wantedtofeelwanted3717 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sillypiffle hmmmm he kind of deserves it

  • @sava3786
    @sava3786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the relationship part where she says "Yea i want a family, but not with you" damn that broke my heart, why bother dating then. i feel like this is why you date, to start a family

  • @TheToneBender
    @TheToneBender 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    That question Cody asked is a lot more meaningful if you remember he might lose his mom too 😥 hope he won't have to for a long time

  • @googleuser2353
    @googleuser2353 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is therapy to me. I had a hard time trying to figure out how to get my emotions out and it just kept bottling up. I don’t trust therapists just because of the topic of the issue I’ve been dealing with. This just feels real and it helps.

  • @user-ku8oh3qj5v
    @user-ku8oh3qj5v 4 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    This video is very touching. And brings a really good point. It's really important to be close to family as much as you can, even if it's not a strong bond. I know what it's like to regret a choice as big as the silent treatment. Since I am still a minor I cant relate to a drinking problem. But, I would cry myself to sleep forgetting that my family was there to help me. As of this time I am 15 and taking therapy is helping me with the multiple problems I have. Helping me build a stronger bond with my peers, family and people on social media platforms such as TH-cam. This video made me remember how much I need to value good family memories.

  • @noski1240
    @noski1240 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    My mom is an alocoholic and the part about the silent treatment made me cry. I’m gonna talk to her. Thanks Syrmor for putting out these videos, makes us feel less alone.

    • @oogalook
      @oogalook 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nice, dude. Hope that went/is going well.

  • @alphalamda545
    @alphalamda545 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I have a new found respect for this game. Had no idea it could help players feel safe and vulnerable to share

    • @laurensa.1803
      @laurensa.1803 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's like group therapy, but much cheaper.

  • @annoybot
    @annoybot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    @9:48 (to 10:18) [stage left]: why Syrmor's Public Health work in Adolescent Trauma should be awarded a MacArthur Fellowship

  • @the13rook
    @the13rook 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The first guy I had a similar feeling man, being in a place with someone who just doesn't see you as someone who would want to be with you anymore is such an odd feeling. Honestly getting out that apartment as quick as you can is the best thing to do. Because the last person to be there is really the one who goes through the most issues.

  • @aphrodite9675
    @aphrodite9675 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I feel so bad for him. You can hear it in his voice that he loved her. I’m happy that he’s happy where he is now though

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      thank you very much, I sent Syrmor the tattoo I have for my Mom. ASNF ( A Son Never Forgets)

  • @Spookydigy
    @Spookydigy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I continue you to see so many nice people leave comments of encouragement, solidarity, and give virtual hugs and I really have to say it moves me every time, thank you to all your beautiful bright shinning stars.

  • @Dasheble
    @Dasheble 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I haven't talked to my dad in over 9 years (I'm still angry at him) and after hearing everyone's stories about their regret not speaking to their parents more I feel like I should at least give it a try.
    I'm scared man.

  • @peterschoolmeesters4462
    @peterschoolmeesters4462 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    WHO ON EARTH DISLIKED THIS DO YOU HAVE NO EMOTIONS OR HEART, THIS VID DESERVES THOUSANDS OF LIKES, I HOPE THOSE DISLIKES ARE JUST BOTS, IF NOT THEN WE HAVE A PROBLEM

  • @Vanessa-wu8he
    @Vanessa-wu8he 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I feel bad for him he just wanted a normal life, a normal relationship but he ended up with this mess that he didn't deserve.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      We make the most of what we have and hope for the best

    • @laurensa.1803
      @laurensa.1803 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shit like this makes you hate women.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@laurensa.1803 10 years after we broke up I forgave her and we can talk to each other civily, it is best to forgive and just be thankful for what you have. Im married to someone so beautiful that loves me for me. :)

  • @mrunknown8335
    @mrunknown8335 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I know this is sad and all but every single pose the rat avatar on the right does is just perfect.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      He was silent for the whole hour we talked and when asked he gave one word responses lol, Rat B never change

    • @mrunknown8335
      @mrunknown8335 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beautiful, just like a true rat.

  • @Deddogbounce
    @Deddogbounce 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    When my mom gets really mad she gives me the silent treatment. She’s been doing it since I was a kid and it could go on for hours and she’d listen to me cry and apologize and stuff. I’ve never known if that was unhealthy or not

    • @cherryjuicee9690
      @cherryjuicee9690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      small sails awe honey i’m so sorry :( that’s not normal at all. a good parent would communicate with their child, not neglect them

    • @L16htW4rr10r
      @L16htW4rr10r 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My aunt also do that to me. It really upsets me everytime she did it. To be fair, I did say something painful to her, like her mouth smell really bad, but it still hurts.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      my heart goes out to you Small Sails

    • @champlood985
      @champlood985 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      small sails i’m so sorry you have to go through that man:(((, my heart goes out to you

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is not healthy, especially if you are young. We are not perfect and we all have flaws but at least she would apologize.

  • @jonasz2202
    @jonasz2202 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That question that pumped up licks asked just made my heart sink, I hope his mom and him are doing well :(

  • @amegalodonwithinternetacce5863
    @amegalodonwithinternetacce5863 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Poor cody dosnt his mom have cancer and she dosnt look well
    Praying for all of you :)

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      we did talk about this a little bit that was cut out, I actually crouched in real life to talk to Cody eye to eye when I gave him some advice.

    • @amegalodonwithinternetacce5863
      @amegalodonwithinternetacce5863 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Spookydigy im going through somthing kinda like his not with cancer but its really scary and since me and him are about the same age i kinda understand him

  • @DeeeCee
    @DeeeCee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    These videos are helping me. Hearing all these peoples stories is changing how I look at situations daily. Thank you

  • @donnylurch4207
    @donnylurch4207 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like how Cody is like Syrmor's sidekick. I wish I had a cool, older friend like that when I was Cody's age.

  • @failedlocket8787
    @failedlocket8787 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i hope this man is happy now. he seems like he'd be a good friend
    aw i hope his dad is doing well as well

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      damn, that was really nice to say, we are both good!

    • @failedlocket8787
      @failedlocket8787 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Spookydigy Ahh thats good! I wish a nice happy future for you both!

  • @LegoraOmbe
    @LegoraOmbe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Relate too much.
    I'm crying.

  • @agonyoverdrive4289
    @agonyoverdrive4289 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This person has a beautiful voice, I can hear deep emotion in it and I hope the feelings they are having right now are positive ones!

  • @colinnazario6335
    @colinnazario6335 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love how the whole time he’s just talking about this heavy stuff, there’s just a cracked out mouse looking sketch.

  • @KisaWorld
    @KisaWorld 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This story is so close to my life story with my mom. I wish I had a vr just to talk to you guys and express to many people that grief hits everyone diffrently and sometimes us kids have guilt. But then we also realise that they were in the wrong too and all we had to do was communicate and help each other. My mom had her issues but strived and loved so many people as well as helping others with her illness. I wish I wasnt a angry teen and I wish I would have helped her with her issues. Always try with the ones that love you.

    • @reapercometh
      @reapercometh 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      All you need is a PC. The VR adds to the immersion. You can be in vrchat without it just fine

    • @KisaWorld
      @KisaWorld 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@reapercometh I want the immersion, I talk with my hands alot. I've been in VR without, I love just listening to the interactions there.

  • @ryanarchuleta2913
    @ryanarchuleta2913 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is honestly the 1st youtube video I've felt in my soul. This actually made me cry.

  • @oo-kd3ze
    @oo-kd3ze 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing this power message I will never treat my friends and family like they don't exist and spend as much time as I can to appreciate their company and commitment. Thank you

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your nice comments

  • @peachant4633
    @peachant4633 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dang this really sucks imagine that your girlfriend telling you she doesn't want children which I can't even imagine how sad he must have been and your mother dieing and still being able to talk about I really wish I could give this guy a huge hug

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      D1GY on vrchat waiting for hugs

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I livestream as well but do not want to promote it on Syrmor's video.

  • @sunkenrandomness4266
    @sunkenrandomness4266 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Instead of a song, it was a movie. My grandma had died, and the last time I saw her was when I was watching Chicken Little in the living room. I went home and a few days later I heard the news and I was heart broken, even more when I figured out how...

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for sharing, that is tough to hear. I like Chicken Little

    • @autumnoliv.e7244
      @autumnoliv.e7244 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m really sorry that happened to you. I get the movie thing. I was watching Tangled when my Aunt had a miscarriage. My mom and dad came home crying, I just felt helpless, before that point they had never cried in front of me. I just hugged them and kept saying sorry, I thought it would make them feel better, I was really young. I don’t really like Tangled anymore.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Big hugs to both of you

  • @violetviolo
    @violetviolo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i feel bad for loads of people during this video including cody when he asked the question my heart broke

  • @LovecraftsFear
    @LovecraftsFear 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The relationship thing is legit my situation right down to the military and living together. It just killed me man.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing, I'm sorry you are in that situation and I wish you the best.

  • @collectiveconscious2670
    @collectiveconscious2670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I went through a very similar experience and ended up losing my mother to drug and alcohol problems right before I was set to graduate high school. I wept through almost this entire video not necessarily at the thought of remembering all of the pain it caused... But to be reminded that so many other people out there have had to deal with a similar pain. I'm so glad that you give people a platform to tell their stories on, Syrmor. It's a powerful reminder that every person you pass by on a daily basis has a whole life behind them and to try to move in a way that is more compassionate and understanding.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said

    • @collectiveconscious2670
      @collectiveconscious2670 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Spookydigy Man, if this is the same Digy from the video (and I hope it is because I gave you a follow.) I'm so sorry to hear you've endured through so much. It was weird watching this not only because I have many similar stories but we even sound similar to each other. The parts where you get choked up while talking is exactly how I sound when I try to share my stories with other people... And that, well, that was really hard to hear. When you said, "You might miss something.", I wish there was a way to really let people know how important that statement is. You never know when something is going to happen. When my mom came back from rehab I was so pissed at her for everything she'd done to my sisters and I that I had trouble even looking her, let alone speaking to her, and then she was gone. There was so many signs in hindsight that I could have paid attention to but didn't and I couldn't even process how much I cared about her... And how much she cared about me until it was too late. Thank you for sharing your story with everyone. I can't speak for everyone else but I know that for me it really means a lot to know that I'm not alone, that so many of us carry a heavy weight and we can make it through to hopefully brighter days. I certainly hope you have or are on your way, Digy.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@collectiveconscious2670 yes I am D1GY from the video, I had Digy on vrchat and I forgot my password so I could only get something close to it.
      I read aloud your message to my Dad and I was getting emotional reading it because I truly appreciated you sharing your story with us. I am happy that you know that you are not alone and wanted to share something that was really personal and painful on a main stage to show those who have or going through it that they are not alone.

  • @npcimknot958
    @npcimknot958 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It really is amazing how cartoon characters in a great setting makes us able to connect to each other regardless of who you are.. it really is sad this can’t work in the real world

  • @InkySushi
    @InkySushi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really wish i had someone to talk to like Syrmor and the gang. thanks for letting strangers talk about this shit they go through its really awesome you do that.

  • @El_Chompo
    @El_Chompo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It's so revealing how their relationship really went downhill when they moved in together. If anybody has watched any of Patrice Oneal's dating advice videos it goes along with all the stuff he says.

  • @marchforth3515
    @marchforth3515 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I agree people shouldn’t give the silent treatment to certain family members or friends or whoever is significant in their lives as a general rule, but sometimes it is better than actually talking. It can be dangerous for some people to continue talking to a certain person. Some toxic people are extremely manipulative or can trigger certain trauma issues when one talks to them. And those cases are really sad. But it is better to put your health first. I cried watching this though, it’s a really tough situation :(

  • @oruststation8454
    @oruststation8454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My ex never told me that she wanted to breakup.
    I still never got my answer, but through actions more than words, it was pretty evident.
    I knew the end was coming, so I just pulled the pin, I was in the spot of wanting to move in with her, but I don't think she ever wanted to, I wish she just told me.

  • @octaviaclarke
    @octaviaclarke 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I lost both of my parents my dad from cancer in 2011 when I was 15 and my mom when I was 20 and that shit is rough. I saw both my parents yknow not being able to function and in the hospital near the end and that shit is the worst things I've ever been through.
    My sister and I still have arguments alot and we have moments of not talking to each other and I hope that atleast my sister and I can make stuff up together.

  • @Austin_La_Flame
    @Austin_La_Flame 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love listening to these videos cuz they are so heart felt and I can just listen to them like a podcast

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is very nice and good background, I listen go Leo's first interview a lot

  • @charmaine6412
    @charmaine6412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Watching this hit everything in me. today is three days away from the six month anniversary of my mom's death. She was an alcoholic, and died from liver failure. Losing her was the worst moment of my life. I was so lucky to have the best mom i could've asked for, but the alcoholism got the best of her as much as she fought it. I am still young, so this felt deeply isolating for me. No one could relate to me, and no one around me knew what i was going through. hearing this story makes me feel a little less alone in knowing others understand a tragic experience like this. thank you for sharing it.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for this comment, it means a lot. I know deep down my Mom tried her best but her depression and addiction got the best of her. My little brother was 17 when this happened and he felt the same way. I joined the military 9 months later so I was gone for 7 years so I do not know how bad it wa for him truly as he grew up.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am dealing with my father in law who has a drinking problem and shared my life with him and told him that he can either think about us or think about himself and drink. You can't make people stop but sharing stories and tell them how much they mean to you and how bad it will be if they are not there can be enlightening.

  • @Purpie_Slurpie
    @Purpie_Slurpie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just really want to give that man a hug

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do it, gave me a hug I'm d1gy on vrchat

  • @fifi36965
    @fifi36965 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    thank u for the new vid my lord and savior syrmor

  • @SuperHyperAngel722
    @SuperHyperAngel722 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m glad that D1GY is doing better but I feel bad that he went through what he went through. I lost my paternal grandmother to alcohol related problems. I was too young to understand it at the time but as I grew up, my family would tell me that and it made sense. It became one of the reasons why I vowed to not even start drinking which people do give me shit about but I just don’t want to begin that cycle again. My bf isn’t so lucky with his dad but I’m glad D1GY’s dad chose to stop drinking. Keep going strong D1GY!!

  • @tommyreusse3858
    @tommyreusse3858 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    im so happy the vr environment and character (lol that smile to the right 9:11) make it a little more light hearted

  • @phillipstone2432
    @phillipstone2432 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just started listening to these. I love them. Peoples stories are really important to me. These all have a strange kind of magic even if they are sad a lot.

  • @jamesmills5326
    @jamesmills5326 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This one really hit home for me. I went through a breakup last August. I had dated the same girl for 3 1/2 years but one day I noticed the feelings I had for her weren't as strong as before. As days went by it felt like I was looking at my own relationship from an outside perspective and I hated it. I love her to this day, but I wasn't IN love anymore. It breaks my heart because she was honestly the best thing that ever happened to me. She changed me for the better. After we split I fell into a stupor of drinking and doing drugs to constantly numb myself so I didn't have to deal with the idea of being alone again. I'm still high most days and have a drink or two at night but it's gotten better. I feel for that guy and wish him the best

  • @jeksbando3002
    @jeksbando3002 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got here searching VRchat videos and landed on @Syrmor’s page and I haven’t left even subscribed, thanks for this these people are so relatable and that helps knowing what others are going or been through.

  • @ColtNomad
    @ColtNomad 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just found Syrmor today and have binged a bunch of videos. Earlier I listened to the one with Cody in minecraft talking about his mom. So when he asked his question, I started to cry. Ugh I love these videos but they are heavy.

  • @tylermagoon4366
    @tylermagoon4366 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just went through a very very bad breakup and V Chats out here keeping me alive... thank you guys 🤗❤️

  • @haisesasaki423
    @haisesasaki423 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My father is the same way, I've never seen him cry even when he injured himself really badly. The only time I've seen him cry was when I was injured by a vehicle on my way to school....i feel your pain about your father....i hope you feel better emotionally and i hope you have a good life

  • @spaghettiopizza8686
    @spaghettiopizza8686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video got me really emotional...
    That's super rare for me

  • @redrapskin1056
    @redrapskin1056 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I sorta feel like this. I haven’t talked to my mother in years due to her alcoholism. Most of friends don’t even know i have a mom bc im too embarrassed to say so

  • @aSpicyCow
    @aSpicyCow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my mom used to have those issues, some bad stuff happeend, it wasnt terrible or anything but, idk shes good now, but im actually greatful for it because it, shaped me in a way that i know im never going to touch alcohol after seeing the stuff that happened with her and the things it made her do. eventually she stopped she saw what happened to her, and shes been sober for nearly a year. This is just something i related too and, alcohol isn't good so. i actually thought that it was normal, and even my brother did, we never knew that it was odd, or not right, my little brother thought it was more normal than i did, and only in the past few years did i really realize, that, maybe that wasnt right.

  • @sethstartix
    @sethstartix 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I forgot about this video and now with tears i totally remember. This dude is solid. Thanks for all you do for ppl Sy. I think everything else is just people bottling this up or ignoring it, or pretending. Keep doing what you do man.

  • @ReempiLps
    @ReempiLps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    god damn this hit me like a truck
    my mom passed away 1 1/2 months ago aswell and we didnt end on the best terms allthough i know her kids were the most important thing in her life

  • @MasterofCurry20
    @MasterofCurry20 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The mention of ‘Songs that bring back bad or heavy emotions’ threw me back, all I could think about was ‘Cat’s in the Cradle’, I listened to that song for hours after my Great Grandfather’s death, just the mention made me begin to cry. I hope this man has made it farther in life and he is enjoying himself as a happier person now.

  • @fruityloopy7230
    @fruityloopy7230 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a nice cat

  • @guhrizzlybaire
    @guhrizzlybaire 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I went through this with my ex, only I was the girl in the relationship. We went to visit his family in another state, had been dating three years and living together and his relative mentioned him marrying me/starting a family and he like joked about it being so fast, had a real knee jerk "hell no" response. It was awful living together. Fast forward almost five years I have a child with a partner I am engaged to. I had so much ptsd and health issues from the breakup but things eventually settled down.

  • @IntoxiKent
    @IntoxiKent 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who downvotes any of these? Such touching and heartbreaking conversations. True humanity in such a ridiculous format. I love that I found this channel.

  • @LaughBoxCaleb
    @LaughBoxCaleb 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    for the most part had a really easy and carefree life and ive never struggled with depression i get anxious every once in a while but thats it really and ive always taken stuff for granted and after watching some of your vids ive realized that i need to stop taking everything for granted and appreciate what i have so thank you for spreading these stories i appreciate it. this shit is heavy XD

  • @marksalmon6403
    @marksalmon6403 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Man, I might have to get a fckin VR Headset to talk to you. Everyone has his stuff to carry and to talk with others online without any direct connection is just so relieving. It does help a lot talking about stuff you can't or don't want to talk with someone you know. You are doing such a great job and I'm crying almost every time I'm watching a clip from you.
    Keep it going, you're doing all these people an incredible honour and I don't know if you know that.

  • @chocopie1165
    @chocopie1165 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Glad to know I’m not the only one who went through something similar

  • @NoisyyCricket
    @NoisyyCricket 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just found this channel after playhing VRChat for a bit. Stuff like this inspires me to actually go out and talk to people despite having crippling anxiety and I have to thank you for that.

  • @michaelgonzales7179
    @michaelgonzales7179 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I know what he means about that “Sad moment” song, mine was Romeo & Juliet by Trippie Red, I listened to a cover tho. When my ex cheated on me it huuuuuurrrrrtttt a lot, I remember crying to that song a lot. The cover was amazing, I love that song. But for the life of me I cannot listen to it without crying. I’ve gotten over it tho, I realized that relationship was doomed from the get-go.
    This was the song: th-cam.com/video/RQUU1W1PK5c/w-d-xo.html

  • @backwoodsjunkie08
    @backwoodsjunkie08 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This dude had some amazing advice. Life is indeed very short , live everyday like it's your last. Love your family And your spouse like there's no tomorrow! Very very wise words to live by!

  • @GuilhermeOliveira-ml3cj
    @GuilhermeOliveira-ml3cj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Those videos make me cry so bad

  • @TrismegistusMx
    @TrismegistusMx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good advice, if you feel like your parent is capable of love.

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      In my mind I remember when it was good like when I was 14 and the only pictures of her and I were from my childhood.

    • @TrismegistusMx
      @TrismegistusMx 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Spookydigy my earliest memories are of my own parents fighting. It only went downhill from there.

  • @raygun23
    @raygun23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    “You can’t wrap it up in a week” clementine will remember that

  • @caydenlaffey2019
    @caydenlaffey2019 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When he talked about the song that you link to a break up, I started thinking about the song that I was listening to when I found that my dad had died, “Who Wants To Live Forever” by Queen. I hung up the phone, I drove to the nearest exit, parked my car and broke down completely. It was raining heavily. The last time I saw my Dad was the day before, we went fishing, like we did almost every Friday, I watched an episode of Red Dwarf with him when I drove him back to his house, I can’t remember the episode name but it was the cowboys episode, and I went to my flat. I went to work the following morning, was driving back after a long shift, and I got the call, my dad had died from an unexpected heart attack. That song was my dad’s favourite song, I remember being 10 and staying up all night playing games and just hearing my dad downstairs drunkenly singing the lyrics. I miss him...

  • @Kermitgottagun
    @Kermitgottagun 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Watching this make me so emotional and relive the torment I went through with having an abusive father and stepmother, alcoholic mother, half brother that resents me and an ex that left me with nothing except the wish of death. I hope he’s doing well now and I’m grateful for finding this channel and hear others stories. Know that if you’re ever going through something you will always be loved and someone is willing to hear your story without judgement.

    • @iantaran2843
      @iantaran2843 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn,
      Not everyday you read a comment that sound and feels like I wrote it 🥲
      Hang in there 🙏

  • @Spookydigy
    @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everyday I visit this video to like & answer your questions. Thank you all for sharing.

  • @nattysocool
    @nattysocool 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    That’s so sad 😭🥺
    I feel so bad for him oh my go-
    That’s makes me cry oh my god 😫
    I hope he finds someone better😭

    • @Spookydigy
      @Spookydigy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I did, we got married last year and just bought a house

    • @nattysocool
      @nattysocool 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Digy That’s Awesome!🥳 i hope they made you happy and you made them happy too!

  • @lopezbox
    @lopezbox 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "My Dad doesn't cry." My father is the same way, if tears flow, something one in a life time is happening, or the possible worst outcome as come to pass....

  • @seahorseseahell2045
    @seahorseseahell2045 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    True story's are so hard, harder than anything else on this planet. But uts always inspirational to see how people keep trucking along, all in our different ways. Gotta always try and see the positive through the fog of the negative. Easier said than done but not impossible:)

  • @planxanso3994
    @planxanso3994 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm this same situation with the drinking im 21 commented the sotry on the latest video, dude had me balling his voice shaking talking about his mom stuffs hard thanks for sharing the story and thank you for making the video 🙏🏻🇨🇦

  • @ITSSKUDDUMMY
    @ITSSKUDDUMMY 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I want to give a huge hug to every person you interview

  • @jdavis6053
    @jdavis6053 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I usually keep my emotions in check but man this hit me hard. Makes me grateful for what I have.

  • @chiary.is.not.amazing5760
    @chiary.is.not.amazing5760 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this hits close to home...
    my mother was an alcoholic. she lived in poverty and her father left their family when she was young. when she met my father things were going well, but then she got pregnant. and guess what? she drank (in secret) and smoked cigarettes throughout the whole pregnancy.
    when my dad found out she was cheating on him...
    He confronted her.
    He started to find the hidden beer bottles in our house.
    he discovered that she was depressed.
    then he started to ask for help to her mother (my grandma) and her sister but they said they couldn't help us (even tho the law says that family members can force other family members to be hospitalized).
    trigger warning: suicide, description of suicide
    and then, out of nowhere, in May (2011), my grandmother found her in the living room, dead, while we weren't at home. (she used to have the keys to our house).
    she hanged herself above the living room table.
    I didn't see it, but my dad told me every detail.
    needed to talk about it to someone, sorry.
    I don't even know if someone's gonna read this

  • @astrangehero
    @astrangehero 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've had similar problems in my family... not drinking problems but both of my parents were/are mentally ill. When he talked about losing his mom and it just... feeling like it was "over" I felt really bad for relating to that.
    It's like you never knew your real parents, when they pass you start to understand more and more about them as the years go on; but at that moment... it's almost as if it's a relieving loss. Some souls are just broken in this world.

  • @KumataroSauce
    @KumataroSauce 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Idk why but i cried hearing this story 😭😭