How To Be Seen As Strong & Confident
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Joe Rogan has the most popular podcast on the planet. And I think a huge portion of that can be credited to the fact that his authenticity, especially in the face of conflict, is respected by a huge portion of his audience.
So in this video we’re going to talk about 5 things that you can do which will command respect in tough situations without acting like a jerk.
The first thing that cannot be discounted is that Joe Rogan is a trained fighter. He knows how to defend himself physically. So he’s more likely to speak up around people who act violent than you would be if you were afraid of getting hurt.
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"Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony" Love that.
I also think dishonest harmony cant last
True, eventually those little issues fester inside someone until it explodes in a disproportionate way. Plus it's a form of lying, I would prefer my friends were honest when they disagreed with me no matter what the subject was.
Yes, it can lead to resentment - and resentment is corrosive
Life Expands it's a vacuous statement that the reader will fill with meaning
revelationreflection - you believe that statement can have many different interpretations? I must admit I didn't see it that way, and struggle to do so. Can you give some examples?
How to get more respect:
*NO* *HEY* *HEY* *HEY!*
Damn cracked me open a bit
😭😂😂😂
Haha
The Kickboxing Community ajajajjajajaja lmao
*HEY! HEY HEY!*
How to command respect? Respect yourself first.
Couldn’t be more true
THIS
Absolute truth, and if people don’t respect you even when you have self respect know that something more deep is the problem, and that thing isn’t in you but them.
Amen. I always wondered why no one respected me, but then I looked internally and saw I lacked respect for myself. as soon as you start respecting yourself, you expect that same respect from others. You don’t settle for less than how you’d treat yourself. And you also start to demand that same respect for the people around you when you see they are being pushed around.
You mean be fake ?
I've spoken up several times throughout my life. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it comes with negative consequences. Be prepared for both. Both outcomes are way better than not saying something.
In the end, you win or you learn.
So you win win.
No. Sometimes saying nothing is better. Always say less than necessary.
Well said !
@@xmanofficial less than necessary? Doesn’t that imply you didn’t say enough?
tHIS IS THEmost sensible comment. Ive come accoss in this section.
Don't be nice...
...be kind.
Agree. Because there are plenty of ppl who are "nice", but they aren't kind. Cause most people are full of shit! I have to know it!
Im the exact opposite. I try not to be nice to stragngers but be kind. That's the best way to find friends.
Those who like you, will like you because of your character and not because you were "nice" to them.
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There’s a difference between pretending to be nice due to cowardice and being kind due to bravery. Fake nice guys will throw you under a bus in times of crisis while a genuinely nice guy will help.
Behaving like a gentleman these days is considered being nice/weak when in the past centuries it was just expected of an honorable nobleman.
@Homer Socrates it makes perfect sense that people relate nice to weakness. Can you say ALL the niceties you do are genuine and not out of weakness in some way? A lot of people just aren’t powerful enough to do the right thing when put under extreme pressure.
@@jono601 The niceties I do are mearly out of respect because I believe that is what should be expected out of all of us .
Treat others as you would want to be treated that is how I was taught growing up .
That is unless they give you a reason to not respect them IE disrespect you and if that is the case then you disassociate from them.
Old cultures such as Bushido and the knightly chivalry also highly valued honor ,loyalty ,integrity ,respect and manners .
@@jono601 Just because most people nowdays are disrespectful dishononable POS doesnt mean I need to break my principles.
Even if I dont always like it I cannot break my principles.
Lead by example live by example in other words.
Exactly, being nice because you're weak isn't a choice, it's survival. Being brave and being nice at the same time IS a choice
“If you and your husband hit one another that’s one thing” 😂😂😂😂😂
Lmaoooooo
Hey Hey Hey Hey!
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I was like wait what?
Even that's not ok bruh
Grown woman hits a passive man. Other people: "Oh well, she can express herself that way." Joe Rogan: "Whoa whoa you can't run around assaulting people." Right on. That is what equal rights are about, equal responsibility.
Yup. No hitting!
I wanna talk about my current situation a girl at my workplace we’re work friends or I should say we were work friends in 2021 I had simp traits I learned & improved that some of what I see here lot caring what other people think of you. In short recently I found out that that girl is leaving I found out from other people, my boss sees me like her son so she talked to me but I didn’t talk to her about anything I don’t know I was like she’s gonna talk to me & stuff but she didn’t than on Tuesday I believe some how she found out from my boss that I know about her leaving. I don’t know what really she talked to her but she stop talking to me now ignores me now. I felt disrespected & I got pissed off. I guess it’s all misunderstanding bc I wanted to have that control where I don’t get taken advantage off & think of every move that I do. I don’t know the story could be too long if I wrote but if you guys have any tips suggestions how should I handle this please let me know
You gotta let go of her. I had a friend like that too when I worked at a Chick-fil-A, and I was a total simp for her but didn’t care. Then, I took her to a movie on Valentine’s Day and later that night she texted her ex that she still liked and told him that her going to the movies with me was the mistake of the month. I liked her and really tried to be just a good friend to her, but we’re no longer friends and looking back I can honestly say I would miss nothing if I never knew her. If that girl is leaving anyways, and she won’t even talk to you about it, I would say she isn’t a good friend and won’t help you become a better person. It’s probably a hard situation for you, but it’s better to let her go. Best of luck to yoy
@@-Schlatt- Yeah bro she doesn’t seem that type of a friend honestly heck we never even hangout when I asked her to hangout last year she was just playing around with me stuff. And after this he said she said stuff that I got trapped on, I would highly doubt her. I wanna see her actions what she do now I can’t trust her words. Yeah the sad thing is part of me wants to ask her about Snapchat or IG but I also know how she is which is another thing. I have her number but I haven’t text her since November we talk at work though. She’s a type of girl who would keep close relations to some guys & also I saw her talk to the guy who she rejected. In short she seems like she wants to use guys like guys who are desperate & stuff. I don’t know but I have to be very careful what I’m talking to her & stuff. She’s leaving end of the summer so still lot of time the other sad thing I should have stayed strong from the beginning & ask her about her Snapchat or IG around 1-2 months something but she played hard to get so it was not easy & now things are like this
@@-Schlatt- And thanks bro for supporting I’m in a time of need that I really need to talk to my best friend & stuff. I can’t stop overthinking that easy right now….
step 1; learn martial arts......
Very true
Yes yes yes yes go Go Go Go Go.
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He thinks he’s tough
Step two, get a gun.
Everybody needs a friend like Joe Rogan
Eric Matterson very very very very few people will be willing to have a friend like him once they have it. I think it’s fair to say most people are highly uncomfortable with being challenged.
@@Racso88e That is true. Pretty much everybody wants to surround themselves with people they agree with. So that way they don't need to justify their beliefs/opinions. Which I find to be fairly unfortunate.
Why not be a friend like Joe Rogan? It's easy to expect things from others but hard to do it by ourselves my friend.
Especially when I need a loan.
I dont think so he would just leave and steal lines off of you also all the time. I mean its like calling the kettle black when hes the one with the black satin spray paint
One of my greatest regrets is that I never stood up to bullies. There is a time at which physical force is necessary and desirable for dealing with bad behavior.
I was bullied a lot in school, my family had to move around each year because of it. Once I reached high-school it stopped and I'm so thankful for that. How did it stop? Idk. It just did.
I have Touretts Syndrom and in the 80s no one knew what it was, so they made fun of me...once the internet came out it gave everyone a different prospective of it I guess.
I was afraid of getting physically hurt, but instead it made me get mentally hurt and now I am trying to deal with that.
I thought bullying went away when I got older, I just realized people got better at hiding it
There's no need to regret or focus on the past. You've learned and you're a better person for it now. Stay present and be grateful for what the past taught you. It's difficult to retrain your thought patterns, but you can do it, one thought at a time. When you become conscious of your thoughts, you then have a choice in that moment to either let that thought affect you or let it float by. It will become easier with time if you keep at it.
@@FutureClubNow
Thank you.
Seems to me the fact that he knows he can physically defend himself in the worst case scenario goes at least like 50% of the way toward alleviating the anxiety of speaking your mind.
After I got into my first and only real fight as a young man and was able to defend myself, I lost so much fear in my life.
Wow, as an already highly kind and brave woman I can't wait to learn physical defense. I'll be unstoppable if it doubles your bravery.
I've never been afraid to speak my mind, it really does help that I'm usually the biggest person in the room and learned wrestling and boxing as self defense. When you know you're typically safe, you feel the fear wash away, and can just be calm. It really does help tremendously in speaking your mind. The discipline that goes with it too helps.
@@aaronc4899 shadow box everyday be ready
@@aaronc4899 Why did you get into the fight in the first place? And where?
"I gotta break this up or Joe's gonna kill em " 😂
That’s the wwe wrestler the miz
@I witnessed coronavirus The Miz is the guy who said that, not the guy whom Joe got in a Muay Thai clinch.
That would make me so mad if I was restraining someone that was trying to be violent and aggressive someone tried to break it off like I was hurting them. I would almost be more mad at the person breaking up the fight and the person trying to kill me. I know that sounds like I’ve verbally but I don’t know it’s just punch that guy in the nose and go back to restrain the other person. If I was someone that was really good at fighting.
@@jessejive117 Right on the money my thoughts exactly. It's like if someone attacks you and you immediately get the upper hand in defending yourself someone always thinks they have to "break it up", got to play traffic cop.
@Sports Entertainment When you learn pro wrestling, you learn how to shoot grapple.
Honest Conflict is ALWAYS better than Dishonest Harmony. Perfectly worded. 100% true.
I find that sentence so powerful.
@@ThePathOfEudaimonia me too. I am surprised how few people agree. As it is easier to coexist in harmony.
Yes, and I really believe Honest Conflict is a necessary process to achieve Honest Harmony. We should strive for honesty in all cases, with all the tough and painful talks that go along with it, instead of all the pretending and avoidance just to retain the illusion of a harmonious situation. In the end thát is the destructive attitude in my experience.
Id like to debate this, because i think i disagree.
Scenario: If i am an athiest. And im trying to comfort a young girl who is dying of cancer, and she asks me if she will go to heaven, should i be honest? Or do i comfort her in her last moments?
Choose wisely gentlemen.
@@Skycapten93
Being honest is "I don't know". That's the answer I would give. Saying she will definitely go to heaven, with the chance she will perceive you are not speaking truthfully is the worse alternative in my opinion.
I imagine myself also saying something like this:
"I am not sure if there is a heaven, but if there is a heaven I believe you belong in it, because you are a wonderful human being."
No lies there. Conflict is not always necessary to achieve harmony. There are other ways. My ultimate point was that there are always better alternatives to being dishonest, with honest harmony and speaking truth empathatically the foremost one.
I’m honestly so frustrated because my family and my best friend don’t take me seriously when i’m not trying to be funny. I straight up tell them I’m mentally exhausted and i’m crying almost each night because i can’t accept myself. They laugh it off.
That's disrespectful. I'm sorry to heard that.
I suggest you give them serous consequences for their behaviour and show your displeasure openly and loud. Some people don't want to understand, unless things explode right on their face.
Bro same thing
I always love these comments where people share something completely random about their life completely unlreated to the topic of the video
Same
@@MrKrusten this is the reason why i watched the video, it’s because i want to stand up for myself without being a jerk, so i thought i’d share my story.
It's also very hard for some people to get over this habit of non-confrontation if they grew up with a parent that applied the whole "no back talk" thing to situations where the parent was in the wrong or they tried reporting problems to authority figures that did nothing about the problem.
You just gotta go in and talk. You begin to realize once you start responding consistently and don't give up in the conversation, most people are just talking. Most of their goal is to just be the last person making sound. Outtalk them and you win the conversation.
I think this is true. A person who is undervalued and invalidated often will end up resorting to violence.
The 5 things you can do to command respect (in order):
1. Know how to defend yourself
2. Honest Conflict has more social value than Dishonest Harmony
3. Avoid being absolutely right - know that your opinions and perceptions are fallible
4. Confront a particular behavior and not the person
5. Realize that you dont have a conflict with the person, but with a pattern of behavior
6. Try DMT
@@Marcus_Halberstram i like you
4 and 5 are the same.
JC Denton 。、やらはまくんだ
@@Marcus_Halberstram why DMT tho I've done lsd but how would DMT do anything
So. To summarize
1. Train yourself physically
2. Speak up. Tell the truth. But also consider the situation
3. Dont be afraid to be criticized or be disliked. It is normal
4. Dont be afraid of confrontation
5. Admit that you don't enjoy the conflict
6. Allow for nuanced truth
7. Your opinions are not infallible
8. You want to confront the behavior. Not the person.
9. Do not namecall. Remember number 8.
But name calling is the fun part you fucktard!
@@ponchred that was not nice, dimwit
@@ponchred lol
@@flamejr2391 lol
I see what y'all did there ...
He’s so real and honest with what he say to others. People may think he’s a jerk but I think he just letting his friends know the truth. Many people in this world just want everyone to agree with them or go along with whatever they are doing but I rather have a friend like Joe who’s tell it like it is.
Saying this as "a friend like Joe" myself, if people would _be_ a friend like Joe themselves instead of passively _wanting_ a friend like Joe so they are not rocking the boat, the world would be a better place.
We kind people don't gaf about being wanted, we want things to be better objectively more than we want approval, that's why we are kind in the first place. That's why we are comfortable with being rude for good purposes. We want a proper society, so as a return of our favor, we'd appreciate it much more if people tried to be kind themselves instead of just applauding us on the sidelines. Everyone prefers a friend like him but as also seen in the example A, not everyone deserves to have a friend like him. Not even mentioning the issue of how for most people this "I prefer rude kindness over nice flattery" is just a pose and they can't appreciate it when it actually happens, again, as also seen in example A. No matter how many kind friends you have, if your ego rules your life their kind concern can't help you. Speaking from experience.
@@cerenyldz2754 I know exactly what you mean.
Wow. This is powerful : " honest conflict is better than dishonest harmony". Amazing
Knowing how to say no is the best way to command respect.
i say no too much
I say yes too much
Its true i say no to my manager all the time and yet ive still gotten 2 raises in the past year.
I say say to much
Its funny, most people’s minds can’t comprehend NO.
Most people feel guilty for saying No, and feel crushed when told No.
Joe "No Hey, Hey, Hey! " Rogan
Haha, my favorite part
Hahahaha that is awesome. Imma have to use it in the future. Thanks for that.
Joe "I love you dude, but..." Rogan
@@ReasonableRadio lmao
Ay man, wanna build some muscle?
Without sound, Joe Rogan and Carlos Mencia look like they are battle rapping.
I’m constantly working on this balance. However I should note that direct confrontation when you have a problem with someone only works if that person is willing to validate your concerns and engage in good faith to modify their behavior. With people who gaslight you, it’s best to just go with the “eye for an eye” approach.
You ran face first into the point and still missed it...
You’re right, it only really works if they’re willing to participate in productive dialogue..
If they’re not, it isn’t a lost cause. “Eye for an eye,” is rarely the optimal approach to take with someone. The idea is to lead them to a state of mind where they can have that productive conversation.
That’s the goal of the content here; to teach viewers how to tell people things they may not want to hear, but without triggering them to become defensive.
@@mendelson6052 whatever helps you sleep at night, "nice" person on the internet.
@@cerenyldz2754 Ok? Lol
@Borfis Jort I said it’s rarely the optimal approach and I stand by that.
I think vengeance has some inherent positives. I’m not sure that it’s ever healthy to chase, but knowing that people have a natural desire to, “Get even,” I believe it helps maintain accountability.
When we know there are negative consequences to a bad decision, we’re less likely to make said decision. You won’t punch some random person in public, unprovoked, even if you really want to because you know you’re probably going to get punched back.
I recognize the value in that... But I believe there’s almost always a better approach than meeting someone with equal and opposite force.
@Borfis Jort That depends on the situation.
For example, if I’ve been performing above expectations consistently for a significant period of time at work, I ask my boss for a raise, and he says no, I could just refuse to keep providing the quality of work I have been. That’ll teach him, right? He told me no so now I’m gonna tell him no and then he’ll give me the raise, right?
Maybe... if he doesn’t fire me.
But rather then be defensive toward him, I think a much better option would be to prepare a presentation or at the very least, a solid argument as to why I think I deserve a raise.
I’m going to calmly, clearly, and concisely address several key business needs, how I’ve been fulfilling them, how I plan to continue improving my productivity, and I’ll be sure to draw attention to the amount of time that I’ve been performing at this level. Then I’ll ask for the raise.
If I’m still told no, I’m not going to get angry. I’m not going to pursue any sort of revenge. I’m going to thank him for his time, go home, and start looking for another job.
Let’s say I get a job offer that’s comparable but the raise I asked for is worth staying for.
Now I’m going to carefully and strategically leverage my new job offer to get the raise I originally asked for.
In this scenario, I can professionally force my boss’s hand without threatening his ego. I don’t have to make things personal or get even with him to get what I want.
You can influence people without making things messy.
Look, this is something that I've been wanting to tell you, but I've been uncomfortable about it, and I haven't wanted to say it. No one is gonna sign up for Charisma University.
LMAOROFL!!!!!!!! This is underrated as fuck! But I do think no one is an exaggeration. Still funny though. Hold this W
Yeah They are kind of being greedy by capitalizing On human behavior and the eight way to deal with things,these are things ALL PEOPLE need to know not just the ones who pay or happen to have good parents.
Look, this is something that I've been wanting to tell you, but I've been uncomfortable about it, and I haven't wanted to say it but I'm afraid ....you were born without the rare sarcasm gene.
I've been wanting to say that same thing for so long
LMAO... Savage
I just had a super intense conversation with my friend. I started out with "Look, this is convo I didn't want to have, but we both agree it needs to happen. You hate confrontation, i hate it too, but we need to have it" And it was really productive. I am learning it's ok to have confrontation and still be friends regardless if we disagree. Big move for me. This video just made me feel I am doing alright, thanks dude
Really brave and way to go!
stantler16 . I was lookin' at comments bfor I watched vid. yours did it. thnx, what you said made me proud of you, & I don't even know you! I'm gonna watch.
congrats, that's huge!
You sound gey af
Takes one to know one!
The problem is sometimes people mistake their opinions for facts and sometimes they have a lot to lose. It's great that he is comfortable and able to speak up without losing his livelihood. I wish this was always the case.
Whenever you are having a critical conversation, simply use the BUILD,BREAK, BUILD theory; Build them up by saying things you like about them, then address the issue and how you feel and then end off by Building on the things they do well. This way the conversation starts off with the individual feeling great about them self and then going straight into what the issue is causes them to feel less offended because they know it’s coming from a good place. After addressing the issue, finish things off by saying things they do well. This way they feel super hyped about themselves and take your thoughts into consideration.
That depends... When someone like a boss says you know, you are doing a great job, you have exceeded expectations, and you understand blah, blah blah. BUT! , and then it comes. If a boss starts with the build up, I become suspicious from the start. If its a friend, or my wife OK its usually sincere, it depends on who does the build up.
This can work but only to an extent and maybe not at all for many people, it’s either too obvious what’s about to happen if they’re smart enough to realize it or just ignore your advice completely.
Build, break, build can almost always be very effective.
Usually, if it’s ineffective, that’s because the person using it has made some mistakes. There are several important factors to take into consideration, subtlety being one of them.
The right tool for the job doesn’t work if you don’t know how to use it.
It really comes down to how effectively it’s used rather than the potential success of the technique itself.
I've also heard this called the "sandwich method," and since I know about it, it is so manipulative when I see people doing it to me. I suppose it might work if people didn't know about it.
At least Your boss has cared about your feeling by putting build break build in the conversation. Being sensitive is a gift but not ego sensitive
A few of my friends told me not to get married because she wasn't right for me. I didn't understand what they meant and was a little angry. We got divorced in 2 years. I have so much respect for them for being willing to have the difficult conversation. I should have listened.
What were their reasons for her not being right for you.
They had a 50% chance of being right by default.
Yup, I am extremely confrontational. I told my friend not to get married to this one guy just kas everyone else is getting married and kas he had $. She didn't love him either. I even told him too but he didn't listen. They got divorced 3 years later. she was always going out cheating on him while telling him she was going out with me. Anyways found another dude left her hubs for a younger kid (broke af) lol. And her ex hubs was blaming me along with her mom because she would say she's out with "me" when i never went took her out nor introduced her to any dudes. I didnt support her cheating habits and we arent friends no more kas shes fake. Now her new guy is cheating on her. While she stuck at home w baby.
@@Bal3na I wouldn’t be friends with anyone like that in the first place
@@Bunny11344 this exactly
Joe Rogan with hair is just wrong on a fundamental level.
@Jack Percy I know that feel bro.
FACT: Joe was born with a lush Elvis hair hairdo but made is go away with rational objective reasoning.
Joe Rogaine
Thumb head
That is a remark only liked by little millennials who don't remember Joe from the old days with hair.
I think it's great to give someone advice in privately. I think its rude - and a lot of the times just an ego boost- to tell someone something in front of everyone.
that part.
Couldn't agree more Ws just this morning mentioning a dentist whom shmed my friend for not brushing her teeth enough in front of all the other clients he had in his waiting room :-Completely not required whtsoever 🙏
Agree. A co worker emailed my boss and upper ups regarding a mistake I made. Instead of speaking to me privately as a professional should, she decided to take the petty route.
@@iamweird321 God bless you :- It's a way of people with power, to a
buse their power,
Form of control, & when these professionls humili@te us, in front of others,,, they feel even More powerful, extremely sdly
But folk whom aren't sh@llow,hopefully,,, well some of them, might see through this 🍀🙏
@@JDobrozsi1 There's forever the option of telling them in either a sep@r@te room, or if a room apart from everyone else, truly isn't a possibility & it hs,,, to be s@id,there&then:-Then telling them in a whisper, so that no one else can hear, needs to be the way to approach
However, i feel the a
mount of times, one would need to give advice in front of others, immedi@tely,are limited
Others shouldn't take offence if you tell them, they need to mke themselves sc@rce,whiles you spe@k to someone individually /confidentially I'm sure they'd like the sme respect, if it ws them, about to given personl advice
Just putting ourselves in others shoes, helps immensely
Blessed are those who have a friend like that.
Don't make me say it...
I'm not sorry that you broke your elbow
JackStrait im about to say it (say it! say it!) i don’t care that you broke your elbow
We live in a society
I'm dying laughing omfg.Was not ready for that.
i was going to like, but 777
JackStrait 😂
There is a difference between being assertive and being aggressive
You are everywhere dude 😂
Michael Jay - Value Investing and that sadly people forget this
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Tell that to a woman during an argument and see how it goes
What about being aggressively nice!
I have always said what is on my mind when asked and spoke truthfully without malicious intent and always showed respect where it is due but not a given.
I also have no friends
Who needs fair weather friends anyway?
Your statement is probably false, then.
I love you dude, but you need to stop distracting me from my homework
Ha ha true
yep just happened to me
I like this pull push compliment
Same bro!!
I’m also doing homework
"Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony." Beautiful. I've been trying to express this point for years (to people who believe in lying to temporarily silence or placate every minor disagreement that arises), yet somehow I just couldn't get the words right in a concise manner. Thank you.
First I agreed with that quote but then i wondered what social value actually is and if it's always helpful or even necessary
In Japan, and other parts of Asia you have to choose honest conflict VERY carefully. When and how. EDIT... This may be even more crucial for the foreigner. As the penalties can be sometimes arbitrary.
Yes. It is perfectly stated by Mr. Rogan; parents start teaching their children how to tell so-called “white lies“ so as not to rock the social boat. I live in a town that holds Harmony-even though it’s a thin veneer of harmony -at all costs.. I don’t have any friends in this town, which is ironic since I’ve lived here longer than I have ever lived anywhere in my life. Nine years. I am only here because this is where my elderly parents are, and I thought that it was only fair to my daughter and my parents that they have some kind of relationship. So I “sentenced” myself to 18 years in this town or until my parents die. As the only single parent in all of the fourth grade, all through grammar school my child was often not included because of my marital status and general “different-ness” (I am an artist, I don’t care about consumption/consumerism, defining myself by what I own, etc). Now my kid is in middle school and things have gotten exponentially worse, as I discover that even the so-called professionals live under this veil of fake niceness.
Grawlix Sounds like suburbia many parts of the world. But I recognise that extreme in Japan. One has to accept you cannot force people out of their fearful existence, and sometimes accept our lot. I live in a similar locale, but have an active network beyond my area. Have you tried getting involved in community events? Schools, voluntary work etc? Acting in a safe space can help foster relations.
DionysianAssasin first off it was super sweet of you to respond, knowing there’s one person out there, a total stranger that gives es a damn. My friends are scattered all over the world, find a community in which I was excepted would be a long long drive. I live in New England (One of the worst places in America to make new connections)
Thank you again it was a pleasure hearing from you
telling the truth is hard, but finding friends who are willing to HEAR it is much harder!
There are so few people left that understand these concepts.... it just makes me sick that we've completely lost sight of the value of honesty in the proper contexts. But there's always hope to bring it back, thanks for shedding light on this!
*"If it's very painful for you to criticize your freinds, you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue."*
-- Alice Duer Miller
Good advise!
Ty! ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ✌
🙃
P.S. You welcome 🤪
I could see that, but some guys are good at ribbing each other, like making jokes at each other's expense to point out little flaws.
Hade inte förväntat mig att se ett Roffe fan här.
If i had a kick like that I’d be able to solve conflict in a heart beat
I do have a kick like that.
I didn't realize that I took the same martial arts as Joe. Taekwondo. That is one of my favorite kicks. And the turning hook kick.
Problem is, you can always tell when Joe is about to throw a spin kick because you see him start to rotate his shoulders
Dark O.L. 1 😂 wtf u gonna do about it
@@darko.l.1731 Here we go. Master martial artists here.
@@darko.l.1731 don't listen to those dibshits
"Realize that you don't have a conflict with a person but with a pattern of behavior". couldn't agree more.
"Honest conflict has more value than dishonest harmony" wow, I love that.
"Hey, hey, hey, hey"
"No hey, hey, hey"
"Hey, hey, hey, hey"
"No hey, hey, hey"
Hey no!
Hey is for horses... and cows like you!
Joe missed that stand up gem.
The Miz breaking it up lol
Joe: Do you want a ''Hey Hey Hey'' or a ''No Hey Hey Hey''
Jonathan: ''No Hey Hey Hey''
Joe: ''No Hey Hey Hey''
Jonathan: ''Yes no Hey Hey Hey
Joe: ''Really No Hey Hey Hey''
Did you just save me 11 minutes?
Joe's a tough guy but he's a sweetheart.
Like everyone who only speaks the truth
He is not a tough guy a groupie to a fake fighting organization can't u morans see through this arrogant little narcissist
@saganist a arrogant annoying comedien with an obsession with violet sport how does that make him a role model bong on Joe
He could have had those tough conversations with his friends off air. He did not need to humiliate them with an enormous audience listening. That was low down and selfish.
@@StarfieldRailway totally agree. He used them for youtube views
Saying that, "You should say the harsh truth, but not every negative thought," reminds of when my PE coach said, "Being as healthy as possible doesn't mean, 'Never eat a pizza, ' and 'Never eat a ding dong.'"
"When you accept the fact that being nice, and avoiding harsh truths isn't necessarily kind and it's NOT being a good friend..." - That hit me like a TON of bricks. Dang... Thank you for the wake up call - I REALLY needed to hear all of this.
I'd love to have Joe Rogan has a friend, sometimes its hard to be honest when people hate the cold hard truth
He's the best of us.
Depends on how you deliver it... some people feed on other’s flaws & use it as a way to put them down, a true friend would go about it no different than Joe, cause the way he does it, leaves em blameless & only offer them to accept the game being given... unless that person is a narc🤣
I do have limited exposure to Joe Rogan, nevertheless he appears to 'actually' speak the truth rather than those that 'make out' its the truth when it's simply one's opinion..
It's best thing to have in your circle
I wonder though if Joe rogan had a boss and the boss was doing things that Joe didn’t like or behaviors Joe didn’t like would you tell him even though he could risk joe getting fired from his boss?
thats sick man, but have you ever tried dmt ?
jaime pull that up
Buddy of mine told me
DMT in an isolation tank bro...
😂😂😂
But have you looked into it?
People often mistake this for negativity or that someone can only see bad in them. But if handled gracefully, like Joe Rogan does, it takes on the role of necessary evil. And that's seriously hard to do. Much respect to him 🙏🏼 and thanks for yet another excellent video 👍🏼👊🏼
Fun tip: A great way to practice confrontation and speaking up before trying it in the real world, call people out in the comments. You’ll get a great grasp on how people can respond.
Hey hey hey
Don't hey hey me
Horse: I heard there was a lot if food here
😂😂😂😂😂
😹😹😹😹
Underrated 😂
@@andrewpham8563 just a lame joke
:D :D :D
Wanna be charismatic? Be sincerely interested in other people. Ask questions and let them speak...and be genuinely interested in what they say.
PERIOD.
That'll be $175.
squanto2 but what do I say?
muzikology 101 spend the $175 and find out
@@DreadfulRedemption lol good one
Y'all accept Debit?
2 lines from "How to win friends & influence people" doesn't equate to $175 or charisma, but sound advice otherwise!
Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your good nature and use it against you. Don't be so nice that you start to resent the people you're nice to.
I'm not afraid of Confrontation. I've notice when I'm too nice I get ran over but when I speak up tactfully then I'm respected
It's like a on and off switch for me, If am off then am a complete jerk
“You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.” Winston Churchill
"It is a sad thing if you have no friends. It is even sadder if you have no enemies." Che Guevara.
@@tonyiacomi4822 we need both the right balance :-)
Oh how i miss Winston Churchill... and i am not even British! But in a lot of ways, i don't find him all that dissimilar to Donald Trump. Military service is the obvious difference. But both men had a very obvious style that many other people found unbefitting of some one in their station. But they didn't change. Both of them preached a positive message, realizing when it is time to clear the poker table and just start a new game.
But on the side, about WW2, and Soviet intentions, Churchill was ahead of the curve. Roosevelt, and then Truman, but mostly Roosevelt, sold out the American public, and he also sold out the latter part of the war effort. But i guess that was true to color, Roosevelt was more Red than he was Old Glory. And i don't just mean the American public, but also people like the stalwart resistance in Warsaw, Poland. Those people were flat out sacrificed over politics during WW2. Why? i don't understand that outside of pure politics. But it was wrong. And Winston Churchill knew it was wrong, and he at least disavowed that decision. And i say that with both respect and sympathy to the Russians, because i look at the USA as an event that happened at the right place, the right time, and purely by the grace of God -even though we have been far from Godly as a nation. The Russians would have loved to have what we have, and in some ways i think America patterned after Russia. Russia had Cossacks, here in the States we called them Pioneers. But here also is where another difference in our national development occurs. In the USA there was California territory where the 1849 gold rush occurred. There was Oregon, and now Washington that was so rich for farming and fishing. When Russians moved east, some under royal decree, some under royal opportunity, what did they encounter? A vast wilderness, yes ... and that is where my narrative is going to end, because just as i hate it, when even my good international friends presume to understand American history, i do not want to narrate Russian history further than setting a backdrop.
Sher KhanHe said during the war "...we can take it!" (the bombing of London). He was voted out after WW2.
I love this. I hate when you come across an obituary where it reads, “loved by everyone”. Then what the fuck did they do with their lives? They’re cowards.
That's why I love this guy. Criticism is the highest form of care.
Sure - criticism doesn't cost money so that's what cheapskates say.
@@paulsawczyc5019 what are you trying to say?
@@me0101001000 Talk is cheap - whether it's advice or opinion or criticism.
@@paulsawczyc5019 sure it is, point taken. But it's a start. Especially from someone who loves you and respects you. I come from a home where nothing is more respected than growth and improvement. And someone giving you a point in the right direction shows that they have a stake in my excellence.
Not discrediting your view. I'm just sharing one of my values.
@@me0101001000 criticism is judgements criticism is also focusing on what someone else is doing sometimes you have to judge or have some sort of opinion but at the same point you wanna live and let live especially if what theyre doing isnt hurting anyone or is bettering them self
You hit the nail on the head about knowing how to defend yourself. I've avoided far more fights by learning than when I was scared and pulled knives or bats when things got to far. Now I do as I feel and try to never be the bully whole never tolerating a bully.
Wow. Beautiful video! Conflict is scary but feels so good when done. Especially releasing repressed emotions.
Be heavily muscular and able to choke people out.
Have a pair of balls
I agree with both of you
Pretty much. If you can defend yourself physically, you can say whatever you want without fear of retribution.
faxxtts 🤣🤣
Bruce Lee was about 7 stone, 5'8. He's still one of the most influencial, respected humans and fighters we'll ever see. All his muscle was lean, not bulk mass. I'm pretty certain there are guys twice his size who wouldn't have the balls to challenge him in a street fight when he peaked.
His ability to round house kick anybody into the shadow realm has nothing to do with the respect he gets.
You think he would have the confidence to not backdown when a 6ft muscled guy gets right up in his face yelling if he wasnt trained in jiu jitsu? nah neither
Into the shadow realm, that made me laugh
Into the shadow realm bahahha a fellow yugioh bro
Yes it does
itsC0ll0n joe would just get them on the ground and choke them out
When I was in a bad relationship, that was also getting me into conflict with my mother, my best friend told me "I have too much respect to tell you its gonna be ok" after telling me I'm better off without that girl, and he was right. I haven't spoken to that girl since we broke up for years now and me and my Mum still get along great. Really glad he's my best friend and he shares similar traits to Joe, he isn't gonna insult me, he's just gonna look out for me
You don't TRY to change behavior; you seek to understand and to allow others their opinions and beliefs.
Joe "the Oprah for dudes" Rogan.
VeganMikedizzle That’s true and very funny.
Lol
Your videos are a life enhancement dude! 😁
I lawled
Favorite comment of the day man!
The only thing I learnt was that if I want respect I need to shave my head.
😆😆😆😆 👴🤙
Lol
No you don’t
And start taking DMT
Works only if the shape of your skull is good
Those that care for you are willing to speak truthfully even if it's not something easy to hear or might be hurtful.
I always speak my mind and unfortunately it gets me in trouble.
How does it get you in trouble? Do people verbally attack you for speaking your mind?
Don't be afraid of confrontation.
True.
But pick the confrontations well, never with one who will definitely seek vengeance.
If you stop to throw a rock at every dog that barks, you will never reach your destination.
joe rogan' uses steroids folk, thats where the confidence and agression comes from
@@maleautonomy1436 aurelius, those people, you kill those people.
Assertive people tend to seek out and create win-win scenarios. Assertive people understand the value of making their desires and beliefs known, but their pride isn’t damaged if their solution isn’t the one that comes out on top. Confident and assured, these people approach situations with a healthy dose of objectivity, and as a result, are able to communicate clearly and work through challenges in a low-stress, no-drama, and self-honoring way.
Solid summation :-)
I think that the behaviors you listed are desirable ones that we should strive for. I don't feel like those behaviors or characteristics (wanting to create win-win scenarios, communicate clearly,etc) are tied to being assertive, though. Someone can be completely selfish and be assertive. Someone can be dishonest and be assertive. Being assertive just means they are willing to go after what they want. It doesn't mean they have good intentions or that they want to create win/win scenarios or that they are reasonable people. I feel like you're more describing someone that is truly comfortable with them self and grounded in their beliefs which is different than someone that is just assertive.
Be firm and kind that’s how I parented my children. Articulate the how’s and why’s of your decisions. Key word Honest.
Turns out I have more in common with joe than I ever previously thought. I commend him for his "keep-it-chill" mannerism while conveying his point across. Something I must learn BIG-TIME. I just get frustrated with people and it doesn't go they way it played out in my head.
"You live, you learn".
💖🙏💖
I tried once to be assertive, next day I was fired)
You gotta start somewhere....good job
@@UnionWireman292 Good job? You mean..No Job. Lololol.
That’s when the 48 Laws of Power come into play
+emergerq no mate that's a dictatorship
Yeah, happened to me too.
....BUT, there’s a difference between telling your friend that he isn’t a good fighter when it’s just the two of you and telling your friend he isn’t a good fighter on a video posted to TH-cam.
God yes thank you. This is what I was going to post.
"Thanks for the brutal honesty Joe! And thanks for bringing it up on your show and publicly humiliating me vs talking about it in private!"
I mean if Joe tried telling the guy how he felt multiple times in private and he wouldn't listen, then that would be one thing, but they don't act like they've had the conversation before.
Well when Brendan Shaw was on a PODCAST he probably agreed to do it
You are right. It's a 'prick move'. I think he's a guy who likes to hurt people
both verbally and physically. He lacks self awareness.
@@shlefrainnn No one is saying he didn't agree to do the podcast. We're saying he didn't know Joe was going to bring that up, which he could have done in private.
Tallingnabout brandon haha bhe should know
Great video! I admire your honesty! I wish that more people wouldn’t be afraid to speak up when it’s necessary to do so.
Would be great, just that some more primitive, physically stronger, larger humans are so well practiced/good at violence, often short fused/quick to resort to that rather than have a patient, respectful, honest discussion.
Man, there has been so many times in work situations where I said things out loud that i knew everyone else was thinking and I never really felt like it got me anywhere other than bosses being pissed at me and coworkers not backing me up.
You forgot to say "I love you, man", first.
and be Joe Rogan
that's crazy, have you ever tried DMT?
Romain Vaes came here for the video, stayed because of this comment hahahaha
Ya
Why are there two comments like this, am I missing something? I find it so creepy on some sort of mentally rupturing energy
What is DMT
@@rishirajsaikia1323 Spirit molecule.
Don't be afraid of people not liking you.😉
john vela that’s a big one
john vela FTW
What about coworkers?
@@ricoooooooo yeah I need help on that too lol
I want them to not like me so much that they try to attack me at which point I have a legitimate reason to dispose of them with violence.
At the risk of sounding like I’m passing the buck, the circumstances one finds oneself in does play a role. I used to firmly, but politely/respectfully/“kindly”, stand-up for the truth with righteousness as my armour; but I would always come up against people (often even those I was speaking in defence of) treating me like I was a trouble maker, even though they acknowledged that the other person was out of line. Thus, I no longer stand-up for what’s right, not because I’m a coward, but because I’m surrounded by cowards & it’s just not worth it anymore. When I move to a new area - with people of hopefully better character - next year I’ll try to reboot my interactions with people & start openly displaying my principles again.
I've notice that being nice causes problems or people look at you wrong but people tell us to be good respect is always in the key its the things that people think in the back off there mind and don't know body gotta mess with you just watch the eyes lmoa
Most importantly: KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE.
This type of "straight talk" behavior will absolutely gain you respect from certain types, while alienating you from others. Absolutism is just as divisive as it is decisive.
I disagree. The ones who cannot handle it will walk away yes. And for the better. But trust me, they are always impressed by the event and it will stay in their minds for a long time even changing their views much later on. It is never decisive by sticking to rational thought and objectivity. Acting fake and giving faked and baked responses is what is divisive since it always creates distrust and insecurity in many forms.
P.S you did not pay attention. This sort of behaviour is the opposite of absolutism.
Incorrect. The belief that there is a one-size-fits-all approach to communication is definitive absolutism.
Communication is about nuance and adaptability: tact and connection at one end, directness and candor at the other. As long as one is being sincere, each works with a different audience but neither work across the board.
Most importantly, be respectful. We live in a heated, opinionated, and belief driven world and no matter what you do, think, or say people will disagree with you...but honestly that has nothing to do with respect. Respect isn't something you earn, it's something you lose and if you're lucky you get the chance to earn it back if you do lose it. If you show respect, regardless of the subject, the opinion, the belief and the emotions the only ones who you will lose respect with are the ones who have no respect.
Which is fairly close to how this all opened: KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE.
Not everyone likes Chipotle, not everyone voted for Trump, not everyone thinks Joe Rogan is awesome, not everyone likes "straight talk" communication. Adjusting your technique to align with your audience is critical to being 1) understood, and 2) trusted.
I’ll much rather have one friend like Joe then a hundred yes men.
Jay Hooks I’m pretty sure I have one and I myself try to be one.
Yes men are never real men and they're never yours.
same
Joe is a juice head bully whos also a huge hypocrit, you never want that type of friend
youre watching this video so im gonna assume your friends arent joe or yes sayers but just a bunch of no sayers(assuming you even have friends)
I call out "friends " for being self absorbed ,talking only about themselves, and just calling when they need something.
Nobody calls me anymore! I love it
I always learned “always be nicer than necessary”
Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony...THAT'S DEEP!
True that!
So basically to command respect, start all criticism by saying I love you.
"I love you, BUT..."
"I love you, honey, but you really need to lose some weight, fatty"
Compliment sandwiches are effective. If you just hit someone with a bunch of criticism they will reject your criticism and consider you the problem
Davida or you just... Idk.. say the word? Lol you don’t always have to mean what you say
Joe “Joe Rogan” Rogan
Joe “I only smoke DMT on Tuesdays” Rogan
Ahaha!
shotglassanhero
No, not right now. Sober October.
Joe
@G4LAXY if you really think that I feel sorry for you lol
What’s worse we consciously took the word nice and made it something bad, it’s not even like it’s some weird confusion nobody notices it’s right in front of us. People even say “but… but…. nice guys aren’t nice they have expectations!”
Yea, that’s why “nice” should stop getting attached to the common descriptor term for that type of man. Yet here we are doing anything but that.
I think being able to like someone and disagree with them at the same time is a skill that would make the world a much better place.
Eddie Bravo favorite phrase.
You just haven't looked into it.
The earth is so flat it’s crazy.
I’M CRAAAAZY
Michael Garrett exactly! We live in the information age, too much for us to handle and most people don’t seem have the faculties for real truths anyways..
Are you married to the ball? 18 months and you be a flatter.
Joe rogan's confidence is nuts. The dude is strong af, funny af and pretty much becomes good at everything he does. His charisma comes from his successful life.
bamdad19996 becomes good because of ludicrous commitment. Dudes default setting is obsession.
Rich people get to be jerks. Some even keep their carrier alive by being a jerk.
I agree that confidence correlates with success
That Guy Yeah he’s not funny at all lol. He just surrounds himself with funny people...
Pretty sure it came from being a comedian.
Thank you man! I can't believe how similar our 'transition to woodworking' stories are. I'm right now on a rough patch, rethinking and worrying about if I'll be able to financially make it, but your story hyped me up again, God bless you for sharing.
To give up is easy. To continue is harder. To Believe, is the hardest. To defeat the fear of all of these things....is Winning!
This guy is a class act. His conversations are so interesting.
The first is RESPECT yourself, ACCEPT yourself LOVE yourself and the rest follows
Amen, I actually needed to read that. You can't even genuinely feel respect from others if you don't respect yourself
You forgot UNDERSTAND yourself
While you should almost always respect yourself and love yourself, it can lead to very dangerous thinking. People are starting to think that they shouldn't strive for a better them and it is partially because they think that they are "perfect" the way they are. When in reality most everyone is not ever without the need of improvement.
To paraphrase Louis C.K., self love is important, but self awareness is more important.
Agree 100%.. I try to do all of that. Sometimes it's harder. But I think if you work on that, it's the best you can do!
Eddie *”YOU JUST HAVEN’T LOOKED INTO IT”* Bravo
Tearyatobitz EDGY BRAH IS EDGY, BRAH
If Eddie starts a religion, I’m joining!!
usmc8408 me too
cracked me up
Charlie Rothwill you know what, I will. I mean it does seem completely sane to take advice from a completely random person on the internet. Good bye cruel world
*pretends to die; actually dies*
First ,I'd like to thank you for your content. Its game changing. Second , please understand in no way ,shape ,or form do I feel or believe I'm better than anyone. I'm a truly ,genuine ,humble person to the core. If I apply your teachings into me as a whole. Mind body and soul. I have the potential in becoming someone great. Someone the world needs. I say this with zero arrogance and I'm not being cocky but the world needs ,I NEED, some B- RAD in it.
Being blunt yet still possessing humility is what makes me respect Joe Rogan. He's smart and he listens too, which is also important if you want to be heard.
Honest conflict has more social value than disonest harmony! So truee
Joe Rogan is right in how he confronts people and disagrees with them, but he’s not always correct in what’s he’s saying when challenging people.
True
Everyone has their own truth
That's his opinion and that's all that matters
That's fine. The point is to stand up for what you believe in. If he's wrong he should get called out by someone else standing up for what they believe in.
True. But I also think he takes criticism from his audience when they comes in big numbers. So that's a plus with working with his blind spots. I think he saw Crowder again and it was much more chill.
Dont be nice all the time, but be polite when confronting
Speak the truth with clarity and in a calm manner to convey understanding to the individually!!! Confrontation does not have to be violent and finger pointing....its about expressing truth about an issue or behavior!!!...