Steven Bartlett Reveals How To Build Unbreakable Discipline
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Chris and Steven Bartlett discuss Steven's equation for discipline. How impactful has this formula been in Steven Bartlett's life? Is Steven Bartlett driven by running away from pain or the pursuit of pleasure? Does Steven Bartlett have a chip on his shoulder that drives him towards success?
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Hey @ChrisWillx did you do an episode about Guatemala?! If so, I'm very excited for it to drop; that's where I was born!
Can't wait for the episode! Two of my favourite podcasters together. Mad love!
1.27m subscribers now… amazing growth. congratulations. You are very good at what you do.
damn i was searching through whole youtube where this video was, after watching this
00:01 Focus on the pain and struggle to align with what you can accomplish.
01:27 Discipline equals the importance of the goal and psychological enjoyment minus the psychological cost.
02:46 Health is the first priority for everything I love and care about.
04:05 Discipline is the key to effective time management and life choices.
05:23 Discipline equation is crucial for staying on track
06:40 Discipline equation: behavior will occur if positive outcome minus friction exceeds zero.
07:56 Many people are driven by pain rather than pleasure.
09:21 Deep shame and insecurity drove me to obsessiveness.
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where is the part where he says consistency does not guarantee success?
Thanks for this man its really help.😊
Thanks for this man its really help.😊
Thanks for having me on bro! Loved this conversation
Thank you both for your time
Whyd you take your Russell Brand video down, even though he hasn't been proven guilty of anything?
Thirdweb is awesome!
I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes discipline lately, or more precisely, what makes us do stuff. I think there is an extra factor in that equation, and it’s something like your ability to ignore/repress/overcome friction, it detracts from that feeling of friction by making it less potent. Let's call it willpower. So the equation would be something like Discipline = Goal Importance + Pursuit pleasure - ( Pursuit pain - Willpower ).
This is a factor that can be trained over time. What do you think?
Steve, never really watched any of your channel, but really enjoyed your book on audible when it popped up on my recommendations.
Thank you Chris.
You, Steven, Peterson, Huberman and Jocko have made such a powerful contribution to humanity by making such valuable content available for free. You've all changed my life, and continue doing so, by sharing these mindful episodes where deep, critical thinking and knowledge are shared as if you're just at the pub.
The world's your pub now, and I hope I'm one day able to buy you a beer sometime.
Why did you put Steven in with those respectable people? He's like the opposite of those people. There's nothing to admire about the guy, he's unremarkable and average.
@@benfroughi steven who
@@benfroughiimagine thinking scumbag Jordan Peterson is respectable
jordan peterson is cancelled to me supporting his friend netanyahu☠
why
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So great to see you guys have a conversation to get questions asked so well to frame for Steve's takeaways from his interviews. Such a great communication between you both.
Thanks to you both.
Chip on my shoulder because of being called stupid by my family and husband…. drove me to get my Masters and then a PhD. That was to prove to myself that I was OK. They tried to discourage me but I kept going. Driven. Left them in my dust. I was never the problem, they were. Revenge is a dish best served cold. I won.
The real flex in life is when you know you have nothing to prove. Atb
good BUT you have to realize that they don't care. so if it works for you, cool but you're the one having the experience so do it for yourself ONLY. There is no 'revenge'. their comments were throwaway. they won't come to worship you for proving them wrong. You can use their disses for motivation but only insofar as you find what YOU want to do for your own reasons and enjoyment. because that magical day where they say "oh we were so wrong about you" will never come and if that's the only thing that is keeping you doing what you're doing, that is a thin reason, a house of cards
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Terrible that they’d discourage you I have also dealt with disgusting family.
You two are just so great at building on eachothers intellect and ideas, makes for a really entertaining and insightful listen.
Thanks. Some people are already in a bunch of pain, usually because of stuff that happened before they even had a chance to get proactive. That means anyone with any sort of health and cultural capital needs to listen to this and help others. Why? You’ll feel proud of yourself and it’s the right thing to do. Cheers!! Stay compassionate.
7:48 ... You just described the moment when an elite athlete starts to self-question whether to continue ... when the "friction" starts to increase, and the "desire/reward" quotient wavers. Such is the case in all industries, fields and professions.
You can choose to go for what you want or not, but you don't choose what you want.
Steven is such an insightful person. Love him.
The discipline equation discussed here is a powerful way to understand how our behaviors are influenced. It's all about balancing the importance of a goal, the psychological enjoyment we derive from pursuing it, and the psychological cost. This equation, as explained by Stephen, can apply to various aspects of our lives, from fitness to creative pursuits. It's a reminder that discipline often involves finding the right balance between these factors. Just as Mark Manson's quote highlights, it's crucial to consider what pain we're willing to endure in our pursuit of meaningful goals. This insight from Stephen resonates with me and echoes the teachings of @LisaHaisha, who emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and self-acceptance in our journey to live authentically and purposefully.
Thank YOU SO MUCH ❤
If pain tolerance exceeds the desire to quit...then that goal is worth pursuing
Steven I'm loving this so much. My analytical part of my brain is absorbing everything like a sponge. Then, the roulette chip analogy is really solidifying the perspective.
I am a 66 y.o man who has lived a comfortable life and never had discipline or purpose that has been worth anything. After watching Steve's views on discipline, it has given me a different perspective and I'll be watching the full version of the interview, buying the book and looking at what I can do to add both discipline and value to what's left of my life. Thanks for the insight
These men are valuable to have on line. Learned a lot today from them.
the way I describe it has always been "you don't lack time, you lack prioritization"
that's good
A friend of mine suggested ur channel,and I never regretted my decision
This really is life changing advice! Thank you so much for sharing!
Yesss, can't wait for this one!
Yesss… Steven Bartlett 🙌🏽 I was waiting for this interview!
Can’t wait for the full episode. Inspirational 🙏
Two of the best interviewers in the Podcast Ecosystem face off LIVE across a table! Two men enter. No one leaves (for a few hours)!
Two of my favorite people right here. So looking forward to the full episode. Keep after it, wise sirs.
Why would Steven be one of your favourite people? There's nothing to like about him. I don't get it at all.
@@benfroughi 😂
imagine having to work for the guy @@benfroughi
Incredible!!! ❤🫀♥️ Thank you 💪🏼✨
Thoroughly enjoyed this topic and will definately use these technics
The podcast sets always look amazing
Love the equasion variables!
One thing I would consider is instead of adding and subtracting, maybe you could use multiplying and dividing. That way the total effect is more compounding than linear, which seems like it could be the case.
Came to say this exact thing. Still the principle holds! It could be discipline = (importance * enjoyment)/friction
Great conversation between you both..
One of the best clips I’ve ever watched. I’d encourage everyone to use the matrix to assess different examples in your own life and then it will become clear why you’re not doing something. Then if you want to start doing it you have to address the 3 parts and make them easier/more enjoyable/ less costly.
Two of the best interviewers in the world, in my opinion.
Looking Forward for this!! Great people
Great collaboration, love Steve...love this podcast 💛
2 great minds meeting together is truly remarkable
One great mind, and another random guy called Steven who is yet to have an intelligent thought in his life.
@@benfroughiSteven is goated though
The two GOATS having a conversation. Let’s gooooo 🐐
🤣get a life
I really connect to where Steven realised all the time management techniques were pointless without a core issue being addressed that facilities them all. I’ve come to the realisation that no amount of techniques for taking action and pursuing what you want to pursue are going to work if you don’t see a point to your self and life. If you perceive yourself as being utterly pointless, you will never see the point in any atomic habit, building and executing any routine, because the foundation is missing and it’s all inherently pointless. Your view of yourself has to be that you, and therefore improving you, are worth it and will mean anything in the world
But ultimately that (at least for me) is the BIGGEST cause for a lack of self discipline-the why.
Why is this important? Why does this benefit me? Why should I keep enduring discomfort to achieve this?
It is easy to say that exercise, eating healthy, saving for retirement, et cetera all will benefit you a few months or, a few years in the future but, THAT'S THE PROBLEM! All those benefits will not immediately be seen and humans need to experience immediately rewards and validations to continue to do something; especially something uncomfortable.
@@333angeleyesSo here the why is the regret that you will feel after years of neglecting that part because it didn't give you short term reward.
Which is one of the biggest pains you can experience in your life, regret.
Knowing that you could have been so much, but you were too "lazy" & "unmotivated" to become it.
Life is very comfortable in the modern time, the exact reason why we have so many depressed and sad people
Because they held on to their comfort for so long, that over time they don't have anything going on in their life. Nothing to persue, nothing to wake up excited for, shameful to look at themselves in the mirror
Pick your hard. Do it now because that's the only time that you get to choose.
This was excellent and so true
I like the sound of that equation, I'm going to apply to some personal aspects and see where it takes me. I wouldn't want to say I've been in a rut for a little bit, but I've recently got into a hamster wheel, so maybe it'll help with some sort of direction...
something you've shown discipline in:
1. how much it matters - /10
2. enjoyment from the pursuit - /10
3. amount of friction involved - /10
(1+2)-3=
Thanks!
Just remember the journey is tough, but so our you.
Love the quote at the beginning💯
Wow cool video!! So insightful 😊🎉
"He who has a why can bear almost any how" // Friedrich Nietzsche
Got to say, Steven's equation makes a lot of sense. At least for me.
What a great pair of minds
egos.
Amazing, thanks...
how to build unbreakable discipline = turn off internet in your life
When you get direct rewards for your input correlating with the output, you'll grind.
Fascinating insights 👍
Bravo bro👏👏👏
You are amazing ❤
Your emotions dgaf about your results! Keep grinding and the rest will follow. You got this!
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YOOO RICH ROLL FOLLOWED BY STEVEN BARTLETT? CHRIS IS KILLING IT HOLY SHIT CONGRATS BROOOO 🎉🎉
Chris, think about how it all started with “Scotty doean’t know”. Started as a shallow soundtrack and became so profound understanding about relationships
Steven lives in Represent 😍
The path is the goal.
When man becomes desperate or uncomfortable ,progress begins.- Dr Dk Olukoya
My two favorite hosts collide!
Awesome video
Great video
The profound message in this podcast should not be underestimated. Fucking go get yours!!!
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I already like this one ten times more than Will.
He sounds English, I've changed my mind.
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The "pain" argument is not transferable nor a static framework. If ever you want to consider using it, it has to be dynamic. Pain or resilience thresholds are different for many people. And they benefit and hinder different aspects. We complicate sh*t way to much. If you honestly believe/know that, it must/should be done or that you need/want it, you'll actually do it. Using the rubbish bin example; if you do not want to sit in a house of sh*t and disgust, then you will clean your f-ing house. You also know, it needs to be done otherwise x,y,z cost will be incurred.
Great, great, great!!!
You to are great and doing great work
*save to watch later*
Actually starting into Junger’s “On Pain” this morning 😊
Steven's comments about having 24 chips a day is the same metaphor, in essence, as when Molly Mae said about all having the same 24 hours in a day - yet here it goes completely unnoticed and no one bats an eye. Why I very much respect him for defending her against the backlash. Good video, good talk and a good insight!
Discipline, Discipline,Discipline 🧡
Im convinced Steven and Chris are the same person in a Parallel universe.
Chris is an admirable man. Steven is not.
We do this risk reward assessment subconsciously all the time. Going back it would be "how important is it that I get to this honey in order not to starve" vs "how many bee stings am I willing to take for it". That decision would have been made almost instantly. Now days, I'm guessing none of the viewers are starving and bee stings are quite abstract.
And then there's David Goggins lmao, friction is 10/10 for him, enjoyment? Wtf is that! Running miles at 3 am saying, "they don't know me son" 😂 nobody can inspire me more than Goggins! ❤
if you're here then congratulations on your first step to the best of you
Something is missing from the discipline equation, which is the perceived ability to achieve the desired goal: your sense of hope and the belief that the pursuit ultimately will be fruitful.
Them: bro wanna pod cast about it, yea man cuz chillin has to be this now, “this too shall pass”
note: i think there are like X different type of people, for some this work, for others some1 elses method works, try and test until u find out what works for u, and in some cases, works today, but when u down, then it dosent work, so find what works when u are down. very cool
Dopamine - Limbic Friction
Motivation is the initial dopaminergic indicator for pursuit.
Pleasure from pursuing a task is the continuous outflow of dopamine.
Limbic friction is just a word used for the hump of commencing a task.
I like how he philosophically organized it. (Big Why)+(Enjoyment; which I would say is correlated with Big Why)-(Resistance). Meaning, underlying all this, Nietzsche’s quote stands true: “with a large enough why, a man can endure any how.”
Also explains why most people who are worse off strive to be better. Their why is much more painful than other people’s. That’s when they got their lows and strive to go further. And pain will biologically stick to memory harder than pleasure.
I think the discipline of enduring the grind you choose is very different, but no more admirable or remarkable, that the grind and pain imposed upon one because of circumstance.
I agree the what is accomplished is equally impressive. However if you are driven by negative emotion then your why may not be ultimately conducive to long term mental and physical health.
It's about pain reallocation. Imagine a box: On one side you have the pain associated with hard work, discipline, training, commitment... On the other side you have the pain associated with sucking, laziness, not living up to your potential. The bar can move towards either side but it's not about getting rid of pain, but about how much of each kind of pain are you willing to take.
Does it start as you loving the goal & its journey (no matter the sacrifice), then in time you ultimately loving the outcomes of the goal more... & doing the prev. steps to maintain the goal knowing they are obligatory, so less loved.
i fw with this guy.
Question: what is a good product recommendation for the device that Chris mentions about reducing his friction for recording his podcast episodes? Thanks.
@Chris Williamson , Hey Chris !!
07:48 , You guys were talking about Steven’s Meditation Practice, How his Why wasn't Strong enough !! & the evidence on meditation as well (It was incomplete). Could you Clarify more on it , specially more on the “evidence part of meditation” ? Thanks !!
Love this black and white interaction! 🧐✍️🧠❤️ You both know what I mean, and I feel free enough to say it like this without fear of being considered anything!
I like the work of the two of you! 🙌🏼
Thanks men!
What?
Great podcast. I wish you would let the guest land his thoughts, uninterrupted.
Wow, really interesting episode. I would even add social conformity (+) or social resistance (-) could be added to the discipline equation. Social pressure is a powerful extrinsic force in its own right. Like if you agree.
Surreal interview since these are basically the same guy.
U are a true grit pair of jen say ot as it is wich is honestly driving .
Please Translate in Hindi 🙏🏻🙏🏻
where can i find the clip where chris says consistent doesnt gurantee success
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🤔 *The most important question in life is: What pain are you willing to endure for something worthwhile? Aligning with the pain and struggle leads to greater accomplishments.*
01:25 🧠 *Discipline equation: Discipline equals the importance of the goal to you plus the psychological enjoyment in the pursuit, minus the psychological cost of the pursuit.*
02:49 💪 *Importance of the goal, psychological enjoyment, and psychological cost influence discipline. Example: Going to the gym consistently is influenced by the perceived importance, enjoyment, and minimal friction.*
05:11 ⏳ *Discipline in the context of time and death. Understanding the scarcity of time is crucial for effective time management, and discipline is the underlying factor for successful time allocation.*
06:48 🔄 *Setting up an environment to reduce friction and increase discipline. Placing things in a way that makes it harder to avoid them encourages consistent practice or behavior.*
07:57 🔥 *The role of pain and the "why" in driving discipline. Whether driven or dragged by past experiences, understanding the source of motivation is key to sustaining discipline.*
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"How To Build Unbreakable Discipline" was not revealed...
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Tweak: I think the why (y) needs a Belief coefficient
is it bad to be dragged instead of driven ?
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Behaviours do not happen in a vacuum, discipline variables are tested by life events.
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This is a familiar message. My question is how does one increase your why? At times, it feels like I am unable to increase my why and keep it high. I've learned how to reduce friction, but not increase why.
Love, feeling , non validity for your feelings