Romance fraud - a victim's story

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  • @pelicancovebeach2873
    @pelicancovebeach2873 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    If he can’t pay his bill, seems like his problem.

  • @stunninglad1
    @stunninglad1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    A good way to open up a conversation with some stranger online is this: "I never send money to anyone for any reason, even for life saving operations and unless we can have a successful webcam conversation, I want nothing to do with you whatsoever. All the nice talking bollocks doesn't wash on me!" This gets rid of the scamming scum suckers.

    • @mirelairinapetre6503
      @mirelairinapetre6503 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nope,nope! Not even with a web cam conversation!

    • @susiesnarey8442
      @susiesnarey8442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thats a good way to handle the situation . Its better to just confront them because the red flags are almost immediate

  • @noseefood1943
    @noseefood1943 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Trust nobody online

    • @Cary442
      @Cary442 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Correct and even if you think you know a person up front be aware scammers these days more then ever are everwhere not just online it can happen in plain site I don't even trust my shadow

    • @mariavalenzuela165
      @mariavalenzuela165 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes

    • @elvenleaf5589
      @elvenleaf5589 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Cary442 so true

  • @JReed1985
    @JReed1985 6 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Saved a friend's ass from getting scammed, it took me a while to prove and explain it to him that it was a scam. If money ever gets mentioned, it's time to back away.

    • @alexanderplatzberlin3940
      @alexanderplatzberlin3940 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well done!

    • @charlenemonique1
      @charlenemonique1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      JReed1985 Good that you got your friend to listen to you. However I haven’t had such luck with my own friend. She gets angry with me and anybody else who’s tried to warn her 🤔

    • @JReed1985
      @JReed1985 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@charlenemonique1 well it sounds like your friend has been drawn and locked in a fantasy, only when she realises it's a scam will your friend learn and regret it.

    • @ruthiemonroig1614
      @ruthiemonroig1614 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@charlenemonique1 Sad to say your friend is in for a rude awakening 😟these Scammers take you to the cleaners and eventually block their victim 🤷‍♀️You sound like a good friend 😏✌

    • @frankroberts6127
      @frankroberts6127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charlenemonique1 We have to look for a way to help her. I was a victim so i can relate. I was able to recover a lot of my money back with the help of fraud investigators.

  • @peerdous6598
    @peerdous6598 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    the music is unnecessary

  • @tapsars7911
    @tapsars7911 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    "This is all for my partner " ........a partner you haven't ever met , not even seen via skype , had no voice chat with ........he is not your partner , he is a scammer .

  • @Ethericrose
    @Ethericrose 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    First rule of joining a dating website is don't join to garner attention. There's no one on that dating site that is gonna fix your life, no Prince / princess coming to save you from a loveless life. The greatest love can be found with in yourself. As the adage goes....You must love yourself before you can love others.

    • @rafaelrotellini7141
      @rafaelrotellini7141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You said!! Hope they at least listen to you.

    • @ObliterateAllLizards
      @ObliterateAllLizards 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes also don’t fall for the first person to message you, they have probably sent the same message to 50 other women/men. My sis did this, she fell for the first guy to send. A “hi” message and deleted her account after a week. She said “He sent such lovely messages, it shows he’s a really kind person.” Oh the situation has gotten waaayyyyyy worse, btw.

  • @elaineingram4578
    @elaineingram4578 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This almost happened to me, luckily I withdrew my savings for repairs on my home,so I'd nothing to give,we spoke for months before he asked me for money,he said he was a helicopter engineer from Falmouth Las vegas & he was in Syria,he plagued my eyes out for cash saying that I didn't care if he died 😞he made me feel bad about myself...I came in TH-cam & geared all I needed to know that I was being scammed,he said he wasn't a scammer they are so convincing,, Don't fall for it once money is asked for your being duped,just glad I had nothing to give..🙏🏻🙏🏻I got off lightly but the emotional damage is done & boy what a good job they do...💔😢

  • @elizabethgiliberto8932
    @elizabethgiliberto8932 6 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I would never send a stranger even ten dollars let alone thousands upon thousands of dollars.

    • @stunninglad1
      @stunninglad1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Correct.

    • @elvenleaf5589
      @elvenleaf5589 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Not even a dollar

    • @ginajoseph8776
      @ginajoseph8776 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It is almost always old, fat or unattractive women who never get any attention from men who fall for this idiocy. They need to take a look at themselves in the mirror and realize these men, in the pictures, are way out of their league.

    • @Bebedollie
      @Bebedollie 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ginajoseph8776 don't be so disrespectful and mean

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว

      These women are so stupid on one wants them 😅

  • @berniesmith4488
    @berniesmith4488 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I have zero sympathy for anyone who sends money to a stranger. But then i am not a patient person
    when it comes to sheer stupidity. These people who get scammed in romance cons seem to have
    mush for brains.

    • @mariacleto1502
      @mariacleto1502 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bernie Smith . You an awful person !

    • @cortneyrens
      @cortneyrens 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Bernie Smith: no sympathy here either, I get more mad at the ppl sending money than I do the scammers, cause they are selfishly trying to live in a fantasy world. The idiots sending money are helping the scammers continue these crimes and I don’t see it ever stopping!

  • @bgl1082
    @bgl1082 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    What's with the stupid annoying music?

  • @telengardforever7783
    @telengardforever7783 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's easy to just slam her for these stupid decisions, but I appreciate the fact she decided to tell her story as a warning to others.

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว

      We don't need advice and ' warning ' from this very stupid woman. We have common sense and brain cells and women like this have none .😅

  • @redwoods7370
    @redwoods7370 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Never. Send. Money. Never. Receive. Money.

  • @chicagogyrl7849
    @chicagogyrl7849 6 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Sending money to someone you have never even spoke on the phone with, let alone meeting in person. LOL!!!! How in the world do you speak to someone for months, but never spoke to him on the phone?!

    • @debbiejean4142
      @debbiejean4142 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It happens folks.

    • @debbiejean4142
      @debbiejean4142 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So rude to call her dumb.

    • @cortneyrens
      @cortneyrens 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Debbie Jean: she is dumb. Didn’t see all the signs she just wanted to live in a fantasy

    • @Jeng4280
      @Jeng4280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      In all sincerity, these scammers are scum. They pray on the most vulnerable women-the ones who are lonely. They are sneaky, manipulative and will try everything in their power to get what they want from you. I chatted with someone the other day and I KNEW he was a scammer the instant he started chatting with me. Even though he was from New Jersey, his English sucked and he said he was a military person stationed in Iraq supposedly with a 14 year old son. 🙄 I blocked him after a little bit cause I kept asking him for his military ID numbers and he blamed not getting back at me as a “communication problem”.🙄 Another 🚩. I have learned if they can’t answer any of my questions that I ask them in sincerity, they aren’t worth my time or effort chatting with them. Also I don’t answer personal questions either with them because they can use it against you later on. So mostly my answers are one word answers.
      This lady is very brave for telling her story. But it goes to show you: don’t ever send money to those you have never met or don’t know!

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is called stupid beyond belief!

  • @inerit5175
    @inerit5175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Do NOT give money EVEN if you meet them in real life ! You are NOT a bank!

  • @fauxmanchu8094
    @fauxmanchu8094 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    It's funny that these women are looking for good looking guys a lot younger than them. It never occur to them that these kind of men never look for love online. Why would they when they can have their pick of beautiful young women? 😂😂😂

    • @juliarcarrington8109
      @juliarcarrington8109 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Felling in love hm...make forget everythink event money losing much not feel it😁

    • @critical_thinker73
      @critical_thinker73 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're all sympathy....

    • @barbarapalmer8224
      @barbarapalmer8224 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I can't believe these women think "handsome young fit guys would fancy them.handsome guys have their pick of women

  • @tevitakete6043
    @tevitakete6043 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Everything made sense except common sense

  • @kater9770
    @kater9770 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I just don't understand people...I was involved with someone & asked me for $800. He & his friend took a trip (I had no idea he went out if town) his car broke down. I told him NO that he was a grown a** man & he'd figure or he would stay where he was.

  • @kathryngrant630
    @kathryngrant630 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    the music is very distracting

  • @juliannewhite990
    @juliannewhite990 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I have had people asking me for money via facebook & twitter. I never sent it. I was blown out by them really quickly.

  • @Venus-gn5oi
    @Venus-gn5oi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wouldn’t send those amounts of money to the people I know, why would anyone send thousands to strangers 🤔

  • @vicious-pi3rd
    @vicious-pi3rd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    These people will say what you want to hear as well. Another bs they play!

  • @peerdous6598
    @peerdous6598 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You have my empathy. I just went through this experience: the guy sounds very desperate and makes you feel guilty if you do not transfer the money.
    It is good to confide in a friend who can the whole situation clearly.

    • @mariec.9102
      @mariec.9102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Are u a child? A person you meet once or twice on the computer or phone is NOT your friend.

    • @isay207
      @isay207 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Who wants a man who can't manage their own finances and problems even if they were real

  • @cheryldulin8231
    @cheryldulin8231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    These stories are mind boggling!!! SMH. WHY???!!!

  • @dessean1
    @dessean1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    "We spoke on the web cam where he could see me but I couldn't see him" Well if that isn't a clue for your ass I don't know what is. I think that I chose the wrong profession in life when there's all this free money out there. I might have to re-evaluate myself. lol

    • @rachelhart3531
      @rachelhart3531 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      DELERIOUS DEE
      She clearly hasn't seen Catfish, that happens in most of the cases.

    • @mariec.9102
      @mariec.9102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I honestly have thought the same thing. I would love to make $50k in 6 months just sending "I love you" emails to idiots. But I would feel guilty taking advantage of people who are this sad, lonely and stupid.

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would love to do that too.Just telling some dumb women you love them bla bla ,you will get lots of free money. I am in the wrong bloody job.

  • @JakeSVanHfan
    @JakeSVanHfan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Tooo bad you couldn't had gotten your hands on some fake money to send his ass.

  • @atheistmommy3710
    @atheistmommy3710 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You don't have to tell me obvious. I would never, ever send any money to person I just met online.

    • @cheryldulin8231
      @cheryldulin8231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Giving ANY man money.....not happening!!

  • @kaligayemarvin6138
    @kaligayemarvin6138 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Now that online scammers have ruined online dating ,how do we get someone to trust genuine souls like me.?

  • @connierobinson8857
    @connierobinson8857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’ve been there.. had no idea I was doing anything illegal.. Lord be hold I found out.. and shut everything down.. I was on line with this person for 2 years

    • @connierobinson8857
      @connierobinson8857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m still working with the FBI.. he even stoled my identity.. emotionally saddened I even trusted this person

  • @judikearney6468
    @judikearney6468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    hard to believe hidden faces and actors voices

  • @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010
    @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Even if you know them, f£&king don't send 💷 💷 💷 💷 to anyone.

  • @seekingthemiddleway4048
    @seekingthemiddleway4048 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why didn't she keep the money she was owed instead of transferring it to another account?

    • @mariec.9102
      @mariec.9102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He was using"pimp and whore" philosophy on her. She willingly gave over control of her common sense. At least with a pimp there's the threat of violence. Here it's just a computer or a phone; turn it off or hang it up 🤬😡🤭

  • @heatherwhittaker6169
    @heatherwhittaker6169 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You doing take out loans for yourself unless it's a home mortgage or vehicle necessity....why would anyone borrow money for a virtual stranger?....

  • @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010
    @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Should be against the law.

  • @ferryanolin6707
    @ferryanolin6707 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Just don't give money

  • @aig5429
    @aig5429 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    If you're sending money you are desperate and can't get a man in your area

    • @muffycrosswire
      @muffycrosswire 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      men get fooled by this, too. and usually it's a man on the other end, pretending to be a woman.

    • @johnnastrom9400
      @johnnastrom9400 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      4Ever -- not sure what your point is. Did Dennis ever even give a hint that men aren't victims also?

    • @samswoman2009
      @samswoman2009 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha...my mother has a knack for finding scammers, but they're all local scumbags. The current one has convinced her he has ms. Oh, and he's close to my age.

    • @debbiejean4142
      @debbiejean4142 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Still rude and judgemettal of you habe some.cpmpassion

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Those Nigerians from the jungle 😊

  • @vibsking21
    @vibsking21 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    OMG 2017 still sending money to strangers

    • @Xava
      @Xava 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      it's 2019 and people are still getting scammed :/

    • @janiced103
      @janiced103 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Xava 2023 still happening.

  • @loradurling2358
    @loradurling2358 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Could you lower the music

  • @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010
    @thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Down with relationship fraud.

  • @neonbright9594
    @neonbright9594 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yes annoying music

  • @moimeself1088
    @moimeself1088 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I can't watch these anymore. This level of naivete is distressing.

    • @berniesmith4488
      @berniesmith4488 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I call it stupidity.

    • @cortneyrens
      @cortneyrens 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agreed.... I get more mad at the victim than I do the scammer... for letting them get away with a crime because they want to live a fantasy

    • @mariec.9102
      @mariec.9102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You said it exactly. It's like watching innocent naive children pretending to be adults

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว

      These stupid people do not deserve a place in this world.

  • @mariec.9102
    @mariec.9102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The scammers were using"pimp and whore" philosophy on her. She willingly gave over control of her common sense. At least with a pimp there's the threat of violence. Here it's just a computer or a phone; turn it off or hang it up 🤬😡🤭

  • @zairedravis2747
    @zairedravis2747 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I mean come now u know something going when can see u but u couldn't see him and Red flag ..And also when ask u for money That when u shouldn't knew something Was wrong Red flag

  • @Ethericrose
    @Ethericrose 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Beside the fact I dont know of anyone who has that kinda cash to give to compleat strangers, I don't understand how individuals can be so gullible! My brain just can't comprehend why the penny didn't drop after him saying he loved you so soon, given you knew absolutely zero info about him other than his account number and sort code. You said he manipulated you, yup he sure did, yet you sure allowed him too out of desperation to be loved.

  • @missasinenomine
    @missasinenomine 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is it so really necessary to have all this distracting loud noise ("music") in the background? I mean, would people be so BORED without it that they would switch off? It's a perplexing obsession.

  • @Arizona_lilly
    @Arizona_lilly ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They use so much data for games etc which tells you they have their basic things met listen nobody struggling w rent or food or petrol is going be asking for a phone card sooner or later they should have unlimited data but I think cause some of them live i. Country areas is not like how we can get a cable company to come out and knock our box here in USA

  • @sueknoll8567
    @sueknoll8567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can see how easy it would be to have been caught up in money laundering, I wouldn't have thought twice about that, it sounds so simple, and I don't really understand the object of it or why it is illegal.

  • @karenromiah5387
    @karenromiah5387 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My friend was and is getting scamed, she is addicted to getting all of the love letters and attention, she knows its a scam and it really isnt the picture or name she has, but, she gets depressed if she doesnt hear from him, she has given him about 100,000.00 dollars, and now she is doing money laundering for him.

    • @DandyLion662a
      @DandyLion662a 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Send her the link to this vid.

    • @tshegofalosiele7695
      @tshegofalosiele7695 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So sad

    • @redwoods7370
      @redwoods7370 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't worry. The police will knock and her door and that will be a wake-up call.

    • @lisamcdonald2877
      @lisamcdonald2877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This must be reported to police. Even if your friend is charged for money laundering, it could save her from an even worse situation.

    • @berniesmith4488
      @berniesmith4488 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your friend sounds like an idiot.

  • @loradurling2358
    @loradurling2358 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wish them a good trip

  • @Arizona_lilly
    @Arizona_lilly ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Better dating a felon your already laundering so what’s wrong w inmates?? Yea thry can’t lie and u can visit

  • @loradurling2358
    @loradurling2358 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ask for money? Goodbye get a job

  • @hazelstreet1654
    @hazelstreet1654 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    They always say they will be in the middle East for work or some shit

  • @jackieostrander7199
    @jackieostrander7199 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Why ???? So wrong u must be very lonely

  • @kafizola5695
    @kafizola5695 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shaking my head!!!

  • @ibenzawla
    @ibenzawla 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ah! The human mind.

  • @sueknoll8567
    @sueknoll8567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    for gods sake kill that music

  • @bernadettekelly2772
    @bernadettekelly2772 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They always have an Agenda !

  • @marlenecesarotti8468
    @marlenecesarotti8468 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this guy was good..opened bank accounts...taking money out& putting money in........she saw nothing wrong with that......I dont believe she didnt know what was going on

  • @indoamerican3398
    @indoamerican3398 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    so many duffers on online dating.

  • @Spookeygurl063
    @Spookeygurl063 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The music tho

  • @zunaiandre2341
    @zunaiandre2341 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Amd if You Ugly self and be approached by handsome looking picture online.Be concerned

  • @isay207
    @isay207 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    They think its a buffet handsome rich charming glamorous I'll take one

  • @briemills9209
    @briemills9209 ปีที่แล้ว

    Freaking music is so loud I could barely hear her.

  • @iracapule7135
    @iracapule7135 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Never ever send the money to someone u didnt know especially online its all a scam, ide been scam so many times i send a lot of money and i chose him to my family and it so wrong decision that ive had done.

    • @mariahhudson4878
      @mariahhudson4878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So sorry about your experience. How much did you lose? I'm also a victim😣

    • @iracapule7135
      @iracapule7135 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Id lost about 20,000 dollars in two years ide been doin that i didnt learn my lesson

    • @mariahhudson4878
      @mariahhudson4878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@iracapule7135 wow, how long ago was that? I lost about $10k, but I managed to get it all back and had the scammer exposed. Have you taken any action in this regard ever since?

    • @iracapule7135
      @iracapule7135 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mariahhudson4878 I forget about it cos when I was doin that I lost my family since then we didn't talk in two years and one time My family sUrprise me at work and we had an agreement with my mom that all of my money I will give it to her it's fine with me until now I'm doing that but it's OK I have already savings!

    • @mariahhudson4878
      @mariahhudson4878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@iracapule7135 are you sure? I have some contacts that might be able to help you get a full refund and it only takes 2-3 business days. It'll all be worth it in the end.

  • @lorishu48103
    @lorishu48103 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Music way louder than voice audio

  • @joyrenenardozzi6226
    @joyrenenardozzi6226 ปีที่แล้ว

    The music is super annoying

  • @susiesnarey8442
    @susiesnarey8442 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think that this video was interesting but I think that you can lose is the over loud keyboard clacking

  • @Arizona_lilly
    @Arizona_lilly ปีที่แล้ว

    I’d take ur money