What symptoms do you relate to? Or maybe one that I left out?! What can you or what do to make life a tad more manageable? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
I did well in high school but once I hit college, I couldn’t get past reading the first page of my textbooks. I retook the same astronomy class 3 times and failed each time 😢 Dropped out, got married, and had kids but have been dealing with chronic fatigue, extreme guilt, losing everything, and just never completing a task. Not to mention the constant chaos and disorganization of my house which perfectly represents my mental state 😓
Being a minimalist has been a coping strategy for me since childhood, it's something the neurotypical people in my life don't get, they think I'm weird. Thanks for the validation, and thanks for this video! I will check out more of your channel.
Anxiety/social anxiety Depression I’m literally always the last person in class taking a test cuz I have to read the question like 10 times b4 it registers in my brain, I forget everything like I’ll walk in the bathroom to get something then glance at myself in the mirror and walk out cuz forget what I came in there for or I’ll go to the pantry for something look at everything in there and walk out because I forgot what I was doing smh. Or sometimes I’ll get into a “ comfortable stare” like I’ll be staring at nothing then I’ll break out if it and I also have an undiagnosed ED( BED), I procrastinate and do everything last minute I’ve never been to a therapist but I think I’m gonna get one soon not sure if I have adhd but I got some a lot of other stuff that needs tending to
These are just some expressions of symptoms that I quickly thought of, off the top of my head. There are more...: 1. Getting distracted easily. 2. Hyper focused on friendships instead of your own needs 3. Forgetfulness 4. Caffeine addiction 5. Constant comparison with your peers 6. So many piles of paper and receipts: piles in the bedroom, the living room and even the kitchen dining table. 7. I think people pleasing is a by product of issues like low self esteem
@@mohammedwarsame6974 Interesting hey? I completely understand that. I mean it's different for everyone. From what I have discovered so far that there is an ADHD spectrum and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. So some people can be more inattentive and distracted & others are can be more hyperactive. Some have a much better memory than others. Not everyone who has ADHD ends up becoming a statistic (divorce, jail, dropping out of school) and it can for women go unnoticed or unidentified until they are older and have more responsibilities. I have spoken to at least one woman that got diagnosed after their children were diagnosed with ADHD because it was never picked up for a variety of reasons. I should correct myself and I would say that what I wrote here is a list that shows how ADHD symptoms can express or show up in life, for example one of the ADHD symptoms is inattention and in my case, that is partially why there are piles of papers around the place.
Oh girl! I cried when i first discovered my ADHD! I never considered once i had adhd because well.. i wasn't hyper. But knowing about inattentive type and it being common in women...then looking into it...then realizing its me! I was in tears! You are at the beginning of a lot of self love and grace coming your way. I am a lot nicer to myself which has been the biggest gift. Praying for you jennifer!!!! I don't see all my comments anymore which is hard and makes me sad...but when i do i try to take time to reply!!!!!!
Same here 😢 I'm almost 43 and never been diagnosed! My life has been a whirlwind along the way. I am currently in the process of finally having a diagnosis. Hopefully better days are ahead of me. Best wishes to you! 💕💕
When you said that it is triggered during college time I started sobbing because this is where I am right now , going to the doctor’s tomorrow tho Edit: so it wasn’t ADHD but... depression. Haha. Taking medication and going to therapy. Look after yourselves ladies 💕🤍
I’m 21 and just got diagnosed-junior in college. I struggled for a long time in college before I was able to admit I needed help. My psychologist says that if you’re quite smart, you can “skirt by” for a long time, but college is extremely hard to do that with and that’s when I figured it out.
I've been suspecting I have inattentive adhd since I learnt about it about 2 months ago. I've been trying to research as much as I can before I go to the doctor because I'm really scared of being rejected and told there's nothing wrong with me. But I'm at the point where I'm incapable of doing my job when on paper it should be perfect for me. I don't want to do anything else but I fuck up daily from missing details and not following through with tasks properly.
Jo Cummings I so understand the fear of being rejected and being told nothing is wrong with you… it would feel so invalidating. But I remember how I felt before my diagnosis...and that was lost...Finding out about inattentive ADHD was such an answer to all of my life’s issues. Even before my actual diagnosis I knew this was it. This was what I had. Similar to you I remember learning about it before actually getting the diagnosis… I was so sure that I had this that I almost went in fearless… And curious if they tell me I didn’t... what else could it possibly be!!!???? I hope as you learn about adhd you find ways to cope, manage, and thrive... with or without medication! I’m unmedicated and although i have my critics...I find just knowing more about me ADHD helps me process and function. I remember working a desk job when I realized I think I had this… Eventually learn to doublecheck and triple check my work... it was simply what I had to do for me… Eventually people saw my work ethic and realized as much as I could be forgetful I was trying really hard and my heart was in it. Regardless of everything I’m praying for you and I hope you find the answers you need🥰
Jo ... you are not alone, I am 41 and am going to my 1st dr. Appt this week to be evaluated for adhd. Adhd and ALL of the symptoms explains my whole life and the difficulty with my jobs over the years hasn't got any easier. In fact, a recent evaluation with my current boss is the main reason I'm finally going to get tested. After having over 40 jobs and moving at least 30 times in my adult life... I actually have a boss who is willing to help me instead of call me flakey and stupid! Hope the best for you! 🤗
It's the same for me. I watched over maybe 15 videos with signs and I am sooo sure, that this is what I have. I talked to my parents and they told me, that I already did this test. But at that time I was maybe around 5 years old and I can't even remember. The result was of course; I do not have adhd or add, and because of this early diagnosis I am afraid to go to that doctor again... What if she tells me that I may be wrong and again, that we already did this test? If I get rejected, my parents will point out, that I was wrong, that they were right and I am talking so much nonsense and that will kind of influence our trust... And.. I hope for treatment. I got all the problems that are being pointed out in the several videos and they definitely affect my day to day life. :(
I can’t believe that ADHD is linked to eating disorders oh my God the blinds have been removed...please never stop making these videos they’re so helpful❤️😩
With ADHD its said we are about 4+ years younger mentally. or that we have always been a little more childish than our peers. I feel i relate to it... do you feel that way too? or is it just some people with ADHD
Wow. Totally relate and find this to be accurate. Always childlike at heart. Took me a while to even view myself as an adult...that’s still a struggle haha whom I kidding...?
If I have a thought ...of course within reason ...I have to share it or act on it even if eyebrows will be raised . Maybe it’s childish but I like to think that this spontaneity colors life a little ...go off the beaten track ...otherwise I find things boring very quickly ...I sort of have to share my burst of energy . Does that make sense???
I’ve always been quite mature around my parents because I am an only child, but around my friends I am completely aloof and very very childish, it’s like I am a completely different person when I’m with my parents. When my mom yells at me I break down with a panic attack which makes her yell at me more saying, “why are you crying over nothing” and her yelling at me when having a panic attack makes me even more overwhelmed
What nobody ever told me (as I’m a recently diagnosed woman) is the fact about untreated ADHD often causing depression. I’ve been on so many different antidepressants but they never really WORKED, because I was unknowingly overwhelmed with ADHD
I'm on the verge of tears watching your video because I relate to 100% of the symptoms you mentioned. For so long I've always felt like there was something "wrong" with me. I've recently started researching my symptoms and I've looked into dozens of different disorders but none of them felt right. When I came across adhd I immediately resonated with it, and listening to you talk about it has solidified my belief that I have it. I want to get tested though, I want to make sure. Thank you for your video.
i understand this all too well... it's something to get a hold of that's for sure!! If I'm not careful my ADHD can get a hold of me....I try to simplify my life so I don't feel overwhelmed.
serious ❤️ it’s nice to know that at least we aren’t alone in how we feel. I’m hoping I can put some better habits in place so I won’t feel so worn out.
Oh my gosh I relate to all of this. This whole time I was thinking I had bipolar or bpd or something because of my weird neurotic and over exaggerated emotional behavior, but they just didn’t fit me. I think it was adhd all along. I’m bouta cry. I knew I wasn’t crazy!
Veronica G I know the feeling...gonna cry bc you knew you weren’t crazy. I felt that. I had the same reaction...I’m so glad you found this relatable and hope it helps. 🥰
I got fired due to my inability to concentrate and communicate. I began to notice a lot of my struggles and realized I have many symptoms of ADHD. I feel relieved because at least I know I'm not dumb.
I also recently got diagnosed at 31. I assumed adhd was hyperactive only. It wasn’t until I saw a tiktok on symptoms that women have with inattentive adhd that I was like omg that’s me. I cried when I was diagnosed because this anxiety and overwhelming feeling was validated and I wasn’t crazy.
Same. It took my psychiatrist months to convince me that I have it... now it all makes sense. As I said in another comment, because of the genetic component my mum also has it, so all these behaviours seemed normal to us and we assumed there’s nothing wrong.
At 3:18-3:48 ---that's so accurate. That's my life. I end up working OFF the clock a lot to catch up on what I should have gotten done while ON the clock. That's a lot of my free time spent catching up on everything!!! Up too late, need to sleep too much, coping mechanisms are just a way of life. Not even the minority---but coping takes up the majority of my life.
I just realised that ArdelleVision sounds like "Our television" so when you say "Welcome to ArdelleVision" it sounds like you're saying "Welcome to our television" and that is just neat.
I don't like to self diagnose but I swear up and down that I have it, I've even asked my mom to get me tested. She said I'm just a teenager. I consistently move, I have a lot of trouble going to sleep. I space out to where I can hear my teacher but I don't really process what she's saying. I even have a special mechanical orange pencil I keep with me because I twist it in my hand constantly and it keeps me distracted. If I don't have that pencil around, I'll draw on my pants, litterly my jeans have lead drawing all over them. When taking notes it doodle, like I fill up half the page because I'm constantly bored and distracted. I also really like to run, like I can run for MILES at a time. In 5th grade I used to jog 5 or 6 miles in a span of 35 minutes, and after that I still wanted to keep running. Its really fusturating because I've expressed this to my mom. In her eyes, I'm just a normal teenage girl. It honestly hurts me that she isn't listening to my concern. If anyone can help me and tell me if they relate, I just really wish everyone would understand me :(
Oh I just got diagnosed at 33. My mum always insisted that I don’t have it... because she also has it! So all my behaviours seemed normal to her. That’s the problem with conditions that have a big genetic component, these behaviours just feel normal.
Thank you so much for explaining this I am 38 years old I had ADHD ever since I was a little kid Life has been a struggle but I am ready to tackle this ADHD and how can I better myself ...
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 19 when I sought out help for anxiety. I’ve always thought I had ADHD but didn’t wanna self diagnose. Definitely better to start handling it now than further down the road though. This video was so helpful by the way!! I really related to it and it had such useful advice, so thank you!
I'm 17 rn and going through the same thing. How did you get your diagnosis? I'm thinking about opening up to my parents as I already told them about the depression and anxiety I had in the past. they said they would take me to the doctor but after I started coming out of one of my depressive episodes I think they're assuming that I'm "better". I still get overwhelmed very easily and the symptoms in this video and in the research I've done so far have been consistent with what I've experienced my whole life. I'm scared that my parents or even the doctor will not believe in me and shut me off.
Rida Zameer I’m so sorry that you’re going through this! Depression and anxiety can go hand in hand with ADHD, especially if left untreated. I went to a psychiatrist and told them about how overwhelmed I always felt and my disorganization and some other anxiety things. They ended up asking me about ADHD and asking me if I ever thought I had it. I’m now in therapy and starting meds to work on strategies to manage my ADHD. I really recommend seeing a psychiatrist to get tested. Getting tested really opened my eyes and explained so many things in my life. I hope this helped and let me know if there’s anything else you need or if you need any more info :)
@@ridazameer7435 please speak to you parents again my daughter has just been diagnosed as well and yes anxiety and adhd run side by side in most people.My daughter has inattentive ADHD.
Hi, there! I am minoring in psychology and for some extra credit, I'm writing a short paper on your video! I really enjoyed it! I was diagnosed at 18 and even now almost being 21, I'm still learning new things about ADHD everyday. One thing I'd like to add is that women tend to mask so much when we're in a public setting and that can be incredibly exhausting.
Inattentive Type ADHD! Ardelle, I feel you made this video just for me. Have been waiting anxiously for you to give your take on this too. I’ve had my suspicions that my girl has an undiagnosed case of ADHD, and with the way you just described the symptoms, I Am pretty sure she has exactly this. And with this better understanding I have, I hope to be a lot more understanding of her struggles. Eternally grateful to you for doing this video. You’re awesome! ❤️
This really got me. I'm not stupid but Im often seen as some kind of ditz because I can really get caught up in my own thoughts in the middle of... anything. It takes so much effort to stay focused and engaged for long periods of time, even just 5 minute one on one conversations. It's really hard to develop friendships like that.
Setting boundaries and choosing myself first, as you beautifully explained, are some of the things that I'll be doing this year to just show up as the best version of myself. Love how transparent you're while sharing your story with ADHD: I'm sure a lot of women will relate. Keep up
I’ve just been diagnosed at 46! It was after my daughter who was diagnosed first at the age of 29! I always suspected I had it. My growing up was troubled and i basically bought myself up! I failed all my exams so just settled with fact I was not very smart. I actually cried when I was told it was adhd I’m now trying to work everything out and feel so excited for my future ❤️
Such an important to talk about! I see this often in my patients at my functional medicine practice. I agree with taking the time to take care of yourself and prioritize yourself, as well as I think not multitasking, or at least reducing the level, can be very helpful.
Dr. Shelley Meyer oh wow! Yeah, I agree with reducing and or not multitasking...you end up stressed and not doing a good job at anything...or not finishing anything...and then feeling worse off than before.
Ardelle! You are heaven sent 🥺 Im so happy I found you! I’m 25 and my life feels like chaos and I can’t get my shit together ever no matter how hard I try. Thank youuuu thank you so much for sharing all of this!
Being diagnosed was like getting a manual to something you had no idea how to use (or even know you had). It was brought to my attention around 35, I cried. I was upset about ‘something wrong with me’. Officially diagnosed at 36. I look back at my childhood and now it’s obvious! When ADHD was brought my attention and diagnosed it changed how I felt about myself, I mean it. I started to understand SO much more. I started to give myself a damn break!! And I started to learn more and more. It used to be super frustrating being an intelligent woman and yet I couldn’t do the things I wanted to do, why were things so hard?? The more I read/watch the more I can relate and the more tools I can learn!
I’ve been on anxiety, ADHD and @hippietrips__ on Instagram has helped me out in this now I’m doing fine and great he sells psychedelic products , honey , MUSHROOMS and lots more that can help you out
Jessica William That handle doesn’t work to any product. But in any case I have heard about micro dosing mushrooms and it’s something I’ve been wanting to try to aid the anxiety and ADHD. I’m not huge into pharmaceuticals and though I did try I didn’t see a major positive of staying on them.
Absolutely yes validation I felt that way at 23 when I first got my Aspergers diagnosis. But over time I realised it still didn’t answer all my questions, only discovered this year at 40 I have ADHD Inattentive type
My mom still doesn’t believe I have BED even after multiple signs, with my adhd meds it’s helped a little but it’s still so hard. It gives me closure that I didn’t make myself like this. Thank you
Heyyy! I really needed this today. We got diagnosed at the same age! It was last year for me, and it was a shock, but then it all made sense. What I really related to today from you was the feeling of OVERWHELM ..... my god I feel that so so so so much. Every day. Exhausted mentally, feeling like I'm falling short all the time... being over emotional as well.... being overly caring... I'm very empathetic too, so when this whole pandemic started, gurl the depression was REAL. I felt everyone's pain so much... I struggle massively with short term memory, the CHAOS in my home is just ridiculous.... I'm super paranoid and anxious about scenarios that haven't even manifested.... but on the outside I'm this bubbly happy character who appears to have her life together. Thanks so much for sharing all of this, I really needed it. XxX
Just diagnosed 2months ago. I'm almost 44. Thank you for this video. I found it while I was looking to "educate" myself. I accepted my diagnosis almost immediately because now my entire life &my actions or inactions make total sense
Hi Ardelle...just wanted to let you know how grateful I am to look forward to watching your videos. It really is encouraging to know that I am not alone in the struggles I face with ADHD. It can truly make you feel less than when everyone around you seems to be managing so well and there seems to be no reason why you can’t even though there really is. Please keep up the good and really important work...thank you ❤️
I'm getting a diagnosis next Friday. I cannot wait, I'm devouring these videos. I'm 60 years old. So many answers to questions I didn't even know were questions. I'm SO GLAD I never wanted children!
How do you get an official diagnosis for this? I’m afraid a doctor wouldn’t believe me because my parents never did and the therapists I’ve seen in the past just thought I was stressed. I really think this is what I’ve been struggling with but I don’t know how to take the next step
Veronica G I would call around and find out who specializes in adhd and takes your insurance. That was what I did. I found a list of psychiatrists...according to my insurance. I called and told them I was looking for someone who specialized in adhd because I felt I had it. I had a therapist at the time that felt I did… And she said she would back me up… But I ended up not needing it. I went in with intention… And told the doctor all of my behaviors and how they resemble ADHD… If I were you I would write things out… They want to know a lot of your past and how long you’ve exhibited these traits
@@ArdelleVision ı wrote my symptoms and past experiences but my new psychiatrist wrote it off as anxiety. Now i am looking for a specialized doctor for adhd 😒
My GP doctor suspected I had it. Then I discussed it with my psychologist who was open to the possibility of me having it. I then went to a psychiatrist and he diagnosed me without hesitation. I'm almost 44 years old! I have desperately wanted to be normal and I hope on meds I will feel better.
Veronica... it is such a common thing to be worried someone won’t believe you. I am a psychiatric PA who specializes in women with ADHD. I have it myself and it was overlooked - even by me - for a long time. That’s why I’ve committed my life to helping others in this way. Understanding and treatment is life changing. Look for ADHD specialists in your area. You could check PsychologyToday. I wish you the best. 💜
I just got diagnosed with ADHD-PI a couple days ago, and I have never felt more seen in a video. You described me perfectly, with the need to take care of others, always reacting emotionally, and the constant comparing ourselves to our peers that is especially exacerbated by social media. Also with the thing about how women are often diagnosed as PI because our hyperactivity is less obvious which also leads to being undiagnosed. I don't really feel that being just "inattentive" describes me well, because like you said my mind is going 100 miles an hour all the time. Overall really insightful and great video, thank you so much!
You are so charming to watch ... I went to the Dr today to get a referral as I sooo know I have ADHD ...this is so late in life I am 25 plus 25 ...I prefer saying it that way ! It’s all those pieces of the puzzle coming together and understanding myself . In a weird way I sort of like or accept my ADHD sort of has made me a bit quirky and different . It’s good that I can label it and start to learn more about it ...your videos really help ...short , quick to the point ...I am yup that’s me ! So thank you And Shalom from Israel 🇮🇱💥👍🏻
I'm so glad my videos help! And that you got a diagnosis and that you can piece things together and start learning about yourself! I love how positive you are and that you love that your adhd has made you quirky! So fun! And yay!!!! ISRAEL!!!! I'd love to visit Israel one day! It's on my list of top places to visit! 😌 One day🙏
ArdelleVision well when the time comes I make sure to look me up ! I am originally from London . Now that I am understanding my ADHD better I can diffuse situations or explain to my husband why he gets frustrated or critises
Me as I can start to explain how I do things differently ! My teenage boys laugh at me ...they say ‘ mum u covered everything 50, adhd and menopausal ( the latter not there yet ) but it’s good I can get away with stuff ! Gotta have humor x
Love this video Ardelle, have a supportive group of friends to connect to and relate with is so important. I also love your point on self care, which is so important and helpful in any situation. Really enjoyed these tips!
Manifest the Greater You thanks so much! Yeah...I had to learn to let people down, put up boundaries, and take care of me. Not easy at first...but so worth it.
I'm here, crying, because I finally found answers to the way I am at 22. I was kicked out school at 13 and have always struggled. They always said you're bright girl but if you actually paid attention.. Thank you for helping me, I'm off to the docs for an assessment (if i actually remember the appointment).
I cry while reading all the comments bcs that's exactly what I feel most of the time. From being a late bloomer, afraid to be rejected and people pleaser. I seems clueless rn. My country having a poor handling with covid. I'm not sure if I can reach out somewhere to get tested. But somehow, being around the same ppl as me makes it bearable in some way.
Thank you! This is so lovely to hear all this, because I have been thinking all my life why I allways fail, why I can not do so easily all things than others,why so many things are so difficult to me and so on. This is really relieving to hear all those thing you are talking about!
Thank you for this I was literally nodding at everything you said. I transferred from community college (living with my parents) to a. University (moving 3 hrs away) this past year and it’s been increasingly frustrating to keep up. I’ve felt so overwhelmed and hopeless and it got to the point where I needed to seek help. I started talking to a therapist because it feels so embarrassing. So embarrassing to be inattentive and forgetful and not feeling good enough and blaming it on not trying hard enough. I studied so hard for my last exam . So hard. I felt really confident about it and when I started it my mind went blank and it was difficult to recall information. I made a 50. It sucks to feel this way because you feel like despite everything you do it’s not good enough. I haven’t been diagnosed but I’ve been looking into adhd for some time now and it all makes sense. I am SUCH a people pleaser. Putting others before me and always being nice to everyone and never saying no cause I feel bad and I don’t want them to see me in a bad light. I’m always comparing myself and it feels like I have a limit to how successful I can be. I just feel like there’s a jumbled mess in my brain and I can’t organize it :/ but thank you for your video it really helped relate and know that I’m not struggling alone.
I'm 39 years old, and I've finally been diagnosed as ADHD. I'm watching this again, because it's just nice hearing someone whom I can relate to, so much. I'm finally in therapy, and started on a (hopefully) awesome ADHD medication that's supposed to help with ADHD, AND impulsive eating! (Which I very much do. My brain and taste buds fell in love, and decided to become one. Lol) I'm so ready to be able to manage my effing time. And, having more filter will probably help me to stop pissing off the Karen's that come through my line...(I work in an expensive grocery store in a rich area... with my ADHD brain, tired body, and feisty mouth.) Fingers crossed, and prayers for some freaking normalcy!!!
@Rachel Parker You recommended mushrooms for someone with ADHD? WTF dude... What kind of dysfunctional dynamic are you used to???? You need a conscience...and medical knowledge... And a whack with my shoe.
@@purplerain0517 I’ve been on anxiety, ADHD and @hippietrips__ on Instagram has helped me out in this now I’m doing fine and great he sells psychedelic products , honey , MUSHROOMS and lots more that can help you out
Thank you so much for addressing this problem. It hit home with me! My daughter has shared your video with me today, she’s done quite a bit of research over the last few days and finds that she may have ADD and thinks I may as well. Thank you so much for this video!
my parents are in denial to get me tested or go on meds. my brother has been diagnosed with adhd and my dad has add. i cry everytime thinking about this topic. i’ve struggled with academics, social skills and basic skills my whole life, and i’m good at masking it. ive developed terrible study habits/routine, and i’m always distracted, and never able to focus. ive never truly understood a subject in school, and i just want help. i knew the root of my anxiety and depression came from somewhere b
I am in the process of being diagnosed... its so emotionally freeing, but i cant help thinking about what my life could have looked like if i knew!!!! i am 36, and i am excited to get control of my life.
I found your channel recently, after being prescribed Ritalin in my 30's. I decided to do the none medication route (exercise, low carb high fat, meditation, self love etc...) and I'm feeling really positive about it all. I just wanted to say a big ass genuine thank you, your videos have really helped a huge amount. You also make me laugh out loud. Yes its true, raw adhd can be so beautiful and funny (and skatty and late lol)
I recently was diagnosed with ADHD which in turn led to Depression and Anxiety... I'm learning how to create boundaries I have both Inattentive and Hyperactive type.
This is interesting, im a guy with adhd and your post was insightful to me, thanks. It is different to me were adhd is more about anger, impulse control, obessive about tasks and hobbies goals.
@@ArdelleVision main feature is when i get angry or someone insults me, i feel aj uncontrollable surge to react... But i always control the impulse, but emotionally it is very compelling. But then again if someone gives me a present i feel joy overwhelmingly too, to its generally all emotions are felt instantaneously and it is hard to control or manage it. This is all part of the executive function issues with my brain.
1:09 oh no this is hitting home. I never knew I had this until now at in my 20s and at 24 I think I have it. I can’t stay focused for too long and very unorganized easily bored . 😞wow And I’m always caring for other people 😞 I thought ADHD was just hyper. I’m at the point where I’m taking substances I need help🙏🏾
Diagnosed 28 years ago as ADHD/IS, and am also dyslexic in both words and math. I have the words part mostly under control, but constantly struggle with the numbers. I'm a "master procrastinator," though I really WANT TO get those things done, honestly! That's what I tell myself as I let out a deep sigh and load the car with laundry once again.... But, at the age of 68 1/2, I've come to realize that I'm the only one who has to be concerned about how ADHD affects me, because I'm always on time for appointments, ALWAYS, and to all outward appearances, I'm just "that slow elderly woman in the church," and that's how I'm going to leave it. It semi works for now, and I'll take this knowledge to my grave, not even my sister being aware of it. As the song by Hall and Oates said, "Some things are better left unsaid. Some things are better left unspoken..."
This is crazy. I've been trying to figure myself out for years but nothing ever felt right. I know I have an anxiety disorder and so I figured anxiety must be the culprit for everything. For a while I thought maybe I was autistic because hyperactive didn't really fit me and I did well in school (except for doing my homework...not because I couldn't but because it didn't feel important or urgent). I just came across this video after researching why personal hygiene is such an issue for me. Or why I can't seem to make myself do the things I know I should be doing. I think things are finally clicking into place...
the more i watch things like these the more i realise that this is exactly like me but i can’t go to a doctor and get tested to see if i actually have it or not🧍♀️
Same. It's not covered to get diagnosed as an adult. So since they missed it as a child I now can't afford it. I don't have thousands of dollars to try to get a diagnoses
I have been trying to tell my therapist for years that I want to get tested but they keep pushing me away. They finally gave me adderall which has actually helped but I still don’t have the official diagnosis as they refuse to actually test me formally. I feel like no one believes me... I have major depressive disorder so they write it off as that as the symptoms tend to overlap
I related so much to the symptoms you mentioned😩 But my parents are convinced that i don't have it. I really don't know, i might also just be a perfectionistic overthinking teenager who hates school
bahahahaha I hear you hear. I loved learning but hated actual school. But i knew i wanted to be a better student. not sure why. i knew good grades were possible for me and my own "can i do it" curiosity got the best of me. And sure enough...just writing down assignments and giving them all a good go...landed me with such a better GPA at the end of it all. I went from a 1.6 in my first semester to a 3.6...all As and Bs....just for trying. and i got put in an easier math class hahaha
The education system is setup as a factory and doesn’t cater to different learning styles. Our brains are wired differently and we are low on neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. We learn better if we are naturally curious and interested in a subject
Man, went to my psychologist the other day, she thinks there is a chance I have ADHD. A lot of guys in my family have it, so it would make sense. But, omg, I relate to literally everything you said in this video! Thanks for this!
I think I might have ADHD, I'm 16 and have been curious about it for a long time now. My biggest problem is knowing if the problems I have may be from ADHD or past trauma. I've been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and PTSD for years now but I've always felt that there might be more. I am nervous that it'll be seen as me being in denial towards my disorders and trauma when I am perfectly fine with them. After looking more into inattentive ADHD so many of the symptoms seem like me, in class I was always called out by teachers and students as a daydreamer, I was often labeled as the mother of the friend group, I always feel overwhelmed like I'm not doing enough or that others might see me as lazy. My organization skills are the worst, I honestly cannot remember a time in my life that my room has been 100% clean. I rarely finish a task or I miss steps, in school I will forget to complete a page of work or I'll jump ahead ignoring an explanation on how to do something and I'd just do it without knowing. As I got older my grades went from all A's to almost all F's because I've found it impossible to do my work. Again I'm having such a difficult time knowing if this truly could just be a result of my trauma and other disorders but it's just been bugging me for such a long time, thankfully I've just gotten a therapist and I want to ask them their opinion on it.
i relate to almost all of this I'm certainly emotionally oriented and a stress eater and insomniac and struggled with anxiety and depression for the last 8 years , I'm going to to see the dr next week
Was diagnosed with depression and anxiety...for 12 years I went through 3 such 2year long episodes...only last year at 26 I was diagnosed... I related so much to the 'caretaker' part and chronic exhaustion...low self esteem, hell yeah..definitely emotionally oriented... I did so well in school and undergraduate degree because I was staying with my parents in my hometown...only when I went to another city for my master's did I start losing it within 4 months! I also have OCD... hoarding trumps my cleaning OCD...adhd makes it worse.. I am currently getting rid of things from my closet and wardrobe.. Self care, boundaries and assertiveness got so much better over the past three years... it's insane how much less overwhelmed I feel now... As a kid I was extensively into sports and dancing..which probably helped me fly under the radar or I'd have definitely come across as a hyperactive one, getting more into trouble and all of that..I was the talkative one in my class, always trying to help people out...but hardly ever felt accepted within a group of friends because of course I blurted out things awkwardly, out of turn..often told I can do so much better academically only if I put in more efforts..I was the queen of silly mistakes which I would rationalise to myself saying "hey I knew the content, I scored well anyway, so why bother"..in highschool I had to give up dancing, and of course the pressures of greater coursework load.. that's when the first episode of depression and anxiety hit me..my anxiety was always a symptom of my adhd, not a disorder by itself.. I have changed my career path thrice already..venturing into the fourth as I prep for another master's degree.. I have always wondered how people manage to get so many things done in a single day...I was and am so terrible at set-shifting and planning...I horribly time-blind..always late to everywhere... difficult to keep up a routine and when I do manage to get into one, I find it so hard when there's a break in my routine even for a single day.. Since I started reading up about adhd, I have found so much clarity regarding my behaviour and patterns..there has been so much self-acceptance..I am much more compassionate to and less demanding of myself.. it's beautiful..being able to admit that I am struggling with something as simple as remembering an appointment is so liberating..the amount of guilt and shame has plunged immensely...medication and therapy of course have supported me so much...but just having the diagnosis has filled in so many gaps in my understanding of myself.. Okay wow...I wrote a quite a lot..
I literally started sobbing while watching this, because for the first time in my life I thought, "maybe I'm NOT a failure, maybe I don't just suck at everything". I've always felt inadequate because I can't seem to do "life" as well as everyone else.
Oh my goodness my mom told me I had it when I was young but I thought I grew out of it just now remembering that I had it when I was younger explains a lot of the problems I’m having right now at 20 years old
Only been diagnosed this year at the age of 22. I wonder where I could have been now if I'd been caught as a kid, I have a history of failures and wrecked mental health because of trying to cope by myself. It's sad, but at least I've still caught it young and there's time for me.
Thank you for sharing. When I am ready, I’ll try to find a good mental health care professional to check for ADHD and ADD. I have doubts about my current diagnosis for years and I have tried getting it sorted. Eventually I grew tired and unmotivated and I just gave up. Now I’m clean of a whole lot of medication, and I’m trying to get to know this version of prescriptionpill-free me. Some things I have since my childhood have returned in a milder form and other stuff either never changed or I did change. The more I see, hear and read things about ADHD and ADD, the more I feel the lightbulb above my head is zooming💡. However, I need to prevent myself from armchair diagnosing myself. At the moment I am happy with the progress in my recovery and where I am now. Sincerely, thank you once again for sharing your story.
Was just diagnosed at 32 along with OCD. So interesting that I was realizing all these things over the years but never knew it was actually something and not just my weird self
What do those two things look like in daily life? Do they each make the other worse, are they completely independent, i.e. no similarities? Hope you are able to manage
@@sometime.somewhere they actually tend to cover each other up which is why it goes/went so long without being diagnosed. I feel like I’m crazy, but my OCD of wanting to be or appear perfect to others covers my failings due to my ADHD. On the outward appearance I seem like I have everything together or even succeed more than others, but if you saw beyond my front room or my backyard ie anything that doesn’t affect other people or other people would see, you would see how scattered I really am. Work I do fine in because I work in something I find joy in and I always found joy in learning and school, so it kept my attention and I did well. Inattentive ADHD is basically if I’m not interested, I’m not gonna do it. The whole thing is so fascinating now that I’ve found out there’s a reason they way I am.
@@bwines16 Thanks for the insight, I'm glad you have some clarity about these things. I think having a job you can enjoy is very important, its such a large portion of our waking lives that it must have a positive effect. I am personally still trying to work out how to live my life as best as possible, no diagnosis of anything and awaiting CBT support currently
Everything you mentioned fits my situation completely. I’ve always wondered whats wrong with me. I’m ready to make an appointment but I’m kinda afraid that it turns out that I don’t have ADHD because to be honest I would feel very relieved if it was true so I know its not my fault why I’m so lazy sometimes and try to do things later but then forget about them, its so frustrating. I hope I won’t get misdiagnosed.
Damn I thought I was the only one. I was the best high school student (even with a few hiccups), but damn was college a struggle. Even at work I'm helping others and always late on my items. Hoping to see someone when I feel emotionally and financially up for it.
Honestly my boyfriend who has adhd asked me if I’ve ever been assessed for it and I was like “well, no. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in high school and nothing was ever done” and now 22 yo me, after failing physiology for the 3rd time, am absolutely positive that I have adhd🙃
Usually other ADHD individuals can recognise a kindred spirit. It’s like a 6th sense. I have both Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive and especially as I get older seem to have what I call an inbuilt radar for detecting the Neurodiverse community
Guys I think I have ADHD. I think I am a mixture of the hyperactive and inattentive type. I really don't know how to tell my parents this :( (Potential symptoms are listed below) 1. I have mood swings everyday.(I get agitated very easily too) 2. I am very sensitive. I cry over small things and sometimes blame myself for something that I know did not happen because of me. 3. I am easily distracted by small sounds. (Something as small as footsteps, Birds chirping and stuff like that.) 4. I sometimes zone out when someone is talking to me. I am always very loud(even my friends say so). 5. I am always super forgetful. I would be going to a certain place let's say the kitchen and I would always forget why I was there in the first place. I would often misplace stuff as well. 6. I am very disorganised. (Literally everything is) 7. I am a tomboy( Some guys who met me even said I was too rough and that I act too "boyish" for a girl) 8. Everyone says that I am very loud. I also constantly interrupt people when they are talking ( I just can't help it. I don't know what's wrong with myself ) 9. I am always feeling sad even though nothing is wrong. 10. I tend to lash out at people when I am angry or sad. 11. I am unable to focous and would get distracted by other things. ( Be it a test, doing homework or in some instances, eating.)
This screams to me that it’s highly likely you do. The difficult thing is getting tested by a psychiatrist who specialises in ADHD in adults and in particular women
I got diagnosed when I was a kid. They gave me medicine when I hit the 1st grade. I have felt short of society lol I gave up and stayed home.... Literally I quit work. Im in my 30's Oh my gawd... Seriously everything in this video... Everytime I try to talk to ANYONE neurotypical they disregard as gibberish. Even when I make a factual point everyone dismisses it. I pretty have now kept to myself over the years and dare I say, dont have friends nor do I want any lol so much high maintenance Especially with religion... Oh geez...
Hugs!! Been a stay at home mum for a decade now, looking out on the rest of the world with panic in my heart. Every job I've ever had there has been at least one person in charge who is on my case as I do inattentive things and mess up a LOT. Got a mild hoarding habit, social anxiety etc etc. My heart goes out to you X
This is me 10000%! My doctor says I have anxiety and depression and put me on medication that doesn't feel like it helps. When I tell her something just feels "wrong", she's extremely passive and just tries to change my depression medication. I don't even know how to bring ADHD up to her without feeling like she'll dismiss it or make me feel like I'm reaching. This is so frustrating. I just know I have it.
What symptoms do you relate to? Or maybe one that I left out?! What can you or what do to make life a tad more manageable? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
I did well in high school but once I hit college, I couldn’t get past reading the first page of my textbooks. I retook the same astronomy class 3 times and failed each time 😢 Dropped out, got married, and had kids but have been dealing with chronic fatigue, extreme guilt, losing everything, and just never completing a task. Not to mention the constant chaos and disorganization of my house which perfectly represents my mental state 😓
Being a minimalist has been a coping strategy for me since childhood, it's something the neurotypical people in my life don't get, they think I'm weird. Thanks for the validation, and thanks for this video! I will check out more of your channel.
Only just realising I may have this and I relate to all off this, wow
Anxiety/social anxiety
Depression
I’m literally always the last person in class taking a test cuz I have to read the question like 10 times b4 it registers in my brain, I forget everything like I’ll walk in the bathroom to get something then glance at myself in the mirror and walk out cuz forget what I came in there for or I’ll go to the pantry for something look at everything in there and walk out because I forgot what I was doing smh. Or sometimes I’ll get into a “ comfortable stare” like I’ll be staring at nothing then I’ll break out if it and I also have an undiagnosed ED( BED), I procrastinate and do everything last minute I’ve never been to a therapist but I think I’m gonna get one soon not sure if I have adhd but I got some a lot of other stuff that needs tending to
Focus and attention is hard. I'm in my early 20's and don't have a drivers license yet.
These are just some expressions of symptoms that I quickly thought of, off the top of my head. There are more...:
1. Getting distracted easily.
2. Hyper focused on friendships instead of your own needs
3. Forgetfulness
4. Caffeine addiction
5. Constant comparison with your peers
6. So many piles of paper and receipts: piles in the bedroom, the living room and even the kitchen dining table.
7. I think people pleasing is a by product of issues like low self esteem
Dammmmmn I agree with all the points except 5 and 7, but is this ADHD symptoms?
Can't drink caffeine on ADHD meds.
@@mohammedwarsame6974 Interesting hey? I completely understand that. I mean it's different for everyone.
From what I have discovered so far that there is an ADHD spectrum and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. So some people can be more inattentive and distracted & others are can be more hyperactive. Some have a much better memory than others. Not everyone who has ADHD ends up becoming a statistic (divorce, jail, dropping out of school) and it can for women go unnoticed or unidentified until they are older and have more responsibilities.
I have spoken to at least one woman that got diagnosed after their children were diagnosed with ADHD because it was never picked up for a variety of reasons. I should correct myself and I would say that what I wrote here is a list that shows how ADHD symptoms can express or show up in life, for example one of the ADHD symptoms is inattention and in my case, that is partially why there are piles of papers around the place.
@@mohammedwarsame6974 yes I agree
Oh fuck
Just cried listening to this. Every struggle you have had, I have had. Every single one. I have an appointment tomorrow 🙏🏼
Oh girl! I cried when i first discovered my ADHD! I never considered once i had adhd because well.. i wasn't hyper. But knowing about inattentive type and it being common in women...then looking into it...then realizing its me! I was in tears! You are at the beginning of a lot of self love and grace coming your way. I am a lot nicer to myself which has been the biggest gift. Praying for you jennifer!!!! I don't see all my comments anymore which is hard and makes me sad...but when i do i try to take time to reply!!!!!!
@@ArdelleVision Thank you for your prayers 💕
I feel your struggle.
Were you diagnosed?
Same here 😢 I'm almost 43 and never been diagnosed! My life has been a whirlwind along the way. I am currently in the process of finally having a diagnosis. Hopefully better days are ahead of me.
Best wishes to you! 💕💕
When you said that it is triggered during college time I started sobbing because this is where I am right now , going to the doctor’s tomorrow tho
Edit: so it wasn’t ADHD but... depression. Haha. Taking medication and going to therapy. Look after yourselves ladies 💕🤍
I'm so glad you are finding this out now! So many people with adhd finish college! you now can get the help you need!!!!!
I’m 21 and just got diagnosed-junior in college. I struggled for a long time in college before I was able to admit I needed help. My psychologist says that if you’re quite smart, you can “skirt by” for a long time, but college is extremely hard to do that with and that’s when I figured it out.
@@rosyhumbug ahh I’m so proud of u for working on it. I’m at the same place ur at but I’m too scared to go see a professional
@@rosyhumbug I just started college and it has been rough what should I do? I do take meds but it is still very hard to manage
Me too .
I've been suspecting I have inattentive adhd since I learnt about it about 2 months ago. I've been trying to research as much as I can before I go to the doctor because I'm really scared of being rejected and told there's nothing wrong with me. But I'm at the point where I'm incapable of doing my job when on paper it should be perfect for me. I don't want to do anything else but I fuck up daily from missing details and not following through with tasks properly.
Jo Cummings I so understand the fear of being rejected and being told nothing is wrong with you… it would feel so invalidating. But I remember how I felt before my diagnosis...and that was lost...Finding out about inattentive ADHD was such an answer to all of my life’s issues. Even before my actual diagnosis I knew this was it. This was what I had. Similar to you I remember learning about it before actually getting the diagnosis… I was so sure that I had this that I almost went in fearless… And curious if they tell me I didn’t... what else could it possibly be!!!???? I hope as you learn about adhd you find ways to cope, manage, and thrive... with or without medication! I’m unmedicated and although i have my critics...I find just knowing more about me ADHD helps me process and function. I remember working a desk job when I realized I think I had this… Eventually learn to doublecheck and triple check my work... it was simply what I had to do for me… Eventually people saw my work ethic and realized as much as I could be forgetful I was trying really hard and my heart was in it. Regardless of everything I’m praying for you and I hope you find the answers you need🥰
@@ArdelleVision Thank you so much Ardellle x
Jo ... you are not alone, I am 41 and am going to my 1st dr. Appt this week to be evaluated for adhd. Adhd and ALL of the symptoms explains my whole life and the difficulty with my jobs over the years hasn't got any easier. In fact, a recent evaluation with my current boss is the main reason I'm finally going to get tested. After having over 40 jobs and moving at least 30 times in my adult life... I actually have a boss who is willing to help me instead of call me flakey and stupid! Hope the best for you! 🤗
It's the same for me. I watched over maybe 15 videos with signs and I am sooo sure, that this is what I have. I talked to my parents and they told me, that I already did this test. But at that time I was maybe around 5 years old and I can't even remember. The result was of course; I do not have adhd or add, and because of this early diagnosis I am afraid to go to that doctor again... What if she tells me that I may be wrong and again, that we already did this test?
If I get rejected, my parents will point out, that I was wrong, that they were right and I am talking so much nonsense and that will kind of influence our trust...
And.. I hope for treatment. I got all the problems that are being pointed out in the several videos and they definitely affect my day to day life. :(
@@LM-ht7sd sorry to miss this at the time, how have you gotten on?
I can’t believe that ADHD is linked to eating disorders oh my God the blinds have been removed...please never stop making these videos they’re so helpful❤️😩
and many other addictions
With ADHD its said we are about 4+ years younger mentally. or that we have always been a little more childish than our peers. I feel i relate to it... do you feel that way too? or is it just some people with ADHD
chickwholuvsmusic That’s me too!
Wow. Totally relate and find this to be accurate. Always childlike at heart. Took me a while to even view myself as an adult...that’s still a struggle haha whom I kidding...?
So true
If I have a thought ...of course within reason ...I have to share it or act on it even if eyebrows will be raised . Maybe it’s childish but I like to think that this spontaneity colors life a little ...go off the beaten track ...otherwise I find things boring very quickly ...I sort of have to share my burst of energy . Does that make sense???
I’ve always been quite mature around my parents because I am an only child, but around my friends I am completely aloof and very very childish, it’s like I am a completely different person when I’m with my parents. When my mom yells at me I break down with a panic attack which makes her yell at me more saying, “why are you crying over nothing” and her yelling at me when having a panic attack makes me even more overwhelmed
What nobody ever told me (as I’m a recently diagnosed woman) is the fact about untreated ADHD often causing depression. I’ve been on so many different antidepressants but they never really WORKED, because I was unknowingly overwhelmed with ADHD
Same here x
I'm on the verge of tears watching your video because I relate to 100% of the symptoms you mentioned. For so long I've always felt like there was something "wrong" with me. I've recently started researching my symptoms and I've looked into dozens of different disorders but none of them felt right. When I came across adhd I immediately resonated with it, and listening to you talk about it has solidified my belief that I have it. I want to get tested though, I want to make sure. Thank you for your video.
Im trying to get a hold of my ADHD again. It’s so tough, I was diagnosed last year at 24. I feel overwhelmed everyday 😕
i understand this all too well... it's something to get a hold of that's for sure!! If I'm not careful my ADHD can get a hold of me....I try to simplify my life so I don't feel overwhelmed.
Me too...i feel like I'm going to fall apart at any moment...so tired
serious ❤️ it’s nice to know that at least we aren’t alone in how we feel. I’m hoping I can put some better habits in place so I won’t feel so worn out.
Oh my gosh I relate to all of this. This whole time I was thinking I had bipolar or bpd or something because of my weird neurotic and over exaggerated emotional behavior, but they just didn’t fit me. I think it was adhd all along. I’m bouta cry. I knew I wasn’t crazy!
Veronica G I know the feeling...gonna cry bc you knew you weren’t crazy. I felt that. I had the same reaction...I’m so glad you found this relatable and hope it helps. 🥰
I got fired due to my inability to concentrate and communicate. I began to notice a lot of my struggles and realized I have many symptoms of ADHD. I feel relieved because at least I know I'm not dumb.
I also recently got diagnosed at 31. I assumed adhd was hyperactive only. It wasn’t until I saw a tiktok on symptoms that women have with inattentive adhd that I was like omg that’s me. I cried when I was diagnosed because this anxiety and overwhelming feeling was validated and I wasn’t crazy.
Same. It took my psychiatrist months to convince me that I have it... now it all makes sense. As I said in another comment, because of the genetic component my mum also has it, so all these behaviours seemed normal to us and we assumed there’s nothing wrong.
At 3:18-3:48 ---that's so accurate. That's my life. I end up working OFF the clock a lot to catch up on what I should have gotten done while ON the clock. That's a lot of my free time spent catching up on everything!!! Up too late, need to sleep too much, coping mechanisms are just a way of life. Not even the minority---but coping takes up the majority of my life.
Same here I’m going to ring my psychologist tomorrow and arrange an assessment
I just realised that ArdelleVision sounds like "Our television" so when you say "Welcome to ArdelleVision" it sounds like you're saying "Welcome to our television" and that is just neat.
This is me...for real
serious glad people get it. 😆
I don't like to self diagnose but I swear up and down that I have it, I've even asked my mom to get me tested. She said I'm just a teenager. I consistently move, I have a lot of trouble going to sleep. I space out to where I can hear my teacher but I don't really process what she's saying. I even have a special mechanical orange pencil I keep with me because I twist it in my hand constantly and it keeps me distracted. If I don't have that pencil around, I'll draw on my pants, litterly my jeans have lead drawing all over them.
When taking notes it doodle, like I fill up half the page because I'm constantly bored and distracted. I also really like to run, like I can run for MILES at a time. In 5th grade I used to jog 5 or 6 miles in a span of 35 minutes, and after that I still wanted to keep running. Its really fusturating because I've expressed this to my mom.
In her eyes, I'm just a normal teenage girl. It honestly hurts me that she isn't listening to my concern. If anyone can help me and tell me if they relate, I just really wish everyone would understand me :(
Woah I relate to this way to much but I don’t want to go to the doctor cuz it’d be so embarrassing if I don’t actually have it
Oh I just got diagnosed at 33. My mum always insisted that I don’t have it... because she also has it! So all my behaviours seemed normal to her. That’s the problem with conditions that have a big genetic component, these behaviours just feel normal.
i’ve spent two years researching adhd because i’ve been so scared to be told nothing is wrong with me. today i booked a doctors appointment :)
Thank you so much for explaining this I am 38 years old I had ADHD ever since I was a little kid Life has been a struggle but I am ready to tackle this ADHD and how can I better myself ...
you're so welcome!!!! so glad this helps!
Yeah. I definitely realize I take care of EVERYONE first and foremost if I ever take time to take care of myself...🤦🏻♀️ I need a spa day...😂
liza smith omg a spa day!!! I need one too!!!😂
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 19 when I sought out help for anxiety. I’ve always thought I had ADHD but didn’t wanna self diagnose. Definitely better to start handling it now than further down the road though. This video was so helpful by the way!! I really related to it and it had such useful advice, so thank you!
I'm 17 rn and going through the same thing. How did you get your diagnosis? I'm thinking about opening up to my parents as I already told them about the depression and anxiety I had in the past. they said they would take me to the doctor but after I started coming out of one of my depressive episodes I think they're assuming that I'm "better". I still get overwhelmed very easily and the symptoms in this video and in the research I've done so far have been consistent with what I've experienced my whole life. I'm scared that my parents or even the doctor will not believe in me and shut me off.
Rida Zameer I’m so sorry that you’re going through this! Depression and anxiety can go hand in hand with ADHD, especially if left untreated. I went to a psychiatrist and told them about how overwhelmed I always felt and my disorganization and some other anxiety things. They ended up asking me about ADHD and asking me if I ever thought I had it. I’m now in therapy and starting meds to work on strategies to manage my ADHD. I really recommend seeing a psychiatrist to get tested. Getting tested really opened my eyes and explained so many things in my life. I hope this helped and let me know if there’s anything else you need or if you need any more info :)
@@ridazameer7435 please speak to you parents again my daughter has just been diagnosed as well and yes anxiety and adhd run side by side in most people.My daughter has inattentive ADHD.
Hi Gabby my daughter has been diagnosed recently will be 18 next month.If you don’t mind me asking how are you getting on ?
Hi, there! I am minoring in psychology and for some extra credit, I'm writing a short paper on your video! I really enjoyed it! I was diagnosed at 18 and even now almost being 21, I'm still learning new things about ADHD everyday. One thing I'd like to add is that women tend to mask so much when we're in a public setting and that can be incredibly exhausting.
Inattentive Type ADHD!
Ardelle,
I feel you made this video just for me. Have been waiting anxiously for you to give your take on this too. I’ve had my suspicions that my girl has an undiagnosed case of ADHD, and with the way you just described the symptoms, I Am pretty sure she has exactly this. And with this better understanding I have, I hope to be a lot more understanding of her struggles.
Eternally grateful to you for doing this video. You’re awesome! ❤️
glad to help shed light on some things!
This really got me. I'm not stupid but Im often seen as some kind of ditz because I can really get caught up in my own thoughts in the middle of... anything. It takes so much effort to stay focused and engaged for long periods of time, even just 5 minute one on one conversations. It's really hard to develop friendships like that.
Setting boundaries and choosing myself first, as you beautifully explained, are some of the things that I'll be doing this year to just show up as the best version of myself. Love how transparent you're while sharing your story with ADHD: I'm sure a lot of women will relate. Keep up
Joly Tematio - Achieve Financial Freedom sounds like 2020 will be a good year for you! And thanks so much for these kind words!
@@ArdelleVision My goal is to make it the best year yet ahaha ;)
Joly Tematio - Achieve Financial Freedom same...ardellevision 20/20...time to see clearly...🤪
I’ve just been diagnosed at 46! It was after my daughter who was diagnosed first at the age of 29! I always suspected I had it. My growing up was troubled and i basically bought myself up! I failed all my exams so just settled with fact I was not very smart. I actually cried when I was told it was adhd I’m now trying to work everything out and feel so excited for my future ❤️
Such an important to talk about! I see this often in my patients at my functional medicine practice. I agree with taking the time to take care of yourself and prioritize yourself, as well as I think not multitasking, or at least reducing the level, can be very helpful.
Dr. Shelley Meyer oh wow! Yeah, I agree with reducing and or not multitasking...you end up stressed and not doing a good job at anything...or not finishing anything...and then feeling worse off than before.
This all me. I just started medicine today at age 38….. it’s crazy how long I lived and just thought I wasn’t good enough. Thank you for your videos.
Sounds just like me. I have an appointment with a doctor on Friday. Wish me luck!
hey swty..just a big hug for communicating so well and getting things sorted to such an extent
Thanks for talking about this for all of us that deal with this huge struggle. 💕💕
Ardelle! You are heaven sent 🥺 Im so happy I found you! I’m 25 and my life feels like chaos and I can’t get my shit together ever no matter how hard I try. Thank youuuu thank you so much for sharing all of this!
Being diagnosed was like getting a manual to something you had no idea how to use (or even know you had). It was brought to my attention around 35, I cried. I was upset about ‘something wrong with me’. Officially diagnosed at 36. I look back at my childhood and now it’s obvious! When ADHD was brought my attention and diagnosed it changed how I felt about myself, I mean it. I started to understand SO much more. I started to give myself a damn break!! And I started to learn more and more. It used to be super frustrating being an intelligent woman and yet I couldn’t do the things I wanted to do, why were things so hard?? The more I read/watch the more I can relate and the more tools I can learn!
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Jessica William That handle doesn’t work to any product. But in any case I have heard about micro dosing mushrooms and it’s something I’ve been wanting to try to aid the anxiety and ADHD. I’m not huge into pharmaceuticals and though I did try I didn’t see a major positive of staying on them.
Absolutely yes validation I felt that way at 23 when I first got my Aspergers diagnosis. But over time I realised it still didn’t answer all my questions, only discovered this year at 40 I have ADHD Inattentive type
Last year of college and here we are. Waiting for my appointment next month.
Love how you acknowledge that one should pray.
My mom still doesn’t believe I have BED even after multiple signs, with my adhd meds it’s helped a little but it’s still so hard. It gives me closure that I didn’t make myself like this. Thank you
Heyyy! I really needed this today. We got diagnosed at the same age! It was last year for me, and it was a shock, but then it all made sense. What I really related to today from you was the feeling of OVERWHELM ..... my god I feel that so so so so much. Every day. Exhausted mentally, feeling like I'm falling short all the time... being over emotional as well.... being overly caring... I'm very empathetic too, so when this whole pandemic started, gurl the depression was REAL. I felt everyone's pain so much... I struggle massively with short term memory, the CHAOS in my home is just ridiculous.... I'm super paranoid and anxious about scenarios that haven't even manifested.... but on the outside I'm this bubbly happy character who appears to have her life together. Thanks so much for sharing all of this, I really needed it. XxX
Just diagnosed 2months ago. I'm almost 44.
Thank you for this video. I found it while I was looking to "educate" myself.
I accepted my diagnosis almost immediately because now my entire life &my actions or inactions make total sense
I am a woman who has ADD aka ADHD. I’ve had it since I was younger. It’s hard being a woman with ADHD I relate to everything you said.
so glad you relate. youre not alone!
Hi Ardelle...just wanted to let you know how grateful I am to look forward to watching your videos. It really is encouraging to know that I am not alone in the struggles I face with ADHD. It can truly make you feel less than when everyone around you seems to be managing so well and there seems to be no reason why you can’t even though there really is. Please keep up the good and really important work...thank you ❤️
E Vega omg my gosh thank you for these encouraging words! You are not alone!!!
This really made me cry, as well. I think it's sinking in for me that I may be suffering from this
I cried when i first looked into adhd too. i so relate. It hits a chord and resonates well when you never knew you may have adhd.
I'm getting a diagnosis next Friday. I cannot wait, I'm devouring these videos. I'm 60 years old. So many answers to questions I didn't even know were questions. I'm SO GLAD I never wanted children!
You’re in your 30s??? You look 20
Veronica G oh wow! Thanks. 🤪
@@brianrosememes5073 12??
Classic beauty, don't age like the rest of us!
It’s hard to accept compliments with adhd
How do you get an official diagnosis for this? I’m afraid a doctor wouldn’t believe me because my parents never did and the therapists I’ve seen in the past just thought I was stressed. I really think this is what I’ve been struggling with but I don’t know how to take the next step
Veronica G I would call around and find out who specializes in adhd and takes your insurance. That was what I did. I found a list of psychiatrists...according to my insurance. I called and told them I was looking for someone who specialized in adhd because I felt I had it. I had a therapist at the time that felt I did… And she said she would back me up… But I ended up not needing it. I went in with intention… And told the doctor all of my behaviors and how they resemble ADHD… If I were you I would write things out… They want to know a lot of your past and how long you’ve exhibited these traits
ArdelleVision thank you!
@@ArdelleVision ı wrote my symptoms and past experiences but my new psychiatrist wrote it off as anxiety. Now i am looking for a specialized doctor for adhd 😒
My GP doctor suspected I had it. Then I discussed it with my psychologist who was open to the possibility of me having it. I then went to a psychiatrist and he diagnosed me without hesitation. I'm almost 44 years old! I have desperately wanted to be normal and I hope on meds I will feel better.
Veronica... it is such a common thing to be worried someone won’t believe you. I am a psychiatric PA who specializes in women with ADHD. I have it myself and it was overlooked - even by me - for a long time. That’s why I’ve committed my life to helping others in this way. Understanding and treatment is life changing. Look for ADHD specialists in your area. You could check PsychologyToday. I wish you the best. 💜
Minimalism helps me tremendously!
Thank you for sharing! I just recently got diagnosed and your videos help me understand myself more!
Zosia that’s amazing you got your diagnosis! And I’m so glad my videos help. 🥰
I just got diagnosed with ADHD-PI a couple days ago, and I have never felt more seen in a video. You described me perfectly, with the need to take care of others, always reacting emotionally, and the constant comparing ourselves to our peers that is especially exacerbated by social media. Also with the thing about how women are often diagnosed as PI because our hyperactivity is less obvious which also leads to being undiagnosed. I don't really feel that being just "inattentive" describes me well, because like you said my mind is going 100 miles an hour all the time. Overall really insightful and great video, thank you so much!
I can relate to all of it! I love your channel and again another very informative video that has helped me.
Elizabeth Sampson thanks so much! I’m glad it’s helped🤗
You are so charming to watch ...
I went to the Dr today to get a referral as I sooo know I have ADHD ...this is so late in life I am 25 plus 25 ...I prefer saying it that way ! It’s all those pieces of the puzzle coming together and understanding myself . In a weird way I sort of like or accept my ADHD sort of has made me a bit quirky and different . It’s good that I can label it and start to learn more about it ...your videos really help ...short , quick to the point ...I am yup that’s me !
So thank you
And Shalom from Israel 🇮🇱💥👍🏻
I'm so glad my videos help! And that you got a diagnosis and that you can piece things together and start learning about yourself! I love how positive you are and that you love that your adhd has made you quirky! So fun! And yay!!!! ISRAEL!!!! I'd love to visit Israel one day! It's on my list of top places to visit! 😌 One day🙏
ArdelleVision well when the time comes I make sure to look me up ! I am originally from London . Now that I am understanding my ADHD better I can diffuse situations or explain to my husband why he gets frustrated or critises
Me as I can start to explain how I do things differently ! My teenage boys laugh at me ...they say ‘ mum u covered everything 50, adhd and menopausal ( the latter not there yet ) but it’s good I can get away with stuff ! Gotta have humor x
25 isn’t late some women I call the forgotten generation don’t get diagnosed until their 70s
Thank you for sharing your story!! We don't know if we got diagnosed until later on. It takes time to process and realize it.
FollowMikeWynn it definitely takes time to process....thanks for sharing.
So glad I found your channel everything you said I'm experiencing and finally going for testing in 2 weeks I'm an over 50 year old woman
Love this video Ardelle, have a supportive group of friends to connect to and relate with is so important. I also love your point on self care, which is so important and helpful in any situation. Really enjoyed these tips!
Manifest the Greater You thanks so much! Yeah...I had to learn to let people down, put up boundaries, and take care of me. Not easy at first...but so worth it.
I'm here, crying, because I finally found answers to the way I am at 22. I was kicked out school at 13 and have always struggled. They always said you're bright girl but if you actually paid attention.. Thank you for helping me, I'm off to the docs for an assessment (if i actually remember the appointment).
I cry while reading all the comments bcs that's exactly what I feel most of the time. From being a late bloomer, afraid to be rejected and people pleaser. I seems clueless rn. My country having a poor handling with covid. I'm not sure if I can reach out somewhere to get tested. But somehow, being around the same ppl as me makes it bearable in some way.
Thank you! This is so lovely to hear all this, because I have been thinking all my life why I allways fail, why I can not do so easily all things than others,why so many things are so difficult to me and so on. This is really relieving to hear all those thing you are talking about!
Another great video. Boundaries....also learning to deal with that! Thanks😘
Yes... it’s such a learning curve but so worth it
Thank you for this I was literally nodding at everything you said. I transferred from community college (living with my parents) to a. University (moving 3 hrs away) this past year and it’s been increasingly frustrating to keep up. I’ve felt so overwhelmed and hopeless and it got to the point where I needed to seek help. I started talking to a therapist because it feels so embarrassing. So embarrassing to be inattentive and forgetful and not feeling good enough and blaming it on not trying hard enough. I studied so hard for my last exam . So hard. I felt really confident about it and when I started it my mind went blank and it was difficult to recall information. I made a 50. It sucks to feel this way because you feel like despite everything you do it’s not good enough. I haven’t been diagnosed but I’ve been looking into adhd for some time now and it all makes sense. I am SUCH a people pleaser. Putting others before me and always being nice to everyone and never saying no cause I feel bad and I don’t want them to see me in a bad light. I’m always comparing myself and it feels like I have a limit to how successful I can be. I just feel like there’s a jumbled mess in my brain and I can’t organize it :/ but thank you for your video it really helped relate and know that I’m not struggling alone.
Oh god. I had to go back 10 times as I started day dreaming about something else!
I'm 39 years old, and I've finally been diagnosed as ADHD.
I'm watching this again, because it's just nice hearing someone whom I can relate to, so much.
I'm finally in therapy, and started on a (hopefully) awesome ADHD medication that's supposed to help with ADHD, AND impulsive eating! (Which I very much do. My brain and taste buds fell in love, and decided to become one. Lol)
I'm so ready to be able to manage my effing time.
And, having more filter will probably help me to stop pissing off the Karen's that come through my line...(I work in an expensive grocery store in a rich area... with my ADHD brain, tired body, and feisty mouth.)
Fingers crossed, and prayers for some freaking normalcy!!!
@Rachel Parker You recommended mushrooms for someone with ADHD?
WTF dude...
What kind of dysfunctional dynamic are you used to????
You need a conscience...and medical knowledge...
And a whack with my shoe.
@@purplerain0517 I’ve been on anxiety, ADHD and @hippietrips__ on Instagram has helped me out in this now I’m doing fine and great he sells psychedelic products , honey , MUSHROOMS and lots more that can help you out
My parents don't even believe me when I tell them, they just tell me to stop labelling myself 😭
these kind of parents pisssssss me off. sorry girl:// i also have these kind of parents.
Oh gosh. I am almost 35 and have never been evaluated, but this sounds exactly like my life pattern.
Thank you so much for addressing this problem. It hit home with me! My daughter has shared your video with me today, she’s done quite a bit of research over the last few days and finds that she may have ADD and thinks I may as well. Thank you so much for this video!
my parents are in denial to get me tested or go on meds. my brother has been diagnosed with adhd and my dad has add. i cry everytime thinking about this topic. i’ve struggled with academics, social skills and basic skills my whole life, and i’m good at masking it. ive developed terrible study habits/routine, and i’m always distracted, and never able to focus. ive never truly understood a subject in school, and i just want help. i knew the root of my anxiety and depression came from somewhere b
I am in the process of being diagnosed... its so emotionally freeing, but i cant help thinking about what my life could have looked like if i knew!!!! i am 36, and i am excited to get control of my life.
I found your channel recently, after being prescribed Ritalin in my 30's. I decided to do the none medication route (exercise, low carb high fat, meditation, self love etc...) and I'm feeling really positive about it all. I just wanted to say a big ass genuine thank you, your videos have really helped a huge amount. You also make me laugh out loud. Yes its true, raw adhd can be so beautiful and funny (and skatty and late lol)
*I'm finally getting diagnosed tomorrow at the age of 27!! Hope I don't get misdiagnosed. Wish me luck*
How did it go?
I recently was diagnosed with ADHD which in turn led to Depression and Anxiety... I'm learning how to create boundaries
I have both Inattentive and Hyperactive type.
Omg I was just diagnosed with adhd and I can relate to soooo many of these
glad you found this relatable!
I'm not a woman (maybe obviously) but appreciate your channel and the tips. I fly to manage my craziness! 👍👍👍 Thanks for sharing!
Thanks so much! Appreciate this comment!👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻🤪
This is interesting, im a guy with adhd and your post was insightful to me, thanks. It is different to me were adhd is more about anger, impulse control, obessive about tasks and hobbies goals.
i wish i was obsessed with goals. haha. yes...i notice some people have anger as a theme in life. not me....
@@ArdelleVision main feature is when i get angry or someone insults me, i feel aj uncontrollable surge to react... But i always control the impulse, but emotionally it is very compelling. But then again if someone gives me a present i feel joy overwhelmingly too, to its generally all emotions are felt instantaneously and it is hard to control or manage it. This is all part of the executive function issues with my brain.
At the 2 minute mark I said wow! I literally fit every single trait you mentioned.
Probably said this before try to have just three projects on at any one time only taking on another when one is completed.
David-Paul Newton-Scott smart advice. This probably helps with the completion rate for adhders
1:09 oh no this is hitting home. I never knew I had this until now at in my 20s and at 24 I think I have it. I can’t stay focused for too long and very unorganized easily bored . 😞wow And I’m always caring for other people 😞 I thought ADHD was just hyper. I’m at the point where I’m taking substances I need help🙏🏾
Diagnosed 28 years ago as ADHD/IS, and am also dyslexic in both words and math. I have the words part mostly under control, but constantly struggle with the numbers. I'm a "master procrastinator," though I really WANT TO get those things done, honestly! That's what I tell myself as I let out a deep sigh and load the car with laundry once again....
But, at the age of 68 1/2, I've come to realize that I'm the only one who has to be concerned about how ADHD affects me, because I'm always on time for appointments, ALWAYS, and to all outward appearances, I'm just "that slow elderly woman in the church," and that's how I'm going to leave it. It semi works for now, and I'll take this knowledge to my grave, not even my sister being aware of it. As the song by Hall and Oates said, "Some things are better left unsaid. Some things are better left unspoken..."
That’s huge as time management and organisational skills are shot in my case
Yes, “constantly taking care of others instead of myself.”
so annoying yet true...story of my life. i cant do my chores...but go over to sisters and can easily help her in her life... ugh hahahaha
This is crazy. I've been trying to figure myself out for years but nothing ever felt right. I know I have an anxiety disorder and so I figured anxiety must be the culprit for everything. For a while I thought maybe I was autistic because hyperactive didn't really fit me and I did well in school (except for doing my homework...not because I couldn't but because it didn't feel important or urgent). I just came across this video after researching why personal hygiene is such an issue for me. Or why I can't seem to make myself do the things I know I should be doing. I think things are finally clicking into place...
the more i watch things like these the more i realise that this is exactly like me but i can’t go to a doctor and get tested to see if i actually have it or not🧍♀️
Same. It's not covered to get diagnosed as an adult. So since they missed it as a child I now can't afford it. I don't have thousands of dollars to try to get a diagnoses
I have been trying to tell my therapist for years that I want to get tested but they keep pushing me away. They finally gave me adderall which has actually helped but I still don’t have the official diagnosis as they refuse to actually test me formally. I feel like no one believes me... I have major depressive disorder so they write it off as that as the symptoms tend to overlap
I related so much to the symptoms you mentioned😩 But my parents are convinced that i don't have it. I really don't know, i might also
just be a perfectionistic overthinking teenager who hates school
bahahahaha I hear you hear. I loved learning but hated actual school. But i knew i wanted to be a better student. not sure why. i knew good grades were possible for me and my own "can i do it" curiosity got the best of me. And sure enough...just writing down assignments and giving them all a good go...landed me with such a better GPA at the end of it all. I went from a 1.6 in my first semester to a 3.6...all As and Bs....just for trying. and i got put in an easier math class hahaha
That can just be a major symptom
The education system is setup as a factory and doesn’t cater to different learning styles. Our brains are wired differently and we are low on neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. We learn better if we are naturally curious and interested in a subject
Man, went to my psychologist the other day, she thinks there is a chance I have ADHD. A lot of guys in my family have it, so it would make sense. But, omg, I relate to literally everything you said in this video! Thanks for this!
I just figured out I had this and that’s why I try to behave better. Now I look back at my behavior through life and it makes perfect sense
Like getting lost on the beach, because you forgot. Or v living impulsively
I think I might have ADHD, I'm 16 and have been curious about it for a long time now. My biggest problem is knowing if the problems I have may be from ADHD or past trauma. I've been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and PTSD for years now but I've always felt that there might be more. I am nervous that it'll be seen as me being in denial towards my disorders and trauma when I am perfectly fine with them. After looking more into inattentive ADHD so many of the symptoms seem like me, in class I was always called out by teachers and students as a daydreamer, I was often labeled as the mother of the friend group, I always feel overwhelmed like I'm not doing enough or that others might see me as lazy. My organization skills are the worst, I honestly cannot remember a time in my life that my room has been 100% clean. I rarely finish a task or I miss steps, in school I will forget to complete a page of work or I'll jump ahead ignoring an explanation on how to do something and I'd just do it without knowing. As I got older my grades went from all A's to almost all F's because I've found it impossible to do my work. Again I'm having such a difficult time knowing if this truly could just be a result of my trauma and other disorders but it's just been bugging me for such a long time, thankfully I've just gotten a therapist and I want to ask them their opinion on it.
i relate to almost all of this I'm certainly emotionally oriented and a stress eater and insomniac and struggled with anxiety and depression for the last 8 years , I'm going to to see the dr next week
Was diagnosed with depression and anxiety...for 12 years I went through 3 such 2year long episodes...only last year at 26 I was diagnosed...
I related so much to the 'caretaker' part and chronic exhaustion...low self esteem, hell yeah..definitely emotionally oriented...
I did so well in school and undergraduate degree because I was staying with my parents in my hometown...only when I went to another city for my master's did I start losing it within 4 months!
I also have OCD... hoarding trumps my cleaning OCD...adhd makes it worse..
I am currently getting rid of things from my closet and wardrobe..
Self care, boundaries and assertiveness got so much better over the past three years... it's insane how much less overwhelmed I feel now...
As a kid I was extensively into sports and dancing..which probably helped me fly under the radar or I'd have definitely come across as a hyperactive one, getting more into trouble and all of that..I was the talkative one in my class, always trying to help people out...but hardly ever felt accepted within a group of friends because of course I blurted out things awkwardly, out of turn..often told I can do so much better academically only if I put in more efforts..I was the queen of silly mistakes which I would rationalise to myself saying "hey I knew the content, I scored well anyway, so why bother"..in highschool I had to give up dancing, and of course the pressures of greater coursework load.. that's when the first episode of depression and anxiety hit me..my anxiety was always a symptom of my adhd, not a disorder by itself..
I have changed my career path thrice already..venturing into the fourth as I prep for another master's degree..
I have always wondered how people manage to get so many things done in a single day...I was and am so terrible at set-shifting and planning...I horribly time-blind..always late to everywhere... difficult to keep up a routine and when I do manage to get into one, I find it so hard when there's a break in my routine even for a single day..
Since I started reading up about adhd, I have found so much clarity regarding my behaviour and patterns..there has been so much self-acceptance..I am much more compassionate to and less demanding of myself.. it's beautiful..being able to admit that I am struggling with something as simple as remembering an appointment is so liberating..the amount of guilt and shame has plunged immensely...medication and therapy of course have supported me so much...but just having the diagnosis has filled in so many gaps in my understanding of myself..
Okay wow...I wrote a quite a lot..
I literally started sobbing while watching this, because for the first time in my life I thought, "maybe I'm NOT a failure, maybe I don't just suck at everything". I've always felt inadequate because I can't seem to do "life" as well as everyone else.
That’s how all of us with ADHD feel like in life
Oh my goodness my mom told me I had it when I was young but I thought I grew out of it just now remembering that I had it when I was younger explains a lot of the problems I’m having right now at 20 years old
You never grow out of it your symptoms just present themselves differently as you age across the lifespan and your brain matures
Love your channel, Thanks Ardelle
Emily Baker Thanks so much!
Only been diagnosed this year at the age of 22. I wonder where I could have been now if I'd been caught as a kid, I have a history of failures and wrecked mental health because of trying to cope by myself. It's sad, but at least I've still caught it young and there's time for me.
Thank you for sharing. When I am ready, I’ll try to find a good mental health care professional to check for ADHD and ADD. I have doubts about my current diagnosis for years and I have tried getting it sorted. Eventually I grew tired and unmotivated and I just gave up. Now I’m clean of a whole lot of medication, and I’m trying to get to know this version of prescriptionpill-free me. Some things I have since my childhood have returned in a milder form and other stuff either never changed or I did change. The more I see, hear and read things about ADHD and ADD, the more I feel the lightbulb above my head is zooming💡. However, I need to prevent myself from armchair diagnosing myself. At the moment I am happy with the progress in my recovery and where I am now. Sincerely, thank you once again for sharing your story.
so glad this helps and have a zooming lightbulb moment.
I was miss diagnosed with bipolar because of my mood fluctuation just got an ADHD diagnosis! I'm almost 30 wish I knew this sooner.
Often we are diagnosed with Anxiety or depression which is just a byproduct
You have broad sweepingly summarised me.
I’m definitely going to schedule an appointment because I just thought there was something wrong with me that couldn’t be fixed! Thank you
Was just diagnosed at 32 along with OCD. So interesting that I was realizing all these things over the years but never knew it was actually something and not just my weird self
What do those two things look like in daily life? Do they each make the other worse, are they completely independent, i.e. no similarities? Hope you are able to manage
@@sometime.somewhere they actually tend to cover each other up which is why it goes/went so long without being diagnosed. I feel like I’m crazy, but my OCD of wanting to be or appear perfect to others covers my failings due to my ADHD. On the outward appearance I seem like I have everything together or even succeed more than others, but if you saw beyond my front room or my backyard ie anything that doesn’t affect other people or other people would see, you would see how scattered I really am. Work I do fine in because I work in something I find joy in and I always found joy in learning and school, so it kept my attention and I did well. Inattentive ADHD is basically if I’m not interested, I’m not gonna do it. The whole thing is so fascinating now that I’ve found out there’s a reason they way I am.
@@bwines16 Thanks for the insight, I'm glad you have some clarity about these things. I think having a job you can enjoy is very important, its such a large portion of our waking lives that it must have a positive effect. I am personally still trying to work out how to live my life as best as possible, no diagnosis of anything and awaiting CBT support currently
Everything you mentioned fits my situation completely. I’ve always wondered whats wrong with me. I’m ready to make an appointment but I’m kinda afraid that it turns out that I don’t have ADHD because to be honest I would feel very relieved if it was true so I know its not my fault why I’m so lazy sometimes and try to do things later but then forget about them, its so frustrating. I hope I won’t get misdiagnosed.
Thank you for the tips, definitely doing more things that I like and make me happy and setting boundaries
Damn I thought I was the only one. I was the best high school student (even with a few hiccups), but damn was college a struggle. Even at work I'm helping others and always late on my items. Hoping to see someone when I feel emotionally and financially up for it.
Honestly my boyfriend who has adhd asked me if I’ve ever been assessed for it and I was like “well, no. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in high school and nothing was ever done” and now 22 yo me, after failing physiology for the 3rd time, am absolutely positive that I have adhd🙃
Usually other ADHD individuals can recognise a kindred spirit. It’s like a 6th sense. I have both Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive and especially as I get older seem to have what I call an inbuilt radar for detecting the Neurodiverse community
Guys I think I have ADHD. I think I am a mixture of the hyperactive and inattentive type. I really don't know how to tell my parents this :(
(Potential symptoms are listed below)
1. I have mood swings everyday.(I get agitated very easily too)
2. I am very sensitive. I cry over small things and sometimes blame myself for something that I know did not happen because of me.
3. I am easily distracted by small sounds. (Something as small as footsteps, Birds chirping and stuff like that.)
4. I sometimes zone out when someone is talking to me. I am always very loud(even my friends say so).
5. I am always super forgetful. I would be going to a certain place let's say the kitchen and I would always forget why I was there in the first place. I would often misplace stuff as well.
6. I am very disorganised. (Literally everything is)
7. I am a tomboy( Some guys who met me even said I was too rough and that I act too "boyish" for a girl)
8. Everyone says that I am very loud. I also constantly interrupt people when they are talking ( I just can't help it. I don't know what's wrong with myself )
9. I am always feeling sad even though nothing is wrong.
10. I tend to lash out at people when I am angry or sad.
11. I am unable to focous and would get distracted by other things. ( Be it a test, doing homework or in some instances, eating.)
This screams to me that it’s highly likely you do. The difficult thing is getting tested by a psychiatrist who specialises in ADHD in adults and in particular women
I got diagnosed when I was a kid. They gave me medicine when I hit the 1st grade. I have felt short of society lol I gave up and stayed home.... Literally I quit work. Im in my 30's
Oh my gawd... Seriously everything in this video...
Everytime I try to talk to ANYONE neurotypical they disregard as gibberish. Even when I make a factual point everyone dismisses it. I pretty have now kept to myself over the years and dare I say, dont have friends nor do I want any lol so much high maintenance Especially with religion... Oh geez...
Hugs!! Been a stay at home mum for a decade now, looking out on the rest of the world with panic in my heart. Every job I've ever had there has been at least one person in charge who is on my case as I do inattentive things and mess up a LOT. Got a mild hoarding habit, social anxiety etc etc. My heart goes out to you X
@@cwright821 pay attention to your children. one of them might have it as well so you can help them as well.
This is me 10000%! My doctor says I have anxiety and depression and put me on medication that doesn't feel like it helps. When I tell her something just feels "wrong", she's extremely passive and just tries to change my depression medication. I don't even know how to bring ADHD up to her without feeling like she'll dismiss it or make me feel like I'm reaching. This is so frustrating. I just know I have it.
Anti depressants can make ADHD symptoms worse as they target the serotonin neurotransmitter.