Start this self discipline with your children. This is an incredibly valuable, useful and wise approach to life. Thank you so much for sharing. I will listen to this post many times to structure, my own life, self-discipline, and confidence.
OMG! I feel like you are talking directly to me! I’m in this vicious cycle and have been for months! Maybe a year…It makes me feel so bad about myself. Thank you Mel! You woke me up 💖
I have learned to do productive procrastination instead of unproductive lately. Part of it stems from cutting off from toxic people. Some of the toxic people cut me off for me, but it took me a long time to recognize why they're not great for my life. When I work on self-expression, I procrastinate the most. A lot of it stems from religious abuse, coupled with a disorganized upbringing. Followed by abusive marriage that lasted over a decade. Now that I've been out almost a decade, I finally see who I am on a deeper level. That helps me understand that just because I'm not preaching the gospel, it doesn't mean I'm a bad person who deserves pain and sorrow. And regrets. Thanks for your content! It's helpful and motivating.
Good grief, I really appreciate you. 🙏 Thank you for your honesty and straightforward talk. I got half my jaw cut out (cancer) on Aug 17 - it's also not a sexy topic. I've been getting pretty discouraged. "Keeping a promise to yourself" will be very helpful.
Sometimes I feel like my life is just a heap of mess. I don’t want to look at it and the more I confront myself that I’m hiding from life, freezing it becomes heavier and heavier. My oldest son Daniel died in November 2014,aged 20 from a stroke. My mind is going in circles about all the experiences I missed with him, about every harsh word I said to him which makes me feel so bad…..To others I seem stable and self controlled but very often this is just a fassade and it’s a hell of stress to keep this fassade. Although it is „already“ eight years ago, it feels like he passed yesterday.Very often I spend hours in bed, just to not have to look at what I should be doing. Thank you Mel, you’re a true treasure, each time I hear your voice and watch you here, it makes me feel like there are chances to stop freezing!
I'm very so very sorry for your loss, grief plays a big part of procrastination, keep playing things over in your mind feeling of guilt, getting locked in your mind to do anything and feeling in such a rut....I started some classes this first time I have done any exercise in 8 years .. I am feeling better already....I wish you well and hope you can overcome your troubles 😊
What I notice about myself, is in my mind, I have a list of all kind of things I need to do, I get exhausted. Instead of taking one thing at a time! I have found it hard to realize what emotion I feeling! Thk u
Hi Mel! Thank you so much for the kind of videos you make! I love listening to podcasts and this is one of the best I have listened to! Will surely apply everything I’ve learned from this episode. Definitely doing the 5-day Wakeup challenge! ❤
Thanks Mel Robbins 🌎 I agree...I have been improving my morning routine...indeed. It feels good to embrace Discipline...and go beyond every day.. sometimes more, sometimes less.. but don't stop advancing. Thanks 🌎
Thank you Mel, from the bottom of my heart!!! I have been in the procrastination/paralyzed mode before and it is truly awful! I’m slowing making my way out but wish I had heard your talk years ago!!! I so appreciate you! ♥️
I so get the bread basket😂 I am 51 and feel like where the hell did those lbs come from this past year. I hear what you’re saying about just start but the stress of multiple things in my life is truly overwhelming. I’m committed to just starting small by getting up and working out and doing things for me before 9 AM. I’ve told myself I cannot continue to give my whole life away to my work, my kids, my home, my husband. I feel like all I do is show up for everyone else and never showing up for me.
Yes Yum Yay! Yoga nidra non sleep deep rest heals my am anxiety and depression! Using the word “practice” also helps me not avoid - you have to practice hitting a baseball to get better, right?
Yes I see it. I burnt myself out, was overwhelmingly tired physically, mentally, emotionally. So yep this has become a pattern in my life. This very true.
I am an expert in procrastination 🤪 I need to change that mantra had you on in the background I need to put that stress backpack down I am on a mission to sort myself out I’m 58 started my cleaning business at the beginning of 2023 😮
So overwhelmed. I do this on everything in my personal life. It would scare you. Growing debt. Apartment and Garage a mess. I come to my job and work. But rest a mess
Oh my goodness Mel! As you were talking about yourself and your hormones and your pants (which made me laugh, by the way) I felt like you were talking about me!! I have all those same issues to include making it very difficult to get out of bed! And I did call my doctor two minutes before I listened to you😂
I've tried tools 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 a few times consistently and still didn't get me moving. I guess I am a natural late sleeper 🤷🏽♀️. It actually makes me feel good to sleep in late, but my challenge is initiating personal projects.
Now that I am retired I have a morning routine. Sleep late, feed the cats and birds, wash my face and brush my teeth or shower, care for my hair, take my insulin, make my morning chai, check my little bank account, eat brunch, listen to Ester on TH-cam, watch some court TV, fix my son lunch, clean the house, think about how I want my life to be, maybe get one or two things on my list done... maybe. But nothing changes. I'm still broke after I pay my bills. So I know I need to have a more productive routine. I've done it in the past so why is it so difficult to do it now? I get so much done in a day but not the most important work. I know exactly what I want to do as an artist and I'm not doing it. I'll do everything else but the stuff that's most important to me. It's always, I'll get to it tomorrow. I'm finally reading The 5 Second Rule! Hope this helps me out of this rutty routine. Not going to listen to the negative comments but focus on the positive. Here I go! Thanks in advance Mel. 🌺
Dear Mel, I have a question. How do you find the balance between the ‘pushing yourself’ and the other rule that implies that doing smaller amounts but staying consistent is better than pushing yourself every day and then quitting up for exhaustion and lack of fun for days before your back on track.
Everyone knows what to do to get better and move forward. However, implicating the systems so you can get ahead in life is harder than it seems, just because it's so easy!
I have concenantration problems since I am a small child. I taught a long time I am fucking stupid. My dad was/is an alcoholic/addict and my mum was/is depressed. Maybe I had too much stress and trauma in my brain. In my traineeship my coworkers told me sometimes it felt like I was completely somewhere else with my brain, like I left work spirituality
Mel, how to start change thinking "I'll do it some day" to "okay, I could do it some day, but I choose to do it today"? My ADHD brain is stuck at this first point and I'm really sick of it. :x
One thing is to try to do the most important 1 to 3 things every day. Another us to schedule or plan things. It's always today, so if it's never now, then it never happens. Definitely check out the channel "How to ADHD ".
I feared lazy at age 5. Age 27 I could feel it creep in my outter reality. And age 56...last 11 yrs oh my!! BTW...Starbucks menu is NOT the quality of was when it arrived in DC area in 90's. Now in WV the coffee frappuccino is dsgusting now!
People who were abused don’t know how to forgive themselves. But you can tap on it. People who are hard on themselves is because they learned it and have unconscious processes that keep it going and cannot stop them with will 😂so unscientific 😂. I can’t edit comments so I apologize for many comments but come on! This is so not the best way to go about it Mel, please go check out how to truly do this and reach success in resolving it. You are not giving them the best way. And btw I did not invent this stuff so I am sharing just for sharing
I dont understand she used to do videos last years sharp and efficient for 15 min max now its always 1h or 2hours come onnnnn we miss alot of information, honestly i dont watch your videos anymore like i use to do in 2018 and 2019
videos about procrastination should be more direct. I'm sorry, but you poeple know very well procrastinators can't watch 1 hour videos if the intro is that long.
Have to disagree, if this video was "top ten things you need to do" there would be no room for elaboration and explanations on why. Granted I'm listening while doing something easy and tedious (so I can avoid accidentally zoning out) No pressure to watch, You'll get through the video whenever, eventually.👍👍
Negative thinking produces negative outcomes. Keep that promise and see if things get better. I have to do that for myself as well. I wish you all the deserved life changes you go for. 😊😊😊
Hello for me is not easy but lm not the own of that account so Hope Accept my apologies and yes lm like impostor blockchain Have other dates not mine. Im sorry
If you set it up before you go to sleep with five minutes of tapping with eft and go through what you will do in the morning and you will see it is much easier. I appreciate if you are really trying to help people but since you are so famous do some better research and start showing more stuff that actually works for real bot these half truths delivered in the worst way possible and all the adds lol😂 wow, most people with stress can’t stand adds!
Start this self discipline with your children. This is an incredibly valuable, useful and wise approach to life. Thank you so much for sharing. I will listen to this post many times to structure, my own life, self-discipline, and confidence.
Routine yes.
Eating breakfast, having a coffee, drinking water and taking my vitamin b to help me
OMG! I feel like you are talking directly to me! I’m in this vicious cycle and have been for months! Maybe a year…It makes me feel so bad about myself. Thank you Mel! You woke me up 💖
I have learned to do productive procrastination instead of unproductive lately. Part of it stems from cutting off from toxic people. Some of the toxic people cut me off for me, but it took me a long time to recognize why they're not great for my life. When I work on self-expression, I procrastinate the most. A lot of it stems from religious abuse, coupled with a disorganized upbringing. Followed by abusive marriage that lasted over a decade. Now that I've been out almost a decade, I finally see who I am on a deeper level. That helps me understand that just because I'm not preaching the gospel, it doesn't mean I'm a bad person who deserves pain and sorrow. And regrets.
Thanks for your content! It's helpful and motivating.
Good grief, I really appreciate you. 🙏 Thank you for your honesty and straightforward talk. I got half my jaw cut out (cancer) on Aug 17 - it's also not a sexy topic. I've been getting pretty discouraged. "Keeping a promise to yourself" will be very helpful.
Sometimes I feel like my life is just a heap of mess. I don’t want to look at it and the more I confront myself that I’m hiding from life, freezing it becomes heavier and heavier. My oldest son Daniel died in November 2014,aged 20 from a stroke. My mind is going in circles about all the experiences I missed with him, about every harsh word I said to him which makes me feel so bad…..To others I seem stable and self controlled but very often this is just a fassade and it’s a hell of stress to keep this fassade. Although it is „already“ eight years ago, it feels like he passed yesterday.Very often I spend hours in bed, just to not have to look at what I should be doing. Thank you Mel, you’re a true treasure, each time I hear your voice and watch you here, it makes me feel like there are chances to stop freezing!
💔💔❤💜🙏🙏🙏
I'm very so very sorry for your loss, grief plays a big part of procrastination, keep playing things over in your mind feeling of guilt, getting locked in your mind to do anything and feeling in such a rut....I started some classes this first time I have done any exercise in 8 years .. I am feeling better already....I wish you well and hope you can overcome your troubles 😊
What I notice about myself, is in my mind, I have a list of all kind of things I need to do, I get exhausted. Instead of taking one thing at a time! I have found it hard to realize what emotion I feeling! Thk u
Thank you Mel
Hi Mel! Thank you so much for the kind of videos you make! I love listening to podcasts and this is one of the best I have listened to! Will surely apply everything I’ve learned from this episode. Definitely doing the 5-day Wakeup challenge! ❤
Thank you Mel, this is truly life changing advice ❤
my life in 1 hour and 04 minutes..Mel i wished i had found you earlier ...but better now than ever...
She's 💯 right!
Thanks Mel Robbins 🌎 I agree...I have been improving my morning routine...indeed. It feels good to embrace Discipline...and go beyond every day.. sometimes more, sometimes less.. but don't stop advancing. Thanks 🌎
Grateful for your work, thank you Mel. You are a gem!
Thank you Mel, from the bottom of my heart!!! I have been in the procrastination/paralyzed mode before and it is truly awful! I’m slowing making my way out but wish I had heard your talk years ago!!! I so appreciate you! ♥️
I so get the bread basket😂 I am 51 and feel like where the hell did those lbs come from this past year. I hear what you’re saying about just start but the stress of multiple things in my life is truly overwhelming. I’m committed to just starting small by getting up and working out and doing things for me before 9 AM. I’ve told myself I cannot continue to give my whole life away to my work, my kids, my home, my husband. I feel like all I do is show up for everyone else and never showing up for me.
Thanks so much Mel . This really helped me a lot . Wishing you & yours all the best .
Thank you so much
I am a non native english speaker but idk how i can understand just everything she is saying love your podcasts so mush it helps me alot
Really tough when you become menopausal and your motivation flies out the window. I’ve never been this lacking in motivation and energy in my life.
Yes Yum Yay! Yoga nidra non sleep deep rest heals my am anxiety and depression! Using the word “practice” also helps me not avoid - you have to practice hitting a baseball to get better, right?
Yes I see it. I burnt myself out, was overwhelmingly tired physically, mentally, emotionally. So yep this has become a pattern in my life. This very true.
Fear. That's what I feel. I need to clear the fears!
Let’s walk out the door as a positive person
Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
Love all your Support
They think you have everything figured out!
I am an expert in procrastination 🤪 I need to change that mantra had you on in the background I need to put that stress backpack down I am on a mission to sort myself out I’m 58 started my cleaning business at the beginning of 2023 😮
Love this video. This is so me! Thanks for all the wonderful help you gave us regarding the habit of procrastination. Love your podcasts, Mel!
So overwhelmed. I do this on everything in my personal life. It would scare you. Growing debt. Apartment and Garage a mess. I come to my job and work. But rest a mess
I'm sitting here right now procrastinating on doing my taxes by listening to your podcast about procrastinating. I'm hopeless.😢
Oh my goodness
Mel!
As you were talking about yourself and your hormones and your pants (which made me laugh, by the way) I felt like you were talking about me!! I have all those same issues to include making it very difficult to get out of bed!
And I did call my doctor two minutes before I listened to you😂
I've tried tools 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 a few times consistently and still didn't get me moving. I guess I am a natural late sleeper 🤷🏽♀️. It actually makes me feel good to sleep in late, but my challenge is initiating personal projects.
I've never been able to stick to a routine. Give myself a hard time about it always when I dont do the things I know would help me!
Now that I am retired I have a morning routine. Sleep late, feed the cats and birds, wash my face and brush my teeth or shower, care for my hair, take my insulin, make my morning chai, check my little bank account, eat brunch, listen to Ester on TH-cam, watch some court TV, fix my son lunch, clean the house, think about how I want my life to be, maybe get one or two things on my list done... maybe. But nothing changes. I'm still broke after I pay my bills. So I know I need to have a more productive routine. I've done it in the past so why is it so difficult to do it now? I get so much done in a day but not the most important work. I know exactly what I want to do as an artist and I'm not doing it. I'll do everything else but the stuff that's most important to me. It's always, I'll get to it tomorrow. I'm finally reading The 5 Second Rule! Hope this helps me out of this rutty routine. Not going to listen to the negative comments but focus on the positive. Here I go! Thanks in advance Mel. 🌺
I think she got right to the point
Wow.
I need control over my negative thoughts 😕!! It's a thief of my time and energy.
Dear Mel,
I have a question. How do you find the balance between the ‘pushing yourself’ and the other rule that implies that doing smaller amounts but staying consistent is better than pushing yourself every day and then quitting up for exhaustion and lack of fun for days before your back on track.
OMG - Revenge against my job! That hit the nail on the head for me!
I am very diciplined in the morning, but get very unquiet in evenings and have deep craving for sweets. What routine in the evening can I do?
I struggle every day to get out of bed. I am a master procrastinator
Everyone knows what to do to get better and move forward. However, implicating the systems so you can get ahead in life is harder than it seems, just because it's so easy!
😮🤣🤪
Need to exercise too I see how I am declining physically.
Hey Mel, complete side note but have you tried lifting weifhts
This are the things normal people don't understand!
I have concenantration problems since I am a small child. I taught a long time I am fucking stupid. My dad was/is an alcoholic/addict and my mum was/is depressed. Maybe I had too much stress and trauma in my brain. In my traineeship my coworkers told me sometimes it felt like I was completely somewhere else with my brain, like I left work spirituality
Procrastination is a maladaptive coping mechanism
Mel, how to start change thinking "I'll do it some day" to "okay, I could do it some day, but I choose to do it today"? My ADHD brain is stuck at this first point and I'm really sick of it. :x
Read scattered minds by Gabor Mate
One thing is to try to do the most important 1 to 3 things every day. Another us to schedule or plan things.
It's always today, so if it's never now, then it never happens.
Definitely check out the channel "How to ADHD ".
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Mel, love yourself and get new pants as well as the health management.
Not expensive but effective, thank you autocorrect 😂
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Me who put the video in the watch later list:
I feared lazy at age 5. Age 27 I could feel it creep in my outter reality. And age 56...last 11 yrs oh my!! BTW...Starbucks menu is NOT the quality of was when it arrived in DC area in 90's. Now in WV the coffee frappuccino is dsgusting now!
CARNIVORE ❤❤❤❤❤❤
People who were abused don’t know how to forgive themselves. But you can tap on it. People who are hard on themselves is because they learned it and have unconscious processes that keep it going and cannot stop them with will 😂so unscientific 😂. I can’t edit comments so I apologize for many comments but come on! This is so not the best way to go about it Mel, please go check out how to truly do this and reach success in resolving it. You are not giving them the best way. And btw I did not invent this stuff so I am sharing just for sharing
My grown children feel this way about me. Why won’t I become what they know I can. And I know it hurts them but I have been stuck.
See if you tapped for the past 25 minutes you would have already relaxed your audience 😂
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I dont understand she used to do videos last years sharp and efficient for 15 min max now its always 1h or 2hours come onnnnn we miss alot of information, honestly i dont watch your videos anymore like i use to do in 2018 and 2019
videos about procrastination should be more direct. I'm sorry, but you poeple know very well procrastinators can't watch 1 hour videos if the intro is that long.
Thanks. I thought it was just me.
So just have it in background while doing other things...as all normal people.
There’s a fast forward feature. Your procrastination must be keeping you from actually using it.
Have to disagree, if this video was "top ten things you need to do" there would be no room for elaboration and explanations on why. Granted I'm listening while doing something easy and tedious (so I can avoid accidentally zoning out)
No pressure to watch, You'll get through the video whenever, eventually.👍👍
I think this was meant to be a deep dive into the topic which I appreciated
It's ironic this video is so long and drawn out. Get to the point already! 🤣
BS EASIER SAID THAN DONE
Negative thinking produces negative outcomes. Keep that promise and see if things get better. I have to do that for myself as well. I wish you all the deserved life changes you go for. 😊😊😊
True, but that doesn't have to stop you from doing it.
Hello for me is not easy but lm not the own of that account so Hope Accept my apologies and yes lm like impostor blockchain Have other dates not mine.
Im sorry
If you set it up before you go to sleep with five minutes of tapping with eft and go through what you will do in the morning and you will see it is much easier. I appreciate if you are really trying to help people but since you are so famous do some better research and start showing more stuff that actually works for real bot these half truths delivered in the worst way possible and all the adds lol😂 wow, most people with stress can’t stand adds!
Get a dog! Mine gets me up and out early🦮
Seriously lol I’ll get out of bed for them and not myself honestly
I agree... dogs are therapeutic. :D
I have a visitor dog and when I start snoring it wakes me up 😴🌜🙉