10 Things I Wish I Knew BEFORE Coming Out
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- I wish I knew these 10 things BEFORE I came out! 🌈 It would've helped my younger gay self feel more confident and comfortable. I hope these advice & tips either resonate or help you with your own coming out experience! 🤍
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0:00 10 Things I wish I knew!
0:55 You'll always be coming out
1:25 It gets easier to come out
2:22 Prepare what to say
3:31 You don't have to announce it
4:30 Gay merch makes everything better
5:35 Everyone's story is different
6:19 Others have similar experiences
7:11 Come out when you're ready
7:57 Don't commit to a relationship
9:16 Allow others to process
10:25 You're not broken
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I recently came out to my mom and she was so supportive and amazing and told me I can date anyone as long as they treat me well because my happiness is what truly matters. I know I'm lucky and a lot of coming out stories are far from happy but I just wanted to spread some positivity about coming out to a supportive parent.
oh my gosh thats so lovely to hear!
Congratulation! Good to hear of a good reaction.
This is basically how my mom reacted when I came out to her as bi. So amazing
@@cheyenneskold1509when i came out to my dad about being bi he literally just said
"Ok" (not in a rude way)
LMAO
when i told my mom she said
"Aw u dont have to be nervous about telling me that, I'll always be there for u"
But recently, ive figured out that im lesbiannnn!
Yay! Congratulations!
i remember i never really come out, my parents just started to buy me rainbow stuff to show me that they knew. It made my heart warm when I figured it out.
i recently bought a lesbian bracelet and i loveeeeee wearing it, it always reminds me that even tho sexuality is important it’s only a small part of my identity.
- a baby gay
aww thats so cute!! i love that idea!
I just want y’all in the closet to know that if they are your true friend they will accept you and if they don’t it is ok cuz then you will realize they are not a person you want to have around you anymore. Getting into this mindset rlly takes time but this has really helped me to get comfortable with openly living my sexuality.
I came out to my parents a few months ago and they support me. And I’ve never been happier! I wish I knew these things as well before coming out as well.
Came Out not long ago i am ashamed of anything I've done and or What I have been. I'm am Gay. Feeling free
One thing that I wish I knew before coming out is that you don't have to identify with a label to come out to be valid in your sexuality. I was too quick to choose a label because I was afraid that my family wouldn't take me seriously without one. Like I had to be really sure to be believed. Looking back I wish I hadn't. Just saying something like "I'm not straight" or "I'm queer" is perfectly fine. After coming out I quickly went back to questioning my sexuality and I haven't actually finished it out yet. But for now I'm just a happily queer woman ❤️
Yay, it's the 12 gays of Christmas!🌈
Happy December🎄
It's that time of the year 🙃
its finally REAL!! its happeninggggg
This channel is like a comfort zone 😊 Thank you Lauren for beautiful content and to all the gaybies/baby queers here I wish you the best ❤
My mom pressures me a lot.. she knows I have a secret that I’m not telling her and pressures me to say it but I know that I’m not ready.. I don’t know what I should do 🥺
My advice would be not to come out if you are not ready yet. You could make up something to keep her calm, or if you do not want to lie to her you could just say that you will tell her when you will be ready.
i can completely understand how you must be feeling! def wait until you're ready to come out. I second what @loscurasignora said, perhaps when she brings it up just say something along the lines of you'll tell her when you ready to and thanks for being there for you u are ready!
@@laurenelloise okay than you so much!
@@oscurasignora thanks for the advice, I think I’ll make smt up for now
ofc
Something I learned in coming out is that, for better or worse, some people will surprise you (hopefully for the better).
And it’s a good idea to have a safety plan in place if the talk doesn’t go the way you want it. Like a safe place you can go and a friend at the ready.
I came out late in life and took the longest time to tell my Dad. I was so scared he would never want to talk to me again because he’s always been conservative. He ended up having the most positive loving response and I was completely shocked. I just started crying even harder. He was also one of the most supportive people when I started dating my first girlfriend.
I know this won’t be the case for everyone, I was really lucky, but it CAN happen!
Hi Lauren! I love your 12 gays of christmas series! Looking forward to every new video! ❤❤❤
I’ve been WAITING for the 12 Gays of Christmas 😂❤
We've all been waiting 🙃
its backkkkkkkk yayayayya
I came out to my mum when I was around 12 years old that I’m bisexual not understanding that I don’t really like guys. I spent years thinking about it, and now I’m almost 16 and a week ago came out as lesbian ❤️
Sometimes i wish we lived in a world where we didn't had to do any of this,like you could just love who you want and be who you want but well,we don't. Coming out is hard but it also tells you what people around you really think of you haha. I'm not out to my family yet,and i hope and when and if i ever did,it'll go okay. And just remember you don't owe your gender or sexuality to anyone,don't rush as she said and don't listen to anyone else opinions who are not you. No one knows you better than you,have a good day/night
Yayaayay OMG im so happy 12 gays of christmas is back!!!!!!!!! I am totally gonna try my best to buy some merch❤
OMG YES I'LL WATCH IT RIGHT AFTER SCHOOL :D
IM BACKKK IM GONNA WATCH IT RN
The vid was amazing! The one point i can really relate to is that i have to come out a lot too, everytime i make new friends it takes time to come out
I am a female in my early 40's and when I was 18 I was outed as being gay by a friend at the time.
I find it easier even now to tell people I'm gay rather than bi sexual, I do like women more.
Although my family are accepting they still make homo phobia comments but say there not on about me because I'm not like that, but they are on about me.
I do not know wether they say it on purpose or not.
I will say I have supportive friends but none of them are gay. The one place I never thought I would be accepted was by the local Church but it's the one place I was.
They're the only Church in my area that has voted for Gay Marriage.
I watch your channel from the UK.
Thank you so much!! I'm planning to come out this month, to my parents, I'm scared but you give me hope. Thank you so much :))
So glad to see the 12 gays of christmas here! My aunt ordered me the merch for Christmas 🫶🫶
Thank you for this!!!!! My favourite part of December
You are so welcome! and awww :') mine too!
I’m so exited for the 12 Gays of Christmas!! I just started watching your videos and so far it has helped a lot. Thank you so much!
ur so welcome
Second year of following twelve gays of Christmas! So excited it's that time of year again! Thank you for all the hard work you put in Lauren, your videos are amazing!
eee yayay! and tysm!!
For me it was easier than I thought it was going to be to come out. It's been better since I've been out vs being in the closet.
I was in D&D while this released but it was still so good, can't wait for more videos
we're in full swing now yayayay
Can't wait
Yessssssssss the 12 gays of Christmas have come!!!!!!!!
in full swing !!
12 gays of Christmas! Yay! This is where the fun begins!
yeehawww
Yay the 12 gays of Christmas!!❤
its back!!!!
This helps me a lot
I was missing these videos ❤🌈
nawww :') well im backkkk
I think these are very good advice I love all your videos keep it up
Thank you! Will do!
I am going to come out on the eighth but I am worried that my schoolmates are going to hate me for it, but my parents are definitely going to be supportive I just go to a Christian school because it’s the best school academically in my area. Any advice?
Something I learned coming out is that you don’t have to tell everyone you know all at once, if you don’t want to. It’s okay to start with the people you feel the safest with and give yourself time to tell people you’re not sure about. You don’t owe anyone anything.
And just know that if people are mad, it says everything about who they are and has nothing to do with you.
I hope everything goes well!
YAYAYAYAY I’m so happy 12 gays of Christmas here! I’ve come out to like all of my friends but not my parents yet (they r super supportive of lgbtq+) I just don’t want to have a big talk about it and I feel like that’s what it’s gonna be. (Also I’m excellent at procrastinating) I wish we lived in a world where people didn’t assume sexuality and I could just tell anyone I was dating a girl (I wish, not yet) they accept it ( not a big deal) But alas that world does not exist. Wow that was long.
great way to start off 12 gays! even though essentially the cardinal rule for coming out is only do so when you feel comfortable and are ready, i feel like everyone forgets this anyway. i definitely did when i came out to my parents (they were supportive and im very happy and i don’t regret it, but i just don’t think it was the right time because i don’t think i was personally fully ready)
i love this person
i’m still trying to discover my sexuality in college, but it’s so hard to experiment when i’m afraid to get on any dating apps. I have a pretty good idea of what I like, I just wish i could find people to go on dates with.
yay ur back! How was the paramore concert?
yess!! also it was so good! very happy i went
Already late😂 Came out yesterday
CONGRATS BABES!!!
So happy for you 🥳
Congratulations 🎉
awww hope it went well! congrats
@@LIlyMason-yf2ew Thank you!)
Aaah the 12 gays of christmas is here let's gooo
Im partially out to some of my family and some of the others are suspicious 😅
GO YOU GOOD THING
love you galpal 💕you and Lauren are soooo cute together
I lot of the girls in my year level were giving me and my best friend a lot of crap about dating each other until my teacher overheard heard and then there was like a whole school assembly about what’s right and what’s wrong to say to lgbtq+ people cause it was happening in a lot of the year levels at school
finally the best time of the years
aw man :') glad ur here
EARLY!!
congrats on being super early!!!
This video came at the best time possible. Please wish me luck, I love my family, but I am so scared to come out...
Update! Came out to my mom, she still loves me! I also learned that apparently, I had a grand auntie who was also gay. This day can't get any better! ♥
aww congrats, im very happy for you! kudos to you for doing such a nerve wracking thing, you should be proud!
AHHH YES 12 GAYS OF CHRISTMAS IS HERE ❤🌈🌈🌈
YAAASSSS its back!!! glad ur here
Love your videos! You need to upload videos with your girlfriend about relationship advice for fellow les/bi girls. ❤
Hoi Lauren I am happy to see you again
nice to see u again too!!!!
Thank you Lauren@@laurenelloise
I don’t really come out but if people ask me I tell them. Im working on my self confidence but people still call me really hurtful things that makes it really hard to be confident, and I just feel ashamed for being a lesbian. How should I deal with this?
On the first gay of christmas my true love sent to me. A new vid from Lauren Elloise.
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omg i love this haha
I want to come out, but my parents are so into have a conversation about things, and I really don’t want to talk about it
I am not out yet, i have been wanting to tell my parents for a while now but it's difficult because at least one of them would not take it well. I feel like me coming out would be a disappointment, also in my country the government is openly anti-gay now 💀
aw that's such a tough position to be in! i can understand how hard that is to have weighing on you
12 gays 2023!!! YAY 🎉 🏳️🌈🎄
YAASSSS lets goooo
What if I’m not ready to date but I still want to come out? Ik this was a few months ago but yeah
I have a question, my best friend is straight. And I Confessed to him that i was bisexual and he said ok and we moved on, but lately he has been acting gay for some reason but only towards me. Can someone help me out
Im gonna be honest, and im not being homophobic here but these are my views if i was gay, i think i like being biesxual alot more lol (which i am) im at school and like i find it so easy to tell people i like girls AND boys- infact i tell people i dont even really know that well either. its apart of me that im proud of and wouldnt wanna lose it. i do feel like if i was gay thouhg, it might have made it a little bit harder for me to come out.
I have a important question: can you know that you are bi even if u have never had a gf or even a crush on a girl (I'm a girl by the way)?❤
I'm sure you can. At the end of the day you will figure out how you feel and that is what matters. I'm a lesbian and I had never had a a crush on anyone before figuring it all out, so everyone's story is different and if you think that you're bi you should just trust yourself! (And also, even if you're not, the worst thing that can happen is that at some point you just go, "ah, actually not interested in girls". ;))
@@trekkie74656_ thanks👏🏼
Hello in a video you said you were identifying as ace before and I would like to know how you knew you were lesbian and not ace if that's okay for you (because It would help me a lot ☺️)
Thanks for you content that I usually follow on my personal account but I wanted to stay anonymous for this question ☺️☺️☺️❤️
I meant aroace because well you can be ace and lesbian ☺️
I wonder if everyone from the livestream is here now lol
Here i am
hahahaha yesssss you guys made my night
@@laurenelloise It's always so fun and wholesome, you honestly made my night, gonna take this advice and finally come out to my dad in 2024!
naww!! tysm for being part of it! wishing you all the best when you choose to come out!
What is the best and worst relationship trope you have ever seen?
All the Americans receiving this in November
omgggg haha tbh every year i usually upload on the 2nd, so that it is the 1st everywhere else bc australia is so ahead lol
Wish I could redo my coming out, it's crazy embarassing in hindsight
I am only coming in woman
Sorry I’m late
still here before the next video, so i call that early!!
my god its been a year???
somehow, it has 😅
My sexuality through the years:
Straight
Nonbinary
Straight
Lesbian
Bi Nonbinary
Bi Poly
Pan Poly Trans!!!
I can’t because my brother is homophobic
i wish i knew comphet was a thing so i could avoid dating men for years lol
Wish my brother wasn’t homophobic
I came out as lesbian a long time ago, but now I think I might be bi. I don't know if I wanna come out again or just leave it like this...🤍🪿