Her book, “I’M GLAD MY MOM DIED” is so sad yet fascinating. What she had to go through and what her mom put her through is so F*cked up. And it didn’t get better with fricking Schneider on set as well. I hope Jen is doing way better now. May she live better now.
@@arizonaford470 We always wanted to be them, but really we wanted to be the characters that they played. It's crazy how much is coming out all these years later. We couldn't have imagined what they were going through.
@@jonahengebretsen0209i agree. i’m LDS too, and church services are so much fun. it’s like a breath of fresh air, and my family is completely functional. i don’t think it’s a bad thing that she enjoyed services, i think it’s bad that she had to rely on those for relief.
I’m an ex Mormon, and those church services for me were exhausting. It didn’t help I was subjected to traditional marital roles, insistence that mental health wasn’t that big of a deal, homophobia, and transphobia. Those last three really made it hell.😭
Yeah, when you see and hear things like that it makes you wish it was satire. But it isn’t. Crazy what some folks believe is normal and/or okay behavior.
This is terrible, her mom just played her like she was a puppet, that is so sad. She was just forced to do stuff she didn't want to and got disorders because of it.
Lol that’s an easy yes for so many parents but rly they would get angry at you and accuse you of things they’re doing if you would even suggest they are doing that lol
Some abusive moms just see their daughters as an extension of themselves. They make them live through their dreams that they didn’t get to achieve. Kinda like playing dolls and some have kids as someone to show off like a handbag
This reminds me of what Chloe Lukasiak said in the dance moms reunion, she isn’t successful because of Abby Lee Millar, but that she is successful In spite of her. Truly shows how they’ve taken back control of their own lives
its actually disturbing how much these kids had to go through, they're so unbelievably strong, but sadly- they're just seen as children who made it not anything strong admirable, these are young adults!! The ones that were teenagers are literally young adults, people keep saying "when ur 18 and going through war you're mature enough to be consider an adult" so thats why I'm saying it for these kids, this is war, why don't they get that? I'm literally around their age and I couldn't imagine everything they go through ON TOP of your MOTHER saying these horrific things. Young adults, and well, for teenagers, thats just a fact.
That is so fuckin nasty that iCarly writer dated her 😭 literally met her when she was a child and waited until she became 18. I don't care if that's technically legal he's not beating the pedo allegations in my mind.
@@c1oudskyIt's still a strange situation though. The fact they started dating when she turned 18 (and he was almost twice her age) is just really iffy. I couldn't ever imagine being in my mid 30s and finding someone who've I've known since they were a child attractive. Like, what? That just screams pedo. No matter how legal it may be, its still weird.
@@c1oudskyread that persons reply again and again until it gets into your mind that waiting for a child actor to grow up to date them at bare minimum age is idiotic
@@sammy_notthere9640 my first reply was literally question "how can you know he waited and not got attracted later" i can understand the implications of waiting and such, but it just wasn't something proven, and then my second reply was to the comment which stated that it's not just waiting but even knowing someone before they're adult should aready disable you from liking them in their adulthood
@@Jay_P86At least she’s confident enough to show her face. She’s beautiful. Just because you don’t show your face doesn’t mean you can just say that type of stuff.
She performed for my city, I got to meet and greet her, she let me hug her and I remember crying because I really liked Jeanette, she felt like a cool role model for me cause I was so quiet and picked on a lot at that age. She smiled at me and signed my art book, I can very vividly remember how she put a little smiley when I called her by her name unlike my mother who tried to call her Sam. Meeting her was the highlight of my childhood. I wish her everything and more for the rest of her life.
This is so wholesome and sweet. I remember reading in her book that she would get annoyed by people calling her Sam and saying Sam lines to her but she always liked when a fan would treat her like a real person and call her Jeanette
As a guy that starved himself from 220 ibs to 125 ibs, this is the worst thing for your body. About died. And alcohol with that weight of a person is a massive issue Thanks to everyone for the support. This shows the kindness in people
@@valeriacortez7003I can’t speak for this guy but much like Jeanette I also suffered with anorexia/orthorexia. I didn’t necessarily fast because it was much easier for me to eat little to no calorie foods than to go without eating for long periods of time. I ended up losing 70lbs in half a year. It has gad it’s obvious physical effects but the worst part is my mental state. Most food is a number now and I struggle with severe body image issues. Fasting CAN be good if you do it safely and correctly, but can also be the gateway for an eating disorder.
Jennette is such a strong women, especially for pushing out everything thats happened to her to warn other people about how abusive family members can be. Bravo to her.
HAAAH after sending her daughter an email filled with the ugliest remarks she could think of, then disowning her, she p.s. it to tell her that she needs to send them money cause their fridge is broke. No child should be treated like that or called such horrible names. For her own mother to do so...the book truly could not have a more fitting title.
she had a horrible childhood as most did w dan, but ESPECIALLY her mother putting her through all of this is so sickening. the book does literally make you hate her mom. hoping shes doing well now
@@CharlotteMacrickens because people arent realizing what shes been through with her mom. these people dont know what its like to go through that experience and still hate bc they use the argument “shes still your mother, she gave birth to you” but in reality she was a cold heartless one who didnt even care enough for her daughter and made it even worse for her when she was working w dan
@@chr1ssyyyyy Well, I'm not gonna feel like I would tell her what she should do, but I feel like she could've written a much less brutal title like "Why I Cut My Toxic Mom Out of My Life" in a way that some other people won't get the wrong idea and they wouldn't be unsympathetic about her situation. There are others who know what it's like to deal with a toxic parent and they cut them out of their lives, so it wouldn't be a surprise that Jennette would've done the same thing.
@@CharlotteMacrickensshe DIDNT “cut her toxic mom out of her life”, the only way she healed and got better whatsoever was AFTER her mom died. That’s literally just an incorrect and false title…..
I severely hope you are trying your best to cope with what you are going through, and I give my prayers that you're able to push through your situation❤
This is actually a great summary of her book. Putting aside the fact that she went through a great deal of traumatizing and horrifing things, great job.
The acting industry is no joke. I can't even begin to imagine what it must have felt like for her, being in such a rigorous and harsh environment while still having to deal with her mother, her eating disorder etc. I'm glad she is able to finally talk about her struggles freely, she's a strong woman ❤
I don't understand how acting isn't child labor or the world don't do more for them. Children do not wanna work I guarantee you. Small background roles are fun but main roles are full labor. At least 12 and parents should be out the room while they agree to it
I sometimes wonder if Dan intentionally made Sam such a foodie because he might of known that it was something Jeanette struggled with... I wouldn't put it past him. I can easily see him taking advantage of her in that .
@@Ultamamithis isn't an essay, you knew what they meant and nobody asked you to correct it. With the topic of their comment being so dark, correcting their grammar being the only thing you took from it is just plain ignorant 😁
My heart breaks for Jentte. I worked with her on a celebrity spokesperson partnership years ago. Beautiful young woman inside and out. I was so impressed with her genuine dedication and sweet personality. Everyone on set adored her. I have been a Jennette McCurdy fan ever since. ❤I wish her all the happiness!
I know! I was in the middle of watching iCarly when my mom told me to come. She told me about Jennettes mental state and I felt so bad I didn’t even finish the episode out of respect for her.
My mom was like her as a kid. She barely fed me. By age 12 I was size of a 9 year old. Doctors told her I was underweight but she’d just say I’m feeding her! Meanwhile I got slapped for sneaking cheese slices at night.
@@syrax_the_cat thank you. Jeanette’s book helped me so much. First chapter hit in relation to a very similar a Christmas as a kid. Just helped not feeling alone about it
@@brickhouse7401 thank you. It has been peaceful since she is no longer in my life. She was an attention seeker big time. Any time I tried to self delete she’d post my business on Facebook. Always bought presents I didn’t like or want then get mad at me for being confused and not wanting them. Just like Jeanette’s first chapter in her book. I became a huge tomboy and now I age regress. Play with legos still sleep with stuffed animals. I can’t date because of it. I just attract creeps. And even when I did with her in my life she’d make my partners uncomfortable and would say she was attracted to them. Destroyed hundreds of dollars of my Lego’s that I need to replace now. She was like an obstacle to deal with. She couldn’t even cook right too. Like couldn’t add butter and milk to boxed Mac n cheese. Refused to time cinnamon buns so they’d burn. Never had any desire to correct herself or do better. We were just expected to deal with it and be happy with her. She even abused my dad mentally after he was severely injured in a car accident. Injured me on the way home from a surgery I had by slamming on the brakes and having the seatbelt dig into my incisions. It’s like they say, “all kids deserve good parents but not all parents deserve kids”
@@princess.sapph1reh0pe that's how narcissistics live their life. They do all the shit and expect the best treatment in the world. That's exactly how my "mother" behaved in a regular basis
There are inconsistencies in the script. he said she was 20 when she moved to her own place but was back to 18 when she went on holiday with her boyfriend
I didn’t know her show. I bought the book because I was glad my mother died too. My mother had NPD and made me and my sisters feel as if we were absolutely nothing and she pitted us against each other. It took me years to recover from the mental and physical abuse. I wish everything good for Jeannette.
I'm sorry. She DOESN'T hate her mom?! wow... just... wow, respect, I guess I won't make a villain character with her likeness, out of sheer respect for Jenette.
From experience, a lot of victims of parental abuse still can’t quite bring themselves to fully hate their parents. It’s part of the abuse itself to make the victim dependent on the abuser’s approval and affection.
People’s relationship with how they view someone who abused the shit out of them is often complicated, she likely does hate her mom at times and miss her at times, but it’s probably best to not invest in either of those views or admit either one on camera
What a sad life she had, however if any one else lived her life they might end up not recovering or even worse. jennete endured a life that would make a grown man collapse instantly and she came out of it unbroken though little lost I wish her a happy life now and hope her the best🙏
7:45 this is awful, as a true Christian, Jesus in the bible would have never told anyone to do this, nor God, those are DEMONS they were deceiving her.
When a child, no matter the age, race, ethnicity or gender. Has a break down with their parent/s. Ask why. Don't just brush it off as "Oh that's your parent.... Oh blood is thicker than water." As India Arie said in her son Get it together "No one has the power to hurt you like your kin."
@@Naturefan354they are most likely also abusers :/ I’ve heard of a subreddit full of parents who’s kids have left them and when you hear hear about it you feel bad for them but if you really think about it these people have done something to drive their children away and can’t comprehend that they’re responsible
I 100% recommend you read or listen to “I’m Glad My Mom Died”. Jeannette’s is an incredibly tragic life story, but the way she writes her story is so well done and honestly addictive. If this story was written by anyone else I’m not sure I’d like it, but the way it is, it’s my favorite book
I never grew up with any Nickelodeon shows but watching this video was incredibly interesting, I'm glad Jeanette is doing okay now too after all she went through
This young lady is an example of strength and wisdom. She has addressed a deep, misunderstood, and overlooked subject. Im going to look for her book. Thx for this well done podcast.
She was my childhood, icarly, sam and cat was everything I watched. Now that im older it pains me that Jennette went through such things at a young age, which ultimately lead to this future. Child actors have such horrible parents/lives at such a young age :(.
As someone who’d struggled with an ED and ocd, ocd and anorexia are such a powerful and deadly combination. The fact her mom ignored both is absolutely sickening. So glad she got the help she needed.
i love you jennette and i’m sorry you went through this. you are such an important figure in my childhood and knowing the pain you went through breaks my heart. i’m so happy you are finally healing and living your truth 🩷
Jennette goes into detail in her book- she struggled with her therapists because she was reluctant to come to terms with her situation. She couldn’t hear that her mother was abusive because she wasn’t ready, she didn’t want to stop her disordered eating or binge drinking because she was in an incredibly bad place mentally. Sometimes that happens. The wording is a little ingenuous though, she didn’t ‘fire’ her therapist, she just quit going to that therapist (and therapy in general for a while)
@@BixBixby-j6c Depending on the agreement, you actually can "fire" a therapist provided you formed a contract where they go to you or go to them and make said contract for them to give their services to you.
I felt the same way about my overbearing controlling mom, I've learned to assert myself with her now and not let her bully me. She still annoys me to no end.
I use to be so upset that i never grew up with the iCarly show. But knowing now how Dan Schneider made Jennette feel and do (and many others from the late 90s through early 2010s) I'm so glad i wasn't in part of helping "The Creator" being successful (even though many millions of kids did). Let us hope people help and encourage Jennette and many others effected to pursue what they want and seek therapy if they need so.
Besides the dumb TH-cam comments corrector LMFAO. I did grow up with iCarly. I feel this sad guilt that we are so clueless sitting behind the screen not knowing her unfortunate suffering. We laughed at her wonderful acting and it's sad that it was the very thing that taunted her.
You know, this was actually a very good video. I’m surprised I actually watched the whole 30 minutes. Your narrating is very impressive. Good job and keep it up.
Thank you for covering the life of Jenette and talking about the abuse she suffered from her mother. It is really, really important that covert forms of abuse (emotional psychological etc.) are taken more seriously than it is.
fr i dont care how legal it is, anyone in their thirties getting with a teenager is emotionally stunted and a creep. and joe sounded like one for sure.
@Janvoller-yp8vj it's legal, sure, but that doesn't make it healthy. people who are younger just don't have the life experience yet to have equal power in a relationship like that. it calls into question why an older person would want to be with someone so much younger - unfortunately, sometimes the answer is that they know a younger person will not question their behaviour and are easier to mold into what they want.
@Janvoller-yp8vj ok yeah, they're adults. brilliant observation. but do you honestly think a high school senior and a 32yo are developmentally on the same level? be 100% real with me rn
@@lanaskruibys1889 I did and I’ve seen worse then that my grandma was a horder and her house was bad to the point where when she died and we were cleaning her house she had amethyst earrings in her kitchen drawers
Now that is one powerful, courageous, independent woman!! It's sad she was used by someone she loved and trusted, but she turned her agony into the power of self. How could anyone not respect that?!!
So well done, Bravo! 37 minutes, not a moment came to switch away, it was that riveting. Yes the story is compelling and pulls on one's heart strings--but that's because of the facts of the story, your narrative doesn't manipulate, and there isn't an extraneous sentence. You bring insight and compassion into this deep dive, and the pacing is extraordinary. Don't be shy to add a $THANKS option for the drifting content browser. You obviously put a lot of work into this, it is top tier work, and you are a genuine talent.
@@truecarman He said it far more than twice, and even if he only did it twice its still disrespectful. How can you make a video about a woman's struggle, but you can't even bother to get her name right??
Willow smith going "wow, wow" is funny. Here is a girl who has gotten through absolute hell and is telling her story to someone who has never had any restraint, anything denied, anything that wasnt handed to her she is responding the same way that u do when i have no idea what to say.
I mean, yeah, but who knows what growing up with Will and Jada as parents was really like. I wouldn't be surprised if one of those kids wrote a book one day.
Goddamn. I really feel sorry for her, I heard about her refusing to come back in the reboot, but now I really know the truth. This was very understandably put, thanks for making stories like this accessible and easy to follow ❤
Jeanette had issues but she didn't fly completely off the rails like a lot of child actors because she never wanted to be an actress. There was never a "my career is over" moment in her life, or at least not a regretful one, because she was happy to get out of it.
Absolutely love and respect Jenette McCurdy. I'm Glad My Mom Died stuck with me, it's such a great book. I hope she can recover from everything she's been through
hey man thanks for making this video i had always been curious about her upbringing and her life overall and to have someone make a video on it was very nice so thanks again
Her mom was one of my babysitters when I was little. We went to the same church. Didn't really connect the dots until I saw this video, the internet is weird.
Great video - I read her book and I was in horror, I felt like it was Jeanette’s way of redemption, her trauma and abuse from her mom , for many years it’s so sad, she lived her moms dreams and not hers . I think the only one who truly loved her and could see how toxic his wife was is the father ..( how heartbreaking is that part of the book 😢)
From the memoir, I can tell that Jennette and her "father", Mark are the most suffered by Debra's mental. We all know and understand Jennette being abused, brainwashed, violated and guilt-tripped by her mother most of her life/childhood but Mark's situation was just as terrible(or probably less). I mean he had to work 2 jobs to help maintaining the household and paying hospital and medical bills for the woman who repeatedly abused, insulted, threatened and guilt-tripped him every way possible that happened to be his wife, Debra. Not only that, Debra was also unfaithful and forced Mark to feed 3 children, including Jennette from Debra's affair,... It's quite clearly that both Mark and Jennette wanted their relationships with Debra to work for both sides but Debra was too narcissistic to care about them and they had to sacrifice their own needs for her and their family's sake.
I hate that nobody talks about Liam. Dude literally r-worded her (TW SA DESCRIPTION: she was blackout drunk, she woke up during the r-word, asked him what he was doing and he answered with "i"m having sex with you") but she was so done with life so she didn't care. As a person who was sa'd in the exact same way, my heart shattered and I was so sad for her. Literally why does nobody talk about this perv?
I couldn't ever put my finger on why I liked Jennette so much, she was such a cute girl and I thought she was such a great actor even if she didn't like it. I also believe that I could pick up nuances of her as a a person from her as an actor. Its so sad to see how difficult her life was. She seemed like she was a good kid too and even though her parents were so far from perfect, even still, her actions show that she was obedient and respectful and tried to make her mother proud. I hate to say this too but I feel like I can relate to this, perhaps that's why I thought she was interesting in a weird subconscious way. Theres no wonder that her mothers relentless over bearing actions would lead to some serious backlash later in life. I also see though that she became a strong woman and independent I know she can keep growing to be in a place that she wants to be in life.
This took me weeks to make, any support is appreciated
i love your vids man!!!!!!
It's alright buddy, we love your content
I remember her from iCarly
Love ur videos bro ♥
This was an incredible video, I do love these long form videos so keep up the good work man!
Her book, “I’M GLAD MY MOM DIED” is so sad yet fascinating. What she had to go through and what her mom put her through is so F*cked up. And it didn’t get better with fricking Schneider on set as well. I hope Jen is doing way better now. May she live better now.
I though she was just a normal actor but when I heard the book I feel sad for her.
Yeah, also it’s stated in the vid so.. instant commenter..?
@@yusuf_syamyep😛🙂↕️
People need to be more nicer. Like wtf
@@Fused_Gamerzplease
Miranda is a friend we all need in life
no facts 😂😂😂
geniunley have always loved her shes always seemed so sweet
Ikr
I know, right.
real.
Crazy how so many stars would give us amazing childhoods when they were the ones suffering from behind the curtains.
damn this hits deep
Absolutely horrible what hollywood has done to these kids.
and we always thought that they have perfect life behind the screen
@@arizonaford470 We always wanted to be them, but really we wanted to be the characters that they played. It's crazy how much is coming out all these years later. We couldn't have imagined what they were going through.
Real spill!! 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 💯
the fact that she enjoyed being at mormon church services more than she liked being home says a lot
I grew up LDS. I’m still LDS. My family is dysfunctional but my faith is a strength, not a burden in it all
@@jonahengebretsen0209cuz ur brainwashed af but that’s okay as long as you feel good in that delusion
@@jonahengebretsen0209i agree. i’m LDS too, and church services are so much fun. it’s like a breath of fresh air, and my family is completely functional. i don’t think it’s a bad thing that she enjoyed services, i think it’s bad that she had to rely on those for relief.
I’m an ex Mormon, and those church services for me were exhausting. It didn’t help I was subjected to traditional marital roles, insistence that mental health wasn’t that big of a deal, homophobia, and transphobia. Those last three really made it hell.😭
Im morman and at my girl camp I was almost killed by a bison….so yay
21:03 the audacity to write all that and still ask for money is INSANE. People like this don't deserve anything
THANK YOU, I thought the same
Shows where her priorities were, very clearly.
Yeah, when you see and hear things like that it makes you wish it was satire. But it isn’t. Crazy what some folks believe is normal and/or okay behavior.
"WE DISOWN YOU, YOU ARE DEAD TO US, DON'T TALK TO US AGAIN. But first, send some money for a new fridge. 🥰👹"
that moment in particular made my blood boil over. as if being a squatter in her own child's house wasn't despicable enough...
This is terrible, her mom just played her like she was a puppet, that is so sad. She was just forced to do stuff she didn't want to and got disorders because of it.
Parents need to ask themselves this:
“Is my child’s innocence worth the money and fame?”
And the answer should be no 100 out of 100 times
@@bobbysmoove4796
Unfortunately too many of them don't care and only see their children as paychecks.
Lol that’s an easy yes for so many parents but rly they would get angry at you and accuse you of things they’re doing if you would even suggest they are doing that lol
Some abusive moms just see their daughters as an extension of themselves. They make them live through their dreams that they didn’t get to achieve. Kinda like playing dolls and some have kids as someone to show off like a handbag
Jennette doesn’t have a writing career because of being a child actor, Jennette has a career in writing in spite of being a child actor.
Hm…true
This reminds me of what Chloe Lukasiak said in the dance moms reunion, she isn’t successful because of Abby Lee Millar, but that she is successful In spite of her.
Truly shows how they’ve taken back control of their own lives
@@joannegallacher5129 Omg yes that is exactly why I commented this!!!!
its actually disturbing how much these kids had to go through, they're so unbelievably strong, but sadly- they're just seen as children who made it not anything strong admirable, these are young adults!! The ones that were teenagers are literally young adults, people keep saying "when ur 18 and going through war you're mature enough to be consider an adult" so thats why I'm saying it for these kids, this is war, why don't they get that? I'm literally around their age and I couldn't imagine everything they go through ON TOP of your MOTHER saying these horrific things. Young adults, and well, for teenagers, thats just a fact.
Pretty sure someone else wrote her book for her
Glad Jennette McCurdy is okay now...
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Yep
hope she’s having a good day today….
That is so fuckin nasty that iCarly writer dated her 😭 literally met her when she was a child and waited until she became 18. I don't care if that's technically legal he's not beating the pedo allegations in my mind.
wdym by waited? Couldn't he get attracted when she grew up
@@c1oudskyIt's still a strange situation though. The fact they started dating when she turned 18 (and he was almost twice her age) is just really iffy. I couldn't ever imagine being in my mid 30s and finding someone who've I've known since they were a child attractive. Like, what? That just screams pedo. No matter how legal it may be, its still weird.
@@theoisaclown bruh, next thing we do is don't date anyone because they were child at some point and that just screams pedo 💀
@@c1oudskyread that persons reply again and again until it gets into your mind that waiting for a child actor to grow up to date them at bare minimum age is idiotic
@@sammy_notthere9640 my first reply was literally question "how can you know he waited and not got attracted later"
i can understand the implications of waiting and such, but it just wasn't something proven, and then my second reply was to the comment which stated that it's not just waiting but even knowing someone before they're adult should aready disable you from liking them in their adulthood
My dad was abusive, but I still loved him and wanted his approval. When he died from cancer it sent me into the psych ward. I feel for her.
A child's love for their parent is unconditional, no matter what😥😥
I’m sorry that happened to you, I hope you’re in a better place now
Yeah your appearance says it all
@@Jay_P86At least she’s confident enough to show her face. She’s beautiful. Just because you don’t show your face doesn’t mean you can just say that type of stuff.
@@Jay_P86 are you stupid?
it's crazy this girl didn't end up losing her mind, she's really strong and didn't deserve to go through all of that
Right!!! Its a miracle
Jeanette and Miranda being besties is SO good and wholesome T__T
She performed for my city, I got to meet and greet her, she let me hug her and I remember crying because I really liked Jeanette, she felt like a cool role model for me cause I was so quiet and picked on a lot at that age. She smiled at me and signed my art book, I can very vividly remember how she put a little smiley when I called her by her name unlike my mother who tried to call her Sam. Meeting her was the highlight of my childhood. I wish her everything and more for the rest of her life.
This is so wholesome and sweet. I remember reading in her book that she would get annoyed by people calling her Sam and saying Sam lines to her but she always liked when a fan would treat her like a real person and call her Jeanette
She don't remember you at all
@@AlexGamingConsole that’s fine cause she’s all I would think about when I was young :)
As a guy that starved himself from 220 ibs to 125 ibs, this is the worst thing for your body. About died. And alcohol with that weight of a person is a massive issue
Thanks to everyone for the support. This shows the kindness in people
I’m so sorry that happened. I hope you’re doing better❤❤
meanwhile i'm almost 200 and cant stop eating :(
I though fasting was good?
@@valeriacortez7003I can’t speak for this guy but much like Jeanette I also suffered with anorexia/orthorexia. I didn’t necessarily fast because it was much easier for me to eat little to no calorie foods than to go without eating for long periods of time. I ended up losing 70lbs in half a year. It has gad it’s obvious physical effects but the worst part is my mental state. Most food is a number now and I struggle with severe body image issues. Fasting CAN be good if you do it safely and correctly, but can also be the gateway for an eating disorder.
@@valeriacortez7003starving is not fasting, fasting means you still eat starving is quite literally ignoring food all together
Jennette is such a strong women, especially for pushing out everything thats happened to her to warn other people about how abusive family members can be. Bravo to her.
Girl Power
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As a fan of I Carly it’s sad to see my favorite character on my childhood show go down a rough path, but I’m glad it got better for her :)
HAAAH after sending her daughter an email filled with the ugliest remarks she could think of, then disowning her, she p.s. it to tell her that she needs to send them money cause their fridge is broke.
No child should be treated like that or called such horrible names. For her own mother to do so...the book truly could not have a more fitting title.
*befitting
Jennette was used to funding everything for them so I guess the PS didnt seem ironic or anything to her lol
@@Ultamami🤓
@@fbidumbbee 😉
@@Ultamamiget out of here ur under everyone’s comment
I struggle with OCD. The way it is described in the book was enough to almost bring me to tears.
Yeah i did the same thing as a child i know now it was a coping mechanism due to childhood trauma i need to finish her book
she had a horrible childhood as most did w dan, but ESPECIALLY her mother putting her through all of this is so sickening. the book does literally make you hate her mom. hoping shes doing well now
Then why are some other people blaming her for that book and saying that she's still her mom? 🙄
@@CharlotteMacrickens because people arent realizing what shes been through with her mom. these people dont know what its like to go through that experience and still hate bc they use the argument “shes still your mother, she gave birth to you” but in reality she was a cold heartless one who didnt even care enough for her daughter and made it even worse for her when she was working w dan
@@chr1ssyyyyy Well, I'm not gonna feel like I would tell her what she should do, but I feel like she could've written a much less brutal title like "Why I Cut My Toxic Mom Out of My Life" in a way that some other people won't get the wrong idea and they wouldn't be unsympathetic about her situation. There are others who know what it's like to deal with a toxic parent and they cut them out of their lives, so it wouldn't be a surprise that Jennette would've done the same thing.
@@CharlotteMacrickensshe DIDNT “cut her toxic mom out of her life”, the only way she healed and got better whatsoever was AFTER her mom died. That’s literally just an incorrect and false title…..
@@CharlotteMacrickens did you even watch the video or any videos about the topic?
I feel so bad for Jeanette she basically had a terrible childhood I'm glad she's doing well now
I sympathies with her, my mom the reason my brother is dead. But yet she still tries to manipulate me and abuses me and my sisters
I'm sorry. Are you out now?
I severely hope you are trying your best to cope with what you are going through, and I give my prayers that you're able to push through your situation❤
Leave bro just leave
@CharlotteMacrickens yea I moved out like a year ago thanks for caring
@karlaperez5557 thank you, it'll all be ok someday 🙏🏾🖤
"All children deserve loving and caring parents but not all parents deserve their children"
This is actually a great summary of her book. Putting aside the fact that she went through a great deal of traumatizing and horrifing things, great job.
The acting industry is no joke. I can't even begin to imagine what it must have felt like for her, being in such a rigorous and harsh environment while still having to deal with her mother, her eating disorder etc. I'm glad she is able to finally talk about her struggles freely, she's a strong woman ❤
I don't understand how acting isn't child labor or the world don't do more for them. Children do not wanna work I guarantee you. Small background roles are fun but main roles are full labor. At least 12 and parents should be out the room while they agree to it
I sometimes wonder if Dan intentionally made Sam such a foodie because he might of known that it was something Jeanette struggled with... I wouldn't put it past him. I can easily see him taking advantage of her in that .
*might have known ("might of" isn't a thing)
@@Ultamamithis isn't an essay, you knew what they meant and nobody asked you to correct it. With the topic of their comment being so dark, correcting their grammar being the only thing you took from it is just plain ignorant 😁
@@Ultamamino one gives two doggystyle damns
@@Ultamamiwow thanks so much for adding to the conversation
I say it all the time. So yeah it's a thing@@Ultamami
My heart breaks for Jentte. I worked with her on a celebrity spokesperson partnership years ago. Beautiful young woman inside and out. I was so impressed with her genuine dedication and sweet personality. Everyone on set adored her. I have been a Jennette McCurdy fan ever since. ❤I wish her all the happiness!
It's sad to know that I watched iCarly and didn't know what Jennette was going through
I know! I was in the middle of watching iCarly when my mom told me to come. She told me about Jennettes mental state and I felt so bad I didn’t even finish the episode out of respect for her.
@@erinallen7865
And Dan made it worse instead of getting her help😡😔
My mom was like her as a kid. She barely fed me. By age 12 I was size of a 9 year old. Doctors told her I was underweight but she’d just say I’m feeding her! Meanwhile I got slapped for sneaking cheese slices at night.
I'm so sorry, you didn't deserve that. Much love to you
@@syrax_the_cat thank you. Jeanette’s book helped me so much. First chapter hit in relation to a very similar a Christmas as a kid. Just helped not feeling alone about it
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry dear
@@brickhouse7401 thank you. It has been peaceful since she is no longer in my life. She was an attention seeker big time. Any time I tried to self delete she’d post my business on Facebook. Always bought presents I didn’t like or want then get mad at me for being confused and not wanting them. Just like Jeanette’s first chapter in her book. I became a huge tomboy and now I age regress. Play with legos still sleep with stuffed animals. I can’t date because of it. I just attract creeps. And even when I did with her in my life she’d make my partners uncomfortable and would say she was attracted to them. Destroyed hundreds of dollars of my Lego’s that I need to replace now. She was like an obstacle to deal with. She couldn’t even cook right too. Like couldn’t add butter and milk to boxed Mac n cheese. Refused to time cinnamon buns so they’d burn. Never had any desire to correct herself or do better. We were just expected to deal with it and be happy with her. She even abused my dad mentally after he was severely injured in a car accident. Injured me on the way home from a surgery I had by slamming on the brakes and having the seatbelt dig into my incisions. It’s like they say, “all kids deserve good parents but not all parents deserve kids”
"send money for our fridge" she was unhinged
Fr
Why would you ask for money after you told your daughter you don’t love her and disowned her
@@princess.sapph1reh0pe that's how narcissistics live their life. They do all the shit and expect the best treatment in the world. That's exactly how my "mother" behaved in a regular basis
@@novamisponge5325 are you ok 😢
Don't let your babies grow up in Hollywood.
Or on social media
Agreed@@NyanyiC
Or for money, fame, power. All of that stuff.
Exactly
Nice topic, but I wanna say that your editing has improved drastically. This video really shows how much you've mastered your editing. great job!
Yet he's little understanding nor grasp of English language, mechanics & pronunciation...shameful, really.
@@Ultamami bros really going through the comments and correcting peoples grammar. its not that deep come on now
Day byoo (debut)
There are inconsistencies in the script. he said she was 20 when she moved to her own place but was back to 18 when she went on holiday with her boyfriend
He called her Sam multiple times.
I didn’t know her show. I bought the book because I was glad my mother died too. My mother had NPD and made me and my sisters feel as if we were absolutely nothing and she pitted us against each other. It took me years to recover from the mental and physical abuse. I wish everything good for Jeannette.
It's unfortunate that happened to you, I'll always wonder why people have kids if they don't really want them
I'm sorry that happened and I'm glad you recovered.
Miranda is a real one for helping jennet
Im so glad she has someone to help her at her lowest
I'm sorry.
She DOESN'T hate her mom?! wow... just... wow, respect, I guess I won't make a villain character with her likeness, out of sheer respect for Jenette.
I think it could be like a Stockholm Syndrome thing
From experience, a lot of victims of parental abuse still can’t quite bring themselves to fully hate their parents. It’s part of the abuse itself to make the victim dependent on the abuser’s approval and affection.
People’s relationship with how they view someone who abused the shit out of them is often complicated, she likely does hate her mom at times and miss her at times, but it’s probably best to not invest in either of those views or admit either one on camera
Exactly what it was@@loud_drums2623
Narcissist Mothers are the worst.
This was a great mini documentary. Professionally done. I feel sorry for Janette and her past. I'm glad she's doing well now ❤️
Jennette's mom reminds me of the mom from Carrie
"NOOOOOO!!! THEY'RE ALL GONNA LAUGH AT YOUUUU!!!" (in the Adam Sandler voice)
@@xioesq13Surprised Jenn didn’t pull a Carrie or Gypsi Rose
Watching her for so many years, never knew she went through so much. I just want to hug her. Hope she gets much healing.
What a sad life she had, however if any one else lived her life they might end up not recovering or even worse.
jennete endured a life that would make a grown man collapse instantly and she came out of it unbroken though little lost
I wish her a happy life now and hope her the best🙏
She's definitely strong. Props to her for not falling into the trap other child stars do😥
7:45 this is awful, as a true Christian, Jesus in the bible would have never told anyone to do this, nor God, those are DEMONS they were deceiving her.
I knew it too my good friend, this is crazy.
When a child, no matter the age, race, ethnicity or gender. Has a break down with their parent/s. Ask why.
Don't just brush it off as "Oh that's your parent.... Oh blood is thicker than water."
As India Arie said in her son Get it together "No one has the power to hurt you like your kin."
Who else thinks the note her mother wrote to her was absoslutely horrible? 😟
I do, but some people thought that she was right for some reason.
NAH
@CharlotteMacrickens WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE BEING BAD PARENT APOLOGIST? AND HOW CAN THEY POSSIBLY SIDE WITH AN ABUSER?
@@Naturefan354presumably the same sort of people who also demand that their teenage children sit in booster seats
@@Naturefan354they are most likely also abusers :/ I’ve heard of a subreddit full of parents who’s kids have left them and when you hear hear about it you feel bad for them but if you really think about it these people have done something to drive their children away and can’t comprehend that they’re responsible
I 100% recommend you read or listen to “I’m Glad My Mom Died”. Jeannette’s is an incredibly tragic life story, but the way she writes her story is so well done and honestly addictive. If this story was written by anyone else I’m not sure I’d like it, but the way it is, it’s my favorite book
I never grew up with any Nickelodeon shows but watching this video was incredibly interesting, I'm glad Jeanette is doing okay now too after all she went through
"we disown you but you need to buy us a new fridge" the audacity
This young lady is an example of strength and wisdom. She has addressed a deep, misunderstood, and overlooked subject. Im going to look for her book. Thx for this well done podcast.
She was my childhood, icarly, sam and cat was everything I watched. Now that im older it pains me that Jennette went through such things at a young age, which ultimately lead to this future. Child actors have such horrible parents/lives at such a young age :(.
sam and cat is the reason why i love my life
17:16 bonkers to reference Jenette being overshadowed by her character and then calling her sam 💀💀
Completely agree. It's really disrespectful considering how much she hates the character and no longer wants to associate with it at all.
@@Lunabyesit was most likely an honest mistake, but it should’ve been edited out and corrected
Yeah he refers to her as Sam a few times
it happens multiple times throughout the video 💀
A thorough and worthy dive into the complicated topic that is her life. Good job with the video.
I’ve been looking everywhere for a video like this, thanks
As someone who’d struggled with an ED and ocd, ocd and anorexia are such a powerful and deadly combination. The fact her mom ignored both is absolutely sickening. So glad she got the help she needed.
i love you jennette and i’m sorry you went through this. you are such an important figure in my childhood and knowing the pain you went through breaks my heart. i’m so happy you are finally healing and living your truth 🩷
A very tragic yet uplifting story of redemption and moving on, but one thing was festering in my mind
WTH DID THE FIRST THERAPIST DO??? 😭
Jennette goes into detail in her book- she struggled with her therapists because she was reluctant to come to terms with her situation. She couldn’t hear that her mother was abusive because she wasn’t ready, she didn’t want to stop her disordered eating or binge drinking because she was in an incredibly bad place mentally. Sometimes that happens. The wording is a little ingenuous though, she didn’t ‘fire’ her therapist, she just quit going to that therapist (and therapy in general for a while)
@@BixBixby-j6c
Depending on the agreement, you actually can "fire" a therapist provided you formed a contract where they go to you or go to them and make said contract for them to give their services to you.
Poor Jennete McCurdy😭
I felt the same way about my overbearing controlling mom, I've learned to assert myself with her now and not let her bully me. She still annoys me to no end.
I loved her character in icarly and seeing her go through this made me sad
I use to be so upset that i never grew up with the iCarly show. But knowing now how Dan Schneider made Jennette feel and do (and many others from the late 90s through early 2010s) I'm so glad i wasn't in part of helping "The Creator" being successful (even though many millions of kids did). Let us hope people help and encourage Jennette and many others effected to pursue what they want and seek therapy if they need so.
*used to
Ikr and I'm the same
Never grew up with it and I'm glad I never did
Besides the dumb TH-cam comments corrector LMFAO. I did grow up with iCarly. I feel this sad guilt that we are so clueless sitting behind the screen not knowing her unfortunate suffering. We laughed at her wonderful acting and it's sad that it was the very thing that taunted her.
@@Ultamami Dude, screw off.
Her book is absolutely amazing!! I listened to the audio version. It was read by her. It was so good
You know, this was actually a very good video. I’m surprised I actually watched the whole 30 minutes. Your narrating is very impressive. Good job and keep it up.
40 minutes*
I actually really enjoy the effort you put into your long form content and this the longest yet, great job!
Thank you for covering the life of Jenette and talking about the abuse she suffered from her mother. It is really, really important that covert forms of abuse (emotional psychological etc.) are taken more seriously than it is.
"P.S. leave money for a new fridge ours broke." is so disgusting especially after saying that you're disowned and my name is deb not mom
18 and 32 is fucking crazy
I know right
fr i dont care how legal it is, anyone in their thirties getting with a teenager is emotionally stunted and a creep. and joe sounded like one for sure.
@Janvoller-yp8vj it's legal, sure, but that doesn't make it healthy. people who are younger just don't have the life experience yet to have equal power in a relationship like that. it calls into question why an older person would want to be with someone so much younger - unfortunately, sometimes the answer is that they know a younger person will not question their behaviour and are easier to mold into what they want.
No it isn’t 😭
@Janvoller-yp8vj ok yeah, they're adults. brilliant observation. but do you honestly think a high school senior and a 32yo are developmentally on the same level? be 100% real with me rn
This man drops a gem everytime
I absolutely adore Jennette McCurdy. I hate what she's had to go through.
Her mom sounds just like my grandmother. Vile woman, I feel for her. I relate to her struggles a lot
The fact some people had the nerve to say how her book title was disrespectful and she should've changed it like ?? Hello?
2:15 HER HOUSE LOOKED LIKE THAT???! I wasn’t expecting that!! Omg 😢
I am sure it didn’t.
@@lanaskruibys1889 I did and I’ve seen worse then that my grandma was a horder and her house was bad to the point where when she died and we were cleaning her house she had amethyst earrings in her kitchen drawers
21:03 the audacity to ask for money after calling her all those terrible things is sickening. I hope the worst for her.
Never mind, I forgot she died.
Now that is one powerful, courageous, independent woman!! It's sad she was used by someone she loved and trusted, but she turned her agony into the power of self. How could anyone not respect that?!!
Jennette truly deserves a hug (or several hugs) for everything she has been through. Miranda is amazing and truly understood her.
Good job Blanko. I can tell you worked so hard on this. Please make more!
This video was extremely well researched, well put, and done very professionally. Immediately subbed.
His jaw drives me nuts with how it move’s weird when he talks
mom: We hate you. your horrible. your new boyfriend disgusts me. you are no longer my daughter.
also mom: send money for a fridge, ours broke.
21:04 the fact that she sent a letter quite literally disowning her daughter and then asking for a new fridge is insane
That's what I thought like who has that type of audacity to write something like that and then ask for money
It breaks my heart that so many Disney and Nickelodeon stars had the worst childhoods while giving us the best childhoods.
So well done, Bravo! 37 minutes, not a moment came to switch away, it was that riveting. Yes the story is compelling and pulls on one's heart strings--but that's because of the facts of the story, your narrative doesn't manipulate, and there isn't an extraneous sentence. You bring insight and compassion into this deep dive, and the pacing is extraordinary. Don't be shy to add a $THANKS option for the drifting content browser. You obviously put a lot of work into this, it is top tier work, and you are a genuine talent.
Anyone else notice that he would say “Sam” instead of “Jeanette” sometimes? 🙃
yeah i thought it was weird too
only said it like twice
@@truecarman He said it far more than twice, and even if he only did it twice its still disrespectful. How can you make a video about a woman's struggle, but you can't even bother to get her name right??
How this wasn't spotted in editing is crazy
@@robotuzzinit wasnt on purpose.
Willow smith going "wow, wow" is funny. Here is a girl who has gotten through absolute hell and is telling her story to someone who has never had any restraint, anything denied, anything that wasnt handed to her she is responding the same way that u do when i have no idea what to say.
I mean, yeah, but who knows what growing up with Will and Jada as parents was really like. I wouldn't be surprised if one of those kids wrote a book one day.
Willow had those two as parents so ya know
Willow is an amazing artist. Blessings to these women.
When i saw the cover of her book "Im glad my mom died" I was so shocked she would say that until i read it and understood why she said that
I'm digging this style of video, Blanko. Any deepdive on any subject usually gets me.
"send money for a new fridge. Ours broke."
I audibly screamed. Is she serious.
Congrats on recovery! Breaks my heart 💔 to hear how horrific of a mother she had.
Goddamn. I really feel sorry for her, I heard about her refusing to come back in the reboot, but now I really know the truth. This was very understandably put, thanks for making stories like this accessible and easy to follow ❤
Jeanette had issues but she didn't fly completely off the rails like a lot of child actors because she never wanted to be an actress. There was never a "my career is over" moment in her life, or at least not a regretful one, because she was happy to get out of it.
Great recap, after listening to Jeanette's reading for the audiobook, I really can't read or even listen to her work anymore. Traumatizing.
Absolutely love and respect Jenette McCurdy. I'm Glad My Mom Died stuck with me, it's such a great book. I hope she can recover from everything she's been through
hey man thanks for making this video i had always been curious about her upbringing and her life overall and to have someone make a video on it was very nice so thanks again
Excellent breakdown, great detail that gave justice to her story, subbed
Man i met her for a second during her Generation Love mall tour.
Looking back I could see something was off & she wasn't happy.
Her mom was one of my babysitters when I was little. We went to the same church. Didn't really connect the dots until I saw this video, the internet is weird.
It is absolutely amazing how she has overcome the abuse by her mother and the industry💙💙💖
Her book broke my heart😞
Great video - I read her book and I was in horror, I felt like it was Jeanette’s way of redemption, her trauma and abuse from her mom , for many years it’s so sad, she lived her moms dreams and not hers . I think the only one who truly loved her and could see how toxic his wife was is the father ..( how heartbreaking is that part of the book 😢)
Miranda and jenet's friendship is so wholesome im glad their were friends on and off screen snd that she was there for her during hard times
From the memoir, I can tell that Jennette and her "father", Mark are the most suffered by Debra's mental. We all know and understand Jennette being abused, brainwashed, violated and guilt-tripped by her mother most of her life/childhood but Mark's situation was just as terrible(or probably less). I mean he had to work 2 jobs to help maintaining the household and paying hospital and medical bills for the woman who repeatedly abused, insulted, threatened and guilt-tripped him every way possible that happened to be his wife, Debra. Not only that, Debra was also unfaithful and forced Mark to feed 3 children, including Jennette from Debra's affair,... It's quite clearly that both Mark and Jennette wanted their relationships with Debra to work for both sides but Debra was too narcissistic to care about them and they had to sacrifice their own needs for her and their family's sake.
I’M SORRY- 18 and 32?!??!?
And after that letter her mom had the audacity to ask her for money for a FRIDGE.
I hate that nobody talks about Liam. Dude literally r-worded her (TW SA DESCRIPTION: she was blackout drunk, she woke up during the r-word, asked him what he was doing and he answered with "i"m having sex with you") but she was so done with life so she didn't care. As a person who was sa'd in the exact same way, my heart shattered and I was so sad for her. Literally why does nobody talk about this perv?
I couldn't ever put my finger on why I liked Jennette so much, she was such a cute girl and I thought she was such a great actor even if she didn't like it. I also believe that I could pick up nuances of her as a a person from her as an actor. Its so sad to see how difficult her life was. She seemed like she was a good kid too and even though her parents were so far from perfect, even still, her actions show that she was obedient and respectful and tried to make her mother proud. I hate to say this too but I feel like I can relate to this, perhaps that's why I thought she was interesting in a weird subconscious way. Theres no wonder that her mothers relentless over bearing actions would lead to some serious backlash later in life. I also see though that she became a strong woman and independent I know she can keep growing to be in a place that she wants to be in life.