My ex pulled this nonsense with my son but I just walked away. I refused to let her manipulate my emotional state. Did it suck? Yeah, but sometimes you have to consider your own health. I told her I'd still pay child support even if she gave me my son and she accepted. 6 months later I contacted support enforcement and informed them of the living situation, produced receipts for his enrollment in my school district, and requested the official end to child support. That's how I got custody of my son when he was 13: she willingly gave up custody thinking he was still going to be a paycheck for 6 more years only to have the rug yanked out from under her 6 months later. I had to correct the lies his mother told him after years of being denied access but our relationship has never been stronger (he's 18 now and I'm paying for trade school for him). He's a bright kid and it's too bad that his mother valued hurting me more than his well being, but that's her problem.
It’s amazing how she feels entitled to having a man pay for her hair getting done. Honey if you can’t afford to pay for your own hair to get done then you don’t need to go on your date. Or you can simply do your own hair. But to expect a whole new man to pay for your hair to get done just to go on a date should make you feel uncomfortable. In my opinion, I would never fix my lips to ask a man to get my hair done. There’s a sense of pride that comes with being able to manage my upkeep with my own $$. Now if you were in a long term relationship or marriage, allow your partner to offer if that’s what he feels he wants to do. But be able to manage your own upkeep. It’s dope. Just my thoughts.
I totally agree. I been with my husband 25 years and I never asked him once to keep up my personal up keep idk maybe it's my pride I would never!!!! These modern women sense of entitlement is baffling.
@@kesharobinson2176 even if we just want to have sex … i think women who expect men to pay for their hair is just way for them to have bragging rights. Or they think every guys are sucka cuz they found one sucka who did
This is why I tell women “Do not give me subtle hints. Either tell me upfront what’s on your mind or keep on walking. I’m not playing this game with you”
They love to string people along and keep their options open. Even the ones who say they don't play games. They all have their own rules and standards to their own dating game.
My Mom used to pull stuff like this. When I was born my dad changed his entire lifestyle to be able to support and have a relationship with me. My mom did a lot of despicable things just to spite him. One of my earliest memories is having to talk to my dad through the closed front window while my mother stood over and refereed it. He had driven an hour just to be able to do that. And sad thing is we did the classic “hand touch through barrier” thing you see in movies or whatever. I’m 20 now and I can honestly say I still struggle with hatred for my mom but not as bad as I once did. It took alot from my end along with my dad pushing for me to have a good relationship with her and forgive her like he has. He is a great man and it’s sad that men like him have to go through all of that and jump through hoops to have a relationship with their child knowing they could just give up like any other black man and not go through the trouble.
Honestly bro as one man to another lifting weights has helped me through stuff like this. Well before it was video games with the bro's. I balance the two along with other stuff. My mom kept trying to do anything and everything to keep me and my sisters away from our father but it just failed and blew up in her face while i was in highschool.
It's honestly sad when a child has to mention he has/had hate for his own mother These "women" really don't think that the shit they do to spite the fathers won't come back and bite them in the ass, i honestly don't blame you for saying that you hated her, shit idk her and I already hate her
My ex tried this when my son was born. She lied to me about what time we were to sign the birth certificate in the hospital the day after his birth just so she could keep me off of the birth certificate and keep him from me just because our relationship didn't work because she cheated. I took her to court for my visitation time, for paternity, and child support (yes I took her to court for me to pay support to her) and had my son's last name changed to mine. He currently lives with me for the past 3-4 years now but I've always been in his life even if I had to fight for it. He's now 10. Fight for your children my brothers! 💪🏾
I had a homie 2 days ago who had finally got to see his kid after going to court 6 times in 2021. It was messed up because the woman claimed that he wasn't paying the child support(he had receipts to prove her wrong) and she was using their son to extort more money out of him..the 5 judges before the last one had him pay 2x as much as he already was which took his whole paycheck. He documented everything she did before taking her to court.. not only did he win but he got the child support reduced and is currently aiming to get full custody.. its crazy
Having to pay to see your children is a big issue in the UK as well... This needs to be made a criminal offence with high fines because these kind of woman only care about money...
I'm currently going through the same exact thing. I text and call my daughter's mother everyday to do a video call with my daughter and she always limits the time to about 20 minutes because "she doesn't want her phone tied up". My daughter gets upset when I say that I have to go. I recently posted a video of me doing exercise with my daughter on Facebook and her mom randomly tells me that it was disrespectful for me to post our daughter without HER or her boyfriend's permission. Bro! WHAT! I'm collecting police reports and silently waiting until the end of January to serve her the court visitation papers.
Bro, file for visitations in family court. If you are on child support or not you have the same rights to your daughter. First time she doesn't let you get your daughter after the court has set visitations, call the police and file charges. They will arrest her for violating a court order. Women get real humble when you put them laws in their business like they put them in ours. Nothing will embarrass her more than being escorted from her home in handcuffs in from of all of her neighbors. Just like women use family court to make men pay child support, men need to use that same court to make women stop playing with us, and using our children like pawns. Once I started going to family court behind my daughter, my child's mother got some act right real quick. After that, I didn't argue with her, or feed into her negative energy... I just used the courts to fight for my child.
@@Expert_Of_Opinions thank you! But that’s too much work for most of them, they just want to play victim vs daddy in my book because if you really want time with your child you will figure it out! Ijs my children were with their dad for a year and we shared custody amicably but I did visit outside of our established time like going to the school for lunch or taking class field trips. My daughter has a son and his dad love to get on fb and cry about how she doesn’t let him see his son but it’s been 3 years now and we haven’t seen court papers yet! We want him to go to court because we want him to have supervised visitation all because he’s unstable and even tried to attack me! Hell his mother a dead beat grandma and he never seen her grandson outside of the pictures I send her occasionally 🙄 go to court so we know it’s real!
@@Expert_Of_Opinions I DID say that I'm waiting until January to serve her which means that I already filed a petition. I wanted time to continue to record that behavior so that she can't just say that "It happened only once". I've been playing silent and cool
@@KashifVGC you don't need evidence and police reports to get visitations. That is your rights as a parent... All that gathering evidence sounds like your trying to have a custody battle. There's no need to wait to have visitations, your just missing our on time you could be spending with your child.
Seeing stuff like this makes me grateful for having both parents in my life, but it also saddens me to see how many kids fall victim to neglect or fractured relationships with their fathers because a mother wants to be spiteful and selfish without accounting for the fact that a strong relationship with both parents is key to a good development for a child. Sad times we live in…
i disagree considering I didn't grow up with my dad and my mom didn't stop my pops from coming around, he chose not to on his own but here i am that grew up fine... obviously I didn't have a dad to teach me certain things but i just cant agree with that excuse... you don't really need both parents to have common sense... i have seen kids with bad development with even both parents around... but anyway that's just my opinion
@@ikingslayer2689 Fair enough man, but I’m talking instances like in the video where the father is trying to play an active role in his sons life and be there but the mother ain’t allowing it. Every situation is different depending on circumstances I guess.
@@Legkicker oh yeah, what she was doing is just str8 up mean... seems to be the type to complain that the father doesn't do anything for the child just to make him look bad
When I got together with my babys mama she was all about being the female. Cooking, cleaning and dressing up and doing her makeup for me when I got off of work. Well eventually I started giving her money when I got paid weekly. But when she finally got a job cleaning houses making her own money she still asked me for my money and refused to pay for anything for us. A couple years after we had our daughter she started talking to other guys saying they were co- workers or a family member she hasnt talked to in years. I eventually found out she was cheating on me and when I called her out for it she tried putting the blame on me saying I work too much and not paying her much attention and i stopped giving her money after she got her own job. We eventually broke up after it was found out she was pregnant again and this time it wasnt my kid...of course I would get a dna test after the whole cheating ordeal that she denied to the end. 😒 Not too long after that she gets arrested telling me its something else when I find out at her court case that she was arrested for soliciting prostitution to an undercover cop.
I got a story, my lil bro asked me if I can go with him and a girl on his date because the girl mom is coming along as well. The thing is the girl mom was a woman i fooled around with once. So we haven’t seen or talked to each other for months but I was like what the heck I’ll do it for my bro. We all went to an arcade, mall, and then movies I paid for everything but when we went to the movies I was low on cash since I already spend over $170 and I didn’t wanted to use my credit card. So I told the mother pay for your daughter for the movies and it was just $11. Few days later she went off that I was a gold digger, my family were gold diggers and that she paid for everything.
@@johnsmith-kt7ef 🤣 actually while in the theaters I fooled around with her since is all dark and it was almost empty so it was a win for me too. Idc what she said she’s crazy and like bipolar.
The thing that makes me REALLY mad is she's not TELLING her son that his father has to beg and pay money out the ass just to see him for an HOUR every few months. She's looking him right in his tear-streaked face and telling him she has no idea why his father doesn't come around more often, but that she'll always be there for him...since he can't count on his father. Ooooooh if I could reach through the screen......
i am only allowed to visit when your mom allows it, otherwise its her keeping me away from you does he tell the son your mom makes it difficult for me to visit? nope probably not, wouldnt want to speak ill of the mother
@@demonkingt if they already cant see their child they dont have anything to lose plus the kids would at least know the truth and not just believe mommy so they think terribly about the truth of their mommy let the kids know so they can treat her like shit, and they should and maybe she will give them up but men are too weak sadly, they cover it up for the mom, always willing to have their own reputations smashed into the ground get the kids to indirectly to make her life hell, she is a terrible person and a terrible role model for your children unless of course u enjoy being hated by your children with lies, in which case carry on and stop complaining, you chose a wife poorly
@@RenegadeSpider2that mentality does NOT make logical sense they are still being controlled by the ex, afraid to say anything bad about the ex or they could be shamed like dude you wont say anything bad about the mother all the while she is trashing you to them, you took all the blame, the mother tells them its your fault, and you say your sorry lol heaven forbid you tell them the truth, instead u back her lie i cant feel sorry for those guys, and then they wonder why their kids hate them for breaking up the marriage etc etc morons
He can save that message and use it in court. She's clearly using her child as a paycheck and any fair judge with common sense would see that. Remember guys, always have conversations in writing/recorded.
In a system that still makes men pay for children that isn't theirs, I doubt any evidence will hold up in court. Your male genitila pre determines the verdict you will receive.
There's no denying you're behind the 8ball as a male during custody hearings, especially innthe opening rounds. But as a guy who had a lot of eyes on experience, some guys did very well over the long haul. The ones that came out on top KEPT RECORDS OF EVERYTHING. Email chains, text messages, receipts, child support payments, visitation times...EVERYTHING. They also KEPT THEIR COOL and stayed rational and respectful of the court. I saw one guy who had to pay outrageous amounts of child support upon his initial separation from his ex even though she was a crackhead! At the end of 18 months he had full custody of his daughter. I saw another who was married to a teacher and he initially got raked over the coals, but she was bat shit crazy and he eventually prevailed, to the point his kids won't even see their mother anymore. The deck is stacked fellas, but be smart and keep your cool. You CAN win.
@@jefflast9489 that's all good and stuff, but I'd rather it be a redrum/self delete before I lose it all in court. I be damn if I lose everything after where I came from, to some spiteful hctib. Though with all fault belonging to me I did not think this through and thought most women where good decent beings.
@@crownedstar4412 You can run with it that way but I've seen that side play out too. I worked custody and courts with a sheriff's department and saw hundreds of guys doing all day (life) to years behind bars. It didn't seem to matter the price they were going to pay, I don't recall a single one of them who thought it was worth it. There's almost nothing on this earth a woman can take from you that you can't replace. Your freedom is one of those things.
Yup seen my Mom trying to pull this on my Dad. She filed for divorce because she was cheating with a coworker who was like 15 years younger than her. Us 3 kids didn't want to move with her, so my Dad raised us. But during the divorce she claimed my Dad used to beat her up, which was lies. She tried using me as a witness, and I was like no!, never seen my Dad hit or even yell at my Mom. She tried getting the house, which would make us homeless, she didn't care! She got the car. And had got thousands from the divorce. My Dad had to refinance the house and I don't even know how long he kept paying her. The crazy thing is that my Dad was raising us, she was on her own with her boyfriend. My Mom kept lying for years about my Dad. My Dad never said one bad thing about my Mom. This happened in 1988 and I still look at my Mom like damn! You ice cold!
That's more than ice cold. That's sociopathic/ borderline personality disorder behavior. It's sad that a story from 1988 can resonate so closely, isn't it? This is exactly what happens to men every day in the united states court system. I'm not familiar with other countries child support/ alimony laws
What's funny is she probably cheated on your dad because that younger dude was gassing her head wonder how that played out transitional d or a provider
@@theiiiraven6137 sorry but no. This isn't borderline personality disorder. I know several people who BPD and they do NOT act like this. She's a socialpath plan and simple.
I understand his side from a child's perspective My mom kept me hidden/away from my dad and his side of the family and basically made sure we had zero contact for pretty much a majority of my life. I turned 22 when I finally got to meet the man and my family from his side. Over those 22 years I always thought my dad hated me, didn't want me, I wasn't good enough and after years of thinking that with nothing from him and my mom not saying anything I grew to despise and resent her. Even now I'm doing my best to forgive her but it's hard to forgive someone when that person has kept a whole other part of yourself hidden from you for 22 years(I'm 29 rn) so that's my story. Fellas your kids will love you once they grow older if you're experiencing that level of abuse and extortion I highly suggest either keeping receipts for court or finding an alternative.
I wish that to be true my 23 yr hates me and I can only speculate why. I think it's a good statement to help keep hope alive however real talk I'm at a place right now that I've accepted the likelihood my child will always hate me and I'll never get to meet my grandchild🤷🏾♂️don't get me wrong I still have small hope for the best I've jus accepted it it never happens
My mother and the women in my family told my brother and I our father never wanted us and the couple timestimes he came was because he wanted something from our mother. Come to find out when we became adults, our father wanted us but our mother and the women in the family kept lying were we lived, we moved around a lot and she tried hard to tell us horrible things about our father. He did in fact cheat a lot but he was always and wanted to be with his kids. To this day it angers me what she and the women in the family did out of spite. There were so many times, I wish I had my father growing up.
@@bartonnink3896 I did. I forgave them but do not associate with them anymore. My brother is the oldest so he is a mama boy. He still talks to her , but I can't bring myself to do it nor do I have any interest. My brother stayed mama boy, I find myself trying to make up for time lost spending my time with dad. I have been called a daddy's boy. Apparently that is an insult but I do not care. I can see the difference as my dad does not speak ill of my mother and does not allow me to do it in front of him.
The mother of my daughter refused to let me see my daughter until she was 20 years old and then my daughter had to lie to her mother about coming to see me while she was in college these women are ruthless man!!! And I paid child support until she was 19 smh😤
During those 20 years, did you go to the court in order to get visitation hours? We can talk about bitter baby mommas, but if a man truly wants to see his kids, he will make a way.
I'm gonna remind my husband tonight how grateful I am to have him with me, as my partner. Over 19 years together, married in Aug for 18 years, I never wanna be single again!! 💯💖
@@naadiyamxmed8717 there are some fathers out there who just hit it and quit it and leave behind a present. That's the unfortunate part. I can't defend fathers who would abandon their kids
I'm reading through the comments and it's heartbreaking and upsetting seeing what you men have or are going through to see your children smh. As someone who benefitted from having a father in my life, you all are truly needed please keep fighting for your children.
(This is not an attack) why should they keep fighting? Shouldn't they just let it go? They can just make more with better women. Shouldn't they just do that?
@Robert Moore For that child's or those children's sake. It's be wrong to think of kids as something that can just be replaced. I have a friend who's father abandoned him and his sisters. The one thing my friend recalls his father saying to him is, "It's alright. I have a new son and a new family now." That's going to stick with him for life
@@capitalakito6897 I understand that and it's really sad, but if it was his mother that pushed his father to such an action, I would hope he at least is open to understand how his father felt. Now, if the dad just left on his own, without being blocked from the mother, than he's just a dirt dude and horrible father. No excuses for that...whatsoever.
@@capitalakito6897 you didn't answer the question. Why should they keep fighting? You only stated why you want them to. Not why they should. What is the benefit for men to keep fighting?
@@robertmoore3982 I did answer your question. They should keep fighting for their kid's sake. Men care about legacy and it would benefit men to know that what they are leaving behind is taken care of and can flourish.
In the 14 months of my son's life I have missed 6 months in total his mom keeps him from me anytime she's mad at me. And I've had to call the police on her twice once for assault and once because she was belligerent and drunk when I got off work and I didn't know what to do.
You did the right thing. Build a binder of all that stuff, get phone records and police reports. Then, save up 4000$ then go to court for full custody and make her pay lawyers fees. Worst case scenario, you will get partial custody and hopefully primary residence. Make sure you get a woman lawyer who specializes in helping men. They obliterate the system.
Man that last one I felt to much. My daughter's 8 now and her mother still uses her as a weapon. If I personally piss her off. As in tell her bout her self or put my foot down about our daughter. Not only do I lose time seeing her till she annoys her mom enough for her let me see her. I'm labeled a dead beat. She truly feels since shes mom. What she says gos and I'm just here to pay for things and watch our daughter when her babysitters are busy. Mind you I've already offered to watch our daughter while she works. Changed careers to make sure I can work hrs I want to make sure I can. Pick her up and take her to school. It's a no your not a good role model. Even though when things at her house or car messes up I get a phone call to come save the day because our daughter lives there but, me offering our daughter my home till she get things fixed a hell no. Couldn't see my daughter for months because I lived in a "bad" neighborhood. Even though she had a man that abused her and did meth living with them. Dude was also a racist called me and my little girl porch monkeys. I don't care how wrong she does I'm the one getting treated like the bad parent yet I'm always there when shit needs to get done for my little girl. Right now the arguments are me getting ore than 2 days of a heads up if she wants to put our kids somewhere that cost money so i can plan my budget accordingly. That's going nowhere. Even though I now have a wife and 3 other kids to provide for. Mind you my son saw her as his mom for 5 yrs the day we broke up she kicked us both out telling him to his face she cant be his mom no more because me and her wernt together. After promising him she was never going to leave him like his actual mom did. Lies to her friends I dont pay. So I had to show them the cash app and facebook payments. Bro I had to call the police on her couple months ago because she broke in my house trying to take our daughter because I told her she's not handling our daughter's quick outburst out her house right. At my house she's the only girl so she doesn't have to share shit. She now has a new baby sister and is having new feelings that comes with it like sharing time with mommy etc. My baby mama will fuss her out and punish her and not talk to her. Daddy does. Sorry this was long man had that bottled up for a min.
I'm going through it right now with my son's mother. She's married now and moved to NC with my son and rhe courts allowed it to happen. Then they increased my child support to an extra $150 after the fact they moved out of state. I've tried to be in his life but his mom tells him that I'm not his father, he's real father is who she's married to. Even though the DNA test says I'm the father. Now that she's in NC she has been trying to get me to sign my rites away saying that "if you son gets hurt here, I don't want the doctors wasting my sons time trying to track you down for permission to get any medical care done. I told her "I'd never sign my rights away. To me that's a death sentence and she wins.
Glad you invited more men to share their story in the comment section. Children shouldn’t be used as pawns. Fathers who want time with those children should receive it without the manipulation.
They should receive it without question. So long as one party doesn’t exceed 50/50 time with the kids, or break any mutually agreed upon terms, or whatever, nothing else should stop them from spending time with their kids.
So she wanted him to pay to make herself look presentable for him before she meets him. That tells me she's a busted up person that's too high maintenance. Once all that makeup and "done hair" comes off... it's like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get. 🤣
The first story was crazy. This chick saw a nice guy wanting to take her out and the only thing she saw a wallet. While Chad and Tyrone gets the kitty for free. This is the current movement of women in today's society.However this seem to be prevalent in developed 1st world countries.
I have never believed in keeping my child from her father. We broke up when she was only months old, she is now almost 14, we have saved hundreds in court fees and bullshit like that. It has been much better spent on our daughter. He is married to someone else and I still have never done anything to keep my daughter from her dad, and she is better for it, she sees by example how to be an adult and have a discussion without fighting even if you don't always agree with everything the other person is saying. The bottom line is my child and nothing comes before her, not even my ego or feelings. I will never understand these women out here.
Went through this with my daughter when my ex wife decided to sleep with my stepfather, and he paid for her lawyer to take custody, did it in another state so I didn’t get served at all, lost custody and pay child support, and still do but I see her now, my ex matured a bit, thank god for my daughter, but ya, ladies, scroll down, look how common it is, it’s disgusting.
Honestly, I think her hair was already done. She just wanted to con him out of some extra money. She knows men want a woman looking presentable so that is her story for any guy wanting to see her: "get my hair done first."
Ah, it's just like the "I'm pregnant and need money for the ab-ho-tion" . And she says this to 10 different guys she's slept with, that month. What a scam.
There are men who pay money for an hour from an escort, this man has to pay money for an hour to see his own son to try and build a relationship that can QUICKLY be undone by the mother! That's trifling!
Well in 2020 the mother of my sons didn't let me see them for about 3½ to 4 months. Blocked my number so I couldn't call her phone and changed my oldest son's school without me knowing. I had to get my mom to play mediator just so I could talk to them and finally see them again. It was very heartbreaking to the point where I was falling back into a deep depression again. And then in 2021 instead of allowing my to file my youngest she went and file both of them, because she felt as though she had the right to. But we had an agreement that she'll have them Monday-Thursdays and I get them Friday-Sunday. All because I've moved on and wasn't taking her mind games and sitting on the back burner just to get back together again with her. Also I work 24/7 and I sometimes get the weekend off to spend time with them. I also had to pay her $100 just so I could get my boys for my youngest birthday who turned 2 back in 2020 which was the worst part. Cause she wasn't even trying to let me celebrate his birthday with them both.
Wow, seeing some of these stories in comments reminds me how fortunate me and my younger brother were in the early parts of our lives. Our parents never had a court settled custody arrangement. She reasoned that it was better for our father to have unrestricted access and visitations and only notifying her if we were crossing the border. Other than that we saw him every two/three days every week.
that kind of amicable separation is rare. i had a similar situation with myself and i was even sat down with my parents and given a choice of who i wanted to live with before they separated
My birthday is March 7 to. Wow I'm so glad that my mom never stopped my dad for being in me an my sister life. They had problems in the relationship but even when they separated they got along better before he passed away.
1st video: These females are delusional confused and reading that gave me a headache. 2nd video: it’s disgusting how she used her son as a fair exchange for money only for his father to see him for an hour
Damn! I feel for this dude in the 2nd text. She's destroying a little kid who without a father's guidance statistically will suffer without him. Women say they want good men, do they really believe doing shit like this to their father is how to create them?
This is what makes young men lose their way. No offense at all to the strong single mothers out there that genuinely have been abandoned, but a boy can't learn to be a man from a woman, he can only learn that, truly learn that, from another man. Even if they don't have a good father that wants to be there, uncles, older cousins and the big brother program are amazing things that don't get enough thanks for stepping in where some of these parents have fallen short. Not enough thanks for the good men, I see you, thank you 😊
My kids mother had me dealing wit this nonsense smh using the kids as pawns cause I didn’t want her back…. An when that didn’t work it was time for the court system an because of Covid the courts went down so she used that as a reason for me to not see them smh…. Fast forward the court system put me in a annoying situation but hey I’m still not taking her back…. So she still mad can’t find a man an has brutally hit the wall…. This world has become pitiful especially for relationships
When I was a teen my parents separated.. my dad worked in California and my sisters mom and I lived in Idaho. He would be gone months at a time, but he’d send money for the bills (my mom never paid them and just pocketed the money, our cars got repossessed and our water bill was a year past due) and come back home when his shows were on their off seasons.. but when he was gone my mom moved another man into the house.. (who was on trial for molesting 5 kids, never convicted) and told me and my sisters my dad would beat her, r*pe her, and verbally abuse her. Now my dad wasn’t a great person and he struggled emotionally so his words were always harsh and really hurt but he never beat us or did anything inappropriate.. anyway.. my mom told everyone these lies, everyone we knew believed my dad was some horrible abuser, so when my parents separated I believed my mom (because my dad was gone all the time) she filed restraining orders against him, made all these claims and then one day, dropped me off with him so I could see my sisters, and she left the state with her pedophile bf and went to the OC Zoo.. then being forced to live with my dad, I learned the truth.. I saw he was trying to change, he was opening up emotionally, and all my mom did was lie and abandon her kids because after the divorce she turned to drugs and crime..
Cosigned for my wife's (at the time) car. Got divorced. I was paying child support. And the only time she would let me see our kids was when I also paid her car payment in addition to the child support. Had to get a 2nd job so I could pay her car plus my bills and see my kids
I’m a child of divorced parents from a young age. Thankfully my mom is a decent person and I’ve been lucky enough to have a good relationship with my father, if not an even better one than me and my mother, and I see him quite frequently. Although my parents are annoying to me right now, I have, still, and always will love and appreciate what they do for me.
That second story pissed me all the way off, and the only reason why is because my mom's used to do that whenever I was younger. The only time I was ever able to see my dad was whenever I got in trouble in school and I would spend half the summer with him all because she needed a break. She would also use to try to tell me he was a bad dad and that he don't care about me and allow all of her ex-boyfriends to try to tell me that too. Better baby moms kill me like just because the relationship didn't work out doesn't necessarily mean that you have to hold this man from seeing his child on a regular basis especially when you have somebody that wants to be an active role in their life. People need to grow up
I had a child in high school 16 years old my girlfriend at the time was 15. With the story I must go on into deep detail so you can understand the type of relationship we really had. We started dating when she was in the eighth grade and I was in a nine. So with that being said we really didn’t see each other , because we were at to different schools. So usually whenever I get home early from school I’ll walk to her school just so I can walk with her while she walk home . ( we stayed in the same neighborhood until we both graduated from high school) One day Im standing outside of school waiting on my gf to be let out . When she came out we started walking as usual until a guy in a cop uniform approached us. And said “ stay tf away from my daughter “ then process to tell his daughter to get in the squad car . Long story short that only made us more driven to see each other . Fast forward a year later . ( keep in mind her father and mother was so strict she wasn’t allowed to have boyfriends with that being said I only saw her at school honestly during passing periods. How our school system is set up out of the mouth we get two days every other week that we go to school late it’s called a late start sometimes class will start at 10:30 or 1130 so with that being said she will act like she’s leaving for school early but instead come over to my house and catch the bus together and go to school later in the day) She get pregnant. And when she found out we were both.. shocked and scared bc we was both kids trying to act grown you know? .. at the time I was scared to tell my mom shit ! And she was also scared she we didn’t tell anyone anything. She manage to hid the pregnancy from her parents for 6 months ! Her parents made her sign up for the high school freshman team basketball . Because that’s what she did she play basketball. So she went to tryouts just so she wouldn’t tell her parents that she was pregnant. During tryouts her coach stopped her and told her what are you doing you’re pregnant she told her basketball coach yeah but my parents doesn’t know. And that’s how the beans got spilled to her parents. I remember her coming to school the next day crying like that day was her last day living on this planet. I asked her was wrong if she replied to said “ my parents wants me to get an abortion they’re going to take me to the doctors office after school today” and when she said that really upset angry “ and I said why they can’t do that are you gonna sit and let them do that to you” she told me she didn’t have a choice. And at that moment I didn’t know she was telling me who she really was as a person at the time . So the next day comes and I see her in the hallway again ( keep in mind at this point in time her parents took her phone actually been taking her phone on and off every time she gets caught talking to me ) she’s happy she tells me her parents can’t make her get the abortion because she’s too late in the pregnancy . So she had to have a baby . All of this occurred in the month of November , towards thanksgiving break she told me her parents will be taking her out of school and homeschooling her until the next following semester. ( oh and I forgot to mention her parents told her to tell me not to tell my mom and my family about the baby) fast forward January 15, 2015 2:08 PM English class last class of the day I get a email on my school laptop from my girlfriend at the time I open up the email and I see pictures of my beautiful son while sitting in class trying to keep my emotions in. She tell me his name and how much she weighed. I knew her parents were still on bullshit because she was communicating with me on her school laptop as well.
Prt 2- hang with me y’all . Fast forward three weeks later first week in February she comes back to school And her presents with me with me was strange and really off almost as if she didn’t know me , and didn’t want to know me . I immediately start asking her when can I see my son. She’s playing around the bush “oh I don’t know soon just soon “ bro when I tell you shit just didn’t feel right with her anymore like in my soul and my spirit I felt that shit. I’ll say towards the end of February I’m 17 at this point and she was going on 16 in March , I was at a family members house chilling with my family an old friend knocked on the door. Asking me to come outside to walk to somebody else crib I said OK cool. The thing was he showed up to my house with two guns. 1 was real the other was fake . He said he was tired of holding both of them and asked me if I can hold one. I said yeah give me the fake one . We took off walking in the snowy weather . As we’re walking a Squad car creeps up on us while walking to our friend house . Stops and Lo and behold it’s my BM father stepping out the squad car lookin to put a 100 yrs ona boy head 😂. So I instantly call my mom And put my phone in my pocket so she could hear and listen to what was going on . And on top of that we ain’t even leave off the block yet we walk 5 houses down the street and got stoped . My mom came down the street after she heard what was goin on . She started to ask my baby mother father who was the cop on the scene that arrested us. He told my mom I was going to jail because I had a gun on me but in all reality the gun was actually fake my friend who had a gun was real and ended up spending 2 weeks in the county. And then that’s when I told my mom about the baby in front of him and my mother . And I remember her father saying these words under his breath ( there goes our plants) after I told my mom about the baby while standing in handcuffs she started crying and turned towards the officer and asked him why didn’t you reach out to me like an adult and tell me and that’s when he made the comment he made under his breath and walked away. By that time it was considered internal affairs because he personally knew me and couldn’t take me down to the police station. So another cop did. Oh and by the way her dad took my phone while he was arresting me I never gave my shit back claims he lost it in the snow somewhere while putting it in his pocket. So this is where things get very interesting go get some popcorn roll up a blunt , I’ll say two days after The whole fake gun incident . Me and my mother decided to go to Walmart buy the baby a whole bunch of gear shoes clothes baby bottles whatever she needed whatever he needed and some flowers you you know try to make a peace offering because my mom‘s been dying to see her grandbaby after hearing about him a month after he was born. In the mist of being a Walmart shopping doing all the stuff that we said we were going to do we ran into my babies mother mother ! I turn towards my mom I said Ma that’s my bm mom over there . My mom said OK we’re going to go over there and introduce ourselves . We walked over to the lady and introduce ourselves while she look like she was getting pranked by mtv 🙄 we simply said we would like to see the boy . Man when I tell y’all Karen act up I mean care and act OUT!!!! She started telling us that her daughter didn’t have a baby that her daughter was even in the state right now . Just flipping the whole script started acting crazy. She stop shopping and just left the store then call the police which made matters worse on us because her husband was a “cop” . So fast forward A month later. Sometime in March 2015
So let me start with I haven't seen my daughter For about 3 years now before that I fought in court for time with her got my time got hit with a address technicality that didn't exist so I lost all the time that I built and I worked hard to get And had to start building it backup again Then I moved to Tennessee to better my life with my new wife When I told her I moved out of state she stopped speaking to me Would not let me talk to my daughter Every birthday and Christmas I message her mom and I get a read message no response I was telling her Happy Birthday and I miss her love her And merry Christmas no luck talked to a lawyer and was told if I would have to move back to where she lives to get my time back I can't do that I have my other daughter with anther women I'm helping to take care of and me and her mom communicate very well it hurts everyday I can't be in her life even more since my father walked out on me and my family when I was young and I did not want my kids to feel that same pain.
I feel so sorry for you. She's a terrible woman and doesn't realize that she's hurting the child. she's doing all this so she could feel better about herself. It's selfish.
Sadly, I knew exactly what the first girl meant when she said I need my hair done too. So horrible to even ask for all that and you don’t even know the guy. The audacity of that girl. Crazy thing is, there are guys out there that will go along with her antics. I just think it’s tacky.
No no no no NO. The sheer audactiy to walk around with this amount of entitlement.... The control these women are attempting to exercise is a level of delusion tantamount to insanity. WTAF though? My dudes - stay vigilant. She is not the prize...a healthy, kind, emotionally stable relationship is. Don't get caught up in the WOMAN, stay focused on the GOAL. The second a woman treats you as though you owe her something, drop her. Don't ever treat a woman like she owes you anything either because she never feels she does and will keep score. If she treats ANYONE (her friends, her boss, strangers, her dog) with more respect than she gives you, DROP her because considering the weight of the investment you put in of your time, effort, money, affection, etc., the only people who will ever have invested even as close to as much in her and a relationship with her would be her parents. Keep an even closer eye on how she treats THEM. That will tell you all you need to know about how entitled she TRULY is.
I definitely know how he feels. Been dealing with a similar situation for years. Ignored emails and blocked phone number. Trying to avoid going back to court. However, custody modifications are what's going to happen. You are correct @Artofkickz there are a lot of guys going through this daily. We have to unite and demand legal changes. It's the only way that we as men and fathers will have peace and our children will have an opportunity to get the needed love and guidance from us men. Stay strong fellas.
I pay child support. I see my child once a week for dinner and every other weekend. We have a patenting plan we both signed and I get my child every other holiday. On the parenting plan Christmas and Christmas eve are separate holidays. We've been rocking the same plan for 5 years now but this year(2021) it was an issue. Thanksgiving week i had my child for Wed dinner, Thurs Thanksgiving, and my scheduled weekend when I suggested to jus make it a long weekend some that translated to I should lose time wit my child, so I opted to stick to the plan and do the whole back and forth dance. Shortly before Christmas eve i was asked what should my child be dropped off to me. I reminded her that I have her Christmas and it's my weekend. I was told I could have my child Christmas eve or not at all and I should never have my child for Christmas since I don't even celebrate it. I was not allowed to have my child until 6pm (the parenting plan states holidays end at 6 pm) when I should've had my child since 9 am. In appreciative of any and all time I get wit my child however my child does not live wit me and I'm always there for whatever my child needs, I jus don't is fair to make things more difficult then they need to be for someone trying to be a part of their child's life. Now had I shown up and showed out I'd be in jail🤬 These women hate men and think we all nothing but dogs but it's them that make us like that. I'm not excusing bad behavior however I can sympathize when i hear what some men do. Sometimes I feel like I'm made to feel like I'm not doing the most or the best I can if I'm not robbing a bank in the name of my child🤦🏾♂️
There are two things happening with that first text: she assumed a guy would want to pay, and she got mad cause her expectations were different than reality while not putting in any effort to guide it... It's like buying a bag of coal, throwing it outside in a heatwave, and being mad at the bag for not producing diamonds. Second text shows that he is trying hard, and I hope he could use that to at least increase his visitation.
If woman is making me jump through loops to see my kid, then i'm out. That kid is just another Bill. These women are lucky more men aren't just offing them, but the numbers of that happening will increase.
Kids still a bill. Although its your own fault it exists to begin with assuming it's actually yours. Actions have consequences but that does not change the fact a kids a bill.
@@MorningStar-1199 Nope it isn't worth it, these women drive these men insane. The most I would do is document everything, so when that child grows up and wants to understand why daddy say "f*ck it", they will have all the evidence and hopefully see how insane their mother was.
@@shiningdragon8737 whereas i don't agree with giving up, i do appreciate that you'd at least document things just in case your child goes looking for you. the kid could grow up thinking that you chose to leave him and not think his mother is in fault and it'll be nice for him to know that although he didn't have his father, at least it wasn't because his father didn't want him.
To any man who sees this. Do better when you meet a women take your time making sure she meets eye to eye with you on every aspect. If she doesn’t leave her behind.
Its so heartbreaking to see this young man have to beg and bribe to see his child. It's not fair. Ladies, without this man you wouldn't have the kids, please stop doing this to men and your children. You don't seem to realize the long-term effects this has on the children.
Ended up having to walk away from a genuinely abusive relationship I was in with my ex, I haven't seen my kid in three years, has me twisted emotionally every single day, tried work out the arrangements between ourselves like decent people, that fell through, so tried with mediation (the "next step" in the UK) tried 4 times and no show, by this time, I was a complete emotional wreck, flashbacks were getting worse due to the stress of having to walk away from starting a family, being messed around by daughters mum, not only before she was born but got progressively worse after she was born, still recovering to this day, and having to learn to live a new way of life and living being so emotionally unstable/vulnerable it's beyond not an easy task, especially the way society is towards those who can't function within it
In Argentina we had the Lucio case. Besides the controvertial and gruesome details, the mother of the kid charged a lot of money to the father or grandpa to videochat with the kid.
You said it perfectly: she's CREATING a problem where there is none. Then tryna blame him smh. Believe me, he already knew full well what she meant when she said she needed to get her hair done too. He just wasn't goin. I'm sure there's plenty things she could do to her hair to look perfectly fine and presentable IF seeing him was the main focus. But she's just tryna get something outta the deal. Then has the nerve to call HIM "small-minded"???
They pick their targets well don't they? I sincerely hope all women don't think every man they meet will stand for being extorted like this. If this is sincerely what they expect from every man, then they're in for a collective rude awakening. In some instances, a violent rude awakening. Playing games with a man's son like this can have...unpleasant consequences for a female. Not everyone is reasonable...
My mom kept me from my Dad after I was born. I never knew him until I was 21. From my experience, I've come to realise that a woman can't raise a man and as a male, there are some things only a man can teach you, a lot of stuff I had to learn on my own. I made a lot of mistakes suffered a lot of emotional scars. When I met my old man for the first time he broke down we're good though.
More women need to hear this from a child who experienced it (not calling you a kid, bro.) So many women really they do can do just as good a job raising a boy into a man but never hear it from the sons they actually attempt it with, smh.
@@ManOfYah-work-in-progress The reason I said they can't is beacause there some emotional female habits that are internalized by the young man as a result of not being exposed to the presence of man in the house. Often times this result in them being argumentative, feminine, or emotional.
I’m not a religious person but I hope there’s a hell because the type of women that do this not only to the fathers but their children is devastating for future relationship with their fathers. my mother was the same way to my father and I hated him for so long because of all the lies my mother would tell me. just as an example of the type of stuff she would do she would throw away my father‘s Christmas presents and tell me that he didn’t get me anything my mother is severely mentally ill and now I have an awesome relationship with my father that I never would’ve thought would be possible. It just sucks because my father‘s health isn’t too well and I don’t know how much more time we’re going to have together which is why it makes me so angry to hear that there is mothers out there that do this just out of spite and don’t think about the Best future for their children.
He gets off at six and still has to get to her. She says "an hour", so you lookin at 7:30-8:00 before he's gone. What things do you have to do with a kid on the late? "We've got things to do later"....what, ballroom dancing? Smh hateful people man.
The second case really resonates with me. My mother moved us hundreds of miles away from my father and a lot of family when I was really young. She raised me to believe he was a pos and she was an innocent victim. Fast forward to my 30's and I was finally able to have a relationship with my father. Only to find out that he is, and has always been, a decent dude. Things just didn't work out with them. Dispite all the poison she put in my head about him over the years, he's never had a negative thing to say about her to me. Now...even though I love my mother, I also resent her a bit, and it's hard to hide. Because of her, I grew up fatherless and in a strange place. Despite the lies telling them otherwise, the truth is: A woman is not equipped to raise a boy to be a man, on her own. I had to learn from the neighborhood and TV/music. She tried...she's college educated and even has her doctorate. But I missed so much about being a man, by not having my father in my life. I can't put all the blame on her though...that's what was championed in her time. She was taught to be a strong black woman who doesn't need a man. We need put an end to this destructive mindset.
I'm surprised you didn't mention the all capitalized "YOU" in the sentence: "YOU want to see me?" The amount of ego to suggest that he, of all people, wishes to enter her presence for an evening of courtship is not a red flag; it's the whole red carpet. She might as well have said that she is superior to him.
In 2017 When I was in the army my ex got pregnant and her best friend told me about it and I guess my ex thought I was going to stay with her but I told her I didnt need to be with her toy be there for my kid and she said I did because she's the mother she gets to decide who's our daughter father no matter what I told her she truly believed that so I decided to fight to be in my kid life the army would not allow me to do what I needed to do that and after a while of me being depressed and angry my Sgt decided to help me get out but when I got out I really didnt have anything to my name so I worked to get a lawyer and a house but not mowing were they were mad it even harder and back then the last time me and ex talked she told me if I didn't fight for her she would not make me pay child support f uck that id rather pay and. In 2021 my kid step dad brought my kid to me after seeing how she is with there 2 kids and her other kid I should probably say she has 4 kids three baby dadys but anyway I finally have my kid and just waiting for court to get full custody
I got a crazy story about my sons mother's, they are best friends but one happens to be a child predator and the friend took up her side and let her rape her little brother, which I was a victim at 17 yrs old and she was older... but cops wouldn't arrest her cause she is native and hide out on the reservation for years and I never was able to be a Dad. But the courts still allowed her to file for child support.. so me and her friend hooked up out of spite ,then she became pregnant and holding our child hostage from me and I never met him or have a bond with him. But she was doing it out of spite cause I was trying to see my my oldest son and put his mother in jail after finding out she molested her friend 14 yr old brother!!.
Native reservation have their own govy so... Good luck with that nottrying b rude but this one here is easier said than done good luck tho hoping u succeed.
Yea, but now I was dealing with some much mentally and emotionally, I broke down and just gave up. Up and moved to Las Vegas to pursue my cooking career as a chef! But thank you for the blessings 🙌
I was that kid. My mom kept us from our father. I didn't know about it until I was much older and my maternal grandmother explained it all to me. By that time, I had no interest in having a relationship with my father. He's just some guy to me and the relationship with my mother has been strained for some time. We haven't spoken in 6 years.
Straight clown shoes. I have never, literally never even thought of treating a guy like the way these "women" treat these men. It blows my mind every time when AOK makes these amusing, though sad, posts. What rocks are these guys finding these "women" under 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
its becoming standard female behaviour, because men enable it, Women only do what men allow them to do.. and because most men are ignored by women , they will let women get away with murder in return for regular kitty.
I´m happy my mom and dad had a fine relationship after they split up, nothing like this never happened. But frustrating to think so many go through this!
when i was 3 my mother and father separated because my mother wanted to move north but my dad wanted to stay in the south where the family was. she got the divorce and packed up the car with me and my brother and took us up north to stay with my grandmother (keep in mind at the time my dad was my whole world). after that and us not really having any phones or any way o contact my dad for a few years it eventually got to the point where we got to go see him once a year for either christmas or thanksgiving later on but those first few years was just a build up of resentment because she took us away from him. now at 26 my relationship with my father is fine and my relationship with my mother is JUST NOW starting to mend to the point where its not uncomfortable to say "i love you" when getting of the phone with her.
she also told me that my passion for beatbox was annoying cause im practicing all the time and she always thought it was stupid when its something i absolutely love
Woman who use their children as leverage make my blood boil. I've been through this. I ended up spending around 10k in legal fees. She dragged my name through the mud. Saying I was abusive, manipulative cheater and what not which were all lies. She was the abusive 1, she was the 1 who cheated while I was at work yet nothing was said after all that come to light. I almost lost my job because of these allegations but luckily I had an employer who knew what kind of person I am and the character I have. But after all her lies she wasn't prosecuted or anything. The court acted like it didn't even happen. I ended up getting visitation rights which was amazing and spent a lot of quality time with my son. The first visit I had with him was about a year since we had seen each other so he was a little hesitant which I thought was strange. Only to find out she had been telling him that I was the 1 who didn't want to see him and that I had told her that I didn't love him which broke my heart. I can't understand why these woman aren't held accountable for their actions yet me are to the highest standards. It blows my mind.
My mother played the same game with my father. Fed me nothing but lies. My father is now deceased. I found out the truth. We aren’t on speaking terms. On top of her being a part time mother, I was raised by Grandparents. For the guilt of not being there consistently growing up (In which her main focus was her new husband. Smh) She now sides with my son’s mother on everything. Leaving me powerless as a authority figure to my son. She oversteps her boundaries as a Grandparent, & her excuse is “he didn’t ask to be here”. I’m like where was that energy when was I growing up. You tryin to assume position on my child whom I’m invested in. Despite a high court ordered child support that’s been in place since 2004. She still oversteps it. My son’s mother has used this to her advantage. In so many words, they are peas of the same pod. Making up lies… difference is now, my son has access to receipts to see the real truth. But refuses to see it for what it is because they have him blinded. The ugly cycle continues.
as a 35 year old man, with two wives that are 29 and 27, i've absolutely no issues within the dating scene. regularly dating women between 20-40. the types of people you attract only speaks to your own character.
Yup... I dealt with this with my mom & dad growing up. My mom constantly bashing, teasing, & bad mouthing him to me to the point to where she had me thinking that he was a lying idiot (this is through the late 80s-early 2000s). As I grew up & learned for myself, he was none of that.
First thing you do in a toxic relationship is lower the temperature, The way that you lower the temperature is you find that even tone voice. This is going to be tone and damenor you are always going to use with your baby moma always and everytime you communicate with her. This is the basis for never ever let her see you sweat.
Just FYI people you don't have to live up to other people's expectations/ social media expectations.. we all like what we like just have enough integrity to take responsibility for the decisions you've/we've made that put us in situations/positions that we could've avoided .... At least she was explained how she felt/ thought before hand.. people we have to ask questions
It happened to me. My ex husband was really spiteful. I paid child support. Sometimes, I didn't see my babies for 6 months to almost a year. When I finally got custody, he only paid twice. The case was closed last year. He never paid.
1st girl: I just hope no dude thinks she’s so fine he’ll put up with this mess. 2nd girl: That child will grow up and tell her about herself. More fathers need to document everything and file for custody. Let her see how it feels to run everything by you and pay you child support.
Despite the relationship status of the father of my child . My journey with this pregnancy I kept telling him to be involved and went to keep seeing him, he was telling me how much he wanted to be involved I told him hey I have an appointment on Whatever day he said ok he didn’t ask what time nor where, he wants to be there, when he wants to, he said he gonna take me to court. I said u go do that, and I’ll request child support, but if u don’t take me to court I’m not going to ask you for anything. I told him I will tell our kid the truth and let them make the decision I’m not bitter, even though u putting me in a f**ed up situation. I told him U can’t pick and chose when u wanna be there for your kid.
This video hit home for me...I was with a woman for 4 years had 2 kids with her and I haven't seen my son's in almost a year why idk she stopped responding to me 6 months ago after I let her know that the boys had a new little brother on the way...and befor that when I was in town I'd let her know when I was getting in town (I live a state away) and when I'd be leaving and she would only respond after the time I said I'd be back in the road...females are a trip
My ex pulled this nonsense with my son but I just walked away. I refused to let her manipulate my emotional state. Did it suck? Yeah, but sometimes you have to consider your own health.
I told her I'd still pay child support even if she gave me my son and she accepted. 6 months later I contacted support enforcement and informed them of the living situation, produced receipts for his enrollment in my school district, and requested the official end to child support. That's how I got custody of my son when he was 13: she willingly gave up custody thinking he was still going to be a paycheck for 6 more years only to have the rug yanked out from under her 6 months later. I had to correct the lies his mother told him after years of being denied access but our relationship has never been stronger (he's 18 now and I'm paying for trade school for him). He's a bright kid and it's too bad that his mother valued hurting me more than his well being, but that's her problem.
That's fuck3d up...
@@Mouuur4 why? When women use children to continue using a man as a paycheck, it's the duty of a man to take back whats his, right?
@@keithgolden77 I was talking about the mother's actions... He's in the right bruh
@@Mouuur4 I figured, that's why I asked a question. I wasn't attacking ya dude
@@keithgolden77 you sure?
It’s amazing how she feels entitled to having a man pay for her hair getting done. Honey if you can’t afford to pay for your own hair to get done then you don’t need to go on your date. Or you can simply do your own hair. But to expect a whole new man to pay for your hair to get done just to go on a date should make you feel uncomfortable. In my opinion, I would never fix my lips to ask a man to get my hair done. There’s a sense of pride that comes with being able to manage my upkeep with my own $$. Now if you were in a long term relationship or marriage, allow your partner to offer if that’s what he feels he wants to do. But be able to manage your own upkeep. It’s dope. Just my thoughts.
U said some real stuff 💯
Most men wouldn’t care if she put her hair in a bun n go out on date with them
I totally agree. I been with my husband 25 years and I never asked him once to keep up my personal up keep idk maybe it's my pride I would never!!!! These modern women sense of entitlement is baffling.
@@marcrose3403 that's facts especially if he's interested in getting to know her.
@@kesharobinson2176 even if we just want to have sex … i think women who expect men to pay for their hair is just way for them to have bragging rights. Or they think every guys are sucka cuz they found one sucka who did
This is why I tell women “Do not give me subtle hints. Either tell me upfront what’s on your mind or keep on walking. I’m not playing this game with you”
This should be the golden rule speaking to every men all over the world. NO MORE HINTS, JUST SPIT OUT OUT!
They love to string people along and keep their options open. Even the ones who say they don't play games. They all have their own rules and standards to their own dating game.
My Mom used to pull stuff like this. When I was born my dad changed his entire lifestyle to be able to support and have a relationship with me. My mom did a lot of despicable things just to spite him. One of my earliest memories is having to talk to my dad through the closed front window while my mother stood over and refereed it. He had driven an hour just to be able to do that. And sad thing is we did the classic “hand touch through barrier” thing you see in movies or whatever. I’m 20 now and I can honestly say I still struggle with hatred for my mom but not as bad as I once did. It took alot from my end along with my dad pushing for me to have a good relationship with her and forgive her like he has. He is a great man and it’s sad that men like him have to go through all of that and jump through hoops to have a relationship with their child knowing they could just give up like any other black man and not go through the trouble.
Honestly bro as one man to another lifting weights has helped me through stuff like this. Well before it was video games with the bro's. I balance the two along with other stuff. My mom kept trying to do anything and everything to keep me and my sisters away from our father but it just failed and blew up in her face while i was in highschool.
Your father is a fool smh
@@Snowboarding2020 why is he a fool? He's a fool for trying to stay in his son's life??
Tell your father , he's a man of respect and I salute his integrity.
It's honestly sad when a child has to mention he has/had hate for his own mother
These "women" really don't think that the shit they do to spite the fathers won't come back and bite them in the ass, i honestly don't blame you for saying that you hated her, shit idk her and I already hate her
My ex tried this when my son was born. She lied to me about what time we were to sign the birth certificate in the hospital the day after his birth just so she could keep me off of the birth certificate and keep him from me just because our relationship didn't work because she cheated. I took her to court for my visitation time, for paternity, and child support (yes I took her to court for me to pay support to her) and had my son's last name changed to mine. He currently lives with me for the past 3-4 years now but I've always been in his life even if I had to fight for it. He's now 10. Fight for your children my brothers! 💪🏾
Real King Shit. 💪🤴
@@UrOpinionsSucc 💪🏾💪🏾👑
A real man
I’m proud of you, brother.
Need more people like you🍻
That first one she sounds like the first one to call someone broke, meanwhile she asking for someone to give her money.
I had a homie 2 days ago who had finally got to see his kid after going to court 6 times in 2021. It was messed up because the woman claimed that he wasn't paying the child support(he had receipts to prove her wrong) and she was using their son to extort more money out of him..the 5 judges before the last one had him pay 2x as much as he already was which took his whole paycheck. He documented everything she did before taking her to court.. not only did he win but he got the child support reduced and is currently aiming to get full custody.. its crazy
And as he should because she only wants his money i can't stand women that keep there kids from there father i dont and will never understand
The fight in itself will destroy the child :(
@@manonwilliams3777 its a shame really as he was trying to work things out but she forced his last resort
The courts are incentivized to take more child support because it increases their pay and pensions in some states.
An update: he now has full custody of his child after 5 years of fighting the court...the mother of course spoke ill will of him in front of the child
Having to pay to see your children is a big issue in the UK as well...
This needs to be made a criminal offence with high fines because these kind of woman only care about money...
UK also has a horrible rate of paternity fraud
avery western countries, Canada is horrible as well.
It’s funny how when a girl wants something for you you get it for her but when you want something back it’s a problem.
I'm currently going through the same exact thing. I text and call my daughter's mother everyday to do a video call with my daughter and she always limits the time to about 20 minutes because "she doesn't want her phone tied up". My daughter gets upset when I say that I have to go.
I recently posted a video of me doing exercise with my daughter on Facebook and her mom randomly tells me that it was disrespectful for me to post our daughter without HER or her boyfriend's permission. Bro! WHAT! I'm collecting police reports and silently waiting until the end of January to serve her the court visitation papers.
Get your baby one of those gizmo watches, it lets you program the number in so the kid only has to push one button to call you!
Bro, file for visitations in family court. If you are on child support or not you have the same rights to your daughter. First time she doesn't let you get your daughter after the court has set visitations, call the police and file charges. They will arrest her for violating a court order. Women get real humble when you put them laws in their business like they put them in ours. Nothing will embarrass her more than being escorted from her home in handcuffs in from of all of her neighbors. Just like women use family court to make men pay child support, men need to use that same court to make women stop playing with us, and using our children like pawns. Once I started going to family court behind my daughter, my child's mother got some act right real quick. After that, I didn't argue with her, or feed into her negative energy... I just used the courts to fight for my child.
@@Expert_Of_Opinions thank you! But that’s too much work for most of them, they just want to play victim vs daddy in my book because if you really want time with your child you will figure it out! Ijs my children were with their dad for a year and we shared custody amicably but I did visit outside of our established time like going to the school for lunch or taking class field trips. My daughter has a son and his dad love to get on fb and cry about how she doesn’t let him see his son but it’s been 3 years now and we haven’t seen court papers yet! We want him to go to court because we want him to have supervised visitation all because he’s unstable and even tried to attack me! Hell his mother a dead beat grandma and he never seen her grandson outside of the pictures I send her occasionally 🙄 go to court so we know it’s real!
@@Expert_Of_Opinions I DID say that I'm waiting until January to serve her which means that I already filed a petition. I wanted time to continue to record that behavior so that she can't just say that "It happened only once". I've been playing silent and cool
@@KashifVGC you don't need evidence and police reports to get visitations. That is your rights as a parent... All that gathering evidence sounds like your trying to have a custody battle. There's no need to wait to have visitations, your just missing our on time you could be spending with your child.
Seeing stuff like this makes me grateful for having both parents in my life, but it also saddens me to see how many kids fall victim to neglect or fractured relationships with their fathers because a mother wants to be spiteful and selfish without accounting for the fact that a strong relationship with both parents is key to a good development for a child. Sad times we live in…
i disagree considering I didn't grow up with my dad and my mom didn't stop my pops from coming around, he chose not to on his own but here i am that grew up fine... obviously I didn't have a dad to teach me certain things but i just cant agree with that excuse... you don't really need both parents to have common sense... i have seen kids with bad development with even both parents around... but anyway that's just my opinion
@@ikingslayer2689 Fair enough man, but I’m talking instances like in the video where the father is trying to play an active role in his sons life and be there but the mother ain’t allowing it. Every situation is different depending on circumstances I guess.
@@Legkicker oh yeah, what she was doing is just str8 up mean... seems to be the type to complain that the father doesn't do anything for the child just to make him look bad
Girls with both parents still do this
When I got together with my babys mama she was all about being the female. Cooking, cleaning and dressing up and doing her makeup for me when I got off of work. Well eventually I started giving her money when I got paid weekly. But when she finally got a job cleaning houses making her own money she still asked me for my money and refused to pay for anything for us. A couple years after we had our daughter she started talking to other guys saying they were co- workers or a family member she hasnt talked to in years. I eventually found out she was cheating on me and when I called her out for it she tried putting the blame on me saying I work too much and not paying her much attention and i stopped giving her money after she got her own job. We eventually broke up after it was found out she was pregnant again and this time it wasnt my kid...of course I would get a dna test after the whole cheating ordeal that she denied to the end. 😒 Not too long after that she gets arrested telling me its something else when I find out at her court case that she was arrested for soliciting prostitution to an undercover cop.
Damn bro, I’m sending you nothing but positivity and blessings your way my man.
I hope that means you got custody of your daughter.
I pray you get custody of your daughter.
holy s*...
Damn a lot happened, hopefully you can get custody of your daughter.
I got a story, my lil bro asked me if I can go with him and a girl on his date because the girl mom is coming along as well. The thing is the girl mom was a woman i fooled around with once. So we haven’t seen or talked to each other for months but I was like what the heck I’ll do it for my bro. We all went to an arcade, mall, and then movies I paid for everything but when we went to the movies I was low on cash since I already spend over $170 and I didn’t wanted to use my credit card. So I told the mother pay for your daughter for the movies and it was just $11. Few days later she went off that I was a gold digger, my family were gold diggers and that she paid for everything.
hope you kept those receipts.
@@johnsmith-kt7ef 🤣 actually while in the theaters I fooled around with her since is all dark and it was almost empty so it was a win for me too. Idc what she said she’s crazy and like bipolar.
@@will1905 my man 🤣
should bill her for all the nutrients she swallowed.
how old was everyone in this situation? just wondering
The thing that makes me REALLY mad is she's not TELLING her son that his father has to beg and pay money out the ass just to see him for an HOUR every few months. She's looking him right in his tear-streaked face and telling him she has no idea why his father doesn't come around more often, but that she'll always be there for him...since he can't count on his father. Ooooooh if I could reach through the screen......
i am only allowed to visit when your mom allows it, otherwise its her keeping me away from you
does he tell the son your mom makes it difficult for me to visit?
nope probably not, wouldnt want to speak ill of the mother
@@severepayne72 terrible idea to do honestly. that can lead to a whole issue of being banned from seeing your child i'd imagine.
@@demonkingt if they already cant see their child they dont have anything to lose
plus the kids would at least know the truth and not just believe mommy
so they think terribly about the truth of their mommy
let the kids know so they can treat her like shit, and they should and maybe she will give them up
but men are too weak sadly, they cover it up for the mom, always willing to have their own reputations smashed into the ground
get the kids to indirectly to make her life hell, she is a terrible person and a terrible role model for your children
unless of course u enjoy being hated by your children with lies, in which case carry on and stop complaining, you chose a wife poorly
@@severepayne72 alot of the time the father will allow the kid to think its him, instead of hurting the child more with the truth of the mother
@@RenegadeSpider2that mentality does NOT make logical sense
they are still being controlled by the ex, afraid to say anything bad about the ex or they could be shamed
like dude you wont say anything bad about the mother all the while she is trashing you to them, you took all the blame, the mother tells them its your fault, and you say your sorry lol
heaven forbid you tell them the truth, instead u back her lie
i cant feel sorry for those guys, and then they wonder why their kids hate them for breaking up the marriage etc etc
morons
He can save that message and use it in court. She's clearly using her child as a paycheck and any fair judge with common sense would see that. Remember guys, always have conversations in writing/recorded.
In a system that still makes men pay for children that isn't theirs, I doubt any evidence will hold up in court. Your male genitila pre determines the verdict you will receive.
There's no denying you're behind the 8ball as a male during custody hearings, especially innthe opening rounds. But as a guy who had a lot of eyes on experience, some guys did very well over the long haul. The ones that came out on top KEPT RECORDS OF EVERYTHING. Email chains, text messages, receipts, child support payments, visitation times...EVERYTHING. They also KEPT THEIR COOL and stayed rational and respectful of the court. I saw one guy who had to pay outrageous amounts of child support upon his initial separation from his ex even though she was a crackhead! At the end of 18 months he had full custody of his daughter. I saw another who was married to a teacher and he initially got raked over the coals, but she was bat shit crazy and he eventually prevailed, to the point his kids won't even see their mother anymore. The deck is stacked fellas, but be smart and keep your cool. You CAN win.
@@jefflast9489 that's all good and stuff, but I'd rather it be a redrum/self delete before I lose it all in court. I be damn if I lose everything after where I came from, to some spiteful hctib. Though with all fault belonging to me I did not think this through and thought most women where good decent beings.
@@crownedstar4412 You can run with it that way but I've seen that side play out too. I worked custody and courts with a sheriff's department and saw hundreds of guys doing all day (life) to years behind bars. It didn't seem to matter the price they were going to pay, I don't recall a single one of them who thought it was worth it. There's almost nothing on this earth a woman can take from you that you can't replace. Your freedom is one of those things.
@@jefflast9489 great advice. Thank you for sharing some men can learn to.make better decisions.
Yup seen my Mom trying to pull this on my Dad. She filed for divorce because she was cheating with a coworker who was like 15 years younger than her. Us 3 kids didn't want to move with her, so my Dad raised us. But during the divorce she claimed my Dad used to beat her up, which was lies. She tried using me as a witness, and I was like no!, never seen my Dad hit or even yell at my Mom. She tried getting the house, which would make us homeless, she didn't care! She got the car. And had got thousands from the divorce. My Dad had to refinance the house and I don't even know how long he kept paying her. The crazy thing is that my Dad was raising us, she was on her own with her boyfriend. My Mom kept lying for years about my Dad. My Dad never said one bad thing about my Mom. This happened in 1988 and I still look at my Mom like damn! You ice cold!
That's more than ice cold. That's sociopathic/ borderline personality disorder behavior. It's sad that a story from 1988 can resonate so closely, isn't it? This is exactly what happens to men every day in the united states court system. I'm not familiar with other countries child support/ alimony laws
What's funny is she probably cheated on your dad because that younger dude was gassing her head wonder how that played out transitional d or a provider
@@user-um5dz9gt4o Haha what do you think? no offense intended
@@theiiiraven6137 🤣none taken lol I get it
@@theiiiraven6137 sorry but no. This isn't borderline personality disorder. I know several people who BPD and they do NOT act like this. She's a socialpath plan and simple.
I understand his side from a child's perspective
My mom kept me hidden/away from my dad and his side of the family and basically made sure we had zero contact for pretty much a majority of my life. I turned 22 when I finally got to meet the man and my family from his side.
Over those 22 years I always thought my dad hated me, didn't want me, I wasn't good enough and after years of thinking that with nothing from him and my mom not saying anything I grew to despise and resent her. Even now I'm doing my best to forgive her but it's hard to forgive someone when that person has kept a whole other part of yourself hidden from you for 22 years(I'm 29 rn) so that's my story.
Fellas your kids will love you once they grow older if you're experiencing that level of abuse and extortion I highly suggest either keeping receipts for court or finding an alternative.
You don't have to forgive someone to move on with your life.
The longer you dwell on it, the more she wins.
@@khatdubell you're right however this is something I need to do for myself.
I have been in resent towards my mom for almost 25 years for the stuff that was done to me at a young age. we haven't talked since I was 16.
I wish that to be true my 23 yr hates me and I can only speculate why. I think it's a good statement to help keep hope alive however real talk I'm at a place right now that I've accepted the likelihood my child will always hate me and I'll never get to meet my grandchild🤷🏾♂️don't get me wrong I still have small hope for the best I've jus accepted it it never happens
You don't need to forgive your mom for her. You need to forgive her for yourself.
My mother and the women in my family told my brother and I our father never wanted us and the couple timestimes he came was because he wanted something from our mother. Come to find out when we became adults, our father wanted us but our mother and the women in the family kept lying were we lived, we moved around a lot and she tried hard to tell us horrible things about our father. He did in fact cheat a lot but he was always and wanted to be with his kids. To this day it angers me what she and the women in the family did out of spite. There were so many times, I wish I had my father growing up.
Please tell me you went no contact with youre mother and those other people after that.
@@bartonnink3896 I did. I forgave them but do not associate with them anymore. My brother is the oldest so he is a mama boy. He still talks to her , but I can't bring myself to do it nor do I have any interest. My brother stayed mama boy, I find myself trying to make up for time lost spending my time with dad. I have been called a daddy's boy. Apparently that is an insult but I do not care. I can see the difference as my dad does not speak ill of my mother and does not allow me to do it in front of him.
@@aramissandoval59 im glad you took this path. She destroyed to much already you cant get that time back with youre father. I wish you well man.
How they think: "I don't need no man, and the same goes for my kid". Then, "Where are the REAL men at?"
The mother of my daughter refused to let me see my daughter until she was 20 years old and then my daughter had to lie to her mother about coming to see me while she was in college these women are ruthless man!!! And I paid child support until she was 19 smh😤
....or you can go to court to enforce your visitation rights
@@SODMGGOKU DEMON TIME LMAO
@@SODMGGOKU LOL
Damn. Hopefully you can make up for lost time.
During those 20 years, did you go to the court in order to get visitation hours? We can talk about bitter baby mommas, but if a man truly wants to see his kids, he will make a way.
I'm gonna remind my husband tonight how grateful I am to have him with me, as my partner. Over 19 years together, married in Aug for 18 years, I never wanna be single again!! 💯💖
Pro tip, don't put a baby in somebody that only sees you as a wallet, especially when you're a good father
Say that loud please
No any kind of father
@@naadiyamxmed8717 there are some fathers out there who just hit it and quit it and leave behind a present. That's the unfortunate part. I can't defend fathers who would abandon their kids
So the average female
There's a lot of people in this planet who should not have had any kids
I'm reading through the comments and it's heartbreaking and upsetting seeing what you men have or are going through to see your children smh.
As someone who benefitted from having a father in my life, you all are truly needed please keep fighting for your children.
(This is not an attack) why should they keep fighting? Shouldn't they just let it go? They can just make more with better women. Shouldn't they just do that?
@Robert Moore
For that child's or those children's sake. It's be wrong to think of kids as something that can just be replaced.
I have a friend who's father abandoned him and his sisters. The one thing my friend recalls his father saying to him is, "It's alright. I have a new son and a new family now." That's going to stick with him for life
@@capitalakito6897 I understand that and it's really sad, but if it was his mother that pushed his father to such an action, I would hope he at least is open to understand how his father felt. Now, if the dad just left on his own, without being blocked from the mother, than he's just a dirt dude and horrible father. No excuses for that...whatsoever.
@@capitalakito6897 you didn't answer the question. Why should they keep fighting? You only stated why you want them to. Not why they should. What is the benefit for men to keep fighting?
@@robertmoore3982 I did answer your question. They should keep fighting for their kid's sake. Men care about legacy and it would benefit men to know that what they are leaving behind is taken care of and can flourish.
In the 14 months of my son's life I have missed 6 months in total his mom keeps him from me anytime she's mad at me. And I've had to call the police on her twice once for assault and once because she was belligerent and drunk when I got off work and I didn't know what to do.
You did the right thing. Build a binder of all that stuff, get phone records and police reports. Then, save up 4000$ then go to court for full custody and make her pay lawyers fees. Worst case scenario, you will get partial custody and hopefully primary residence. Make sure you get a woman lawyer who specializes in helping men. They obliterate the system.
Be more judicious in the women you nut in.
Man that last one I felt to much. My daughter's 8 now and her mother still uses her as a weapon. If I personally piss her off. As in tell her bout her self or put my foot down about our daughter. Not only do I lose time seeing her till she annoys her mom enough for her let me see her. I'm labeled a dead beat. She truly feels since shes mom. What she says gos and I'm just here to pay for things and watch our daughter when her babysitters are busy. Mind you I've already offered to watch our daughter while she works. Changed careers to make sure I can work hrs I want to make sure I can. Pick her up and take her to school. It's a no your not a good role model. Even though when things at her house or car messes up I get a phone call to come save the day because our daughter lives there but, me offering our daughter my home till she get things fixed a hell no. Couldn't see my daughter for months because I lived in a "bad" neighborhood. Even though she had a man that abused her and did meth living with them. Dude was also a racist called me and my little girl porch monkeys. I don't care how wrong she does I'm the one getting treated like the bad parent yet I'm always there when shit needs to get done for my little girl. Right now the arguments are me getting ore than 2 days of a heads up if she wants to put our kids somewhere that cost money so i can plan my budget accordingly. That's going nowhere. Even though I now have a wife and 3 other kids to provide for. Mind you my son saw her as his mom for 5 yrs the day we broke up she kicked us both out telling him to his face she cant be his mom no more because me and her wernt together. After promising him she was never going to leave him like his actual mom did. Lies to her friends I dont pay. So I had to show them the cash app and facebook payments. Bro I had to call the police on her couple months ago because she broke in my house trying to take our daughter because I told her she's not handling our daughter's quick outburst out her house right. At my house she's the only girl so she doesn't have to share shit. She now has a new baby sister and is having new feelings that comes with it like sharing time with mommy etc. My baby mama will fuss her out and punish her and not talk to her. Daddy does. Sorry this was long man had that bottled up for a min.
I'm going through it right now with my son's mother. She's married now and moved to NC with my son and rhe courts allowed it to happen. Then they increased my child support to an extra $150 after the fact they moved out of state. I've tried to be in his life but his mom tells him that I'm not his father, he's real father is who she's married to. Even though the DNA test says I'm the father. Now that she's in NC she has been trying to get me to sign my rites away saying that "if you son gets hurt here, I don't want the doctors wasting my sons time trying to track you down for permission to get any medical care done. I told her "I'd never sign my rights away. To me that's a death sentence and she wins.
Glad you invited more men to share their story in the comment section. Children shouldn’t be used as pawns. Fathers who want time with those children should receive it without the manipulation.
They should receive it without question. So long as one party doesn’t exceed 50/50 time with the kids, or break any mutually agreed upon terms, or whatever, nothing else should stop them from spending time with their kids.
So she wanted him to pay to make herself look presentable for him before she meets him. That tells me she's a busted up person that's too high maintenance. Once all that makeup and "done hair" comes off... it's like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get. 🤣
But you do know what you're going to get because it tells you on the wrapping and inside of the box.
@@mattjones7226 the wrapping lies and if you're already in the box it's too late 😅
😂
The first story was crazy. This chick saw a nice guy wanting to take her out and the only thing she saw a wallet. While Chad and Tyrone gets the kitty for free. This is the current movement of women in today's society.However this seem to be prevalent in developed 1st world countries.
And 10 years from now she'll act as if she's perfect angel who's never met decent man in her life.
I have never believed in keeping my child from her father. We broke up when she was only months old, she is now almost 14, we have saved hundreds in court fees and bullshit like that. It has been much better spent on our daughter. He is married to someone else and I still have never done anything to keep my daughter from her dad, and she is better for it, she sees by example how to be an adult and have a discussion without fighting even if you don't always agree with everything the other person is saying. The bottom line is my child and nothing comes before her, not even my ego or feelings. I will never understand these women out here.
Went through this with my daughter when my ex wife decided to sleep with my stepfather, and he paid for her lawyer to take custody, did it in another state so I didn’t get served at all, lost custody and pay child support, and still do but I see her now, my ex matured a bit, thank god for my daughter, but ya, ladies, scroll down, look how common it is, it’s disgusting.
Honestly, I think her hair was already done. She just wanted to con him out of some extra money. She knows men want a woman looking presentable so that is her story for any guy wanting to see her: "get my hair done first."
The baby boomer generation raised a bunch of sociopathic daughters. They only see men as resources to milked.
Ah, it's just like the "I'm pregnant and need money for the ab-ho-tion" . And she says this to 10 different guys she's slept with, that month. What a scam.
There are men who pay money for an hour from an escort, this man has to pay money for an hour to see his own son to try and build a relationship that can QUICKLY be undone by the mother! That's trifling!
Well in 2020 the mother of my sons didn't let me see them for about 3½ to 4 months. Blocked my number so I couldn't call her phone and changed my oldest son's school without me knowing. I had to get my mom to play mediator just so I could talk to them and finally see them again. It was very heartbreaking to the point where I was falling back into a deep depression again. And then in 2021 instead of allowing my to file my youngest she went and file both of them, because she felt as though she had the right to. But we had an agreement that she'll have them Monday-Thursdays and I get them Friday-Sunday. All because I've moved on and wasn't taking her mind games and sitting on the back burner just to get back together again with her. Also I work 24/7 and I sometimes get the weekend off to spend time with them. I also had to pay her $100 just so I could get my boys for my youngest birthday who turned 2 back in 2020 which was the worst part. Cause she wasn't even trying to let me celebrate his birthday with them both.
Wow, seeing some of these stories in comments reminds me how fortunate me and my younger brother were in the early parts of our lives. Our parents never had a court settled custody arrangement. She reasoned that it was better for our father to have unrestricted access and visitations and only notifying her if we were crossing the border. Other than that we saw him every two/three days every week.
that kind of amicable separation is rare. i had a similar situation with myself and i was even sat down with my parents and given a choice of who i wanted to live with before they separated
"the female species, such an enigma!"
- Vegeta
My birthday is March 7 to. Wow I'm so glad that my mom never stopped my dad for being in me an my sister life. They had problems in the relationship but even when they separated they got along better before he passed away.
1st video: These females are delusional confused and reading that gave me a headache.
2nd video: it’s disgusting how she used her son as a fair exchange for money only for his father to see him for an hour
Damn! I feel for this dude in the 2nd text. She's destroying a little kid who without a father's guidance statistically will suffer without him. Women say they want good men, do they really believe doing shit like this to their father is how to create them?
This is what makes young men lose their way. No offense at all to the strong single mothers out there that genuinely have been abandoned, but a boy can't learn to be a man from a woman, he can only learn that, truly learn that, from another man. Even if they don't have a good father that wants to be there, uncles, older cousins and the big brother program are amazing things that don't get enough thanks for stepping in where some of these parents have fallen short. Not enough thanks for the good men, I see you, thank you 😊
He needs to use those text receipts against her. He should challenge her for custody.
He needs to go right to the courts instead of arguing with her getting nowhere.
@@mac1bc sadly the courts are so stacked against men it has to be something extreme to even remotely lead to this
@@Jmoney87000 wow, that's crazy and sad
My kids mother had me dealing wit this nonsense smh using the kids as pawns cause I didn’t want her back…. An when that didn’t work it was time for the court system an because of Covid the courts went down so she used that as a reason for me to not see them smh…. Fast forward the court system put me in a annoying situation but hey I’m still not taking her back…. So she still mad can’t find a man an has brutally hit the wall…. This world has become pitiful especially for relationships
When I was a teen my parents separated.. my dad worked in California and my sisters mom and I lived in Idaho. He would be gone months at a time, but he’d send money for the bills (my mom never paid them and just pocketed the money, our cars got repossessed and our water bill was a year past due) and come back home when his shows were on their off seasons.. but when he was gone my mom moved another man into the house.. (who was on trial for molesting 5 kids, never convicted) and told me and my sisters my dad would beat her, r*pe her, and verbally abuse her. Now my dad wasn’t a great person and he struggled emotionally so his words were always harsh and really hurt but he never beat us or did anything inappropriate.. anyway.. my mom told everyone these lies, everyone we knew believed my dad was some horrible abuser, so when my parents separated I believed my mom (because my dad was gone all the time) she filed restraining orders against him, made all these claims and then one day, dropped me off with him so I could see my sisters, and she left the state with her pedophile bf and went to the OC Zoo.. then being forced to live with my dad, I learned the truth.. I saw he was trying to change, he was opening up emotionally, and all my mom did was lie and abandon her kids because after the divorce she turned to drugs and crime..
Cosigned for my wife's (at the time) car. Got divorced. I was paying child support. And the only time she would let me see our kids was when I also paid her car payment in addition to the child support. Had to get a 2nd job so I could pay her car plus my bills and see my kids
Damn thats so fu im sorry u have to go through that
That first guy must be confused as hell lol
I’m a child of divorced parents from a young age. Thankfully my mom is a decent person and I’ve been lucky enough to have a good relationship with my father, if not an even better one than me and my mother, and I see him quite frequently. Although my parents are annoying to me right now, I have, still, and always will love and appreciate what they do for me.
Protect. Your. SEED. Once you release your seed it's out of your control. So at least make sure that you know where you are planting.
That second story pissed me all the way off, and the only reason why is because my mom's used to do that whenever I was younger. The only time I was ever able to see my dad was whenever I got in trouble in school and I would spend half the summer with him all because she needed a break. She would also use to try to tell me he was a bad dad and that he don't care about me and allow all of her ex-boyfriends to try to tell me that too. Better baby moms kill me like just because the relationship didn't work out doesn't necessarily mean that you have to hold this man from seeing his child on a regular basis especially when you have somebody that wants to be an active role in their life. People need to grow up
There’s a word for the hair situation……..I’ll take it from women. It’s called:
GROOMING
A failed attempt at that🤣
This makes me glad I made it to my 40s with no kids
No regrets bro!!!!
Amen
Same here bro...so grateful
41 no kids and I am completely happy
I had a child in high school 16 years old my girlfriend at the time was 15. With the story I must go on into deep detail so you can understand the type of relationship we really had. We started dating when she was in the eighth grade and I was in a nine. So with that being said we really didn’t see each other , because we were at to different schools. So usually whenever I get home early from school I’ll walk to her school just so I can walk with her while she walk home . ( we stayed in the same neighborhood until we both graduated from high school) One day Im standing outside of school waiting on my gf to be let out . When she came out we started walking as usual until a guy in a cop uniform approached us. And said “ stay tf away from my daughter “ then process to tell his daughter to get in the squad car . Long story short that only made us more driven to see each other . Fast forward a year later . ( keep in mind her father and mother was so strict she wasn’t allowed to have boyfriends with that being said I only saw her at school honestly during passing periods. How our school system is set up out of the mouth we get two days every other week that we go to school late it’s called a late start sometimes class will start at 10:30 or 1130 so with that being said she will act like she’s leaving for school early but instead come over to my house and catch the bus together and go to school later in the day) She get pregnant. And when she found out we were both.. shocked and scared bc we was both kids trying to act grown you know? .. at the time I was scared to tell my mom shit ! And she was also scared she we didn’t tell anyone anything. She manage to hid the pregnancy from her parents for 6 months ! Her parents made her sign up for the high school freshman team basketball . Because that’s what she did she play basketball. So she went to tryouts just so she wouldn’t tell her parents that she was pregnant. During tryouts her coach stopped her and told her what are you doing you’re pregnant she told her basketball coach yeah but my parents doesn’t know. And that’s how the beans got spilled to her parents. I remember her coming to school the next day crying like that day was her last day living on this planet. I asked her was wrong if she replied to said “ my parents wants me to get an abortion they’re going to take me to the doctors office after school today” and when she said that really upset angry “ and I said why they can’t do that are you gonna sit and let them do that to you” she told me she didn’t have a choice. And at that moment I didn’t know she was telling me who she really was as a person at the time . So the next day comes and I see her in the hallway again ( keep in mind at this point in time her parents took her phone actually been taking her phone on and off every time she gets caught talking to me ) she’s happy she tells me her parents can’t make her get the abortion because she’s too late in the pregnancy . So she had to have a baby . All of this occurred in the month of November , towards thanksgiving break she told me her parents will be taking her out of school and homeschooling her until the next following semester. ( oh and I forgot to mention her parents told her to tell me not to tell my mom and my family about the baby) fast forward January 15, 2015 2:08 PM English class last class of the day I get a email on my school laptop from my girlfriend at the time I open up the email and I see pictures of my beautiful son while sitting in class trying to keep my emotions in. She tell me his name and how much she weighed. I knew her parents were still on bullshit because she was communicating with me on her school laptop as well.
Prt 2- hang with me y’all . Fast forward three weeks later first week in February she comes back to school And her presents with me with me was strange and really off almost as if she didn’t know me , and didn’t want to know me . I immediately start asking her when can I see my son. She’s playing around the bush “oh I don’t know soon just soon “ bro when I tell you shit just didn’t feel right with her anymore like in my soul and my spirit I felt that shit. I’ll say towards the end of February I’m 17 at this point and she was going on 16 in March , I was at a family members house chilling with my family an old friend knocked on the door. Asking me to come outside to walk to somebody else crib I said OK cool. The thing was he showed up to my house with two guns. 1 was real the other was fake . He said he was tired of holding both of them and asked me if I can hold one. I said yeah give me the fake one . We took off walking in the snowy weather . As we’re walking a Squad car creeps up on us while walking to our friend house . Stops and Lo and behold it’s my BM father stepping out the squad car lookin to put a 100 yrs ona boy head 😂. So I instantly call my mom And put my phone in my pocket so she could hear and listen to what was going on . And on top of that we ain’t even leave off the block yet we walk 5 houses down the street and got stoped . My mom came down the street after she heard what was goin on . She started to ask my baby mother father who was the cop on the scene that arrested us. He told my mom I was going to jail because I had a gun on me but in all reality the gun was actually fake my friend who had a gun was real and ended up spending 2 weeks in the county. And then that’s when I told my mom about the baby in front of him and my mother . And I remember her father saying these words under his breath ( there goes our plants) after I told my mom about the baby while standing in handcuffs she started crying and turned towards the officer and asked him why didn’t you reach out to me like an adult and tell me and that’s when he made the comment he made under his breath and walked away. By that time it was considered internal affairs because he personally knew me and couldn’t take me down to the police station. So another cop did. Oh and by the way her dad took my phone while he was arresting me I never gave my shit back claims he lost it in the snow somewhere while putting it in his pocket. So this is where things get very interesting go get some popcorn roll up a blunt ,
I’ll say two days after The whole fake gun incident . Me and my mother decided to go to Walmart buy the baby a whole bunch of gear shoes clothes baby bottles whatever she needed whatever he needed and some flowers you you know try to make a peace offering because my mom‘s been dying to see her grandbaby after hearing about him a month after he was born. In the mist of being a Walmart shopping doing all the stuff that we said we were going to do we ran into my babies mother mother ! I turn towards my mom I said Ma that’s my bm mom over there . My mom said OK we’re going to go over there and introduce ourselves . We walked over to the lady and introduce ourselves while she look like she was getting pranked by mtv 🙄 we simply said we would like to see the boy . Man when I tell y’all Karen act up I mean care and act OUT!!!! She started telling us that her daughter didn’t have a baby that her daughter was even in the state right now . Just flipping the whole script started acting crazy. She stop shopping and just left the store then call the police which made matters worse on us because her husband was a “cop” . So fast forward A month later. Sometime in March 2015
@@Kingdmoney98 this a crazy ass story
@@dannystelly4838 it needs to be on lifetime 😂
So let me start with I haven't seen my daughter For about 3 years now before that I fought in court for time with her got my time got hit with a address technicality that didn't exist so I lost all the time that I built and I worked hard to get And had to start building it backup again Then I moved to Tennessee to better my life with my new wife When I told her I moved out of state she stopped speaking to me Would not let me talk to my daughter Every birthday and Christmas I message her mom and I get a read message no response I was telling her Happy Birthday and I miss her love her And merry Christmas no luck talked to a lawyer and was told if I would have to move back to where she lives to get my time back I can't do that I have my other daughter with anther women I'm helping to take care of and me and her mom communicate very well it hurts everyday I can't be in her life even more since my father walked out on me and my family when I was young and I did not want my kids to feel that same pain.
There's more just so much to type
I feel so sorry for you. She's a terrible woman and doesn't realize that she's hurting the child. she's doing all this so she could feel better about herself. It's selfish.
Your so right controlling as well
Sadly, I knew exactly what the first girl meant when she said I need my hair done too. So horrible to even ask for all that and you don’t even know the guy. The audacity of that girl.
Crazy thing is, there are guys out there that will go along with her antics. I just think it’s tacky.
No no no no NO. The sheer audactiy to walk around with this amount of entitlement.... The control these women are attempting to exercise is a level of delusion tantamount to insanity. WTAF though? My dudes - stay vigilant. She is not the prize...a healthy, kind, emotionally stable relationship is. Don't get caught up in the WOMAN, stay focused on the GOAL. The second a woman treats you as though you owe her something, drop her. Don't ever treat a woman like she owes you anything either because she never feels she does and will keep score. If she treats ANYONE (her friends, her boss, strangers, her dog) with more respect than she gives you, DROP her because considering the weight of the investment you put in of your time, effort, money, affection, etc., the only people who will ever have invested even as close to as much in her and a relationship with her would be her parents. Keep an even closer eye on how she treats THEM. That will tell you all you need to know about how entitled she TRULY is.
I definitely know how he feels. Been dealing with a similar situation for years. Ignored emails and blocked phone number. Trying to avoid going back to court. However, custody modifications are what's going to happen. You are correct @Artofkickz there are a lot of guys going through this daily. We have to unite and demand legal changes. It's the only way that we as men and fathers will have peace and our children will have an opportunity to get the needed love and guidance from us men. Stay strong fellas.
I pay child support.
I see my child once a week for dinner and every other weekend.
We have a patenting plan we both signed and I get my child every other holiday.
On the parenting plan Christmas and Christmas eve are separate holidays.
We've been rocking the same plan for 5 years now but this year(2021) it was an issue. Thanksgiving week i had my child for Wed dinner, Thurs Thanksgiving, and my scheduled weekend when I suggested to jus make it a long weekend some that translated to I should lose time wit my child, so I opted to stick to the plan and do the whole back and forth dance.
Shortly before Christmas eve i was asked what should my child be dropped off to me.
I reminded her that I have her Christmas and it's my weekend.
I was told I could have my child Christmas eve or not at all and I should never have my child for Christmas since I don't even celebrate it.
I was not allowed to have my child until 6pm (the parenting plan states holidays end at 6 pm) when I should've had my child since 9 am. In appreciative of any and all time I get wit my child however my child does not live wit me and I'm always there for whatever my child needs, I jus don't is fair to make things more difficult then they need to be for someone trying to be a part of their child's life. Now had I shown up and showed out I'd be in jail🤬
These women hate men and think we all nothing but dogs but it's them that make us like that. I'm not excusing bad behavior however I can sympathize when i hear what some men do. Sometimes I feel like I'm made to feel like I'm not doing the most or the best I can if I'm not robbing a bank in the name of my child🤦🏾♂️
It’s a fucked up situation and there’s no accountability for it
This is crazy. Keep up the good content AOK.
It's so strange to me to assume a boyfriend/date would pay for my haircut, that kind of thing.. 🤔
And the second story.. smh. Selfishness 😥
You see what we have to deal with. The ego is insane.
Right like type of shit is that
There are two things happening with that first text: she assumed a guy would want to pay, and she got mad cause her expectations were different than reality while not putting in any effort to guide it... It's like buying a bag of coal, throwing it outside in a heatwave, and being mad at the bag for not producing diamonds.
Second text shows that he is trying hard, and I hope he could use that to at least increase his visitation.
Much love bro, keep up the great work and bringing us the content!
If woman is making me jump through loops to see my kid, then i'm out. That kid is just another Bill. These women are lucky more men aren't just offing them, but the numbers of that happening will increase.
Bro fight to get full custody or something at least
Kids still a bill.
Although its your own fault it exists to begin with assuming it's actually yours.
Actions have consequences but that does not change the fact a kids a bill.
@@MorningStar-1199 Nope it isn't worth it, these women drive these men insane. The most I would do is document everything, so when that child grows up and wants to understand why daddy say "f*ck it", they will have all the evidence and hopefully see how insane their mother was.
@@fotis3v480 crazy how women can opt out of being mothers but a father can't i still question why women get away with paternity fraud.
@@shiningdragon8737 whereas i don't agree with giving up, i do appreciate that you'd at least document things just in case your child goes looking for you. the kid could grow up thinking that you chose to leave him and not think his mother is in fault and it'll be nice for him to know that although he didn't have his father, at least it wasn't because his father didn't want him.
To any man who sees this. Do better when you meet a women take your time making sure she meets eye to eye with you on every aspect. If she doesn’t leave her behind.
Its so heartbreaking to see this young man have to beg and bribe to see his child. It's not fair. Ladies, without this man you wouldn't have the kids, please stop doing this to men and your children. You don't seem to realize the long-term effects this has on the children.
Unfortunately these women don’t look at the child as a child they look at kids as child support and tax write offs.
You're right, I've been watching over the years. It's so sad. @@nessalizeth
Ended up having to walk away from a genuinely abusive relationship I was in with my ex, I haven't seen my kid in three years, has me twisted emotionally every single day, tried work out the arrangements between ourselves like decent people, that fell through, so tried with mediation (the "next step" in the UK) tried 4 times and no show, by this time, I was a complete emotional wreck, flashbacks were getting worse due to the stress of having to walk away from starting a family, being messed around by daughters mum, not only before she was born but got progressively worse after she was born, still recovering to this day, and having to learn to live a new way of life and living being so emotionally unstable/vulnerable it's beyond not an easy task, especially the way society is towards those who can't function within it
I just don’t get how and why she is so confident in her crazy idea !? It’s insane!
They all think they’re queens 😂
As a single parent, that mother is disgraceful! 🤬I hope he uses the text as proof for court.
In Argentina we had the Lucio case. Besides the controvertial and gruesome details, the mother of the kid charged a lot of money to the father or grandpa to videochat with the kid.
Looked that case up.
Wow!
You said it perfectly: she's CREATING a problem where there is none. Then tryna blame him smh.
Believe me, he already knew full well what she meant when she said she needed to get her hair done too. He just wasn't goin.
I'm sure there's plenty things she could do to her hair to look perfectly fine and presentable IF seeing him was the main focus. But she's just tryna get something outta the deal. Then has the nerve to call HIM "small-minded"???
Last post was perfect by the dude. He can show that in court. She using her sons for money while holding the son from the father.
I'm so glad it was easier back in the day. If I ever become single again I think I'll stay that way
They pick their targets well don't they? I sincerely hope all women don't think every man they meet will stand for being extorted like this. If this is sincerely what they expect from every man, then they're in for a collective rude awakening. In some instances, a violent rude awakening. Playing games with a man's son like this can have...unpleasant consequences for a female. Not everyone is reasonable...
My mom kept me from my Dad after I was born. I never knew him until I was 21. From my experience, I've come to realise that a woman can't raise a man and as a male, there are some things only a man can teach you, a lot of stuff I had to learn on my own. I made a lot of mistakes suffered a lot of emotional scars. When I met my old man for the first time he broke down we're good though.
More women need to hear this from a child who experienced it (not calling you a kid, bro.) So many women really they do can do just as good a job raising a boy into a man but never hear it from the sons they actually attempt it with, smh.
@@ManOfYah-work-in-progress The reason I said they can't is beacause there some emotional female habits that are internalized by the young man as a result of not being exposed to the presence of man in the house. Often times this result in them being argumentative, feminine, or emotional.
I’m not a religious person but I hope there’s a hell because the type of women that do this not only to the fathers but their children is devastating for future relationship with their fathers. my mother was the same way to my father and I hated him for so long because of all the lies my mother would tell me. just as an example of the type of stuff she would do she would throw away my father‘s Christmas presents and tell me that he didn’t get me anything my mother is severely mentally ill and now I have an awesome relationship with my father that I never would’ve thought would be possible. It just sucks because my father‘s health isn’t too well and I don’t know how much more time we’re going to have together which is why it makes me so angry to hear that there is mothers out there that do this just out of spite and don’t think about the Best future for their children.
He gets off at six and still has to get to her. She says "an hour", so you lookin at 7:30-8:00 before he's gone.
What things do you have to do with a kid on the late? "We've got things to do later"....what, ballroom dancing? Smh hateful people man.
The second case really resonates with me.
My mother moved us hundreds of miles away from my father and a lot of family when I was really young. She raised me to believe he was a pos and she was an innocent victim.
Fast forward to my 30's and I was finally able to have a relationship with my father. Only to find out that he is, and has always been, a decent dude. Things just didn't work out with them. Dispite all the poison she put in my head about him over the years, he's never had a negative thing to say about her to me.
Now...even though I love my mother, I also resent her a bit, and it's hard to hide. Because of her, I grew up fatherless and in a strange place. Despite the lies telling them otherwise, the truth is: A woman is not equipped to raise a boy to be a man, on her own. I had to learn from the neighborhood and TV/music. She tried...she's college educated and even has her doctorate. But I missed so much about being a man, by not having my father in my life.
I can't put all the blame on her though...that's what was championed in her time. She was taught to be a strong black woman who doesn't need a man. We need put an end to this destructive mindset.
Nahh bro.. I ain’t tripping, you already did this reaction 🤯
I'm surprised you didn't mention the all capitalized "YOU" in the sentence: "YOU want to see me?"
The amount of ego to suggest that he, of all people, wishes to enter her presence for an evening of courtship is not a red flag; it's the whole red carpet. She might as well have said that she is superior to him.
In 2017 When I was in the army my ex got pregnant and her best friend told me about it and I guess my ex thought I was going to stay with her but I told her I didnt need to be with her toy be there for my kid and she said I did because she's the mother she gets to decide who's our daughter father no matter what I told her she truly believed that so I decided to fight to be in my kid life the army would not allow me to do what I needed to do that and after a while of me being depressed and angry my Sgt decided to help me get out but when I got out I really didnt have anything to my name so I worked to get a lawyer and a house but not mowing were they were mad it even harder and back then the last time me and ex talked she told me if I didn't fight for her she would not make me pay child support f uck that id rather pay and. In 2021 my kid step dad brought my kid to me after seeing how she is with there 2 kids and her other kid I should probably say she has 4 kids three baby dadys but anyway I finally have my kid and just waiting for court to get full custody
I wish a woman would ask me to get her hair done for a date. Want me to brush your teeth for you too? Daily grooming is a personal responsibility.
"We have things to do later" is bullshit. Nothing going on with your small child after 730pm.
I got a crazy story about my sons mother's, they are best friends but one happens to be a child predator and the friend took up her side and let her rape her little brother, which I was a victim at 17 yrs old and she was older... but cops wouldn't arrest her cause she is native and hide out on the reservation for years and I never was able to be a Dad. But the courts still allowed her to file for child support.. so me and her friend hooked up out of spite ,then she became pregnant and holding our child hostage from me and I never met him or have a bond with him. But she was doing it out of spite cause I was trying to see my my oldest son and put his mother in jail after finding out she molested her friend 14 yr old brother!!.
It took me half hour to read first line and still can't
Native reservation have their own govy so... Good luck with that nottrying b rude but this one here is easier said than done good luck tho hoping u succeed.
Damn im sorry for everything ur going through i hope one day ur sons come to u
Yea, but now I was dealing with some much mentally and emotionally, I broke down and just gave up. Up and moved to Las Vegas to pursue my cooking career as a chef! But thank you for the blessings 🙌
@@torymann4174 no I gave up 3 years ago, he is 21 or 22 now. And the other is 17.
My guy, you are based af. You got my sub! Love it!
let 2022 be a year when you focus on yourself and leave these used up broads to the streets
He needs a child support lawyer a very good child support lawyer and he needs to get his child support set at the lowest minimum
I gotta pay to get your hair done before youre going to go out on a date with me? The FIRST time? lol im good
I was that kid. My mom kept us from our father. I didn't know about it until I was much older and my maternal grandmother explained it all to me. By that time, I had no interest in having a relationship with my father. He's just some guy to me and the relationship with my mother has been strained for some time. We haven't spoken in 6 years.
Straight clown shoes. I have never, literally never even thought of treating a guy like the way these "women" treat these men. It blows my mind every time when AOK makes these amusing, though sad, posts. What rocks are these guys finding these "women" under 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
its becoming standard female behaviour, because men enable it, Women only do what men allow them to do.. and because most men are ignored by women , they will let women get away with murder in return for regular kitty.
It's getting to the point where this is standard operating procedure from most women nowadays.
I´m happy my mom and dad had a fine relationship after they split up, nothing like this never happened.
But frustrating to think so many go through this!
Stop letting these females extort you. If she pulls stuff like this just move along. That child belongs to the game now.
Your disgust with their writing and grammar makes me happy. Thank you.
when i was 3 my mother and father separated because my mother wanted to move north but my dad wanted to stay in the south where the family was. she got the divorce and packed up the car with me and my brother and took us up north to stay with my grandmother (keep in mind at the time my dad was my whole world). after that and us not really having any phones or any way o contact my dad for a few years it eventually got to the point where we got to go see him once a year for either christmas or thanksgiving later on but those first few years was just a build up of resentment because she took us away from him. now at 26 my relationship with my father is fine and my relationship with my mother is JUST NOW starting to mend to the point where its not uncomfortable to say "i love you" when getting of the phone with her.
she also told me that my passion for beatbox was annoying cause im practicing all the time and she always thought it was stupid when its something i absolutely love
Woman who use their children as leverage make my blood boil. I've been through this. I ended up spending around 10k in legal fees. She dragged my name through the mud. Saying I was abusive, manipulative cheater and what not which were all lies. She was the abusive 1, she was the 1 who cheated while I was at work yet nothing was said after all that come to light. I almost lost my job because of these allegations but luckily I had an employer who knew what kind of person I am and the character I have. But after all her lies she wasn't prosecuted or anything. The court acted like it didn't even happen. I ended up getting visitation rights which was amazing and spent a lot of quality time with my son. The first visit I had with him was about a year since we had seen each other so he was a little hesitant which I thought was strange. Only to find out she had been telling him that I was the 1 who didn't want to see him and that I had told her that I didn't love him which broke my heart. I can't understand why these woman aren't held accountable for their actions yet me are to the highest standards. It blows my mind.
My mother played the same game with my father. Fed me nothing but lies. My father is now deceased. I found out the truth. We aren’t on speaking terms. On top of her being a part time mother, I was raised by Grandparents. For the guilt of not being there consistently growing up (In which her main focus was her new husband. Smh) She now sides with my son’s mother on everything. Leaving me powerless as a authority figure to my son. She oversteps her boundaries as a Grandparent, & her excuse is “he didn’t ask to be here”. I’m like where was that energy when was I growing up. You tryin to assume position on my child whom I’m invested in. Despite a high court ordered child support that’s been in place since 2004. She still oversteps it. My son’s mother has used this to her advantage. In so many words, they are peas of the same pod. Making up lies… difference is now, my son has access to receipts to see the real truth. But refuses to see it for what it is because they have him blinded. The ugly cycle continues.
as a 35 year old man, with two wives that are 29 and 27, i've absolutely no issues within the dating scene. regularly dating women between 20-40. the types of people you attract only speaks to your own character.
Yup... I dealt with this with my mom & dad growing up. My mom constantly bashing, teasing, & bad mouthing him to me to the point to where she had me thinking that he was a lying idiot (this is through the late 80s-early 2000s). As I grew up & learned for myself, he was none of that.
8:08 this is what happened to my sister and I. Now we live with our dad and don’t even talk to our mom
First thing you do in a toxic relationship is lower the temperature, The way that you lower the temperature is you find that even tone voice. This is going to be tone and damenor you are always going to use with your baby moma always and everytime you communicate with her. This is the basis for never ever let her see you sweat.
Bruhhh I got testimony for real especially when it comes to relationships and crazy scenarios for real 💯
Just FYI people you don't have to live up to other people's expectations/ social media expectations.. we all like what we like just have enough integrity to take responsibility for the decisions you've/we've made that put us in situations/positions that we could've avoided .... At least she was explained how she felt/ thought before hand.. people we have to ask questions
It happened to me. My ex husband was really spiteful. I paid child support. Sometimes, I didn't see my babies for 6 months to almost a year. When I finally got custody, he only paid twice. The case was closed last year. He never paid.
1st girl: I just hope no dude thinks she’s so fine he’ll put up with this mess.
2nd girl: That child will grow up and tell her about herself. More fathers need to document everything and file for custody. Let her see how it feels to run everything by you and pay you child support.
Women like this are despicable. They wanna be vengeful and who loses in the end? The children.
Despite the relationship status of the father of my child . My journey with this pregnancy I kept telling him to be involved and went to keep seeing him, he was telling me how much he wanted to be involved I told him hey I have an appointment on Whatever day he said ok he didn’t ask what time nor where, he wants to be there, when he wants to, he said he gonna take me to court. I said u go do that, and I’ll request child support, but if u don’t take me to court I’m not going to ask you for anything. I told him I will tell our kid the truth and let them make the decision I’m not bitter, even though u putting me in a f**ed up situation. I told him U can’t pick and chose when u wanna be there for your kid.
This video hit home for me...I was with a woman for 4 years had 2 kids with her and I haven't seen my son's in almost a year why idk she stopped responding to me 6 months ago after I let her know that the boys had a new little brother on the way...and befor that when I was in town I'd let her know when I was getting in town (I live a state away) and when I'd be leaving and she would only respond after the time I said I'd be back in the road...females are a trip