Hey, friends! Today's interview is with my friend Jake Ward who is a 31-year-old trans guy (FTM female-to-male) from Chicago. He began his transition at 16---just a kid. He sits down with me to share his wonderful story about gender dysphoria, his top and bottom surgery, hysterectomy, and lots more. Including all the trials and tribulations through his life so far. Please leave some love for Jake in the comments! He is a great guy. Love, Buck
Buck, thank you for bringing us a story of success in someone's life through this very difficult journey that many of you experience. I'm grateful to see how joyful this young man is and how incredible the quality of life can be when the medical things are handled properly.
Here representing other Chicago LGB non gender activists..... if I'm not mistaken, Jake is talking about the COH lgbt space. They're SUPER WOKE and i too feel ostracized by the Chicago lgbt community. I haven't been to a pride event or parade in years because everything panders to the genderqueer crowds now. And us Bisexuals are being mislabeled as pan and nonbinary by default 😮💨
I'm a 71 year old straight woman who is trying very hard to understand. I am so grateful to people like you two. At first I struggled but listening to you guys, Blair WHite, Marcus etc has helped me "get it". You both seem so "normal" which is unfortunately not something we see very often in the trans community. Kudos to you both!
Kudos to you for trying your best to navigate this disastrous mess. It can be daunting, especially when the negativity starts flying from those pushing the nonsensical stuff Buck and Co. speak out against.
@@CommanderRedEXESome people can handle themselves in a china store, others can’t. Buck, Blair, Marcus, and Jake are able to. These are the people who set the standard. While many others are the children who figuratively should be kept on a leash. Perhaps I’m being harsh but, I think my viewpoint comes across clear. ✌️
There are MANY of us just like Buck, Blaire, and Marcus. Many of us are very sensible and normal people. It's just such a a big step to stand up and be heard, knowing the type of insane backlash you may be from the activists. Our community has been hijacked. So much so that us sensible trans people have all but abandoned it.
I am a 72 y/o 2nd wave feminist: I have always supported transsexuals and I continue to support transsexuals. I also staunchly support gay & lesbian civil liberties. Like you, I was very confused over the growing insanity that is happening in what is being called the ‘transgender community’. But, as my confusion cleared, I became HORRIFIED at how this cult ideology has captured not just social media, but our schools, our courts, and our medical professions. I do not support ‘queer theory’, I do not support AGPs incursion into women’s spaces & their appropriating the definition of ‘womanhood’, & I emphatically do not support ‘transing’ children & adolescents who may merely be sexually confused, autistic or sexually traumatized young men & women. It is very clear to me that much of what we are seeing today has little to do with genuine transsexualism.
I'm a Christian transwoman. My experience is that nobody hates you personally as long as you behave normally and are nice to other people. That's not actually rocket science.
I completely agree! Sadly, it seems like the trans community has been taken over by AGPs, which is a sexual fetish and not a medical condition at all. But secondly, on a totally separate note, as a fellow Christian-(not by the churches or the “religion” but by walking with Christ)- I do wonder how you reconcile God’s design for this world with how you choose to walk through it…? I know that is such a touchy question, and I hope you understand that I mean absolutely no disrespect at all! I’m just genuinely curious. If this is something you don’t want to talk about, of course I completely respect that and apologize if I have made you uncomfortable by asking; but on the off chance that you do feel comfortable opening up, I would love to hear your personal perspective… ❤
Buck, why are my comments being deleted? Are you aware of this? What I had said was, “I completely agree! Sadly, it seems like the trans community has been taken over by AGPs, which is a sexual fetish and not a medical condition at all. But secondly, on a totally separate note, as a fellow Christian-(not by the churches or the “religion” but by walking with Christ)- I do wonder how you reconcile God’s design for this world with how you choose to walk through it…? I know that is such a touchy question, and I hope you understand that I mean absolutely no disrespect at all! I’m just genuinely curious. If this is something you don’t want to talk about, of course I completely respect that and apologize if I have made you uncomfortable by asking; but on the off chance that you do feel comfortable opening up, I would love to hear your personal perspective… ❤”
Was there something you found to be blatantly offensive or against community guidelines? This isn’t the first, second, nor even third time that this has happened on your channel… I’m just trying to figure out what’s up
Buck I was a they/them before finding you and Blaire and now Marcus ! I love you guys, you helped me deprogram myself. I almost did hormones and other things, I AM SO GLAD I DID NOT. And now I am on the outside looking in, I didn't see at first the 'cult' aspect. But as I kept watching your videos I was like OMG THIS IS A CULT. This isn't the LGBT i grew up with (i am 29 now born in 94 from chicago ) I would love to come talk about my experiences and connect the dots with you.
Same! I got stuck in that rabbit hole but thankfully never considered hormones. I’m so glad I got out of it. Folks of the LGBT community nowadays are some of the most nastiest, vilest and narcissistic people I’ve ever met
This. Like with gender activists, it's a very vocal minority of Christians (we remember you, Westboro...) giving all Christians a bad name. I still remember when an entire church of Christians blocked a funeral of a gay teen to keep it safe from the crazies giving their religion a bad name. I've also noticed more and more Christians learning more about Islam and vice versa, causing somewhat reduced tensions but also an alliance against the madness to protect the children. I'm not religious myself, but I still respect those who are.
Everyone needs a safe support group of people with shared experience. How about renaming groups to 'Post op Trans', show us your scars to get invited. 😮
I transitioned at age 19. I thought my parents hated me because they didn't want me to, and I didn't care to foster a relationship with them. Come a few years later, they've cared for me after my top surgery, I've moved away and found an amazing man who I plan to spend my whole life with, and I think it just took space and visible success to them that this one aspect of myself doesn't define me, and that I can have a good life regardless. We have an amazing relationship now.
Glad you were able to repair that relationship. I think the discourse being pushed by the gender activists giving everyone a bad name had caused many, myself as well at times, to want to just give up on LGB/T people entirely due to bow absurd some of this stuff has become. Doesn't help the medical industry is starting to push misinformation around how safe hormones and puberty blockers actually are in the long term, along with all the other misinformation in general around Transgender/Transsexuals. This channel and a few others have helps me remember why I fight for my LGB/T friends who don't buy into this nonsense either and help them spread more accurate information.
I finally feel like grownups are in the room. I am 75 yo and when through my own doubts in th 70s. I developed gender disphoria after undergoing aversion therapy in 1969 and I believe it really "F"d" me over. I've been drug free for 41 years and I am truly grateful for the content and sanity of this channel and many others.
I just want to add, Buck, I'm a Christian, from an Irish Catholic family. I think you're fantastic! You're a human, and deserve love and respect, just like any other person. I don't care about your being trans, I don't care about sexuality. I care about people being decent.
In the most affirming way possible, I would not have been able to clock either one of you if I didn't already KNOW that you two were trans. Thank you for giving Jake a space to speak!
I’m a Christian and a fan of your channel Buck. We are all just people. People are so divided nowadays. Keep speaking up for common sense and hopefully things will get better!! 🙏🏻
I'm in Awe of Jake, coming out at school, that would of been my worst nightmare! So great to hear your guests talk so much sense and highlight how crazy trans has become these days. ❤
@americasmomloveeveryonenoe7517 you hit the nail on the head. I always say I am an extremely rare exception. Almost all of the younger folks that think they should transition should definitely not be going down this path. I was given the go ahead for medical transition after multiple years of therapy and it was determined that I was definitely experiencing severe dysphoria. Starting at a younger age is not what made my transition successful. My transition was successful because I’m actually trans and needed to alleviate my dysphoria.
Woah, I never would have guessed at all he was formerly female! Often you can see hints of the former sex.. but his is one of the better. It’s the voice too. Not even a hint of feminity!
I was a Tomboy also but I felt like a girl, I just hated that I got put into a box as a kid. I am not trans and I think it's important to realise in our society that not every Tomboy is Trans and some Tomboys are actually Transgender.
ME TOO, there must be thousands of us. Growing up during 60 ties and in Europe I was also spared this particular "madness of crowds".... The older I got the clearer it was to me I belonged to female space.
You are doing priceless work, Buck. I am European myself and the culture is different here. We have some "wokism" but the majority of people on the left are not as extreme as in the U.S. I cannot imagine the amount of hatred you get for simply providing a rational perspective. You are appreciated, even overseas ❤
This reminds me so much of my cousin. She's a trans woman in her 30s. She didn't medically transition until her 20s, but she did socially transition in her teens and went through a lot of therapy and medical evaluation prior. Just like this guy, she said that it was challenging for sure, but she feels it was important both for herself and her family to make sure that this was her and what she truly wanted. And also like this guy, she feels that too many kids (and a lot of adults) these days are being automatically "validated" and rushed to transition, and it's ultimately to their own detriment.
Jake is an awesome person. Very open, down to earth and very good looking to. I'm happy all of his surgeries went well and that he's happy and strong. Thank you for introducing another amazing person to us.❤
I, too, am a Christian and simply love your channel, Buck. You talk sense and the truth with love as it should be. Very fascinating and inspiring interviews, etc. You are a voice for the good in this lost world
My heart melted when he said “I’m a Christian” and not because he’s trans, just because it was nice to hear it, we don’t hear that anymore! I’m a Christina and I love you both! ❤❤❤❤❤
These are the kind of people that help the trans community. This is excellent representation. Thank you, Buck. I really enjoyed this interview. Jake's awesome 😊
i have never in my life related to someone with being a transexual as much as i have with jake's story. many of his experiences are almost identical to my own. tomboy throughout childhood, found out about and realized i was trans in middle school, got on T near the end of my sophomore year in hs, and got top surgery at 18. i'm almost 20 now, and listening to his story has given me so much more hope as someone who identifies more as a transexual rather than the ""umbrella term"" transgender. and i also have a transwoman gf haha. i hope one day more of our voices will be heard
Jake's story is amazing. Your's also , Buck! I really hope young people are watching this content. This is the truth being spoken here...Thank you Buck and Jake. Peace!!
I love Buck from all of his appearances on other youtube channels, so happy he has his own channel now so I can just binge watch more of his content 😭❤️
I don't know which is bigger, Buck: Your head OR your heart. I so appreciate your open-mindedness (hence the big head) and the warmth you exude. You're a cool dude with a great TH-cam channel. Thanks bunches.
What a great interview Jake and Buck. I am super supportive of your community and retaining it authenticity. Not burying it under this crazy narrative that is being perpetuated. I applaud you both for your courage and inspiration in being exactly who you are and grounded in it. Much love
I comment as i am watching and Jake is so cool and honest.I love this interview and remember watching "Rocky"when it came out and Jake has the same qualities as someone fighting to be a winner and appreciating those qualities in Rocky too. Loving the honesty !
So refreshing to watch your show, Buck. It feels like a return to sanity, to normalcy. Just good old fashioned common sense. Great show guys. Thank you to you both.
I've been following you Buck forever, I'm a gay dude myself and I'm such a huge fan. This was such a great conversation - I really hope more trans men come forward and more of these conversations happen. I loved hearing Jake's story (he's such a handsome lad too!).
this was such a great interview. The interviewee was very knowledgeable about his experience and it was great to hear his point of view without a lot of speculation or soapboxing, just the truth and facts. please more interviews like this!
Obviously you two are very open about transitioning, and I've watched your channel, but its still jarring to hear you guys talk about getting hysterectomies. I look at you and Jake and just see dudes! 😂 You are both beautiful people and love these wonderful interviews ❤️
Trans male Christian here, thank you for this video. I'll admit sometimes I feel like I'm in the wrong for some of my beliefs. It's so nice to see others with some of the same outlooks and opinions. Looking forward to watching more of your content.
Buck is such a good parent to all of the kids and people with identity and gender issues. I love how he is just a great listener with a sound mind. His work is very important. Thank you Buck!
This is such a sensible way to look at things. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I thought I was going crazy because I didn’t agree with how people are behaving.
What an insightful discussion! As a straight 53-year-old woman and educator, I'm dedicated to aiding individuals on their paths of self-discovery, even amidst the complexities of trans ideology. Nonetheless, certain facets seem utterly nonsensical to me. Your guidance in navigating this intricate landscape is truly appreciated. It's reassuring to find my trust in common sense reaffirmed. Thank you Buck and Jake.
Omg I grew up in small town Wisconsin as well! Fellow 90s kid 😆 one of my best friends (still to this day) is gay and got bullied, beat up, taunted in high school. It was really hard to witness…luckily most of the girls in our school stuck up for him 💕
Im a born again Christian, and I fall under the category of people who follow you. I do it respectfully and not out of judgement or spite. All good here, Buck.💪
Ok first, if it matters to you, you two as trans men - congrat-u-fucking-lations because you are not just "passing" you are way beyond! Second, thanks for being "nornal" as in having common sense, dealing with other ppls confusion, not taking everything so serious you have a sht fit on it all. And Buck - love you much, wish we were buddies bc i know we would get along and i love your aura ❤
Buck you mentioned" they couldn't figure out what I needed." This is personal proof of experimentation, voluntary experimentation. This has been an incredible video thanks to you both !
Just Dudes being Bros.Talking about the importance of big changes in their life. And that huge thought and care went into their decisions. I hope people learn from people that have been through it. Thanks for the vid
These institutions better be just as available to assist detransitioners with fully covered procedures via insurance and clinics to undo the damage they’re doing!
Jake you're amazing man! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. My sibling has been struggling since pre-teen(raised in Cali) with gender and identity. That's how as a man loving women I've came to this conversation to understand. If I was as secure in my body and zxuality as you and Buck, I'd likey not been a drug addict or live a life of fear of being rejected from society. Thank you again! You're amazing and very handsome btw😊
Proud of you both for speaking out about this, not just for the protection of your community but for the protection of kids and sending out a warning to people of what their actions can do and how much damage it can cause to kids by transitioning at an early age. Keep up the great work, love it & Jake is an awesome guy too.😎👌
I'm not only a Christian but a PK (preachers kid), my dad was a prison minister. Not only do I love & follow you but my parents do too. We appreciate your realness & the protection of kids. Adults can do as they please. We live in an accepting world. Just leave kids alone & don't ask us to deny reality & we're all good. Keep up the amazing work.
Buck and Jake, you guys are amazing 🥰. Thank you for critical thinking and having emotional intelligence. Education is the key. Parents need to get off that crazy train and be involved and don’t start kids on meds, please 🥰✌️✌️
Jake is a great guy and I wish all happiness for him and his partner, and Buck, as always, you're such a gentleman and a very centered and coherent person.
Hey Buck, just wanted to share that I enjoyed your conversation with Jake. I'm a Christian - and MtF Transsexual. I'm also a Kiwi and insanely jealous of your AllBlacks football in the background Buck.
thank you for sharing your story Jake. Im not trans but my young cousin and a few friends are female to male. So these are always helpful for me to watch and understand what my friends/family is going through. ❤
41/F and teacher here. I'm only half way through the video but two things that have stood out to me so far. 1. I don't understand why so many people and medical professionals think gender affirming care is a good practice. When I got bariatric surgery I had to go through a 6 month approval process that includes getting approval from a psychologist. Why is getting bariatric surgery harder than gender affirming care? And what I mean is it shouldn't be that easy. Good medical care should be more thorough. 2. I am asexual and left that community because I was too "normal" I guess I just didn't fit in as a "cis" "heteromantic" woman. There are so many people in that community that define asexuality as all this and that. It parallels very similarly what you guys are describing. And it's so toxic, I had to leave. By its simplest definition, I'm asexual but I don't call myself that to anyone because online the definition is so confusing and crazy sounding, I don't want to be associated with that. 😔 I'm not trying to say it's the same but it reminds me of my experience trying to find a community. It shouldn't be like that.
I'm also asexual (38/m). I found the online asexual community to be a lot of just socially awkward teenagers seeking validation and approval. They're all in a hurry to define themselves and treat asexuality like it's a personality trait that will make them accepted. It became clear to me that the "community" was just insecure people seeking external validation. I worry that teenagers and young adults aren't exploring their true feelings, but trying to find a box to put themselves in.
@@terminaldeity I would agree with that but there are a surprising amount of older "asexuals" who don't know who they are and they want a label to feel special. Either way, I know I'm ace but I don't need the online community. It would be nice to have some normal ace friends tho.
Thank you for talking so openly about surgery. Microsurgeon is been burnt into my brain in case I need it with my child ❤❤❤ and I am going to save this video for future reference because this really is gold information and experience. This is why unco-opted spaces are so important so these issues can be properly discussed, understood and supported ❤❤❤
As an older straight person, I have been trying to understand this for a while now. I think your program has helped many of us to have an idea of what is happening. Jake you are a wonderful person to come onto a show and be candid about your experiences along the way. I think you pass with flying colors. I am happy for you that you are having a happy life. I have heard so many interviews with people who are sorry and sad and they were not told the truth about what could happen. you are the first to speak about the micro-surgery that I have heard. I think just that alone will help so many people. I guess I was considered a tom boy but I had to help my dad a lot, so I wore boys clothing a lot. I longed to wear pretty dresses and have pretty shoes as a child. Many of the chores I helped my dad with it was better to wear jeans and work boots. So, some of us seem to get the wrong label but I don't regret helping my father at all. Most of all I liked to go fishing with him. You seem like a wonderful young man and I am glad Buck had you on his show.
10:18 as someone whos been through the process in the midwest (in one of the most 'gatekeepy' states according to wokies) i fo believe our systems for this DO need improvement, but i feel like the other statws made the process so relaxed that it is just dangerous. We need it to he more of a serious process, but we also need to be able to open and discuss it. In my area, it took me 3 seperate doctors, the first two takked in circles and constantly wanted to ignore the reason i was even there (and after years of each of them i just moved on becauee clearly we were getting no where. These therapist were also VERY christian) the third one took me seriously and actually helped me, i did end up with a diagnosis after a long time and started transitioning (detransitioned now) but i take that as a fault of my own. The system here was pretry decent at acrually diagnosing and identifying the true reasin for these feelings, but over time i became more comfortable wirh my body. Now, im definitely not like a "guys guy" or anything, i definitely still feel like i think more feminine- qnd ive been told thats the vibes i give off ALL the time by new-ish people to my life- but i dont think i need to medically transition to feel more comfortable anymore. Part of this comes from years of drugs and addiction changing how i thought about life, and part of it is realizing that changing my physical body isnt going to magically fix anything in my life, it may make me feel better, but it isnt a necessity. Just a reminder: not everyone diagnosed wirh gender dysphoria (trans) is going to even benefit from transitioning. Only a % of the small % of trans people that exist will ACTUALLY get benefits and improvements from transitioning. Just because you have gender dysphoria does NOT mean transitioning is whats right for you, and for a lot of people it will make their gender dysphoria (and other mental healrh issues) worse.
I apologize for all the typos, I badly need to get my eyes checked and my new meds mess with my vision a bit. I would go through and correct all the mistakes, but reading through it they're pretty easy to decipher and I am at work currently. Sorry, if I have time later I'll fix it.
Buck, you are such a kind man. I truly enjoy your podcasts! I remember many years ago seeing your films and being a little freaked out, but you are so much more than that. Great job!!
I am so happy I found your videos. As I explained before, my late friend was male to female transition. I learnt a great deal from her on the the subject and you and your guests have helped me understand so much more. Rebecca was a great, very brave person who I was proud to call friend. ❤ Listening to you and your guests has made me wonder how Rebecca came through with little or no support. She had no supportive family, no support system. I think I was the first person to offer support. I'm a heterosexual female, so I was in uncharted territory.
I had no idea how the after effects of your transition were having on you without hormones or how it changed your body chemicals - what an incredible journey you took and what an incredible 'man' you are (I mean no insult) - thanks Buck for sharing your story with us - we all can learn something from it - hard topic to tackle- excellent work - I look forward to your next video - keep teaching us ! 😃👍❤
Love your videos Buck. This interview was another great one. Jake seems like an amazing guy. Congratulations on his engagement. And nothing but blessing's to you both. Keep teaching ppl how true Trans ppl are.
37 yrs old and still a tomboy. Barbies would lose limbs too, only liked "boy things" (they're HUMAN things...) I considered being born in the wrong body around teenage yrs, due to many many factors of society... Never did it. Let tomboys be tomboys etc... humans differ, Im sick of stereotypes, trans idiology affirms stereotypes.....
I love love you buck and all the work you do. Being a tomboy my whole life it scares me to death knowing that other Tom boys are being indoctrinated into becoming trans when really they’re just a Tom boy that needs to grow up to love themselves ! And even if they do decide to grow up and become trans that’s fine but at least grow up first. I truly believe if I were a teenager nowadays, trans would be forced down my throat ! I’m glad I grew up a Tom boy and I’m glad that I figured myself out for myself ! They need to let these kids do the same. It’s okay to be trans but you have to actually be trans to be trans, being a tomboy doesn’t mean you’re trans so thank you for always highlighting that !
I enjoyed this chat so much! Jake was great, Buck is always great. It’s nice to hear the good old common sense approach. I’m also a fan of Blair, she also comes from a good place.
Hey, friends! Today's interview is with my friend Jake Ward who is a 31-year-old trans guy (FTM female-to-male) from Chicago. He began his transition at 16---just a kid. He sits down with me to share his wonderful story about gender dysphoria, his top and bottom surgery, hysterectomy, and lots more. Including all the trials and tribulations through his life so far. Please leave some love for Jake in the comments! He is a great guy. Love, Buck
Loved this one. Love all your videos. You are doing such an important thing for this world. Keep it up!
Buck, thank you for bringing us a story of success in someone's life through this very difficult journey that many of you experience. I'm grateful to see how joyful this young man is and how incredible the quality of life can be when the medical things are handled properly.
Thanks Jake!
Here representing other Chicago LGB non gender activists..... if I'm not mistaken, Jake is talking about the COH lgbt space. They're SUPER WOKE and i too feel ostracized by the Chicago lgbt community. I haven't been to a pride event or parade in years because everything panders to the genderqueer crowds now. And us Bisexuals are being mislabeled as pan and nonbinary by default 😮💨
@@ophilianecr Strange bc I thought they were all about diversity, inclusion, and love... 🤔
I'm a 71 year old straight woman who is trying very hard to understand. I am so grateful to people like you two. At first I struggled but listening to you guys, Blair WHite, Marcus etc has helped me "get it". You both seem so "normal" which is unfortunately not something we see very often in the trans community. Kudos to you both!
Kudos to you for trying your best to navigate this disastrous mess. It can be daunting, especially when the negativity starts flying from those pushing the nonsensical stuff Buck and Co. speak out against.
@@CommanderRedEXESome people can handle themselves in a china store, others can’t. Buck, Blair, Marcus, and Jake are able to. These are the people who set the standard. While many others are the children who figuratively should be kept on a leash. Perhaps I’m being harsh but, I think my viewpoint comes across clear. ✌️
There are MANY of us just like Buck, Blaire, and Marcus. Many of us are very sensible and normal people. It's just such a a big step to stand up and be heard, knowing the type of insane backlash you may be from the activists. Our community has been hijacked. So much so that us sensible trans people have all but abandoned it.
@@Tread1775 Sometimes the truth is a harsh and cruel mistress. Doesn't make your words any less true.
I am a 72 y/o 2nd wave feminist: I have always supported transsexuals and I continue to support transsexuals. I also staunchly support gay & lesbian civil liberties. Like you, I was very confused over the growing insanity that is happening in what is being called the ‘transgender community’. But, as my confusion cleared, I became HORRIFIED at how this cult ideology has captured not just social media, but our schools, our courts, and our medical professions. I do not support ‘queer theory’, I do not support AGPs incursion into women’s spaces & their appropriating the definition of ‘womanhood’, & I emphatically do not support ‘transing’ children & adolescents who may merely be sexually confused, autistic or sexually traumatized young men & women. It is very clear to me that much of what we are seeing today has little to do with genuine transsexualism.
I'm a Christian transwoman. My experience is that nobody hates you personally as long as you behave normally and are nice to other people. That's not actually rocket science.
100%❤
I completely agree! Sadly, it seems like the trans community has been taken over by AGPs, which is a sexual fetish and not a medical condition at all. But secondly, on a totally separate note, as a fellow Christian-(not by the churches or the “religion” but by walking with Christ)- I do wonder how you reconcile God’s design for this world with how you choose to walk through it…? I know that is such a touchy question, and I hope you understand that I mean absolutely no disrespect at all! I’m just genuinely curious. If this is something you don’t want to talk about, of course I completely respect that and apologize if I have made you uncomfortable by asking; but on the off chance that you do feel comfortable opening up, I would love to hear your personal perspective… ❤
Buck, why are my comments being deleted? Are you aware of this? What I had said was,
“I completely agree! Sadly, it seems like the trans community has been taken over by AGPs, which is a sexual fetish and not a medical condition at all. But secondly, on a totally separate note, as a fellow Christian-(not by the churches or the “religion” but by walking with Christ)- I do wonder how you reconcile God’s design for this world with how you choose to walk through it…? I know that is such a touchy question, and I hope you understand that I mean absolutely no disrespect at all! I’m just genuinely curious. If this is something you don’t want to talk about, of course I completely respect that and apologize if I have made you uncomfortable by asking; but on the off chance that you do feel comfortable opening up, I would love to hear your personal perspective… ❤”
Was there something you found to be blatantly offensive or against community guidelines? This isn’t the first, second, nor even third time that this has happened on your channel… I’m just trying to figure out what’s up
Can you help me understand this?
Buck I was a they/them before finding you and Blaire and now Marcus ! I love you guys, you helped me deprogram myself. I almost did hormones and other things, I AM SO GLAD I DID NOT. And now I am on the outside looking in, I didn't see at first the 'cult' aspect. But as I kept watching your videos I was like OMG THIS IS A CULT. This isn't the LGBT i grew up with (i am 29 now born in 94 from chicago ) I would love to come talk about my experiences and connect the dots with you.
Same! I got stuck in that rabbit hole but thankfully never considered hormones. I’m so glad I got out of it. Folks of the LGBT community nowadays are some of the most nastiest, vilest and narcissistic people I’ve ever met
One more person saved from the cult bullshit. 🥰
I never understood the “they/them”. But it’s better than people just calling themselves the demeaning “it”
Didn't you also get a chance to speak on Buck's channel? Glad you found a more sensible approach and a way out of that cult.
Good on you. Cheers.
I'm a Christian and I follow Buck. I definitely would never hate anyone. And Jake is amazing. God bless you both.
This. Like with gender activists, it's a very vocal minority of Christians (we remember you, Westboro...) giving all Christians a bad name. I still remember when an entire church of Christians blocked a funeral of a gay teen to keep it safe from the crazies giving their religion a bad name.
I've also noticed more and more Christians learning more about Islam and vice versa, causing somewhat reduced tensions but also an alliance against the madness to protect the children.
I'm not religious myself, but I still respect those who are.
Thanks friend❤
I’m catholic! I adore people like Buck, Blaire, etc they are doing a lot of hard work to have their voices loudly heard ❤
Love Jake! Love his attitude: "If you weren't born into it, you gotta earn your seat."
Everyone needs a safe support group of people with shared experience. How about renaming groups to 'Post op Trans', show us your scars to get invited. 😮
@@dib4152 …I think you missed the entire crux of this conversation… 🤷♀️
Christian here, straight, old, white lady here. I love you Buck, what you are doing is so good.
Same 😁
Hello Buck. This is gonna be a good one. Im a transexual woman with an 16 year old son. I couldn't imagine him going through what I had to.
I hope this interview helps you ❤
I transitioned at age 19. I thought my parents hated me because they didn't want me to, and I didn't care to foster a relationship with them. Come a few years later, they've cared for me after my top surgery, I've moved away and found an amazing man who I plan to spend my whole life with, and I think it just took space and visible success to them that this one aspect of myself doesn't define me, and that I can have a good life regardless. We have an amazing relationship now.
Glad you were able to repair that relationship. I think the discourse being pushed by the gender activists giving everyone a bad name had caused many, myself as well at times, to want to just give up on LGB/T people entirely due to bow absurd some of this stuff has become.
Doesn't help the medical industry is starting to push misinformation around how safe hormones and puberty blockers actually are in the long term, along with all the other misinformation in general around Transgender/Transsexuals.
This channel and a few others have helps me remember why I fight for my LGB/T friends who don't buy into this nonsense either and help them spread more accurate information.
You mean double mastectomy. I think it’s good to call it what it is.
Hands down one of the best FTM metamorphosis I’ve seen. Very Handsome Man! Seems like a Down to Earth Great Person too!!
I finally feel like grownups are in the room. I am 75 yo and when through my own doubts in th 70s. I developed gender disphoria after undergoing aversion therapy in 1969 and I believe it really "F"d" me over. I've been drug free for 41 years and I am truly grateful for the content and sanity of this channel and many others.
I just want to add, Buck, I'm a Christian, from an Irish Catholic family.
I think you're fantastic! You're a human, and deserve love and respect, just like any other person.
I don't care about your being trans, I don't care about sexuality. I care about people being decent.
In the most affirming way possible, I would not have been able to clock either one of you if I didn't already KNOW that you two were trans. Thank you for giving Jake a space to speak!
Absolutely! It doesn't even enter your head! Like Scott Newgent too and Blaire.
A healthy society protects women and children. An a society that does not is on the brink of collapse.
A healthy society acknowledges that women and children *are* society, and have human rights.
I’m a Christian and a fan of your channel Buck. We are all just people. People are so divided nowadays. Keep speaking up for common sense and hopefully things will get better!! 🙏🏻
I'm in Awe of Jake, coming out at school, that would of been my worst nightmare! So great to hear your guests talk so much sense and highlight how crazy trans has become these days. ❤
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@americasmomloveeveryonenoe7517 you hit the nail on the head. I always say I am an extremely rare exception. Almost all of the younger folks that think they should transition should definitely not be going down this path. I was given the go ahead for medical transition after multiple years of therapy and it was determined that I was definitely experiencing severe dysphoria. Starting at a younger age is not what made my transition successful. My transition was successful because I’m actually trans and needed to alleviate my dysphoria.
Woah, I never would have guessed at all he was formerly female! Often you can see hints of the former sex.. but his is one of the better. It’s the voice too. Not even a hint of feminity!
He still is female, as he would probably say
You two guys are a breath of fresh air.
I was a Tomboy also but I felt like a girl, I just hated that I got put into a box as a kid. I am not trans and I think it's important to realise in our society that not every Tomboy is Trans and some Tomboys are actually Transgender.
Problem is that today tomboys are pushed right onto the trans train
Me too 😊
@@Kinosec-10 no.
ME TOO, there must be thousands of us. Growing up during 60 ties and in Europe I was also spared this particular "madness of crowds".... The older I got the clearer it was to me I belonged to female space.
You are doing priceless work, Buck. I am European myself and the culture is different here. We have some "wokism" but the majority of people on the left are not as extreme as in the U.S.
I cannot imagine the amount of hatred you get for simply providing a rational perspective.
You are appreciated, even overseas ❤
This reminds me so much of my cousin. She's a trans woman in her 30s. She didn't medically transition until her 20s, but she did socially transition in her teens and went through a lot of therapy and medical evaluation prior. Just like this guy, she said that it was challenging for sure, but she feels it was important both for herself and her family to make sure that this was her and what she truly wanted. And also like this guy, she feels that too many kids (and a lot of adults) these days are being automatically "validated" and rushed to transition, and it's ultimately to their own detriment.
Jake is an awesome person. Very open, down to earth and very good looking to. I'm happy all of his surgeries went well and that he's happy and strong. Thank you for introducing another amazing person to us.❤
I, too, am a Christian and simply love your channel, Buck. You talk sense and the truth with love as it should be. Very fascinating and inspiring interviews, etc. You are a voice for the good in this lost world
I'm always so impressed by the guests you bring on
My heart melted when he said “I’m a Christian” and not because he’s trans, just because it was nice to hear it, we don’t hear that anymore! I’m a Christina and I love you both! ❤❤❤❤❤
What a great interview! You both have a very healthy outlook. Thanks for sharing your story.
Christian here! Been following for a while, the work you are doing is so important!
These are the kind of people that help the trans community. This is excellent representation. Thank you, Buck. I really enjoyed this interview. Jake's awesome 😊
i have never in my life related to someone with being a transexual as much as i have with jake's story. many of his experiences are almost identical to my own. tomboy throughout childhood, found out about and realized i was trans in middle school, got on T near the end of my sophomore year in hs, and got top surgery at 18. i'm almost 20 now, and listening to his story has given me so much more hope as someone who identifies more as a transexual rather than the ""umbrella term"" transgender. and i also have a transwoman gf haha. i hope one day more of our voices will be heard
Jake's story is amazing. Your's also , Buck! I really hope young people are watching this content. This is the truth being spoken here...Thank you Buck and Jake. Peace!!
"Be willing to pay the price of admission"! I love that. Thank you Jake!! I love this discussion. Jake has a wonderful attitude and spirit.
*WHAT A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!!! Absolutely fantastic guest and conversation. Thank you, Jake, for your honesty.* 🙏🏻💪🏼
*You are a rock star, Buck!* 👍🏻
You hit the nail on the head! Just live your life! Don't make an issue of being trans if you want to be accepted.
I love Buck from all of his appearances on other youtube channels, so happy he has his own channel now so I can just binge watch more of his content 😭❤️
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I don't know which is bigger, Buck: Your head OR your heart. I so appreciate your open-mindedness (hence the big head) and the warmth you exude. You're a cool dude with a great TH-cam channel. Thanks bunches.
What a great interview Jake and Buck. I am super supportive of your community and retaining it authenticity. Not burying it under this crazy narrative that is being perpetuated. I applaud you both for your courage and inspiration in being exactly who you are and grounded in it. Much love
I comment as i am watching and Jake is so cool and honest.I love this interview and remember watching "Rocky"when it came out and Jake has the same qualities as someone fighting to be a winner and appreciating those qualities in Rocky too.
Loving the honesty !
Buck I see your interview skills improving so much, great job with this interview!
So refreshing to watch your show, Buck. It feels like a return to sanity, to normalcy. Just good old fashioned common sense. Great show guys. Thank you to you both.
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true confidence is quiet, while insecurity is loud.
I've been following you Buck forever, I'm a gay dude myself and I'm such a huge fan. This was such a great conversation - I really hope more trans men come forward and more of these conversations happen. I loved hearing Jake's story (he's such a handsome lad too!).
this was such a great interview. The interviewee was very knowledgeable about his experience and it was great to hear his point of view without a lot of speculation or soapboxing, just the truth and facts. please more interviews like this!
Great interview. Loved his honesty. We need more people like him speaking out.❤
Thank you for watching friend❤
Obviously you two are very open about transitioning, and I've watched your channel, but its still jarring to hear you guys talk about getting hysterectomies. I look at you and Jake and just see dudes! 😂 You are both beautiful people and love these wonderful interviews ❤️
Trans male Christian here, thank you for this video. I'll admit sometimes I feel like I'm in the wrong for some of my beliefs. It's so nice to see others with some of the same outlooks and opinions. Looking forward to watching more of your content.
Thank you Buck for this interview and I look forward to the next one. It was fantastic and Jake is an amazing guy.
These videos are a relief. Truly. We're not losing our minds!!
Buck is such a good parent to all of the kids and people with identity and gender issues. I love how he is just a great listener with a sound mind. His work is very important. Thank you Buck!
This is such a sensible way to look at things. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I thought I was going crazy because I didn’t agree with how people are behaving.
This completely makes sense! Jake is a brave man & so are you Buck! Sending lots of love!!!❤❤❤
Thank you ♥️♥️
Thank you soooo much for this boys!!! finally! Jake ur a legend, so wonderful to see and hear someone normal speak about their experience
What an insightful discussion! As a straight 53-year-old woman and educator, I'm dedicated to aiding individuals on their paths of self-discovery, even amidst the complexities of trans ideology. Nonetheless, certain facets seem utterly nonsensical to me. Your guidance in navigating this intricate landscape is truly appreciated. It's reassuring to find my trust in common sense reaffirmed. Thank you Buck and Jake.
It is SO refreshing to hear informed and grounded conversations about this thank you so much
Omg I grew up in small town Wisconsin as well! Fellow 90s kid 😆 one of my best friends (still to this day) is gay and got bullied, beat up, taunted in high school. It was really hard to witness…luckily most of the girls in our school stuck up for him 💕
Im a born again Christian, and I fall under the category of people who follow you. I do it respectfully and not out of judgement or spite. All good here, Buck.💪
Ok first, if it matters to you, you two as trans men - congrat-u-fucking-lations because you are not just "passing" you are way beyond! Second, thanks for being "nornal" as in having common sense, dealing with other ppls confusion, not taking everything so serious you have a sht fit on it all.
And Buck - love you much, wish we were buddies bc i know we would get along and i love your aura ❤
Wow! Jake’s so handsome, personable and grounded, and that smile. 😍 Wish him continued health and happiness.
Far and away the two most convincing transmen I've ever heard (I'm blind.)
Two great guys! Much love to you both.
This man is so relatable. I feel a real parallel between his story and mine.
One of the best interviews on your channel Buck! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Buck you mentioned" they couldn't figure out what I needed." This is personal proof of experimentation, voluntary experimentation. This has been an incredible video thanks to you both !
Just Dudes being Bros.Talking about the importance of big changes in their life. And that huge thought and care went into their decisions. I hope people learn from people that have been through it. Thanks for the vid
Only part that sucks is im not a big fan of Pregu . Its kinda shit. But you do your thing, have fun.
These institutions better be just as available to assist detransitioners with fully covered procedures via insurance and clinics to undo the damage they’re doing!
I’m a detransitioner and I can confirm that they offer no support for reversing transition lol
Jake you're amazing man! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. My sibling has been struggling since pre-teen(raised in Cali) with gender and identity. That's how as a man loving women I've came to this conversation to understand. If I was as secure in my body and zxuality as you and Buck, I'd likey not been a drug addict or live a life of fear of being rejected from society. Thank you again! You're amazing and very handsome btw😊
Proud of you both for speaking out about this, not just for the protection of your community but for the protection of kids and sending out a warning to people of what their actions can do and how much damage it can cause to kids by transitioning at an early age. Keep up the great work, love it & Jake is an awesome guy too.😎👌
I'm not only a Christian but a PK (preachers kid), my dad was a prison minister.
Not only do I love & follow you but my parents do too.
We appreciate your realness & the protection of kids.
Adults can do as they please. We live in an accepting world.
Just leave kids alone & don't ask us to deny reality & we're all good.
Keep up the amazing work.
Buck, another wonderful interview! Loved it! Thank you, Jake, for sharing your story.
Catholic here! So much respect and love for you and Jake! You’re doing good work
Buck and Jake, you guys are amazing 🥰. Thank you for critical thinking and having emotional intelligence. Education is the key. Parents need to get off that crazy train and be involved and don’t start kids on meds, please 🥰✌️✌️
What a great objective! You seem like a wonderful person. Hi Buck!❤ Love you and love your content and quests. The world needs you 😊
Thanks so much friend 😎
Thank you Buck for this Interview! Jake you are a great guy! Very intelligent and handsome. Wishing you and your fiancé the best🎉
Jake is a great guy and I wish all happiness for him and his partner, and Buck, as always, you're such a gentleman and a very centered and coherent person.
Well done gentlemen. I am seeing and hearing some gold conversations recently. Please don't stop until a healthy safe balance is achieved ❤❤
Hey Buck, just wanted to share that I enjoyed your conversation with Jake. I'm a Christian - and MtF Transsexual. I'm also a Kiwi and insanely jealous of your AllBlacks football in the background Buck.
Omg that was given to me by a person who worked with them when I was there its my treasure! Thanks for noticing ❤
This was a fascinating stream and Jake is a fabulous guest. Hope you have him back, Buck. Wishing nothing but continued success & happiness to Jake.
Thank you for your straightforward, no nonsense, realistic approach to this subject! Loved the interview!
Thank you both for promoting healthy childhoods for children. I think most humans understand this is RARE not a fad to promote for all children. ❤
I really enjoyed listening to this young man.And was so happy to hear him say I'm a Christian. Amen 🙏
thank you for sharing your story Jake. Im not trans but my young cousin and a few friends are female to male. So these are always helpful for me to watch and understand what my friends/family is going through. ❤
41/F and teacher here. I'm only half way through the video but two things that have stood out to me so far.
1. I don't understand why so many people and medical professionals think gender affirming care is a good practice. When I got bariatric surgery I had to go through a 6 month approval process that includes getting approval from a psychologist. Why is getting bariatric surgery harder than gender affirming care? And what I mean is it shouldn't be that easy. Good medical care should be more thorough.
2. I am asexual and left that community because I was too "normal" I guess I just didn't fit in as a "cis" "heteromantic" woman. There are so many people in that community that define asexuality as all this and that. It parallels very similarly what you guys are describing. And it's so toxic, I had to leave. By its simplest definition, I'm asexual but I don't call myself that to anyone because online the definition is so confusing and crazy sounding, I don't want to be associated with that. 😔 I'm not trying to say it's the same but it reminds me of my experience trying to find a community. It shouldn't be like that.
I'm also asexual (38/m). I found the online asexual community to be a lot of just socially awkward teenagers seeking validation and approval. They're all in a hurry to define themselves and treat asexuality like it's a personality trait that will make them accepted. It became clear to me that the "community" was just insecure people seeking external validation. I worry that teenagers and young adults aren't exploring their true feelings, but trying to find a box to put themselves in.
@@terminaldeity I would agree with that but there are a surprising amount of older "asexuals" who don't know who they are and they want a label to feel special. Either way, I know I'm ace but I don't need the online community. It would be nice to have some normal ace friends tho.
I just love Buck, great sense of humor, common sense and fantastic educator❤❤❤
This man has a heart and I’m so happy he has love ❤ he is so strong yet gentle and I hope he continues to follow his bliss. Bless ❤
Thank you for talking so openly about surgery. Microsurgeon is been burnt into my brain in case I need it with my child ❤❤❤ and I am going to save this video for future reference because this really is gold information and experience. This is why unco-opted spaces are so important so these issues can be properly discussed, understood and supported ❤❤❤
As an older straight person, I have been trying to understand this for a while now. I think your program has helped many of us to have an idea of what is happening. Jake you are a wonderful person to come onto a show and be candid about your experiences along the way. I think you pass with flying colors. I am happy for you that you are having a happy life. I have heard so many interviews with people who are sorry and sad and they were not told the truth about what could happen. you are the first to speak about the micro-surgery that I have heard. I think just that alone will help so many people. I guess I was considered a tom boy but I had to help my dad a lot, so I wore boys clothing a lot. I longed to wear pretty dresses and have pretty shoes as a child. Many of the chores I helped my dad with it was better to wear jeans and work boots. So, some of us seem to get the wrong label but I don't regret helping my father at all. Most of all I liked to go fishing with him. You seem like a wonderful young man and I am glad Buck had you on his show.
10:18 as someone whos been through the process in the midwest (in one of the most 'gatekeepy' states according to wokies) i fo believe our systems for this DO need improvement, but i feel like the other statws made the process so relaxed that it is just dangerous. We need it to he more of a serious process, but we also need to be able to open and discuss it. In my area, it took me 3 seperate doctors, the first two takked in circles and constantly wanted to ignore the reason i was even there (and after years of each of them i just moved on becauee clearly we were getting no where. These therapist were also VERY christian) the third one took me seriously and actually helped me, i did end up with a diagnosis after a long time and started transitioning (detransitioned now) but i take that as a fault of my own. The system here was pretry decent at acrually diagnosing and identifying the true reasin for these feelings, but over time i became more comfortable wirh my body. Now, im definitely not like a "guys guy" or anything, i definitely still feel like i think more feminine- qnd ive been told thats the vibes i give off ALL the time by new-ish people to my life- but i dont think i need to medically transition to feel more comfortable anymore.
Part of this comes from years of drugs and addiction changing how i thought about life, and part of it is realizing that changing my physical body isnt going to magically fix anything in my life, it may make me feel better, but it isnt a necessity.
Just a reminder: not everyone diagnosed wirh gender dysphoria (trans) is going to even benefit from transitioning. Only a % of the small % of trans people that exist will ACTUALLY get benefits and improvements from transitioning. Just because you have gender dysphoria does NOT mean transitioning is whats right for you, and for a lot of people it will make their gender dysphoria (and other mental healrh issues) worse.
I apologize for all the typos, I badly need to get my eyes checked and my new meds mess with my vision a bit. I would go through and correct all the mistakes, but reading through it they're pretty easy to decipher and I am at work currently. Sorry, if I have time later I'll fix it.
Buck, you are such a kind man. I truly enjoy your podcasts! I remember many years ago seeing your films and being a little freaked out, but you are so much more than that. Great job!!
And Jake was a great guest!! Thanks Jake!! 😊😊
I am so happy I found your videos. As I explained before, my late friend was male to female transition. I learnt a great deal from her on the the subject and you and your guests have helped me understand so much more. Rebecca was a great, very brave person who I was proud to call friend. ❤
Listening to you and your guests has made me wonder how Rebecca came through with little or no support. She had no supportive family, no support system. I think I was the first person to offer support. I'm a heterosexual female, so I was in uncharted territory.
I had no idea how the after effects of your transition were having on you without hormones or how it changed your body chemicals - what an incredible journey you took and what an incredible 'man' you are (I mean no insult) - thanks Buck for sharing your story with us - we all can learn something from it - hard topic to tackle- excellent work - I look forward to your next video - keep teaching us ! 😃👍❤
Love your videos Buck. This interview was another great one. Jake seems like an amazing guy. Congratulations on his engagement. And nothing but blessing's to you both. Keep teaching ppl how true Trans ppl are.
37 yrs old and still a tomboy. Barbies would lose limbs too, only liked "boy things" (they're HUMAN things...)
I considered being born in the wrong body around teenage yrs, due to many many factors of society...
Never did it.
Let tomboys be tomboys etc... humans differ, Im sick of stereotypes, trans idiology affirms stereotypes.....
Great convo. Glad to see people like Jake, helping show reality and being able to live his life on his own terms.
Love this guest! I appreciate his point of view! Have him back soon buck! ❤️
I'm a Christian and we absolutely need more voices like yours❤️. Thank you
I am Christian, and yes, you guys are both awesome. Good to know that we aren't always portrayed as hateful and judgmental. Love conquers.
Wow! Just Wow. I am so impressed and encouraged by your conversation and candidness. Keep up the good work guys!
I love love you buck and all the work you do. Being a tomboy my whole life it scares me to death knowing that other Tom boys are being indoctrinated into becoming trans when really they’re just a Tom boy that needs to grow up to love themselves ! And even if they do decide to grow up and become trans that’s fine but at least grow up first. I truly believe if I were a teenager nowadays, trans would be forced down my throat ! I’m glad I grew up a Tom boy and I’m glad that I figured myself out for myself ! They need to let these kids do the same. It’s okay to be trans but you have to actually be trans to be trans, being a tomboy doesn’t mean you’re trans so thank you for always highlighting that !
I enjoyed this chat so much! Jake was great, Buck is always great. It’s nice to hear the good old common sense approach. I’m also a fan of Blair, she also comes from a good place.
Thank you Buck, thank you Jake for being here!! I got here about 5 minutes ago, will watch later.
72 year old Catholic woman. I'm here to learn. I appreciate your common sense ❤