It's hard to gauge your own physical attractiveness truthfully because so many of us judge ourselves by insecurities which are visible only to ourselves.
I disagree. I think many people are caught up in the delusion of their own insecurities so they have a skewed perspective on how they look, but for people who are either extremely attractive or extremely unattractive to societies standards those people know without a doubt how they are perceived. The world will let you know.
@@itstroy4145 If the man says he's ugly...he's ugly. And no man gets rejected by 1 woman & comes to that conclusion. Its hundreds. & don't let us go on dating apps for further confirmation.
@@blunt2416 you do realize, 99% of men get rejected hundreds of times Lmao it’s part of the game. If you let it effect your confidence, that’s where the problem lies. Lack of confidence will destroy your dating life. Majority of people are average, that’s why it’s called average. There are average people who don’t have discipline and make themselves ugly. There are beautiful people who lack discipline and make themselves ugly. The dude is more than likely not ugly lol just lacks confidence . Dating apps, men barely get matches as a whole. But apps take a little more effort. Men typically suck at taking pictures, learn how to take better ones. If you’re bio isn’t funny or interesting, good luck. I done seen the ugliest mfs get some great looking women, simply because they’re funny and exude confidence. Your mentality is proving why you, yourself, think yore ugly
you don't get it, because you're a woman. you have the advantage of still being most guys type. guy's don't have that. guys go through life being NOBODY'S type, and that's NOT ok.
Yea. Especially if they know you it's 100% they don't like your humor, petsonality or other aspects such as a lack of confidence or charme. Remember looks open doors, bjt attraction comes slot from learning when to say what and good humor. Doesnt mean there aren't people out there who think you as their type just as they are.
And it's not common for the ones that were hot in their teens to not be the hot ones after they get out of high school or college. Aging can be a real b to some people.
@@InDeathWeLoveWhen you Glow Up in your teens, the only way you can go is down. I'm so glad I didn't max out in high school and marry the prom queen. I wasn't happy with my looks until like 25. Most of those prom queens were looking terrible by that age.
This is extremely true. I see perfectly fine and even attractive people being called ugly these days. It’s crazy how how skewed people’s perception has become.
@@Dontmind8 sometime people are just colorist or racist but won't admit it. Saw people call an Indian woman ugly, while a white woman with the exact same features pretty. It's happens so often, people with the same exact facial and body features, the only difference is skin color but they get different treatments.
In my opinion: 0: unbreedable 1: disfigured 2:very ugly 3:ugly 4:not trying/mid 5:average 6:not bad at all 7:Nice 8:Attractive 9:very attractive 10: masterpiece
As Dave Chapelle says, when you're beautiful you know you are. People tell you all the time. But when you're ugly, you have to figure that shit on your own. It's a lot of putting clues together. 😂
Not really. People tell you when you're ugly also they just do it when your a kid or a teenager. There is always that one kid that just goes there and says what people are thinking but are too polite to say.
Why do people think being 4-6 is ugly? 5 means you're average and at the cut-off for attractiveness for most people. I swear social media has distorted our perception of beauty. Everyone now thinks if you're not an 8-10, then you're ugly.
Lol I know this cat. He works out at my gym here in Houston. He's a pretty strong cat. What's crazy is that when he first started going to my gym, people noticed his physique. He sees himself in a negative way that most people dont see him in. It goes to show how self-conscious a lot of us can be. I'm gonna have to talk to him about this video the next time I see him 😂
He looks like he's probably albino. There tends to be a mismatch between facial features and complexion that just looks funky but his features are fine. This is a classic case where confidence or learned social behaviors is what's making or breaking his social successes and unfortunately you can't fix a lifetime of social conditioning overnight, and it's even harder to recondition yourself if you don't have a social life to exercise those skills which makes up loads of young men these days.
It's one thing to think you're ugly, it's another when others think that too. Not that they say it, but when you dont receive matches, attention, or unconditional love from others. This feels like the tribe saying "yes, you are unlovable, unattractive, and unwanted".
I had friends suggesting my husband wasn't attractive when we got married 28 years ago. Ten years later those same friends were telling me I needed to watch my weight if I wanted to keep a good looking guy like my husband. Forget what others think. Frankly, if you love someone they look beautiful to you, and that's wonderful. This guy will find some wonderful Christian girl who thinks he's the greatest and she will think he's adorable.
Not one to tell other people what to do but these don’t sound much like friends to me. They disrespected your man, so they felt they had the pass to disrespected you. I mean maybe these aren’t serious conversations and statements, but if they are, I’d reevaluate who you let in your life.
As an artist,I can say his looks are striking and unique. I didn't even read the title when I saw him in your thumbnail. Just clicked. He's beautiful and tragic because he believes what others have told him. The urge to paint him is real. I bet he has an amazing story.
Coming from an artist.... Us artist can just find anything attractive/eye catching. The people i draw often are of hardened body or unconventional looks. Cant expect everyone to see things that way
Negative talk can have permanent effects. As a child I was told I was ugly. As I grew older people would say I could be a model. I don’t think I I’m ugly but I can’t see what others see in me.
Literally my experience, I get compliments so often nowadays I was forced to change my perspective about my attractiveness. I'm a solid 8-9, but I still have low self esteem and struggle with social anxiety
I had my sister tell me l was too masculine to be female since childhood its affected my confidence and how l dress. Now that I'm older some women have commented that they love my body and l look great l still am sceptical simply because it's engraved in my brain that I'm ugly 😢
Social media and opposite habits of both sides of looks. Ugly people get worse because they give up and don't improve. Attractive people improve daily because they want to maintain a perception put on them.
Yeah notice how everybody is beautiful online but almost nobody in real life? Like don't get me wrong, they are beautiful in their own way but they aren't like these filtered and photos hopped fakeries
Aba I wish we could hear how you got to your "self sabotaging" stage and more importantly how you got out of it. I struggle with my version of it, but have not gotten myself out all the way yet. Only of you're comfortable. I am so genuinely happy for you, that you did come through. You're an amazing person, and have a crazy beautiful spirit. From what I can see at least. You deserve joy, peace, and an incredible testimony. Thanks both of you for being who you are, and for sharing it with us.
He has albinism and so do I. He’s not ugly. Now folks have said people with albinism are ugly because our features/blemishes are more prevalent because of our skin. School was brutal and I blocked out memories because of it but that’s just life and I don’t let it define who I am.
I had to pop that 69 likes into a 70 😅 I don't have albinism but being black at an all white school in Belgium (country that had a zoo displaying real black people between the animals) I know the memory blocking times in school very well
@@whisperienced Actually no, it defines you if you are actively memorizing it (traumatize) and let it scare you in your daily life. blocking memory is just avoiding the negativity of the past and moving on. Just like not holding on to a grudge. just move on
@@whisperienced It doesn't "define" you. A person with a certain past can choose to be defined by that past or choose to skip it (move on) and go on a path that isn't associated with that past whether it happened or not. That's what "moving on" means. people move on from stuff all the time. You;re not defined by a past lover, you just forget the ex and move on... you're not defined by a past you no longer connect/associate yourself to.
Realised I was ugly in school, a teacher made a girl sit next to me as a punishment, like I’ve got the plague or some shit, she had to be told multiple times too, so I was getting humiliated for somebody else breaking the rules
In junior high a somewhat "popular" girl that I had known since kindergarten once told me, when no one else was around, that I wasn't so bad looking if I didn't have acne and glasses. Wow thanks two things at that age I was unable to control or change. It's stuff like that at a young age that can set some people on a trajectory of failure later in life when it comes to dating, especially guys. I've always been a shy introverted person that once I get to know you I'm much more open, but that makes dating and asking women, both that I know and don't know out.
In fairness to this guy, there probably are people who would call him ugly, simply because he has a pretty distinct look. I don't think he is, personally, but the effect even just a few outspoken shitheads over the years can have is immense.
yeah I'm really confused because he's just albino, which makes him more attractive to me but even if he wasn't he'd be atleast average and above. It seems people don't like uniqueness? which just doesn't make sense to me. Why is everyone attracted to the most npc boring instagram looking peoppe ever? Why do people call distinct features ugly? It really confuses me honestly
I have always been rejected by all my first crushes, teenage crushes, and when I got to university, of course, I looked different and more attractive, yet I still had very low self-esteem. No one had ever reciprocated my feelings. The guys I liked always pursued my friends, who were considered beautiful, instead. And little by little, I realized that I wasn't beautiful. I'm unattractive, and that's okay... You don't have to be repulsive to be considered unattractive, but if most people don't find you appealing, then you're unattractive. The problem is that people make it a matter of life and death. Being attractive helps, but it's not everything, of course. Even today, I appeal to very few guys; all the relationships I've had were with guys I didn't find physically attractive. I learned to look beyond appearances. However, at 29, I'm starting to change my mind....maybe it's the times we live in, but I no longer want to date guys I don't find cute or handsome. I would like to date a guy who attracts me both mentally and physically. I think that's the right way to go..........
His eyelashes! His eyes, my goodness. His lips, his build. This man is not ugly. I'm not even looking at his unique appeal as of now. Bullies are horrible, I know from experience, was bullied until 6th grade. 7th grade I walked in school and everyone wanted to be my best friend b/c I 'grew' into my looks + people grew up. It was surreal going from a nerd to being popular overnight.
@@EbbinAndItFlowsYou can call him unique since people who look like him are rare meaning albino hair and skin otherwise he has regular black features.
@@chrisdawarlordtriggacollie Yes! Most definitely unique! And the true beauty about being different\ unique is that you don’t fit into the world’s mold!! And that’s all the more reason to be confident in that unique shell. It just gets hard being pushed away by so many who reject you. Trust me; i know. But i love his energy! Great mindset to have
@6:58 aba is so correct. There were so many girls I went to high school with that people made fun of and called ugly. Once out of high-school they became models, fashion designers etc etc.
In my experience being moderately ugly, I find that how you are treated with much more authenticity compared to how people who aren't ugly are treated. The real friends /good people will probably be some of the most authentic people ever But at the same time the negative reactions coming from people are in some sense authentic of character too. When you are very attractive, I feel like that authenticity can be lost or never ever found to begin with.
It's like being rich but in looks. Rich folks have many "friends" because those people want some of that wealth to trickle down on them. Very pretty people likely run into a lot of those people who want to be around them for the social advantage.
Don't want to sound like a doomer, but this isn't true in most cases. If you are ugly, people with low self-esteem or low status will approach you, because they see you as an "easy person" to socialize with. When women date us, they might resent us for being the one she had to settle with. We mostly get approached by women out of a lack of options and not necessarily because they value our personality. In social situations we have to do twice as much to get the same amount of sympathy. You will not find genuine connections due to being ugly, instead you will lose a lot of opportunities to connect with people. And you will have to put so much work to filter out your acquaintances. Don't even get me started on dealing with loneliness, a lack of desirability and rude behavior. Connecting with other other ugly people can quickly turn into a pity party and just bring the mood down. We all have some underlying trauma because of our negative experiences. On the other hand , conventionally attractive people have a lot more authentic relationships. It all depends on how you define it, I think having an authentic connection doesn't mean unconditional platonic love or whatever (something you only get to experience from lovely parents). Friendships can be authentic, even if they are not always there for you, and even if they abandon you if you fall off. I see a lot of authenticity in having a great time, in deep talk, in being able to laugh together, in doing activities together, and in just vibing together, while meeting new people from time to time. They get to experience all of this without having to worry about how they are perceived because of their looks. The world is shallow, but relatively speaking, this is just as authentic as our friendships. Let's not romanticize our situation. Just because society is gatekeeping a lot of experience behind being attractive, doesn't mean that their social circles are fake. Here's an analogy: let's say you meet a lovely partner who values you for your personality. Well, she / he wouldn't love you if you were of the opposite sex. So it's never solely about your personality. There are always if conditions. This doesn't mean that it's fake. The same also applies to relationships partially based on looks. Therefore, I believe that being ugly is a net negative because it robs you of all of these experiences.
His sense of humor and ability to make fun of himself actually make him relatively more attractive to who he's interested in, but going too hard on himself brings his rating slightly down. There's a delicate balance between confidence (short of becoming arrogant) and humility (short of becoming self-deprecating) that everyone needs to achieve, and he's almost got it; I think he'll find complete comfort in who he is sooner than later.
@@prettypotato2221 Your environment influences your perspective and worldview. As much as people try and deny it, we as human beings desire external validation to some degree. You have someone who's attractive and is constantly assured by people about how attractive they are versus someone who either gets little to no attention or is actively ridiculed for looking funny, guess which one is gonna grow up bitter and insecure? This isn't rocket science, people objectively treat you different based on how you look.
The funny thing is we judge ourselves harsher than others do. I remember when I was younger I always was self conscious about an operation scar on my face. Unfortunately as a baby I had a large cyst that had to be removed in a country that was considered more poor so we had less resources. This left very obvious stitch lines on my face to this day. In addition I had a larger nose than everyone else. These were things that I was always self conscious about it and other would constantly tell me I didn't notice until you brought it up. As I got older I just accepted these things made me me and let me tell you how you talk about yourself makes a huge difference in how others see you. Even if you're not confident act like it, don't engage in self-deprecating dialogue and you will instantly be more attractive to people.
Being ugly is subjective. Also, if he thinks he's ugly, he's defeating his own self. He's speaking it, so it shall come to pass. Words have power. All love to him!
It’s weird that you say being ugly is subjective, ur discrediting the experiences of people that are actually unattractive. Makes their voices not heard
Well I agree with the second part of your statement. Its a self fulfilling prophecy. But, I do think most people on average can determine what is attractive and whats not. I think most people can agree what's considered universally attractive.
There's self love and then there's being delusional. There's a level of physical unattractiveness where you begin to experience the world very differently than other people. There's nothing wrong with accepting that most people may consider you ugly, the sooner you accept something the sooner you can move on and work on yourself in ways that are actually healthy and productive. Self acceptance is a beautiful thing. Telling yourself you're beautiful when you aren't is simply denial.
I kind of feel sad for this guy and just want to give him a hug. I will never have kids and at 50 i never wanted them but seeing and hearing the hurt feelings this one has brings out the mothering instinct all or rather many women have.
I think he's actually rather handsome. He's got strong features. His eyes just aren't symmetrical, which really isn't all that distracting. Edit- I also think the two of you are quite handsome as well in different ways. I'm definitely the kind of person that is attracted to energy more than features even though I can recognize 'golden ratio' beauty as a artist. I tried to treat everyone based on how their energy made me feel or their behavior rather than what they could do for me socially. I wasn't 'popular' so I didn't have to worry about what people thought of me.
This is what happens when social media like instagram, etc. puts models on a pedestal. People get insecure about themselves, or overinflate their egos. And so the beauty standards go all over the place. And those same models on the internet, don't even look the same IRL.
Not just models in general. about EVERY gen z prioritizes putting up a bullshit lifestyle with clothes that aren't theirs, people they don't even fucking talk to and places they only visited once. I was gonna blame women cuz they are the most active participants, but men aren't good in this regard either cuz we chase these same women💀
Best thing I could say to anyone who’s ugly is join the gym. I remember when I started and I’d try and glance at the girls hoping they’d find me attractive (they never did) but after a year and a half of being consistent I notice a lot of people looking whether they’re girls I like or not. I also think it’s a good way of showing people with your body that you’re disciplined and work hard. There’s a guy who I see who would he on the ugly side but he’s huge and is consistently there. I bet if he was out in public he’d get a lot of attention for it and do well with women
As a genuinely ugly person it's a weird experience seeing average to attractive looking people talk about being ugly. I can believe that this dude from the video probably did get bullied in school, and I'm sure he has uncomfortable experiences with people still to this day, but that's doesn't mean he is ugly. Aba nailed it in this video, this guy is just "different," and I bet a lot of people would look past that for him. When you're actually ugly you can't just fix it by "grooming" or something, you might be super thin, super short, balding, bad face structure, really bad acne, or for women have no ass or no chest, and probably if you're ugly you have multiple of these things. These are attributes that a lot of people won't be able to look past and often times there is nothing you can do about it. Thank you Aba for not beating around the bush when it comes to this topic, it's refreshing to hear someone who sounds like they get it who isn't also ugly haha.
Funny that when you talk about “ugliness” for women, it means having a flat ass or chest. Lmao. Even that is subjective because there are people who are fully into that. Same with being bald, or skinny or short or whatever. Even the things you can’t change, not all of them are flaws yknow?
@@doid4354Yeah no, I'm sorry. It is not as subjective as you would like to pretend. You might very well have a chance to find someone who can learn to love you, but you will have it MUCH harder when you have these unattractive features. It's not a difficult concept, the only reason people fail to see it and say it how it is, is because they feel emotionally attached to their disposition towards being ugly. You know a piece of shit smells bad. Dont tell me someone might enjoy it. Yeah, some weirdo actually might enjoy it, but that is not the point, the point is that shit doesn't smell like roses. You feel either shame or insecurity, because that disgusting piece of shit is a living being with feelings, and you inevitably judge them and connect their worth to something they had no say in, and that seems cruel and unethical, and thus you avoid verbalizing what you feel.
@@doid4354yeah I found it’s unsettling too by his definition of ugly. Out of all the things he listed, probably just one maybe considered ugly which is bad facial structure. Even with that, some people can still look average or easy on the eye. It’s definitely is subjective and most importantly like Alba said if they take care of themselves they can look average to above even with the things he listed. Thin is ugly? What’s his definition of thin? Model thin? Balding? That’s not something someone is born with typically. And there are things you can do about it. And I definitely have a good laugh as how he defined ugly women. That’s very subjective and his personal preference. Some people don’t find that ugly at all and truthfully that don’t associate with being ugly, more like body types. What if someone says a thick woman is ugly? And again, models, some runway models got absolutely no ass or chest and even weird facial structure too. I think this person really need to look deeper into himself as why he thinks like that. Now I even doubt he’s ugly. Maybe lack of confidence and self esteem to have this kind of thinking about himself and then project onto others.
Maybe he was ugly when he was younger and grew into his looks but his self esteem hasn’t recovered. I used to be fat and ugly, girls would literally go out of their way to let me kno how repulsive they found me. It took me a long time for me to start viewing myself accurately
Nice Deeptalk. I enjoyed that. Bouncing off of each others perspectives, opening up new ones and all that. And it felt organic too. Podcast style in a way (I mean this in a good way), As I said: I enjoyed watching/listening and following along your developing thoughts.
As someone with albinism myself, he is a gorgeous man. As I reflect, however, I have been having these same thoughts this man is having about myself recently. In school , no one made fun of me. Nobody bullied me. So, I did have that luxury, but being so unique weighs on a person. I have never felt “pretty” no matter how many times I’m told I am pretty, gorgeous, beautiful. I have always felt like I’m unattractive. That’s something that I have to deal with mentally. I shouldn’t need reassurance I’m attractive. Being a woman and seeing models who are gorgeous and tall and tan and then me - having albinism, being 5 ft, 100 pounds - I feel like an outcast, and I’ve learned over time to be ok with that. This video touched me though. I feel as though people never talk about us with albinism so when others see us, they do think we are ugly or peculiar looking. I thank you both for making this video. It touched my heart.
I think the average to ugly mentality comes from having it reinforced over years. For me, all thought out middle school, high school, and college I had people call me ugly. Society reinforced this negative view I had on myself. It took me years to stop calling myself ugly and even longer to come to the conclusion that I'm average. This isn't help with being rejected on and offline. Bro most likely think he ugly because that's how the world treat him. Real ugly people don't even get called ugly, you just feel bad for them. But average people get the full force of it.
Ooo that last part was TRUTH. About real ugly people getting pity while average get called ugly. Reminds me of how true 3rd world poor people don’t get called poor in a derogatory way but instead get pity but 1st world lower middle class get called “poor” in derogatory ways.
This gave me a new perspective on my experience in school. I’ve always considered myself ugly cuz i was invisible to women i liked. Now im thinking maybe i was just average bcuz as an adult, i get compliments.
I think people shouldn't take the conclusions about the world they made when they were a child in school, and apply it for the rest of their life. Maybe you were just a dumb kid in that moment and got it wrong? But the way people hold onto these ideas they had as a child in adulthood is insane.
If that’s you in your profile pic then you def aren’t ugly. I also give me a bit more points because it’s not like you can out in makeup to look better so most men who look good are naturally attractive
Some people watch social media and think they are ugly because the top 1% of people are gawked at and so many normal or attractive people think less of themselves because of that. This guy looks in shape and clean cut, no reason for him to think he's ugly. "Average" people can be the most attractive man/woman to the person who loves them. I hope all of you find someone who loves you and appreciates you.
He’s not ugly, he’s unique. It’s hard to give him a “5” because he’s not average, he’s different. That said, I am a conventionally attractive woman and I date “unique” looking men because “attractive” men all look the same and it’s boring to me.
I'm similar. Every "baddie" on Instagram looks exactly the to me. When you aspire to look like everyone else; following the "beauty standards", you lose what makes you special.
I find this comment very funny when most people say "unique" its at most a slight deviation from what is normal. There are so many features a human being can have that no one here would find desirable. Just open your mind a bit and imagine the possibilities, and then realize that each one of those conditions would be labeled as a disease.
@@InquirerAshen i didnt say that ugly doesn’t exist, just that unique and ugly are two different things. The guy that got married recently, for example, is ugly. This albino guy is just unusual.
He‘s not ugly! He has a uniqueness that the modelling industry loves! I have a thing for Albinism so for me you aren’t ugly and I’m sure many more people like It. And sometimes ugliness or attractiveness has everything to do with where you live or the community your in. Beauty standards are so subjective!
You can’t typecast all attractive women as insecure. Sure, we all have our insecurities, but some attractive people have a decent handle on how attractive they are without it turning their character ugly. Those are my favorite kinds of people, and those tend to be the people I befriend. Attractive people with hearts of gold who know they’re attractive, but know that it’s one of the least important aspects of their being. Granted, I’m near-40. I spent my time being insecure circa 20.
I think every attractive person is insecure in some sense due to the fact that we are not observed as people, but statues to be looked upon. Like we're some fucking exhibit.
Agree with the above comment. People's true motives often come into question. Are you interested in me or my looks? Do you dislike me based on real or imagined (due to assumptions) character flaws? We ourselves might have a balanced self-view, but it's often others who don't hold the same view of us.
In my day, I was an attractive person with plenty of attention, but it was more charm than physical looks. Project a good vibe and a happy smile is so essential to having a good experience.
I can almost see this guy being scouted for modeling, not cause he’s good looking, but that his face is unique, and yes, everyone is going to get bullied if they’re different, it’s has nothing to do with ugly, it’s cause children see nonconformity as an outsider, it’s a sensitive age, pass your teens it gets better
@@k.d.2589 well some people just also never grow up, they just get older, but from a personal stance, when you get older it hurts less until hopefully one day it doesn’t even mean anything
Since middle school I was told that I was ugly and at some point I just accepted it but as I got older and I started to date girls that were out of my league (after a lot of self improvement and working out) I came to a realization that it wasn’t me it was how I carried myself and my own confidence
Coming from someone who has been called plain many times in life... This guy is above average in attractiveness. I would easily crush on him. ❤ He's not average to me. Not do I think he's invisible. Now I'm invisible. Especially in pictures. 😂 I don't really have a "type" either. I'm attracted to guys of different races and sizes. But he clearly has a lot more to learn. 🙏🏻
@@TheUltimateFreezone7 First, I'm married and wouldn't do that to my husband. Second, just because I find someone attractive doesn't mean they'll be attracted to me. It takes 2 to date.
I’m working on stopping being a people pleaser and one of the wildest things I’m learning is that I don’t want to be like by everybody. So what I mean is like I don’t want to be liked by liars, or people who abuse others. So to say everyone wants to be accepted, and equating that to like getting access to that is through attractiveness is maybe showing his lack of depth about human connection and interaction? I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but really sitting and thinking about who I need to be liked by really made me see like, nuance I guess.
Sorry, you are NOT ugly. You have a very unique physical profile---A strong masculine face with a strong nose, pale skin, and cool blondish/reddish hair to go with your skin. You also seem very strong/athletic---again, a very masculine guy with a strong speaking voice-dynamic. You stand out. So, nope, you are NOT unattractive. But, sure, some women aren't going to be attracted to you, but LOTS will because of your uniqueness.
I think people are kind of gaslighting him on this or virtue lying. If the MAJORITY of his interactions have told him he's ugly then he's living the ugly experience. Everyone's trying to "help" him or something. Yeah he has a nice physique but he is ugly. He's not average and his unique features by the majority of societal standards are not beautiful. But a few people on the internet want to tell him he's lying about his experience. He didn't call himself the maximum level of ugly. He just said he was ugly.
@@benjai45exactly bruh everyone is mad capping saying he's not. He honestly to me doesn't look bad like how some people genuinely look strange. But I know for a fact he would be considered ugly by so many girls. They're just lying they same way if you ask them what they like about guys. They describe one thing and then get the opposite because they don't know what they like and be lying also.
@@benjai45and people are giving their opinion saying he is not. Sure some people think he is and others don't. Don't you think his unique looks is what people would call ugly? he seems albino but who knows. Even with that i think his facial structure is alright.
below average is fucking wild i think hes more attractive than aba or preach imo he could model. ALOT of women would find him attractive the only thing some would judge as unattractive is maybe him being cockeyed but even then the color combo of his hair and eyes is very attractive in the same way "ethereal" aesthetic is. someones type doesn't equate attractiveness as a whole. im more attracted to brown hair and brown eyes so i may ignore other things that people may find way more attractive about the person, im attracted to equestrian noses on guys so i would see aba and this albino guy as way more attractive than preach regardless of how others would view it. This guy is not below average lmfao average would be preach if he didnt work out. no shade on him hes cute. line them up with 10 girls and we will find out REAL QUICK. yall are men so idk if yall can judge the same way as me or if yall have been called ugly one to many times. idk. @@michael43567
That's a man who is carrying around a burden of pain. A young man figuring out his place in life. Keep pushing forward. The world opens up to those who work on themselves in your late 20s and 30s.
A lot of "ugly" people just dont take care of themselves. Cleaning up, losing weight and getting a haircut can bring you from a 3 to an 8 easily but most people dont do that.
He’s not even bad looking. He might stand out because of his color of skin but other than that he’s not bad at all. Our society really needs to chill with these unrealistic beauty standards. Most “beautiful acclaimed” celebrities don’t even look like themselves after all the plastic surgery they get.
Notice how you didn’t say he’s very handsome, good looking etc. the best you could say while being honest is, he’s “not even bad looking”. And that’s his point. You are probably have one of best perceptions of him, and it’s still not enough to say he’s very attractive. So you can imagine how a lot of people would call him unattractive, ugly etc.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 who cares? Most people aren’t beautiful in this world!! But others can still find you attractive. Just because you are not beautiful or conventionally beautiful, doesn’t mean you are ugly
@@Diana-wk9qv I mostly agree. But for Aba + a lot of commenters to act like he wouldn’t have been called ugly constantly growing up + up until very recently is strange. I’ve seen people get called ugly for way less. And the reason I’m bringing up how you don’t say he’s attractive, is that it helps the point.
@@mesalouis8976 off being an albino + the cross eyes alone, truth is he’s not really going to be treated “average”. He isn’t hideous/ugly, but he’s different. And based off that I can see why he’s been treated like he’s ugly
Being ugly is not all there is! The ugliest dude I've met (poor dude, he was repulsive ugly) and I still went on a date with him because I didn't have the courage to tell him no. Turns out he was a sexual perv... The most embarrasing date I've gone to in my life because he well Skippy got nothing him... So, it's not all about looks!!
Do you think that maybe his social skills are just really lacking BECAUSE he’s ugly and people won’t give him a chance in the first place? You can’t develop your social skills romantic or otherwise if nobody even gives you a chance to talk and interact with them and genuinely ugly people have fewer positive interactions with other people. There’s also the obvious halo effect where people you already like e.g. an attractive guy can act the same way but it isn’t viewed as badly as the ugly guy doing the same thing
I've seen ugly; looking into puddles, glass shards and through everyone's retinas was the daily confirmation. I do know that I went from ugly to average when I started going to the gym. My looks haven't changed, but my personality and build have - and strangely enough, when people have other things to look at or distract them from your face you're not so ugly anymore.
That "first person, perspective" concept made a lot of sense. I always tell my kids to analyze why people are saying what they're saying as opposed to what people are saying. That we all speak on the world through our own lens & that lens isn't one size fits all. So take everything people tell you, even myself into question before committing to believing in others words.
Its almost as if people have "romanticized" the idea of being ugly or depressed and i feel like it stems from that need of being felt sorry for or being a "victim" of something
True. But sometimes it comes from wanting somebody, ANYBODY to reassure us and say hey, actually you're not ugly. In my case it never came😂 so I know where I land on the scale now😂
I don’t think it’s romanticizing I think its more sharing a common affinity for going through the hardships of this world and this thing called life and not holding it against a person/or the person allowed to not feel less than
Youre absolutely right. It feels good sometimes to sulk in the pain of feeling like you'll be alone forever. It's a terrible feeling, but as humans we like to feel strong emotions sometimes, good or bad.
I came to a similar conclusion as a female. Being unattractive can have a positive side. Men dont approach you as much and you have less stories of harassment. Because attraction is off the table the interactions you do have with men are generally positive. Also, women are not threatened by you so they are nicer to you and feel no need to compete with you. Also, when you age as a very attractive woman, society can be very cruel about how you look compared to in your youth. When your average nobody cares. Im happy with not being a 10❤
Most of the time, you are what you present yourself as to people. At the same time, two people can be the same thing yet one has a physical advantage over the other. In the end, you just gotta be the best person you can be and let the people come to you. Some will deny you, some will accept you. I also think that people need to maybe change their POV on others. When we were kids, we almost all the time liked the same person as the whole class and everyone else was invisible. Some people today behave and still think like they're in school like this guy and will like the same person that a million people also like and would think that being rejected by them means that they're not good looking or whatever. We need to be mature and maybe not try to "reach for the sky" every time we want to be with someone. Not everyone is the protagonist, some of us are the extras...doesn't mean we don't get lines sometimes.
The truth is that society enables pretty people to be jackasses in general. Y’all be acting like the halo effect ain’t real. There’s probably more pretty people that are jerks than ugly people.
@@saotomebusterI think whenever people have power they tend to abuse it. Pretty privilege is a power, so it makes sense why attractive people are usually more entitled.
Most people who say their ugly are often average to above average, it’s a good buffer for their ego because they know people will respond with “no your not ugly”.
@almarcel7764 your right this is going to sound really corny but I realized it's true sometimes the most prettiest people have the ugliest personality And some ugly people have the most greatest personality
The problem is average to ugly people devolve and get worse looking because they don't feel there is a point to improving. Attractive people maintain and improve their looks daily as to reinforce the perception. It's 2 different extremes being perpetuated.
Honestly, he's not ugly. He has nice bone structure and symmetry. It's just that he has no melanin. If he's nice, has confidence & all those things, he could bag a good woman with an actual heart.
Patrice had a 30 based scale where the increments of 10 were Ugly, Average and Hot. Then you could add “refinement” using individual numbers between that range. So in my opinion, buddy is a 13-14. That’s very close to mid average. The “refinement” of the scale helps a lot with the “7” problem 😅 He not ugly at all
I was a pussy in school too. I always think back to when I was in 7th grade. It was art class that was mixed with 7th and 8th graders. I remember the day so clearly. I was at the table grouped up with my friends and this 8th grade girl that had a crush on me was at a table with hers. Her friend calls me over and the girl tells me I’m cute, then I folded and just turned around, walking off. I’m still cringing. I’m in pain from the cringe.
Bro needs therapy, cause he just hasn't gotten over being bullied as a kid. That's it. I had the same problem until my mid 20s. And that was after YEARS of knowing plenty of women who thought I was attractive. Just gotta learn how to turn the chapter of childhood and see yourself for what you are
I wouldn't say Im ugly but I'm definitely average. I'm a normal average looking guy with nothing particularly remarquable and girls do not notice me when I pass by them in the streets. And that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that.
A lot of people self sabotage. Once I started taking care of myself, bulked up, bought better fitted clothes, and gained confidence in myself, I started to see all the things other people do to sabotage themselves.
@@kourtneyr.scruggs0988 you might eat shitty food, not wash your face, not change your bed sheets/pillow cases (acne), not brush your teeth, not wash your hair/shower often, etc etc. All examples of self sabotage
As an albino. I can 100% vouch for what Aba says. I get that treatment & it bothers me sometimes tbh. I hear that I’m an 8 but I’m fat so I think I’m a 7. Lost weight & I get approached left & right. But I am a homebody too cause the stares are just too uncomfortable to me.
I think the worst part about modern dating for men is just how much loneliness is baked into the default experience. You have average, and genuinely attractive and above average men led to believe they’re completely undesirable, unlovable and less attractive than they actually are because of these dating apps. Sometimes I wonder what I did to deserve something like this, to be in a room swiping pictures of girls I don’t know are even real or fake, only to get absolutely nothing back. Even when I do get a match it’s either ghost or dry text one word responses. It feels super fake and hopeless even though it doesn't have to be.
Get off online dating. I'm pretty damn sexy and even for me, it's just a bad experience. It's hard to find "love" on there anyhow. I've since found someone amazing, and as you can imagine, we met in person.
With my job I meet hundreds of people a month. Over the years I’ve realized very few people are actually ugly. Yes there are truly ugly people out there but that’s truly rare. Most of you who think you’re “ugly “ are only perceived that way because of supplemental factors. Like being out of shape, lack of style, confidence. (Lack of confidence can really help). Point is, there’s always something you can do to improve your “rating”. You’re not ugly , just lazy. Do something about it.
When I started going to gym, I can't deny that my end goal was to look more attractive and gain more attention from the opposite sex, and after 1 year of consistency and some noticeable changes in my physique, what changed? Absolutely nothing. I was still getting just as much acknowledgement and compliments as before I got the membership. At some point, I began to make peace with it. I started to accept that I'm just not that guy, and you know what? That's okay. Then my end goal changed, in fact, it disappeared. Now I don't go to the gym(and also therapy) so that others will love me, but _because_ I love me. I give myself compliments. I will check myself out in the mirror and genuinley love what I see, and be proud of myself for how consistent I've been. I tell myself constantly that I look good. I even deleted the instagram where I was posting selfies and created a new one where I post my artwork instead. It's a lot more authentic and less of a cry for validation. No one may ever find me handsome, but as long as I think I'm handsome, I'll be fine. I am all I've got at the end of the day, and that is enough.
I think there's one thing a lot of people don't understand yet need to be told. If you THINK you're ugly: You are. Confidence is HUGE, a major part of attraction especially as a man. If you let your confidence dip because of your appearance, then you'll find you are what you believe about yourself. If you wanna pull women, your confidence will offset a lot of flaws. Except being short. Sorry short kings, love you guys.
Try actually being basic to mid. I promise you, confidence will get you nowhere. Studies have been done. When a woman thinks you're ugly, which for women is anyone 7 or under, they actually hate you for being confident. In their eyes, you have no right to be confident and therefore you're not just ugly, you're a fake too. That's how women think. It's biological.
No, that's just gaslighting. You can tell objectively if you're attractive or not, and ultimately human beings are visual creatures, we don't rely on phermones or physical dominance for attraction. And besides, attractive people are confident because they KNOW that they're attractive, ugly people get treated like shit their whole lives for something that can barely be changed, you can't just magically generate that lifetimes worth of confidence out of thin air. There's also other factors like demographics, social media giving untealistic expectations etc that make it way worse
When i was 3rd grade this girl lived in my neighborhood but was also in my class. She’d be friendly after school but wouldn’t dare be seen talking to me during school. Lol i get where this guy is coming from. Anyways i had a glow up and she’s ugly now. Life hits you fast
I remember a los of times i felt invisible because i got 0 attention that day, and a couple of days after someone would come to me and say "hey my friend really liked you" Or " She saw your picture and wants your contact ". It's crazy how our own bias distorts what's actually happening
I remember feeling invisible throughout most of highschool. Im pretty average to “unconventionally” attractive so I was ignored for the most part. My sophomore year I tried to make myself prettier because I felt like it might help my self esteem. All I did was put on a little bit of makeup and wear a shirt that wasnt oversized and that same day 2 random guys complimented me and wanted to get my number. 1 of those guys I passed by every single day at lunch and he never knew who I was until I looked more “appealing.” Yeah that tight shirt really did it for him I guess. I felt instantly uncomfortable though. I thought I wanted the attention and compliments but I only got it when I was trying to be someone Im not. I hated it and returned to expressing myself the way I did before. I guess my point is, I enjoy being invisible because at least those who want to know me, they choose to because of my character and not a stupid tight shirt.
Years of not knowing how to handle my depression as a teen lead me to not caring for myself, but especially my teeth. I now have fucked up teeth as an adult because of it. Recently, my friends have asked me why I haven't done anything to fix it. While I see the benefits to doing so, I also see the downsides. The benefit is that it makes seeing both the fakeness and the judgemental side of people so much more immediate and apparent. The downside is that it makes dating incredibly difficult. Part of me really loves how easy it's been to find and make friends with truly decent/good people because of it, but the other part of me knows its truly disgusting and I should drop the dough to do something about it. Just my thoughts on the topic. It has been both a blessing and a curse. It's been an eye opening experience. Women in my life have recently reinforced how charming, kind, quick witted, and how much of a tease I am. I know just how much easier dating would be if I did something about it.
I understand what you're saying. I have straight teeth and a nice smile, but I say all the time, if my front teeth got knocked out or broken, I would have to get a loan to fix them up, bcuz I would probably not go to work or out in public until I fixed them. But that is all about my insecurity and nothing else. You don't seem insecure, not if you've opted not to fix your teeth. But i can assure you that if you ever decide to do that for yourself, you will feel like a new person. But do it for YOU. It's ok to align your outside with how you feel on the inside. It's not the same as people that get cosmetic surgery bcuz they seek validation from others. It's ok to treat yourself!
@@Lora_Beolabit's the biggest one, but seeing people's true colors off the bat is a big advantage that you lose. Saves a lot more time than you may realize. I picked friends well before they got fucked though, so that's a bit of cope.
@@bbbbbbb51nah but see it from a girl or your partner’s POV. It’s not shallow or anything for them to talk to you about your teeth. If y’all gonna be kissing and stuff like that, it’ll also affect her. Messed up teeth can lead to you having more bacteria, germs and food stuck in your teeth, causing perpetual bad breath. If I were u, I’d just set some money aside and try to get them fixed. I’m 18 with slightly messed up teeth and I’m tryna fix it from now. It gives a confidence boost bro, trust 🤝🏾
It is true, the average person these days is a 3 with how bad the obesity rate has gotten. If you put everyone on a graph and gave them a number based on looks, the distribution will be right skewed.
If the average person is a 3 you must shift it to they are a 5. Remember if the majority is one thing and you are above the average you are now above average. Got to shift the mindset
@@newpatchincoming6574 Eh not really mate. The middle is still a 5, but the mean, median, and mode is all below the middle on a right skewed distribution. For example, let’s say you have 5 people. One is a model who is a 9, the other 4 you found at a lineup in McDonalds, where one is a 3, and the other three are 2s. The mode is 2, median is 2, and mean (most commonly used as the average) is 3.6. This sample kind of represents the overall population in North America, where a whopping 70% of the population are overweight. In my mind, anyone overweight automatically maxes out at a 5. So basically, the standard to which you would give a 5 (meh face, meh body, whatever haircut, etc) hasn’t changed, but the people fitting that criteria has. Now if you want to standardize it which is kind of what you are referring to, then yes, a 5 would now be someone unappealing, and old 5s would now be like 6.5s.
@@poejavelski148 ahh ok got you. Do you think our beauty standards will shift where a 3 is the new 5 or is it hardwired set that a 5 now will always be a 5.
@@newpatchincoming6574 That’s a good question, based on how much it has changed looking over the past 100 years there’s a good chance beauty standards could change. The difference is beauty standards have changed more about clothing and hairstyles, not body types. (To my knowledge, body type preferences is more dependent on the region in the world, and hasn’t changed much within specific regions). I think women will always prefer a tall, muscular man and men will always prefer a slim woman with slight curves in the chest and ass region. However, I think people who are far from this standard are self aware and end up with people in a similar boat as them. It is extremely rare to see someone super attractive and in shape to date someone else who isn’t. Although I will say, because humans are so complex and smart, a good personality can definitely make up some ground. At the end of the day I do kind of believe in the evolutionary theory of attraction (women liking tall and strong men to be protected, men liking women with healthy fat levels for fertility) and I don’t think that will change.
In elementary school in Norway we had a kids song, “On the outside we are all different, but on the inside we all look the same”. My class was multi-cultural and we all got to learn to accept our differences from a young age. We as humans fear or judge anything that is different from ourselves, and you wonder why the aliens refuse to come visit.
They don't come visit because they don't exist, or they're not capable of the journey, or they have no idea we exist. Think about this: When you look into space, you're looking into the past. If the aliens are 65 million lightyears away, when they look at this planet (assuming they can, which they can't) all they'll see is dinosaurs. If they're 500,000 lightyears away, they still won't see humans because we've not evolved yet. Why would they get in a spaceship and travel 500,000 light years to visit a planet with no intelligent life on it? The notion that they were just zipping about the universe for a giggle, and happened across this post-industrial planet covered in intelligent mammals, is just silly... When we look up to the night sky, we're looking for signs of intelligent life on planets (which we can't really observe), orbiting distant stars. Hoping for a glimpse of something that gives a clue to some sort of unnatural expansion into space, like satellites or a space station. We've found nothing. When they look in this direction they'll also see nothing.
I believe the message from this man is that appearance is not what it's important. It's about valuing yourself and developing the confidence to care about yourself, more than to value other people's opinion about you.
He's beautiful, I'm not sure how many people I've come across that feel this way about themselves, makes me feel sad, I've said to so many they are BEAUTIFUL. As an artist I can say I'd paint him in a heartbeat. Beauty is the entirety of the person.
Something has changed in me before and after my spiritual journey. Before I saw ugliness in everyone and everything. Now I see beauty in everyone and everything. There are people who have beautiful eyes, skin, hair, eyes etc. NO ONE is ugly or i've never seen one yet. However, with the consumerist society we want an ALL in or ALL out like you're either hot or ugly lol na that's not how it works.
As an African witch Doctor, we do not see you as ugly, and we value you. You are welcome to join us. Please come.
Yall about to use my guy as a human sacrifice? What is happening over here? PLZ COME
What you tryna use this guy for? 😂
*pin of voodoo*
😂I think this is a joke.
@@AbaNPreach😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's hard to gauge your own physical attractiveness truthfully because so many of us judge ourselves by insecurities which are visible only to ourselves.
How? You are a woman, like any other woman no matter the looks, get free attention all the time.
@@Intension123even if that were true, it doesn’t change the fact that women have individual insecurities aswell? Your comment just sounds antagonistic
The dude is an albino. We can all see that not just him 🤦♂️
Not hard for a dude. Dudes will get told by others routinely.
I disagree. I think many people are caught up in the delusion of their own insecurities so they have a skewed perspective on how they look, but for people who are either extremely attractive or extremely unattractive to societies standards those people know without a doubt how they are perceived. The world will let you know.
Y'all need to let us be ugly in peace. The emphasis on ugliness these days is making me uncomfortable. Let's go back to being ignored.
Big facts .. people just stare at you now
You probably just think yore ugly because the person you wanted doesn’t want you. Build yourself up
@@itstroy4145nah, I’m married already and will fully admit I’m ugly 😂
@@itstroy4145 If the man says he's ugly...he's ugly. And no man gets rejected by 1 woman & comes to that conclusion. Its hundreds. & don't let us go on dating apps for further confirmation.
@@blunt2416 you do realize, 99% of men get rejected hundreds of times Lmao it’s part of the game. If you let it effect your confidence, that’s where the problem lies. Lack of confidence will destroy your dating life. Majority of people are average, that’s why it’s called average. There are average people who don’t have discipline and make themselves ugly. There are beautiful people who lack discipline and make themselves ugly. The dude is more than likely not ugly lol just lacks confidence . Dating apps, men barely get matches as a whole. But apps take a little more effort. Men typically suck at taking pictures, learn how to take better ones. If you’re bio isn’t funny or interesting, good luck. I done seen the ugliest mfs get some great looking women, simply because they’re funny and exude confidence. Your mentality is proving why you, yourself, think yore ugly
Just because your crush doesn't want you doesn't mean you're ugly. You're just not their type, let's be okay with us not being people's type 🤷♀️
you don't get it, because you're a woman. you have the advantage of still being most guys type. guy's don't have that. guys go through life being NOBODY'S type, and that's NOT ok.
Imagine you ARE their type though, as they've dated guys like you, but these women still ghost you or ignore your messages?
@@LeukickThen that would suggest a crap personality and or sense of humour, both Men and Women will ignore messages from good looking people.
Yea. Especially if they know you it's 100% they don't like your humor, petsonality or other aspects such as a lack of confidence or charme.
Remember looks open doors, bjt attraction comes slot from learning when to say what and good humor.
Doesnt mean there aren't people out there who think you as their type just as they are.
For the love of god. Yes
Being bullied as a kid about your looks isn't actually about your looks. Kids are mean and will hit you with any ammo they can find
And it's not common for the ones that were hot in their teens to not be the hot ones after they get out of high school or college. Aging can be a real b to some people.
@@InDeathWeLoveWhen you Glow Up in your teens, the only way you can go is down. I'm so glad I didn't max out in high school and marry the prom queen. I wasn't happy with my looks until like 25. Most of those prom queens were looking terrible by that age.
@@jeredalmeida1880white people age like milk
^ FACTS!!! Dealt with this shit myself & you're on the money! They'll even downplay your strengths to tear you down too!
@@jeredalmeida1880it's called not taking care of yourself when your looks decline that does matter.
You dont have to be ugly in order for people to call you "ugly". The word is overused, just like "beautiful" is.
So true.
This is extremely true. I see perfectly fine and even attractive people being called ugly these days. It’s crazy how how skewed people’s perception has become.
Some people would call a supermodel ugly, it’s all subjective
I think this is probably the most true and applicable statement
@@Dontmind8 sometime people are just colorist or racist but won't admit it. Saw people call an Indian woman ugly, while a white woman with the exact same features pretty. It's happens so often, people with the same exact facial and body features, the only difference is skin color but they get different treatments.
In my opinion:
0: unbreedable
1: disfigured
2:very ugly
3:ugly
4:not trying/mid
5:average
6:not bad at all
7:Nice
8:Attractive
9:very attractive
10: masterpiece
You did not just say unbreedable 💀
Unbreedable is CRAZY 💀💀
Accurate. I think most people are 4 to 6.
10 as masterpiece cuz they don't exist lmao
@@chrisdawarlordtriggacollie they do
As Dave Chapelle says, when you're beautiful you know you are. People tell you all the time. But when you're ugly, you have to figure that shit on your own. It's a lot of putting clues together. 😂
Kinda like people with stinky breath.
Not really. People tell you when you're ugly also they just do it when your a kid or a teenager. There is always that one kid that just goes there and says what people are thinking but are too polite to say.
Why do people think being 4-6 is ugly? 5 means you're average and at the cut-off for attractiveness for most people. I swear social media has distorted our perception of beauty. Everyone now thinks if you're not an 8-10, then you're ugly.
Social media blast everyone with exceptionally beautiful 24/7. It's got a lot of people's scale really screwed up
Anything below 5 is indeed varying degrees of "Ugly." 5 is neutral.
Because you wouldn’t eat at a restaurant that has 4/10 stars
@@jakestumm4101 you're not gonna eat me out bro? Damn.....thats disappointing....
Because for some reason people consider 7 the average and everyone wants to be above average so 8.
Lol I know this cat. He works out at my gym here in Houston. He's a pretty strong cat. What's crazy is that when he first started going to my gym, people noticed his physique. He sees himself in a negative way that most people dont see him in. It goes to show how self-conscious a lot of us can be. I'm gonna have to talk to him about this video the next time I see him 😂
Let him know he is not ugly. Words are powerful he is speaking this into existence
Yeah tell him he's hot , confidence is lacking and that changes everything
If he’s in Houston that’s probably why he thinks he’s ugly
How did it go? Did you talk to him
Bro you gotta keep us updated it’s messed up to leave everybody hanging. What happened when he saw the video
He’s not ugly he’s unique and I’m honestly surprised that he hasn’t been scouted by a modeling agency. Unless he’s short, but he doesn’t look short.
Yea. He's not ugly he's just albino.
I was thinking the same thing.
He looks like he's probably albino. There tends to be a mismatch between facial features and complexion that just looks funky but his features are fine. This is a classic case where confidence or learned social behaviors is what's making or breaking his social successes and unfortunately you can't fix a lifetime of social conditioning overnight, and it's even harder to recondition yourself if you don't have a social life to exercise those skills which makes up loads of young men these days.
Thank you! I knew I wasn't the only one thinking this ❤
True
It's one thing to think you're ugly, it's another when others think that too. Not that they say it, but when you dont receive matches, attention, or unconditional love from others. This feels like the tribe saying "yes, you are unlovable, unattractive, and unwanted".
After so many years of it, it breaks you. I'm broken.
Church
church cant save you. group time will not save a soul @@kourtneyr.scruggs0988
Facts
You might be bad at taking pictures. I stopped getting matched when I turned 30. But I get hit on all the time in person.
When you’re ugly, and someone loves you, you know they love you for who you are. Beautiful people never know who to trust.
I agree, unless the bank account is also pretty
I had friends suggesting my husband wasn't attractive when we got married 28 years ago. Ten years later those same friends were telling me I needed to watch my weight if I wanted to keep a good looking guy like my husband. Forget what others think. Frankly, if you love someone they look beautiful to you, and that's wonderful. This guy will find some wonderful Christian girl who thinks he's the greatest and she will think he's adorable.
Thank you!! Beauty standards change each year!
Not one to tell other people what to do but these don’t sound much like friends to me. They disrespected your man, so they felt they had the pass to disrespected you. I mean maybe these aren’t serious conversations and statements, but if they are, I’d reevaluate who you let in your life.
@@joeydoherty368 in fairness, it was 30 years ago, but you couldn't be more right.
Some of the worst people I know are Christian women. And what’s worse is how they expertly demolish your self esteem with Scripture!😏
This is why I dont have many female friends. They will try to make you miserable for no reason.
As an artist,I can say his looks are striking and unique. I didn't even read the title when I saw him in your thumbnail. Just clicked. He's beautiful and tragic because he believes what others have told him.
The urge to paint him is real. I bet he has an amazing story.
I'm not an artists but I find him really striking too
Coming from an artist.... Us artist can just find anything attractive/eye catching. The people i draw often are of hardened body or unconventional looks. Cant expect everyone to see things that way
Negative talk can have permanent effects. As a child I was told I was ugly. As I grew older people would say I could be a model. I don’t think I
I’m ugly but I can’t see what others see in me.
Same
Literally my experience, I get compliments so often nowadays I was forced to change my perspective about my attractiveness. I'm a solid 8-9, but I still have low self esteem and struggle with social anxiety
@user-zv8md9xv8c i didn’t grow up under the best of circumstances
Thats what I'm saying, 'if you keep calling yourself ugly, you'll live out that negative talk
I had my sister tell me l was too masculine to be female since childhood its affected my confidence and how l dress. Now that I'm older some women have commented that they love my body and l look great l still am sceptical simply because it's engraved in my brain that I'm ugly 😢
Ugly inflation has happened. People who used to be 7s and 8s have been bumped down 5s and 6s thanks to social media.
Social media and opposite habits of both sides of looks. Ugly people get worse because they give up and don't improve. Attractive people improve daily because they want to maintain a perception put on them.
Yeah notice how everybody is beautiful online but almost nobody in real life? Like don't get me wrong, they are beautiful in their own way but they aren't like these filtered and photos hopped fakeries
Aba I wish we could hear how you got to your "self sabotaging" stage and more importantly how you got out of it. I struggle with my version of it, but have not gotten myself out all the way yet. Only of you're comfortable.
I am so genuinely happy for you, that you did come through. You're an amazing person, and have a crazy beautiful spirit. From what I can see at least. You deserve joy, peace, and an incredible testimony. Thanks both of you for being who you are, and for sharing it with us.
He has albinism and so do I. He’s not ugly. Now folks have said people with albinism are ugly because our features/blemishes are more prevalent because of our skin.
School was brutal and I blocked out memories because of it but that’s just life and I don’t let it define who I am.
I had to pop that 69 likes into a 70 😅
I don't have albinism but being black at an all white school in Belgium
(country that had a zoo displaying real black people between the animals)
I know the memory blocking times in school very well
If you are blocking out memories it did define you.
@@whisperienced Actually no, it defines you if you are actively memorizing it (traumatize) and let it scare you in your daily life.
blocking memory is just avoiding the negativity of the past and moving on.
Just like not holding on to a grudge. just move on
@@The-Cat if you have to actively block out your past then yes that has defined you. Doesn't matter how you spin it.
@@whisperienced It doesn't "define" you.
A person with a certain past can choose to be defined by that past or choose to skip it (move on) and go on a path that isn't associated with that past whether it happened or not.
That's what "moving on" means. people move on from stuff all the time. You;re not defined by a past lover, you just forget the ex and move on...
you're not defined by a past you no longer connect/associate yourself to.
Realised I was ugly in school, a teacher made a girl sit next to me as a punishment, like I’ve got the plague or some shit, she had to be told multiple times too, so I was getting humiliated for somebody else breaking the rules
What an ugly teacher. Im sorry for you its totally unfair
Wow…. I am truly sorry you went through that 😔
That’s awful.
Shane on that teacher
I’m sorry you went through that
😂😂😂😂that's hilarious
In junior high a somewhat "popular" girl that I had known since kindergarten once told me, when no one else was around, that I wasn't so bad looking if I didn't have acne and glasses. Wow thanks two things at that age I was unable to control or change. It's stuff like that at a young age that can set some people on a trajectory of failure later in life when it comes to dating, especially guys. I've always been a shy introverted person that once I get to know you I'm much more open, but that makes dating and asking women, both that I know and don't know out.
She was telling you she thought you were cute.
Contacts and skin care exist... She was dropping hints bruh.
You don't have to be ugly to be discarded, people haven't always accepted me because IM different. I've been called weird my entire life.
Must be hard to be an 8.5 😂
Are you a handsome dude? 😂
All turtle chads i know are weird.
@@noneofyourbuiznessIt's rough. Wish I was a 9 instead 😫
Its true. Attractiveness is more than just looks
In fairness to this guy, there probably are people who would call him ugly, simply because he has a pretty distinct look. I don't think he is, personally, but the effect even just a few outspoken shitheads over the years can have is immense.
yeah I'm really confused because he's just albino, which makes him more attractive to me but even if he wasn't he'd be atleast average and above.
It seems people don't like uniqueness? which just doesn't make sense to me.
Why is everyone attracted to the most npc boring instagram looking peoppe ever?
Why do people call distinct features ugly?
It really confuses me honestly
@@volkova6209 well, hit him up for a date.
@@happymassa Albinos have different colored eyes too usually if that's what you mean
@@happymassa that's a reach
@lucasbroome1048 naw one eye looks lower or kind of lazy. It's not real bad, but noticeable
I have always been rejected by all my first crushes, teenage crushes, and when I got to university, of course, I looked different and more attractive, yet I still had very low self-esteem.
No one had ever reciprocated my feelings. The guys I liked always pursued my friends, who were considered beautiful, instead. And little by little, I realized that I wasn't beautiful. I'm unattractive, and that's okay... You don't have to be repulsive to be considered unattractive, but if most people don't find you appealing, then you're unattractive. The problem is that people make it a matter of life and death. Being attractive helps, but it's not everything, of course.
Even today, I appeal to very few guys; all the relationships I've had were with guys I didn't find physically attractive. I learned to look beyond appearances. However, at 29, I'm starting to change my mind....maybe it's the times we live in, but I no longer want to date guys I don't find cute or handsome. I would like to date a guy who attracts me both mentally and physically. I think that's the right way to go..........
Most people are between 4&6
@@cory80805
That's statistically correct.
I'm a bit more rare. I fall in a solid 8.5 😎
@@cory80804.99999999999999
Most people, in fact, are around 5, I'd risk to say.
His eyelashes! His eyes, my goodness. His lips, his build. This man is not ugly. I'm not even looking at his unique appeal as of now. Bullies are horrible, I know from experience, was bullied until 6th grade. 7th grade I walked in school and everyone wanted to be my best friend b/c I 'grew' into my looks + people grew up. It was surreal going from a nerd to being popular overnight.
Oh shut up. Stop the 🧢
The eyes looking in different directions doesn't bother you?
Not ugly at all! Companies would LOVE to have him as one of their models!
@@EbbinAndItFlowsYou can call him unique since people who look like him are rare meaning albino hair and skin otherwise he has regular black features.
@@chrisdawarlordtriggacollie Yes! Most definitely unique! And the true beauty about being different\ unique is that you don’t fit into the world’s mold!! And that’s all the more reason to be confident in that unique shell. It just gets hard being pushed away by so many who reject you. Trust me; i know. But i love his energy! Great mindset to have
@6:58 aba is so correct. There were so many girls I went to high school with that people made fun of and called ugly. Once out of high-school they became models, fashion designers etc etc.
In my experience being moderately ugly, I find that how you are treated with much more authenticity compared to how people who aren't ugly are treated.
The real friends /good people will probably be some of the most authentic people ever
But at the same time the negative reactions coming from people are in some sense authentic of character too.
When you are very attractive, I feel like that authenticity can be lost or never ever found to begin with.
It's like being rich but in looks. Rich folks have many "friends" because those people want some of that wealth to trickle down on them. Very pretty people likely run into a lot of those people who want to be around them for the social advantage.
Don't want to sound like a doomer, but this isn't true in most cases.
If you are ugly, people with low self-esteem or low status will approach you, because they see you as an "easy person" to socialize with.
When women date us, they might resent us for being the one she had to settle with. We mostly get approached by women out of a lack of options and not necessarily because they value our personality.
In social situations we have to do twice as much to get the same amount of sympathy.
You will not find genuine connections due to being ugly, instead you will lose a lot of opportunities to connect with people. And you will have to put so much work to filter out your acquaintances. Don't even get me started on dealing with loneliness, a lack of desirability and rude behavior. Connecting with other other ugly people can quickly turn into a pity party and just bring the mood down. We all have some underlying trauma because of our negative experiences.
On the other hand , conventionally attractive people have a lot more authentic relationships. It all depends on how you define it, I think having an authentic connection doesn't mean unconditional platonic love or whatever (something you only get to experience from lovely parents). Friendships can be authentic, even if they are not always there for you, and even if they abandon you if you fall off. I see a lot of authenticity in having a great time, in deep talk, in being able to laugh together, in doing activities together, and in just vibing together, while meeting new people from time to time. They get to experience all of this without having to worry about how they are perceived because of their looks. The world is shallow, but relatively speaking, this is just as authentic as our friendships. Let's not romanticize our situation. Just because society is gatekeeping a lot of experience behind being attractive, doesn't mean that their social circles are fake.
Here's an analogy: let's say you meet a lovely partner who values you for your personality. Well, she / he wouldn't love you if you were of the opposite sex. So it's never solely about your personality. There are always if conditions. This doesn't mean that it's fake. The same also applies to relationships partially based on looks. Therefore, I believe that being ugly is a net negative because it robs you of all of these experiences.
His sense of humor and ability to make fun of himself actually make him relatively more attractive to who he's interested in, but going too hard on himself brings his rating slightly down.
There's a delicate balance between confidence (short of becoming arrogant) and humility (short of becoming self-deprecating) that everyone needs to achieve, and he's almost got it; I think he'll find complete comfort in who he is sooner than later.
Idk.. to me, he kinda sounds bitter and insecure
@@prettypotato2221 And he's entitled to feel that way. He doesn't seem like a danger to anybody. He just didn't get to choose the body he was given.
@@prettypotato2221
Your environment influences your perspective and worldview. As much as people try and deny it, we as human beings desire external validation to some degree.
You have someone who's attractive and is constantly assured by people about how attractive they are versus someone who either gets little to no attention or is actively ridiculed for looking funny, guess which one is gonna grow up bitter and insecure?
This isn't rocket science, people objectively treat you different based on how you look.
The funny thing is we judge ourselves harsher than others do. I remember when I was younger I always was self conscious about an operation scar on my face. Unfortunately as a baby I had a large cyst that had to be removed in a country that was considered more poor so we had less resources. This left very obvious stitch lines on my face to this day. In addition I had a larger nose than everyone else. These were things that I was always self conscious about it and other would constantly tell me I didn't notice until you brought it up. As I got older I just accepted these things made me me and let me tell you how you talk about yourself makes a huge difference in how others see you. Even if you're not confident act like it, don't engage in self-deprecating dialogue and you will instantly be more attractive to people.
Being ugly is subjective. Also, if he thinks he's ugly, he's defeating his own self. He's speaking it, so it shall come to pass. Words have power. All love to him!
It’s weird that you say being ugly is subjective, ur discrediting the experiences of people that are actually unattractive. Makes their voices not heard
Well I agree with the second part of your statement. Its a self fulfilling prophecy. But, I do think most people on average can determine what is attractive and whats not. I think most people can agree what's considered universally attractive.
Nah
There's self love and then there's being delusional. There's a level of physical unattractiveness where you begin to experience the world very differently than other people. There's nothing wrong with accepting that most people may consider you ugly, the sooner you accept something the sooner you can move on and work on yourself in ways that are actually healthy and productive. Self acceptance is a beautiful thing. Telling yourself you're beautiful when you aren't is simply denial.
I kind of feel sad for this guy and just want to give him a hug. I will never have kids and at 50 i never wanted them but seeing and hearing the hurt feelings this one has brings out the mothering instinct all or rather many women have.
I think he's actually rather handsome. He's got strong features. His eyes just aren't symmetrical, which really isn't all that distracting.
Edit- I also think the two of you are quite handsome as well in different ways.
I'm definitely the kind of person that is attracted to energy more than features even though I can recognize 'golden ratio' beauty as a artist. I tried to treat everyone based on how their energy made me feel or their behavior rather than what they could do for me socially. I wasn't 'popular' so I didn't have to worry about what people thought of me.
Ugly is a state of mind.
Damn right it is
This is what happens when social media like instagram, etc. puts models on a pedestal. People get insecure about themselves, or overinflate their egos. And so the beauty standards go all over the place.
And those same models on the internet, don't even look the same IRL.
💯 💯 💯 💯
Not just models in general. about EVERY gen z prioritizes putting up a bullshit lifestyle with clothes that aren't theirs, people they don't even fucking talk to and places they only visited once. I was gonna blame women cuz they are the most active participants, but men aren't good in this regard either cuz we chase these same women💀
This
Best thing I could say to anyone who’s ugly is join the gym. I remember when I started and I’d try and glance at the girls hoping they’d find me attractive (they never did) but after a year and a half of being consistent I notice a lot of people looking whether they’re girls I like or not.
I also think it’s a good way of showing people with your body that you’re disciplined and work hard. There’s a guy who I see who would he on the ugly side but he’s huge and is consistently there. I bet if he was out in public he’d get a lot of attention for it and do well with women
A 5 can accessorize! Like, I can’t see well but I can wear glasses 🤷♂️
I swear it's like we both watch all the same videos, just in different orders
We’re in the presence of a youtube fucking legend
I can wear a full face mask 😂
As a genuinely ugly person it's a weird experience seeing average to attractive looking people talk about being ugly. I can believe that this dude from the video probably did get bullied in school, and I'm sure he has uncomfortable experiences with people still to this day, but that's doesn't mean he is ugly. Aba nailed it in this video, this guy is just "different," and I bet a lot of people would look past that for him. When you're actually ugly you can't just fix it by "grooming" or something, you might be super thin, super short, balding, bad face structure, really bad acne, or for women have no ass or no chest, and probably if you're ugly you have multiple of these things. These are attributes that a lot of people won't be able to look past and often times there is nothing you can do about it. Thank you Aba for not beating around the bush when it comes to this topic, it's refreshing to hear someone who sounds like they get it who isn't also ugly haha.
Funny that when you talk about “ugliness” for women, it means having a flat ass or chest. Lmao. Even that is subjective because there are people who are fully into that. Same with being bald, or skinny or short or whatever. Even the things you can’t change, not all of them are flaws yknow?
@@doid4354Yeah no, I'm sorry. It is not as subjective as you would like to pretend.
You might very well have a chance to find someone who can learn to love you, but you will have it MUCH harder when you have these unattractive features.
It's not a difficult concept, the only reason people fail to see it and say it how it is, is because they feel emotionally attached to their disposition towards being ugly.
You know a piece of shit smells bad. Dont tell me someone might enjoy it. Yeah, some weirdo actually might enjoy it, but that is not the point, the point is that shit doesn't smell like roses.
You feel either shame or insecurity, because that disgusting piece of shit is a living being with feelings, and you inevitably judge them and connect their worth to something they had no say in, and that seems cruel and unethical, and thus you avoid verbalizing what you feel.
@@doid4354well I assume he meant a lot of what he already said is for men and women but exclusive to women is ass & chest.
@@doid4354yeah I found it’s unsettling too by his definition of ugly. Out of all the things he listed, probably just one maybe considered ugly which is bad facial structure. Even with that, some people can still look average or easy on the eye. It’s definitely is subjective and most importantly like Alba said if they take care of themselves they can look average to above even with the things he listed. Thin is ugly? What’s his definition of thin? Model thin? Balding? That’s not something someone is born with typically. And there are things you can do about it. And I definitely have a good laugh as how he defined ugly women. That’s very subjective and his personal preference. Some people don’t find that ugly at all and truthfully that don’t associate with being ugly, more like body types. What if someone says a thick woman is ugly? And again, models, some runway models got absolutely no ass or chest and even weird facial structure too. I think this person really need to look deeper into himself as why he thinks like that. Now I even doubt he’s ugly. Maybe lack of confidence and self esteem to have this kind of thinking about himself and then project onto others.
Maybe he was ugly when he was younger and grew into his looks but his self esteem hasn’t recovered. I used to be fat and ugly, girls would literally go out of their way to let me kno how repulsive they found me. It took me a long time for me to start viewing myself accurately
Nice Deeptalk. I enjoyed that. Bouncing off of each others perspectives, opening up new ones and all that. And it felt organic too. Podcast style in a way (I mean this in a good way), As I said: I enjoyed watching/listening and following along your developing thoughts.
He is *NOT* ugly, he is different, unique ❤️
Exactly he's handsome
The guy certainly is unusual looking. You can not call it ugly, but I'm sure many people bullied and treated him no differently then any ugly person.
He stated his school life was shit and this hit him hard.
As someone with albinism myself, he is a gorgeous man.
As I reflect, however, I have been having these same thoughts this man is having about myself recently. In school , no one made fun of me. Nobody bullied me. So, I did have that luxury, but being so unique weighs on a person. I have never felt “pretty” no matter how many times I’m told I am pretty, gorgeous, beautiful. I have always felt like I’m unattractive. That’s something that I have to deal with mentally. I shouldn’t need reassurance I’m attractive. Being a woman and seeing models who are gorgeous and tall and tan and then me - having albinism, being 5 ft, 100 pounds - I feel like an outcast, and I’ve learned over time to be ok with that. This video touched me though. I feel as though people never talk about us with albinism so when others see us, they do think we are ugly or peculiar looking.
I thank you both for making this video. It touched my heart.
I think the average to ugly mentality comes from having it reinforced over years. For me, all thought out middle school, high school, and college I had people call me ugly. Society reinforced this negative view I had on myself. It took me years to stop calling myself ugly and even longer to come to the conclusion that I'm average. This isn't help with being rejected on and offline. Bro most likely think he ugly because that's how the world treat him. Real ugly people don't even get called ugly, you just feel bad for them. But average people get the full force of it.
Well said. I share that same experience. It's a blessing I didn't allow that to distort my personal view of myself.
Ooo that last part was TRUTH. About real ugly people getting pity while average get called ugly. Reminds me of how true 3rd world poor people don’t get called poor in a derogatory way but instead get pity but 1st world lower middle class get called “poor” in derogatory ways.
This gave me a new perspective on my experience in school. I’ve always considered myself ugly cuz i was invisible to women i liked. Now im thinking maybe i was just average bcuz as an adult, i get compliments.
Men also get more attractive once they pass 20 as long as they take care of themselves
@@yves2016 bullshit men get older our hairline start to recede
@@realty634a males prime is in his thirties...
I think people shouldn't take the conclusions about the world they made when they were a child in school, and apply it for the rest of their life. Maybe you were just a dumb kid in that moment and got it wrong? But the way people hold onto these ideas they had as a child in adulthood is insane.
If that’s you in your profile pic then you def aren’t ugly. I also give me a bit more points because it’s not like you can out in makeup to look better so most men who look good are naturally attractive
These things are so annoying. We meet all these people online and we all love them but apparently we’re not doing that in real life. This is so sad.
Some people watch social media and think they are ugly because the top 1% of people are gawked at and so many normal or attractive people think less of themselves because of that. This guy looks in shape and clean cut, no reason for him to think he's ugly. "Average" people can be the most attractive man/woman to the person who loves them. I hope all of you find someone who loves you and appreciates you.
He’s not ugly, he’s unique. It’s hard to give him a “5” because he’s not average, he’s different. That said, I am a conventionally attractive woman and I date “unique” looking men because “attractive” men all look the same and it’s boring to me.
I'm similar. Every "baddie" on Instagram looks exactly the to me. When you aspire to look like everyone else; following the "beauty standards", you lose what makes you special.
"“attractive” men all look the same and it’s boring to me."
I feel this. Conventionally attractive, to me, is just average and unremarkable.
I find this comment very funny when most people say "unique" its at most a slight deviation from what is normal. There are so many features a human being can have that no one here would find desirable. Just open your mind a bit and imagine the possibilities, and then realize that each one of those conditions would be labeled as a disease.
@@InquirerAshen i didnt say that ugly doesn’t exist, just that unique and ugly are two different things. The guy that got married recently, for example, is ugly. This albino guy is just unusual.
@@blunt2416 it has its disadvantages.
He‘s not ugly! He has a uniqueness that the modelling industry loves! I have a thing for Albinism so for me you aren’t ugly and I’m sure many more people like It.
And sometimes ugliness or attractiveness has everything to do with where you live or the community your in. Beauty standards are so subjective!
You can’t typecast all attractive women as insecure. Sure, we all have our insecurities, but some attractive people have a decent handle on how attractive they are without it turning their character ugly. Those are my favorite kinds of people, and those tend to be the people I befriend. Attractive people with hearts of gold who know they’re attractive, but know that it’s one of the least important aspects of their being.
Granted, I’m near-40. I spent my time being insecure circa 20.
I think every attractive person is insecure in some sense due to the fact that we are not observed as people, but statues to be looked upon. Like we're some fucking exhibit.
Agree with the above comment. People's true motives often come into question. Are you interested in me or my looks? Do you dislike me based on real or imagined (due to assumptions) character flaws? We ourselves might have a balanced self-view, but it's often others who don't hold the same view of us.
In my day, I was an attractive person with plenty of attention, but it was more charm than physical looks. Project a good vibe and a happy smile is so essential to having a good experience.
Nah, black pill is real
@@TurtleChad1 it is real. Just remember it's still a choice to swallow it.
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It’s called the halo effect my dude. If you were quiet and kept to yourself the girls would call you interesting and mysterious
@mr.bismarck9629 to a certain point, but if they ever did talk to him and he was wierd and awkward, then it would kill the interaction.
I think he looks ethereal, like a character you would see in a fantasy movie.
I can almost see this guy being scouted for modeling, not cause he’s good looking, but that his face is unique, and yes, everyone is going to get bullied if they’re different, it’s has nothing to do with ugly, it’s cause children see nonconformity as an outsider, it’s a sensitive age, pass your teens it gets better
I agree, except it doesn't go away in adulthood. People still see nonconformity as a threat.
@@k.d.2589 well some people just also never grow up, they just get older, but from a personal stance, when you get older it hurts less until hopefully one day it doesn’t even mean anything
Since middle school I was told that I was ugly and at some point I just accepted it but as I got older and I started to date girls that were out of my league (after a lot of self improvement and working out) I came to a realization that it wasn’t me it was how I carried myself and my own confidence
Bro got 360 waves that is hard af to do. Salute my boy
Most people are average. Social media just scewed our preception of beauty
Coming from someone who has been called plain many times in life... This guy is above average in attractiveness. I would easily crush on him. ❤ He's not average to me. Not do I think he's invisible. Now I'm invisible. Especially in pictures. 😂
I don't really have a "type" either. I'm attracted to guys of different races and sizes. But he clearly has a lot more to learn. 🙏🏻
Judging by your profile picture and comment, you don't seem plain; I'd say you have a lively and bubbly personality. 😊👌
OK but you wouldn't date him tho
@@DriftVerse-1 I appreciate that. ❤️
@@TheUltimateFreezone7 First, I'm married and wouldn't do that to my husband. Second, just because I find someone attractive doesn't mean they'll be attracted to me. It takes 2 to date.
I’m working on stopping being a people pleaser and one of the wildest things I’m learning is that I don’t want to be like by everybody. So what I mean is like I don’t want to be liked by liars, or people who abuse others. So to say everyone wants to be accepted, and equating that to like getting access to that is through attractiveness is maybe showing his lack of depth about human connection and interaction? I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but really sitting and thinking about who I need to be liked by really made me see like, nuance I guess.
Sorry, you are NOT ugly. You have a very unique physical profile---A strong masculine face with a strong nose, pale skin, and cool blondish/reddish hair to go with your skin. You also seem very strong/athletic---again, a very masculine guy with a strong speaking voice-dynamic. You stand out. So, nope, you are NOT unattractive. But, sure, some women aren't going to be attracted to you, but LOTS will because of your uniqueness.
I think people are kind of gaslighting him on this or virtue lying. If the MAJORITY of his interactions have told him he's ugly then he's living the ugly experience. Everyone's trying to "help" him or something. Yeah he has a nice physique but he is ugly. He's not average and his unique features by the majority of societal standards are not beautiful. But a few people on the internet want to tell him he's lying about his experience. He didn't call himself the maximum level of ugly. He just said he was ugly.
@@benjai45exactly bruh everyone is mad capping saying he's not. He honestly to me doesn't look bad like how some people genuinely look strange. But I know for a fact he would be considered ugly by so many girls. They're just lying they same way if you ask them what they like about guys. They describe one thing and then get the opposite because they don't know what they like and be lying also.
@@benjai45and people are giving their opinion saying he is not.
Sure some people think he is and others don't.
Don't you think his unique looks is what people would call ugly? he seems albino but who knows.
Even with that i think his facial structure is alright.
@@benjai45exactly. Lying to him does no good. He's objectively below average. Is what it is
below average is fucking wild i think hes more attractive than aba or preach imo he could model. ALOT of women would find him attractive the only thing some would judge as unattractive is maybe him being cockeyed but even then the color combo of his hair and eyes is very attractive in the same way "ethereal" aesthetic is. someones type doesn't equate attractiveness as a whole. im more attracted to brown hair and brown eyes so i may ignore other things that people may find way more attractive about the person, im attracted to equestrian noses on guys so i would see aba and this albino guy as way more attractive than preach regardless of how others would view it. This guy is not below average lmfao average would be preach if he didnt work out. no shade on him hes cute. line them up with 10 girls and we will find out REAL QUICK. yall are men so idk if yall can judge the same way as me or if yall have been called ugly one to many times. idk. @@michael43567
That's a man who is carrying around a burden of pain. A young man figuring out his place in life. Keep pushing forward. The world opens up to those who work on themselves in your late 20s and 30s.
Feeling unwanted can get so bad sometimes you have to spin it to cope. Finding that silver lining on that dark cloud.
A lot of "ugly" people just dont take care of themselves. Cleaning up, losing weight and getting a haircut can bring you from a 3 to an 8 easily but most people dont do that.
The black pill is real
I was just going to comment that. Self care can take you far if you care to do so, but a majority of guys don't out of fear of being labeled gay
Not sure about an 8. Some faces are just...yikes. but substantial improvement? Def
Definitely not an 8, a 6 at best.
That’s very hopeful but also not true. A lot of people who get constant cuts and are thin are still considered unattractive
He’s not even bad looking. He might stand out because of his color of skin but other than that he’s not bad at all. Our society really needs to chill with these unrealistic beauty standards. Most “beautiful acclaimed” celebrities don’t even look like themselves after all the plastic surgery they get.
Notice how you didn’t say he’s very handsome, good looking etc. the best you could say while being honest is, he’s “not even bad looking”.
And that’s his point. You are probably have one of best perceptions of him, and it’s still not enough to say he’s very attractive. So you can imagine how a lot of people would call him unattractive, ugly etc.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 who cares? Most people aren’t beautiful in this world!! But others can still find you attractive. Just because you are not beautiful or conventionally beautiful, doesn’t mean you are ugly
@@Diana-wk9qv I mostly agree. But for Aba + a lot of commenters to act like he wouldn’t have been called ugly constantly growing up + up until very recently is strange. I’ve seen people get called ugly for way less.
And the reason I’m bringing up how you don’t say he’s attractive, is that it helps the point.
@@themarathoncontinues4211He’s no Brad Pitt, but most people aren’t. He’s average looking like most of us. That’s not a bad thing.
@@mesalouis8976 off being an albino + the cross eyes alone, truth is he’s not really going to be treated “average”. He isn’t hideous/ugly, but he’s different. And based off that I can see why he’s been treated like he’s ugly
It's sad that the society made him feel that way but that man is far from ugly 💯
No way he’s anywhere near ugly, he could be a model in most countries.. but America-Beaty standards are insane
America currently hates white men. We're stupid
come on dawg, a model lol
Beaty
@@lucasalves-zx1zjyeh he could be a model in this days market
Nowhere near ugly? A potential model? Nah you just have low standards
Being ugly is not all there is! The ugliest dude I've met (poor dude, he was repulsive ugly) and I still went on a date with him because I didn't have the courage to tell him no. Turns out he was a sexual perv... The most embarrasing date I've gone to in my life because he well Skippy got nothing him... So, it's not all about looks!!
fuck i forgot about skippy and now you put him in my mind again 😭
@@mollyoxy sorry😳. But yeah those dudes do exist.
Who’s Skippy?
@@some1337dude1 you don't want to know, but to give you an idea, he's a delusional virgin
Do you think that maybe his social skills are just really lacking BECAUSE he’s ugly and people won’t give him a chance in the first place? You can’t develop your social skills romantic or otherwise if nobody even gives you a chance to talk and interact with them and genuinely ugly people have fewer positive interactions with other people. There’s also the obvious halo effect where people you already like e.g. an attractive guy can act the same way but it isn’t viewed as badly as the ugly guy doing the same thing
I've seen ugly; looking into puddles, glass shards and through everyone's retinas was the daily confirmation. I do know that I went from ugly to average when I started going to the gym. My looks haven't changed, but my personality and build have - and strangely enough, when people have other things to look at or distract them from your face you're not so ugly anymore.
That "first person, perspective" concept made a lot of sense. I always tell my kids to analyze why people are saying what they're saying as opposed to what people are saying. That we all speak on the world through our own lens & that lens isn't one size fits all. So take everything people tell you, even myself into question before committing to believing in others words.
Its almost as if people have "romanticized" the idea of being ugly or depressed and i feel like it stems from that need of being felt sorry for or being a "victim" of something
True. But sometimes it comes from wanting somebody, ANYBODY to reassure us and say hey, actually you're not ugly. In my case it never came😂 so I know where I land on the scale now😂
I don’t think it’s romanticizing I think its more sharing a common affinity for going through the hardships of this world and this thing called life and not holding it against a person/or the person allowed to not feel less than
The Victimhood Olympics is a real thing. 🤣😂🤣
Yeah realizing how childish it is very early can save you from complete embarassment
Youre absolutely right. It feels good sometimes to sulk in the pain of feeling like you'll be alone forever. It's a terrible feeling, but as humans we like to feel strong emotions sometimes, good or bad.
I came to a similar conclusion as a female. Being unattractive can have a positive side. Men dont approach you as much and you have less stories of harassment. Because attraction is off the table the interactions you do have with men are generally positive. Also, women are not threatened by you so they are nicer to you and feel no need to compete with you. Also, when you age as a very attractive woman, society can be very cruel about how you look compared to in your youth. When your average nobody cares. Im happy with not being a 10❤
Most of the time, you are what you present yourself as to people. At the same time, two people can be the same thing yet one has a physical advantage over the other. In the end, you just gotta be the best person you can be and let the people come to you. Some will deny you, some will accept you.
I also think that people need to maybe change their POV on others. When we were kids, we almost all the time liked the same person as the whole class and everyone else was invisible. Some people today behave and still think like they're in school like this guy and will like the same person that a million people also like and would think that being rejected by them means that they're not good looking or whatever. We need to be mature and maybe not try to "reach for the sky" every time we want to be with someone. Not everyone is the protagonist, some of us are the extras...doesn't mean we don't get lines sometimes.
Wait till 11:17 for this guy to self report.
The truth is that society enables pretty people to be jackasses in general. Y’all be acting like the halo effect ain’t real. There’s probably more pretty people that are jerks than ugly people.
lol he is another clickbait fiend
Are you a rare gem or an oddity? Dude is albino, market yourself proudly.
Fastest pin change in the west.
@@saotomebusterI think whenever people have power they tend to abuse it. Pretty privilege is a power, so it makes sense why attractive people are usually more entitled.
Most people who say their ugly are often average to above average, it’s a good buffer for their ego because they know people will respond with “no your not ugly”.
He’s not ugly
Well if you're going to be all the way real in this day and age average is the new ugly
@almarcel7764 your right this is going to sound really corny but I realized it's true sometimes the most prettiest people have the ugliest personality
And some ugly people have the most greatest personality
I’m glad and not 20 in this day and age. It seems hard. I’m average and had a blast
The problem is average to ugly people devolve and get worse looking because they don't feel there is a point to improving. Attractive people maintain and improve their looks daily as to reinforce the perception. It's 2 different extremes being perpetuated.
Average is ugly if you're a guy.
If you're a girl you'll receive endless praise and compliments to make you believe you're an 8.
@@TheUltimateFreezone7 FACTS bro
Honestly, he's not ugly. He has nice bone structure and symmetry. It's just that he has no melanin. If he's nice, has confidence & all those things, he could bag a good woman with an actual heart.
“Some people magnify their own rejections in life” bro i cant wait to use that in my next therapy session bc thats me 😭🤣
Patrice had a 30 based scale where the increments of 10 were Ugly, Average and Hot. Then you could add “refinement” using individual numbers between that range. So in my opinion, buddy is a 13-14. That’s very close to mid average. The “refinement” of the scale helps a lot with the “7” problem 😅
He not ugly at all
Lol that was a genius concept from him
I was a pussy in school too. I always think back to when I was in 7th grade. It was art class that was mixed with 7th and 8th graders. I remember the day so clearly. I was at the table grouped up with my friends and this 8th grade girl that had a crush on me was at a table with hers. Her friend calls me over and the girl tells me I’m cute, then I folded and just turned around, walking off. I’m still cringing. I’m in pain from the cringe.
Bro needs therapy, cause he just hasn't gotten over being bullied as a kid. That's it. I had the same problem until my mid 20s. And that was after YEARS of knowing plenty of women who thought I was attractive. Just gotta learn how to turn the chapter of childhood and see yourself for what you are
Y’all acting like it’s the “same problem” when it’s not. I’ve seen albinos get made fun of as grown ass men, it’s not a “bullied as a kid” thing.
I wouldn't say Im ugly but I'm definitely average. I'm a normal average looking guy with nothing particularly remarquable and girls do not notice me when I pass by them in the streets. And that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that.
If you can’t change your situation, you change your perspective.
A lot of people self sabotage. Once I started taking care of myself, bulked up, bought better fitted clothes, and gained confidence in myself, I started to see all the things other people do to sabotage themselves.
Please elaborate
Boy there's no saving for a 5'2 Indian bald janitor.
hello fellow Thanos 👋 quit the bluepills!
@@kourtneyr.scruggs0988 you might eat shitty food, not wash your face, not change your bed sheets/pillow cases (acne), not brush your teeth, not wash your hair/shower often, etc etc. All examples of self sabotage
@Altair-El-Haddad how many 5'2 bald Indian janitors do you evn see?
As an albino. I can 100% vouch for what Aba says. I get that treatment & it bothers me sometimes tbh.
I hear that I’m an 8 but I’m fat so I think I’m a 7. Lost weight & I get approached left & right. But I am a homebody too cause the stares are just too uncomfortable to me.
Being fat knocks off at least 3 points on the attractive meter tbh. You can gain a point per 50lbs you lose.
Not necessarily. Depends on the person. Everyone's fat distribution is different.
Im biracial (black and white), but im extremely lightskinned, so everyone calls me albino, i stick out at my school. Sucks
I think the worst part about modern dating for men is just how much loneliness is baked into the default experience. You have average, and genuinely attractive and above average men led to believe they’re completely undesirable, unlovable and less attractive than they actually are because of these dating apps. Sometimes I wonder what I did to deserve something like this, to be in a room swiping pictures of girls I don’t know are even real or fake, only to get absolutely nothing back.
Even when I do get a match it’s either ghost or dry text one word responses. It feels super fake and hopeless even though it doesn't have to be.
Get off online dating. I'm pretty damn sexy and even for me, it's just a bad experience. It's hard to find "love" on there anyhow. I've since found someone amazing, and as you can imagine, we met in person.
Go out
@sourceeee U rock on that bass and that's hot
@@wick-em-chi1111 fuck I wish I could play an instrument like that 🤣
@@The_Real_Black_Jesus congratulations! ;) and excellent advice...
With my job I meet hundreds of people a month. Over the years I’ve realized very few people are actually ugly. Yes there are truly ugly people out there but that’s truly rare. Most of you who think you’re “ugly “ are only perceived that way because of supplemental factors. Like being out of shape, lack of style, confidence. (Lack of confidence can really help). Point is, there’s always something you can do to improve your “rating”. You’re not ugly , just lazy. Do something about it.
When I started going to gym, I can't deny that my end goal was to look more attractive and gain more attention from the opposite sex, and after 1 year of consistency and some noticeable changes in my physique, what changed? Absolutely nothing. I was still getting just as much acknowledgement and compliments as before I got the membership. At some point, I began to make peace with it. I started to accept that I'm just not that guy, and you know what? That's okay. Then my end goal changed, in fact, it disappeared. Now I don't go to the gym(and also therapy) so that others will love me, but _because_ I love me. I give myself compliments. I will check myself out in the mirror and genuinley love what I see, and be proud of myself for how consistent I've been. I tell myself constantly that I look good. I even deleted the instagram where I was posting selfies and created a new one where I post my artwork instead. It's a lot more authentic and less of a cry for validation. No one may ever find me handsome, but as long as I think I'm handsome, I'll be fine. I am all I've got at the end of the day, and that is enough.
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@@crowming😂😂😂
I feel like i am blessed by thinking most people are attractive, honestly as long as you are not obese then i can find some beauty in you
I think there's one thing a lot of people don't understand yet need to be told.
If you THINK you're ugly: You are. Confidence is HUGE, a major part of attraction especially as a man. If you let your confidence dip because of your appearance, then you'll find you are what you believe about yourself.
If you wanna pull women, your confidence will offset a lot of flaws. Except being short. Sorry short kings, love you guys.
Try actually being basic to mid. I promise you, confidence will get you nowhere.
Studies have been done. When a woman thinks you're ugly, which for women is anyone 7 or under, they actually hate you for being confident. In their eyes, you have no right to be confident and therefore you're not just ugly, you're a fake too.
That's how women think. It's biological.
No, that's just gaslighting. You can tell objectively if you're attractive or not, and ultimately human beings are visual creatures, we don't rely on phermones or physical dominance for attraction. And besides, attractive people are confident because they KNOW that they're attractive, ugly people get treated like shit their whole lives for something that can barely be changed, you can't just magically generate that lifetimes worth of confidence out of thin air. There's also other factors like demographics, social media giving untealistic expectations etc that make it way worse
When i was 3rd grade this girl lived in my neighborhood but was also in my class. She’d be friendly after school but wouldn’t dare be seen talking to me during school. Lol i get where this guy is coming from. Anyways i had a glow up and she’s ugly now. Life hits you fast
I don’t think he’s saying all attractive ppl are like that it’s just from what he’s seen and the ppl he’s been around.
I remember a los of times i felt invisible because i got 0 attention that day, and a couple of days after someone would come to me and say "hey my friend really liked you" Or " She saw your picture and wants your contact ".
It's crazy how our own bias distorts what's actually happening
I remember feeling invisible throughout most of highschool. Im pretty average to “unconventionally” attractive so I was ignored for the most part.
My sophomore year I tried to make myself prettier because I felt like it might help my self esteem. All I did was put on a little bit of makeup and wear a shirt that wasnt oversized and that same day 2 random guys complimented me and wanted to get my number. 1 of those guys I passed by every single day at lunch and he never knew who I was until I looked more “appealing.” Yeah that tight shirt really did it for him I guess. I felt instantly uncomfortable though.
I thought I wanted the attention and compliments but I only got it when I was trying to be someone Im not. I hated it and returned to expressing myself the way I did before. I guess my point is, I enjoy being invisible because at least those who want to know me, they choose to because of my character and not a stupid tight shirt.
Years of not knowing how to handle my depression as a teen lead me to not caring for myself, but especially my teeth. I now have fucked up teeth as an adult because of it. Recently, my friends have asked me why I haven't done anything to fix it. While I see the benefits to doing so, I also see the downsides. The benefit is that it makes seeing both the fakeness and the judgemental side of people so much more immediate and apparent. The downside is that it makes dating incredibly difficult.
Part of me really loves how easy it's been to find and make friends with truly decent/good people because of it, but the other part of me knows its truly disgusting and I should drop the dough to do something about it.
Just my thoughts on the topic. It has been both a blessing and a curse. It's been an eye opening experience. Women in my life have recently reinforced how charming, kind, quick witted, and how much of a tease I am. I know just how much easier dating would be if I did something about it.
bruh the only downside is the money
That sounds like self-sabotage. What are you afraid of would happen if you fixed your teeth?
I understand what you're saying. I have straight teeth and a nice smile, but I say all the time, if my front teeth got knocked out or broken, I would have to get a loan to fix them up, bcuz I would probably not go to work or out in public until I fixed them. But that is all about my insecurity and nothing else. You don't seem insecure, not if you've opted not to fix your teeth. But i can assure you that if you ever decide to do that for yourself, you will feel like a new person. But do it for YOU. It's ok to align your outside with how you feel on the inside. It's not the same as people that get cosmetic surgery bcuz they seek validation from others. It's ok to treat yourself!
@@Lora_Beolabit's the biggest one, but seeing people's true colors off the bat is a big advantage that you lose. Saves a lot more time than you may realize. I picked friends well before they got fucked though, so that's a bit of cope.
@@bbbbbbb51nah but see it from a girl or your partner’s POV. It’s not shallow or anything for them to talk to you about your teeth. If y’all gonna be kissing and stuff like that, it’ll also affect her. Messed up teeth can lead to you having more bacteria, germs and food stuck in your teeth, causing perpetual bad breath. If I were u, I’d just set some money aside and try to get them fixed. I’m 18 with slightly messed up teeth and I’m tryna fix it from now. It gives a confidence boost bro, trust 🤝🏾
Wish y’all would do an interview with this man.
It is true, the average person these days is a 3 with how bad the obesity rate has gotten. If you put everyone on a graph and gave them a number based on looks, the distribution will be right skewed.
If the average person is a 3 you must shift it to they are a 5. Remember if the majority is one thing and you are above the average you are now above average.
Got to shift the mindset
Haha true
@@newpatchincoming6574 Eh not really mate. The middle is still a 5, but the mean, median, and mode is all below the middle on a right skewed distribution. For example, let’s say you have 5 people. One is a model who is a 9, the other 4 you found at a lineup in McDonalds, where one is a 3, and the other three are 2s. The mode is 2, median is 2, and mean (most commonly used as the average) is 3.6. This sample kind of represents the overall population in North America, where a whopping 70% of the population are overweight. In my mind, anyone overweight automatically maxes out at a 5. So basically, the standard to which you would give a 5 (meh face, meh body, whatever haircut, etc) hasn’t changed, but the people fitting that criteria has.
Now if you want to standardize it which is kind of what you are referring to, then yes, a 5 would now be someone unappealing, and old 5s would now be like 6.5s.
@@poejavelski148 ahh ok got you. Do you think our beauty standards will shift where a 3 is the new 5 or is it hardwired set that a 5 now will always be a 5.
@@newpatchincoming6574 That’s a good question, based on how much it has changed looking over the past 100 years there’s a good chance beauty standards could change. The difference is beauty standards have changed more about clothing and hairstyles, not body types. (To my knowledge, body type preferences is more dependent on the region in the world, and hasn’t changed much within specific regions). I think women will always prefer a tall, muscular man and men will always prefer a slim woman with slight curves in the chest and ass region. However, I think people who are far from this standard are self aware and end up with people in a similar boat as them. It is extremely rare to see someone super attractive and in shape to date someone else who isn’t. Although I will say, because humans are so complex and smart, a good personality can definitely make up some ground. At the end of the day I do kind of believe in the evolutionary theory of attraction (women liking tall and strong men to be protected, men liking women with healthy fat levels for fertility) and I don’t think that will change.
In elementary school in Norway we had a kids song, “On the outside we are all different, but on the inside we all look the same”.
My class was multi-cultural and we all got to learn to accept our differences from a young age.
We as humans fear or judge anything that is different from ourselves, and you wonder why the aliens refuse to come visit.
They don't come visit because they don't exist, or they're not capable of the journey, or they have no idea we exist.
Think about this: When you look into space, you're looking into the past. If the aliens are 65 million lightyears away, when they look at this planet (assuming they can, which they can't) all they'll see is dinosaurs. If they're 500,000 lightyears away, they still won't see humans because we've not evolved yet.
Why would they get in a spaceship and travel 500,000 light years to visit a planet with no intelligent life on it?
The notion that they were just zipping about the universe for a giggle, and happened across this post-industrial planet covered in intelligent mammals, is just silly...
When we look up to the night sky, we're looking for signs of intelligent life on planets (which we can't really observe), orbiting distant stars. Hoping for a glimpse of something that gives a clue to some sort of unnatural expansion into space, like satellites or a space station. We've found nothing.
When they look in this direction they'll also see nothing.
These are talks we need to discuss. Talks that we need to be ready for.
I believe the message from this man is that appearance is not what it's important. It's about valuing yourself and developing the confidence to care about yourself, more than to value other people's opinion about you.
He's beautiful, I'm not sure how many people I've come across that feel this way about themselves, makes me feel sad, I've said to so many they are BEAUTIFUL. As an artist I can say I'd paint him in a heartbeat. Beauty is the entirety of the person.
He’s far from ugly. He’s very handsome to me. I hate that he feels that way about himself. 😢
Something has changed in me before and after my spiritual journey. Before I saw ugliness in everyone and everything. Now I see beauty in everyone and everything. There are people who have beautiful eyes, skin, hair, eyes etc. NO ONE is ugly or i've never seen one yet. However, with the consumerist society we want an ALL in or ALL out like you're either hot or ugly lol na that's not how it works.