Meet the Woman Diagnosed With Autism at 45 | Lorraine
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At 45 years old, Laura James was being treated for an entirely different condition when a nurse recognised her autistic symptoms. Laura has now written a book about her experiences.
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Hearing her say, having a meltdown but tought she was being 'princessy' . I relate so much
I’m also autistic but in my case is different because I’m a trans woman with it because I was diagnosed so young to the point that my family already knows about it I was non-verbal at the time but at the age of 6 that when I started talking it took many years to accomplish all when I when through
@@janetmoreno5536 Have you had your bottom surgery yet
@@TaxingIsThieving umm no not yet first of all is actually not your business to be asking me that is my life at the end of the day like Im happy to be a trans woman regardless if I need the surgery or not so pls don’t ask that unless if your my friend so respectfully don’t meddled out your tongue for saying these things to trans people thank you we live our lives that way we want to .
@@TaxingIsThieving 🤮😂😂🤮
Yeah right! My entire family thinks I’m a lunatic for reacting irrationally to certain situations or people’s behavior. I am 99 percent in autistic and even if a doctor told me I wasn’t well, I definitely have many of the characteristics autism so it wouldn’t mean much to me.
6/17/2024
Hi I'm Elizabeth 48 years old and
I love being alone because no
One understands my feelings,
People and family are to judgemental and I can't deal with injustice acts...
I can't stand loud noises or people
Arguing..
I'm so grateful because being
A spiritual person helps me struggle less...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Houston Texas 🙌
I totally understand what you're saying Elizabeth.
👋 no longer spiritual once I realized I’m Autistic and had taken the Bible literally - arrived at Agnostic & underwent religious abuse therapy 🙃. But I totally feel the Isolophilia (love of solitude).
Now more interested in Neurobiology (Dr Spalosky is brilliant in his explanations of human behavior).
Hello from the Ozarks!!
Fascinating interview. I was diagnosed this week and I'm 41. Never suspected a thing although the signs were staring me in the face my whole life.
I've just been diagnosed aged 94 years old.
If they say u hav autism they probably dont know what autism is. Autism is a disability that makes u not know how to talk and it makes u flap ur hands and makes u swing backwards and forwards whenever u sit down😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@THE-TRUTH-BOMBER Level 1 autism, also known as "high-functioning autism" or formerly "Asperger's Syndrome," refers to the mildest form of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). People with Level 1 autism typically have average to above-average intelligence and possess strong language skills. However, they may struggle with social interactions, have a limited range of interests, and engage in repetitive behaviors. They often require some support to navigate social situations and manage their daily lives, but they can live independently with the right accommodations and understanding.
There is a strong hereditary component; do you think your mom or dad were Autistic?
@@philly8184 Yes I'm almost certain my father was he was a bit of a recluse and kept himself to himself he served in the first World War.
@@wizzgamer this is so neat! If you’re nearly 100 and your parent was most likely Autistic we know Autism has been around at least 200 years.
Welcome! I am so glad you learned of your unique brains wiring even if it’s very late.
I'm going to be 40 later this month and was JUST diagnosed Austistic and ADHD. Both dianosis make PERFECT sense, and I feel like a shot of clarity has been beamed straight into my brain. I've been going to therapists for YEARS who've never caught either issue.
I’m 40 in November, and today I’m watching videos to try and understand this!
How are you getting on ?
@darrenhill5802 Hey! It's a trip how many of us high-masking, intelligent people get overlooked in diagnosis! There's so much good information out there! It can really help with the things we're bad at and the community's so open. It's really a "finding my tribe" moment. How are you?!
Someone I dated told me they think I’m autistic. At first I was offended but the more I learn about it I think that I may be. I do a lot of things like mirror myself after other people. Have done it my whole life.
I've just been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. It was such a relief but at the same time I also felt angry. The diagnosis has explained so much about my life and struggles. School and work have been such a battle for me and now I feel I've been left to figure this out on my own. I have got by in life on my own but really I've always needed support especially in the work place. I'm 48 years old!😕
45. Totally relate. Found out last year - also have Ehlers Danlos.
Hang in there.
I recommend reading The Autistic Brain by Temple Grandin
And Unmasking Autism by Devon Price as well as joining groups on social media.
Dr Spaolsky - Neurobiologist- highly recommend his lecture on the biology of depression (and free will).
Love and accept yourself fully. Forgive everyone they didn’t see it sooner, including yourself. You didn’t know and neither did they.
And welcome to the rest of your life!!!!! ❤
I could really write a novel, being taken into mh hospital agec 18, self harming, given drugs, ect and attacked, ignored. By those we paid to help. I'm now 50, still suffering
I don’t know if other autistic women can relate to this, but when I watch videos of myself, especially in social situations, I cannot relate to that person at all. She looks like the person I see in the mirror (although reversed), but her personality and behaviour is alien to mine. The only thing I can really relate to is that I can see that she is trying too hard.
Hyper empathy, anyone?
44 when I realized I’m AuDHD, and I also have Ehlers Danlos. I didn’t think I could be, either, because I am a business owner and communicate for a living, too.
Same here!
Yes! That’s why I overlooked it for 36 years. I never knew or realized how empathic an autistic person can actually be.
@@SummerOf1987 the ones without Alexithymia (emotional blindness) are typically hyper empathetic.
I've tired talking to my mum about this but she does not want to listen. I'm 37 and as I'm getting older I'm noticing more and more everyday that I could have autism. For years all I have heard is it's ur mental health but I have struggled from as far back as 6 my first memories off just feeling different to everyone.
I'm in a similar situation, probably going to go for a private assessment, (which I'm privileged to be able to afford now) as the older I get I feel like my behaviour in social situations just feels increasingly odd. Being 'shy' and awkward when your a teen/ young adult is one thing but at 35 it's just weird. I've noticed people have a tendency to talk to me like I'm a child, I figured it must be something I'm doing that ilicits that response.
I've suspected I was on the spectrum since ~12/13, tried to get diagnosed at 19 after accessing m/h services but there was no provision for adults back then private or nhs and my parents esp. mom point blank refused to get involved (to give a diagnostic hx). I think partly because I was academically very bright, not top of the class but above average. I think like a lot of people my parents have a lot misconceptions about what autism can look like, especially my mom who has worked with severely disabled children. I'm not sure if I do get diagnosed if I will tell them.
@@liai2375 I realize this is an old comment but it's my story exactly. I was told I have social anxiety but as I get older I'll grow out of it. Well I'm 36 now and avoid social situations at all cost. On the off chance that I sort of have to socialize with family, I absolutely dread it and do have what probably seems like a meltdown during the hours leading up to hanging out.
I’m on the waiting list for assessment autism adhd but they haven’t told me how long the wait is, some ppl wait YEARS!
Self-diagnose through the tests and researching on your own in between and talking to other autistics that can tell you the symptoms from the inside
I wish somebody would tell my mother that she's autistic she doesn't even want to believe that I'm autistic but I think that would require a lot of self-reflection she also came from a very abusive household and I'm almost positive from hearing stories about my grandfather that he too is undoubtedly autistic I feel like it's up to me to break the Vicious Cycle of creating more autistic people who are traumatized in childhood the way my mother was physically and the way I was emotionally within my family
Here in America too. I am grateful I am finally getting test for austic in 3 months. I have struggled with sensory issues having problems of socializing and all. I am 48. I just find a counselor that's actually listening to me😊
I am 28 yrs old and was diagnosed when i was 27. I am a female with autsim and couldn't be diagnosed properly because i am on the higher end of the spectrum and my symptoms went unnoticed as a child. I was previously diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but was evaluated for autism and it turns out i have autism rather than BPD.
I think I have autism. But my GP is terrible. I have tried to speak to them about it numerous times over the years and they just say you have anxiety or you have social anxiety plus there isn’t anyone to refer you to in your area for autism. I’m feeling quite low and to scared to mention this to my family.
Go private went to Birmingham
Ask to speak to a different doctor. I expressed that I've had these struggles my entire life. I've tried all the recommendations for treatment for anxiety and depression, yet I'm still struggling and I need to know if there's another reason for my struggles and then eventually I was referred. It's hard, but if you think it's worth it to help you, then I'd try your best to find a bit of fight to get the help you deserve. Take a friend or loved one with you for support. Write down things that make you wonder if you have autism and either read them out at the appointment or hand the notes to the doctor to read. Good luck. Hope you manage to get some support, if you haven't already ❤
I self-diagnosed by taking a diagnostic test with lots and lots of questions. It was a lightbulb moment. I always knew I was different, just did not know why. SO many things. By the way, I have an ehlers danlos diagnosis, though less severe than that. They're calling my hyper mobility joint disorder, but even that may not be quite it.
Interesting. Still don't know why there is tippy toe walking in my son and what causes that. He is 7 and on the spectrum. He's very active and can barely sit still but I'm glad he gets lots of exercise - it's not healthy to sit all day! I think I'm on the spectrum too so it helps me to be more understanding to his differences bc I have plenty of my own, although I'm def not as high energy as he and never did the stimming thing or tippy toe walking but am def sensory sensitive! :)
I would urge you to seek a professional assessment for autism, even if you have to wait a while. It is a *very* complex condition and has overlaps with a number of different conditions, so self-diagnosis is a bad idea (actually, it's *always* a bad idea). Self-diagnosis isn't diagnosis; it's hypothesising.
@thefuturist8864 Do research into your claims. There's quite a bit of information in modern scientific articles and studies showing that self-diagnosis of autism is more valid and correct than previously thought. Especially when you've been told how weird you are your entire life for all the traits of autism you have. At that point, other people can see it and have seen it your whole life so it isn't some complex you've developed to validate a false self identity. It's not like Schizophrenia or BPD or Bipolar where you are in a state where you sometimes cannot reflect clearly enough on yourself to determine if something is wrong or different and what exactly it is, it's autism. It's fairly cut and dry for mental disorders, and there is usually nothing clouding your judgement of yourself unless you have some other stuff going on. There are also millions of reasons someone would not want to pursue a doctor's diagnosis. In some countries, people with ANY level of autism cannot legally drive. It also costs around 2000 dollars at a minimum to get evaluated, and that's with insurance. I'd say I'm a better driver than most, so that is utter bull. You can easily get what's called a "working diagnosis" by doctors, where they don't put it on your medical record but assure you that you have it. That's what they did for my complex genetic disorder that would require a biopsy to officially diagnose. Any therapist/psychologist can give you that "working diagnosis".
@@thefuturist8864yeah, I think we are all aware if this. Whether or not to get an official designation and WHEN is a personal choice
Wow, I relate so much. I am in the process of being diagnosed at age 26.
Also, that interviewer is one of the most gorgeous humans I've ever seen and she is so sweet!
I'm autistic and I have mood swings and When I'm at school I kind of like not coping with noises and that was very overwhelming for me and I broke down into tears and I'm 17 I'm nearly 18 now
I was 52 years old when I was diagnosed with autism
In my fist shoolyears, I often had breakdowns. My mother had to get me after the second hour. I was ashamed. Then it got better and I let my intellect flow. My classmates thought I was a genius until the last exercises. I finished school with 3.2. Not glorious. And everybody asked me why. Well, now I know, I have Aspergers and I can only be excellent in courses that catch my interest. And now get onto me because of my arrogance.
"Couldn't see the point of Barbie." EXACTLY!!!!!!! 😂
So glad to see someone who is a mom and has a successful career come on and say she wanted to be like those in the book.
My people were my uncle who I thought as the coolest most fascinating person and my childhood best friend who I wanted to make sure I kept up and fit in with her.
My autism wasn't diagnosed until 2018
I'm diagnosed with adhd and my therapist says I'm a Highly Sensitive Person....sounds a lot like autism though to me. So I've been wondering....
Yes, you need yet another diagnosis so you can feel different & special 😂
You should watch 7 overlooked signs of Austin. I have austic and have adhd where I have so many great ideas running through if head but u can never seem to actually do anything about them. The video I have told I about is a very good video to at least understand some of what we go through on a day to day basis. Good luck xx
Autism not Austin lol
It's called that before
The woman that wrote the Highly Sensitive Person was just describing her Autistic sons. Who were later diagnosed with Autism. It’s hyper empathy causing the emotional disregulation.
I was just diagnosed at 39
I'm looking for help here: I'm a 51 year old female and I believe through my own research that I have autism however I also have very severe anxiety and fear other people's negative judgment. How does a person go to a doctor and convince the doctor that they think they have autism when you fear that the doctor does not like people to self-diagnose and will argue with you that you don't have what your seeking a test for. I mean I don't know how to ask a doctor for an autism assessment if I just walk in and say hey DocI'm believing in autistic I'm afraid he'll argue.
I was diagnosed in 2022 'Im now 50
This lady doesn’t sound like she has it. Her English and speaking is A+.
I think Autism people can’t communicate normally and they might have an unusual reaction to other people. This lady has control and can speak very well. I doubt she even has it.
This is incorrect. Autistic people have strengths and weaknesses in a variety of areas. That is why it is described as being on a “spectrum” - No two people are exactly the same.
@@rinkydinkron I only said that is because noticed some speak slowly and some softly.
@@munchocrisps It's unfortunate that such misconceptions persist. Autism, especially in women, often goes undiagnosed until later in life because they may develop strong compensatory strategies, including effective communication skills, to mask their symptoms. Being a journalist or speaking well in an interview does not negate an autism diagnosis. Many autistic individuals are highly articulate and capable in their chosen professions, especially when it aligns with their interests and strengths.
The idea that autistic people can't be articulate or successful communicators is based on outdated stereotypes. Autism is a spectrum, and people can have varying levels of ability in different areas. High-functioning autistic women, in particular, may excel in areas like writing or public speaking, especially if they've honed these skills over time.
Autism manifests differently in each person, and being a good communicator or journalist does not preclude someone from being autistic. The interviewee likely has spent years developing these skills, which is a common experience for autistic individuals who learn to navigate social expectations.
Sorry I don’t understand much since I have PDD.
Her kid sounds funny, .. I like the 'Rain Man' reference. The Vegas card counting scenes were great .. Hans Zimmer's score, ripping off Sisters of Mercy is perfection. 😆
It's like watching myself
What I like about this is that the presenter (who I don't recognise) is using the term 'condition' rather than (e.g.) 'disorder' or 'disability'. I am autistic and dislike it when people use the latter terms.
Also, it should be noted that most people who think they have Ehrlos-Danloss Syndrome likely don't have it, because it is a very difficult condition to diagnose and a diagnosis is only made because every other option has been eliminated. This isn't to say that the lady in the video doesn't have it, but only that statistically it's more likely she doesn't than does.
She likely does. It’s mostly European DNA that has Ehlers Danlos. I do and there are genetic tests besides the physical exam for hypermobile Ehlers Danlos. There are several types with the Vascular being the most deadly.
Snap I am 45 and was diagnosed with Autism last year. 😁
Yep. I was 42.
Same!
I was diagnose at 59
Oh yea I don't have meltdowns, and my clinician told me that too when testing me for ADHD
I love being professionally trained to recognize these things
I had NO issues with communication with my friends. People said I was too talkative and I was scatter brain
I was just curious, it was never a mask. People are dumb
Only my parents supported my ADHD diagnosis whereas other people gaslit me and shamed me for it but couldn't admit they were wrong for the nasty names they labeled me with pre diagnosis
And I enjoy loud music, I blast my headphones to high volume
"So I started researching it" - that reaction would have been enough to tell she has it... "normal" people don't start researching stuff unless they're a job or school related thing
This is not true. "Normal" people aren't stupid or incurious and it doesn't help anyone to pretend they are.
They don’t research like we do lol
Why the focus on her age? Why does that matter? Genuinely curious.
Because it signifies that particularly late nature of the diagnosis. The late diagnosis means that pre that she was having to cope with a variety of differences that weren't recognised by others her whole life. Late diagnosis means that you've potentially lived much of your life with additional struggles whereas an early diagnosis, at a much younger age would have seen certain provisions and understandings put in place. Financially parents who are caring for autistic children can apply for carers support - depending on their individual circumstances. Having that extra funding, especially if your household is low income can make a huge difference to the life outcomes of the autistic child. But if they're diagnosed at a much later age then all of those opportunities for help and understanding were lost.
She don’t look disabled amazing lady
It's hard to be heard.
Yeah yup gotta go. Thanks
What book? I can’t understand the accent. But I do this too.
Is she 100% sure she has autism?
Please go and watch different channels here from autistic ppl- you will be surprised how "normal" most of them appear! esp the younger women
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Im 35 I believe i have autism
اللهم صلي وسلم وبارك على رسولنا الكريم سيدنا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه الى يوم الدين
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Overdiagnosed, like ADHD.
If you say so.