I thew one out for having a sex partner, and they planned to murder me. I went with them to the Barangy and had the barangy throw them out. The mom, her, and daughter... Sad
Especially in the P.i. , Thailand etc. Sounds pretty bad on his part to dramatic he asked her to leave her job, and move into his condo, He should help her get back on her feet knowing she had no income etc. I would just not do the right things. Didn't sound like she was violent but who knows ?
yeah, bad enough the mom, but he put a child out too, too much bob, disgraceful. if it really was that bad, that she had to go, at least make arrangements, give her some money, help her prepare a place to go to, help her with alternative accommodation, just help her, you can't dump a woman and a child on the street
I've lived here in the states all my life.i was rejected all my life. ( I was told more than once that I was too proper. And im a good looking guy!) if I knew the Philippines the way I do now back then, I would've met a philipina and I WOULD NOT HAVE DISCARDED HER FOR ANY REASON. unless it was her cheating. It's not I'm unforgiving, it's the danger of STDs. I would've stayed simply because I'm too proper, and I would've taken care of the girl as if she were my own.
@@modilevi6053but moms in the city where her family is from… why not go home ??? To mom and dads house ??? Probably not on good terms with them… nor bob…. Why’s that I wonder ???
Temptation understood but changing the locks and kicking out your ex and her 10 year old child is heartless. Bob obviously has an impulsive nature that needs addressing.
@@mikesphilippineretirement friendly reminder to expats who, a very small minority, are entitled a**holes like bob giving everyone a bad name. The Philippines like many asian countries may appear to have, generally docile friendly law abiding and respectful citizens but if you think you can get away with anything including harming local children worse, actively participating in child sexual abuse, I say FAFO. Just think about it, their previous president Duterte didn't execute seven thousand "drug pushers" at night in less than 7 months leaving their bloodied mess on the streets the following morning, without the help from hundreds or thousands of maybe hardcore killers within their law-enforcement, military institutions and for-hire in the general population. They could feel safe in large cities in the northern islands and if they get a lawyer right away but idk if in remote middle and southern islands. The Philippines, surrounded by water can easily make anyone disappear without a trace and not have to worry about some foreign embassy getting in the way of their justice.
Bob was wrong here but: 1) never move in a girlfriend or have them quit their job, especially if they have a kid. 2) stop sponsoring girlfriends whole life situation 3) maximum stay time in your place is 24-48 hours and don't let them leave anything major at your place. The rules change after marriage but this is the new standard moving forward with this law. We go there to retire/ peace and little responsibility, stop becoming their whole support system/ placing undue burden on yourself
If this is what happened, then he deserves EVERYTHING he gets. But there are always 2 sides to a story and then there is the truth, it will be nice to hear both sides.
Don't take the free car, just keep your rental you cheap skates. No jail time, because money fixes everything. Get a live in housekeeper to keep your house nice, an old lady.
Bob is a selfish bastard no matter what country he's in. The police were more than fair initially. And just so you know, bail is non refundable there. He has more lessons to learn trust me. The grass only looks greener from the other side of the fence. All these "options" he thought he had will no longer be available. Bob is a foreigner, who severely mistreated a citizen and put her child in jeopardy. Bob uprooted the girl from her job (a precious commodity there) and will have a really hard time finding another partner except for the ones who will stay long enough to drain his funds.provided he has any left. There is no way he is going to put this behind him, not in the Philippines. We can hope this doesn't follow him to the next country he decides to settle in I doubt charges will be dropped and the process will take a very long time. The family was also offended if you know the culture, so Bob hurt quite a few people. You may think this is an exaggeration and time will tell. No Mike, while I appreciate your optimism, I don't think this will go away for Bob.
I disagree, hit another island block the family on social media. The relationship is done. The only way this follows him is if the family or the girl spread it and laws work both ways thankfully in the Philippines, slander is a huge offense. When the brother or father make a physical threat bye bye go talk to police and report their ass on the blotter. Dont live in fear if you have a relationship end
@woutergijs5246 honestly if anything from my experiences and that of friends, the fact Kelly is a gold digging bitch who tried to claim suffering when all that happened was end of relationship. Many decent women will want bob if he is honest. Most women in the Philippines that are not in their 20s abd are truly not gold diggers will understand bob and truly be ok with him
F'g Bob. Bob F'd Up. Bob is an A-hole. He needs to learn a good lesson or he will repeat this action over and over again. He has no scruples and though he can get away with this just cuz he was in the Philippines. What a Ya-hoo.
He hasn’t got completely off yet, he has to go to court. She is Filipina and the judge is Filipino. They don’t take it lightly when one of their own is miss treated by a foreigner.
Sounds like Kelly is a user and only wants money a respectable woman would leave understand not wanted and not demand payment or involve police for such bs
Foreigners still get trapped EVEN by girl bars in Pattaya and AC. I am sure her nbox is full by now 😂😂😂 *edit*: now after listening to the entire video, Bob is a d^ck. Actually the woman and kid will get lots of sympathy. In any case this news is not on CNN, only a few foreigners will hear of it ...and still as I said, Bob seems go be at fault here.
Bob did everything wrong with his partner. There was a child with his girlfriend. What animal kicks to the curb a Mom and her daughter without any warning or discussion? I truly hope Bob pays a huge fine and is blacklisted. However, his ex gf may decide to drop charges with a court settlement.
@@danramsay5844 theres a real good chance shes bat shit crazy… and bob finally got his balls back and made this small window of opurtunity work for him..
@@ManWithNoName-t2d oh yeah maybe easier i agree but the man says when apprehended and caught with illegal drugs that would be a total eclipse of your life.
@@ManWithNoName-t2d I'm an on and off again weed smoker, takes me 4-5 months to smoke an oz, by the end of the ounce I'm no longer getting high from it, so I quit, often for years at a time. I lived in the Philippines for 3 years and smelled weed a few times, but didn't smoke any. I have seen what jail is like in the Philippines and I'm not willing to take a risk. That cop might be ok, but should he get in trouble with the government, you can be sure you will be thrown under the bus.
@@ManWithNoName-t2d Sounds great until the day comes when he's caught and gives you up to lessen his charges. Grow up and stop illegal foolishness or go somewhere it's legal.
Thing is - we can’t on the one hand think “I want a traditional woman who will stay home, not working and just concentrate on looking after the house, me, and staying beautiful”… and on the other hand think “we’ve split, she can look after herself.” Be a man and recognise you’ve demanded she be dependent on you - you have to provide the parachute before kicking her from the plane. And that’s before you even consider the totally innocent child that’s had her life uprooted twice in just a few months.
Exactly. The woman HAD A JOB. And for sure it paid well enough for her to be able to afford to live in a big city with expensive rent. was it an IT JOB. but the SOB decided she quit her job and be dependent on him that’s typical of an ABUSER. if she is dependent on him she will be easily manipulated. Him throwing her and her child on the street is “A PUNISHMENT” when she caught him messing around with other women. He was trying to put her to her place. He underestimated her and that’s the CONSEQUENCE of being an A**hole. TO ALL FOREIGNERS OUT THERE, I WAS MARRIED TO ONE,,…..WAS…, NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A FILIPINA. They might not speak fluent English, mispronounce words, limited vocabulary, might not understand idioms, slangs BUT BOY WITHOUT SCREAMING, THEY WILL TEACH YOU A LESSON YOU WILL NEVER FORGET. OH BTW, they won’t need an interpreter at your COURT HEARING
Bob was being a typical idiot and deserves what he gets.. Got tired of her but brings her down to her home area with the kid and then just kicks them out with nothing. He is very lucky it could go a lot worse. Sadly there are a lot of older men just going to Philippines with this same attitude....he could have moved on but treating her with respect and dignity....Once a jerk always a jerk!! Just my opinion
I dated my gf for 3 years in the Philippines before we got married in the USA. Now over 11 years later being married, she’s perfect for me. When Bob moved, he took her & her child with him, he was obligated to take care of them. When he got angry, he should have asked her to move back to Moms home but also offer a sum of support she would need. Anger made Bob make the wrong choice. Can you imagine how the child felt ? I would have never put myself in such a situation. And Bob, your too old for temptation 😂 you should have grown a pair years ago 💝
Mike you’re a great communicator. This is a very helpful and essential video. I’ve never seen the topic discussed like this. I’ve known a few guys who left the country because they couldn’t find an amicable way to end a dating relationship. Emotions are very high in the Philippines. For me I took many months getting a lay of the emotional landscape and knowing the Phillipines laws and differences from the US before I got into anything. That was a very wise decision on my part. Jumping into a relationship right off the plane is real danger. For me I say there are only two speeds to my daring, slow and stop. I personally would never ask anyone to move in with me unless I was truly ready to settle down and i had spent YEARS knowing a Filipina AND her family. I’m a cautious mature guy. It seems Bob learned his lesson. I don’t think he’s a bad guy. He just changed his mind. I appreciate you being objective Mike. You presented this experience in a way men have an opportunity to learn from. Thank you for your effort. Best to you and Janet 🙏🏼
What happened to sitting down with your girlfriend for a serious talk and split up amicably? And yes, Bob certainly owed her some money to get back on her feet, as she went along with his idea to move to another island. Especially when there's a child involved, whose safety and well being should be your first priority.
Yes! Probably a bit too optimistic to think you can have an amicable split-up with a Filipina, but otherwise I totally agree with you. He owed her. In essence, he made an "I'll take care of you" contract with her and her child. At a minimum, he should have left her in the same circumstances he found her. NOT on the street with no money, and no where to go!
I grew up in rural America in the 50s and 60s.. everyone knew everyone and all of the girls had fathers and most of them had brothers.. if you mistreated a girl verbally the girl's father and brothers would beat the hell out of you.. we do not even want to talk about if you mistreated a girl physically.. thats when people disappear.. that still goes on in the Philippines.. if you mistreat the right wrong girl you will get a visit from two guys on a motorcycle wearing helmets and carrying 45 ACP's.. please keep up with Bob because his days are numbered and I would love to see how his story ends.. "The Grand tour" George Jones.. some girl is going to flip the coin on Bob and he's going to take The Grand tour..😮😢😅😊
Or a Woman who is left destitute no money no home in the evening with a 10 year old child. he got off lightly with 50k i would have pushed for at least 200k minimum ..
I feel really sorry for that poor filipina. That was a HORRIBLE way to treat her! You do not USE a woman then discard her like garbage. Women are humans, REAL PEOPLE. If a man was to kick his 6 month old dog out onto the streets, he'd be a monster. To do that to a woman after months together is far, far worse. To do that to a child??? That is utterly inexcusable. If I were the judge, I'd ask the man if he would like to be expelled from my country or if he prefers fixing himself. He he wanted to stay, I'd fine him , then lock him up for at least 30 days, 90 would be appropriate. If he wanted to leave and be done with the country, then fine. Let him go with a fine and make sure he gets blacklisted from returning. Bob IS SHAMEFUL! I would not even want him back in my country, yet as a citizen, I guess he must be allowed to return.
Mike, at least Bob has stepped up and helped her out, but I think that he should be helping her more. Hopefully, her daughter went back to her parents.
These are just the preliminary costs, so far. He hasn't even seen a trial yet. He better hope that this Filipina still has some kindness in her heart for him.
@@mikesphilippineretirement That's kinda like most criminals, that become the most remorseful people in the world, AFTER they're convicted. Sorry for committing the crime, or sorry that they were caught??
Oh, yeah, what a man! The only reason he's "helped her" is to try and keep his own ass out of jail. Had the police not been involved, he'd have just left her swinging in the breeze.
I just ended a relationship with a Filipina 4 days after arriving from the Philippines. It got so bad few weeks before my anticipated return to the US. She was screaming and yelling at her kids including myself from morning till bedtime and repeated the next day. She has stubborn undisciplined children perhaps due to absence of father figure. I realized that I wasnt ready to share my space and relinquish my independence living alone. I have many more plans in my 70+ years such as travelling within the US on my travel trailer. Wish I hadnt bought a home, I could live like a nomad on my travel trailer visiting different national parks and camping. Im done with kids dont need any headache. Im sorry I broke up unexpectedly from her but I have no choice when I observed I didnt want her kids in my household and her constant nagging. Glad had a chancr to observe all that during our 3 months together. It was ugly living to me.
It's not the absence of the Father that makes children so terrible. It's the quality of the Mother. Logically, how could it be the Father's fault they are raised as spoiled gremlins? He's never there to do any influencing. It's the person (the Mother) who's in charge 24/7 that's responsible. Modern day society blames it on the Father not being around so as to shield the bad Mother from blame. You saw first hand what that woman was like to you. Is it any wonder here kids are terrible?
If Bob had of taken care of his ex and her daughter in the first place, he wouldn't have to pay all the legal fees and he would have been doing the right thing. You reap what you sow...
This was my main problem in the Philippines when I was there. There are just too many attractive women. I still don't know how guys stay in relationships there. I know I wouldn't be able to do it 🤔
Bob ,if you wanted a single mother you could've just staying in the USA, sadly its probably about 85% of the population, seriously though bad move as a man , you offered to take care of her and her child ,if your not interested in the relationship anymore you have to help her get re acclimated, it the decent thing to do, if you feel quilty you should, be better Bob.
He was a fool but he was also cruel to put a woman + child on the street. Everything you do comes back to you one day! It came back to him quick as a boomerang. He should have paid for her as soon as he wanted to break up and he should have taken her back. Putting a kid on the street is a bad thing to do.
Very good advice. As a man who has experiened divorce in the U.S. I learned it is always best to walk away peacefully after having the talk and be ready to accept your losses. In other words, always have an emergency backup plan in case things don't workout. But be a gentleman by never hurting nor putting your ex in a bad position regardless of her actions. That way no one can ever say that you did something wrong.
He may not be completely out of the woods. She gave up her job for him at his request, and their judicial proceedings to include his lawyer could collectively string him along. It will hinge on how vengeful she becomes over time. What, you couldn't sing the words to that Paul Simon song??
Initially my Western mind thought Bob got screwed. But hearing you explain it again, I better understand things. I was not aware of the dating culture in PH. Way different than back home. I recently arrived in Manila. This cautionary tale is helpful. Thanks for the update, Mike.
Don't raise expectations.. I have 4 girls that I know and visit periodically and I have found that honesty is the best policy.. they call me Paro Paro and I accept and acknowledge the significance of that name.. there are no illusions in my relationships.. they don't like to lose face or be embarrassed in front of their family... Discrete, hushed relationships... As long as they enjoy themselves and I treat them with respect... Take care y'all
Hey Mike. I will Land in Cebu on Nov. 07. I need my Etravel which I can do Online & I Understand that I don't need a VISA if I am.staying only 30 Days BUT I BOOKED my Flight to Stay till Jan. 22, 2025 (90 Days Total). Can I EXTEND My VISA there in Cebu or Do I have to do it in Manila? Can I do it ONLINE here in USA before my Flight Nov. 07 ?
The mother and daughter could not go to her family near there in Davao? That was one of the reasons for moving there. Filipino family’s are big on being close and helping their own. It seemed odd to me that welfare had to put them in shelter…I thought during the story you were going to tell us the gf or daughter got raped in the shelter. 😮. Bob comes off to me as just the classic dirty old man player. I hope he gets deported and banned. Bobs not sorry for what he did, he’s sorry his sh.t got put out in the street for everyone to smell.
You're right about her family being there in Davao. It's possible she went to the shelter to bolster her case against Bob to get money. I suspect she could've easily gone to her familys home and stayed with them. Come on!
Great vlog Mike! I viewed both parts, I agree with you that he got out cheaply considering his initial reactions. I’m guessing that he received great guidance from his attorney, he was smart to follow that guidance! Thanks Mike!
I left my ex pretty well off, a house and a car, it was worth it to escape. I did what Mike said, I just left, went back to the US till the smoke cleared.
As a man you should not ask a woman move in with you unless you want to marry them. However after you do and if it does not work out take care of her right and it should not go bad.
Its 21st century. Half of the people live together without being married. Do you still live in medieval times? Times when you got married at 18 are long gone. And you should first live in together to know if you are compatible living together and than get married. Getting married before living together is big risk.
What Bob did was wrong. He deserves to pay financial restitution. He obviously didn't care for them, only cares about himself.Whst comes around, goes around.
Temptation is not outside one’s self. The external is neutral-it’s the inner thoughts about the external that need addressing and a shift. God, help me to see this differently is a good prayer to address the inner desires
LOL, That is funny but sadly true. But I can"t throw any stones since I live in southern Wv. Hoping to go to the Philippines for a month to see what all the excitement is about.
Bob' hasty decision to live with Kelly and her daughter before seeing other girls is analogous to a hungry person who eats a lot of appetizers before starting the main course.
Always leave them better off than when you found them. Have a heart. There is always going to be temptation and it's best to get that out of your system before you move anyone into your home. Great video and follow up. Thanks.
Mike thanks for sharing and hopefully Bob gets his act together and doesn’t treat the next gf bad! Eventually he’ll play for his ugly deeds! Thanks again 👌🏾
The biggest thing here for everyone to learn from is take your time you’re time getting to know each other before committing, think ahead don’t do anything without thinking about the consequences, you have the right to leave any relationship just do it in a way that you believe is a just and fair way to both parties.
Why is this so hard to understand? You are in another culture and you get involved with a women that is trying to live a better life whether she has children on not. You are an upgrade with the ability to make her life better. Then you ask her to move in with you and give up a job that is paying her bills. You ask her to quit her job and devote all of her time to you. Then after a period of time you change your mind for whatever reason. She thinks she owns you, she cheats, she asks for to much money, and you just want to move on. You owe it to her to at least bring her back to where she was when she met you. Yeah it costs you 100,000 pesos or more. You have the money so just chalk it up to experience and move on. Its so simple.
If a Filipina (with a children) is found by her foreigner lying to him , how should the breakup be ? Filipina lives in her moms house, she herself decided to quit job. The foreigner decided to live with Filipina in her communiity . Foreigner discovered he has been lied , and kept in dark. How should this be handled? Must foreigner go police station to explain or to a lawyer?
Bob dug his grave. This humiliation is taken seriously in a close-knit relationship, family oriented country! If ever he gets aquitted, he can no longer live in the Philippines.he made the whole country angry! Remember, the Philippines is the text country in the world. And this is being shared amongst families! All because of his irratiional reason!!! He lost his chance of a beautiful retirement in a beautiful country!!!!
Mike, maybe not there but admitting he was looking elsewhere for a woman while she was still in his home can be used by the prosecute in any Western scenario. Maybe remove that part? In any case I hope he gets a bigger slap on the wrist he is a jerk.
I came to the Philippines the entire month of August 2024…met a girl online and she met me at the airport (mistake). I feel Bob’s pain. After a week in the Philippines I couldn’t get rid of that girl fast enough. So many beautiful women.
Bob, Bob, Bob... supporting a person is one thing, be clear loving someone and leading them on to destruction of a life is another thing. Very childish of Bob to act like that. Even if your a foreigner always read the fine print. Respect all the land of the country.
Wrong he will be jailed right away. It works the same way regardless of your nationality. SOB Bob was lucky she did not go to her family Bob would have met grimmer ripper right away
He is not poor Bob, I have no sympathy for him. He is a 63 year old child that can't take responsibility for his own actions. If he is lucky he will be kicked out of the Philippines and if he isn't he should probably serve a year in jail to learn a lesson he should have learned a long time ago. Pathetic, he gives foreigners a bad name.
Why? I married a single mom and so far 8 years happily married. Step daughter is best friend with my niece and very popular at school and with my relatives. She is so talented, speak 3 languages, good grades at school and so on. Getting instant family is a joy which selfish people like Bob and you cannot fully appreciate.
Yes, Bob was foul. Not want her to be there is fine but not to put her especially with a child out on the streets. He should have sent her back to where she came from gave her a couple of dollars and been done with it. And in the Philippines when you post bail, that 40,000 pesos, the court keeps it, you don't get it back. Ever. Be decent people and life will treat you better.
That probably happens more in Philippines than you think. I would just silently start planning my exit from the country, walk out a free man and decide from there what to do
If you cannot learn to adapt to the environment you CHOOSE to live in, then best not to come and live here. There is a way to behave here to get things done and it isn't shouting and turfing people out on the street.
Cop should have told him he would be breaking the law. He could have prevented a crime and chose not to. Thats pretty unprofessional and unethical behavior.
The Video about Bob and break up with Kelly with Bob going to Jail th-cam.com/video/LK0_ZRDsui8/w-d-xo.html
I thew one out for having a sex partner, and they planned to murder me. I went with them to the Barangy and had the barangy throw them out. The mom, her, and daughter... Sad
You would think a 63 year old would have more sense
If any police officer says "are you sure that is what you want to do" think long and hard...he is trying to help
Given a domestic situation, that cop was trying to give him a lifeline. He allowed his anger to override his common sense.
Yes indeed ! @@Michael-u1t8k
Yep.
Especially in the P.i. , Thailand etc. Sounds pretty bad on his part to dramatic he asked her to leave her job, and move into his condo, He should help her get back on her feet knowing she had no income etc. I would just not do the right things. Didn't sound like she was violent but who knows ?
The police should have informed Bob about the law.
Dick Move Bob!
You don’t put a kid out on the street!!!
He is paying the price Glen
yeah, bad enough the mom, but he put a child out too, too much bob, disgraceful. if it really was that bad, that she had to go, at least make arrangements, give her some money, help her prepare a place to go to, help her with alternative accommodation, just help her, you can't dump a woman and a child on the street
I've lived here in the states all my life.i was rejected all my life. ( I was told more than once that I was too proper. And im a good looking guy!) if I knew the Philippines the way I do now back then, I would've met a philipina and I WOULD NOT HAVE DISCARDED HER FOR ANY REASON. unless it was her cheating. It's not I'm unforgiving, it's the danger of STDs. I would've stayed simply because I'm too proper, and I would've taken care of the girl as if she were my own.
@@modilevi6053but moms in the city where her family is from… why not go home ??? To mom and dads house ??? Probably not on good terms with them… nor bob…. Why’s that I wonder ???
@@glenclarkchidley3637 is the child his ??????
Temptation understood but changing the locks and kicking out your ex and her 10 year old child is heartless. Bob obviously has an impulsive nature that needs addressing.
once your in your 60's can you change?
Pathetic! Trying to sow your wild oats as an old fool.
@@mikesphilippineretirement I'm sure the judge wil help bob change
@@mikesphilippineretirement friendly reminder to expats who, a very small minority, are entitled a**holes like bob giving everyone a bad name. The Philippines like many asian countries may appear to have, generally docile friendly law abiding and respectful citizens but if you think you can get away with anything including harming local children worse, actively participating in child sexual abuse, I say FAFO. Just think about it, their previous president Duterte didn't execute seven thousand "drug pushers" at night in less than 7 months leaving their bloodied mess on the streets the following morning, without the help from hundreds or thousands of maybe hardcore killers within their law-enforcement, military institutions and for-hire in the general population. They could feel safe in large cities in the northern islands and if they get a lawyer right away but idk if in remote middle and southern islands. The Philippines, surrounded by water can easily make anyone disappear without a trace and not have to worry about some foreign embassy getting in the way of their justice.
Maybe Bob will meet a Bobby.
Bob was wrong here but: 1) never move in a girlfriend or have them quit their job, especially if they have a kid. 2) stop sponsoring girlfriends whole life situation 3) maximum stay time in your place is 24-48 hours and don't let them leave anything major at your place.
The rules change after marriage but this is the new standard moving forward with this law.
We go there to retire/ peace and little responsibility, stop becoming their whole support system/ placing undue burden on yourself
thanks for sharing
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If this is what happened, then he deserves EVERYTHING he gets. But there are always 2 sides to a story and then there is the truth, it will be nice to hear both sides.
@@tonyste12 don't date single mothers anywhere. and don't let them live with you.
Don't take the free car, just keep your rental you cheap skates. No jail time, because money fixes everything. Get a live in housekeeper to keep your house nice, an old lady.
People that like to yell, or are upset all the time really shouldn't come to the Philippines. Thank you, Mike...Jim
your right Jim
Well I definitely agree and maybe this video makes some of them understand they could go jail in foreign land is a very bad thing
They love to drag their butts to foreign countries with that foolishness. Drunkards full of problems and angst😒.
Bob is a selfish bastard no matter what country he's in. The police were more than fair initially. And just so you know, bail is non refundable there. He has more lessons to learn trust me. The grass only looks greener from the other side of the fence. All these "options" he thought he had will no longer be available. Bob is a foreigner, who severely mistreated a citizen and put her child in jeopardy. Bob uprooted the girl from her job (a precious commodity there) and will have a really hard time finding another partner except for the ones who will stay long enough to drain his funds.provided he has any left. There is no way he is going to put this behind him, not in the Philippines. We can hope this doesn't follow him to the next country he decides to settle in I doubt charges will be dropped and the process will take a very long time. The family was also offended if you know the culture, so Bob hurt quite a few people. You may think this is an exaggeration and time will tell. No Mike, while I appreciate your optimism, I don't think this will go away for Bob.
I disagree, hit another island block the family on social media. The relationship is done. The only way this follows him is if the family or the girl spread it and laws work both ways thankfully in the Philippines, slander is a huge offense. When the brother or father make a physical threat bye bye go talk to police and report their ass on the blotter. Dont live in fear if you have a relationship end
@@scottrunquist5611I think this is one of the first technically right responses
@woutergijs5246 honestly if anything from my experiences and that of friends, the fact Kelly is a gold digging bitch who tried to claim suffering when all that happened was end of relationship. Many decent women will want bob if he is honest.
Most women in the Philippines that are not in their 20s abd are truly not gold diggers will understand bob and truly be ok with him
Bob is just horny. haha
F'g Bob. Bob F'd Up. Bob is an A-hole. He needs to learn a good lesson or he will repeat this action over and over again. He has no scruples and though he can get away with this just cuz he was in the Philippines. What a Ya-hoo.
He hasn’t got completely off yet, he has to go to court. She is Filipina and the judge is Filipino. They don’t take it lightly when one of their own is miss treated by a foreigner.
he still has a court date
Especially a man with money that is viewed as a savior in their country.
Good! I have no sympathy for Bob.
Unfortunately, Kelly and her Daughter are going to be suspicious of all foreigners, now.
Sounds like Kelly is a user and only wants money a respectable woman would leave understand not wanted and not demand payment or involve police for such bs
Foreigners still get trapped EVEN by girl bars in Pattaya and AC. I am sure her nbox is full by now 😂😂😂
*edit*: now after listening to the entire video, Bob is a d^ck. Actually the woman and kid will get lots of sympathy. In any case this news is not on CNN, only a few foreigners will hear of it ...and still as I said, Bob seems go be at fault here.
@scottrunquist5611 Sounds like you did not watch the complete video.
Why? The women should be suspicious of Bob, I would think.
That guy is bad. He is unhuman
He handled it like a selfish jerk..period ! I feel sorry for his next victim/gf ?
Let's hope he does better
Bob did everything wrong with his partner. There was a child with his girlfriend.
What animal kicks to the curb a Mom and her daughter without any warning or discussion?
I truly hope Bob pays a huge fine and is blacklisted. However, his ex gf may decide to drop charges with a court settlement.
@@lostinasia25 Yes your correct Bob made big mistake
I don't understand the problem. They were not getting along. Time to move on. It was not her apartment
@@danramsay5844 theres a real good chance shes bat shit crazy… and bob finally got his balls back and made this small window of opurtunity work for him..
There's no bail for marijuana offenses in the Phil. Never have anything to do with weed.
Or if you have an immigration charge that requires you to be locked up.
@ManWithNoName-t2d and when he gets caught, he'll toss you under the bus in a heartbeat. You stoners are too stoned to use your brains.
@@ManWithNoName-t2d oh yeah maybe easier i agree but the man says when apprehended and caught with illegal drugs that would be a total eclipse of your life.
@@ManWithNoName-t2d I'm an on and off again weed smoker, takes me 4-5 months to smoke an oz, by the end of the ounce I'm no longer getting high from it, so I quit, often for years at a time. I lived in the Philippines for 3 years and smelled weed a few times, but didn't smoke any. I have seen what jail is like in the Philippines and I'm not willing to take a risk. That cop might be ok, but should he get in trouble with the government, you can be sure you will be thrown under the bus.
@@ManWithNoName-t2d Sounds great until the day comes when he's caught and gives you up to lessen his charges. Grow up and stop illegal foolishness or go somewhere it's legal.
What do we learn?
NEVER EVER DATE A SINGLE MOM!
I married one
100% agreed, rule number 1 never marry a single mum, unless you want to be a dad to someone elses child for the rest of your life.
I did.
That's illegal also. So many legalities to relationships over there.
No......we learn NOT TO BE AN ASSHOLE, regardless of whether the woman is a single mother or not...
So what happened to Bob eventually
Thing is - we can’t on the one hand think “I want a traditional woman who will stay home, not working and just concentrate on looking after the house, me, and staying beautiful”… and on the other hand think “we’ve split, she can look after herself.”
Be a man and recognise you’ve demanded she be dependent on you - you have to provide the parachute before kicking her from the plane.
And that’s before you even consider the totally innocent child that’s had her life uprooted twice in just a few months.
thanks for sharing
I agree. Bob is a jerk
Exactly. The woman HAD A JOB. And for sure it paid well enough for her to be able to afford to live in a big city with expensive rent. was it an IT JOB. but the SOB decided she quit her job and be dependent on him that’s typical of an ABUSER. if she is dependent on him she will be easily manipulated. Him throwing her and her child on the street is “A PUNISHMENT” when she caught him messing around with other women. He was trying to put her to her place. He underestimated her and that’s the CONSEQUENCE of being an A**hole.
TO ALL FOREIGNERS OUT THERE, I WAS MARRIED TO ONE,,…..WAS…, NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A FILIPINA. They might not speak fluent English, mispronounce words, limited vocabulary, might not understand idioms, slangs BUT BOY WITHOUT SCREAMING, THEY WILL TEACH YOU A LESSON YOU WILL NEVER FORGET. OH BTW, they won’t need an interpreter at your COURT HEARING
I hope she is safe and sound now.
He shouldn't have ever made that big a move, especially in another country.
His is a cautionary tale.
I think she is ok now
Do not Sound like a boss
Bob was being a typical idiot and deserves what he gets.. Got tired of her but brings her down to her home area with the kid and then just kicks them out with nothing. He is very lucky it could go a lot worse. Sadly there are a lot of older men just going to Philippines with this same attitude....he could have moved on but treating her with respect and dignity....Once a jerk always a jerk!! Just my opinion
Thanks for sharing
Agree!
I dated my gf for 3 years in the Philippines before we got married in the USA. Now over 11 years later being married, she’s perfect for me. When Bob moved, he took her & her child with him, he was obligated to take care of them. When he got angry, he should have asked her to move back to Moms home but also offer a sum of support she would need. Anger made Bob make the wrong choice. Can you imagine how the child felt ? I would have never put myself in such a situation. And Bob, your too old for temptation 😂 you should have grown a pair years ago 💝
thanks for sharing
Too old for temptation🤔😁, I am just now finding out temptation has an expiration age.
Mike you’re a great communicator. This is a very helpful and essential video. I’ve never seen the topic discussed like this. I’ve known a few guys who left the country because they couldn’t find an amicable way to end a dating relationship. Emotions are very high in the Philippines. For me I took many months getting a lay of the emotional landscape and knowing the Phillipines laws and differences from the US before I got into anything. That was a very wise decision on my part. Jumping into a relationship right off the plane is real danger. For me I say there are only two speeds to my daring, slow and stop. I personally would never ask anyone to move in with me unless I was truly ready to settle down and i had spent YEARS knowing a Filipina AND her family. I’m a cautious mature guy. It seems Bob learned his lesson. I don’t think he’s a bad guy. He just changed his mind. I appreciate you being objective Mike. You presented this experience in a way men have an opportunity to learn from. Thank you for your effort. Best to you and Janet 🙏🏼
@koufax174 Mike has a way of putting things into perspective.
Thanks guys
Some women have a hard time accepting NO.
The SOB should get 30 days in jail for putting that child out on the street at the drop of a hat. These kids already have a hard enough life
the child was the big victim
Great work. Stellar. You set the bar high. I hope we follow you over.
What happened to sitting down with your girlfriend for a serious talk and split up amicably? And yes, Bob certainly owed her some money to get back on her feet, as she went along with his idea to move to another island. Especially when there's a child involved, whose safety and well being should be your first priority.
That is what he did
Yes! Probably a bit too optimistic to think you can have an amicable split-up with a Filipina, but otherwise I totally agree with you. He owed her. In essence, he made an "I'll take care of you" contract with her and her child. At a minimum, he should have left her in the same circumstances he found her. NOT on the street with no money, and no where to go!
He might have thought she was just a gf NOT A WIFE but works the same if you mistreat a person
Those women don't comprehend NO and it is over too well.
Good job Mike and good subject
Thank you Mike for your videos, I am investigating moving to Philippines . You real life situation videos are very educating.
thank you Glenn
bad move bye bob not knowing the laws
Be smart at all times
It’s ok to change your mind, but there is always a cost in doing so. There are 50 ways, but Bob easily picked the worst. Bad Bob.
hahaha Bad Bob
Thanks for the update. I'd would like to still hear the final conclusion and total cost to Bob. Thanks again!
Great advice, Mike, wise words. I hope more guys take heed or/and become more reasonable.
You and me both!
I hope most guy's never take on the responsibility of another mans seed.
I grew up in rural America in the 50s and 60s.. everyone knew everyone and all of the girls had fathers and most of them had brothers.. if you mistreated a girl verbally the girl's father and brothers would beat the hell out of you.. we do not even want to talk about if you mistreated a girl physically.. thats when people disappear.. that still goes on in the Philippines.. if you mistreat the right wrong girl you will get a visit from two guys on a motorcycle wearing helmets and carrying 45 ACP's.. please keep up with Bob because his days are numbered and I would love to see how his story ends.. "The Grand tour"
George Jones.. some girl is going to flip the coin on Bob and he's going to take The Grand tour..😮😢😅😊
Thanks for sharing Richard
words should not be reason for a beating though
Bod should thank the girl for calling the cops and not her family otherwise by now what would have left of BOB IS A CARCASS.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Amen to that
Or a Woman who is left destitute no money no home in the evening with a 10 year old child. he got off lightly with 50k i would have pushed for at least 200k minimum ..
I feel really sorry for that poor filipina. That was a HORRIBLE way to treat her!
You do not USE a woman then discard her like garbage. Women are humans, REAL PEOPLE.
If a man was to kick his 6 month old dog out onto the streets, he'd be a monster. To do that to a woman after months together is far, far worse.
To do that to a child??? That is utterly inexcusable. If I were the judge, I'd ask the man if he would like to be expelled from my country or if he prefers fixing himself. He he wanted to stay, I'd fine him , then lock him up for at least 30 days, 90 would be appropriate.
If he wanted to leave and be done with the country, then fine. Let him go with a fine and make sure he gets blacklisted from returning.
Bob IS SHAMEFUL!
I would not even want him back in my country, yet as a citizen, I guess he must be allowed to return.
he was wrong thanks for sharing David
Throwing someone in the street is not a moral thing and moving in with someone is the big decision think deeply before moving in together.
thanks for sharing
Mike, at least Bob has stepped up and helped her out, but I think that he should be helping her more. Hopefully, her daughter went back to her parents.
These are just the preliminary costs, so far. He hasn't even seen a trial yet. He better hope that this Filipina still has some kindness in her heart for him.
yes but he should have done that in the first place. Better late than never LLL
@@mikesphilippineretirement That's kinda like most criminals, that become the most remorseful people in the world, AFTER they're convicted. Sorry for committing the crime, or sorry that they were caught??
Oh, yeah, what a man! The only reason he's "helped her" is to try and keep his own ass out of jail. Had the police not been involved, he'd have just left her swinging in the breeze.
The more I listen to Mike the more I am convinced I will never go to the Philippines 😔😊
I just ended a relationship with a Filipina 4 days after arriving from the Philippines. It got so bad few weeks before my anticipated return to the US. She was screaming and yelling at her kids including myself from morning till bedtime and repeated the next day. She has stubborn undisciplined children perhaps due to absence of father figure. I realized that I wasnt ready to share my space and relinquish my independence living alone. I have many more plans in my 70+ years such as travelling within the US on my travel trailer. Wish I hadnt bought a home, I could live like a nomad on my travel trailer visiting different national parks and camping. Im done with kids dont need any headache. Im sorry I broke up unexpectedly from her but I have no choice when I observed I didnt want her kids in my household and her constant nagging. Glad had a chancr to observe all that during our 3 months together. It was ugly living to me.
thanks for sharing
It's not the absence of the Father that makes children so terrible. It's the quality of the Mother. Logically, how could it be the Father's fault they are raised as spoiled gremlins? He's never there to do any influencing. It's the person (the Mother) who's in charge 24/7 that's responsible.
Modern day society blames it on the Father not being around so as to shield the bad Mother from blame.
You saw first hand what that woman was like to you. Is it any wonder here kids are terrible?
@@YouDcm
True, the reason most likely the man left her and the children.
If Bob had of taken care of his ex and her daughter in the first place, he wouldn't have to pay all the legal fees and he would have been doing the right thing. You reap what you sow...
Thanks for sharing
This was my main problem in the Philippines when I was there. There are just too many attractive women. I still don't know how guys stay in relationships there. I know I wouldn't be able to do it 🤔
Tell me about it. So hard looking at all the beauties in the Philippines
@@mikesphilippineretirement
I say this to all men. Stay single, guys. Especially if you're in your 40s, 50s, and early 60s 🤔
@@frankellis9627😁 nah
Bob ,if you wanted a single mother you could've just staying in the USA, sadly its probably about 85% of the population, seriously though bad move as a man , you offered to take care of her and her child ,if your not interested in the relationship anymore you have to help her get re acclimated, it the decent thing to do, if you feel quilty you should, be better Bob.
Filipinas are not toys respect them and keep them forever ❤
thanks for sharing
Stupid us as stupid does ! I am happily married for 22 years now and we disagree at times but as others stated, bob chose the worst way to separate!
Gio’s wife Maya moved out and has her own apartment now….I really hope they work it out and get back together 😢….
He was a fool but he was also cruel to put a woman + child on the street. Everything you do comes back to you one day! It came back to him quick as a boomerang. He should have paid for her as soon as he wanted to break up and he should have taken her back. Putting a kid on the street is a bad thing to do.
thanks for sharing. He was cruel
Very good advice. As a man who has experiened divorce in the U.S. I learned it is always best to walk away peacefully after having the talk and be ready to accept your losses. In other words, always have an emergency backup plan in case things don't workout. But be a gentleman by never hurting nor putting your ex in a bad position regardless of her actions. That way no one can ever say that you did something wrong.
True. I have my car ready and a few gold coin somewhere, to make sure I won't starve if it happens 😂
@@newafricanforum Lol. Sounds good.
Thanks, Mike. Good advice no matter where you are.
Thanks David
He may not be completely out of the woods.
She gave up her job for him at his request, and their judicial proceedings to include his lawyer could collectively string him along.
It will hinge on how vengeful she becomes over time.
What, you couldn't sing the words to that Paul Simon song??
I think it is over. She is back in Cebu moving on with her life. He just has the courts to deal with
Initially my Western mind thought Bob got screwed. But hearing you explain it again, I better understand things. I was not aware of the dating culture in PH. Way different than back home. I recently arrived in Manila. This cautionary tale is helpful. Thanks for the update, Mike.
Don't raise expectations.. I have 4 girls that I know and visit periodically and I have found that honesty is the best policy.. they call me Paro Paro and I accept and acknowledge the significance of that name.. there are no illusions in my relationships.. they don't like to lose face or be embarrassed in front of their family... Discrete, hushed relationships... As long as they enjoy themselves and I treat them with respect... Take care y'all
Thanks for sharing Frank
@@frankparkinson3646
What's Paro Paro mean?
Hey Mike. I will Land in Cebu on Nov. 07.
I need my Etravel which I can do Online & I
Understand that I don't need a VISA if I am.staying only 30 Days BUT I BOOKED my Flight to Stay till Jan. 22, 2025 (90 Days Total).
Can I EXTEND My VISA there in Cebu or Do I have to do it in Manila?
Can I do it ONLINE here in USA before my Flight Nov. 07 ?
in cebu
Great video. Interesting commentary
Glad you enjoyed it
Mike great video
Ok..good to hear the update..👍
The mother and daughter could not go to her family near there in Davao? That was one of the reasons for moving there. Filipino family’s are big on being close and helping their own. It seemed odd to me that welfare had to put them in shelter…I thought during the story you were going to tell us the gf or daughter got raped in the shelter. 😮. Bob comes off to me as just the classic dirty old man player. I hope he gets deported and banned. Bobs not sorry for what he did, he’s sorry his sh.t got put out in the street for everyone to smell.
You're right about her family being there in Davao. It's possible she went to the shelter to bolster her case against Bob to get money. I suspect she could've easily gone to her familys home and stayed with them. Come on!
Poor Bob, should have thought things out before he committed to a relationship. You don't just do that to someone.
Roy how is everything camper is looking nice
@@mikesphilippineretirement, thank you Mike!!!
That was not cheap. He should have given her 50k and she probably would have happily left without drama.
Great vlog Mike! I viewed both parts, I agree with you that he got out cheaply considering his initial reactions. I’m guessing that he received great guidance from his attorney, he was smart to follow that guidance! Thanks Mike!
Great lesson for other expats.
A man must and should give very serious thought to what's best for that child.
I left my ex pretty well off, a house and a car, it was worth it to escape. I did what Mike said, I just left, went back to the US till the smoke cleared.
Thanks for sharing
Uh, Bob is NOT out of the woods yet. Anything can happen in court! Do give us a follow up on the absolute final outcome one! Thanks
I will
Back to the old saying. Right is Right and wrong is wrong. If you always do the right thing you normally don't have any things to worry about.
very good continuation of a very good video, waiting for more!
We will move on to a different subject. Thank you for watching
As a man you should not ask a woman move in with you unless you want to marry them. However after you do and if it does not work out take care of her right and it should not go bad.
thanks for sharing Steve
Its 21st century. Half of the people live together without being married. Do you still live in medieval times? Times when you got married at 18 are long gone. And you should first live in together to know if you are compatible living together and than get married. Getting married before living together is big risk.
So Bob paid about 2 grand in USD for everything in case anyone is wondering.
Mike, I left a comment on the last video and after watching this I can say that you are 100% correct. Great video and even better advice.
Awesome! Thank you!
You know, i am truly ASTONISHED at some of the thing dudes do in the PH. Unbelieveable.
Thanks for sharing
What Bob did was wrong. He deserves to pay financial restitution. He obviously didn't care for them, only cares about himself.Whst comes around, goes around.
thanks for sharing
Temptation is not outside one’s self. The external is neutral-it’s the inner thoughts about the external that need addressing and a shift. God, help me to see this differently is a good prayer to address the inner desires
Thanks for sharing
She doesn’t have a job now! I feel bad for her…😢
i agree/ too harsh
Great Video Mike
thank you
If i was from Ohio, I'd move to the Philippines too
LOL, That is funny but sadly true. But I can"t throw any stones since I live in southern Wv. Hoping to go to the Philippines for a month to see what all the excitement is about.
come and join me in the Philippines
Bob' hasty decision to live with Kelly and her daughter before seeing other girls is analogous to a hungry person who eats a lot of appetizers before starting the main course.
Very wise , Mike . Go Lions 😊
Strong team this year
Yep, got a problem? Throw money at it!
She can have him deported. Or an organization can file a case against him since a child is involved he will face jail time pending deportation.
Good advice Mike...
thanks
You can get bail easily in the Philippines for almost any charge.
how much was you're bail?
@@mikesphilippineretirement I didn't need bail.
But because you're there it's good advice for you.
Always leave them better off than when you found them. Have a heart. There is always going to be temptation and it's best to get that out of your system before you move anyone into your home. Great video and follow up. Thanks.
Thanks for sharing Robert
Mike thanks for sharing and hopefully Bob gets his act together and doesn’t treat the next gf bad! Eventually he’ll play for his ugly deeds! Thanks again 👌🏾
Thanks for sharing Skip
Many Many good points my friend. Thanks for bringing this to our attention. Watch what you wish for..👍 Go Browns/ Ohio State 🏈.
So true Herb
I agree he got off cheap. Lucky the girl did not know scams deep enough to sink him to poverty there. Its very easy to be done. Thanks for the Update
Thanks for the comment Miguel
you are good man my friend
Thanks! 😃
The biggest thing here for everyone to learn from is take your time you’re time getting to know each other before committing, think ahead don’t do anything without thinking about the consequences, you have the right to leave any relationship just do it in a way that you believe is a just and fair way to both parties.
Thanks for sharing Edgar
It will happen anywhere..
Why is this so hard to understand? You are in another culture and you get involved with a women that is trying to live a better life whether she has children on not. You are an upgrade with the ability to make her life better. Then you ask her to move in with you and give up a job that is paying her bills. You ask her to quit her job and devote all of her time to you. Then after a period of time you change your mind for whatever reason. She thinks she owns you, she cheats, she asks for to much money, and you just want to move on. You owe it to her to at least bring her back to where she was when she met you. Yeah it costs you 100,000 pesos or more. You have the money so just chalk it up to experience and move on. Its so simple.
thanks for sharing Ed
Living with psycho like Bob is not upgrade. Its better to be poor than live with narcist like that who think he owns you because he pays bills.
Exactly
I hate this for the child most of all. Bob made life harder for all of us . DON’T BE A BOB !
bad Bob. hahaha
If a Filipina (with a children) is found by her foreigner lying to him , how should the breakup be ? Filipina lives in her moms house, she herself decided to quit job. The foreigner decided to live with Filipina in her communiity . Foreigner discovered he has been lied , and kept in dark. How should this be handled?
Must foreigner go police station to explain or to a lawyer?
walk away
@@mikesphilippineretirement Thanks for answer.
Peso exchange currently p55. 88 at the close today at 6 month high for the peso. I'm expecting it to go higher to the us dollar.
Thanks for sharing
Bob dug his grave. This humiliation is taken seriously in a close-knit relationship, family oriented country! If ever he gets aquitted, he can no longer live in the Philippines.he made the whole country angry! Remember, the Philippines is the text country in the world. And this is being shared amongst families! All because of his irratiional reason!!! He lost his chance of a beautiful retirement in a beautiful country!!!!
Mike, maybe not there but admitting he was looking elsewhere for a woman while she was still in his home can be used by the prosecute in any Western scenario. Maybe remove that part? In any case I hope he gets a bigger slap on the wrist he is a jerk.
Think has has done enough but he should have done that b4 and move on
That cannot be used by the "prosecutor" anywhere. Merely thinking something is not a crime.
I came to the Philippines the entire month of August 2024…met a girl online and she met me at the airport (mistake). I feel Bob’s pain. After a week in the Philippines I couldn’t get rid of that girl fast enough. So many beautiful women.
thanks for sharing
Where is a link to the first video?
pinned to the top of the comments
I'm not sure 50K is enough. She may get her boarding house back but her job? Not so sure. 50K is not very much.
that is what he gave her and she was happy with it Mike
BOB needs to grow up. He is obviously selfish and immature. He lacks compassion and vision. He is not the sort of person the Philippines needs.
thanks for sharing Wayne
Bob, Bob, Bob... supporting a person is one thing, be clear loving someone and leading them on to destruction of a life is another thing. Very childish of Bob to act like that. Even if your a foreigner always read the fine print. Respect all the land of the country.
Thanks for sharing
If Bob was a Filipino, this would'nt even be a news story. However Bob handled this wrong from the get go. No, we don't all want a live in gf.
So true if he was Filipino he wouldn't get arrested.
Wrong he will be jailed right away. It works the same way regardless of your nationality. SOB Bob was lucky she did not go to her family Bob would have met grimmer ripper right away
False watch RAFFY TULFO IN ACTION. The LAW is NOT SELECTIVE
Remember the song Breaking Up Is Hard to Do? 💍💔
He is not poor Bob, I have no sympathy for him. He is a 63 year old child that can't take responsibility for his own actions. If he is lucky he will be kicked out of the Philippines and if he isn't he should probably serve a year in jail to learn a lesson he should have learned a long time ago. Pathetic, he gives foreigners a bad name.
Like I said before, Bob should not have gotten into anything with a single mother
Thanks for sharing
Why? I married a single mom and so far 8 years happily married. Step daughter is best friend with my niece and very popular at school and with my relatives. She is so talented, speak 3 languages, good grades at school and so on. Getting instant family is a joy which selfish people like Bob and you cannot fully appreciate.
Theres 2 sides to every story. Id like to hear bobs side
the story is his side
Yes, Bob was foul. Not want her to be there is fine but not to put her especially with a child out on the streets. He should have sent her back to where she came from gave her a couple of dollars and been done with it. And in the Philippines when you post bail, that 40,000 pesos, the court keeps it, you don't get it back. Ever. Be decent people and life will treat you better.
thanks for sharing Donald
So if you find your wife is cheating on you, at home you can 't ven habve an argument, raise vice, Becaouse she can fill in a report for distress?
That probably happens more in Philippines than you think.
I would just silently start planning my exit from the country, walk out a free man and decide from there what to do
@@Ted-f4o077You can always return to your home country and divorce her there.
@@danp1043 if they don't arrest you before!
If you cannot learn to adapt to the environment you CHOOSE to live in, then best not to come and live here. There is a way to behave here to get things done and it isn't shouting and turfing people out on the street.
@@QuicknStraight there are people you can hire to deal with that kind of situation... (cheating spouse). they make those problems disappear.
Cop should have told him he would be breaking the law. He could have prevented a crime and chose not to. Thats pretty unprofessional and unethical behavior.