These are great tips, but I wanted to chime in. I'm an occupational therapist and worked with picky eaters for many years who are on the autism spectrum. I was determined to not have picky eaters when I became a parent. My oldest was picky from day 1 of table food and 6 years later, he's still picky. I've never forced him to eat or made him a separate meal. I did the thing where I just saved his plate and would re-offer it to him if he asked for food again before bedtime (FOR YEARS). He has consistently refused what I offer, and will just wait until the next mealtime. Before I had my own kids, I didn't think a kid could be this strong willed, but I suppose if you aren't a super appetite driven person, the kid will just hold out. As an example, my middle kiddo loves fettuccine with broccoli and I'm sure I have served it over 50 times. My oldest continues to refuse it and will just go without eating until breakfast. Every kid is different and just wanted to chime in for anyone else out there, that you can do ALL the right things and I believe some kids are just strong willed, sensory sensitive and will just refuse until someday they are motivated by a different reason to eat non-preferred foods.
Thank you for this!!! I felt so alone with my experience with my first! I am also an OT, I don’t do a lot of work with picky eaters but I know a lot of strategies from my schooling and NOTHING worked! All the strategies. He has differences in his sensory processing and I just think he’ll take years to try the foods that my other kids eat regularly.
@@meredithreesor5888 Yes! My brother had sensory issues with food until he was a teenager! He's not autistic but his brain definitely works differently than most! (He's very smart and once told me his brain thinks in visual words, not an auditory narrator like mine.) He was VERY skinny for years because my mom wouldn’t make him other meals and he would only eat a banana for dinner 3 times a week. Such a challenge. But I’m SURE it will all work out! Now my brother is a more adventurous eater than me! ❤
@@Larryissa2943 absolutely! And Becca gives great advice!! Sometimes people giving their personal experience adds richness because it might mean that someone feels less alone in their experience.
French Kids Eat Everything is a fantastic read (written by a Canadian professor who moved to France for a year with her husband and two picky toddlers) and goes more in depth to a lot of these points (especially the research behind kids needing exposure to foods so many times before accepting which was just mind-blowing!!); part memoir, part pep talk, part extremely thorough research, highly highly recommend!
THANK YOU so much for acknowledging the neurodivergence piece here. I always watch videos like this in an effort to take away the things I can for my two ASD kiddos and I always find that the creator doesnt acknowledge and often will dismiss issues with texture. Both of my kiddos struggle so much so I DO have to make separate meals but I will incorporate new things or make sure its the healthiest ingredients I can manage and will repeatedly offer them new textures so that they are at least exposed to the fear food to make it a little less fearful and maybe one day they will try it. The irony is that my oldest will only eat fruits and vegetables, generally raw, but won't eat protein sources, and her little brother will eat sunbutter or hummus but wont eat most raw veggies or fruits. People comment on how "good" of an eater she is and how "picky" he is, in front of them, and I'm just like NO THEY ARE BOTH AUTISTIC! lol they have their likes and dislikes, and they help cook but just won't eat it, and that's ok because at least they are getting exposed to the foods in the hopes they'll grow to like it one day.
You have 4 babies!!! Eee congratulations!! I have been following you since before you had any babies yet! I am a fellow RD and mom of 4 too!! so happy for you!! keep rocking girl!!!
Love and appreciate your videos so much especially as a mom Also I looked up two of the oldest ppl in the world and both of them them lived over 119, and ate very similar to how you teach Very thankful for your wisdom Thank you for all your videos Becca Appreciate you so much
Yes! I have three girls ages 5 and below. Because of you and others like you, this is how I feed my girls (most of the time!) and I couldn't be more thankful. Keep spreading the word, Becca!
It is very hard at times, but I tend to give my son things that he loves, when I tend to make food from scratch and he finds so delicious I keep making them. I know some food isn't always so great but he can have some bad food occasionally. Thanks for such a great video 😊😊😊😊
Great video! My 11 year old son eats EVERYTHING including sushi, all meats and seafood, veggies, etc. My 7 year old has become so picky and I tend to make her a set "child meal" if she won't eat what we have as a family. I am going to adopt this idea immediately!
this was the pep talk I needed! My 13 month old is getting opinionated, and even though I knew this would happen, it has been hard to navigate. I was so picky as a child, and I don't want that for her.
I was raised primarily by my aunt, when I first moved in with her, the food was different. I was never really picky, but there are things I don't like. She still added mushrooms, I tried them and didn't like them, I picked them out. I didn't like wild game,but there was other options on the table that was nutrient rich. We usually had a salad or cottage cheese with fruit, along with a starch and veggie. It works. Don't create power struggles with your kids, especially it will backfire when they are older
Do you let them choose their own snacks at a “snack time”? Or do you choose the snack & when it’s offered? Would love to see a video explaining this as well!
She said she decides what and when they eat. So I assume she decides what the snacks are too, not just the big meals. It wouldn't make sense to me that they would decide what it would be, just because it's snack time :)
Thank you for sharing this! My middle child (4.5 yo) has just started to show resistance at meal time/refusing to eat certain foods/taking a longggg time to eat. We’ve been saving his dinner plate and offering it again before bed if he doesn’t eat much which seems to be helping a little bit 😀
Great timing for this video! I was actually just dealing with my almost 12 and 13-year-olds letting me know what foods they’re not huge fans of… They’re always respectful, but I started to let it get in my head a little bit. I don’t need to be offended! It’s a challenge with my 19 mo old, as she just throws food off of her tray if she’s not feeling it😆 but I’ve noticed my extreeeemely picky eater son who is 8 is starting to come around a bit- praise! 😅
Thank you for this and I actually read Ellen satters book when I had my first. It was very different than how I grew up so I loved it but it was against everything I knew. I think as time went on I fell back on the ways I grew up-diet culture mentality-talking about healthy and non healthy foods which probably translated too much into “good” and “bad”. I try hard to have the conversation be focused on how the food makes you feel… overall I do a lot of what you say. I cook healthy food and do not make anything special just for the kids. BUT my biggest issue is that my kids are all a little overweight and tend to overeat. They have noticeable pot bellies. Typically not when young-once they are around 8 or so… I make organic, from scratch meals, ferments, freshly milled sourdough, don’t buy processed foods, etc,,etc. so I’m not serving them junk food. But I find them overeating often when they like something and it is so hard not to limit or say anything. Same thing at parties/church. They always tend to go a little crazy with the processed food/treats. We do have treats in our home occasionally and they do get this stuff often because of weekly things like church, homeschool potlucks, bday parties, play dates, etc. Finding intuitive eating has been wonderful for me. It has helped heal my relationship with food and I want to pass it on to my kids but working out exactly how has been tricky and for my husband especially who wants to limit the kids with the things they want to overeat -buttered toast, sweets, etc. I would really love to hear any advice you have for me. I try to keep my kids active but I feel like the eating part is the issue. Do you just let them make as many pieces of toast as they want? Do you let them just eat half the cake? I have mostly let them eat what they feel is right but recently I’ve felt like it’s better to limit them as they don’t seem to have self control. I’m worries I’ve passed down some of my preoccupation with food or unhealthy relationship with food even though it was a big desire of mine not to. My kids are 13,11,9,6,2. Would really appreciate any thoughts you have.
I'm a dietitian & mom of 2 under 5. I want to start by saying you sound like you're doing a great job! I'm not sure but a few thoughts: would it help to control the "what" is available on foods you see they have particular trouble with? (For example, if they go crazy on bread, can you serve bread less often and substitute a different carb that they more easily self limit?) On the flip side -- this doesn't sound like you if they have access to sweets on a weekly basis -- but there are families who go overboard on not providing access to less desirable foods & then kids really crave them & overeat when they do have access at parties/playdates/etc; in that case I would advise actually serving sweets more often (e.g. weekly instead of never) (Disclaimer: this may not be pure Ellyn Satter but it's a dietitian living real life as a mom.) Also, in my household we do limit the amount in a roundabout way. I put a little bit of everything on the plate, including a small helping of dessert if that's part of the meal, (& sometimes it is literally one bite of something if it is new or I know they have previously not liked it), and we do not allow seconds of anything until they have finished what's already on the plate. However they do NOT have to finish the plate in order to get down from the table. Often, my son asks for a 2nd buttered roll or whatever, I remind him of the rule, & he immediately says "I'm full," choosing to leave his peas on the plate untouched (with no argument from me or my husband).
Very informative!! Thank you for sharing. As a mom of two young kids I really appreciated this video! Also, could we have a link for your daughter’s lunch box??
Wow, such a good video and perfect timing! My 3 year old daughter won't eat meat and I'm having such a hard time with that because she needs those nutrients. How would you deal with such a big food group left out?
I'm a dietitian and mom of 2 under 5 (and I'm right there with you on kids who don't eat much meat, very common for young kids!) First of all, does she eat other protein foods? Eggs, beans (e.g. beans/lentils in soups, refried beans in quesadillas/as a dip for chips), nuts or nut butters, yogurt? Those have many of the same nutrients and can help put your mind at ease as she gradually comes around to meat. Second, I embrace dips! Sometimes dipping something in ketchup/Ranch/hummus/plain yogurt/etc makes all the difference :) My son has even dipped things in applesauce -- whatever floats his boat! Or breaded stuff -- I try to bread & bake it myself if we're going to have breaded chicken for example, but on the other hand, I think restaurant chicken fingers every once in a blue moon is a fine gateway to eating meat in other contexts. If he knows he liked Culver's chicken last month, he is more likely to try my homemade chicken tenders tonight ;) Third, I mentioned in another comment (Disclaimer: this may not be pure Ellyn Satter but it's a dietitian living real life as a mom) that in my household we do limit the amount in a roundabout way. I put a little bit of everything on the plate (& sometimes it is literally one bite of something if it is new or I know they have previously not liked it), and we do not allow seconds of anything until they have finished what's already on the plate. However they do NOT have to finish the plate in order to get down from the table. I feel like this has helped expose my kids to new/previously disliked foods, getting them used to having them on the plate, potentially trying a little bite (but without being forced to -- they can always chose to leave the plate with food still on it) & sometimes realizing they do actually like this particular presentation of a meat.
Thank you for talking about this! I have alot to learn from this! Also, a friend of mine teaches me very wise things about approaching food with littles and how too many adults tend to use terms like 'good food and bad food'. It can create all kinds of issues (that my friend has dealt with herself). So she, for instance, will serve a dessert right with the meal, (like on the kid's plate) and it works really well apparently. She believes that it develops a more intuitive eating approach when the dessert is served right along side the vegetables. Your thoughts? Aside from this, i myself get a guilt complex about the idea of my kids not eating (say if they don't like what I've made), so thank you for speaking to this!
We follow this and my son now eats spinach, lettuce and Brussel sprouts. He went through a very fussy phase where I just had to remind myself it won't be forever, then I just slowly added a piece of spinach here and there, then would put lettuce on his plate and say he didn't have to eat it and then eventually he ate it. Also, some kids just prefer veggies raw so that helped.
Hi Becca! Thanks so much for this inspiring video! I have such a picky 5 year old! I was wondering if you could share your homemade ranch recipe? Or if you could direct me to a video you’ve possibly shared it in? Thank you!
So, we do this for the most part. Although, I do tend to meddle and have them take 4 more bites of the veggies or tell them to finish their meat and veggies and then they can be done…or whatever. My kids, for the most part, will eat what I put in front of them. My biggest problem is they will ravage the pantry for snacks in between meals and then say they’re not hungry. Of course they’re not hungry when they’ve devoured a whole sleeve of crackers or half a bag of Veggie Straws before dinner. I work from home and cannot monitor the pantry, fridge, and freezer 24/7. My kids are older (9 & 6) so they know how to open doors and such. How do I stop the binge snacking between meals so that they’re hungry during the meal times? Also, for the record, I’ve done the “don’t buy snacks” but then they’ll binge eat my ingredients for the meals I’ve planned, like crackers I was saving to go with my tuna salad at lunch.
@@amberlynponce8191I don’t think it’s extreme I also have locks there they will eventually learn and if you don’t want them to snack in between and can’t monitor than maybe that’s what it takes…
Until I was maybe 8 years old (maybe even older) I was that kid that would have to sit down for an hour to eat, everyone would force me to eat whatever was in the plate, they would negociate with me to eat as in "have a bite for mom, now have a bite for gradma, have a bite for the kids in Africa who don't have anything to eat". I'm sure it was exausting for everyone, including me because I just wasn't hungry enough. It taught me nothing good, all it did was teach me to feel wrong about not eating more and more and everything on the plate. I'm sure I would have eventually self regulate on how to eat properly. But I didn't and I still don't, as sometimes I will eat until I'm hurting in the stomack. But this was the 90's so you would have to eat everything, parents didn't know better and there was no internet to learning things like in this video. Thank you very much for this info. Maybe one day I will have kids and I learned a lot from this.
Our kids are pretty close in age, I have a 6 year old, 4 year old, 2 year old and 5 week old baby. What we struggle with is them wanting a snack after not eating a meal. So we say no snacks if you don’t eat good and offer to rewarm their food but then we are just left with fussy kids that throw tantrums cause they are hungry. Or we are running out the door and need them to eat good so we can go to the park, zoo, etc. How do you handle those scenarios?
Yes I'm curious on this too! Mine are a bit older, 7 & 9. My 9 year old eats great but my 7 year old is SO picky and just wants snacks and treats all the time
What do you do when you do everything “right” but your child still refuses to eat and then gets hangry before bed and thrown tantrums and refuses to go to bed stating she’s too hungry? I’ve tried offering her the same meal or a cheese stick so she can at least get some protein. But then when she gets the cheese, it becomes routine. I’m stuck…
What if your kid is 15? Do you think this would work? She also is with her dad now 50% of the time, and he lets her eat literally anything and I’ve noticed she’s more adverse to my healthy cooking now.
Read her book when my kids, now teens and young adults were little and it was life changing! I'm struggling now to get my teenage daughter enough iron- any suggestions would be great. We are doing supplements but also want to work through nutrition. And bread recipe?? Looks delicious.
My son is a great eater and will eat the healthy food I make. But at school they have free breakfast and snacks which are all packaged processed foods. Donuts, cheese itz, gummies, juice, cookies. I don’t want to be that parent that complains but it drives me nuts all the sugar he consumes at school. Is this normal?
That is a handly looking lunch box. I've been using silicone lunch containers but, would love just one large unit. Would you share link to where you purchased it?!
These are great tips, but I wanted to chime in. I'm an occupational therapist and worked with picky eaters for many years who are on the autism spectrum. I was determined to not have picky eaters when I became a parent. My oldest was picky from day 1 of table food and 6 years later, he's still picky. I've never forced him to eat or made him a separate meal. I did the thing where I just saved his plate and would re-offer it to him if he asked for food again before bedtime (FOR YEARS). He has consistently refused what I offer, and will just wait until the next mealtime. Before I had my own kids, I didn't think a kid could be this strong willed, but I suppose if you aren't a super appetite driven person, the kid will just hold out. As an example, my middle kiddo loves fettuccine with broccoli and I'm sure I have served it over 50 times. My oldest continues to refuse it and will just go without eating until breakfast. Every kid is different and just wanted to chime in for anyone else out there, that you can do ALL the right things and I believe some kids are just strong willed, sensory sensitive and will just refuse until someday they are motivated by a different reason to eat non-preferred foods.
Thank you for this!!! I felt so alone with my experience with my first! I am also an OT, I don’t do a lot of work with picky eaters but I know a lot of strategies from my schooling and NOTHING worked! All the strategies. He has differences in his sensory processing and I just think he’ll take years to try the foods that my other kids eat regularly.
@@meredithreesor5888 Yes! My brother had sensory issues with food until he was a teenager! He's not autistic but his brain definitely works differently than most! (He's very smart and once told me his brain thinks in visual words, not an auditory narrator like mine.) He was VERY skinny for years because my mom wouldn’t make him other meals and he would only eat a banana for dinner 3 times a week. Such a challenge. But I’m SURE it will all work out! Now my brother is a more adventurous eater than me! ❤
She touches on this at the 5:28 mark; adding this in to help make sure it was never overlooked: 5:30
I totally understand your personal experience 🙂
I think it’s important to point out that Becca is giving advice to the majority and not the minority 🙂
@@Larryissa2943 absolutely! And Becca gives great advice!! Sometimes people giving their personal experience adds richness because it might mean that someone feels less alone in their experience.
French Kids Eat Everything is a fantastic read (written by a Canadian professor who moved to France for a year with her husband and two picky toddlers) and goes more in depth to a lot of these points (especially the research behind kids needing exposure to foods so many times before accepting which was just mind-blowing!!); part memoir, part pep talk, part extremely thorough research, highly highly recommend!
THANK YOU so much for acknowledging the neurodivergence piece here. I always watch videos like this in an effort to take away the things I can for my two ASD kiddos and I always find that the creator doesnt acknowledge and often will dismiss issues with texture. Both of my kiddos struggle so much so I DO have to make separate meals but I will incorporate new things or make sure its the healthiest ingredients I can manage and will repeatedly offer them new textures so that they are at least exposed to the fear food to make it a little less fearful and maybe one day they will try it. The irony is that my oldest will only eat fruits and vegetables, generally raw, but won't eat protein sources, and her little brother will eat sunbutter or hummus but wont eat most raw veggies or fruits. People comment on how "good" of an eater she is and how "picky" he is, in front of them, and I'm just like NO THEY ARE BOTH AUTISTIC! lol they have their likes and dislikes, and they help cook but just won't eat it, and that's ok because at least they are getting exposed to the foods in the hopes they'll grow to like it one day.
You have 4 babies!!! Eee congratulations!! I have been following you since before you had any babies yet! I am a fellow RD and mom of 4 too!! so happy for you!! keep rocking girl!!!
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear and learn! Thank you for this! ❤
You are right on! I love thinking about generational health for future generations too. Great point. ❤
Love and appreciate your videos so much especially as a mom
Also I looked up two of the oldest ppl in the world and both of them them lived over 119, and ate very similar to how you teach
Very thankful for your wisdom
Thank you for all your videos Becca
Appreciate you so much
Yes! I have three girls ages 5 and below. Because of you and others like you, this is how I feed my girls (most of the time!) and I couldn't be more thankful. Keep spreading the word, Becca!
Best advice on the internet!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It is very hard at times, but I tend to give my son things that he loves, when I tend to make food from scratch and he finds so delicious I keep making them. I know some food isn't always so great but he can have some bad food occasionally. Thanks for such a great video 😊😊😊😊
Wow I think this will be life changing!! Thank you
Thank youuu becca this is so encouraging💓🫶
love this video! needed it so much right now - picky toddler on my hands!!!
Great video! My 11 year old son eats EVERYTHING including sushi, all meats and seafood, veggies, etc. My 7 year old has become so picky and I tend to make her a set "child meal" if she won't eat what we have as a family. I am going to adopt this idea immediately!
this was the pep talk I needed! My 13 month old is getting opinionated, and even though I knew this would happen, it has been hard to navigate. I was so picky as a child, and I don't want that for her.
I was raised primarily by my aunt, when I first moved in with her, the food was different. I was never really picky, but there are things I don't like. She still added mushrooms, I tried them and didn't like them, I picked them out. I didn't like wild game,but there was other options on the table that was nutrient rich. We usually had a salad or cottage cheese with fruit, along with a starch and veggie. It works. Don't create power struggles with your kids, especially it will backfire when they are older
Do you let them choose their own snacks at a “snack time”? Or do you choose the snack & when it’s offered? Would love to see a video explaining this as well!
She said she decides what and when they eat. So I assume she decides what the snacks are too, not just the big meals. It wouldn't make sense to me that they would decide what it would be, just because it's snack time :)
Thank you for sharing this! My middle child (4.5 yo) has just started to show resistance at meal time/refusing to eat certain foods/taking a longggg time to eat. We’ve been saving his dinner plate and offering it again before bed if he doesn’t eat much which seems to be helping a little bit 😀
What if they skip meal times but come for snacks at snack time?
Great timing for this video! I was actually just dealing with my almost 12 and 13-year-olds letting me know what foods they’re not huge fans of… They’re always respectful, but I started to let it get in my head a little bit. I don’t need to be offended! It’s a challenge with my 19 mo old, as she just throws food off of her tray if she’s not feeling it😆 but I’ve noticed my extreeeemely picky eater son who is 8 is starting to come around a bit- praise! 😅
Thank you for this and I actually read Ellen satters book when I had my first. It was very different than how I grew up so I loved it but it was against everything I knew. I think as time went on I fell back on the ways I grew up-diet culture mentality-talking about healthy and non healthy foods which probably translated too much into “good” and “bad”. I try hard to have the conversation be focused on how the food makes you feel… overall I do a lot of what you say. I cook healthy food and do not make anything special just for the kids. BUT my biggest issue is that my kids are all a little overweight and tend to overeat. They have noticeable pot bellies. Typically not when young-once they are around 8 or so… I make organic, from scratch meals, ferments, freshly milled sourdough, don’t buy processed foods, etc,,etc. so I’m not serving them junk food. But I find them overeating often when they like something and it is so hard not to limit or say anything. Same thing at parties/church. They always tend to go a little crazy with the processed food/treats. We do have treats in our home occasionally and they do get this stuff often because of weekly things like church, homeschool potlucks, bday parties, play dates, etc.
Finding intuitive eating has been wonderful for me. It has helped heal my relationship with food and I want to pass it on to my kids but working out exactly how has been tricky and for my husband especially who wants to limit the kids with the things they want to overeat -buttered toast, sweets, etc. I would really love to hear any advice you have for me. I try to keep my kids active but I feel like the eating part is the issue. Do you just let them make as many pieces of toast as they want? Do you let them just eat half the cake? I have mostly let them eat what they feel is right but recently I’ve felt like it’s better to limit them as they don’t seem to have self control. I’m worries I’ve passed down some of my preoccupation with food or unhealthy relationship with food even though it was a big desire of mine not to. My kids are 13,11,9,6,2. Would really appreciate any thoughts you have.
I'm a dietitian & mom of 2 under 5. I want to start by saying you sound like you're doing a great job! I'm not sure but a few thoughts: would it help to control the "what" is available on foods you see they have particular trouble with? (For example, if they go crazy on bread, can you serve bread less often and substitute a different carb that they more easily self limit?) On the flip side -- this doesn't sound like you if they have access to sweets on a weekly basis -- but there are families who go overboard on not providing access to less desirable foods & then kids really crave them & overeat when they do have access at parties/playdates/etc; in that case I would advise actually serving sweets more often (e.g. weekly instead of never)
(Disclaimer: this may not be pure Ellyn Satter but it's a dietitian living real life as a mom.) Also, in my household we do limit the amount in a roundabout way. I put a little bit of everything on the plate, including a small helping of dessert if that's part of the meal, (& sometimes it is literally one bite of something if it is new or I know they have previously not liked it), and we do not allow seconds of anything until they have finished what's already on the plate. However they do NOT have to finish the plate in order to get down from the table. Often, my son asks for a 2nd buttered roll or whatever, I remind him of the rule, & he immediately says "I'm full," choosing to leave his peas on the plate untouched (with no argument from me or my husband).
@@Maria-cj8rw thank you for your response! This is helpful.💛
Very informative!! Thank you for sharing. As a mom of two young kids I really appreciated this video! Also, could we have a link for your daughter’s lunch box??
Thank you so much for this Video! ❤
Wow, such a good video and perfect timing! My 3 year old daughter won't eat meat and I'm having such a hard time with that because she needs those nutrients. How would you deal with such a big food group left out?
Following for answer
Me tooooo
I'm a dietitian and mom of 2 under 5 (and I'm right there with you on kids who don't eat much meat, very common for young kids!)
First of all, does she eat other protein foods? Eggs, beans (e.g. beans/lentils in soups, refried beans in quesadillas/as a dip for chips), nuts or nut butters, yogurt? Those have many of the same nutrients and can help put your mind at ease as she gradually comes around to meat.
Second, I embrace dips! Sometimes dipping something in ketchup/Ranch/hummus/plain yogurt/etc makes all the difference :) My son has even dipped things in applesauce -- whatever floats his boat! Or breaded stuff -- I try to bread & bake it myself if we're going to have breaded chicken for example, but on the other hand, I think restaurant chicken fingers every once in a blue moon is a fine gateway to eating meat in other contexts. If he knows he liked Culver's chicken last month, he is more likely to try my homemade chicken tenders tonight ;)
Third, I mentioned in another comment (Disclaimer: this may not be pure Ellyn Satter but it's a dietitian living real life as a mom) that in my household we do limit the amount in a roundabout way. I put a little bit of everything on the plate (& sometimes it is literally one bite of something if it is new or I know they have previously not liked it), and we do not allow seconds of anything until they have finished what's already on the plate. However they do NOT have to finish the plate in order to get down from the table. I feel like this has helped expose my kids to new/previously disliked foods, getting them used to having them on the plate, potentially trying a little bite (but without being forced to -- they can always chose to leave the plate with food still on it) & sometimes realizing they do actually like this particular presentation of a meat.
Loved the video!!
Thank you for talking about this! I have alot to learn from this! Also, a friend of mine teaches me very wise things about approaching food with littles and how too many adults tend to use terms like 'good food and bad food'. It can create all kinds of issues (that my friend has dealt with herself). So she, for instance, will serve a dessert right with the meal, (like on the kid's plate) and it works really well apparently. She believes that it develops a more intuitive eating approach when the dessert is served right along side the vegetables. Your thoughts?
Aside from this, i myself get a guilt complex about the idea of my kids not eating (say if they don't like what I've made), so thank you for speaking to this!
We follow this and my son now eats spinach, lettuce and Brussel sprouts. He went through a very fussy phase where I just had to remind myself it won't be forever, then I just slowly added a piece of spinach here and there, then would put lettuce on his plate and say he didn't have to eat it and then eventually he ate it. Also, some kids just prefer veggies raw so that helped.
Thank you!! (Lower background music 🙏🏼)
Hi Becca! Thanks so much for this inspiring video! I have such a picky 5 year old! I was wondering if you could share your homemade ranch recipe? Or if you could direct me to a video you’ve possibly shared it in? Thank you!
This was very helpful!!
how do you do desserts after dinner, if they dont eat dinner?
So, we do this for the most part. Although, I do tend to meddle and have them take 4 more bites of the veggies or tell them to finish their meat and veggies and then they can be done…or whatever. My kids, for the most part, will eat what I put in front of them.
My biggest problem is they will ravage the pantry for snacks in between meals and then say they’re not hungry. Of course they’re not hungry when they’ve devoured a whole sleeve of crackers or half a bag of Veggie Straws before dinner.
I work from home and cannot monitor the pantry, fridge, and freezer 24/7. My kids are older (9 & 6) so they know how to open doors and such.
How do I stop the binge snacking between meals so that they’re hungry during the meal times?
Also, for the record, I’ve done the “don’t buy snacks” but then they’ll binge eat my ingredients for the meals I’ve planned, like crackers I was saving to go with my tuna salad at lunch.
I have even bought healthy snacks like meat sticks, nuts, & cheese sticks, or yogurt and they’ll devour these
I have been tempted to put a keyed lock on the food storages, but I really would hate to go to that extreme
@@amberlynponce8191I don’t think it’s extreme I also have locks there they will eventually learn and if you don’t want them to snack in between and can’t monitor than maybe that’s what it takes…
Until I was maybe 8 years old (maybe even older) I was that kid that would have to sit down for an hour to eat, everyone would force me to eat whatever was in the plate, they would negociate with me to eat as in "have a bite for mom, now have a bite for gradma, have a bite for the kids in Africa who don't have anything to eat". I'm sure it was exausting for everyone, including me because I just wasn't hungry enough. It taught me nothing good, all it did was teach me to feel wrong about not eating more and more and everything on the plate. I'm sure I would have eventually self regulate on how to eat properly. But I didn't and I still don't, as sometimes I will eat until I'm hurting in the stomack. But this was the 90's so you would have to eat everything, parents didn't know better and there was no internet to learning things like in this video. Thank you very much for this info. Maybe one day I will have kids and I learned a lot from this.
great information! I was wondering if you could speak on dessert? do you give dessert? is it a special treat?
Did you read my mind? Literally was just talking about our picky eaters with my husband!
Our kids are pretty close in age, I have a 6 year old, 4 year old, 2 year old and 5 week old baby. What we struggle with is them wanting a snack after not eating a meal. So we say no snacks if you don’t eat good and offer to rewarm their food but then we are just left with fussy kids that throw tantrums cause they are hungry. Or we are running out the door and need them to eat good so we can go to the park, zoo, etc. How do you handle those scenarios?
Yes I'm curious on this too! Mine are a bit older, 7 & 9. My 9 year old eats great but my 7 year old is SO picky and just wants snacks and treats all the time
Yes the running out the door scenario is what I’d like some advice on.
Where is that lunchbox and bag from!?
What do you do when you do everything “right” but your child still refuses to eat and then gets hangry before bed and thrown tantrums and refuses to go to bed stating she’s too hungry? I’ve tried offering her the same meal or a cheese stick so she can at least get some protein. But then when she gets the cheese, it becomes routine. I’m stuck…
How do you handle meals not eaten ?
Can you share the recipe for the bread please?
Yes I’d love that too. I’ve never had homemade bread from fresh milled wheat rise so high!
What if your kid is 15? Do you think this would work? She also is with her dad now 50% of the time, and he lets her eat literally anything and I’ve noticed she’s more adverse to my healthy cooking now.
In this strategy, do we serve endless amounts of the safe food? (Rice, bread, etc)?
Read her book when my kids, now teens and young adults were little and it was life changing! I'm struggling now to get my teenage daughter enough iron- any suggestions would be great. We are doing supplements but also want to work through nutrition. And bread recipe?? Looks delicious.
Maybe you could try beef liver tablets. It can be added to smoothies or sauces
They have helped a lot of people raise their iron levels. Maybe you could look into it.
Do you let your kids have dessert if they haven’t eaten their dinner?
What do you do when they ask for more of what they like and don’t touch anything else you offer? Won’t touch steak or veggie, but wants 3 rolls etc
Can you share about their lunch boxes?
My son is a great eater and will eat the healthy food I make. But at school they have free breakfast and snacks which are all packaged processed foods. Donuts, cheese itz, gummies, juice, cookies. I don’t want to be that parent that complains but it drives me nuts all the sugar he consumes at school. Is this normal?
What age do you implant this? My son is 17 months and I worry about him not sleeping well if he doesn’t eat
Thank you for mentioning that you're not talking about kids with developmental issues because you know that's different. Like kids with autism.
2:30 min she starts talking about what she wants to say.
❤
That is a handly looking lunch box. I've been using silicone lunch containers but, would love just one large unit. Would you share link to where you purchased it?!
You can google “Becca Bristow Amazon Storefront”. She has it linked there.
Planet box
Are you packing lunches now? Is your daughter going to school? I thought you were homeschooling.