As a cis person, this video was really helpful! I used to be quite ignorant but I’m slowly learning and becoming a better ally! Also I was just wondering what your pronouns are?
I feel like I could have been born a girl or a guy and I would still be okay about it. If I could, I would switch between them or be both at the same time. I don't feel as if my gender identity is changing. I just feel like both. Am I non binary or something else?
I feel pretty much the same way, at times I'll feel more feminine and others more masculine, but I never feel like I fully fit with either. I grew up often wondering if I was supposed to be a boy .. I'd say we're non-binary 😅 I think it's just however you feel comfortable identifying
Currently I’ve been questioning my gender identity for a long time and all of your videos have been so incredibly helpful in helping me figure things out, thank you so so much for everything you do, you’re incredible!
I’m gathering vids and articles to show my mom when I come out to help explain cuz I have no idea how to come out, so thank you for helping me, this is truly helpful and you do an AWESOME job explaining it :]
Please watch videos of professionals. Intelligent people who are not brainwashed by this "trend" , cult-like movement, with no medical, no psychological background. Taking the gender stereotypes we have been fighting against for decades, to determine you are non-binary is a totally regressive insult to society nowadays.. Listen to this video carefully and pay attention to all the contradictions. Just love yourself without all these stupid labels and also understand that every single human being born on this planet is non -binary ( we all have both feminine and masculine energies within us). What is so special about being called a "They"? Will you die if people don´t call you that? What is the worst that can happen if you are called by your real gender pronoun? Will you throw a tantrum like all those ridiculous-white-privileged tik tokers who have nothing to cry about because they ´ve always had it all and they need a reason to feel they are also a minority. Go to a therapist first. Go to a psychologist first... and I mean a real one, not an LGTQRST ++++ activist. Figure out what is behind your reason to wanna be part of this "trend".
I think im non binary, i havent told anyone irl yet. Because im not sure. Not so long ago i bought a Bla-haj from ikea, but i didnt tell anyone that was why. I was born female, and if i ever start calling myself by They/them i will still 'Dress feminine'. Im not sure if i want to go by They/them 'Enough'. Because i dont care if someone calls me she, it fells fine, but they fells even more 'fine'
Currently still questioning and have a seed of doubt in my head rn! I don't *completely feel* like a boy, but at the same time I don't *completely feel* like a girl. I've always wanted long hair and I've crossdressed before (I loved it), but on the topic of hormones and gender-assigned parts, it's like I would like hormones if I had the opportunity to get them but at the same time I feel like I'd be fine without them. So yeah, I'm afraid I'm a little *too* comfortable with my body rn and I'm afraid I'm not really valid in that sense. Can someone help??? ToT
Thank you for this video. It's great to have other educators out there raising awareness. We are all part of the same big community and I love my nonbinary family. Thanks for being fab. Lots of love x
Labels are great for self identification, third person description and for giving names to emotional discourse, dysphoria or other degrees of gender diversity compared to cis individuals who connect with their physical sex and recognise their gender assignment from parents and society. However, I don't understand how a sign of being non binary is feelings of discomfort with gendered language (obviously I not referring to misgendering here; whether malicious or unintentionally ignorant, it is unacceptable that misgendering should continue beyond a correction or introduction to preferred pronouns). However other gendered language is different. Ever noun in French or Spanish is gendered, and this gender dictates the possessive pronoun used... Not the gender of the person in possession of the noun. In German and Latin, nouns can be masculine, feminine or neutral and again whether the possessive pronoun is masc, fem or neutral depends on the noun being owned, not the subject's sex nor their gender. The idea of pronouns is an English language thing which is why misgendering must be seen as always inappropriate, and offensive if intentional, but cannot feasibly be extrapolated to all gendered language- because a lot of it is simply that, language. The words that are often disliked due to gender association are collective nouns for a group of people of any single or many genders. Yet with all international variations of spoken English and descriptors for male, non binary and female people, I think we are mature enough to know that in the plural, words for 'group of people' when spoken outloud, directly TO a group of people, the gender of the collective noun can be disregarded and whatever word means 'all.' This is not the case in third person prose because a description of a group of people may be misrepresented by misgendering, but depicting speech of a character within prose would have the same rule. I don't see how referring to a mixed group of men and women as "guys" or "my dudes" can be deemed as anything other than being linguistically old fashioned and a bit sexist, but not offensive since it is a descriptor depicting 'group' and not person or persons as individuals with gender expression. I can't get my head around being offended by a mixed gender group being referred to (directly and in person only) as guys, my dudes, ladies, laaaaads or my gurls!? But if you don't agree with me or think I'm looking at this too academically and not emotionally, please share your thoughts with me xxxxx
It really depends on who you're speaking to and what they're comfortable with. My guess is that a lot of those terms while being gender neutral for the most part, for many they still might have the specifically gendered association with it that makes them uncomfortable. While many masculine terminology has been used as gender neutral terminology as well for a long time, feminine terminology on the contrary has been exclusively used as fully feminine without it being gender neutral at all. That doesn't exclude it from also being gender neutral at all, it's the intentional gendering of it that makes it be excluded from being also gender neutral. That's only my take on it, would be interested what you have to say on that /gen
@@best_of_ant I think giving a specific example, James Charles calling viewers Sisters. (his behaviour is completely irrelevant) This is the contrast to 'guys' or 'dudes' I was referring to, though you are right that female collective pronouns for a group are more rarely used. What I'm saying is that while everyone's feelings are valid, I don't think the way a whole group is addressed should be policed if it is not being used to misgender anyone or the group. If men and women are happy to be addressed as "sister" there shouldn't be the expectation that the collective noun will be disregarded because trans boys only want to go by masculine pronouns... There is a sense of "it's not all about you" with some issues around language used with no malintent.
@@sarahwithstars Yeah I gotta agree on that, it should be discussed more tbh, especially because language is not the same for everyone , coming from different backgrounds has a lot of impact on that as well. Even then if the person is only comfortable with certain language being used around them I'd be using that said language because it's what makes THEM comfortable. Thank you for expanding on this, I've been meaning to find someone to talk to about the topic for some time!
Can you help me know if it could be non-binary??? ( I was born a girl)(lol, I know there are a lot of things in this that don't help at all but anyway xd) Things about me: Ecosystems that I like: forest, beach, paramo, mountains, city, countryside. Personality: I get angry easily, lazy sometimes sometimes active, brave, protective, I get irritated easily, strong (emotionally) Fandoms I'm from: therian, furry Climates I like: sunny. Rainy (without storm) Favorite ships: Mike X Elizabeth Moments of the day that I like: day, night Wounds: scar on the arm, scar on the hand. scar on forehead, scar on leg, scar behind ear Hobbies: recording videos, making quadrobiques Foods I like: meat Favorite places at home: forest school, beach, City, countryside Things I hate: being made fun of, making fun of my bestie. that they criticize me for my tastes, that they are abrupt, that they say rude things, that they mistreat or the animals I like Favorite color: pink, blue and purple Extra data xd: I like to climb trees, I love nature, I want to go for a walk in nature and I almost never smile according to my mother Things I haven't mentioned: like border collies, I have an obsession with balls, for example, if I'm playing basketball, I don't want to let go of the ball, I want to have it myself. I am super active. I tried the dog croquettes and I liked them and my mom didn't. Border collies are generally used to herd (I don't know how to spell) sheep in the countryside and I love the countryside.
To non-binary folks: why is it that some transgender, transsexual, or "fully transitioning binary individuals"(sorry, for my funny terminology) do not think non binary folks should be under the trans umbrella? Certainly not all, but I hear that from quite a few binary trans folks. Cheers!
Use their preferred pronouns and try to use gender neutral language when you can. If you use correct pronouns it’s what matters because it’s a sign you respect their identity. And it’s okay to make a mistake as long as you try! It shows you care :)
In the straight world and in the LGBT world you can find a lot of sexualisation but in the "non-binary" world you seem to find less sexualisation. Do you think it's a way to be asexual?
I think a better way of saying what you're saying is not binary. In logical terms not means what's leftover of whatever the definition is. In essence the other. But I disagree with this definition. To me non-binary is saying that the binary system is incorrect and that gender and sex is a spectrum that the entire system should be non-binary and everybody fits in the spectrum not just the others in your definition.
Came to the conclusion that not to care what your gender is, as long has I feel that I know who you are. I will ask a question like excuse me, and not mention your gender. I can live with that, in a sense your a non entity.
Thanks for telling me basically nothing, which I assume is non-binary, because nothing either way was really defined or said. I’m still as confused as ever…. Lol.
I think in order to understand this you need to challenge the way formal logic works and embrace a more dialectical logic (which means always moving, and even contradictory)
So... I have this problem. You see i live in Romania and I speak romanian which only has feminine and masculine pronouns bouth for singular and plural. I am non-binary, what do I do ?
Simple. What kind of reproductive organ do you have down there? If it's a penis, then adopt masculine pronouns. If you have a vagina, adopt feminine pronouns. This is lot better than trying to be different and forcing/confusing other people.
Hi Lynn! Thank you so much for your videos! That are so helpful! I was wondering if you could help me with a question I have tho. I know u were Mormon at a point and currently I am in a Mormon family. I have started to question my gender and want to go through to become non binary. But I am unsure because of the church. Do u know if there are any rules about being non binary in the church? Any info would help a lot. I would ask my parents but I'm too scared. I hope you can help me, thanks.
I know that it’s the reason I knew I had to leave they have a strict binary and think it goes down as far as your soul having gender (which I don’t believe) I knew I couldn’t fully be myself if I stayed in the church or at least the area I’m in but it’s been so long I don’t really remember what rules they have about it. Idk if any of that helped or not but just know there’s people who will love and except you for who you are ☺️
Thank you! The info is great! I'm glad I chose to contact you. It makes me very happy to know that there are people like you out there who are willing to listen to me and help me. I definitely have a lot of thinking to do, but thank you very very much, keep up being awesome!!
to explain maybe slightly better? lol you cant really be *exactly* 'straight' as a non binary person, since it implies M/F attraction only, but some may identify as gay since it's same gender attraction. from what I've seen people tend to simply define themselves by who they're attracted to, saying like: attracted to men nblm, attracted to women nblw, attracted to other nonbinary people nblnb. like personally i call myself bisexual because i can be attracted to any gender in that spectrum :)
Why do you need a flag? Wouldn't you argue that the nationalism surrounding the American flag is ridiculous? Can't we all just be individuals and stop labeling each other? How does increasing labels not just create more divisiveness?
I hope you all enjoyed this video! Let me know what your favorite thing you learned about being non-binary.
@@Sillygoobers580I learned that non-binary still isn't a real thing.
@@kevinturner9549 It is a thing. It exist. Check the dictionary. ITS THERE.
m.youtube.com/@kevinturner9549 bigot
As a cis person, this video was really helpful! I used to be quite ignorant but I’m slowly learning and becoming a better ally! Also I was just wondering what your pronouns are?
Their pronouns r they/them /gen
@@tilesfloor6217 Thank you! I would hate to misgender them.
@@thenamescara64 np! /gen
@@thenamescara64 Who gives a crap if you accidentally "misgender" them? There are people who actually have real problems in the world.
Shes a girl
I feel like I could have been born a girl or a guy and I would still be okay about it. If I could, I would switch between them or be both at the same time. I don't feel as if my gender identity is changing. I just feel like both. Am I non binary or something else?
I feel pretty much the same way, at times I'll feel more feminine and others more masculine, but I never feel like I fully fit with either. I grew up often wondering if I was supposed to be a boy .. I'd say we're non-binary 😅 I think it's just however you feel comfortable identifying
Currently I’ve been questioning my gender identity for a long time and all of your videos have been so incredibly helpful in helping me figure things out, thank you so so much for everything you do, you’re incredible!
See a psychiatrist immediately
@@mattwilliam5522why are you inserting yourself in a space that’s not yours without permission
@@Lindy_DemonicRegent_Horton12 I don't need permission
@@mattwilliam5522 actually you do in some cases
Go to a psychologist instead of watching some random person on social media . Get real answers. Be careful.
Thank you for queer info, as always! Your “signs you might be Non-Binary” video helped me quite a bit in exploring my own gender identity.
Awwww I’m so happy it helped ☺️
Thanks for this video. I am cis but have some friends who are non-binary and this helped me understand them a bit better.
Wanting to be a blob is so relatable omg XD
It’s all I want lol
We need more blob acceptance in society
Hey!! Yes was wondering where you were when I noticed you hadn't posted in a while. Loved the video, as always!
I’m gathering vids and articles to show my mom when I come out to help explain cuz I have no idea how to come out, so thank you for helping me, this is truly helpful and you do an AWESOME job explaining it :]
Please watch videos of professionals. Intelligent people who are not brainwashed by this "trend" , cult-like movement, with no medical, no psychological background. Taking the gender stereotypes we have been fighting against for decades, to determine you are non-binary is a totally regressive insult to society nowadays.. Listen to this video carefully and pay attention to all the contradictions. Just love yourself without all these stupid labels and also understand that every single human being born on this planet is non -binary ( we all have both feminine and masculine energies within us). What is so special about being called a "They"? Will you die if people don´t call you that? What is the worst that can happen if you are called by your real gender pronoun? Will you throw a tantrum like all those ridiculous-white-privileged tik tokers who have nothing to cry about because they ´ve always had it all and they need a reason to feel they are also a minority. Go to a therapist first. Go to a psychologist first... and I mean a real one, not an LGTQRST ++++ activist. Figure out what is behind your reason to wanna be part of this "trend".
I think im non binary, i havent told anyone irl yet. Because im not sure. Not so long ago i bought a Bla-haj from ikea, but i didnt tell anyone that was why. I was born female, and if i ever start calling myself by They/them i will still 'Dress feminine'. Im not sure if i want to go by They/them 'Enough'. Because i dont care if someone calls me she, it fells fine, but they fells even more 'fine'
Currently still questioning and have a seed of doubt in my head rn! I don't *completely feel* like a boy, but at the same time I don't *completely feel* like a girl. I've always wanted long hair and I've crossdressed before (I loved it), but on the topic of hormones and gender-assigned parts, it's like I would like hormones if I had the opportunity to get them but at the same time I feel like I'd be fine without them. So yeah, I'm afraid I'm a little *too* comfortable with my body rn and I'm afraid I'm not really valid in that sense. Can someone help??? ToT
Thank you for this video. It's great to have other educators out there raising awareness. We are all part of the same big community and I love my nonbinary family. Thanks for being fab. Lots of love x
Ima wait here so I don’t miss anything
Awwwwww thank you😭
It was a great live!👍
I have a feeling that I'm possibly non-binary or perhaps the opposite gender but when I get it figured out, I'll be the happiest person on earth. :)
Love you lynn you are perfect awesome as you are you are a cery talented creative person
Thank you so much!! I hope you’re doing well☺️
Labels are great for self identification, third person description and for giving names to emotional discourse, dysphoria or other degrees of gender diversity compared to cis individuals who connect with their physical sex and recognise their gender assignment from parents and society.
However, I don't understand how a sign of being non binary is feelings of discomfort with gendered language (obviously I not referring to misgendering here; whether malicious or unintentionally ignorant, it is unacceptable that misgendering should continue beyond a correction or introduction to preferred pronouns).
However other gendered language is different. Ever noun in French or Spanish is gendered, and this gender dictates the possessive pronoun used... Not the gender of the person in possession of the noun. In German and Latin, nouns can be masculine, feminine or neutral and again whether the possessive pronoun is masc, fem or neutral depends on the noun being owned, not the subject's sex nor their gender.
The idea of pronouns is an English language thing which is why misgendering must be seen as always inappropriate, and offensive if intentional, but cannot feasibly be extrapolated to all gendered language- because a lot of it is simply that, language. The words that are often disliked due to gender association are collective nouns for a group of people of any single or many genders. Yet with all international variations of spoken English and descriptors for male, non binary and female people, I think we are mature enough to know that in the plural, words for 'group of people' when spoken outloud, directly TO a group of people, the gender of the collective noun can be disregarded and whatever word means 'all.'
This is not the case in third person prose because a description of a group of people may be misrepresented by misgendering, but depicting speech of a character within prose would have the same rule.
I don't see how referring to a mixed group of men and women as "guys" or "my dudes" can be deemed as anything other than being linguistically old fashioned and a bit sexist, but not offensive since it is a descriptor depicting 'group' and not person or persons as individuals with gender expression. I can't get my head around being offended by a mixed gender group being referred to (directly and in person only) as guys, my dudes, ladies, laaaaads or my gurls!?
But if you don't agree with me or think I'm looking at this too academically and not emotionally, please share your thoughts with me xxxxx
It really depends on who you're speaking to and what they're comfortable with. My guess is that a lot of those terms while being gender neutral for the most part, for many they still might have the specifically gendered association with it that makes them uncomfortable. While many masculine terminology has been used as gender neutral terminology as well for a long time, feminine terminology on the contrary has been exclusively used as fully feminine without it being gender neutral at all. That doesn't exclude it from also being gender neutral at all, it's the intentional gendering of it that makes it be excluded from being also gender neutral.
That's only my take on it, would be interested what you have to say on that /gen
@@best_of_ant I think giving a specific example, James Charles calling viewers Sisters. (his behaviour is completely irrelevant)
This is the contrast to 'guys' or 'dudes' I was referring to, though you are right that female collective pronouns for a group are more rarely used.
What I'm saying is that while everyone's feelings are valid, I don't think the way a whole group is addressed should be policed if it is not being used to misgender anyone or the group. If men and women are happy to be addressed as "sister" there shouldn't be the expectation that the collective noun will be disregarded because trans boys only want to go by masculine pronouns...
There is a sense of "it's not all about you" with some issues around language used with no malintent.
@@sarahwithstars Yeah I gotta agree on that, it should be discussed more tbh, especially because language is not the same for everyone , coming from different backgrounds has a lot of impact on that as well.
Even then if the person is only comfortable with certain language being used around them I'd be using that said language because it's what makes THEM comfortable.
Thank you for expanding on this, I've been meaning to find someone to talk to about the topic for some time!
Can you help me know if it could be non-binary??? ( I was born a girl)(lol, I know there are a lot of things in this that don't help at all but anyway xd)
Things about me:
Ecosystems that I like: forest, beach, paramo, mountains, city, countryside.
Personality: I get angry easily, lazy sometimes sometimes active, brave, protective, I get irritated easily, strong (emotionally)
Fandoms I'm from: therian, furry
Climates I like: sunny. Rainy (without storm)
Favorite ships:
Mike X Elizabeth
Moments of the day that I like: day, night
Wounds:
scar on the arm, scar on the hand. scar on forehead, scar on leg, scar behind ear
Hobbies: recording videos, making quadrobiques
Foods I like: meat
Favorite places at home: forest school, beach,
City, countryside
Things I hate: being made fun of, making fun of my bestie. that they criticize me for my tastes, that they are abrupt, that they say rude things, that they mistreat or the animals
I like
Favorite color: pink, blue and purple
Extra data xd: I like to climb trees, I love nature, I want to go for a walk in nature and I almost never smile according to my mother
Things I haven't mentioned: like border collies, I have an obsession with balls, for example, if I'm playing basketball, I don't want to let go of the ball, I want to have it myself. I am super active. I tried the dog croquettes and I liked them and my mom didn't. Border collies are generally used to herd (I don't know how to spell) sheep in the countryside and I love the countryside.
To non-binary folks: why is it that some transgender, transsexual, or "fully transitioning binary individuals"(sorry, for my funny terminology) do not think non binary folks should be under the trans umbrella?
Certainly not all, but I hear that from quite a few binary trans folks.
Cheers!
Still don't understand it.
That's okay! This stuff is complicated to explain to people who don't apply to the label. It takes time to understand :3
Wahoo :]
☺️☺️☺️☺️
I wanna know how to not be accidentally rude to a non binary person in a conversation.
Use their preferred pronouns and try to use gender neutral language when you can. If you use correct pronouns it’s what matters because it’s a sign you respect their identity. And it’s okay to make a mistake as long as you try! It shows you care :)
Ok so I'm apparently a non-binary bisexual ? How TF is that? 😂
Im pan and non binary and I was very relieved that there is somone who actually understands what non binary means thank you so much
Awwww thank you I’m happy you liked it
same frend!
hey u forgot the links maybe? xx in description i mean xxx
Yeah I know😅 I’ll be putting them there after work
I resonate more with the term genderq***r, but NB is ok with me too.
Question. I get into a street fight with a Non-Binary...what do I do? Help
I’m watching these videos to better understand my partner, thank you for the help.
In the straight world and in the LGBT world you can find a lot of sexualisation but in the "non-binary" world you seem to find less sexualisation. Do you think it's a way to be asexual?
do you consider gender fluidity a type of Non binary?
Not them, but It is generally considered that way.
When I dress androgynous and go to the male bathroom people look at me weirdly I think?
I am mixed but lean more to female and male but love female ❤❤ side of me❤😂😊
I think a better way of saying what you're saying is not binary. In logical terms not means what's leftover of whatever the definition is. In essence the other. But I disagree with this definition. To me non-binary is saying that the binary system is incorrect and that gender and sex is a spectrum that the entire system should be non-binary and everybody fits in the spectrum not just the others in your definition.
I love your content
Came to the conclusion that not to care what your gender is, as long has I feel that I know who you are. I will ask a question like excuse me, and not mention your gender. I can live with that, in a sense your a non entity.
If you don’t identify as male or female, can you bear children or impregnate someone? If so, how?
It’s gender not sex
Seriously you guys just make this stuff up. Always wanting labels and special treatment.
I'm so sorry for you... I'm sorry you believe people who want nothing but power and oppression of others.
Thanks for telling me basically nothing, which I assume is non-binary, because nothing either way was really defined or said. I’m still as confused as ever…. Lol.
I think in order to understand this you need to challenge the way formal logic works and embrace a more dialectical logic (which means always moving, and even contradictory)
So... I have this problem. You see i live in Romania and I speak romanian which only has feminine and masculine pronouns bouth for singular and plural. I am non-binary, what do I do ?
Simple. What kind of reproductive organ do you have down there?
If it's a penis, then adopt masculine pronouns. If you have a vagina, adopt feminine pronouns.
This is lot better than trying to be different and forcing/confusing other people.
Hi Lynn! Thank you so much for your videos! That are so helpful! I was wondering if you could help me with a question I have tho. I know u were Mormon at a point and currently I am in a Mormon family. I have started to question my gender and want to go through to become non binary. But I am unsure because of the church. Do u know if there are any rules about being non binary in the church? Any info would help a lot. I would ask my parents but I'm too scared. I hope you can help me, thanks.
I know that it’s the reason I knew I had to leave they have a strict binary and think it goes down as far as your soul having gender (which I don’t believe) I knew I couldn’t fully be myself if I stayed in the church or at least the area I’m in but it’s been so long I don’t really remember what rules they have about it. Idk if any of that helped or not but just know there’s people who will love and except you for who you are ☺️
Thank you! The info is great! I'm glad I chose to contact you. It makes me very happy to know that there are people like you out there who are willing to listen to me and help me. I definitely have a lot of thinking to do, but thank you very very much, keep up being awesome!!
If you are non binary how would you know if your gay or straight are you neither ?
Sexual/romantic/genitals preference associated with you and others gender identity/sex
@@Progressive_Alien What ?
@@BradleyWhetstine that's generally how people who are nonbinary identify their sexual orientation
to explain maybe slightly better? lol
you cant really be *exactly* 'straight' as a non binary person, since it implies M/F attraction only, but some may identify as gay since it's same gender attraction.
from what I've seen people tend to simply define themselves by who they're attracted to, saying like: attracted to men nblm, attracted to women nblw, attracted to other nonbinary people nblnb.
like personally i call myself bisexual because i can be attracted to any gender in that spectrum :)
Can you work on?
Women Conversations
Cisgender Women
Transgender Women
Gender Nonconforming Men
"cisgender" isn't a real thing. Either man or woman.
I just farted.
Thanks
thank you
I bet my house this video could not hood up to any level of scrutiny.
Neither can any of your beliefs about other human beings.
@@GDRhythmic Is this a rebuttal? 😒
@@boyreason9213 nope
Why do you need a flag? Wouldn't you argue that the nationalism surrounding the American flag is ridiculous? Can't we all just be individuals and stop labeling each other? How does increasing labels not just create more divisiveness?
Just because it was created a long time ago doesn't mean it is any less useless. Religion is a prime example.
Reality 101, no one cares. Be a good person.
I- I care... Because I'm a good person and want to understand people...
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No such thing as non binary
🤦 Google. Use Google. Please...
@@GDRhythmic reading something on Google isn't the same as real life. Non binary people are still permanently male or female.
@@kevino4372non-binary people exist in real life