I like that German- boyfriend is now German-husband to be. Although my son in-law speaks English I had great difficulty understanding his Glaswegian Scottish accent when we first met, but I felt I learned so much about him by watching how he treated my daughter and how he responded to stressful situations. He was so kind to others and considerate toward waiters and strangers. He was laid back and lived fully in the moment. He has great relationships with his family and truly enjoys their company. His attitude is positive and he doesn’t take his problems out on others. He is tolerant, but doesn’t let others bully him. He is one of my favorite children
When I was first dating my now husband (we were both 17) I always paid attention to how he treated waitstaff, retail employees, his own family etc and over the time we were dating I got to see how he handled stress. It tells you a lot about someone's personality and values
Off topic, but just saw Nosferatu, the protagonists are German. At one point a character opens a window while it's snowing-- it took so much effort to not whipser "Lüften!" to my husband 😂
My place is on auto Lüften. So glad to finally have a word for it. This place was built before insulation was invented and never updated LMAO Property managment did a drone survey, there are 29 holes in the exterior. We also have house squirrels...and raccoons...
I am American and my husband and his family are Vietnamese immigrants. We actually lived with his mom and younger sister for about 2 years after getting married since it just financially made the most sense for us at the time, but his mom and sister recently moved to their own house this year. The timing worked out well because I became pregnant soon after! I really like and get along well with my MIL and SIL, but I'm glad that my husband and I will have the house to ourselves once our child is born 😅 His mom is actually very chill by Vietnamese standards, but having more privacy and personal space is my preference, haha.
We're in a British-US relationship (so not so different from one another!) but his family hated my family and I. We weren't "important" as we're not American, his sister literally told my husband that my parents "don't count". I had really looked forward to having in-laws, and a big family, but after a while my husband decided he'd had enough and cut contact. It's nice that your families don't judge based on nationality, and that you are included. Thankfully, my parents have been very nice and immediately included my husband in our family.
Goodness, your in-laws are EVIL. Their number 1 priority for you should be the success of your marriage. Instead, your in-laws tried to sabotage it. Sad.
Ever since I learned of Lüften, I started to do that in my own apartment! 😂❤ It does make the air feel fresh and crispy. I feel weirdly energized even though it's so cold here.
This was so lovely to watch. Cultural differences can be interesting but complicated but you manage to make it all work well. You communicate beautifully with each other which to me is the basis of a healthy relationship. ❤
I am German. My german husband moved in to my house. we lived with my parents and grandparents in the same house. Its ok if you have your own appartment. You can raise your kids without a nanny. But you need your own space. My parents and my grandparents were in the same situation as young cupples. So they respected our personal space and our desicions to raise our childs.
16:45 In Germany we say "Ist der Ruf erst ruiniert, lebt es sich ganz ungeniert." (Something like "When your reputation is ruined, life gets free and easy")
Everything was cute, but that ending story was adorable ❤ Love that German parents "just suddenly" had Asian food and implements to help make Uyen comfy 😊 and the train selfie is amazing, peak Uyen 👌😂 (this is somewhat off topic, but love the animal heads on gbf.)
Great podcast and lovely ending! I would also love to hear about your relationship with German boyfriend's aunt since she helps you out with the songs, Uyen xD
I love all your content. Thanks for doing this. It's really important for younger people to understand these cultural differences. It also shows an aspect of what the culture was like in the Western world.
Maybe part of the phone calls to Uyen's family members being more frequent than GBF's could also be a woman keeping in touch with her extended family vs. a man, especially a western man. It isn't really an expectation that my son would call me (Canadian) very often but my daughter and I talk quite a lot. Also I have only one son, 39 and one daughter 42.
I think it's dependent on family dynamics. I'm the eldest and I don't keep in contact with my folks much and they don't really reach out either. However, my brother and them are constantly in touch with each other. Then again he is the golden child so 🤷♀.
What I learn in social psychology is, Asian country tend to live with collectivism and Western country tend to live with individualism, so it's explained why both of you have the difference opinion about living with family.
sharing a house with the in laws is the equivalent of being a teacher and the principal starts supervising your classes, but they never goes away not even the best teachers will feel comfortable teaching if that happened
22:54 omg this is so true in Iranian culture to like Vietnam, family are so involved i just realized how much our parties in iran is mix of friends and family or only family and how uncommon it is here
I really love watching your videos,they are a breath of fresh air for me. I was getting bored and I got the notification of your video and I was so grateful ❤️
another awesome episode! thank you for these, we are also a multicultural couple, and it's really cool to see where we have similarities and differences :) just fyi, this episode does not show up in the Culture cuddles podcast tab on your channel tho :)
Off topic, but I would love to see a video with some recipes that ive seen on your channel! (particularly the fish soup recipe or other soup recipes you have for breakfast!! 😊😊)
I felt i was lucky when my mother in law didn't interfere with my raising my child. From the moment my child was born, i stayed 2 years at home and I raised him in the Western way (for example: let him sleep natural way - no swing, no lullaby; sleep in crib; let him discover food himself - that was really messy and i had so much cleaned, but that good to teach him to feed himself; so on...). I didn't like nanny. Because they raise my son in Vietnamese way (During meal, let him run and follow him to feed him or turn on TV,... - that is really bad). When he was 3, he can fed, toilet, change clothes , so on.... by himself and can fold his own clothes. That is the good point from Western way. But the connection of members from a family - i love the vietnamese way. My son is 16 now. We have lived in German for 7 years, i feel less love in family here. And im trying to keep the Vietnamese family connection. It's not easy to combine both culture to raise a child. Thank you for your video. Love both 😊❤❤❤
When I 1st met my German boyfriends family, they never tried to speak to me in English and just left me sitting alone a dinners, Christmas, parties. Not even a Hi, how are you? Years later, I found out that they actually knew English. It was awful and it made me feel so lonely when I moved here from the US. We got married, I learned German and then they were nicer, but I will never forget how awful it was at the beginning. Will you have problems switching to saying German Husband from German Boyfriend? Do you call him this when you are being silly and playing around?
24:45 i commented about that on your last podcast lol. when his parents moved, you both finally became equal when it comes to the time it takes to visit your parents XD
5:38 I have the eating problem with my own parents 😂. Marrying a Mexican man made me realize how bad it was. But literally every dinner my mom will list every single item on the table and ask me to eat it, twice or 3x!
In India, you go to live with your in-laws. In the United States, we generally leave home at 18 generally. And we start to make our own way and our own traditions.
Uyen and GermanBoyfreind, please forgive and ignore the sometimes rude, even hostile calls to show GBF face. I think it’s pretty fun to see what character you will choose next, and the creative camera angles to keep your real face obscured. It’s basically a meme now (is that the right term?) also, I feel I know exactly what you look like, from Uyen s fine acting as German Boyfriend in multiple videos.
I’m British, I love Yuen and GB, but I do chuckle when I watch Culture Cuddles because the Germans have such a bad reputation for being grumpy or rude, but Yuen (innocently) finds a way to offend them in every episode 😂 luckily GB takes it all in his stride lol.
@@z0zRAMC yes, I like that aspects of German culture have freed her from some restrictions of Vietnamese culture, yet she still holds it close. And GBF doesn’t try to interfere or change her.
Hi Uyen! My neighbors are Vietnamese and they’re super friendly and sweet! I was wanting to get them something as i know Tet is coming up soon, and I was wondering what the best thing to get them would be? Thank you
Great video! About eating some of every food on the table: I wonder if that started out as a way to make sure everybody gets all the nutrients. Have some of the vegetables and some of the meat and some of the nuts, etc. Then it went too far in some families? It would be different if all these nutrients are in one recipe, of course.
German Boyfriend eats like my Czech husband. They like eating simply what they like. My husband is not a fan of sampling of everything. I'm Chinese-American. Eating many from different dishes is like an adventure. Thinking of it like a video game. Eat new dish is a new adventure. Eating one dish from beginning to end is like never leaving level 1 in Mario Kart.
There are pros and cons of each culture. Maybe living with your in-laws all the time isn’t the best idea for everyone, but Grandparents watching their grandkids usually is a good idea. Build a strong relationship, every generational gets help and comfort.
My grandma was around all the time and my godmother too but they all got along really well and kept to my mom's rules of raising kids so it was a very good thing. But if you have differences of opinion with different generations it can be a great source of stress. Mom use grandma a bit as she made us treat her with a lot of respect so if she told me grandma didn't want me to suck my thumb on our visit I didn't question it and that's one of the ways she got me to stop doing that in general. We were on our best behaviour for grandma. In the vietnamese version I think there is a big gap to how they would raise their kids in generations.
I think i'm a typical german 'grandmother's child'. My grandparents lived in the same small town but in a different part of this town. As my mother (divorced) worked 8 hours a day, my grandparents took care of me a lot, with my grandma picking me up from kindergarten and then cooking lunch until my mother finally came home from work. When we children started school, however, we became more independent and no longer had to be picked up, we walked to school (and later home) on our own. That's how it typically was in the 80s.
22:54 all these similar to iran i also felt why western people so rude to their parents or why they don’t care about them about them getting old most of iranian family are focus on their child everything is done for their child and grandchildren
I was nervous as well. My wife and I had been emailing and chatting for 9 years before I was able to see her. When I went to the Philippines the whole family was excited to meet me. That's when I proposed. It took another 9 years for her to get to visit me in the U.S. My parents weren't didn't understand our relationship. I told my then fiancée be herself and they will love her. It took an hour to really warm up to her. My dad asked her if she has an American dream. She answered, no I have the dream of marring your son. She was warmly welcomed into the family.
I like that German- boyfriend is now German-husband to be. Although my son in-law speaks English I had great difficulty understanding his Glaswegian Scottish accent when we first met, but I felt I learned so much about him by watching how he treated my daughter and how he responded to stressful situations. He was so kind to others and considerate toward waiters and strangers. He was laid back and lived fully in the moment. He has great relationships with his family and truly enjoys their company. His attitude is positive and he doesn’t take his problems out on others. He is tolerant, but doesn’t let others bully him. He is one of my favorite children
When I was first dating my now husband (we were both 17) I always paid attention to how he treated waitstaff, retail employees, his own family etc and over the time we were dating I got to see how he handled stress. It tells you a lot about someone's personality and values
Where are you from?
Describing him as one of your favorite children is so cute 😊
This is healing my attention span bit by bit lol
Fr lol
Yesss that would be good, I need to work on my attention span too 🥲
YES mine too. I always speed up videos but with uyen's videos I can't dare speed it up because I cannot mess with their adorable way of speaking
@@uyenninh I’m going to Vietnam in a few days🎉
Off topic, but just saw Nosferatu, the protagonists are German. At one point a character opens a window while it's snowing-- it took so much effort to not whipser "Lüften!" to my husband 😂
I've started doing this since learning about Lüften here.
My place is on auto Lüften. So glad to finally have a word for it. This place was built before insulation was invented and never updated LMAO Property managment did a drone survey, there are 29 holes in the exterior. We also have house squirrels...and raccoons...
😂😂😂 love it so much
Perfect.
I am American and my husband and his family are Vietnamese immigrants. We actually lived with his mom and younger sister for about 2 years after getting married since it just financially made the most sense for us at the time, but his mom and sister recently moved to their own house this year. The timing worked out well because I became pregnant soon after! I really like and get along well with my MIL and SIL, but I'm glad that my husband and I will have the house to ourselves once our child is born 😅 His mom is actually very chill by Vietnamese standards, but having more privacy and personal space is my preference, haha.
We're in a British-US relationship (so not so different from one another!) but his family hated my family and I. We weren't "important" as we're not American, his sister literally told my husband that my parents "don't count". I had really looked forward to having in-laws, and a big family, but after a while my husband decided he'd had enough and cut contact. It's nice that your families don't judge based on nationality, and that you are included. Thankfully, my parents have been very nice and immediately included my husband in our family.
😢 i hope now you guys doing very well in life 😊
That is some s tier xenophobia. Sorry it happened.
Goodness, your in-laws are EVIL. Their number 1 priority for you should be the success of your marriage. Instead, your in-laws tried to sabotage it. Sad.
I’m American and I love my Scottish son in law and his entire family. Your in-laws would be jerks no matter where you are from.
Limit your boundaries.All the best and I hope one day they will have a beautiful space for you in their hearts.❤
“That ship has sailed”
Uyen this was the perfect expression for the situation you described. ❤
Ever since I learned of Lüften, I started to do that in my own apartment! 😂❤ It does make the air feel fresh and crispy. I feel weirdly energized even though it's so cold here.
Same here! I love fresh air!
This was so lovely to watch. Cultural differences can be interesting but complicated but you manage to make it all work well. You communicate beautifully with each other which to me is the basis of a healthy relationship. ❤
I am indian and I find uyen each and every single word relatable
oh the story about Uyen unexpectedly meeting GB"s father on a train is so funny and sweet!! thanks for sharing :)
Just imagine!..and sending the selfie to German Boyfriend. Such a great way to meet
@@susanbryant6516the selfie makes it. Just the extra cherry on top 👌
GBF parents: Actions speak louder than words. They love you so much❣️
I love you guys. You are so genuine. I am sorry you have had some type of trauma, Uyen 😢😢 You will heal with the love and gentle devotion from GBF.
"they jump into your room and say, 'i need some egg' " lmao :> I love you, Uyen. you're awesome
I am German. My german husband moved in to my house. we lived with my parents and grandparents in the same house. Its ok if you have your own appartment. You can raise your kids without a nanny. But you need your own space. My parents and my grandparents were in the same situation as young cupples. So they respected our personal space and our desicions to raise our childs.
I love that German boyfriend is a triceratops today! It’s my favorite dinosaur!
16:45 In Germany we say "Ist der Ruf erst ruiniert, lebt es sich ganz ungeniert." (Something like "When your reputation is ruined, life gets free and easy")
😂😂😂😂😂
Everything was cute, but that ending story was adorable ❤ Love that German parents "just suddenly" had Asian food and implements to help make Uyen comfy 😊 and the train selfie is amazing, peak Uyen 👌😂 (this is somewhat off topic, but love the animal heads on gbf.)
Great podcast and lovely ending! I would also love to hear about your relationship with German boyfriend's aunt since she helps you out with the songs, Uyen xD
It’s so nice to see a confident Uyen ❤️
💜the cute wall decor esp Santa riding dino & avocados.
I love listening to German boyfriend’s voice❤
Appreciate you two. Sharing your differences helps others reflect on the differences in their own relationships
I love all your content. Thanks for doing this. It's really important for younger people to understand these cultural differences. It also shows an aspect of what the culture was like in the Western world.
29:48 the german boyfriend is super nice human being so respectful and calm and logical and funny
I've hit the like button before watching because I just know this video is gonna be good, I love this channel ❤❤
This ship has sailed. 😆 Love watching you guys it's really relaxing with feel good vibes. 💜
Maybe part of the phone calls to Uyen's family members being more frequent than GBF's could also be a woman keeping in touch with her extended family vs. a man, especially a western man. It isn't really an expectation that my son would call me (Canadian) very often but my daughter and I talk quite a lot. Also I have only one son, 39 and one daughter 42.
I think it's dependent on family dynamics. I'm the eldest and I don't keep in contact with my folks much and they don't really reach out either. However, my brother and them are constantly in touch with each other. Then again he is the golden child so 🤷♀.
I love this podcast, you guys could talk for hours and I would still listen 😊
What I learn in social psychology is, Asian country tend to live with collectivism and Western country tend to live with individualism, so it's explained why both of you have the difference opinion about living with family.
Great comment. Thank you!
@@jenmorricone4014 my pleasure!
It makes me way too happy when the dinosaur head lines up correctly with the shirt.
My German Grandma’s response to her sons’ family choices that made her unhappy were to shrug and say, “You can’t live their life for them.”
💯
sharing a house with the in laws is the equivalent of being a teacher and the principal starts supervising your classes, but they never goes away
not even the best teachers will feel comfortable teaching if that happened
I'm very jealous of German BF's T-shirts. He has excellent taste.
22:54 omg this is so true in Iranian culture to like Vietnam, family are so involved
i just realized how much our parties in iran is mix of friends and family or only family and how uncommon it is here
I really love watching your videos,they are a breath of fresh air for me. I was getting bored and I got the notification of your video and I was so grateful ❤️
29:13 GB’s parents are so sweet ❤
I love that you guys can still do a podcast even though he doesn't want to show his face 😊
Love this podcast format - so interesting !
Jackfruit slaughtering 🤣🤣🤣🤣I'm gonna use that.
another awesome episode! thank you for these, we are also a multicultural couple, and it's really cool to see where we have similarities and differences :)
just fyi, this episode does not show up in the Culture cuddles podcast tab on your channel tho :)
Uyen....I L♡VE the glasses you have in this video !!!
Off topic, but I would love to see a video with some recipes that ive seen on your channel! (particularly the fish soup recipe or other soup recipes you have for breakfast!! 😊😊)
It is amazing how you manage such a long podcast with a spontaneous interview like talk, you are both really skilled and professional ❤👍
Thank you. You two are adorable and the perfect couple! :)
Happy New Year 🎉❤
Chúc chị Uyên và anh nhà năm mới vui vẻ ạ❤❤❤❤🌹🌹
I think a video about what you guys like about each other would be really cool!
Wonderful thank you, love how y’all explain things so well
This was so sweet. I think things between your families will only get better
I felt i was lucky when my mother in law didn't interfere with my raising my child. From the moment my child was born, i stayed 2 years at home and I raised him in the Western way (for example: let him sleep natural way - no swing, no lullaby; sleep in crib; let him discover food himself - that was really messy and i had so much cleaned, but that good to teach him to feed himself; so on...). I didn't like nanny. Because they raise my son in Vietnamese way (During meal, let him run and follow him to feed him or turn on TV,... - that is really bad). When he was 3, he can fed, toilet, change clothes , so on.... by himself and can fold his own clothes. That is the good point from Western way. But the connection of members from a family - i love the vietnamese way. My son is 16 now. We have lived in German for 7 years, i feel less love in family here. And im trying to keep the Vietnamese family connection. It's not easy to combine both culture to raise a child. Thank you for your video. Love both 😊❤❤❤
This made my kind of crappy morning a lot better!
"the foreshadowing... " haha German boyfriend's brand of humour is awesome
Hi, please do more of what I eat in a day or cooking videos. I love them because they encourage me to have good food with lots of vegetables.
Uyen meeting GBF's dad: (spiderman pointing memes)
Nice that you each can speak of the oddness of cross cultural experience re norms and preconceptions
When I 1st met my German boyfriends family, they never tried to speak to me in English and just left me sitting alone a dinners, Christmas, parties. Not even a Hi, how are you? Years later, I found out that they actually knew English. It was awful and it made me feel so lonely when I moved here from the US. We got married, I learned German and then they were nicer, but I will never forget how awful it was at the beginning.
Will you have problems switching to saying German Husband from German Boyfriend? Do you call him this when you are being silly and playing around?
24:45
i commented about that on your last podcast lol. when his parents moved, you both finally became equal when it comes to the time it takes to visit your parents XD
5:38 I have the eating problem with my own parents 😂. Marrying a Mexican man made me realize how bad it was. But literally every dinner my mom will list every single item on the table and ask me to eat it, twice or 3x!
We need a 'culture cuddles' merch!
That ship has sailed 😊
You interact so beautiful with each other.😊
Yaay love your chemistry together, much love from NRW 🫶💅
The train story is adorable!❤
Loved this podcast!! German fiancé face is on his shirt!!🎉🎉🎉
Omg yesss a podcast ❤❤❤
German boyfriend-fiancé is awesome!❤🎉❤
I’m going to Vietnam in a few days🎉
Happy New Year! CHÚC MỪNG NĂM MỚI! Frohes Neues Jahr! ❤
So interesting!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
In India, you go to live with your in-laws. In the United States, we generally leave home at 18 generally. And we start to make our own way and our own traditions.
Like Uyen s länger hair ❤
Uyen and GermanBoyfreind, please forgive and ignore the sometimes rude, even hostile calls to show GBF face. I think it’s pretty fun to see what character you will choose next, and the creative camera angles to keep your real face obscured. It’s basically a meme now (is that the right term?) also, I feel I know exactly what you look like, from Uyen s fine acting as German Boyfriend in multiple videos.
Im sorry. i love your German boyfriends shirt. It's from Game of Thrones. It's Mr. Snow. He is my favorite.
I’m British, I love Yuen and GB, but I do chuckle when I watch Culture Cuddles because the Germans have such a bad reputation for being grumpy or rude, but Yuen (innocently) finds a way to offend them in every episode 😂 luckily GB takes it all in his stride lol.
She’s learned German directness 😊
@ she has, and GB has learned Vietnamese politeness.
It’s very cute 🥰
@@z0zRAMC yes, I like that aspects of German culture have freed her from some restrictions of Vietnamese culture, yet she still holds it close. And GBF doesn’t try to interfere or change her.
It so funny to listen to you, you are so lovely 🌺
Hi Uyen! My neighbors are Vietnamese and they’re super friendly and sweet! I was wanting to get them something as i know Tet is coming up soon, and I was wondering what the best thing to get them would be? Thank you
Great video! About eating some of every food on the table: I wonder if that started out as a way to make sure everybody gets all the nutrients. Have some of the vegetables and some of the meat and some of the nuts, etc. Then it went too far in some families? It would be different if all these nutrients are in one recipe, of course.
Love this
Woohoo! You're back!
German Boyfriend eats like my Czech husband. They like eating simply what they like. My husband is not a fan of sampling of everything. I'm Chinese-American. Eating many from different dishes is like an adventure. Thinking of it like a video game. Eat new dish is a new adventure. Eating one dish from beginning to end is like never leaving level 1 in Mario Kart.
I thought hmm sad i already have 75% of these items, so not an eyeopener for me. But.. i can just add: these items are really just so gooood!!!
In the west parents in general accept all decisions of their adult children. That includes the partners they choose.
Happy new year!💜
Enjoy your shorts. Best wishes to you and your partner in the new year.
There are pros and cons of each culture. Maybe living with your in-laws all the time isn’t the best idea for everyone, but Grandparents watching their grandkids usually is a good idea. Build a strong relationship, every generational gets help and comfort.
My grandma was around all the time and my godmother too but they all got along really well and kept to my mom's rules of raising kids so it was a very good thing. But if you have differences of opinion with different generations it can be a great source of stress. Mom use grandma a bit as she made us treat her with a lot of respect so if she told me grandma didn't want me to suck my thumb on our visit I didn't question it and that's one of the ways she got me to stop doing that in general. We were on our best behaviour for grandma.
In the vietnamese version I think there is a big gap to how they would raise their kids in generations.
I think i'm a typical german 'grandmother's child'. My grandparents lived in the same small town but in a different part of this town. As my mother (divorced) worked 8 hours a day, my grandparents took care of me a lot, with my grandma picking me up from kindergarten and then cooking lunch until my mother finally came home from work. When we children started school, however, we became more independent and no longer had to be picked up, we walked to school (and later home) on our own. That's how it typically was in the 80s.
Year😂Yeah Happy new year🎉😊❤we Love 2025😅go on❤❤thank you for Video on TH-cam ❤😂🎉
NEVER BEEN THIS EARLY!
Samee
Off topic but I love German husband to be’s shirt
22:54 all these similar to iran
i also felt why western people so rude to their parents or why they don’t care about them about them getting old
most of iranian family are focus on their child everything is done for their child and grandchildren
I was nervous as well. My wife and I had been emailing and chatting for 9 years before I was able to see her. When I went to the Philippines the whole family was excited to meet me. That's when I proposed. It took another 9 years for her to get to visit me in the U.S. My parents weren't didn't understand our relationship. I told my then fiancée be herself and they will love her. It took an hour to really warm up to her. My dad asked her if she has an American dream. She answered, no I have the dream of marring your son. She was warmly welcomed into the family.
Speaking of in laws, could we have a show where German MIL shows us how to make noodle salad. Like with measurements of ingredients. Thank you🎉
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I wonder is the family cohesion that Uyen has because she comes from a rural village is the family so tight if she’d grown up in Hanoi?
I am from Asia and trust me our culture is more or less same for relationship 😂
How did you guys meet in the first place
I like German boyfriends T-shirt, is it the Brandon Lee crow?
There's a white wolf, so probably Jon Snow from GoT 😉
German Husband needs to get a dinosaur mask lol.
germain boyfriend/husband has brother! news to me
Please make a video ask your bf about German Island tradition called Klassohm can you make a video on it
Which game? Please tell me