1st story: 2:37 (son’s half brother) 2nd story: 20:48 ( give back bracelet) 3rd story: 31:39 (don’t like how our baby looks) 4th story: 44:00 (wife reminds me of abortion) 5th story: 1:10:41 (prefer my sons ex as my daughter than him)
I remember having a huge argument with my dad over my parents' custody over me and my sister (years after the divorce even...) the night before a huge algebra test (with a grade I was already struggling with). I wrote "sorry" on the bottom of the test I didn't study for, my teacher pulled me aside after class and asked if I had a rough night. I nodded, and she passed me on the test... I get weepy thinking about it and I'll probably remember her forever.
Been here with certain teachers as well. Struggled mentally a lot through high school, I absolutely did not deserve to pass many of my classes but the teachers saw I was trying and found ways to make me pass. I won’t forget them (:
That's an amazing teacher. I had the situation last week, I wrote my CAT (computer studies) test last week and the Monday before the test, and that Sunday I ha multiple panic attacks because of stuff going on at home as so on, so I wrote sorry on the bottom of my test and gave it in afterwards, I'm Gr 12 so I don't think the same will happen to me but I wanted her to know I'm sorry for the bad grade, she's one of the most amazing teachers I know.
Justin totally got it right - being pregnant and having kids is totally romanticized. I appreciate how open and passionate Morgan is about talking about Post-partum depression. Being a parent is not something to be cavalier about.
Even as a mom with many mom friends I felt like I couldn't mention how miserable I was pregnant, especially with my youngest who they believed would be born sleeping.
Damn, I had a totally different experience. I was terrified when I was pregnant, because everything I read about parenthood was SO negative. The first few months were really hard for me, especially since my baby was in the NICU. But now that my daughter is 1, I am obsessed with her and so happy I had her. Everyone's experience is so different and the scary thing is you won't know until it's too late to go back.
The guy with the bracelet story... if I was with him and he said "you need to stick with me and have my side" I would've replied. "Like you did with your wife who had cancer?" It's always the least loyal people who demand loyalty
I wouldn't even give him those two days. I would tell the ex wife immediately. Even if he returns it, the fact that he would do that at all, his ex NEEDS to know.
@@awoibrahim8402 I haven't typed it out yet. Maybe I'll try to post it in the THT subreddit. But I won't be able to post the link. When you comment a link on TH-cam, the comment gets "held for review" so Morgan would have to manually go in and approve the comment being published.
When I was 14 my Mom & Dad sat us down & explained that we were going to be meeting my older brother... Up until that point, we had no idea he existed. Neither did our Dad. Turned out that he & his girlfriend broke up, they each went their own way & wound up marrying the people they dated after each other. My Dad's ex became pregnant right away & never really knew who the Dad was, but assumed it was her new boyfriend's (turned husband). Eventually, as he was growing they had more Children & she came to know inside he couldn't belong to her partner but she never told anyone. That was until she got sick with Cancer & felt obligated. One day she handed him a piece of paper with my Dad's name & phone number on it & explained that this was who she thought his real Dad was. My brother broke down because he had almost called our Dad many years before. Our Dad is a pinstriper which is a rare art these days really. He had picked 3 pinstripers from the phone book in his young adulthood as he wanted to learn the art. My Dad's number was third on the list but the second artist had agreed to let him be an apprentice so he never needed to call #3. To this day I cannot tell their work apart despite him being taught by someone other than my Dad. When my Dad met him, he explained "no DNA test needed" everything finally clicked. It was like my Dad's soul had been wandering out of his body... Not kidding. They both played the same rare Telecaster Guitar, both restored old cars, both rode motorcycles, both were into tattoo culture, both collected Hot Wheels liked the same music, and both had THE SAME NICKNAME. It's Mouse. In fact, my Brother had become a tattoo artist & was working for the little brother of our Dad's friend & had been many years. The icing on the cake was my Dad's Childhood friends were frequent regulars of the tattoo shop, often hanging around eventually becoming friends of my Brother. We live in a City of about 600,000 people for reference. Life has a funny way of being stranger than fiction.
WOW!! What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. Can you imagine if #2 had said no.. life is so wild. Lauren and I talk a bit about dna and nature versus nurture.. so insane your brother just had this talent in his dna too.
It's been a theory of mine since I started reading tarot that we are somehow connected to eachother, some of these connections are stronger than others and some people ,animals,places and things are meant to be in our lives either to teach us an important lesson or learn one from us. There are people that are meant to break you so you can make yourself stronger and people tht are meant to hold you up when you can't on your own...people that push you out of your comfort zones and people who only wish to keep you in your loop. I do like that every thought and action we take has that butterfly effect though. I've met people in adulthood i spent my childhood hanging around ...or dated a guy that had lived in the same state in southern mexico during the same time, but we both grew up in the US...he went to visit family , i went for an ex....we never met. But went to the same beaches, restaurants ,markets and clubs....wound up meeting 3 years later in Tijuana at my strip club job on a day that i wasn't gonna go into work and he was going home after a party and stopped for a beer(even though he didn't like drinking) we went out for 2 years learned a lot of good and bad lessons from him , and i fixed some toxic traits i had learned from my mom
I grew up with a mother who HATED being a parent. Divorce her and take your daughter. The daughter will feel confused and bend over backwards to appease her mother and constantly get rejected.
Me too! And she has no hesitation telling us that she never wanted kids in the first place. My youngest sister is 11, and she has said to her face that she just doesn’t care about being a parent. My sisters don’t know how to shower themselves correctly, they don’t like anything that isn’t packaged (mac and cheese and ramen) bc my mom doesn’t cook or get them nutritious food… then when they want to come to my house my mom uses it against them. “We’ll just go to Emmy’s then. We dont need you here.” it’s a tragic situation to go through. I’m sorry you had to experience that…
My mom said shit like this too. It sucked and constantly makes me doubt whether I am wanted, liked or appreciated in any sort of relationship (romantic, platonic, professional, etc). I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's experience but could it be possible this woman is suffering from postpartum depression or something like it? It can go on for quite sometime, especially if it was left untreated. The fact that she's been saying things like this since the beginning, it kind of feels like mental health problems. OP even said she couldn't go through with the abortion bc she felt "connected" to the child. Maybe when baby actually came and she had a hard time connecting but OP could, it turned into feelings of regret/resentment. This could just be wishful thinking on my part as I wouldn't want any child to deal with that kind of rejection. I hope things get better for them and don't go the way they did for the other commenters in this thread, myself included.
I'm sorry to hear that but I've got to ask do you know if your mom was ever tested for postpartum and received treatment? Most Millennials and all Boomers aren't informed on this and it's not something that simply disappears over time. If left untreated it usually gets worse. I guess if she were willing to get help and still didn't improve divorce is the only option.
I got pregnant with my oldest when I was 19. I wad terrified to have a baby. I considered abortion but ultimately ended up deciding to keep my sweet girl. Her father is a total ass and likes to tell her that if not for him she wouldn't have been born and yall, I've never been more proud of this girl. The last time he said that to her, she responded with "well it's her body therefore it's her choice and she would have had an abortion I wouldn't be here so I wouldn't know anything about it" I was bawling and so damn proud of her. She's 18 now and is the smartest and most level headed person I know.
Go baby girl go! Damn right. Id be so proud as well, id probably be crying tears of vindication and lmao at the same time! You raised her well to be canny about these things.
When my mom's parents divorced, it was traumatizing for her. But my Granny told all 5 of their children to never say a bad word about their father & my mom NEVER heard my Granny bad-mouth my Pappy. "Kid's are NOT pawns in a game for parents to use against each other! Only can hurt & harm the child's mind!" Your daughter's father sounds like an inconsiderate idiot-a**hole that trys to garner your daughter's attention/love/favoritism/respect by putting her mother down! Like, wow. That's such a lovely thing to tell your child. My mom told me she wanted to abort me as well, when I was 25. Because "All your sister did was CRY, Mary. 16hrs. straight. Your dad would come home from work & have to walk up and down the alley with her for HOURS before she'd quiet down... granted, your sister was born addicted to m*th...". Anyhow, she apologized and said how I was such a good baby in the end and that I NEVER cried or fussed. Also, she was in labor for 28hrs with my older sister and I popped right out. She was an abusive alcoholic while growing up, never had a job, or bought me even a 99¢ slurpy growing up. We were "daddy's girls" growing up, sis moved out at 15 and mom stopped drinking when I was 16 & we became BEST FRIENDS! She called me her "Siamese-Twin" lol Thought I was abnormal because I was always home reading, telling me "When I was your age, honey, I was out having fun! Partying! But, you just wanna be home with your mommy hahaa". I miss her everyday. She died 10 days exactly before my 28th birthday 😔. I forgive & forgave her back then, even if my sister hasn't.
I think the fact that she is so close to the age you had her helps her put things into perspective. She can easily notice how young you were and how scary it is
For the second one: divorce the husband, marry the ex wife, and get custody of the daughter. That man does not need to be taking care of another human being. His lack of care and empathy for his ex, someone he must’ve loved at some point, is astounding. Edit for the third story: newborn babies are so ugly. My nephew who is so frickin cute was so ugly when he came out because he was a newborn.
Justin saying he’s never heard about someone regretting being a parent that late. It is another thing that is not talked about. It’s not always about the lack of connection with the kids, or just not getting the swing of it yet. There are women now talking about not liking being a mother. Which is SO taboo. They don’t like the grind, how it’s 24/7, many are saying they felt lied too and it’s not all it cracked up to be. It’s not meant for everyone, but it’s been sold to every single woman in this country. There was a reason she was childfree before. There’s a book or article I believe call “Regretting Motherhood”. I’d recommend it to learn about because it’s interesting and you NEVER hear mothers say these things out loud.
Yess I love people discussing this, more transparency about parenthood is necessary. I've heard so many parents say they regret having their kids because of this issue.
My mom said it to me out loud all the time. That she never wanted us, she doesn’t care about caring, this is “too much for her.” I had to baby my own mom. I respect that it’s not for everyone, but you gotta be careful with the way you speak to your kids or treat them once you start feeling regretful or realize that you’re regretful. It really fucks you up.
The thing is parenting is a huge responsibility. People shouldn’t just because they want to, they need to step up to the plate and fulfill their responsibility. Being a parent isn’t for YOU- it’s for the future of humanity. Remember who and how you are raising.
Having children is the most consequential, important, and life changing decision a person could make, but we treat getting a dog with a greater sense of care. Like, the amount of parents who don’t even read about baby development and punish their children for being children (like them being messy and playing with their food is how their little baby brains explore that it’s safe to eat using multiple senses). Or that the shows you let your baby watch can have significant negative consequences for their brains AND behavior. Coco melon is bad for their brains (and therefor their behavior later on) whereas caillou is bad for their behavior. This is surface level stuff and that’s not even touching parents who smack their infants when they crawl off blankets so they’re trained (re:abused) into not moving, exploring, or playing. And these are just the parents we hear from. When you get family gossip about the mom who locks herself in her room watching Netflix while her four kids ages 4-10 are left to watch whatever they want, play gta, eat whatever they want, still wet the bed, are raising themselves… and knowing it’s happening all over the world, it paints a scary picture for the future of humanity as parents have children thoughtlessly or on accident and decide to keep and neglect them than step up or bow out of parenthood. I’m hoping parenthood takes the next spotlight soon and people actually wait to have children until they’re more grown or have considered everything first, more than just wanting a cute baby.
Same, but looking back she was still a wrinkle ugly prune. Doesn't mean I don't love my baby girl. she's the most beautiful thing in the world to me. Pretty much all babies come out looking like ugly old men and women😂
I totally agree with Justin when he said that everyone should have to learn about babies. Everyone needs to know about caring for another person. Almost everyone can reproduce and if not they don’t usually find out until after school but I still think it’s helpful for everyone to learn about babies.
Even as a friend or sibling of someone with kids, this is super important. I don’t know yet that I’d want kids, but I know I’ll want to babysit and be there for my friends whenever they want help or support.
i can't clean my house until either morgan, drew, or brittany and sarah uploads anymore it's a problem (also looking for more preferably female creators that do long videos/podcast tyvm)
The guy who told his gf his baby was “ugly”- why is he placing so much weight on the looks of a literal baby? If your child only matters to you if they’re beautiful then you need to reassess yourself. Why should an uncontrollable aspect of someone determine their worth?
Exactly. This is a brand new human being who you get to guide into the world, and you’re worried it’s not pretty yet? Crazy. Also makes me wonder what more horrible things he would’ve said if the baby had a physical abnormality or health issue of some sort.
Also a lot of internalized racism to work through. I’m a mixed POC and I can’t imagine how traumatic it would have been to hear this sort of thing from either parent.
How does he not think his baby is the cutest. Me and my husband did think our boy is the best looking and other babies not so. Maybe he wasn't but to parents he was. As it should. That's how biology works. Plus... Apparently the baby looks like dad the first few days. It is the biology telling the father that the kid is his. So I heard. My boy definitely looked like my husband in the beginning. Now he looks like me.
I think the bracelet story pisses me off so much bc there are studies that show men are more likely to leave if their wives get a terminal illness diagnosis, but women are more likely to stay by their husbands sides vice versa. I guess the “in sickness and in health” only applies to the men…
For the last story, good on the grandparents for sticking by Josie and Ruth. Their son royally messed up, and then disowned his own daughter. The fact he expects that just because he disowned her, the grandparents should too, is ridiculous. Their son was the one who stopped coming around. Their son was the one who refused to support his own father when he got diagnosed with lung cancer. The fact that when he does come back it is only to talk about his inheritance is absolutely disgusting. Those grandparents sound like incredible people, and Ruth and Josie are lucky to have them. Wish OP the best, especially with her husband.
Okay. Not sure if you get to the update, but I've reached the story about OP's wife constantly hovering over his shoulder and saying, "aren't you glad you didn't kill her?" The update was: OP adjusted to being a father fairly well and he accepted the responsibility. His wife? Not so much. Every time she saw HIM lovingly caring for their daughter, she grew resentful and wanted to damage that relationship. Why? Because SHE regretted not going through the abortion, SHE struggled with being a mother, and SHE struggled with not properly bonding with the daughter. So she took it out on HIM in order to put him down and make herself feel better about not having the relationship she felt she should. It's extremely abusive and I'm glad OP spotted it before their child got older and started to internalize the comments the wife is making. I believe they were starting therapy for her, but I don't know what happened after the initial update. If things don't change? I hope he makes it clear that divorce is on the table. He must protect his daughter from his wife's resentment, because she's not only hurting their child, she's also hurting him. EDIT:: Lmao. Oh my god. As soon as I finished my comment, you read the update. Besides what I said above - they need to ABSOLUTELY get rid of the therapist who recommended they continue to have sex to "mend their broken marriage". That's a therapist who needs to go back to school.
I once had a therapist tell me that I should get engaged to my s/o so my parents would stop looking over my shoulder, and to get over my religious guilt of having sex with my partner. Therapists suggest some weird things sometimes. She also told me that b vitamins would help my depression, all it did was make my pee green
The therapist was just ensuring that they’d continue to have them as clients 😂 that’s the professional equivalent of poking holes in condoms… stoking flames and encouraging drama
Holy shit, the one on abortion.. it’s never okay to shame anyone on their views on aborting their own child. To do so in front of the kid.. wtf. The mom’s behaviour is so toxic, even more because it was clearly discussed before getting pregnant and she even wanted to abort herself!!!! The father ended up staying with her and do the right thing. The mom sounds horrible. Edit: I think Justin is right about protecting her feelings Edit 2: wooow the update… did not see that coming
I love to see that other people are using the “handle with care” note. I use this phrase with my students and their parents as well. Sometimes they just need some extra love. 💕
When my nephew was born I told my brother, word for word, "I'm very happy for you. He looks like a piece of ham." and then sent my brother his entire natal chart as a "parenting guide" and we all thought it was hilarious. But that's the dynamic of my family, we all act like this and we all love each other - CLEARLY this is not the dynamic of his. Read the room.
That’s exactly how my family is. If I couldn’t say that to my husband.. I couldn’t be with him. If we can’t joke up shit like that.. then you ain’t the one for me. I use humor to cope with shit. So my kids ugly right now.. big deal. They’ll grow out of it.. so let’s have fun with it in the moment. It’s temporary.. it’s a day old. They’re little naked mole rats still. Lol.
That's so crazy that people comment Morgan should've fought her guest host on the last podcast, about the baby in car story. It's called Two Hot Takes, not Two Same Takes lol. And some people are way more comfortable voicing their opinions out loud-loud, but Morgan gave her take as well, I did not feel like she nodded along and said nothing. It's a podcast, not a court ruling, none of us have all the facts nor can we relate to every story or know what we would do. I, for example, agreed a lot with the guy that was on a few podcasts back that kept voicing his opinion of a lot of those stories being just story-telling rather than real. We never really know hahah why would anyone literally fight over it? It's just not that serious, and even then, Morgan runs her podcast very respectfully and is always considerate. And I'm also here for the different takes 😀
omg yes!! I agree 100% with you. I know Morgan, as the host, has a responsibility for educating people, but she is not there to judge what's right or wrong, she doesn't need to be right all the time and she doesn't need to agree neither with guests or the commenters, she has the right to her opinion and to share it how she feels it's more appropriate. I think of the podcast as a way for everyone to debate and learn, including Morgan. She is great, she is very professional and responsible. I wish people would be less harsh on her and the guests when they don't agree, as after all the podcast is made for people to share their takes. Also, it's much easier for us as viewers to voice our opinion after listening to the whole story and with time to write it down...
Totally agree!! I mean I sided with Morgan and I think the dad was a justified asshole but why would she fight anyone 😭 verbally or physically, tht is a good times interesting podcast and people come to hear different views and opinions
For the 3rd story: I have had extensive contact with people from India and Pakistan and there are certain groups of people who are obsessed with looks. Lots of them kept reassuring me (I had contact with them on a business basis through email and telephone) that they had really fair skin and hair for someone with their background and so they could discriminate against people with darker skin, even though these were their own people. First time I didn't know what they meant and I responded confused. I quickly learned how to steer around the topic because being a representative from a corporation from a different part of the world, it's not my place to try to end the systemic racism in my business contact list.....
for the first story, another reason the mom might’ve been hesitant to tell op he was the father could be bc when they were together she was 26 and he said he was right out of high school, so 18 maybe 19. maybe she was worried about community backlash bc of the age difference? considering how it seems to be a small town (them still being in the same area and their kids coincidentally becoming friends) she could’ve just been embarrassed for being with someone so young.
@@annaror7244 yeah definitely, no 26 y/o woman should feel like they have enough in common with an 18 y/o to even hook up imo. shows how immature the older party is usually.
For the abortion story, PPD can go on for years and years if left untreated. I’m currently on antidepressants bc of PPD and I remember feeling a disconnect between me and my daughter. Even with my husband. I had this intrusive thoughts about removing myself from the picture, going back to my country and leaving them so they could be happy. After starting treatment, I’m so happy, and not only do I love my child but also, I actually enjoy so much just being with her, playing and even watching her sleep. She’s 2 now and is my entire world. My husband and I no longer fight and life is beautiful again. Moral of the story: go to therapy. Embrace the possibility of trying medication. It doesn’t make you any less capable. If anything, it shows that you want to be better for yourself and your loved ones. I feel very sorry for the mom in the story bc she seems to be dealing with untreated PPD, and for the husband bc I remember how my husband went trough hell during my lowest moment. Poison would come out of my mouth and it was like I couldn’t control myself…. So yeah, these are my 2 cents here…
Wow I had no idea ppd could last that long. The way I’ve heard it talked about is that it lasts for a few weeks-months which I always thought sounded absurd. Thank you so much for leaving this comment and I’m so happy for you on getting the help that you needed with you ppd. I wish you and your family the best!
@@brynneavan it’s not common, and it also depends on other factors, like financial problems, which I think they were experiencing, and guilt for thinking of abortion. In my case, i got pregnant right before moving to Spain, which kind of messed up our plans. I’m from Venezuela and money was tight. Then we went through the Great Blackout of 2019, that left the entire country without electricity and water for a week, then baby was born on June, and on November we moved to Spain only to go through a world pandemic a few months later. That just broke me on so many levels and it wasn’t until late 2021 that I got to start therapy and medication that I realized not only how bad I was mentally, but also how much hurt I had been causing my husband. So yeah, I was one shit storm after the other and it affected me greatly. I can’t even imagine going through that for 6 years though. It’s kind of scary
It happens. I met my sister in my 9th grade English class because we did a family tree project and we brought the same picture of our dad!! My brother was also friends with my younger sister in middle school around the same time! We had no idea until that project
Thanks goodness! I been looking for something to watch for 20 minutes. I was about to give up but then I got the notification. So excited! I love your videos keep at it ❤
I was getting worried the video version wasn’t going to be posted tonight!! I started on the podcast, saw the YT notification, and came straight over ! I look forward to Thursday’s 😍🔥
59:03 first trimester fatigue- no one told me until I was deep in it. I was breaking down crying about how am I supposed to prep for the baby is I need to sleep 16hrs a day on top of working. I almost crashed my car from falling asleep behind the wheel. We need to discuss all of this.
The abortion one. They need to divorce. Sometimes leaving is better for the child. Get custody of the daught and let the mom get healthy on her own. And when she is better she can try to have a rationship with the daughter. Right now she is being emotionally abusive to the husband and the daughter. OMG the story about you and your brother in the car!! The exact same thing happened to me, swing set and everything. I forgot something in the house all my kids were already buckles so I just ran back in the house to grab something came out to my 2yr old son driving into a swing set!! Haha 😄 🤣 except this was like 3 years ago
the first story, sounds like their breakup was messy too so who knows what would've happened if they forced themselves to be together for the kid. everything does happen for a reason for real. glad they found each other early on tho
My bfs dad didn’t know about him until he was 9. The whole family has a good relationship and it worked out that his mom told his dad. I’m glad the guy found out in this story!
Thanks for telling us the good news movement! I've been having a rough winter, and popped over there after this video. It made me feel so good to just see good things and people floating around.
Not going to lie, even the doctor told me that she was the prettiest baby he’s ever seen 🥰 but I also got her ripped from my stomach so she was living the dream 😅 But my baby daddy was. POS and wasn’t there to see it anyways so 🤷🏽♀️
There’s a doctor in my area that’s been delivering babies for over 30 years and he said to my mom that I was the prettiest baby he had ever seen. Then when I got older I found out that he tells every mother they have the prettiest baby he has ever seen. I was low key butthurt because I spent my entire life thinking I was a special baby😂
The end of the podcast made me think of something that I think Morgan might like: in the UK we have a small newspaper called The Happy Newspaper. They publish every 3 months with happy and heartwarming stories from that quarter. I don’t know if they’d be able to ship to the US but it’d be worth checking!
All my siblings are half siblings so I definitely feel that struggle of trying to explain my family. I’ve had to draw out a family tree multiple times!
I was gonna be a kid free person. Then life happened. I also was one that made an appointment but changed my mind about it. My pregnancy wasn't magical, I didn't feel connected to my baby, I wasn't taking maternity pictures or any of that. It took me almost a year after my son was born to actually form a connection with him, and even then I don't have the "typical" motherly instincts that you see everywhere. But I'm making it work and I got the help I needed. At least she has a supporting partner through all of this and I hope she keeps getting help to overcome this feeling she has.
My bf and I love this pod! We enjoy listening to the stories, talking about it, listening to the commentary, then expounding on that as well! its a good time 😊
Going along with the little wholesome snippets, I wait for your videos every week because when I don't feel like listening to music on my commute, I listen to you. I was upset at the baby in car story and how you reacted, but when you explained your reasoning, I felt bad for being so angry be cause OF COURSE you're not going to tell an invited guest they're wrong for their opinion. I would LOVE another wholesome episode, especially with Justin, even though it would just make me ugly cry with happiness lolol. I'm usually a ghoster not a commenter, but I wanted to let you know how much your podcast affects my day-to-day life. Love y'all! ❤❤❤
loved the episode!!! Btw the movie is called “The Invention of Lying” arguably one of the funniest movies and the main actor is the creator of The Office
when he hyped u up about reading "ruins" like "no you did good!" 🥺 as a fellow ADHDer who knows just how frustrating that stuff can be, that is so sweet to see! reminds me of my supportive husband 🥰
My dad found out he had another daughter after I took a dna test and found out I had a sister I didn’t know! It’s a long story but it’s a good one. More common than you think.
Oh she’s definitely going to remember those comments just in her 20s my dad used to say “remind your mom she’s the one who wanted you/a girl” and now I have nothing to do with him
My niece was looking like a rotten potato. My brother and his wife was joking about that. Now she is six and the cutest girl ever. I find it funny how wrinkly and unattractive 1 day babies usually are.
I've heard alien as well. lmao. And yeah, I feel like there's such a difference between what OP said and your joke or parents joking that their baby looks like an alien. I mean, he also seemed to blame the baby not being a Gerber model on the fact that she is mixed race.
@@SoLastYear Yeah, I mean, a lot of parents joke that their children look like aliens or potatoes, raisins, or little old men when first born. He straight up brings up how there was always a chance of the child being ugly because she was biracial.
I really love the idea of having palette cleansers at the end of an episode! I love the drama, because it helps me forget about the craziness in my own life, but it can definitely be a lot to take in. Having the palette cleanser at the end today was so nice! It left me feeling positive after being able to have the escapism of other’s drama. Thanks for another great episode!
About those life support classes - in the state of Oregon, you are required to get CPR/AED training in high school, this is a basic life saving action that we should all be required to learn.
With the “ugly” baby post- when I was 16, my bf (18) and I thought that we were going to have to basically take care of his older sisters baby bc of her issues, so she let us be in the room when he was born. I didn’t know this, but apparently if the baby isn’t coming out naturally, they literally get this thing that looks like a plunger and they stick it on the baby’s head and pull. That gave the baby a very prominent cone head which we had to rub out. Honestly that was a terrifying thing to see 😂 I was so concerned
Honestly the first story rings a bell for me. Years ago, when my uncle was on crack and other drugs, he had repeatedly hooked up with this other addict that was a woman. He's now sober, getting married, and has a baby girl. My mom did Ancestry and found out that he had a daughter with her, and she's eighteen years old. She contacted my mom after finding her on there to ask about him and if he remembered her mom (her mom gave up her for adoption and she does live with a great family now), but the drugs fried his brain and he honestly cannot remember. My mom and most of my family are happy to know her, as she's such a nice person, but my uncle is more hesitant. From what I've been told, he's scared of meeting her and ruining her expectations she may have for him, as he has pretty bad bpd. For now, we might meet her in the summer and my grandma is so excited to meet another granddaughter, but I do hope he does want to know her.
I'm surprised it took that long to cut him out of the will. Cheating and leaving your ex high and dry, abandoning your child, and marrying less than one year after the divorce would have been enough for me.
In Australia, they actually deduct our taxes straight from our pay, it’s automatically calculated in total price. If a can of Fanta is $2.50 on the price tag, it’s 2.50 when you get to the counter. When we do our taxes, we file for tax RETURNS. So we can go to an accountant, say “please file my tax returns. They tell you what they need and typically, you can pay them out of the money you get from the return. Ie I got something like 1500 for my tax return. Accountant cost 300 or so. So I’m still getting 1200
In the USA they do pull taxes from paychecks and you do file tax returns as well. Anyone who has to pay in for taxes didn't have the correct amount pulled from their paychecks during the year.
Being a pregnant and becoming a mother is super hard. There is so many emotions attached and expected expectations. So days I love being a mother, others I hate it. I’m okay with both feelings and it is normal!! Open and honest conversation with your partner are needed. Ensuring that you have self care and down time is a must and not selfish.
To the bracelet guy story this is a qoute about marriage I love "marriage is just a piece of paper if you are being nothing but degraded and mistreated. If you aren't taking those vows to heart then marriage will stay a joke"
I’ll be honest but while I love being a mom, even a single mom, I hated being pregnant because it was so high risk. My first son was really early and I was on bed rest for my youngest, but I’m blessed with two healthy boys.
The mom who didn't want to be a mom anymore...I feel her. I don't condone what she did at all but her personal issues with being a mom is a lot more common than people think
The last story makes me think of my own family, minus a dying father and will. My dad cheated on my mom when I was very young, and when my grandma (my dad's mom) found out, she immediately sided with my mom and fully supported her in the divorce, slightly shunning my dad, her own son. Her biggest reasoning at the time was that I was the first grandchild and since my mom's entire family lives many states away (she moved to my dad's state to marry and live with him), my grandma was afraid my mom would leave and take me with her back to her hometown with her family. Till this day, my mom and grandma are the best of friends, 30 years later. My dad has always just had to live with that.
Morgan you look so gorgeous as usual - you have striking features! Also I love when you and Justin host together, you’re such a great couple - another good episode you two ♥️
Eh, I have said how uggo my baby looked after she was born. She looked EXACTLY like my Mother-in-Law who had just spent the last two weeks of my pregnancy driving me crazy. I was also induced and I found out later that that can mess with the hormones that make you connect with the baby, it took me three days to feel those "that's my baby feeling". Love her to bits now, but at the start I was on the fence hahaha.
Sorry y’all haven’t felt good! I’m in GA and have allergies and i’m sick at the moment so i’m very thankful to have this to watch as i stil have to get my kids ready for school and make breakfast. ♥️✌️
That teacher is so nice, my little family has been though alot, we have dealt with death of our grandfather, me being assaulted by my aunt and dealing with cancer. Every day I worry about my kid and what toll it takes on him. I wish there were more teachers like that.
When Morgan reads the third story title and he says “whoo!” It sounds like someone is laughing in the background 😂 I don’t know if anyone else is there but it sure sounds like it!
I totally agree that as a society we do not talk about birth and the struggles of birth/parenting enough!! We also never heard about infertility!! My husband and I are now after if so many years of trying to prevent pregnancy, trying to conceive. We always thought that one time unprotected would get me pregnant. That has been far from the case. Here we are a year later beating ourselves up wondering why nobody told us it would be this hard for some people!?
Morgan I love you and your podcast. This is the first time ever I watch a youtube video of it. I love the way Justin looks at you. He loves you so much🥹
Are you legally obligated to report pregnancy to potential father? "In most cases, a pregnant woman should tell the father, but it is not legally required." The legality depends on the state, so you can consult a local attorney if you don't want to tell him.
I have anxiety and depression and it got hard early mostly with sleep but did not have postpartum but I connected with her the moment she was born not when I was pregnant I was scared I wouldn’t connect, but when I saw her immediately I though “I protect this baby with my life she will have better than I did” it is sooo beautiful but I can understand being scared and not knowing how to protect and take care of this human I feel that is the fear come from
Lol if my partner said our baby was a big uggo after I just carried that thing for 9 months and right after pooping it out ripping me to shreds. I'd deck that man so hard
I think Justin was on the right path that everyone should have to learn about pregnancy, birth, and raising a child in high school. I’ve heard so many teenagers after they have a baby say they didn’t realize what it was really like to have and care for a baby. This would give the more knowledge to make decisions on if they want kids or not.
Regarding that guy saying his baby is ugly… lol.. Every time I show anyone my childhood photos (3-12 yrs old) no one can believe it’s me. I look completely different after puberty then when I was a child so
Lol same for my cousin he looks like a completely different person compared to when he was younger my family used to call him body snatcher cause how different he looks
Yup. I’m adopted and just found bio dad. Bio mom said she never told bio dad that I existed and refused to tell me who he was. Then, she waited til who she thought he was, was dead and called to tell me on my birthday. I took a dna test on ancestry. Found out that my actual bio dad is still alive and is awesome. I am now thrilled to have two siblings, a niece and a bio dad and his wife who are sweet and accepting and wonderful. 🤗 Edit: don’t worry Morgan, the nurses can help you learn stuff like picking up and holding a baby, changing diapers, and how to do other baby care things. :)
Morgan, I know how you feel with regards to the Tefi episode! I also tend to not speak my mind or I can clam up when I’m hanging out with someone I don’t know very well. A lot of times to stop things from being uncomfortable or awkward I will nod along with someone or keep quiet even if I don’t agree. I love your podcasts!
I’m sure most parents think their babies are Gorgeous but I have two daughters and I swear they were both born so pretty. But also if someone called either of them “hard on the eyes” I’d go straight to jail.
Please stop saying “our education system sucks”. Thousands of us are doing the best we can with limited resources. Not saying it’s perfect, but we are making a difference
the last story made my blood boil😭 he really called his daughter that word when she was clearly born in wedlock. there are so many guys like that who reduce women to terms like that to get a certain result. to him thats not his daughter anymore, she's now an obstacle. this reminds me of those dudes that are obsessed with having sons and that the opposite gender is literally just incubators to have more sons
1st story: 2:37 (son’s half brother)
2nd story: 20:48 ( give back bracelet)
3rd story: 31:39 (don’t like how our baby looks)
4th story: 44:00 (wife reminds me of abortion)
5th story: 1:10:41 (prefer my sons ex as my daughter than him)
Thank you
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You are an angel 👼
Thank you. I just don’t care about anything else but the stories 😂😂
I still can't believe timestamps aren't included
I remember having a huge argument with my dad over my parents' custody over me and my sister (years after the divorce even...) the night before a huge algebra test (with a grade I was already struggling with). I wrote "sorry" on the bottom of the test I didn't study for, my teacher pulled me aside after class and asked if I had a rough night. I nodded, and she passed me on the test... I get weepy thinking about it and I'll probably remember her forever.
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Been here with certain teachers as well. Struggled mentally a lot through high school, I absolutely did not deserve to pass many of my classes but the teachers saw I was trying and found ways to make me pass. I won’t forget them (:
@@summers1890 I didn't mind school, it was just the principal of the thing.
Hope all is well for you, have a great week!
Stories like this inspire me to be the best person I can be: forgiving, empathetic, kind and compassionate. Thanks for a tear-jerker of a comment! 💜
That's an amazing teacher. I had the situation last week, I wrote my CAT (computer studies) test last week and the Monday before the test, and that Sunday I ha multiple panic attacks because of stuff going on at home as so on, so I wrote sorry on the bottom of my test and gave it in afterwards, I'm Gr 12 so I don't think the same will happen to me but I wanted her to know I'm sorry for the bad grade, she's one of the most amazing teachers I know.
Justin totally got it right - being pregnant and having kids is totally romanticized. I appreciate how open and passionate Morgan is about talking about Post-partum depression. Being a parent is not something to be cavalier about.
Even as a mom with many mom friends I felt like I couldn't mention how miserable I was pregnant, especially with my youngest who they believed would be born sleeping.
Damn, I had a totally different experience. I was terrified when I was pregnant, because everything I read about parenthood was SO negative. The first few months were really hard for me, especially since my baby was in the NICU. But now that my daughter is 1, I am obsessed with her and so happy I had her. Everyone's experience is so different and the scary thing is you won't know until it's too late to go back.
@@hogblubbers NICU is a special type of hell id wish on no one. Hope baby is well now.
The guy with the bracelet story... if I was with him and he said "you need to stick with me and have my side" I would've replied. "Like you did with your wife who had cancer?" It's always the least loyal people who demand loyalty
DAMN that’s the truth though
So true. I wonder if they are still together
Periodt
I wouldn't even give him those two days. I would tell the ex wife immediately. Even if he returns it, the fact that he would do that at all, his ex NEEDS to know.
Boop. I was thinking the same.
I love the idea of Morgan's niece coming across this episode when she's a teen just to hear her aunt calling her a potato
Hahaha she was a cute potato at least 😂❤️
If you ever plan on doing a "things happen for a reason" episode, I've got the perfect effing story. And it's quite the roller coaster of emotions.
please send the link, want to read :)
I’m Interested too!!
@@awoibrahim8402 I haven't typed it out yet. Maybe I'll try to post it in the THT subreddit. But I won't be able to post the link. When you comment a link on TH-cam, the comment gets "held for review" so Morgan would have to manually go in and approve the comment being published.
Same here. Highschool bully gets his keys flushed down the toilet, just to gaslight his way into being my roommate after HS + a lot more drama
i LOVE this theme idea
When I was 14 my Mom & Dad sat us down & explained that we were going to be meeting my older brother... Up until that point, we had no idea he existed. Neither did our Dad.
Turned out that he & his girlfriend broke up, they each went their own way & wound up marrying the people they dated after each other. My Dad's ex became pregnant right away & never really knew who the Dad was, but assumed it was her new boyfriend's (turned husband). Eventually, as he was growing they had more Children & she came to know inside he couldn't belong to her partner but she never told anyone. That was until she got sick with Cancer & felt obligated. One day she handed him a piece of paper with my Dad's name & phone number on it & explained that this was who she thought his real Dad was. My brother broke down because he had almost called our Dad many years before. Our Dad is a pinstriper which is a rare art these days really. He had picked 3 pinstripers from the phone book in his young adulthood as he wanted to learn the art. My Dad's number was third on the list but the second artist had agreed to let him be an apprentice so he never needed to call #3. To this day I cannot tell their work apart despite him being taught by someone other than my Dad. When my Dad met him, he explained "no DNA test needed" everything finally clicked. It was like my Dad's soul had been wandering out of his body... Not kidding. They both played the same rare Telecaster Guitar, both restored old cars, both rode motorcycles, both were into tattoo culture, both collected Hot Wheels liked the same music, and both had THE SAME NICKNAME. It's Mouse. In fact, my Brother had become a tattoo artist & was working for the little brother of our Dad's friend & had been many years. The icing on the cake was my Dad's Childhood friends were frequent regulars of the tattoo shop, often hanging around eventually becoming friends of my Brother. We live in a City of about 600,000 people for reference.
Life has a funny way of being stranger than fiction.
Woooow
WOW!! What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. Can you imagine if #2 had said no.. life is so wild. Lauren and I talk a bit about dna and nature versus nurture.. so insane your brother just had this talent in his dna too.
@@TwoHotTakes right?! It's seriously weird the way the world works itself out either way! It was determined to have them meet one way or another.
This story Would make a beautiful movie
It's been a theory of mine since I started reading tarot that we are somehow connected to eachother, some of these connections are stronger than others and some people ,animals,places and things are meant to be in our lives either to teach us an important lesson or learn one from us. There are people that are meant to break you so you can make yourself stronger and people tht are meant to hold you up when you can't on your own...people that push you out of your comfort zones and people who only wish to keep you in your loop. I do like that every thought and action we take has that butterfly effect though.
I've met people in adulthood i spent my childhood hanging around ...or dated a guy that had lived in the same state in southern mexico during the same time, but we both grew up in the US...he went to visit family , i went for an ex....we never met. But went to the same beaches, restaurants ,markets and clubs....wound up meeting 3 years later in Tijuana at my strip club job on a day that i wasn't gonna go into work and he was going home after a party and stopped for a beer(even though he didn't like drinking) we went out for 2 years learned a lot of good and bad lessons from him , and i fixed some toxic traits i had learned from my mom
I grew up with a mother who HATED being a parent. Divorce her and take your daughter. The daughter will feel confused and bend over backwards to appease her mother and constantly get rejected.
Me too! And she has no hesitation telling us that she never wanted kids in the first place. My youngest sister is 11, and she has said to her face that she just doesn’t care about being a parent. My sisters don’t know how to shower themselves correctly, they don’t like anything that isn’t packaged (mac and cheese and ramen) bc my mom doesn’t cook or get them nutritious food… then when they want to come to my house my mom uses it against them. “We’ll just go to Emmy’s then. We dont need you here.” it’s a tragic situation to go through. I’m sorry you had to experience that…
100% if she wants out, she'll keep self sabotaging.
My mom said shit like this too. It sucked and constantly makes me doubt whether I am wanted, liked or appreciated in any sort of relationship (romantic, platonic, professional, etc).
I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's experience but could it be possible this woman is suffering from postpartum depression or something like it? It can go on for quite sometime, especially if it was left untreated. The fact that she's been saying things like this since the beginning, it kind of feels like mental health problems. OP even said she couldn't go through with the abortion bc she felt "connected" to the child. Maybe when baby actually came and she had a hard time connecting but OP could, it turned into feelings of regret/resentment. This could just be wishful thinking on my part as I wouldn't want any child to deal with that kind of rejection. I hope things get better for them and don't go the way they did for the other commenters in this thread, myself included.
I'm sorry to hear that but I've got to ask do you know if your mom was ever tested for postpartum and received treatment? Most Millennials and all Boomers aren't informed on this and it's not something that simply disappears over time. If left untreated it usually gets worse. I guess if she were willing to get help and still didn't improve divorce is the only option.
@@krisl6537 she died awhile back. I’m finally free.
I got pregnant with my oldest when I was 19. I wad terrified to have a baby. I considered abortion but ultimately ended up deciding to keep my sweet girl. Her father is a total ass and likes to tell her that if not for him she wouldn't have been born and yall, I've never been more proud of this girl. The last time he said that to her, she responded with "well it's her body therefore it's her choice and she would have had an abortion I wouldn't be here so I wouldn't know anything about it" I was bawling and so damn proud of her. She's 18 now and is the smartest and most level headed person I know.
Go baby girl go! Damn right. Id be so proud as well, id probably be crying tears of vindication and lmao at the same time! You raised her well to be canny about these things.
When my mom's parents divorced, it was traumatizing for her. But my Granny told all 5 of their children to never say a bad word about their father & my mom NEVER heard my Granny bad-mouth my Pappy. "Kid's are NOT pawns in a game for parents to use against each other! Only can hurt & harm the child's mind!"
Your daughter's father sounds like an inconsiderate idiot-a**hole that trys to garner your daughter's attention/love/favoritism/respect by putting her mother down! Like, wow. That's such a lovely thing to tell your child.
My mom told me she wanted to abort me as well, when I was 25. Because "All your sister did was CRY, Mary. 16hrs. straight. Your dad would come home from work & have to walk up and down the alley with her for HOURS before she'd quiet down... granted, your sister was born addicted to m*th...".
Anyhow, she apologized and said how I was such a good baby in the end and that I NEVER cried or fussed. Also, she was in labor for 28hrs with my older sister and I popped right out. She was an abusive alcoholic while growing up, never had a job, or bought me even a 99¢ slurpy growing up. We were "daddy's girls" growing up, sis moved out at 15 and mom stopped drinking when I was 16 & we became BEST FRIENDS! She called me her "Siamese-Twin" lol Thought I was abnormal because I was always home reading, telling me "When I was your age, honey, I was out having fun! Partying! But, you just wanna be home with your mommy hahaa".
I miss her everyday. She died 10 days exactly before my 28th birthday 😔. I forgive & forgave her back then, even if my sister hasn't.
I think the fact that she is so close to the age you had her helps her put things into perspective. She can easily notice how young you were and how scary it is
For the second one: divorce the husband, marry the ex wife, and get custody of the daughter. That man does not need to be taking care of another human being. His lack of care and empathy for his ex, someone he must’ve loved at some point, is astounding.
Edit for the third story: newborn babies are so ugly. My nephew who is so frickin cute was so ugly when he came out because he was a newborn.
Justin saying he’s never heard about someone regretting being a parent that late. It is another thing that is not talked about. It’s not always about the lack of connection with the kids, or just not getting the swing of it yet. There are women now talking about not liking being a mother. Which is SO taboo. They don’t like the grind, how it’s 24/7, many are saying they felt lied too and it’s not all it cracked up to be. It’s not meant for everyone, but it’s been sold to every single woman in this country. There was a reason she was childfree before. There’s a book or article I believe call “Regretting Motherhood”. I’d recommend it to learn about because it’s interesting and you NEVER hear mothers say these things out loud.
Yess I love people discussing this, more transparency about parenthood is necessary. I've heard so many parents say they regret having their kids because of this issue.
My mom said it to me out loud all the time. That she never wanted us, she doesn’t care about caring, this is “too much for her.” I had to baby my own mom. I respect that it’s not for everyone, but you gotta be careful with the way you speak to your kids or treat them once you start feeling regretful or realize that you’re regretful. It really fucks you up.
The thing is parenting is a huge responsibility. People shouldn’t just because they want to, they need to step up to the plate and fulfill their responsibility. Being a parent isn’t for YOU- it’s for the future of humanity. Remember who and how you are raising.
It was never supposed to be just a great time and something fun to do.
Having children is the most consequential, important, and life changing decision a person could make, but we treat getting a dog with a greater sense of care. Like, the amount of parents who don’t even read about baby development and punish their children for being children (like them being messy and playing with their food is how their little baby brains explore that it’s safe to eat using multiple senses). Or that the shows you let your baby watch can have significant negative consequences for their brains AND behavior. Coco melon is bad for their brains (and therefor their behavior later on) whereas caillou is bad for their behavior. This is surface level stuff and that’s not even touching parents who smack their infants when they crawl off blankets so they’re trained (re:abused) into not moving, exploring, or playing. And these are just the parents we hear from. When you get family gossip about the mom who locks herself in her room watching Netflix while her four kids ages 4-10 are left to watch whatever they want, play gta, eat whatever they want, still wet the bed, are raising themselves… and knowing it’s happening all over the world, it paints a scary picture for the future of humanity as parents have children thoughtlessly or on accident and decide to keep and neglect them than step up or bow out of parenthood. I’m hoping parenthood takes the next spotlight soon and people actually wait to have children until they’re more grown or have considered everything first, more than just wanting a cute baby.
Looking back, my baby wasn’t the cutest but in the moment she was the most beautiful child I’ve ever seen ! Almost like drunk goggles 🤣🤣
Same, but looking back she was still a wrinkle ugly prune. Doesn't mean I don't love my baby girl. she's the most beautiful thing in the world to me. Pretty much all babies come out looking like ugly old men and women😂
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Post birth hormones high is the most potent high in existence
Honestly every newborn is ugly af and most babies are too 😅
Morgan: *in tears choking up* that's so cute; Justin: "that's cool"
LOL
I totally agree with Justin when he said that everyone should have to learn about babies. Everyone needs to know about caring for another person. Almost everyone can reproduce and if not they don’t usually find out until after school but I still think it’s helpful for everyone to learn about babies.
Even as a friend or sibling of someone with kids, this is super important. I don’t know yet that I’d want kids, but I know I’ll want to babysit and be there for my friends whenever they want help or support.
Oh, thank god. I've been scrolling through TH-cam trying to find something to watch all evening. Looking forward to it.
same 😭😭 so thankful
Literally 😭
i can't clean my house until either morgan, drew, or brittany and sarah uploads anymore it's a problem
(also looking for more preferably female creators that do long videos/podcast tyvm)
@@katieundercover uu
Yeah I’m
The guy who told his gf his baby was “ugly”- why is he placing so much weight on the looks of a literal baby? If your child only matters to you if they’re beautiful then you need to reassess yourself. Why should an uncontrollable aspect of someone determine their worth?
Exactly. This is a brand new human being who you get to guide into the world, and you’re worried it’s not pretty yet? Crazy. Also makes me wonder what more horrible things he would’ve said if the baby had a physical abnormality or health issue of some sort.
Also, literally every baby comes out looking ugly so idk why he’s so worried about it
Also a lot of internalized racism to work through. I’m a mixed POC and I can’t imagine how traumatic it would have been to hear this sort of thing from either parent.
I personally wouldn't only because I think all babies are ugly. The kid will be cute later, just have some patience 🤣
How does he not think his baby is the cutest. Me and my husband did think our boy is the best looking and other babies not so. Maybe he wasn't but to parents he was. As it should. That's how biology works. Plus... Apparently the baby looks like dad the first few days. It is the biology telling the father that the kid is his. So I heard. My boy definitely looked like my husband in the beginning. Now he looks like me.
I think the bracelet story pisses me off so much bc there are studies that show men are more likely to leave if their wives get a terminal illness diagnosis, but women are more likely to stay by their husbands sides vice versa. I guess the “in sickness and in health” only applies to the men…
For the last story, good on the grandparents for sticking by Josie and Ruth. Their son royally messed up, and then disowned his own daughter. The fact he expects that just because he disowned her, the grandparents should too, is ridiculous. Their son was the one who stopped coming around. Their son was the one who refused to support his own father when he got diagnosed with lung cancer. The fact that when he does come back it is only to talk about his inheritance is absolutely disgusting. Those grandparents sound like incredible people, and Ruth and Josie are lucky to have them. Wish OP the best, especially with her husband.
Okay. Not sure if you get to the update, but I've reached the story about OP's wife constantly hovering over his shoulder and saying, "aren't you glad you didn't kill her?" The update was: OP adjusted to being a father fairly well and he accepted the responsibility. His wife? Not so much. Every time she saw HIM lovingly caring for their daughter, she grew resentful and wanted to damage that relationship. Why? Because SHE regretted not going through the abortion, SHE struggled with being a mother, and SHE struggled with not properly bonding with the daughter. So she took it out on HIM in order to put him down and make herself feel better about not having the relationship she felt she should. It's extremely abusive and I'm glad OP spotted it before their child got older and started to internalize the comments the wife is making. I believe they were starting therapy for her, but I don't know what happened after the initial update. If things don't change? I hope he makes it clear that divorce is on the table. He must protect his daughter from his wife's resentment, because she's not only hurting their child, she's also hurting him.
EDIT:: Lmao. Oh my god. As soon as I finished my comment, you read the update. Besides what I said above - they need to ABSOLUTELY get rid of the therapist who recommended they continue to have sex to "mend their broken marriage". That's a therapist who needs to go back to school.
I once had a therapist tell me that I should get engaged to my s/o so my parents would stop looking over my shoulder, and to get over my religious guilt of having sex with my partner.
Therapists suggest some weird things sometimes. She also told me that b vitamins would help my depression, all it did was make my pee green
The therapist was just ensuring that they’d continue to have them as clients 😂 that’s the professional equivalent of poking holes in condoms… stoking flames and encouraging drama
Therapists say some real whack shit sometimes, coming from experience 😭
The channel Mended Light has a segment called “shit therapists say”. I believe they have a video on “sex fixes relationships, they said”
I knew it had to be projection on her end. Nobody acts like this when they have a clear conscience.
Holy shit, the one on abortion.. it’s never okay to shame anyone on their views on aborting their own child. To do so in front of the kid.. wtf. The mom’s behaviour is so toxic, even more because it was clearly discussed before getting pregnant and she even wanted to abort herself!!!! The father ended up staying with her and do the right thing. The mom sounds horrible.
Edit: I think Justin is right about protecting her feelings
Edit 2: wooow the update… did not see that coming
“people are going to think the podcast ended” i literally checked my phone because i thought it paused 😭
I love to see that other people are using the “handle with care” note. I use this phrase with my students and their parents as well. Sometimes they just need some extra love. 💕
Absolutely love that you use this! It’s so so needed
Can you do an episode on just emotional incest?? Some of those stories are so crazy!
When my nephew was born I told my brother, word for word, "I'm very happy for you. He looks like a piece of ham." and then sent my brother his entire natal chart as a "parenting guide" and we all thought it was hilarious. But that's the dynamic of my family, we all act like this and we all love each other - CLEARLY this is not the dynamic of his. Read the room.
That’s exactly how my family is. If I couldn’t say that to my husband.. I couldn’t be with him. If we can’t joke up shit like that.. then you ain’t the one for me. I use humor to cope with shit. So my kids ugly right now.. big deal. They’ll grow out of it.. so let’s have fun with it in the moment. It’s temporary.. it’s a day old. They’re little naked mole rats still. Lol.
my kid looked like a wrinkly old man even looked like he had a receding hairline 😂😂😂
I delivered my daughter last month and when the nurses left after the stitches I told my husband that she looked like an alien like our first did😂
That's so crazy that people comment Morgan should've fought her guest host on the last podcast, about the baby in car story. It's called Two Hot Takes, not Two Same Takes lol. And some people are way more comfortable voicing their opinions out loud-loud, but Morgan gave her take as well, I did not feel like she nodded along and said nothing.
It's a podcast, not a court ruling, none of us have all the facts nor can we relate to every story or know what we would do. I, for example, agreed a lot with the guy that was on a few podcasts back that kept voicing his opinion of a lot of those stories being just story-telling rather than real. We never really know hahah why would anyone literally fight over it? It's just not that serious, and even then, Morgan runs her podcast very respectfully and is always considerate. And I'm also here for the different takes 😀
People need to get the fuck over it, people have different opinions goddamn
omg yes!! I agree 100% with you. I know Morgan, as the host, has a responsibility for educating people, but she is not there to judge what's right or wrong, she doesn't need to be right all the time and she doesn't need to agree neither with guests or the commenters, she has the right to her opinion and to share it how she feels it's more appropriate. I think of the podcast as a way for everyone to debate and learn, including Morgan. She is great, she is very professional and responsible. I wish people would be less harsh on her and the guests when they don't agree, as after all the podcast is made for people to share their takes. Also, it's much easier for us as viewers to voice our opinion after listening to the whole story and with time to write it down...
I agree, I like having the different points of view on stories, it makes the podcast more interesting imo!
Totally agree!! I mean I sided with Morgan and I think the dad was a justified asshole but why would she fight anyone 😭 verbally or physically, tht is a good times interesting podcast and people come to hear different views and opinions
Yesssss thank you!! I felt the exact same way! The pod would be so boring if everyone agreed all the time
For the 3rd story:
I have had extensive contact with people from India and Pakistan and there are certain groups of people who are obsessed with looks. Lots of them kept reassuring me (I had contact with them on a business basis through email and telephone) that they had really fair skin and hair for someone with their background and so they could discriminate against people with darker skin, even though these were their own people.
First time I didn't know what they meant and I responded confused. I quickly learned how to steer around the topic because being a representative from a corporation from a different part of the world, it's not my place to try to end the systemic racism in my business contact list.....
for the first story, another reason the mom might’ve been hesitant to tell op he was the father could be bc when they were together she was 26 and he said he was right out of high school, so 18 maybe 19. maybe she was worried about community backlash bc of the age difference? considering how it seems to be a small town (them still being in the same area and their kids coincidentally becoming friends) she could’ve just been embarrassed for being with someone so young.
I couldn’t believe they didn’t mention this in their takes! I feel like this is a huge factor to the story!
Yeah didn’t think of that also super weird on her part like was she just like “ooo he’s cute” in a high school. It’s just odd
@@annaror7244 yeah definitely, no 26 y/o woman should feel like they have enough in common with an 18 y/o to even hook up imo. shows how immature the older party is usually.
What about op's wife in this story?
@@gunjan3575 he said ex when referring to his sons mom so guess they weren’t married or if they where then they divorced
Wow, that "handle with care" one made me tear up 😭 so beautiful and reminds me that i also need to think about that for my own kids❤️
For the abortion story, PPD can go on for years and years if left untreated. I’m currently on antidepressants bc of PPD and I remember feeling a disconnect between me and my daughter. Even with my husband. I had this intrusive thoughts about removing myself from the picture, going back to my country and leaving them so they could be happy. After starting treatment, I’m so happy, and not only do I love my child but also, I actually enjoy so much just being with her, playing and even watching her sleep. She’s 2 now and is my entire world. My husband and I no longer fight and life is beautiful again. Moral of the story: go to therapy. Embrace the possibility of trying medication. It doesn’t make you any less capable. If anything, it shows that you want to be better for yourself and your loved ones. I feel very sorry for the mom in the story bc she seems to be dealing with untreated PPD, and for the husband bc I remember how my husband went trough hell during my lowest moment. Poison would come out of my mouth and it was like I couldn’t control myself…. So yeah, these are my 2 cents here…
Wow I had no idea ppd could last that long. The way I’ve heard it talked about is that it lasts for a few weeks-months which I always thought sounded absurd. Thank you so much for leaving this comment and I’m so happy for you on getting the help that you needed with you ppd. I wish you and your family the best!
@@brynneavan it’s not common, and it also depends on other factors, like financial problems, which I think they were experiencing, and guilt for thinking of abortion. In my case, i got pregnant right before moving to Spain, which kind of messed up our plans. I’m from Venezuela and money was tight. Then we went through the Great Blackout of 2019, that left the entire country without electricity and water for a week, then baby was born on June, and on November we moved to Spain only to go through a world pandemic a few months later. That just broke me on so many levels and it wasn’t until late 2021 that I got to start therapy and medication that I realized not only how bad I was mentally, but also how much hurt I had been causing my husband. So yeah, I was one shit storm after the other and it affected me greatly. I can’t even imagine going through that for 6 years though. It’s kind of scary
Only slightly disappointed I didn’t hear Justin’s “wow” remix during the theme song 😂😂♥️
It happens. I met my sister in my 9th grade English class because we did a family tree project and we brought the same picture of our dad!! My brother was also friends with my younger sister in middle school around the same time! We had no idea until that project
Thanks goodness! I been looking for something to watch for 20 minutes. I was about to give up but then I got the notification. So excited! I love your videos keep at it ❤
I was getting worried the video version wasn’t going to be posted tonight!! I started on the podcast, saw the YT notification, and came straight over ! I look forward to Thursday’s 😍🔥
59:03 first trimester fatigue- no one told me until I was deep in it. I was breaking down crying about how am I supposed to prep for the baby is I need to sleep 16hrs a day on top of working. I almost crashed my car from falling asleep behind the wheel. We need to discuss all of this.
The abortion one. They need to divorce. Sometimes leaving is better for the child. Get custody of the daught and let the mom get healthy on her own. And when she is better she can try to have a rationship with the daughter. Right now she is being emotionally abusive to the husband and the daughter.
OMG the story about you and your brother in the car!! The exact same thing happened to me, swing set and everything. I forgot something in the house all my kids were already buckles so I just ran back in the house to grab something came out to my 2yr old son driving into a swing set!! Haha 😄 🤣 except this was like 3 years ago
I would LOVE to see an episode full of updates and second looks on previous stories!!!!
the first story, sounds like their breakup was messy too so who knows what would've happened if they forced themselves to be together for the kid. everything does happen for a reason for real. glad they found each other early on tho
i so needed this, i absoluetly BOMED a chemistry exam a couple hours ago and needed to get my mind off of it.
Me too 💀
I bombed many chem exams in college and I’m in veterinary school now. Keep going!!
@@samanthav7126 gives me hope 🥲🥲🥲
My bfs dad didn’t know about him until he was 9. The whole family has a good relationship and it worked out that his mom told his dad. I’m glad the guy found out in this story!
As a teacher, I too feel like I’ve had multiple illnesses over the last few weeks, so Justin’s stuffiness just made me feel less alone lol
Thanks for telling us the good news movement! I've been having a rough winter, and popped over there after this video. It made me feel so good to just see good things and people floating around.
Not going to lie, even the doctor told me that she was the prettiest baby he’s ever seen 🥰 but I also got her ripped from my stomach so she was living the dream 😅
But my baby daddy was. POS and wasn’t there to see it anyways so 🤷🏽♀️
There’s a doctor in my area that’s been delivering babies for over 30 years and he said to my mom that I was the prettiest baby he had ever seen. Then when I got older I found out that he tells every mother they have the prettiest baby he has ever seen. I was low key butthurt because I spent my entire life thinking I was a special baby😂
I was just thinking about a full episode & it’s out!! Yayyy☺️☺️
The end of the podcast made me think of something that I think Morgan might like: in the UK we have a small newspaper called The Happy Newspaper. They publish every 3 months with happy and heartwarming stories from that quarter. I don’t know if they’d be able to ship to the US but it’d be worth checking!
All my siblings are half siblings so I definitely feel that struggle of trying to explain my family. I’ve had to draw out a family tree multiple times!
Same here, 7 kids, 6 Dad's. My mum was married 3 times, one time for over 10 years. I've had to draw out a family tree more than once 😂
I was gonna be a kid free person. Then life happened. I also was one that made an appointment but changed my mind about it. My pregnancy wasn't magical, I didn't feel connected to my baby, I wasn't taking maternity pictures or any of that. It took me almost a year after my son was born to actually form a connection with him, and even then I don't have the "typical" motherly instincts that you see everywhere. But I'm making it work and I got the help I needed. At least she has a supporting partner through all of this and I hope she keeps getting help to overcome this feeling she has.
My bf and I love this pod! We enjoy listening to the stories, talking about it, listening to the commentary, then expounding on that as well! its a good time 😊
Going along with the little wholesome snippets, I wait for your videos every week because when I don't feel like listening to music on my commute, I listen to you. I was upset at the baby in car story and how you reacted, but when you explained your reasoning, I felt bad for being so angry be cause OF COURSE you're not going to tell an invited guest they're wrong for their opinion.
I would LOVE another wholesome episode, especially with Justin, even though it would just make me ugly cry with happiness lolol.
I'm usually a ghoster not a commenter, but I wanted to let you know how much your podcast affects my day-to-day life.
Love y'all! ❤❤❤
loved the episode!!! Btw the movie is called “The Invention of Lying” arguably one of the funniest movies and the main actor is the creator of The Office
I love your podcast so much, I’ve been trying to find an episode I haven’t watched but it’s been all of them!! This made my night!!❤️❤️
when he hyped u up about reading "ruins" like "no you did good!" 🥺 as a fellow ADHDer who knows just how frustrating that stuff can be, that is so sweet to see! reminds me of my supportive husband 🥰
My dad found out he had another daughter after I took a dna test and found out I had a sister I didn’t know! It’s a long story but it’s a good one. More common than you think.
Awwwww Morgan, I teared up at that note to! Seeing wholesome things hits those heart strings and makes my eyes leak 🥲
Not me coming home from the bar and I see this…No sleep for meeeeee :)
Oh she’s definitely going to remember those comments just in her 20s my dad used to say “remind your mom she’s the one who wanted you/a girl” and now I have nothing to do with him
When my daughter was born I always said she looked like a potato lol clearly they’re not getting their full features at 1 day old
My niece was looking like a rotten potato. My brother and his wife was joking about that. Now she is six and the cutest girl ever.
I find it funny how wrinkly and unattractive 1 day babies usually are.
I've heard alien as well. lmao. And yeah, I feel like there's such a difference between what OP said and your joke or parents joking that their baby looks like an alien. I mean, he also seemed to blame the baby not being a Gerber model on the fact that she is mixed race.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 we stand a parent with a sense of humor.
@@heatherduke5410 you are right about that. It sounded premeditated and prejudice. Not just him being surprised.
@@SoLastYear Yeah, I mean, a lot of parents joke that their children look like aliens or potatoes, raisins, or little old men when first born. He straight up brings up how there was always a chance of the child being ugly because she was biracial.
I really love the idea of having palette cleansers at the end of an episode! I love the drama, because it helps me forget about the craziness in my own life, but it can definitely be a lot to take in. Having the palette cleanser at the end today was so nice! It left me feeling positive after being able to have the escapism of other’s drama. Thanks for another great episode!
"Handle With Care" 🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭 Why do I feel like this would make an amazing movie?
About those life support classes - in the state of Oregon, you are required to get CPR/AED training in high school, this is a basic life saving action that we should all be required to learn.
With the “ugly” baby post- when I was 16, my bf (18) and I thought that we were going to have to basically take care of his older sisters baby bc of her issues, so she let us be in the room when he was born. I didn’t know this, but apparently if the baby isn’t coming out naturally, they literally get this thing that looks like a plunger and they stick it on the baby’s head and pull. That gave the baby a very prominent cone head which we had to rub out. Honestly that was a terrifying thing to see 😂 I was so concerned
I worry though that the woman who hates her child will abuse her. I really hope therapy is stopping her from starting that cycle.
I don’t know, she seems to feel guilt about it and is open to therapy. I don’t think she is hopeless, but she definitely needs qualified help
Honestly the first story rings a bell for me. Years ago, when my uncle was on crack and other drugs, he had repeatedly hooked up with this other addict that was a woman. He's now sober, getting married, and has a baby girl. My mom did Ancestry and found out that he had a daughter with her, and she's eighteen years old. She contacted my mom after finding her on there to ask about him and if he remembered her mom (her mom gave up her for adoption and she does live with a great family now), but the drugs fried his brain and he honestly cannot remember. My mom and most of my family are happy to know her, as she's such a nice person, but my uncle is more hesitant. From what I've been told, he's scared of meeting her and ruining her expectations she may have for him, as he has pretty bad bpd. For now, we might meet her in the summer and my grandma is so excited to meet another granddaughter, but I do hope he does want to know her.
I'm surprised it took that long to cut him out of the will. Cheating and leaving your ex high and dry, abandoning your child, and marrying less than one year after the divorce would have been enough for me.
Yeah, abandoning his child would have done it for me
Morgan’s first single… IM HERE FOR IT!!
In Australia, they actually deduct our taxes straight from our pay, it’s automatically calculated in total price. If a can of Fanta is $2.50 on the price tag, it’s 2.50 when you get to the counter.
When we do our taxes, we file for tax RETURNS. So we can go to an accountant, say “please file my tax returns. They tell you what they need and typically, you can pay them out of the money you get from the return.
Ie I got something like 1500 for my tax return. Accountant cost 300 or so. So I’m still getting 1200
In the USA they do pull taxes from paychecks and you do file tax returns as well. Anyone who has to pay in for taxes didn't have the correct amount pulled from their paychecks during the year.
You get to deduct the tax you paid for your Fanta??? 🤔🤨
(Looking into flights to Oz.... )
46:24 “That’s a big word for Elmo” 😂 I’m dead
ThanksI found something to watch during breakfast! (Really different time zone than other comment 😂😂)
That last one was so cute. I wish there were more people like that, but I'm glad that some exist.
Have y’all ever thought about doing a full dive into mental health? I love watching this podcast and it is just so enjoyable!!
she said she would make one on the THT insta story!! it’s still up
Being a pregnant and becoming a mother is super hard. There is so many emotions attached and expected expectations. So days I love being a mother, others I hate it. I’m okay with both feelings and it is normal!! Open and honest conversation with your partner are needed. Ensuring that you have self care and down time is a must and not selfish.
To the bracelet guy story this is a qoute about marriage I love "marriage is just a piece of paper if you are being nothing but degraded and mistreated. If you aren't taking those vows to heart then marriage will stay a joke"
I’ll be honest but while I love being a mom, even a single mom, I hated being pregnant because it was so high risk. My first son was really early and I was on bed rest for my youngest, but I’m blessed with two healthy boys.
I hate being pregnant. It's a miserable expierence for m12×jlhbkvbkcfxzsfsrzsfzERSRwrastsdffkvjkbxtd7rdt685er78bu 8tradjhhl g
The mom who didn't want to be a mom anymore...I feel her. I don't condone what she did at all but her personal issues with being a mom is a lot more common than people think
loved seeing that Living Proof ad read as an addict of their texture spray myself 💅🏻
The last story makes me think of my own family, minus a dying father and will. My dad cheated on my mom when I was very young, and when my grandma (my dad's mom) found out, she immediately sided with my mom and fully supported her in the divorce, slightly shunning my dad, her own son. Her biggest reasoning at the time was that I was the first grandchild and since my mom's entire family lives many states away (she moved to my dad's state to marry and live with him), my grandma was afraid my mom would leave and take me with her back to her hometown with her family.
Till this day, my mom and grandma are the best of friends, 30 years later. My dad has always just had to live with that.
Morgan you look so gorgeous as usual - you have striking features!
Also I love when you and Justin host together, you’re such a great couple - another good episode you two ♥️
Eh, I have said how uggo my baby looked after she was born. She looked EXACTLY like my Mother-in-Law who had just spent the last two weeks of my pregnancy driving me crazy. I was also induced and I found out later that that can mess with the hormones that make you connect with the baby, it took me three days to feel those "that's my baby feeling". Love her to bits now, but at the start I was on the fence hahaha.
Sorry y’all haven’t felt good! I’m in GA and have allergies and i’m sick at the moment so i’m very thankful to have this to watch as i stil have to get my kids ready for school and make breakfast. ♥️✌️
1:03:10 trueeee you can literally tell when morgan is adjusting her answers to fit more comfortably w some of her guests that aren’t regulars
That teacher is so nice, my little family has been though alot, we have dealt with death of our grandfather, me being assaulted by my aunt and dealing with cancer. Every day I worry about my kid and what toll it takes on him. I wish there were more teachers like that.
When Morgan reads the third story title and he says “whoo!” It sounds like someone is laughing in the background 😂 I don’t know if anyone else is there but it sure sounds like it!
yesssss!!! I’ve been refreshing all evening 🤟🏼perfect timing
I totally agree that as a society we do not talk about birth and the struggles of birth/parenting enough!! We also never heard about infertility!! My husband and I are now after if so many years of trying to prevent pregnancy, trying to conceive. We always thought that one time unprotected would get me pregnant. That has been far from the case. Here we are a year later beating ourselves up wondering why nobody told us it would be this hard for some people!?
Morgan I love you and your podcast.
This is the first time ever I watch a youtube video of it.
I love the way Justin looks at you. He loves you so much🥹
Are you legally obligated to report pregnancy to potential father? "In most cases, a pregnant woman should tell the father, but it is not legally required." The legality depends on the state, so you can consult a local attorney if you don't want to tell him.
I have anxiety and depression and it got hard early mostly with sleep but did not have postpartum but I connected with her the moment she was born not when I was pregnant I was scared I wouldn’t connect, but when I saw her immediately I though “I protect this baby with my life she will have better than I did” it is sooo beautiful but I can understand being scared and not knowing how to protect and take care of this human I feel that is the fear come from
Lol if my partner said our baby was a big uggo after I just carried that thing for 9 months and right after pooping it out ripping me to shreds. I'd deck that man so hard
@Emma Right hook to the face
That abortion story update literally forced an "oh, wow" out of me...yikes!!
I think Justin was on the right path that everyone should have to learn about pregnancy, birth, and raising a child in high school. I’ve heard so many teenagers after they have a baby say they didn’t realize what it was really like to have and care for a baby. This would give the more knowledge to make decisions on if they want kids or not.
Regarding that guy saying his baby is ugly… lol.. Every time I show anyone my childhood photos (3-12 yrs old) no one can believe it’s me. I look completely different after puberty then when I was a child so
Lol same for my cousin he looks like a completely different person compared to when he was younger my family used to call him body snatcher cause how different he looks
In Canada they still have Home Economics and Parenting classes. They are electives, but I genuinely think both classes should be mandatory.
Yup. I’m adopted and just found bio dad. Bio mom said she never told bio dad that I existed and refused to tell me who he was. Then, she waited til who she thought he was, was dead and called to tell me on my birthday.
I took a dna test on ancestry. Found out that my actual bio dad is still alive and is awesome. I am now thrilled to have two siblings, a niece and a bio dad and his wife who are sweet and accepting and wonderful. 🤗
Edit: don’t worry Morgan, the nurses can help you learn stuff like picking up and holding a baby, changing diapers, and how to do other baby care things. :)
my fav part of this episode is morgan continuously referring to the baby as "the thing" lmao
Morgan, I know how you feel with regards to the Tefi episode! I also tend to not speak my mind or I can clam up when I’m hanging out with someone I don’t know very well. A lot of times to stop things from being uncomfortable or awkward I will nod along with someone or keep quiet even if I don’t agree. I love your podcasts!
I’m sure most parents think their babies are Gorgeous but I have two daughters and I swear they were both born so pretty. But also if someone called either of them “hard on the eyes” I’d go straight to jail.
Please stop saying “our education system sucks”. Thousands of us are doing the best we can with limited resources. Not saying it’s perfect, but we are making a difference
the last story made my blood boil😭 he really called his daughter that word when she was clearly born in wedlock. there are so many guys like that who reduce women to terms like that to get a certain result. to him thats not his daughter anymore, she's now an obstacle. this reminds me of those dudes that are obsessed with having sons and that the opposite gender is literally just incubators to have more sons
Heeesss back!! I have missed him. Such a nice person.
the food delivery story is amazing - butterfly effect vibes
Yaaaaaass I found the podcast last week and I just listen to all the episodes, I was starting to missing your voice hahaha