Yes to the right woman and also if that man Understands that his Wife is a gift from GOD! I thank GOD my Wife and I have been together as a couple for 23 years and married for 15 years.
@@simplyameeraj I said the same thing. I’m also wondering if he dragged her through that whole Ride or Die stage or cheated on her or dated other women in those 8 years. Because sheesh, 8 years is a long time.
I don't comment on your videos; but as a man I really enjoy listen to you my brother. Men like myself that are trying to be the best version of their self; need other examples. Thx you.
I had the pleasure of meeting your dad… he’s a stand up guy‼️ I was Property Manager of a complex he lived at, I was pregnant at the time back in 2012… the first thing he said when he sat at my desk was “I don’t see a ring on your finger”… he gave me a copy of your book.. I will forever remember that interaction ❤️ as a young black woman he opened my eyes to what I did not see, what I didn’t think was important.. COMMITMENT..
Tony, this is a holy message and sermon. No man or woman is worth missing out on the presence of God, being able feel him daily is uplifting. God never leaves us, we leave him.
you said it. I cried out to the Lord today for betraying Him for the comfort of a man who could nor would ever lay his life down for me. Jesus paid the ultimate price and no man on earth will ever give us that kind of love. Amen sis!
Because I am so opposed to adultery, I know that any man who cheats on me is not the man God has for me. God will give me a man who won’t ever cheat on me. A man who only has eyes for me. ❤ I rather be single and alone then be with a man whose cheated on me. It’s the only deal breaker in a relationship for me.
So true! My father had countless affairs, sadly he brought his mistresses to our house. I got abused because I caught him cheating. My grandfather cheated on my grandmother bragged about cheating on my grandma all the time and that's why I don't I rarely mess with men or have relationships because I don't see the point, I'd rather have my peace. I'm sure not all men are cheaters or woman beaters, but I'm too scared to trust a man with my life. But I admire women who take the risk and they keep searching until they find themselves a man who will be good and faithful to them. ❤️
This is so hard. I was married to a man I thought loved the Lord and clearly it was all outwardly. After almost 10 years he cheated on me with a younger woman who once was part of our youth group (we were her youth pastors). It’s really sad. I definitely feel discouraged knowing that maybe there is a very low number of men who would remain faithful. I guess what you said is facts, that men and women love differently. 😭😭😭
My heart breaks for you because I met my husband at church and it makes no difference. 18 years of marriage and he was a serial cheater. Like Brother Tony says the man needs to have God in his life and first in order to change sis. I will pray for you. Please pray for me too. We are daughters of the most high God and King and He is calling us out if these demonic and destructive relationships even if they are marriages. God does not want you in marriage yo a man who is treating you so horribly. God bless you dear one.
My heart breaks for you because I met my husband at church and it makes no difference. 18 years of marriage and he was a serial cheater. Like Brother Tony says the man needs to have God in his life and first in order to change sis. I will pray for you. Please pray for me too. We are daughters of the most high God and King and God is calling us out of these demonic and destructive relationships even if they are marriages. God does not want you in marriage to a man who willingly cheats and defiles his body and treating you so horribly. God bless you dear one.
It’s ashamed that he had the audacity to disrespect God’s house and you. I’m sorry that you had to experience that. Keep Praying 🙏 for directions that he has for you. God blessed you ☮️
I’m so sorry to hear this happening to you, I’m mortified, I would be so hurt, I pray that Jesus heals your heart, Jesus is the ultimate lover of your soul. He will restore you in every way, I’m sure you have surrendered this situation to him, I pray your strength in Jesus🙏🏾
This makes me sad as a woman. I try to be positive but it’s best for so many of us to focus on ourselves l. I see why so many men want us to share. My ex tried to convince me him cheating was always my fault so he was well within his rights to cheat no matter how much I tried to please him.
This is a deep topic. I needed to hear this. It does seem so many don't know how to be faithful. Relationships are too much of a project for me, I'm focused on bettering me at the moment. I'm stuck on succeeding phase.
I was told it’s about the chase, the hunt when I was younger by an older man that I worked with. He warned me about this over 30 years ago and he was at least 30 years older than me back then. So sisters let’s be careful.
He telling the truth though. I hear it often especially among college women ,its not even a second thought. Its just called hook ups.they normalize sin
I have male friends who tell me it’s nothing to get a woman to come back to their car after a first time casual encounter. Not after a date or hanging out. It’s so crazy.
My ex has told me that he was able to pull up on women walking and pick them up. And you know the rest. I couldn’t believe it! One day I was in the back of his truck and I wanted him to show me because I didn’t believe him. Well, it’s true, ladies! Yes, these jezebels are savages! They aren’t women. They have nothing feminine about them or their behavior.
This was a mighty word straight from the Lord!! Whew 😅🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾! “The love of a woman doesn’t compare to the favor of God.” My, my, my! Edit: A lot of the turmoil we now see is because many have decided to walk from God’s instructions. He is not pleased…
I believe that God can change anyone! An I also believe that a true God fearing man who has devoted his life to The Lord is absolutely capable of being faithful. Their are men out there who see their wives an love their wives as so does the Lord! Through Gods eyes! Lord bless those men an those homes! Continue to give them the strength that they need to continue a beautiful matrimony going! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Amen!
@She Knows Some men look in the mirror and call themselves lord, and others worship the devil... one has to, as Judge Mablean said, look deep before you leap.
Your key words are “God-fearing” not a man of God, a man in church, a man who knows God, a man who loves God, or even a man who preaches the Word. The two words “God-fearing” are what will set him a part from those who know Him but don’t fear Him. Thank you!
Why can’t there be more men that are God fearing like you Tony. Stay blessed mate🙏🏾 keep your mind strong never let anything tempt you . I pray I find a pure Godly man🙏🏾💫
The excuse given is that men like what they see. In reality, it's a spirit of lust and no self-control. You see men 40 and over still chasing tail. Your goal by that age should be yo build and sustain, not to destroy and destruct.
One of my ex-bosses met his wife in church. He was destitute and she just became an MD. They got married and he started cheating on her all the time. He actually told me that there hasn’t been one single year of their marriage where he wasn’t cheating. During the pandemic he tried to leave her once for someone younger but his business was failing so he stayed. Now he’s making more money than her and still cheating, giving her infections and got caught twice since the pandemic. I know this is a wild case but I think I’m terrified to even date after hearing this. I’m fine with being single with the way things are going and the way most men are demanding sex before any type of commitment. I’m only 25 and I’m done, preparing to be a cat lady.
As a faithful, disciplined, discerning woman of GOD. I will always gracefully bow out, if I were subjected to unfaithful behavior. GOD makes no mistakes on an ordained relationship/marriage. As always, a perfect message! Stay Blessed 🙏🏼
You've become such a blessing with your teachings who knew youtube would be the pulpit for Men and women of God, bless you and your family. I pray for your strength and the strength of your wife. May God keep his warring angles encamped around the Gaskins home and mind!
This is the answer I was waiting for 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I clicked on the video bc I knew you were going to say God is the reason why you don’t cheat anymore. The fear of God and your love for God is key!!!
A man can only be faithful to one woman if he truly knows God wholeheartedly and have no desire to hurt the ones he love! A man that has a spirit of trickery and narcissism, could be from what he learned from those males around him, or could just be a weak man! Nobody's perfect but a man of God knows his worth, which will truly in turn, let him know his wife's/woman's worth! Yes people make mistakes but God also says CHOOSE ye this day whom you will serve.... it's a choice!
Actually men don’t just think like that either. It’s something that they have experienced at some point in their life to think it’s okay to be that way. Like seeing their father do it or being exposed to adult magazines or television. Boys aren’t programmed to be that way. It is taught. This is why we need to raise our children the right way and with God. Not just raising a girl to be a good women who keeps her legs closed, but teaching our sons to be Men… from the start.
Tony, I absolutely love this video. I love your honesty and the truth you say about men. Thank you Tony. When you described your friend Russ, you were describing me. I never thought there was another person like me. While I am religious and know God is real, my convictions and beliefs that cheating and lying and breaking the 10 Commandments is wrong has nothing to do with my fear of hell or God. My convictions have everything to do with my ingrained morals that I never betray. I know I will never cheat just because it is wrong to do so. I can talk myself out of physical temptations solely due to my morals and convictions. God and religion simply adds an extra layer. But it is my core beliefs that keep me aligned with practicing the 10 Commandments by avoiding sin. I think people like Russ and I are rare.
I agree with Tony. I’m a fisherman, and I can look a lot of fishermen in the eyes and tell if they didn’t have that sport, they would be doing major damage in life…felonious acts, and in this case cheating…
A man has to keep himself faithful....with the help of God....no woman can keep a man FAITHFUL...he has to have morals, character, etc....your good cooking/cookie 🍪 will not do it 🙏
Hi sir,thank you for your kindness and sharing your message. God in in the heart of a believer , not a church or mosque. God bless you and your family 👪
Once again, you have shared information that is mind-blowing. My past person is planning on coming back to reconcile. I am more ready now than I was. I need to make sure he is under the favor of the Lord. My prayer is that he has it and has a right heart. Thank you.
You are a blessing to our generation I wish we had more handsome successful black men that feel the way you do and live as such more grace to continue to run this race called purification and sanctification
Come on Pastor Gaskins. Preach the word. I love how you break down God's word in a practical way so that we can apply it to our lives. Tony said, "Mrs. Gaskins will cut him and then come back to herself." I hollered!!🤣🤣 Keep allowing the Lord to use you, Tony. God bless.🙏🙏
GOD BLESS YOU!!! Great testimony. God only can help us and keep us in temptation. The sad thing is that in today's world, women are trying to be like men and sleeping around with multiple men and to yield to temptation, a man may be getting more than he bargained for. I have 5 sons and thank God that although they have made prior mistakes, but they have also learned that cheating and running around in today's world is not really worth it and that God can keep you if you let Him. Keep up the good work. God bless you!!
Tony you are funny. My EX used to tell me his work family was his family first because he spends 12hrs with them and we were Second lol. Hide his phone he had all the ladies phone numbers on his shift, he would say they have to keep in touch just in case something goes down at work. Straight trauma for me and my kids we fought constantly because that is what he believes to be true. And later I found he had cheated with multiple women from the workplace. Still till this day he said he never cheated. But I divorced him prayer that he gets a relationship with God.
@@dublingirl1691 yes I am he has moved on to another female. She thinks she struck gold He will reap what he has sown. God said vengeance is mind saith the lord.
Amen, amen and amen. I hope sister Sherry was watching so she can be waiting with a surprise for her bae cause he brought that chivalry Songs of Songs Gospel tonight! Praise God for your union and your desire to cover your covenant in Gods glory and favor🙏🏾💯💪🏽
I so appreciate all your videos Tony!!! I think I’m one that has a hard time with the truth but thank you for bringing it to light. I wore rose colored glasses too too long. Now I can see signs I overlooked in both my 11years marriages. They were good men but had that one flaw they let the flesh take over!!! Those hurt!!! God Bless you & yours!!! 😇😇😇🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
@@blueseptember2174 Once you become fully in connection with God (i.e. daily study, prayer, meditation, etc.), you'll be *given* the gift of discernment. You'll be like Neo discovering the Matrix lol. 😇
I still remember, I was outside working in the yard and my husband had just drove up from work and I could feel something staring at me. I looked up and his piercing blue eyes were glued on me!!!! I just wanted to share that for some reason.♥️💜💕
Thank you Tony. I have no doubt that there are men who are and can be faithful as you are to your wife. What I doubt is there being enough of those men for every woman who wants to be a faithful wife and desires a faithful husband - to God first, then her and their family.
There are, because God is not cruel to His daughters ... but He will not respond to our doubt. Look to Him in faith, and keep building yourself up in Him and in those things He has handed you to be responsible for... then when you are ready to be found, let Him guide you into the circles you are to be found in.
Tony, Thank you for expressing the truth about what God says about marriage. I have one of this biggest issues with my husband being on the phone with pornography and cheating in which I’ve seen the women popping up on his phone. He would turn over his phone or turn it off. You just confirmed for me about he’s hiding something . We are currently separated for this very reason plus other issues as well. Please pray for this situation.
Been there too with you sis. Your husband has a problem in his heart and only God can fix it when he surrenders to the Lord. I will pray for your comfort and strength. May the Lord bless and keep your mind calm and focused on Him.
Question: I know 2 people who have a belief in God, they act "Godly" but do not attend church due to a lot of negative things they have seen & experienced in their life in churches but when I tell you they are 2 of the best people I have ever known when it comes to treating each other right, mentoring children, helping the elderly etc. So, it is possible to find a good mate who does not beat the drum of religion, but their actions reveal their personal relationship with God?
Tony - only God can keep you/anyone free from engaging in fornication, or adultery, whether single or married. Continue in this way! It is the only way to be, to live a pure and holy life that pleases the Lord, even with your mind and emotions; it is the best life ever! HalleluYah! Praise the Name of the Lord! Amen! Psalm 119:97 - I have seen an end of all perfection: but thy commandment is exceeding broad. James 4:7 - Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 2 Timothy 2:22 - Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. Be blest! 😇
So glad you came back into my feed. I'm honestly thankful for you. You saved helped save my life a few years ago. I need this spiritual advice yet again, unfortunately to strengthen me. Please pray 4me. 🙏 bless you
Thank u for this video. Uploaded Just in perfect timing. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years almost half and we been thru a rough road.. we weren’t guided by god.. but some sense has came through to me that I always believed in god but never lived by his word until I’ve gained some knowledge, read the Bible and now I can say I’m getting closer to him by chance. I spoke to my guy about no sex because I want marriage. He didn’t like the idea but said he’d try.. well I fell into sin twice a after that sincere conversation with him. He obviously didn’t take me serious and after, I took birth control to restrict the chance. I felt guilt and not as thrilled by it as I use to.. birth control is a blockage for me to get closer and so is sex with a person who says he’s a man of god but doesn’t love by the book.. Thank u to people like u tony I have guidance.
This was very good thank u sooo uplifting and the truth … have a seminar or do thing where u can share this exact message with men !!! Women definitely should watch this ❤ so so good and the truth !!!
I know that men are wired differently than women so faithfulness is probably more of a challenge. However, a man can be faithful if God is truly the head of his life and he wants to be faithful! Take Joseph for example, he could have slept with the masters wife instead he said, "How can I do this thing against God?!" This man had consent from the wife and opportunity because no one else was around but he made the choice to RUN away from her instead of giving in to lust! Being faithful is a choice that has to be made daily and men need to pray for the strength to resist temptation instead of giving in then worrying about the consequences later!
Hello Brother Tony, so if Love is not enough for a man to be faithful, then why does God call the men to LOVE? I will take it a step further and say "HUSBAND." God would not call husbands to be faithful if the man was not capable of being faithful? As you know the Bible says, "HUSBANDS love your wives like Christ Loved the church and gave Himself for it. Amen, I guess no one can be faithful unless you choose to be faithful and have God first in your life. Men are too lustful and flawed. Its very difficult with the spirit in the world today. Thanks for all your wonderful messages. After 18 years of marriage my husband too has been a serial cheater. The last thing I ever wanted to do was divorce my husband and have our son be in a single parent home. I have no choice now. I'm so emotionally tired and must work on my healing now. I can no longer handle the disrespect and destructive behavior of his adultery. It's so sad. My son is the one who loses in the end. Please pray for me.
Hey sis. Your son doesn’t lose. I’m sure although your husband wasn’t faithful, hopefully he’s an involved hands on dad who loves his son. He can still have a good relationship with his dad. I applaud you for realizing you deserve better and sorry your husband fed his lust through other women. Continue to pray and hold your head high. Gods got you
@KScott thanks for asking. God asks us to love, but not on our own. Christ did what He did for the church, through God. Our strength comes from God, and if we deny Him, we continue to fall short of His glory.
@@TonyGaskins Thank you dear brother for answering me. Its a blessing. I'm crying just reading the support and kind words from those who replied today. God bless you all.
@@dublingirl1691 thank you sis. and you are correct. My husband brought another woman to our home once when I was out of town and slept with her in our bed. I found the other woman's underwear on the floor and of course my husband flat out denied it. Of course I was the one who initiated therapy marriage counseling and my husband only went through it pretending he wanted to save our marriage. The emotional abuse and silent treatments I could see through was his way of checking out so he could look for other women. He has a sick addiction and I was blind and did not want to see, but God said enough. I wanted so badly to believe my husband and to honor marriage and forgive. I wanted a stable home for our son, but knew I could not fight for a marriage if my husband does not respect me or our home. Even after 18 years its time, money years wasted. Our son was about 9 years old at the time and was even at home when the other woman was in my bed. My husband took our son around other women he's had affairs with. I will get my son therapy and pray the Lord to help my son. It breaks my heart and yes Brother Tony says a man would kill if that happened to him. If the shoe was on the other foot men kill when they are cheated on. What's worse is I was out of town handling mothers funeral arrangements when I came home and found the underwear on my bedroom floor. It was heartbreaking beyond words and knowing my child was in the house. So you see a man can be so lost in lust, throw his family away, bring a woman in the house and sleep with her with the child in the house. Some would call me a fool, but he is the fool. Eventually the other woman showed up at our door a year later in tears because my husband ghosted her. But its sad a complete stranger knows where I live and as Brother Tony stated you never know how someone can snap on the wife. That woman knows where I live and could have hurt me. It's shocking to think about it. I know the Lord was revealing the man who I was married to. I wish I was not so naïve but the Lord is using my pain of all the years of betrayal to strengthen and heal my heart. Thanks for reading and sorry such a long reply but it really helps.
@@keshamerriweather1075 Thank you sis. I appreciate you. My head falls on somedays, but I know I'm not my husbands choices. I can still live and have joy even after my 18 year marriage is ending. God has a plan for me and has matured me in ways I did not fully understand when I was younger. Keep watching videos from Brother Tony and we will continue to gain knowledge so we are not hurt and destroyed by toxic grown boys.
Love your honesty brother! Also loved that you recognized that your wife COULD stab you! That keeps you honest- aaand saw you two together and she is definitely your match! Lol! What really does, of course is your devotion to the Lord. Beautiful! That's what makes a man a righteous husband, father, son, friend, etc.... 💗🌺💗🌺💗🌺💗
I just hate the fact I have been hurt! I was so faithful! And this man cheated on me with a not so nice looking chic with a baby. He said that he was sorry and didn’t think it would happen? It’s just hurtful! There are no good men out here
"I don't want Gods hand to be removed from my life"- was key for me. Thank you
Yesssss..... 💯💯💯👈❤
Me too.. major!❤
Amen,🙌🏿🙌🏿👏🏿👏🏿
My Pastor told me that if a man isn’t faithful to The Most High who gives him life, the man will never be faithful to you even if you’re married.
Wow! Deep!
Ohhhh this right here!
I believe you!
I truly believe this as well
I thought mine was loyal to TMH until I went through his phone and saw that he was DL. He wore fringes and all.
Yes to the right woman and also if that man Understands that his Wife is a gift from GOD! I thank GOD my Wife and I have been together as a couple for 23 years and married for 15 years.
Y’all dated for 8 years..?
What?
Get dwn 👏👏👏❤👍
Its an integrity issue. It doesnt change from woman 2woman. True integrity is displayed regardless of who u r with
@@simplyameeraj I said the same thing. I’m also wondering if he dragged her through that whole Ride or Die stage or cheated on her or dated other women in those 8 years. Because sheesh, 8 years is a long time.
I don't comment on your videos; but as a man I really enjoy listen to you my brother. Men like myself that are trying to be the best version of their self; need other examples. Thx you.
I had the pleasure of meeting your dad… he’s a stand up guy‼️ I was Property Manager of a complex he lived at, I was pregnant at the time back in 2012… the first thing he said when he sat at my desk was “I don’t see a ring on your finger”… he gave me a copy of your book.. I will forever remember that interaction ❤️ as a young black woman he opened my eyes to what I did not see, what I didn’t think was important.. COMMITMENT..
Tony, this is a holy message and sermon. No man or woman is worth missing out on the presence of God, being able feel him daily is uplifting. God never leaves us, we leave him.
Amen.
you said it. I cried out to the Lord today for betraying Him for the comfort of a man who could nor would ever lay his life down for me. Jesus paid the ultimate price and no man on earth will ever give us that kind of love. Amen sis!
@@kscott7657 Amen. To God be the Glory.
Because I am so opposed to adultery, I know that any man who cheats on me is not the man God has for me. God will give me a man who won’t ever cheat on me. A man who only has eyes for me. ❤ I rather be single and alone then be with a man whose cheated on me. It’s the only deal breaker in a relationship for me.
That, and physical/ narc abuse
Can i ask why
So true! My father had countless affairs, sadly he brought his mistresses to our house. I got abused because I caught him cheating. My grandfather cheated on my grandmother bragged about cheating on my grandma all the time and that's why I don't I rarely mess with men or have relationships because I don't see the point, I'd rather have my peace. I'm sure not all men are cheaters or woman beaters, but I'm too scared to trust a man with my life. But I admire women who take the risk and they keep searching until they find themselves a man who will be good and faithful to them. ❤️
I love this sis! Amen to you
This is so hard. I was married to a man I thought loved the Lord and clearly it was all outwardly. After almost 10 years he cheated on me with a younger woman who once was part of our youth group (we were her youth pastors). It’s really sad. I definitely feel discouraged knowing that maybe there is a very low number of men who would remain faithful. I guess what you said is facts, that men and women love differently. 😭😭😭
My heart breaks for you because I met my husband at church and it makes no difference. 18 years of marriage and he was a serial cheater. Like Brother Tony says the man needs to have God in his life and first in order to change sis. I will pray for you. Please pray for me too. We are daughters of the most high God and King and He is calling us out if these demonic and destructive relationships even if they are marriages. God does not want you in marriage yo a man who is treating you so horribly. God bless you dear one.
My heart breaks for you because I met my husband at church and it makes no difference. 18 years of marriage and he was a serial cheater. Like Brother Tony says the man needs to have God in his life and first in order to change sis. I will pray for you. Please pray for me too. We are daughters of the most high God and King and God is calling us out of these demonic and destructive relationships even if they are marriages. God does not want you in marriage to a man who willingly cheats and defiles his body and treating you so horribly. God bless you dear one.
It’s ashamed that he had the audacity to disrespect God’s house and you. I’m sorry that you had to experience that. Keep Praying 🙏 for directions that he has for you. God blessed you ☮️
I’m so sorry to hear this happening to you, I’m mortified, I would be so hurt, I pray that Jesus heals your heart, Jesus is the ultimate lover of your soul. He will restore you in every way, I’m sure you have surrendered this situation to him, I pray your strength in Jesus🙏🏾
Wow I’m so sorry this happened to you ! This has to be one of the worse kinds of betrayals there are. This made me tear up. Praying for you ! 🥹❤️
Our Late Daddy was 100% Faithful to his wife!! They been married for about 58 years
This makes me sad as a woman. I try to be positive but it’s best for so many of us to focus on ourselves l. I see why so many men want us to share. My ex tried to convince me him cheating was always my fault so he was well within his rights to cheat no matter how much I tried to please him.
I am so sorry, your ex was the worst.
“Love in itself is not enough for a man to be faithful to a woman…” TG
Only God can change a man’s heart.
This is a deep topic. I needed to hear this. It does seem so many don't know how to be faithful. Relationships are too much of a project for me, I'm focused on bettering me at the moment. I'm stuck on succeeding phase.
@@dublingirl1691 hey 👋🏽👋🏽
@Be REAL you definitely should do health check ups when deciding to be more. I see what you're saying.
@bereal8191 I understand and you're right not always knowing. Be safe 🙏
I was told it’s about the chase, the hunt when I was younger by an older man that I worked with. He warned me about this over 30 years ago and he was at least 30 years older than me back then. So sisters let’s be careful.
When you said you can walk up to a woman in the grocery store and say that I gasped. That’s how low our standards are, ladies we have to do better
He telling the truth though. I hear it often especially among college women ,its not even a second thought. Its just called hook ups.they normalize sin
@@saetae9208 I can’t imagine 😩
I have male friends who tell me it’s nothing to get a woman to come back to their car after a first time casual encounter. Not after a date or hanging out. It’s so crazy.
My ex has told me that he was able to pull up on women walking and pick them up. And you know the rest. I couldn’t believe it! One day I was in the back of his truck and I wanted him to show me because I didn’t believe him. Well, it’s true, ladies! Yes, these jezebels are savages! They aren’t women. They have nothing feminine about them or their behavior.
Thank you Tony for showing that it’s important for a man to have a real relationship with God. It goes back to him having good character.
This was a mighty word straight from the Lord!! Whew 😅🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾!
“The love of a woman doesn’t compare to the favor of God.” My, my, my!
Edit: A lot of the turmoil we now see is because many have decided to walk from God’s instructions. He is not pleased…
I believe that God can change anyone!
An I also believe that a true God fearing man who has devoted his life to The Lord is absolutely capable of being faithful. Their are men out there who see their wives an love their wives as so does the Lord! Through Gods eyes! Lord bless those men an those homes! Continue to give them the strength that they need to continue a beautiful matrimony going! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Amen!
@She Knows How in the world did he do that?
@@ajr7940 Lying, that's the only way that's possible
@She Knows sounds like an ex of mine’s
@She Knows Some men look in the mirror and call themselves lord, and others worship the devil... one has to, as Judge Mablean said, look deep before you leap.
Your key words are “God-fearing” not a man of God, a man in church, a man who knows God, a man who loves God, or even a man who preaches the Word. The two words “God-fearing” are what will set him a part from those who know Him but don’t fear Him. Thank you!
Why can’t there be more men that are God fearing like you Tony.
Stay blessed mate🙏🏾 keep your mind strong never let anything tempt you .
I pray I find a pure Godly man🙏🏾💫
The excuse given is that men like what they see. In reality, it's a spirit of lust and no self-control. You see men 40 and over still chasing tail. Your goal by that age should be yo build and sustain, not to destroy and destruct.
One of my ex-bosses met his wife in church. He was destitute and she just became an MD. They got married and he started cheating on her all the time. He actually told me that there hasn’t been one single year of their marriage where he wasn’t cheating. During the pandemic he tried to leave her once for someone younger but his business was failing so he stayed. Now he’s making more money than her and still cheating, giving her infections and got caught twice since the pandemic.
I know this is a wild case but I think I’m terrified to even date after hearing this. I’m fine with being single with the way things are going and the way most men are demanding sex before any type of commitment. I’m only 25 and I’m done, preparing to be a cat lady.
So sad 💔 I hope you receive your heart's desire of a godly husband , God Bless you.
As a faithful, disciplined, discerning woman of GOD. I will always gracefully bow out, if I were subjected to unfaithful behavior. GOD makes no mistakes on an ordained relationship/marriage.
As always, a perfect message! Stay Blessed 🙏🏼
It's real out here I'm honestly rethinking even wanting a man or husband at all period it feels desolate and like too much sugar for a dime
In this day and age most women are better off single. The truth is we thrive when we don't have a man constantly dragging us down.
You've become such a blessing with your teachings who knew youtube would be the pulpit for Men and women of God, bless you and your family. I pray for your strength and the strength of your wife. May God keep his warring angles encamped around the Gaskins home and mind!
Yes!! A True relationship with God is what it takes. A man evolved will probably be faithful and a real encounter with God. On point with the messag.
This is the answer I was waiting for 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I clicked on the video bc I knew you were going to say God is the reason why you don’t cheat anymore. The fear of God and your love for God is key!!!
A man can only be faithful to one woman if he truly knows God wholeheartedly and have no desire to hurt the ones he love! A man that has a spirit of trickery and narcissism, could be from what he learned from those males around him, or could just be a weak man! Nobody's perfect but a man of God knows his worth, which will truly in turn, let him know his wife's/woman's worth! Yes people make mistakes but God also says CHOOSE ye this day whom you will serve.... it's a choice!
how would you know. you are a woman
@@taghazoutmoon5031 Typical man, sexist. Of course he would know.
Bro Tony I love what you said it's your Relationship to God that's what keeps you faithful to your wife. Powerful 🙌🏿🙌🏿👏🏿👏🏿 I love this ❤️🙏🏾
Actually men don’t just think like that either. It’s something that they have experienced at some point in their life to think it’s okay to be that way. Like seeing their father do it or being exposed to adult magazines or television. Boys aren’t programmed to be that way. It is taught.
This is why we need to raise our children the right way and with God. Not just raising a girl to be a good women who keeps her legs closed, but teaching our sons to be Men… from the start.
Thanks! Appreciate all that you do. May God continue to watch over you and your family.
Tony, I absolutely love this video. I love your honesty and the truth you say about men. Thank you Tony. When you described your friend Russ, you were describing me. I never thought there was another person like me. While I am religious and know God is real, my convictions and beliefs that cheating and lying and breaking the 10 Commandments is wrong has nothing to do with my fear of hell or God. My convictions have everything to do with my ingrained morals that I never betray. I know I will never cheat just because it is wrong to do so. I can talk myself out of physical temptations solely due to my morals and convictions. God and religion simply adds an extra layer. But it is my core beliefs that keep me aligned with practicing the 10 Commandments by avoiding sin. I think people like Russ and I are rare.
This was a beautiful lesson and testimony, and very real. No fluff and clichés. Good talk Mr. Gaskins.
I agree with Tony. I’m a fisherman, and I
can look a lot of fishermen in the eyes and tell if they didn’t have that sport, they would be doing major damage in life…felonious acts, and in this case cheating…
This was probably one of my favorite videos by far. "I'll pray for you, good luck" had me hollering at 40:59!
A man has to keep himself faithful....with the help of God....no woman can keep a man FAITHFUL...he has to have morals, character, etc....your good cooking/cookie 🍪 will not do it 🙏
HalleluYah!
Seriously. I’ve been cooking for men for many years, I still don’t have one yet lol 😂😂😂 cooking and cookie is nothing.
@@supernaturalvictorieswithsunny lol 😂
Hi sir,thank you for your kindness and sharing your message. God in in the heart of a believer , not a church or mosque. God bless you and your family 👪
Once again, you have shared information that is mind-blowing. My past person is planning on coming back to reconcile. I am more ready now than I was. I need to make sure he is under the favor of the Lord. My prayer is that he has it and
has a right heart. Thank you.
You are a blessing to our generation I wish we had more handsome successful black men that feel the way you do and live as such more grace to continue to run this race called purification and sanctification
You mentioned at 8:27 that love for men is different. I wish you would expound upon that in another video.
Come on Pastor Gaskins. Preach the word. I love how you break down God's word in a practical way so that we can apply it to our lives. Tony said, "Mrs. Gaskins will cut him and then come back to herself." I hollered!!🤣🤣 Keep allowing the Lord to use you, Tony. God bless.🙏🙏
The only good thing I got out of Dubai Bling,” look for someone you can’t live with out not someone you can live with”
GOD BLESS YOU!!! Great testimony. God only can help us and keep us in temptation. The sad thing is that in today's world, women are trying to be like men and sleeping around with multiple men and to yield to temptation, a man may be getting more than he bargained for. I have 5 sons and thank God that although they have made prior mistakes, but they have also learned that cheating and running around in today's world is not really worth it and that God can keep you if you let Him. Keep up the good work. God bless you!!
Tony you are funny. My EX used to tell me his work family was his family first because he spends 12hrs with them and we were Second lol. Hide his phone he had all the ladies phone numbers on his shift, he would say they have to keep in touch just in case something goes down at work. Straight trauma for me and my kids we fought constantly because that is what he believes to be true. And later I found he had cheated with multiple women from the workplace. Still till this day he said he never cheated. But I divorced him prayer that he gets a relationship with God.
Sounds like my story.
@@dublingirl1691 yes I am he has moved on to another female. She thinks she struck gold
He will reap what he has sown. God said vengeance is mind saith the lord.
Dropping 💎s as usual!! Hey Tony & Blessed Tribe 💪🏼💪🏼🙏🏼
Amen, amen and amen.
I hope sister Sherry was watching so she can be waiting with a surprise for her bae cause he brought that chivalry Songs of Songs Gospel tonight! Praise God for your union and your desire to cover your covenant in Gods glory and favor🙏🏾💯💪🏽
I know that’s right, You preached a word here! Praise God 🙏🏽
This was really emotional to listen to...🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👏🏿
The last 5 minutes 🙏🏾 Holy Spirit was flowing. This is a great message TG!
It aint what it seems -- That's a Word right there! You see the outside and realize -- "that aint enough!"
I so appreciate all your videos Tony!!! I think I’m one that has a hard time with the truth but thank you for bringing it to light. I wore rose colored glasses too too long. Now I can see signs I overlooked in both my 11years marriages. They were good men but had that one flaw they let the flesh take over!!! Those hurt!!! God Bless you & yours!!! 😇😇😇🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
Same
@@blueseptember2174 Once you become fully in connection with God (i.e. daily study, prayer, meditation, etc.), you'll be *given* the gift of discernment. You'll be like Neo discovering the Matrix lol. 😇
Interesting take on the "no privacy on cell phones". I am going to take poll and see how many men & women agree with this.😊
I still remember, I was outside working in the yard and my husband had just drove up from work and I could feel something staring at me. I looked up and his piercing blue eyes were glued on me!!!! I just wanted to share that for some reason.♥️💜💕
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Thank you Tony.
I have no doubt that there are men who are and can be faithful as you are to your wife. What I doubt is there being enough of those men for every woman who wants to be a faithful wife and desires a faithful husband - to God first, then her and their family.
There are, because God is not cruel to His daughters ... but He will not respond to our doubt. Look to Him in faith, and keep building yourself up in Him and in those things He has handed you to be responsible for... then when you are ready to be found, let Him guide you into the circles you are to be found in.
@@hymnodyhands 🙏🏽
Preach it! When you taste and see that the Lord is good, you never want to be out of His will.
Tony, Thank you for expressing the truth about what God says about marriage. I have one of this biggest issues with my husband being on the phone with pornography and cheating in which I’ve seen the women popping up on his phone. He would turn over his phone or turn it off. You just confirmed for me about he’s hiding something . We are currently separated for this very reason plus other issues as well. Please pray for this situation.
Been there too with you sis. Your husband has a problem in his heart and only God can fix it when he surrenders to the Lord. I will pray for your comfort and strength. May the Lord bless and keep your mind calm and focused on Him.
@@blueseptember2174 Thank you 😊
@@kscott7657 Thank you so much for prayers. May God blessed you too.
@@girlygirl4311 Yes, they are sad individuals. And need much help. 🙏
Tony is preaching! What a sermon 🙌🏾
Preach! GOD is Real 🙌🏽🙋🏽♀️💜 thanks for sharing Mr. Gaskins! Be blessed!
Mr Gaston I thank you for allowing Yahweh to use you ....may Yahweh continue to blessed you and your family.....
Question: I know 2 people who have a belief in God, they act "Godly" but do not attend church due to a lot of negative things they have seen & experienced in their life in churches but when I tell you they are 2 of the best people I have ever known when it comes to treating each other right, mentoring children, helping the elderly etc. So, it is possible to find a good mate who does not beat the drum of religion, but their actions reveal their personal relationship with God?
I have been thinking about this topic heavily today and here u are with the video!!
Brother Tony, glory be to God. I’m so grateful for your ministry. May God enlarge your territory and bless your family tremendously.
Tony - only God can keep you/anyone free from engaging in fornication, or adultery, whether single or married. Continue in this way! It is the only way to be, to live a pure and holy life that pleases the Lord, even with your mind and emotions; it is the best life ever! HalleluYah! Praise the Name of the Lord! Amen!
Psalm 119:97 - I have seen an end of all perfection: but thy commandment is exceeding broad.
James 4:7 - Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
2 Timothy 2:22 - Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
Be blest! 😇
So glad you came back into my feed.
I'm honestly thankful for you. You saved helped save my life a few years ago.
I need this spiritual advice yet again, unfortunately to strengthen me. Please pray 4me. 🙏 bless you
God Bless you and strengthen you! Psalm 139
Gods favor is everything 🙏🏾
God makes all the difference. Many men just aren;t God fearing.
Great content as always, thanks Tony keep up the good work, God bless! 🙏🏽🤗
That’s a word 🔥 if you ever become a Pastor I would definitely attend your church 🙌🏾
Thank u for this video. Uploaded Just in perfect timing. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years almost half and we been thru a rough road.. we weren’t guided by god.. but some sense has came through to me that I always believed in god but never lived by his word until I’ve gained some knowledge, read the Bible and now I can say I’m getting closer to him by chance. I spoke to my guy about no sex because I want marriage. He didn’t like the idea but said he’d try.. well I fell into sin twice a after that sincere conversation with him. He obviously didn’t take me serious and after, I took birth control to restrict the chance. I felt guilt and not as thrilled by it as I use to.. birth control is a blockage for me to get closer and so is sex with a person who says he’s a man of god but doesn’t love by the book.. Thank u to people like u tony I have guidance.
I pray every man in the world will embody this message.
Thanks!
@@dublingirl1691 hi🤗. All is well. I hope you are doing well too
Thanks for your support!!
This was very good thank u sooo uplifting and the truth … have a seminar or do thing where u can share this exact message with men !!! Women definitely should watch this ❤ so so good and the truth !!!
Thank you Tony! Your honesty is refreshing and appreciated.
I pray that God will bless and keep you so you continue to stay the course...
25:02 😂❤️ hahaha i love hearing him speak his voice is so calming
Takk!
I know that men are wired differently than women so faithfulness is probably more of a challenge. However, a man can be faithful if God is truly the head of his life and he wants to be faithful! Take Joseph for example, he could have slept with the masters wife instead he said, "How can I do this thing against God?!" This man had consent from the wife and opportunity because no one else was around but he made the choice to RUN away from her instead of giving in to lust! Being faithful is a choice that has to be made daily and men need to pray for the strength to resist temptation instead of giving in then worrying about the consequences later!
Good video. Thank u for ur honesty and perspective Tony.😊😊💙💙
Happy New Year!
Hello Brother Tony, so if Love is not enough for a man to be faithful, then why does God call the men to LOVE? I will take it a step further and say "HUSBAND." God would not call husbands to be faithful if the man was not capable of being faithful? As you know the Bible says, "HUSBANDS love your wives like Christ Loved the church and gave Himself for it.
Amen, I guess no one can be faithful unless you choose to be faithful and have God first in your life. Men are too lustful and flawed. Its very difficult with the spirit in the world today.
Thanks for all your wonderful messages. After 18 years of marriage my husband too has been a serial cheater. The last thing I ever wanted to do was divorce my husband and have our son be in a single parent home. I have no choice now. I'm so emotionally tired and must work on my healing now. I can no longer handle the disrespect and destructive behavior of his adultery. It's so sad. My son is the one who loses in the end. Please pray for me.
Hey sis. Your son doesn’t lose. I’m sure although your husband wasn’t faithful, hopefully he’s an involved hands on dad who loves his son. He can still have a good relationship with his dad. I applaud you for realizing you deserve better and sorry your husband fed his lust through other women. Continue to pray and hold your head high. Gods got you
@KScott thanks for asking. God asks us to love, but not on our own. Christ did what He did for the church, through God. Our strength comes from God, and if we deny Him, we continue to fall short of His glory.
@@TonyGaskins Thank you dear brother for answering me. Its a blessing. I'm crying just reading the support and kind words from those who replied today. God bless you all.
@@dublingirl1691 thank you sis. and you are correct. My husband brought another woman to our home once when I was out of town and slept with her in our bed. I found the other woman's underwear on the floor and of course my husband flat out denied it. Of course I was the one who initiated therapy marriage counseling and my husband only went through it pretending he wanted to save our marriage. The emotional abuse and silent treatments I could see through was his way of checking out so he could look for other women. He has a sick addiction and I was blind and did not want to see, but God said enough. I wanted so badly to believe my husband and to honor marriage and forgive. I wanted a stable home for our son, but knew I could not fight for a marriage if my husband does not respect me or our home. Even after 18 years its time, money years wasted.
Our son was about 9 years old at the time and was even at home when the other woman was in my bed. My husband took our son around other women he's had affairs with. I will get my son therapy and pray the Lord to help my son.
It breaks my heart and yes Brother Tony says a man would kill if that happened to him. If the shoe was on the other foot men kill when they are cheated on. What's worse is I was out of town handling mothers funeral arrangements when I came home and found the underwear on my bedroom floor. It was heartbreaking beyond words and knowing my child was in the house.
So you see a man can be so lost in lust, throw his family away, bring a woman in the house and sleep with her with the child in the house. Some would call me a fool, but he is the fool.
Eventually the other woman showed up at our door a year later in tears because my husband ghosted her. But its sad a complete stranger knows where I live and as Brother Tony stated you never know how someone can snap on the wife. That woman knows where I live and could have hurt me. It's shocking to think about it. I know the Lord was revealing the man who I was married to. I wish I was not so naïve but the Lord is using my pain of all the years of betrayal to strengthen and heal my heart.
Thanks for reading and sorry such a long reply but it really helps.
@@keshamerriweather1075 Thank you sis. I appreciate you. My head falls on somedays, but I know I'm not my husbands choices. I can still live and have joy even after my 18 year marriage is ending. God has a plan for me and has matured me in ways I did not fully understand when I was younger. Keep watching videos from Brother Tony and we will continue to gain knowledge so we are not hurt and destroyed by toxic grown boys.
Divine math. Is real! Bless God
Amen! You preached for real on this one
Love your honesty brother! Also loved that you recognized that your wife COULD stab you! That keeps you honest- aaand saw you two together and she is definitely your match! Lol! What really does, of course is your devotion to the Lord. Beautiful! That's what makes a man a righteous husband, father, son, friend, etc....
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thanks again Tony, ❤ the message. 👍
I needed to hear this. Glory to God. Thank you for sharing.
Powerful message and divine confirmation
Thanks for such a candid video. 🙏🏾🙂
I can stay faithful even if I’m not in love with him, only love him. I don’t stay anymore though, I’ve learned.
Thank you, Tony for that insight.
Such an important word! God bless you brother in Christ!🫶🏾🙏🏾🫶🏾
This gave me the peace I needed to hear ❤ Thank u
Good word Tony!
If a man doesn’t cheat on his wife it is only by the grace and mercy of God AND that man’s personal spiritual relationship with God.
Amen. Amen and Amen again. Thanks much. Be blessed.
My God Tony went in today. I wish I could love this video 10,000!!
BRAVO Mr. G!
Hey Sis!!!! So good seeing you here 🥰🥰🥰
This literally brought tears to my eyes. It’s so sad and disheartening , we are doomed.
Beautiful message. ❤
I just hate the fact I have been hurt! I was so faithful! And this man cheated on me with a not so nice looking chic with a baby. He said that he was sorry and didn’t think it would happen? It’s just hurtful! There are no good men out here
Thank you much for the honesty.