@bravoman Did you marry her knowing you would not be sexually attracted to her and if so, why did you marry her? Is she content with sex not being part of your marriage? Your statement is a little shocking so I'm asking out of honest curiosity.
@bravoman You can LEARN to love her just the way she is. Note the Word LEARN. Practise the first principles of love which is love covers sin. Stop emphasising on the negative. Write down the good things about her and read it out loud to yourself daily. You can also stop looking at pictures of other women you find attractive. That will help
@bravoman I think you should stop thinking of what you can get and start looking at what you have. Appreciate what you have. In the Greek the word Joy happens when you recognize grace. Stop regretting and start thanking. This is something you can practise.
@bravoman Your situation is a bit similar to Jacob in the bible. He initially didn't love His wife leah. He loved her at the end. So don't give up. Your heart can LEARN to love. Don't give up on yourself. Use your Wife as a focus for worship to God. Thank God for all the good attributes of your wife. Do this for like 5minutes everyday. GOD will work on your heart. Notice that I am giving you practical things to do
We really need some help. In our marriage. I'm trying to save it. He believes I've cheated and I havent been with anyone else in 13 yrs. Dont know how to prove it plesse help me
Pray about it. Bring the matter to God and ask Hod to work on your husband's heart and mind. I sure hope all is well with your marriage today. God bless
This kind of “jelousy” is vile and needs therapy. Professional help, you might need to even leave at some point. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.
if your wife is 10 yrs older than you and she controls you too much. going to play golf has time limits. going with friends has limits. for 30 years. then the husband had an a fair alot of times. they said they love each other but all you can see is hate and self pity whenever they open up. they are so fed up with each other and they are already giving up. how to fix it? can they still save this marriage?
Write a love letter expressing your True feelings. Let the letter be on your fears and dreams. Read it to her everyday. Let her write her own too. And read it to you. Do it religiously and see change in your marriage.
I am sorry to say but I doubt that. He is probably into porn, fantasizing, lusting after other people, and taking care of himself. Unfortunately porn causes men to see their partners as way less attractive and some men can even develop porn induced ED- where they can only get aroused from porn and not a real live pwrson because of the massive unnatural dopamine rush from it. Porn literally shrink the frontal lobe. It fries out the dopamine centres of the brain so the watcher no longer finds pleasure or joy in every day things. Porn gives such a huge dopamine dump that it causes a super crazy high, then an extreme low as your brain tries to rebalance it's self. (Think sugar high and then crash, on drugs, that's porn to the brain).🤪🧠🥴 Plus also messes with the serotonin (mood stabilizer, sleep chemical), oxytocin (bonding chemical), prolactin (hormone) , and Norepinephrine (Low levels of this hormone have been shown to play a role in ADHD, depression, and low blood pressure). And the scary part about this, if this isn't bad enough, is now the age of first exposure for buys is 8-10, and 12 for girls. And high speed internet porn is a whole new beast compared to magazines found in a garage. The damage is so much more extensive. So scary what this could do to the next generation.😟😳😣 And porn addicts (more then 2 times per week) are 300x more likely to have an affair and more likely to become aggressive, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually abusive or neglectful. And regular porn watching numbs thier feelings, causing them to be more disconnected, angry, lack motivation, less loving, have ED problems, and be less empathetic towards others. They are also much less likely to step in and stop abuse, especailly sexually abuse if they see it going on.😳 It literally shrinks the frontal lobe in the brain.🧠🤪 If anyone is interested, here are a few really good sights- th-cam.com/video/Fd5tkdMmY_Y/w-d-xo.html Home - Truth About Porn truthaboutporn.org/ Home - Fight the New Drug fightthenewdrug.org/ th-cam.com/video/ZLtSoWrEplM/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/I0dDLWGMhUo/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/play/PLfTkJo2qb1jVRhcXEjXfKRS-wNPihq5SC.html
Heaven marriage vs. Hell marriage. Two persons giving and receiving from each other o two who are selfish of their own needs. Heaven marriage is two persons who compliment what they need that they can't get from themselves.
@bravoman its either not God's will or the pride of life is running the marriage instead of surrendering. The marriage is under the dying system of tree of knowledge... as what they say and not operating under the tree of life, which is Spiritual.
@bravoman why guilt? Maybe because you dont see her yet as how Christ sees her, sometimes you will not find a good heart by looking outside, maybe she is given to you so you can realize the good that is already within you. And the woman came from the rib of her man, as long as you don't love your body, you have insecurity about you, you will project it to her because she came from you. Every woman created from her man is that rib that holds the heart of him because they are already one flesh
From what I've seen, the Bible doesn't say that sex outside of marriage is wrong. No you can be promiscuous but sex in a committed relationship and faithful
“What happens outside the bedroom creates the excitement and passion of what will happen inside the bedroom.”
P FB
“This is your body first, and I will give it to you.” 👌
“You both have what the other person needs.”
If a person has a lust problem it doesn’t matter how much you try to meet their needs they will try to fill their lust somewhere else.
@bravoman Did you marry her knowing you would not be sexually attracted to her and if so, why did you marry her? Is she content with sex not being part of your marriage? Your statement is a little shocking so I'm asking out of honest curiosity.
@bravoman You can LEARN to love her just the way she is. Note the Word LEARN. Practise the first principles of love which is love covers sin. Stop emphasising on the negative. Write down the good things about her and read it out loud to yourself daily. You can also stop looking at pictures of other women you find attractive. That will help
@bravoman I think you should stop thinking of what you can get and start looking at what you have. Appreciate what you have. In the Greek the word Joy happens when you recognize grace. Stop regretting and start thanking. This is something you can practise.
@bravoman Your situation is a bit similar to Jacob in the bible. He initially didn't love His wife leah. He loved her at the end. So don't give up. Your heart can LEARN to love. Don't give up on yourself. Use your Wife as a focus for worship to God. Thank God for all the good attributes of your wife. Do this for like 5minutes everyday. GOD will work on your heart. Notice that I am giving you practical things to do
Read about Jacob in the bible
He gives great Biblical advice !
I do not believe this is always the reason for lust. However, it is likely always part of the equation. Thank you:)
We really need some help. In our marriage. I'm trying to save it. He believes I've cheated and I havent been with anyone else in 13 yrs. Dont know how to prove it plesse help me
Pray about it. Bring the matter to God and ask Hod to work on your husband's heart and mind. I sure hope all is well with your marriage today. God bless
This kind of “jelousy” is vile and needs therapy. Professional help, you might need to even leave at some point. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.
if your wife is 10 yrs older than you and she controls you too much. going to play golf has time limits. going with friends has limits. for 30 years. then the husband had an a fair alot of times. they said they love each other but all you can see is hate and self pity whenever they open up. they are so fed up with each other and they are already giving up. how to fix it? can they still save this marriage?
Write a love letter expressing your True feelings. Let the letter be on your fears and dreams. Read it to her everyday. Let her write her own too. And read it to you. Do it religiously and see change in your marriage.
ME. AND. MY. HUSBAND. WAS. ONE. BUT. HE. GONE.
I have needs so where's my husband? My biblical husband.
My husband kept me on a one year sexual fast...... He just doesn't need it or care, I've been so close to having an affair, it's not right.
😟
PRAY and FAST this out today, until you get an answer!
I think you should go for a medical exam. He could be protecting you from something. Or it's the other way around
I am sorry to say but I doubt that. He is probably into porn, fantasizing, lusting after other people, and taking care of himself. Unfortunately porn causes men to see their partners as way less attractive and some men can even develop porn induced ED- where they can only get aroused from porn and not a real live pwrson because of the massive unnatural dopamine rush from it.
Porn literally shrink the frontal lobe.
It fries out the dopamine centres of the brain so the watcher no longer finds pleasure or joy in every day things.
Porn gives such a huge dopamine dump that it causes a super crazy high, then an extreme low as your brain tries to rebalance it's self. (Think sugar high and then crash, on drugs, that's porn to the brain).🤪🧠🥴
Plus also messes with the serotonin (mood stabilizer, sleep chemical), oxytocin (bonding chemical), prolactin (hormone) , and Norepinephrine
(Low levels of this hormone have been shown to play a role in ADHD, depression, and low blood pressure).
And the scary part about this, if this isn't bad enough, is now the age of first exposure for buys is 8-10, and 12 for girls. And high speed internet porn is a whole new beast compared to magazines found in a garage. The damage is so much more extensive. So scary what this could do to the next generation.😟😳😣
And porn addicts (more then 2 times per week) are 300x more likely to have an affair and more likely to become aggressive, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually abusive or neglectful.
And regular porn watching numbs thier feelings, causing them to be more disconnected, angry, lack motivation, less loving, have ED problems, and be less empathetic towards others. They are also much less likely to step in and stop abuse, especailly sexually abuse if they see it going on.😳
It literally shrinks the frontal lobe in the brain.🧠🤪
If anyone is interested, here are a few really good sights-
th-cam.com/video/Fd5tkdMmY_Y/w-d-xo.html
Home - Truth About Porn
truthaboutporn.org/
Home - Fight the New Drug
fightthenewdrug.org/
th-cam.com/video/ZLtSoWrEplM/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/I0dDLWGMhUo/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/play/PLfTkJo2qb1jVRhcXEjXfKRS-wNPihq5SC.html
Heaven marriage vs. Hell marriage. Two persons giving and receiving from each other o two who are selfish of their own needs. Heaven marriage is two persons who compliment what they need that they can't get from themselves.
@bravoman its either not God's will or the pride of life is running the marriage instead of surrendering. The marriage is under the dying system of tree of knowledge... as what they say and not operating under the tree of life, which is Spiritual.
@bravoman why guilt? Maybe because you dont see her yet as how Christ sees her, sometimes you will not find a good heart by looking outside, maybe she is given to you so you can realize the good that is already within you. And the woman came from the rib of her man, as long as you don't love your body, you have insecurity about you, you will project it to her because she came from you. Every woman created from her man is that rib that holds the heart of him because they are already one flesh
@bravoman what guilt is that my friend? Why then did u married her if you don't love her?
@bravoman love is not just about physical attraction, it is a decision to choose, even if you thought you don't love her at first but you do...
@bravoman go speak to your pastor about it and Im sure he will relate and give you some advice. Men talk.
From what I've seen, the Bible doesn't say that sex outside of marriage is wrong. No you can be promiscuous but sex in a committed relationship and faithful