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GOT IT NOW.BUT IT'S SO ,SO ,SO HARD ...IN THE MOMENT..REBECCA ZUNG ... THEY ARE PIGS.... WHO LIKE TO WRESTLE IN DA MUD.... I WALK AWAY NOW.. & GET CALM.... I WON'T TAKE THE DOPE DEALERS, DRUG TRAFFICKING PIMPS BAIT, SEX TRAFFICKING PIMPS BAIT, SEX ADDICTS BAIT,GAMBLING ADDICTS BAIT... NOPE... I DOCUMENT IT ALL... USE LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES AND POLICE DEPARTMENTS SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENT, DEA, SWAT, FBI AGENTS AND OTHER LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES AS NEEDED WITH ...SUPER LAWYERS..TO TOP IT OFF WITH A CHERRY!🎙🎶🎵🎧😎🎼🎼😎🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀THANKS FOR DA VIDEO XOXO REBECCA ZUNG.. HAPPY THURSDAY.. 1/12/2023 TE AMO FROM YOUR FAVORITE SEXY ASS DJ'S FROM VENUS HERE IN DA CHAT NOW SENDING YOU LOVE,MUSIC LIGHT,SEX MAGIC ETC. AND HEALING MOST OF ALL...😎🤗😎🤗😎🥀🥀🎧🎧🎙🎧😁😎🤗
WOW, I’ll never understand WHY some folks just have to stick around in order to complain or be snarky if they have something else that works better for THEM……….can we say someone “needs attention”-???🤷🏼♀️ Rebecca is cut from the same cloth I hail from, so say BYE 😉
Yes you can win against the narcissist. Don’t fall for the love bomb, stay neutral, then walk away, live your best life, don’t fall for the false accusations, don’t engage with their attempts to get in the mud with them. Be happy, live happily. It will drive them nuts. Be genuine. They will never be genuine. Thanks Rebecca!!! ❤️
Amen! I learned not to take the bait after I saw the raging fights were never something with the ultimate end goal which would be to resolve an issue, it was just to fight... so, he did (Fight) and I just watched. Funny that that ultimately showed me just how profoundly messed up my "relationship", was. They are Pathetic and I was foolish enough to think I could "help" by living by example... ultimately it ended up being me that was manipulated and ripped off.... these narcissistic ppl are unnatural and bizarre creatures! I ultimately began recording our arguments and hearing the "fight", after the fact was so Obviously Abusive. So, I left, it was the 3rd time and it was forever, the 3rd time! Sure I have regrets, but None center around my X, or my choice to leave, I am mad, and bummed that we raised a child (Now adult, who is lovely) together, and that adult child's world blew up... but as for me, I only feel Robbed, BUT FREE!!! Freedom is the Gift I gave myself! I even see our adult child coming to their own conclusions about what IS!
I am finally learning how to effectively fight back to where I’m not completely drained after every conversation or court hearing . I’m so blessed to have found your TH-cam page Rebecca !! ✨
Amen! All of above! Court psychologist called me about child custody! She said that my wife told her opposite everything that I said and I was lying! She asked me how I would respond to that? I thought for a moment and said “ she lies better than I can tell the truth!” I was the first father to ever get custody in that court!
I want to thank you for the inspiring videos of how to beat a narcissist in court! I had my attorney watch some of your vids. He has dealt with narcissists somewhat before. He knew the questions to ask. The narcissist cracked under questioning! Their lies were evident to the whole courtroom! We won!
They don’t even necessarily have to “freak out” - you could just be casually talking and they’ll orchestrate the dialogue in a direction that will frustrate the pi$$ out of you or questions that make no sense just to show themselves they can change your emotions- once they’ve got a reaction they really don’t care after that.
This is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard for dealing around these kinds of people. Dealing around, not with. There is no dealing *with* them. But you can deal around them. And this video is excellent in conveying how.
I have learned so much from you🥰. You have no idea! He's dead to me as though he doesn't even exist. We have a daughter and I keep all communication at a minimum! If he missed and school/extracurricular activities his problem not mine. He tries to bait ,I don't respond. He's still trying to alienate me on his week but it doesn't work,I just patiently wait for my week. I call twice,if no answer I don't text him. He is miserable!
I persisted and prevailed in superior court, the judge vacated a trumped up Exparte TRO by listening and studying and applying RZ videos, I was extremely well prepared with a high level state of readiness, I stayed respectful and on point and didn’t allow myself to be swayed, exactly what RZ explained what to expect, actually happened like clockwork. The outcome reduced a year of stress to nothing - THANK YOU REBECCA Z !
I am about to go face to face with a classic Narcissist at a court hearing for custody of my children. We are not even married and it feels like we are going through a horrible divorce. I am doing everything I can to keep my two babies with me.
This is not going to end with the judges gavel falling. Your life will be a war of attrition. So, set your mind to a new normal and, exist on that platform. Narc + kids by Narc = life with Narc
Don't give them anything, they go about like a roaring lion seeking whom they might devour. I have a lot of trouble with this as my main coping mechanism was being loose and zany. Goofy; foolish and harmlessly eccentric. I had no idea about any of this supply business until recently. Unfortunately I think I might have inadvertently provided a feast. So now I'm alerted and very alarmed I have begun to examine every relationship within and without with a fine tooth comb, witch is not possible when triggered, so I've had to learn to not react to achieve a modicum of calm.
Don't let them intimidate you. Play there games better than they can and defeat them so they don't harm others . What they stole from others you can return to the rightful owners. Be as cold with them as they are to others. 😁
Thank you so much for this valuable information. I had been in a friendship with a narc. Didn't even know it was happening. I know now and have gone two months total no contact. Was tough first 2 weeks. Now it is normal. Thank you again. You helped me way more than my therapist 🎉🎉🎉❤
I’ve acted unthoughtfully but also wisely: I asked them to change my department, then I would not disturb my ”team”. Of course, I do not want to change - I like my clients and tasks. I am soon changing the job anyway. I was on the work interview and I expect positive results. I am packing - I move to the other town for that job. I can hardly wait! This knowledge also gives me strength because I know that the real change is coming.
I absolutely LOVE THIS VIDEO ❤ You can't cure it, Narcissism!!!! Some therapists won't even deal with them because there's no cure!!? Thank you so so much ❤
This stuff is helpful. Thank you for sharing and focusing at what we can do versus what they will. Be safe everyone and like I like to say to my kids. “Make good choices.” 😂
I come from an immigrant Sicilian family where narcissism is viewed as an high art form. But, my brand of Sicilians were more the softer, passive, jovial type. We talked big. .. What you are talking about is the kind of savvy that identifies "bone breakers" like Don Corleone. ... His ilk understood narcissist, and Zen of it. ... What you are teaching here is how they taught their children. Throughout this video you reveal precious inside information, and a shrewdness that is bigger and smarter than Mafia, in my opinion. Know when their kids come to you for advise who it is you may be doing business with. As a chaplain I had an opportunity to speak with Roberto Soza in Folsom before he died around '92. (Mexican Mafia general) He counselled me on a few personal issues I had at the time.
I feel that they are turning me into the narcissist if I do the things that you are saying to do I realize that that's what has to be done being in the situation with them in order to win your case against narcissistic abuse but it still doesn't change the fact that their conditioning you to turn into what they have been doing their lives
I was hurt so badly by a friend I thought I could trust with my feelings with her and it back fired . I am still trying to get over the lies and gaslighting . I am so glad you said not to reply back harshly. And try to let it go. We are no longer talking or friends. Thank you so much
Ruffle feathers at 13:00 I remember it clearly, its like walking on egg shells in order to keep the peace, conflict over pointless stuff after a hard working day is a terrible thing to deal with. For a day it's alright, but weeks or even months of this situation is so wearing, once I saw a patten of predictable behaviour it was so apparent things weren't going to last, and I began to pull back, until the time away from her was nicer than the time spent with her, that was when I started to plan my exit strategy
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You, Your Knowledge Is Excellent. My Daughter, Is The Classic, Combination Of ALL Three. I Love Her Dearly, Also Sometimes, Can't Stand Her, Really. You Already Know. Glad You Are HERE. Thank-You ✝️
Don’t know how that happened during the summer, but while the N was trying to make me invest in something, just a lot of suggestions about to invest in what I like from life, .. but what was it? Lot of speech and money. But ofcouse no one invest in something without a contract signed legally seen by a lawyer, so full of another surprise I went to take a coffee break and turned on my phone.. looked down at an announcement from you, R.! , the writing just said: 🛑 Stop! I just, what? 😅 And there it was, directly answer to it stop right now!( and there was an explanation to it too) And so I did. It’s hard to believe but it became an answer from above THANKS f being there for all of us🙏🏻🌹
At 48:00 you are spot on, this is something I delt with, and it's so true, discard devalue be little, then love bombing, it felt so good and valued, all the doubts faded and I was back on the hook, for a few days until the vicious cycle repeated.
@Boho Chic Thank you so much. I so needed this kind of encouragement. I've been very isolated and trying to get my health in a better place is no small task. The good news is I am a research fanatic, and have already conquered hair fallout, skin breakouts, indigestion and severe muscle cramping. All stress related. My biggest challenge is oxidative stress that disrupts sleep and causes heart beat irregularities. The reminder to take baby steps was so needed. Part of me just wants everything fixed right away so I can get to living my life in more of a normal way, but for now, I have to be content and thankful for all the breakthroughs ry oughs I've been able to make. This narc is relentless and ruthless, and as much as I've made efforts to not show my cards, he knows I am onto him, so he is trying to destroy my finances. It means a lot to me that you took the time to show you care.
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@Val McC It's the time & energy they suck out of you that is their strongest weapon. I have found that the less I let him know about what is going on with me, the more time it buys me, such that I can somewhat pace myself. But right now, I am on the precipice of a huge escalation, because he is withholding from me important documents that belong to me, & yoday, I hwas up against a deadline to expose him in that to both the lawyer & another estate beneficiary. Tomorrow morning, I am going to the police.
The narc I know drives crazy for too few words, ignoring simple questions, leaving confusion always. You feel compelled to thus write a longer text, to which they ignore, can't win.
You are sooo appropriated. I am dealing with A covert narc with Malignant aspect in a business relationship whete I live. The narc has some authority and is always up for more control No contact helps best. I am doing whatever you say Rebecca. Im wore out. I took detailed notes. They are on the frig and forever in my heart. Love to Rebecca ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤Smart Caring and Brave. What a beautiful Warrior🎉❤❤🎉❤
You can use the no contact time to prepare for any onslaught the narcissist my be preparing against you. Look at the no contact period as a peaceful time when you can take care of yourself, and create whatever timeline and document binder you will need.
My leverage against the narcissist is mostly found in the lawyer preparing the estate accounting. That's why there has been an enormous delay in the lawyer getting the accounting done. Since, for over 4 months, the narcissist did not tell me who was doing the accounting, & did not pass onto the lawyer my request for an accounting, I'm giving that lawyer the 4-month statutory period to provide the accounting from the date I got my request to him, & if he hasn't provided it by then, I am filing a complaint against the lawyer with the state bar.
Mine's a covert Narcissist and he has mentally damaged me so bad , my tears are so heavy now, they stream vigorously down my cheeks and I literally can hear my tears crying with me, its aganizing, 5 years of living hell, hes the devil himself
If say ur willing to give 10, they will ask for 20. Everything important in writing, they will deny later anything they promised verbally & try to say u said things that benefit them. I made the mistake telling my lawyer the minimum I was willing to negotiate, so then even though I asked them to start negotiations w maximum requests the lawyer sold me out and told the narc the minimum I would tske, then the narc wanted even more, so I got less than my minimum acceptable. I fought like hell but our child still suffered, now the kid hates them bec they turned their narcissistic crap on our kid. I tried to fight for our kid but the courts don't care so just remember that. When they are promising to cooperate etc, they are mentally ill. I made all those mistakes u said & when I would answer all the accusations etc then he would accuse me of being the narcissistic person. Ugh. I'm 2 yrs till my kid is 18 & so close to legal freedom from his madness. I try to ignore him as much as possible
Grewup in a family like that. Now siblings daughter recognizes her poor choices in relationships based on idealogical father figure who wasnt ever emotionally available.
I threw out a decoy to entice the narcissist to give me what I want. I wrote another heir, telling him that once the estate accounting is provided, there will be a deadline for approving it. That heir is sure to provide the trustee narcissist with a copy of that letter, and the narcissist will salivate over the idea of putting me under an accounting approval deadline- maybe even not giving me the same amount of time to approve the accouting that he gives other heirs. He's treated me disparately from other heirs from the outset, love bombing them by spending enormous amounts of time and estate money on them, but forcing me to go through the estate attorney for everything, & now charging me attorney fees for it all when the lawyer told me he was to be paid a flat percentage of the estate, not ongoing fees. But the letter was a decoy to get me that accounting out of the lawyer, which I am set to immediately take to the police for embezzlement charges.
Everything you've said in Multiple videos has been exactly how the past 26 years with 2 covert narcs. My wife now for 6 years is still bashing my name.
I’ve done this while negotiating my own divorce, (he paid for an attorney I didn’t) I decided first the 4 things that I really wanted then buried them in other stuff that was normal stuff to fight over and it worked beautifully, when it was done my 4 nonnegotiables were awarded to me, he tried to Hoover one time I didn’t respond at all, definitely teach others how this is done in the real world, put the real thing inside a bunch of decoys, it’s a great lesson to learn this technique, yes I’ve often referred to it as having toddler mind, sometimes it takes awhile to show up
For me, the problem with these negotiation suggestions is that having a judge involved to make sure I get what is coming to me is WAY down the road in criminal court, because I can't bring a civil action against the narcissist trustee, or else I get disinherited. That makes it a lot more difficult to get leverage against the narcissist.
I am a winner. Thank you so much for this video. MY EX completely blew up our engagement after i waited on her too get through rehab. Within 1 week she did disgard and moved out and within 1 day is wanting too get back together. All bc i set clear boundaries of no communication with exs and no disrespect . And ofcourse i find a second facebook with her exs as her friend's bye Felicia 😆. Its very hard right now but im stronger from my trauma and im focused on becoming better
No matter how much I did for her she refused to acknowledge anything I ever did. At one point she guilt tripped me so much about going to work I took some time off and even then she thought I had nothing to do so I she was doing me a favour by giving me things to do. Unbelievable...
I am Confident. Had Narcissists In My Life Forever, Just Didn't Know It, Until Last Year. I am No Feelings, Nothing And Nobody Bothers Me. If Something Does, I Handle It At Home Alone ALL By Myself. The Winner.
FIGHT FOR YOURSELF.!” STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM. It is a waste of your time to get back at them. They will get theirs. I promise! Love yourself so hard u can love someone else. A healthy relationship is wht every human wants. Expect, of course, that demo you sleep with every night. Just a thought….
I realize the more I study relationship the topic on narcissistic relationships especially as a guy dealing with women that we used to use the blanket term “Stalker” in the 90’s to describe these toes of women.
Love the decoy advice. My request for documents related to my house is somewhat of a decoy that could result in some more hard core evidence against the narc. Even though my current strategy somewhat involves my taking narc bait, the only document related to my house that I really need is the recorded deed, which I have. Not that I don't want other house-related documents in his possession, but the narc put in writing the fact he has withheld them from me, so getting a police file started with that bad act could be helpful. In 2015, the police were so chomping on the bit to put him behind bars that they placed him in a cell next to the most notorious of all the criminals in my town's history - a guy who murdered a little girl! So, the police definitely want him off their radar. I only walked away at that time in an attempt to spare my mom emotional upset and out of fear of retaliation. Little did I foresee in 2015 that the narc would plot Mom's demise and to disinherit me.of the house she left me. That is his current goal. I am somewhat concerned that in providing the grounds for my objections to the narc's bogus accounting, I may have overshared to the extent that I may have given hints of my next strategy to have the cops go after him, but none of the grounds I provided were without documentation in his handwriting that expose his embezzlement of trust funds. Let him worry the cops could soon be after him. Maybe he will be so scared that I get some leverage against him. Those cops still have his 2015 raging and threats to kill me in their records, despite the narc paying lawyers to get the records removed from the court web site. There are certain records that narcs cannot get readily erased: medical records and police records.
I have propably given them words that they use agaibst me. No: I just asked at work why they cheated me with my work contract. And other those kind of guestions. After that they acclained that I am a peace breaker. I insisted and have repeated the question. I have contacted the steward if the workplace - my bosses avoid this meeting. They have cancelled it many times. They try to get me trapped alone with them in a room. I have refused: I said tgat I want soneone with me (to witness: they lied to me once, why to believe in them?) Etc. It is unbelievable to experience, how this one question has made rolls rolling.
What I always did when I wanted something. If we were at a store or browsinh online I'd see something and say " Oh, that's cool", and move on. Later he would ask if I wanted that particular itemI say something like. "You know Baby,just because I like something doesn't mean I actually want i". You could see the wheels turning in his head,and week later I was getting an Amazon box,full of items I thought " were cool", "but didn't really want" 😊
Right. There are certain communications that have to be made to preserve the record. But now, he's involving the lawyer on everything so he can bill me attorney fees. It was time to prompt him to get that accounting out before any more fees get charged.
There's me, 2 defendants and their solicitors. I need to think and write down the questions I'm going to ask the defendants, how to ask the questions.. I know there's an art to this.
I have always wondered why my ex narc friend would make the conversations really lame. Having normal conversations like friends do once or twice a week for an hour to catch up was the bare minimum I expected of her to do after she seemingly lost interest in everything else we used to do. I have been chatting with her for 12 years just fine and now it was impossible to find a topic to keep her attention, she would make me waste hours waiting for her to reply, just excuses, bread crumbling and actually smirking when she admitted herself shes aware that shes been neglecting me. She actually tried to normalize this bs... Only after I was fed up with her and went on a detox away from her, because I didn't want to get even more depressed because of her behavior... she started to talk to me normally. It was like... she finally after a year gave me what I asked for.... and I just felt so sick in my stomach that I had to end the conversation after an hour because I couldn't stand even seeing her online anymore. She had no issue talking all the time to other people so it must have been targeted on me.. I understand now that this was her manipulation tactic to stress me out when I was already dealing with depression and problems in real life and well... I am disgusted that someone I thought was a close friend of mine would do something like that. I am glad to have found helpful and very informative videos like your to understand more how these individuals function. Never again will I put time and energy on such individuals
I cheated on my narc with 2 other girls, and again with another 2 girls. She always thought I was her possession like something she owned - we were only friends and nothing was going on between us - it was just a waste of time - then we had a intimate night and it was over - or supposedly - maybe it’s not over
Two years ago I got out of a narc relationship. I've studied the psyche. Now I have to deal with the neighbors narc mom, who is evil! Son/ homeowner is trauma bonded to her, backs down, etc. SHE DOESN'T LIVE THERE! But calls the police on me. I have an attorney- letter being sent to son/ homeowner- "KNOCK IT OFF!". Every time I try to put up boundaries with him ("please don't destroy my fence"), mom runs over and comes up with retaliation.. calls police. I"m going after the (non narc) son.. start a war between those two as a distraction from mom retaliating.... and she always does. The letter will be general as to moms actions. He's not home when she turns on evil. And any incidents I site, she will deflect (BUT YOU OUUUU!"), distract, and lie. So, "mom must stop constant harassment or restraining order". (PERIOD).
I seen where he wrote it down in a book I don't provide and all it do is complain about cigarettes and f me... I pay half of the bills and do most of the housework I am on disability and can't afford my own place and he knows this so after we build a nice place he doesn't need me now and I feel like he trying to get me to go and staying everything in this house is mine
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GOT IT NOW.BUT IT'S SO ,SO ,SO HARD ...IN THE MOMENT..REBECCA ZUNG ... THEY ARE PIGS.... WHO LIKE TO WRESTLE IN DA MUD....
I WALK AWAY NOW.. & GET CALM....
I WON'T TAKE THE DOPE DEALERS, DRUG TRAFFICKING PIMPS BAIT, SEX TRAFFICKING PIMPS BAIT, SEX ADDICTS BAIT,GAMBLING ADDICTS BAIT... NOPE...
I DOCUMENT IT ALL... USE LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES AND POLICE DEPARTMENTS SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENT, DEA, SWAT, FBI AGENTS AND OTHER LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES AS NEEDED WITH ...SUPER LAWYERS..TO TOP IT OFF WITH A CHERRY!🎙🎶🎵🎧😎🎼🎼😎🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀THANKS FOR DA VIDEO XOXO REBECCA ZUNG..
HAPPY THURSDAY..
1/12/2023
TE AMO FROM YOUR FAVORITE SEXY ASS DJ'S FROM VENUS HERE IN DA CHAT NOW SENDING YOU LOVE,MUSIC LIGHT,SEX MAGIC ETC. AND HEALING MOST OF ALL...😎🤗😎🤗😎🥀🥀🎧🎧🎙🎧😁😎🤗
WOW, I’ll never understand WHY some folks just have to stick around in order to complain or be snarky if they have something else that works better for THEM……….can we say someone “needs attention”-???🤷🏼♀️ Rebecca is cut from the same cloth I hail from, so say BYE 😉
Pray and bid that demon on the day in Jesus name
Yes
Yes you can win against the narcissist. Don’t fall for the love bomb, stay neutral, then walk away, live your best life, don’t fall for the false accusations, don’t engage with their attempts to get in the mud with them. Be happy, live happily. It will drive them nuts. Be genuine. They will never be genuine. Thanks Rebecca!!! ❤️
@@dawnia4291 you are right. Don't allow them to take your joy and know who are!
That’s number one thing that I’ve learned : don’t take the bait. It feels so good after looking back on it. I feel good about myself.
Amen! I learned not to take the bait after I saw the raging fights were never something with the ultimate end goal which would be to resolve an issue, it was just to fight... so, he did (Fight) and I just watched. Funny that that ultimately showed me just how profoundly messed up my "relationship", was. They are Pathetic and I was foolish enough to think I could "help" by living by example... ultimately it ended up being me that was manipulated and ripped off.... these narcissistic ppl are unnatural and bizarre creatures! I ultimately began recording our arguments and hearing the "fight", after the fact was so Obviously Abusive. So, I left, it was the 3rd time and it was forever, the 3rd time! Sure I have regrets, but None center around my X, or my choice to leave, I am mad, and bummed that we raised a child (Now adult, who is lovely) together, and that adult child's world blew up... but as for me, I only feel Robbed, BUT FREE!!! Freedom is the Gift I gave myself! I even see our adult child coming to their own conclusions about what IS!
FIGHT BACK!!
I am finally learning how to effectively fight back to where I’m not completely drained after every conversation or court hearing . I’m so blessed to have found your TH-cam page Rebecca !!
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Most definantely !!!
Yeah- and when you do unwittingly take the bait it’s the complete opposite, you feel like utter crap….which is their goal.
40:08 Good part. "DON'T OBSESS PLAN YOUR SUCCESS." Thank you! Amen!
Amen! All of above! Court psychologist called me about child custody! She said that my wife told her opposite everything that I said and I was lying! She asked me how I would respond to that? I thought for a moment and said “ she lies better than I can tell the truth!” I was the first father to ever get custody in that court!
I want to thank you for the inspiring videos of how to beat a narcissist in court! I had my attorney watch some of your vids. He has dealt with narcissists somewhat before. He knew the questions to ask. The narcissist cracked under questioning! Their lies were evident to the whole courtroom! We won!
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🙌🙌🙌💖💖 yes!!!
Congratulations! Impressive you got your attorney to listen to words of wisdom from our beloved RZ. Please give any tips, thank you if you can....
They don’t even necessarily have to “freak out” - you could just be casually talking and they’ll orchestrate the dialogue in a direction that will frustrate the pi$$ out of you or questions that make no sense just to show themselves they can change your emotions- once they’ve got a reaction they really don’t care after that.
Yes, they fight dirty, saying they mailed you something they didn't.
Thank you so much, Rebecca! You are a wonderful person for helping us. Without you I don't think I could have survived this. ❤ ❤ ❤
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This is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard for dealing around these kinds of people.
Dealing around, not with. There is no dealing *with* them. But you can deal around them. And this video is excellent in conveying how.
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I like to watch that video
6:20
“ don’t obsess plan your success “
“Stay in victor mode”
Amen again!
I have learned so much from you🥰. You have no idea! He's dead to me as though he doesn't even exist. We have a daughter and I keep all communication at a minimum! If he missed and school/extracurricular activities his problem not mine. He tries to bait ,I don't respond. He's still trying to alienate me on his week but it doesn't work,I just patiently wait for my week. I call twice,if no answer I don't text him.
He is miserable!
I persisted and prevailed in superior court, the judge vacated a trumped up Exparte TRO by listening and studying and applying RZ videos, I was extremely well prepared with a high level state of readiness, I stayed respectful and on point and didn’t allow myself to be swayed, exactly what RZ explained what to expect, actually happened like clockwork. The outcome reduced a year of stress to nothing - THANK YOU REBECCA Z !
You seem so strong
I’m working at it …I am such a passive, patient, Empath , so I let myself get stuck!!! 😢
I am about to go face to face with a classic Narcissist at a court hearing for custody of my children. We are not even married and it feels like we are going through a horrible divorce. I am doing everything I can to keep my two babies with me.
This is not going to end with the judges gavel falling. Your life will be a war of attrition. So, set your mind to a new normal and, exist on that platform. Narc + kids by Narc = life with Narc
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Same how can I keep my girls away from this covert narc
@@KennethKephart-xo3vy Get on a rocket ship with the girls and, set up house on an unknown planet. I believe that.
Let him have the girls for 3 months. You'll never have an argument again. He'll give them back.
Don't give them anything, they go about like a roaring lion seeking whom they might devour. I have a lot of trouble with this as my main coping mechanism was being loose and zany. Goofy; foolish and harmlessly eccentric. I had no idea about any of this supply business until recently. Unfortunately I think I might have inadvertently provided a feast. So now I'm alerted and very alarmed I have begun to examine every relationship within and without with a fine tooth comb, witch is not possible when triggered, so I've had to learn to not react to achieve a modicum of calm.
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Don't let them intimidate you. Play there games better than they can and defeat them so they don't harm others . What they stole from others you can return to the rightful owners. Be as cold with them as they are to others. 😁
Thank you so much for this valuable information. I had been in a friendship with a narc. Didn't even know it was happening. I know now and have gone two months total no contact. Was tough first 2 weeks. Now it is normal. Thank you again. You helped me way more than my therapist 🎉🎉🎉❤
I’ve acted unthoughtfully but also wisely: I asked them to change my department, then I would not disturb my ”team”. Of course, I do not want to change - I like my clients and tasks.
I am soon changing the job anyway. I was on the work interview and I expect positive results. I am packing - I move to the other town for that job. I can hardly wait! This knowledge also gives me strength because I know that the real change is coming.
I absolutely LOVE THIS VIDEO ❤
You can't cure it, Narcissism!!!! Some therapists won't even deal with them because there's no cure!!? Thank you so so much ❤
Today I begin the healing process! Thank you for this! Powerful facts.
Proud of you! You got this ❤
This stuff is helpful. Thank you for sharing and focusing at what we can do versus what they will. Be safe everyone and like I like to say to my kids. “Make good choices.” 😂
I come from an immigrant Sicilian family where narcissism is viewed as an high art form. But, my brand of Sicilians were more the softer, passive, jovial type. We talked big. .. What you are talking about is the kind of savvy that identifies "bone breakers" like Don Corleone. ... His ilk understood narcissist, and Zen of it. ... What you are teaching here is how they taught their children. Throughout this video you reveal precious inside information, and a shrewdness that is bigger and smarter than Mafia, in my opinion. Know when their kids come to you for advise who it is you may be doing business with. As a chaplain I had an opportunity to speak with Roberto Soza in Folsom before he died around '92. (Mexican Mafia general) He counselled me on a few personal issues I had at the time.
I feel that they are turning me into the narcissist if I do the things that you are saying to do I realize that that's what has to be done being in the situation with them in order to win your case against narcissistic abuse but it still doesn't change the fact that their conditioning you to turn into what they have been doing their lives
Misery likes company
I was hurt so badly by a friend I thought I could trust with my feelings with her and it back fired . I am still trying to get over the lies and gaslighting . I am so glad you said not to reply back harshly. And try to let it go. We are no longer talking or friends. Thank you so much
Ruffle feathers at 13:00 I remember it clearly, its like walking on egg shells in order to keep the peace, conflict over pointless stuff after a hard working day is a terrible thing to deal with. For a day it's alright, but weeks or even months of this situation is so wearing, once I saw a patten of predictable behaviour it was so apparent things weren't going to last, and I began to pull back, until the time away from her was nicer than the time spent with her, that was when I started to plan my exit strategy
This heroic woman deserves and America needs a TV show.
When they pick at u. To pick up a fight
Learn to recognize it. And don’t engage
Im still healing and getting into my Galvanised State so im good.💯
You, Your Knowledge Is
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My Daughter, Is
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Of ALL Three.
I Love Her Dearly,
Also Sometimes, Can't
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You Already Know.
Glad You Are HERE.
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Yes, so tough outsmarting them but I am getting better at it with each interaction.
Don’t know how that happened during the summer, but while the N was trying to make me invest in something, just a lot of suggestions about to invest in what I like from life, .. but what was it? Lot of speech and money. But ofcouse no one invest in something without a contract signed legally seen by a lawyer, so full of another surprise I went to take a coffee break and turned on my phone.. looked down at an announcement from you, R.! , the writing just said: 🛑 Stop!
I just, what? 😅 And there it was, directly answer to it stop right now!( and there was an explanation to it too)
And so I did. It’s hard to believe but it became an answer from above THANKS f being there for all of us🙏🏻🌹
At 48:00 you are spot on, this is something I delt with, and it's so true, discard devalue be little, then love bombing, it felt so good and valued, all the doubts faded and I was back on the hook, for a few days until the vicious cycle repeated.
Thanks!
I AM A WINNER!
Me, too! 😊
He's causing me huge health issues. It's hard to not give up when you can't even get out of bed.
Release the stress. Have some fun for one day. I know what u r going. When u destress...u can think clearly.
@@ashchan0504 My adrenals are shot. It's not about not wanting to do things. My energy levels are completely depleted.
@Boho Chic Thank you so much. I so needed this kind of encouragement. I've been very isolated and trying to get my health in a better place is no small task. The good news is I am a research fanatic, and have already conquered hair fallout, skin breakouts, indigestion and severe muscle cramping. All stress related. My biggest challenge is oxidative stress that disrupts sleep and causes heart beat irregularities. The reminder to take baby steps was so needed. Part of me just wants everything fixed right away so I can get to living my life in more of a normal way, but for now, I have to be content and thankful for all the breakthroughs ry oughs I've been able to make. This narc is relentless and ruthless, and as much as I've made efforts to not show my cards, he knows I am onto him, so he is trying to destroy my finances. It means a lot to me that you took the time to show you care.
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@Val McC It's the time & energy they suck out of you that is their strongest weapon. I have found that the less I let him know about what is going on with me, the more time it buys me, such that I can somewhat pace myself. But right now, I am on the precipice of a huge escalation, because he is withholding from me important documents that belong to me, & yoday, I hwas up against a deadline to expose him in that to both the lawyer & another estate beneficiary. Tomorrow morning, I am going to the police.
The narc I know drives crazy for too few words, ignoring simple questions, leaving confusion always. You feel compelled to thus write a longer text, to which they ignore, can't win.
Good information. It is so exhausting to deal with a narcissist person.
You are sooo appropriated. I am dealing with A covert narc with Malignant aspect in a business relationship whete I live. The narc has some authority and is always up for more control No contact helps best. I am doing whatever you say Rebecca. Im wore out. I took detailed notes. They are on the frig and forever in my heart. Love to Rebecca ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤Smart Caring and Brave. What a beautiful Warrior🎉❤❤🎉❤
I just started watching you. Just this video helped me avoid a big mistake responding to another one of her email attacks.
Out Smart them! Thank you Rebecca, I so appreciate your energy and the plethora of good information you put out.
Thank you for understanding and for caring enough to share with us. 😢
You can use the no contact time to prepare for any onslaught the narcissist my be preparing against you. Look at the no contact period as a peaceful time when you can take care of yourself, and create whatever timeline and document binder you will need.
My leverage against the narcissist is mostly found in the lawyer preparing the estate accounting. That's why there has been an enormous delay in the lawyer getting the accounting done. Since, for over 4 months, the narcissist did not tell me who was doing the accounting, & did not pass onto the lawyer my request for an accounting, I'm giving that lawyer the 4-month statutory period to provide the accounting from the date I got my request to him, & if he hasn't provided it by then, I am filing a complaint against the lawyer with the state bar.
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Mine's a covert Narcissist and he has mentally damaged me so bad , my tears are so heavy now, they stream vigorously down my cheeks and I literally can hear my tears crying with me, its aganizing, 5 years of living hell, hes the devil himself
WE/YOUUUUU CANNNNN OUTSMART A/THE NARCISSIST!! 'I AM' PROOF🙏
If say ur willing to give 10, they will ask for 20. Everything important in writing, they will deny later anything they promised verbally & try to say u said things that benefit them. I made the mistake telling my lawyer the minimum I was willing to negotiate, so then even though I asked them to start negotiations w maximum requests the lawyer sold me out and told the narc the minimum I would tske, then the narc wanted even more, so I got less than my minimum acceptable. I fought like hell but our child still suffered, now the kid hates them bec they turned their narcissistic crap on our kid. I tried to fight for our kid but the courts don't care so just remember that. When they are promising to cooperate etc, they are mentally ill.
I made all those mistakes u said & when I would answer all the accusations etc then he would accuse me of being the narcissistic person. Ugh. I'm 2 yrs till my kid is 18 & so close to legal freedom from his madness. I try to ignore him as much as possible
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Rebecca, it’s easy to go no contact when they don’t have your kids! Otherwise imagine a narcissist teaching your kids to alienate you!
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OMG, I don't know, YOU KNOW, your information is great, but really, YOU KNOW
Barbara, I'm so sorry. I am in that same situation too. It's so painful.
Grewup in a family like that. Now siblings daughter recognizes her poor choices in relationships based on idealogical father figure who wasnt ever emotionally available.
I threw out a decoy to entice the narcissist to give me what I want. I wrote another heir, telling him that once the estate accounting is provided, there will be a deadline for approving it. That heir is sure to provide the trustee narcissist with a copy of that letter, and the narcissist will salivate over the idea of putting me under an accounting approval deadline- maybe even not giving me the same amount of time to approve the accouting that he gives other heirs. He's treated me disparately from other heirs from the outset, love bombing them by spending enormous amounts of time and estate money on them, but forcing me to go through the estate attorney for everything, & now charging me attorney fees for it all when the lawyer told me he was to be paid a flat percentage of the estate, not ongoing fees. But the letter was a decoy to get me that accounting out of the lawyer, which I am set to immediately take to the police for embezzlement charges.
46:45 Oh my God. Physiology 3 phase Knowledge bomb. The Skinner box.
Everything you've said in Multiple videos has been exactly how the past 26 years with 2 covert narcs. My wife now for 6 years is still bashing my name.
I’ve done this while negotiating my own divorce, (he paid for an attorney I didn’t) I decided first the 4 things that I really wanted then buried them in other stuff that was normal stuff to fight over and it worked beautifully, when it was done my 4 nonnegotiables were awarded to me, he tried to Hoover one time I didn’t respond at all, definitely teach others how this is done in the real world, put the real thing inside a bunch of decoys, it’s a great lesson to learn this technique, yes I’ve often referred to it as having toddler mind, sometimes it takes awhile to show up
Taking care of myself
Excellent advice
Spot on
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I have outsmarted many of them.
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For me, the problem with these negotiation suggestions is that having a judge involved to make sure I get what is coming to me is WAY down the road in criminal court, because I can't bring a civil action against the narcissist trustee, or else I get disinherited. That makes it a lot more difficult to get leverage against the narcissist.
50:00 And we can't love everyone back to health.
I am a winner. Thank you so much for this video. MY EX completely blew up our engagement after i waited on her too get through rehab. Within 1 week she did disgard and moved out and within 1 day is wanting too get back together. All bc i set clear boundaries of no communication with exs and no disrespect . And ofcourse i find a second facebook with her exs as her friend's bye Felicia 😆. Its very hard right now but im stronger from my trauma and im focused on becoming better
Rebecca your work has given me control
No matter how much I did for her she refused to acknowledge anything I ever did. At one point she guilt tripped me so much about going to work I took some time off and even then she thought I had nothing to do so I she was doing me a favour by giving me things to do. Unbelievable...
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Had Narcissists In My Life
Forever, Just Didn't Know It, Until Last Year.
I am No Feelings, Nothing
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FIGHT FOR YOURSELF.!” STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM. It is a waste of your time to get back at them. They will get theirs. I promise! Love yourself so hard u can love someone else. A healthy relationship is wht every human wants. Expect, of course, that demo you sleep with every night. Just a thought….
Amen. I definitely am dealing with a covert narcissist
Yes EVERY YOU SAID IS CORRECT 1000%
Yes am dealing with narcissist
Yes! I’m married to him. Did not know anything about a Nars. Till about maybe a year now. It’s been going on for 20 years
I realize the more I study relationship the topic on narcissistic relationships especially as a guy dealing with women that we used to use the blanket term “Stalker” in the 90’s to describe these toes of women.
The Song that Never Ends was on Lambchops Play-along. 😂
Thanks for this info. You were recommended to me from a Facebook group.
Thank you so much Rebecca for teaching us how to outsmart them.✔️💐
Love the decoy advice. My request for documents related to my house is somewhat of a decoy that could result in some more hard core evidence against the narc. Even though my current strategy somewhat involves my taking narc bait, the only document related to my house that I really need is the recorded deed, which I have. Not that I don't want other house-related documents in his possession, but the narc put in writing the fact he has withheld them from me, so getting a police file started with that bad act could be helpful. In 2015, the police were so chomping on the bit to put him behind bars that they placed him in a cell next to the most notorious of all the criminals in my town's history - a guy who murdered a little girl! So, the police definitely want him off their radar. I only walked away at that time in an attempt to spare my mom emotional upset and out of fear of retaliation. Little did I foresee in 2015 that the narc would plot Mom's demise and to disinherit me.of the house she left me. That is his current goal. I am somewhat concerned that in providing the grounds for my objections to the narc's bogus accounting, I may have overshared to the extent that I may have given hints of my next strategy to have the cops go after him, but none of the grounds I provided were without documentation in his handwriting that expose his embezzlement of trust funds. Let him worry the cops could soon be after him. Maybe he will be so scared that I get some leverage against him. Those cops still have his 2015 raging and threats to kill me in their records, despite the narc paying lawyers to get the records removed from the court web site. There are certain records that narcs cannot get readily erased: medical records and police records.
Yes negative deflecting individuals trying to projecting negative 😈 entities energy unto u blame shifting shape shifting monitoring 👻🤕
I have propably given them words that they use agaibst me. No: I just asked at work why they cheated me with my work contract. And other those kind of guestions. After that they acclained that I am a peace breaker. I insisted and have repeated the question. I have contacted the steward if the workplace - my bosses avoid this meeting. They have cancelled it many times. They try to get me trapped alone with them in a room. I have refused: I said tgat I want soneone with me (to witness: they lied to me once, why to believe in them?) Etc. It is unbelievable to experience, how this one question has made rolls rolling.
We have to be VERY VERY smart you guys
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Stand up for yourself!!!
What I always did when I wanted something.
If we were at a store or browsinh online I'd see something and say " Oh, that's cool", and move on.
Later he would ask if I wanted that particular itemI say something like.
"You know Baby,just because I like something doesn't mean I actually want i".
You could see the wheels turning in his head,and week later I was getting an Amazon box,full of items I thought " were cool", "but didn't really want" 😊
Very informative. Thanks.
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Fight back fight back fight back .
Right. There are certain communications that have to be made to preserve the record. But now, he's involving the lawyer on everything so he can bill me attorney fees. It was time to prompt him to get that accounting out before any more fees get charged.
There's me, 2 defendants and their solicitors. I need to think and write down the questions I'm going to ask the defendants, how to ask the questions.. I know there's an art to this.
Thank You!! Good stuff !!
Btw the sound of the video is better when speed is adjusted to 1,25 faster.
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Outsmart em🎉 they cant be cured😂its not your fault❤slay em n walk run away & WIN WIN WIN BY NEVER TAKING EM BACK, DONT GIVE UP N DONT LOOK BACK🎉
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Very thankful for your free insights on this topic. Aside from that you look very attractive 😍
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Thank you Rebecca
I take care of myself
Documentation, documentation, documentation!
Yes, I have used the ”I agree” manipulation.
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This narcissist knows very well that I know his job is to slow me down and make me fail so why would I take him with me to success?
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I have always wondered why my ex narc friend would make the conversations really lame. Having normal conversations like friends do once or twice a week for an hour to catch up was the bare minimum I expected of her to do after she seemingly lost interest in everything else we used to do.
I have been chatting with her for 12 years just fine and now it was impossible to find a topic to keep her attention, she would make me waste hours waiting for her to reply, just excuses, bread crumbling and actually smirking when she admitted herself shes aware that shes been neglecting me. She actually tried to normalize this bs... Only after I was fed up with her and went on a detox away from her, because I didn't want to get even more depressed because of her behavior... she started to talk to me normally.
It was like... she finally after a year gave me what I asked for.... and I just felt so sick in my stomach that I had to end the conversation after an hour because I couldn't stand even seeing her online anymore.
She had no issue talking all the time to other people so it must have been targeted on me.. I understand now that this was her manipulation tactic to stress me out when I was already dealing with depression and problems in real life and well... I am disgusted that someone I thought was a close friend of mine would do something like that.
I am glad to have found helpful and very informative videos like your to understand more how these individuals function. Never again will I put time and energy on such individuals
I cheated on my narc with 2 other girls, and again with another 2 girls. She always thought I was her possession like something she owned - we were only friends and nothing was going on between us - it was just a waste of time - then we had a intimate night and it was over - or supposedly - maybe it’s not over
Two years ago I got out of a narc relationship. I've studied the psyche. Now I have to deal with the neighbors narc mom, who is evil! Son/ homeowner is trauma bonded to her, backs down, etc. SHE DOESN'T LIVE THERE! But calls the police on me. I have an attorney- letter being sent to son/ homeowner- "KNOCK IT OFF!". Every time I try to put up boundaries with him ("please don't destroy my fence"), mom runs over and comes up with retaliation.. calls police. I"m going after the (non narc) son.. start a war between those two as a distraction from mom retaliating.... and she always does. The letter will be general as to moms actions. He's not home when she turns on evil. And any incidents I site, she will deflect (BUT YOU OUUUU!"), distract, and lie. So, "mom must stop constant harassment or restraining order". (PERIOD).
Out smart them thank you this makes so much sense
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I seen where he wrote it down in a book I don't provide and all it do is complain about cigarettes and f me... I pay half of the bills and do most of the housework I am on disability and can't afford my own place and he knows this so after we build a nice place he doesn't need me now and I feel like he trying to get me to go and staying everything in this house is mine
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She has been living in the next condo apartment block for 5 months and bought a new car - she
followed me to the Shopping Mall last week
FIGHT-BACK!
I take care of my self