PREGNANT AT 20 | BECOMING A YOUNG MUM | JUDGEMENT AND TELLING MY PARENTS!? | MRS SMITH & CO.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2024
- Pregnant at 20! Becoming a young mum along with the judgement it brings, what my parents thought and if it was planned! Also includes me briefly talking about the fact I suffered with prenatal depression.
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Q: Where are you from?
A: I live in the UK. I use to live on the boarded of Kent/London/Essex and relocated in 2017 to Devon.
Q: How old are you?
A: I'm 25
Q: Do you work and what is your job?
A: I have always worked as a finance manager with a brief stint in travel. I started this channel in 2014 when I was pregnant with my first son however couldn't continue so began again on maternity leave in July 2017 and I am now focusing full time on my channel.
Q: Who is in your family? Are you married?
A: Me and my husband Adam have been together for 8 years and married in 2016 in Santorini. I have literally found my soul mate and best friend in him. We have two children, Klayton is 3 and Parker who is 1.
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I had my daughter when I was 17, judged by everyone. I’d been with my partner since I was 13. I’m now 22 married to her daddy, we got married 4 months ago. Rented a property and brought our house 3 years ago. Our daughter is 5 and wow she’s amazing. Best thing I ever done. Don’t regret a minute of it. You’ve done an amazing job with your boys and how your life has planned out x
That’s lovely Chanice. This is why I hate how judgemental people are! You’ve done an amazing job! 💕
I was 20 when i had my 1st, bought a house at 22. 2nd baby at 24 and getting married next year. My life compared to my friends is so so different but I wouldnt change it for the world. Love the video I could relate so much xx
Thank you Holly. It’s amazing how many young mums there are. I wouldn’t change it either x
I don’t know why people judge. I was an older mum at 36, but I can absolutely see why it makes sense to have kids in your early 20s.
I don’t think people should judge either way! It’s completely down to personal preference whether you choose to have children earlier or later in life and I don’t get it either 🤷🏼♀️ I just feel there’s so much more judgement towards those that do have children younger xx
Yes I think younger mums are judged more. When actually from a biological point of view it is far more sensible to have kids young. With hindsight I would have had mine younger.
Totally agree with you...I bought my house at 20, first son at 23, 2nd son at 25...mortgage finished last year...fab holidays as a couple now....so glad I had my boys young and didn’t wait! 😘
Yay to the mortgage being finished Ash! My and the hubby are working on this desperately 🙈 lots of amazing holidays for you to come now! xx
Your story is so similar to mine! I fell pregnant at 21, I'm now 21 and due in a few weeks time. We are also waiting on our new build to be built which is due just after the baby so we are living with my parents. Young mums can do it just as well as older ones :)
Congratulations lovely 💕 good luck with your move too! Young mums can definitely be just as good as the older mums 😊 x
To all you lovely mums who had babies young I had my first daughter at 22 and my 2nd daughter at 26.
They are now 24 and 20 years old and I can honestly say they are the best thing in my life they are my best friends my joy and my inspiration .They are both independent women who I am so proud of they are my goddesses 😘Having them when I was young meant that we have grown together as people and we understand each other and our bond is amazing
Vanessa Hart I totally agree with you
Vanessa Hart I totally agree with you,may God keep you to each other
Ahhhhh so lovely xx
That’s so lovely! It’s amazing how much happiness they bring into our lives! Wouldn’t change it for the world 😊
I was 20 when I fell pregnant & 21 when my 1st was born!! Lol!! Massive shock to my family as I was the mature one😂 & yes i’m still with my hubby 11yrs later!!! I would love to know how you bought ur 1st property at 19!!!!!
So like us Sammy! I’ll work on that video ☺️😘
I was 20 when I had my first, her father and I broke up when I was 8 weeks pregnant. We remained on good terms.
When I was 12 weeks pregnant he met his wife, they married when our daughter was 20 months, her stepmum has known her from birth, I attended their wedding and consider my daughter's stepmum to be a good friend, she's a wonderful woman. They have 5 kids now too.
I raised my daughter mostly on my own until she was 5 when I met my husband, we have been together 12 years, married for 9.5 and have a 9 year old son and 7, 5 and 3 year old daughter's, however he considers my eldest to be his first child, he is her dad in every way that counts except blood.
My eldest is 16 now, she is funny, kind, loyal and beautiful inside and out and we are very close.
The way it happened for me wasn't the traditional way but I wouldn't change a moment, I'm proud of the young woman my daughter is growing into and I know a big part of that is due to me, and she has 2 sets of parents, 4 sets of grandparents and 9 siblings who adore her....who could ask for anything else.
I enjoyed hearing your story, thank you for sharing
That’s so lovely that you both found happiness and now have this big family around you 💕💕
I was married at 20 & 6 months pregnant with my 1st daughter then had my 2nd daughter at 23 & my 3rd daughter at 25 👌🏻 my husband & 3 daughters are my world wouldn’t change a thing 😀
Love this Joanne 💕 our children are our lives x
What a lovely story! I was a Mum at 20yrs old and on my own, and I loved it. I well remember the meconium explosions and the yellow poo explosions. I am now a GREAT Grandma to a 2yr old and another one on the way and I'm "only" 66yrs old on Friday. Love your videos. Well done xx
Happy Birthday for Friday Suzanne! That’s such a lovely story and now you have great grandchildren! Xx
I went out and did all my partying, drinking, Girly holidays and travelling in my early twenties and didn't meet my man until i was 29. Have never wanted children until now i have just turned 35 and am now planning to start a family. Which equally receives the same negative opinions for different reasons. I get the arn't you a bit old, Your be an old mum, you won't get to enjoy your life like you have. why have you changed your mind so late. But that's the life choices i have made. As i am sure yourself and Adam diod what was right and felt right for you. I am so excited for the next chapter in my life and can't wait to tell my child all about my travelling antics. Cheers to us. Old Mums, Young mums, Mums who can't wait to be mums. who cares as long as we do our best to be a great mum. xx
Everyone is so different, there are positives and negatives for having children at any age/stage of your life. Im almost 38 and have just had my 4th baby and we want to have one more before I am 40 and then that will definetely be it. We had our first when we were both 28 so there will be a big age gap between eldest and youngest but so what. I am loving being a mum and that is my job and there will be a time when they will all be grown up and moved out and will find a new direction in life :)
I couldn’t agree more Sarah! For me I believe everyone is entitled to have children whenever the hell they want. Everyone has different experiences and what they want out of life. My plan was never to have children young and then it changed when I met Adam. No matter our age we shouldn’t be judged for being too old, too young or whatever else. Mums get judged for having one child or ten children xx
Pregnant at 17, then at 22 and finally at 24. Three boys wouldn't change a thing it is very isolating though no one quite gets it until it happens xx
Couldn’t agree more about no one understanding! 3 boys 💙🙈 that’s what I think I’m destined for 😂 x
I’m 20 and in a very similar situation to you. Me and my partner bought our first home together last November (when I was 19 and he was 21) and now want to start trying for a baby soon but was worried about the judgement. But we’re financially stable, have our own home, and I have PCOS so have no idea how long it will take to conceive. You’re video has really helped and put things into perspective so much, so I wanted to say thank you for that❣️
Amazing video Ellis! ☺️ I was pregnant at 17 and gave birth at 18 my first is 8 nov and my second will be 4 in January and I felt the exact same way! Felt judged but like you said I wouldn’t change it and proud of where me and my children are today! Mums got to stick together 💪🏻😂
Amen 🙌🏼 each to their own x
I’m two months pregnant and it’s my first baby I’m so nervous 😭
Me too!!! I’m so nervous
Hey you’ll be great just know you will always have my support
I support you, by the way me too!!!
Hi Ellis, just wanted to pop over here and say hello! I came across your videos a few days ago and I can’t stop watching your channel! I’m a new subbie and I’ve already gone through your videos and watched so many already! You’re such an inspiration and I love that you’re a young mum because that was my dreams! You’ve lived out my goals and so happy for you! Keep doing what you’re doing! So much love for you already in a such short time! Tia xx
I'm 21 me and my boyfriend want to try for kids but as a child it was highly frowned upon having a baby at a young age and I suffer from anxiety so I sit and panicked about it because it's new. We are planning to move out asap but I still panicked about money ect any advise
Can you do a ‘draw your life’ video. It would be a really nice way to get to know you better. X
It’s definitely something that I’m looking to do but I’m so rubbish at drawing 🙈
Hi Ellis! Love the video e that you opened about this topic! ❤️ I was pregnant al 19 and gave birth to my twin boys at 20yo prematurely at 27 weeks ❤️ Imagine all the bad looks I received ahaha I agree with all you’ve said most of all with the feeling of loneliness among other parents older than you.. I love your channel,keep up the awsome job! xx
Gosh! I imagine two must have been a handful! 🙈 double trouble! It’s horrible feeling lonely. I find Instagram helps lots too to find new people xx
Ellis - Mrs Smith & Co. Definetly ahaha! They are little gourgeous hurricanes 🙈
Good decision. I had my kids quite late. I have always wished i had them in my early 20's. We had waited to start a family for too long for no reason.
Ahh it doesn’t matter either way as long as you’re happy ☺️
I was Married at 22 fell pregnant quickly but lost it and had another at 23. Best decision made. So agree with you about being done at 40 and enjoying myself rather than running after babies. It's better to have them young if you can as you can enjoy it. It's always been like that, even in the early days. Women can have babies at 11 lol so it says a lot about our biological clock. X
That’s very true about our biological clock. I believe everyone should be able to have children whenever they want without judgement whatever that may be x
Awhh this was so helpful xx I recently found out I’m pregnant and I’m kinda worried xx
I was 17 when I was pregnant with my first. Had her at 18. I'm 22 and I had my second when I was 21. 5.12.14 and 21.9.17 xxxxxx 2 girls. Married my best friend 25.8.17
That’s so lovely Kathryn 💕
I was a young mum aswell and I love it!! I'm done and dusted, kids are at school full time I have so much time on my hands, free to go out n about😎 I think good for u!!!
Ohh love the fact you have all this free time! Shopping 🛍😂
I totally relate to you with most of the groups I went to with my daughter... I had her at 25 and she's now 3 and I'm now 29 and 35wks pregnant with my second. I still find I'm the youngest mum at nursery drop off & at any groups we go to.. There are a couple of mums I have met who are a similar age as me who I met at sing& sign, but the vast majority are 35+ and I completely felt like the odd one out at 25, going to NCT classes with other 35+ first time mums. Had I continued in a stable relationship, I was ready and willing to have children at 17.. I've always wanted to be a mum and I trained to become a nanny to kind of fill that void of wanting a baby- unfortunately I've still not had a stable relationship and I am a single mum, for the vast majority of my daughters life and am now too. I live at home with my parents still and would love to hear more about how on earth you could afford your own house at 19, as well as budgeting in general x
Ah it’s crazy how different everyone’s stories are! Good luck with your second pregnancy!! Xx
1 to 2 children was the biggest jump for me ! 2 to 3 and 3 to 4 were much easier.
I’m glad it’s not just me that finds 1 to 2 a hard jump and that supposedly it gets easier 😂🙈
Really enjoyed this lovely! I got pregnant with Thea when I was 25 so not exactly a ‘young mum’ but I know what you mean about baby groups I could never gel with anyone and it always seemed really cliquey! Xx
Baby groups are completely like that! I still struggle now. It’s really hard to find people that are non judgemental plus your type of people and open to new people! That’s why I love Instagram 💕
I had my first child at 19, second at 21, third at 24, bought a house at 27, expecting my fourth child now still aged 27, getting married next year when I’ll be 28. I’ve received alot of negativity and nastiness due to being a young mum, and look where I am now, have done so much more than alot of people my age I know who haven’t had children. Life is what you make it, and having children young in no way hinders anything which is what I was told time after time x
I couldn’t agree more and everyone should be entitled to do what they want without judgement or negativity! Good luck with the wedding planning! xx
I'm 21 and have 2 beautiful babies
I'm 19 right now (turning 20 in October) and my boyfriend is 25. I also really want a baby because I'm mindful of my boyfriend who really wants a family (preferably before he's 30.). I'm still in college and we're not living together so we're not sure yet. I don't know whether I want to go to Uni or just look for a well-paid job. Ideally, I'd be an author but it isn't that simple haha! What do you work as?
Also yes, I would love to hear how you saved to buy your first house?
I have a home but it's owned by the local council, I do love my home but have always dreamed on owning a detached house. I would love to hear your tips and tricks on budgeting and saving.
Definitely going to look to do a budgeting and saving video soon! I have some really simple tips and methods I use xx
U're just amazing ❤
Thank you ☺️
loved this xxx
I'm the oldest of 4 too! 2 sisters and a brother
The joys of younger siblings 😂🙈
Married at 19 1st borne at 20
i am 21 nd pregnant and still scared
Don’t be scared at all lovely. I’m sure you are a great mum and will do amazingly through it all. Sending lots of love 😘
@@EllisSaraSmith thank u 😓
Yes to the budget video
I’ll try and get one up soon!! Xx
Thanks 🙏 for you.
I would also love to know how you could afford to buy such an expensive car! I mean the car of my dreams😍 i’m nearly there, i’ve been saving for the past two years, but jesus is it hard!😅
I have a few things about my experience with buying a car! Although it mainly comes down to budgeting and where you choose to spend your money 🙈 hopefully you’re not too far off xx
I fell pregnant with my first baby at 19 and was 3 weeks off of being 20 when I had her ..I'm now 32 and have 5 babies I had my last one 3 day be for I was 30 i always said I didn't want any babies after the age of 30 ... I've been with my partner for 15 years now... I always get funny looks when I'm out with my children together people always look at me then count the kids lol I say as long as your happy then it's your choice xx
Couldn’t agree more Connie! And I didn’t realise you had five children. You must have patience of a saint 😂 two drive me insane 🙈 x
@@EllisSaraSmith It's very noisy bit I love it... especially Christmas it great 😀😀😀😀
I was 16 when I fell pregnant, turned 17 in the may, got my own house in the June and had my son in the August.
My family were luckily very supportive and my son was also planned.
Sounds bizarre but I lost my mum when I was only 3 weeks old so becoming a mum was something I really wanted to do.
I'm now 24 and My son is 7.
I have not went on to successfully have anymore (3 miscarriages, 1 late misscarriag)
So tbh, I don't regret my choice to have a child at 16. Sometimes I think my body has given up the idea. X
That completely makes sense why you wanted to have children and fate as such as to its timing. I keep everything crossed that everything works out as it should in the future for you 😘
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