I'm crying and I'm laughing. Crying at the pain listening to these talks brings up from childhood but laughing at how spot on and how seen I feel. Thank you Tim
These lectures have been an eye-opener. They explain so much about my childhood, family and our relationship. Now I get to understand so much about my thoughts and behaviour. Thank you Fletcher for sharing.
I've been suffering for so may years with addiction then thru recovery.. here in ny I can't find anyone to listen to me. The doctors just say I'm bi polar and prescribe tons of meds. Meanwhile I've been trying to do this work. Its so hard here to get help. I cannot find a trauma informed therapist that takes my insurance. These talks are all I have. I've been at the end of my rope for a while now. All I want is to get better and I'm not finding the help I need.
I don't know if you'll see this, but wondering how you are going now? It's not helpful to be told only a therapist can help you, when it's so hard to even find a skilled trauma therapist, financial hurdles aside. I feel like it's like being told to go on a trip to the moon. In the meantime, your self directed therapy using these talks and journalling your insights truly is therapy. I hope you can take some comfort in that. I had substance abuse disorder and borderline personality disorder, and yes I did have some therapy but honestly 80-90% of the work was self directed, from podcasts, videos, etc. I'm 3yrs+ in full remission. Please know that you are capable of driving some degree of healing 🙏 Thinking that only a therapist can do it is scary and disempowering and not always true. I wish you well.
We can heal ourselves, you have to find the trust in yourself and maybe you can believe it, too - that God is always leading and helping you, even if it is invisible. Love your Life. Realize that Truth counts, first steps try self-education ... You are worthy and a part of humanity, a big family on our be loved mother earth. Hopefully you can find a good way to help yourself and find a trustworthy friend. ❤
I am 26 and I keep getting told by everyone that I look 20. Part of it is because I am Asian, I look younger. Also, I know it's because I didn't have wholesome teen years, so I am still stuck in that stage. I mean, overall, it's getting better. Just a couple of years ago, I would see teenagers having fun in the street and I would start crying. I don't do that anymore. I know I can not step into a parental role, because I haven't grown up. Now that I start dating someone normal and healthy, it becomes more and more obvious how big my baggage is. Over time, I can't hide it. Over time, the broken and damaged me shows in our relationship. I do feel the only way is to parent my inner child again, by myself, with the help of good people around me. And I am grateful that my boyfriend is dealing with it in a gentle and loving way.
Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder are normal chronic reactions to complex trauma and early family life betrayal. You are normal for feeling dysregulated because you grew up in an environment that was hostile and unpredictable.
This is impossibly hard when showing Any weakness was punished, parents were not emotionally available at all.. even using please/thank you was later punished. Having ANY way for someone else to have any claim on me is a serious threat. Asking for help is near impossible- as it is shows weakness. I have epic trust issues, my internal dialogue is constant and brutal. I will never be good enough, everything is my fault, and no one actually loves me- they just want something from me or want to hurt me for fun. Now- try going to therapy…. Lololol
this is true, I'm one of that person specially that until now I haven't seeing my father who has a last name Fletcher and I keep on praying that I can see him one of this day, and I hope someone can help me because this is just the only way for me to get heal
We can visualize a past experience and it's as real to our brains as if we were actually there. Everything you need to heal is already within YOU, as you can "go back in time" so to speak, and change any memory you have to one that will help you find the closure and healing your inner child needs. I pray that you've found the peace you deserve in these past years. Much Love 🙏🏻💕
Your understanding on complex-trauma is very helpful… just as important to me is you understanding of the Bible .. I feel like I am there you make it real after a lot I gave up on God , but you have given me my true love back please do a series on the Bible /understanding the stories you didn’t get too? *edit* oh I just got to the Naomi part , * oh my oh my is … it’s NOT odd it’s GOD!
Thank you for putting out all this useful information. Could you please point in the direction where I can find more info on those 12 unmet needs? I'm 68 and my inner child is still hurting...
He shouts instead of talking. Gets tiring to listen to. Not very useful but at @28:20 the line "we can learn together how to be less afraid", was good.
"Trauma makes people disabled" is a myopic absolutist narrative. There are many overachievers who have had trauma....sure they are affected, but high achieving doesn't mean they don't struggle in any areas. There are also those who survived trauma that are underachievers. People aren't robots, they have multifactorial realms that influence how they respond to trauma. My sibling and I responded very differently. I put myself through college, as a single parent, now own a home, have lived in the same place for over a decade, don't so drugs or alcohol (used to drink, not anymore). I am working towards a PhD in neuroscience. My sibling has had drug issues, jail time, was a stripper, has had volatile relationships, ended up in shelters, had 2 of their children removed from their care. We responded in different ways. I have self sabotaged in other ways, overeating and weight gain, and also had struggles with relationships. I've known many who are overachievers, in many realms, who have had trauma. Often, it's a way to try to prove one's worth, to earn love, to work to be good enough. Trauma affects many aspects and varies person to person. The way it makes people disabled the most is in relationships, to themselves and to others. Otherwise, disabled as in a general sense, not always.
I'm crying and I'm laughing. Crying at the pain listening to these talks brings up from childhood but laughing at how spot on and how seen I feel. Thank you Tim
These lectures have been an eye-opener. They explain so much about my childhood, family and our relationship. Now I get to understand so much about my thoughts and behaviour. Thank you Fletcher for sharing.
I've been suffering for so may years with addiction then thru recovery.. here in ny I can't find anyone to listen to me. The doctors just say I'm bi polar and prescribe tons of meds. Meanwhile I've been trying to do this work. Its so hard here to get help. I cannot find a trauma informed therapist that takes my insurance. These talks are all I have. I've been at the end of my rope for a while now. All I want is to get better and I'm not finding the help I need.
Have you looked into online therapy?
I don't know if you'll see this, but wondering how you are going now? It's not helpful to be told only a therapist can help you, when it's so hard to even find a skilled trauma therapist, financial hurdles aside. I feel like it's like being told to go on a trip to the moon. In the meantime, your self directed therapy using these talks and journalling your insights truly is therapy. I hope you can take some comfort in that. I had substance abuse disorder and borderline personality disorder, and yes I did have some therapy but honestly 80-90% of the work was self directed, from podcasts, videos, etc. I'm 3yrs+ in full remission. Please know that you are capable of driving some degree of healing 🙏 Thinking that only a therapist can do it is scary and disempowering and not always true. I wish you well.
Thank you for your insight, Rebecca. If the original commenter wasn’t helped by it, I was. Beyond imagination.
We can heal ourselves, you have to find the trust in yourself and maybe you can believe it, too - that God is always leading and helping you,
even if it is invisible.
Love your Life.
Realize that Truth counts, first steps try self-education ...
You are worthy
and a part of humanity,
a big family on our be loved mother earth.
Hopefully you can find a good way to help yourself and find a trustworthy friend.
❤
@rebecca_stone Such a heartfelt comment. THANK YOU.
Much Love 🙏🏻💕
Thank you Tim Fletcher.
love the most, love fiercely because all this ends. Stay blessed.
Your videos have helped me alot. Thank you.
Thank you Tim, this is more than helpful, please keep doing more videos !
Thank you the amazing work that you do. I feel much comfort from the guidance, compassion and deep understanding.
I am so glad I ran across you Tim Fletcher. You validate my inner knowing which, has many times and for lengths of time been stuffed down... ❤
For those that don't get it, check out The Kid (bruce willis movie) really gave an image of what the relationship with the inner child could be
I am 26 and I keep getting told by everyone that I look 20. Part of it is because I am Asian, I look younger. Also, I know it's because I didn't have wholesome teen years, so I am still stuck in that stage. I mean, overall, it's getting better. Just a couple of years ago, I would see teenagers having fun in the street and I would start crying. I don't do that anymore. I know I can not step into a parental role, because I haven't grown up. Now that I start dating someone normal and healthy, it becomes more and more obvious how big my baggage is. Over time, I can't hide it. Over time, the broken and damaged me shows in our relationship. I do feel the only way is to parent my inner child again, by myself, with the help of good people around me. And I am grateful that my boyfriend is dealing with it in a gentle and loving way.
Thank you from me & me as my inner child recently I let her down I’m now inviting a new resilient & compassionate relationship. Mahalo
This helped me gain perspective. I know that I am a very literal minded person. Perhaps others with similar childhoods are also.
Your work is just amazing and freeing ..
Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder are normal chronic reactions to complex trauma and early family life betrayal. You are normal for feeling dysregulated because you grew up in an environment that was hostile and unpredictable.
omg so many tears, so thankful for this series
I was pouring just listening to this. Thank you, I will do the work :)
This is so helpful. Thank you
This made me cry😢
I am looking forward to doing some of the suggested 'journaling/connecting with mini me'... and a tad nervous...
This is impossibly hard when showing Any weakness was punished, parents were not emotionally available at all.. even using please/thank you was later punished. Having ANY way for someone else to have any claim on me is a serious threat. Asking for help is near impossible- as it is shows weakness. I have epic trust issues, my internal dialogue is constant and brutal. I will never be good enough, everything is my fault, and no one actually loves me- they just want something from me or want to hurt me for fun.
Now- try going to therapy…. Lololol
Thank you
Your videos have helped me a lot. Thank you.
This series has been so, so insightful and life changing. Thank you.🤍
BEAUTIFUL 💖
Thanks for your work. Very valuable for me ❤.
thank you so much
It is really helpful
Powerful
Tim, oh.. I’ve been waiting for you for years! I want to heal this broken soul & my families.
this is true, I'm one of that person specially that until now I haven't seeing my father who has a last name Fletcher and I keep on praying that I can see him one of this day, and I hope someone can help me because this is just the only way for me to get heal
We can visualize a past experience and it's as real to our brains as if we were actually there. Everything you need to heal is already within YOU, as you can "go back in time" so to speak, and change any memory you have to one that will help you find the closure and healing your inner child needs. I pray that you've found the peace you deserve in these past years.
Much Love 🙏🏻💕
Your understanding on complex-trauma is very helpful… just as important to me is you understanding of the Bible .. I feel like I am there you make it real after a lot I gave up on God , but you have given me my true love back please do a series on the Bible /understanding the stories you didn’t get too? *edit* oh I just got to the Naomi part , * oh my oh my is … it’s NOT odd it’s GOD!
That’s not God that pushed you away. The lord heals the broken hearted
Thank you for putting out all this useful information.
Could you please point in the direction where I can find more info on those 12 unmet needs?
I'm 68 and my inner child is still hurting...
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@@TimFletcher Thank you very much for your quick response!!
@@TimFletcher I needed this. Your talks are the only thing guiding me right now. I'm ready to high tail it to Canada
Love Debbie’s journal. Thank you ❤
My mom is a mixture of narcissistic and schizophrenic she actually destroyed the photo album and gifts i received from friends😢
Thanks!
❤❤❤
He shouts instead of talking. Gets tiring to listen to. Not very useful but at @28:20 the line "we can learn together how to be less afraid", was good.
Aw wow this was… tough.
Great videos, but the video numbering system is very confusing.
What do you do if you have NO memories
How can I get a free psicologist? I live in Italy. I can’t afford a private one. Thanks for your help.
Inner pain is like suffering from rabies & biting others in order to get relief from a disease
Yes it's awful.!.when I see pix of myself
To allow more variants 😂
I wanna marry tim fletcher 😂
They talk about ppl that are overachievers bc of trauma ..I don't get it..
Trauma makes ppl disabled...
"Trauma makes people disabled" is a myopic absolutist narrative.
There are many overachievers who have had trauma....sure they are affected, but high achieving doesn't mean they don't struggle in any areas.
There are also those who survived trauma that are underachievers. People aren't robots, they have multifactorial realms that influence how they respond to trauma.
My sibling and I responded very differently. I put myself through college, as a single parent, now own a home, have lived in the same place for over a decade, don't so drugs or alcohol (used to drink, not anymore). I am working towards a PhD in neuroscience.
My sibling has had drug issues, jail time, was a stripper, has had volatile relationships, ended up in shelters, had 2 of their children removed from their care.
We responded in different ways.
I have self sabotaged in other ways, overeating and weight gain, and also had struggles with relationships.
I've known many who are overachievers, in many realms, who have had trauma. Often, it's a way to try to prove one's worth, to earn love, to work to be good enough.
Trauma affects many aspects and varies person to person.
The way it makes people disabled the most is in relationships, to themselves and to others. Otherwise, disabled as in a general sense, not always.
Ruth was a princess. Daughter of king Moab. She gave up a lot. But got more back.
Do you know anyone without a wound? Stop using it as an excuse. Stop being so abusive.