My 2 cents on the signs as a sag woman : we posess a lot of masculine, go getter, sharp shooter energy and can sometimes energetically push others into their feminine because we take up too much of the masculine space in relationships and interactions. Including our mates. This video was a eye opener for me, and i dont even play that "build a man" theme, but it can easily happen. Internal balance is key as a woman ❤ thank you for this video darling, i adore your perspective 🎉
Thank you for your thoughtful comment and shedding this light on your sign!❤️ That's so true, especially when the man is not stepping up to the plate as the masculine. He leaves the door open for the woman to assume that position. What you said about balance is so true, too! Balanced people attract balanced people.❤️
What Sag woman do you know who won't want or allow her man to be the man in the relationship and not accept help or allow them to pay for anything? That's behavior is castrating and toxic. Don't put men being "pushed" into their feminine on our zodiac sign. Sag will be submissive when the man can step up to the plate. You're really going to act like a man who takes advantage of a woman was "pushed" to it because she was picking up his slack? We are generous and self-sufficient people who love to help. That doesn't mean we don't accept men trying to take responsibility for us. Where we go wrong and why we are so susceptible to being taken advantage of is because we tend to not think enough about what the other person can do for us and let stuff slide that other women would NEVER. Nothing that being more decerning and self protective when choosing a man in the first place can't fix. When you find a real man, you automatically rest comfortably in your feminine. It does not work the other way around because femininity is soft and needs something hard protecting it before it can emerge.
Nah, idk about the other two but Austin Butler has always been a great actor and has always gotten good roles on his own way before he got together with that woman.
@@jinijinxer97 lol men are expected now to have six figures and pay for everything, be stoic but be in touch with their feelings and also are now expected to be handsome or else they'll have no prospects, and you're telling me that it's women who are expected to "return to the good ole days"? Also, you do know that only a small fraction of powerful men can do that, right? You women are so delusional, it's actually scary. In actual fact it's men who have everything go against them, because y'all now want the top men and won't settle for anything less, to the extent that you willfully become part of a harem. Don't even build a house my ass.
@@ricaard6959then y did he name her for getting that role? If he did it all my himself he would have been silent but he did credit her at the end after so much force
Ladies please listen to her and NEVER build a man. I loaned my ex who was my then boyfriend at the time money when he lost his job and begged me to loan him money to pay his rent. He resented me after that and turned around and cheated on me with his “ best friend “. I caught his “ best friend “ sneaking into his room late at night when I was staying over his house. I asked him for my money back and he blocked me. I was treated like the crazy ex when he was the one who cheated on me and lied to my face and I simply wanted my money back. The money he promised to pay me back. I learned my lesson after that. I went to therapy and started setting boundaries and now I’m engaged. If a man is struggling financially, he should be focused on taking care of his finances before dating. Also the man I’m engaged to makes alot more than me but I have a backup plan. I make my own money and I save and invest my money so if he leaves I’m fine. Always date up but make sure you set aside money for yourself.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, and congrats on your engagement!❤️ I'm glad to hear that you are with someone good, and also have your own money as a backup!
I find it interesting that Chris Pratt truly thinks Anna Faris grew resentful of him becoming fit. It sounds like that was projection on his side and a way to justify his actions. While we can never fully know, its giving she loved him when he wasn't considered attractive to others and saw something I him he didn't until he had abs and more job offers and then his head got big and that was what she didn't like. The fat sweetheart to skinny menance is a tale as old as time.
What happened was that she realised he doesn't desire her anymore and became depressed. Men think women getting depressed after a betrayal is an act of betrayal against emn
Leaving a long-time partner for someone new, especially after becoming successful, is often rooted in selfishness. It’s prioritizing personal desires over the loyalty, respect, and commitment that should be foundational in a relationship.
She was always a placeholder that's why it's important to pay attention to how a man treats you. A man who loved her wouldn't drag her across the state, just so he can build his career, while depending on her to finance everything. He should have gotten a job instead, she missed the red flags.
Ngl, I was just proposed to in May after dating for six years and living together for 3😅 The fact that they bought a house when they weren't even engaged is scary.
Ladies, marriage is a scam for women. It makes women miserable and men happy, because they legally bound a modern day slave to them. Don’t fall for it.
@Alixir1228 sorry that it's difficult. Was this man your husband? Either way,taking accountability for allowing ourselves to be played with , usually leads to happier spaces. If he wasn't your husband,that's okay but accept your role in allowing motherhood when you weren't ready. Again,sorry it's hard
I saw something similar in my friends marriage. She was a model, local one, but very pretty girl in general, made nice money for time being, and as models do, she was working from a young age. He was no one at the beginning, random young adult. He fell for her, fast forward married her and they have 3 kids together. He became an IT developer, makes a decent amount of money, she stayed home but also has a side job, and today, he is the one telling her that she did not contribute to their "wealth" and makes no money compared to him. He did not left her, but who knows what will happen when kids will grow up.
My friend was gorgeous in her day (and I mean gorgeous) and had a long term and subsequently marriage to a really mediocre guy. They had a kid, she gained some weight and he decided he wanted tk be fit(he has been fat/plumpy their entire relationship). Eventually he asked for a divorce and now both have moved on.
Learn to be happy single ladies. Let men chase YOU and don’t lift a finger to help them EVER!!! Men do NOT appreciate it or you when you do so much for them. Being a cheerleader for them is ridiculous and you never know WHEN a man’s switch will flip on you.
@@timelessbeautyfashion Exactly, it's like they blame you for halting their natural evolution or flexing your merciful divinity on them, they will use that up, but never appreciate it as they KNOW in their heart of hearts that they are not worth it. Also it may look worse on them after they drop their stepping stone, if she was so needlessly supportive. Harder to paint her as "the crazy ex" or "we both drifted apart" this way after her use is over to him, if she's this lovey-dovey. So they are mad for being status and appearance checked by a devoted patroness. When all they want to do is social and economic climb for their own reasons, they are not team players and don't want to invest in anyone else, including their families. Not to mention they despise their humble beginnings and everyone reminding them of that, any mother figure who changed their diapers and saw them warts and all, as they just want to be admired after they cross the finish line, babying them up seems like looking down on him instead. Never accept a man earlier than he achieved something as it's not certain where he might end up before that happens!
Pattern that they date nepo babies after. Seems like they use the builder woman to climb in the social ladder and once he does he stops caring for her.
@@peachwhite-333 You can check it out. He was recently spotted kissing Dove Cameron on a red-carpet, the one where she's wearing a red gown (& he's dressed up in some leather outfit, looking very haggard). Edit: More reason we shouldn't waste our time building a man, but ourselves. Sure, we can cheer for them. But refrain from any financial help. Act like a stump if needed, tell them you are bad at it, and have no idea how it works. Then slowly back-out if he ever asks for a loan or anything of similar sort.
Hudgens is from my hometown - Salinas CA. It’s a working class agriculture town known for Steinbeck and growing lettuce. It’s a huge deal she was able to blow up coming up from humble beginnings.
he even said at his social media he is glad "he has a wife who gave him healthy children" Anna and him have a son who has health issues... THAT. REALLY. PISSED. ME. OFF. He's bad news.
@ Where did you read that in my comment? Bc the first thing I wanna do with my nurse paycheck is get him his dream rolex. I have lots of gratitude for him and plus, it’s very different bc he is my husband! He’s not a man who refused to commit but expects me to act like a wife. He showed me consistency and I will pamper him right back. Don’t assume
Hmm, I mean, I have a bf who is not financially tied to me and we don’t live together. He has a lot of worries such as older family in a different country, (not his fault), depression, tough finances and he has basically built his life from the scratch alone in the country since he moved here alone at 20, where we live which is incredibly tough, has taken a huge responsability of raising his younger brother here and taking care of it all alone. His culture is also such as ”men are tough and don’t show any emotion” I would never want to make him feel bad about those things… or how he simply feels or those experiences, I have felt down and depressed too, since it’s way more complex, or I wouldn’t leave him because of those problems. I don’t feel like a therapist either, although at times I worry if he relies emotionally too much on me. But you know I don’t feel like it’s burdening me? My friends too rely a lot on me in a way that they can open up to me, but I don’t want to be an emotional ”listener” that is just being thrown at stuff. It has to be mutual and with boundaries and support. My bf, he has good friendships too. It’s important to be emotionally supportive in my opinion, but not to take others worries or troubles as your own. Healthy distance and boundaries At times there was very bad tumultuousness in our relationship and we even tried to open it, but as it came all down, we realised this was some awful unhealthy coping thing, especially on his part, for low self esteem? and projection. I felt like I could be replaced and that I’m not worthy, which was so so awful. I regret the fighting and being too agreeable. My own part was like f it we are not engaged or married so I might as well look around too, yk. I have been too easy to ”push around”. Like I have been too insecure too. As I am clearly the younger in our relationship too, and a student. Is it wrong for me, as much as I truly see him as a person and care for him, to feel sort of resentment over certain things? His certain surroundings and situations are not his fault, but hmmm. Thoughts.
Stopping your own bag in order to not have to pay child support to the person who is the reason you were able to make that much in the first place is evil. Being the come up woman is really not for the faint of heart.
It makes me think a lot less of Jesse Williams. He’s certainly not a man of principle because I remember a while back he was lauded for some speech he gave at some BET(?) event in which he praised black mothers specifically, yet he turns his wife into a black mother and then treats her like garbage.
Yeah, don't ever feel like you're to blame for their actions. One day, if they make it that far, they'll be old, gray, etc. Physical beauty is one of the fastest changing things and it can't be kept in the end. You don't need to feel like how you look is to blame. Bad people do bad things. Even good people make the wrong choices at times. 😔
It's very revealing to watch how men act around women they do not find attractive or cannot get s*x/services from. Shows you a lot about their character.
Yeah most men are terrible to you no matter what, either beautiful or “ugly” but I’m sure those guys are incredibly uglier both in and out, than you could ever be.
Makes me think of Betty Broderick who supported her husband (and kids) through both med and law school so he could be a malpractice lawyer. He went on to marry his secretary. Building a man means making him the perfect husband for someone else.
I kind of feel like Brad Pitt is a shapeshifter too, remember when he and Gwyneth had matching haircuts? He was more California golden boy when he was with Jen and then polished dad until things blew up with Angie.
And Johnny Depp. He left the mother of his children (a classy, self sufficient, emotionally mature, cool, beautiful woman) for AMBER HEARD. If that's not a cautionary tale for men to stick with the good thing they already got and stop cradle robbing!! 🤣
@@themaggattackdepp being awful before Heard was born. He is a problem and it’s not his exs fault. (He call Vanessa “old c**t”(he way older every his partners) and his own daughter lily-rose “betrayer”. )
Well he's not your family member, your friend or your colleague 😂. He's an actor. How many writers are pervers, family wreckers? And you don't know it. You don't care about it. And you still reading books, newspapers. So. This videos like that? It's from hurt person. Well. It's life. People are people..We are also animals. There's no animal in whole world who spending life with one 'love'.
I just really never had the stamina to build a man. All of my exes I ended when there wasn't a ring in sight after 2 years. Now happily married to my husband who sealed the deal in less than 2 years. Ladies don't ever let a man waste your time. If he ain't ready for you, then give yourself the space for the right one. Do not let Mr. 50-50 block your blessings.
This is awesome because growing up my parents told me if after a year 2 years max he hasn’t asked you for your hand, leave. It’s not worth your time. Now my cousin met her now husband in college and he told her he would like to finish and get a job before he asks her. They were freshman so it took 4 years. But he asked her after they both had jobs out of college and have been married for a year now.
@@Mangaka2K15if you meet very young then the two year rule doesn’t apply. People that meet while they are still in school and not employed are in a different situation. But if you’re over 25 and gainfully employed I think the two year rule is a good idea!
@ yes I agree, that was the case with my two best friends who are now married with each other. They met in high school so he gave her a promise ring. And yeah at my age 2 years is long enough. 😅
Seeing those celeb examples in the beginning of the video hit so hard. Those three actors became so huge, then broke up with their wives who made more money/had better careers with them from the start. Its like they are looking at their old wives/girlfriends as lesser for being with them when they were less. Its hypocritical and sad.
If a man is a narcissist, like these actors are, he is incapable of real love and affection. They can do grand gestures to appease you, but they cannot offer you true happiness, contentment and a peaceful home.
@@takemypainaway9517because it reveals that they’re not capable of getting there by themselves and they feel shame. Which they take out on the woman who helped them in the first place.
Accurate. Love Taylor Swift, but her choices of male partners really make me cringe. I’m worried his temper and alcoholism is going to result in a Chris Brown situation and I don’t understand why she finds him attractive. He looks like a dick.
I posted this somewhere else but in nigeria when women try to talk about how men treat women who build with them, you see comments from men saying what did she actually do for him? did she give him his money was she not just there eating. men don't care if you build with them at all, any woman who thinks building with a man means anything is in for a rude awakening, but men are also saying they will not give anything to a woman who did not build with them. With men it's a lose-lose situation
That's not surprising! Just have to keep to yourself unless/until you find one of the rare gems who has a healthy masculine, and will treat you like a Queen ❤️.
Ladies, this is why you never marry or date for looks, this is a mistake made my so many women. If he’s not obsessed with you, leave him alone. And never ever ever pay for a man.👑
Not dating or marrying men for looks goes in both directions: I have also seen SO MANY women settle for men they find unattractive because they think it will make the man treat them right and prevent the man from taking them for granted. Just because a man is ugly does not mean he will treat you right.
@Loveladylove I don't agree ,Ugly fat men can ruin a marriage with their toxic behaviours too .If a man has love for himself he won't be as needy or dependant or need you to cook and most likely not go crazy if you leave him.A man who is obsessed has deep unrequited love issues from his family which tend to surface at puberty
They are all weak men with no integrity, only interested in the opportunities these women provided, with no intention of building a home, whether they’re famous or not. It’s truly sad for these women. But I believe not all men are like that, so I think it’s not worth living in fear of this happening.
Still women have no business helping or building a man. It puts us in our masculine. The man gets in his feminine and builds resentment towards the same woman helping him. All because he now feels less than .
Ladies be mindful of your appearance and mind/body connection when in a relationship. If you suddenly lose weight or gain weight. Gastrointestinal issues. Anxiety or unusual/unexplained mental health issues Over-indulgence. Pale-skin or you start to look older....sunken face. Little interest or motivation. Menstrual cycle is off.
This is so true! Bad partners are dangerous to women! My last abusive relationship was in 2020. I was 37 at the time and my hair started going gray. Four years later, I have no grays. I also look back at photos of myself during the relationship and I look so much older and my skin was horrible.
Definitely learned my lesson 😮💨 I am a Sagittarius. After a 4 year relationship I choose to be alone because of what happened. I was working and paying all of my bills very independent and he came along he had no job but once he got one he said that he wanted to take care of me. I fell for it and little by little he became controlling. My job went first then family then friends until I was isolated and depended on him he made me feel like I had no one but him. One day years later he decided that he didn't want that life anymore and walked out he left me with no way to pay the bills I ended up in a shelter and homeless for a year. I found out that he was talking to his ex I was just a rebound they got back together and moved out of state. That was 6 years ago and I still have not been in a relationship. Men actually scare me every time they approach me I feel as if they are plotting on my downfall so I chose to be single. A man will see that you have something good going for yourself and try to completely destroy it. I learned that men can be jealous in the relationship and see you as competition.
I dont do it anymore...My new quote is fall in love with their reality not their potential! I ain't the fixer anymore...I dont zodiac signs are real or a factor in relationships interest is.
Zodiac is the 12 primary personality types. They factor in how we handle reality with our will, passions, physical desires, emotions, and thought process.
As a Capricorn woman this is my worst nightmare. I’m also raised in a household with a builder mom and a deadbeat father. May all women find their respectable peace and happiness!
I’m a cap woman, no deadbeat father but doesn’t help around the house. My mother is the do all woman. I keep ending up with loser leeches that cheat on me. I always feel obligated to help out like lending them my car or offering to pay for things. Idk why I do this 😭
@@RawrLyss. Cap here too. It is so hard not to want to help everyone, be everything, even when they didn’t ask. I’ve had to check my arrogance and need for everything to make sense. It’s not a virtue, it’s damaging to me and them.
Listen to this young lady! As an older, successful woman I wholeheartedly approve of this message! Too many of our young women fall into this trap. I tell my 3 daughters this all the time! And I encourage my only son to establish himself and beware of shifty women and let his dad teach the rest. Pour into yourself ladies and establish your boundaries! Much love to you and I wish you all the best!❤
Thank you so much! It's awesome that you're instilling wisdom in your children, too. I wish more Moms thought like you! ❤️ It's so much easier to make wise decisions when it's taught at home.
Not just building a man. Jessie Williams wife was not his equal looks wise. It's mean but it's the truth. Taking care of the "pretty-faced men" is always a no no. Those men know how they look and know they could do better if they had the funds and when he got what he wanted he started picking the women he wanted. He may have liked his wife intelligence but he knew that wasn't his type.
I told myself that too but we are seperating after 10 years because the attraction just never came. He also wasn't skilled and "teaching them what you like" gets old fast. So if you sacrifice looks, make sure he's at least good in bed.@@chokoladkallc
I’ve definitely noticed this happening in relationships when a man finds a decent job or some kind of promotion. My ex had switched up on me once he got some okay paying job, and I was still unemployed, although driving him to work and being his cheerleader for trying to celebrate with him.
Exactly. I'm my husband's cheerleader and encourager. I give with my energy because its more than enough. A woman's encouraging energy is more powerful than they try to make us believe. But even so, that must be earned first.
so good with great examples!! I literally heard them all say in my mind 'women are so easy' definetly learned that lesson too late. now I vet anyone who is trying to come close to me.
I think there’s no guarantee with any relationship so you don’t have to stress yourself out trying to pick the perfect person you’ll end up in a rocking chair with. Just don’t give up too much of yourself, only accept what you sincerely want (kids, moving cities, lifestyle), and be emotionally prepared for it to end. People change, life changes, and in the end, it’s just you and the things you’ve built for yourself. He and his has to be a bonus
Anna should have seen Chris Pratt leaving p*rn around for her to find and detailing his s*x life as a red flag, especially for Chris who always presents himself as this devout Christian man.
@@sagba947 true. But I’m not talking about the politician themselves but the ppl that support them. How low is the standard for a what makes a good Christian that a convicted felon that has been accused of p~ð0philia and grape is being associated with God. Supporting him is one thing but comparing a criminal to God is another type of sickness and show that u don’t got be good at all to be seen as a good Christian. Again, low title
I used to date this guy for 6 years when i met him he worked in construction! I was so supportive of him becoming a business owner, design his logo, taught him excel. Then he started to make more money and broke up with me. Lesson learned ladies
I went through a phase where I decided I was sick of the pretty men treatment and was going to find an overlooked nice guy. Turns out these less attractive men are no less a holes. I honestly felt like half the guys were like well, you're out of my league and you gave me a try so I want to see how many other women out of my league I can get in bed.
😭 Yes, it turns out any guy can be good or bad, whether he's good-looking or not. I hope you find one who is the full package! They're rare but exist, too. 🌟
@@chokoladkallc Thank you! I'm happy learning to be the full package for myself. I tried dating apps after my divorce and that was...an experience. It made me feel like finding a good man was like looking for a needle in a haystack and at my age I'm not looking to make a quilt so it's not worth the pile of fake pr*cks I was slogging through. I've had 2 fairly short marriages a decade apart and some sweet romances between to feel like I've lived that part of life. I just hope there are good men out there who are able to match the amazing women looking for love and partnership. Thanks again for your comment! I really enjoyed your video and look forward to seeing more!
And lets talk about building a man not financially but emotionally too, you are the one mothering him, attending him, basically helping him create and fixing his personality, his attitude, like you show him how to be a good guy, not that you teach but showing him, my ex boyfriend never hugged his mom everytime we walked out, I did, I always greeted her and said goodbye with a hug because that woman looked sad and I’m polite, I always offered help when I saw her around the kitchen all busy, and he was like “hey let’s go upstairs, she got it”, and he never hugged her until he saw me hugging her. I have friends (and me) whose boyfriends where impolite, mean and had shitty attitudes and we were like a sweet polite girlfriend and they basically changed by watching us, once they dump you everything they learned they take away and feel bigger than you, they feel like they outgrew you and became better, then they want to go out and find something/someone else. It’s heartbreaking and infuriating. Most of the girls are left with open wounds, without explanations, without proper closure, we have to swallow our pain and grow from there. It’s unfair how the world treats women.
Women should meet men at that level once she levels up. Men do it all the time. If a wife was with him for 20 years and had kids and whatnot and then he touches money at 40, he isn’t going to stay loyal. Now a new set of women are available after he tasted success. He is going to go after them. Women should do the same. Catch and release. Always, always put your self interest first. Look at everything as an opportunity. See if a man is bringing you value always. Like is he helping your career, helping you financially, is he doing his chores, is he good in bed and so on. They always made women do everything for free for them in the name of love. Even places like Hollywood are full of women who built the man and only for him to go and give everything to the next woman.
Yep, we're all human and fame + fortune don't protect from scammers, making wise decisions does. Ideally couples will move up together, but if they don't climb at the same rate or one is content where they're at, they'll get left behind.
Chris and Anna's child was born with disabilities which also put a strain on their marriage, he paid tribute to Catherine by saying he was celebrating a “healthy baby” not to mention the anti-LGBTQ views he had. Good for her
The shape shifter angle is a word. We rarely talk about this one and I feel like so many men do this in the beginning to secure a woman's emotions. Then it flips and almost all women do this to try to please men and hold their interest.
Love these type of videos, and yes! I've learned in my late 20s just how bad of an idea it is to date a man that doesn't have his own money, personality, and career sorted out. When you earn more than a man you are more prone to be cheated on, used, and abus3d. Never again!
I helped build a man and his children NEVER AGAIN! We bought a house and 2 years later I was over it! I was a single married woman raising bad ass children that weren’t mine with an awful in laws situation where no one actually is self sufficient! I let him have the house because I needed my peace
I only date men who are coming to improve the standard of my life, who are coming to build and support me, that if he ever thinks of leaving he will count the much investment he has done for me that he can’t afford to go and let another man enjoy it. That method has always been successful for me.
LADIES!! 👏👏👏 Please pay attention and take notes! Build yourself first! Your SPOUSE second, and NEVER a boyfriend! This was served up in my FYP and wow!! This is gold! Great video! Thank you for this!
I wish I knew this before, 6 years in a relationship where I was so much more accomplished than he was, I helped him finish college and helped him get a job and I was giving him money. I waited for a ring it never came. Then he turned his back on me once he became successful at his career. Never give ladies, men don't care that you're doing these things for them, so just spare yourself the agony and be selfish.
That why I believe you should never date or hook up with someone beneath your station. You can be trapped by a scrub, mentally or emotionally abused by a loser, but even worst believe a parasite is in love with you.
Please don’t refer to people as being beneath other people… they’re just at a different place in their lives, and they have issues or need to build themselves up. But no one is beneath us
Love this 🤗 Great advice, sis 💜 When a man truly loves a woman, it inspires him to become a better man… because his love for her wants him to be the best version of himself. Building a man should naturally come from him & it does when he’s truly found the one ❤️
Hey, Queen! 🥰 You are absolutely right. The love and proper treatment come so naturally when they feel they have found that one. We don't have to force anything. If it's there, it'll be effortless ❤️❤️❤️
Clicked so fast because Jesse was literally the ONE who made me see the light. I had once said to myself "if Jesse Williams ever fucks up, that's the last time I will let myself be surprised that m*n ain't shit." ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I learned this lesson as early as high school. I was tutoring my then-bf every other day after school in statistics so he could have a good enough GPA to participate in senior activities. As soon as his grades were up and it was the last week before prom, he brought up the idea of breaking up.
I would tell my daughter or my son ...never commingle finances, car ownership, and you sure as hell don't sell a asset like a house! Teach your daughters and sons about how trusts and llcs work and how they protect you in the event of break ups and divorce,and other lawsuits.
This is the reason being a "Trad wife" doesn't work. The majority of men want a wife who is happy homemaker, then when the children are grown they leave the wife for the younger woman who works in thier office. Tale as old as time. I should've left my husband the first time he said "it's cheaper to keep her" because we already had a child and he didnt want to pay child support. But kept cheating anyways. 26 years and I finally woke up and filed for divorce. He was paid around the same as I was. So I didn't get anything from the divioce. But I was able to do it on my own. I bought my first home on my own and a brand new car and enjoyed never having to deal wuth him again! Best decision I ever made.
This is great content. Great presentation structure and quality narration. Some young girls and women don't have the types of moms or family that tell them the truth like this
I find it weird and manipulative that Chris Pratt was purposefully doing things like studying and displaying things that Anna Farris was interested in to attract her. Narcissistic behaviour. I’m glad these women didn’t end up bitter & cynical though. They’re still vivacious and successful. Something these women have in common is they never gave up on their career, hopes, and dreams, and thats what saved them I believe. They had a life of their own and didn’t give it up for anyone.
That was definitely sus behavior. And yes, they all kept pursuing their dreams!❤️ That's so important for personal fulfillment, but also for supporting oneself if necessary.
I always tell women to ask themselves “would he date you if he was more successful or in shape. Especially if he is determined to level up himself. I also tell men to ask themselves “ would she date you if she was in shape or didn’t have kids”
That's so wild! I'm a Sagittarius, and my fiance is a Leo. As someone whose grown spirituality and financially with their partner, this just drives the point home that you can't build someone up. It's better to date at your level, and you both grow together as individuals. 💜
That’s a really good horoscope combo. I’m a Leo and my best relationship was with a Sag. He taught me what a healthy relationship really was and I’m grateful. I’ll never settle for anything less.
as a sag woman who also does waaaaay too much for her partners. i know so many sag women that have this alchemist energy about them, and while we can use this to make our own marks on the world, we are prone to giving that energy to those we love. it’s rough but i’m trying to stop the pattern while i’m still young.
I'm glad you like it! I will keep including them :) Chris' sign is so tricky! June 21st is right on the cusp. Some sites say Cancer, and some say Gemini. He does seem more like a Gemini. Same bday as Prince William.
I'm June 20th and a Gemini. Supposedly sagittarius is like the perfect match for Gemini but I got my ❤ broken by a Sage so I think the whole astrology thing is bs lol.
19:40 so true! Men will deliberately switch careers in order to NOT pay child support. Example that I’ve seen as a manager: 22 yr old refusing full time 60k job ( full benefits/ overtime available/ paid training) in order to work per diem (1x a week) to dodge child support payments. Example as a friend: the minute Asian mail order bride gets nursing degree husband files for divorce. Quits 200k project mgmt job to work as an 1199 construction hand (entry-level). He has half a million in retirement but she pays him child support.
I’ve done the opposite, I helped my first love mature and turn into a better man. He now challenges me to do better for myself! I don’t know if he’ll ever flip on me, that’s not something anyone can know, but I would never do that again. It was painful, a lot of work, and still isn’t perfect, and I didn’t have to go through it but I decided to. If it doesn’t work out, I will never build up a man again, they should be built up already.
@ it has certainly worked out for me, but I was lucky enough that my BF was willing and mature enough to realize he wanted to change not just for me, but for himself and his future. Unfortunately very few do that On a happy note, he’s proposing soon haha
I love putting your videos on and chilling out. I hope you never change your background music, it goes so well with your tone of voice and story telling. Blessings to you. ❤
Aww that's awesome to hear!!! Thank you for your feedback and support ❤️❤️❤️ I was actually thinking of changing to a jazz background, but I'll keep this lofi one now!
My 2 cents on the signs as a sag woman : we posess a lot of masculine, go getter, sharp shooter energy and can sometimes energetically push others into their feminine because we take up too much of the masculine space in relationships and interactions. Including our mates. This video was a eye opener for me, and i dont even play that "build a man" theme, but it can easily happen. Internal balance is key as a woman ❤ thank you for this video darling, i adore your perspective 🎉
Thank you for your thoughtful comment and shedding this light on your sign!❤️ That's so true, especially when the man is not stepping up to the plate as the masculine. He leaves the door open for the woman to assume that position. What you said about balance is so true, too! Balanced people attract balanced people.❤️
What Sag woman do you know who won't want or allow her man to be the man in the relationship and not accept help or allow them to pay for anything? That's behavior is castrating and toxic. Don't put men being "pushed" into their feminine on our zodiac sign. Sag will be submissive when the man can step up to the plate. You're really going to act like a man who takes advantage of a woman was "pushed" to it because she was picking up his slack? We are generous and self-sufficient people who love to help. That doesn't mean we don't accept men trying to take responsibility for us. Where we go wrong and why we are so susceptible to being taken advantage of is because we tend to not think enough about what the other person can do for us and let stuff slide that other women would NEVER. Nothing that being more decerning and self protective when choosing a man in the first place can't fix. When you find a real man, you automatically rest comfortably in your feminine. It does not work the other way around because femininity is soft and needs something hard protecting it before it can emerge.
I think your assessment can apply to all goal driven women and it makes a lot of sense. It’s a get sh*t done attitude.
Woaaah
I’m a Scorpio and this happens to me too. It sucks.
Notice none of these guys are called golddiggers. It's good to be a guy.
& they can make everyone return to the "gold ole days" exfept themselves. Modern men don't even have to build houses.
And better to be a woman like me who cares zero for the name calling😊
Nah, idk about the other two but Austin Butler has always been a great actor and has always gotten good roles on his own way before he got together with that woman.
@@jinijinxer97 lol men are expected now to have six figures and pay for everything, be stoic but be in touch with their feelings and also are now expected to be handsome or else they'll have no prospects, and you're telling me that it's women who are expected to "return to the good ole days"?
Also, you do know that only a small fraction of powerful men can do that, right? You women are so delusional, it's actually scary. In actual fact it's men who have everything go against them, because y'all now want the top men and won't settle for anything less, to the extent that you willfully become part of a harem.
Don't even build a house my ass.
@@ricaard6959then y did he name her for getting that role? If he did it all my himself he would have been silent but he did credit her at the end after so much force
After building a man, they look at you like "you're not on my level anymore"
Yup!!
Wow so true
Whoa that's a tough one, but true
omg yes like... I LITERALLY PUT YOU THERE YOU UNGRATEFUL
@@NorthKoreanComedian The real world, duh! So called men are spoiled mommas boys nowadays.
Building yourself is the wiser investment
Absolutely!
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Yes it really is
My mom always tells me this. The only way❤️
Ladies please listen to her and NEVER build a man. I loaned my ex who was my then boyfriend at the time money when he lost his job and begged me to loan him money to pay his rent. He resented me after that and turned around and cheated on me with his “ best friend “. I caught his “ best friend “ sneaking into his room late at night when I was staying over his house. I asked him for my money back and he blocked me. I was treated like the crazy ex when he was the one who cheated on me and lied to my face and I simply wanted my money back. The money he promised to pay me back. I learned my lesson after that. I went to therapy and started setting boundaries and now I’m engaged. If a man is struggling financially, he should be focused on taking care of his finances before dating. Also the man I’m engaged to makes alot more than me but I have a backup plan. I make my own money and I save and invest my money so if he leaves I’m fine. Always date up but make sure you set aside money for yourself.
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God bless you 🙏🏽 ❤️
Was the best friend a guy or a girl
Thank you for sharing your story with us, and congrats on your engagement!❤️ I'm glad to hear that you are with someone good, and also have your own money as a backup!
This is so infuriating omg, im so sorry you had to go through that.
Austin really had me f*cked up when he called Vanessa his “friend” whereas in her interview she called him her BOYFRIEND.
And he was trying to get with zendaya
@@jahmekmi2165 There is literally zero information supporting that.
That was after they broke up. Why would she call him her " boyfriend" after they broke up?
@@johnjungkook2721 her boyfriend at the time he got the part. Do you not have any interpretation skills?
Stop listening to celebrities then lol y’all take them way to serious
I find it interesting that Chris Pratt truly thinks Anna Faris grew resentful of him becoming fit. It sounds like that was projection on his side and a way to justify his actions. While we can never fully know, its giving she loved him when he wasn't considered attractive to others and saw something I him he didn't until he had abs and more job offers and then his head got big and that was what she didn't like. The fat sweetheart to skinny menance is a tale as old as time.
That's an interesting perspective! He chose to look at it in a way that made her seem like the bad guy. Skinny menace is funny but so true😭
Thank you, also great video and great takes ! I just subscribed @chokoladkallc
@@Lnoyagamixx_00 Thank you!❤❤
I think another issue they faced was religion. Anna was an atheist but Chris became more religious.
What happened was that she realised he doesn't desire her anymore and became depressed. Men think women getting depressed after a betrayal is an act of betrayal against emn
I heard the quote “if you wouldn’t be proud if you raised him, don’t date him”
That's a great quote to go by!
That's a good one!
I don’t get it
I'm keeping that forever
@@millie9814then it ain't for u
Leaving a long-time partner for someone new, especially after becoming successful, is often rooted in selfishness. It’s prioritizing personal desires over the loyalty, respect, and commitment that should be foundational in a relationship.
I agree I doubt it has anything to do with the women building them up they may have been selfish
Yeah…..that’s men for you
She was always a placeholder that's why it's important to pay attention to how a man treats you. A man who loved her wouldn't drag her across the state, just so he can build his career, while depending on her to finance everything. He should have gotten a job instead, she missed the red flags.
“7 years strong” without a ring is crazy😭 hopefully Vanessa stays married and happy
It's not that strong if it's been that long😭😭 And I hope so too!
Vanessa got married to someone else.
Ngl, I was just proposed to in May after dating for six years and living together for 3😅 The fact that they bought a house when they weren't even engaged is scary.
Ladies, marriage is a scam for women. It makes women miserable and men happy, because they legally bound a modern day slave to them. Don’t fall for it.
She’s married with a baby now, to a real man not a man-child
i couldn’t buy a house with a man or live with a man if we aren’t married. i’m happy a lot of my past relationships didn’t work out tbh
You can see all the blessings in disguise when you look back 🙏🏽
@Alixir1228 sorry that it's difficult. Was this man your husband? Either way,taking accountability for allowing ourselves to be played with , usually leads to happier spaces.
If he wasn't your husband,that's okay but accept your role in allowing motherhood when you weren't ready.
Again,sorry it's hard
If a man needs to be built he's not worth your time.
Exactly. He's not your child. Why didn't his parents teach him how to build himself?
Yep! We are all responsible for building ourselves.
THIS!!💯
Does the same go for women?
@@themockalove Exactly! That's what I wanna know
I saw something similar in my friends marriage. She was a model, local one, but very pretty girl in general, made nice money for time being, and as models do, she was working from a young age. He was no one at the beginning, random young adult. He fell for her, fast forward married her and they have 3 kids together. He became an IT developer, makes a decent amount of money, she stayed home but also has a side job, and today, he is the one telling her that she did not contribute to their "wealth" and makes no money compared to him. He did not left her, but who knows what will happen when kids will grow up.
Oh wow, I hope your friend's situation improves. This stuff can happen to anyone if they don't know what's happening.
Men🚽
My friend was gorgeous in her day (and I mean gorgeous) and had a long term and subsequently marriage to a really mediocre guy. They had a kid, she gained some weight and he decided he wanted tk be fit(he has been fat/plumpy their entire relationship). Eventually he asked for a divorce and now both have moved on.
@@danaso2567 Oh wow!
seen that a lot in my country
Learn to be happy single ladies. Let men chase YOU and don’t lift a finger to help them EVER!!! Men do NOT appreciate it or you when you do so much for them. Being a cheerleader for them is ridiculous and you never know WHEN a man’s switch will flip on you.
Not only do men not appreciate your help, they will start to resent you for helping him!
@@timelessbeautyfashion Exactly, it's like they blame you for halting their natural evolution or flexing your merciful divinity on them, they will use that up, but never appreciate it as they KNOW in their heart of hearts that they are not worth it. Also it may look worse on them after they drop their stepping stone, if she was so needlessly supportive. Harder to paint her as "the crazy ex" or "we both drifted apart" this way after her use is over to him, if she's this lovey-dovey.
So they are mad for being status and appearance checked by a devoted patroness. When all they want to do is social and economic climb for their own reasons, they are not team players and don't want to invest in anyone else, including their families. Not to mention they despise their humble beginnings and everyone reminding them of that, any mother figure who changed their diapers and saw them warts and all, as they just want to be admired after they cross the finish line, babying them up seems like looking down on him instead. Never accept a man earlier than he achieved something as it's not certain where he might end up before that happens!
Yes, ma'am!!❤️❤️
Wise words!
yep i learned. thank goodness it was only 4 months. never again. also it’s important to not rush into things either
LMAO yes as the sprinkle sprinkle lady would say DON’T BE BARBARA THE BUILDER!
Yes. Her TH-cam channel is SheraSeven.
Lmao 😂
Haha yesss, I love her 😂❤️
This took me out 😂
This took me out 😂
Pattern that they date nepo babies after. Seems like they use the builder woman to climb in the social ladder and once he does he stops caring for her.
Yep!!
The lead singer of the Italian band Måneskin did the same. Ditched his longtime girlfriend, and now he's with Dove Cameron.
@@sumimasen_wtfAint no way....
Edited: Yup, seems like it. Damiano is now with Cameron Dove.
@@peachwhite-333 You can check it out. He was recently spotted kissing Dove Cameron on a red-carpet, the one where she's wearing a red gown (& he's dressed up in some leather outfit, looking very haggard).
Edit: More reason we shouldn't waste our time building a man, but ourselves. Sure, we can cheer for them.
But refrain from any financial help. Act like a stump if needed, tell them you are bad at it, and have no idea how it works. Then slowly back-out if he ever asks for a loan or anything of similar sort.
@@sumimasen_wtf he’s with dove cameron.
Hudgens is from my hometown - Salinas CA. It’s a working class agriculture town known for Steinbeck and growing lettuce. It’s a huge deal she was able to blow up coming up from humble beginnings.
That area is so beautiful! I used to stay not far, in Monterey :)
Anna Faris’s story still boils my blood to this very day every time I hear it.
Yeah, their story was very tumultuous!
I feel so bad for her smh I hope she’s doing well
@@amorelockster1023why? She cheated😮😰 I’m Confucius
Ex actly. Chris Pr att s ucks. Read several stories about him being awful to her after he started blo wing up too :/
he even said at his social media he is glad "he has a wife who gave him healthy children" Anna and him have a son who has health issues... THAT. REALLY. PISSED. ME. OFF. He's bad news.
And yet you never hear anyone call them gold diggers 🤨
My husband is building me! He’s putting me through nursing school, all bills paid ❤
You go, girl! It's wonderful that he's investing in you and your future! ❤️
Same ❤
Sooo. He can built You. But You would never do that for him. Okkk
@ Where did you read that in my comment? Bc the first thing I wanna do with my nurse paycheck is get him his dream rolex. I have lots of gratitude for him and plus, it’s very different bc he is my husband! He’s not a man who refused to commit but expects me to act like a wife. He showed me consistency and I will pamper him right back. Don’t assume
You got a good ❤😊
Men are the worst investment we can make.
Mhm 💓 Self love is the best love!
They’re not an investment theyre a liability
@@chenanigans well said!
Men are the worst period
Women are the worst investment we can make. Big liability
If a man comes to you about the hardships of his life, pat him on the back and tell him he will figure it out. Then leave him.
That's the perfect response 😁. He would never want his dreamgirl to think he is struggling anyway, so leaving really is the best option at that point.
Hmm, I mean, I have a bf who is not financially tied to me and we don’t live together. He has a lot of worries such as older family in a different country, (not his fault), depression, tough finances and he has basically built his life from the scratch alone in the country since he moved here alone at 20, where we live which is incredibly tough, has taken a huge responsability of raising his younger brother here and taking care of it all alone. His culture is also such as ”men are tough and don’t show any emotion”
I would never want to make him feel bad about those things… or how he simply feels or those experiences, I have felt down and depressed too, since it’s way more complex, or I wouldn’t leave him because of those problems. I don’t feel like a therapist either, although at times I worry if he relies emotionally too much on me. But you know I don’t feel like it’s burdening me? My friends too rely a lot on me in a way that they can open up to me, but I don’t want to be an emotional ”listener” that is just being thrown at stuff. It has to be mutual and with boundaries and support. My bf, he has good friendships too. It’s important to be emotionally supportive in my opinion, but not to take others worries or troubles as your own. Healthy distance and boundaries
At times there was very bad tumultuousness in our relationship and we even tried to open it, but as it came all down, we realised this was some awful unhealthy coping thing, especially on his part, for low self esteem? and projection. I felt like I could be replaced and that I’m not worthy, which was so so awful.
I regret the fighting and being too agreeable. My own part was like f it we are not engaged or married so I might as well look around too, yk.
I have been too easy to ”push around”. Like I have been too insecure too.
As I am clearly the younger in our relationship too, and a student. Is it wrong for me, as much as I truly see him as a person and care for him, to feel sort of resentment over certain things? His certain surroundings and situations are not his fault, but hmmm. Thoughts.
Amen!
Women ☕️
😂😂😂 luvvvvv 🎉❤
Stopping your own bag in order to not have to pay child support to the person who is the reason you were able to make that much in the first place is evil. Being the come up woman is really not for the faint of heart.
It's so diabolical! Being the come up woman hurts the kids too 😭
Why is that not common knowledge though? I've known of that dude for years and not once heard this? Men really do get away with anything
Being the come up woman is for the FOOLISH at heart.🤔
It makes me think a lot less of Jesse Williams. He’s certainly not a man of principle because I remember a while back he was lauded for some speech he gave at some BET(?) event in which he praised black mothers specifically, yet he turns his wife into a black mother and then treats her like garbage.
What does it mean the come up woman?
Those pics of Vanessa leaning into Austin Butler were painful to look at. You can smell that she’s more into him . Happy it worked out for both
So true!
Yes, everyone could see it but her😭. I hope Cole treats her well! At least he appears to actually like her.
I’m glad she got her a man that treats her like a Queen.
In all those pictures she’s looking at him but he’s looking at the camera or elsewhere
@@TadanoCandy so true !
With me not being a beautiful woman nor thin....This makes me realize that bad men are gonna be bad men, no matter whom they're with...
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Yeah, don't ever feel like you're to blame for their actions. One day, if they make it that far, they'll be old, gray, etc. Physical beauty is one of the fastest changing things and it can't be kept in the end. You don't need to feel like how you look is to blame. Bad people do bad things. Even good people make the wrong choices at times. 😔
There's somebody for everybody always remember that, plus im sure there's more than a few people who find you attractive. Confidence is key too❤
It's very revealing to watch how men act around women they do not find attractive or cannot get s*x/services from. Shows you a lot about their character.
Yeah most men are terrible to you no matter what, either beautiful or “ugly” but I’m sure those guys are incredibly uglier both in and out, than you could ever be.
Makes me think of Betty Broderick who supported her husband (and kids) through both med and law school so he could be a malpractice lawyer. He went on to marry his secretary. Building a man means making him the perfect husband for someone else.
Omg I just watched Brittney Vaughn's video on that case 😮!
Yeah Betty B is a staple of not building Dan and Linda took her through loved the movie on lifetime it’s on Tubi
I kind of feel like Brad Pitt is a shapeshifter too, remember when he and Gwyneth had matching haircuts? He was more California golden boy when he was with Jen and then polished dad until things blew up with Angie.
That's a great point! Brad is something else 😭
The moment I saw the movie I knew Jennifer Aniston was toast.
And Johnny Depp. He left the mother of his children (a classy, self sufficient, emotionally mature, cool, beautiful woman) for AMBER HEARD. If that's not a cautionary tale for men to stick with the good thing they already got and stop cradle robbing!! 🤣
@@themaggattackdepp being awful before Heard was born. He is a problem and it’s not his exs fault.
(He call Vanessa “old c**t”(he way older every his partners) and his own daughter lily-rose “betrayer”. )
What do you mean?
"Your energy is not charity." - Chokoladka,... A whole word, yes 🙌🏾
Hehe 🥰❤️
Chris Pratt irks me even more after learning more about that situation
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Well he's not your family member, your friend or your colleague 😂. He's an actor.
How many writers are pervers, family wreckers? And you don't know it. You don't care about it. And you still reading books, newspapers. So. This videos like that? It's from hurt person. Well. It's life. People are people..We are also animals. There's no animal in whole world who spending life with one 'love'.
I just really never had the stamina to build a man. All of my exes I ended when there wasn't a ring in sight after 2 years. Now happily married to my husband who sealed the deal in less than 2 years. Ladies don't ever let a man waste your time. If he ain't ready for you, then give yourself the space for the right one. Do not let Mr. 50-50 block your blessings.
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I love that!!! They can only waste your time if you let them, and you didn't let them ❤️
This is awesome because growing up my parents told me if after a year 2 years max he hasn’t asked you for your hand, leave. It’s not worth your time. Now my cousin met her now husband in college and he told her he would like to finish and get a job before he asks her. They were freshman so it took 4 years. But he asked her after they both had jobs out of college and have been married for a year now.
@@Mangaka2K15if you meet very young then the two year rule doesn’t apply. People that meet while they are still in school and not employed are in a different situation.
But if you’re over 25 and gainfully employed I think the two year rule is a good idea!
@ yes I agree, that was the case with my two best friends who are now married with each other. They met in high school so he gave her a promise ring.
And yeah at my age 2 years is long enough. 😅
Seeing those celeb examples in the beginning of the video hit so hard. Those three actors became so huge, then broke up with their wives who made more money/had better careers with them from the start. Its like they are looking at their old wives/girlfriends as lesser for being with them when they were less. Its hypocritical and sad.
If a man is a narcissist, like these actors are, he is incapable of real love and affection. They can do grand gestures to appease you, but they cannot offer you true happiness, contentment and a peaceful home.
Exactly! The women give literally everything they have, just to be resented.
@@chokoladkallcwhy does this resentment happen though? I really don’t understand.
That’s is sooo twisted n scary. Sometimes I feel like they live with guilt.
@@takemypainaway9517because it reveals that they’re not capable of getting there by themselves and they feel shame. Which they take out on the woman who helped them in the first place.
F.D. Signifier said that Travis Kelsey went from "Ay yo shawty what it is?" to "license and registration, please." 😂
LOL, I wasn't able to put a name to it, but "license and registration please" is perfect.
Accurate. Love Taylor Swift, but her choices of male partners really make me cringe. I’m worried his temper and alcoholism is going to result in a Chris Brown situation and I don’t understand why she finds him attractive. He looks like a dick.
They end up resenting you for your support. Then they go to the next thing that is usually younger so they can get their masculinity back😅
Yep! Younger and less accomplished 😭
Masculinity that was never there in the first place💀
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I posted this somewhere else but in nigeria when women try to talk about how men treat women who build with them, you see comments from men saying what did she actually do for him? did she give him his money was she not just there eating. men don't care if you build with them at all, any woman who thinks building with a man means anything is in for a rude awakening, but men are also saying they will not give anything to a woman who did not build with them. With men it's a lose-lose situation
With *bl@ck m@les* it's a lose lose all the way around. They're defective. (divestor here)
That's not surprising! Just have to keep to yourself unless/until you find one of the rare gems who has a healthy masculine, and will treat you like a Queen ❤️.
Ladies, this is why you never marry or date for looks, this is a mistake made my so many women. If he’s not obsessed with you, leave him alone. And never ever ever pay for a man.👑
Facts!❤️
Not dating or marrying men for looks goes in both directions: I have also seen SO MANY women settle for men they find unattractive because they think it will make the man treat them right and prevent the man from taking them for granted.
Just because a man is ugly does not mean he will treat you right.
@Loveladylove I don't agree ,Ugly fat men can ruin a marriage with their toxic behaviours too .If a man has love for himself he won't be as needy or dependant or need you to cook and most likely not go crazy if you leave him.A man who is obsessed has deep unrequited love issues from his family which tend to surface at puberty
@@Kknderbueno This part. And it has to be a special kind of insulting to be betrayed by a bridge troll.
Balanced. A man that’s balanced. Obsession can go wrong fast.
They are all weak men with no integrity, only interested in the opportunities these women provided, with no intention of building a home, whether they’re famous or not. It’s truly sad for these women. But I believe not all men are like that, so I think it’s not worth living in fear of this happening.
Still women have no business helping or building a man. It puts us in our masculine. The man gets in his feminine and builds resentment towards the same woman helping him. All because he now feels less than .
Same this is why I’m single - and not interested in dating anymore
Oh yes, there are definitely good men too! Good and bad in both genders. Women should not be fearful, but vigilant.
Here we go with the not al men rhetoric🥴🥴🥴🥴
Pretty much all men are like that--parasitic ungrateful tapeworms that suck you dry on every level #4b
Ladies be mindful of your appearance and mind/body connection when in a relationship.
If you suddenly lose weight or gain weight.
Gastrointestinal issues.
Anxiety or unusual/unexplained mental health issues
Over-indulgence.
Pale-skin or you start to look older....sunken face.
Little interest or motivation.
Menstrual cycle is off.
😮💨😮💨 this is true of jobs as well!!!
This is so true! Bad partners are dangerous to women!
My last abusive relationship was in 2020. I was 37 at the time and my hair started going gray. Four years later, I have no grays. I also look back at photos of myself during the relationship and I look so much older and my skin was horrible.
Absolutely! Our bodies will know before our minds that something is off.
@Elsiejo How did the gray hair correct itself?? Did it just go away on its own
@chokoladkallc yesss I thought butterflies was a good thing I realized it was anxiety after the fact
Definitely learned my lesson 😮💨 I am a Sagittarius. After a 4 year relationship I choose to be alone because of what happened. I was working and paying all of my bills very independent and he came along he had no job but once he got one he said that he wanted to take care of me. I fell for it and little by little he became controlling. My job went first then family then friends until I was isolated and depended on him he made me feel like I had no one but him. One day years later he decided that he didn't want that life anymore and walked out he left me with no way to pay the bills I ended up in a shelter and homeless for a year. I found out that he was talking to his ex I was just a rebound they got back together and moved out of state. That was 6 years ago and I still have not been in a relationship. Men actually scare me every time they approach me I feel as if they are plotting on my downfall so I chose to be single.
A man will see that you have something good going for yourself and try to completely destroy it. I learned that men can be jealous in the relationship and see you as competition.
That's heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing your story. You are strong to have made it through all of that! ❤️❤️❤️
That's very sad to hear. Hope the rest of your life turns out to be amazing. Either in a relationship or single ❤
@@chokoladkallc You're welcome♥️ Thank you for the lessons I do hope your videos will help others see the signs before getting into a relationship.
@@too.original Thank you very much ♥️♥️
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I was sooo mad for Anna Faris 😢😢😢 like she’s a GEM AND ICON and he’s…Andy from parks n rec…the way he left her angers me so !
He destiny swapped her. Her career fell off after she got with him.
@@puffball4484 OMG, I saw a video about destiny swapping and I think this is real!
That seems likely! All the signs are there.
Ikr😭😭😭 so frustrating!
@@puffball4484 I would like to add destiny swapping to my relationship toolbox. Is there a book or a video on how to do it?
I can’t tolerate stress and I’m very impatient, that’s why I can never build with a man
Same!!
Same here. LOL. This is also why I am not waiting for some man to make up his mind.
my girl
Rt, I’d be having a good day and her he is killing the mood with “I can’t get a job or can I live with you for awhile” like no
You deserve a stress free life!❤️ They can and should build themselves without our help
I dont do it anymore...My new quote is fall in love with their reality not their potential!
I ain't the fixer anymore...I dont zodiac signs are real or a factor in relationships interest is.
Yup, gotta assume that what you see is what you'll get.
Zodiac is the 12 primary personality types. They factor in how we handle reality with our will, passions, physical desires, emotions, and thought process.
@@jessicahitchens6926No, it isn't.
As a Capricorn woman this is my worst nightmare. I’m also raised in a household with a builder mom and a deadbeat father. May all women find their respectable peace and happiness!
You can break that cycle! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m a cap woman, no deadbeat father but doesn’t help around the house. My mother is the do all woman. I keep ending up with loser leeches that cheat on me. I always feel obligated to help out like lending them my car or offering to pay for things. Idk why I do this 😭
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@@RawrLyssBecause you have a kind, generous heart. That is something worth protecting, don’t throw it away on people who can’t appreciate it. 🩷🌸🩷
@@RawrLyss. Cap here too. It is so hard not to want to help everyone, be everything, even when they didn’t ask.
I’ve had to check my arrogance and need for everything to make sense. It’s not a virtue, it’s damaging to me and them.
Listen to this young lady! As an older, successful woman I wholeheartedly approve of this message! Too many of our young women fall into this trap. I tell my 3 daughters this all the time! And I encourage my only son to establish himself and beware of shifty women and let his dad teach the rest. Pour into yourself ladies and establish your boundaries! Much love to you and I wish you all the best!❤
Thank you so much! It's awesome that you're instilling wisdom in your children, too. I wish more Moms thought like you! ❤️ It's so much easier to make wise decisions when it's taught at home.
I have a feeling God is talking to me through you lol 😅
Aww 😭❤️! The messages that we need will always find us
Run! I hope you ran
Not just building a man. Jessie Williams wife was not his equal looks wise. It's mean but it's the truth. Taking care of the "pretty-faced men" is always a no no. Those men know how they look and know they could do better if they had the funds and when he got what he wanted he started picking the women he wanted. He may have liked his wife intelligence but he knew that wasn't his type.
It's sad, but true.😭 That's why I have a rule that I have to be the prettiest in the relationship lol
@@chokoladkallclmao girl I agree. Thankfully I was genetically blessed.
@@chokoladkallcI can't do that lmao I want someone pretty because if it will be below my looks.. oh boy
@@skromnyasha As long as you guys are somewhat equal.
I told myself that too but we are seperating after 10 years because the attraction just never came. He also wasn't skilled and "teaching them what you like" gets old fast. So if you sacrifice looks, make sure he's at least good in bed.@@chokoladkallc
I’ve definitely noticed this happening in relationships when a man finds a decent job or some kind of promotion. My ex had switched up on me once he got some okay paying job, and I was still unemployed, although driving him to work and being his cheerleader for trying to celebrate with him.
They sure can switch up. It's good that he's in the past now! ❤
Exactly. I'm my husband's cheerleader and encourager. I give with my energy because its more than enough. A woman's encouraging energy is more powerful than they try to make us believe. But even so, that must be earned first.
That is why some men do not want you to have your education, skill sets and or your own network and friends.
So true! You can't lose yourself.
While you’re building him up… he’s breaking you down.
That can be the case 😭😭😭
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I’m a Sagittarius woman and I thank you for this video. This is why I’m happily single. Tired of people who need building. Build yaself.
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so good with great examples!! I literally heard them all say in my mind 'women are so easy' definetly learned that lesson too late. now I vet anyone who is trying to come close to me.
Thank you! ❤️ Yes, gotta vet them all!
Recently learned this lesson the hard way after ending a 4 year relationship. Never again will I build with a man, I want a built man! 👏
That's right- the need to come pre-built!
I think there’s no guarantee with any relationship so you don’t have to stress yourself out trying to pick the perfect person you’ll end up in a rocking chair with. Just don’t give up too much of yourself, only accept what you sincerely want (kids, moving cities, lifestyle), and be emotionally prepared for it to end. People change, life changes, and in the end, it’s just you and the things you’ve built for yourself. He and his has to be a bonus
Absolutely ❤️
Anna should have seen Chris Pratt leaving p*rn around for her to find and detailing his s*x life as a red flag, especially for Chris who always presents himself as this devout Christian man.
She should, but as they say, hindsight is 20/20. Hopefully her new hubby treats her better!
“Devout Christian man”. What even is that? I guess it’s not a good thing since Trump is seen as a God to some Christian. Very low title
@@Anisa-wi5zjgirl all politicians are crooked yall act like Trump the only one 😂
@@sagba947 true. But I’m not talking about the politician themselves but the ppl that support them. How low is the standard for a what makes a good Christian that a convicted felon that has been accused of p~ð0philia and grape is being associated with God. Supporting him is one thing but comparing a criminal to God is another type of sickness and show that u don’t got be good at all to be seen as a good Christian. Again, low title
I used to date this guy for 6 years when i met him he worked in construction! I was so supportive of him becoming a business owner, design his logo, taught him excel. Then he started to make more money and broke up with me. Lesson learned ladies
Omg, I'm sorry you went through that! Now, there is room for someone better to come into your life 🤍.
Same exact thing just happened to me, 6 years I will never get back and he bought a house without me
I went through a phase where I decided I was sick of the pretty men treatment and was going to find an overlooked nice guy. Turns out these less attractive men are no less a holes. I honestly felt like half the guys were like well, you're out of my league and you gave me a try so I want to see how many other women out of my league I can get in bed.
😭 Yes, it turns out any guy can be good or bad, whether he's good-looking or not. I hope you find one who is the full package! They're rare but exist, too. 🌟
@@chokoladkallc Thank you! I'm happy learning to be the full package for myself. I tried dating apps after my divorce and that was...an experience. It made me feel like finding a good man was like looking for a needle in a haystack and at my age I'm not looking to make a quilt so it's not worth the pile of fake pr*cks I was slogging through. I've had 2 fairly short marriages a decade apart and some sweet romances between to feel like I've lived that part of life. I just hope there are good men out there who are able to match the amazing women looking for love and partnership.
Thanks again for your comment! I really enjoyed your video and look forward to seeing more!
Being the full package for yourself is the most beautiful thing! Thank you for your support and for sharing your story! ❤️❤️
@@PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans unfortunately most men aren’t looking for love and partnership
And lets talk about building a man not financially but emotionally too, you are the one mothering him, attending him, basically helping him create and fixing his personality, his attitude, like you show him how to be a good guy, not that you teach but showing him, my ex boyfriend never hugged his mom everytime we walked out, I did, I always greeted her and said goodbye with a hug because that woman looked sad and I’m polite, I always offered help when I saw her around the kitchen all busy, and he was like “hey let’s go upstairs, she got it”, and he never hugged her until he saw me hugging her. I have friends (and me) whose boyfriends where impolite, mean and had shitty attitudes and we were like a sweet polite girlfriend and they basically changed by watching us, once they dump you everything they learned they take away and feel bigger than you, they feel like they outgrew you and became better, then they want to go out and find something/someone else. It’s heartbreaking and infuriating. Most of the girls are left with open wounds, without explanations, without proper closure, we have to swallow our pain and grow from there. It’s unfair how the world treats women.
Women should meet men at that level once she levels up. Men do it all the time. If a wife was with him for 20 years and had kids and whatnot and then he touches money at 40, he isn’t going to stay loyal. Now a new set of women are available after he tasted success. He is going to go after them. Women should do the same. Catch and release. Always, always put your self interest first. Look at everything as an opportunity. See if a man is bringing you value always. Like is he helping your career, helping you financially, is he doing his chores, is he good in bed and so on. They always made women do everything for free for them in the name of love.
Even places like Hollywood are full of women who built the man and only for him to go and give everything to the next woman.
Yep, we're all human and fame + fortune don't protect from scammers, making wise decisions does. Ideally couples will move up together, but if they don't climb at the same rate or one is content where they're at, they'll get left behind.
@@chokoladkallc even if the w5fe levels up, the hus6bands still go with y8unger women. It’s very common with successful m4n.
Chris and Anna's child was born with disabilities which also put a strain on their marriage, he paid tribute to Catherine by saying he was celebrating a “healthy baby” not to mention the anti-LGBTQ views he had. Good for her
He is a hot mess 😭
Chris Pratt never had any anti-LGBTQ views, because of Elliot Page and the church he was in people made it seem he was problematic
The shape shifter angle is a word. We rarely talk about this one and I feel like so many men do this in the beginning to secure a woman's emotions. Then it flips and almost all women do this to try to please men and hold their interest.
Yep, her emotions, body, money, whatever it is that they're after. Vetting and not letting them rush you is so important.
Love these type of videos, and yes! I've learned in my late 20s just how bad of an idea it is to date a man that doesn't have his own money, personality, and career sorted out. When you earn more than a man you are more prone to be cheated on, used, and abus3d. Never again!
Thanks! I'm glad you learned the truth too!❤️
I helped build a man and his children NEVER AGAIN! We bought a house and 2 years later I was over it! I was a single married woman raising bad ass children that weren’t mine with an awful in laws situation where no one actually is self sufficient! I let him have the house because I needed my peace
Not the bad ass kids 😭😭 I'm glad you have your peace now!
Damn the kids are collateral cause of their sorry a$$ daddy don’t blame them😂
I only date men who are coming to improve the standard of my life, who are coming to build and support me, that if he ever thinks of leaving he will count the much investment he has done for me that he can’t afford to go and let another man enjoy it. That method has always been successful for me.
That's the best way! You perfectly described the sunk-cost fallacy.🧠
LADIES!! 👏👏👏 Please pay attention and take notes! Build yourself first! Your SPOUSE second, and NEVER a boyfriend!
This was served up in my FYP and wow!! This is gold!
Great video! Thank you for this!
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
I wish I knew this before, 6 years in a relationship where I was so much more accomplished than he was, I helped him finish college and helped him get a job and I was giving him money. I waited for a ring it never came. Then he turned his back on me once he became successful at his career.
Never give ladies, men don't care that you're doing these things for them, so just spare yourself the agony and be selfish.
❤️Thank you for sharing your story! Selfishness is the way to go! I wish the word didn't have a negative connotation.
So basically Sagittarius women have a habit of settling for dusties 😂😭
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Oh no
No, that's not good. Hopefully the Scorpio moon in me will make me not be so generous.
Yep them.and the Capricorn women are the ultimate yamheads in my experience....
@@amandaquest105what’s a yamhead
Chris Pratt married into Hollywood and America royalty. He was like SCORE! 🤣Of course it was kismet when they met.
Right! He's got legendary status as a male gold digger... he secured the Kennedy bag 😭
😂smh
Lmao @@chokoladkallc
@@chokoladkallc would love to see a video about this! (male golddiggers), so interesting because you don't hear about it so often!
@chokoladkallc no such thing as a male golddigger because men usually don't get spousal support, get gifts or custody of the kids.
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore,
Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet, offset and cardi B,
Etc
Oooh that's right! 👀 I see some big age gaps too
Demi doesn't relate because she was incredibly older than Ashton so she should have seen it coming.
Bruh. She still he's such a user and thrower. @@crc5430
Maybe even Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown
@@BeenyKay not maybe, definitely
That why I believe you should never date or hook up with someone beneath your station. You can be trapped by a scrub, mentally or emotionally abused by a loser, but even worst believe a parasite is in love with you.
Please don’t refer to people as being beneath other people… they’re just at a different place in their lives, and they have issues or need to build themselves up. But no one is beneath us
❤@@doomnoises
you have such a gift in getting your point across so succinctly in your videos. please please continue, the message is so important
Aww thank you so much!! I appreciate your support ❤️❤️❤️
Your voice is sooo soothing!!! Please never stop making vídeos. These are great lessons!
I agree. Her voice is like honey, like balm to the soul. :)
Aww thank you so much! You are so sweet ❤️❤️❤️
Aww I appreciate your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
@@chokoladkallc you're welcome 🥰🥰❤️❤️
Men or women, focus on building yourself. Get educated and get into a job that has longevity. Love and "what I like to do" are luxurious hobbies.
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Building up myself while watching this
Yay!❤️
You got this ❤
@@chokoladkallc hi!
@@stewiegriffin2506 thanks!
I love your videos … some many good examples!!. Vanessa was so invested in Austin , she put him on a pedestal.
She really did. Also seems to do that with her husband too. Hope he’s worthy
Thank you so much!❤️❤️ Vanessa gave him so much 😭
Let's hope!
@@javanjunkindahouse6625 I noticed that too with the pictures of her husband
Love this 🤗 Great advice, sis 💜
When a man truly loves a woman, it inspires him to become a better man… because his love for her wants him to be the best version of himself.
Building a man should naturally come from him & it does when he’s truly found the one ❤️
Hey, Queen! 🥰 You are absolutely right. The love and proper treatment come so naturally when they feel they have found that one. We don't have to force anything. If it's there, it'll be effortless ❤️❤️❤️
@@chokoladkallc Hey, Beautiful 🤩So true, I couldn't agree more 🥰
Clicked so fast because Jesse was literally the ONE who made me see the light. I had once said to myself "if Jesse Williams ever fucks up, that's the last time I will let myself be surprised that m*n ain't shit." ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Dang, Jesse is disappointing all of us!!😭😭 Thanks for watching! ❤️❤️❤️
I learned this lesson as early as high school. I was tutoring my then-bf every other day after school in statistics so he could have a good enough GPA to participate in senior activities. As soon as his grades were up and it was the last week before prom, he brought up the idea of breaking up.
Omg that's awful 💔. On the bright side, it's good that you learned the lesson young!
Aweee I’ve always loved Vanessa hudgens, I’m glad she got a happy ending ❤
She got the hubby and baby she wanted ❤️
Yes she’s such an amazing person all that matters is she got her happy ending!!!!! ❤
Never getting over what happened to Jesse Williams poor ex wife . I’m happy she called him out
Yep, she's not afraid to speak the truth!
I love your videos, they are so in-depth , passionate and relate to all women.
Thank you so much! :D
The Roberta the Builder is sending me 😂😂😭😭
Haha, I love that name for her!
I would tell my daughter or my son ...never commingle finances, car ownership, and you sure as hell don't sell a asset like a house!
Teach your daughters and sons about how trusts and llcs work and how they protect you in the event of break ups and divorce,and other lawsuits.
trusttttt
I ❤️ that!
Never heard of Austin, so Vanessa is winning.
Her net worth is still way higher, too. 💰❤️
Unfortunately or not, he is booked and busy in Hollywood.
Winning!!!!!
This is the reason being a "Trad wife" doesn't work. The majority of men want a wife who is happy homemaker, then when the children are grown they leave the wife for the younger woman who works in thier office. Tale as old as time. I should've left my husband the first time he said "it's cheaper to keep her" because we already had a child and he didnt want to pay child support. But kept cheating anyways. 26 years and I finally woke up and filed for divorce. He was paid around the same as I was. So I didn't get anything from the divioce. But I was able to do it on my own. I bought my first home on my own and a brand new car and enjoyed never having to deal wuth him again! Best decision I ever made.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with him. It is awesome that you are kicking butt on your own, though!!❤️
Austin always looked bored with Vanessa. She was way more into him
This is great content. Great presentation structure and quality narration. Some young girls and women don't have the types of moms or family that tell them the truth like this
I find it weird and manipulative that Chris Pratt was purposefully doing things like studying and displaying things that Anna Farris was interested in to attract her. Narcissistic behaviour. I’m glad these women didn’t end up bitter & cynical though. They’re still vivacious and successful. Something these women have in common is they never gave up on their career, hopes, and dreams, and thats what saved them I believe. They had a life of their own and didn’t give it up for anyone.
That was definitely sus behavior.
And yes, they all kept pursuing their dreams!❤️ That's so important for personal fulfillment, but also for supporting oneself if necessary.
That’s textbook Gemini behavior lol
Watching this as a Sagittarius woman
The first 2 stories: "ok don't date Leo men"
The rest of the video: "ok don't date men 😭"
😂haha, just have to be careful!
Well what I understood from this vid is: if you’re a Sagittarius woman, be careful in general but especially of Leo men
Me a sagittarius that just got divorced from my Leo husband
Everyone has to be careful of Leo men the ultimate princess
I always tell women to ask themselves “would he date you if he was more successful or in shape. Especially if he is determined to level up himself. I also tell men to ask themselves “ would she date you if she was in shape or didn’t have kids”
That's a great way to look at it. If you're not leveling up together, someone usually gets left behind.
That's so wild! I'm a Sagittarius, and my fiance is a Leo. As someone whose grown spirituality and financially with their partner, this just drives the point home that you can't build someone up. It's better to date at your level, and you both grow together as individuals. 💜
I love that! And I'm glad you found someone on your level. You've gotta share your tips with the girlies 😁
That’s a really good horoscope combo. I’m a Leo and my best relationship was with a Sag. He taught me what a healthy relationship really was and I’m grateful. I’ll never settle for anything less.
I’m a Leo my hubby’s a Sag, definitely recommend ♌️♐️
as a sag woman who also does waaaaay too much for her partners. i know so many sag women that have this alchemist energy about them, and while we can use this to make our own marks on the world, we are prone to giving that energy to those we love. it’s rough but i’m trying to stop the pattern while i’m still young.
It's great that you recognize the pattern and how powerful you are! You can do it! :)
sag women are incredible and powerful ❤ use that power for yourself girlie
love that you include their signs!! btw chris pratt's a gemini
I'm glad you like it! I will keep including them :) Chris' sign is so tricky! June 21st is right on the cusp. Some sites say Cancer, and some say Gemini. He does seem more like a Gemini. Same bday as Prince William.
I'm June 20th and a Gemini. Supposedly sagittarius is like the perfect match for Gemini but I got my ❤ broken by a Sage so I think the whole astrology thing is bs lol.
He called Vanessa a friend… she should’ve stayed with Zac efron but I’m glad she’s happy now
The audacity 😭. Yes, she got her happy ending it seems! ❤️
Don't build a man. Don't build a woman. Build yourself.
Can't go wrong with building yourself!
Factsss
Yes
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They go for nepo babys/hotter woman. Their value has increased so they keep using women like a ladder... 😅 They will keep doing the same.
Unfortunately so 😭
19:40 so true! Men will deliberately switch careers in order to NOT pay child support.
Example that I’ve seen as a manager: 22 yr old refusing full time 60k job ( full benefits/ overtime available/ paid training) in order to work per diem (1x a week) to dodge child support payments.
Example as a friend: the minute Asian mail order bride gets nursing degree husband files for divorce. Quits 200k project mgmt job to work as an 1199 construction hand (entry-level). He has half a million in retirement but she pays him child support.
Wow, 22?! So he sabotaged his whole career trajectory out of spite for his own kids 😭. That's crazy.
I’ve done the opposite, I helped my first love mature and turn into a better man. He now challenges me to do better for myself! I don’t know if he’ll ever flip on me, that’s not something anyone can know, but I would never do that again. It was painful, a lot of work, and still isn’t perfect, and I didn’t have to go through it but I decided to.
If it doesn’t work out, I will never build up a man again, they should be built up already.
You build each other, that’s already better than most relationships
@ it has certainly worked out for me, but I was lucky enough that my BF was willing and mature enough to realize he wanted to change not just for me, but for himself and his future. Unfortunately very few do that
On a happy note, he’s proposing soon haha
I love putting your videos on and chilling out. I hope you never change your background music, it goes so well with your tone of voice and story telling. Blessings to you. ❤
Aww that's awesome to hear!!! Thank you for your feedback and support ❤️❤️❤️ I was actually thinking of changing to a jazz background, but I'll keep this lofi one now!
There are men who do end up marring and staying loyal to the women that helped them. Apparently just very few. This is so sad.
Denzel Washington is the only one I can think of.
Kendrick and his wife