@@rileyminford6728 I respect you 100% for taking accountability, but if y'all want to be respected, y'all have to show other human beings the same respect.
Finally a trans person on TH-cam that understands, it is always better to tell someone before you develop an attachment to them or get physically intimate with them. My fiance is transgender, male to female. I don't know what I would have done if she hadn't told me right away, it can be a shock for some guys, they may not have experience with it or they may not be okay with it. Either which way it's really good to just be open and honest video and I hope to see more from you
100% a solid relationship is built of trust and honesty! My partner said he would have hated if I hadn’t told him and he found out and I completely respect that 🤍
@@rileyminford6728 your partner is a lucky man, I really wish you guys the best of luck. May you have many years of love and exploring the world together. I look forward to seeing new videos from you, good luck and God bless my friend
Transwomen do not need to to tell any man about their trans status unless he asks her out for a date and she accepts. The reality is that many transwomen have feminized bodies due to ffs voice training and hrt which makes them very vulnerable to men who are much stronger than them. They need to protect themselves. Some egocentric men feel that when we get unsolicited and even unwanted favorable attention from a man, that we should instantly tell them we're trans which they haven't earned. If a strange man approaches a woman who has aids. Is she obligated to tell him immediately that she has aids? Of course not, neither is a transwoman obligated to tell a strange man who approaches her that she is trans. That's her private business. It's also for her safety to not tell in this circumstance
@@amyh3223 if you're at a bar, or other social setting, people are going to pay attention to you if you're attractive. If you're getting attention, there's a good chance someone will hit on you. Transgender women are not always going to find people that are going to be okay with that, there's going to be people that are not going to want to be with someone who was the same sex as they were. It's just better to get that out of the way, that way if you do develop an emotional connection to someone, you're not going to get your heart broken. It also sets a clear and present baseline of honesty for a relationship
Dude, you are so mature and beautiful, a real lady, I'm a trans girl myself, way newer than you though, just started my transition a year ago but I am passable already, I haven't been out much to meet guys, but I never thought of not saying to guys I'm a trans girl, I think it is important to tell them, 2 weeks ago I went out to Ivy in the city, and I was with a girlfriend, I met this cute French guy and we talked and danced, I assumed because I'm new in the transition, it is kind of obvious I was a trans, my voice is still changing and my appearance too, I assume it is obvious but apparently it isn't for some people, anyways, he didn't know I was a trans, he was super sweet and nice to me, he was telling me how much he was tired of going out and hooking up, he kind of wanted someone special to settle down with, maybe have a family, etc, I never thought he was factoring me in his talking as I wasn't looking for anything, just having fun with friends. We went to his place, we kissed, he were having a good time, then things went a bit too far and just in case I said to him you ok with me being trans right? and he said what?!! I didn't know u were trans haha it was so awkward, he was still nice and we still had sex haha I know, I shouldn't have but anyways, the next day he called me an uber and everything, he was nice, we remained friends on instagram but then he just deleted me recently, I guess my point is, he was not looking for a trans girl but a cis girl to have kids with and stuff and I didn't give him the option, it could have been dangerous, I'm never doing that again, be careful girls, always be honest, and Riley is right, its 2021 more and more guys don't care about a girl being trans, there is always a guy just right for you but you have to be right and fair with him too for starters. Thanks for the content Riley, you are awesome and please keep making videos like this, as a new trans girl I have to much to learn xx
You are such a beautiful soul! You understand in our journey it is one of so many changes, growth, self reflection and looking at ourselves in a truly honest way! You learned so much about yourself to help you understand others! I wish you much success in your life!!
Sounds like there still some hope for me. I transitioned at 20 yrs old, at 24 I felt comfortable to start dating. I've had transgender on 3 yes 3 dating sites. Long story short I'm in my late 30s and still no boyfriend 😞. At the end of the day it does not validate me since I'm happy with myself regardless but still hoping maybe one day...
Never ever lose hope! Life works in so many wonderful ways and there is the perfect person out there just for you. You simply have to trust and believe 🤍
comparing two adults consenting to have sex based on looks and not much details about each other, with rape... as a rape victim, is just horrible and whoever tell himself it's the same is psycho and should see and talk to rape victims because it's such an horrible and dishonest comparsion. gross. i am so grossed out by whoever said that. what a ...
Yeah before I transitioned I got no attention by any man, it was very depressing and now men flaunt themselves at me it's hard to just act like it's normal and it's ok for them to just like you but in reality it's only fair they know because they assume they're speaking to a cis girl. At least I would like to know if I was in their situation.
No one really understands that situation we go through! It’s so hard to navigate as trans people there’s no really right or wrong way. I always just think honestly is the most important 🤍
It’s great that you are making this statement. You are helping the cause of transgender acceptance by promoting respect for other people’s feeling about this. Good for you. I’m impressed.
This is a message I can get behind and makes me support your community. The dismissive attitude I've gotten from other "he didn't know" stories has put me off, but you are clearly genuine and remorseful and I can trust that your intentions are now pure. One of the good one, you are.
Yeah, the morons in some of those videos are a bad influence on inexperienced trans women and it might get them hurt or worse. And the trauma this s it can cause for the guy shouldn't be dismissed either.
If someone is PROUD/"PRIDE" of who you are? Why lie? I have seen too many liars be murdered. It's a gamble with your life, because you NEVER know who you are lying to.
Honestly and transparently is the key to any relationship. I truly admire your transparency and please don't be hard on yourself for the past. No such thing as a perfect human being and the fact that you didn't reveal that you were trans in the past perhaps during the early stages certainly wasn't malicious. I am happy that you found love. Cherish and enjoy it. Not easy to find - I know from experience. Your BF is quite fortunate. You are an incredible person and all woman. Sure, society has labels such as transgender, etc. However, as a heterosexual man, I see a beautiful, feminine woman in that video. And that is coming from your mindset and heart.
Hi Riley! I am a smaller scale TH-camr like you. I came across your video and I love how honest and transparent you are. Also, you are GORGEOUS!!:) I am happy you found someone
Just be yourself. Don't follow the in crowd. You learn from your mistakes. I'm happy you are being honest with someone is hard but it can help you or hurt you. I'm glad you opened up. Because that takes courage.
Thank you Riley! This is good advice for young trans women! My dilemma is that I am lesbian and though many women accept me for who I am it is not as easy to connect with someone to start a relationship! I would appreciate any thoughts you might have on this!
Hi Michelle thanks for the message! Like I said in the video as long as you love and accept yourself completely that is all that matters and someone will love you completely for that. Have faith and trust 😇🤍
Yay thank you for the support! I got so lucky with my voice, I was bullied all through high school because I sounded to much like a girl.. THANK GOODNESS 😅🤍
Wow! I love the part where you learned to accept your being a beautiful Transwoman first and foremost and he fell in love with that. That is what attracted me to the transwoman that I was with. She did not have any cliché answers about being transgender, she embrace her biology and it allowed me to embrace her natural body also. It began with her loving her and that was the biggest turn-on. Rape is a heavy word to throw around I am glad that it got resolved. Honesty will heal also.
Thank you for making this video. As a straight guy I'd like to say that just because many of us aren't ready to date a transgender woman, doesn't mean that we hate you or that we have something against you (some do but screw those people). We just have preferences of our own and we want people to respect them, just like we respect the LGBT community.
You are gorgeous, and you are absolutely right. I am not passable, so I have never run into this issue, but I have heard many trans creators treat this like a joke. It isn't. While I can understand wanting to pass and feel normal from a mental perspective, we owe these guys a duty to be honest. One thing I have learned in life is that you have to give respect to get it. We cannot expect cis people to respect our boundaries if we are unwilling to respect theirs. I have no desire to be with someone who would not want to be with me, because if they only want to be with a fake version of me, then it is not real. Beyond anything else, this gets trans women killed. It is just stupid to take that risk, and it only reinforces every negative stereotype about trans women, and increases the hatred and ignorance we face on a daily basis. It angers me beyond belief when I see passable trans women doing that to guys.
I am a 63 year old straight woman, a wife a mother & a grandmother. Honesty is very important in every step of one's journey in this world. Congratulations on being loved for whom you are... A beautiful Woman 🌷🌷🌷.
As a fellow trans girl, I totally agree to a point, if a guy wants to buy you a drink and have a conversation I personally don’t feel it’s necessary to divulge that information beforehand. Seems a little much and also who knows how they could react in public, they could cause a scene etc.. I think it’s better to do so privately if you feel safe or if you plan on becoming more / getting intimate let them know over text or a call just for my own / whoever’s personal safety. Other than that I completely agree ☺️
I have no interest in trans woman but I’m a dad and I’m trying to educate myself on the issues facing kids today. Neither of my teenagers are troubled by this personally but I hear the subject come up amongst their friends and I thought I should learn about it. I have one problem with something you said in your opening however, maybe it was just in jest but you said, “unfortunately they are allowed to not like us.” Hmm...you can’t legislate people’s desires and opinions and you wouldn’t even want to try because it works both wayy and can blow up in your face. No one is immune to personal wants and desires, it’s human nature. One can’t be forced to like something that’s innately distasteful to them regardless of the amount of education on the subject. And I absolutely appreciate your honesty with validating the feelings of the guy who said you raped him. I think that was an extremely important message to communicate especially with the advent of the #metoo movement and it lends credibility to your journey.
I’m so sad you don’t post anymore but just wanted to say thank you. I watched your vids 2 years ago just starting my transition and here I am now a passable trans girl starting out her new life 🥹💗💗💗
Love your energy and message.. we are all idiots when we are younger. You have matured greatly and passed on your knowledge. Super religious people who believe they are going to hell for just kissing a gay person or transgender. So many of them will commit suicide or prove their lack of consent through violence. It simply isn't worth it. Just like being the person someone cheats on their partner with, there are bigger hidden problems nobody can predict. These are such important words and experiences you shared. So so so proud of you. If you need anything at all ever, I'm all ears! Cheers!
Wow This video is what the transgender woman needs to see its so nice to see you been so open im transgender from south Africa and im 30years old and im not open to tell people coz its not safe in SA women die like alot so its so cool to see you been so open may God bless you🇿🇦👌😍💯
Telling them seems like the logical step. Why waste time with someone that wouldn't be into you, or worse possibly even harm you because their ego is too fragile.
I'm a straight female I had a trans girl male to female in my dorm in college but she kept it a secret. I was so creeped out when I discovered the truth and I remember thinking it wouldn't have been a big deal if she was honest from the start But the fact it was hidden is what made it creepy. You are so right people have a right to know and a right to say no.
no just no....gurl wtf is wrong with you? NO ONE needs to know your trans other than your partner...stop outing ppl u don't understand the danger u put that girl on. she has her reasons to be stealth ain't nothing creepy about trans women living private stealth lives.
I find it just as hard to come out to new girlfriends that I make as it is to tell guys that I used to talk too. Some people are just really uncomfortable with being transgender. She probably didn’t mean any harm x
@@rileyminford6728 but how is being stealth creepy? some people live in dangerous countries and the dorm girl could be in one of them . anyways your stunning and i love your vids so so much
A lot of people would be more accepting of trans people if they didn't lie about the gender they were born as. You can respect people for honesty even if you don't agree with how people live their lives.
You said nothing but facts throughout whole video. You're a beautiful and brave soul,that I know would help inspire others. Your father SHOULD be proud. I know your bf is. Wish you both many years together❤
My brother was gay.. When visiting him several states away we would go out at night and of course it was mostly gay bars. He would just say 'this is my brother he is not gay' No problem... we all had a great time. One night at a huge place a woman actually came up and asked if I wanted to dance. Sure... she looked good and I was loose enough to dance (not much of a dancer) We were getting along great when my brother said "what are you doing?' That is a trans. There were not many trans back then. "really?" yep she said. I was not angry.. It was after all just a few dances with the promise of more later. I would and have never hit a woman. I also do not hurt people who are weaker than me.. Lots of beta males are weaker than a trans woman.
I never understood the idea that you have to tell him for your own safety. I agree that you're putting yourself at risk, but, you're not the one who's in the wrong. And if we all tell each other this narraritive, then we give a free pass to allow men to put us in the hospital.
They don’t just put us in hospital they put some trans girls in coffins. I got really lucky never experiencing violence but it hasn’t been the same lucky fate for some girls. I just want everyone to be more open and careful x
Er, are you stupid? They will put you in the hospital or even the morgue regardless. Your attitude is getting transwomen hurt or eve killed and no, it's not okay to not disclose that you are trans. Those men are straight and they will most likely see you as a man.
good video :) I think it's ok to not reveal you are trans on the first date or at a bar if they come on to you. Also have you considered going stealth?
I think people are allowed to do whatever they want. This is simply my experience and what worked for me and got me a boyfriend. I considered going stealth for years however I’m so glad I never did. I would rather receive some hate and rejection then live a lie. I hope that’s not offensive 🤍
Yes as much as what you did could be considered as rape in a sense but isn't. One thing trans people don't remember was how they were treated before they transitioned. It's different if it happens to a woman because most guys wouldn't care if their girl ever slept with a girl or would just move on with their partner and forget about it. Now when it happens to a man women look at the man as not approachable and other men look at the man as just gay. Bring honest is the best policy both both parties because if a trans woman was looking for a cis man she would expect him to have the goods down south and not the valley. Telling people you are trans at the beginning means a lot especially if the other person's family is extremely religious also. Even that person can hurt or kill you due to religious beliefs. Society can put down a man a lot more than a woman. Any trans person that ever dated before transitioning should know this because many were gay before the transition. It is not fair to the guy more because it can make society think he is actually gay. I'm a straight guy and my dad thought I was gay because I didn't date much in high school. That hurt me more because I had heard him talk about gay people wrongly. In high school I saw how gay people were treated also. Once a guy gets that stigma on him in society it sticks forever. Unless he moves away and starts another life that community he lives in is gonna ridicule him.
Growing up in wales in the 80s gay bashing was a thing, 2 gay friends of mine, moved away to cardiff. For fear of being attacked. Even today there are still alot of biggots. Trying to find a trans partner in wales today, is still difficult. Due to biggots, assholes and bullys.
I disagree with you on everything. I certainly agree that the trans person has to say this for safety and honesty. But many Trans and especially black trans women who say this are beaten or killed just the same. I can understand that a guy feels cheated but even comparing it to rape is wrong, I have been raped and I can assure you that a kiss is not even close to rape. you are beautiful I wish you the best. only my opinion. if a guy sees trans women as men he is transphobic. ❤
Thank you for this comment. This has just been my experience and what has worked for me. I can’t even begin to imagine how much harder it is for black trans girls. But I made this video in hope that men can see this. And see we don’t mean any harm. And that we all respect each other and just be kind to each other. Love you 🤍
@@blackriver2531 they don’t have to tell everyone, but surely you do believe that in a relationship or the makings of one, it’s important to be honest. I don’t understand why you would want to devalue yourself like that. Just find someone that accepts you as you are.
@@blackriver2531 you don't care if you trick us men to kiss or sleep with you. That's pretty much the R word but no men can't get the R word only women. Your people only care when you are harassed or attacked or worst case mordered. Which effing disgosts me
@@ElKnoppers Shut up and leave. stop defending the killers. maybe take care for the repression and your obsession with trans women. you're on all of their videos
No. It is not something that is contagious. All people have things in their past, you'd be surprized. A guy that makes a big drama about it is probably gay anyhow.
Hello Beautiful lady your vlogs are so helpful to Transgender people l am MtF coming up to my four year l haven’t been on a date or with someone for 8 years now l want to find a Guy who loves me for who l am and l have had some Guys who want to meet me and go out for a coffee because there friends have told them about me when we are sitting having a drink and the Guy said so you trans my friend tells me l would have liked to tell him first
Thanks for putting the truth of the danger trans women face when not being honest with anyone you become intimate with.
That’s okay! I think the more people who know and see this the better 🤍
@@rileyminford6728 I respect you 100% for taking accountability, but if y'all want to be respected, y'all have to show other human beings the same respect.
The dangers Trans women face? Oh pls give me a fkn break, what about the life long trauma you caused that man by not telling him?
Finally a trans person on TH-cam that understands, it is always better to tell someone before you develop an attachment to them or get physically intimate with them. My fiance is transgender, male to female. I don't know what I would have done if she hadn't told me right away, it can be a shock for some guys, they may not have experience with it or they may not be okay with it. Either which way it's really good to just be open and honest video and I hope to see more from you
100% a solid relationship is built of trust and honesty! My partner said he would have hated if I hadn’t told him and he found out and I completely respect that 🤍
@@rileyminford6728 your partner is a lucky man, I really wish you guys the best of luck. May you have many years of love and exploring the world together. I look forward to seeing new videos from you, good luck and God bless my friend
Transwomen do not need to to tell any man about their trans status unless he asks her out for a date and she accepts. The reality is that many transwomen have feminized bodies due to ffs voice training and hrt which makes them very vulnerable to men who are much stronger than them. They need to protect themselves. Some egocentric men feel that when we get unsolicited and even unwanted favorable attention from a man, that we should instantly tell them we're trans which they haven't earned. If a strange man approaches a woman who has aids. Is she obligated to tell him immediately that she has aids? Of course not, neither is a transwoman obligated to tell a strange man who approaches her that she is trans. That's her private business. It's also for her safety to not tell in this circumstance
@@amyh3223 if you're at a bar, or other social setting, people are going to pay attention to you if you're attractive. If you're getting attention, there's a good chance someone will hit on you. Transgender women are not always going to find people that are going to be okay with that, there's going to be people that are not going to want to be with someone who was the same sex as they were. It's just better to get that out of the way, that way if you do develop an emotional connection to someone, you're not going to get your heart broken. It also sets a clear and present baseline of honesty for a relationship
@@amyh3223
This reply! ❤️👏
Dude, you are so mature and beautiful, a real lady, I'm a trans girl myself, way newer than you though, just started my transition a year ago but I am passable already, I haven't been out much to meet guys, but I never thought of not saying to guys I'm a trans girl, I think it is important to tell them, 2 weeks ago I went out to Ivy in the city, and I was with a girlfriend, I met this cute French guy and we talked and danced, I assumed because I'm new in the transition, it is kind of obvious I was a trans, my voice is still changing and my appearance too, I assume it is obvious but apparently it isn't for some people, anyways, he didn't know I was a trans, he was super sweet and nice to me, he was telling me how much he was tired of going out and hooking up, he kind of wanted someone special to settle down with, maybe have a family, etc, I never thought he was factoring me in his talking as I wasn't looking for anything, just having fun with friends. We went to his place, we kissed, he were having a good time, then things went a bit too far and just in case I said to him you ok with me being trans right? and he said what?!! I didn't know u were trans haha it was so awkward, he was still nice and we still had sex haha I know, I shouldn't have but anyways, the next day he called me an uber and everything, he was nice, we remained friends on instagram but then he just deleted me recently, I guess my point is, he was not looking for a trans girl but a cis girl to have kids with and stuff and I didn't give him the option, it could have been dangerous, I'm never doing that again, be careful girls, always be honest, and Riley is right, its 2021 more and more guys don't care about a girl being trans, there is always a guy just right for you but you have to be right and fair with him too for starters. Thanks for the content Riley, you are awesome and please keep making videos like this, as a new trans girl I have to much to learn xx
This comment is absolutely everything to me. This just made my whole day. Thank you for understanding and thank you for supporting me. I love you 🥺🤍
You’re right…….. honesty is the best policy. So glad you’ve found love by being this way and that it’s worked out and your happy. x
this channel will blow up and you'd made a good trans ambassador. very articulate
Aww this is the sweetest compliment ever! I really hope I do grow I really want to be a positive voice for the trans community 🤍
You are such a beautiful soul! You understand in our journey it is one of so many changes, growth, self reflection and looking at ourselves in a truly honest way! You learned so much about yourself to help you understand others! I wish you much success in your life!!
Aww thank you so much for this comment. I really want people to understand us a little but better. Thank you for the support too 🤍
Totally spot on sista! I can imagine that a guy would feel duped. Honesty is the best policy.
Thank you! Yes honesty and kindness are the key x
@Greg Arkadin I agree with you...and where is the place to say "Hey, guess what?" It's got to be difficult. I empathize with that situation.
@@rileyminford6728 yes...kindness, no matter what situation we are in, should be what we strive for. Amen to that❤️
Sounds like there still some hope for me. I transitioned at 20 yrs old, at 24 I felt comfortable to start dating. I've had transgender on 3 yes 3 dating sites. Long story short I'm in my late 30s and still no boyfriend 😞. At the end of the day it does not validate me since I'm happy with myself regardless but still hoping maybe one day...
Never ever lose hope! Life works in so many wonderful ways and there is the perfect person out there just for you. You simply have to trust and believe 🤍
You're a man and always will be!
@@MichaelM28 hey scram! Ya nasty
The right, wonderful, amazing person will come along. You sound like a wonderful, amazing human. You deserve no less than the best. ❤️
@@amberbrouillard346 😟ty
comparing two adults consenting to have sex based on looks and not much details about each other, with rape... as a rape victim, is just horrible and whoever tell himself it's the same is psycho and should see and talk to rape victims because it's such an horrible and dishonest comparsion. gross. i am so grossed out by whoever said that. what a ...
It's rape though.
Yeah before I transitioned I got no attention by any man, it was very depressing and now men flaunt themselves at me it's hard to just act like it's normal and it's ok for them to just like you but in reality it's only fair they know because they assume they're speaking to a cis girl. At least I would like to know if I was in their situation.
No one really understands that situation we go through! It’s so hard to navigate as trans people there’s no really right or wrong way. I always just think honestly is the most important 🤍
It’s great that you are making this statement. You are helping the cause of transgender acceptance by promoting respect for other people’s feeling about this. Good for you. I’m impressed.
What a beautiful and honest story. Love it🥰. It is good to be as "open" as possible. Thrilled to see you like this and also to be lucky in love.
Aww thanks so much! That means a lot to me x
This is a message I can get behind and makes me support your community. The dismissive attitude I've gotten from other "he didn't know" stories has put me off, but you are clearly genuine and remorseful and I can trust that your intentions are now pure. One of the good one, you are.
Yeah, the morons in some of those videos are a bad influence on inexperienced trans women and it might get them hurt or worse. And the trauma this s it can cause for the guy shouldn't be dismissed either.
If someone is PROUD/"PRIDE" of who you are? Why lie? I have seen too many liars be murdered. It's a gamble with your life, because you NEVER know who you are lying to.
Exactly! This is the message I want to spread x
Honestly and transparently is the key to any relationship. I truly admire your transparency and please don't be hard on yourself for the past. No such thing as a perfect human being and the fact that you didn't reveal that you were trans in the past perhaps during the early stages certainly wasn't malicious. I am happy that you found love. Cherish and enjoy it. Not easy to find - I know from experience. Your BF is quite fortunate. You are an incredible person and all woman. Sure, society has labels such as transgender, etc. However, as a heterosexual man, I see a beautiful, feminine woman in that video. And that is coming from your mindset and heart.
Awww this comment actually just made my whole day thank you so so much! I appreciate your kindness more than you know 🤍
Thank you for your honesty. I also feel it's the right thing to do. It's RESPECT.
100% that’s all it is x
Hi Riley! I am a smaller scale TH-camr like you. I came across your video and I love how honest and transparent you are. Also, you are GORGEOUS!!:) I am happy you found someone
Hi Ashley! Aww thank you so much, yeah I want to be as raw and open as possible! Thanks for the support 🤍
Just be yourself. Don't follow the in crowd. You learn from your mistakes. I'm happy you are being honest with someone is hard but it can help you or hurt you. I'm glad you opened up. Because that takes courage.
Thank you 🤍
Thank you Riley! This is good advice for young trans women! My dilemma is that I am lesbian and though many women accept me for who I am it is not as easy to connect with someone to start a relationship! I would appreciate any thoughts you might have on this!
Hi Michelle thanks for the message! Like I said in the video as long as you love and accept yourself completely that is all that matters and someone will love you completely for that. Have faith and trust 😇🤍
@@rileyminford6728 Thank you! You are an inspiration to me!! 💖
You’re amazing, honesty is at the core of any relationship, you go girl 👧
Thanks angel! 🤍
Agreed 100% what you said 😊 (and omg your voice is unbelievable! You must have worked that so much 🤗)
Yay thank you for the support! I got so lucky with my voice, I was bullied all through high school because I sounded to much like a girl.. THANK GOODNESS 😅🤍
Wow! I love the part where you learned to accept your being a beautiful Transwoman first and foremost and he fell in love with that. That is what attracted me to the transwoman that I was with. She did not have any cliché answers about being transgender, she embrace her biology and it allowed me to embrace her natural body also. It began with her loving her and that was the biggest turn-on. Rape is a heavy word to throw around I am glad that it got resolved. Honesty will heal also.
Such a good message ! Love you siss
Love you so much baby 🥺🤍
Thank you for being so sincere. I’m sure they appreciate your regret and your attempt to bring attention to this important matter.
I'd rather be truthful and honest then hide anything that is no way to start a relationship
I think you're a very beautiful lady really love to get to know you
I agree! Honestly and trust is the core of any relationship x
If I ever got tricked I would freak out!
What an inspiring video!!! You're absolutely beautiful darling. I hope you're very happy and life is so fabulous right now for you🙂
Aww thank you so much for this comment! That’s really sweet x
@@rileyminford6728 You're very welcome!!🙂
Thank you for making this video. As a straight guy I'd like to say that just because many of us aren't ready to date a transgender woman, doesn't mean that we hate you or that we have something against you (some do but screw those people). We just have preferences of our own and we want people to respect them, just like we respect the LGBT community.
This is a video that needed to be made. Thank you for making it♥️
My pleasure, thanks for the support x
Such an important message Ri, proud of you beautiful, for taking accountability and growing so much. You are a strong lil chic 💖
Love you so much 🤍
Transgender people don't have any accountability?? How are you required to tell someone you're Trans?
@@blackriver2531 hey I was taking accountability for my actions and my actions only. People can do whatever they please x
@@rileyminford6728 I guess it's time for me to take accountability for breathing oxygen 🤣😂😹
Thank you so much for sharing your perspectives on this, truly an insightful video!!
It’s my pleasure x
You are gorgeous, and you are absolutely right. I am not passable, so I have never run into this issue, but I have heard many trans creators treat this like a joke. It isn't. While I can understand wanting to pass and feel normal from a mental perspective, we owe these guys a duty to be honest. One thing I have learned in life is that you have to give respect to get it. We cannot expect cis people to respect our boundaries if we are unwilling to respect theirs. I have no desire to be with someone who would not want to be with me, because if they only want to be with a fake version of me, then it is not real. Beyond anything else, this gets trans women killed. It is just stupid to take that risk, and it only reinforces every negative stereotype about trans women, and increases the hatred and ignorance we face on a daily basis. It angers me beyond belief when I see passable trans women doing that to guys.
I am a 63 year old straight woman, a wife a mother & a grandmother.
Honesty is very important in every step of one's journey in this world.
Congratulations on being loved for whom you are... A beautiful Woman 🌷🌷🌷.
Aww thank you for the beautiful comment, and thanks for the support 🤍
Dam gurl you’re making me cry!! You are so strong and brave 💕💕💕
Love you so much 🥺🤍
Always speaking you’re truth! love you 🤎✨
Love you forever spissy 🥺🤍
You're absolutely stunning darlin ❤️
Aw thank you x
As a fellow trans girl, I totally agree to a point, if a guy wants to buy you a drink and have a conversation I personally don’t feel it’s necessary to divulge that information beforehand. Seems a little much and also who knows how they could react in public, they could cause a scene etc.. I think it’s better to do so privately if you feel safe or if you plan on becoming more / getting intimate let them know over text or a call just for my own / whoever’s personal safety. Other than that I completely agree ☺️
I have no interest in trans woman but I’m a dad and I’m trying to educate myself on the issues facing kids today. Neither of my teenagers are troubled by this personally but I hear the subject come up amongst their friends and I thought I should learn about it.
I have one problem with something you said in your opening however, maybe it was just in jest but you said, “unfortunately they are allowed to not like us.” Hmm...you can’t legislate people’s desires and opinions and you wouldn’t even want to try because it works both wayy and can blow up in your face. No one is immune to personal wants and desires, it’s human nature. One can’t be forced to like something that’s innately distasteful to them regardless of the amount of education on the subject.
And I absolutely appreciate your honesty with validating the feelings of the guy who said you raped him. I think that was an extremely important message to communicate especially with the advent of the #metoo movement and it lends credibility to your journey.
I love for the video to explain was a transgender the experience, you're so happy and wonderful😍🥰❤💖✨✨
Thank you for watching and thank you for the support 🥺🤍
I’m so sad you don’t post anymore but just wanted to say thank you. I watched your vids 2 years ago just starting my transition and here I am now a passable trans girl starting out her new life 🥹💗💗💗
You're really, I'm truly glad you're finding your way through full honesty.
And may you continue a life full of happiness!!!
Love your energy and message.. we are all idiots when we are younger. You have matured greatly and passed on your knowledge. Super religious people who believe they are going to hell for just kissing a gay person or transgender. So many of them will commit suicide or prove their lack of consent through violence. It simply isn't worth it. Just like being the person someone cheats on their partner with, there are bigger hidden problems nobody can predict. These are such important words and experiences you shared. So so so proud of you. If you need anything at all ever, I'm all ears! Cheers!
love you!! youre amazin!! ALSO can you please do a video on how you curl your hair!
Of course I can! I loveee curling my hair and can’t wait to show you 🙊🤍
I was in loved with this man, and when he found out I was trans, he dropped me like a hot potato
Wow
This video is what the transgender woman needs to see its so nice to see you been so open im transgender from south Africa and im 30years old and im not open to tell people coz its not safe in SA women die like alot so its so cool to see you been so open may God bless you🇿🇦👌😍💯
Telling them seems like the logical step. Why waste time with someone that wouldn't be into you, or worse possibly even harm you because their ego is too fragile.
I'm a straight female I had a trans girl male to female in my dorm in college but she kept it a secret. I was so creeped out when I discovered the truth and I remember thinking it wouldn't have been a big deal if she was honest from the start But the fact it was hidden is what made it creepy. You are so right people have a right to know and a right to say no.
no just no....gurl wtf is wrong with you? NO ONE needs to know your trans other than your partner...stop outing ppl u don't understand the danger u put that girl on. she has her reasons to be stealth ain't nothing creepy about trans women living private stealth lives.
Perhaps she was scared?
I find it just as hard to come out to new girlfriends that I make as it is to tell guys that I used to talk too. Some people are just really uncomfortable with being transgender. She probably didn’t mean any harm x
@@rileyminford6728 but how is being stealth creepy? some people live in dangerous countries and the dorm girl could be in one of them . anyways your stunning and i love your vids so so much
@@User-cz6jp A biological man living amongst young women without telling them is super creepy.
I'm glad for you that you manage to become what you heart wanted. Kiss for you from Romania
Thank you! Me too 🥰🤍
Thank you for your honesty 🏳️🌈
My pleasure xx
A lot of people would be more accepting of trans people if they didn't lie about the gender they were born as. You can respect people for honesty even if you don't agree with how people live their lives.
You said nothing but facts throughout whole video. You're a beautiful and brave soul,that I know would help inspire others. Your father SHOULD be proud. I know your bf is. Wish you both many years together❤
You’re a beautiful, fresh breath of air.
Aww thank you that’s really sweet xx
@@rileyminford6728 definitely, I'm a guy who loves trans women, some call me gay for it, but it's what I like.
Thank you for your honesty, I wish you peace love and happiness
This is a important and wonderful message. Congratulations on your honesty and advice! 👍👏👌😊💕
You rock girl✨
Aw thanks 🙊🤍
This is said really well x
Thank you 🥺🤍
My brother was gay.. When visiting him several states away we would go out at night and of course it was mostly gay bars. He would just say 'this is my brother he is not gay' No problem... we all had a great time. One night at a huge place a woman actually came up and asked if I wanted to dance. Sure... she looked good and I was loose enough to dance (not much of a dancer) We were getting along great when my brother said "what are you doing?' That is a trans. There were not many trans back then. "really?" yep she said. I was not angry.. It was after all just a few dances with the promise of more later. I would and have never hit a woman. I also do not hurt people who are weaker than me.. Lots of beta males are weaker than a trans woman.
So glad you were able to come to this place. I hope your advice will help others. Wish you much happiness.
Thank you so much! I hope my voice reaches those who need it the most 🥺🤍
You’re a beautiful person Riley
You are too angel 🤍
LGBTQ!! Be proud of yourself. People will respect you.
Exactly 🤍
@@rileyminford6728 your absolutely Hot
You are gorgeous but more importantly I respect your honesty and integrity. Your boyfriend is a lucky 🍀 man to have you.
You’ve got a new sub👍🏾
I never understood the idea that you have to tell him for your own safety. I agree that you're putting yourself at risk, but, you're not the one who's in the wrong. And if we all tell each other this narraritive, then we give a free pass to allow men to put us in the hospital.
They don’t just put us in hospital they put some trans girls in coffins. I got really lucky never experiencing violence but it hasn’t been the same lucky fate for some girls. I just want everyone to be more open and careful x
If you dont tell the man up front then you are deceiving him, and you may get hurt
@@BigYellow1500 I carry a stun gun. He may get hurt too.
Er, are you stupid? They will put you in the hospital or even the morgue regardless. Your attitude is getting transwomen hurt or eve killed and no, it's not okay to not disclose that you are trans. Those men are straight and they will most likely see you as a man.
you look breathtaking
Thank you so much, I’ve worked pretty hard to get to this 😇🤍
@@rileyminford6728 mew 😘🌹
We need more of you in this world
That’s so sweet of you to say, thanks x
Girl your super pretty I’m so subscribing I’m about 8 years in transition mtf
Aww thanks for the support cx
@@rileyminford6728 your very welcome sis I love your videos so much I’m a new subscriber I was hooked from the first video 😌💕
Good GirL For Being So Honest abt it 😊 ❤
I'll be on HRT for almost a month now thanks sis for the candor
good video :) I think it's ok to not reveal you are trans on the first date or at a bar if they come on to you. Also have you considered going stealth?
I think people are allowed to do whatever they want. This is simply my experience and what worked for me and got me a boyfriend. I considered going stealth for years however I’m so glad I never did. I would rather receive some hate and rejection then live a lie. I hope that’s not offensive 🤍
@@rileyminford6728 I'm a guy who loves trans women, my friends question my sexuality for it, but I do. Their right tho
Stealth is toxic, more people should be openly Trans to increase acceptance.
Your goal as a Trans person shouldn't be to become cisgender
@@blackriver2531 no being forced to join your agenda is toxic. If you want to be stealth so be it. dont tell me what to do.
@@bubba283 do what you want to do and follow your heart. If your friends have a problem with it they aren’t your real friends xx
U r just so gorg hun -luv u sis xx
Aww thank you so much angel 🥺🤍
Ugh I stan
Bby 🥺🤍
Yes as much as what you did could be considered as rape in a sense but isn't. One thing trans people don't remember was how they were treated before they transitioned. It's different if it happens to a woman because most guys wouldn't care if their girl ever slept with a girl or would just move on with their partner and forget about it. Now when it happens to a man women look at the man as not approachable and other men look at the man as just gay. Bring honest is the best policy both both parties because if a trans woman was looking for a cis man she would expect him to have the goods down south and not the valley. Telling people you are trans at the beginning means a lot especially if the other person's family is extremely religious also. Even that person can hurt or kill you due to religious beliefs. Society can put down a man a lot more than a woman. Any trans person that ever dated before transitioning should know this because many were gay before the transition. It is not fair to the guy more because it can make society think he is actually gay. I'm a straight guy and my dad thought I was gay because I didn't date much in high school. That hurt me more because I had heard him talk about gay people wrongly. In high school I saw how gay people were treated also. Once a guy gets that stigma on him in society it sticks forever. Unless he moves away and starts another life that community he lives in is gonna ridicule him.
I appreciate ❤️
Thanks!
At least there is one transgender that ain’t lying to blokes and then pretending to be a victim when they lie.
Good video, mate.
Thank you! I hope this video can teach more people the right thing to do
thank you sissy, this help me a lot😢
It's very interesting you're story, I want watching more you're video)))
More coming your way angel! Just have to stay subscribed 🤍
@@bubba283 where are from 🙂
Yes guys, it is her second "Vid-E-urr."
^_^
I don’t know who she is but wow , she’s gorgeous 🤩
Your beautiful. Thanks for posting this. God bless you and your life 😘
Love her accent. Wouldn’t care trans or not. But, I realize I might be in the minority…majority if people were honest.
I recently told my trusted sister im going to be trans, she didnt accept so I guess my other family wont accept either
Seriously? I can always tell.
Very very very inspiring video for me❤️❤️
Aw thank you 🤍
Should be up front and not fearful of how he takes it.
Excellent advice.
Growing up in wales in the 80s gay bashing was a thing, 2 gay friends of mine, moved away to cardiff. For fear of being attacked. Even today there are still alot of biggots. Trying to find a trans partner in wales today, is still difficult. Due to biggots, assholes and bullys.
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Love you 🤍
I ok with it even if you haven’t changed the original parts
Haha thank you
Love
Love you 🤍
I disagree with you on everything. I certainly agree that the trans person has to say this for safety and honesty. But many Trans and especially black trans women who say this are beaten or killed just the same. I can understand that a guy feels cheated but even comparing it to rape is wrong, I have been raped and I can assure you that a kiss is not even close to rape. you are beautiful I wish you the best. only my opinion. if a guy sees trans women as men he is transphobic. ❤
Thank you for this comment. This has just been my experience and what has worked for me. I can’t even begin to imagine how much harder it is for black trans girls. But I made this video in hope that men can see this. And see we don’t mean any harm. And that we all respect each other and just be kind to each other. Love you 🤍
Trans people don't have to tell cis people anything, I don't remember the last time a cis told me they were cis
@@blackriver2531 they don’t have to tell everyone, but surely you do believe that in a relationship or the makings of one, it’s important to be honest. I don’t understand why you would want to devalue yourself like that. Just find someone that accepts you as you are.
@@blackriver2531 you don't care if you trick us men to kiss or sleep with you. That's pretty much the R word but no men can't get the R word only women. Your people only care when you are harassed or attacked or worst case mordered. Which effing disgosts me
@@ElKnoppers Shut up and leave. stop defending the killers. maybe take care for the repression and your obsession with trans women. you're on all of their videos
Thanks for sharing sis xx
My pleasure 🤍
OMG she is beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
How could someone not know lol it's like having a shirt on that says HEY I HAVE A WIENER
Gorgeous, love!
No. It is not something that is contagious. All people have things in their past, you'd be surprized. A guy that makes a big drama about it is probably gay anyhow.
Love you so much
Love you too 🤍
Love is love
Your welcom
You make the world beautyful
10/10!
He Knew!
Hello Beautiful lady your vlogs are so helpful to Transgender people l am MtF coming up to my four year l haven’t been on a date or with someone for 8 years now l want to find a Guy who loves me for who l am and l have had some Guys who want to meet me and go out for a coffee because there friends have told them about me when we are sitting having a drink and the Guy said so you trans my friend tells me l would have liked to tell him first
Why do you put "r" on the end of words like " no or know " making them " nor and knowr " ?