The Four Types of Disorganized People
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In this video I talk about the four types of professional organizing clients that I see! Which one are you? The Nomad, The Bloomwood, The Storyteller or The Overwhelmed?
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Overwhelmed 🙋♀Chronically ill & disabled mom of 3. I survive my days by dividing every single chore into tiny bites. I'm never left with any energy or strength to do any decluttering.
I feel you. I'm 48 as of tomorrow, my kids are 23 and 21 but I recently got custody of my nieces three babies that are age 2 and one year old twins. I have lupus, fibromyalgia, and a few other auto immune illnesses.
@@aprilhampton6298 Oh, that is so hard! Deep breaths, one day (or minute) at a time, and I would be happy to pray for you. 🤗)
@@Krista_Rose7 I would love for you to pray for me. I'll keep you in my prayers as well.
@@aprilhampton6298 I will! (And I sincerely mean it, starting right now!)
@@aprilhampton6298 ... Happy Birthday April 🤩 ... thats quite a handful you've taken on, i wish you all the best. Hopefully you have a support system to help you.
The tip about tackling a small thing at the beginning of the day is a great idea. My job is demanding and at the end of the day, I have such little energy for anything. Then taking care of my 2 dogs takes up a lot of my energy outside of work. Thanks for this. Saving this video
“Clutter is unmade decisions” 🤯 yes!! 💯 so simply put, and you have such understanding and compassion. Decision paralysis is debilitating 🥶 On a lighter note as a ‘storyteller’ type, I Bloomwood-ed my cavalier on an afternoon walk 17 years ago, best impulse shopping spree retail therapy ever 😉 👋🏼🍀💚
I am definitely the overwhelmed! I work full time, I have MS and arthritis which affect my flexibility and mobility as well as causing fatigue. In addition my husband doesn't see clutter or even think of it as a bad thing, and his adult son who lives with us has no awareness of clutter, dirt or what to do with trash.
Maybe you could hire help?
Indeed, get help. You are not in charge of everyone’s mess. In some states in the USA, there is Task Rabbit. Owned by IKEA, and you can hire folks for just a few hours. My chronic health condition flared up last spring, right in the middle of some renovations. I hired Task Rabbit and said, I point and you put away. I am not lazy, but no energy. It really helped. Sometimes check with senior centers. They may have a list of retired folks who are handy. What I liked is I can tell them what I need, better than a cleaning service for clearing clutter. Then after you get stuff done, then a cleaning service. Your husband and his son can chip in for the cost. If they will not clear and clean up, then you are paying someone to do the job and they are responsible for the money it takes.
You are so compassionate about this issue. I have seen organizers who are very judgemental. At the best of times, I am a combination of unmade decisions and emotional attachment. The rest of the time I am overwhelmed.
I'm a little bloom wood and overwhelmed and live with others who are nomad, bloom and overwhelmed. We all have some kind of physical issues and depression (still grieving a death of an elderly parent). We are taking care of a disable elderly parent we live with.
I actually do talk to my home (and other inanimate objects - especially my car!), and of course, the pets. I'm pretty well organized myself, but I never got around to breaking my habit of throwing the mail on the counter to open later, which then becomes next week. And, OMG, I am such a "storyteller" type - I have lots of STUFF, all of which I love (yes, it brings be joy) because of the stories attached to it! BTW, the peacock table behind you is fabulous!
This is such a good video!! Defining clutter as unmade decision is such an eye opener for me. I always feel really ashamed and confused as to why i can’t seem to keep my space tidy. It’s not that I’m dirty or lazy, but i AM super indecisive and easily overwhelmed by having to make definite choices. I will attempt to implement these tips, thank you❤
The one that surprised me was storyteller. It made me look at some nicknames I had floating around and thinking did I even like this. And it was there because I had gotten it from someone and there was some story attached to it. Am going to look around the house and see if I find some more things and ask them Why are you here.? Would I have bought you myself? Do I even like you? I even have stuff that I thought I am supposed to like.
You know what I love to do, because I don't have the money to just shop away, I got on Amazon and look for things I want to eventually get, a piece of furniture or an appliance, and add them to a private list, so that it feels like I'm shopping, but spending no money, then when I have the money to get an item on the list, I pick the one that works best for me and I buy it. I may have 10 different items of a particular nature on the list, but I only buy one of them. it gives me the endorphins of shopping without spending too much money. I know this doesn't have much to do with clutter, other than not buying a lot with nowhere to put it, but it is something that satisfies that itch.
That's a great idea !
I had a shirt that I kept wearing even though it had holes in it and I kept saying I'm going to throw this shirt away and never did. Yesterday I pulled it out of the dryer and started to put it back on the hanger. I decided no! Threw it into the trash. It was liberating!!! Also recieved my new cat scratch post. Put it together and threw the old one directly in the trash. Amazing!!!! It doesn't have to be a huge clear out. Have a donation box handy and when you pick something up in your day and ask yourself, why do I have this? Directly into the trash or box!
Ahh, the nomad life, both versions.
I bring things out of their home and neglect to put them away or just keep them near their home. The coat example, I'll take my coat off, put it on the floor next to the hook kind of thing. Or if I declutter to make room for new items, those new items will be unboxed and float around for a while. I have many of those things staring at me right now. Heck there's a corner in a room of my house full of cardboard boxes. I've convinced myself I'll need them for Christmas gifts lol. I just need to break them down already.
I’m an overwhelmed overworked single mom of 3! I live in the struggle bus! It’s been a process going through all the stuff! I have bags that need to leave and get donated, stuff that needs to get to it’s ‘home’! Then I have the hurricane of the kids coMing behind me and destroy what I’ve done! I’ll get 3 steps ahead then pulled 6 back! I just want to scream some days!
I've lived that. It's hard. When I look back I don't know how I got through it but I did. My 3 are in their 30s now. Doing fine. This season passes. ❤
I love your ideas to start small I have tried weekend warrior decluttering and found i wasn't making long term solutions and created more work stuffing random stuff into bags cupboards and containers I had to re sort at a later date
I never got that runner's high either. It's a big factor in the reason I didn't reenlist in the Army at the end of my 1st TOS. 🤣😂
Thanks for all of the pro tips. I needed to hear a lot of this. Baby steps.
I used to be all 4 of those .I think the past 6 years I am pretty good about keeping up .watching your videos keeps me motivated to continue
I am definitely a nomad! I used to have heaps of clothing on my bedroom floor and chair that I would sort through every few weeks. For the last 2 years though I managed to establish and keep the habit of putting my clothes away at the end of the day! I am so proud that I've actually kept it up for so long and it makes a huge difference. I still leave lots of other things lying around where they shouldn't be, but I try to put them away if I notice them. I also used to do the dropping-the-coat-on-the-floor habit and switched it eventually too :D
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I am the 1st nomad, everything has a home and I have bad habits. Changing them slowly is much easier. I have realised that I learned these as a kid, when I didn't watch the time and allow minutes for cleaning up stuff. My kids have the same thing and consistency is really important. I am sure I have decision fatigue as well.
This was great, and the 1st time I have heard of 4 types of messies.
Thank you!!! This was helpful.
This was the best video about organization I’ve ever seen. Thanks for acknowledging that I am just humaning. Be kind to yourself, what a great message.
Love these kinds of videos!! I just did a massive declutter and now my house feels more manageable but more needs to be done. I'm guilty of letting the clutter creep back in.
I promise, I'm going to read all the books.
Me too! I don't like reading books on my Kindle so I buy the real thing. Can never have too many. And did you know that you can decorate with them as well? Ha!!
Oh dear I am 100 percent the Bloom wood! I loved that film especially when she had to use several credit cards to pay for the scarf - been there - not as bad as I used to be but still have the traits especially in the sales lol! Anyway loved your video and found it very useful- going to watch that film again lol!
I love that you have attainable strategies to deal with each type. I already choose a task early and take it a little at a time. One drawer, shelf, or habit at a time (or 2 or 3 sometimes). Great video!
This was a really good video in that it got me thinking and I ended up journaling about my disorganization/clutter issue. Thank you for the prompt!
I am definitely a combination type in that some things just don't have homes, some things have homes but have reasons for not being returned to them, other things are gumming up my decluttering works due to the story behind them; another large group are the excess items bought with good intentions or due to my shopping acumen only to not even start to get used.
Each area of the household has something going on. But I too readily give up my time to work on those for family who have their own issues. "Overwhelm" is definitely the name of my neighborhood, but I don't believe I have a serious issue as I am able to keep the clothes washed and organized, food bought, prepared and consumed; and, the surfaces relatively clean (although there is a ring of clutter on all). Beyond that and it is a crapshoot as to when things will get done.
I like the idea of starting the day with a small win. My tendency is to map out all the steps then get bored/distracted or pulled away, so I will have to just work on the first thing that catches my eye. Wish me luck!
I'm glad you said it's possible to be all of these things at different times of our lives, or in different areas of our lives, because I identified to some degree with all of them! Saved this video so I can watch again as I continue on my decluttering journey.
I need to get rid of most of the clothes in my closet. I have lost 90 pounds, so it is all too big but I have trouble realizing that I'm no longer a size 24 and making myself believe that I need a 16 now.
April Hampton -Congrats on the weight loss milestone! 🎉🎉🎉
I hear ya April .. i lost 25 lbs and now my clothes swallow me. I keep buying the same size clothes and they swallow me too or fall off. But i'm afraid to trust size labels. Clothes are so iffy .. one item in one size might fit perfect but in another item the same size can be way too big or small. Try on ALL your clothes and keep what fits good now (even if it's only one outfit) and what doesn't donate asap. Having those bigger unused clothes around is dangerous because subconciously we think they are there 'just in case' we need them. If we do gain the weight back we'd want new-er clothes anyway, but Heaven forbid we gain the weight back! Be proud of & embrace the new you & let those 90 lb clothes go with the 90 lbs of weight.
Go to thrift stores and try on clothes till you find good fitting stuff and that will help you ease into your new self without busting the bank. You've got this!
... and with those three babies you're chasing after all the time you'll never need those bigger clothes ever again!! You'll be a size 10 before you know it! 👍😉
@@tinaf.7941 thank you
@@briannab5296 thank you, and congrats to you as well.
Unmade decisions 100% 😅 That is a really useful spin on the situation. Cohabitating + limited/awkward arrangements of space + competing priorities. Been trying to make it “bite sized” by zoning sections of the house by area and function. It semi-works but progress is slow. Thanks Kay!
This is such great advice!!! This was very helpful so thank you!!! PS: You are adorable and fun too 🙂
Second type of nomad, some storyteller, and definitely overwhelmed. I also am bad about doing retail therapy, but I don't leave things in bags or tags on. I truly want everything to have a place, I just have no idea how to figure out those places. I'll try to do little bits at a time, but it's so easy to see all the things I need to do and lose any energy I manage to have with fibro. Add in the 7 cats to care for (who are constantly knocking things over and making messes) and it's madness
Youcare so right with what you say. I can relate to some of the issues very well. Your solutions and tipps are worth a mint. However, my biggest problem is that I cannot get rid of things (DIY-stuff, things to upcycle/repurpose) or stop stockpiling when it comes to food or any other item for the bathroom etc. This originates from the many years I lived on social welfare. I never had enough of anything, all the time, something was missing etc. I cannot stop this behaviour. It is anxiety that keeps me from quitting to stockpile. What should I do about it?
Unmade decisions here. I’m learning to walk away from settling for what is in front of me. I’m the one walking around with a paper list at hand, it helps me stay on track. Thank you for your suggestion, they are greatly appreciated😊
I’m a combo of the first & last. Except not everything has a place, I don’t have too much difficulty declutter, I just don’t have the time. My husband & 5 y/o do anything but help keep things organized. I have to declutter her toys when she’s not home, she’s just like my husband and neither of them want to get rid of anything
Thanks for the breakdown I for sure know people in each category. 😉❤️
Clutter is unmade decisions. Wow. SO. ACCURATE!!!!! I have to remember that one. That and having enough bandwidth. Those two points resonated so much with me! I see myself as a little of all of them. I'm home this week and I'm trying to do a little bit a day. Went thru my closet because I have a ton of clothes taking over my bed. Figured if it's still in the closet, do I really need it? I kept one size down and moved them to the back of the closet so I dont have to figure out what fits when I'm getting ready in the morning. I also moved 4 times in the past 10 years. Most ppl get rid of when they move, but I just threw things in boxes and said I'd figure it out later. How's that working for me??? HAHAHAHAH Thank you for your videos. When I'm stressed or have a headache I put on your videos. They have a calming effect on me, esp when you have smooth jazz playing in the background.
Recovering Bloomwood here.
I’m just embarrassed over my past consumption, but I don’t have problems deciding to get rid of things bc I’m surprisingly not attached to the them.
The problem I do have is actually getting them out of my home. In the past I’ve donated and donated, but soon learned 90% of my stuff was ending up in landfills in low-income countries. Why should MY trash travel such long distances just so innocent people have to dispose of MY trash?
So, now, I separate things out for people I know will make use of them and I PAY money to ship it to them. For example, my aunt recently retired and became a part time seller, so I donate a lot of (clothing and household) items to her. She then gives away or finds buyers who need those items, so nothing is wasted or trashed. She loves it bc she gets free items and make some money to pay for upgrades around her home. I also have a friend with two daughters and cousins who fit my size that I also clothes send to.
It’s not a perfect solution, but at least I know that they’ll use them. I just have to stay on top of the shipping out faster.
Thanks for always motivating us to reflect and take action.
I like how you think. It is your story, and a key role is the home.
I love the way she speaks to us ❤
Great information and advice! Very interesting and problem solving goals. Thank you.🙂
Appreciate your approach & presentation-you bring the science and compassion as well, and these come across in a friendly and engaging manner. Thank you so much !
I just found your channel and was completely distracted by that fabulous Peacock table behind you!! ❤
Oh thank you! It's one of my favorite purchases!
I'm definitely a nomad. The main problem is I can't decide where to put things. I'm not sure if I'm afraid I will forget where I put them, or I will decide on a batter place after I have put them somewhere.
(After watching the rest of the video I am an Overwhelmed Nomad) 😵💫😃
High functioning overwhelm here with a sprinkle of 2nd nomad (I currently have a bamboo steaming basket I ordered that I can not find a place for it, I keep moving it around out of my way every time I cook and I just don't want to deal with it ARGH). When I'm feeling less overwhelmed I try to tackle a few things at once and I also use an online planner for tasks, even weekly or daily tasks, to keep me on schedule. Otherwise I feel overwhelmed and do NOTHING. Decluttering has also helped so much with all of this (I used to be way worse than I am now). I'm thinking the kitchen items need a new declutter to make room for the steamer. It's difficult, as I cook a LOT and actually use pretty much everything.
Nomad here 🙋🏾♀️- nice to meet everyone! 😃
Like an AA meeting and we are all introducing ourselves. 😆
High functioning overwhelm here with a sprinkle of 2nd nomad!! 🤝
Totally agree with the storyteller! Especially when it comes to sentimental items. But, we're not obligated to keep things people gave us! Also, our memories are in us and not the thing, so I've learned to retell the story or to write a new chapter, like...my dad made this cradle for my favorite baby doll when I was little, (that's where the story used to end) and now I'm passing on that joy to another little kid.
This is a great video! Your catagories make a very helpful tool for everyone trying to organize their own home or helping others. You should set this up visually like the clutterbug does with the different organizing styles. Good stuff, thank you! 👌
I am definitely a nomad kind of person! I take things out of their home and say...I will put that back later. One of my biggest issues is that my dad lived with me. He brought a lot of the stuff he owned from my childhood and now that he has passed I still have many things I do not want. I am slowly letting go but it creates a terrible amount of clutter until I can get through something.
So far I thought I was a nomad, storyteller, and overwhelmed. I've looked at so much advice that says don't buy things. That's been the least of my problems! I think at the root I'm a storyteller. As I've added to my household (my husband came with 2 girls whom I love), I've moved things around and never gotten all the stuff rehomed to my satisfaction. I think the Panini changed the overwhelm from occasional overwhelm to a more long term issue. I keep hoping the overwhelm will pass, but it's a lot harder as I balance working from home half the time and going in to work, still cooking so much more from home and avoiding the quick "Let's go out to eat tonight."
❤Thank you so very much. ✅🥇
My mother is super disorganized; she throws things around haphazardly and doesn't even clean her room.
I get very nervous. When it comes to cleaning the house, it's just my dad and me. My mom and sister couldn't care less, but when it comes to leaving things disorganized, they're all for it.
Good stuff!
I'm happy for you that your singing career is coming back for you!
I think we as humans have experienced one or all of this categories throughout our lives. For me the choice comes down to reacting or responding when life happens. Tfs
Which one(s) do you identify with, Kay?
I quit buying stuff from Amazon that You Tubers recommend. I add it to my list. I look at the list a couple of weeks later and decide to delete it or purchase it.
I don’t have a clutter problem, but I am definitely a storyteller. I know the story, in excruciating detail, of every item in my home.
"High-functioning overwhelmed" is me though I can see where the other types apply in specific areas or categories. I CAN declutter and organize, but I CAN'T do everything.
Total storyteller here. I have a house full of stories ;)
Also there may be some hoarding disorder involved. It includes the buying component.
ADHD leads to distraction and things get laid down on the way to their new home.
Or in my case, I have to remind myself each time that I make a sandwich to put my ingredients away BEFORE I take my sandwich to the table. My fridge is behind my counter to the right. While my table is to the left. If I sit down at the table before that, I forget to put them away until maybe an hour or two later when I look at that counter again.
I’m a story teller!
Kay, does your channel have any merch?
I had the great idea while watching this video of a white t-shirt with a nice black font stating:
"You are just humaning...we all are. We have to forgive ourselves for the behaviors that we naturally have a tendency to do."
--- Kay _____________ , the Organized Soprano TH-cam channel
NB: I don't know how to spell humaning (it may need another n in there)
Usually these quotes are verbatim but I kind of patched it together using the ellipses, I think I got your intent correct (?).
I would prefer to have your last name but couldn't locate it in my quick search of your channel hence the blank
An alternate merch item would be a baseball cap(here I'm thinking something in pastel options with satin fabric) stating:
"Just another person humaning over here"
or some such. A little quirky, a little funny --- a conversation starter.
Either way I like your channel's concept and the colloquial vibe of this "humaning" idea. There is certainly something to build on there. jmho.
i have kind of a unique issue with clutter. i have a pile of stuff in my living room, but i use the items alot. they just don't have a proper home. I have no space to put them away to make my living room look less messy. Do you have any suggestions?
Try deciding where you would look for the item first. If that space is full, is there an item(s) in that space that could be declutter to make a home for the item. Small bites - not a huge declutter. Decide to only have as many things as you have space to keep.
Definitely overwhelmed leading to unmade decisions. :)
Is Notion anything like Microsoft Notes? Or Access? If you're not familiar with those that's ok, it kinda looked like one of those but used for projects.
Now I know why you call yourself a soprano. I'm #2. I'm getting there.
What if your other half is the one who needs to declutter. My progress is stagnated because I can't get into the rooms I want to tackle.
If you don't need those rooms close the door. 🤣 JK... sort of
I am nomad 1 - I try to do 100 things and nothing gets put back to its home. My husband is overwhelmed and emotionally attached to stuff. He cannot get rid of anything 🤷🏽♀️
I am definitely OVERWHELMED AND A STORYTELLER.
Oh, help me, I’m nomad 2 plus all the other categories. 🤦♀️
I'm a Nomad with no home. Well, at least my stuff has no home. 🤷🏾♀️😂😂😂
I am the overwhelm person. I have some much to do with family and work.
I'm not seeing the purchasing decision flow chart. anyonr help?
And yes, emotionally connected to things.
I apologize! I forgot to add it! www.theorganizedsoprano.com/shop
Do you have a P.O. Box?
I do! I put it in the description of my second channel! th-cam.com/video/7jtwcB68UYM/w-d-xo.html